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Upvoting OP's post. I had to google what princess hand hold was but now being aware of it, it got me laid. Hanging out at an outdoor bar, girl came over to ask if anyone wanted candy. I tease her if she stole it from some children, we speak some more and she sits down next to me. At a certain point of conversation, for some reason I just hold her hand and never let go. I still remember how this moment shifted the entire dynamic. She was stumbling over her words, her cheeks were becoming red and …
/r/seduction08/03/26 11:53 PM
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This sub has turned to shit man... This is very top of my front page mind you. I miss field reports, you learn more about what works and doesn't.
/r/seduction20/03/25 01:45 PM
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It all begins to make sense if guys just dressed up to their best potential and went to a gay club. It offers a perspective of being in their shoes.
/r/seduction20/03/25 01:29 PM
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I find a lot of these guides cause men to overthink.
/r/seduction19/03/25 01:18 PM
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There's like 3 days in a month where it's possible for women to get pregnant. Having said that, its still Russian roulette.
/r/seduction17/03/25 03:09 PM
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My advice to you is to not lie, but also don't offer up information you want to lie about. Unless they're demanding it, be playful with it.
/r/seduction23/02/25 05:03 PM
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I would high five you. Approaching IRL a fucking cheat code.
/r/seduction18/02/25 03:07 PM
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I agree heavily on the time wasters. If you have light conversation and she doesn't agree to meet, you won't get there by continuing having a pen-pal. The interaction you have online is often times completely different in person. I'm sure everyone can speak on this. Even if you guys are using audio to send messages.
/r/seduction18/02/25 03:05 PM
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I know - this sub is rarely ever a resource for good advice. It's a teenager writing gloating about mustering up the courage to approach a girl on the train to ask for directions or guy looking for advice on how to convince his one tinder match to restart conversation. I'm being sarcastic but I would like real solid tips.
/r/seduction06/02/25 03:09 PM
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Fuck that. I do it so well, I can see the back of her teeth.
/r/seduction04/02/25 02:37 PM
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Women just go through a hormonal type cycle in dating. They're sometimes up for it, sometimes less so. Their lives are in fact much busier than men.
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:42 PM
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Be 6'0 honestly..
/r/seduction26/01/25 07:33 PM
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age old rule definitely applies, always sit next to a girl rather than facing her. The most positive results to my dating has been it. I'll move chairs around to make it happen.
/r/seduction26/01/25 07:30 PM
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How's that been going for you?
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:49 AM
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Okay?
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:47 AM
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I disagree, Instagram is a powerful tool. She gets to watch your stories, click on your photos, etc. If not, then she's not interested. Many are DM-ing them regardless if you get a whatsapp, telegram, text so how are you standing out from the competition? A random girl I met in a club 2 years ago is still looking at my stories on IG.
/r/seduction25/01/25 11:44 AM
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And girls aren't even that mean with the rejection, if you're polite, cordial. The rejection is "sorry I have a bf." Being a student of dating, I ask many women if they are approached often, if they enjoy it. The answer is no not often, and yes most enjoy it in a case of some who hate it because its always the agro-socially inept. I think it's a cheat code to be honest.
/r/seduction25/01/25 11:40 AM
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I can tell you dating Russian women, whom we all know are incredibly beautiful, I will not make any commentary on her looks, period. Not her hair, her eyes, skin. She knows she's beautiful, she knows that I know it. Compliment clothing, jewelry, and personality trait. Any compliments about their beauty are either ignored or had landed me in hot water. Only say that stuff when you're in a relationship. This does not reflect all women. There are women that want to hear the compliment about their l…
/r/seduction22/01/25 07:47 PM
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Overthinking. Ask if interested in 3rd date (probably not) If not, you move on.
/r/seduction22/01/25 03:45 PM
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Life is so much easier when you're chasing high interest girls.
/r/seduction20/01/25 08:28 PM
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I follow your posts and you put a lot of weight on IG. I'm only sitting on low 200. I do upkeep with stories and photos, traveling often, jokes etc. Any advice on how to grow it organically?
/r/seduction14/12/24 07:20 PM
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I understand that most of the dudes that congregate on this sub are not successful. The successful ones only come here to push their "subscribe to my newsletter and coaching book". It's an uphill battle trying to decipher good advice sometimes.
/r/seduction14/12/24 04:09 PM
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Ballpark how many followers does your IG profile have?
/r/seduction12/12/24 06:08 PM
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All the many dates I had, none would have ever entertain the idea to come over before meeting. I've had ONSs, they still need to feel safe and verify you're not catfishing. But I wouldn't want that either. I need to make sure I'm not meeting a total psychopath. People over text are not the same in person.
/r/seduction12/12/24 04:47 PM
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Any examples of what good text game is? I've only ever had successful dates where I quickly pivoted to date. The longer we talked online, the worse things become. The biggest boost to my success rate was physical escalation for sure. Once that starts, they're not even paying attention to what is being said, you could be talking about oyster crackers.
/r/seduction12/12/24 04:43 PM
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I wish I did this when I was younger. My advise to find them hotel bars. Women visiting for business. Approach asking her if there's anything good on the menu. Ask what she's there for, what she does etc. Eventually you vibe check if she's interested and escalate to her room. 100% be prepared to be hit with "but you're so young comments", most guys see that as rejection(or shit test whatever that is). I see that as her being conflicted about her desires and logic. Just ignore them, keep doing wh…
/r/seduction08/12/24 10:19 PM
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I lived in lovely Sofia, Bulgaria for 2 months. It's nothing different than any other city. Girl alone at a bench, reading a book? Go ask her what she's reading. I've never done shopping malls, but cafes are terrific for conversation starting. "What are you drinking?" "What are you working on?"
/r/seduction08/12/24 12:17 AM
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Dating at the same time? Two was hard, but maybe three would be the limit. Emotionally draining and you begin to forget what you told one or another.
/r/seduction04/12/24 03:03 PM
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Depends on the person. Some need a massive adjustment to their social skills, others it's a pandora's box that needs to be opened. Just like with anything else, there's a natural talent that may exist beneath the surface.
/r/seduction02/12/24 03:12 PM
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Approaching IRL is a cheat code. Check frontpage right now with the lady saying how none of her young male friends have or have ever had a girlfriend. They try online dating, fail and call it quits. Women never get spoken to or even complimented except from creepy old guys.
/r/seduction02/12/24 03:10 PM
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I keep saying, seduction isn't a journey upward, but a journey inwards. Guys keep asking how to get that one girl that gave them attention. It's never "how do I improve myself to attract more attention from more women" No different than a fat guy going on fitness subreddit and asking how do I get a six pack. No I don't care about biceps or legs, I just want a six pack, how do I get one?
/r/seduction01/12/24 03:14 PM
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Pretty much how my last FWB went. Said I wasn't looking for anything serious but the sex was too good for her to stop. Eventually she did for a committed relationship. Girls enjoy sex as much as men do (shocking)
/r/seduction30/11/24 02:45 PM
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/u/eagersleeper Another post "I'm an attractive guy"
/r/seduction26/11/24 07:04 PM
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Crazy idea, I know: we actually pay attention to the meaning of the words being spoken and take them seriously. Once, a girl and I were making out intensely at a bar. It was so obvious that people started staring. We both agreed to tone it down and take it slower. Sometimes, there's no need to rush to the climax.
/r/seduction26/11/24 02:18 PM
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I've never approached a random girl in street, but wish I would. I'm an opportunist feeder. A girl smiles at me, sits down next to me at cafe, I'll test the waters, ask for Instagram. Ask her more questions and for a date via DMs.
/r/seduction26/11/24 04:04 AM
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Play with your hair. When standing, swing your hips.
/r/seduction25/11/24 09:09 PM
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Basically a man walking across a gas station parking lot to introduce himself isn't the norm Nope. It's basically a cheat code that men are too afraid to use. I was standing at crosswalk waiting for light and guy runs over to a girl "hey you're so beautiful I had to come and say hello" I thought it was the cheesiest shit and she was turning him down but she (and me who needed to keep listening) stood for 3 light changes hearing this guy's pitch. After she left, I chased the guy down to ask him h…
/r/seduction25/11/24 08:57 PM
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Ask a random question. "Do you have the time, my phone died" Eye contact & smile. That's enough of a hint for me.
