Why is there so much importance put on changing venues on a first date?

DaygameCoach · 2015-02-06T20:22:04+00:00

Because it works. It makes them feel like they know you better (comfort) because they've seen you in different places. It even works in Eastern Market in DC, a fleamarket, craft market, food market (a stop in a cafe helps too) while you are walking around with her.

And if the hired guns DHV you at the stops, even better.

Cuisine, daygamer.net

ChicagoONE · 2015-02-06T20:56:55+00:00

By switching venues, it shows that you can take initiative and be able to build up the fun at the next venue. From her following you, it shows her investment and her compliance of becoming much more comfortable with you.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-02-06T21:29:12+00:00

All the other reasons are well founded, but I suppose it's this one too :

Because it makes her feel you're more familiar to her than you really are.

Imagine spending 7 hours with a person in a coffee shop. You can talk about the most interesting things and so on, but the next day when you think about it...there were so many words said, so the details of your conversation are fuzzy, so your brain draws from other sources, like surroundings. Oh yeah Jimmy, we talked at the coffee shop.

While if you change venues, then her brain can place you into different locations, doing different stuff. Oh well of course I know Jimmy. We've met at the coffee shop, we went ice skating, we walked in the park and danced together.

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-02-07T01:26:36+00:00

Others have commented that bouncing to a new location makes a woman more comfortable, because she has seen you in more than one environment. If you bounce several times, she feels like she has been on several dates with you.

But there is another important factor. Bouncing establishes compliance. All escalation involves "compliance testing," trying to escalate and testing whether she is accepting and compliant. I recall hearing a podcast where the PUA said he was not getting any response to kino, but the woman was perfectly compliant when he tried to move her around to different places inside the club. She went home with him and once they were alone, she responded to his advances. The podcast says that even if you feel like the woman is resisting, if she is willing to bounce with you, she is ready to go home with you.

The other issue is isolation, which is part of "logistical escalation." Particularly in club and bar game, a woman must to be gradually isolated from her friends and moved to places with increased privacy, ending up with your bedroom. I particularly recommend The Triad Model, which is the first time I have seen a more thorough approach to logistics.

SwordfshII · 2015-02-06T23:41:33+00:00

Establishes trust and comfort with you, and creates the feeling of more dates.

onetothehouse · 2015-02-07T01:30:08+00:00

Because then going to your place afterwards is just another simple transition in the date, and not some overly exaggerated ordeal.

JessePinkman88 · 2015-02-07T04:31:33+00:00

Getting to know someone is about sharing experiences, not just exchanging facts about each other. If you can share multiple different experiences (eg. changing venues), you have the possibility of developing a stronger connection (ie. varied shared experiences).

deepsouldier · 2015-02-07T07:44:56+00:00

Go see the romantic movies. They get a lot of things wrong, but they do get the 'date-night' right. There is always momentum to the night - dinner, walk, ice-skating rink, merry-go-rounds, horse-carriages, fireworks etc. etc. This builds familiarity for the girl making one date look like many.

Frenchy100 · 2015-02-06T21:58:06+00:00

There is also the fact that moving a girl places, that it be miles or feet away from where she was makes you more attractive.

Title	Why is there so much importance put on changing venues on a first date?
Author	Pedantic_Me
Upvotes	16
Comments	11
Date	February 6, 2015 8:07 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2v0ovm/why_is_there_so_much_importance_put_on_changing/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/why-is-there-so-much-importance-put-on-changing.1383536 https://theredarchive.com/post/1383536

Comments