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the female orgasm is preparatory, not culminatory what does that mean / what's the difference ​
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:02 PM
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Makes sense! Do you apply this to yourself too, or is this just from his perspective? Do you think about your own 'honor' in the same way, or differently?
/r/RedPillWives06/01/18 03:58 AM
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I decide what you are and you can't do that for me Can you explain this rule? Loved the vid, great timing for me haha
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 07:41 PM
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So this is an insanely late reply but if you happen to catch this lol, hiiii <3 Watched a vid and it put into words what I was getting at, if you're interested. You'll want to watch the whole thing, if you have time, but check out around 52:20 (edit: more around 55:40), because that's the point when I remembered this/our conversation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E5F4oOlAK8w Like I never saw reproduction as the ultimate reason for sexual intercourse, so that's probably why we were at odds her…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/17 10:47 PM
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all variations of attraction can have a positive impact on survival Being sexually attracted to newborn babies or to animals other than humans are examples of variations that don't have a positive impact on survival. (Lol it's what I thought of when I made the edit - other 'abnormal' variations of sexual attraction) However, people who have sex with these objects are indeed expressing themselves. Do you believe that homosexuality is only the result of “nurture” and that there is not a genetic co…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 12:05 PM
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100% yes XD
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 10:26 AM
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Yes, all variations of (edit: lol no. not all variations. that's dumb :p) sexual attraction is linked to survival. Having sex ensures the propagation of genetic material. But the actual act of sex has more meaning to an individual than just 'survival'. I'm only halfway through Atlas Shrugged, but I liked when one of the characters claim that 'sex is an effect and expression of a man's sense of his own value' and then goes on to explain how/why (it's near the end of ch 4 in part 2). Because it se…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 03:54 AM
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Mm not sure why we're talking about orientation being about group survival or group benefits. My initial point was just: Perhaps all sexual orientations are functions of the same purpose - to propagate creation during our daily, 24-hour lives - which is why it seems infallible. Productivity is selfish, in a lot of ways, so gays being selfish doesn't surprise me at all, haha. Even kin selection is selfish - you would only ever sacrifice direct reproductive opportunities if you believe your kin ha…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 02:22 AM
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So right off the bat, to make it clear, I'm essentially agreeing with this part from your OP, which you say is one of the author's objections: If homosexuality has been selected for purposes other than reproduction, then it would mean that the same biological phenomenon (SO) has different functions in different people Even if homosexuality was an 'error', I'm putting out that perhaps this faulty function still serves the same purpose - to produce. I don’t agree that homosexuals are more producti…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/17 11:04 PM
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Thanks! I'll look into these and think about it; will respond later :)
/r/RedPillWives13/10/17 11:04 PM
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it doesn't make sense to add an extra step/layer of "sexual orientation" when you could just say that hormones can alter sexual attraction. True, but people love to categorize and systematize and give themselves labels, lol. 'I am oriented this way' lets people know that my intention is to pursue a specific object of attraction. But when it comes to sexual attraction it all of a sudden isn't possible that people could be deviating from biological norms if they experience attraction to members of…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/17 08:02 PM
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Here, let me throw hormones into the mix, because it's the first thing I thought of: link Someone with a bio background can inform/correct whatever is in that wikipedia piece there, but I found it incredibly interesting. The suprachiasmatic nucleus is responsible for controlling circadian rhythms. Perhaps all sexual orientations are functions of the same purpose - to propagate creation during our daily, 24-hour lives - which is why it seems infallible. The topic gave me a ton of food-for-thought…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/17 07:10 PM
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It's Puppy Love.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/17 01:10 AM
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I think most women crave drama and spirituality is another outlet for that. Also, women have a need to feel special, to feel unique and, to feel powerful. Spirituality can sate that craving as well. I think men can find these things is what they do more than how they feel so they can depend more on themselves rather than spirituality. Satiating the craving for drama makes sooo much sense lol. The 'feel' vs 'do' aspect is interesting. Like I assume that men want to be special, unique, and powerfu…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 12:39 PM
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What does 'agency equal to that of a man' mean? I agree that men and women are fundamentally different. But a woman does not need to act 'like a man' in order to act independently and make her own free choices that bring her happiness. It makes sense to say that this 'agency' doesn't come naturally to women because we're inherently collectivists, but I don't see anything wrong with encouraging agency. Plus I feel like this sub does exactly that - it encourages women to take responsibility for wh…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 09:39 AM
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I personally don't think that women need to posses this level of agency, or even that they should. This yielding to a "higher power" is an integral part of the feminine psyche in my opinion, and offers both weaknesses and strengths in comparison with men. I see what you're saying, but I hesitated here. Two things: Yes, women may not need to nor have to posses a high level of agency. But they can posses agency. Imo, any individual has the potential to be the master of themselves and their domain.…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 03:59 AM
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Yes, individual freedom :D I'm a little doubtful about 'the idea of an individual woman' being a novel concept though... what do you mean exactly? EDIT: saw edit, yup, its more modern, not novel :)
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 02:54 AM
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Fun topic! I'll jump in with something small because I'm curious to see what people think about spirituality/magic in the context of RP understanding. As far as I know, the idea of 'agency' is strongly connected to the idea of 'liberation'/'freedom' in spirituality. It seems like male nature craves for this more than female nature does. I also think that a feminine drive for reproduction/'creation' may play more of a role in women being 'ancient in their heart of hearts'. The time investment and…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 12:39 AM
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All I know is everyone's needs should be considered. Which is why feminine receptiveness is helpful for me in such situations. A committed relationship involves compromises; but I would not be compromising something that I deeply/highly value to a man I haven't committed to. That said, I would ask him why something doesn't matter to him, and be receptive to his answer. I wouldn't want a man to blindly compromise by catering to my wishes. At the very least, lol I'd hope to learn something about h…
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 08:01 PM
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So I wouldn't be competing with a man that I've chosen to date. If I've said yes to a 'date', I've already vetted him enough to know that I won't need to/want to compete with him. He'd be more masculine than me, and that's what I'd want. I've just never considered this, as the valued qualities in each gender are different, so it'd be like a race between a swimmer and a sprinter. Except imo, an individual has a mix of both masculine and feminine qualities. Yes, as a female, I will be valued more …
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 07:37 PM
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Seeing it this way has helped me out too; I'm tagging on because it's cool to see this post from someone young and in 'monk mode'. I think a lot of what being "his" means probably comes from what 'respect' means to men. There's usually a lot of ways to show respect to your man, but the bottom line on RPWi has always been “Find a good man and defer to him; advice on the internet be damned.” The whole sub has content on how to defer and why deferring works. Sometimes I think it might be more helpf…
/r/RedPillWives23/07/17 08:47 PM
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Its not a new game. Same game, different environments, different tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 05:08 AM
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Love this, always have. To me, Hygge is 'home' vs house. A home is any space where people can bond, care, have fun, and be intimate with each other. Bonding is personalized, so whatever facilitates that = hygge. I also think homes reflect the individuality of the people in it, so in my case, hygge in the summer would definitely have things like beanbag chairs, board games outdoors, looking for four-leaf clovers lol, backyard soccer, jazz music, painting things for/with friends, looking through o…
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 04:59 PM
