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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:41 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:19 AM
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How-To High ValueMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:12 AM
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REMINDER 👑Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:23 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:05 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:54 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 02:50 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:49 PM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:26 AM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 01:32 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:40 AM
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How-To High ValueMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:51 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:06 AM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:20 PM
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REMINDER 👑Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:21 AM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:43 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:53 AM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:28 PM
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QUEEN SH*TMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:31 AM
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RANTMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:37 AM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:44 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:31 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:45 AM
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STAY WOKEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:15 PM
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NAH, SISMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:55 PM
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LEVEL UPMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:04 PM
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RANTMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:59 PM
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Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:13 PM
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REMINDER 👑Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:26 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:51 AM
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Mind-Objective/r/askFDS22/05/21 04:51 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:12 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:08 PM
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REMINDER 👑Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:35 PM
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Mind-Objective/r/askFDS12/06/21 03:43 PM
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Mind-Objective/r/askFDS12/03/21 05:32 AM
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Mind-Objective/r/askFDS01/12/20 05:37 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:45 PM
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LEVEL UPMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:25 PM
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REMINDER 👑Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:13 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:04 PM
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Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:16 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:36 PM
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Mind-Objective/r/askFDS13/03/21 01:57 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:11 AM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:42 AM
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REMINDER 👑Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:04 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:17 PM
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Story time ☕Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:15 PM
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Story time ☕Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:28 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶Mind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:00 AM
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Mind-Objective/r/askFDS01/02/21 08:45 PM
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DISCUSSIONMind-Objective/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:52 AM
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Family.
/r/askFDS22/05/21 02:26 PM
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It was something along the lines of he thinks society would be fair or equal if it was all men and either (can’t remember this for verbatim) he doesn’t understand what women have to complain about or he gets angry whenever women have something to complain about. Regardless, there was no clarifying on his end (as you have presented in your comment) and he could have said what you said in a mature manner but he didn’t. He was similar to you, having a variety of friends and is pro choice to a point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:11 PM
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Way to rip on young girls who are republicans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:40 PM
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Yes, as long as both parties are mature and civil in discussing. I don’t mind I think dating someone who’s fiscally/economically conservative but on social issues that’s a different story. To say anything that resembled women are inferior then men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:37 PM
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I’m sorry your daughter said that to you and you were in that situation. Hope you’re doing better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:56 PM
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I hope she does gets out and she’s not stretching this out for views or whatever. Not saying she is but I don’t trust Tik toks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:38 PM
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So a beer gut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:12 AM
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Had a brief text conversation with said person and past me would have continued it and kept on asking questions, because clearly it wasn’t going anywhere. It’s better to let conversations die than force something that doesn’t work. Felt so at peace afterward deleting the conversation from my phone. (No hard feelings toward the person. There just wasn’t much of a conversation.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:55 AM
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any mention of red pill crap, bringing up the Wall for example. Blatant generalizations of all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:13 PM
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If you seriously have to try hard to make sure everyone is following the same conversation, it’s time to jump ship may
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:39 PM
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Don’t tell them about your exes, your past relationship eff ups. With mental illness, which I think could hinder your relationship, I believe that should be disclosed at a later point in time especially when you already establish trust with the person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:42 PM
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Boyishness, adventure, fun, ambitious....really was hoping he would have grown up some or all it took was minor prompting for him to change his behaviors lol nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:14 PM
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Omg can’t believe there are people who revel in drama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:14 PM
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I remember bringing this drama up to my friend and they immediately wonder if she’s getting something out of this too by keeping her silence...aka money. I mean, it’s YouTube drama. I have a hard time trusting her as well as him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:38 AM
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I might be of the minority but it’s really about establishing stead fast boundaries from the get go, which was how I met one of my closest friends... off a dating app. I don’t view male attraction from A guy friend as a bad thing because there nothing wrong with finding someone appealing. You CAN find someone appealing or attractive but respect their boundaries. It’s when someone is purposely stringing someone along which you can tell or sometimes feel intuitively which is problematic. I don’t g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:24 AM
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To add to what you said about self determination, FDS also advocates its members to constantly level up and not expect from their partners what they don’t already have. Yes, I know some lurker on here will say, “But you guys are fine with dating millionaires/billionaires?” FDS has acknowledged about power imbalances many times, whether it comes to age or even money. Oh, by the way, in answer to your question, I will respond, “Sure, if the millionaires/billionaires have the same core values, goal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:12 AM
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lol I always thought I was in the minority where I would most likely pick my guy best friend over any guy I date if given the ultimatum. We’ve known each other for so long and there’s a reason why he’s my best friend. I emphasize this to a lot of people: there’s a reason why he’s almost everybody’s best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:46 AM
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“Oh, cool. You’re an avoidant. Thanks for letting me know. Now what are YOU going to do about it?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:39 AM
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Oh my gosh that victimizing mentality and lack of acountability
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:24 AM
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This was Pre-FDS. Was on a local activity site and had someone messaged me. Did not appreciate the winkey face emojis and chipper message about hiking or whatever. Ignored my gut, gave him my number so we could talk about planning for the hike. Blocked him on the activity site and via text when I continued getting bad vibes. Saw him on IG recently and blocked him there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:11 AM
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Similar story. I wasn’t in the right mindset/time/place to date and that person happened. Sorry you also had to go through that experience. I thought with those (or at least hoping with my ex) who comes an from affluent educated/polish backgrounds that yes while I understand why they lean towards right economically (lower taxes) that at least there is a general agreement amongst EVERYONE especially on gender, that for example, women are not inferior to men. I mean, you don’t have to be rich and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:32 AM
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He wasn’t obsessed but he thought people were being too serious with words these days. Even things like how people choose to identify themselves were things he didn’t understand. I went thru a period where I loosely identified as they/them and he didn’t want me to introduce my pronouns to his parents because they wouldn’t get it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:27 PM
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That’s an interesting take on people who are apolitical. I do identify as bit more left leaning or democrat these days, sometimes center.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:47 PM
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I guess when I say Trump supporter I’m automatically assuming the worse of the lot: the type who revels in terrorism, the misogynistic kind. But I will take heed in the future not to misjudge just from party alone. I’m aware it’s this one person who’s the type to really give republicans a chance dating wise a really bad rep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:46 PM
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I thought I was apolitical at one point and wasn’t as informed on the news as I should have been. It didn’t matter to me what someone’s political affiliation was. Turns out it could matter a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:29 PM
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I dated a Mr. Nice Guy. Nah, just a mean person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:56 PM
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It seems like you had mature break ups. Do you have healthy friendship boundaries with your exes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:00 PM
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Simp - great thank you for ousting yourself that you haven’t matured past the age of 14
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:40 PM
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Lol omg is he seriously using his gender and gender norms to give him a free pass? What trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:06 AM
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I like that your comment is fair to both sides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:56 PM
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Just because someone has “nerdy” hobbies like video games, Star Wars and such is not an indicator of someone not going to cheat on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:00 PM
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I watched this lol love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:30 PM
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I understand. Awareness and outreach is important. Wish I’ve known about FDS at 18.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:59 PM
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I see. Then how about this alternative: 1-2 days a month we can have it privatized to blockade all the noise. Just like how we have meme free Mondays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:01 PM
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There was this interesting insight I read about red pill individuals. They might think they want a docile submissive woman but eventually they’re going to get bored with her because lo behold an automaton IS boring. Then they’re off to the next “best” thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 01:55 PM
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I’m hoping the mods will comment on here and address these questions. Maybe it’s an error? I’m subscribed here but despite it going private still can view the subreddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 01:44 PM
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Dated a CS brat. Let’s call him Kevin, frat boy of NY. He was voted most likely to succeed in life in high school, had parents who were accountants, went to a private high school, and a good school in NY. He has charisma and drive (which was what attracted me to him) and I know he’ll reach his financial goals but...man he was of the the red pill, LoGicAL, uncommunicative emotionally immature sort. (shockingly, He wants kids). I was seriously better off investing time and efforts into my friendsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:11 AM
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Just want to say fuck your friend for saying you were easy. Seems like he’s the type to encourage you not to enforce your boundaries. What trash. You’re a human being, not some game or conquest. It doesn’t cost you a dime to be a decent human being in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:32 AM
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I have a similar knee jerk reaction whenever I find out the guy I’m seeing is a STEM dude just because from my own personal experiences with them there was a lack of emotional tact. I know not all STEM guys are like that but from the slew of guys I dated that has been the case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:14 AM
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Not everyone wants a meaningful, healthy relationship. Some people are willing to lose a “good” partner for the sake of being right or avoid putting in the groundwork. Some are content with ANY semblance of a relationship just so they can work towards something. It’s not a reflection on you. You’re sad, because you lack balance in your life. There’s more to it than school. Go experience things on your own and pick up new hobbies. The only new hobby you’ve acquired since then is hiking and that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:18 AM
