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I never considered this. I will try. Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 11:48 AM
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He’s between 1.5 and 2 years old. I have slept through without waking once or twice. But usually anywhere from 2 to 5 wake ups
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 03:06 AM
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He never took a bottle. Doesn’t like the taste of regular milk either. Old enough now to drink from a sippy cup or open cup! My husband won’t do that. I mentioned it’s common and helpful for the partner to step in during night weaning because the child can often accept different soothing methods from different people. He said No
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 08:44 PM
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Yes that’s true. The middle of the night is a recipe for disaster. I’m going to try talk to him again tonight but honestly I’m worried it’s going to make him withdraw from me too. I’m having a hard time feeling positive about it. Thank you for the weaning advice
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 08:38 PM
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The first time I wanted to night wean was because my son’s nursing behaviours changed and was causing a severe lack of sleep. In the 2 months since then I’ve been trying to cut out as much daytime feeding as possible and all eat less in the hopes my milk supply will dry up. I’m not about the D-mer. It could be but I’m not sure
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 08:34 PM
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Can you share with the me if there’s somewhere I am going wrong with my feelings on this? I have actual feelings of anger during the night feedings because my son tries to roll on me and won’t unlatch and I’m laying there still trying not to disrupt anyone but I feel so uncomfortable I can’t ignore it and also feel like If I do anything about it I’m creating a rift in my marriage
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:55 PM
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Thank you for the suggestion, I have tried offering water but the baby is going to cry when he doesn’t get what he is used to. I have many reasons wanting to night wean! My son hardly ate any solids and dropped 50 percentile points between 12-18 months. I only saw improvement in his solid intake when I cut out some of his daytime feeds. And like you mention, better for his teeth too!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:50 PM
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Unfortunately we live in a small apartment! I tried going into 2nd bedroom and also living room. Both fights happened outside our main bedroom
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:46 PM
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Hi thank you for sharing! We also cosleep! My husband hasn’t made it through the first 5 minutes of crying during the first wake up. I think something becomes triggered in him and I don’t know how to move past it. The conversation is focussed on me taking what’s apparently a joint decision and making it my decision Btw congrats on a new baby on the way :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 07:19 PM
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I have 1 kid ( 1.5 years ) and he watches tv everyday.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 09:57 PM
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It’s tough because, as you said, you don’t want to build resentment. Would NOT complaining be a lie of omission in some way? Would he be shocked if the complaints you’re holding back about the relationship came to surface as a bigger problem or fight in the future? Maybe you can bring up a problem by asking him to consider a potential solution “ I have something I wanted us to think about for the next few days … “ This way you’re not just complaining and he can also take time to process what you…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 02:33 AM
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these remote controlled flameless candle I have them. They look really good
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 12:38 AM
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Super cool Swiss Army/pocket knife?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 12:35 AM
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I’d say “ I was planning to pay for half the date. Does that sound good to you ?” And based off his reply I’d decide whether or not it’s worth it to ME to go on the date.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 09:15 PM
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I recently watched a dating show ( love after divorce Korea )and the woman bought mugs for her and her final pick with their first initials on them, and then also these goofy shirts that read “ if lost, return to _____ “ featuring a cute/funny photo of the other person’s face. The guy absolutely cracked up and they drank their coffees out of those cups and wore the shirts out on a date together. It was really endearing and cute.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 04:17 AM
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Omg thank you!! I was telling my friend about it and could not find it
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 08:59 PM
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If it were me, I would tell my partner that he wasn’t a dependable person when I needed to place my trust in him. I’ll let it go…but also, lesson learned. Meaning, if there is a similar problem in the future you recommend he enlist a friend or hire someone to help him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 06:58 PM
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Following. I am in a similar position…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 06:15 PM
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Ugh no you didn’t screw up. You sound classy and he is not a guy you should strive to date
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 11:43 PM
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I felt like there was a good chance you’d already tried something like this!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 06:55 PM
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Could you phrase the finance discussion not about demanding saving for a house, but creating a safety net and saving for your child’s future? It might be easier for him and to get on board and start saving regularly when the money will feel like a surplus stowed away, as opposed to something that you’re going to use to take on monstrous debt
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 04:21 PM
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OK got it! Somebody else suggested that as well. Let the emotions sit because they might pass on their own!
