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Keep your bathroom clean though. Agreed. Nothing will dry up a woman's nether regions quicker than a filthy bathroom. This is one area where you should be meticulous about being clean. So before you go out, make sure that there's no beard trimmings in your bathroom sink, no skid marks in your toilet, no dirty towels lying on the floor, etc. It's also a good idea to keep the inside of your car clean. A girl who isn't a gold-digger won't care much about the type of car you drive, but she will care…
/r/seduction24/05/15 08:10 AM
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I keep my place organized and clean, but not 100% spotless. A bachelor's place is supposed to be a little messy. A place that is impeccably spotless can give people the impression that you're an anal-retentive neat freak, and that's not a very sexy quality in a man. I'm not saying your place should look like a dump, but being a little bit of a slob is actually something that most people consider a manly trait.
/r/seduction24/05/15 12:47 AM
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I've been there. When you have sex with a woman you're not attracted to just because you can, you're committing an act of desperation. It shows a lack of respect towards yourself and her as well. That's why you felt disgusted after the deed was done. These days I only have sex with women I feel actual attraction towards.
/r/seduction04/05/15 04:32 AM
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If you're uncertain whether or not she's flirting with you: always assume attraction and act appropriately. If you're wrong, you'll find out soon enough. It's almost always better to be too aggressive than too timid.
/r/seduction28/04/15 10:51 AM
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You're putting too much pressure on yourself to get laid and it's probably throwing off your game. This advice might get downvoted, but you may want to consider hiring an escort to have sex with you. Then you'll find that sex is fun, but it's not the life-validating experience that movies and TV shows make it out to be. Don't depend on female approval to feel good about yourself. If you think that you're a loser who is never going to get laid, those feelings are going to manifest themselves in t…
/r/seduction27/04/15 02:17 AM
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Good advice. I don't know why somebody downvoted it. My favorite quote out of it goes something like "If you want a girl, you have to not be afraid to let her walk away". 'Round these parts we call that outcome independence.
/r/seduction27/04/15 01:59 AM
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I grew up in a small town. A lot of dates people went on involved the outdoors: hiking, going on a picnic, fishing, shooting guns, riding dirtbikes/quads, sledding or riding snowmobiles in the winter, etc.
/r/seduction27/04/15 01:43 AM
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Have friends that are girls help you. I'd be careful with this bit of advice. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean that she's an expert on what makes you look good. Many women, when asked to help you buy clothes, will pick clothing that they would like to see their ideal man wear, and those clothes may not necessarily be what looks best for you. I'd recommend guys looking for fashion advice spend some time in /r/malefashionadvice .
/r/seduction27/04/15 01:23 AM
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Acting hurt or angry when a woman rejects you is very unattractive. It shows that you're too invested in her, and makes you appear needy and desperate. If you ask a woman out and she rejects you, just smile, say something like "No problem. It was nice meeting you." and move on to the next girl. There have actually been a couple of times in the past where a girl changed her mind about me because I acted like her rejection was no big deal.
/r/seduction26/04/15 10:42 AM
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Something that allows for conversation and presents opportunities for physical touch. Bowling, a walk in the park, playing billiards at a bar, and dancing are all good first date ideas. Try to do 2-3 activities during the course of the date, spending about an hour on each one. This creates the impression that she's spent more time with you than she actually has. Dinner dates and movie dates are bad first date ideas because they inhibit conversation and don't allow for much physical contact. Plus…
/r/seduction26/04/15 07:24 AM
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Yep. This. A few months back I asked out a bartender at a bar near where I live. She politely declined. I still go to the bar every week and there's no weirdness between her and I.
/r/seduction26/04/15 03:33 AM
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No kidding. It wasn't that long ago when we were telling guys to next a girl if she tries to friendzone them. Now we're extolling the virtues of the friendzone? WTF?
/r/seduction22/04/15 10:13 AM
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One of the few upsides of smoking cigarettes is that you can use it to pause the conversation and consider what to say next. I'm not a smoker, but I've got friends who are and they have admitted to doing this. Plus, asking a girl for a light or if you can bum a cig is a good way to begin talking to her.
/r/seduction21/04/15 10:48 AM
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Yep. Owning a motorcycle gives you "bad boy appeal" even if you're not really a bad boy. A guy who rides a $2,000 motorcycle can compete with a guy who drives a $50,000 sports car. Chicks dig bikes.
/r/seduction21/04/15 04:41 AM
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To have more satisfying relationships with women both emotionally and sexually.
/r/seduction15/04/15 08:24 AM
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First of all, don't rely on Tinder or other online dating sites. Work on cold approaching women in public places. The problem with Tinder and other online dating sites is that the men significantly outnumber the women, so even average-looking girls have several men matching with them a day. This results in women with overblown senses of entitlement. As I mentioned in another thread, I've seen countless profiles where a slightly above-average woman expects her man to be tall, handsome, and built …
/r/seduction14/04/15 04:00 AM
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I'd say that a key component of being dominant is this: you set firm boundaries and you expect people to abide by them. If people disrespect your boundaries, you make it clear that you won't tolerate it. If they keep doing it, you stop associating with them. For example: you ask a girl out on a date. She agrees, but asks if it's okay if she brings a friend. You simply but firmly say "No." If you're on a date with a girl and she says something you find offensive, you tell her that you didn't appr…
/r/seduction13/04/15 01:44 AM
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Men and women have different criteria when it comes to what makes a partner attractive. Men base a woman's attractiveness mainly on physical beauty. Common traits that men find attractive are things like big boobs, a tight butt, a small waist, long legs, long hair, symmetrical facial features, and youth. Non-physical traits that men find attractive are "not crazy" and "doesn't have children from another man" (sorry if that's not PC, ladies, but if you've got kids it will make you less desirable …
/r/seduction12/04/15 04:28 AM
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Upscale cocktail lounges. There's a couple of those near where I live and you can always find cougars there.
/r/seduction08/04/15 02:23 AM
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There have been several times in my life where a woman said to me "Just so you know, we're not having sex" and then we ended up having sex anyway. Much of the time it's just something a girl says because she doesn't want you to think that she's easy. It sounds like this girl likes you. So take her out on a date and escalate physically and emotionally like you normally would with a woman you're pursuing. You probably won't have a difficult time getting her in bed for a second time.
/r/seduction07/04/15 05:48 AM
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Yep, this. I always go for the kiss on a first date. Always. It's better to be too aggressive than too timid.
/r/seduction05/04/15 08:15 AM
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Female wingmen are hit and miss. On one hand, being seen with an attractive woman increases your social value among other women. On the other hand, many female wingmen will sabotage you if you want to approach a woman who is younger or more attractive than she is.
/r/seduction02/04/15 03:33 AM
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/r/seduction01/04/15 11:35 AM
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Gonna paraphrase Mark Manson here: the biggest reason that guys get friendzoned is because they're too timid and afraid to escalate things physically. Physical escalation - or kino, if you prefer - makes your intentions very clear. A man who does not act upon his sexual urges lacks confidence, and is therefore unattractive to women. If you've been friendzoned by a girl, she probably knows damn well that you're interested in her, but because you didn't have the confidence to make a move she no lo…
/r/seduction01/04/15 09:27 AM
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Yep, this. If I were in OP's shoes, I'd wait a day or two and send her a text asking her out on a date. If she doesn't reply, let her go.
/r/seduction01/04/15 02:20 AM
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If you're uncertain if she's interested in you, always assume attraction. Ask her out on a date. Make sure she knows it's a date. Then you'll get your answer.
/r/seduction01/04/15 02:12 AM
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If you can force yourself to jump out of an airplane at 13000 ft, you can go up to that cute girl and talk to her "If you can dodge a wrench, you can dodge a ball."
/r/seduction01/04/15 02:05 AM
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I prefer cold approaching women in bars and clubs over online dating. Here's why: Most people who use online dating apps like Tinder and OKCupid are men. Also, sending a girl a message or trying to "match" with her is less nerve-wracking than cold approaching her in person. Because of this, any woman who uses online dating and is even slightly attractive is getting several messages/matches per day. This causes her to think "If I've got this many guys sending me messages, I must be a real catch!"…
/r/seduction01/04/15 01:16 AM
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I expect this thread will be deleted soon, because the mods here hate examples that are grounded in fiction. But I just watched this video and couldn't help but agree with the points it made. I figure some Hollywood screenwriter has done a little research into PUA/seduction.
/r/seduction27/03/15 03:09 PM
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They don't see it that way. We live in a world where the man is expected to be the one to approach. Most women - especially hot ones - think that if a man doesn't have the guts to approach her then he's not worth her time. This is why virtually all PUA/seduction advice literature places such a high emphasis on being the one to approach. Being the one to approach is a skill you have learn if you want to be successful with women.
/r/seduction25/03/15 02:02 PM
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Yep, you've definitely got a stage 5 clinger on your hands. Good luck with that. Be firm, stand your ground. Keep re-iterating to her that it was only sex and a romantic relationship is not going to happen. And hope that she doesn't decide to boil your pet bunny.
/r/seduction25/03/15 01:57 PM
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Sewage treatment plants have a specially-designed filter they call "the condom catcher." Sewage plants are well-equipped to handle flushed condoms. Although flushing condoms if your place has a septic system instead of a sewer can definitely cause problems.
/r/seduction25/03/15 01:29 PM
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It also assumes that a guy who doesn't respond to signals isn't picking up on them. There have been a lot of times when a woman has been showing obvious IOIs to me, but I ignored them because I didn't find her attractive.
/r/seduction25/03/15 11:33 AM
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Also, some women are allergic to latex. So have a couple of lambskin condoms on hand just in case.
/r/seduction25/03/15 11:29 AM
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That's also a great idea if you want to clog her toilet for her. I'd rather risk clogging a toilet than risk 18 years of child support payments. If you're scared of a girl trying to steal your semen, don't sleep with her. Being that paranoid sounds like game killer anyway. Actually it's not. It's just a simple precaution that becomes automatic after a few times doing it, same as putting the condom on in the first place.
/r/seduction25/03/15 11:14 AM
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Back in 2002, the NBA issued a memo to its players advising them to wear condoms and then dispose of the condom by flushing it down the toilet because there were several paternity suits that year where women that the players had had sex with retrieved the condoms from the trash and self-impregnated themselves. It was such a widespread problem among players that the NBA felt the need to issue a league-wide warning. Every single one of those players is now liable for child support for kids they ne…
/r/seduction25/03/15 11:02 AM
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Business card holders are designed to fit in your pocket. And the average one can fit two condoms inside. EDIT: Or you could just get one of these.
/r/seduction25/03/15 08:10 AM
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Whenever you leave your house, take a condom with you. If you leave your house and you're expecting to get laid, take two condoms with you. After using a condom, tie off the opening and flush it down the toilet. Do not just throw it in the garbage. This may sound paranoid, but there have actually been cases where a woman took a used condom out of the trash and impregnated herself using the semen inside of it, and then the guy got stuck paying child support. So it pays to take a few seconds and m…
/r/seduction25/03/15 07:51 AM
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Yes, it does. This is why you should get something like a metal business card holder to store your condoms in. It will protect the condoms a lot better in your pocket than a wallet will.
/r/seduction25/03/15 07:43 AM
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I've heard the same thing. Not having a date to a wedding makes women desperate and easier to pick up. Hell, it's pretty much the whole premise behind the film The Wedding Crashers.
/r/seduction25/03/15 03:39 AM
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"Playing hard to get" is what's commonly referred in Seddit as "Push/Pull Technique". It's one of the most effective methods of building sexual tension because it keeps her uncertain whether or not you're interested in her. A popular technique is to use a 2:1 ratio of displays of interest/displays of disinterest. So for example: make solid eye contact with a woman, then touch her on the arm, then suddenly display disinterest by turning away from her. Then repeat.
/r/seduction25/03/15 01:34 AM
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I strongly suggest that you read the book How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It's full of good advice if you're, well, trying to win friends and influence people. But one piece of advice I will give you: if you have romantic intentions towards a woman, do not make friends with her first. If you end up in a girl's "friend zone" you'll probably never leave it. You have to make your intentions and interest clear early on, and the best way to do that is through physical escala…
/r/seduction24/03/15 10:25 AM
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One piece of advice I've heard is to treat her like she's your girlfriend beginning with the very first date. Touch her a lot, talk to her like you've known her for a long time, use a lot of eye contact, casually bring up sex during conversation, etc. As a general rule, it's better to be aggressive than timid. A woman will usually forgive you for being too aggressive, but she won't forgive you for being too timid.
/r/seduction24/03/15 10:17 AM
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Mark Manson wrote that yoga classes are gold mines for meeting women. The majority of people in your typical yoga class are easygoing women who are also physically fit.
/r/seduction24/03/15 12:49 AM
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If the clubs in Minneapolis are anything like the clubs in Las Vegas, ordering bottle service will attract women to your table. So you probably won't be alone for very long.
