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MINDSET SHIFTNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:08 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:56 PM
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STAY WOKENeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:34 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMENeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 11:43 AM
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QUEEN SH*TNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:36 PM
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PICKME CULTURENeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:04 PM
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#JustLVMThingsNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:55 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:58 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:23 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:37 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:28 PM
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#KickHimOut2020Neorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 08:50 PM
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SEEKING ADVICENeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:08 PM
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DISCUSSIONNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:22 AM
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QUEEN SH*TNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:37 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSNeorago/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:25 AM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
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"He was asking me sexual stuff and he was saying he couldn't wait to see me and that he'd cleaned his living room for me." Lmao wow, a grown man cleaning his living room?! Get me on that flight, ladies! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:31 PM
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"she's a normal human being. so she claims". Then he goes on to say "wait, she's not an angel, she wants sex like everyone else?" what?? First he says she's not a human being for liking sex then she's a human being for liking sex? Which is it? Does he know that angels don't REALLY exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:14 PM
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Don't forget the crazy eyefucking first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:53 PM
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You DON'T want to be felt up by a guy with chicken wing sauce all over his hands and mouth?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:51 PM
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Aaand this is why I no longer want to get married lol. Men are the real marriage trappers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:48 PM
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This. I was walking on a very narrow pavement with 3 men standing talking. I would have had to walk onto the road and around parked cars. Walked full steam ahead and when they realised I wasn't moving for them, they stepped backward and slipped off the pavement! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:26 PM
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"I knew on the first date she voted Tory; I’d expressed sympathy for Gordon Brown and she'd expressed disgust. In retrospect, perhaps I found this a thrill – something illicit – considering I’d been brought up to vote Labour, and will always vote Labour," facepalms. She told you her political beliefs from date one and you found it a turn on. But men are the LOGICAL ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:50 PM
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"And yet, a recent study found that, at least in the online dating world, women reach peak desirability around age 18. Men peak at age 50." At 18 I was only recently starting to develop physically and my face looked the same as when I was 15. Also doesn't peak suggest getting hotter up TO that age, insinuating we're attractive to men in the years under 18, too? And then we start to get less attractive? Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:21 PM
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"Pros of dating me: you'll be the good looking one" 🙄🙄 so what they're saying is they have nothing to offer basically?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:44 PM
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I'm wondering if he saw it at the thrift store, drew it on her hand then "found" it there and she took it as a ~sign~ it was the ring for her.. men really be making the effort to do the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:49 PM
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Looks like it was OP that called them fat and disgusting. Different pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:13 PM
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I also don't like how this is just teaching men how to be smarter about their intentions next time....Our time here should be used to level up and not be giving LVM any time of the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:25 AM
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Personally I want to take my husband's surname just to get rid of my NVM father's. I have thought about going back to my mum's maiden name but her father was also a NVM. I have been thinking about changing my surname right now, why wait for marriage, but I'm having difficulty thinking of a surname to take!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:55 AM
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YES! I love long hair on men but ONLY when it's well taken care of. See too many with long scraggly hair with a long strangly beard and it's obviously just out of laziness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:56 PM
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Armoured Sceptic Girl yes I followed her on Twitter for years and she CONSTANTLY spoke about him and fawned all over him. I think they were dating (and possibly) engaged for YEARS. I didn't know they broke up. ETA: https://youtube.fandom.com/wiki/Shoe0nHead . 3 year long engagement 🤡.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:38 PM
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Oh yes... my ex completely threw his co-worker under the bus for a promotion. That colleague resigned after. My ex laughed at that. Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:59 PM
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Same. 50/50 bills with a guy that worked less than me but earned more money. Also won a 5 figure sum. Did he spend it on a ring, a house deposit, a car, a holiday or just anything at all on me? Nope, computer parts and junk food. Sometimes the richest people are the stingiest. That's why they stay so rich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:36 PM
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Lol this. I'm such an obvious ISFJ (nostalgic, like my comforts, don't think or act outside the box) and I'll have N men in my inboxes like "ARE U SURE UR NOT AN INFJ? IVE NEVER GOT ALONG WITH A SENSOR BEFORE AND UR SMART SO U MUST BE AN N". Literally "you're not like the other girl" shit lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:32 PM
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I used to like MBTI but quickly realised every man on the internet that likes MBTI only likes to have a "rare" label that allows them to feel superior on the internet. It is rarely used for understanding others or for self improvement. I've met a few people from MBTI communities in person and they've all been really toxic, regardless of gender/type. Whilst it was a big hobby of mine for years, I tend to avoid those that proclaim their type on their dating profile but if I did choose to talk to o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:11 PM
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The real question is why are men so interested in being abusive? No-one chooses to be poor or homeless just like no woman chooses to be "interested" in being abused. It's a consequence of systematic misogyny and our upbringing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:45 PM
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I also love how they say women use dates to get free food. If I can afford to pay my rent, pay my bills, pay for the maintenance of my beauty that THEY want me to have, then I can afford pay for my own food. I don't need to sit through a few hours of boring conversation, uncomfortable questions/comments and a man trying to manipulate me into sex in order to get food lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:14 PM
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And if she's 14 then the guy will be of a similar age (well I hope so) so would be relying on his mommy to pay for the date anyway lmao so he's the one that benefits..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:25 PM
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Yup. My abuser was very calm and collected when we were together. He does not "look" like an abuser and he's very good at controlling himself but when I left he went nuts. He damaged our furniture, he bought new sim cards to call me, sent pages of writing to my mother, held my belongings hostage, sat outside my work waiting for me, took all the money from our account to try force me back. I was so scared for my life I travelled to the other end of the country to be with my family whilst riding i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:03 PM
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It was embarrassing having family and friends ask to see the cheap ring and ask how he proposed. He won a 5 figure sum and had a good paying job. He spent more on computer parts than he spent on my ring. People say the cost of a ring doesn't matter but it does when it's a signal of your "love" and the rest of your life together. It shows how much he values you more than everything else in his life. I built this obese, socially awkward slob to a man with a good job and a good life. A nice ring wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:03 AM
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Mine put mine in our 4th year anniversary card. Just gave it to me. No down on one knee, no actual "will you marry me". I left 5 months later. I aint counting that lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:33 AM
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SERIOUSLY, I can see this happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:12 PM
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From the sobber to the blocker and loving it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:09 PM
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I am so happy you got out of there! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:11 PM
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Met my ex online. Finally met him in person. Never saw him brush his teeth. No toothbrush in the bathroom. I thought maybe he just put it away each time he used it? Like into a drawer in the bathroom but I searched everywhere. I started being like "I'm going to brush my teeth" to see if he would get the hint and come but nope. Eventually I asked (after I left) if he brushed his teeth... he did say yes but funnily enough next time I was there, there was a toothbrush on the bathroom sill and he ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:46 PM
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This has been all over the news and it's soooo uncomfortable. They were married and divorced, leave them (and especially Jen) alone. People are talking about how they should get back together. Why? Brad was seen with Angelina and her son only 1 month after they divorce. Jen does NOT need him or any other man. Both women filed for divorce from him. He's a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:16 PM
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I think partly they say it because they want us to post pictures of ourselves so they can doxx us, masturbate over us, try to belittle us to make us feel bad, so on so forth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:52 PM
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Girl I'll one up you. I had this exact same scenario. An internet bully that blackmailed me for nudes when I was 14 and he was 16. I stood up for myself and he disappeared. Around 5 years later he turned up again and I thought he changed 🤡. I chased him, was abused over and over again for the year and a half that he kept refusing to meet me. He said it was because of me. Eventually we met and got together. Girl, when we met he didn't even have a toothbrush. He would gorge on food every day then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:43 PM
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Yep! I also love how following her win, she enrolled into a money management course, donated to charity and became a regular on a TV show with other intelligent people. QUEEN. Meanwhile one guy had £1000 to splash on entering to win, one was already a millionaire and one cheated.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:35 AM
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Girl, start by treating you the way you want to be treated. Take yourself on dates, buy yourself flowers, why do you need a man to treat you that way when you can do it all on your own?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:23 AM
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Your standards are yours to set, girl! If you don't like even 1 minute late, then that's totally OK. I agree, a man should be there waiting early if possible, if he planned it and asked you out then he should be making that effort to ensure it all goes smoothly including getting there on time. I would personally give a man 15 minutes max only if he was using public transport (I've been 5-10 mins late myself due to transport!) AND let me know he was running late, otherwise it's just bad manners. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:10 AM
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My cousin spent almost 2 decades with a man, they had a child at 17 but she always wanted more and wanted marriage but he wasn't budging on either. She dropped him, got married to her now husband a year later and has 2 more beautiful children. Never too late to drop LVM ladies :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:33 PM
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I think "lose you to love me" was about him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:22 PM
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Yes. Catcalling and beeping their car horn too should be illegal. I mean, it's harassment. Also no matter what you wear in public, no matter what you're doing, minding your own business, they're gonna leer at you. The problem is always with men and not with what a woman is wearing or acting therefore the men should be punished and not us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:14 PM
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No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:01 PM
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How about put effort into your looks, personality and career dude lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:53 AM
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What would happen if we started calling ourselves ethical misandrists? Do you think these guys would be cool with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:49 AM
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FDS has a spotify playlist :) https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2tQGzxeUeuVVFYgiExaaoo?si=CrOY6uoMRHaQxy24a-acOA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:49 PM
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"I did a criminology degree so I know it's usually the husband.. and that's probably what you're thinking.." yes, yes we are. I don't think he did it with his own hands but I do think he paid someone to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:59 PM
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Friends, boobs and travel!! Hell yeah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:18 PM
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This was the exact case I thought of when I saw the headline. Watching that whole series and others like it, 95% you just know the husband did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:59 PM
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Men stay friends with exes for sex. Full stop. Don't date a man that's still friends with his exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:05 PM
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Yeah, why DO women get shit on for wanting to be mothers but men don't get shit on for having kids then abandoning them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:37 PM
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They're narcs, my narc was similar. You do one thing "wrong" or not perfect and they thin it's a reflection on them, that's why they get so angry at you. Fragile egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:25 PM
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Ugh :( 3 years since I left mine and he still tries to contact or otherwise get into my life. When I've started new relationships he's came into my dreams too to remind me I was once "his". Yes I go to therapy but I'll be forever haunted by him. I guess it's the reminder of what I escaped and to never be treated that way again...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:06 PM
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Saw on my facebook today a woman praising her fiance for making her food after she had been at work all day without eating....... only to later say that she had actually made the sauce to go with it. Ridiculous. If we're going to keep praising men for the bare minimum they're never going to make proper effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:49 PM
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Oh and I'm so sure he'd love it if one of his 50 year old friends started dating his daughter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:46 AM
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This exactly! It makes me think that all his exes left him for another man cause he was treating her like shit! One of those where the woman tells him for months/years she is unhappy and then he's confused that she leaves him!! Happened w/ me and my ex, I left him cause he was abusive and he told everyone I left him for another man just because I started dating someone not long after it as I'd checked out the relationship long before I actually left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:25 PM
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A good boy! The best boy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:31 AM
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Used to getting drinks dates I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:24 PM
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I mean, look at his pathetic wispy hair in the bottom icon lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:05 PM
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Maybe he should provide a demonstration for us? :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:38 PM
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A wife material? What's that? Do you buy it from a store?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:02 PM
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Told a guy I didn't do drink dates. He then "jokingly" offered to take me to a car dealership before settling on asking me to walk up an extinct volcano he's always wanted to go to. Seriously..? How hard is it to buy someone dinner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:55 PM
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Yup, so many women, myself included, are raped as young vulnerable teenagers. Forced into sexual activities they don't want because of peer pressure or the guy pressuring her, drinking too much (or being spiked) and being raped, things that are seen as "normal" for young woman that you don't realise until you're older is actually rape...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:27 PM
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I agree that it's great to make a difference to someones life. We're not here to change people, they have to want to change themselves and nagging does the complete opposite. Personally smoking is a deal breaker for me and I won't date a smoker point blank - my ex was a weed smoker but told me he was giving it up because it wasn't worth it. A year later when he felt he didn't need to make effort with me anymore, he started smoking again and it had an impact on our relationship, so even if someon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:24 PM
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Seriously. 3 years since I left mine and he still talks about me/our relationship constantly to our mutual friends. He's in a relationship and had one prior to that but that doesn't stop him. I've had one serious long term relationship since too but I imagine even when I'm married he'll still be trying to get my attention or talking like he still "owns" me Sure, we mention our exes on here but that's within a dating conversation and certainly not to people we've just met and are looking to date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:53 AM
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No. If he messages you tomorrow you tell him you hadn't heard from him so you made other plans. That tells him that he needs to make more concrete plans with you and you won't drop everything for him last minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:25 AM
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You know, he could be..? They both lied about their height and are both disgusting but yet look down on a woman way out of their league lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:43 PM
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"We have an unwanted switch" No "we" didn't. She bought it. And an expensive one by his own admission. He doesn't get to decide what she does with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:14 PM
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I can totally relate with how happy she is that they finally leave her alone hahah Poor wendy though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:09 PM
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They only change on the outside, they never truly change on the inside. My NVM ex didn't even own a toothbrush when we met. I basically sorted out his physical appearance and encouraged him to get a job and take care of his health. He had a cheek to tell me after we broke up that I should make more of an effort to shave my body if I want to keep a boyfriend happy, lol! 3 years later and I'm still beautiful and desirable despite my occasional hairiness, he might be fit and wear flashy watches but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:56 PM
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My first ex won a 5 figure sum and earned 2x the amount I did. We split bills 50/50 and he had a £40 gift limit for me. He never took me on dates. When we broke up he paid £££ for a woman (who would never date or sleep with him) for gifts for her birthday. Men want to provide for women. If you let him away with not doing it, he will take you for granted and not invest in you at all. I also dated a student that had no money yet he was able to save up to take me on dates and put his prised possess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:52 PM
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I am also 27 and Brad Pitt is older than my dad. EW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:41 PM
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Yes. This is my first time single in 7 years. Prior to that I was abused by a male family member and I've received therapy and medication since a child due to men. Being alone and free of men is the first time in my life that I've ever felt physically and mentally well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:55 PM
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And often, choosing to not have one at all is the best choice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:48 PM
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Oh my god, yes! I used to be super into manga/anime/j and k drama as a teenager with social anxiety and I honestly feel like I was partially groomed into a pickme by this typical trope! I thought if I was cute quirky and persistent then someone would love me and I thought a man being cold and rude just meant to keep trying because he secretly loves me LMAO You're beautiful (kdrama), the wallflower (manga/anime/j drama). These women weren't as pickme as in playful kiss but the men were rude and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:04 PM
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Oh thank god, even before FDS I couldn't stand The Notebook. From what I remember, they were horrible to their current partners so they could be together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:20 PM
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Come to the discord ladies! https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hie1w8/join_the_fds_discord_server_to_keep_in_touch_with/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:30 PM
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Yep, my narc would get upset that he couldn't make me squirt (I have never squirted before...) whilst simultaneously not even attempting to help me orgasm at all lol. No foreplay at all just him forcing me into bondage/kink and getting his orgasm then wondering why I never came.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:33 PM
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Some guy tried this with me, he asked questions like "tea or coffee?" "sweet or salty?". Of course, every answer I gave was the "correct" one 🙄. In the end I "won" a date to be his... future ex-wife? No thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:23 PM
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I do this for myself regularly! Self love is awesome :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:29 AM
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His face at the end LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:53 PM
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It's ok I'm sure it's EtHiCaLly NoN-mOnOgaMoUs or whatever that shit is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:35 PM
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It's nice for his wife but I can't help but feel sorry for the forever gf and her wasted time. "According to him, it all started with an ex-girlfriend he was with at the time. Colbert’s ex-girlfriend really wanted to get married, but he was not too sure about it. In order to sort out his feelings, Colbert decided to take a trip to his hometown of Charleston, South Carolina. It was here that he talked to his mother about the situation. His mother helped him make sense of what was going on and Col…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:39 PM
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I'm sure there were rumours that Simon was gay as well which only went away when he got with his current partner and had a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:07 PM
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This! I read the things my ex was saying to our mutual friends after we broke up. He made out that all he did was shout at me for spilling milk or "neglect" me for video games when the reality was it was years of abuse that affected me for a long time and always will. This is not the other side, this is an abusers justification and downplaying of the victims. THERE IS NO OTHER SIDE IN ABUSE. Only the victims. Lundy's book talks about how abusers feel they are justified in what they do and don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:47 PM
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HE THINKS HE'S THE VICTIM JESUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:17 PM
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This is happening to me a lot. If you want my expert advice you pay me or call our helpline and wait like everyone else. That or they try tell me how to do my job. So fucking audacious. If we asked them to come out and fix their leaky sink or our car, they'd expect sex in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:09 PM
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I'm watching this series right now. ALL of the men are like this pretty much. It basically just shows you the women cleaning up after their men and the men spending 2k on their stag do and giving their fiances a table in a club with a £80 tab for their hen do lmao. Just got to the episode where the guy gets his mom (she's portuguese I think?) to bake him and his 6 or so friends cakes for his stag and admits if he hadn't moved in with his fiance he would still be staying with his mom. Ofc he woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:06 PM
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When a man needs to grip his penis really hard in order to cum. They're unable to ejaculate during foreplay/sex because they've got so used to the aggressiveness they use with their hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:39 PM
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"But after having my heart destroyed a while ago" you mean after ignoring what she was saying for months and being "blindsided" when she decided to finally leave lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:57 PM
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This. Don't even ask if you're still on if he hasn't confirmed date/time/venue. A man wouldn't give up a date to "get to know" his housemates lmao he's definitely double booked with another date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:31 PM
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I think it's entirely up to you and there isn't really an FDS way. We aren't trying to impress or marry them so do whatever feels most comfortable to you - it doesn't matter what they think or feel about it. Personally I would ignore mine, I don't care about being mature or ~classy~ towards someone that has no place in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:12 PM
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No shade at all, just a little weird my ex was so disgusted by vagina but loved getting his butt played with. For a "straight man" he really hates women, huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:19 PM
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It's just so insensitive towards him as he IS the father of a stillborn child. But hey, if it's not alive to carry on his legacy, does it count?! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:57 PM
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I love dating younger men! I love seeing older women couples - typically an older woman can't oppress a younger man in the way an older man can with a younger woman. We just don't hold that kind of power in society. Unfortunately most single men younger than me aren't looking for marriage but it's still preferable to the men that are older, fatter, balder and with more baggage... I dated a man 5 years younger than me and he liked that I was responsible and independent and didn't need him. His fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:48 PM
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When I left my abuser he told people I left him for a man (?? I didn't) and that I was texting other guys. Yet he's been laughing and joking about his friend having AFFAIRS with TWO MARRIED WOMEN. The double standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:34 PM
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NVM ex wouldn't eat pussy but loved a finger up his butt... sounds kinda gay to me lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:18 PM
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I started watching it to remind myself of what I will never accept ever again. It's much easier to see from an outsiders perspective. However, I honestly can't help but just feel really sorry for the women on it. The fact they've been told that marriage is the end goal for them and even when they're crying and being forced to do things they don't want to do on THEIR WEDDING DAY, they still feel like they have to go through it because it's expected of them and they need to be married to have wort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:47 PM
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well... has he done it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:13 PM
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How on earth did women get the stereotype of being crazy when men literally can't take rejection or a no? I have a guy I spoke to for 2 days still stalk me and try to message me everywhere he can like, THAT'S fucking crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:23 PM
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I had the exact same experience! A group of young norweigan men who I got matched with in a game. They invited me to their discord so we could all play again. They just treated me like part of their group, praising me when I did good and supporting me when I messed up. They were non toxic towards each other as well and they just spoke about their studies and hanging out, no crudeness. Loved those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:03 AM
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Yup. Happened to me on 3 occasions. Rather, they would play up to the camp stereotype so you assumed they were gay until they're asking you out after a year of friendship, you say no and they turn your whole friendship group against you, yeah..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:02 AM
71