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 05:32 PM
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Thank you for the steps and thoughtful reply :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 12:24 PM
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So yesterday we had a conversation about me feeling very low when my emotional needs are dismissed. This point you’re making - he made as well. He said the problem splicing is his way of taking care of me and the baby. He also said he can’t read between the lines. So if what he offers I not what I wanted to hear , he won’t magically know what’s wrong because he’s doing the best he can
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 12:09 PM
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Hi! What do you mean by releasing anxiety internally? Do you have an example for me ? Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 11:59 AM
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Actually you’ve read the situation wrong. I am confident in saying he is not lying about where he is going and what he is doing. Our day-to-day life is peaceful and not filled with these discussions. As I mentioned on another comment this type of scenario is playing out a few times a year
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 10:18 AM
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As you’ve gotten better at letting it go, has your husband become any more in-tune to when you feel he’s spoken too harshly?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 10:38 PM
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I’m sure this is at play like you described. It’s interesting how you mention the experience like a newfound freedom. That’s a very positive way to look at it he does tell me I can share anything with him, but sometimes it’s hard to believe it. I try to never be harsh with him or critical because that’s how I want to be treated. But TBH I don’t think he would take it personally if I was.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 10:30 PM
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Him - close knit immigrant family. Through thick and thin type of people. Mine - emotionally distant and conditional love We’ve talked a lot about our childhood .We are different races/culture and we laugh and cry, about how different they were from each others
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 10:27 PM
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In recent months I’ve identified 2 standout events from my childhood that I know deeply impacted why I feel this way. The sense that behind my back the people close to me are hiding that they don’t like me. Interestingly they involved females…my mom and also some friends. You’ve given me a lot to think about how I projected this onto my romantic relationship with a man. Thanks again for a thoughtful reply. I will try your advice.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 07:12 PM
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Thank you , this is helpful
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 07:03 PM
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I must admit the expectation to be coddled is fairly accurate. Sometimes I can successfully let things go, but other times I get so anxious worrying he might be secretly upset with me. Even saying this I know I have some problems. Btw The scenario I described plays out a few times per year. I’m not sure if it’s the threshold of how minuscule the event is that I’m bringing up or the repetition of having the same conversation over the years that’s created more of a problem
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 06:09 PM
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I am assuming you’re talking about how to bring up your timeline for marriage and family with the best chance of “ success “… not scaring them off, finding out if you’re on the same page, etc… I think if you make the decisions together to become an exclusive relationship that would be a good time. Because then you can say you want a relationship that leads to X, Y, Z. I’d emphasize my excitement for the future life I imagine, but keep it non pressuring about it being HIM specifically that will b…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 12:59 PM
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Meh. I have a good body shape, average features, nice thick hair. My complexion has always been so-so with some imperfections. Now that I had a baby my attractiveness is definitely a point or two lower …
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 02:52 PM
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I didn’t feel close enough with any friends to ask them to be bridesmaids. I didn’t just want to have my 2 sisters cause we were never that bonded growing up ( large age gaps ). I ended up having no bridesmaids and my husband did the same with no groomsmen. And tbh, this fit the vibe of my wedding perfectly. We rented out a small but gorgeous upscale restaurant. We had a cocktail hour, got married with everyone (~ 50 guests ) standing around us in a big circle, and then had a lovely 3 course mea…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 12:52 AM
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Ok I understand what you are saying and the examples make sense. However, I think you are living in fairy land and potentially screwing yourself over in this relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 02:07 AM
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So he asked you to pay and instead of saying yes, you started questioning him about why and his last dating behaviour? It’s in your head that Sweet & Romantic = paying 100% of the time and that Occasionally Splitting = punishment for your career ( because if you couldn’t afford to pay he wouldn’t ask ). You are entitled to think this way, but I think you’re hyper focusing on one thing he said and being dramatic. Can you explain this “ masculine space “ thing more?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 01:50 AM
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How did this conversation start ? Did you ask him that ?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 01:25 AM
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OP this is important! I really think your BF is giving you an opening for you to show him a “ green flag “ with your actions. It’s not a red flag that he is asking. Take the green flag opportunity!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 01:24 AM
