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Yes! I love the update! I'm glad everything worked out and that stinks that she's being so pathetic on social media. Posting crying pictures is so middle-school/MySpace age to me lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 12:17 PM
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Have you tried looking at group social events? Like meetup type things? Is there a subreddit for your location? Do you have a day job where you can talk to coworkers? Living at home does make it really hard to make friends.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:29 PM
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Ah geez yeah, good luck with the going out! I assume hookup culture is prominent there
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:26 PM
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I just wanted to say I think it's ridiculous how all these commenters are shitting on you. I swear there is an obsession here. I think it's hilarious "RPW" are trying to diagnose you with mental disorders in an attempt to explain your objectivity. You just sound very analytical and educated. Being in LA sounds really hard just because of the competition and I can't even pretend to understand the dating culture. If what you say is true and you are as cool as you say you are, do you have any way o…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:59 PM
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I don't want to influence my SO? That's exhausting. I don't even understand what the point of this post is. Maybe I'm missing something
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 04:00 PM
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Yeah I wish there was a way to explain why in a positive way but there isn't
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/17 01:21 PM
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Alright you want a step by step guide? I need to basically troubleshoot you. Have you always been depressed? Who were you in high school? Why were you harassed? Have you made an effort to make friends in college? Is your major science related or art? Do you put effort into your appearance?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 11:40 PM
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I did actually. And she said it was because she misses him and has always been super attracted to him. She made it possible for him to come here and is now trying to cock block herself out of morality/obligation.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 10:03 PM
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It's just hard for me to find someone "cool" when I see how they are really, like their inner self. That's probably my own problem though, I've always been this way and have trouble keeping friends because the second I see something like this I lose interest and would rather be alone. I just lean more to the belief that the people around you influence you and you become them and I want to become not that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 04:34 PM
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(:
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:30 AM
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Fear not I don't want perfection, just better options
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:39 PM
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Lol oh geez, are you hanging out with her again?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:38 PM
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True true, will do I don't mind questions I was more talking about the "I don't put people on pedestals..." among other insinuating comments that plague other posts
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:36 PM
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Yeah I agree with you. I just get so lonely and that's crazy about that woman but I've seen very similar things with younger people around me
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:46 AM
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Yes hit the nail on the head!
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:34 AM
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Oh yeah it's awful. When she said she didn't want to be alone it wasn't out of making sure she wouldn't be alone it was her explaining her desire I guess. She's still going to find a way to do it I think, she will make it look like she tried to be moral though. She was supposed to be a mentor 🙃
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:32 AM
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Oh no, I'm not going to hang out with her or anything. She didn't ask me to baby sit her she was just telling me that's what needed to be done "or else". We aren't even really friends, she's supposed to be a mentor LOL
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:29 AM
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Oh yeah no I'm not looking for perfection, I'm just hoping to find friends who actively try to cultivate good things instead of bad
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:28 AM
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Eh, she's kinda giving into hypergamy. She basically invited her alpha ex to come knowing she would want to sleep with him because she is bored with mr.provider She has no choice but to do what's right, it's not out of want she knows her life will go to shit but she still wants to do what's wrong and is trying to get people to baby sit her
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:27 AM
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Ah because it's hypergamy. This man alpha widowed her and then she married a provider and now she wants to sleep with her alpha
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:24 AM
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Nah sorry. If she wanted to not be around him she wouldn't have invited him to come Edit: I am more discouraged than disappointed. I'm irritated because I gave her respect, but I won't be hanging out with her again
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 04:10 PM
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I don't understand where you got the impression that I even hinted to that
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 04:02 PM
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Yeah I really just need to go to a facility and have them test me
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 02:21 AM
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I have used sleep cycle actually! I got it when it first came out. It tells me I don't move a lot and most of my graphs have points and the beginning then go flat and then spike up when I wake up.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 04:38 PM
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It's tough but it could always be worse! It's hard because right now I'm struggling with the idea that maybe I just need a low dose of adderall daily to function as efficiently as everyone else. I would be just fine if I wasn't forced to live with time restraints (I.e. Have to be productive at school at this time, have to do homework after, have to do etc. after that). But that's how life is gonna be for me especially when I get a job so I might as well find a way to do it! Night terrors are a l…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 02:40 PM
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Unfortunately I don't think that's a solution as I'm already on BC for my PCOS because the world hates me 😜
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 02:34 PM
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It's mainly physical, I can sleep at any time anywhere and sometimes I have to struggle to stay awake. Sometimes I get sleepy while driving and the sun makes me sleepy I've played with my sleep schedule I can sleep anywhere to 20 hours, 14 hours, to 4 hours and feel exactly the same 😓. I've played with taking naps, eating differently, etc. Come to think of it, the only time I really, really felt awake without any medication was when I had awful jet lag and would sleep from 8am-4/5pm. I haven't b…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 04:17 PM
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I was diagnosed with MDD and put on medication which helped but then made it worse so I got off it and am doing a lot better. I also have anxiety and was recently diagnosed with ADD. They also think I have some sort of sleep disorder. I think that's the hardest out of all of it is being exhausted all the time. With depression I knew how to manage it, anxiety I can manage it, I can cope with ADD, but having my brain cry out to sleep all the time starting from right when I wake up is almost painfu…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 03:28 PM
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I did a mix of both. I think I used "why not" to get in the door of the relationship to look past anxious behavior etc., and then "why yes" after commitment was made and I evaluated for if he would be worth it as a partner forever if that happens. Also not all of my boxes have to be checked just the majority. These boxes include: attractive, nice teeth, ambition, capability, useful skills, patience, hobbies, affection, matching libido, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 02:12 PM
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It might have meant that in the past but now is only used for two couples doing dates together! At least that's how my age group uses it
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 02:08 PM
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So far the ideas I have are a zen sand garden to play with and a flip book with office related comics.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 12:57 AM
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Fun fact: 50 shades was originally twilight fan fiction
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 03:23 AM
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He sounds really unbearable and is justifying it as saying he's "just alpha". But then again I'm only getting your side of the story. Regardless you seem unhappy, what are your motivations for staying?
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 02:46 PM
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The reason why there's a "double standard" is because there's an evolutionary/biological lens applied to TRP and RPW. Back in the day before humans could critically think, men would run around having sex with multiple women in order to pass on their genes. This is a biological and evolutionary drive which is beneficial to the species. Women were valued because they were placed in the safest space and would hopefully reproduce with the strongest alpha man and raise his genes while he went off and…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 01:59 PM
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Yeah 😭 it's really true. Our dean also sent out basically a "condolences" email. I understand why people reacted the way they did. They are just circle-jerking the "woe is me" mentality the culture is force feeding my generation. I actually have a great example of their difference of thinking that I'll comment when I have more time this afternoon
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 04:24 PM
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Honestly I'm really interested to see how this all plays out lol because all the universities are liberal as hell.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 02:05 PM
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I appreciate my SO so much. He recently had to change jobs because his female manager decided to push him out. She was very awful and catty towards him but there was nothing he could do about it. I look up to him a lot because he has really good work ethic and it scares me thinking I might have to work as hard as he does but he reminds me I will probably be hired quickly for an easier job with higher pay because of how I look and then will be able to back it up with my character.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 10:09 PM
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Yeah I'll try my best it's all I can really do. Thank you for sharing your experience!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 01:19 AM
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Oh believe me when I have my own kids I'm going to lay down the law with anyone who comes in contact. I honestly won't let this particular family hang out with them. If I were to go hang out with them I would get a sitter lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 01:18 AM
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The problem with mentoring is that I have no credibility. I don't have kids myself and can't back up what I'm saying with tangible results unless I research online and print out data
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 01:17 AM
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No I love kids and will be having them! I just don't want them right now 😝
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 01:16 AM
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Yes ugh :(. I'm going to try to make it a thing where we hang out with them once a month or so, and frame it to the parents that we are giving them free babysitting on a weekend so they can do whatever between those hours. I just don't understand how people do this. I literally can not comprehend it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 05:17 PM
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I think I'm going to do exactly this. Their mom is morbidly obese and their father is overweight. I think I'm going to ask my SO for us all to go hiking and play in the river and I'll make them nice nutritious lunches. I know their parents will never do that with them
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 04:51 PM
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I know 😓 but it's so damn hard to say no to braiding when it's so easy for me. She just wants to learn girly things. I'm afraid not to entertain because I don't want them to think I don't like them and them feel anxious. I just wish people had to take a test before reproducing
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 04:11 PM
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Yeah I probably will! Thank you for that idea.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:59 PM
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It wasn't a treat they stay up late all the time and the kidded remark meant they are supposed to sleep at 8 but don't because it's loose rule. It's inconsistent. I don't think she cooks for them either I've only seen them eat fast food. And I would but their parents don't know how to answer questions. For example, all of the adults went in to the garage to do things kids can't (not my idea, the housemates idea). The oldest asked me "why aren't we allowed in the garage?" If I sent her to her mom…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:58 PM
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They're friends from high school. He does agree with me and also feels bad. And there's not any actual neglect happening it's just poor parenting. If I called social services on every poor (both bad in role and financially) parent I have seen the majority of the south side in every city in every state wouldn't have their children. And I don't mean that in a "holier than thou" kind of way it's just a fact from the culture. These parents are just reproducing the roles they saw their parents do. An…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:49 PM