And a gtfo to all the men that keep trying for decades cause they think no means try again later 💀 💀 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:27 PM
71

This is what they want btw. They insult us so we engage with them and "prove" to them we're attractive and desirable. It's reverse psychology lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:26 PM
11

All the damn time. I work for a company that is seen as the expert in its field. I get men all the time though telling me their ideas in how to solve the issue. If it could be solved by your one idea there wouldn't be a 200 strong company dedicated to solving it would there?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:27 PM
17

Yup! A guy asked me the whole how long have you been on here, what's your experience been like then asked what I was looking for. I simply said "a man that knows what he wants, you?". He said "I'm looking for casual so I guess you could say I know what I want". HA! Nice try. I said, indeed but that's not what I'm looking for, best of luck. He said he understood but we could be friends. Uh no, it's a dating app and I have friends. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:00 PM
4

LVM ex: Really funny, thought he was the only guy in the world that was treating me like a friend and not trying to get in my pants. I had been through a traumatic relationship and other guys were using my vulnerable state to try get me into some sort of relationship with them. In hindsight, I think my ex was the same he just acted like he was more passive and pretended to be friendly when he secretly wanted more NVM ex: I was the only person he was nice to so I thought that meant something.. li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 06:08 PM
5

I don't understand how buying properties in a pandemic is sexy anyway? Like sure it shows he takes opportunities and probably has money but there is a shortage of safe, affordable housing for most people and buying multiple properties to let out is fundamentally exploitative (sorry, got my working hat on..). I'd also be very suspicious of someone I barely know telling me they're buying a lot of houses - it's probably a lie to try impress you and looks like it worked. We don't get impressed easil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:59 PM
19

Also opens you up to unsolicited dick pics... I think there's a post floating about on how to get a fake number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 07:40 PM
11

I really wish the guys I've rejected would leave me alone. I met a guy on a dating site pre FDS, he lured me in by pretending to like something I like, I wasn't attracted to him. I spoke to him for about 2 days when I was still a pickme but then after he started saying weird things I unfriended him, unmatched and blocked everywhere I had him. He later liked me on another dating app but I did not like back. I joined a new dating site and he has just messaged me (again, I did not like him back but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:15 PM
36

Yup, chasing what he couldn't have and when he got it, he didn't want it anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:59 PM
35

Personally when someone says that, I unmatch straight away if we haven't been talking long or I say"we're looking for different things, best of luck" if we've been talking for a while just to be a bit more polite and then unmatch but you don't even need to say that at all, you can just unmatch whenever. Saying "we MAY be on different pages" lets them try to wriggle out of it. If someone shows a red flag or tells you they are NOT looking for something serious, you MUST unmatch or they will string…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:05 PM
67

Simple. Invite (or pretend to) a male friend over for drinks one to one. See how he reacts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:33 AM
1

Buy yourself flowers! I've arranged for flowers (and free chocolates!) to come for me tomorrow, I'm so excited lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:37 PM
10

A bath when I had one! Lighting a nice smelling candle Rubbing essential oils on my skin Going to the sauna (pre covid and if you can get a woman only one) Shopping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:44 PM
6

I train in housing law and advocate for homeless people's human rights. A few weeks ago I had a guy pop up on tinder "I would put on an apron and distribute soup to homeless people if it meant standing next to you!". That is not what my job is. It's fucking patronising and insulting to both myself and to homeless people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:08 PM
3

The only reason I tried Tinder was because most people are on there instead of a dating site but you're right that about 98% of them are looking for sex and low effort. It's sitting sifting through hoping that the next person you've decided to give a chance isn't going to ask you some totally inappropriate sexual question. When my membership is done it's getting deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:19 PM
5

You've literally wrote nothing in your post or response that shows you feel bad for the GIRLFRIEND. It's all about you and cutting off communication with someone you shouldn't have gotten involved with in the first place. Yeah the guy is the douche but it isn't sisterhood to knowingly kiss and date a man who has a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:46 PM
2

NVM ex quit video games when I left him. He used to neglect me for them all the time. He lost weight and got fit too which I kept encouraging him to do but he'd sit on his lard ass eating takeout every weekend. Started meeting up with my friends when he'd never accompany anywhere before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:17 PM
10

This. They just get better at masking their behaviour so they can play a woman for longerr, they never truly change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:53 PM
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Yall me and my ex had a joint account where we 50/50 on bills and date nights 🤡. When we'd go shopping or on dates, he would refuse to let me use my card and always used his so he could pretend that he was the provider even though half of it was my money rofl 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:52 AM
3

When I was 18 I remember walking into a pub (18 is legal age here) and a guy shouting "are you even allowed in here?! you look about 12!". Guess who was in my facebook messenger the following day chatting me up? He was 25. In hindsight, it's totally gross, he said I look like a child and then proceeded to flirt with me for several months following that. He is now 34 and has 2 children with a 24 year old. I still have a baby face, all the women in my family do, and I'm always getting called cute.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:40 PM
5

We had one of women discussing abusive men in the area or women asking for information on men they were dating. Men found out about it and retaliated by creating a group to talk about their exes in bed. Cause that's totally the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:33 PM
56

I know a guy who beat 2 women and got away with it and the third time he beat his pregnant girlfriend he got rehab instead of a sentence because he used to be an amateur footballer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:42 AM
10

Me too. He would check my birth control pack and ask why I had taken them :( I left because I knew if I got pregnant I would be tied to him forever and any daughters I had would go through the same cycle of finding abusive men like their father and I couldn't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:16 PM
20

I don't think a HV 50 year old man would be dating a 30 year old woman. If he was HV he would be mature and dating/married to someone closer to his age, not someone that could be his daughter. Think about your father dating someone 20 years younger. Also, are you willing to start caring for him when he's in his 70's and you're in your 50's?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:36 PM
6

I've tried telling men this but because men in the media are becoming older fathers with younger women, they think it's going to happen to them too. Most likely those older celebs are getting their younger girlfriends pregnant through IVF which costs a lot of money and isn't viable for most normal men. I've read articles that pregnancy is more successful in older woman younger man than older man younger woman. But they aint ready for that talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:28 PM
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I'm sorry. It sucks both way. A friend of mine lost 9 years for the same reason as you. He left her to be with a younger woman who has a child so he could play step father. Not only is she CF by choice, she also has a disorder that would put her at risk of death if she got pregnant, yet he was hoping she would change her mind! I'm thankful that mine "only" wasted 2 years of my life but it sucks knowing they can waste your time because THEY have all the time in the world to do as they please and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:26 PM
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Told mine it was a deal breaker if he didn't want children and we could end our relationship in the early stage. He said he wanted children. 2 years later breaks up with me because he didn't want children. Then got upset when I said he had wasted 2 years of my life! "Wow, you think it's a waste?" YES!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:52 PM
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Sell it and buy yourself a new one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:19 PM
13