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Because dating apps are known notoriously for hook ups, where avoidants flocks and being a time sinker. How old are you? Are you interested in starting a family? I really am a firm believer that when it happens aka you finding the one it happens naturally without you forcing yourself into it. You can just take a break in the meantime to recover from the jadedness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:00 AM
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Sending you love ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:02 AM
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Lol it means the person who wants to get with the “high standard” person will have to put in the work to be better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:53 PM
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So true friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:44 PM
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Someone described women on FDS as having high standard and I’m like it’s just DIFFERENT standards and you don’t have to date these women which is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:42 PM
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Noted, thank you for sharing your story ...I was already thinking of donating to two organization. With your idea in mind, I will donate tangible goods to my local organization and another organization I’ll donate money to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:00 PM
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Yup. Lol to this day I’m still wondering hmmm I wonder if this is his way of trying to have a serious conversation with me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:26 PM
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Scott Disick coming to mind. I think he’s dating a 19 year old at age 37.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:06 PM
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Glad you lost the the 6 foot piece of dead weight and doing better for yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:54 PM
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I was sent $1 on Venmo (out of the blue) by my ex three weeks after he called me a bitch. He tried requesting the money back when he noticed I didn’t react at all. Take the money and block. How much has he been sending you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:45 PM
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I think I’m in love with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:53 PM
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I would caution you in saying that; he did say initially his ex partner didn’t treat him well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:48 PM
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For sure. I really think they should have women who were successful, were strong willed and willing to call him out on his BS. Because honestly to god they wouldn’t tolerate one word of his nonsense. Lol I swear if they pluck someone off of FDS we wouldn’t be afraid of roasting his a***
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:46 PM
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I really wish these people challenge him harder on his beliefs. As someone who had dated someone of the red pill mindset, I want to let you know even if this guy did get laid or a relationship he would still have an awful personality. Sex is not the cure all for lost causes who lacks self awareness like this one. This is a YouTuber reviewing the video: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JlzhYDp7omY ( I like the fact they are so strong on holding the person accountable.) Update: This person is no long…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:56 AM
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I remember this one: an oldie but a goodie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:35 AM
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I don’t know anyone who likes banana laffy taffy honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:13 PM
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Oof the jordan peterson one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:07 PM
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Oh my gawd i can feel the annoyance and gaslighting so hard from this message. You aren’t asking for much. If he has to be difficult in calling or FaceTiming you, seriously not the guy. I remember telling my ex the same thing that I like more calls BUT I’ll call him. He was like okay. That oh I keep bringing up the lack of emotional validation in this relationship and I was starting to drama to cause drama. You shouldn’t be apologizing for having a need. You are allowed to have needs. Ah the aud…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:58 AM
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I think the person was referring to a turtle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:32 AM
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I’m a bit torn honestly with whether this is an ONLY Asian hate crime or another sex addiction gone wrong, mainly because this guy does have a history for his sex addiction and the place he picked to do the shootout at is massage parlor which aligns with his vices. Idk. He could have picked for example like an Asian grocery store or something of that sort INSTEAD HE SELECTED A MASSAGE PARLOR. He could have picked the place due it to being a lack of security idk. We’re also living in a time right…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:58 PM
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I have a question: why is your label PixkmeishaTM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:53 PM
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I learned that being the bigger person or adult doesn’t always have to mean walking away. You can “bite” back without having to keep reengaging. Lol nice example with the electric fence - why are you acting surprised you got zapped when you cross a boundary?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:46 PM
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As someone who wants/demands a relationship or none at all, this is why I don’t casual date or hookup: I don’t want to waste my time emotionally investing in a black hole. Cheesy to say but when I love, I love hard. I like to think that makes my love more valuable because it’s not so freely given and that’s why you won’t see me on Tindr, bumble, or any of those dating apps any time soon. Maybe never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:05 PM
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I haven’t but I have the gist of the sentiment from sifting through FDS content. What I mean is someone should post a discussion: If you want to, you would. It would be a cheeky spin on the adage saying if he wanted he would. Also my post hasn’t been removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:50 PM
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Uh no lol I can’t do spontaneity (loves being notified two days beforehand) and texting all day/night no....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:15 PM
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Lol stop analyzing me bc you’re too spot on and I feel so called out 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:46 PM
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Replace conservative with my ex who is a conservative and it still works: My ex figure there was never a problem with ignoring issues in a relationship until I started complaining about it and if I would just shut the fuck up everything would fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:25 AM
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Would love it if your or somebody can make a discussion topic about this. I’ve seen a lot of if he wanted to he would but not enough of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:11 AM
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Not a fan of tests but happy to hear you have long term make friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:02 AM
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King yes omg to this video!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:52 AM
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Thank you for inquiring. He said something along the lines of me being mature, or seem that way. Maybe not problems but he alluded to something about being around older people. (I corrected it so thank you for pointing that out) There was snow and ice paved on the steep trail to get to the summit. We didn’t bring spikes and we were falling - moreso me. I didn’t mind him holding my hand honestly (admittedly touch starved) but I do intend to be more wary as you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:03 AM
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“Jaded” “Having baggage” Ok cool I’ll be all that. All of it just sounds like you are experience and cautious this time around. Those who throw their money into something sketchy once again around are foolish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:19 PM
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I didn’t even know what a twin flame was until Megan Fox used the term to describe her and MGK. Regardless, I can only see their relationship going down in flames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:31 PM
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I will value you until you start are more interested in the power game than being a partner. It’s your insecurity and own pathetic ness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:28 PM
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🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:19 AM
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My family member said that whenever someone apologizes she asks “what for” and then “so now what are you gonna do moving forward” Very kindergarten ish but she uses it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:31 PM
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Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:23 PM
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A person and I went hiking yesterday and there were a couple of moments where we (literally) give each other a hand to help go up the trail. Have been fixating on the “touch” component and realizing how much I miss that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:19 PM
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Yup, my friend’s husband is 33 and he admitted to us in his twenties or back then he was immature. Like you said it’s NOT really about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:56 PM
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Agreed. Also according to my friend he made homophobic remarks...something to do with the Baptist church.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:51 AM
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Usually Derrick is on the nose about these things...but given the age difference between the two (she’s 24 and he’s 34) it doesn’t matter how prepared or good this person is, this shouldn’t be overlooked. Hoping it’s a publicity stunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:38 AM
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Proud of you 😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:59 AM
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Lol omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:35 PM
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Saved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:41 PM
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Noted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:36 AM
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Omg thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:07 AM
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Queen level energy right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:04 AM
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I’m trying to pinpoint the age where people get a wake up call that it’s alright to be single and I definitely think td between 24-26. No statistics but anecdotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:54 AM
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But I’m assuming you have acted imperfectly and you weren’t at your best but they were forgiving? This falls into the same category
/r/askFDS13/03/21 07:44 PM
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I’m giving the person space and will talk to them about it later. I will also reconsider the status of our friendship but as of right now my FRIEND is not going thru a good time. My original question was do I get them snacks not do I end a friendship. For someone to say don’t have ANY male friends that’s really out of line and disgusting.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 07:18 PM
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Yep. He’s my best friend.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 06:44 PM
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That is out of line.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 04:26 PM
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I see. But upon further reflection I felt like I only brought up asking if he needs space because I felt uncomfortable with him being upset and I need to duck away. That’s not being a good friend.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 02:37 PM
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No he simply just said f*** off. He’s usually level headed but he’s dealing with a personal problem right now and I know it’s not fixable
/r/askFDS13/03/21 02:10 PM
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Oh I went there once only because FDS was mentioned yesterday and never again lol. Appreciate the concern nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:07 AM
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I have no intention in trying to change anyone on a meaningful scale with what was discussed yesterday. It was just trying to offer more insight into FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:40 PM
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If that was the case they could have continued the discussion. Well, it’s done and over with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:19 PM
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Whenever I see myself feeling bitter about something to the point it’s not serving me, that meant I have too much time on my hands. Harder to do than say, but acknowledge that feeling when it comes up and move on. It helps to squeeze in a “me” day or a hobby so you are not so deep into your thoughts.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 05:37 PM
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Oh I actually quite enjoy it. It was like writing an essay about a subject I am fairly knowledgeable about these days. And the people I did talk to to were civil and (politely) curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:27 PM
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The usual negative generalizations made about FDS and I broke some of them down. Believe it or not, despite them not still being on board with the rules of FDS, I believe they have a better idea now of what FDS is in a positive or fairer sense, judging by how they responded. It helps to be civil as that allows discussion to flow and both parties feel respected. If I jump in antagonizing them and THEN try to prove my point, that leads to the other side being more focused on feeling insulted than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:21 PM
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I actually ended up having a civil discussion with two Redditors on there and let them know I am a member of FDS. Besides some downvotes, I haven’t been spammed by anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:52 PM
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Very well put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:40 PM
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Thank you!
/r/askFDS12/03/21 03:15 PM
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I think those interested in joining FDS could message me or send a chat request if they have any questions. And that goes to the same to any lurkers who are unable to comment on this sub. Just be civil and I prefer (trying to kindly word this) if it’s not a full on therapy session (I’m not a therapist!) otherwise I will not partake in the discussion. Convincing statements: You don’t need to explain to us. We see where you’re coming from. If he wanted to, he would. What matters is that he didn’t.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:09 PM
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Ex. We were 23 and 24. We weren’t “high value” people looking back on it.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 02:50 PM
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I don’t hate the FDS subreddit but it does have its own imperfections like a lot of subreddits do. See my past comment history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:26 PM
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What are you doing right now to bide your time?
/r/askFDS12/03/21 05:59 AM
2

