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LookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:30 PM
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FIELD REPORTLookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 10:49 PM
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RELATIONSHIPSLookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 02:16 PM
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DISCUSSIONLookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 03:21 PM
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DISCUSSIONLookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 04:43 PM
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DISCUSSIONLookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 07:04 PM
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ADVICELookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 03:37 PM
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DATING ADVICELookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 01:41 PM
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DISCUSSIONLookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 04:28 PM
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ADVICELookingForEquanimity/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 11:54 PM
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Getting a full body massage helps. Get nails done. Feet done. They usually give a nice hand and foot massage.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 04:20 PM
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This is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard. I wouldn’t even engage this person. Just tell him he’s right and save your breath and stop being friends with him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 03:19 PM
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Why engagement rings are a scam by Adam Ruins Everything : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=N5kWu1ifBGU
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/23 02:50 AM
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Interesting. Maybe this is why I view men who follow multiple scantily clad women on social media makes me cringe.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 02:09 PM
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What is the Coolidge effect ?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 09:31 AM
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This man is a predator and should be in jail and should not be a teacher.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 01:41 PM
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Hi. Not married but understand your anxieties. First of all - sounds like you need a new therapist since essentially she’s disregarding your feelings by telling you not to worry. The reason I understand your anxiety is because I would feel the same way. My therapist kind of explained it like even though commitment is what I want it’s a scary thing because it’s a path I haven’t been down. Whereas failed relationships - in a sense that’s comforting because I’ve been there done that. Did you have f…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 10:00 PM
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I like this guy named Jeff Nippard. He provides scientific backed research and cites it and he’s all about weightlifting and hypertrophy. His YouTube vids are very detailed in depth. Highly recommend. If I want a quick vid to see form I like to check out Herman Fitness. I like his form videos and well I find him amusing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 10:05 AM
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I’ve never had a man ask me this question.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 11:44 PM
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What I’m looking for: Commitment Minded Emotionally Available Honest Fun Kind Empathetic Supportive Impulse control Consistent Integrity Conflict resolution skills Financially responsible Open communication Haven’t met anyone who possess all these things yet. I don’t think my standards differ from mainstream at all. Actually I kind of think most people would be looking for the above? Edited for formatting
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 05:28 PM
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Hi. I haven’t read the other comments so pardon me if I repeat some things that have already been suggested but I made myself a personal breakup guide and I’ll provide it here: Immediate no contact and no last msgs or emails after the breaking up for “closure”. Focus on yourself - hobbies, gym, journal, self care. Take time to feel the hurt feelings. Shoving them down will make them come up later and more intensely.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 07:58 PM
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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I can kind of relate because I just turned 35 but I guess I don’t feel as down about it and that’s probably because I’ve been spending a lot of time cultivating hobbies etc. Question - what do you do for fun? Hobbies? I ask because I think it’s best to forgo apps and try to meet people in person. For instance, I am working up to 5k to join a running club in my neighborhood. It’s FULL of young people. Going to the gym at the same time every day has allowed me to…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 07:54 PM
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Also just wanted to add that I think your husband can find you beautiful even at 70. My friends Mom is 70 and I think she is beautiful. She takes really good care of herself, dresses really nicely and has this beautiful silver hair. I’m sure her husband appreciates that she isn’t frumpy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:19 PM
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Yes. I think where you live can play a part for sure. Urban versus rural / small town / smaller city. That’s really nice you want to stay attractive for your husband. Maybe this sounds hokey but I believe what’s on the inside also reflects on the outside. A beautiful woman with a bad attitude is just not as pretty as a beautiful woman who is secure and happy with her life and herself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:16 PM
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Yes. It is obviously possible to age more gracefully with good habits. Someone who exercises, drinks lots of water and healthy foods, cuts out or significantly cuts down on alcohol consumption, wears sunscreen on face every day, washes make up off etc etc will obviously age better than someone who parties constantly, doesn’t exercise, eats crap and doesn’t take care of their skin. Genetics obviously play a part but you can still influence with a healthy lifestyle. This may be controversial for m…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:04 PM
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You were not dramatic and I hope you never speak to this person ever again.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 02:14 PM
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how to not freak out: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/ when you do start dating again, reject people sooner, don't ignore red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 03:42 PM
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Sewing Painting Gym? I go 5x a week but I dont know if this is an actually hobby Reading Baking
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 04:53 PM
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ohhh this sounds interesting. can you share what you have been doing differently since taking the classes to "embrace your feminine energy"? on another note there is this instagram account I like following because her videos are about dating and being in your feminine energy and I love watching them. Her name is Nathalie Nimah if you're interested at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/23 02:36 PM
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I think "butterflies" are actually our bodies having physiological response to someone that is actually not good for us. I believe they are a warning sign. However, the way you describe this guy... you shouldn't be with him. Think about if a man described you in this way? Not physically attractive, does things that make you cringe, no fashion sense etc. etc. Would you want to be with someone that thought of you in this way? That thought you weren't physically attractive? I don't think so... Phys…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/23 02:29 PM
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Not worry about corporate life. God I feel this. I actually have a plan to quit my corporate job in the spring and not work for 6ish months and just breath. Been saving to support myself during this time so I don’t have to worry about money.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 03:35 PM
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For clarity, did she say most or did she say not all? Because not all would be correct because that would subscribe to all or nothing thinking which is something therapists steer people away from…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 01:11 AM
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You are in vetting stage meaning you should be meeting multiple ppl. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Take a step back and essentially “give up” yes. If he wants to go out again he will ask you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 07:58 PM
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I do not mean this in a mean way at all but I think you should build up your self esteem and work on loving yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 05:04 PM
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Girl you’re doing WAYYYY too much. And the answer your question- NO! A woman should not go the extra mile during vetting. You vet in vetting. That’s it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 04:57 PM
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Do you want your future children to have a role model of a dad that drives drunk? Something to think about. Your attraction to him has shot up because you’re anxious, but from what we are reading, logically you should not be attracted to him. Space and time away is really needed for you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 03:11 PM
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There is literally nothing else for you to do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 02:15 PM
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Even if this was the case, making any effort at this point is a waste of time and will only push him further away. Give him the space / breakup he wants by exiting his life and moving on. Easier said than done, I realize but it must be done.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 12:32 PM
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This is abusive controlling behaviour… also you say he isn’t mean but if you walked into his apartment with bread and he threw it out - that is so rude and mean. So is throwing out all your food in the first place. What the heck. Maybe this sub isn’t for me anymore if people think this is fine behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 02:39 AM
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I think the “miles” might count as the hookups? That’s what I think when reading these.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/08/21 01:40 AM
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How have they re-branded? I haven’t been to VS in years.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/21 12:33 AM