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Because it's not my responsibility and doing so encourages the parents behavior of dumping their kids on me. But I know I'm going to have to do it because they suck. I don't know the mom well enough to talk with her I have literally only seen her kids 3 times. I will call CPS if I see evidence of neglect. Or I might take pity and tell the father I will call CPS if x continues. It would be obvious who called (me) because I'm the only new one around and my SO now works with them which would cause …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:24 PM
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I think this is works for some Chads! I know a Chad at school and he spun a lot of plates that wanted to be girlfriends. He didn't really compliment them or pursue them the women just flocked to him. It was not uncommon for him to sleep with one girl in the morning and another at night. He never took them on dates or expressed long term interest in them. I mean, he would long term plate them for a semester or so. Honestly, I would say his number is over 100. That is my best guess. He is now dati…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 03:19 PM
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I'll look into it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:06 PM
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This is the truest of the true!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 02:09 PM
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Yeah I'm not trying to hitch a ride on my SO, I know it is worded that way lol. I am not doing more school and I am a very hard worker and am eager to learn. Hopefully people will inject knowledge into me I think once I have kids I'll be a teacher maybe
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 01:49 PM
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Yeah you're right both of your replies are very good points!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 01:18 AM
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I know :(. I just really want to give my children the kind of life I had which included a sahm and glam things
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 11:55 PM
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Yeah :/ he's just dealing with his own stuff too and I didn't want to bog him down with my stuff. Usually I talk to him about it, today was just not the right day for that lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 11:47 PM
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I have gratitude I'm saying they say they did all these things so why can't I. I know I've been given a lot I'm not debating that, I'm concerned that I'm not going to be able to make it on top because it's impossible for everyone to make it on top.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 11:46 PM
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It's in my best interest to stay on my families good side :/ but I get what you are saying. Roommates are tricky for me because I have animals
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 10:31 PM
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I can't join for documented medical reasons although I have thought about it!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:44 PM
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Yes I understand all of that. I will probably just have to move because it's really competitive here and people from out of state are coming here for work that are more qualified. I forgot it's not the same everywhere
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:43 PM
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Another issue I have is my family is very restricting with their definition of success. For example, I won't be able to move in with my SO (or other men) to save money unless we get married. You're right though, I'm just going to have to commit to a position and hope I can move up in it. And it's not like I don't want to bring in money to the house hold, I just don't want to have to be the bread winner
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:32 PM
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It is also comparing myself to them when they were ~25 because they keep telling me how they worked jobs that paid $5 and still made rent
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:26 PM
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This is true thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:24 PM
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This is good insight thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 09:24 PM
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I know I'm not entitled to any of that lol. Okay that is good! Curious where do you live (like south, Midwest, etc). And what position do you hold if you are willing to share?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:56 PM
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That gives me so much hope that nice homes can be bought for 80k in other places. Maybe when we get more serious we can talk about moving to a different location. Thank you for reminding me not everywhere is as expensive as here!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:54 PM
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I think my main issue is that I was raised by baby boomers and I saw their version of the "traditional home". My childhood was filled with trips, having my mom figure teach me when I was out of school, hearing stories about how hard they worked and "against all odds" made it out on top. The time when a man who worked as a janitor could become a millionaire. I feel sort of set up because I don't think I can ever achieve what they had just because they were lucky to be born at a certain time :(. A…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:29 PM
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Haha no I'm not having relationship problems I don't want to leave him. I just wanted to shoot down that "advice" before it happened. I just used my reasoning as a logical/realistic reason why it wouldn't work excluding my own preferences/feelings. I will learn more about frugality, I already have a sheet I'm using to track how much I cost to keep alive basically and comfortably. I think moving will have to be the solution. My rent is $1,000 for a one bedroom apartment and I moved here because i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:22 PM
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I'm very fortunate and I will probably be able to get my foot in many places. I will save that website and invest that money after I get my first sad job. And I'm curious as to what you did 🙈 I just don't understand how everyone else graduating is supposed to make ends-meet. I'm going to be exception only because of my families forethought Thank you for being constructive and on point with your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:14 PM
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But how long do you have to work somewhere before you're eligible for sabbatical? Working for a place for over 10 years? That means I would only be able to take it and have children by the time I'm 34 :(.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:10 PM
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The only way I can realistically reach my goal is to sell my soul and have kids later in life. Which is linked to unhappiness in women. Or marry someone in Generation X Or sell my soul while living in a tiny house/ a trailer on land I own to avoid rent and growing my own food. Which is correlated with happiness living minimalistic but isn't really feasible. This isn't an individual problem this is affecting my whole generation. And my SMV and RMV are both high. My RMV is probably higher than my …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:06 PM
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Because I truly don't think it will come our way. The generation below mine is projected to be more successful in the work force because the education is more tailored to its technological needs. I'm going to be an exception because my family planned for this but I feel outrage for the women like me, in my generation, who won't have the option of having kids before 35 because they will have to be career driven in order to stay up on bills/ debt free.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:57 PM
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Okay so 1). My MDD is fine. I honestly don't think I ever had it. I had untreated PCOS. Nice assumptions of my feelings though which wasn't what I was even asking about. I only included that part to get people to understand how powerful having a life goal is after not having one. 2). I didn't pay for anything. I won't have any debt. And yes, my family forced me to go here. Nice assumptions and saying "except I was smart enough" as if I'm not. 3). Thanks for taking your time to read my post to be…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:44 PM
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I've read what you have said and the problem is I really don't have any work skills. I know I sound whiny and ungrateful but this is the reality. There is no marketing major. No advertising major. They are getting rid of accounting. There are no tangible degrees besides science based (I.e. Animal behavior). I have a communications ~studies~ degree. Which means I didn't learn any tangible application (web design, graphic design, marketing strategies, how to track data, etc). I have only learned c…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:36 PM
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So, you could start body building and work mainly on your butt and abs. That's really the only thing that I think would work. It requires you to watch your nutrients and really lift weights though. When you say he likes "think" porn is it obese? Edit: it sounds exhausting trying to change your anatomy via all these methods. Maybe if you show him actual pictures of these ladies "fat asses" he can see most of it is just floppy fat that has no shape and is only shaped by photoshop, shape-wear, seei…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 02:29 PM
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Yes I understand! Personally I have the opinion that anyone will murder and cheat if the situation calls for it and I wouldn't really consider that a character flaw instead just human nature to be shitty and operate with self interest. Characters are sometimes dependent on what is influencing them in life to me For example, the guy I'm in a relationship has been cheated on by a past girlfriend. I asked him if their relationship was healthy, moving forward, etc. and he said no and he wasn't reall…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 02:23 PM
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The only time I have ever felt oppressed in my life is by the radicle left. They actively take away my voice saying that my oppression comes from my "privilege". They frame my logically based feelings as something that doesn't hold any authority.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 01:56 PM
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What path have you chosen that is different? And good on you for declining, did you shame her?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 01:52 PM
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Yuppp. I can't even share how I think about it because I'll be burned at the stake
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 05:15 AM
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Nice!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 06:49 PM
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Oooooh okay! Sorry for assuming you're American 😜 Then frolic among your peers! Get to know everyone on your floor! If I could go back and be a first year again I would talk to SO many more people. I got wrapped up in my little "group" and missed out on making new friends
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 06:49 PM
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Well then if you're comfortable I would totally do it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 06:03 PM
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That's sweet! And has he expressed interest in the lingerie or anything?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 04:27 PM
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Oh yes I agree! I think a lot of people abuse the specific days and use them as an excuse to be mediocre for the rest of the year. We try every day too but specific occasions are nice to be able to ground ourselves and push out unnecessary worries and really focus on the now/ re-establish expectations and etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 04:26 PM
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Then it will be super easy for you to meet men! Everyone the first month is talking to random strangers. Look in your class and sit next to the most attractive guy you can. When something comes up in class you can ask him for help! The college should also be putting on social events for all the freshmen I would say go to the fraternity parties and meet boys there, but don't get super wasted. All the other freshmen are going to get so obliterated and be really embarrassing and piss all over thems…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 03:46 PM
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It depends on your campus culture! We don't really have social people so I don't know how a coffee shop would work. Is it your first year at university? Online dating didn't really work for me because most of the men were just looking for plates and not girlfriends. I had better luck with bumble though
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 03:01 PM
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Where is de evidence?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:36 PM
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It unfortunately, is made about individuals when groups of women shame the other women who chose not to participate :/
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:28 PM
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I did not go because I felt it would just be a huge circle jerk. There were a lot of conflicting signs "women deserve as many rights as guns" when guns don't have more rights than women. There was a lot of "you're still not equal" arguments because we have to "convince a judge we were raped" and I'm like uh duh. Of course you do. And that we get paid less when that is false except for few exceptions (I.e. Sports). Then a lot of women pulling feminists from the past and trying to claim they are b…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:27 PM
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I made a post about how to meet quality men in the field. I can't link it because I'm on mobile. Men are everywhere at university, I've found the problem is we don't engage them. After you read that and if you have more questions feel free to ask
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 02:21 PM
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If he wants to go to California it's probably because he doesn't want to be with you. You said yourself you told him to pick virtually any college on the east coast so you can go together and he chooses California. You aren't married just break up with him. You're going to change in college and y'all might not even be compatible anymore and be those people that stay in the shitty lame relationship because you don't know what else to do~
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 01:43 PM
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Haha thanks! He has several alpha/captain tendencies too, there just no point in boo-hooing about his few BP things
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/17 08:30 PM
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You could just ask your SO to be more affectionate maybe? Like bum smacks, banter, random kisses, etc? Idk. Something to discourage them and make them remember he doesn't want them Do you think they would actively try something? Edit: are they in relationships? Do you even like them?