/r/seduction23/03/15 08:31 AM
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You live in LA. Half of the women in that town are wannabe actresses. So lie and tell them that you're movie producer. Seriously, though, you seem kinda insecure about your looks, so you should probably work on that until you feel good about yourself. After that, just put yourself out there. Go to bars, join an online dating site or two, approach women while you're out in public, etc.
/r/seduction19/03/15 06:31 AM
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If she's disrespectful towards the waitress or the bartender, it's always a sign that she's a horrible person you want nothing to do with.
/r/seduction19/03/15 05:11 AM
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Make sure you've got hobbies, interests, and friends that don't involve her. Don't let your relationship with your girlfriend define who you are. I know one guy whose girlfriend wanted to be with him all the time. Finally he told her "I will hang out with you twice a week. But the other days are for my friends and my hobbies." She tried to argue with him, accused him of not caring enough about her, stuff like that. But he stood his ground. He reported to me that after instituting this rule, she …
/r/seduction19/03/15 05:00 AM
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I usually text within 24 hours with something like "Hey Janice, it was nice meeting you last night." Then I wait another day or two before I text her again to arrange a date.
/r/seduction19/03/15 04:36 AM
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Women love to play matchmaker. Every blind date I've ever been on in my life has been arranged by a woman.
/r/seduction19/03/15 01:19 AM
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Approach anxiety never goes away completely. Even seasoned PUAs still get it. But if you approach enough girls, it will gradually transform from something terrifying into something that's a little scary, but at the same time a little exciting. Kinda like the feeling you get right before you go down a waterslide. Here's an exercise you can do to help with your approach anxiety: go to a public place like a park or a shopping mall. Every time you see an attractive girl, go up to her and ask her "He…
/r/seduction18/03/15 08:40 AM
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Get her on a date, escalate physically. Make sure you mention to her that you're not looking for a relationship and you're only interested in casual dating. This is a socially acceptable way of saying "I don't want a girlfriend, but I would like to have sex with you." If you succeed at getting her into bed. Text her the next day with something like "Last night was fun. We should do it again sometime." And see how she responds.
/r/seduction18/03/15 07:47 AM
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Have you started doing anything different lately? Changed the way you approach? Changed the places where you are trying to meet girls? It's also possible that you're just going through a dry spell. It happens. You'll go through a period where you're getting dates left and right, and suddenly you can't even number close a girl. When that happens there's not much you can do except keep trying and wait for your luck to improve.
/r/seduction18/03/15 01:27 AM
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Do your chit chatting, say you have to catch your friends, get her number and leave or walk away This. When you start talking to her, say something along the lines of "I can't stay long because I'm on my way to meet friends, but I just wanted to ask..." that way she'll be more comfortable because she won't think that you're gonna spend all night hanging out with her.
/r/seduction18/03/15 01:04 AM
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You ask her out on a date. If she replies with "Sorry, I've got a boyfriend." then you've got your answer.
/r/seduction18/03/15 12:57 AM
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Mark Manson talks about this in Models. Basically, being a wealthy guy can actually hurt your chances of getting laid, because the more you talk about your wealth and success, the more quickly women want to get into a relationship with you instead of just sleeping with you. This is why there are rich guys who seldom get laid and poor guys who get laid all the time. So the next time you're out on a date, don't talk about how wealthy and successful you are. Instead flirt a lot and escalate physica…
/r/seduction18/03/15 12:49 AM
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It's something that happens more often than you think. It's happened to me, and countless other guys as well. It's really common to see questions here and /r/AskSeddit where the guy says "We were getting along great and she gave me her number, but then she never texted me back. What happened?" Or "We went out on a couple of dates, things were going great, and we even made out with each other. Then suddenly she stopped talking to me. What happened?" The lesson you should take away from this: Wome…
/r/seduction17/03/15 09:56 AM
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Could be she gave you her number but wasn't really interested It's been my experience that if you ask a woman for her number, most of the time she'll give it to you even if she doesn't have any intention of going out with you. Just because you get a girl's number does not guarantee you'll be going out on a date with her.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:46 AM
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I'd wait a day or two from the time you texted her, then send her another text asking if she wants to meet up for drinks. It's possible that she was busy or away from her phone when she got your first text and then forgot to message you back. A lot of women are really disorganized and terrible at remembering to text back. If she doesn't reply to your second text, just let her go.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:45 AM
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You need to stop being so focused on the outcome. If you see a woman you find attractive, don't think to yourself "I hope she likes me", think "I wonder what she's like." If she gets mad at you simply for approaching her and talking to her, then she's the one who's got issues, not you. Also, stop stressing over the fact that you haven't gotten laid in a year. If you do, women will sense your desperation and it will repel them. If getting laid is all that matters to you, save yourself some troubl…
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:19 AM
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Take a yoga class. They're usually full of physically fit women.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:08 AM
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Exactly this. Most women want their men to be aggressive and dominant when it comes to sex. They don't want a guy who is meek and submissive. OP is gonna have to face and overcome his fear of making the first move. Remember: a woman will forgive a man for being too aggressive, but she won't forgive him for being too timid. Always err on the side of aggressiveness.
/r/seduction17/03/15 01:06 AM
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She's giving you another chance, so that's a good sign. It means that she probably likes you. Don't tell her ahead of time that you're going to kiss her, just do it. However, you should know that some women refuse to kiss in public. So if she pulls away or acts reluctant, try again later in a setting that's more private.
/r/seduction17/03/15 12:59 AM
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I've been with a couple of cougars in my time. The thing you need to know about older women is that they don't play as many games as younger women do. If they like you and want to have sex with you, they'll be pretty straightfoward and honest about it. And a lot of them like younger guys, or rather, they like the validation they get from knowing that younger men still find them attractive. So if you want to meet cougars, just dress nice and go to upscale cocktail lounges or concerts for bands th…
/r/seduction17/03/15 12:54 AM
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"You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take." - Wayne Gretzkey
/r/seduction12/03/15 01:20 AM
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The idea of "text gaming" is something that appeals to a lot of guys because they consider it less intimidating than trying to seduce a girl in person. They think they can spend a half-hour thinking up the perfect witty text and it will cause the girl to fall for them. It almost never works like that. "Text game" is no substitute for being charming in person. The harder you try to game a girl via text, the more likely you are to come across as needy and desperate. If you make a great impression …
/r/seduction10/03/15 04:14 AM
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I wish I was a better man. Then become one instead of whining and feeling sorry for yourself. This subreddit is jam-packed with self-improvement advice and tips for becoming the type of man that women find attractive. Read the sidebar of this sub for some good starting advice, and also read the following books: How to Win Friend and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Models by Mark Manson No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. The Game by Neil Strauss (this is more of a cautionary tale of what ca…
/r/seduction10/03/15 03:29 AM
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Texting too much, or trying to be cute/clever in your texts, makes you appear needy and desperate. To be safe, you should use texting mainly as a way of setting up dates with girls. Keep your messages short and to the point, and avoid things like texting her to ask how her day is going or trying to "game" her via text.
/r/seduction10/03/15 02:25 AM
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"Hi, I'm nassytber. I know this is strange since we've never really talked, but I think you're cute and I wanted to meet you. Can I call you sometime?" If she gives you her number, text her within 24 hours telling her that it was nice meeting her. Then wait another day or two and ask if she wants to meet up for coffee or ice cream (normally I'd suggest meeting up for a drink, but you're too young for that). Do not suggest dinner or a movie for the first date; those ideas are cliche, they don't a…
/r/seduction09/03/15 02:31 AM
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I know a 40 year old guy who stays in shape, takes good care of his appearance, and regularly dates girls 15-20 years younger than himself. Hot ones, too. I hope I've got that much game when I'm his age.
/r/seduction09/03/15 02:15 AM
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If you're feeling frustrated from a string of rejections, take a little break from approaching women. Do something you find enjoyable and relaxing. Take a night off from going out to bars and play video games or watch Netflix at home. Wait until your mood improves before you try again. In poker, the term "on tilt" refers to when a poker player is angry and frustrated and it's having a negative impact on his playing (typically this happens when he's lost a lot of money on a single hand or had a s…
/r/seduction08/03/15 05:23 AM
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Keep your free time occupied with friends, hobbies, and interests. Make her compete with them for your time. Don't allow yourself the luxury of boredom, because if you do you'll start looking for reasons to text or call her, which will make you seem needy/clingy.
/r/seduction08/03/15 05:15 AM
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We idealize girls we are attracted to as perfect creatures but that is definitely not the case. I used to work with an older guy. About 60 or so. He was hella cool and was always giving out these tidbits of earthy wisdom. One time he said this: "Even beautiful women take smelly shits just like everyone else." Guys, remember that line the next time you're about to put a girl on a pedestal.
/r/seduction05/03/15 10:24 AM
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I love how every single reason on that list makes it the man's fault in some way. Even the infedelity one basically says "You weren't keeping her happy enough so she found somebody better than you." The list doesn't acknowledge at all that sometimes a woman dumps a man because she's irrational, demanding, promiscuous, greedy, or just plain bitchy.
/r/seduction05/03/15 09:21 AM
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I've only heard about it in the context of dating. But I guess it's possible that it could apply to other types of relationships like friendship.
/r/seduction04/03/15 11:49 AM
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Relevant: The Brad Pitt Rule Every time I did this, she confirmed that she did, and that she's sorry for the lack of communication, and that she is really happy with how I feel about her. Very reassuring. So she says she's flattered by how you feel about her, but she didn't say she feels the same way? Yeah dude, sounds to me like she's just not into you but she's afraid of hurting your feelings.
/r/seduction04/03/15 11:06 AM
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Good post. As far as the part about compliments go, I'd add that you should give her compliments she's not used to receiving. As a wise man once said, "Beautiful women like to be told that they're smart. Smart women like to be told that they're beautiful." Also, compliment some aspect of her appearance that she controls, not something she was born with. Something like "That's a cool bracelet" or, even better, "I really like your shoes." For some reason, women love it when you compliment their sh…
/r/seduction04/03/15 08:37 AM
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What you just described is called "Assortment Effect" and it's a well-known concept in social psychology. It's been proven true in study after study. Assortment effect is the tendency for men and women of similar beliefs and self-perception to attract one another. So men with low self-esteem tend to date women with low self-esteem. And a man who believes that women enjoy sex just as much as men do is going to date women who are comfortable and positive when it comes to their own sexuality. Knowl…
/r/seduction04/03/15 05:34 AM
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Pretty solid article. I didn't see anything that I really disagreed with. I would add something, though. Here's a paragraph from the article: Ask more questions and talk less. People inherently love talking about themselves. Asking her lots of questions will make you appear engaged and interested. Asking questions is good, but cold calling with direct statements is better. Instead of asking the question you're thinking of you guess the answer yourself. Some examples: Instead of asking "Where are…
/r/seduction04/03/15 02:21 AM
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From the article: Pornography, in which male performers are often selected for their extremely large genitalia, may be partly to blame. It should also be mentioned that female porn stars are usually very petite, like 5'3" or shorter. Porn producers intentionally use small, petite women because it makes the male performer's penis seem even larger by comparison.
/r/seduction04/03/15 01:38 AM
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Pretty much this. When you approach a woman, don't be thinking "I hope she likes me." Think "I wonder what she's like."
/r/seduction04/03/15 01:32 AM
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I'm a fan of the Mark Manson school of thought: your goal should not be how many sexual partners you can rack up (also known as "notch count"), your goal should be satisfaction with the women in your life both emotionally and sexually. Anybody who has had a few sexual partners will tell you that the first time you have sex with somebody is usually the worst time you have sex with them. Sex is more satisfying when you figure out what your partner likes and share an emotional connection with them.…
/r/seduction03/03/15 05:45 AM
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Yeah, a lot of women do prefer white wine over red. But the problem with white wine is that it's best served cold, while red wine can be served slightly chilled or even room temperature. Since I only drink wine when I have female company over (I'm mostly a beer and whiskey guy) I've never got it in my fridge unless I have the time to plan in advance. So I choose pinot noir because it's the most "mellow" red wine, and it can be served room temperature for when I say to my date "Let's go to my pla…
/r/seduction03/03/15 04:37 AM
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The article definitely has some truth to it. I use "Let's meet up for a drink" and "Come over and we'll watch a movie on Netflix" as two of my go-to lines when I'm trying to get a woman into bed. Another one I like to bust out on occasion is "Let's have a glass of wine at my place." I alway keep a bottle of pinot noir at my house just in case this works.
/r/seduction03/03/15 04:23 AM
1