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I dated a man with teenage kids for about two years and never once during that time was I ever compared to his ex wife (at least not out loud and if he compared me to her in his head I was winning every time). Ultimately we broke up and I will say a big reason for that was due to him having children bc he realized he didn’t want to have anymore. As for the ex wife - the only involvement with the ex should be around scheduling / anything to do with the kids. So really the baby mama shouldn’t feat…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 11:29 AM
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Never showering unless being told and wearing the same clothes for days on end - is just plain gross.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 12:50 AM
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Question - How do you know he doesn’t value morality as much as you do? Just because someone isn’t pious doesn’t mean they don’t value morality as much as someone who is pious and and just because someone is pious doesn’t mean they value morality more than someone who isn’t pious.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 03:36 PM
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Right I’m not denying that. Some ppl have allergies to ingredients in vaccines. I just hope whoever is making that decision is based on advice from an actual doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 07:39 PM
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It’s true many strains clear up but it’s also very likely they will come back. They lay dormant. Why would you not get the Guardisal shot? It is safe. You’re right in that it doesn’t protect against all strains but it protects against some of the cancer causing ones.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 05:26 PM
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You don’t need to have sex to contract HPV. There are hundreds of different variants of HPV. A plantar wart that you can pick up barefoot at a pool is HPV. So even if you are a virgin and so is your husband you should still get the vaccine.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 05:25 PM
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She did text him and gave an excuse so she didn’t really ghost him. I think it’s better he stayed silent after and accepted whatever her text was as opposed to hounding her afterwards.
/r/RedPillWives05/02/21 12:10 AM
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Not really putting your best foot forward...
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 11:42 PM
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Why would you be friends with him? He isn’t a friend...
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 02:35 PM
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Congratulations!!! It’s so nice to read posts like this. Wish you all the happiness in the world with your man. 💕☺️
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 09:22 PM
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My first serious boyfriend from when I was 20 was so poor that he barely had enough to buy toilet paper. But at the time I really didn’t care because I enjoyed spending time with him. We were together for years. Eventually he started making a ton of money and then he actually accused me of only being with him because he makes a lot of money. Lol ok. Anyway yea he became a dick. And I left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:21 AM
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Same. And actual dating and being exclusive. No dude who only considers us “hanging out” is getting any. Give them anything before they put in effort then they won’t step up and make an effort ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:58 AM
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I’m not begging, I’m leaving. And this is the first man I ever lived with and we had a conversation about marriage before I moved in to which he said he had no doubts and we would get engaged shortly after. I will absolutely keep my head up and life will work itself out I truly believe that! Thanks for that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 06:21 PM
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He just said that he changed his mind and thinks our personalities won’t match to hold up a successful marriage. It’s disappointing because it’s true we don’t have the same personality but I liked that and it was obvious before moving in together. But he has decided we are no longer compatible enough. So I think the only thing left is to pull an exit strategy because I can’t continue to live with someone that doesn’t see a future with me. If there is an alternative and a way to make it better I …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 01:17 PM
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Here are a couple of interesting articles on the topic: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512/ and here: https://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/15/opinion/sunday/the-downside-of-cohabiting-before-marriage.html
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 02:37 AM
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Thank you. I will try to keep that perspective on my new journey.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 02:13 AM
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Yea no thanks to being a forever girlfriend. Rather be single and live alone.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 02:13 AM
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That’s a good point.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 02:12 AM
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Thanks. Perhaps I came off a little heated in my post because my personality hasn’t changed since I moved in so I feel I should have been made aware of this concern before I moved in.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:54 PM
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I honestly cannot imagine living with someone that long without a greater commitment. Everyone is different though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:44 PM
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Yea I mean we have talked about this on and off for a couple of months now so it isn’t something that’s happening quickly. He has said that he doesn’t feel our personalities are compatible to have a successful marriage and I really think I should just respect his decision. Not everyone has to get married but it’s important to me and I’d like to be with someone who does think we are compatible and would be excited about spending their life with me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:40 PM
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He really isn’t a douchebag. He’s actually a really nice man and has been a good respectful partner. But he just doesn’t think we are compatible anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:37 PM
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Well yea duh. I’m definitely not going to stay. I’m currently looking for a new place.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:37 PM
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Same. Never ever been asked. Was with a partner for 7 years and he never asked. Been with my current boyfriend for just under 2 years and he’s never asked either. And I never ask them because I don’t care. It’s really not that important for me to know.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 11:00 AM
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Hi there. Just wondering since you seem okay with injections etc. Have you looked into tear trough filler? Will def make you look less tired. There truly is no cream for that... 42 is not old. You can absolutely still be sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 07:33 PM
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I wish I had a hat like that honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:43 PM
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Check this out: https://helloclue.com
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 02:30 PM
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I remember having an old boyfriend tell me this. He had so many female “friends” though. I was very dumb.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 03:08 AM
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Maybe he has high sexual market value but his relationship value is so low that he is a low value male.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 06:35 PM
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He said “you come from a family of fags”?? Done reading. Dump him. He sounds abusive. The phone stuff is super shady.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 06:33 PM
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Geez I felt uncomfortable just imagining that happening to me. That all seems so awkward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:53 PM
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I dont know what your husband looks like but I looked up that model you named and seeing what she looks like and hearing about your husbands actions he sounds seriously delusional. I hate to just jump to “you should leave him” but consider it. If he’s mean now think of what he’d be like after 10 years and 2 kids.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 12:12 PM
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Yikes. Whether it’s for a green card or not that is so sad.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 04:02 PM
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That is so true. I loved and watched all those movies growing up. In fact I re watched Bridget Jones a couple of months ago. I hope unconsciously they didn’t do damage.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 11:42 AM
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30’s is past child rearing age? This will be the most delusional thing I read today.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 06:23 PM
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But anyway, yes I’ve experienced this before and have replied and then regretted it afterwards because it was just a waste of time and held me back.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 04:15 PM
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Why did you break up? Did you have a tumultuous relationship? Really the best thing to do when an ex breaks no contact is that you yourself don’t break it. The email doesn’t really say anything at all and probably belongs in the trash.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 04:02 PM
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I wonder if that is why she hasn’t been posting to insta. She had a Instagram story right after the murder of George Floyd saying she was going MIA for “personal reasons”. How did you find out her husband is a white supremacist?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 06:18 PM
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Ugh. Men are so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:14 PM
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It’s not a mind game. It’s literally taking the feminine role of receiving and letting men take the masculine role of pursuit.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 02:28 PM
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Hormones play a part in the darkening.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 12:56 PM
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I’ve been getting waxed down there for over 10 years. At this point it’s no big deal. But the first time - yes it will hurt a lot. If you decide to get waxed you can take an OTC painkiller before hand and make sure wherever you go they are using hard wax for the area. Hard wax only binds to the hair follicle so it hurts less. Soft wax binds to hair follicle and skin so is more painful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 01:55 PM
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Thanks for the clarification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:58 PM