Sweet thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:31 AM
2

Gladly but I think I’m banned there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:26 AM
0

This was a response I gave to a commenter on another subreddit in FDS. I want to add that while I don’t agree with all of FDS principles there are some things people who don’t know much about the community have misconstrued and I hope my assessment is fair. I notice with the article that came out recently there has been an uptick of hate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:56 AM
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Omg I wanna be like Ms. Georgia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:10 AM
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I really view it as a Tik tok persona. It’s just meant to grab publicity. Bad publicity is still publicity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:34 AM
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Agree. You let people get away with so much if you are fixated on one aspect of someone is. Would like to point out as “financially” secure my ex is, that didn’t pad up the awful parts of his personality. With time, I know he’s going to figure out he’s not worth shit to others out there and his money is not going to get him the harem of girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:35 PM
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How did they take you I’m assuming being headstrong and standing up for yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:55 PM
1

Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 09:29 PM
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I’ll recant what I said about you being upset. Dating is just hard. I find being on your own and with good company (friends) is better overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 09:14 PM
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I try to take people on a case by case. You’re upset that the women you know are generalizing all men and now you’re doing the same which doesn’t really help the situation does it? It says to me that the woman should walk away and work on herself in order to realize she shouldn’t be constantly chasing, shouldn’t be so desperate to make things work when her boyfriend is not doing the same in return. I would say the same thing if a man is chasing an emotionally unavailable immature women. Because …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 08:54 PM
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Uh yeah people are complicated. When you bring in emotions and nuances into relationships and what people want , you can’t just rely on biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 08:33 PM
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The fuckboys you are referring to is getting “unhealthy” love and desperation from the person. It’s not better treatment at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 08:28 PM
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I really think these people who stick with “shitty” men comes from some unresolved trauma and it has to do a lot with people pleasing/care-taking. It occur to me for example yesterday that I’m so used to disrespect that I’ve built a tolerance for it so it’s not an apparent red flag. And that’s something one has to actively work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 08:27 PM
1

I see. Thank you for the clarification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:23 PM
1

Wow thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:16 AM
6

Then I’m curious with FDS standards in mind for example would you expect a man to pay for the first date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:14 AM
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I want that twinkle in my eye and crows feet and to have this witchy but always up to something expression on my face when I get older as I get older. More importantly than that, I need to know I have lived. Bring it on, old age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:59 AM
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Do not overlook something like this. My ex explicitly expressed at the beginning of his earlier texts to me that a long term/serious relationship would be too much right now but he proceeded to talk about how I was a unicorn. Cue first date and he mentioned about moving wherever I go for my job. Don’t be stoopid like me and want something so bad that you overlook red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:11 AM
2

Yup, never going to try that hard for love again. Hang in there Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:24 PM
5

Baking? Congrats!!🎊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:23 AM
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Serious question: are there more men on dating apps than women? Because I wonder if that statistic takes into account there could be more men on dating apps than women hence the skewness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:31 PM
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I think that’s a good question to ask men who claim they don’t want gold diggers: so are you fine with a woman who’s treating/ spending money on you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:29 PM
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That’s really hard for me to say because a relationship I follow is Arden Rose and Will Darbyshire. They’ve been together for what 4-5 years already I think? And they seem happy from the looks of their relationship so I believe a 4-5 year relationship no ring is possible especially if everything is communicated on. They’ve dated since I think their early twenties. Nonetheless, unless TS had mentioned and made it a firm boundary/ requirement that she wanted to get married after two years it’s rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:44 AM
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Time, a whole lot of it. Meet more people, I’m not even taking a pool of potential dates but to put yourself out there. You know what you need now so that’s good. Better you left two days ago then a couple of years in the future. I hope to see you post flowers and rings you purchase for yourself because you deserve them. Hang in there Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:33 AM
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I thought for a long time I needed to have my unempathetic red pill ex’s child just so I could save em. What on earth was I thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:29 AM
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Gross, reminds me of how I cooked my ex breakfast every time he stayed over and was willing to help him with his resume/job search. He had the audacity to later said I never love him. Never again. My boundaries and what it takes to be with me has increased ten folds since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:21 AM
5

I do the same as well now, even in relationships esp. if gas lighting occurs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:01 AM
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Feeling already sorry for whoever is dating this sack of shit. *vomits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:43 AM
1

Thank you for the reminder. Something to think about today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:15 PM
4

Just want to point out there are PEOPLE sitting across from them on their phones and one of them could have gotten from their seats. None did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:17 AM
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Have a fake award: 🏆 Fair assessment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:42 AM
6

They seem to be teenagers. Yeah nothing is gonna come of this relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:23 AM
13

Seriously, dude, why the rush???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:13 AM
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Are you also an INFP? I’m an Aquarius as well and have a doormat, do gooder people pleasing personality. Trying harder this year and moving forward to be colder and direct by asserting my boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:44 PM
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You do realize you are going to have to clean up your blow up/ sex doll after you’re done with them right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:04 PM
4

Now THAT’s a ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:00 PM
13

Did you break up with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:31 AM
12

What a gross guy. Sorry on her behalf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:38 AM
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If it was subreddit dating you could message the mod and let them know. Was also banned. I received a message from them and they said they were testing a bot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:35 AM
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Don’t be mean but just be civil. If they are pushing boundaries that’s when you clap back or distant yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:32 PM
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I love the imagery of you swiping 999 times and the 1 guy you did momentarily paused on, you’re like oof but he smokes...noo.... (resumes swiping) 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:45 PM
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Uh funnily enough, with my brief dating stint on Okcupid, it was him pursuing me but nonetheless we didn’t work. With Bumble, I was the one pursuing and that didn’t work out either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:32 PM
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Unrelated note, this is making fun of the company I’m thinking of but seriously customer service engineer?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:46 PM
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I don’t feel the need now to continue making conversation when I don’t want to. Or stick around for things that doesn’t sit right with me. I don’t have to waste my time “educating” people on basic decency or things that are problematic. Had to resist explaining to someone why a close to 30 something year old dating a 18/19 year old is problematic in itself it’s not really ok just because they’re legally consenting adults. More self sufficient. If I’m upset, I don’t have to call and let my friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:42 PM
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Funnily enough I have had one redditor reached out to me it it was in regards to getting dating advice from FDS. Really it boils down to being decent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:19 PM
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Gonna save that edit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:02 AM
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Never heard that nagging is a form of clinging. But this is what I don’t get: doesn’t it aggravate the person to have someone breathing down their neck? It sounds like a paradox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:56 AM
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Oh my dear. 💔 Sending love your way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:41 AM
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Want to point out that if anyone who is throwing a tantrum and blaming their actions on mood swings you don’t have to deal with that. It’s unhealthy to you and the other person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:21 PM
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No, no, no. Kindness, supportiveness, and sweetness, that should be expected in any quality friendships you have, not just relationships. It is not gender specific to act with human decency. My ex was working at the deli when we dated for a majority of our relationship. One could argue I was above his level in that regard, but what made me think I was out of his league was not his profession but how he carried himself. His posh background and new job didn’t stop him from being insulting, derogat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:17 PM
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Sorry for your loss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:44 PM
4