/r/seduction25/11/24 08:54 PM
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What is your line with an unattractive woman? It's the same thing. See her as a person. "Hey I like your earrings. Where're you from?"
/r/seduction25/11/24 08:52 PM
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Ya'll ever notice how no one on the subreddit writes they're not an attractive guy?
/r/seduction25/11/24 06:56 PM
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Guys who think one wrong pick up caused a woman to be dis-interested makes me cringe. I find it to be everything wrong with the seduction community.
/r/seduction25/11/24 03:56 PM
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Same dude. I only had FWB met offline. Everyone I met online has been "I will only sleep with you if we're in a relationship" I would love to land a short term gf from OLD for once.
/r/seduction24/11/24 11:54 PM
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You're fixated because "how do I get this specific girl" is your post. Also : Or is it better if I say assertively/confidently “I’d like to finish that conversation we started. Let’s go for a walk after you close the shop.” Or neither of these? My advice to you is to avoid a very awkward situation and approach this as a numbers game. Be fixated on yourself being charming to many women, not on that one girl that kind of smiles, kind of interested, not sure she has a boyfriend.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:45 PM
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You're fixated on one woman, that's possibly just being nice because her job requires it. That's a problem you have to address. Ask her for Instagram, DM. Asking to walk her home after she closes the store is giving me creepy vibes.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:31 PM
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Logistics. I can't tell you how many times I've had dates where the girl is picky about the place: too loud, too many people, there's no seats available, etc. Look at maps and have 5 other places in mind. Also if date is going well, moving to another location helps a lot. Something happens psychologically to make them more comfortable.
/r/seduction21/11/24 02:48 AM
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Pretty much my dating experience with eastern European girls. Really ice cold but you just have to push through it.
/r/seduction20/11/24 12:26 PM
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One hand on your member, the other on the keyboard. Type your fantasies and hit "submit post"
/r/seduction18/11/24 01:56 PM
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I don't even think rejection IRL is that bad, depending on your approach. If you're directly perusing for a date after speaking for 2 minutes, then yeah the harder the rejection. But you could also walk in the shallow-end and test the waters. If she's warm and open, ask if she's single. A girl not interested will lie. If she's single ask if she'd like to keep talking over coffee.
/r/seduction18/11/24 11:14 AM
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My approach to this would be to use them as my anchor to approach other women. You know what's better than a wingman? A female wingman. One of the worst things to read on this sub are guys who are focused on one girl and not treating it as a number's game.
/r/seduction17/11/24 03:04 PM
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Don't overthink it, it is never one thing you did. I like the idea that someone mentioned to bluntly say "Any advice on what corrections I should make for my future dates?" Take their advice with grain of salt. Women don't know why they like you/don't like you, they just follow their heart. Regarding kino, start with palm reading to gauge her interest in you touching her hand. Most women are happy to give me their hand but I've had few cold ones that refused and those girls were duds. Happy hunt…
/r/seduction16/11/24 07:13 PM
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You said you felt a vibe, but she says she didn't. That's something you need to address. Why the discrepancy?
/r/seduction16/11/24 02:42 PM
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I don't feel vibe isn't a code word. I've gone on dates and know quickly if there's a vibe. If she's not making eye contact, not smiling, not paying attention or asking me questions. That's why dating apps are shit. You guys realize that "vibe check" occurs the first time you meet face to face. You speak to a girl at a coffee shop, it's exactly the same thing as meeting for a date off Tinder.
/r/seduction16/11/24 02:38 PM
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Being honest is so much easier to keep your story straight. Women are great lie detectors when they question you and you're not confident about your lies.
/r/seduction15/11/24 07:58 PM
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Many women I've been with complain about the size. Definitely makes me want to call women out for all the "small dick energy" jokes they make yet when a bigger dick arrives they can't handle it.
/r/seduction15/11/24 06:09 PM
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I am 80% foreplay, 20% sex. Foreplay for me includes kissing, massaging, licking, the fingers and all and I don't rush it because I enjoy all of that. My last girl told me I was her best sex and cried several times after orgasm. I think because I communicated often, asked her what she's enjoying. Like OP said, you have to bring the slut out of her, if you are, you're going in the right direction. In my case she wanted to be slapped, choked, hair pulling, gagging. You also have to be comfortable …
/r/seduction15/11/24 06:04 PM
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My experience too. Women have to feel in the right mood to go out and meet guy they've never met before. The ever important vibe check is complete upon your approach.
/r/seduction15/11/24 10:00 AM
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It is until it isn't right? All we can do is love the process and not get frustrated by our failures.
/r/seduction14/11/24 10:20 AM
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There will be many of those guys that will spend morning noon and night thinking about their moment of getting her number. Go on forums asking for advice on how to text, how long to wait to reply, etc. One can see how this is all a numbers game and to approach it with the same indifference a car salesman does to a potential buyer.
/r/seduction14/11/24 09:49 AM
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Ideal first date is cafe or wine tasting.
/r/seduction08/11/24 10:10 AM
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It's wild how guys can get fixated on one girl and treat her as end all be all. How many times must it be said it is a numbers game?
/r/seduction08/11/24 09:42 AM
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Same here. For me it's a cure for boredom but never limited me in motivation for finding a partner. I'm looking for intimacy, friendship, and good memories, those things porn would never fix. I agree on some level it came become a bad habbit and give wrong ideas about sex.
/r/seduction08/11/24 09:38 AM
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Just last night I was on first date, we began to kiss & make out and I was asking her what she likes. Do you like your neck kissed? Yes, so much. Do you enjoy biting? Not too hard. Hair pulling? Yes I like that too. Conversation alone can spike her horniness more than the action. If we reach bedroom I'll continue to ask similar questions. She's not going to reveal her kinks but at least you're not doing something she's not enjoying.
/r/seduction05/11/24 10:07 AM
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I always ask what she likes. I am also strong believer in she comes first, which means I drag out foreplay longer than the sex.
/r/seduction05/11/24 10:03 AM
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I use the voice/video feature to ask them out, knowing that most dudes are doing it by text.
/r/seduction04/11/24 11:47 AM
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yeah, "good morning beautiful. I didn’t know you could bend so well in my dream" makes me cringe.
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:59 PM
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Sometimes its good to log in here to see what my competition is saying to girls.
/r/seduction02/11/24 05:32 PM
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I don't agree. The people that are on this subreddit are not going to be chad-McGee that gets 70 girls a year like the digitalnomad guy. There's no pick up line that will correct their course. Read the posts. Guys are struggling to get 1 girl for a lifetime on the sub because they lack social skills to putting themselves in favorable situations you mentioned.
/r/seduction30/10/24 09:15 AM
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This is basically what I'd love to see more on this subreddit because it reflects many of my past lay experiences. Opportunity "are we vibing?" Seizing the opportunity Escalation at her comfort level I believe Step 1 and 2 is where I often see failures occur on this sub.
/r/seduction30/10/24 09:11 AM
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I had same situation as this, met at gym, exchanged numbers because I needed advice in new city. Ask recommendations while asking her about herself. "recommend coffee shop to relax. Do you have siblings here too?" Mine was "want to come chat at cafe you recommended, you mentioned your big family trip I'd love to hear that story" We left the cafe making out.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:25 AM
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38, always told I look 28. 20 year old women don't care. They're not trying to start a family and a guy who looks young but has all the benefits of money and stability is awesome. Dating apps it does matter, because women are reduced to it on dating apps. Height, looks, status. Dating apps are trash for men who aren't tall chads.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:21 AM
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38, getting more attention from women than I ever had. That's also having to do with fact that I am more confident.
/r/seduction28/10/24 05:48 PM
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"I like your vibe, are you free to meet for coffee?" Maybe I'm cynical but after dozens and dozens of dates from online dating, I need to vet a person before committing to a full day date.
/r/seduction28/10/24 01:10 PM
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I meet girl on Tuesday night, I ask her out the following morning, for date on Thursday or Friday night. Early bird gets the worm.
/r/seduction28/10/24 08:36 AM
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Truthfully I've rarely extracted valuable info from this sub. It's usually been field well written reports that gave me ideas of what I need to do.
/r/seduction23/10/24 07:07 PM