There are bots all over Tinder these days. It seems like at least half of my matches for the last few months have been bots.
/r/seduction02/03/15 03:31 PM
2

Tell your friends what you are doing and ask them to hold you accountable.
/r/seduction02/03/15 05:32 AM
1

Do you ski or snowboard? The ski areas are usually pretty busy on Sunday. Or, if you have a dog you could go to Tanner Park. Dog parks are usually good places to meet women. Other than that, you could try any of the downtown bars like Gracie's or Poplar Street Pub. Although obviously they're not going to be as busy on Sunday as they will be on a Friday or Saturday.
/r/seduction02/03/15 04:09 AM
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Nothing kills a woman's attraction to a man like pity, and self-deprecation encourages a woman to take pity on you. Women want a man who presents himself as competent and confident, not a man who presents himself as kinda pathetic. Romantic comedies love the trope of the goofy, bumbling, self-deprecating guy who wins over the girl, but acting this way in real life won't work. By using yourself as the butt of jokes you're basically saying "I'm kind of a loser, but I hope you'll like me anyway." B…
/r/seduction02/03/15 03:58 AM
1

I'm of the opinion that you should always go for the kiss on the first date, and if things are going really well you should be trying for sex. It's easier to screw yourself over by being too timid than by being too aggressive.
/r/seduction02/03/15 03:15 AM
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Honestly, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. You spent a few hours making out with her and slowly building towards sex. The fact is that a lot of women have hangups and issues when it comes to sex, and sometimes they'll stop you even if you're doing everything right. I also wouldn't rule out the possibility that she already had a boyfriend and got freaked out at the thought of cheating on him. Many times women will offer a little token resistance before sex because they don't want to …
/r/seduction02/03/15 02:00 AM
2

Obviously this tip won't work for everybody. I'm lucky enough to live near a bar that works as a great "home base". But not everybody does. And having a great place to take dates isn't the only benefit from doing this. You also get the usual benefits that come along with expanding your social circle; you may make some good friends, or maybe somebody from the bar will have a cute friend they can set you up with, or maybe even one of the barmaids will be single and take a liking to you (although, …
/r/seduction02/03/15 12:32 AM
12

Way ahead of you on that one. Most of the attractive barmaids there already have boyfriends or husbands so they're off-limits to me. But since I'm a pleasant customer and a good tipper, they're willing to help me look good to my dates.
/r/seduction01/03/15 04:12 PM
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If you want to become more "alpha" and improve your social skills, start by reading the following three books: How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Models by Mark Manson No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover After that, you'll just have to go out in public and practice what you learned from reading those books.
/r/seduction01/03/15 12:10 PM
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Heh. I'd probably avoid Hooters or other "breasteraunts" on a first date. You should pick a place where attractive waitresses and bartenders are merely a perk, not the main selling point.
/r/seduction01/03/15 11:40 AM
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This is true. Just like how a man who is with his buddies has more social value than a man who is alone, a man who associates with attractive women (even if he's not dating them) is more attractive than a guy who is only seen associating with other men. I'm platonic friends with a woman who is probably what you'd call a classic blonde bombshell. Long hair, petite, big boobs, and overall very attractive. She looks like a Playboy centerfold. Every now and then we'll meet up at a bar for drinks, an…
/r/seduction01/03/15 08:15 AM
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Read How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It's full of just the kind of advice you're looking for.
/r/seduction01/03/15 04:38 AM
4

He's Th3Leak, the rock n roll clown, and he does cocaine!
/r/seduction01/03/15 01:58 AM
3

I think I first heard the term "outcome independence" from reading the sidebar in this subreddit. But before that it was an attitude I started developing on my own.
/r/seduction27/02/15 12:08 AM
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There's a term for the attitude you just described. It's called "outcome independence." Basically, you don't worry about whether or not you get rejected. If you see an attractive woman, you think "I wonder what she's like" instead of "I hope she likes me." If a man with outcome independence gets rejected by a woman, he shrugs it off and moves on. But if a man who is outcome dependent gets rejected, he might spend the rest of the night sitting in the corner and sulking because his ego has been br…
/r/seduction26/02/15 07:51 AM
1

This advice is so awful that it could come from /r/relationships or /r/AskMen.
/r/seduction26/02/15 06:41 AM
14

Damn, that's brilliant! I'm definitely gonna stick that line in my mental filing cabinet for the next time a girl I'm on a date with starts talking about her ex.
/r/seduction26/02/15 06:35 AM
2