I had this yesterday after talking to a guy a few days Him: hows your tinder experience? Me: First and last time, probably Him: Fair, so you're looking for the one? Me: I don't know if the one exists but only looking to date seriously, you? him: Looking to chill and see from there AAAAND unmatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:41 PM
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Trauma bonding and also the fact that women invest more in a relationship and have more to lose. So it's really difficult for us to detach from a man even when we know they aren't worth it. Men invest less and don't deal with their emotions as well, so they can seem to move on very quickly. Women hurt harder but men hurt longer. Once you've done your grieving you'll be over him and then he will come back because men don't work through their emotions and think they can just pick up where they lef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:11 PM
11

Our rules talk about us being classy high value women and not dating people that hurt us and their rules are basically "we are not accountable for anything we do" ok then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:37 PM
2

TREAT YO SELF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:03 PM
25

I agree with this. There is no guarantee that there is a HV man out there that want to be with us. It's not because we are not worthy or desirable, it's just that HV men are in low supply especially in a liberal society where they've come to expect and demand women to be in a role that puts us at a disadvantage. If a HV man wants and pursues me then great. If not, then I'll love myself by myself forever. I'm done searching and hoping for someone to love me and treat me well, I'm the only person …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:53 PM
1

Same!! Always upgrading!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:41 PM
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This. The main takeaway from why men love bitches and the rules is if he doesn't chase you he ISN'T interested! Don't message first. Don't tell him you like him first. Don't give him hints or pushes. If he isn't making a move then there's a reason for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:39 PM
3

Honestly, I'd be worried they find that a turn on more than anything..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:29 AM
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38F and 56M jesus no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 01:07 PM
2

Do you have discord? If you join the server you can get access to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:32 AM
3

I had a situationship with this guy for like... a year. We had the conversation and he didn't want to be in a serious relationship, he was happy the way it was (of course he was). Alright, cool! I met my now ex and I told the guy I had a situationship with because well, we were all friends and he'd find out somehow. He basically just said "ah nice". I can't remember if it was the same day or a few days later but he BLEW UP my phone about how suddenly he wants to make it work with me, he really w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:23 AM
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Women only village for me please. I can go out for my daily walk without fear of being approached or started at by men. I know there are women only saunas in some countries unfortunately my town is a mixed sauna. I go there to relax only to get harassed by these two middle aged men that go. I've had to work out when they go just to avoid them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:58 AM
14

Yes, he had the audacity to complain about her having body hair too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:42 PM
6

https://slate.com/human-interest/dear-prudence Not all of Prudence's replies are great though. I just saw one of a guys fiance getting upset because he has nude pictures of himself with his dead ex-wife and Prudence said the fiance was the asshole for asking him to delete them?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:10 AM
17

Girlfriend I only reply to men at most twice in one day in the beginning, you're talking to this guy wayyy too much. Reread the handbook and check out some of the books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:58 PM
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I'm lowkey hoping that this was just a made up story by a fat old overweight guy trying to convince women to give them a chance so they can get laid, just so I don't have to imagine a woman being punched by a man because of his own damn fault :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:17 PM
28

EXCUSE MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE?!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:04 AM
14

Like.. seriously. Do I want to walk up a hill with a stranger and get sweaty, muddy and out of breath? How am I supposed to get to know them that way? And probably still expects me to be dressed in my best clothes and makeup with perfect hair. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:34 PM
56

This is hilarious. I thought I'd try out OLD for the first time whilst we were in lockdown naively thinking "surely it'll only be men looking for meaningful connections considering people can't hook up?". Nah just men hornier than ever because they can't pick up drunk vulnerable girls at club. Plus, I bet porn usage soared during lockdown..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:02 PM
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We don't fall in love with potential here sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:03 PM
60

I recently told a guy I wasn't interested in a drinking date but if he could come up with something better then let me know. It took him 3 days to come up with... hill walking. Seriously? I get that lots of places are limited due to COVID19 but it's probably easier to reserve a table at a restaurant than it is at a pub/beer garden right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:28 PM
11

I'd gone out with a big group of friends about equal male and females. We were all drunk and messing around in the guys hotel room (nothing sexual). One of the guys was being rough and accidentally hit my head off the wall. I went to my room and immediately KO'ed, pretty sure suffering from a concussion. Anyway my NVM abusive ex after hearing about this, "joked" to the guy that "only I get to bash her skull in". Somehow after I left him (read: fled him), those friends didn't believe that he was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:43 PM
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I'm always careful to check myself for internalised misogyny before I blame a woman for her actions or behaviour but... same. I looked the post over and over and it just felt so off to me. The way she talks about him moving the picture out of sight, in sight, out of sight and the "haha" at the end like it's something cute and endearing and not a picture of his dead wife that died tragically young seems so odd to me. Like she's romanticising being with a man that is still grieving his dead wife a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:27 PM
54

Guy 3 stopped talking to you because you weren't going to agree to a cheap drink date and he's only looking to get laid. Prior green flags are irrelevant. Don't feel ashamed because you both want different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:53 PM
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Not only the fact he jumped into a relationship when his wife probably wasn't even long dead but I find something off about the woman writing this. Obviously she's been waiting a long time to be seen first in his eyes but why has she posted this publicly? I feel like if I was the dead woman's family I'd probably be pretty upset about reading this knowing the husband has "finally" fully replaced his wife and his new wife makes it about her (where she says "I know it's just a picture but for the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:44 PM
42

It might happen. It does happen. It happened to me too - someone I went through thick and thin dumped me out of the blue. I think it's more that they can't keep up the pretence of being patient and kind anymore once they've had you for long enough. Men do get bored of women. That's on them. Your job is to not be so dependent on a man that the thought of them leaving will destroy you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:55 PM
4

He's a shortcel as well "I'm 5ft9 but have 5ft11 models DMing me" lmao sure you do :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:24 AM
9

I do it so easily I'm a pro at it. Sometimes I do wonder if I'm too harsh but then I remember that if I waste too much time on the wrong guy, I could miss out on the right guy. You have to have that abundancy mindset. Yeah that guy is cute or yeah that guy has the same interests as me but no more excusing their behaviour. It's easier to block/delete from the very beginning than it is having had a few conversations with them. I block if: They take too long to respond They call me cute, trouble, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 10:17 AM
5

I remember the tip of either playing up your eyes or your lips instead of both and always applied that to the amount of skin I show too. Cleavage or legs not both. I wear either ear rings or necklace, not both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:08 PM
19

and ENTJs the sad thing is I know a really great INTJ guy irl, it's the ones online that are awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 10:55 AM
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"not looking for anything serious, just a wife and 2 kids" i know it's a JoKe but a wife and children are serious and not just cause you know you have very little options left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:41 AM
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because every man that reads MBTI thinks they're an xNTx (occasionally NF) and uses it to feel superior to everyone rather than actually try to understand cognitive functions and how to better themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:35 AM
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T installed Bumble because T wanted to talk to T's wife back in his country on Bumble(T was divorcing) so Bumble was downloaded on my bf's phone automatically.* I actually laughed out at loud at this!! HILARIOUS. I don't know if you know this but bumble is a dating app... why would someone be chatting to their ex wife on there?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 07:31 PM
12

This. A man with confidence or who really likes you won't be put off by colleagues flirting with you, in fact that usually makes men MORE competitive and up their game. If he's not asking you out he's not interested and if he's too ~shy~ then it's probably best he doesn't ask you out - insecure men are awful in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:37 AM
6

This. I very specifically don't post pictures of me really dressed up hoping that men won't treat me like a piece of meat and yet they still do! One problem I have is a lot of my pictures taken with friends is mostly from nights out and even though they're classy pictures, men still think I'm open to drink dates with them! Really need to get people to take pictures of me when we're out sober..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:31 AM
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didn't you know being a man qualifies you to talk on behalf of anyone, including women? :---)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:16 AM
45

You see it all the time where women will see their girl friends partners are trash and tell her to leave but then won't do the same about their own trash partners :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:40 PM
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Sadly most women KNOW men are trash but are still brainwashed into thinking they need one to be happy! I know so many women that are stuck in shit relationships but aren't empowered enough to leave because they still buy into the belief that even though a man is trash, she needs to be with one to have value herself :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:04 PM
14

All I saw was a picture of a guy with "predator" on his laptop and redbull behind his bed. That's all I needed to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:48 AM
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If only that would stop them. Some of us know all to well the effort a LVM/NVM will go to contact you when you leave them. They put more effort into it than they did the whole relationship lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:34 AM
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Being single is infinitely better than being unhappy in a relationship! I live alone after a failed engagement and a failed relationship. I don't have any man children to clean up after. I cook what I want and do what I want when I want. You should get comfortable with the idea of being single even if you're in a relationship! It's still always better to put yourself first and continue to grow as an individual whilst in a relationship. Firstly, it allows the men to continue chasing which is good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:29 AM
31

Boy bye! Be cautious cause most likely he will try hoover you back up with false promises and excuses!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:26 AM
17

I have the same experience. My narc ex won a 5 figure sum of money and had a decent job but still made us split all our bills and never took me on dates. He also had a £40 limit for buying me gifts on my birthday. Yet he could spend £20 a week on fizzy drinks and £40 a week on takeout. Hundreds on games every year. SO stingy. My recent ex wasn't HV but he was generous. He was a broke student whilst I have my degree and career yet he was still willing to put his most prized possession up for sale…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:52 AM
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Men be doing it the exact opposite way lmaooo try to impress us in the dating stage and slowly remove effort. Who's the real marriage trappers! :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:45 AM
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Lent £££ to a guy to come see me because his wage was "delayed". He somehow (using my money) was still able to buy video games and drugs. A mutual friend then told me he had been talking about breaking things off with me when he came to see me (using money I gave to him). Never got that money back lol 🤡 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 08:42 PM
13

I don't feel sad for myself - I'm just happy when a woman is actually being treated well.. but also suspicious about what happens behind doors too..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 08:18 PM
15

straight white guy flirting = 21 questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:57 PM
6

Exactly, I've been so busy on here and the discord that I forget to text guys back and that makes them more interested lmao. I'm enjoying not having a full time man because I've got other things to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:27 PM
4

I made this meme https://i.imgur.com/bH29Tjg.png
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:19 PM
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Yeah, he only gave it to me because I was leaving him, sigh. After 5 years that's how little I meant to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:02 PM
5

Should have told him being tall doesn't count if his dick is small
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:16 PM
14

LMAOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:23 PM
15

My ex spends thousands on computer games and parts a year, plus hundreds a month for a chef to prepare ALL his meals but only spent £100 on my engagement ring. Thank the lord I didn't marry him! Bet he'll reuse it for his next girlfriend lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:17 PM
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Many women like myself who fall in love with abusive guys are attracted to them because we also grew up abused and were taught that's what love is. Abusive men can also be incredibly charming and SEEM very, very loving in the beginning which is what abused or neglected women desire. It's not our fault. I suggest you read into trauma bonding and the cycle of abuse so you don't fall into the trap of blaming women for being abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:26 PM
19

It's true. How many men have you seen break up with girlfriends because they've got a huge ego from dating her just to realise his girlfriend was the only thing giving him value? Or when women "steal" (google mate poaching) a man from a woman because the thought is that a man in a relationship must be providing something of value to the woman (money, support, thicc dicc) therefore is desirable, just to realise that actually the only reason they were in a relationship is because the women put up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:03 PM
23

He's talking about a place HE wants to go to and that HE wants to try something new... it's about him and what he wants to do and asking you to come along for the ride...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:20 AM
13

Yep, I made a thread last month and wondered why my comments were getting downvoted like crazy. Saw that I'd been cross posted onto there ROFL! https://www.reddit.com/r/FDSredpills/comments/gr3n33/top_comment_3_rejecting_men_challenges_them_they/ I don't even understand the point of it, men be looking at this sub anyway (as evidenced by a DM I got from a misogynistic racist yesterday quoting one of my posts) so why do they need this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:07 AM
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It's a false sense of control. I know many women cam/onlyfans to pay off student or family debt. Fellas, it aint ethical to jack off to women that need to sell their body for survival! I also personally know that sending nudes for male validation also makes you feel empty afterwards but hey as long as men get their nut!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:14 PM
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It doesn't matter if onlyfans is "less" damaging to women, anything that exploits a woman's vulnerability or need for male validation is bad IMO. So any man that feels his need to see a naked woman is more important than the exploitation of women is low value IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:17 PM
13

Honestly once you sleep with a man he thinks he can have access to you forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:27 PM
4

Way ahead of ya sis! I had one guy cut things off with me and then a few years later he saw me in a pub getting hit on by other guys so he come over to talk to me. Next day he messaged me apologising (except not really) for his behaviour and that he hadn't been in a good place at the time but would love to take me out on a date LOL! I was seeing someone else and had to continuously reject him until he left me alone when I made it exclusive with the other guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:14 PM
5

I don't think I want to marry anymore but if I do ever consider it, for sure I'll be digging to see why their previous relationships broke up first. No man trapping me into a marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:09 PM
5

Yes I see this A LOT in work. I know families who have more than one autistic children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:06 PM
5