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 07:50 PM
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Honestly I would take all of that as a compliment! But that's just me :p. I have two good female friends that are both in relationships. One complains about her BF the other sings nothing but praises. I find it's easier to bring my SO around girls who have boyfriends because they are less likely to try to flirt with him. Your friends sound like jealous bitches if they can't even stop themselves from belittling you :( Edit: "oh right we forgot he's perfect" well he's not perfect he's perfect for …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 07:41 PM
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1) I save my best for my SO, however I try to behave in a RPW manner around other males. I want them to think "she's hot/good/kind/whatever" and then link that with my SO "he's dating X and she's really hot/nice" instead of "he's dating X, I guess she cleans up nice/is good at sex because she looks like shit at school and is standoffish i would never date her". I view myself as someone who is connected to my SO and I want to represent him well! My SO kind of does the same. He puts effort into hi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 03:28 PM
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1) I don't understand what you mean by quality/effort do you mean my appearance? I try hard (aka am myself) around other boys and they tend to fancy me. I go back to my SO and he can see how desirable I am. 2) making yourself undesirable for other females will ruin the abundance mentality and your woman will probably question wether you're high value since no one likes you 3) when my SO feels insecure about something we discuss it and I support him he pulls himself out of it. If I'm insecure I c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 01:56 PM
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Can confirm. Have been blonde up until recently and I'm changing my hair back lmao
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 01:47 PM
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It will never never happen where I am. My only hope is to find it online
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 01:45 PM
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I want to see the film so bad :(
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 03:29 AM
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Just saying "you can put lipstick on a pig" doesn't really refer to looks, it refers to disguise/denial. It's a rhetorical phrase to say the true nature is always there. For example, there was a post a while ago about a woman who had a "captain" who now sucks and cheated on her with his best friend. Digging deeper into their relationship, it was found that he always sucked but in her head she made excuses for him to be "good". My response to her was "you can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 03:05 PM
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Yeah, this describes young me. Except I wouldn't encourage a relationship I would keep them in the "friend zone". Edit: I'd turn them into beta orbiters
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 02:29 PM
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Yeah, the issue is she will internalize it if I did that right now because her relationship is rocky. And being a friend I don't want to kick her while she's down. I might encourage her to journal though
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 02:50 AM
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Because if I don't have friends I'll get depressed and I can't be friends with boys. I'm not competing with her. I meant it brings out my assertive nature
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 02:27 AM
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Yeah :/ oh well. I'll just ignore it as long as I can and if she keeps doing it tell her I don't wanna be told every time it happens
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 10:27 PM
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Yeah, my competitiveness doesn't come off from needing validation or anything, it's really hard to explain lol. I just feel really bad for her, I didn't realize how much she did this until I made the post. Like they got in a fight a couple of nights ago and asks if she can stay with me a couple of night and I'm like "okay!". Then yesterday she just dismisses the whole thing and texts me last night saying they had makeup sex and I just don't care 😭 Edit: she's not trying to be petty she's just ge…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 08:45 PM
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Sounds like you're figuring out he isn't the one for you
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 02:54 PM
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Meh. I never really viewed her as a problem, she was just annoying because she would text him like once a week. I humored the party until her little sisters friends busted out actual drugs and was like "nah".
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 02:27 PM
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Ooh. Then I would look really good if I went to this party and give him lots of affection and not drink 😜. And be a perfect person for a night. Maybe bring home made food for the party? Idk. Edit: I say that ^ because it seems like a power thing and like she's going to be super obnoxious. "OMIGOD ME AND BRIAN ARE IN LOVE AHAHAHAHA HES THE BEST" Edit 2: also I think he should go just to not let her take his friends away from him. He shouldn't have to submit to her ya know?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 02:24 PM
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I sat there and asked myself questions in my head: Who am I? Am I kind or petty? I'm kind. How do I radiate this energy onto those around me? I humble myself, I smile and make genuine eye contact, I actively listen to the conversations, I treat the hosts house with respect, I appear invested. This worked for me pretty well, I showed up overdressed for the party (lol oops I wore wedges and a dress). I brought low calorie drinks and was judged. I stuck out like a sore thumb because everyone else w…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 04:34 PM
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I don't understand her motivation to insert herself into the friend group honestly. As you said she didn't like them and was always considered an accessory and now she's trying to make herself a "core" member. I was "the girlfriend" of my ex boyfriends friend group in high school. I don't feel a need to hang out with them because I know he is a core member and will be there (even though he and I were very close friends too) + his new girlfriend. I connect with other groups of friends. It could b…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 04:24 PM
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Yes I understand that, she's a super no-go though.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:46 AM
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Wonderful post!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:41 AM
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Is he actually a captain or just a SO? My SO has ADHD, it's taken him a lot of self reflection and practice to control it without medication, sometimes he still uses medication. He doesn't get distracted in the ways you mention though, so I might not be much help. He just mainly gets distracted with conversations/ occasionally talks over shows/ doesn't always reply to strings of text messages and only replies to the most recent one.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:35 AM
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Also more advice regarding his hesitation to the invite: He could be thinking that there's going to be an issue there. He also might be afraid she will be cold and awkward towards him since, ya know, he broke up with her for you. I would just support him and ask what exactly about the situation is making him hesitate Edit: Even if there's an elephant in the room, it's not like you have to poke it. I would assume everything will run smoothly until there is an incident Edit 2: when I was confronte…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 09:39 PM
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Lol maybe if I say it humorously enough! "Omg staaahp"
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 08:52 PM
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My advice comes from my own experiences and from imagining almost every possible negative scenario for you just in case. This can all go super smoothly but it never helped being over prepared Are you me?? This happened to me too! ...Well as in I've had to meet a long term ex girlfriend, at a party I didn't know anyone at. And she def still carried a torch for my SO. He left her for you, remember that! But remember since she is a woman she will probably most likely check you out. So look nice but…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:24 PM
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Hypergamy by definition can be beneficial though, but you would want to use it during the vetting phase. The problem is we always have the tendency for hypergamy even in perfectly awesome relationships and if one is unaware of it, the woman might think these feelings are a "sign" that she "deserves better" or whatever. Edit: mainstream definition: the action of marrying a person of a superior caste or class.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:05 PM
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The thing is, there's no logical way I would be brought down to her level. She's behaving as if she's reveling in an accomplishment because it is one to her, I just don't view it as an accomplishment. Maybe "making me jealous" was the wrong phrase. Normally I would just respond and talk about my life and "revel" too. But reading RPW I'm under the impression that response isn't necessary and can be detrimental And I know I don't need to patch up her insecurities, but as a friend I'd like to be su…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 03:45 AM
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I would but I'm too paranoid about her finding this paradise and linking what I say to her. Ya know? Their stuff isn't super adventurous, she's just very detailed about it. Kinda like she's reveling in an accomplishment
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 03:40 AM
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I was in a similar situation! Feel free to PM me
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:59 AM
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Lol no. Women don't have to be bisexual to want to have a three-some. They could just be going along with their mans ideal. I was saying with the information I gave, that would be a logical explanation for a reader to come to. However, because of the further context of our friendship it isn't the case
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:58 AM
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She does though sometimes lol. I just kept it basic for the post. I don't mind sharing every once in a while! I love to connect with my friends! It's just knowing she's insecure about it and then sharing it excessively to me, she does it more when she feels ignored by him and stuff
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:48 AM
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It's not that she's crossing boundaries. If I set a strict boundary now, she would think it's because of something she's done and I'm pulling away. I'm hoping I can solve this problem by altering my behavior to effect her in a way that influences her without excessive thought or regret/anxiety
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:42 AM
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I will try this too!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:40 AM
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This is very good advice! And she is very blue pill and wouldn't be able to swallow it :/
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:40 AM
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It's not vapid, she's an awesome person she's just insecure and I think she's acting out a bit. We all have our flaws I'm just looking to manage it
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:39 AM
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No way at all, but that's an interesting take and would apply if it wasn't her!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 02:39 AM
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Are you a woman? Is this in an Asian country? What is the hierarchy of the house (as in who owns it, who was there first, etc)?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 04:14 PM
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She honestly sounds like she has some deep control issues. I don't think anything would help her she has to help herself. Can y'all not all quit and work for someone else?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 02:17 PM
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Why do you think you feel this way? The men (sales men) coming around honestly don't give a fuck about you and are just doing their job. They aren't being authoritative they're just regurgitating scripts they have written trying to sell a product. If you see a salesman you just open the door and determine what he is selling and then tell him you're sorry but you're not interested and good luck. My advice is that you don't have to be in control or confront anyone if you deflect the situation. Sal…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 02:16 PM
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You shouldn't really make fun of people while they are away. That's pretty cowardly and you sound like a huge bitch. I get that she's Chinese and probably doesn't speak good English but really? You don't really have to write it broken to get your point across. Ways to solve the cat bowl - put a mat under it. Way to solve the dirt - clean up after yourself after you make a mess She didn't want food from Arnold she wanted food from her husband? Also probably didn't want pizza. I assume it's her hu…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 02:08 PM
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Don't pet the unicorns plz :p Edit: we are everywhere you just gotta talk to people
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 01:00 AM
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I mean, think about it! If you see someone dressed well do you think bad things about them? Yes there's actually a really good book by Bret contreras and kellie Davis called strong curves: a woman's guide to building a better butt and body It has a couple different 6 week programs that help you tone up your body and teaches basic beginning weight lifting