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That was a test? Opps sorry I failed. Anyways are we still on for dinner at 8 or am I looking for someone else?
/r/seduction14/10/24 03:18 PM
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Women equally have problems from this. Social media has killed their self worth. Look at the explosion of depression among young women. They become consumed by likes, comments, DMs, they use this to feed their confidence and when it decreases, they become sad and have low value. To us men, a compliment is worth its weight in gold. To women not so much.
/r/seduction13/10/24 07:46 PM
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Like what the fuck is friends with benefits. Guys in friend zone are just trying to get women that aren't interested but are lonely enough to want a friend and the attention.
/r/seduction10/10/24 08:04 PM
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I add an inch - to what my shoes add. Every single girl is using filters on their photos. I see it as even.
/r/seduction10/10/24 08:28 AM
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Isn't that what Online Dating is, where 5% of the chads get 90% of the girls?
/r/seduction09/10/24 07:51 AM
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Remember that guy who had 1,000+ approaches and single digit dates? Approach anxiety is treated like jumping out of the plane when it's actually start of a race buzzer.
/r/seduction08/10/24 05:13 AM
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I hate when people speak in absolutes here. (Only sith do that.)
/r/seduction07/10/24 08:08 PM
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Dude Meetup keeps being brought up but I've had nothing but failure on this app. It's always someone trying to sell some shit or a DnD game in some bar.
/r/seduction06/10/24 07:21 PM
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The indicators of interest are a bit of a myth. I'm a digital nomad that's been to 26 countries. I'll go to a new city, get eye-f'ed but nothing materializes in dates or opportunities.
/r/seduction06/10/24 07:18 PM
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I can see why men get so lost in this shit, because I heard women say they love being chased. Sometimes I think the guys that do well in this field think the least about tactics.
/r/seduction04/10/24 09:34 AM
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Depends on degree of interest, but if high, immediately date close it. Also I prefer voice on the apps that allow it. Higher investment.
/r/seduction04/10/24 06:13 AM
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What does being honest mean? If you like a girl, say "I like you" not play a game where you want to make her unsure if you like her or not.
/r/seduction03/10/24 01:06 PM
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My feelings on it is most men think it helps much more than it does. I see women annoyed enough to put it in their profiles that they don't want to see it. It's a bit funny however the double standard. Women all have the most revealing thing in their OLD profiles.
/r/seduction01/10/24 09:55 AM
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Have you seen a female swipe? A 5'7 isn't going to be swiped on.
/r/seduction30/09/24 03:47 PM
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What percentage are apps vs real life? I notice you touch a lot of OLD but OLD is a rigged video game.
/r/seduction30/09/24 03:40 PM
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Hat, and glasses in all photos. Shirtless and on a fishing boat. This is type of shit this sub writes about not doing.
/r/seduction30/09/24 10:48 AM
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I did it. It worked. You didn't have to ask her out there and there. Build a rapport. Ask about work out and move on to life in general.
/r/seduction26/09/24 07:09 PM
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I agree, I've been busted before for telling one girl a story and trying to convince another that I've told her the story before. Even names can be hard at times. I've only ever had 2-3 at a time and it's exhausting to juggle while trying to perform well at work and other aspects of life.
/r/seduction25/09/24 09:39 PM
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Is every question a girl asks a shit test? Why not tell her the truth? The replies here will have you believe that dates success hinges on this one answer and not the 1000 other things you did wrong.
/r/seduction25/09/24 11:24 AM
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Okay. embarrassing admission time. I made out with the shower wall when I was younger when taking showers. My advice to you is don't do that, but watch movies or softcore P and roleplay it on pillow. Super embarrassing I know but I've told I was really good at sex&kissing, and I've had no experience at all until late 20s. It's exactly like dancing, there's a rhythm you follow.
/r/seduction25/09/24 10:15 AM
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Hey man, you've been to Colombia? That's all I hear is how beautiful the women are.
/r/seduction23/09/24 01:41 PM
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Online dating is fucking ridiculous too. I have really good photos on Hinge and the one that is always liked(first initiation by woman) is a photo of me in hoodie standing in front of a castle, can barely make out my face.
/r/seduction23/09/24 08:18 AM
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Once a month you have sex? That's not normal. Bro... when you get married it will be once a year, at best. To play devil's advocate, have you ever considered finding a girl that matches your libido?
/r/seduction23/09/24 08:14 AM
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Do you normally see beautiful women paired with attractive men? Do you see where I'm going with this?
/r/seduction22/09/24 06:50 PM
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Nightlife is over rated. The women are on their full defence expecting to be talked to. They get dressed up to invite it. Instead, target men, you make friends.
/r/seduction22/09/24 05:10 PM
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It's common repeated trait among all the posts here. At the end of the day it's fear of losing an opportunity.
/r/seduction18/09/24 08:31 PM
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Really? Many here can relate to having sex with 2 'stunning women' on the same day and feel empty about it? The two posts above and below it are "how do I speak to a woman?"
/r/seduction16/09/24 07:50 PM
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Why do guys come hear to boast? This one is worse. He's boasting by moaning about it.
/r/seduction16/09/24 11:34 AM
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we're reduced to "Guys, how do I talk to people?"
/r/seduction16/09/24 08:20 AM
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Cut that "did she view my story. did she hit like. did she see my message" like the plague. This level of overthinking is bad for your health. How many times is it repeated on this website to stop going after low interest women?
/r/seduction16/09/24 08:18 AM
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Squats. Day and night. I will look past the ugliest girl with an amazing ass. Chest can be as flat as Holland.
/r/seduction16/09/24 08:14 AM
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You guys ever notice in posts how guys who had girlfriends are somehow worse at dating? Eating fish doesn't make you expert in catching them.
/r/seduction14/09/24 10:53 AM
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Open men. Go to a cafe, look at dude next to you and ask what they're reading, where they're from, etc. You learn a valuable lesson of not being invested or coming off needy.
/r/seduction09/09/24 01:18 PM
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Here's what I will say about OLD. (I really hate the female attractiveness scale but for sake of example) A 6 thinks she's a 9 on OLD. She's feeling this way by the flood of attention she's getting. Matches constantly. IRL, a 6 isn't getting really that level of attention. My point is do not let OLD convince you that you're not going to get more attractive women than you're getting on OLD. OLD helped me in the area of first date. I am very in tune on what I need to do to close.
/r/seduction06/09/24 11:11 AM
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Literally my friend. Dude was unafraid to approach women. It quickly became him doing 6 whiskey shots to start the night. Listening to his approaches it was women telling him to get away from them. Alcohol on top of everything else is not healthy for longevity. I know people who drink as a hobby same age as me look 20 years older than I.
/r/seduction04/09/24 09:21 AM
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You missed the "guy with money" version which is incredibly popular. Flashy cars, expensive watch, clothes.
/r/seduction04/09/24 09:17 AM
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My entire escalation is built around it. To me it is basecamp 1 when climbing Everest. Important location to get acclimated. Basecamp 2 is touching beneath the clothes. 3 is the top of the mountain.
/r/seduction30/07/24 11:44 AM
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I see you saying this often. What's the reasoning behind it?
/r/seduction30/07/24 11:41 AM
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Smile, wait a bit, kiss again. Don't become overzealous. Try kissing other parts of the body like arms, neck, shoulder. It's a game, you have to find what turns her on where she can't pull away. To answer the question, nothing is set in stone from my experience. Too many would be where she's turned off by it.
/r/seduction30/07/24 11:39 AM
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This post reads like: Guys I'm going to beach Friday, how do I get a six pack and huge biceps?
/r/seduction22/07/24 08:45 AM
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I've had this come up. Don't take offense, women are scared of what media writes about online dating. I tell the girl to take pic of my driver's license and send to a friend. Or share the address. The safer you make her feel, the sooner you will get laid. Comfort and safety are paramount to women agreeing to sex. Doing goofy serial killer jokes doesn't seem like it work on all girls in my opinion. One of those times where you're genuine and honest about her fears.
/r/seduction21/07/24 06:52 AM
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Reminds me of time I was on date with girl. We were sharing earbuds listening to a song and faces inches from each other - I did nothing. She gave me LJBF right after that date. Cringe moment that I now look on as a lesson learned. Guys there's a very easy simple trick. Why don't you just say "I want to kiss you" if you're worried if she'll reject your kiss? I continue to see over-complicated shit on the sub. Over-thinking. Over-complicating. Over-analyzing.
/r/seduction19/07/24 10:45 AM
188