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Does NVM mean no value male?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:41 PM
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God I dated someone like this on and off for 7 years. I had no direction, no support, no self esteem. So happy I woke up one day and found some self worth. It’s been 3 years now since I talked to my ex and I couldn’t be happier. Just a shame I didn’t get myself together sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:41 PM
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It does. And thank you for the input.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 10:01 PM
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I do have asthma. I’ve had bouts of pneumonia as a child and had to be hospitalized one time when my left lung collapsed. He knows this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 07:25 PM
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Oh also. If you have amazon prime you may like the marvellous mrs maizel.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 01:44 PM
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Not necessarily Red Pill but... Glow Up Next in Fashion Both are on Netflix.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/20 05:24 PM
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I think you will find this helpful: http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/02/sexy-versus-cute.html?m=1
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 11:50 AM
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So it’s possible you got it before you were vaccinated and it is possible you’ve had it in your system for more than 5 years and that it’s only showing up now. Share your worries re your relationship to your doctor. They can help you with perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 03:56 PM
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Okay. Well then I'm sorry I cannot be more helpful. :/ Hopefully someone else in this subreddit can be of more help. I hope things turn out okay for you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 01:26 AM
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May I ask what you contracted? Bc if you contracted HPV then yea, it's highly possible he didn't cheat on you. You can get the HPV virus without having sex ( example - plantar warts are one of the many strains of the HPV virus that you can contract at public pools). If it is HPV it's also possible you got it from a previous partner and have had it for years and that it's just gone undetected. HPV can lay dormant and not show up in a pap smear. Men can also be carriers of HPV and have no idea. Ho…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 01:17 AM
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Hi there, Make sure you are taking vitamin D and a fish oil formula to help elevate your mood. Can you afford to see a naturopath? That might be a good idea. If not, please go get yourself some vitamin D supplements and an EPA/DHA fish oil.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 02:36 PM
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No. He well not change. Maybe temporarily but not for good. You need to block and delete him and not see him again. If you have anymore of his stuff, send it in the mail or drop at doorstep when he isn’t home.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 08:31 PM
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Ummm... I couldn’t even finish reading the post so perhaps I shouldn’t even comment however - WHY are you dating this current man anyway? More red flags than a Chinese military parade. Holy. You should break up with him even if there is no one else. Or perhaps you should be alone to study about vetting etc.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 10:05 PM
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What I wouldn’t have given to have heard that ted talk in 2013... when I was 24.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 06:31 PM
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Have any of your “friends” said you are unattractive? Because if so then they are not your friends and you should cut them off and get new friends. You haven’t stopped growing - your face will change over time. Do not worry about plastic surgery. I really encourage you to talk to your parents about this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 11:48 PM
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K I saw a picture of you. You’re not unattractive. At all. You have great clear beautiful skin, a nice smile and perfectly symmetrical features. From your description I was expecting Quasimodo. Your looks aren’t the issue here - I think the issue is self esteem and honestly as a 14 year old girl I think it’s pretty normal to have low self esteem. You need to focus on developing hobbies and friendships and getting good grades. That in turn will boost your confidence and make you more sure of your…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 05:25 PM
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Why can’t he move to Norway if he is done his education ?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 11:20 PM
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The simple answer to that is no. You need to stop looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear. Don’t waste your youth getting back with him. He doesn’t love you. Also in my twenties I had a boyfriend that cheated and he blocked and cut off the other girl and guess what happened in the next few months? He unblocked her. He is putting on a show for you. Your ex is a piece of shit and you need to block him immediately, change your phone number if you have to, go dark on social media for a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 02:34 PM
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Also this study https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/article-abstract/2656811 illustrates that the number of eggs you have in your reserve cannot accurately determine your level of fertility.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 05:04 PM
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Ok I do think you need to focus on meeting someone and prioritizing kids if that is what you want but dont freak out about having lost 90% of your eggs. Also, yes time is ticking but please don’t freak out: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6YIz9jZPzvo
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:53 PM
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I’m curious as to the story you’d tell if you had a little girl - but understand that would be probably too long of a reply and not relative to the sub. Anyway, I enjoyed your German Shepherd story - never heard that analogy before.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre28/12/19 03:14 PM
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I’m actually watching it right now on my day off. :) I really like it. It’s so cute. Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 03:41 PM
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I’ve never heard of this one. I’ll check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 02:01 PM
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How did your practice batch turn out?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 12:44 AM
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That sounds very heavenly and cozy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 12:43 AM
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I feel you on the branching out.... Currently I live with my Mom (I’m 31) and my boyfriend has asked that I stay over Christmas Eve and have Christmas morning with him and his kids. At first I said no because I didn’t want my Mom to be alone Christmas morning. Thinking about her being alone at any point for xmas breaks my heart a little bit. Times like this I wish she had a partner but she has been single since my parents divorced 13 years ago. However I just found out my sister will be here for…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 06:49 PM
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Wow that’s such a nice thing to do for your employees. Lamb and green beans sounds so good! Are you cooking a rack or the leg? How do you like to prepare your lamb?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 06:43 PM
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I really want to make cinnamon rolls for Christmas morning but I’ve never made them before! All recipes I’ve looked up seem to take hours. So how do you do them? Do you just wake up really early or do you make them the night before and keep them in the fridge overnight?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 06:42 PM
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Reccomend doing with the vitamix? My plan is to make the following with it: -purée soups -almond butter, peanut butter etc. -almond milk -hollandaise sauce -any type of marinades I can think of for meats -grating cheeses (this is my most hated kitchen task and I’m thinking the vitamix can just do this for me when I buy blocks of real Parmesan) -salsas and any kids of dips. I especially can’t wait to make my own hummus and spinach dips -pesto -salad dressings Dang I can’t wait until Christmas. Ho…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/19 03:28 PM
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That’s so nice! Also I really like your username. It’s super cute. ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/19 12:23 PM
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I swear by my kitchen aid mixer! Just made my boyfriend the most delicious cheesecake for his bday. No way I could have done that without the mixer. And I’m excited for Christmas because I think he may have bought me a vitamix. Can’t wait to get my hands on that. Can do soooo many things with it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/19 12:20 PM
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You might enjoy Manes by Mel.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 11:49 PM
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The first one I did was from a kit I found on Etsy. I gifted it to my boyfriend. Turned out really nice.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 05:49 PM
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Have you ever tried embroidery? It’s actually quite simple and there are kits you can buy off of Etsy that come with patterns. You can find some cute/romantic patters and it’s very affordable to get a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 04:28 PM
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For something hockey themed - if he has an extra stick laying around he doesn’t play with anymore you could turn it into a coat/hat hanger like this: https://www.instagram.com/p/BuZcmgWlxV6/?igshid=1v5yog25ew6rv
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 03:23 PM
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Yes. My suggestion is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 09:09 PM
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“If I don’t shave, I behave.” - Robin Scherbatsky
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 06:26 PM
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Not sure what city you live in but in my city there’s a place called Secrets From Your Sisters and they are pretty amazing with helping with proper sizing and have really nice pieces. You can check out their Instagram account. Some noteworthy brands they carry (or you can just check out their stuff online) are bullyboy lingerie, fortnight lingerie, and Atelier Bordelle. This is quality stuff so can be pricy however they do have some good sales every season. Department stores are good places to l…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 07:58 PM
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Are there any other blogs you’d recommend?
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 02:47 PM
2