Right? I said to him in the beginning I was concerned we were at different stages of our life, I was willing to leave before we invested too much. So when we broke up for the exact reasons I was worried about 2 years later I was fricking pissed. "I didn't think it would become an issue", well I did and said so at the beginning?!, and "so you think these 2 years were a waste?" YES I DO! Time wasting bastards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:04 PM
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You really gotta live a privileged life if you think men have a hard time in a world where some women are still owned by men, raped, abused, honour killed by them. Must be nice, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:49 AM
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"I had earlier requested that if he does and he wants to still have sex, he needs to use a condom" EW!!!!!! First of all, fucking a 47 year old in your mid 20's, YUCK, second of all, fucking a 47 year old in your mid 20's and allowing him to sleep with others AS LONG AS HE WEARS A CONDOM WITH YOU. AHHH AHHHH AHHHHHHHHHH. Girl please stop. Should we tag her for a rescue mission?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:42 AM
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Right? Shouldn't loving someone be enough? Nah, for men it's "oh but what if there's another hotter woman?". What if I get a better job and more money and that opens up more opportunity for me? Not realising that actually as they get older, their looks and fertility decline too! That's why women that want to marry men have to act like the prize and not give themselves out too easily because it's never appreciated lol men want what's out of their reach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:09 AM
22