I need to do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:30 PM
2

I’m planning to extend mine a lot longer than three months just because I want to be on the side of caution this time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:50 PM
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I get it now...what people said when they mean good times are not enough and being used. I’m saving this as a reminder. Thank you friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:25 PM
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Can someone get into my head why good/ fun times are not worth being with a person who doesn’t respect with you? Especially when you feel like most days these good times are only possible when you’re with them? I’m really introverted but my ex pull me out of my shell. Wish I actually got to know his friends more because they seem like good people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:17 PM
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As someone who likes being notified a day or two ahead of time when I am invited to anything, him not apologizing -much less acknowledging- about it being a last minute invitation or even asking whether or not you have plans tonight - that’s what gets on my nerves a little bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:55 AM
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Oh my gawd yesssss I was thinking of visiting a good tea and crepe house just now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:29 AM
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Just want to point out the fact you guys are still together and you seem happy shows that he wasn’t just looking to get laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:54 AM
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I gotchu: 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:34 AM
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Love your tone in this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:46 PM
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Saved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:32 PM
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Sthap I don’t want to be angered so quickly today lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:49 PM
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From the experiences I read of the women on here who have dated rich, those guys are often cheap and total a holes. I know a math prof who’s dating someone who works at a bar I think and he really makes her happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:02 PM
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For sure! Still trying to figure out what my other hobbies are. Wish the outdoorsy ones weren’t so expensive! :’(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:57 PM
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OH MY GAWD YOURE AWESOME!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:52 PM
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For sure! I’ll do it some time this week!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:12 PM
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Awesome, happy to meet another skincare/makeup enthusiast! Hm, I’ll show a temporary link some time week to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:11 PM
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It’s more for me waking up in someone’s embrace in the morning or what I really miss from my last relationship us piling on top of one another like stacked logs while watching movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:54 AM
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Thank you for asking! A bunch of different products, what time (am/pm) they should be used, information on which products shouldn’t be mixed with what, some cells will be highlighted red (need to resupply), and some future product recommendations. It’s not as elaborate looking as it sounds but I’m quite proud of it. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:13 AM
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Without reason or it has to be a special day? If for some reason I had a kid or my friends does, I’m making sure they are treated like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:14 PM
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I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:12 PM
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No idea actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:10 AM
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I’m not a fan of the graphic imagery (not condoning any of those acts lol) but I appreciate the ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:00 AM
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Congrats! I’m waiting for the mods to upgrade me already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:44 AM
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You got the hair down. Just switch those pants for khakis and frat boy button up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:51 PM
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Good job Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:23 PM
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I dated someone who one might be considered Tea Party Republican and really one shouldn’t extrapolate for any group but man have I view the entire Republican Party in such a bad light after that experience. Funny thing was he had joked in the past that I’ll change my stance. He was very Mr. Economics Very LOGICAL MAN. But when it comes to understanding that people come in different shades and no one is prepackaged with X qualities that’s when I started questioning why...should I trust someone on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:55 PM
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That person he’s dating now is not important to your life and neither is he. The relationship you had with him is gone. People like that rarely change. It’s not “you weren’t good enough for him” or “you’re less than anybody”; it’s he found a girl who is willing to tolerate his bullshit. No, you were not too weak or sensitive -you’re normal. Get it through your head. There’s nothing special about a girl who chooses to tolerate awful behavior; she would just be a doormat. And you’re better than th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:43 PM
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🏆🏆🏆🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:38 PM
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I can’t make sense of what she’s saying at the beginning of the video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:42 PM
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You’re not wasting time. And I get the feeling you’re an on the go needs to be productive person. If you’re ever in my neck of the woods, I’m taking you out for a gal’s night lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:20 PM
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I know we all have our differing opinions on Buzzfeed but nonetheless I hope these partners who were able to talk excitedly about their wedding day...well each of us should strive to have partners who can do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 02:59 PM
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Miss independent Neyo. Thanks FDS for ruining that song for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:02 AM
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My ex didn’t come from millionaire parents but his parents were accountants and he went to a rich private high school. He complained about gold diggers and OPENLY reveled in the fact that he and I were going to get along because I was going to pay for my meal on the second date. Red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:49 PM
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I call those partners stay for a good times but anything serious wise is just threatening to their existence lol Glad that you got out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:41 PM
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Thank you sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:14 PM
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If he violates a boundary you leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:27 AM
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Do you feel like writing and fitness is enough for you? What are some things you want to learn? Or haven’t done? Can you list me what you’ve done the past two years of being single?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:51 AM
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OMG I’m glad that you are alive and you know what that’s a more accurate way to describe a person like that: whatever the fuck that was. Hope you are doing better these days. Thanks for the book rec and hug. 🧸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:10 AM
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Don’t worry about it. I was amused by the burn. 🔥Ah lesson learned I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:08 AM
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Ouch lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:01 AM
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Because sometimes if you aim high for the moon you could still land on the stars lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:18 PM
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I remember after getting dumped I spent hours watching psychology videos and reading articles on how to communicate with an avoidant and the anxious avoidant trap. I was wondering how I could have better conveyed my needs and soothed him in the process. Turns out all that 8-5 studying didn’t matter. Because after I initiated and attempted reconciliation and applied what I had learned, I realized labeling someone as avoidant is just psych jargon for someone who doesn’t care. BTW, he was still an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:17 PM
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I’m definitely not one of your boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:00 PM
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With FDS it’s really just I have these XYZ qualities I can bring to a relationship and I would hope my partner could do the same. Usually it’s human decency
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:34 AM
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He sounds gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:29 AM
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I’m a bit scared trying to change into a different career path but after what happened today something needs to change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:27 AM
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So you are telling me I don’t naturally have sunset eyelids or naturally supple never dry red lips and my sexy bed hair lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:17 AM
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Hey ex. If you are stalking my profile, read this post. That’s how I felt with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:03 AM
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What was your own experience like? One wasn’t bad, the other we didn’t vibe. My last guy was the worse of the lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:28 AM
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We expect pics Queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:10 AM
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Keep doing your thing Queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:48 AM
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I take it you dated some of these characters. Not Boston but I had a taste of fratty private school STEM boy who did skiiing on side and hiking and really lack social tact. My heart goes out to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:20 PM
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Omg where does the athletic parkour people fall in???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:19 PM
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I always feel like these these type of people are looking more to vent instead of putting their best foot forward gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:15 PM
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Yup yup. Sounds like too much work. Also I see your username a lot; I think you’re my spirit Redditor. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:54 PM
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Don’t apologize, child free (choosing not to have children in any capacity, biologically or adoption)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:02 PM
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The takeaway: I don’t care about you and will not take any accountability. I’m a little boy who knows I can get anything what I want because you care so much about me. Me, me, me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:15 PM
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“You will never be happy.” I do have a slight depression (therapist diagnosed me) and I struggle with trying to find satisfaction in life and in the past my insecure whiny pessimistic outlook understandably has cost me friendships and relationships. I’ve gotten better though, with filtering what I say and taking time to myself to regulate how I’m feeling. But I still possess this insecurity that I need to be 100% happy all the time and accommodating otherwise people will leave me. When my ex sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:10 PM
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I have a cousin who I really admire. She has health problems and her eyes are crap but she’s still moving forward in life. Despite being in her twenties, she has never dated nor she pursues it. Her sole focus on these past couple of years is on her career goals, skincare and taking care of her folks. Her singleness doesn’t phase her. One of the things I remember her telling me is “I’m too secure in myself to stoop that low.” I want to reach that point where I can say it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:12 AM
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Glad you got out of that situation. Whaaa? And you two are CF too???? Living the dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:38 AM
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It could also be people like that with wealth and I guess power feel like they’re not in short supply of women (gross me even writing that) and they don’t feel the need to marry early in life or even marry at all. That’s up to the person but... I’m starting to wonder if marriage is growing to be an outdated concept :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:48 AM
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I love this. In the end you choose what you believe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:04 PM
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How do they react? Do they apologize once they realize you caught on to their game?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:54 PM
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Have a fake award for your post: 🥇 AND ALSO THAT A HOLE IS TRASH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:10 PM
2