This is a great blog. Thank you for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 05:00 PM
3

Thank you! It’s been over two years now since I had a drink. I remember thinking going 100 days was such a long time. Not drinking has become my new normal so I’m no longer “high” on the newness of it but sometimes still can’t believe I’ve gone this long without a drop of alcohol touching my lips. And thank you for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 03:34 PM
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Thank you for this. These are all good points. I will enjoy the holidays with him and not bring it up during this time. And who knows, maybe he will end up bringing it up himself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 03:32 PM
2

To be honest if he said it was years away I wouldn’t stay. When I was in my 20s I stayed with someone for seven years thinking we would get married bc that’s what he told me. Although I’m so happy to no longer be in that relationship and now see marrying him would have been a huge mistake my biggest regret with that relationship is that I didn’t leave sooner. That’s not to say I’m only looking to get married and don’t care who it’s with - but that it’s important to me to be married and I truly b…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 03:31 PM
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Is it? I mean he did go on dates with other women but said he never clicked with anyone. Is that still a red flag? If so, do you mind expanding on why? We also went on a date in 2014 but since we worked together at that time I told him I didn’t think it would be appropriate to go out again and we went our separate ways until last year after he moved companies and I worked through some person stuff (quitting drinking).
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 08:15 PM
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That’s really not what’s important here.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 12:49 PM
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Even if this was said out of frustration how could this thought have even been in the realm of possibility in his mind if he wasn’t into her as more than a friend? Yikes. I’d be super weary about this. AND you wrote he had feelings for her in highschool but he never acted on them because she wasn’t available? Double yikes. I’m sorry but I don’t believe they are just platonic friends.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 01:35 AM
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Fucking her as in screwing her life up or having sex with her?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 10:52 PM
1

I gave you a specific reason unrelated to their sexuality - I am a jealous person and don’t want to feel like I’m competing against both sexes. If someone wants to assume people who don’t want to date bisexuals have homophobic tendencies I can’t stop them. However, even if I am to say the reason is specific to their sexuality - that still doesn’t make me tend toward homophobia. People are allowed to have preferences without being labelled as a hater or whatever. I don’t want to date women - that…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 06:42 PM
1

Nah that’s ridiculous. You can not want to date a bisexual man and have zero homophobic ideals.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 05:42 PM
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Nope. I tend toward jealousy. I don’t need to feel like I’m competing with both sexes. That’s just too much for me. What were the struggles men were saying they are having?
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 04:47 PM
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Well even so if he really did want you he wouldn’t let fear of you thinking he’s a jackass and not want to hear from him ever again stop him from contacting you. Men don’t let women they are into get away so easily. I don’t mean to be rude - but I do want to be blunt instead of beating around the bush: this isn’t a unique dating situation - he is just not that into you. If you did truly check off all the boxes he would be with you. He is totally stringing you along. Don’t accept breadcrumbs. Aga…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 07:34 PM
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Don’t you find it strange that he only said he missed you because he saw you? If you didn’t run into him at the gym this wouldn’t be happening. Plus he dumped you bc he got swept up? What? If he really cared about you that wouldn’t have happened. He isn’t interested in anything more than sex. Find someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:51 PM
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No. He needs to face the fact that you now don’t consider him as a long term partner. Screw what he thinks. He isn’t husband or boyfriend material.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 10:47 AM
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Absolutely not. Would you want to continue seeing a guy you found out lied about his age? Hell no. What else would he be capable of lying about. It’s a huge red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 03:07 PM
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You don’t see why men would like someone that has boundaries and knows what they want and doesn’t allow ppl to walk all over them? You can be a kind, sweet, agreeable person at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 03:15 PM
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Bitch in this sense doesn’t mean nasty, mean girl. Bitch in the sense of this book means someone who has boundaries and doesn’t let someone walk all over her. Bitch = B - babe I - in T- total C - control of H - herself. People don’t tend to respect those who let people walk all over them. Edited formatting 3 times.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 01:21 PM
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Just be yourself and don’t mould yourself to what another man wants you to be.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 01:17 PM
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I don’t believe you’re lessening your chances of living at home unless living at home prevents you from going out and meeting people. But living with your parents in and of itself is fine. I’m 31 and live in my Mom’s basement bc renting a 1 bedroom apartment in the city I live in is now $2000.00 a month. My boyfriend is 43, divorced, two kids, owns his own house and doesn’t care that I still live at home. If anyone looks down on you for it, forget them. Edit: a spelling mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 02:28 PM
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There’s a really great book that touches on this. It’s called Men Don’t Love Women Like You by G.L Lambert. I would check it out. It helped me a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 01:01 PM
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Or maybe he sees Instagram and Facebook as a huge time suck and he rather spend his time doing things he actually cares about / building the life he wants. Not a red flag. More so a green flag.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 03:52 PM
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I have to say this has never happened to me...
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 02:03 PM
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I’d read these: http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/10/you-can-control-how-attractive-you-are.html?m=1 http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/09/feminine-beauty-is-highly-controllable.html?m=1
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 03:32 PM
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Ow that video was so sweet. Thank you for sharing. Going to share it with my friends and boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 12:42 PM
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Every once in awhile I think about a man I had a 7 year relationship with and my thought is “thank god we aren’t together anymore.” This is coming from someone who used to think I would die without him. Now I’m just so happy we aren’t together and the more time that passes the better. It’s been 3 years now.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 06:29 PM
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I wouldn’t say men are more attracted to blondes but if you want to go blonde for yourself please go see a professional. Also, highlights require a ton of upkeep and costs a lot of money to maintain. If you want something more low maintenance you could get balayage. It won’t require you to have your roots touched up every 8 weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 01:55 AM
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This relationship has outlived its purpose. Look up sunk cost fallacy in relationships. You had good years but now it’s over. Sometimes that happens. Also, if a friend told you this is what her relationship was like, or if any of us posted something like this, what would you say? You will NOT regret leaving. Maybe early stages you might but in time you’ll come to find you were just scared. Life isn’t meant to be like this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 12:27 PM
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Omg you’re in your early 20s? Life is too short to live this way at any age but especially when you’re in your early 20s and have so much time to build the life you want and have the love you seek. My heart is sad for you. You deserve better. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 02:00 AM
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Not the original poster but I have some ideas... -You could hold them for sit ups. -You can squeeze the handle between your feet for leg raises. -You can use them for single leg deadlifts -hold on your pelvis for glute bridges -you could use them for arm exercises -Can hold in front of you while doing Romanian split squat.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 09:42 PM
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I’m really sorry. Don’t contact him again. You should move on.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 08:00 PM
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The book Men Don’t Love Women Like you by G.L Lambert touches on all this stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 06:44 PM
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Meditate for 10 minutes. Write down in a journal 3 things I'm grateful for (even if it's something dumb and small like "I'm grateful for my hot cup of coffee bc sometimes finding stuff can be hard but that's when it's most important to do it). Taking the time before I leave to work to sit age drink my daily coffee in silence. These things are important because life is so busy and because I give my time to a job I don't care about the least I can do is take some time to myself in the morning. It …
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/19 12:23 PM
3