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lol oi i knew the second i pressed save that you knew - plating is stupid and ew, end of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 04:00 PM
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I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:56 PM
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Save your games for your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:54 PM
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Ah lol. Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:51 PM
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I got satisfactory answers, thanks. Don't know your blog and your anecdote is confusing. You introduced a girl to your alpha friend and it didn't work out? EDIT: and you clearly see yourself as having higher value than your friend. So no, you haven't introduced a girl to a higher value friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:45 PM
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No. It was asking if alphas with women who respect them but don't give them sex would introduce the women to other alpha friends (not in the woman's social circle). It seems to me that they generally wouldn't. Nbd but wanted to see if ppl would say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:34 PM
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Not fuckable + in the social circle was part of the question. The question wasn't about getting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:24 PM
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lol still lost a member of your harem. Way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 02:22 PM
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makes sense, social butterflies = social resources = higher in the female social matrix lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 07:40 PM
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I've never seen "subconscious awareness" of this. It was either overtly there in men with experience, or not at all. Okay. Yup. yupyup lol In my past, I've never gone out of my way to introduce women to any of my friends except my current LTR, and that's because she doesn't have many friends where we moved to, and she hates being alone. See ok first dude to say this straight up, thanks haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 07:25 PM
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why is a guy friends with some broad hes not fucking in the first place Lol Atlas! Okay imagine an ENFP-type guy who wants ppl, including women, to find happiness for themselves. He's friends with the broad because that's his personality. Does that help? why is any thought being put into this? Because I'm not a social butterfly lol and I wonder whether single dudes would introduce 'some broad'-friend to higher-status men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 07:16 PM
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If she's high value I'd hook them up, especially if my boy is lacking in the looks department. 'your boy' is higher status than you but lacking in the looks department?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 07:09 PM
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Yea lol this is normal and totally makes sense. Would I avoid introducing my single friend to my single friend because something something hypergamy? Lol this is what I was curious about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:57 PM
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which part of the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:53 PM
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The way I see it is that I'll never be top tier or alpha of any social group, so there's no point trying to date a girl who will eventually want an upgrade. You kind of have to assume that she'll want the best that she can get. And that she'd then hold on to him/defend him/respect him even after commitment (lol so exclude branch-swingers). if I have no chances if dating the girl, then who cares whether or not she finds what she's looking for either from her own resources or from mine? Yea, so my…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:52 PM
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Not if you want her. You don't want her. So would you introduce her or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:45 PM
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I prefer female friends that are in relationships since I'm in one too In the OP, the question was asked to single men - srry if that wasn't clear. But sure, I treat taken women differently for sure. At least if I like her man lol. lol yup A developed woman or man will want to return the favor. meh, that's an assumption. Plus, I'd think favours can be returned in ways other than helping my single guyfriend find someone. Like it's not guaranteed that I'd go out of my way to help him find a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:44 PM
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K feel free to ignore whether you 'own' her. Answer the question pls thnx.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:34 PM
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No, you're not interested in her. Why am I introducing her to him? Would you introduce her or not - and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:33 PM
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Plus if you hook two people up and they succeed, they will always be in your debt on some implicit level. second person to say this. They don't have to return the favour/owe you back though. So 'worst case' scenario you lost a female friend, lol however you choose to value that. Like I'd assume you now would treat her differently from when she was single, to respect your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:32 PM
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most male friend groups aren't playing mind games with each other just to huff some pussy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:29 PM
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I get this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:26 PM
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Yeah, why wouldn't you ? I would, only because any guy I'm doing that for is a guy I see as being lower value than me. If he's higher value AND I'm not interested in him (usually because he's from a different culture/class than me), I've had a harder time with being altruistic lol. Friends who you setup may well return the favour some day. Or they're out of my friend circle and I'll never see them again xD Never had a problem with any of this and I'm curious as to why anyone would. A guy going o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:23 PM
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But you're not interested in the girl, so does it matter if its easier for him?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:10 PM
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Not talking about a partner, just talking about single people. Would you introduce a girl to a friend of equal status?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:08 PM
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Pretty much nobody can survive on their own Yup, that might be true to you and others. Imo, it's a limiting belief, and it's why alphas are typically hated. Even in animals lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 05:01 PM
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Hunter-gatherer societies needed to survive. A man (or anyone) who can survive on his own (masculinity) would have been respected. If he could inspire other people to work to survive on their own (not masculinity, this is a beta trait), he gets to be the leader. 'Individualism' boils down to the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 04:54 PM
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Masculinity and alphaness are not the same. Alphas are the best at fulfilling their imperative - for males, alphas fuck women - they're the best at securing unlimited access to unlimited sexual opportunity. Masculinity does involve individualism/independence. The masculine traits in a leader allow him to depend on himself - if he's leading, it means that the people permitting him to lead already know that he's capable of 'being his own man'.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 04:41 PM
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Nerd. Agreed, still - Can't forget the annoyingly neutral neutrons tho 😂 Thanks dude. I usually lurk/observe around here, probably still will, but your comments (along with a couple other new ppl around here) inspire me to participate more, given the 'free speech ground zero' space.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/17 01:57 PM
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It works if the low status men derive happiness from climbing the hierarchy. I doubt you'd see the same level of hostility from men who weren't attached to their status.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 05:24 PM
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You're saying no Chads make no women want to fuck him based on his beauty. Imo, any woman who says this is hamstering their inability to seduce him. I've met Chads I've wanted to fuck based on purely his beauty. Pre-RP, I'd get starry eyed, and then do nothing. Because a part of me just believed I couldn't fuck him - then hamstered it away as 'he's too beautiful', 'I don't know his personality, he could be an idiot', 'his beauty means nothing to me because I don't know if he can be 'dominant' an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 03:48 AM
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To an extent. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ardhanarishvara#Symbolism Your comments are refreshing on PPD dude. What brought you here? outta curiosity~
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:17 AM
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YES! 😂 finallyyyyyy lmao - yeo I love you and I'm not even drunk nor high 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/17 10:44 PM
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Yes to harmony and getting a masculine man! But it seems to me that the more maturely masculine the dude is (or the more a dude embodies the 'totality' of the archetypes, i.e. King, Warrior, Magician, Lover), the more I would need to develop the feminine archetypes of me that would be a balance for him. In my case, I've had to develop my Warrior and Nurturer sides over time. I've tended to see the Warrior archetype as being what I mean when I say 'Masculinity in women'.