Read too fast my apologies. Seriously you deserve bettrr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:57 PM
2

Gross you went on a date with a brat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:55 PM
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I wasn’t aware that Clooney had been doing that. Nonetheless, I felt the same way with Clooney and Amal only because at first you would think think wow he is dating someone who has a career based on talent and not Hollywood. But then we get into the 16 year age difference. Only reason I think he gets somewhat of a pass is that she was in her mid to late 30s when they met/married but...it still seems irresponsible to have a child with that age gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:06 PM
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Wow what an insight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:58 PM
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Lol so you...are telling me you didn’t meet this man on OLD? Also I hope you and your daughter are safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:34 PM
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Finished watching the video and I hate how much I relate to this, especially feeling lonely in a relationship and needing to be so independent all the time, so as not to bother my partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:05 PM
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Oof didn’t want to be on the nose for that one. She’ll find someone better. When she said they’ve been together for about 9 years and he’s proposing now...I was like oof red flag....and that cheap marriage proposal gosh he could have at least proposed in a veranda in a park and I think that would have been more romantic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:50 PM
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She is describing how he bends over backwards in his career and that’s what she likes about him... Me: (shakes head while watching vid) sad he didn’t do as much for you Maybe I’ve been on FDS too long but I wonder if it was a porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:43 PM
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Omg I also thought frat boy initially before watching the vid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:34 PM
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Saved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:44 PM
5

Wow what a magical month. So happy for you! Hm, wonder if HVM tapestry will be a trend like with the self purchased rings and flowers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:35 PM
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This is Crash Landing on You vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:31 PM
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I dated someone who was a Republican and he know a lot about the manosphere. I wasn’t able to put two and two together after the break up, like oh maybe he’s just NOT into that stuff, maybe he already has those values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:44 PM
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I bet this is a joke. In no way...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:50 AM
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Did I get recommended a manhwa from FDS? Lucky day. Thank you ♥️♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:10 AM
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Was your friend able to do just fine after leaving that type of work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:10 PM
9

She needs to respect herself to leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:20 PM
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Is it from that tik too? Congrats sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:40 AM
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^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:39 AM
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Lol let me know if you need a pep talk. Always happy to hype us a sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:16 AM
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Omg so true!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:45 PM
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Let this be known: no matter what age people choose to be unreasonable and let their selfishness get the best of themselves. I feel bad for the child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:14 PM
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Wow I didn’t know about their skin thinning out faster, only they have more collagen than women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:56 PM
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I also don’t think it’s that women spend more time to look pretty but also when you think about the notion that men age better than women are we thinking about a single woman or married woman? Not saying that married women can’t look good but you have to think about the 9 month pregnancy, the stress of childcare, putting in what (not sure if I’m quoting this correctly)2.5 times more hours of household work than the husband (??) ...that takes a toll on ones physical appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:39 PM
4

Well now I have three other guys I’m adding to the list I will never date or give my time to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:43 PM
1

Don’t send walls of text. I can accept that gift and let myself be spoiled. If he wanted to, he would. What matters is that he didn’t. Valentine’s Day is not some overrated Hallmark holiday...to me. Kindness, respect....all that is the bare minimum and should be expected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:37 AM
1

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:22 AM
2

You were very mature in how you carried out the conversation. You’ll find a good one better OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:17 AM
3

I joke around a lot in the past those who used dating apps were the leftovers aka we felt like we had no other options lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:45 AM
4

That’s true but I know I am an anxious mess around my partners if I don’t have my ducks line up in a row. That’s a hard question. Something that makes a difference and doesn’t simply generate money for corporate. I love analyzing relationships (I frequent dating subreddits often) but the thing is I can’t stand hearing people ramble on too long. Therefore becoming a therapist is out of the question. Close to a year but if you don’t count those 2-3 months where I was pursuing him after he broke up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:25 AM
1

Yup, yup, preaching to the choir. My last relationship ruined dating for me and I’m like (although I know it’s not fair to those around me) well one bad apple ruined it for y’all and therefore I’m off the dating market for a long long time. I also don’t feel adequate to date yet because my career is still a work in progress and my living situation isn’t yet. When I think about it, wow, I was hella optimistic two years ago in my early 20s thinking I was gonna find my One on a dating app It’s sooo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:52 AM
9

Life is fine. Living at home at 25 and trying to figure out how to leave this dead end job but not many careers appeals to me. I am currently auditing a college course and I’m certain more than ever the subject isn’t for me.. Not in a relationship and prefer if I have my career and living situation in order before venturing out. I promised myself 2 years of no dating, and I’m four months away from meeting one year. Have been spending time with friends. Lately been sleeping more than usual. I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:50 PM
4

Me too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:26 PM
10

I think it was after Russell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:28 PM
51

Who can forget level up???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:41 PM
3

We’re talking about calibers now huh...that’s says a lot about you dude...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:40 PM
28

It astounds me people are able to find good relationships off Tindr, just because it’s a well known hook up app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:17 PM
21

You’re the type of woman I aspire to be. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve. These individuals you talk about are usually selfish and only want a docile smiley doll. Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:04 AM
55

You deserve the best. And man is this guy stupid and yes he’s still stooopid for choosing to be stubborn. The certificate + card + sucker I bet cost more than some a simple bouquet of flowers. Uh even a gas station bouquet (not that you deserve a gas station anything) run up to what $7-$10??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:02 AM
20

It was okay. My mans (very good single guy friends) and I went to the ski resort; it was boring but their presence made things better. We found this local pricey restaurant and the staff surprised us with some free alcohol at the end. Not a drinker but the hot coco with cinnamon was good and so was the burrito I had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:01 AM
22

I’m looking forward to the update
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:25 AM
2

He seem like a very loving understanding fella
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:23 PM
2

DAmn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:38 PM
7

Love ya too 🥰😍 Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:48 PM
37

Lol can someone copy and paste that tiktok of the sister telling her brother he loves his 10k setup more than his girlfriend in here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:36 PM
14

Uh doesn’t FDS say no Bumble?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:17 PM
77

I’ve been trying to understand why FDS insists women don’t pay for dates and this post reminded that our (people’s time) is expensive so I can see the appeal in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:48 PM
80

Tears. I also just appreciate the small age difference between them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:23 AM
5

I love your take!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:07 AM
3

I do. I just want everyone to be taken care of and happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:55 AM
6

Damn power couple right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:54 AM
4

Can you give examples as to how he treats his partner? I’m a sucker for stories like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:51 AM
28

No man is worth the aggravation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:18 AM
20

I see what you did there. Hellish...punny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:24 AM
6

That last sentence *mic drop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:04 AM
30

I regret not saying this to my ex who dumped me: “ Leave me alone. Where is your harem of women now that you have a government job? Didn’t you tell me a long time ago girls only date men if they make bank? By the way, of course you would believe that. Your money is the only redeemable/ remarkable aspect about you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:00 AM
4

I bought myself some more skincare stuff. ♥️♥️♥️ Depending on the weather I might go to a ski resort with my friends, but we’ll see. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:05 PM
-2

I wouldn’t even call this pick me behavior; it’s just a stupid decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:06 PM
-5