This is so cringe.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 12:56 AM
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He’s cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 10:08 AM
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Agreed. And the “best of men” wouldn’t even behave this way.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 02:14 PM
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Well that’s definitely for the best. At least you’ll never need to hear from him again! I’m glad you didn’t sleep with him. He probably would have done the same afterwards.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 02:34 PM
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I’m so curious for an update. Do you feel like sharing?
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/19 03:19 PM
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Along with that vintagegirlgame wrote you can also use an app to track your cycle so that you can become familiar with your ovulation window. Kindara is a good app for this. I have been using fertility awareness method as a form of birth control for 7 months now. I’m so happy to not be taking a pill and I’m so happy that I don’t have a foreign object inside me.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/19 10:53 PM
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Hmmm. You’re right. That is what that sounds like. Is it unreasonable to be unsure after only 7 months of dating?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 12:03 AM
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I think it really more so depends on posture. If you’re any height and have terrible posture the woman with the better posture (whether she is shorter or taller than the woman with bad posture) has a higher SMV.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 05:24 PM
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Not worth pursuing. Please don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 03:08 PM
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Are there any posts in this subreddit about what is doing too much? I feel I've read most of the posts in this subreddit but in reading what you wrote it gave be pause and I have to wonder whether I do too much for a 7.5 month relationship..
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 12:13 AM
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Yes that's it. If you have the time the entire thing is worth watching. Edited for spelling.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 08:36 PM
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Pretty much the same advice as you. I heard it in Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture. I highly recommend watching this if you haven’t seen it. It’s on YouTube. He said "do not pay attention to what a man says, only pay attention to what he does.” Completely agree although it took me awhile to actually listen to that advice. However I would add that the only time you should listen to a man’s words over his actions is when he is saying he doesn’t want to be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 05:31 PM
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Congrats. Good for you. So much self awareness and turning things around positively. Very happy for you. Hope you keep it up.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 01:14 PM
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I took the pill for practically 10 years. I've been off of it now for about 2. I'm really happy about it. I do have a boyfriend and we do have sex. I have been using fertility awareness method for preventing pregnancy. Would only recommend this method if you're diligent about tracking your cycle and taking your basal body temp everyday to confirm ovulation. Then don't have sex or just use condoms during the ovulation period. The Kindara app helps you with tracking everything - from body temp to …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 01:07 PM
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I’m so sorry you didn’t have a good childhood. I hope you have much happiness in your future. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 04:11 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 04:05 PM
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I’m still unsure at 31. The idea of having a baby and a family is nice but I’m not sure I’ll go on to do it. I’m so afraid for the future and I wouldn’t want to bring a child into the world unless serious changes are made to protect the environment and combat global warming. And even then I still may not. Shouldn’t one be 100% certain they do want a baby? I struggle with this question every day. But I do still want to get married. 100%. No doubts about that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 07:44 PM
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Okay thanks. I’ll check out her tutorial. How long have you been doing this for? Do you ever feel stubble on your upper lip from using the razor there?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 03:21 PM
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I want to do this but I am afraid the hair will grow back thicker and darker. I’ve heard people say that’s a myth but shaving my legs definitely made my hair come back thicker. Do you mind sharing your experience with it?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 01:39 PM
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I think that in the morning is fine. You could put on a vitamin C serum after toning and before your moisturizer and sunscreen. But at night - that would be a good time to use some retinoids and AHAs / BHAs.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 09:54 PM
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I’d look into getting some skin care products. Something with AHAs, BHAs. Definitely a vitamin C serum for brightening. There’s a product line called “The Ordinary Skincare.” Their website is incredibly informative and carriers all types of products to help with anti aging. The best part about their products is that they are very affordable. Definitely start there. The website can help you tailor to what you’re looking for. I’d also (if you’re not already) make sure you’re using a proper cleanse…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 01:01 PM
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What does HB stand for?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 04:45 PM
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Okay sorry. That wasn’t how I interpreted your post. And I’m sorry for what you must be going through. Definitely hard to know someone you loved slept with other people while you were on a break. Honestly, I would find a new group to hang out with. I don’t think there is much you can do really. You could ask he don’t talk to or be around this person ever again but everyone is more tempted by forbidden fruit. That will only make things worse in the long run. I kind of stick with my original state…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 02:34 PM
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He slept with a mutual friend?! You cope by dumping him and cutting him out of your life and moving on. And that girl who you say is your mutual friend - she is not your friend. I suppose you could tell him that you no longer want the two of you to hang out in this friend circle but that will probably seem controlling and just bring more drama. This man isn’t red pill material imo.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 12:46 PM
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I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and I brought up marriage on the 4th date saying that I would like to get married and that if after a year of dating if either of us is unsure if we want to marry the other then we should go our separate ways. He said "okay." So we shall revisit how we feel in the next 4 months. I'm 31 and he is 43 so I feel we are old enough to know after a year of dating.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 08:30 PM
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Agreed
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/19 01:11 PM
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I hope your husband finds out and divorces you and I hope you get nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/19 05:29 PM
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Oh I'm so doing this in my future. Didn't even occur to me. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 09:21 PM
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Google chicken noodle soup. The allrecipes.com one is good. Here is the link: https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/26460/quick-and-easy-chicken-noodle-soup/ You can make your own broth too - next time you roast a whole chicken make stock out of the carcass and excess bones, then store it in the freezer. If you seasoned your whole chicken and roasted it with a lemon there should be enough falvour that you don't need to add a mirepoix if you don't want to. Making stock is super easy. You can just lea…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 12:57 PM
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You can confirm but I’m thinking if he is really interested and wants you (which I assume he does because he asked you out in the past) he will confirm.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 08:59 PM
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If you're going no contact in order for him to miss you and "come back" then you're using it for the wrong reasons. I understand there are a bunch of things online that say no contact is a magic fix "and for a small payment of $20 I'll show you how to effectively get your ex back." You need to know that all of that is bullshit and is a scam that preys on people who are in a vulnerable situation. No contact is for you to heal yourself. To heal yourself and make yourself better for you - not for y…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 04:09 PM
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Hello fellow Toronto resident! The rat race here is insane and like you I don't really see the point of it. Really just wanted to say hello seeing as we live in the same city. I hope you get to be a SAHM. Better than paying $1600 a month for daycare that's for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 11:06 PM
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Okay thank you for clarifying. I didn’t see where she mentioned she was doing strong lifts. Just that she wants to workout.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 03:52 PM
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I hope this isn’t rude bc I’m not participating in answering your original post I would just like to say that you definitely don’t need a spotter to work out. Also, forget motivation. Motivations wanes. It’s all about discipline. You can also find programs (like Kaylaitsines) you can do home that don’t require a gym membership. If you’d like to start running the couch to 5k app is amazing. Of course, a personal trainer if you can afford it is a worthwhile investment.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 03:24 PM
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Most of these would look better with long hair.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 12:00 PM
1