Happiness first, women second. As the old saying goes, "You have to learn to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship."
/r/seduction26/02/15 06:14 AM
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Stop basing your self worth on how much female approval you get. Find hobbies, interests, and friends that you enjoy and allow them to fill up your free time. Work on making your life as fun and as awesome as possible. Success with women will be a natural consequence of having a great life. Remember, happiness is something that comes from within. It comes from accepting who you are, following your passions, and not comparing yourself to others. Your relationships with women should add value to y…
/r/seduction26/02/15 03:19 AM
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Good post. Maybe it should be stickied at the top for a little while. Remember, new guys, the main purpose of this subreddit is to give you knowledge and skills that will make you more attractive to women in general. We can't really tell you how to make that one particular girl like you.
/r/seduction25/02/15 03:50 PM
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Otherwise, just gotta be honest with the girl. Tell her why you're living with your parents, and that you're looking for a place to live (which hopefully, you are) and you'd like her advice on apartments. Yep. If you act like it's something you're ashamed of, she'll probably perceive it as such. If the subject comes up, act unashamed and honest about the fact that circumstances require you to live with your parents at this time. And if she's bitchy enough to make fun of you for it, get up and le…
/r/seduction25/02/15 11:47 AM
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The more options a man has, the less desperate he becomes. Being involved with multiple women helps develop abundance mentality and an "I don't give a fuck" attitude. If things don't work out with one girl, it's no big deal because you've got other options. This is why I tell guys that the best way to prevent oneitis is to date multiple women simultaneously and keep approaching new ones.
/r/seduction25/02/15 05:02 AM
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"Dear seddit, a girl friend zoned me. How do I get out of the friend zone?" "Dear seddit, I'm 16 and there's this girl in my class that I like. How do I ask her out? " " Dear seddit, I don't drive and I live with my parents. How do I get Victoria's Secret models to sleep with me? "
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:06 AM
2

I second this advice. Models is probably the best book written on attraction and developing yourself into the kind of man that women desire. I highly recommend it.
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:00 AM
2

Yeah, the term "pick up artist" has negative connotations for a lot of people. When many women hear "pick up artist", they think of a sleazy guy who spends all his time in nightclubs, using lies and manipulation to "trick" girls with low intelligence or low self-esteem into sleeping with him. They think of a man whose sole ambition in life is to bang as many chicks as possible. These days, Seddit is more of a self-improvement sub than a PUA sub. The focus has shifted away from "methods you can u…
/r/seduction24/02/15 08:21 AM
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Some women dig the strong, silent type. My dad is like that, and I'm like that also. I've actually had women I was on dates with say things like "You're so stoic" and "You don't talk a lot, but when you do people listen" and there was admiration in their voice. Think of movie characters like Clint Eastwood's "The Man With No Name" or Arnold Schwarzenegger's portrayal of Conan the Barbarian; they seldom speak, but they radiate confidence There's a misconception that to be successful with women yo…
/r/seduction24/02/15 02:59 AM
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I'm the same way. I'll usually send her a text the day of the date saying something like "Are we still on for tonight?" That way if she decides to flake I find out about it a few hours beforehand instead of right before.
/r/seduction24/02/15 12:06 AM
3

If you asked her out on the date, you should pay for her. Asking a girl out on a date and expecting her to pay for herself is like inviting people to your kid's birthday party and then asking them to pay for the cake and ice cream they eat.
/r/seduction23/02/15 12:13 PM
1

Just because Facebook says she has a boyfriend doesn't necessarily make it true. Many women (especially hot ones) will list their relationship status on Facebook as "in a relationship" even if they're single. They do this to deter guys they're not interested in from asking them out.
/r/seduction23/02/15 11:38 AM
3

Californication is an enjoyable show, but Hank's oneitis for Karen makes it frustrating to watch at times.
/r/seduction23/02/15 10:44 AM
3

You're gonna have to let your own moral compass decide this one. Personally, I stay away from women who have boyfriends or husbands (unless I know for a fact that they have an open relationship). However, there are a lot of guys on this sub who have an attitude of "if she wants to cheat then she's gonna cheat, so I might as well be the one who benefits from it."
/r/seduction23/02/15 03:59 AM
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The amount of posts that belong in /r/AskSeddit. If your post is about how to act with a certain girl, it belongs in askseddit. This bears repeating. For the last few weeks, I've been seeing a lot of threads that boil down to these two subjects: "There's this girl in my class that I like. How should I ask her out?" "I went out on a few dates with this girl, we made out, and suddenly she stopped talking to me. What happened?"
/r/seduction23/02/15 02:11 AM
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Because of Reddit feminists and the white knights who agree with everything they say. A couple of months back I saw a post in /r/relationships where a guy was asking for advice on how to be more successful with women. Another redditor recommended this subreddit, and even explained that it's mostly about self improvement and not manipulating women into sleeping with you. The post was downvoted into oblivion and some redditors replied to it saying things like "Don't go to that subreddit. It will j…
/r/seduction23/02/15 01:00 AM
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I can confirm what you said about voice. I worked in telephone customer service for years, and since the conversations were mostly scripted I learned that your tone has a big impact on how the customer perceives you. I learned to develop a "professional voice" where I talk low, slow, and clear. I have since started using this voice when talking to women, and it seems to have improved my success rate.
/r/seduction22/02/15 06:49 AM
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Lead by example. Open up about yourself. Typically, if you open to them, they'll feel safer about opening up to you.
/r/seduction18/02/15 10:54 AM
2

I know it's not what you wanted to hear. But getting out of the friendzone is extremely difficult and usually more trouble than it's worth. As long as you're holding a candle for this girl, you'll be passing up opportunities with girls who may be an even better match for you than she is. Just remember this: there are 3.5 billion women on the planet. It doesn't matter how special you think this girl is, there are countless other women out there who are just as good or better than she is, and some…
/r/seduction18/02/15 05:52 AM
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How do I get out this friendzone, and be more than a friend to her? You don't. Let her go and start dating other women.
/r/seduction18/02/15 05:34 AM
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If you're not getting girls into bed within a few dates, it probably means that you're not being aggressive enough when it comes to physical escalation. You say you usually get a girl to kiss you, but just kissing her isn't enough to make her want to jump into bed with you. You should touch her early and touch her often. The purpose of this is to make her comfortable with the idea of you touching her. And you should keep testing her limits to see how far she'll let you go with her. I suggest rea…
/r/seduction18/02/15 03:31 AM
2

I'd say take the dancer out this weekend, and next week take out the engineer. After all, this will be your last chance to take out the dancer for almost a month.
/r/seduction18/02/15 02:59 AM
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I'm not gonna go after someone to whom I'm not attracted. Nor should you be expected to. Having sex with a woman you're not attracted to just because you can is an act of desperation. You should have more respect for yourself than that.
/r/seduction18/02/15 01:51 AM
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The purpose of the first date is to escalate physically as well as establish an emotional connection via conversation. So start with light kino and try to work your way up to the kiss before the end of the date. And beyond just playful banter you should get to know as much about each other as you can. When in doubt about conversation subjects, remember F.O.R.D.: Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dreams. I'd recommend taking her 2-3 different places on the first date instead of just a single pl…
/r/seduction17/02/15 12:39 PM
13

Came here to say this. No More Mr. Nice Guy is a great book.
/r/seduction17/02/15 08:50 AM
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You've got two different voices, your "head" voice and your "chest" voice. When singing your head voice handles the high notes and your chest voice handles the low notes. Your head voice comes out through your nose, your chest voice comes out through your mouth. You want to learn how to speak mainly with your chest voice. So here's a trick from the book Models. Read the following sentence out loud: "Why don't you come to the party with me?" Now plug your nose and read it again. If your tone does…
/r/seduction17/02/15 01:58 AM
2

They have a pretty mainstream rock sound (kinda Foo Fighters-ish) but I like them. They're very popular in my local area, but almost unheard of in other areas of the country.
/r/seduction17/02/15 01:33 AM
2

You can get involved with your boss, but be prepared for two things: If the affair gets discovered, your boss may face disciplinary action. When it comes to office romances, whichever person is higher-ranking is the one who usually gets punished because they're supposed to know better. Your reputation among your coworkers may suffer, as they'll view you as "the guy who is screwing the boss for his own benefit."
/r/seduction17/02/15 12:42 AM
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He's a guitarist in a rock band that has achieved a lot of local popularity in my area. Every time I see him offstage he's with a different woman, and they're always hot.
/r/seduction17/02/15 12:38 AM
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If you're new to seduction, reading too much about PUA techniques can actually increase your anxiety because you don't have experience to contrast it with. Instead of letting things escalate naturally, you'll be over-intellectualizing things and worrying about what line you should use or what kino esclation is appropriate. Congratulations on your success!
/r/seduction17/02/15 12:25 AM
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The question you're asking is way too broad to be answered in a single thread. Read the sidebar to this subreddit as well as the top-voted threads of all time. Read The Game by Neil Strauss, Models by Mark Manson, and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. These reading materials will help you get started. Ultimately, however, seduction is a skill that has to be learned through practice just like any other skill. Reading a few books about snowboarding and watching snowboarding videos on YouTube …
/r/seduction16/02/15 10:22 AM
1

The inner game style is very important as it is probably 60% of game but even if you have that whole 60% working for you, you still have the 40% of outer game that can work against you. Having strong inner game and strong outer game that is all congruent is where you want to be. Oh yeah, I'm not saying that you shouldn't work on your outward presentation. Dressing nice, being clean, being fit, and having good posture/body language will always help your chances with women. The point I was making …
/r/seduction16/02/15 08:48 AM
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This is one problem with Mystery Method-style pickup. Essentially, you're putting on a performance and not being genuine. Some women will fall for the act (it's great for one night stands with girls who hang out in nightclubs), but some women will see right through it and be turned off by it. Remember the book The Game? Lisa (I think that was her name, it's been a while since I've read the book) initially didn't want anything to do with Neil because she saw right through his PUA persona. It wasn…
/r/seduction16/02/15 03:07 AM
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Hence the term "oneitis", which is basically unrequited love. A guy with oneitis has an unhealthy attachment to a woman who does not reciprocate his feelings. Maybe she friendzoned him, maybe she dumped him for another guy, or maybe he's just admiring her from afar. Or, if the guy with oneitis actually does get the woman of his dreams, he becomes so terrified of losing her that he turns into a pussywhipped little bitch. He'll lose touch with his friends, give up his hobbies and interests, and ba…
/r/seduction16/02/15 02:24 AM
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As I like to tell guys suffering from oneitis: "There are 3.5 billion women in the world. It doesn't matter how hot she is, and it doesn't matter how great her personality is, there are millions of women out there who are just as good or better than her."
/r/seduction16/02/15 12:47 AM
1