You don’t need to respond. I just want to say I was giving him the silent treatment out of my own stubbornness and pride in not wanting to ask for help. He was actually trying to talk to me but I didn’t budge. Then at the end I got snippy when it was clear I shouldn’t have and I brought up something out of the blue that was on my mind (the loneliness). Maybe it was to pin blame on him idk. I’m just not proud of how I acted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:20 PM
151

Lol I had an ex who was playing Minecraft while I was trying to have a serious discussion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:00 PM
1

Oh I didn’t know that. Thank you for clarifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:13 PM
2

I’ve been playing around with the idea that the language people don’t feel like they receive very much of is the language they preferred, but ideally all 5 you should receive in a relationship. I recognize that I’m generalizing but men for the most part or stereotypically don’t receive a lot of hugs and physical affection growing up do they compared to women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:35 AM
5

My light new year resolution was to be more selfish of my time. And let me tell you it was soooo uncomfortable to tell my boss and the event hosts that I’ll MAYBE go to the work event when he brought up how he likes to see me there two times in a row. I didn’t show up. But man I love being able to set a non obligatory precedent and that rest after work was needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:23 AM
10

Same. I wanted to be partnered and I didn’t have many many dreams. I would have gladly went wherever my love go but I would say for the most part I’m done with dating apps. At least right now. After my last ex l I really had to take a pause. My therapist told me that no one is going to come rescue me so I need start making ME happy, not just safe it safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:46 AM
1

I like her chipper personality but I find it a bit worrisome that she and her husband are trying for a child so quickly. I think they should have taken a few years off to enjoy marry life before having children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:18 AM
4

Hannah witton?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:16 AM
17

Has he reached out to you over the years? You dodge a billet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:48 PM
1

It’s alright queen we’ve all been there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:07 PM
1

You marry him for money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:56 PM
1

If I’m going to be honest with myself, it’s the idea of having a partner who’s got your back and committed to you as you are to them and also it’s waking up to my stomach person. I know myself well enough that I put a lot of stock and care and thought into a relationship and if that was reflected by someone back to me I know I would be one stack happier than I am now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:50 PM
1

What’s the story behind this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:34 PM
54

Lol believe it or not if a guy answers in a flippant manner like that (“more or less!”) I think I might get a tad smitten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:29 PM
11

Ah the real life Internet troll. Don’t feed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:35 AM
3

Lucky!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:22 PM
13

Immature behavior and god this hits home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:27 AM
5

Can I dm you? I notice you do data analytics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:11 AM
3

Time to let go...bc he did a long time ago
/r/askFDS05/02/21 02:11 PM
252

Reading from wiki: When the intended rape victim's family offered him a large cash reward, he refused it with the following comment: "Fighting the enemy in battle is my duty as a soldier. Taking on the thugs on the train was my duty as a human being."[6]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:53 PM
4

No no we are not expressing our feelings to hurt you, it’s out of hurt. That’s my same rationale as well. If you behave properly in a workplace or during an interview why not the same toward your partner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:38 AM
24

That’s savage as hell but lord good on you for doing that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:29 AM
5

Did you pursue or initiate the relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:27 AM
27

That has happened to me before where an ex threw my past in my face. Don’t overshare or be vulnerable early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:02 AM
18

Lol what I aspire to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:57 AM
9

Wont lie, I’m an oversharer and this is a bad habit I’m learning to break. Good on you for blocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:56 AM
25

When have you ever been alone? Stop looking down because we’re right beside you Queen. They’re not allowed to enter our castle for a reason. Keep blocking and focus on you. You only deserve the best. There’s an old quote I taped to my wall: Your house is a castles it’s up to you what you bring into it.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 02:35 AM
33

That girlfriend of his is not important to your life and neither is he. The relationship has been done and over with for over a year. You have been able to make it on your own without him and I trust you will keep on doing so. People rarely change. It’s not “you weren’t good enough for him” or “you’re less than anybody”; it’s he found a girl who is willing to tolerate his bullshit. On that note, don’t start thinking you were too weak or sensitive for no longer putting up with it. You’re not, you…
/r/askFDS05/02/21 02:03 AM
9

You forgive yourself. I am an anxious attachment and I was dating someone who was an avoidant. So when he gives me the silent treatment my anxiety and neediness flared. I haven’t dated for 6-7 months now...1.5 more years to go... still feeling unbelievably sad now over the ordeal. Therapy and filling up my schedule help.
/r/askFDS04/02/21 02:35 PM
8

You live with it and continue to work on yourself. Realize it most likely wasn’t a you problem but something to do with him. Don’t force yourself to start dating. Do it when you feel ready. I’m still working on that as well. My ex left me about 7-8 months ago and I question every day what I could have done better, or still fix things after all this time. But the relationship is dead. I saw red flags in the relationship but decided to stay and ironically got dumped for expressing basic needs.
/r/askFDS04/02/21 01:31 PM
7

Honestly I rather he uses I didn’t meant to. My ex used three different excuses for not being emotionally supportive: 1) I never went to him and drew some arbitrary line. 2) Emotions are a weakness to men. 3) He’s sorry he COULDNT be there. Regardless he proceeded to act insulting and derogatory gator after his apology. I’m just frustrated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:09 PM
7

Are you and your ex still friends? I find you guys to be very wholesome good ppl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:42 AM
6

Don’t date right now. You said so yourself that you would want something more the longer you invest in another person. If you can’t handle casual dating then I recommend waiting for a few years until you’re done with your schooling.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 12:30 AM
5

Let me ask you: what is your purpose in dating? To look for a serious relationship? Are you fine with a short but serious relationship?
/r/askFDS01/02/21 11:49 PM
0

No I get the gist. Was trying to make a point to a fellow redditor lol 😂 I know I’m being petty
/r/askFDS01/02/21 09:55 PM
2

I remember my ex telling me how Valentine’s Day prices are jacked up and I didn’t make a big deal of it. I ordered him a studded animal that arrived late and told him it wasn’t for Valentine’s Day but really it was. I THINK he got me candy a week later. On Valentine’s Day I remember just making some pasta and calling a friend. Looking back at it now would have loved him if he had spoiled me a little on that day; I should have said something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:07 AM
4

I should be more clear: from your experience what about the older man who gain status and money and their success with young women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:49 AM
13

What about the men who believes they have the money aka status as they age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:06 AM
2

Oh I’m not saying be stoic or emotionless to ignore emotions but I noticed that people who chooses to be like that are emotionally immature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:22 AM
2

Take it easy and I’m sorry for the pain you’ve experienced. I feel that way at times sometimes too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:21 PM
2

It’s annoying. All of it. You communicate, people like that shut down. You walk away and they make it seem like you’re the bad guy for no longer putting up with that type of behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:37 PM
5

I agree. You can’t be over silencing your emotion (make sure you have none) and expect to be able to control them at the same time. That leads to outbursts. I notice partners who are stoic and not welcoming of emotions (ie vulnerability) are those ironically the ones who are emotionally immature. It’s not surprising that they are unable to handle other peoples emotions since they can’t handle their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:19 PM
1

“ You are being dramatic and your life is not a tragedy” - my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:11 PM
3

Thanks queen. May you find peace this year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:47 PM
41

I’m turning 25 tomorrow. FDS has taught me a lot for example don’t double text, leave, and don’t bother over explaining to people. If they really want your advice, they’ll ask. More importantly: if he wanted to, he would. What matters is that he didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:24 PM
6

Brillliant insight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:40 AM
13

Going to a ski resort with my two single friends :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:56 PM
12

To my ex: I’m not a unicorn. You most likely said that just to make me feel special. I am a multifaceted dimensional human being who can’t always be happy all the time. I can’t dispense love whenever you want me to if you are not loving and respectful in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:13 PM
13

I like that your answer is fair and also gives the “good” guys a voice and how there are some women who are just as toxic. Also your latter paragraph about too spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:50 AM
0

Single fathers I get but why not divorced men? Is it because they did something so bad it had to lead to divorce?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:35 AM
25

Yes that is a wise thing to do: see if you enjoy each other’s company before bringing a child into the world. Noted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:43 AM
2

Lol got a second I thought I read men from Korean dramas. And I was like accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:37 PM
7

Magical is a spot on description and I know you didn’t intend it but I definitely felt called out by your last sentence lmao Totally agree though, taking accountability is needed even after one had gotten hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:56 PM
9