I'd rather a girl feels I like her too much than a girl feel I don't like her. There's dudes that get laid by love bombing women.
/r/seduction27/06/24 03:49 PM
6

They are talking to multiple guys. This is the online dating world. See online dating same way as you would meeting people at a bar. Numbers game.
/r/seduction27/06/24 06:51 AM
0

I have a ~ 20s (mostly ons) count and I hardly remember any of em. My current girlfriend thinks I'm high body count because of how good I am in bed; that I'm "experienced" but that's not it at all. It's because I watched a lot of videos on becoming good at sex. Because I care a lot about both partners having good sex, not just with getting laid. Can't admit to either things to her though.
/r/seduction26/06/24 06:56 PM
100

Why are posts where dude is speaking to himself in the mirror make it to the front page for me? I'd love to see some "best place to find single women" posts or "one thing that instantly changed my OLD game" posts.
/r/seduction19/06/24 02:32 PM
10

Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets.
/r/seduction14/06/24 07:35 AM
1

For one actually going for it. Online, IRL. Becoming as social as I possibly could.
/r/seduction13/06/24 10:10 AM
1

approaching/being social. The most important. Otherwise it's like modifying a race-car and not taking it out of the garage.
/r/seduction12/06/24 11:47 AM
14

success with women until I was 25 late 30s for me. It starts with not being ashamed of being attracted to women and letting them know.
/r/seduction12/06/24 11:44 AM
3

I was on top of a girl, we're making out HEAVY and thrust forward banging the crap out of my head on the wooden headboard(get it?). Immediately I could feel her smile through us kissing so I paused and said "don't worry, I have a hard head" We both break out in laughter at the oddity of the moment, and good sex later followed. She brought that line up to me a few times. I think it was a good ice breaker to the tension that sometimes comes during sex with someone new.
/r/seduction11/06/24 11:41 AM
9

And her having a boyfriend is the best form of rejection. It's neutral out.
/r/seduction10/06/24 01:19 PM
1

Don't be needy, stay busy. Good sex is more important to men than women. She needs emotional connection.
/r/seduction09/06/24 06:29 PM
3

I don't know why someone downvoted, maybe your grammer but it's exactly what I do and works all the time. You build to kissing, where it just happens. My girlfriend told me she was wet from me touching her hair, rubbing her neck. Guys would actually skip this to jump into a kiss and get rejected.
/r/seduction08/06/24 12:04 PM
21

38, more women this year than entire life. More women past 6 months than this year. Girls age range from 21-40.
/r/seduction07/06/24 09:51 AM
0

Thing that you have to do is make a move. Don't be that guy that never made a move because you pussied out. Touch her. Kiss her after. It's better to be rejected for her not wanting to kiss than live knowing you were scared.
/r/seduction05/06/24 06:20 PM
1

This may be taboo, but I think paying for it would help you get over some of these fears. A lot of young men build women up that kissing seems scary when it's really not.
/r/seduction05/06/24 03:24 PM
2

A lot of guys get hung up on "making a move." Your mentality should be that you're making many moves that bring you to kissing. It's stupid to just go for a kiss. You can lead to it. Touch. Cuddle. Seduce her. I don't understand how you can do thousand approaches yet be stuck work kissing a girl. What are you counting as an "approach"?
/r/seduction05/06/24 01:34 PM
212

I don't like this generalization crap. What someone considers 9-10 isn't 9-10 for me. I played this game with a friend at the mall, to show me his near 10 and they were average for me.
/r/seduction31/05/24 09:54 AM
4

Yes, be the version of yourself that is actually interested in the woman you're with. Interview style conversations happen only if guy is trying to force conversation to the end goal of sleeping with her.
/r/seduction31/05/24 09:51 AM
28

You are afraid for them to know you are hitting on them, and that's what's holding you back from being confident. When I hit on a woman, I want her to know that I'm hitting on her, consciously and confidently. One of the biggest life lessons in dating for me. Somehow being ashamed for being attracted to a woman and not wanting her to be creeped out by this. Recently had this conversation with my girlfriend. I asked her what she would do if I hadn't touched her, rubbed her neck, play with her hai…
/r/seduction30/05/24 10:45 AM
4

You went out, you didn't try talking to someone? Step 1 to stop feeling lonely. Start with talking to men first. At the end of the day, you have to put in the work. This subreddit isn't going to have some mysterious piece of advice where you sit back and women come to you.
/r/seduction27/05/24 09:54 AM
3

I will say dating apps suck but not for the reason you listed. They are played like a video game by both individuals. While talking and planning a date, both are still shopping around for something better to score. I've been on dates before and opened up Tinder while she's in the bathroom out of boredom and wanting to check if I got any new matches. Women equally complain that dating apps suck. For the same reasons.
/r/seduction25/05/24 03:31 PM
1

Are you kidding? Who told you this? You gotta do this hike bro, bring that half size wine bottle, some cheeses and crackers, maybe fruit. Blanket for picnic. Massage her feet and work your way from there. You not only have opportunity to kiss but get really far here. You lay blanket down. "hey take off your shoes so we don't get it dirty" "are you ticklish lol?" "do your feet hurt? I like to rub my feet like this." Do you see the evolution to you now rubbing her feet? She enjoys it, you rub her …
/r/seduction25/05/24 03:14 PM
39

I agree. Sex addiction. Quality over quantity. I've been with many women and sex improves the longer you are with a person.
/r/seduction24/05/24 10:11 PM
3

Try observing one day, it's more than just dancing. From body language alone you'll see which guy is confident (smiling, standing straight, dancing, laughing, will grab a girl to dance) Then you'll see the non-confident guy(staring at women, shuffling around, looking awkward, hugging their glass) And no, not ever tall guy who's good looking is the most confident in the room. I've seen awkward tall dudes be the weirdo standing around trying to make eye contact with every girl. How is it that you …
/r/seduction24/05/24 08:50 AM
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I agree. Holding arms would be incredible when you're 14. Kiss sets in motion sexual interest. I think it has to occur on date 1(if time and logistics allows it). Like guy recently here who was 4 hours in, at his home, on the couch and didn't kiss, it is a plane crash. Guys often don't follow with a kiss because they don't know how to set it up. They think they just have to go for it but I see it as a progressive ladder where kissing just happens as the next step.
/r/seduction24/05/24 07:33 AM
0

Girls you meet IRL are less likely to ghost. OLD, ghosting is just accepted. My recommendation is you push to meeting women at cafe, bookstore, mall, etc.
/r/seduction24/05/24 07:22 AM
0

Talk about a subject. Say you saw something on Instagram about said subject. Suggest you follow on Instagram, you will share it when you find it again.
/r/seduction23/05/24 02:05 PM
2

(the coffee Date) in the afternoon - where escalation is basically impossible so i didn't do any escalation on the dates. What?! I run the full gambit from coffee shops. My favorite place to set a date. They've got couches, they've got little corner areas for 2, evenings they offer wine. I've had many dates making out like teenagers in coffee shop. I work out of cafes sometimes and have seen kids going 3rd base.
/r/seduction22/05/24 09:01 AM
6

Absolutely a hat tipping worthy achievement - but I think it's healthy feedback to say that this ratio is really, really bad and not indicative of someone self-correcting.
/r/seduction22/05/24 08:55 AM
4

My recommendation is to do something with multiple venue changes. Like Cafe>Restaurant>Bar. However don't tell her this is your plan. Insert it into the conversation. At cafe "have you ever tried pizza at ___ it's so good, lets get one slice because I want you to try this" At pizzareia "let's go for a walk on ___ street" "oh have you been to that bar? really nice atmosphere, we can get this drink" can be non alcoholic if you want. Venue change turns an hour into what feels like 4 hours. Study th…
/r/seduction21/05/24 12:51 PM
6