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 12:38 AM
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Yes the first two waves did a lot of good even if there is conspiracy about where it originated or it's true intentions. 100% good job first and second wave. Unfortunately, the third and forth is what is taught in universities and is shaping the minds of the young, therefor the future
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 08:47 PM
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I can't tell if this is directed towards me because I'm also a millennial 🙈
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 08:43 PM
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Is he ill or a loved one? Edit: if in this scenario he is ill and it can't be controlled the answer is patience and understanding. If you have decided to stay committed to him you just be there for him. You can talk to him about it and share feelings but also remind him that you are right there next to him and y'all are a team. I think a lot of stress comes from not being able to have power in a situation and it's very freeing to just accept the situation at hand and work on it as a team
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 08:18 PM
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I put a lot of effort into my appearance 99% of the time I see my boyfriend or his friends. I actively choose to let him lead and only offer information to help "guide" him on things that I'm sure I know more about but don't want to nag. I am trying to build up a wardrobe that is flattering to my figure instead of just wearing sweats. I change and maintain my hair based on his preferences (with compromise I.e. Sometimes I don't have bangs). I watch what I eat and am building obliques + ass to ex…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 08:12 PM
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Yeah I understand! What helped me was seeing the type of men my female friends were attracting by being loud and obnoxious. 9 times out of 10 the men just wanted to hookup and plate them. I don't know if that translates to your case though!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 08:03 PM
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I am in college
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 05:44 PM
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Hm, as a woman our confidence shows up differently than male confidence. Women aren't supposed to be the peacocks sizing themselves up and dominating others in the name of confidence like most men naturally do. I have always believed a woman's confidence radiates through her grace and is something that can be done without "putting yourself out there" Some confident behavior: • walking poised with head up acknowledging the other beings walking around you • "bright eyes" with smiles • speaking kin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 05:43 PM
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I absolutely love Krav Maga and look forward to being able to afford it again lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 05:34 PM
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"Think how you like but behave like others" is unfortunately my shield until I graduate
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 02:55 PM
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I doubt wars will happen, haven't you noticed the influx of young readers? Millennials are beginning to shift to ideas like the red pill and etc because they're realizing what they are being preached isn't... working. Agency is definitely removed, I view TRP as a way to regain agency Barely anyone can be drafted now because everyone is diagnosed for "mental illness" and no one can meet the fitness requirements lol we are pretty screwed. Yeah my intention of the post was just to help connect the …
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 02:54 PM
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Yeah I understand all of that and I agree! I just also have to point out that history in itself can also be untrue in nature. So I don't really think of history as bringing things to light I just use it in order to define things that the main culture believes (definitions of the past waves of feminism). I can only analyze and explain what is happening now based on the preconceived ideas/definitions. Yes you can say that these ideas are wrong in nature because of history, but the main culture bel…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 02:33 PM
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Okay I understand! It is cruel, but unfortunately I don't think there's anything to be done to prevent future things like that from happening :(. I feel blessed to have a reaction theory like the red pill to use for structure. I'm really tired of being brainwashed and having this ideology shoved down my throat. Every class I have had has somehow tied into feminism and I have been forced to write using a feminist lens. If I came out as an anti feminist though, I would surely be bullied and ostrac…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 02:22 PM
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It's pointless to talk about the feminism of the past. Contemporary (fourth wave) feminism is an ideology "a system of ideas and ideals, especially one that forms the basis of economic or political theory and policy". This ideology is enforced in universities and spread as fact I do agree the idea wasn't conceived of by women but still don't blame men as a whole. I blame the people unseen pushing their own agendas
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 02:08 PM
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I'm on mobile and can't do things
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 02:04 PM
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Yeah :(. It's really unfortunate. Once a word becomes so well known like "feminist" you can't really use it as intended. For example, my professor yells "feminism is for everyone! If you're for equality you're a feminist!" But that's not what the word stands for anymore. The word stands for the fourth wave. My response is feminism and I ride together on some things but not all, therefor I am not a feminist. Of course I don't say that because I need to get an A.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 01:34 PM
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Men didn't do the feminism. Contemporary feminism is just an ideology that spread and has taken its own form
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 01:31 PM
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did you even read? The answer is no because I'm pushing Anti-feminism :p edited for tone
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 04:04 AM
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Because no where in reading what she wrote did I really ever get this "impression" that she was trying to brag, if anything, it just sounded like she was trying to be as descriptive as possible. Yes, no where did she explicitly state she is bragging which is why I poked. She is new to the Red Pill and is probably unaware of humble bragging which is something every woman does. This is not a sin it is just a behavior. Knowing this I read her post through someone who is just discovering the Red Pil…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 01:54 AM
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Why does everyone like you assume I'm projecting?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 12:30 AM
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A strong and barely controllable emotion
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:16 PM
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What does this have to do with the red pill?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:27 PM
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So, out of curiosity, what is the point of this post? Validation? Why do our thoughts matter? I see what you have written but I don't see what you are hoping to gain from our input. He is probably a strong leader and has potential maybe he got these traits from having a strong male influence/role model maybe he practices the red pill. He has implemented a lot of the tactics and behavior of a man with alpha traits as you have listed and acknowledged. In order to keep your relationship flowing smo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 06:24 PM
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Ambitious: having or showing a strong desire and determination to succeed. "His mother was hard-working and ambitious for her four children" RPW can be ambitious and have their own ambitions as long as it fits in the relationship dynamic. Being an ambitious woman can be unattractive for some men. For example, if a woman is ambitious in her career she probably won't want to stop and have children early, adding risk onto their hypothetical birth/mental state. The man can find this unattractive if …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:56 PM
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He got tested 😁
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:39 PM
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Honestly I didn't read the whole thing because I lost interest. But it did seem like she was trying to convince herself she has it good with whoever she's with and to "ignore the boredom". I sort of envisioned the man as a M'lady type A man doesn't need to love you more to behave the way she has listed lol. edit Do not date the other man because the other man will never give you the stability you know you need. Stay away from the other man because with him, you are unreliable. The other man will…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:36 PM
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Yeah I understand. Like I understand why he would react that way and how he would feel disrespected. But the normal thing to do is "oh I'm sorry I didn't realize it was disrespectful, I understand why and won't do it again" and then he's like "okay good, this is the first mess up and everything else has been great". Ya know? It's like your being punished for leaving the window open in the winter and your house is cold when you and the SO get home and realize it so you fix it. But instead your SO…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:19 AM
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That's so sweet! I really need to learn how to mend things
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:45 PM
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Also you're being very hard on yourself. You "don't know if you deserve him" and you're making yourself lesser than he is. That's not really submissive that's more telling of poor self esteem / self worth It's not like you cheated on him or anything and it's very telling that this early in a relationship he isn't willing to work with you over something so minor. We have all accidentally crossed boundaries or offended/disrespected our SO at some time
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:03 PM
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Yeah :/ I understand. But also you probably aren't as in love with him as you think. I know it's weird having a stranger on the internet say that but the intense feeling of love early in a relationship is really just chemicals and biological urges. Either way it seems one sided if he won't even listen to you
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 02:58 PM
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Yeah idk... that seems like a pretty obvious thing not to do unless you talked about the arraignment first. I really don't know if there's a way to fix that. All you can do I guess is tell him you were doing it to escape from your stress but you understand it upsets him and say you will find another outlet Edit: after re-reading I agree his reaction is odd and you basically didn't do anything wrong. The only thing I can think of is that you reading them while he was next to you and not participa…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 01:43 PM
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If you like seeing super cringy stuff it's life lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 05:31 AM
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It is life
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 05:11 AM
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😂 is there an anti /r/niceguys
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:40 AM
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Bruh no one wants you go away lmao. Cringe
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:36 AM
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Bruh Lmao
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:34 AM
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Well, for what it's worth, acupuncture/acupressure actually really helps for depression/PCOS on the physical level and it's not something a lot of people actually consider trying. I know a lot of people just say it's placebo but these other methods are being explored and taken more seriously now. I don't want you to feel like I'm putting any responsibility on you to "fix" anything. I just remember what it's like to be that way and I remember seeing how it affects everyone 😁 plus acupuncture is a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 01:16 AM
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I rejected them because they were weak (some were unattractive) and I just wanted friendships but I didn't know girls and guys couldn't be friends. I told them I had no other feelings for them other than friend/brother and it wouldn't change. I hamstered it into me just being a broken human because they were all "nice guys" that I should give a chance. The girls didn't like me because their boyfriends would eventually develop feelings for me and the girls wouldn't invite me places lol. These act…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 02:41 PM
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No I never would have liked them even if they saw the real m I had no idea I was still enabling them with my behavior and hamstered it into "I'm just being friendly"
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 02:21 PM
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Haha yeah 😂 I've heard playing with the hair is always soothing. My SO hasn't discovered that yet, I might have to introduce him to it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 07:19 AM
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You can make it super easily and messy too, it brings out playfulness. Baking is definitely a great act of service! I'm glad it is appreciated :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 07:17 AM
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So you wish to escape to somewhere else? Dissociate a bit?