My mom and dad separated when she was 40 and then she dated another guy who was also a cheat. So she just bought a dog and goes on holiday every year instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:11 AM
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My ex broke up with me cause I really meant it when I said I wanted marriage and kids and when it became a real possibility he left. Saying he hoped when we were in our 30's we'd get back together again aka when he sleeps around and tries to find someone better but probably won't lmao. Saying how he doesn't know if this is the biggest mistake of his life and how he can't stand thinking of me marrying and having children with another man. I don't believe in forcing a man to be with me if he doesn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:49 PM
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Right?! I don't know how "his girlfriend of 4 years started pressuring him for a ring so he dumped her but agreed to marry me after a year" is a good thing or something a high value man does? A low value man stays in relationships that he's not too keen on because he gets free sex and emotional labour. He then meets someone that does tick his boxes and he marries her straight away. OR he leaves a decent woman because she's giving him husband privileges without a ring, and looks for a "better" wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:32 PM
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Lol I never said my ex was HV. Men know after a certain time period if they want to marry a woman or not. Mine realised after 2 years he didn't. Your boyfriend probably realised much earlier than the 4 years before he dumped his ex that he didn't want to marry her. The point is a HVM wouldn't stay in a relationship he knew he didn't want for that long and that's really not fair on the woman in the relationship who did want to marry. I feel sorry for her tbh. But now we all know, don't waste your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:23 PM
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It sucks dating in your late 20's, younger guys are more attractive (not balding yet) but usually not ready for commitment, older guys are ugly and looking for the most attractive woman that will settle for him, ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:15 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hhy6bg/the_chances_that_a_man_will_propose_drop_by_50/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:10 PM
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A HVM also will not string along a woman for 4 years without proposing therefore your boyfriend is not a HVM, sorry, and that's why you edited that out. Being in University is no excuse if you're 29-33, men are already fully developed at that age and he doesn't suddenly bloom into a HVM because he met you, the love of his life. This sub is about teaching women how to meet HVM, not to feel smug about getting engaged to a man after a year who strung along a woman for 4 years. That's low value on b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:52 PM
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Ugh poor girl. This is why we need to stop teaching women that marriage is the be all end all - being happy in yourself with or without a man is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:45 PM
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Why has she agreed to go on a date with someone that asks if she is an escort?! Someone find her and show her this ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:27 PM
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That's HVM. Most men are LVM, sadly. I think it can be both. A HVM will snap up a HVW because they know they need to or they'll lose them forever. But that relies on the woman being a HVW - most of us here are striving to be one and understanding this pattern will hopefully allow women to level up and stop being forever girlfriends. A LVM will leave a good woman because she gives him husband privileges and he wants to find another woman hotter that gives the same treatment but quickly realise th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:22 PM
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Yeah, he assumes she's sleeping with all the men she's dating because that's what MEN do (or would do if they could find more than one woman attracted to them). They're telling on themselves lmao. The comments are men bitter that women can get as many partners as they want when they want and don't even need to put out to get it! They talk shit about women trapping men in marriage when they're the ones trying to limit one woman to one man and to give out easily, no thanks! I'll continue to date a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:05 PM
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Literally we're here looking for strategies to weed out all the LVM hitting on us and find someone worthy. Those of us that are single are because we CHOSE to cause the men we have dated are low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:53 PM
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Lmao the caption "Donovan breaks down an article about a woman who dates 5 men at a time and enjoys the freedom and the high of “dating like a man”. She states that she didn’t sleep with any of them yet makes references of “cuddling in bed” with one yoked dude…yeah, ok. A woman who acts like a man doesn’t make her more attractive to men. When women will figure this out, we will never know. Don’t miss the truths Donovan lays down in this epic video." Why are 5 men dating are then if she's not att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:07 PM
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Lundy Bancroft explains this in his "Why does he do that?". That men that are abusive usually have abusive fathers rather than abusive mothers! This post is correct in that there are men with mommy issues but for abusive men it tends to be learned from their father (figure) or lack of!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:15 PM
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Yes we had a bed, we lived together, but after I left him he told me to come back because I couldn't afford to live on my own and I could sleep on the sofa whilst he slept in the bed. Unbelievable right? I left him and he tries to entice me back by acting like I couldn't live without him and I could sleep on the sofa. Nah, I got myself a flat and a better job and a better life instead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:15 AM
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Yes girl! I went through a break up then found FDS. First bought myself new clothes, then hair products and now I'm waiting for a lipstick order! When I get into a new relationship I stop making that effort but from now on the focus is ALWAYS gonna be on me, that's the best way to always look and feel your best! Make yourself #1 priority, if that means trying new styles, go for it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:06 PM
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Lots of men will try to impress the early stages. Working out is a classic one that they stop once they ~get~ the girl. Remember, he needs to prove himself to YOU over months and years, he doesn't deserve your emotions or praise quite yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:11 PM
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Two dates in one week sounds like love bombing to me to be honest. You should be spacing them out and dating other men. Also be very careful about men that talk about their exes being jealous/crazy/psycho, that's often a red flag for me. My ex said his ex was jealous about him hanging out with friends and he later said the same thing about me, except I was upset that he put his friends/drugs/gaming over hanging out with me which I think is more than reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:23 PM
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I hate that! I had a guy send me an intro about one of my main hobbies, pretending to be interested so I would match. I matched so I could discuss the interest and he just replied something like "oh I read about it once". I used to feel the need to give a man a chance because we had something in common but most of the time it's just manipulative tactics. Same when they pretend to be interested in your career so ask a question and then just reply "oh ok cool so anyway"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 12:13 PM
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Yo one of my exes wouldn't go down on me if I didn't shave because "it's not feminine" but he liked a finger up his butt. ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:53 PM
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3. It's the only option that puts yourself and your sanity first. If you do #1 or #2 you'll just be waiting until he messages you and waiting to see his reaction. The best reaction is to do what benefits YOU most and not what has the most impact on him. edit woah. dunno why it bolded there lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:31 PM
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Like my NVM ex shouting and screaming on video games all night and then coming into the bedroom at 3am, turning on the lights waking me up even further, when I had work at 6am? Yeah...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:51 PM
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My narc ex sending my mother a 14 page letter to give to me as I moved and refused to give him the address. His texts of "come back, neither of us can afford to live alone, you can sleep on the sofa" LIKE? I'd rather sleep on the streets! I saw elsewhere that someone got Venmo'd 10 cents and a "please reply to me" LMAO. Venmo me 10k and I might start talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:12 PM
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I had recently left an abusive relationship so wasn't looking for anything. A male friend was aware of my situation. We start gaming together. He'd write "hugs" to me. I didn't think much of it, just that he was being nice I guess? I never reciprocated. Few weeks later "I got a job for you" Huh, what? "I mean.. I like you so I got a job so we can be together" WHAT??????? "Well I wouldn't say hugs if I didn't like you would I?" I............... WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT???????? "Well, you were in an ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:24 PM
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Yep. My ex dumped his by text. She blocked him everywhere. He told me it was because she was toxic and abusive. I felt bad for him. Guess what? He dumped me by text. It ended with me blocking him everywhere. Feel sorry for his next victim. I'll surely be his "psycho ex" now :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 11:32 AM
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Uh..... you've listed all VERY VALID reasons to not like him. Listen to that. Don't give him excuses and DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH POTENTIAL. He is not entitled to any of your time just because you agreed to a date! If you waste your time dating someone that you don't like, you're potentially missing out on dating someone you will like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:57 PM
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I was having a really bad breakup, was on a breakup server. Someone cross posted something from FDS and everyone was replying "ew don't cross post that toxic subreddit". I agreed completely with the contents of the message so checked it out. This sub helped me so much more with dealing with the break up than the other sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:31 PM
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You know actually I was thinking earlier about how nice it would be to date a photographer so I could get professional and candid pictures of myself taken but this post reminded me if I want it, I can get it anytime!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:59 PM
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Oh wow first time seeing this video! Love it!!!! Also love "Hi it's me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:11 PM
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As a teenager we had this really creepy 30-something y.old as a boss. He referred to his young daughters as "the pretty one" and "the ugly one"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:26 PM
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They are so fucking delusional. My ex said after breaking up with me that he hopes we can get back together in 8 years. Since we've been broken up for 5 months I've had probably 10 men ask me on a date, 100s that didn't even get past a first conversation with me and 1000s more wanting a chance with me. Does he know you have a partner or is he delusional enough to think you'll leave him for him? I just ask because telling one of my exes I had a boyfriend was the only thing that made him leave me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:10 PM
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I gave up my dreams of further education to move in with my NVM ex whilst he got to pursue his career and I got minimum wage jobs to pay bills. I gave up my dreams of further education again with my next partner, a LVM male, to support him through his education just for him to drop me. Once this pandemic is over you can bet your ass I'm getting that degree I want and buying a house all for myself. If a man wants to be with me he'll have to settle for being 2nd best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:00 AM
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On the other hand, I wasted my youth being forever girlfriends to future fakers who pretended they wanted marriage and children. I wish I focused on me and my career instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:41 AM
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Pity is the exact reason I got into a relationship with an abuser and stayed!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:11 PM
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What is that analogy? "If it makes me upset when he doesn't rinse the dishes, it's his fault for not knowing"? I mean, yeah? Who doesn't know you're supposed to wash, rinse and put away dishes after using them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:01 PM
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I googled and she's 20 years old. The fact he also said "the recent return" makes me believe he was watching her when she was younger. I'm guessing he's NOT in his 20's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:27 AM
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It's funny how men are so scared of commitment and see marriage and children as a trap yet they want women to be willing and ready when the man realises they better settle down before they lose their only chance to easy access for sex and emotional support. Like, surely they're the real trappers lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:04 AM
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Girl I sympathise with what you're feeling. I left a 5 year abusive relationship and felt I'd never meet anyone again and my best years were taken from me. Sadly there are some women who never get out of these relationships. It's infinitely better to be single than to get into a relationship out of loneliness. I agree with everyone else, take a year to level up - it's better to wait for a decent guy than to jump to the next available one that is just ok because you're worried time is running out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:50 AM
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Honestly I just try not to have male friends. If you do, keep them at a close distance. Don't confide in them. I tend to only communicate with my male friends when it's in a group and not one-to-one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:40 AM
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Reminds me of a few years ago a girl on a server I was on was talking about how upset she was that the incels she was trying to talk to and understand were being mean to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:35 AM
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I didn't mean is it fair on men (cause when are they ever fair to us?) what I mean is most of us here are here because we have dated LVM and we've decided to level up, it would feel a bit unfair if a HVM rejected us based on our past selves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:10 PM
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I'm so confused because if you're on a dating app then you'll eventually meet so why would you be catfishing him? Oh wait, cause they lie about shit all the time. Or, they're just looking to swap nudes so they don't want to be catfished. Don't want to continue talking to a guy like that either anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:50 AM
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Would it be fair if a HVM decided not to date a HVW because we've dated LVM in the past?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:58 AM
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No, it's better to be the best version of yourself. There's no point going blonde if it clashes with your skin colour and washes you out. By all means change up your style but do your research into what will flatter YOU. Also why would blonde attract a "right" kind of man? Men like all different hair colours. I see some guys on OLD looking for redheads or brunettes and I pass. I want someone that likes me for me, I'm not going to change for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:48 AM
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Exactly this. This exact scenario came up in a book I read, can't remember. If you want a single bed, buy a single bed. If you want a double bed, buy a double bed. Don't take into account hypothetical man for something YOU will be sleeping in alone majority of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:41 AM
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I've had that a few times and they've explained to me "because usually when a hot girl likes me on here she ends up being a bot" which tells me they aren't getting much matches or they only care about hot people matching with them. They could also be doing it to get you to send them more pictures or yes as a "wow you're too good to be true" neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:42 PM
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No. I don't wear it day to day. I wear it on the weekend or for important events. I'd like to wear it more but the hassle of taking it off every day puts me off tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:34 PM
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Also he aint broke if he can buy weed weekly or put down £30 for a video game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 02:02 PM
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I let my leg hair grow out and love the warmth it gives but I have a big fear of my jeans ripping in public or going into hospital and having hairy legs!! I used to care so much about my leg and underarm hair being completely bald. Even if there was one stray hair I'd be so ashamed and cover it up even if I spent ages shaving. Now I could go out with day old unshaved legs and arms and don't really care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:43 PM
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Saw this one on tumblr a few days ago too ! https://catchymemes.com/post/189548669595/credit-juliehangart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:02 PM
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My ex was 20 and I was 25 when we got together so not exactly old but I was worried about it in case he was too young for me. He liked that I was responsible, already had a career, my own place and had my life together. Men like women who are independent and have their own life outside of them so it would make perfect sense for them to be attracted to older woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 09:48 PM
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Thank you! Yes it's one of the hardest but best things I ever did for myself. I knew and had seen some people stick in abusive relationships all their life (my gran was one) and I knew I didn't want that for myself! It took time but I got out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 05:35 PM
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Yes, this. I was that person who would go to people for advice/support, hate what I was hearing, pretend I was listening and do nothing about it. Because I had been so abused for years that I didn't know what was real and what wasn't, whose view should I trust? My ex was able to successfully pull me away from all my relationships where friends were telling me I was being abused by saying that my female friends were just bitter about being single and my male friends just wanted to sleep with me. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:49 PM
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So what DOES he offer... it's certainly not his looks??? Talk about punching above your weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:13 PM
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Nothing concrete to decide one way or another, honestly but the whole "I'm glad you chose to talk to me!" and "you make me want to be a better person" is all very cliche. They're all very vague compliments people can give to anyone. He's known you for 2 months so anything he's telling you now is likely based on infatuation. You need to know a man longer term to know if he's a HVM. It's not just about what he does for work or who he lives with or the compliments he gives, it's the effort he puts …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 08:00 PM
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If it makes you feel better it happened to me too. Once my ex moved over here he thought that was his part done and he didn't need to make anymore effort, so we'd argue over him not making any effort. I'd give him "space" through the week to do his own thing so that I wasn't being "clingy" and then only see him on a Saturday but he'd still be late and make no effort with me. All he used that space for was to do drugs and drive illegally and mess up his education. Then he had the audacity to brea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:20 PM
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https://www.vanityfair.com/video/watch/going-off-the-expiry-date-sk-ii-changedestiny possibly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:24 PM
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Yes on FDS the term "hang out" is icky but also on FDS the "asap" and not setting a date is a red flag. No, you don't ask him to hang out, you continue talking to other men who will be more straight forward and set a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:38 PM
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Literally every single OLD post I've seen on here lately, the men are ugly as hell I'm wondering why someone would even match with them in the first place. We're supposed to have standards ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:30 PM
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The same thing men tell you they like about you (when trying to get into your pants) is the same thing they dislike about you in the end. Loving > Clingy/Needy Strong or Independent > Masculine/Bossy Fun > Irresponsible Responsible > Boring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:49 PM
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Also the part where she went through hell with all her pregnancies and I wonder if she did so in order to give him more children..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:23 PM
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He's literally just saying "you're not like the other girls"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:57 PM
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My neighbour cross the hall has one of those cameras doorbells. He came to my house to tell me it's for his safety and he's "definitely not using it to spy on you haha". I wasn't thinking he was until he said that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:43 PM
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What in the ever loving hell? I look young for my age and when I'd go to pubs men would joke "is she old enough to be here?" then try to chat me up!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:39 PM
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That's not them. The two guys at the bottom played their younger counterparts in one episode. The joke is that when they were young they were really fit hotties that did good police work but one of their cases they stole a lot of money for a crime victim and as a reward she gave them free hot wings for life and that's how they got fat lol. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitchcock_%26_Scully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:09 PM
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that's a good idea! i guess it's about reconditioning the way we react, rather than "DEMANDING" they be nice, we just don't reward them for their bad behaviour by laughing along with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 06:09 PM
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done the choking thing decent guy hmMMM what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:32 PM
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I think you're right.. I think it's more important for us to just be silent and let our actions do the talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:33 PM
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And it'll work because men respect other men and their "property" (women) than they do the woman themselves. My ex stalked me for months on end, messaging me everywhere and only let up when I posted a picture of me with my then boyfriend lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:40 PM
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I think the word "demanding" is difficult to internalise in ourselves as women because we're taught that women should be polite and quiet so shifting to that mindset can be quite difficult. Anyone have any advice/tips on moving to this mindset and what sort of situations do women find themselves in where they should be demanding more respect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:26 PM
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I'm known as the "psycho one" in my group of female friends by several men because I get very overprotective when a man doesn't take the hint or respect that the woman is not interested. Quite proud of that actually. Looking after women >>>>>>>>> male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:54 PM
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He really aint cute gurl! You can do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:46 PM
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Are you fucking kidding me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:24 PM
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He sounds pretty insecure and clingy, he probably doesn't have many other options and is clinging to you to make sure you don't leave? Just the impression I got. Also the fact he's not even answering your questions, he's just focusing on you is kinda weird and ingenuine IMO sounds like he could be lovebombing you. I'd try pull back for him for a bit longer to show him you have your own life and aren't going to be there at his beck and call. You don't want him to make you his whole life, not this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:38 AM
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Thanks DowntownSpite, this post cured centuries of oppression and being told we're not good enough just by being a woman :-) as long as a straight male wants to have sex with us then we can get over all the hatred and violence directed at us for being women :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:32 AM
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Don't respond. He's said he's not interested and goodbye. Nothing left to say. "Hope we can keep in touch" means he hopes you'll stick around for when he does want a booty call or gets lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:46 PM
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Wow that's so rough. I'm so sorry you went through that, no-one deserves that. Screw that asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:39 PM
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It's embarrassing to look back on but the way I see it is men think once they have the woman then they've done their job and they become lazy so really it just taught me to keep focusing on myself, keep my standards high and drop someone that stops trying to meet them! Isn't it funny how men say women let themselves go when they're in a relationship but they're the ones that get lazy and complacent? I'm glad I was able to share this though cause my clown ass been contemplating messaging him toda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:35 PM
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My breaking point was when he kicked something at me and hit walls. I called a domestic abuse helpline when he left and the next day whilst he was at work I packed my bags and was taken to a woman's refuge. Best thing I ever did. I knew it was now or never, I knew once I started excusing/rationalising that behaviour, I was going to become a battered woman and would find it even more difficult to leave. I had to leave that day or I never would. That's why you have to vet and ditch as soon as you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:59 PM
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I'm in my late 20's and a guy in his early 30's asked me on OLD "so have you been a busy girl this week?" I look young for my age and it felt more creepy than condescending eugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:20 PM
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I just came here to see if shopping was in it because I ALWAYS see (I live in the UK) Asian men holding their girlfriends bags!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 04:52 PM
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Nope - if he had time to go online to find and then buy a printer, he had time to text you that he would be late or to reschedule IMO. Also sounds like he's trying to guilt you with the "it's already hard to find people we like", maybe it is for him but doesn't mean it is for you. Also means if you end up being exclusive and he ignores you or cancels he'll just keep saying it's because he has so many businesses. Men that are truly interested will ALWAYS make time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 04:49 PM
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What in the ever loving GOD is that on the left?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:54 PM
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"ugh women are too emotional" literally can't cope being sick on their own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:53 PM
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Exactly. They have the realisation that they're 40/50 and going to have to try really hard if they want a family and wife and not to end up alone forever but they don't have a realisation that they had that chance and they didn't take it, nah. They may come back and try be with you but that's because they no longer have that access to you or they know that you'd be a good wife and they don't want to be alone forever, not because they finally realise your actual worth as a human being lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:06 AM
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Look what happens when you reject a man too or say something they deem disrespectful. Also the very fact they keep their emotions inside themselves because they can't deal with it and then end up projecting it onto us (gaslighting) or giving us the silent treatment for days (stonewalling). They talk smack about us not having our emotions under control when they can't deal with theirs to the point they end up abusing others because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:49 AM
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As soon as they say they're not ready for a relationship... believe them. Also, rule number 1, don't fall in love with potential!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:38 AM
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Yikes! The video was linked in a book I was reading. The video does a good job at explaining what we all know here at FDS in an easy way, that women hold the key to sex and that we're giving it out too easy. Shame there's an underlying propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:15 PM
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You gotta block. If you allow him to look into your life through social media you'll be constantly wondering what to post and what message it sends. You'll be thinking about him more than he's thinking about you. BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK. He may also use your social media for clues into how he can manipulate you (e.g my ex who popped up as soon as he saw I was single again... years after he and I broke up!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:58 PM
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This isn't even just sexual harassment, it's assault! Someone grabbed my ass from under my skirt at a bar and I shouted at him and all the guys around laughed whilst my mom told me to not cause a scene ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:52 PM
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Have a look at The Wiki on the sidebar, there are FDS approved books on there. Once I started buying some of them, some other ones were recommended and I just started reading the ones free with my subscription. But definitely The Rules and Why Men Love Bitches are a good place to start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:38 PM
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The past month I've read: Why Men Love Bitches - Sherry Argov The Rules - Ellen Fein Fuck Him! Nice Girls Always Finish Single - Brian Nox The Power of the Pussy - Kara King They were all free with kindle unlimited (£7.99 per month) except the Why Men Love Bitches. They all reiterate how women are the prize and they win by setting boundaries and not being easy to get. I'm currently reading Never Chase Men Again by Bruce Bryans and have a few more in my reading list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:36 PM
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https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/im-literally-the-guy-in-the-pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:46 AM