Take an interest in other people's hobbies and lives, it's that simple. Be a dog. A dog offers unconditional love to everyone they meet and everyone loves dogs for this reason. There's a great book, from 1930s, how to make friends and influence people. It's easy to read and the bullet points are don't be critical of others smile give genuine compliments remember people's names take an interest in what others are interested in Be genuine and you won't fall into 'nice guy' category.
/r/seduction21/05/24 12:41 PM
3

Glad to hear it! I've had a spectrum and what I noticed is many women stay very busy. Sometimes it does feel like an excuse, but other times it's genuine.
/r/seduction21/05/24 10:08 AM
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Girls will never text you when they're free. Even when they are, it goes against their programming. I would continue to gauge her interest with conversation and ideas of things to do. Every person says they had a lovely time. I say it to girls I don't intend on seeing again.
/r/seduction21/05/24 09:37 AM
10

Eye contact is sign of respect. Not just to women but men. Look into the eyes of person you're speaking to.
/r/seduction21/05/24 09:30 AM
1

A lot of people and probably yourself are trying to analyze what you did wrong, but I will say you did nothing wrong. This is mentioned in Mark Manson's book in Models. At the end of the day, you will come off as a creep to one woman or another and many times you can't prevent it. What we do, approaching with sexual intent, will make one girl creeped out and another interested. I remember this one time recently at a club, I was dancing alone and group of girls walked next to me and started danci…
/r/seduction20/05/24 10:01 AM
1

I guess great for fucking drunk girl, I'm not sure I could find advice given in this post. I've done both and it's harder to do all these things when you're both my inebriated.
/r/seduction19/05/24 07:04 AM
3

Sounds like you're overthinking. Gets get so hung up on signals. If you like a girl you consider an 8, you should talk to her regardless of what you think she's thinking. She looked away, maybe she's shy. Maybe she saw a turd on the ground she wants to avoid stepping on. I'm seeing a girl right now whom I thought she gave me signals and she said not at all ; treated me like she would anyone else.
/r/seduction17/05/24 10:11 AM
2

Wish this subreddit had more of this. Love this one, I'm traveling abroad and girls love to hear how well their English accent is.
/r/seduction16/05/24 04:00 PM
1

I set my location to BA on Hinge and got blasted by likes (girls that speak English in their bio). While I agree this guy is going to fail if he thinks a single pick up line will swoon women, chances aren't slim. A foreigner that speaks good Spanish though is money. They love that.
/r/seduction16/05/24 03:58 PM
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I personally hate how mythologized friendzone has become. You have to realize the only reason it happens is guys that show zero sexual interest out of fear of being rejected and so they behave like a friend waiting for the woman to make the first move. You need to touch, escalate, and actually show interest in her physically. And again reading these reports, too much thought in what was talked about. It does not matter what you talk about. Let the entire conversation be about cats wanting to kno…
/r/seduction16/05/24 09:15 AM
1

I think speaking to shop workers is your best idea to dive in. OP here's what I want you to do. Go back to the mall, go inside each store and ask worker to direct you to men's section. Ask if they are offering any special sales. Ask where the fitting room is located. Smile, stand up straight, and feel confident, do not break eye contact and do not rush. Exit to store, walk into the next store beside it and perform the same thing. Every store from candles to bedding to shoes. Do every single stor…
/r/seduction16/05/24 09:10 AM
1

So when girl you're with is asking you questions "what are we" "what are you looking for" etc what do you say? Do you stay silent? Not give an answer? Because I'm always peppered with these questions after heavy make out session with a new woman.
/r/seduction15/05/24 06:42 PM
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Many girls I match with are well traveled. I comment on the photo of location. Comment on the photo: Hey I recognize the (location) in your photo. Lots of good memories. Hope you had fun :) Where is your next destination to? Matched "Hey there, I like your vibe, I think we'll have good connection because I also love to dance. Can you meet me for coffee in the afternoon tomorrow? There's a great place by Franklin ave, very intimate and good cappuccino"
/r/seduction15/05/24 06:38 PM
16

Bio doesn't matter. Shakespeare wouldn't get laid from writing his bio on Tinder. He'd post pics of himself directing a cast at a play and that would be what gets him matches.
/r/seduction15/05/24 03:15 PM
1

You have to realize girls are hornier and freakier than you. This is a fact.
/r/seduction15/05/24 03:14 PM
9

reputation about you. What will your reputation among women be for someone who shows interest in women? You talk, smile, laugh. Say you like her and ask if she wants to go out on a date. Never be ashamed about showing interest in someone. They will be always be flattered by this.
/r/seduction15/05/24 02:49 PM
11

Girls rarely do. The signal you need to pay attention is rejection. It will be made abundantly clear to you.
/r/seduction15/05/24 02:43 PM
16

I'm currently in this situation and I am too trying to navigate it. I like this girl a lot and she likes me too but I'm worried about going too fast. Like I'm ready to take her out, picnics, bike rides, concerts. Jump straight into relationship but don't want to scare her off. This is hardest part of the game IMO. The lessons always say to keep busy to avoid developing neediness.
/r/seduction13/05/24 08:42 PM
9

Sometimes the guy does win though. I've only experienced it at a bar. Another guy comes, behaves like alpha douche pushing you aside and love bombing the girl with a lot of attention. Ultimately the girl decides who she is attracted to, fighting for her attention is petty. Fuck that. I'd rather not participate in this act. Can't fault the other dude for behaving like he is either, we are all after the same thing in a highly competitive field. Caveman brain is being triggered here by feeling limi…
/r/seduction13/05/24 06:30 PM
8

It only feels good when you know emotionally she’s attracted to you. I agree. I read OP's title and thought it was going to be this. Emotionally attracted but physically reluctant is a lot of fun for me. Makes me work harder to find what turns her on physically. Which knobs to push, which levers to pull and when she gives in because she can't contain it. * chef kiss* Trying to convince a girl to screw that with words is stupid and pathetic. OP could have jerked off into a tissue and it would be …
/r/seduction13/05/24 07:31 AM
1

That I've not been rejected often enough for it to hurt me as much as it does and need to suffer more to build up indifference to it.
/r/seduction10/05/24 10:33 AM
6

Asking you questions. Smiling. Laughing at your dumb jokes. Eye contact. Isn't facing another direction like she wants to exit the conversation.
/r/seduction10/05/24 10:30 AM
1

It's MXC for me then because I can't do beach resort as DN. It's too much. I heard Brazilian women are baddies, but feels unsafe as foreigner.
/r/seduction09/05/24 04:12 PM
3

Something I learned is that we need to lose our ego when approaching. Your ego is self disqualifying you. You gave yourself a reason to not approach "oh I look dorky, I shouldn't try because she will see how dorky I look with this bag" You're not losing opportunities because of your travel bag. You're losing opportunities because you're scared to speak to women. Change this.
/r/seduction09/05/24 08:53 AM
3

I remember that happened to me. Downloaded the full Neil Strauss DVD set, PDF copies of all the training manuals. Did I do use any of it in the real world? No. Because watching a video of other people having success stimulated that part of the brain where you felt second hand success. Nothing in this world is better than real world experience.
/r/seduction09/05/24 07:55 AM
1

What is the best Latin speaking country; city for DN? With safety being a concern. I read that Columbia has a running scam on Tinder where women lure you to date & sex, and then bring the heavies to clean you out when you take her home.
/r/seduction09/05/24 07:39 AM
2

It's not for everyone. We've seen many crumble during Covid lockdown. Are you an independent person who can live with being completely alone at times? Can you do your job well under various locations(coffee shops, airbnb beds and couches, etc), under different time zones? Being DN forces you to approach people to not be lonely, sometimes OLD is just awful in the country you're visiting so what do you do? There is one downside. Many meaningful connections you make will devolve to chatting on Inst…
/r/seduction09/05/24 07:37 AM
64