I think using titles like that is gross. That’s an interesting point, using terms like that box people in. For example, someone professing to be a love-bomber or narcissist... ok, you recognize what it is that you do, now how are you going to behave moving forward?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:43 PM
14

Lol I love your friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:41 PM
2

I think that’s true to some extent but if let’s say you are a racist or misandrist that is something you should feel something about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:02 PM
7

Can you go more into that? Sounds interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:33 AM
5

sooooo underrated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:28 AM
11

I remember a family member of mine looking at a pic of my ex and commenting he looks like a serial killer. I always thought his eyes look more beady and sketchy (always up to something).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:27 AM
4

You want to not feel sad anymore and that is normal. What are you going to do next to be active? Therapy could help if that’s a possibility.
/r/askFDS04/01/21 11:26 PM
7

Same guy? Good lord, I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:04 PM
8

The more you put a time limit on it the harder it is to move on. You are allowed to grieve. And remember it has only been a month. Be kind to yourself. I’m sorry that you are in pain right now.
/r/askFDS04/01/21 10:56 PM
57

Even if a guy watches anime, I would be more mindful of who their favorite characters are and what type of animes they watch. Ex: My ex’s favorite female character is Rem from Re Zero. Snippet from wiki on this character: “After Subaru saves her, she falls deeply in love with him, becoming one of his most loyal followers. Rem will stick with him no matter what happens, even if Subaru rejects himself.” Gross, right? Another anime that he likes is Kaguya sama: Love is War. It’s basically a lengthy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:29 PM
3

I wouldn’t say just men and it depends on the reason why they make you feel bad. If the person is holding you accountable to doing something honest, it’s natural that you would feel bad. You move forward and be mindful of what you’ve done. If they accuse you of doing something that isn’t true, then by all means, don’t spend time with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:50 PM
11

Reminds me of a Twitter user who lost 40k that she wasn’t able to recover from. She was young. Here’s her post: https://mobile.twitter.com/bcrypt/status/1292550669044297728
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:22 PM
4

Oh my god. I wanted to throw up when you said enlightened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:30 AM
0

Can there be a conservative who is respectful and willing to engage in civil discussion?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:24 AM
4

Kudos to everything you said. Daphne’s mother had apparently a good marriage from what she mentioned and I’m skeptical of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:25 AM
6

“Emotions are a weakness to men. People will only use it against you later.” - my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:30 AM
10

Dated a conservative and maybe I picked a bad one out of the bunch but man that was a dumpster fire of a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:12 AM
16

Don’t date boys who uses the following words: simp, beta orbiter, The Wall, manosphere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:01 AM
4

You live with it. You shouldn’t have done that in your relationship. It wasn’t healthy. He should have paid more attention to you. But should have could haves are what you come face to face with after these things happened. In your next relationship you take all the lessons you’ve learned from this one and do better, because that’s all you can do.
/r/askFDS01/01/21 03:55 PM
1

Banks (Goddess, Gemini Feed, Weaker Girl) Mae Muller (Therapist) Destiny’s Child (Bug a Boo) Beyoncé (Irreplaceable, Best Thing I Never Had)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:56 AM
39

Everybody has different standards but my god there are COMMON standards that are the baseline for any relationship to even stand and people still won’t meet that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:29 AM
8

Yeah. I hated myself because I felt like as a woman I was weak. Me telling them I was being treated poorly was deemed as me building him up to be the bad guy and me liking playing victim. So I started ignoring some things. I was not empathetic or agreeable enough otherwise I would let things slide. I was too emotional and demanding even though what I wanted was just basic emotional support and communication. I hate being a woman. I still do to some extent. Since the relationship and my discovery…
/r/askFDS30/12/20 04:39 PM
10

Didn’t bother even reading the chunk of text. The title was enough; dump him.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 04:48 PM
5

But if they upgrade wouldn’t the independent strong will woman be an attack on their existence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:10 PM
6

No, no, no, no. Oh man did I eff up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:42 PM
8

No, we hold a different standard for little girls and that’s why it seems that way. Children are watchful with what’s going on for example which of the two parents...mummy and daddy...is doing the most work...Should I go into a deep dive into toys too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:31 AM
28

The ML in Bridgerton refused to accept the family’s dowry and told her brother to put in her trust. This might seem like a cop out but he he refused to marry Daphne because he holds her in high regards and saw that they both wanted different things. He didn’t want to take away her dreams of becoming a mother. Not saying this imaginary dude is perfect but
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:17 PM
15

Me three.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:41 PM
12

Goodness dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:03 PM
3

What age did they meet? Are they married? Curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:35 PM
3

Surprised neither of you guys thought about moving over and talking on the phone or virtual dates. Texting isn’t indicative of anything. It isn’t REAL communication. That being said, neither of you guys talking for two weeks yikes. He hasn’t initiate a virtual date or suggested something to replace an in person date. Yikes. I’m getting he’s just not that into you vibes. If you have to force it it’s shit. Move on sis.
/r/askFDS28/12/20 01:03 AM
24

“Want to see” ah that hurts sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:51 PM
14

My guy best friend is everyone’s best friend and he is the voice of reason amongst all of us, always trying to get some common sense in our heads when we end up in bad situations. So can’t disagree more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:34 PM
25

“They know” is equivalent to “If he wanted to he would. What matters is that he didn’t.” But less of a mouthful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:37 PM
2

Many tears and so much time wasted over boys who were not worth it. Emotionally bankrupt at this point. Can relate.
/r/askFDS27/12/20 02:23 AM
20

Saved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:14 AM
1

Not at all. You can still point things out without being triggered. I’ve made the mistake of using women and females interchangeably in the past as well before I learned the difference between the two terms. Thought it was worth sharing.
/r/askFDS27/12/20 12:15 AM
1

Women, not females. Using the word female reduces a woman to her reproductive parts.
/r/askFDS26/12/20 10:52 PM
1

1) If you are looking for something serious, don’t waste your time looking for it in college. Everyone is headed off in different directions. Don’t put a boy over your career. 2) I can see you’re conflicting yourself already. You are no looking for a serious boyfriend but you are in 1 ??? You should figure out what you want first. 3)Vet, vet, vet. Figure out your non negotiables. Don’t be drawn in by the bare minimum. When I see people list oh but he’s nice, communicative, honest, sincere etc, I…
/r/askFDS26/12/20 10:48 PM
60

Different people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:32 PM
5

Someone crown this queen already and give her her scepter for speaking the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:35 PM
4

To add on to that: But what matters is that he didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:15 PM
5

Can confirm. Your post actually makes my blood boil. Being able to be considerate about others’ pronouns should take what only five minutes of their time and these individuals act like it is SUCH an inconvenience. Knew an individual who doesn’t take PC culture seriously but is quick to correct you if you pronounce his name wrong. How hypocritical. Agreed. I find individuals who use “simp” to be immature (I am expecting that who I am dealing with is an adult, not a teenager) and I’m now quick to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:36 PM
5

Been there, done that. Hopefully never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:11 PM
40

“ I see that you are mad, do you need to talk later?” *gets ignored
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:21 AM
52

It’s scary. Behind closed doors that’s when people’s “real” personality shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:50 AM
15

Life happens. You got this queen. And you deserve all those good things!
/r/askFDS23/12/20 10:47 PM
55

Different visions for the future and lifestyle is a red flag. Finally met a man who is child free, has integrity, and overall, really into self improvement (like me!). Problem: emotionally mature (I wasn’t at the time!), Age difference, he’s a homebody, and more established in his career/in himself. My last ex was the complete opposite. Not much of an age difference, adventurous, more align progress wise (career). Problem: Wants children, Lack of emotional maturity, misogynistic comments (wtf do…
/r/askFDS23/12/20 10:40 PM
7