Good point. Seduction skills are a tool; they're only as as good or evil as the person using them.
/r/seduction16/02/15 12:42 AM
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That's probably the best definition of "Shit Test" I've ever seen. Good post!
/r/seduction16/02/15 12:33 AM
1

It's worth a try. If she brings a friend along, you can be certain that you're not going to get anywhere with her. So only agree to go out with her if it's just the two of you.
/r/seduction15/02/15 01:01 PM
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I'd simply say "No." and leave it at that. If she threatens not to go out with you, say "okay" and find somebody else to date. Setting firm boundaries can actually cause a woman to respect you and be more attracted to you, even if she's pissed off at you in the short run. Make it clear what you will and will not tolerate, and stick to your guns.
/r/seduction15/02/15 12:48 PM
2

While getting out of the friendzone does happen sometimes, it's extremely difficult and usually not worth the effort. Your best bet is to just start dating other women.
/r/seduction15/02/15 12:40 PM
1

If a woman asks if she can bring a friend along on your date, just use one word: "No." You don't want a third wheel interfering with your attempts to escalate things physically and emotionally.
/r/seduction15/02/15 12:36 PM
1

I've also heard that taking a yoga class will do wonders for your posture.
/r/seduction15/02/15 08:52 AM
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The single biggest reason that guys get friendzoned is because they're too slow or hesitant to escalate. Why is this? Because a man who does not act upon his sexual urges lacks confidence and is therefore unattractive to women. As the male, there is an unwritten expectation that you will be the one initiating all phases of the dating process. This means that you should be asking her out, you should be initiating the first kiss, etc. Sometimes the woman will initiate, but it's not something you s…
/r/seduction15/02/15 06:37 AM
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Only have sex with a woman if you are attracted to her. Having sex with a woman you aren't attracted to simply because she's available is an act of desperation. You should have more respect for yourself than that.
/r/seduction15/02/15 05:37 AM
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Well, since I don't know much about you, I can't tell you exactly why you choked when sex seemed to be a certainty. Are you inexperienced and/or did you grow up in a strict household where sex was a taboo subject? If so then you'll just need to keep putting yourself in sexual situations until you become comfortable with them. Were you sexually abused as a child? See a counselor or therapist. Are you not attracted to this woman but trying to force yourself to have sex with her just because you ca…
/r/seduction15/02/15 04:57 AM
2

I've noticed that on reddit, a lot of people believe that girls who love riding horses are crazy, but they're freaks in the sack.
/r/seduction15/02/15 03:52 AM
2

Yep. After reading Models, I took the author's advice and started approaching girls by saying "Hi, I think you're cute and I wanted to meet you. I'm MetalPUA." I was surprised by how well it works. Most of the time it resulted in a positive response from the woman. Even if she rejected me she was usually very kind about it. But part of it was changing my approach mindset before I even talked to the girl. When you see a girl you're interested in approaching, you shouldn't be thinking "I hope she …
/r/seduction15/02/15 02:53 AM
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Have hobbies, friends, and passions that take up your spare time when you're not with one of the women you're dating. If you spend most of your time sitting around thinking about the girl you like, you'll come up with a reason to start texting her or you'll build her up in your mind as some kind of romantic ideal, resulting in oneitis. So keep busy and try to date multiple women at the same time.
/r/seduction15/02/15 01:55 AM
3

It's all about intent. If you compliment her appearance sincerely without expecting anything in return, she'll probably respond well to it. The problem is that most AFCs compliment a woman because they think it will make her approve of them. Women are pretty good at sensing when a compliment is given out of neediness, and it's a turn off to them.
/r/seduction15/02/15 01:45 AM
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And then it immediately cuts to a scene of Mark and Stacy in the car, and Led Zepplin's Physical Grafitti album is playing. I think it's because they couldn't get the rights to Led Zeppelin IV for the movie, but I like to think that Mark got nervous and grabbed the wrong album by accident.
/r/seduction12/02/15 04:42 PM
3

Yeah, too much white knighting by people who don't understand what a metaphor is. "She's not a fish! She's a proud and independent womyn who don't need no man!"
/r/seduction12/02/15 09:25 AM
1

Successful guys strike out more than unsuccessful guys. "I have failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." - Michael Jordan
/r/seduction12/02/15 09:15 AM
1

"The Treehouse" in Draper, Utah. It's hella expensive, though, so don't get a membership unless you're rich.
/r/seduction12/02/15 12:17 AM
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Can confirm. I'm a fan of heavy metal music (just in case my name wasn't a giveaway), and a lot of metal is written to make the listener feel powerful and confident. I'll frequently listen to Pantera, Machine Head, (early) Metallica, or Amon Amarth in my car before I go to bars to make myself feel unstoppable.
/r/seduction11/02/15 12:19 PM
6

Non-accidental eye contact is a classic IOI (Indicator of Interest). If she's making eye contact with you and it's not accidental, it means that there's something about you that she finds interesting. If she smiles when she makes eye contact, she's pretty much saying "You'd better come over here and talk to me."
/r/seduction11/02/15 08:10 AM
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Yep. As Mark Manson phrased it in Models, "Always err on the side of aggression." Whenever you're unsure whether or not you should escalate things with a woman, choose the bolder, more aggressive option. If you wait around "until the time is right" to make a move, she may get frustrated by your timidness and her attraction to you will dwindle.
/r/seduction11/02/15 05:04 AM
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Many women do not enjoy being approached while they work out. That said, there are exceptions to every rule. There's a gym not far from where I live that's infamous for its reputation as a meet market for swinger couples.
/r/seduction11/02/15 12:38 AM
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I was contemplating asking her to go to the dining hall again after class tomorrow, but I don't want to be overbearing. That's the wrong attitude to have. A woman will forgive a man for being too aggressive, but she will not forgive him for being too timid. So always err on the side of aggression. This girl's recent lack of responsiveness may indicate that she's getting frustrated by how slow things are moving. Ask her out on an actual nighttime date, and make sure she knows its a date. Once you…
/r/seduction10/02/15 09:30 AM
1

When the time comes, just be calm and take it slow. Get comfortable with the situation and let her take the lead. She knows you're a virgin so presumably she'll be patient. Don't be so nervous. Sex is one of the most natural acts in the world. And it's really fun too.
/r/seduction10/02/15 06:58 AM
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You make a good point. It was probably presumptuous of me to say that AA didn't exist before the modern age. But I would put forward the notion that AA has been intensified by things like modernization and feminism. I know guys who base their entire self worth on how much approval they get from women. There are men these days who graduate from high school having never asked a girl out on a date, and when asked why they say something to the effect of "I'm scared that if I ask a girl out she'll th…
/r/seduction08/02/15 12:14 PM
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You might be on to something there. There's a bar I used to frequent, and one of the regulars was a really cute girl. However, she always came into the bar with her mother (they lived on the same street as the bar). Whenever I'd try to chat up the cute girl, the fact that her mother was in the same building would always throw off my game. I found myself avoiding things like physical escalation, and I'd also avoid saying things that could be interpreted in a sexual manner. Needless to say, I neve…
/r/seduction08/02/15 10:41 AM
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It's not a conspiracy. It's an unfortunate side effect of modernization.
/r/seduction08/02/15 09:57 AM
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Yep, it's from that book. Although Robert Glover goes into more detail than I did. I gave a short and quick version of it.
/r/seduction08/02/15 08:47 AM
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For most of human history, boys were raised mainly by their mothers for the first few years of their lives, after which they'd start spending their days with their fathers who would teach them how to farm, hunt, work, and become a provider and a protector for their family. Post-WWII, Western civilization changed to an industrial society. Boys no longer work on the farm with their father when they get old enough because their fathers work in factories and offices. Boys spend their first few years…
/r/seduction08/02/15 06:34 AM
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Well put. In No More Mr. Nice Guy, Dr. Robert Glover talks about what he calls "covert contracts". A covert contract is when a nice guy does something nice for somebody else not out of altruism, but because they expect the recipient of their "generosity" to provide them with validation or approval, and if they don't get that validation they become upset. It's important to learn how to give without expecting anything in return.
/r/seduction08/02/15 06:16 AM
1

Why do you have to choose? Keep having sex with both of them.
/r/seduction08/02/15 03:22 AM
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Couldn't agree more. A high number of women in my area say "No hookups" in their profile and say that they're looking for something serious. It makes me wonder why they're not on OKCupid.
/r/seduction08/02/15 12:30 AM
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Yep, he shouldn't have said "what happened". Doing so made him appear like he has nothing better to do than sit by his phone and wait for her to text back. It's needy behavior.
/r/seduction07/02/15 05:41 AM
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Holding eye contact was something I had to work on when I first started learning about seduction. A good exercise to make holding eye contact more natural is to walk down the street and make eye contact with each person that you walk past, and hold the eye contact, make them be the first to look away. Also, whenever you're walking always be looking straight ahead. Don't look at the ground unless you're about to trip.
/r/seduction07/02/15 05:39 AM
2

If she says she's got a boyfriend, I next her. She may be lying, but if she's lying about having a boyfriend then it still means that she's not interested in me.
/r/seduction07/02/15 05:22 AM
1

And if the hired guns DHV you at the stops, even better. This! I've got a few different bars I frequent, and I've made it a point to get to know the people who work there. The bouncers, the bartenders, and the waiters. So when I take a date to one of those places and they call me by my name, it demonstrates social value.
/r/seduction07/02/15 04:32 AM
2