I've witnessed tall attractive guys nose dive because their personality does not match their good looks. That 5'7 asian kid that posts field reports talked about have a more attractive tall guy as his wing and bottoming out quickly out of a set. Looks carry women a lot further than men. Guys don't care if she's got a personality of a snail and most of the really hot ones do.
/r/seduction08/05/24 12:17 PM
2

Ask yourself, do you want a woman that wants you because she's jealous that you're with another woman? Post a story of you going out, at dinner, etc, but don't introduce that "im with another girl" shit. See it in 3rd person, it's petty revenge to satisfy yourself, not to get her. I've had girls say they're not comfortable to go on date yet, but I continued to speak to them and secured one. Some are just inexperienced with OLD or too shy. Think of it this way, texting is zero effort for you. How…
/r/seduction08/05/24 09:44 AM
18

Yo guys.. why do you do this? Honestly..? I hate reading this shit. You see her everyday practically, she's a nest egg and you crack that fucker open on first contact?! You did the hardest part of the game, approach. Introduce yourself. Ask her about herself. Is she local? What does she like about gym? What does she do for work? What's her name? Nice meeting you Kate, see you tomorrow. :) And tomorrow you learn more about her and she learns more about you. Ever notice how some girls walk into th…
/r/seduction08/05/24 07:37 AM
26

Bro, hats off for you being that brave, you have what it takes you just need to adjust heavily and slow it wayyyy down. Ask questions about her. Look for similar interests and if the conversation is going well, ask her for her Instagram/Whatsapp. You wanna show her you're both compatible. What you are basically telling her is you wanna fuck her and that's it. That's what she is hearing with you immediately asking her out.
/r/seduction07/05/24 12:35 PM
8

fitness, grooming and fashion though if you want success This is written often on here but it really irks me because I do have a six pac. Men often compliment my physique. I train everyday and never noticed a difference in how women treat me. Everyday I see the best women are with guys that have beer gut, unshaven. I bought expensive clothing/watch, yet I see women with guys in a hoodie and sweats while they're on night out. Sorry to go off on a rant. I agree in spirit, we should look our best b…
/r/seduction06/05/24 07:33 AM
2

Don't go for a kiss this way. Lead to a kiss and it won't be so much pressure on you. Here's my ladder. Palm read> hold hand> rub hand> kiss hand. Arm around back > rub back > rub neck/hair > smell neck > kiss neck (the neck kissing will give them goosebumps) If she says something funny and you have arm wrapped around, laugh and kiss her cheek. She'll recoil if you're going too fast or she's dis-interested. Read the signs to adjust.
/r/seduction05/05/24 01:04 PM
98

I do see often girls put in their bio that they don't want a coffee dates. I'm sure they think it's too generic for them, but I'm not taking risk to spend more money and time with person I've already determined is not my fit.
/r/seduction05/05/24 09:07 AM
9

I had one successful dinner date, because the seating was a couch. The seating sucks for any escalation if you are sitting across. Only the pros are able to make a woman hot with their words and gaze. I need touch to work my magic. I would only so dinner when we are 2 hours into the date or something. Break up the pace of it.
/r/seduction05/05/24 09:04 AM
6

You seen too many movies. Couples dont stand across from each other and undress. His face is buried in yours to see much at all. Clothes get wrinkly quickly when you're both rolling around. The only thing that matters most is hygiene. Smell good everywhere.
/r/seduction04/05/24 01:33 PM
22

You're not escalating enough. 7 dates is good amount, so you're doing early steps right. End with a kiss. Those type of dates the girl comes home and immediately starts texting you how she wants your lips on her neck again.
/r/seduction04/05/24 08:36 AM
16

Guess what, women hit it and quit it too. It happens. Don't go about over analyzing what you could or should have done differently. Just keep the success going with other girls.
/r/seduction03/05/24 09:28 AM
3

From there I just talk to her, try to flirt a bit, make observations about her or the venue. Damn I wish I had this skill. I've had so many girls walk over with their drink and stand next to me, staring blankly 45 degree angle waiting for me to initiate. Dance up on me where their hips are hitting mine and I stand there like a statue.
/r/seduction03/05/24 07:08 AM
3

I agree, won't fix everything but helps him realize that women, sex, isn't that special (though it absolutely can be). It will at least take the part about 'virgin' pressure off that he's feeling.
/r/seduction03/05/24 07:03 AM
15

And that rejection stings more. Someone doesn't match you, you are fine. Someone says no to your date via text, you're fine. Now in real world that rejection stings. However approaching in real world will give you far better quality women.
/r/seduction02/05/24 04:33 PM
2

Yes but also the mental health to not be working alone in a room. But brother I wish I could day game. One day. This would be the best way to pick up women IMO. The f/m ratios depending on place you select. You are given opportunity to select one you like and sit next to her for the reason of working nearby. Sometimes I'm in a round table of only girls all going to med-school. Open conversations happening all around me.
/r/seduction02/05/24 07:40 AM
1

What I find is the longer you take the worse you feel and anxious. You start setting expectations "okay, I'll compliment her shoes, she'll reply with thanks, that's when I'll say where'd you get them, and she'll tell me___" you're having a shower conversation in your head about how it will go. The trick is to go in immediately with no expectations. You don't set targets and goals but to allow a genuine conversation to blossom into asking her for her insta, phone, date etc. Picture it like skydiv…
/r/seduction01/05/24 07:57 PM
2

Truthfully I stole it from women's profiles I liked. Prompt "lets debate: they were on a break!" Together we can "delete this app" Profile "Hi I'm David from Texas. I love to collect stamps on my passport and trying new things. Looking for someone compatible to spend time with." I will say a bad bio can hurt you more than a good bio can help, if that makes any sense.
/r/seduction01/05/24 07:47 PM
4

Sure, it works on women that have already decided they like you. Also woman has to be experienced in the online dating sphere, if she's new, she wants a lot of security first. I have a friend who hates himself to the core on texting so his opening message goes like "hey I liked you because of your music taste(or something), do you want to go bowling with me Thursday night?" He's locked dates this way, but not always. However text is also a bit of a vibe check. They like your face. They like your…
/r/seduction01/05/24 07:42 PM
1

These women said they'd sleep with you but you're bald so no thanks? 19 year old girl would probably say that but I dated a 21 year old in my mid-30s who loved my bald head.
/r/seduction01/05/24 12:15 PM
1

Women care about guy's hair like guys care about size of woman's boobs. Have you ever known a guy to reject a girl because size of her chest? Wear a hat or wear sunscreen cuz us baldies get sunburnt fast.
/r/seduction01/05/24 10:33 AM
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As profile pictures my best effort is in maintaining the quality of the pictures. HD. Cropped before importing. Showing face, clearly (teeth is healthy) Showing body, clearly Showing a hobby Showing financial status Profile description will not be anything remotely unique or anything she's not seen already. Think about it, how many unique profile descriptions have you seen women have? As far as texting, I agree less is more. My opener is to comment on a photo, make an assumption. (Funny the wron…
/r/seduction01/05/24 10:25 AM
2

Yes, that's how it has been for me. On 3 failed dates, after 3 very successful ones. 3 Ls is my biggest streak so fingers crossed. 10 is bad but fuck it, you're only as good as your last date. 1 successful one will make you forget the last 10.
/r/seduction30/04/24 01:16 PM
2

Live here and hardly get matches. Go to middle of no where Europe and 40+ matches. Life is fucking funny.
/r/seduction30/04/24 11:38 AM
3

The game, how man tricks women into sleeping with him and becomes alcoholic and suicidal.
/r/seduction30/04/24 11:36 AM
15

I remote work out of cafes, libraries, and universities. One time overheard conversation between two university students talking about men and how the one said she only dates 'much older' men exclusively. This got a "eww why" reaction from the other girl, both laughing that he could be as old as her dad. She listed all the reasons we already know, stability, emotional maturity, financially successful, wisdom. Men have the same attractions though. I won't spell it out but it starts with an M and …
/r/seduction30/04/24 07:59 AM
37

It's true. Not just nightclubs and bars. Pretty funny dynamic.
/r/seduction27/04/24 09:09 AM
2