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 05:15 AM
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I think it's sad women would rather settle for a man because he worships the ground she walks on and does anything she says (aka buys her shit) than find a respectable man You know, I wonder about this too. It's funny because the whole 'man worshipping woman' thing almost seems like a part of male-nature (ECs have to correct me if I'm wrong on this). Plus, I wonder if this dynamic is what works in healthy LHL couples (a dynamic that I still have trouble understanding bc it's not natural to me). …
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 08:14 PM
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Yeesss! <3
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 06:48 PM
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In reality, he literally repulsed me. Yup. Worse is when a guy in high school that I thought was fun and not the typical 'nice guy', but then he slowly turned into one. Even worse was when I realized it's not just him, it's me. I shit-tested and bantered and then his behaviour towards me changed... and that repulsed me. I felt bad about it, because like you said, great on paper. It took RP for me to realize that 'turning the bad guy into a nice guy' only seems great on TV and in movies. The clas…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 06:05 PM
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I grew up watching Disney shows, so my childhood/pre-teens revolved around shows like Lizzie McGuire, Kim Possible, Wizards of Waverly Place, That’s So Raven, Hannah Montana, etc. I know for a fact that through all of these shows, I grew up learning that I had ‘choices’ when it came to guys I could date, and that girls usually date multiple different men before settling on ‘the one’’. Often, the girl would pine for the stereotypically ‘alpha’ dude before settling on her ‘best friend’. Lizzie had…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 04:11 PM
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Masculinity in women? I know the sub focuses on developing psychological femininity. I also know that some feminine traits can be hindering in certain contexts: e.g. indirect communication. With /u/Camille11325 's recent post on common 'low dominance' problems, I thought it could be interesting to expand on how to develop certain 'psychologically masculine' traits like 'assertiveness' and feeling comfortable with being 'autonomous' (e.g. creating our own happiness) within a relationship. Importa…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 03:22 AM
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At least not in the true sense of what rejection actually means. Clooney pursued, Eva refused. Clooney risked rejection, knowing his 'not completely single' status. Reasons for rejection mean nothing here. There are Chads who pursue while committed and still find side chicks who will 'be with them'---Chads risk rejection. Chad is still chad, the most attractive man of all the attractive men. 'Chad' is a type, no matter how you define it. "The most attractive" will mean something different to dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/17 07:18 PM
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A Chad is a man who is at the top of the chain. There's not just one chain/social matrix. There's a Chad for every social matrix. There's a Stacy/Becky at the top of any social matrix who has the choice to reject a Chad. That pic says very little, but lol he was cute as Four in Insurgent. Since it looks like you're into actors/models, even George Clooney got rejected. Now if he's a Chad, or if Eva Longoria is a Stacy/Becky is probably debatable, but the point is just that it's not impossible to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/17 06:05 AM
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You think Chad or rich guys get rejected? Logically and ime, if the Chad/rich guy is still less in SMV/RMV than the woman in question, then sure, he could get rejected. But does that mean he fears pain/risk/rejection/disappointment? No, he (hypothetically) doesn't. What I'm saying though is that we aren't alone in the fears we experience. That Chad/rich guy would have other fears, relatable ones too, like a fear of death or a fear of love or a fear of fear, lol. But any fear he has, he'd know to…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:40 AM
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ah lol okii ^^
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 05:30 AM
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By 'we' I meant we humans. Humans have fears. Humans aren't alone in their fears. You're not afraid of pain/rejection/disappointment? Cool, that's awesome. Are you afraid of anything else? Rhetorical question. you dont see maybe a causal relationship here? Fear causes inaction? Yes. I could even say inaction causes more fear. But it's the inaction that stops people from being successful. Not the fear. sll ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 05:14 AM
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Nah. Fear of pain, risk, rejection, and disappointment doesn't stop people from being successful in the SMP. Inaction stops people from being successful. Now fine, you could say that people will refrain/be inactive because they are afraid of all the things you mentioned. Doesn't matter imo. The reasons for not doing whatever I want to do are almost always just in my head. And yea that's a dry take on things, and yes, fear can be debilitating. But successful people aren't "lacking" in fear. They …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 02:12 AM
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She knows it's about "her" if she can't apply it to other general females in her SMV/RMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 07:25 PM
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Yes! Lol boost her ego by paying attention to her actual ego (self-concept). With "oooh a female" attention, ymmv on boosting her self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 07:17 PM
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I think using the word 'ego' as synonymous with 'self-esteem' is problematic. Seeing 'ego' as 'self-concept' makes it easier, imo, to fit what you're pointing out into rpers' perception of female ego. To think that the female ego is stroked purely by their social envr or by social validation is really a comment on how females gain value in their own social matrix. A girl can tell her girlfriend that she looks hot, but it doesn't mean she'll believe it - she'll just know that her looks are valida…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 08:08 AM
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Same, and sure thing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/17 08:22 PM
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That's exactly what inspired me to comment on your post :D Since I haven't seen this way of looking at alpha/beta traits in men before, I figured I'd ask for your opinion on a female-version, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/17 07:57 PM
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Yup you're right, women's dual mating strategy makes it harder to define categories. I've been mulling over it for a while but haven't tried to articulate it - madonna/whore is interesting though, I think archetypes like Whore/Amazon could be considered 'alpha' and then Mother/Madonna would be beta maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/17 07:45 PM
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I can see how this works, and I agree with it. Do you think it works for alpha/beta traits in women too? Playing only alpha game is like trying to play the piano with only one hand, you completely miss a whole spectrum of women [men?] available (same with only beta game).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/17 07:31 PM
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Camille, Phantom responded to my response to you. She started a conversation with me. She mentioned that I am responsible for how eligible men perceive me. Her second point in this comment says that I'm entirely in control of how other people perceive me. I'm saying that I am not, and I am therefore not responsible for perceptions. a) no you aren't morally responsible for what people think and you can't directly control perception but b) you are capable of affecting and influencing which is wher…
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 01:49 AM
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Tough love, haha omg this real-life convo translation definitely shows me how I came across to you both \<sup>\</sup><sup>"</sup> Thanks for being so patient with me though! So firstly, I was arguing things that were related to the convo in progress: You inserted yourself into our conversation. I did insert my interpretation of what was being discussed in the thread. I was responding specifically to this: All of this is leading up to say that I strongly disagree with this: "you should do whateve…
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 01:28 AM
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I'm talking about responsibility, always have, since the initial comment. Responsibility will have morality tied into it. A single woman is not responsible for a man's needs, but as Camille and you are both saying, a woman's choices prior to obtaining commitment are best made with consideration to male preferences. I don't intend to complicate things, I intend to find clarity on what people are responsible for. Personal accountability is a part of having good character. I understand that you're …
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 06:41 PM
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Firstly, thank you, I really need you to know that your explanation and interpretation of what I'm saying is helping me improve my clarity in communication - both you and Camille are really good at expressing your thoughts succinctly, and I respect that. However, from what I've understood so far, you're making points that are slightly different from what Camille has said. While you literally cannot insert thoughts, and opinions into someone's mind, you are absolutely in control of the impression…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:34 PM