I read that in Patrick Stewart's voice.
/r/seduction07/02/15 04:26 AM
1

There are 3.5 billion women on the planet. You got turned down by one. It's not something to feel bad over. You should instead feel proud that you worked up the courage to ask a girl out for the first time.
/r/seduction06/02/15 01:20 AM
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Dude, I've seen struggling musicians who could barely afford to eat who got laid ALL THE TIME. Money can help you get laid, but it's definitely not a requirement.
/r/seduction05/02/15 06:59 AM
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I agree with this one. Unless the girl you're on a date with is rabidly anti-gun, a gun range is a good idea because it allows for physical contact while you're showing her how to aim down the sights.
/r/seduction05/02/15 06:52 AM
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She gave you her personal phone number without being asked. Yep, she's into you. As for what you should do: you'll have to decide for yourself whether or not you want to get involved with a married woman.
/r/seduction04/02/15 10:16 AM
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I like it. You don't waste time trying to be cute or witty, you get right to trying to lock down a date with the girl. When I was new to Tinder I tried having a conversation when I'd match with a girl before I asked her out, and more often than not she'd lose interest. Knowing what you want and going after it is a sign of a confident man.
/r/seduction04/02/15 08:28 AM
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I think /r/fPUA would be a better place to ask this. It's reddit's seduction community for women trying to seduce men. But in answer to your question, "Pussy Liquor" by Rob Zombie is one of my favorite songs to watch girls strip to.
/r/seduction04/02/15 03:12 AM
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I'll try to discreetly check to see if she's wearing a wedding or engagement ring before I approach a woman, but other than that I do not ask if she's got a boyfriend. I let her be the one to mention she's got a boyfriend.
/r/seduction04/02/15 03:07 AM
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Same here. Up until my late-20s or so, I was pretty paranoid about what people thought of me, and it really held me back socially. Once I started saying "I am who I am, and if people don't like me then they're not worth knowing anyway" my life got a lot better. I felt happier, I had more confidence, and my success with women improved. Sadly, I've got a friend who is about the same age as me (mid-30s) who still bases his self-worth on how much approval he gets from others. Despite the fact that h…
/r/seduction04/02/15 12:54 AM
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In what context do you mean "can't stop thinking about it?" Is he obsessed with the girl and believes that she's his soulmate, or does he think about it all the time because it's his favorite jerkoff fantasy?
/r/seduction04/02/15 12:37 AM
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Very good post. Over the last fear years I've come to the realization that happiness comes from being true to yourself and not compromising who you are for society's sake. So the point about being following your own intentions and not society's resonated with me. Make the party where you are. I think that's Andrew W.K.'s life philosophy.
/r/seduction03/02/15 01:11 PM
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Well put. As a man, you're expected to be the one who initiates all phases of the dating process. Women may initiate sometimes, but it's not something that you should count on happening. If you're at a bar or club and you see a woman you find attractive, you should approach her. Don't wait around and hope she approaches you. If you're talking to said girl and you're hitting it off, you should ask for her phone number. Don't wait for her to ask for yours. You should be the one who plans the first…
/r/seduction03/02/15 12:15 PM
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You're kidding right? Please, tell me how do I go from near 23 year old, kissless porn addicted virgin to "dating multiple women simultaneously". Stop watching porn, only masturbate once per week, start going to the gym, buy some stylish clothes (see /r/malefashionadvice for specifics), read Models by Mark Manson and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover, start using Tinder and OKCupid, take up a social hobby, join a club or class that puts you in contact with women, go to bars and clubs and…
/r/seduction03/02/15 10:41 AM
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Yep, perfect. Just casually mention that your grandmother taught you how to read palms when you were young. Most women love getting their palms read, and if you tell them that you can read palms they'll practically shove their hands at you and insist that you give them a palm reading.
/r/seduction03/02/15 09:24 AM
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Smiling when she sees you is a classic Indicator of Interest (IOI), so she's probably at least a little interested in you. Take her out on a date, and during the date initiate physical escalation. Start off by placing your hand on her arm while you talk to her, or leading her by touching the small of her back while you're walking next to her. Another way to initiate physical contact that's popular in this sub is to give her a palm reading. After a while you can put your arm around her shoulders.…
/r/seduction03/02/15 09:09 AM
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I've never been in a potential three-way situation, so I'm speaking from inexperience here. Maybe start making out with one of the girls, and then after a minute or two turn your attention to the other girl. Keep switching back and forth between the two of them while escalating by caressing, removing articles of clothing, etc.
/r/seduction03/02/15 08:38 AM
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Go no contact. Unfriend her on social media sites, don't call her, don't text her, and avoid things that remind you of her. If she calls or texts you, tell her that you need to be left alone for a while and ask her not to try contacting you. Meanwhile, occupy your free time with friends or hobbies. Boredom and inactivity will cause you to start thinking about the breakup, which will make you miserable. Start dating other women, just casually, don't jump into another relationship just yet. Try ge…
/r/seduction03/02/15 05:28 AM
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Oneitis is an insidious disease. It sneaks up on you gradually: you meet a girl that you think is cute, you learn more about her and discover traits that you admire, you start thinking about her a lot even when she's not around, and before you know it you're thinking things like "there's something special about her" or "she's the one." Most guys will suffer from oneitis at least once in their life, and many guys will suffer from it multiple times. It can happen to even the most self-aware man. O…
/r/seduction03/02/15 03:17 AM
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Many of the things mentioned in this article are also covered by Mark Manson in Models: such as being open with your sexuality, being clear and unapologetic about your intentions, setting firm boundaries, and establishing an emotional connection via vulnerability. The article also talks about being unpredictable, something that's covered in The Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. You keep a woman interested in having sex with you by keeping her guessing what you'll do next: One moment you'll be sexua…
/r/seduction03/02/15 01:56 AM
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If I see a woman that interests me, I'll make the first move altogether. Although it is nice if she displays interest before I approach. I don't really have a preference for how girls show that they are open to me approaching them. I just keep an eye out for the classic IOIs: non-accidental eye contact, smiling, playing with her hair, etc.
/r/seduction02/02/15 02:47 PM
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Tinder has been awful lately. It seems like 3 out of 4 times I match with a woman, she turns out to be a spambot or a cam model. It's annoying.
/r/seduction02/02/15 12:51 PM
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Just going from your post: yes, you do come across as kinda needy and desperate. If she didn't think it when you asked her out twice in the same week, then she definitely thought it when you told her you missed her. Instead of driving yourself crazy thinking about what's appropriate to text, you should start dating multiple women. Don't focus too much on one woman; have a few different options and keep approaching new girls. Focusing too much on one women leads to oneitis (and with it, desperati…
/r/seduction02/02/15 06:31 AM
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Some women are turned off by virgins, and some women get excited at the prospect of being a man's first time. Keep trying until you find the latter.
/r/seduction31/01/15 07:50 AM
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You want to show the girl that you desire her, but you don't want to be needy. Your attitude should be "I want you, but I don't need you. If you reject me it's no big deal because I've got other options." This is also why you should be working on multiple women at once and constantly approaching new ones. When a man has few options, he becomes desperate and this desperation will show itself in the way he acts. When a man has a lot of options, he becomes confident and less invested in just one wo…
/r/seduction31/01/15 05:43 AM
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Great report. My situation is similar to yours; I'm 34 years old, and despite being a fairly handsome guy I was never very successful with women. Basically I was your classic "nice guy." So about a year ago I started lurking on this subreddit, reading literature on pickup and seduction, and working on improving myself in all areas of my life. The results have been impressive. I get phone numbers fairly easily, I've had sex with women that I previously thought were out of my league, and I've even…
/r/seduction31/01/15 04:52 AM
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I frequently hit bars solo. I'm 34 (although everyone tells me that I look about 27) and most of my longtime friends have girlfriends or wives, so they don't want to go out to bars very often. It's a little intimidating going out by yourself at first, but it quickly gets easier. Going out by yourself also has some upsides: you have more freedom to operate (no number closing a girl when you could have f-closed her because you have to drive your friend home), girls who decide to approach you will …
/r/seduction30/01/15 02:43 AM
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The best attitude to have before approaching a woman is this: "I'll be fine, regardless of whether or not she likes me."
/r/seduction29/01/15 02:02 PM
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Well put. Mark Manson reasons that rejection is a good thing because it keeps apart two people who are not compatible with each other. For example, let's say you ask a girl out and she rejects you because she only likes tall men. You might be hurt or annoyed that she turned you down, but if she didn't turn you down then you'd be stuck on an awkward date with a woman who didn't want to be there. Rejection is something that saves time so you can go on to the next girl who might actually be compati…
/r/seduction28/01/15 12:18 PM
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Nope. I'm the type of person who can enjoy eating a hot dog without thinking about what's in it.
/r/seduction28/01/15 11:27 AM
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Sounds like your problem is beyond the scope of this subreddit. You should probably seek professional help from a counselor or a therapy group because you have serious problems with depression and low self-esteem.
/r/seduction28/01/15 07:12 AM
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I've been working my way through this book, but it's been difficult for me. David Deida's flowery writing style gets irritating after a while, and if I read the words "truth" or "love" any more I think I'm gonna throw up. Still, the book does have some good ideas, such as living for what you want rather than what society or your family expects, as well as facing your insecurities and overcoming them.
/r/seduction28/01/15 05:35 AM
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Yep. "I'm not sure" usually means "I'm not interested, but I don't want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you outright."
/r/seduction28/01/15 04:06 AM
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It happens. Hell, a good chunk of the threads in this sub basically boil down to "I met this girl, we went out on a couple of dates, we made out with each other. I thought things were going great, and suddenly she stopped talking to me. What happened?" It's not worth worrying about. There are a million possible reasons why she lost interest in you, and you'll just drive yourself crazy if you think about it too much. I know it's frustrating, but all you can do is let her go and move on.
/r/seduction28/01/15 04:03 AM
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Good suggestions. Pool and bowling allow for flirting and physical contact while playing. I would also add that he should make sure to hold eye contact with the girl if he makes any sexual innuendos while playing.