That's been my OLD experience. Women are bombarded with non-stop options and often times they get high off the attention enough to not care about the rest. It's only chance that girl has nothing going on that she meets you. We watched the rise of OLD and we may see its fall.
/r/seduction26/04/24 04:07 PM
11

Quote from the movie When we were kings, about Muhammad Ali's fight against George Foreman. 'Ali would often not show his best stuff with sparring partners, but would work on his weaknesses. He'd go against the ropes and let people pummel him. Very heavy hitters, he'd let them bang away at him. As if he was training his body to receive these messages of punishment and absorb them faster than other fighters could absorb them.' OP has not had enough rejection that its still affecting his mind and …
/r/seduction26/04/24 02:29 PM
3

Only a sith deals in absolutes! I've had a girl ask me out for drink, decide the restaurant we were going to go to, chose the food, and slept with me that night. We had a terrific relationship and she found me to be very easy going.
/r/seduction26/04/24 08:30 AM
4

What if your ultimate goal is being rejected to not feeling its weight?
/r/seduction26/04/24 08:22 AM
3

It's always written as if the guys are saying it to themselves in the mirror. I'd rather read field reports but even those half the time the guy has no clue what he did right but somehow got a girl to smile at him so he feels he's made a lot of progress that night to gloat about it on the web.
/r/seduction26/04/24 08:21 AM
3

I've never encountered a gold digger. I'm not sure how guys are luring them, maybe desperate on text. I think even if I had a gold digger, she'd quickly understand that she's drilling in bedrock and has to work hard for it. A lot of drilling fluid needed. You know what I'm trying to say?
/r/seduction25/04/24 02:47 PM
2

Not to be a hater on OP, but I'd love to see an experiment of this. 6'2 guy with head of hair will still get more matches with from his Iphone 5 selfie.
/r/seduction24/04/24 11:10 AM
1

I can not believe women go for those cringe pictures looking like a LinkedIn or promotional photograph for university newspaper article. I agree that an HD pic from a recent phone is best, but disagree that it needs to be a photo from a canon 5D.
/r/seduction24/04/24 11:08 AM
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My way would be to ask her "hey what's that exercise called? it doesn't hurt your back? I got a sprain when I did it and maybe I was doing it wrong." My belief is that everyone loves to be the teacher at the gym and hates to be the student. Worst thing for men to do is walk over and give women advice how how they're doing something wrong. Then switch conversation to "what's your name?" "are you a local to this city? what do you do?" I wouldn't ask her out immediately, build some genuine rapport.…
/r/seduction24/04/24 11:02 AM
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Ask yourself if a confident man that has many female options would be writing to a subreddit with this question. Forget asking if you should block her, etc. Bigger question you should ask yourself is how you got to feeling disrespected by her not replying to you. Today could be the first day in to a positive direction where you don't allow little things like this bother you.
/r/seduction22/04/24 07:49 PM
0

I don't think that anxiety ever goes away, you just learn to manage it better.
/r/seduction22/04/24 07:16 AM
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It's actually quite the easiest part of the dating space. Hug when you meet, prolong it. When you walk, rub shoulders. Be clumsy and bump into her. My gimmick is the "can I read your palm" Girls eat it up and you're holding hands. After that I'm very touchy. Touching the hand. Playing with her fingers. Compliment the earrings, necklace, hair and touch it. What you're looking for is her objection to your escalation, you then let off the gas. You're gauging her interest with touch.
/r/seduction21/04/24 04:06 PM
16

Flakes should be treated like dandruff on your shoulder.
/r/seduction17/04/24 10:01 AM
3

Of course they show affection, but they never initiate this (we're generalizing). Society has ingrained this in them it's almost biological. Man takes the lead. Man makes the first step.
/r/seduction17/04/24 09:03 AM
2

Do you genuinely laugh at your own jokes? If you can make yourself laugh, then eventually you will find someone that finds you funny.
/r/seduction17/04/24 08:59 AM
0

Totally right.
/r/seduction16/04/24 08:51 AM
3

Your IG thing worked for me with one girl. Tinder matched, traded Instagrams, conversation died out(I assumed she found another guy). She DMed me out of the blue months later because she saw my IG story and asked me what I was doing that weekend night. Unfortunately I was in another country by then. Curious about one thing I'm not sure if you mentioned but do you change up your photos? What are your photos of? Etc.
/r/seduction16/04/24 08:45 AM
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Okay being in your similar situation. Remote. Solo traveler, etc. Don't try to ask questions like an interview, more assumptions based. Text on dating apps is meant for one thing : vibe check(this one you'll hear often) crazy person check not a creep check (look at tinder subreddit to see what I mean) Tinder is exactly like being at a bar. You don't want to hear someone's life story. You want to know if you're both compatible as quickly as possible or move on to the next person. Girls that say t…
/r/seduction16/04/24 08:37 AM
1

Fucking A.
/r/seduction16/04/24 08:27 AM
11

How do you think Michael Jordan got good at basketball? His work ethic and stories of spendings nights practicing are legendary. Women are no different, you grind day in and day out talking to as many women as possible.
/r/seduction16/04/24 08:24 AM
1

Most don't speak English
/r/seduction15/04/24 07:50 PM
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I question if you are getting laid from this. These girls are desperate for a foreigner bf, husband. Their desperatiom does not extend to sleeping with you. In my experience at least, maybe op can tell us different
/r/seduction15/04/24 07:44 PM
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It is that this guy is getting lucky and clueless as to what he's doing but feels overly validated enough to boast to all of us. I read successful field reports as if a professor reading 100 term papers. Most are all bragging dogshit but some captivate you with lessons to live by. I have no take away from this field report. I guess Japan has japanese women that aren't afraid to show interest?
/r/seduction15/04/24 12:27 PM
4

This is type of shit that would keep me awake at night.
/r/seduction15/04/24 08:00 AM
1

Being spiteful because she rejected us is the reason we are all here. Rejection is never personal. It's a trait I personally want to not have.
/r/seduction11/04/24 07:06 PM
2

Here's what would work on me to show you have interest. Let's say he's doing cable pulldowns, catch him on the first set. "hey, what's the proper way of doing this exercise, it seems to hurt my shoulders" He's going to show you. Now you try it and ask him if it looks right. Ask if you can work in. Cable is great because you change out the weights easy. "I'm Jenna btw, I see you around same time is me. What's your name? Where you from?" That's it. You're now speaking, you have each other's names.…
/r/seduction11/04/24 12:12 PM
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To let the rest of us short kings know that even when the tall guys have all the birds come to them, they still have to put the work in to get laid and often times fail.
/r/seduction11/04/24 12:01 PM
1

I'm confused how you didn't escalate after kissing. Especially in a hotel room. Do you just not let your hands go? I remember my first kiss, it was like animal instincts took over then, the hands did all the work.
/r/seduction11/04/24 12:00 PM
1

there's personality type parameter in Tinder. Instead of selecting, type in IDDQD and all the women will match.
/r/seduction11/04/24 08:08 AM
2

None, day game especially. Day game meaning, walking up to a girl at a bench and getting a number is like learning Chinese to me.
/r/seduction10/04/24 12:44 PM
11

I agree! Not only for her but for him especially. You're sexually attracted to her and you don't do anything, you need some liquid courage then. People saying make a move. I say escalate. Light touch. Longer touch. Rub the back. Kiss the neck. It's a progression. Don't think about it.
/r/seduction07/04/24 12:06 PM
27

She may have made up her mind already. Dont understand why op didn't escalate. She's over your house. Also have wine at the ready at your place. Loosen you both up.
/r/seduction07/04/24 12:03 PM
6

It depends. I've had minor success in reviving dates through IG. You post a story, she sees it and wants to see you. Or see her story and DM her. Girls are opportunists, they may not be interested or available that moment but things change. If you're really peeved about the rejection take the IG immediately mute her activity.
/r/seduction05/04/24 09:35 AM
10

I was the only man in a sea of women. Definitely something I'm going to be exploring more.
/r/seduction31/03/24 08:13 AM
1

You guys never did anything other than talking and you're attached? You're a man, how were you satisfied with just talking? She's busy with a guy who's meeting her physical and emotional needs, there is no regaining that. The only recovery here is on yourself. Recover yourself from being infatuated with one girl because there's billions of women out there.
/r/seduction27/03/24 08:27 AM
1