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 07:16 AM
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Yes yes! Those acts of service are good! I can see you're very caring :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 07:15 AM
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Oh I'm sorry he is stressed! And yes, the men are here, might as well tap into their knowledge/preferences 😜
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 07:13 AM
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Yes! After all, when two are in a relationship you are supposed to be a team!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 07:12 AM
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:( is she seeking help for this? Honestly, with love, as someone who has been professionally diagnosed with major depressive disorder (MDD). Most of the time there is a reason for the depression but pharmaceutical companies don't push that. Very rarely is it purely neurological. But neurological problems are where the $$$$$ is at. Reasons for depression usually are: Environmental - town sucks everyone sucks there's no food imma do meth Situational - parents are abusive // structure removes agenc…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 06:58 AM
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Basically, long story short, I would explicitly say to the boys I didn't want to date them after constructing an image of myself that they saw as "perfect". They knew I didn't want them but my actions would send them signals that I did, which gave them a false hope. I eventually became almost like a trophy to them and they held a torch for me my whole high school time and would date girls who were similar to me but would blow off their girlfriends for me. They didn't like actual me they just lik…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 03:00 PM
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I read about it afterwards but I knew something was up at the time because everything I said I would get. And it was very abnormal (logically) for me to be getting as much attention as I did while not dating anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 02:53 PM
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Aw!! That's so kind and thoughtful of you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 07:39 PM
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Yeah, the good thing about these bids are it's just eye contact and smiles, which we really don't notice until we are looking for it. Even in the video about the SMV the woman says "no one is making eye contact with me, I'm not used to that".
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 02:17 PM
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It actually happened. This was a real thing. I go to one of the highest ranked schools academically in my state. I wish I could say it wasn't true but it is. Even if it doesn't happen at other universities it's still the idea that exists. These girls acted on it, other girls at other school probably don't. But I'm willing to bet they share videos on social media and post rants about how men do these things. This idea spreads out and sort of infects groups of people. Sure, most of them are young …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 02:11 PM
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Yeah, for sure. If you have a good vetting process though I don't think this fear is necessary. There is always a chance the guy is just doing what he thinks works and gets attention from women. Yeah he might come at you with the intention of getting laid that night like a player but your response of "I'd like to get you know better then maybe we can work something out" should send the signal that you're going to take investing. Of course there is always the chance that he is a player or somethi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 04:44 AM
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In the current feminist discourse, cat calling can be an umbrella term that just means a man shows interest. "Hey you're really pretty" or "hey I like your outfit" can be considered a form of cat calling even if it has no negative or sexual intent The door thing doesn't happen everywhere I just go to a very aggressive school As for the anxiety I believe in you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 11:02 PM
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Lol nooo, I would say it's miscommunication through all media including speech. I do empathize with your frustration though
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 08:42 PM
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I mean, if that's how you want to label it, most of this behavior is from women who aren't really aware of what they're doing, it's not like we are all narcissistic creatures 😜. I don't believe it's malicious in nature just like how repetitive texts aren't desperate in nature but that's the signal it sends. I don't know 100% why every single woman doesn't reply to a mans advance or why certain behaviors are turn offs, these are just some I have picked out watching my boyfriends friend have troub…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 07:58 PM
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They usually are not texting back because: They lied and never liked you or intended to pursue because you failed to send the proper signals on the date to signal to them you are what she wants They met another man who they like more, but don't want to tell you that because they want to keep you as a beta orbiter incase this guy falls through They feel like they are better than you and want to feel like they "won" instead of having something thrown in their lap Just to make sure I'm not missing …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 07:16 PM
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I see that makes sense and is interesting! Thank you for elaborating _^
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 06:43 PM
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No no, its not kindness that is the turn off. It is a lot of other things/behaviors that sends signals to the brain that something is off in that person or they are not as high quality as you. If you meet a girl and she says she likes you and you text her and she does not reply and you text her again today, and again tomorrow, and again the next day, and again the month later without response, she will find you unattractive (usually). Imma PM you the other half of this to explain my stance of wh…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 06:27 PM
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If truly no one cared, no one would have commented, including yourself
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 04:21 PM
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Oh girl you're not hopeless. I was handed bad cards in life and had an awful self image and so many literal garbage humans end up with other humans. My advice for you is to go into monk mode for however long you need to. Get into therapy to resolve these self esteem issues/ past traumas! If you are overweight, you can lose weight and you will feel better about yourself. Excess fat isn't good for humans and makes us feel like shit and fucks up our hormones, making us depressed and etc. Boys feel …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 03:53 PM
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Haha yes there are always exceptions! I would be against children but I have such an urge to have my genes passed. I get captivated by babies 😬 good thing they are too expensive for me
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 03:44 PM
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If you give me some specific ones I might be able to write something about that! Are you talking about like: Woman freaks out every time other women like her mans Instagram pictures and yells at her boyfriend Boyfriend either gets broken down and relinquishes all power (pussy whipped), cheats on her with hotter friend, or leaves her for someone else. And why that happens? There's just so many toxic behaviors 😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 03:16 PM
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Men love women, women love children, and children love puppies. That really sucks :( I can't even imagine.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 03:12 PM
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Yes deep down they were all kind individuals. But it doesn't matter how kind they were, they would not take power away from me like what happens in red pill relationships or close other relationship models. In these models the power is pinged back and forth. And these boys didn't know that they bought into the "girls want ONEitis from you before they date you" thinking. This behavior made my brain not desire them and be annoyed. Also they did not want a relationship with me, they just liked the …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 03:10 PM
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Yes that does make sense! What about the women who have been sexually abused or raped that become hypersexual or more promiscuous than they previously were? And some women use this behavior to avoid their stressful situations. Would you just consider these to be exceptions to the rule? Or do these responses fit in with your hypothesis?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 02:41 PM
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I didn't directly take woman's studies because I knew everyone would hate me lol, but every class I have taken has had a contemporary feminist lens
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 09:05 PM
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I am a woman who wears many faces and fits in in many places. I originally went to TRP to research and prove it wrong as an ideology and a theory at face value and was unable to do so. It is pretty sound in all of its subjects (sociology, psychology, biology, chemistry, etc). The "hate" for contemporary feminism is that it in itself is a flawed ideology that pushes false agendas. This affects the men more than us because the structure of contemporary feminism has sort of taken their agency away …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 08:21 PM
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I see. In my response, I am assuming the woman is not using her agency and is just floating through the structure of hookup culture. agency is the capacity of individuals to act independently and to make their own free choices. By contrast, structure is those factors of influence (such as social class, religion, gender, ethnicity, customs, etc.) that determine or limit an agent and his or her decisions I guess I'm in the camp that believes this woman in question would not be able to say no to Ch…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 07:02 PM
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I guess I just don't understand how the orbiters influence the sex with Chad. I agree it's a correlation (ice cream sales and murder/crime rate go up in the summer) but I don't believe is it a causation (people do crime in summer because it is hot outside and they're mad. People buy ice cream because it is hot. The causation is the heat). Care to elaborate?