/r/seduction28/01/15 03:46 AM
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So let me get this straight: a woman basically tells a man "I don't think you're good enough for me to date, but I'll let you comfort me when I've had a bad day at work or I'm having an argument with the man I'm dating instead of you." And it's sexism if the guy refuses to go along with such an unfair, one-sided arrangement? That's not sexism, and it's straight-up laughable bullshit to claim that it is. It's very simple: if I ask a girl out on a date, it's because I'm interested in either sex or…
/r/seduction28/01/15 03:23 AM
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You have to be completely sincere about what you're saying, and expect nothing in return. If you don't have any expectations your sincerity will shine through and the girl will probably appreciate it. But if you're complimenting her because you want validation or you expect her to be attracted to you, she'll sense your neediness and think you're a loser or a creep. Be completely outcome independent.
/r/seduction27/01/15 12:51 PM
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Great post. One thing I've learned is that women do not like uncertainty, and effectively using push/pull technique causes a lot of them to go crazy wondering if you really like them or not. This makes them determined to "win you over."
/r/seduction27/01/15 12:36 PM
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Don't just focus on a single girl at a time. Have multiple women that you're dating or working on. This will give you an abundance mentality (the belief that "there are plenty of fish in the sea"). Not only does having an abundance mentality make approaching girls less scary, it also reduces the sting of rejection.
/r/seduction27/01/15 07:40 AM
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"Would you like to have a drink at my place?" I always have a bottle of red wine and a bottle of white wine at my place just for this purpose. I also like to keep a bottle of Fireball just in case she's a more wild party girl and wants to do shots. Most women don't like shooting straight whiskey, vodka, or tequila (unless it's a dressed shot with salt and lime). But Fireball is sweet-tasting enough that many women don't mind shooting it. You can also use Jagermeister, just make sure you keep it …
/r/seduction27/01/15 07:17 AM
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One way to create sexual tension is with push/pull method. Basically, you send mixed messages and create uncertainty so that she's not quite sure just how you feel about her. For example: you playfully tease her about her hair. Your words alone may sound like you're insulting her, but your vocal tone and body language indicate that you're flirting with her. Fans of the Mystery Method refer to this as "negging." In Models, Mark Manson suggests vulnerability (complete openness and honesty) as a wa…
/r/seduction27/01/15 05:33 AM
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Confidence is not saying "She will like me." Confidence is saying "I know I'll be fine regardless of if she likes me or not." And no, I didn't come up with that myself. It's actually from the most-upvoted thread in this sub.
/r/seduction27/01/15 03:27 AM
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Because female friends are just as valuable as male friends? And because women are not walking vaginas who exist only to fuck men? And men are not emotional tampons that exist for women to complain about their life to. A lot of guys know that when a girl offers friendship rather than a relationship, she's basically saying "I'm going to use you as a shoulder to cry on, but there won't be any romance or sex." It's perfectly reasonable for a guy to reject such an arrangement.
/r/seduction27/01/15 02:00 AM
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Either that, or she wants to keep you around as a "Plan B Guy" in case she can't find somebody better. Regardless, rejecting her offer of friendship is the way to go because it makes it clear that you're not interested in just being her friend, and it also shows her that you're willing to walk away from the table if an offer isn't acceptable, which causes her to respect you and view you as a man of conviction.
/r/seduction26/01/15 12:03 PM
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Within 24 hours of her giving you her number, just text her something like "Hey Danielle, it was nice meeting you last night." Wait another day or two, and then text her asking her out on a date. Keep your text messages short and simple. Don't engage in long conversations via text messaging. A lot of guys have caused a girl to lose interest in them because they texted her too much and came across as needy and desperate, or they tried getting cute or clever in their texts and she misinterpreted t…
/r/seduction26/01/15 11:52 AM
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I've theorized for a while now that "I think we should just be friends" is actually a shit-test used by many women. And the only way to pass it is to refuse to settle for the friendzone.
/r/seduction26/01/15 11:34 AM
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Well played. You refused to let yourself get friendzoned, and it resulted in her giving you another chance. A lesser man would have agreed to become her friend in the hope that he could eventually get her to become his girlfriend. But you were smart enough to know that almost never works and instead decided to make a clean break. It probably surprised her; attractive women are used to guys happily agreeing to become an orbiter. The fact that you turned down her offer of friendship probably made …
/r/seduction26/01/15 11:01 AM
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Long term relationship.
/r/seduction26/01/15 10:17 AM
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You should probably ask this question in /r/fPUA, which is seduction advice for women. /r/Seduction is primarily aimed at men looking to seduce women.
/r/seduction26/01/15 10:15 AM
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I don't know if this really belongs here. It's not really seduction advice, it's LTR advice.
/r/seduction26/01/15 10:12 AM
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If you really like this girl, then give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe her plans with her coworker ended early, maybe somebody else was logged into her XBox Live account, or maybe she and her coworker were playing XBox together. Wait a few days and then ask her out again. If she refuses and does not suggest an alternate time, let her go. Also, develop an abundance mentality. There are about 30 billion women in the world. So no matter how hot she is or how great her personality is, there are…
/r/seduction26/01/15 10:07 AM
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Mark Manson describes this as being polarizing, or creating strong reactions in people. Be unashamed and open about who you are, don't apologize for your opinions, and be less invested in how other people feel about you than how you feel about yourself. Basically, you want to be the type of person that people either love or hate. You don't want to be a bland, boring "normal" guy who never does or says anything controversial. By being open about your sexuality and not hiding your desire, you'll c…
/r/seduction26/01/15 03:50 AM
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The reason this is a danger zone is because if it doesn't work out, imagine how the function of your group of friends will be afterwards. I would only pursue this girl if you think you actually like her, don't try to game one of your friends into a meaningless hookup, unless you're both on the same page. That could still end up bad if one of you develops feelings and the other doesn't. Just be careful. If you like her and you think she likes you, go for it. This bears repeating. I've watched it …
/r/seduction24/01/15 11:58 PM
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As a general rule: yes, it's good to escalate quickly. Guys who are too slow/hesitant to escalate physically get friendzoned. Guys who escalate quickly get laid. I'm of the belief that you should always kiss on the first date, for the reason that I just listed above. You want the girl to know that you desire her sexually, because knowing that a man wants her is a turn-on for women. As for girls walking out on you pre-sex, I think that's just plain bad luck. From the information in your post, it …
/r/seduction24/01/15 03:06 PM
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Right? There's a reason why 50 Shades of Grey was a hit with women across all demographics: being sexually dominated by a man is something that's a huge turn-on for most women.
/r/seduction22/01/15 10:51 AM
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I don't see why not. It's pretty much the same thing just worded differently. The important thing is being clear with your intentions and not approaching her under the guise of something else.
/r/seduction22/01/15 06:25 AM
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"Hi, I'm Oto200. I know this is strange, but I think you're cute and I wanted to meet you." Use that as your opener. Women tend to respect a man who is that confident and honest about his intentions. It's not guaranteed to get you a date - she might already have a boyfriend, or she just may not be interested - but it'll probably work better than a corny pickup line or subtly trying to get her to notice you.
/r/seduction22/01/15 05:45 AM
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I highly recommend that all guys who are involved in sexual relationships with women read "The Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose. You can find a free download of the pdf via a Google search. It's full of advice on how to become a more aggressive and dominant lover. In today's post-feminist society, a lot of guys think that women want them to ask for permission before each sex act and to tenderly make love to them. Wrong. Most women want the man to take charge during sex and passionately fuck them u…
/r/seduction22/01/15 05:36 AM
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If that's how you feel about dates, then you're doing it wrong. And the reason dates are not fun for you is because you're more invested in what the girl thinks of you than what you think of yourself. Focus first on having fun and don't worry about rejection. Be honest about yourself and your intentions. Women are pretty good at sensing when you're putting on an act to win their approval, and it makes them think you're needy and lack confidence.
/r/seduction22/01/15 04:59 AM
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Well put. Too many guys have gotten friendzoned because they got cold feet about kissing a girl. Kissing a woman is an essential step in the seduction process.
/r/seduction21/01/15 11:38 AM
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Nah, the advice for women would be... 1) Be attractive. 2) Post pictures of yourself looking attractive. 3) If you post a picture of yourself in a bikini or lingerie, be aware that most guys are going to assume that you're an easy lay.
/r/seduction21/01/15 10:11 AM
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I could not agree more with your post. A date is supposed to be fun, it should not feel like a job interview. If a woman is constantly shit-testing you or placing unreasonable expectations on you, just walk away. It doesn't matter how hot she is, you deserve to be treated better than that. If you allow your date to treat you poorly, you're proving to yourself and her that you're desperate and you're willing to let her walk all over you.
/r/seduction21/01/15 08:01 AM
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Sounds like you've also suffered the awkwardness of going on a date with a girl you met on Tinder, only to discover that she's about 30 pounds heavier than in her pictures.
/r/seduction21/01/15 07:39 AM
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Okay, here's something that you can try. It's a practice that Dr. Robert Glover recommended in his great book No More Mr. Nice Guy. It was also recommended by Mark Manson in Models. The road to self-improvement is not an easy one. You'll fall, you'll stumble, you'll face disappointment, and there will be times where you'll feel discouraged and tempted to revert back to your old ways. Whenever something bad happens to you, ask yourself "What if it was a gift?" And rationalize a way for it to be s…
/r/seduction21/01/15 05:32 AM
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Mostly it's gonna be your pictures. So use pictures where you look handsome. Posting pics of yourself doing an interesting hobby like snowboarding or rock climbing can also help your chances. If you've got a great physique, have a shirtless pic of you at the beach or swimming pool (despite women claiming that they hate shirtless pics, I've heard that being ripped and having a shirtless pic in your profile will cause a lot of women to swipe right). Also, having a group shot with a bunch of your f…
/r/seduction21/01/15 04:48 AM