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I'm having a hard time with your phrasing of 'responsible for the perception men have'. I don't believe I am responsible for what you think of me or responsible for how you perceive me, because I don't have control over your perceptions - I only have control over my actions. I will listen to your perceptions of me and then if I think your perception of me does not align is vastly different from my perception of myself, or if I was responsible for causing emotional or mental distress, then I woul…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 07:10 AM
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We’re not going to coddle anyone, single or married! Kay I'll start by saying that I love and appreciate this :D The subreddit itself presents the case for RPW both explicitly and implicitly but no it doesn’t force or command anyone to do anything. We literally cannot force anyone to do anything, and we’re not trying to. But that doesn’t mean that we endorse every decision everyone makes just because they had the freedom to make it. When people ask for advice or we speak in generalities we talk …
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 06:48 AM
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Having good character and everything mentioned in the OP is essential for any woman interested in obtaining commitment. I agree with you, and nowhere in my comment do I disagree with this. I also agree that I am responsible for my behaviour, and I am responsible for the consequences of my behaviour. If I behave in a manner that results in eligible good men thinking of me in a way that I do not intend (in my case, I intend to obtain commitment), then I am entirely responsible for that. Am I still…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 06:29 AM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but to me, it sounds like the fundamental difference here is for what single women 'should' use as their sexual strategy. A single woman, in theory, has not acquired exclusive commitment from a man and is therefore not responsible for a man's needs. So while it's true that RP = acknowledging reality (especially male and female nature), being guided by rational self interest, and making the most optimal choices given the situation and your goals a single woman can theoret…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 05:30 AM
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Heyyy what good is being good if you're not having fun?! :D Totally agreeing with you, especially the part about misusing good traits - it's possible to misuse any trait, for that matter - I'd have to be aware of two things: Do I get the intended results Do my intended results fall in line with my morality Lol, that second one's hard, still figuring out the nuances and updating my mental code of ethics~ It also isn't always on my mind, so I kind of have to rely on the subconscious/automatic part…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 04:35 AM
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Hey thanks! <3 Same here, and it's a pretty fun concept to apply IRL while also looking out for masculinity in the world - and then lol, the interaction between psychological femininity and masculinity creates maaagic~~ :P
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 07:42 PM
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Haha, hey we probably have millennials to thank for reddit and other social media platforms bringing people together, so they aren't all that bad?! But you're right about the ungratefulness though - why would millennials see value in keeping the family together when they've been told their whole life to be 'independent' and 'true to themselves'...natural breeding ground for selfishness, imo. Lol, or maybe that's just my feels talking. The rest of your reply is so spot on, and its pretty clear to…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 07:38 PM
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Yes!! I'm apparently generation Homelander, and from what I can tell, my gen values tradition & family - so I completely agree with you. Loyalty is a huge one as far as good character goes, but I think because of generational differences and the breaking up of nuclear families, that 'sense of kinship' is a hard one for people to value. I honestly think it's useful and important, though. Someone asked me the other day if a man would care if I had a good relationship with my mom/dad/sister, etc. D…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 05:37 AM
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Haha me too!! Legally Blonde was totally a movie that made it okay to embrace femininity, in a way. Character is one of those weird things that almost seem limitless - I guess it goes without saying that we're all people who have strengths in some traits and weaknesses in others, but I can't imagine there being a cut-off for good character, lol. C-ntyness, oou, I'd probably stick to the root and use it for anyone who thinks their vaj makes them special/immune (like example A?), or anyone who use…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 05:28 AM
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Kay wait, this is great, but omg you can't forget the bend and snap - works every time! :D Good Character distinguishes you from other women, and it makes you an asset and a source of happiness. Psychological femininity, authenticity, and a love of life are essential if you want to be irreplaceable. What can’t be outsourced? Being the mother of his children, and companionship. Excelling in these areas gives you an advantage over women who don’t offer anything a man can’t buy. This is why the cor…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 03:44 AM
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omg awesome, i'll check it out - thanks! <3
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 05:09 PM
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Ooou thanks!! Coptic binding looks so neat, really helps lay the book flat. And then would buying beeswax work? Haha, can't wait to try it out :)
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 05:40 AM
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I bind books as a hobby, so the women in my life will be getting a handmade notebook or diary. I love this! I've been watching way too many Youtube vids on making & binding junk journals~ It looks sooo fun and cute, I wanna make one for my sister ^^ Any tips? :D
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 09:59 PM
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It's full of warm fuzzies!! Haha, I love this, so many feels + super supportive ^^ <3 The boss ladies in this community - all mods & ECs - have always been gracious & honest, and that's probably what I respect the most, so shout-outs for that. The users below are just a couple who I haven't seen mentioned yet so I wanted to give em some love, lol: /u/cats_or_get_out - for being so kind and consistently sharing grounded advice - her post on the value of a husband's wisdom sums up what RPW means t…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 05:06 AM
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If you don't think that you can have a new suitor within the next 2 weeks then give this guy a chance. Nothing is stopping you from accepting dates from other men while you see where things go w/ guy #1. Just try to limit all text interactions; use texts for logistics only. Yes to aaall of this because, to me, the super-important underlying point you're making here is that your TIME is valuable, haha. I wouldn't want to waste time on a man who makes me cringe unbearably, nor would I want to spen…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 05:56 AM
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I'll go out on a limb and say that texts with smileys/exclamations are a feminine way of communicating, and that's why it feels cringey. How does he communicate in person? Are you attracted to him when you're both just having a conversation? Since you mention that this guy is 'attractive from a distance', I'd say that by giving him a chance to show you his character (so you can vet him more), you'll have a better sense of whether the attraction will sustain. Not an EC, so feel free to take this …
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 03:47 AM
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but a whole lot to do with people personal FEELINGS. Which is not especially helpful for anyone's self development. Imo, this isn't a post about sexual strategy. If this post has anything to do with self-development, it's about learning to critically evaluate the claims of feminist ideology - learning to get to 'what is true'. Commenters bring up 'tone policing' because when you talk about 'feelings', you're right. Just because something feels like it's written in an angry/provoking etc. way, it…
/r/RedPillWives02/11/16 03:30 AM
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Hm. But there is such a thing as love, I think, yes? If yes, then maybe an extension of what you're saying is that what most people think of as empathy is when people imagine their own feelings of 'love' and then project them onto others to 'co feel' love...?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 01:25 AM
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So glad it helps! True, self-criticism can make relationships pretty stressful (I totally understand the whole 'coming across as kinda self-absorbed' part), but the fact that self-compassion can make us more productive is awesome ^^
/r/RedPillWives22/10/16 02:04 AM
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Felonies and gourds have one very important commonality: they’re both extremely f-cking real. Sorry if that’s upsetting, but I’m not doing you any favors by shielding you from this anymore. Thank you, gosh, I'm so glad I learned this sooner than later. LOOL, loved it!