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 06:04 PM
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I'm working on a response! 👍🏻
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 04:32 PM
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Y'all can always just give me ideas. I'm best at writing for assignments lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 02:50 PM
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Yes for sure. The thing about the red pill is that it can be used to explain humans behavior even if they don't follow it. An alpha or a beta with high worth will probably never ever date a single mom seriously. Unless that single mom lies and causes ONEitis to happen to that man, which in itself is kind of a relationship killer. If the single moms target low value beta men, or just lonely af beta men who have a complex of needing to take care of someone, they might find more luck. But as women …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 02:47 PM
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Yes! I'm meaning more social media statuses to the general public
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 04:19 AM
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I understand your standpoint! Without knowing more specific information I can't elaborate on the commitment role in your current relationship. However, in the red pill, the more casual sex you have and the higher your number is as a woman means your SMV will lower. Which will most likely scare away higher value men in the future. So I could argue that you are losing future power This probably won't affect you as you say you only search for men who will fit in with your life and be convenient whi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 03:40 AM
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No, honestly my home life was pretty emotionally abusive and I got a couple of stalkers/friends who destroyed my self esteem/concept of self worth. I didn't notice these guys were taking interest in me at the time, I just thought they wanted to be my friend haha I thought I wasn't good enough so I just saw all the guys even the low value and high value as the same, a meat suit containing a potential friend. This behavior was different to them though, because the popular guys/non popular guys wer…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 03:24 AM
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No, most of them are unaware until they enter the dating scene and realize the high value men don't want them. Some women will try to argue and say "well he just wasn't the right one/ a real man" and etc in order to deflect the attention from their situation. Shit happens, sometimes you fall in love and have a kid and it doesn't work out. But unfortunately, it takes a really special man to want to stick around and raise someone else's kid without a bond or reason already established.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 02:33 AM
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I'm not sure either I would have to read up on it! And it's not that I found them repulsive, they just came off as desperate and weak which made me lose interest
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 02:17 AM
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I was attractive and well liked. A lot of guys wanted to date me but I never wanted to date them. I didn't think I was special and didn't notice the attention until I looked back on it and the guys flat out told me they carried a torch for me. They were all my beta orbiters I'm super happy and have a great life although I am only 22 some people think I look 18. I'll report back later in a decade :P
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 01:53 AM
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Haha do you agree? No matter how many flowers a beta buys me or how many doors he opens for me I will not want to have sex with him. It even makes him more unattractive to me the harder he tries to convince me he's worth it. I do want that behavior from guys I want to date, but it has to come after he has got my attention first!
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 01:15 AM
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Also don't post it on social media or tell a lot of people. When you do that and people say "good job!" Or "great idea!" It releases the same reward chemicals as if you actually did and completed the thing and destroys motivation
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 11:23 PM
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Riding the CC is riding the cock carousel. It's when women just have casual sex without commitment from the man. This has come about more recently with social structures telling women this is how they "take power" and be "in control" of their sexuality. However, knowing the red pill we know this to be false. This is false because in the act of having sex without commitment, women are actually relinquishing control to the man and are either plated or hard nexted by the (usually) alpha. You see th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 11:11 PM
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I am having trouble finding your argument in this post or what point you are trying to make. Women don't need attention, affection, or anything from orbiters to have sex with Chad (aka alpha dude). Beta orbiters exist in contemporary times most likely because the orbiters have developed ONEits or hope to fuck the woman as that is a biological urge in men. It can also be subconscious. The woman keeps them around because she has power over them and they will do X, Y, and Z for her while she gets f…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 11:01 PM
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Haha yeah I've told him to point it out when I do it. That's a good idea! Maybe I'll pass it along
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 04:12 PM
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I would be afraid of it to get too big and leak into the mainstream world. I can just imagine how people would turn the quiz into being "limiting" and malicious for women. I wouldn't want this sub to be attacked like FPH was.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 10:07 PM
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I also don't know how to program lol I just have some basic knowledge. And I don't have the link to the pie chart but it basically divvies up what % of time women should put into certain things/what is most important in terms of appearance. Like weight is more important on average than ones eyebrows
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 10:04 PM
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Lmao
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 10:00 PM
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Yes for sure maintaining appearance does do a lot! I knew it would be a long shot because there would have to be so many if then statements within the code/survey. And just so much overall. Ideally I would like the survey to give an end result along with a report of all the answers and certain ones highlighted that could be changed based on self improvement/appearance maintenance. For example: at the end it could say "user x said face is ugly af by genetics. Answered is obese. Answered has acne.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 08:10 PM
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Yes I think that would be helpful! Ideally I would like to see all of that information included because I don't want the answer for this to be "be a skinny hot white girl". I would like a realistic tool for people of all shapes and stuff to see where they are at in terms of their SMV/RMV. I have also had a fascination but mine is with the golden ratio/ideal female measurements. For example, the measurements 36, 24, 36 is said to be the golden ratio for the female figure. The ideal ratio in healt…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:23 PM
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I understand why it's happening because the women are choosing to submit and allow their man to lead. It's just not feasible for every man to be able to be a Captain because that defies genetics. I almost wonder if there should be another term for a man a woman is choosing to submit to and allow to captain, even if that's not what he actually is based on TRP. But it's also hard to know what that is unless you read both of the subreddits like I do which can scare a lot of women away/confuse them.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:14 PM
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Yeah I know, I agree I would like to see some standardization honestly it would help a lot. But I also feel like one shouldn't label their SO as Captain without fully understanding what the term means within the red pill. However I think it would be fair for one to say their SO has Captain potential/tendencies. Personally I don't think true captains exist until you pass a certain age, that's why I try to refer to my SO as a young Captain because he shows/exhibits potential/tendencies that I beli…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:10 PM
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I understand, and I'm not placing any fault on you for choosing that. I just hope her husband sees through it so they don't give your ex a punishment he doesn't deserve (unless he has literally raped someone at some point in his life). But I know injustice is a part of this world. Best of luck to you op, I look forward to seeing you post more
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 05:48 PM
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Hoooly shit I called it. How can a disabled vet force himself on anyone though. Does your boyfriend have any documentation of communication between the two? Edit: I know it's the last think you want to do but if they press charges prison is not kind to vet/"rape committers". Maybe if you confronted your friend (while having your phone recording) and tell her you know she is lying because you were awake and listening to them, and that this is the last chance for her to reconcile with you before y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 05:24 PM
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I believe it :(. Does her husband know/ do you know what the fight was about? Edit: honestly I read the males red pill sub a lot, and my heart always breaks reading the case studies/field reports about women who cheat on their husbands and end up getting everything in the divorce when the man has been faithful. (And women lying about rape when caught). I don't know this girls marriage, I don't know her husband or how long they have been married. But it might be worth reaching out to this husband…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 04:55 PM
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Take that job offer!! Don't be afraid of being alone, there's going to be a whole pool of more men and so many possibilities and opportunities. And make better friends <3
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 04:48 PM
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I don't mean this to be even related to OP really, but I've noticed an influx of women labeling their SO's as Captains. That's not how it works right? The man has to be a captain one can't just decide that's what he is right?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 04:44 PM
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This is just my opinion and will not be eloquent/everything I say comes with love in my heart for you: Yeah sorry this is bullshit. Y'alls relationship is done and this is why: •he won't have sex with you because of depression yet will comfort your friend and WHOOPS there goes his penis inside her vagina. HOW DID THAT HAPPEN red pill He's a disabled vet. No one wants to date a disabled vet because that just screams emotional instability and baggage. His SMV and RMV is probably literal garbage. H…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 04:37 PM
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It sounds like she's really lonely and is craving companionship, at least that's my interpretation. Unfortunately the only way to beat that is to embrace being alone
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 09:07 PM
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I had a girlfriend who did this. She would go after "unavailable" men or that's how I would tell her. I told her to avoid the problem make a list of things you want and search for people who fit close to that I.e. Values, relationship status, intention. Edit: she would do it to try to prove to herself that she is awesome and can fix/change men and be what makes them have an aha moment and change their values, it's not a sustainable ideology
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 08:06 PM
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So the RPW will behave with class and grace. But how to do that is the issue, since I don't know the specific thing this is going to be very broad. I'm going to assume that she is bringing this up passively aggressively as a moral power play. "Yeah well remember you said this so I'm more morally superior/you owe me". I would respond if this is the case: "yes I did say that but if you remember when we talked about this I made it known it was not on purpose but I apologized because it hurt you" Th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 04:04 PM