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I would offer to pay the bill BEFORE he asks you to the next time. This way you show him you are listening to him and appreciate him. After a little bit, you could have a conversation with him where you explain how much of a turn on it is to be “taken care of” on date nights ( as the other poster suggested ). You could explain that on nights he asks you to pay, you would prefer to buy groceries and take the time to cook him a romantic dinner. And then you could follow through with that. Set the …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 11:38 PM
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I use a credit card for everything. My husband manages the money and pays off the card. There is a ballpark number of what we need to cap monthly spending at between the 2 of us in order to save $. I get some maternity leave money right now, but it just gets pooled into the collective fund. I do not consult with him about buying groceries, baby essentials and clothes, a coffee or snack while out, or replenishing my personal care and beauty items. I do not regularly get my hair, nails, or any oth…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 02:50 PM
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Anecdotally, I started dating my husband when I was 21 and he was 31. We have a family now and I am lucky enough to stay home and care for our baby right now. Neither of us read anything Red Pill when we met. I was just attracted to an older guy who was incredibly wise and comforting, and he had his reasons for liking me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:56 AM
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This is really good context. If you add this info to the body of your original question, I think it would help others make their opinions/give the best advice!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 12:15 AM
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We don’t know if he is lazy. He might work more hours than she does or work a higher-stress job. Also, there are a lot more expenses that go into home ownership than the mortgage payment. The down-payment, property tax, upkeep costs, etc….which I would assume he will be covering. Definitely seems like a situation they should negotiate through to make sure both of them are comfortable with how things are split
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 10:02 PM
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I’m assuming he sees the monthly mortgage payment as a type of “shared rent”. Hmmm, if it’s ‘his’ house, I would say he should pay the mortgage, and then you could each contribute a % of income to sharing cost of groceries, electricity, water, subscription services, etc OR just split those costs 50/50. Maybe in exchange for all the “housemaker” tasks you do, he needs to cover all other home expenses (property tax, broken appliances, lightbulb replacements, snow blowing/lawn cutting, etc). Follow…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 09:57 PM
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My husband does a lot of these things too ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 03:51 AM
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Cleans the snow off my car before I’ll need to go somewhere any morning that it needs doing. Puts between 50-100 cash in my wallet every time notices I run out. Took over taking the dogs out for the morning pee break when I became pregnant even though he already has to start work much earlier than me
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 03:50 AM
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Wait, who are you speaking to?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/21 08:23 PM
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You said yourself, it might sound silly to pull away from him for this reason. I just agreed. Now that you have some feedback from other women, hopefully they gave you the advice you were looking for. I think understanding his timeline is important. Because if he wants a family sooner, then maybe he won’t even be an option for a serious relationship. That’s all. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 01:25 AM
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Hi, 27F here. Husband is 37M with no low energy problems. It does sound silly. You’re “experimenting” , not exclusive, and just enjoying the perks of dating a more established man. But then also pulling back because your worried he will have low energy as a 38 year old father?? What?! You are getting way too ahead of yourself here. These conversations naturally come up in relationships. If you have good communication it shouldn’t be a problem to casually ask if he wants a family one day and if s…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 08:09 PM
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Not true, I acknowledge the reality of that
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 12:55 PM
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Good for you! Others have mentioned that it’s a women’s responsibility to do proper vetting with partners. Is this what you mean by “taking care of yourself” ?
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 02:34 AM
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I also don’t think women should waste a man’s time, effort, and money
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:14 AM
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Thanks for the thoughtful reply
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:12 AM
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I will add to my thoughts and say that I also encourage women not to waste a man’s time, money, and effort. This is equally important.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:11 AM
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Hi, I will look into the “no moralizing” rules closer to make sure I phrase my posts better in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:09 AM
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Who do you recommend ?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 03:14 PM
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You’re so right about the long relationships. I happen to be married and am not having this problem, but I feel for the other women out there !!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 03:00 PM
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You’re so right about the long relationships. I happen to be married and am not having this problem, but I feel for the other women out there !!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 03:00 PM
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Same! I’ve never posted on either group before this comment. Yet they did a blanket ban on anyone part of this group. So silly
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:17 AM
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Yes I feel the same way
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 03:46 PM
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