That surely would have been awesome. Maybe you can do that with your husband when you both retire.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:20 AM
2

Thank you, I think you're right. I will go refresh my memory. :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:09 AM
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In your opinion then, what would be the "right" way? I'd be interested in hearing your perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:08 AM
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Thank you! I suppose you're right - that I wouldn't feel anxious if things weren't going well. So I should be (and am) grateful for that. Question - what if I do tell him I care and would be very sad if we weren't together and he just says nothing?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:07 AM
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Thank you. That is actually really helpful and something I didn't think about. I will journal out a fallback for sure. Appreciate the thoughtful response.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:05 AM
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Oh, I do. Maybe I should have mentioned that. I work out 3-4 times a week for 5 years now, I run, I meditate, I bake bread and have been for over a year, I'm in a bookclub, and see friends on a weekly basis. I only see him 1-2x a week. So I'm confused as to why I still have anxiety and fear when I have a fulfilling life outside of him. But I will keep in mind that I should focus more on myself. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 06:12 PM
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I think based on the fact that you told him it was important to you and that he said he would come by beforehand that you have every right to be upset. I think you should tell him you're disappointed. Don't let it slide or he will do stuff like this in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 01:41 PM
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Ew, Who cares if he will ever change. He is a disgusting racist and you should also block him and never give him another thought so long as you live.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 05:42 PM
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I think you could benefit from deleting social media or taking a break from it for a few months at least. Time to STFU, yes. Regarding getting married - if you really want that I would take Laura Doyle's advice on the surrendered single- tell him it's what you want with him but that if he doesn't want that, you can respect that but must move on to take care of yourself. You should really read that book if you haven't. Him saying he wants to marry doesn't necessarily mean he wants to or will prop…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 02:10 AM
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This is so nice to see. I like the dog analogy. Simple and to the point. I wouldn't want to be coming home to a growling dog. Thanks for posting.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 01:00 PM
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Ah shoot so I really do look 30. Not that that's a bad thing persay but I liked hearing from someone at work he thought I was the same age as his daughter (25). cue eye roll. Oh well. Better I hear this sooner than later. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:52 AM
3

Oh my. Bacon wrapped chicken stuffed with cream cheese? That sounds delicious and dreamy. I need to make this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 01:30 PM
4

I also have very weak nails. Sally Hansen (and I’m sure other brands) sell what’s called “nail hardener”. It’s just a clear polish but makes my paper thin nails really hard which helps keep them from breaking all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 08:03 PM
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Not normal. Tell someone what’s happened. Block him and never see him again. Call the police if you feel like your life is in danger.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 12:11 AM
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Maybe someone else can chime is but I am wondering, maybe you could talk directly about this to him? I mean obviously I don’t think you should say you are repulsed by him but perhaps you can bring up that you miss his masculinity and leadership and that you find him leading to be a huge turn on for you? What do you ladies think? Is this a good idea or a bad one?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 08:10 PM
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I don’t think you need to worry. Your fiance already stated that she's annoying and she sounds incompetent. Google maps can help with bud schedules but she couldn't figure that out.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 07:54 PM
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No, not all men are cheaters. But if your boyfriend is telling you he believes this to be true and that he has cheated in the past it is time to next him unless you also want to be cheated on. Edit. Just seeing you wrote it was your ex that said this. Glad they are your ex. And again, no not all men are cheaters.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 06:20 PM
4

Just curious - what do you think she would have to do to become irreplaceable"?
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 01:13 PM
1

This might be of interest to you: http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2013/03/men-dont-fall-in-love-same-way-women-do.html?m=1
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 11:34 PM
2

Dear Sugars.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 10:57 PM
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Just became official with a man I've been seeing. We met at work 5 years ago. Would get coffees and stuff etc. Then went on an actual date three years ago and then didn't go out again bc I didn't think it was okay to date someone at work and I didn't want to deal with gossipping. He got a job elsewhere and we went out on a second first date and then kept going on dates. It's been three months now and I'm just so happy to know him. He is everything. I have this sub to thank too. During that time …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 02:49 PM
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warm :) Qualities to make one feel loved (for me personally) are: kindness, consistency, honesty, reliability and being made to feel sexy/beautiful.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 03:11 PM
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ow congrats. I love the last line that you're making him a baby instead so can't bend over. that's so sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 02:15 PM
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I've been dating a really incredible man since the end of November. I'm really grateful to have met him. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 01:19 AM
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Awesome! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 04:19 PM
3

This is very cool. How did you do this exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 02:47 PM
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So I’ve been secretly reading this sub for a good year and well I’ve never commented because I know this isn’t really a place for women and I can respect that but I like posts like this. So thank you. It’s really helpful and I’ve learned a lot from this sub and will continue to creep.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/01/19 04:17 PM
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I understand what you’re saying. I have read/heard it’s more authentic to say “I love you because....” then list the reasons why you love the person. Anyway, thank you for sharing your story. I wish you well on your journey of love, too. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 03:46 PM
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That’s so sweet. You must make amazing tacos lol.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 03:39 PM
2

That’s so nice. Rain is so romantic!
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 08:38 PM
3