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 09:15 PM
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What omg, this is a real thing‽ Interrobang‽ It works‽ LOL, I'm stupidly entertained, this has to become a thing
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 09:04 PM
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Yay! I'm glad, and you're right, it's totally about balance in all things :)
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 08:00 PM
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What's interesting is how cocooning also goes hand in hand with people 'showcasing' success, improvement, happiness, and popularity via online outlets like Facebook, LinkdIn, Twitter, Instagram, and reddit. They are insecure with their social standing, so they are meticulous about the online presentation of their lives. I think it might be a little more than that. People are capitalizing on constant online positive reinforcement because they don't know how to change their behaviour without 'stim…
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 07:07 PM
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Omg wow this article is insanely insightful, thank you for sharing!! XD <3 I've been a cocooner for sure, and I'm hyperaware of that now. wasting too much time on tasks because of obsessive thoughts and compulsive actions and counter-actions, second-guessing themselves for hours instead of just going to it Yup, me. Sigh, lol. Self-satisfaction would seem to contradict the self-doubt, but it's the direct result of it -- with no feedback from others about where you stand on all those dimensions, y…
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 05:06 PM
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Free Friday material! Lol, I really like this article because it boils down all the sciency-stuff into a cute + detailed infographic :D The whole concept really helped me reframe how I deal with problems and goals in my life.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 04:42 PM
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From what I can tell, candid pictures of us smiling, laughing in the midst of doing an activity is like prime material for increasing our ODSC in social media - the pictures that aren't just selfies in random places (bedroom, bathroom, parties) that don't really show how interesting we are or how 'exciting' our lives are. So pictures of us camping outdoors, or rock climbing, or painting, or on a roller coaster, or surfing, or baking, or lol, basically pictures of you doing things that interest y…
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 04:31 PM
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Love yourself. Lol, I know, that sounds like typical BP advice for becoming complacent and self-indulgent. It's not. If you've been reading the material on this sub for long enough, you know how important it is to be understanding towards your SO when they suffer, fail, or feel inadequate (instead of criticizing them or getting angry at them). Basically, apply the same logic to yourself :) This is real, evidence-based advice - fantastic materials on self-compassion.org, Edit: Kristen Neff is the…
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 04:07 PM
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Ok, thanks, I now realize that you simply believe this definition to be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 06:40 PM
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Haha, I see, the preemptive 'I don't really mean it' apology versus our overused 'I don't want to inconvenience you' apology :P Yup, all of that makes sense and is super useful to be aware of - thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 06:37 PM
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Lol, idk why you're saying sorry, and I'm Canadian :p I have no problem with informative tangents. And yay, thanks~ Yup, I understand the whole 'overcontrolling behaviour as a result of frustration and treating people as extension of my will' part, I've done that too - I guess the key here is knowing that the only people we have real control over, is ourselves - control over someone else is a matter of respecting the independence/freedoms of others, maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 02:31 PM
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Makes sense. The cost-benefit analysis of any position of power is determined by the individual, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 01:51 PM
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/u/CursedLemon so it's great that we understand that cooperation can bring power. Yet, as great as this line of reasoning has been, and while I understand the desire for drawing clean lines between alpha and beta, the point of this post was to address the fear of power. I always told myself that I never cared to be an alpha or a leader. I realized that in actuality, it's not that I didn't care, it's that I didn't want to deal with power - I've been afraid of the ability to influence behaviour an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 01:47 PM
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Then we're talking about whether or not alphas are cooperative - the answer would be that sure, they can be cooperative. Cooperation is but one of many strategies for obtaining power.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 06:39 AM
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whether or not alphas are cooperative for the greater good Addressing this is a matter of morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 06:27 AM
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That's an issue that can't be addressed because "alpha" and "beta" aren't terms that are associated with morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 06:20 AM
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I can't imagine running a military purely on soft power. Ya exactly. And I'm completely agreeing with the rest of your comment :) So yes, I'd say don't be afraid of both hard and soft power, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 04:13 AM
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Ah okay, what 'happens behind the scenes' is strategy. And you're right, he does describe an existing + effective strategy of accumulating power. Another guy, /u/ProbablyBelievesIt linked to a different strategy of using beta traits to accumulate (soft) power. Does any of this take away from the point of "don't be afraid of power" if you want to be alpha?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 04:01 AM
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''Power'', ''dominance'', and ''fearlessness'' aren't fantasy traits. They're real traits possessed by real people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 03:39 AM
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I totally ignored your comment because it wasn't challenging anything, lol. But I figured I'd say at least say hai :p
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 03:05 AM
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Could you point me to where this definition is or how you arrived at this definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 02:34 AM
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I don't understand why you equate being an alpha with being a sociopath. Sociopaths, according to my understanding, would be diagnosed by the DSM-V as having Anti-social Personality Disorder. Are you saying an alpha cannot experience empathy and healthy interpersonal functioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 02:17 AM
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Thanks for commenting, but I'm not sure if I'm understanding you. Are you saying that being powerful, fearless, and dominant are not worthy traits for respect? They're definitely not the only traits for respect. And: The major skills for an ''alpha'' - along with confidence, social intelligence, and potential for violence/dominance - are actually charisma, co-operation, and negotiating skills. You're already defining alpha with 'potential for violence/dominance' and 'co-operation + negotiating s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 02:03 AM
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This 'General' situation doesn't seem all that different from other positions of power, like becoming the President, for example. 'Despite having power over what policies are set, security protocols need to be followed as well' -> Lol, 'With great power comes great responsibility' :P I'm not debating what 'true freedom' is. People are free to exercise their freedoms as long as they're not infringing on other people's freedoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 01:53 AM
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People appreciate + can be consoled with honesty. If someone can't empathize with me, at least they're being honest about it, instead of pretending to understand how I feel. I think it helps to tell myself that I'm human, and all humans experience hurt/pain/suffering. Makes me feel connected, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 12:57 AM
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This honestly seems like disguised soft power. It's eerily similar to the FSM, haha. According to this method, management should function more as a “facilitator” than as a “decision-maker”, and create more scope and trust, thereby inspiring and motivating employees. This method places value on self-regulation rather than external supervision. Empowerment & self-regulation, good stuff. The strategy here does seem to be using beta traits to gain soft power - However, I think you're trivializing th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 12:33 AM
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You're making a really important point about empathy. And about the golden rule. If I am do to unto others what I would unto myself, I have to know what is best for myself and for others. Which is why I understand this: I have no idea how to console people, past fixing their problems outright. Have you ever had to console yourself? Another way of asking this: have you ever felt hurt/emotional pain/suffering? If yes, what do you do/tell yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 12:22 AM
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Ah. So are you saying a person can win power with only beta qualities? If yes, I need real-world examples please.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 12:03 AM
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What are you arguing here? Yes, everyone will play the part they play in the present. The title of this post started as "Wanna be an Alpha?", meaning its for people who want to be an Alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 11:55 PM
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Sure. PPD grants a neutral ground for people to figure it out for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 11:51 PM
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Are they in opposition? I'll have to consider that. But: despite having a lot of power over what policies are set A General with this power will probably see that the fact that they are able to set policies is a freedom that they have been granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 11:49 PM
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Evil has its place and its reasons :) I'm not here to encourage or discourage it on this post. People have the freedom to choose their morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 11:45 PM
