Does anyone else find themselves behaving in a way to show other men you are of high worth?

loneliness-inc · 2016-12-14T15:19:51+00:00

I am a high value woman

From your post it seems like you're high in SMV but quite low in RMV.

lower value than me

Before you knock their value, they may not be so low in RMV which is what's more valuable in the long run. You may have the looks, but looks fade. Your friend and her SO may have a strong commitment with very high RMV in which case, they're likely to be together for many years to come.

I find myself wearing that style of clothes.

You don't find yourself doing anything. Clothing doesn't appear on your body. You got dressed in that style clothing. It may have been conscious, it may have not. Either way, own it.

I don't think this behavior is anything I can suppress or change

Bullshit!

The only thing that's completely in your power is your thought, speech and action. You can chose to do or not do things. You're therefore responsible for whatever you did or didn't do.

Instincts may make one option more tempting, but that doesn't mean you can't change anything. An animal acts only on instinct, a human makes choices.

I honestly don't care if he does well,

This is why I say that your RMV is likely very low. With a smug attitude like that....

You have some serious introspection and character improvements to do.

justanotherusername4 · 2016-12-14T22:18:00+00:00

Awww, pity you deleted your original post instead of updating....... :( Now the answers don't make sense to me and/or other readers.

wub1234 · 2016-12-14T15:14:00+00:00

Men compete with men, women compete with women.

My friends are very dear to me, but our relationship has always been defined by competition, perhaps less so now, but certainly when we were younger. I've heard it described by someone as a sort of mutual antagonism.

Effectively you are competing for your position in the hierarchy in order to demonstrate that you're the most valuable male. All of my male friendships have involved this to some extent, even though none of us were necessarily conscious of this. We just thought that we liked football and cricket and snooker and video games, etc. But the reality is that we were simply fulfilling our pre-ordained societal role subconsciously.

When I think about it now, virtually every activity we ever engaged in involved competition. Occasionally we would watch TV a bit, but often sport. We watched some films together, but were more likely to do this when there were women around. We went to the pub together, but this was quite often punctuated by playing pool or darts or talking about the fantasy football league within which we were all competing against each other. It was all competition, all of the time.

There isn't this mutual antagonism with women because, quite simply, you're not in competition with one another. So I love the company of women as friends because they provide a sort of antidote to this. I like to read this board occasionally just because it's nice to feel female energy. I try not to be antagonistic or argumentative when communicating with men on here, but I'm an INTJ, it's going to happen!

Women compete with each other in different ways. That's why, I believe, we haven't seen women compete on a level footing with men in disciplines where they should have no disadvantage. There is always this big debate about why women don't compete at the same level as men in chess. And I've heard people suggest it's because men and women are wired differently and other biological reasons.

But I think the real reason is that women are simply less motivated to compete in such fields. If anyone is interested, you can watch a discussion of women and chess here. You won't know this, but the women speaking are all world-class chess players. Now if I was to suggest some of the things that they are openly stating - women don't want to focus on chess because they're more interested in shopping and hanging around with friends, etc - can you imagine the shitstorm? I would be stoned to death!

But what they are saying makes perfect sense. Women are social animals, generally more social than men, and of course they're biologically primed to reproduce. If women didn't have that biological clock then the human race would be screwed because it's never the right time logistically to have a baby! You have to have that real emotional investment in it, otherwise you would always conclude that life is fine and dandy without someone waking you up every morning at 2am!

So it's natural in that sense for the OP to be effectively saying "look at me, I'm a valuable female". And whether subconsciously or otherwise, men who compete in all manner of seemingly trivial fields, are attempting to demonstrate that they are the valuable male. They probably don't realise it themselves, but they are just following their genetic programming.

I hope that answer wasn't too long for you! I could and have written a lot more on this subject.

rainyweathergirl · 2016-12-14T20:43:36+00:00

I read your post earlier and it sounds like a great way to lose friends. Female friendships do not thrive well under competition and hierarchy.

Banincoming · 2016-12-14T17:48:22+00:00

It sounds like you are flirting with other men. Not very RPW.

Gardrothard · 2016-12-14T16:10:12+00:00

Your motives might not be the most noble ones but what you're doing could actually be a nice gesture if done properly. I don't suggest you go there, but if you really can't help it you could spin it around so that it's not that bad.

Chanell that behavior so that you do it when his girlfriend is around. It should be subtle enough for her to notice him but not him. This way he won't get any crazy ideas she won't have anything to point out and destroy your relationship, but it will instal some dread into his girlfriend, thus making the guy happier because she will now compete with you.

Like I said, you shouldn't do it because it can cause many problems, but if you really must and can't control it, at least do it in a way that someone profits from it.

deadsandsushi · 2016-12-15T18:56:59+00:00

No. I wait for men to qualify themselves for me.

Title	Does anyone else find themselves behaving in a way to show other men you are of high worth?
Author	NoFaceNoPlace
Upvotes	3
Comments	33
Date	December 14, 2016 2:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5iay57/does_anyone_else_find_themselves_behaving_in_a/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/does-anyone-else-find-themselves-behaving-in-a-way.86730 https://theredarchive.com/post/86730

Comments