That’s so sweet. :) thank you so much for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 07:48 PM
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Norah Jones
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 05:18 PM
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I'm so so sorry. I hate to be so cliche but the biggest factor for healing from a breakup is going to be time. However, you can make that time work faster by doing the following things: Break contact once you move out. Seriously. Keeping in touch will only delay your healing. If you're meant to be friends then you can do that a year from now. I think breaking contact is the most important thing. I have two friends who haven't moved on from boyfriends bc they refuse to do this and they are only g…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 12:40 PM
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My god that’s cute. All over a little lizard.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:49 AM
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You did not drive your boyfriend to cheating. I think it would be a mistake to look at it that way. You said he started doing this in the beginning of your relationship. This isn't a you problem. This says more about what kind of person he is then it does you. I think you maybe mistakenly thought that this advice here would work with any man and any relationship. I'm so sorry you thought that. I am glad you're not together anymore and I hope you won't get back together in the future. The advice …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 02:24 PM
2

Heaven!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 01:52 PM
3

Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 03:53 PM
2

Awesome! I'll order off of Amazon. I look forward to discussions.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 01:46 PM
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You are not sigma
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 02:04 PM
2

Hi there. I don't drink anymore. It's been over a year now. I stopped because I felt as though it was holding me back from reaching my true potential. Plus it's very unhealthy and can age you. I wasnt good at moderating and just decided it was something I didn't want to do and quitting would be easier. It isn't weird or difficult in social situations any longer. It was hard for a bit but now I like it. I go out, have fun and leave by midnight when everyone is loaded. Edited for grammar
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 02:32 AM
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I looked at some posts over there. Their sidebar indicates the scale they use is more harsh. I looked at some posts and people were getting banned for rating people as a 7. Saw another post there a girl who was very beautiful was rated as a 6.5 and one of the commentators said to look at their guide on the sidebar because a 6.5 is like a real world 8. So I wouldn't worry about being rated over in that sub. But one can always improve on looks! whether that's by exercising, working on your self es…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 02:45 PM
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Do you have any tips for how to pull out that energy in others?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:10 PM
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I no longer see femininity as weakness or meekness
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 01:17 AM
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Meditation. You can get the headspace app. 2 Keep a journal and write out three things you're grateful for everyday. Less TV, more reading. Now is the time to take that language class or learn that instrument if you have something like that you've been wanting to do. That's all I got.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/18 02:33 PM
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Yes. Occurred to me I am one when I wrote this out. Which is too bad for me but hopefully someone else can learn from my idiotic choices.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 07:13 PM
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Don't go back to your ex. For the simple reason that you say you see he has good "potential." It's unfair to date people for their potential because what if they don't meet your expectations of potential? If you don't want to be with him for who he is today it is best to keep moving forward. Please note this is coming from someone who's ex said they changed and made a mistake and wanted to marry them and that was three years ago and I am single so I may be a little biased.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 03:32 PM
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Get yourself a tongue scraper. Gross to talk about but life-changing. I've been using one for a year now twice a day - once in the morning and once before bed and I never have bad breath anymore, not even in the mornings. You can buy them at health stores and Amazon. They are very cheap. Also it's good not to rinse out toothpaste after you're done brushing - just spit out as much excess toothpaste as possible. Floss. Seriously. Adding more: Don't use a whitening toothpaste or charcoal toothpaste…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 04:23 PM
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Both of these are genius. I never thought of this before. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 02:24 PM
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All bc you spilt a drink? I don't thing you needing to stay calm is the real issue here. No one should be freaking out because you spilt a drink. It's not as if that has life-changing consequences. I'm sorry
/r/RedPillWives08/11/18 06:58 PM
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thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 05:13 PM
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Hi there, possibly stupid question - is there something one should do after the simmering of the citrus peels or is it that you just simmer them for the day to freshen the air and then throw them out?
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 03:54 PM
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I found this tip for housekeeping in an askwomenover30 thread. This woman wrote that everyday she will set a timer for 15 minutes and clean whatever she can in the 15 minutes and then stop. She referred to this as “guriella cleaning.” I’ve been doing this everyday for the last 3 weeks and it’s really helped to keep things tidy throughout the week without feeling like I spend hours cleaning.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 05:53 PM
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This is going to sound horrible of me but I resist eating junk food like most of my coworkers do around me by simply thinking how I do not want to be fat and unhealthy like them. So I simply resist the cravings by eating something healthy instead and thinking about how much my life would suck if I was fat. Also think about how much work you put in at the gym. Why would you want to ruin that for junk food? Not worth it. I pretty much always eat healthy but to get back on the path of eating health…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 06:12 PM
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I agree! A first date should be fun. It weirds me out when these things are brought up right away. Communicates to me they are looking for just anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:02 PM
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Honestly, thank you for this. It has helped me a lot to understand myself more and why I’m quiet and feel weird smiling. You’re right - it is vanity and fear. My intention today is to smile at a stranger. I’m worried it’ll seem fake but really who cares. Thank you again. This has been invaluable to me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 02:15 PM
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That’s so great! :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 11:25 PM
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Can’t recommend the book flour, water, salt, yeast enough.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 02:46 PM
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Sunscreen on your face every damn day. Also, that boys at that age really don’t matter. If I could go back I’d work on myself more and focus more on school and have cultivated a talent and not have had a boyfriend. We didn’t have social media when I was a teenager and I’m so thankful for that. If I was a teen now I think one of the best things you could do is not spend so much time on social media. It’s a huge time waster.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 02:44 PM
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Omg I totally feel the same way as you. Sorry that I can’t offer advice but just want you to know you’re not alone. I feel stupid even just smiling more - like I’m being fake.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 02:41 PM
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Awe!! Congratulations! Note to self: greet man at door with mozzarella sticks and a soda.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 10:41 PM
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I haven't read the comments so maybe this has been mentioned but I was reading in a post on AskWomenOver30 - this one women said that she does what she called "guerrilla cleaning." She puts on a timer for 15 minutes every day and cleans until that timer goes off and that's all she will clean for the day. The next day she'll do the same thing again but clean another space. I've been doing this everyday for the last week and my place has been pretty much spotless. Of course this doesn't replace de…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 08:34 PM
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I’m thankful for my girlfriends. I only have 3 very close friends but I wouldn’t trade them to have 100.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:07 PM
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This is fantastic. I feel more confident just reading this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 07:07 PM
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Just wanted to let you know that being single as an adult really sucks (or dating as an adult does). I cannot tell you whether that’s your hamster going or something else but just wanted to let you know that people usually want what they don’t have and if I found someone I loved and respected I’d hold on to them for dear life. Trust me when I say you’re missing nothing by not getting to “experience” tinder and bumble and dating. And those guys that hit on you and make you think “what if” - most …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 08:03 PM
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on the list? is there a list that reddit shares of subs they are thinking of shutting down?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 04:12 PM