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you just give people the leadership they're expecting, out of professional courtesy/social necessity Courtesy? Social necessity? There are things in life you may expect to be owed and there are things in life that you will be expected to earn. People vary in their level of expectations. Social matrices/hierarchies are generally designed in ways where things (power, status, leadership, respect, etc.) are earned, because this is typically the most 'fair'. Problems arise in systems where certain th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 08:12 PM
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Haha, that's tough advice. I have to know how to be myself, i.e. I have to know who I am. That's a process in and of itself :p
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:53 PM
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If power is a means to an end, Alphas will have their reasons for the end they choose. Whether this end benefits all, benefits some, or benefits only themselves is up to them to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:48 PM
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Power is a means to an end Yes. Important to recognize. The 'end' will have to be determined by the individual. An Alpha will have their 'end' defined and will not be afraid to acquire and use power to obtain their 'end'.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:42 PM
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it's not like Disney where you're only limited by the extent of your imagination :) I like to question my freedom. I respect the people who exercise their freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:26 PM
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:) The equanimous point is cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:21 PM
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Then if you really wanted power to do those things, you wouldn't care about the consequences - because you would believe you will obtain what you want. The point is you are indeed 'afraid' of that 'ideal' life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:20 PM
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There would be those who agree with you, although 'true' is always going to be debated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:18 PM
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No. You're afraid of using your 'hypothetical' power to do these things (edit: lol, for probably 'good' reasons). Again, you will have the power that other people think you deserve--or are too afraid to take away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:13 PM
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Sure. There are alphas who are appreciated for altruism and fairness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:10 PM
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Yup. Beta qualities will definitely aid in acquiring status. But power doesn't seem to be obtained without at least some alpha traits. EDIT: You can't (or at least it would be very difficult to) have power with only beta qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:07 PM
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That works too. If your goal is to have power, you will need to know the means to acquire it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:03 PM
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Power exists. Doesn't have to be magical. People can be afraid of power for any and whatever reason. Try questioning those reasons. Do you want power? If no: why? If yes: Figure out why you want power, how you want to get it, and what you want to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:01 PM
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Sure. Fact remains: they weren't afraid of acquiring power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 07:01 PM
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Interesting, I see where you're going with this. I would argue that a part of leadership isn't 'sharing' power exactly, but 'empowering' others. If you have power, you will be able to give power to others. You will be able to empower others.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 06:24 PM
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Exactly. You have to have power before you are able to use it. Not all alphas are sociopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 06:21 PM
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Great examples. All of these people have a level of power. There's different types because they all use their power in different ways, for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 06:20 PM
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sociopath Why does having power = sociopath?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 05:52 PM
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Ok. Why are there different types of alphas?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 05:51 PM
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Interesting, I get this. You can act like you have power but not actually have it. You need the 'behavioural' alpha traits, i.e. you need to know how to use the best strategies, in order to move up the 'status' axis.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 05:50 PM
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Why do we need different types of alphas? Those conditions can only be carried out sufficiently if you have enough power. The things a person wants to do will vary. If you wanna do more things, have more things, be more things, etc., you need more power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 05:44 PM
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stop with the shitty self-talk I may not be awful but some of my behaviours are tbh /u/cats_or_get_out is right, but it's hard to stop the shitty self-talk if it's directed towards our behaviours, too - I've done that, still do, it's a human thing. What's helped me is trying to separate myself from my (shitty self-made) experience, and then taking responsibility for the experience. I'm me, and I'm not awful. Behaviours create experiences, and I can control the experience I create. And then I'd t…
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 12:50 AM
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I wouldn't say it's doom, so much as threat recognition Haha, gotchya :) I tend towards that a bit, good call on boiling things down and working out goals that can be inferred. Had to, else I'd dwell on the details and downsides, lol. And yes, agreeing with everything else too: awareness and then intentional/informed/'courageous' action to benefit future generations, I guess~ Fun discussion, thanks!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 09:33 PM
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I think you make a valid point that females of higher rank are likely under much less failure pressure. But they need to guard their position to remain so, and their behaviour will reflect that - I would expect high ranking women to be supporting social structures which ensure their children are given maximum resources, for example. Thanks, and I feel like we're getting so much closer to the main point of all of this. Failure pressure. Keywords here. And yes, that example is being played out - t…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 07:14 PM
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^^ I guess I'm saying the FSM addresses a longer term need to avoid failure, but the MSM can reward "brave but stupid" gambles which pay off without harming overall fitness. Hm, interesting. Honestly, it sounds to me that whether an individual is selecting for success or selecting for failure will depend on where they stand in their social matrix, regardless of gender. Your points for 'survival of children (edit2: or imparting genetic traits)', 'propagation of ideas', and 'legacy (edit2: despite…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 05:34 PM
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No problem, and thanks for the post! Really in-depth and insightful. My view from all the above is that the MSM and FSM are heavily interlinked, and both inform the other. I'd probably choose this for a TL;DR because it's both logical and necessary to understand, imho. Your post seems to exemplify how and why masculinity and femininity has evolutionarily worked together. And then this last part: so the women who carry on their FSM games covertly gain status in our eyes makes me laugh because I d…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 05:20 AM
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I have a feeling that it's this one; still a great example though, even if it's not the one OP is referring to.
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 07:25 PM
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So glad we've been able to help you improve your RMV and social situation:) This is such a lovely + supportive sub, I just hope I'm able to contribute enough in return :) Need more balance in my life first, haha Women seem to feel "empowered" when they feel comfortable, authentic, and free to express themselves. But that's not the same as actually wielding power you know? I know, but you're right, empowerment will certainly come from being able to freely + authentically express ourselves. Actual…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 04:26 AM
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If a woman is unsuccessful among women, she's unsuccessful. Period. I've been wanting to thank you for your comment and I hope this school-stress-delayed reply isn't too late? :) Honestly, it took me a while to see that that sentence right there is something that has to be recognized if a woman wants to be highly valued both by women AND by men. Being 'successful among women' really seems to be key for a woman's RMV, too. I'm thinking there are evolutionary reasons for this too; if a man sees th…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 04:05 AM
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Heyy /u/Camille11325, I missed you too! <3 Yeaa I really like the whole concept of gaining power through submission for women with less dominant spirits; I'm pretty sure the pre-RPW me would never have considered that, mostly because the culture I/we live in encourages gaining power through dominance. Which is why Joan is such an interesting example! Yup, that convo in the IRC was sparked when a few of us were figuring out whether we should or shouldn't 'feel bad' for Joan, knowing that she hadn…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 05:54 AM
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Of course I feel compelled to come out of the shadows to comment on this one, haha. So glad this topic is being discussed, thanks! I'll definitely be learning a lot from this thread. It seems to me (and ladies pls correct me if I'm wrong) that the women who crave admiration + deference from men are also women who crave power within the male social matrix (MSM). When a woman understands that she can be just as happy and fulfilled in a relationship where she is not technically being 'respected/loo…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 03:54 AM
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giirl, same <3 As soon as my late nights aren't filled with studying, lool I think that being exposed to alpha traits throughout your upbringing makes it easier for you to interact with dominant and masculine men in everyday life. It's not foreign and you know what to expect and how to react. Yea, that makes logical sense to me. Fits with my experience, too -- the men in my family are fairly high dominance, and those that I've grown up with are more 'magician' & 'lover' archetypes, haha --- whic…
/r/RedPillWives14/08/16 03:50 AM
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I'm no therapist, but sounds to me like you've got a family that believes you're a fully capable human being, haha - probably allowed for a healthy amount of independence. get your fucking shit together or deal with the consequences LOL, gotchya, thanks for explaining. You know, that motto's probably one of the best ways for someone to learn that the only thing they can totally control is themselves. That took me a while to realize... specifically took until highschool, after I talked to a guida…