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Got myself an amazon book subscription and I be reading a bunch of books! Specifically about dating and the female and male brain. Using this time to learn and grow as much as possible. Pre-pandemic I spend my free time reading and doing anything relaxing such as the sauna or cooking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:38 AM
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The exact same thing happened to me. I unmatched him and he friend requested me on fbook (also don't know how) saying "sorry if I was pushy" like finding you and messaging you isn't pushy!! I honestly get scared for like a whole day after unmatching someone in case they find me and harass me somewhere else :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:31 AM
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I'd message him just to tell him his girlfriend is hotter than him.............. but then he'd probably decide to pretend he's single after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:19 AM
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It's like they smell it off you - you're taken and they want to compete for you for their own selfish ego. I was talking to a guy but he was really emotionally unavailable and didn't want to take it further with me. Fine, we stayed friends and I met someone else. I told him I'd met someone else and a few days later his emotions were out of control, telling me he would like to make it work and he's "realised" how much I mean to him, yikes. I was in touch with him recently, 2 years after it all an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:47 AM
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Interesting, why does excessive porn consumption lead to premature balding? Is it the excessive masturbation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:12 AM
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Yeah it's just stupid. If you cut your hair when you're young you're told "but long hair is youthful and attractive!!" but if you grow it past 40 it makes you look older?! It makes no sense whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:09 AM
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I'm actively growing my hair long and I've seen women in their 50's and 60's on hair care forums with beautiful long, healthy hair. I'm late 20's and I'm going to have my hair long for as long as possible. Why do women get told they should cut their hair short when they turn 40?! There are also so many women past 50 with flawless glowing skin and fit bodies. Meanwhile all the "men" I went to school with are now balding and fat. A select few of them were smart enough to marry a beautiful caring w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:32 PM
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A waste of time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:00 PM
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It's this^ exactly I know it from my previous relationships. They think because you're giving everything to them easy (if you're a recovering pickmeisha like me) then they can get hotter/better if they just try harder. and we all know men love a challenge to boost their ego. SO many men leave good women then realise there actually aren't any "better" women out there willing to put up with their crap, that's why men very often come back after leaving a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:31 AM
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I worked in a bar which meant 12 hour shifts with no breaks, all day sexual harassment, finishing past midnight when there were no more busses and a bunch of drunk guys around and my ex charged me petrol money for picking me up so.. yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:51 PM
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You should really read some of the FDS approved books if you're able to, The Rules by Ellen Fein and Why Men Love Bitches were game changers for me. Chemistry and "clicking" doesn't mean anything, it's just a biological response to our innate need to bond and reproduce. You have to build your self-esteem up first, never put the man on the pedestal, you're the prize, they need to be proving their worth to you rather than the other way around. If I find myself becoming too interested in a guy I te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:46 PM
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How did he react to you breaking it off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:27 PM
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One of my comments was removed because "you have been identified as a male". I think it was an automated message though.. maybe because I mentioned football..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:20 PM
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You literally didn't post anything positive about him. He games too much. Mixed signals. Emotionally immature so has to communicate through songs. Never asks you for POV. Calls you friend. Not honest. You don't need guy friends lol a friend makes you feel comfortable and safe and secure and that you can talk about anything. 95% of the time men and women can't be friends. Throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:11 PM
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https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes It has to be a FUCK YES or else it's a no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:58 PM
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My friend started dating a 27 year old when we were 15 but her and I didn't get back in touch when we were 18 and he was 30. We'd hang out every weekend with his friends who were also 30-something. One of them was obsessed with me, whenever a guy would talk to me in a bar he'd try to fight them. He'd send me poems all the time through different social medias. One time I let him walk me home (where I stayed with my mum) after a night out and a few days later I received flowers, chocolates and poe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:33 AM
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Hm I'm inclined to say "don't fall in love with potential". Both my exes I met online and they spent time losing weight, going to the gym, eating healthier, in preparation of meeting me but of course after we got together they stopped all of that and became out of shape so I think you need to keep that in mind. I think you could subtly compliment him on his physique and how much you like men who work out and keep healthy to sort of reinforce from the beginning what your standards are in a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:07 PM
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I wouldn't worry about it, I've noticed some of my posts/threads get downvoted in the beginning, there must be some male lurkers vehemently refreshing and downvoting everything. I've added this to my evergrowing list of books to read, sounds interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:53 PM
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Thanks <3 Now I know the importance of vetting and picking the right person before allowing myself to fall in love. I've seen people say on here a lot "trust a man when he tells you who he is the first time" - he told me when we were still just friends that he didn't want children but I guess when he realised he could be with me/have sex with me, he could pretend that he did until the honeymoon period was over and I actually wanted it. Don't fall in love with potential and don't believe what a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:46 PM
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Not a pet but I remember a few weeks before my ex broke off with me, we were having a meal (I paid lol) and I just very suddenly got incredibly anxious for no apparent reason. I couldn't eat anything and I couldn't understand why I was anxious as nothing had happened, we had been having a nice time! My gut just knew something was off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:04 PM
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Hahahahahahahaahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:59 AM
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Lol I definitely needed this too! Together 1.5 years and courted for 8 months before that. He moved to be closer to me. I thought that meant getting a bit more serious but apparently he still wanted to mess around gaming with friends and smoking weed instead of hanging out with me. He broke it off in January saying he felt that I only wanted him for marriage and children and that it scared him. Well we tried to be "friends" on and off, by that I mean he would message me every few days and then l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:48 AM
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Jesus, no! You move in with someone when you're already committed, you don't do it to find out if you're compatible! And of course you feel attached to him - you've had sex already! What do you mean you put him through hell with the pregnancy? You both had sex so it's both your responsibility. You also wrote 11 days about talking to a guy that couldn't choose between you and his ex. He aint the one, sis. Choose yourself and leave before he leaves you. Having his children aint gonna make a differ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:31 AM
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Oh yes that's one I see a lot too from men, "well, my girlfriend will be saying it's to go towards a wedding but I want to buy a sports car haha boys will be boys amirite!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:18 AM
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I won't be doing it again. I love living alone. When I left him he would text me asking me how to use the washing machine, how to unblock the toilet etc because in our years of living together I could NOT get him to do any of it. Now he just pays for gadgets and servicemen to do it all for him because clearly he's above it all lmao. He's almost 30 years old. In our years of living together he probably washed our dishes ONCE. I even came home from work one day to find his MOM!! washing our dishes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:32 PM
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It's just sad women are being taken advantage of all the time. I was in a relationship for 5 years with someone I knew for 10 years and I asked all the time if we could get married and have children and he would say he didn't have money or we were too young or "one day" there was always an excuse. Only when I told him I was leaving did he buy me a (cheap) engagement ring. I still left. We really need to stop acting like wives to guys that can't even part with a few months of their salary pay to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:15 PM
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A pick up artist is a man that uses certain "techniques" to seduce women (often multiple women). It's game playing. One technique for example is negging, a backhanded compliment to make you think they're being nice whilst lowering your self-esteem in the same go e.g "your hair looks nice - is it real?" "wow you're actually intelligent!" or my personal favourite I received "my friends don't know what I see in you but you're a 10 to me!". The guy that keeps using my name in every sentence was thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:43 PM
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Pick up artist :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:51 PM
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The men obviously have money but are using it as an excuse to not marry their forever girlfriend. Why would they want to marry her when they already get all the benefits without the commitment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:37 PM
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I don't consciously check or decide on an amount of time to wait, it's just whenever I'm free which tends to be in the mornings then in the evenings, even on my days off, so I usually only message someone once or twice in a day. I never reply after 10pm though. Replying to a man on OLD is pretty low on my list of priorities tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:17 PM
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I did more reading and apparently it's a well known sales tactic byeeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:29 AM
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That's them weeding themselves out. Last night I matched with someone and he immediately said Hi but playing candy crush was more important to me. When I went back on about an hour later he had disappeared so I guess he unmatched me for daring to keep him waiting. I have a guy I've messaged maybe once or twice a day (that's generally how much I reply in the initial stages anyway) and he responds immediately like... I get we're all in lockdown but you still gotta have a life and not be on OLD all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:15 AM
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Well consciously it makes me feel a little unnerved! I know using someone's name can be effective if used in the right way but every second sentence, nah. Think I'll just have to trust my gut on this one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:02 AM
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I've been talking to a guy who seems nice, no real red flags. One thing though, he'll insert my name into conversation quite often, like every other message he sends he'll say my name in it. I'm not sure if it's his mannerisms or if it's some sort of PUA style tactic? Anyone have any insight into this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:18 AM
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Tell that to all the rubbery red men I've seen walking around! Sunscreen is a must. I wear it whenever it's sunny. It's a good habit to have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:10 AM
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They're just so simple and stupid lmao. I went through the same shit and after we broke up he was like "you were the one thing keeping me responsible and to a routine". I see grown men on OLD with bios "I need a woman to keep me motivated/out of trouble" like nah son you're a big boy now you don't need a mommy to hold your hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 03:22 PM
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for a man who sits topless (probably without sunscreen) drinking beer every day mm what a catch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:34 PM
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That last line is exactly what happened to me :( Left an abusive household to move in with an abusive man. When I finally left him he said "neither of us can afford to live alone financially so you're better off coming back here" to try manipulate me back! It's imperative for women to be financially secure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 11:39 AM
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I'd rather my partner be stoned than drunk because they tend to be less aggressive however I wouldn't want a partner stoned every day in the same vein I wouldn't want a partner drunk every day. I find that stoner men are never really "there" or listening so what's the point having them as a partner? My ex got so addicted to weed he failed his Uni. I told him it was a deal breaker before we got together. He started smoking again even though he reassured me he wouldn't because it ruins everything.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 11:28 AM
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You might be in denial if you think masturbating 6-7 times a day isn't affecting anything... can you do something more productive eg join a gym and get rid of your energy that way?
/r/askFDS01/06/20 09:10 AM
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There is a spotify playlist. Check the wiki to the right and go to FDS spotify playlist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:26 AM
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Who is he/this couple?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:46 PM
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This has happened to me in bars as well, them accidentally pushing into you at the bar so they can apologise and start a conversation... you know, that tactic we used in ... primary school?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:13 AM
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I just wrote this in another thread but I absolutely hate it when men patronise me about my job and think what I want is to be "validated" by them saying it makes me a "caring woman". Like, yeah, I'm empathetic, but it's also god damn hard work and requires a lot of knowledge and keeping up constantly with the ever changing laws. They're just looking to downplay your strengths to make them feel superior to you when they know deep down they have no real talent or intelligence like us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:27 PM
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I'm in the same line of work but I honestly dread talking about it with men because I either get extremely ignorant (intentional or not) comments about it or I get extremely patronising comments. When I do talk about it I try not to talk about how passionate I am about it or how it makes me "feel" because some men see it as being naive or easily manipulated. It's a shame because it's such a complex area to work in and you really need to know your stuff about housing rights and men just degrade m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:30 AM
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"I want a hook up if you're willing but I can pretend to be interested in a relationship until I get sex too!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:50 PM
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My ex was all "oh I never know when a girl is flirting with me or likes me" and my 🤡 ass replied "well I like you...". He said it was "ballsy" of me. Oh how I'm cringing at that now! Yeah, ballsy, until I asked him to give more and then I was clingy and codependent.. I'm talking to a few guys now and one of them is probably too passive for me. He's nice but I don't want into another relationship where I do all the work. Are passive guys just insecure? Don't need me any more of them either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:14 PM
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I've seen that A LOT! on OKC. I take it as a red flag but almost ALL the men have that. I don't understand how you can "settle down" without getting married lol. "ItS jUsT a BiT oF pApEr" nah they just want to a girlfriend that does wife things then leave easily when they want a younger model.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:34 AM
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Talking for myself, after years of abuse from men, being the pursuer gives a false sense of feeling in control, choosing "passive" men makes you feel more safe emotionally/physically... but the reality is being a pursuer puts you even more at a man's mercy. That's why men encourage it so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:16 AM
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Every damn time! "Is everything ok?" as though the only reason I must not be talking to them is because I'm laying on my death bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 06:32 PM
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I've been the same as you OP, craving that one-to-one connection but a long lasting relationship requires the two people to feel safe together but also feel they can grow as an individual outside of the relationship. If you make the other person your whole world it's doomed to fail. I've read Why women love bitches and The Rules by Ellen Fein and they explain why the centre of the Universe MUST! be yourself. THAT's what drives men crazy for longer. If you feel you need to put all your energy int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:04 AM
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Have you ever noticed it's ALWAYS 18-35. I've started looking at males age range and I was disgusted by how many were looking for women as young as 18 when they were in their late 20's and 30's and sometimes even older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 09:17 AM
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With a bill she probably paid lmao romance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:26 PM
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This is why I don't show my sexuality on dating apps. Both my male exes also told me they wouldn't be as hurt if I cheated on them with a girl than if I did with a man lmaoooo like you should be more scared because a girl gon give more pleasure than any man.. There was one time I was clubbing when I was around 19 and met a group, including a couple. I was outside with the girlfriend and she started kissing me. Her boyfriend came out and just started joking "woo 3sum tonight!".. bro, your girlfri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:01 PM
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Wow she defended him not paying rent because he's an "artist" fighting the system and he isn't "that" rich...... wow, just wow. Why's she bending backwards over this guy?? He's pushing 40, pay yo damn rent. Also, what's with his lips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:45 PM
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Thanks gurl. I honestly thought he was different 🤡 but I've done a lot of reading and the game is always the same. A man wants what he can't have. I've learnt a lot on here and I want it all or nothing and I'm not waiting for a man to decide that for me anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:49 PM
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Looks like he chased her for 2 years when she was unavailable, quickly married her and then realised she was a human being like everyone else, God forbid. Got bored because she was no longer one to "catch". It's so true though, you give a man everything and they think it's because they're the worlds greatest. Treat you like something below them or dump you, thinking they can do better, then they realise the real world aint like that and they had the best they ever could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:54 PM
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And who bets he's scrolling through instagram looking at other girls. THIS is why you don't be a pickmeisha, you can literally be a model and a man won't care, they only want what they can't have lmao https://www.brides.com/story/emily-ratajkowski-vetted-husband-two-years They got married a month after one of her relationships broke up but she "vetted" him for 2 years lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:14 PM
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Right lmao like their dick don't stank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:02 PM
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My first ex was the same, took 2 years before he went down on me and even then he barely did it. Until I stopped giving him oral completely. That did the trick. You could try that because "communicate" doesn't work for men, not with words anyway but with actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:07 AM
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God I remember when I met my ex 2 years ago I told him I was afraid I couldn't love him fully after leaving an abusive relationship. Well, he was patient, kind, understanding, he loved me fully and showed me that. I fell in love and ... he told me it was too much. The man who said he wanted to marry me and have his children decided it was too much when I wanted it too. When I'm in love I give so much but in the end it's always at the expense of myself. We can fall in love but it has to be with o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:57 AM
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I'm honestly not sure what is worse, rejecting the same man repeatedly or rejecting a man you thought you were "friends" with for year(s) for them to dump your friendship just like that. This happened to me twice and both times I was left with no friends because everyone sided with them lol. No more male friends for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:43 PM
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Looks like they've found our reddit too and downvoting us rofl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:37 PM
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I did wonder if possibly they didn't recognise me but most my pictures are the same as before and I doubt there have been many women talking to them to forget me (especially since I became uninterested as they were so clingy) so it's pretty obvious they're just trying again. I also had one I unmatched try to add me on social media and send a message saying he was sorry if he offended me by asking for my number on the app?!? What made him think it was okay to find me on social media and message m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:44 PM
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One time I was looking for a room to rent and specifically requested female only flatmates. Of course, I got a reply from a male, with something to the effect of: "I have a place in XYZ. If you are interested let me know, it's very cheap if you agree to do the washing and cooking lol"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:22 PM
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Yeah literally they think if we're rejecting them it's not because they're unattractive or disgusting it's something to do with us being bitches, snobs or playing hard to get lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:51 PM
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I'm sorry - I really never understood why people applauded men for coming out as gay after they'd been married to women for several years. I don't know why but when I read your comment something clicked into me that maybe my ex was gay - were there any red flags for you? ETA - just read your other comment. I'm sorry you went through that. Does your ex feel any guilt at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:23 PM
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How can you be the best girlfriend? The best girlfriend has a porn star body, a perfect vagina, gives head 50 times a day regardless of whether their man washed that day, cooks 3 meals a day whilst naked and tells their boyfriend they're the most amazing, handsome, perfect person in the world! Try harder! But for real, I get you. As a girlfriend I've been super affectionate, generous with gifts/money, I have my own career, I have a great body and put up with lots of shit and I still got dumped o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:05 AM
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My friend and I used to frequent a casino because they'd give us free food/drinks if we sat with men at the betting tables as men would want to show off their money to us. At the time we thought it was great because yay free things but it was actually gross to think about it, it was expoloitation. We were about 18 and they were full grown men in their 30's-60's. We also had to deal with these sleazy men touching us whilst playing but oh well least we got free food and drink out of it. ETA: just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:21 AM
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That's what I thought lmao! Every time I see a guy 6ft+ but he ruins it by not washing, not trimming his beard and allowing himself to get fat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:19 AM
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Let go my ex who was stringing me along for his ego, dropping men at the first sign of disrespect by adopting an "abundance" mindset (there are a lot of people out there so I don't need to keep hold of one person that treats me like crap)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:05 AM
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Good for you! I got dumped, obviously, and I know he's gonna be at the next girl saying the same thing he did to me "wow, I dumped my ex because she was exhausting, but I feel so comfortable with you" rofl. I won't be mentioning my past relationships when I'm dating but I'll deffo be looking out for patterns in theirs! My ex would also talk about how would still be friendly with his exes and gave them advice etc like he was a good guy. He was trying the same nice guy act with me after he dumped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:17 PM
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Did you end up breaking up with him too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:56 PM
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So picky but don't even care. No point wasting time with someone I'm only semi-attracted to when I could just wait longer for someone that does meet my standards. I used to have high standards as a teenager but was told I need to lower them so I started giving guys "a chance" that definitely didn't deserve one. Back to high standards and remaining single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:48 AM
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Also reminds me of that time a male acquaintance of mine was telling me how he slept with a woman that had.......... blonde hairs around her nipple! Yes, women have body hair and don't want to put a razor near their privates, shock!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:44 AM
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I used to conflate my exes passiveness/low effort with his introversion, ugh. You can be both but they don't mean the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:20 AM
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These are the same men that don't even clean behind their foreskin and expect women to still go down on them but ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:52 AM
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Same, I have thousand of likes but around 50 matches. I probably only like 2 people per week. Guess we just gotta LoWeR oUr StAnDaRdS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:46 AM
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When you unmatch your convo goes straight away so they might not be able to read it. Either unmatch straight away without saying anything or wait until you see the 3 dots typing and unmatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:48 AM
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I keep seeing this "need a girlfriend to give me motivation to XYZ" like ur 33 dude wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:03 PM
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Needs to "convince" someone to send nudes CoNnEcTiOn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 06:17 PM
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Some of the comments are a bit, hmm, but I loved the "what's wrong with a hairy fanny?" and in reference to the nuns: "I don't think they're missing out on anything, she has all the biscuits she could want". She clearly doesn't live for men. https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2017/oct/29/kathy-burke-interview-lifelong-member-of-the-non-pretty-working-classes "The turning point came in her late teens, when a director asked her to feign masturbation in a play where she’d been cast as a mentally i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:43 PM
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Ya... I think we really ought to be doing our own research before posting things like this.. don't want incels/trp using it as ammo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:07 PM
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Gosh I totally forgot about this! Probably because they kept it very hushed. It was apparently with her friend: https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/rose-hanbury-was-reportedly-not-the-first-time-that-prince-william-cheated-on-kate-middleton.html/ It's well known that they split up for a period when they were in University too... Got his own secrets but totally a-okay with people ripping into his brother and Meghan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:56 PM
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My ex would get mad if I even bought myself a chocolate bar worth more than £1 with our joint money but he could buy himself £15 worth of fizzy drinks per week plus bulk bought roughly £50 of meat a month for himself on our joint money. Would get mad at me for spending like £15 on a shirt on sale (because "you should be saving for our future") but spent hundreds on gaming equipment every year. He boasts about spending hundreds on getting chef prepared meals, a gardener, pay raises etc to other p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:36 AM
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Honestly a lot of DIY and plumbing work is pretty easy. I learnt all this stuff from living on my own thanks to youtube and not wanting work men in my house lmao. We paying men to be doing the bare minimum, let's outskill them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:26 PM
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bUt HeS sTuBbOrN/sHy (@'ing myself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:15 PM
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I travelled one car ride, 2 bus journeys and a grocery shop in between to meet my ex at HIS place and he was still late. got mad at him for being late and asked if we could talk about it. he said "this isn't working, we need a break". I got dressed and started packing my bag and he asked where I was going. You told me we weren't working. I went home and returned to a big essay about how he loves me and we lost our communication and he thought if he said we'd go on a break it would help us "talk"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:57 AM
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What subreddit is it? Only reason I want to look is to see if my privacy has been invaded and I've been put on there, sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:48 AM
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Men often say women comedians aren't funny, she's pandering to men by saying that IMO (and as a previous pickmeisha ugh)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:47 AM
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Ugh I was going to suggest pretending you have a boyfriend because that was the ONLY way my ex would leave me alone (men respect other men, not women) but that doesn't seem to be working for you? I'd advise changing your number completely and logging a call with the police because he WILL get mad and that puts you at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:19 AM
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I got that ALL the time from my ex. "Don't depend on me for your happiness" when he would be late to meet me or I'd be disappointed that he was being irresponsible..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:04 AM
23