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lol that is good.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 04:12 PM
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Okay I’ll do some copy pasting into Microsoft word just in case. Thanks for the heads up.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 01:08 AM
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So if that happens what will happen to all the content???? I NEED it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 12:57 AM
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Saving this because I remembered reading the original post and thinking there was another woman he didn’t want you to see or just that he wanted to look single. I’m sorry for thinking that and I’m so glad that wasn’t the case. Thank you SO MUCH for posting this updated.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 11:46 PM
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Congratulations to you. I wish you a lifetime of happiness. 😊❤️
/r/RedPillWives07/09/18 01:21 AM
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That is very interesting. I will keep this in mind. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:00 PM
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Hi there, serious question- what is “duty” dating?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:02 PM
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This sounds SO nice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 04:34 PM
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Hey. Just curious. 3.5 out of 1000?? What does that mean? You look way better than 3.5 out of 1000...
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 03:01 PM
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Just came here to say you are not alone. I only recently found this sub and have only recently started incorporating this stuff into my life and I am 30. And single. I understand the feelings of running out of time, however, the longer you stay the more you really will be running out of time. 30 is still young!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 03:00 PM
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Your doctor told you 110 and 120 is too small? That’s ridiculous. 110-120 is not too small for your heights. I am 5’7” and weigh 118. I do not look unhealthy. You can be 110.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 02:16 PM
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I had a stye that got infected (gross I know). Well I wouldn’t leave my house all week because of it. I am just so thankful that the antibiotics I’m on are working because I was able to leave my house today. I understand in the first place I should be thankful it’s only a stye - not as if I have cancer or anything. Perhaps that makes me a little vain. Either way though - just so grateful my eye doesn’t look horrid anymore. 🙏🏻
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 06:12 PM
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Read Kon Marie’s Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. You can get it off iBooks. It is life changing. Well, it’s at the very least underwear and sock life changing. I never knew those drawers could be properly folded and kept that way.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 02:25 AM
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Just wanted to say that this was such a nice story. So simple but powerful.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 09:21 PM
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Thank you. I am sorry it’s happened to you as well. I am curious - what happened when you said something? Did you at least get an apology? I wonder if at that point it would even be sincere. I am guessing not. A prop with no emotions. That’s exactly it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 11:20 PM
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It is hard to predict, I agree. There have been two instances where I dated two different men for more than two months, slept with them and they both ghosted. Happened again recently with another man, though I didn’t wait that long. I didn’t have sex for an entire year. Seems to be a sort of damned if you do, damned if you don’t.. I think you’re right - that the only option is to not have sex at all. Update: I handled it by doing nothing. Though what I really wanted to do was call them out. Espe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 09:31 PM
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Thank you for sharing. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 05:04 PM
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Thank you for linking this. Was a very good read.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:57 AM
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Wow. Thank You, DelicateDevelopment. Truly. This was very thought out and detailed and what I needed. I will keep coming back to this until I have moved on. I feel like I have a lot I could learn from you and a lot more to learn from this sub in general. I'm 30 but a bit of a late bloomer (think that's because I spent the majority of my 20s in a toxic relationship) so now I feel very inexperienced with dating and letting someone lead. I will heed your advice and the advice of this sub in general…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 12:47 AM
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Alright. Thank you that perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 09:01 PM
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I should re read this. I’m new to the whole vetting thing (which feels silly since I’m 30 but that’s probably bc I spent too many years in a toxic relationship then had to spend time alone to work on myself). Thank you for the reminder of those concepts.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 05:02 PM
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I suppose that’s true - that it affirms I was more into him than him, me. That wouldn’t bother me per say but I do understand why you’re saying. I should accept not everyone is as direct as me. Ego is definitely bruised. I suppose that’s natural. Thank you for the reply.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 05:00 PM
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So I could be completely wrong (I’m single, so really what do I know) but I have to wonder if he set up the second date so quickly because he wanted to have sex and thought it may happen on the second date? Now he’s been on 3 dates and it hasn’t happened so is possibly becoming disinterested because of a lack of physical contact... someone linked here the other day to a blog called “Black Girls Are Easy” and he talks about this exact scenario in his book “Men Dont Love Women Like You.”
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 07:50 PM
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This is a good question and I struggle with this too. Hoping to see more comments on this post
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 06:56 PM
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Hi. I will. Give me a couple of days? I want to include everything I did / read and need some time to collect it all and put it together. Didn’t think people would be so interested to hear specific things so I didn’t think to include them! I suppose that’s annoying to readers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 02:01 PM
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Well I mean I can’t always control my thoughts. But when I’m having crazy thoughts I just tell myself “thoughts are just thoughts, they are not necessarily real.” Just bc you have a thought - like, oh my boyfriend doesn’t care because he hasn’t texted me today - I recognize it for what it is - just a thought. It isn’t true. So I would never bring these thoughts up to whomever my boyfriend is bc that would be the absolute wrong thing to do. Also I meditate and am into stoicism and I find the phil…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 01:36 PM
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This is so sweet. Thank you for sharing! I’m just learning about the texting thing myself too - that it’s my insecurities that we don’t text a lot - not necessarily that he isn’t interested. So thank you for sharing. Gives me a lot of perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 01:53 AM
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Sounds like he needs the opposite of space. For the sake of your relationship I think you need to call him and make a plan.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 02:53 PM
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Thanks! And I ordered the book. Receiving it tomorrow. Yay for amazon prime.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 08:13 PM
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Okay. Thank you for the reply.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 02:51 PM
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Thank you so much for posting these summaries. Think I’m going to purchase this book. Will be good to know this stuff when I have a boyfriend. Ugh I’m so happy I found this sub. Possible stupid question... can you give an example of what to say as a rejection to sex that comes from the heart?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 02:06 AM
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I read online for tips that a good thing to do is wear an elastic band on your wrist and every time you swear pull the eslastic so that it slaps you. Might be hard to do push-ups in public if you swear while you’re out!! Also read a good thing to try to curb the swearing is to not swear in your head. So get rid of it in your thoughts too. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 06:57 PM
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I’m doing it deliberately. Sort of just started. Found this subreddit a couple of months ago and have enjoyed the posts.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 04:49 PM
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Mine is to stop swearing! I use the F word and say shit too much. Very unlady like. Need to expand my vocabulary.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 04:48 PM
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Hi there, just curious... what is a homemaking binder and what would one of these contain? I like your goals a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 04:47 PM
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check out r/curlyhair and r/skincareaddiction the hair and acne are fixable as are possibly the dark circles. if you don't like your eyebrow shape maybe try somewhere else? but do research first. regardless of whether you're skinny or not you should go to the gym. not only will you look better but going to the gym will boost your confidence and make you feel better about yourself and build up self esteem. this might sound stupid and hippy but honestly - every morning - put your hand over your he…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 01:07 AM
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