/r/RedPillWives12/08/16 11:01 PM
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Np~! ^^ <33
/r/RedPillWives11/08/16 05:41 PM
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Gosh, I loved the way you described their dynamics, thanks for sharing!! <3 I think I'm starting to see that if there's mutual respect between a woman's SO and her father, and if the SO meets + exceeds the standards her father sets, things flow smoothly - regardless of dominance levels. edit: spelling
/r/RedPillWives11/08/16 05:39 PM
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That's really interesting, the fact that your father is like the 'pack leader', thanks for sharing :) Do you prefer it that way? Idk, I feel like some part of me would feel uncomfortable with that - at the same time, I think I'd understand if it was more about your father having more respect because of age + wisdom.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/16 05:30 PM
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Yea, I definitely respect my parents, but it doesn't mean I agree with all of their opinions. If I disagree, I make it known, both with respect and love - either we learn from each other's opinions or we agree to disagree, lol. Do I care for their approval, when it comes to my future SO? That's a tough one. It seems like I do, mostly because our family is close-knit & I value having strong, harmonious relationships with them. My SO would need to 'fit in' with my fam. But should I care for their …
/r/RedPillWives11/08/16 05:20 PM
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So I believe there's good people everywhere, and I've met cool people and decent men at work, in coffee shops, while crossing a street, on holiday, in the gym, etc. Plus, if you ask other women where they met the last guy they got into a relationship with, you'll find that people list every type of place you can imagine: the obvious places like through friends & family, at church, at a park; or the odd ones like on a train, on a safari, at the pool... Point being, you can meet a good man anywher…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 09:15 PM
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My father is the standard by which I judge other men. I feel like I've been subconsciously doing this, but wow, everything you said following that statement really helps me understand why that works. So happy for you and the dynamic you have with your SO + father, thanks for answering! :)
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 08:46 PM
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Hey, these are so good, thanks for sharing!! I like the expanded Benchmark #1 post - applies the most to where I'm at rn in the dating stages, haha - like most importantly this: Instead of hanging in there when you’re getting mixed signals, opt for the freedom of cutting loose. Stay free and clear until you date someone who makes you feel certain that what is beginning is a very good thing. Yup. And I like that she adds the caveat of making sure you're not discounting your own level of effort: A…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 08:19 PM
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He's a born and bred beta, which is no fault of my mother's but she certainly didn't help either -- a born and bred dominant woman. They are the antithesis of everything we look for/strive to be. Thanks to their awful example but active encouragement for me to do better, I feel so happy with myself and the work I put in to be worthy of a quality relationship - something I have little exposure to. Gosh, this is really relatable, and great insight - thanks for answering! My parents are quite simil…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 08:06 PM
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Are you single and a subscriber? Hi! Yes, I am, and I've got news for all the other single subscribers: If you're intimidated to participate, don't be. I'll tell you from first hand experience that participation (both through comments and IRC) helps you grow. Why? You express your views, you get brutally honest advice from ladies who've seen it all, and if you stay respectful, you learn a whole lot :) Additionally, if you don't have a lot of experience with the female social matrix (FSM), all th…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 06:41 PM
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It's definitely a great jumping off point, always glad to have open-minded discussions, and I'm sure from the responses in this post, it's a discussion worth having ^^ Thanks again!
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 05:14 PM
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Yay, thank you for this post!! Loved it, so well-written, and the topic's honestly been on my mind a lot lately too. Especially liked this part: Commodities quality men do want is companionship: quality companionship. They want someone to make their day lighter and more enjoyable... They want someone to show them they love them by doing and being what a quality and feminine partner can bring them...A submissive woman, this is one of the most precious commodities (and gifts) a woman can offer a m…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 04:10 AM
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You're again totally right throughout this comment, and thanks for engaging in this discussion with me! :) Great link btw, thanks for sharing. OP definitely comes out with the most resources. The part about johnnight's comment that I found useful, especially for single girls in college: What I am trying to say is that college being a temporary place suspends commitment on both sides. Yes. Super important, must be kept in mind at all times during college. With that said, it looks like I'll need t…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 09:05 PM
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\^^ Yes, I read her posts, super helpful, and they're what inspired me to dig deeper into the evolutionary psych behind relationship dynamics. I'm assuming you have a high-dominant threshold? If not, you can ignore the following, but I think there might be a bit of solipsism here: I find male dominants treat their submissives much better I tend to think that too, because I love couples who have an HLH relationship. It seems to me that it's sometimes harder for women with high-dominance threshold…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 08:16 PM
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Thanks!! <3 It's probably best to point out two things (edit: since I don't equate low-dominance men with low-'quality' men): The definition of dominance is would probably be the same for women too. So if a woman is highly-dominant, that means she has control over + priority access to the social/material resources she needs/wants. If a woman is highly-dominant with a low-dominance threshold for men, then she'll likely have no problem with the low dominant men that she's attracting. Nothing inher…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 01:05 AM
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your quality can be gauged by the level of resource investment men are willing to afford you Imo, you're 100% right. It's the crux of this whole argument. Coincidently, 'dominance' is defined by both ethologists and developmental psychologists as the control over + access to social and material resources. In other words, dominance isn't an end in and of itself, but instead, the function of dominance is resource allocation. Definitely goes back to the evolutionary roots of RP, with women preferri…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 12:18 AM
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the ultimately attractive head-turning jaw-droppingly-hot female physique … just so happens to be the most healthy and wholesome physique imaginable too “damn … that girl’s heeeeeealthy!” Lol, it's incredible that we need to be reminded about health being attractive---loved this article, thanks for sharing it! So in summary: average + healthy BMI, strong/fit, WHR of about 0.6-0.7 (leaner and healthier waist and a stronger and more muscular butt), 19-24% body fat, great posture, and perky boobs (…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 05:52 AM
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I'm so glad I read this article, really needed it. In addition to the "it's ok to change/to make no sense to men" quote, this was my favourite part: When it comes to your girlfriends….you can trust them if you feel in your gut that they have good intentions for you. And this trust takes time to build. You need to honor each others changeability. When it comes to men….You can trust the men who have the same values as you. And men can trust you when you: 1) Have the same core values as them; and 2…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 05:33 AM
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Ooou those lockets are soo pretty & fun!! <3
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 01:44 AM
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The hardest thing about gratitude is actually remembering to be grateful, despite knowing how important it is! Which is why I really love the methods the author suggests in this post: journaling, no-complaining wristbands, and the cutest method imo---a gratitude charm bracelet :D edit: spelling
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 01:21 AM
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LOL of course!! <3
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 12:05 AM
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Aww, I love that!! And same here, I've been told that it's endearing, but lol, it still doesn't take away from the fact that sometimes I wanna have an opinion and be more than just pretty ;]
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 11:57 PM
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I think it's fun too! And it's helpful to read comments that critically differentiate between good and bad advice :) The sitting-beside-each-other tip is something that helped me handle my awkward inability to hold prolonged eye contact with someone incredibly attractive to me, haha! I get insta-shy and blush, which trips me up if I'm trying to say something substantial :p
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 11:47 PM
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Fun articles Phantom, although I think Camille answered all the questions in full, so I don't have much to add besides a couple small points. There was a line in the fourth article under "Forget Facebook" where the author says "...don’t send him a friend request until he has started introducing you as his girlfriend". Now, I understand that it's generally advisable to be aware of how your social media profile makes you look to friends and the public. This might just be because I'm still in uni/c…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 10:56 PM
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Thankiies <3
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 06:10 AM
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Oouu, perfect! Charts make my life easier & Phantom's post is golden, thanks for linking them ^^
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 06:08 AM
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Thanks Camille!! The dominance threshold definitely makes it so much easier to understand couple dynamics, but the 'personality mesh/clash' is an interesting distinction. With MBTI, there's a lot of sites out there that provide 'best matches' of types for relationships---it might help people gain deeper insights on their preferences?