Wow, what a guy! That's the way I see it, you can either use your upbringing as an excuse for your bad behaviour or as an excuse to be better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:28 AM
32

My ex told me he loved me within a month of us saying we liked each other. Moved countries to be with me. Then when I got annoyed that he was putting his visa and therefore our relationship at risk by smoking weed and driving illegally, he dumped me because I was "co-dependent". Ok. Basically I was his dream girl when we were long distance because he didn't have to have any responsibility and he could hide his selfish behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:20 AM
6

Some people will never learn - what do you get out of continuing to be friends with them? I used to use discord servers but not any longer because majority of people there were incredibly toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:48 PM
1

I haven't really dated so lots to learn. I'm wondering about cases where I've maybe met someone at an event and he asks for my number and it's unlikely we're going to meet again, obviously I'd need to take that chance if there's chemistry but obviously don't know him enough to agree to a date. I guess it's agree to give him my number but remember that's only the beginning of their courting and not an expectation of a date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:14 PM
6

Ugh I'm struggling with this because we had a great time in the beginning and I fully understand the mistakes I made but also he made the decision to break up with me (by text) then string me along for months afterwards for his own ego boost. I finally told him to not text me for no reason and that because he was acting condescending towards me (his pride getting in the way) we aren't friends and so I blocked him. I still wake up every day missing him and feeling bad that I removed him from my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:11 PM
2

Ya gurl you're right. I think my fear stems from having dated more passive men in the past and having to take the lead, I'm not really sure what a decent/HVM does when he's interested in you? I don't want passive anymore but I definitely don't want one that is pushy or only looking for one thing either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:44 AM
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Happy for you! My last relationship was the exact same but sadly went south after about 1.5 years so I'd say always remember that YOU are a high value woman too and to not let him slip. Always remember what YOU bring to the table too so that he never ever takes you for granted :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:43 AM
1

In lockdown right now so I can't but I think once this is over I'd rather not agree to a specific date until I know that I want to go on a date? Like someone said maybe they'll just be on their best behaviour for that period so they get you on that date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:55 AM
5

At least you know when a woman does this she's clean and it won't ruin the bike but.... I can smell his unwashed ass from here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:09 PM
1

I'm 100% the same. I also swipe left on people that have "don't match if you don't intend to talk" in their bio that just tells me their convo is shit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:57 AM
24

Pretty much. Thought OLD could be fun to remind myself I'm attractive and for the potential free days out/food/drinks but nah it's not worth the amount of entitlement and insults that come my way just cause I'm a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:21 PM
2

Oh hey other MBTI enthusiast (can't really call myself that anymore). My ex is an INTP and I thought OP was talking about him lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:54 PM
17

Yeah I thought it was my fault because he said he could cum with previous girls but that he had always used a condom, so now I realise he probably just lied to them that he came. Told me he couldn't cum when we first started having sex because he hadn't had sex for a while and then when we started having sex regularly his excuse was he had performance anxiety because he was focusing on cumming. He did get annoyed at me once or twice because I would "stop when it was getting good" even though I'd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:53 PM
7

I have pretty long hair and it's nice when I get compliments on it but yeah men can use it as a way of control. I had an ex stop talking to me when I cut mine because "it's not feminine", had another keep telling me how nice my hair was when it was short and how much he loves short hair as a hint for me to cut it and then just a guy straight up asking if he could cut my hair. No, I did not just spend £115 getting my hair dyed to let a man cut it so he could get a boner. I remember a few years ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:48 PM
3

That or they change their profile to "is there actually any real decent women on here?" when no-one matches them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:45 PM
10

Well shit, guess I'm autistic then. Also I've had exes who are friendless and go out alone wearing headphones try to say they're probably autistic (they aren't) as a defence for their anti social behaviour and lack of empathy towards others, let's not give guys anymore excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:18 PM
17

Yas girl!!! I'm proud of you! 3 days ago I finally blocked my ex. He strung me along for 4 months after dumping me. I told him a month ago to not message me for no reason, for him to then message me asking how I am. I asked him if there was a reason he was messaging me and he said "lol no" in his usual condescending manner. Told him we aren't friends anymore and blocked his ass, see ya. They DON'T change unless they are given consequences for their actions (and even then they usually don't). I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:10 PM
14

Most of that shouldn't be brought up until they've really shown trust. A little white "lie" is alright. For example, I get asked what got me into my current job and it's due to experience of being in the same circumstance and I say just that - "I had experience of it so I wanted to do it as a career", if they give me pity, I ignore it, if they ask for further I tell them there's not much else to say. Another example was yesterday someone asked if my parents stayed somewhere else, I don't have a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:42 PM
19

This exactly. A "good woman" to these men is one who bends over backwards for them, puts up with their shit, waits for years until THEY'RE ready to commit to her. A good man to us is just someone who is clean and treats us with respect lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:35 PM
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When I was devastated by being dumped by a "man" who wanked so hard he couldn't cum and who preferred to smoke weed and play video games than hang out with me... yeah. Not even my lowest point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:45 AM
1

I'm honestly a little jealous when I see a tall woman because they just look so powerful and so many of them ooze confidence. Sad when you see tall women who think it makes them less feminine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:15 PM
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Played "20 questions" with a guy on facebook pre FDS but only got as far as him telling me he has a hair cutting fetish. Checked out his ex gfs facebook and sure enough she went from shoulder length hair to pretty much almost shaved off. MMM BYE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:03 PM
55

"Haha cool (doesn't read a word you wrote), I don't really use this app (because I get no matches), so you got snapchat/whatsapp (you DTF?)"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:51 PM
22

Yeah thought it was cute until he started talking to her phone and felt a bit cynical thinking he's saying what he WANTS people to hear.... What are other people's thoughts on looking at an SO's phone? Never once felt the need to look at my exes and he never wanted to look at mine, if people need to look then that would insinuate there was little trust??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:01 PM
38

Sad thing is she probably will because he was "nice enough" to go to the ER with her (when he actually probably only went for the TikTok views)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:22 PM
9

Oh my god imagine turning up to a date and he has a 'tashe like that like nahhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:21 PM
4

At first my ex thought I was out of his league, he told me how amazing, beautiful, sexy, smart, responsible etc I was. Told me he loved me pretty early, was always there for me. After 1.5 years together he stopped doing that, called me naggy for asking him not to smoke weed, drive illegally and keep being late to meet me (even though prior to that he liked that I was "responsible" and didn't take shit). Oral skills were on point but only to make up for performance anxiety in the bedroom because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:38 PM
3

I understand completely, I "levelled" up following a split 3 years and that attracted a nice guy however ended up losing myself in that relationship AGAIN when I promised myself I wouldn't, so I find myself incredibly annoyed at myself for wasting more years on stupid relationships when I should have known better. The way I see it is some women NEVER get out of this mindset, they continue being a pickme for all their life. We still have time to sort ourselves out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:08 AM
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I am ONLY talking for myself here but I see my tendency to dom sexually as an extension of me being a pickmeisha. I pick men less attractive than me who are very passive because it helps me feel more secure due to my low self esteem. And I get an ego boost from rendering a man speechless when I dom him sexually. Now that I'm learning to boost my self esteem and let men chase me instead and not going for less attractive, I'm wondering if my sexual tendencies will change as well. Not to become mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:00 AM
2

"’90 Day Fiancé’ Couple Kirlyam and Alan Want Fans To Know He Wasn’t Creepin’ On Her When She Was 12" K I've heard enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:11 AM
7

I've only seen little clips but from what I saw Rose and her young son sleep on a floor in her sisters tiny house. Looks to be pretty poverty stricken. She wants a better life for her son. Apparently Ed was charming and nice online but when they met in person he had lied about several things plus was just horrible to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:10 AM
5

Oh nice! Tall women are stunning. I imagine it's tough trying to find a man that isn't insecure because of your height?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:05 AM
32

"6ft because apparently that matters"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:09 PM
28

I would honestly 1000% rather be around a Queen like Rose with her "bad breath" than be anywhere near him lmao. She should have bought him shampoo and soap in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:55 PM
1

If you have been harassed for nudes and have evidence, report it. If he has evidence you are using his pictures and spreading rumours about him then it can be seen as slander and harassment. Gurl, I get it. I dated an abusive narcissist that took everything from me. You can NOT win against a narcissist. They are too smart. You can not try to find every woman he will ever talk to, you can't control anything except letting go and freeing yourself from him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:45 PM
1

It could be seen as harassment or stalking. If a man made an account with your pictures and tried to talk to other men about you, wouldn't you report it? Was his name Ian? Saw a tinder profile yesterday in my likes that looked like a revenge profile..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:26 PM
1

Bear is a "reality TV celeb" ... First shipwrecked then Ex on the Beach then Celeb BB.. clearly fame hungry. I don't watch these programmes but know him from the tabloids for dating other fame hungry women (Vicky Pattinson and Charlotte Crosby). Bit of a twat like the rest of them. There's a youtube clip with 2 women walking out on him and another "celeb" about 10 minutes into a date because he wouldn't believe that they don't like kissing on the first date..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:51 PM
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"So you think I'm a bad person?" "Yeah" YASSSSSSSSSSS Queen. She is way too pretty and way too young for this sleazebag. He's literally "hurt" because she told him he was horrible for telling her her breath smelled, asking her to take an STD test, misleading her about future children etc. He has the AUDACITY to say he just needs to leave her to "calm" down. This gurl aint coming back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:46 PM
2

Yeah I have gold premium whatever. (I have a major issue with spending money when I'm in a bad place.. got some bomb ass clothes arriving soon though so it's not all bad)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:22 PM
4

I unmatched several people on OKC who then tried to follow me on other social media. I recently signed up to tinder (just for the reminder that men are not fussy and I shouldn't be complimented if one is interested in me) and several of these same guys who were quite clearly rejected by me have gone and liked me - I have the exact same pictures I have on OKC? Like, no really means try again later to these guys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 12:41 PM
3