Thank you for bringing this up. That’s kind of my minute problems with FDS the way we treat LVM/HVM so statistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:22 AM
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Comic artist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:12 AM
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Can confirm. Ex working a govt job, considered to be most likely to succeed in high school, CS nerd, overall a very smart, logical guy. Some cracks though: Misogynistic comments and insensitive to boot. Lacking in emotional intelligence. Won’t lie, hard to see that one go. It took me a long time to EVEN acknowledge no amount of good times and fun is worth putting up with someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:08 AM
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Zach wienersmith?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:30 PM
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I wouldn’t say wired. The societal template all of us are given at birth certainly has an effect but at the end of the day it’s this person’s choice NOT to care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:45 PM
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While she’s at deleting his ass, she should delete her social media. It’ll only dampen her mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:48 AM
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Can relate. I got compared to a unicorn before the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:06 PM
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No way in hell. Don’t even talk about who you previously dated. It usually generates some insecurity.
/r/askFDS21/12/20 09:43 PM
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I wouldn’t go that far. This vid is meant to uplift those who are moping around and unable to let go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:25 PM
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You mean boy in your title. Boy, not man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:44 AM
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My ex, upon sitting down, said happily that he and I are going to get along after I told him I’ll pay for my meal. This was like date 2 or 3. I used to always feel uncomfortable with people treating me. Man, I should have taken that as a sign. I used him now a template as for what I want in the future: my partner should pay for the first date and others down the line and be physically active (hiking is a big hobby of mine), child free, be a little in the know when it comes to politics and if pos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:53 AM
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The one crucial thing this community has taught me: “Yes, if he wanted to, he would. What matters is that he didn’t.” This mantra has saved me from long nights of ruminating and wanting to run back to that person. Some other things that come to mind is not being afraid to focus on my well being even if it risks me looking like a b**** . I’m not dating right now but looking back, I used to be much more accepting of big age gaps. Now I can’t even withstand watching this dynamic play out in the dra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:05 AM
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I begged him to stay even though I was the one who issued the ultimatum: either we work on our relationship problems or I’m going. My patience was wearing thin, due to the lack of communication and pent up frustration. In a single sentence, he gave me the answer that I didn’t want. He calmly replied,” Alright I’ll break up with you then.” The begging lasted days. When I finally stopped, he hit me up with a text, asking “Did you give up yet?” And I am ashamed for sticking around longer than I sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:24 PM
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That third picture I feel that so much in my energy some days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:33 AM
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Early to mid 20s is terribly young to get married in my opinion, because the influx of change. Anyone knows if she’s his first girlfriend? She has every right to be upset when and if he tells her. He must NEVER come back to her and disturb her peace after this, so I hope he thought about this thoroughly. He says it’s happy and perfect but if there’s a constant whispering in his ear that he should go, he should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:01 AM
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I see. It’s the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 10:47 PM
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Curious, how is sweet and consistent a bad thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:44 PM
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Asha Christina brought up an interesting point of how if a man relies on a woman financially that’s considered support. Flip the gender script and the woman is automatically reduced to a gold digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:32 PM
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Thanks for the explanation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:11 PM
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Wondering how society would react if it was a woman saying that. This is taken from Are You The One?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:26 PM
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Lmao that’s how I thought about my ex: the Elliot Rodger type. So angry and can’t just accept dating is hard for BOTH men and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:00 PM
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I think of it along the same vein that just bc two people get on really well doesn’t mean y’all would make great partners nor both parties want the same thing. Not every good chemistry should lead to something more. Sometimes a good friendship is all it’s meant to be sis. That’s not a failure on anyone’s end, that’s life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:41 PM
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I’m curious. How is “let’s see where it goes” different from the FDS response (“Just be you. I’ll let you know if I see.” Some variation of that)? I find both responses to be ambiguous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:10 AM
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This post reminds me of the Tiktok that was posted a while back where the woman asked, “What did she [the new woman in his life] win?” She gets all the messiness he put you through. One of the things I regret is not walking away from bad behavior instead I decided to ComMUnicAtE how they hurt me and can treat me like a decent human being. Also it’s not enough to just realize a bad quality but are they willing to work on it? Last guy I was with recognized he was insensitive but did squat to chang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:00 AM
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I made past the six month mark as well. Congrats. Won’t lie, I’m a bit touch starve and kinda wishing I have a special someone during this holiday season.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:03 PM
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Met my ex on bumble, an app that requires women to initiate. The fella decided to ask later if I want to go to his city (which was three hours away mind you) to see him; I declined. Initiated conversation with him a year later which was stupid on my end because he even acknowledged that he treated me like shit but I still came back. First date I drove over to his state to see him. First in person serious conversation to resolve a problem guess who drove over. Post break up guess who was suggeste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:56 PM
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I feel this post in my energy today. Thank you sis. 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:29 AM
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I was in denial for a long time that my ex didn’t know better. It was his first relationship so I gave him a free pass for being derogatory and insulting. My best friend pointed out that he chooses to act that way and he’s proud of it. And my ex has lived long enough on this earth that he knows how to act properly. What I sometimes say in my head: if he is doing an interview with HR you know he’s gonna be civil as hell. So why can’t he do the same for chu sis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:13 PM
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Maybe controversial? Don’t date till your late 20s early 30s if you are looking for a serious relationship but even that I’m still iffy about. I think the lessons you could learn from a failed relationship are ones you can easily acquire from friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:45 PM
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It’s not a “you” thing. Be aware that 90% of relationships end before 30. Around early 20s most people are still interested in playing the field. It’s sadly normal for people to play pretend to get something they want. Terrible I know, but there’s no point dwelling (easier said than done!) because what I do see, while briefly scanning your writing, is a boy who’s not into you. Time to block him and move on sis.
/r/askFDS13/12/20 11:08 PM
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I think that depends on the place. My last ex picked some amazing places for us to hike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:15 AM
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With my recent ex I told him that I wasn’t happy with our relationship for XYZ reasons, some had to do with how routine our relationship became but mainly our communication issues. His response? “You will never be happy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:39 PM
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Once it had happened. Not sure if I should probe and initiate a serious conversation unless it becomes a repeating offense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:48 PM
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Does it matter if it was a one time thing? I should have been clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:43 PM
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Sounds like these women were pulled in by sweet nothings and cheap gestures or they wanted love so badly they were willing to overlook trash. (I’ve been there!) And sadly by the time they faced any cognitive dissonance they got attached, which understandably makes it harder to leave. So weird to say but you can have good times with a misogynist, you can fall in love with them even, you can find traits in your misogynist partner that you may like. They’re conflicting truths but they can coexist. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:53 AM
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Not a parent but I’m curious to know what advice you would have in regards to helping a daughter not internalize so much the social script of caretaker/nurturer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:24 AM
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How to respond if your BF jokes about wanting a threesome?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:03 AM
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Hm. I like that he reads a variety of literature because reading fiction I think fosters a degree of empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:07 PM
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Post break up I had someone apologized for not being there emotionally (ie emotionally supportive). Thinking about it now, I’m like, why? Who or what was preventing you? He added how emotions are a weakness to men, later bringing up how I didn’t go to him and decided to establish some arbitrary boundary. Nothing but contradictory excuses in my eyes. Ultimately, you weren’t there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:22 PM
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Learned this recently after ending a friendship: If you feel like you have to put in extra work to reach a baseline of “normal in the friendship/relationship, why are you surprised that the outcome isn’t satisfying? Do yourself a favor and cut it off, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:12 PM
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Can confirm: Had an ex who grew up with money and his parents still together. Didn’t stop him from being an insensitive, (slightly) misogynistic,insulting, derogatory, emotionally immature POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:29 PM
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Just want to point out you might exhibit anxious attachment behaviors if you are paired with someone who’s more avoidant than you. I see it as a sliding scale. General advice: Be vocal about when you need large emotional distance. Those who care about you will understand, those who don’t well they’re not worth your time. Initiating a conversation, sharing your emotions or personal thoughts in small doses. You might feel vulnerable at the beginning but it’s okay. Give yourself permission to retra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:52 AM
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My ex sent me a goodbye/closure message detailing all the times he should have left me, which was stupid because each bullet point ended with him pointing out how he had ignored an issue. It was written in such a proud manner, like I should commend him for doing a difficult task. Keeping his “grievances” to himself and ignoring problems. Was. Partially. Why. The. Relationship. Failed. I can’t fix stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:42 PM
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Asha Christina is one that comes to mind. I stop watching Breeny Lee when she expressed in one of her vids people take political correctness or political identity or cancel culture too seriously(bad memory sorry).
/r/askFDS03/12/20 01:11 PM
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