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:24 AM
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Aww gosh, thank you so much! :3
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 04:18 AM
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Oh whoa, Canva looks awesome, I'm definitely using this for future projects - thank you for sharing!! The fisherman phrase was definitely smart & inspiring, it sounds like it meant a lot to him. And no, you're crazy if you think those cards don't involve artsy creativity---you have a great eye for design, don't stop creating! :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:53 PM
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Thanks Phantom!! <3 I'll look into both avenues, and no problem, I'll be careful about it ^^
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:27 PM
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I love these so so much! Handmade cards are the best <3 They're all so cute & thoughtful & well-designed, but my favourite has to be the first one ('cause I'm a sucker for puns ;p)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:21 PM
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Oou, fun thread!! I just abandoned this piece last week, and unless I get useful critiques on it, I'm not touching it anymore XD It's supposedly a quaint little corner of Provence - if I ever travel there, my mission is to find this place :p The canvas is fairly big so it took me almost a year of painting for about two hours every week; I had fun, and I think I'm pretty happy with it. My next one will be my first portrait of sorts, and it's rough right now... it'll be two Indian dancers in a tra…
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:04 PM
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LOL I love that you've done this. I know for fact that I've been the girl in the video before, and then I've also been on the other side trying to offer a logical explanation when all my friend wants to do is vent and express how she's feeling and doesn't want me to help fix/change how she feels XD It can definitely be frustrating, although I guess it's helpful to be understanding and empathetic --- I'll share this clip next time and see what happens :p
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:21 PM
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Super important to remember, thanks! I could probably simplify it for myself to "Don't let my emotions control my actions". Along with not taking things personally, I've found that when I'm experiencing negativity, it helps to remind myself that whatever's bothering me is probably not that bad. It's like you said: taking a step back, taking a moment, and then I try to find reasons for why my current emotion might be unreasonable, or how there are definitely other things that I can grateful for, …
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:03 PM
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Hi! I’m Never_Evil :) I can’t say that I completely live up to my username, haha, but morality is a weirdly complex & fascinating system that I enjoy learning about. I found this community about 3 years ago after my first and last Ex introduced me to TRP, and I’ve been hooked ever since. I’ve learned so much over the years because of all of you, and I can’t thank you all enough for the positive changes in my life ^^ I’m 20, Canadian, and still in school, doing my undergrad in Psychology/Neurosci…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 07:02 PM
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This is sweet, and such a great reminder to strive to be the best we can be for both ourselves and for our SO! And you're absolutely right about having to step out of the comfort zone in order to get stronger - I've had to do the same thing. If my dominance level was measured by mental strength/toughness, independence, courage, and leadership, then I've honestly had to work through a lot to get to the point I'm at today... and I know I still have a long way to go, lol. All the best! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 04:11 AM
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Thanks Camille, it's clear that your post has gotten a lot of us to think deeper about these dynamics, and I look forward to expanding upon these ideas in the future. The "sigma/renegade" term has always been a point of contention, so I don't blame you - at the end of the day, the labels matter less than being able to maintain a healthy relationship, and it sounds like you've got a great one :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 01:31 AM
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I think you're right about a sigma being either a lesser alpha/greater beta. It sounds like both the confusion of "sigma" and the slight confusion over a women's "dominance" level may come down to different leadership styles. As /u/Camille11325 pointed out earlier, "dominance levels are about your natural tendency to take control of situations/be in the lead". There are different methods for being an effective leader, and different theories on what makes good leadership. IIRC, the sigma was typi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 01:06 AM
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Think of the iron-willed matriarch This is exactly what I had in mind, thank you! Your description was so helpful - I'm starting to see that I've had dominant traits all along, and that I've been striving to improve these traits over the last couple years.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 08:27 PM
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Tingles diminish when a woman is able to take advantage of you. At that point, she loses respect for you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 07:51 PM
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Empathy is good. The ability to understand your SO's feelings is important for effective communication. The difference lies in how you use empathy. Women are good at using a person's empathy to further their goals. The alpha male knows how to empathize without letting a woman take advantage of the comfort that he is providing.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 07:40 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 07:19 PM
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as a person in her own right, she is very dominant I understand this theoretically, and I've also seen this to be true in real life. It's relatively easy for me to identify someone as being a dominant woman. But oddly, I'm still trying to grasp what being 'dominant' consists of in a practical sense - how exactly would you describe the actions/personality traits/philosophy of a dominant woman?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 07:18 PM
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Gosh, that's what I figured - thanks, haha. I think I might need more information on how to develop/what it means to have 'high dominance' with femininity. I'm guessing it might come down to a certain level of stoicism and rationality?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 04:09 AM
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So I'm an LH - And seeing as how Camille is an LH woman with a renegade SO, and judging from her comment, it looks like the key thing is that a renegade wants someone who can be on the same page as them both in thought and vibe i.e., someone who will not only respond the way he wants her to, but also in a way that satisfies his need to be 'unconventional'/unique/non-conformative - which isn't always easy to do for me, but it might be easier for a HH woman? Idk, this might just go into personalit…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 02:10 AM
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Alright, this makes perfect sense, thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 01:48 AM
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You're right, when I refer to a 'dominant' woman, I don't mean someone who is in control of the relationship - I mean a woman who is assertive, able to maintain a debate, competitive/Type A. I'm more of a Type B: reflective, non-competitive, more creativity/flexibility. And yes, it'd be great to see how each of the different alpha types and their preferences could/would work within these relationship dynamics!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 01:27 AM
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Such an awesome & concise write up, thanks /u/Camille11325 !! <3 Here's my question: Are there different alpha types that suit/prefer certain relationship dynamics? I've realized that I'm a low dominance/high threshold woman, and my past relationship + a couple of my crushes have been men who were comfortable with my dominance level, but actually preferred a higher dominant woman (for a HHH relationship). These men were renegade/sigma types - do renegades commonly prefer HHH relationships?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 01:10 AM
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Of course, I love my husband for way more reasons than just that he is committed to me If you believe that commitment is your husband's most important trait, then I'd like to ask you what you think his second most important trait is. And then his third. And fourth. Besides "commitment", what makes your husband valuable to you? It's the same question for a woman asking herself what value she brings other than sex. Ultimately, her character is what makes her a valuable wife. A man will look to a w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 03:13 PM
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