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So, as someone who has come from an abusive background, I might have a few helpful tricks. Although I might be able to tailor it better if I knew the specific abuse (I.e. Emotional, physical, sexual). I'm assuming it's emotional in this reply. You're already aware of the issue which is the first step! Good job! It might help if you think of yourself as an object while you are solving this, very analytically and keep a thought journal. For example, let's say you start entering things you have not…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 03:54 PM
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Yeah for sure, but I was doing it more often because I'm feeling more anxious about life circumstances. He doesn't need me to remind him to do things because he hasn't failed yet
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 09:22 PM
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Well, I think that is a completely valid and medical reason. I'm sure he does not want to cause discomfort or hurt you and you could always try blowjobs as a compromise if you still feel you want to have a form of sex even on days where you know vaginal sex would be painful. Sometimes men have things happen to them that makes sex uncomfortable I.e. Chafing or really dry skin that tears on the penis. Maybe if you liken it to that and not of a lack of desire but that pushing through and having vag…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:47 PM
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Ahh ok! Sounds like a great method!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:36 PM
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Oh yes for sure! It's interesting y'all have that conversation before bed, I would fear that would spoil the nights sleep
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 02:42 PM
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I'm really interested to know where this nagging behavior in that generation originated from. Because it seems that is where the problem really started. So far a lot of people are saying this is norm grandma behavior lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 01:35 AM
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I could, but it would take me a lot of time because I would want to find supporting articles to back up my claim. I'm pretty sure it's something women have picked up from socialization within the family and it's reinforced in contemporary media and just becomes a habitual behavior. No one really wants to nag as it causes more stress for the nagger in my opinion. I am really interested to understand it's origin though, I think that would be very interesting. Personally I don't do it to use my pow…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 01:25 AM
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Yes your beginning points are correct and are backed up by sociology! This is a conversation that I have had in a classroom recently! And I really agree with your point about drama and early female relationships. However I would add within sociology women nag because they mimic their female role models. Most of the women who nag have had a female figure in the house hold that nags, and we form our social identities through copying. I never nagged my female friends I only ever nag males because t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 11:21 PM
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Yay! I'm glad I can contribute!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:57 PM
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Yes it's so frustrating :(. I think I will use your picture of what you said because I do not want to be her.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:57 PM
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Well, how my boyfriend and I navigate that is we tell each other early in the day that it might be "one of those days". That way neither of us waste energy initiating because I know I get super salty when I get everything primed and sporting lingerie and he turns me down lol Idk if that would work for you though since idk your relationship dynamic
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:53 PM
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Yes! It makes everything less stressful in my opinion, he has really taken the lead in our relationship so I spent less time wondering "what's going on" Edit: I understand what you are saying however I think in that particular example it was more a exchange occurring at the same time vs how most of the exchanges go down I.e. As a woman "If you want to have sex with me we have to be exclusive" or as a man "I don't want a relationship with you until I see how you preform sexually" in these example…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:49 PM
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Yeah exactly, it's really funny in my case because I eat really well and am of healthy weight. But she bakes muffins and literal sugary stereotypical grandma stuff so that's all there is to eat and then nags me about my eating habits. I brought this to her attention yesterday and told her she is an enabler, and if she really cared she would provide healthy snacks (implying she just nags to nag). Her response was "well you have to learn to say no". 🙃 "I have a point to make! When you take care of…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:53 PM
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Well for that .1% what are your reasons?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:30 PM
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I think that would be your opinion. In the theory of the red pill men are the gate keepers of commitment. I guess women could be the gatekeepers of commitment if they are faced with a beta though, which I think would be an interesting add on to the theory!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:28 PM
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I think him being out of there depends on where he is in life and what he wants out of it (which is where my vetting process has come in). The right time and the right place matters, for example my current SO was president of his fraternity so one can imagine his number is pretty high. Many attractive women pursued him, if I were to try to convince him of what I was saying he would most likely be skeptical and choose his plates over me since I'm viewed as sexually inexperienced. Unless I manipul…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 05:26 AM
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Yes that is totally true! However in my ~limited~ experience I have found myself able to convince them that practice makes perfect and theoretically anyone can learn how to be good at sex which gives them more incentive to stay. It's like risk/reward, if you're able to monk mode and make yourself into something rare/ a scarcity he will be more likely to believe the reward/investment is worth it. However, I have to admit there are a lot of variables that have to exist in order for what I'm saying…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 04:52 AM
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You can believe that if you wish but it has worked out for me. I have had men choose me over plates and caused oneitis in their brains
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:14 AM
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I mean is that not the ideology of redpill? Women are the gatekeepers of sex men are the gate keepers of commitment? Are you trying to argue something different?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:11 AM
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So, the beginning thing to do I think would be to explain the "don't have sex until you have commitment" thing. How I have done this with non-rpw friends of mine is to it explain to them this way: "Look, there are women all around him. Remember college (or if you're in college its easier to parallel)? When women would just throw themselves at men and have sex their first meeting? That's what hes used to. He doesn't view that behavior as one that is done by women who are suitable for relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/16 10:48 PM
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I think that the best thing you can do in order to achieve your want of her reading the book and you saving face is to make her think is her idea. A basic way to do this is: If you have a copy for yourself bring it with you for the holidays. Most likely you will be lounging together at some point right? Maybe watching tv? Bring out your book and flip to a random page and read for a bit. More than likely if she's curious she will ask you about it, then you have the opportunity to open a dialogue …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 11:11 PM
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Haha yes! It's very interesting, and I agree hierarchy exists here specially in words. Have you noticed some of the comments that's say "no" have added brags on them? It's very interesting to me as I study media and the communications on them. I'm very sensitive to it because it's come up in my studies quiet frequently and I also just observe people and myself. My friend in question honestly probably didn't even notice it because she is quite oblivious to these things unless it's noticeable (lik…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 10:24 PM
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I put on something I normally wouldn't wear over to her house and then wondered why I did it and remembered her comment. It could totally be unrelated or maybe not so I'm entertaining the "maybe not" aspect. Edit: it's also different with a boyfriend. For my boyfriend I actively choose what to wear in order to please him as that's my conscious goal. I love him and am proud to be associated with him and want him to find me attractive so I actively try. But I could argue there was once an unconsci…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 09:54 PM
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Yes I like discussing it too, just not when people try to make claims that I'm doing it consciously and lying about it to make myself feel better XD. Yes I think it serves sort of like a "checks and balances" system. And in this case it definitely is giving signals about how her man would perceive me, which I'm wondering might be why she tries to keep him locked away in a sense from other women since all women do this and he is higher in SMV then her so he just attracts higher SMV women's attent…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 03:36 PM
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Asking him to teach you might work out well too! Men really like to be our heroes in a sense and I bet he will feel cool once you send the message to him that you know you can learn things from him
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 03:53 AM
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If you are unhappy with your size maybe go half way to like 125. I'm 5'5" and at 125 and it's pretty nice. I know how you feel about feeling fat. (I was just at 140lbs as well). When you were smaller at 115, it's possible that you didn't look healthy because of your ED. Have you ever tried lifting weights/body building? With this you would have to continue to eat well, you would be heavier, but you wouldn't feel as large as you do now. If that makes sense
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 03:06 PM
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Yeah I know sorry, it kinda started turning into a "based on your post you're this way and mean this thing" when that wasn't what I was going for. My post and comments were repeatedly downvoted and I know once that happens when readers read it they already have a frame in their head that says "this is bad/ this person is bad/wrong" and just say that in the comments which doesn't help me gather data. In the op I questioned why I wore clothes that my friend said her boyfriend liked when I had no d…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 02:50 PM
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I think everyone plays "these games" I just don't think it's been talked about or noticed.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 09:08 PM
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I'm not trying to compete with her and we have been friends for several years, she doesn't feel a need to compete with me but she does look to me for cues and stuff, if that makes sense? I should have just used a better example in the original post.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 09:06 PM
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Yeah I don't doubt that, it's definitely not good for bonding. I think that hierarchy exists for women though just in a different form. I'm also not actively trying to, I'm not sitting there thinking "I'm going to do this to put myself at the top". It just is naturally happening. If it's such a masculine trait though why do we see it among tribe/clique girls? Especially in my sorority I've noticed hierarchies among the separate cliques and not all of that behavior is done out of insecurity I wou…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 09:04 PM
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Ah yes I understand, she wants you to spend the money on you not on gifts for him. I've been there lol it's funny though, because I think in this case it brings you more joy to give him gifts than spend it on yourself. Humans are funny