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You can't attract everyone. No matter how smooth, confident, good looking or outrageous you are, not everyone will find you attractive and a lot of the women who do won't be in a situation where they can do something about it (they go back to their home country soon, you remind them too much of their ex, they have a boyf etc). The sooner you can accept this the sooner you can move on This bears repeating. A lot of guys who are new to this sub think that if they work hard enough on their "game" t…
/r/seduction21/01/15 04:16 AM
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There's way too much to cram into a single post. But if you haven't already I highly recommend that you read the following 2 books: Models by Mark Manson. This is probably the best book on the subject of developing your "inner game" to make yourself more attractive to women. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. This book is mostly aimed towards men who are already in a relationship, but there's still a lot of stuff in there that single guys will find useful. I also plan on reading The Way …
/r/seduction21/01/15 12:53 AM
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That's why I think you should wait a day or two. Then just send her a short, simple text message asking her if she wants to hang out again. If she doesn't reply, do not send anything else to her. Texting her multiple times will seem needy and desperate.
/r/seduction20/01/15 07:38 AM
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You don't know for certain that she's lost interest in you. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Wait a day or two and try setting up another date with her. But if she turns you down again and doesn't suggest an alternate date, you should probably just let her go.
/r/seduction20/01/15 07:01 AM
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You're too invested in what this girl thinks of you. You've had a crush on her for a long time and you're scared that you're gonna say or do something wrong that will cause her to not like you. Ironically, being afraid of scaring her off will stress you out and make it more likely that you'll behave in an unattractive fashion. Read the links in the sidebar. Specifically focus on the material concerning "abundence mentality" and "oneitis." You need to realize that even though you think this girl …
/r/seduction19/01/15 11:41 AM
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If she's saying your name a lot and speaking in a higher-than-normal pitch, she's into you. Those two behaviors are signs of attraction, kinda like if she's playing with her hair or lightly touching you while you talk.
/r/seduction19/01/15 08:45 AM
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As dating coaches like to say: "If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have done it ten minutes ago." If you feel like kissing her, just go for it. It's better to make the attempt and get rejected than be too timid and not try at all. Even if she refuses the kiss she'll respect you for trying. And remember, keep the first kiss PG-rated. She's probably not going to appreciate it if you try to stick your tongue down her throat the first time you kiss her.
/r/seduction19/01/15 08:32 AM
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Well put. When you meet a girl, you only have a certain amount of time to make a move on her or else she'll put you in her friend zone. Women are usually aware when a guy likes them, but if the man never makes a move on her she assumes (rightly) that he's unconfident, and women are not attracted to unconfident men.
/r/seduction19/01/15 08:15 AM
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I live in a pretty conservative city, and one advantage of living where I do is that radical feminist women are virtually nonexistent except perhaps in college/university settings. Even the more liberal areas of my town (which is where the bars and nightclubs are at) would probably be considered moderate when compared to the rest of the United States. As a result, I've never had to deal with girls treating me as a "male oppressor" when I approach them. I've only heard horror stories from other g…
/r/seduction15/01/15 05:45 AM
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That article may definitely be on to something. Just go to r/relationships sometime; there's a lot of Tumblrinas and white Knights who think it's sexual assault any time a man makes a move on a woman. It's depressing.
/r/seduction15/01/15 01:34 AM
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You could try Mark Manson's "Three Strike" rule for dealing with flaky women. It goes like this: The first time a woman flakes on you, give her the benefit of the doubt. She may have had a legitimate reason for flaking on you. If she flakes on you a second time, but you're really interested in her and/or you think she had another legitimate reason for flaking, you can give her another chance if you want. If you do decide to give her another chance, you may want to text her something like "OK, la…
/r/seduction13/01/15 06:23 AM
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Don't text her anymore. The ball is in her court now, and if you keep texting her you're only going to hurt your chances even more. Like many people in this subreddit, I'm of the opinion that you should only use texting as a way of setting up a date with a girl. Do not engage her in small talk via text message. Keep your messages short and direct, stuff like "Let's meet up at (bar name here) for a drink on Thursday." Too many guys have ruined their chances with a girl because they tried getting …
/r/seduction13/01/15 05:38 AM
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Sometimes a little liquid courage can give you the confidence boost you need to overcome approach anxiety. I'd be lying if I said I'd never had a couple of drinks to help lower my inhibitions a little. Just make sure that you don't start to rely on alcohol for approaching women, or you'll be out of luck if you're not in a bar/nightclub and you see a woman you want to talk to.
/r/seduction13/01/15 05:17 AM
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I'm so going to remember that. It's a perfect response to being called a douchebag.
/r/seduction11/01/15 07:00 AM
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Developing an abundance mentality is an important prerequisite to preventing oneitis.
/r/seduction11/01/15 06:46 AM
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Tomorrow's headline: Jimmy Fallon found dead of apparent suicide.
/r/seduction08/01/15 08:27 PM
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No. You are not the only person who doesn't like going to dinner on a first date. In Models, Mark Manson actually recommends against taking a girl to dinner on your first date with her because they're cliche, impersonal, they don't allow for physical contact, and many women are self-conscious about eating in front of a man they don't know very well. Instead he recommends something like drinks, a dance class, a concert, or a museum exhibit.
/r/seduction08/01/15 08:21 PM
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Yep. There's a stereotype that's been around for decades that catholic high school girls give the best blowjobs. It's obviously hyperbole, but the underlying message is this: girls who were raised in strict, religious households are often total freaks in the sack. Maybe it's because they want to rebel against their upbringing, or maybe it's the thrill of doing something sinful. But whatever the reason it's probably safe to say that there are girls at OP's school who want sex just as much as he d…
/r/seduction07/01/15 03:13 PM
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I think that my problem is a common one and that many of the people here with so-called 'oneitis' are actually just ignoring their emptiness and wrongly expecting their happiness to come in a package with 'that perfect girl.' Sadly, this is a problem that's all too common in today's world. Movies, TV shows, and romance novels have been telling people for decades that you need a partner to "complete" you, and that you're only half a person until you're in a relationship. This leads to people usin…
/r/seduction06/01/15 03:17 PM
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Either she's forgotten about you or she's just pretending she has. But either way it means that she's not interested in you. Move on and start looking for other girls to go out with. Also, don't text a girl unless you're setting up a date with her. Be blunt and direct in your text messages. Don't text her out of the blue to ask how she's doing or send her flirty comments.
/r/seduction06/01/15 12:53 PM
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I haven't tried it myself, but Mark Manson has said that joining a yoga class is a gold mine for meeting women.
/r/seduction06/01/15 07:47 AM
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Yep. In order to seduce a woman you need to make it clear that you desire her and escalate things physically. If you don't she'll start viewing as a friend instead of a lover.
/r/seduction06/01/15 07:01 AM
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I was also gonna suggest therapy or counseling. OP may have some psychological issue that has caused him to deeply fear having sex. A good therapist/counselor can help him find the cause of the problem and help him overcome it.
/r/seduction06/01/15 06:55 AM
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Upscale bars are good places to find cougars, as are concerts for any band that was popular from the late-1980s to mid-1990s. I went to a Poison concert a few years back and it was cougar central. If you don't mind country music you can also try country western bars. There's one in my area and both times I've been there were a lot of cougars.
/r/seduction31/12/14 01:11 AM
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Give compliments sparingly, but make sure they're sincere ones. If you give her compliments all the time it'll look like you're desperately seeking approval (which tends to be the case with people who go overboard with compliments). But a well-placed compliment can make her day and endear you to her. Also, make sure your compliments are ones that she's not used to hearing. Beautiful women are always being told how great they look, but compliments about their wit or personality are much less comm…
/r/seduction27/12/14 06:19 AM
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The article makes a great point about neediness being difficult to hide. There have been a few times in my life that I've developed a case of oneitis and felt like I needed that one particular girl to make my life complete, and it was almost as though the girl in question could smell it. Not just the girl either, but my friends could detect it too because their eyes would glaze over whenever I'd start talking about her. But ever since I adopted an attitude of "I like you, but I don't need you" I…
/r/seduction24/12/14 02:56 AM
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"League" is an artificial construct of your mind. I've seen average looking guys who weren't rich manage to close women who were absolutely stunning. Work on your game, build your social skills and confidence, constantly strive for self-improvement, and you just might surprise yourself by how receptive hot women are towards you.
/r/seduction23/12/14 06:59 AM
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But you know what? The only difference between me and your super attractive friend is that he's come to fully embrace the feeling of rejection and I haven't--yet. I'm one step closer to embracing it, as I should be, because there's no other option. I wouldn't necessarily say that you have to embrace the feeling of rejection. You don't even have to look at it as a rejection. I've told a couple of buddies of mine "If she shuts you down, don't feel bad that she rejected you. Instead, feel proud of …
/r/seduction23/12/14 05:34 AM
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This is the case with many guys who are young and don't have a lot of dating experience. They're so terrified of rejection that it prevents them from even approaching girls in the first place. Just keep asking girls out. Yes, you'll get rejected some of the time, and it'll sting a little when it happens. But sooner or later you'll reach a point when rejection stops hurting and can just shrug it off. And when that happens you'll also find that you have a lot less approach anxiety. And remember: c…
/r/seduction22/12/14 04:52 AM
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Don't depend on validation from other people. Learn to self-validate rather than seeking approval from others. If you don't respect yourself, other people won't respect you either.
/r/seduction22/12/14 03:03 AM
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They'll usually reply with a yes. Then you ask her what's so interesting about her. It's a great conversation starter. And if the conversation gets boring, you can tell her "You're not as interesting as I thought" and start to walk away. She'll then spend the rest of the night trying to prove to you that she really is interesting.
/r/seduction22/12/14 02:23 AM
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My favorite opener is one that I learned from this sub. It's always worked for me. "Are you as interesting as you look?"
/r/seduction22/12/14 12:42 AM
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Someone once told me "Tattoos are the new cigarettes; if a girl has them, it means she puts out."
/r/seduction21/12/14 12:15 PM
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