Guy#1: Are you looking to meet someone while in lockdown Me: No Him: Good! I'm not either I was just wondering Sure you were, he then let the convo die. Bet if I said yes he would jump to it! Guy#2: Would I be an idiot if I broke lockdown to come meet a stunner like you? Me: Yes Him: Ouch ok. Better to meet late than never I suppose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 12:37 PM
11

I told my ex that weed smoking and drug taking was a deal breaker for me (my brother is a drug abuser and violent). He told me that weed smoking made him depressed and he had no interest in doing it anymore. He was living in a muslim country at the time so had no access to it. 1.5 years later literally as soon as he moved to my country where he could get it, he was doing it every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:10 AM
5

Same I've been in a relationship for all my 20's and now at 27 I'm single and having to sort of learn how to date since I never really did it before but actually I'm kinda excited? Now that I know I don't need to get into a committed relationship with someone JUST to be in a relationship and that I should date around until someone proves themselves worthy? 2 long term relationships later I'm not looking to be a forever girlfriend again. Looking forward to the free dates and cutting off any bulls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:04 AM
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I'm not sure about anyone else but I'm less worried about hurting men's feelings now (because they are NOT entitled to us or our bodies) and more worried about the fallout from it. I've been insulted and even had men try find me on other social media because we had one conversation and then I didn't reply to it or blocked them :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 08:25 AM
2

You open yourself to future contact from him by creating fake accounts with his pictures and name... not to mention he could contact the police regarding it, it's not worth it. Everyone else is right, there is no closure, he's too toxic to give you that, closure is when you focus on moving on (and not contacting him nor contacting others about him other than female friends for support) and become a new person that never lets another man ever affect you like that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 08:21 AM
5

This exactly what I'm finding on OLD with men talking about what they want in a woman, "no whales", "no smokers", "if you can down a pint you're a keeper", "i'll swipe left if you're a redhead or irish" meanwhile they're out of shape, work in retail or a balding late 30's guy clearly on a last ditch attempt to find someone to settle with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:13 PM
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For years I told my ex if he didn't start treating me better one day he'd come home from work and I would be gone. Well I did just that. Dude went crazy broke our furniture, found ways to call and bombard me with emails, messages you name it. "Come back we can communicate" when that didn't work "you can't afford to live on your own come back and you can stay on the sofa" lmaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:51 PM
25

They do?! Is this men or women? All the women I know find her gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:41 PM
28

Gurl......... you need to stop. You're putting way too much energy into someone that doesn't deserve it. He's a dick but that's on him and that's his life. Yes creating a tinder with his name and pics and messaging girls on his social media is 100% crazy, turn the tables over and ask how it would look if he was doing this to you? I get that he's messed you up and you feel you need answers or closure but acting like a stalker isn't going to do anything except make you seem like a crazy ex. The re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:35 PM
33

I purposefully pretend to be a guy when I'm gaming just so I get treated like a human being ugh. Earlier a guy said to me "if you're lucky, I can teach you good ways of learning". Bro, I have a degree and I'm currently undertaking another qualification by actual professors why would I need a guy without a degree telling me how to study rofl. Like he assumed he's the only person to ever go to Uni and cause I'm a girl I haven't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 07:22 PM
75

I get this allll the time. "Oh wow you're actually smart" "Oh you're not like the other girls".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:59 PM
7

I'm the same, guys called me weird and bullied me really badly in school but now they try chat me up in pubs. I've glowed up whilst they're all now balding and fat lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:45 AM
5

I understand completely. One time I was late to college so turned up without make-up or my hair washed and the guy that was usually catcalling me every day (actually, harassing) was like "eugh". I felt awful after that and I was already suffering from Body Dysmorphia Disorder. Now I'm the same. I keep myself clean, wear flattering clothes and sometimes put on makeup depending how I feel. My hair is done in a way that it is nice but low maintenance. Now, I wear makeup so little that when I do wea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:44 AM
7

I was always seen as the weird kid at school. I had glasses, was really shy and had odd interests. No-one was ever interested in me. Until I grew boobs - apparently being weird and nerdy is attractive as long as you are rolls eyes. I didn't even really enjoy this much, it made me feel incredibly anxious because I felt like a fraud - I was still the same person but attractive and I knew they wouldn't like me beyond sex so I ended up going for guys below my league that would be excited because I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:15 AM
4

I agree with the spotify playlist! Had it on every day the past few weeks. Have it on right now whilst I work from home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:42 AM
14

Yep, once didn't go on tinder for a day and came back to a message saying fuck you then cunt :) Today I had a "congratulations, you have entered the sweepstakes to win a date with me!" I replied "I think you'll find I'm the prize" and unmatched rofl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:53 PM
2

How about if a guy asks for your number? Can you give it then? Like if you met randomly whilst out somewhere?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:55 AM
2

I want that necklace no joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 11:19 AM
3

I'm not seeing anyone at the moment but my last relationship he pursued me like crazy, was completely in love with me. I wanted to take it slow and waited 8 months to make it official and have sex with him. Our 2 year relationship he could not ejaculate at all. Thought I had "tricked" him by making him fall in love with me then he saw my body and wasn't attracted to it? So I'm kinda worried about that happening again.. letting them chase for so long then they aren't interested when they get it? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 10:07 AM
9

I agree with everyone else, tell him to go out and try and find someone better for yourself. YOU'RE the one that can do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:21 PM
7

What do you do when you're in a committed relationship and they make less and less effort? Do you call them out on it or just start making less and less effort yourself and start looking for new options?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:30 PM
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I would love marriage and children more than anything but I'm not going to settle for anything less than a man who ALSO wants that and will treat me right. My mum brought up 3 children singlehandedly after marrying a LVM who cheated on her repeatedly then disappeared from his children's lives completely after she refused to take him back. That lead to a lot of resentment and bitterness from her towards us innocent children. I vow never to have children in an unstable relationship because it's no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:44 PM
28

Ugh knowing they've probably gone through pages and pages of these ladies posts to try find pictures.. I feel violated on their behalf tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:23 PM
3

You are not low value because bad things happened to you and you were dealt a cruel life. As long as you aren't hurting anyone or depending on them for your happiness (something you can always change/improve on) then you're not low value. Rooting for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:45 PM
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also they'll be forever insecure... dated sum1 for 4.5 years after meeting him online.. didn't find him physically attracted but thought i should "give him a chance" (even though he didn't deserve one!).. all our years together he never took pictures of us and made me feel like a terrible person because i was fun and outgoing and he was insecure bc i was much more attractive lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:02 PM
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https://i.imgur.com/OXcwZHa.jpg Replied and reported. Sadly this will only make him smarter with a new tactic instead of realising he's a creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:46 PM
4

christ what a fragile ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 05:48 PM
3

"Don't bother messaging me" = I'm too scared of your response and I need to feel powerful by blocking you lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 05:31 PM
1

Guys I'm laughing, someone from here showed me an image with the exact same message from the exact same person!! What the hell? This is a chat up line apparently?! What kind of neg..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:57 AM
10

Thanks for the advice ladies I will change it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:09 AM
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I used to get like 15 likes a day but since I put "please don't match me if you're going to waste my time or we clearly don't have the same values" I only get about that much a week now, ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:41 PM
18

"not-recently-touched-by-another-human-so-it's-as-hard-as-it-gets dick" christ that was so cringe, she could write for 50 shades of grey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:38 PM
4

I'm white my ex is indian and he had an incel (also indian) friend who made sexual remarks about me in reference to me being white, without ever meeting me and also said he would like to sleep with a white woman once in his life but that she would have to have XYZ characteristics (like he was any catch himself!!). He also commented that their other indian male friend dating a white woman "didn't count" because she was fat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:58 PM
2

The one and only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:41 PM
6

And his wife's younger sister is probably 20
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:35 PM
3

Right now I've only liked females on OKC. I'm using it to vet men (without actually liking them), sort of giving me practice to know what to look out for so when lockdown is over I have a headstart hopefully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:34 PM
17

It's ok, he's "single, monogamous and looking for female friends", his wife must just be a psycho ex he's estranged from! Also I think he means I look like his wife's younger sister which means he likes his sister-in-law.. but it's ok because he's "single"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:29 PM
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The only reason I'm on OLD at the moment is learning to vet, looking for red flags for when I'm seriously considering dating. I've rejected almost everyone on there. One of the other comments I've received recently was "you're hot for a (insert nationality)". He was also the same nationality. And a "you're too hot to be on here". They just insult themselves, don't they? Can't believe I'd think all the comments were compliments before I found FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:28 PM
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Right? He looks super bloated and gross to me. Add his dating history and just all over disgusting to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:35 PM
4

rofl I think the unmatching was the perfect response. That or "no" and unmatch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:23 AM
40

I left an abusive relationship of 5 years with a bag on my back and straight into a woman's refuge. I was homeless for 10 months. He did not let me get my clothes or passport and other paperwork for 3 months. I got none of the furniture and he took all the money from our joint account, of which roughly £800 was mine. I told a few friends immediately after what happened but after that I couldn't talk about it. This "man" had nude pictures of me (without my consent) and I was just in general terri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:55 AM
46

One time a man... a real, actual man... called me by my preferred name... is he a HVM?! Seriously, the bar is just so low that basic common decency is confused with high quality. Such a sad state of affairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:36 AM
5

"gotta take them to the pool to see whats behind the makeup" guess we gotta go on pool dates now too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:52 AM
2

This man still be talking about me 2.5 years and 2 girlfriends later though lmao!!! but women are the emotional obsessed ones that can't let go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:44 AM
2

My first ex lied about his height, his weight, his hometown and his sexual experience (he was a virgin but lied). Oh how I wish I knew better ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:41 AM
1

The way he looked or personality or all of it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:36 AM
6

maybe I'm a little extreme but currently I'd say "you don't"... you either stay single or let someone come to you. I'm not chasing nobody anymore and enjoying my freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:30 AM
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I've tried OLD a few times this year and my favourite tip is to reject every man then delete the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:56 PM
34

Ugly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:49 PM
9

We're in lockdown in my country. I have a disabled brother who would very likely die if exposed to corona. As soon as a man mentions breaking social distancing (and the 3 I have been talking to have) I immediately think less about them. They all try to excuse it too, "it was just football" "we sat apart in a garden (so they could have a few beers)" "It's for my mental health" "I hope you don't judge me -inserts excuse for doing it-"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:18 PM
4

Yes, I had this as a kid! Used to go swimming all the time so I think that's where I picked it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:04 PM
3

What do you mean by "the fact that he became a single dad (he didn’t live with the child tho) when he was merely 20 (NOT by choice)" if he had sex and a child was born then that's his responsibility? and how is he a single dad if the child lives somewhere else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:53 PM
4

I was in a relationship with a narc for 4.5 years but knew him (and abused by him) before and after that and this is one of the things I've learnt. A narc looks for a partner of high value, whether it's looks, academics, money and so on but when they get to know you they realise you are human like everyone else, have flaws and make mistakes like everyone else. They don't like this. You aren't perfect anymore. You're flawed and by extension that means they're flawed. So they start to pick on you,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:15 PM
8

That's exactly what I thought. Anyone that opens conversation with a comment on my looks automatically gets no reply from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:39 PM
17

I had the same thing happen to me TWICE with "male best friends" when I was a teenager and didn't know better. They were both extremely camp, one was openly bisexual the other never spoke about his sexuality so I assumed he was a closet gay. I thought their negging of me was typical camp/gay male cattiness. Turns out they were both into me but insecure so played up their campness to lure me into a false friendship. Both asked me out, I was confused because I thought they were gay/just my friend,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:29 PM
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"Is this man high value? He was narcissistic and difficult" You answered your own question there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:45 PM
2

Makes sense, known quite a few of my old male teachers that are now married to their old students!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:38 PM
60

five foot eleven.. and a HALF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:41 PM
29

right now I'm just happy to receive anything that isn't "hey how's lockdown treating ya?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:40 PM
35

I got a message that said only "read all your profile". WOOAHHH, get this guy a medal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 05:38 PM
1

I understand completely how you feel but DONT. If he's an awful person he will successfully lead her into believing you are crazy. It's not your job to convince her or anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 11:24 AM
1

I did the same. Came out a relationship in January and thought now, in the pandemic, was the perfect time to get a head start of the dating game and meet actual decent people who would be interested in chatting first rather than casual sex.... nope, turns out it's just full of people who can't stand to be lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:31 PM
2

Dated a guy long distance too. Visited him once a month. I noticed the first time we were together he didn't brush his teeth but I thought hm.. maybe he just did it when I was sleeping or something? I would make a point to say "I'm going to brush my teeth" to see if he would follow? Eventually I had to just ask him if brushed his teeth and he sheepishly said yes... Had to ask him many times to brush his teeth as he'd get into bed without doing it! We've been broken up for 2.5 years and apparentl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:52 PM
1

Probably trying to manipulate us (women) into thinking it was our idea so they can feel like they're oh so desirable and don't need to ask for nudes, that we secretly want to do it but need a little nudge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:17 PM
1

Ugh when I met my ex I was interested but I heard him say he didn't like children. I was willing to cut my losses with him but we started talking about it. After a few months he said he was starting to really like the idea of having children with me. We compromised on starting a family once he had a job. Well 2 years into our relationship he says he can no longer promise that and can't give me what I want and we should break up so I can get it. I don't believe that's the real reason he broke up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:43 AM
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