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 08:08 PM
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Yeah I know, I just personally think this is neither right or wrong and shouldn't be solved. Yeah this time it takes form in my clothing choice and I can be like no I'm not going to wear this, but I think just another behavior will happen in the form of humble bragging or a different behavior. I think a lot more women do this (behavior to establish hierarchy among other women) than they are willing to admit. People are saying I'm doing this behavior because I want her man when in reality I think…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 07:34 PM
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I'm not flirting with him, I have no desire to hang around him
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 06:53 PM
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This is very true, objectively she is not as high value as I thought because of my bias. But it's also worth noting I'm in a high SJW area and even though she is not high value in red pill standards, she is higher than most here. The resume thing is because the job market is very competitive here and one almost has to have a pedigree resume in order to be seen :/. It will look good for a low paying job that he might be able to work up in but I can't tell how well that would work And I so wish he…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 06:53 PM
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So in this case are you saying I should choose not to wear a V neck shirt because I might be doing it because she said that's what he likes to see women wear? It just seems exhausting to analyze every aspect of my behavior when the behavior is question isn't causing anything to happen
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 06:35 PM
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I'm sorry your mom doesn't approve, do you think she might be jealous?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 05:56 PM
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Yes, I think a lot of the reason why single women ask us so much is because they want to live through our experiences. They love watching real life relationship drama. I only ever talk about my boyfriend here or with my close friends. I have to be careful if my friends are single though because it makes them feel bad that I've found someone and they haven't. I do however find myself feeling satisfied when I know what the single women want me to say but instead I just talk about what a great man …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 05:42 PM
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It depends on how I feel about the man. I love my boyfriend so any time he opens up about his feelings it makes me super happy. Thinking back on when we first started dating he was very open about his feelings and we had many discussions about the past, his present feelings, and the hopes for the future. I would encourage you to not "light up" when you share memories that were fond when there was an ex present in them though, as it makes our lady brains think "oh this ex brought him joy" instead…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 05:24 PM
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Well that's really broad and really hard to answer. Even when one is being empathetic advice can still be given you just have to make sure the person actually wants advice Edit: if you could give me a specific example I might be able to answer it better, even if it's a hypothetical example
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 05:10 PM
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Because she has a college degree from a good college, is from a higher class family, is pretty, has a really good personality and character, and is striving to get back in shape. I love her dearly. She has a lot to bring to a relationship but started dating this guy when she was doing a lot of drugs and it's her first real relationship. They grew together and both got clean and she says she's in love with him but how can you be in love with someone and complain about the things that make them wh…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:56 PM
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God thank you so much. Everyone else seems to have gotten offensive and blame it on my character or RMV when that's not the case at all. You're exactly right it is out of competition to be at the top of the hierarchy, and I know I do it but I don't realize my true intentions until after the fact. Edit: I wish this was the top comment because now everyone is just reading this with the frame of mind that I'm some smug asshole when I just wanted objective discussion
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:40 PM
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What is RMV? I forget specific acronyms. If it has anything to do with relationships I'm in a very happy and very loving relationship. They don't have a strong relationship. It was one that was forged by doing a lot of drugs and they have a lot of problems and are not RP at all. Yes that's the WHOLE POINT. Out of everything in my closet I picked out a certain outfit that I may or may not have worn on my own but I am thinking I chose that outfit based on her comments. I don't care if he does well…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:37 PM
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I'm not saying I have any motives that's the thing is it's just a trend in behavior I have noticed. And honestly their relationship is pretty bad and she can do a lot better than him Edit: and honestly even if I did this behavior when he was around I don't think any dread game would happen. He's pretty beta, he might look at me and think "oh she's hot" but there wouldn't be any dreading because of how "locked in" the relationship they are, at least that's my assumption
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:32 PM
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Can you give an example of something that needs advice?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 02:07 PM
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I understand how you feel to an extent, as my boyfriend is just now cutting out an ex and her family for me. Unfortunately I don't think there's anything that can be done to make these feelings go away. They are natural instincts as she (and their kids) are taking away resources (his time, thoughts, money, etc) from you. You might just have to accept this is how it's going to be and try to make the best of it
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 11:23 PM
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Haha I know! It was so frustrating! But the same thing happened with his gift for me. It's a GameCube and I told him I was gonna buy one and he responded "please don't haha". So now I'm painting him a picture frame so that he can have something he didn't expect 🙈
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 11:18 PM
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Yes massages are great especially with oil! Another great thing is making your captain feel important and like you value every word he says. Really listen to understand and not just simply to reply Just doing that will set you apart from a lot of other women.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 01:46 PM
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Yes I'm so glad I can give him this. Not only does he get to experience his passion again and make music but knowing every time he plays it he will be thinking of me makes my heart swell _^
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 01:42 PM
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Then there ya go
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 01:37 PM
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So my understanding of AWALT is that all women are like that under certain circumstances. Those certain circumstances might vary from woman to woman and the behavior might not even exist with the right man. For example: a woman is dating a man whom she "loves" and then rich as fuck Drake shows up and takes interest in her. In the male red pill, the woman would choose Drake over her man because he is of higher status and etc. because all women are like that However I believe if the woman was with…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 02:08 AM
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This is your life. What do YOU want?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 02:02 AM
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Yeah no for sure! That's why the electric drum set was purchased because you can plug headphones in it :p And that's sweet!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 12:02 AM
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Yes!! That's so sweet! I felt so awful about ruining this big gift because I wanted to have it all wrapped nicely and obnoxious since my SO didn't have those kinds of Christmas's. He also told me my present so now we are just getting $5 secret gifts to give each other haha
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 06:06 PM
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It depends. If it was my boyfriend I would get an abortion as we would not be financially able to care for a child, have time, be living together, etc. If it was my husband (which wouldn't happen because I would only marry someone who wants children with me) I would probably abort and then divorce him and marry a man who wants to have children with me. Or assuming he had legitimate reasons for wanting the abortion I would listen to what they are and judge whether it's fair (i.e. He lost his job,…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 05:35 PM
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To me as a woman? Or to another woman other than myself? Like an attempt to create abundance mentality?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 05:26 PM
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Yes I understand, it's also interesting once you have been here a while because it's hard to police yourself to answer others not used to the bluntness and answers catered towards their feelings. An example: a friend (used to upper class lifestyle) and her boyfriend (doesn't have college education or any skills/valuable work experience) Her concern: not living in a tiny apartment their whole life and she wants to be a housewife An answer catered towards her feelings: don't worry girl everything …
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 04:24 PM
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If you change your perspective on what an asshole is then no ones an asshole here and you won't feel dissed
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 02:29 PM
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Yeah but it depends. We covered things like the wage gap, glass ceiling, etc. and the professor said "feminism is for EVERYONE" and I just sat there staring at the wall. It's easy though, I know exactly what they want to hear and I'm pretty sure I'm getting an A in that class The problem with humanity based science is they ignore the nature argument in nature vs. nurture
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 02:11 PM
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Yes girl I'm in the same boat. But I'm a communications major with a sociology minor. I get feminism crammed down my throat
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 05:26 AM
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cant make my own post because new account I'm in a committed relationship and I'm really happy!! I've done this behavior for a really long time and it's not something I consciously think about but I think it's interesting as a case study. I am considered a very high value woman in RPW standards and as long as I can remember I was always the leader of my friend group (back in high school). This group consisted of mainly boys and occasionally their girlfriends but I would assert power/dominance ov…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 01:51 PM
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I'm just really frustrated I want to be around people who encourage each other to be better and be loving. I have one female friend I can handle but she controls her bf and manipulates him and seeing the behavior is starting to wear on me.
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I completely understand that interpretation and agree that it is a skill people need to have because temptations happen! But she's doing it out of moral obligation not out of a cultivated respect for her husband. I didn't include it in my post but she invited him to come, could have stopped him, and she acknowledged that herself. She framed him as her Chad and it just really makes me feel for her husband. She also shared all of this sensitive information with me and I am not her friend ☹️
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Yeah I didn't think I needed to include all the details for people to understand that it's bad behavior and blue pill and awfully disrespectful to her husband, and then I went into how this is how almost everyone is so it's hard for me to make RP female friends when they're all circle jerking justifying AWALT tendencies, and then asked if anyone else had similar problems, so the details about her intentions aren't important because it's still, at face value, disrespectful. I shouldn't have to de…
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