There's no right answer to this stuff. Keep it up if it works. Physical escalation is the key takeaway.
/r/seduction27/03/24 08:20 AM
1

I'm picturing him saying this in the mirror. I think motivational posts should be outright banned on this sub.
/r/seduction26/03/24 02:55 PM
1

We had sex already. She didn't ask me to buy her anything. I offered.
/r/seduction26/03/24 02:53 PM
9

Sounds like some baggage or maybe another guy. Truth is you're not going to find an answer to your situation. What you need to do is do some self-retrospect. You should communicate those values to her, to yourself. Then make decision to believe her or not. A girl broke contact with me. I thought she found another guy. Turns out she was having one of the worst times in her life with work, medical news she received from her doctor, and her landlord problems. Obviously I fell to the lowest priority…
/r/seduction26/03/24 12:22 PM
1

Yeah I get it, we already had sex. I won't be seeing her for a long time, possibly again because of us both traveling. I wanted to do something nice but keep her within a budgetary boundary. It was my idea because I will enjoy watching her try on different dresses for me, she's got a terrific body. Should have written more summary of the situation because I can see how "nice guy" behavior it may look.
/r/seduction26/03/24 12:14 PM
1

I already had sex with her and we're short term because of travel situation. I'm just asking for advice on how to buy her a dress(which I want to do) but to control the expense.
/r/seduction26/03/24 12:10 PM
2

When I meet couples at a bar, I really like to ask them how they met. It is never on "tinder" Always "mutual friends" "we met at school" "we go to the same coffee shop" "activity" "bar" Online dating is really good for sex. Not very refined for landing a relationship. I think there's something genuine and special about happenstance that online dating removes.
/r/seduction26/03/24 08:38 AM
1

barcade 100% Restaurant is horrible for first meeting interaction, personally. At a restaurant, you're locked in a box, facing each other. It's intimidating for both. Even when we agreed to go to a restaurant, I've been like "hey do you mind stopping at this cafe, I need to drink some juice" I need to work her comfort with me before we're sitting across from each other chewing our food.
/r/seduction26/03/24 08:32 AM
1

Just FYI to all, sharing instagram can help, it can also hurt. The only reason I ask a girl for instagram is to see more photos of her to make sure she's not fat. I have friend who tells me every time he trades instagram with girl on Tinder, they ghost him. Well I check his Tinder and its boring selfies from 1997. Come on dude. Your IG is the extension of your Tinder profile. Personally, I just do all arrangements over Tinder, right up to "i'm standing here, blue shirt" day of. If she wants IG, …
/r/seduction26/03/24 08:27 AM
5

just a friendly bump while walking side by side (saying something like, “wtf. Get out of my way…” obviously tongue in cheek. This is my very first step in touch escalation. I wouldn't say anything though personally. I don't want to make her self conscious about us touching.
/r/seduction26/03/24 08:16 AM
5

Makes me want to bang my head against the table. Guys on here believing that it is words that get you laid. Does one think that after a job interview conversation you just had you can just say "hey i want u, lets get out of here" and she's wet and ready for it? Poor girl..
/r/seduction26/03/24 08:12 AM
27

My dating experience has lead me to believe that talking is just there to stop awkward silences. Most humans get uncomfortable by them for some reason. Seduction is 90% physical behavior. I leave 10% because saying things like "you smell so fucking good" will make her want it. You'll see a lot of guys in here asking what to say, what to talk about. I think because they're so poor at the physical escalation that they're over compensating on getting her through words. Girls will not sleep with a g…
/r/seduction25/03/24 08:11 PM
10

Because a 10 isn't real thing. Play game with your friends at the mall in finding a 10.
/r/seduction24/03/24 03:14 PM
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Here's my go to. You're dancing, but it's loud so you lean into her ear. You're bumping heads because you're dancing so you put your arm on her neck, or cheek to stabilize her head. "I love this song" "you're such a good dancer" "I love when you roll your hips like that" "you smell amazing" Eventually, your lips are touching her neck, cheeks. Keep pecking and eventually you'll kiss. I will see guys start with hips, grabbing ass, grabbing tits. She's not a stripper lap dancing on you. You need to…
/r/seduction24/03/24 08:50 AM
8

Love this. Girls love nothing more than playing cupid. Cringing at all the other spiteful replies.
/r/seduction24/03/24 08:36 AM
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I don't leave. When boyfriend arrives, I am cordial and ask questions. How did you meet? When did you ask her out? Etc. Ask woman when she knew she was interested in the guy. I'm always interested in how men get the women I want and they love to talk about this subject. For many couples the day they met is the most special moment in their life. The girl and guy become my anchor in bar/club, they're now my friends. No reason to be spiteful for woman being taken.
/r/seduction24/03/24 08:33 AM
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original poster
/r/seduction23/03/24 11:01 AM
3

I hate posts like this. OP giving a round about way of his sex report. What is the point of your post?
/r/seduction19/03/24 10:42 AM
12

A lot of fake profiles on these dating apps. Guys using fake female profiles to practice how men approach the tinder game.
/r/seduction12/03/24 12:45 PM
1

Very late reply but to OP you practically wrote out my strategy that I learned from experience.
/r/seduction11/03/24 08:15 AM
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CTRL + F "kiss" 0/0 Not found. What the hell man, do you like this girl or not? If you like her, kiss her. You're analyzing text replies while ignoring the elephant in the room.
/r/seduction10/03/24 11:10 AM
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I have a good success rate with girls I manage to meet, but I don't match often either. Your first escalation is a hug when you meet. Establish touch from the very onset. Try to hold the hug a second longer. Second escalation is touching shoulder, touching arm when talking and walking to where you are going. Third escalation can vary but I look at her nails, ask to look. Hold the hand, turn it over to read palm (you can bullshit this). If not nails maybe bracelet? My cream of the crop escalation…
/r/seduction10/03/24 11:05 AM
1

Allow my leg to touch gauging interest. When she doesn’t pull away escalate from there. Perfect!!!
/r/seduction08/03/24 09:17 AM
6

My last date was a coffee date. We sat on the couch. (Something I scoped out before date, I hate sitting facing the girl. It's hard to implement touch that way.) I lean in to whisper something I'm too shy to say out loud. We continue to sit closer and closer. I complimented her necklace and touched it, then touched her neck and said she has pretty smooth skin. Arm around. Smell hair. Whisper something into ear about her smell making me weak in the knees and we kissed. She didn't like kissing in …
/r/seduction08/03/24 08:57 AM
1

You tell her you have an 8'oclock rez at Dorsia, then call Dorsia and get laughed at. Looks really bad.
/r/seduction08/03/24 08:32 AM
5

Fucking A right? I understand if guys don't want to smash right away, I don't either, but sexual attraction is your top priority. You have to emphatically, in clearest way possible, let woman know your intentions are to not just be friends.
/r/seduction08/03/24 08:19 AM
1

In my opinion, which may be unpopular but kissing must happen on first date otherwise 2nd date is a problem. I don't know how else you establish sexual attraction which is necessary to keep it going.
/r/seduction08/03/24 08:16 AM
2

EASY work, this is my fool proof advice. First you need good wine and it's just a social lubricant. Do NOT have intention of getting each other drunk. Wine, plate of cheese or crackers, a light TV show/film. Sit together on couch. Laugh, talk, scootch closer. Adjust your leg, seating position. Get closer until you're touching. Put arm around her, get comfortable. Lean in, smell her shoulder, compliment her smell. Important: Get up for bathroom or refill glass of wine. You make the woman comforta…
/r/seduction08/03/24 08:05 AM
6

That's not true at all. I have a tall buff Italian friend and women fawn over him and are obvious about it. Hot women won't do it out of pride, but the average lady, especially older. He doesn't even have to try and that makes them want him more.
/r/seduction08/03/24 07:54 AM
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It teaches you to focus inward, on your genuine self in order to attract a mate. The other pick up artists books teach you to become someone else with hacky lines. It totally clicks when applied to life in general.
/r/seduction07/03/24 12:56 PM
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