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| – | Why is it shallow for a woman to have income standards in a partner if she wants children/ a familyThis isn’t happening so much anymore though. Maybe if economy is down in the past it drove people into relationships for survival to help each other but now with birth control and education, we know it will be too taxing to make kids in down economy If relationships are driven by survival in this way, we now see it as more burden than relief because pregnancy prevention mitigates the cost of another mouth to feed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/25 12:03 AM |
| – | Why is it shallow for a woman to have income standards in a partner if she wants children/ a familyThis comment is spot on. Each wealth class should be equally weighted in number | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 11:59 PM |
| – | Why is it shallow for a woman to have income standards in a partner if she wants children/ a familyAverage earning men can have poor women. Poor men get no women. Richest women probably want no men. Until the day a man can give birth, marrying up is fine. Edit: To deny relationships is sad. Let the Richest women take harems of all the poorest men: they should be so so grateful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 11:55 PM |
| – | Why is it shallow for a woman to have income standards in a partner if she wants children/ a familyMen cannot be pregnant. Pregnancy is work. The man makes more money to offset this work and make it more equal. Women can make the same money as men. The women at the very top might not find partners but every other women can still ‘marry up’ to offset the work of pregnancy. As far as men getting treated equally it also won’t happen. Pregnant women and maybe women in general need more help than men. When men ask for the same kind of help it is like conveniences they do not need and it comes off … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 11:51 PM |
| – | Why is it shallow for a woman to have income standards in a partner if she wants children/ a familyIsn’t it also just convenience to base a relationship off feeling sparks with someone though? Shouldn’t it be harder to stick together if the bond isn’t there so easily but the practical things are? Maybe it’s a matter of perspective | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 11:45 PM |
| – | Why is it shallow for a woman to have income standards in a partner if she wants children/ a familyI came onto reddit tonight to make a point about something related that recently clicked. If it was all social climbing and money, there would be no incentive to have bonding because loyalty can be broken so easily by status change. This is why men really like it when women like them still at their ‘lowest’ And nature sees an incentive in bonding, or else it would not happen. Therefore, at least women bond for safety during pregnancy which is a vulnerable time. Even with government incentives fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/25 11:28 PM |
| 8 | Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR LoveI was married for years and never ‘let myself go’. If anything, having more time together meant getting ready for more dates. Having free time as a housewife meant I could hit up the gym whenever. But I suppose if you added invisible labor of a shared home, doing chores/favors for him, on top of me having a job, maybe my looks would have started to suffer but guess what: life gets fucking hard like that, especially if you have kids. Luckily I don't have kids but if you don’t want her to ‘let her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR LoveI’m not sure if you are behind on world events…but we are seeing in real time how men don’t really give a fuck about love. They want women to be receptacles. Less partners means more inexperienced,. Women less likely to take bullshit aka ‘difficult’ women (the women experienced enough to actually understand partnership) are left out…so men are actively seeking out inexperienced women on one end and then on the other end, if they do seek an experienced woman, many use that experience as a way to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this?This is another reason why they shouldn't haggle | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 11:15 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this?if they are expecting something that’s their problem though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 11:14 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this?I have to admit I had a date like this but I preemptively offered to split the bill because that seemed usual for women not knowing their value which I didn’t at that time. I was lucky though because 1. men usually pay if you offer first 2. in his country this was ridiculous as men always pay. Now I am pretty much locked in to looking for men where it is usual for them to pay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 11:13 PM |
| 9 | Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this?give the hard stare after paying a $3 ice cream but expect women to have 9 months of uncomfort and babies 🤣 men these days must literally be getting rammed in by their bosses in the custodian’s closet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 11:08 PM |
| 11 | Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this?Yes. Rich does not mean generous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 11:03 PM |
| 1 | High earning women don’t intimidate men from dating themThe very most you can to do deescalate is sweep it under the rug as a misunderstanding and NEVER , EVER trust that person again with that situation. Believe people when they show you who they are the first time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Men, would you choose love or sex?You can’t prove you forget life in death. What if this is your first one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 10:14 PM |
| – | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?I do agree that some people seek and crave drama. I stay 1 million miles away from those types and it’s rare for anyone past their 20s to be that way anymore anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 10:44 AM |
| – | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?I disagree that drama is always manipulative. You can literally have a misunderstanding and that is still drama. I actually usually look for every single way something could be a misunderstanding or cultural first before I label someone as bad energy. Maybe it comes from my own good-willed nature so I expect that of others as well but when someone brings up manipulation I start to suspect them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 10:43 AM |
| – | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?You can combine adventure and drama but aside from ‘exploring each others bodies’ there isn’t much inherent adventure. Even if you travel together, it is the couple vs the adventure. If there is a crisis you face together: the couple vs the drama. /Within/ the relationship itself though? Usually emotional carnival rides based on the connection: drama. Because coupledom tends to mean embarking on discovering each others boundaries. I guess you could call fun boundaries ‘adventure’ when your SO tr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 10:38 AM |
| – | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?Ok but in human dynamics it’s about connection. The security of the relationship and reliance on each other. Seems more likely to paint that as a drama than as an adventure. There is even literal TV shows for it: see Soap Operas Do you know of any Adventure Operas? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Men, would you choose love or sex?Realistically though typos or what: off with benzos…so kill your neurons? How would that make the remaining fire faster for longer? Caffeine is a nootropic, if can be sold as gum to wean you off coffee. Next step is microdose meth? I mean now you are kinda looking for a Very open minded partner…as meth is illegal. Why take the Ketamine if it messes up the process…maybe you just need cuddles instead ☹️poor boy🥺 just needs cuddles and sleep The next steps sound almost too experimental to be safe. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 08:37 AM |
| 1 | Men, would you choose love or sex?Perhaps waiting even longer may be required with net gain 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Men, would you choose love or sex?So what you’re saying is as long as he cheats with drugs, the 3 month rule still applies? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 08:24 AM |
| 2 | CMV: You should be your partner's ONLY source of sexual fulfillmentFeels like this is assuming your sex drives match 100% and you are 100% at the tip of each others fingers 24/7. Too much room for negotiations relationship to relationship and person to person. I don’t think there is a ‘coverall’ answer to this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 08:58 PM |
| 0 | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?That sounds like business advice not dating advice. Be in shape and work hard should be general life advice/common sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 08:55 PM |
| 0 | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?blue pill is like chaos. you know that emotions run a lot of decisions actually so at the end of the day all your planning could end pointless with the Actual decision you go with etc Some more or less than others stick with their original plans but it’s really a head vs heart argument and you pretty much need both | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 08:53 PM |
| 9 | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?With a pinch of salt. Because if a man just never proves Anything to Anyone he just looks boring | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 08:51 PM |
| 1 | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?Haven’t studies proven humans Prefer adventure? I’m not super convinced by it being drama-less | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Why women, gals don't approach guys?You psych yourself out so your brain can trick your heart and your nethers. It’s supposed to be long game. Might work in the same city but not proven to work long distance and via online bullshituationships. and you may get bored because you’d have to whip them again to bring them back (assuming you did it in the beginning to bring them to your zipcode)…and generally women want to feel wanted and not like they had to trick a man anyway so regardless of how ‘high value’ he is…he is still just a m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Why women, gals don't approach guys?I guess first you have to have really really affectionate skin. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Do you think that showing direct signs of sexual attraction diminishes social value for women?If women must be absolutely captivated by men in order to be accepted as their mate then women cannot also be equal partners, unless he is also properly enamored for it to be fair I don’t know how to explain this better, sorry. I just feel like men want to be loved but not vulnerable enough for equality (loved by women but not loving women) and they will say anything else is emasculating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you think that showing direct signs of sexual attraction diminishes social value for women?I meant more that the study shows that in captivity there is a controller of the resources. In nature, if you don’t like the food you go get your own. When a man is in charge of all the finances (and therefore food, travel etc) you might not easily escape to get your own without help. Same goes for children, same goes for those living in areas with poor public transport/infrastructure. It is a captive situation. Some men may sense that you are not captive/captivated and interpret this as a loss … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 10:01 PM |
| 2 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menYou know, dating and going out on dates USED TO mean that you were pretty much already a couple. There was never any issue until men started wanting to have ‘the talk’ and saying it wasn’t official just because you’re dating So maybe y’all ruined this by wanting to run around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 05:19 AM |
| -1 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menYes. Please exit the dating pool | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 05:16 AM |
| -1 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menMen seem to have an inability to view women as autonomous. Therefore everything which happens to men concerning women must Always be the man’s fault somehow. It’s dehumanizing to believe that women are only Reactionary to men, and furthermore you are debasing her standards by saying ‘if I was hotter or if xyz…” Yeah but what if Not? What if the only reason men are getting casual encounters is because women literally don’t take you seriously at all or respect you as a Man. What if the only reason… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 05:10 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeEven coming from the stance that cheating happens in marriage really is such a demented view that why are you getting married in the first place? It is clearly a business about pregnancy if men don’t want to model monogamy and romance so don’t be so surprised when women don’t want to date the lower tiers when the ‘high ranking’ men are literally making it only about money and sperm…and all the low-ranking men can seem to do about it is complain that they’re not getting a shot instead of Actually… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 03:49 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeIf the act of selecting a lower-status man elevates his status through preselection bias, making him more likely to cheat if cheating is based on ‘status’ then ALL MEN are just trash. It won’t matter which you choose: choose high status and he cheats, low status and suddenly he is EVEN MORE excited about these opportunities he never had before in preselection. The fact that you agree that Higher Status men Cheat just speaks to the Character Flaw in men, especially since those men are meant to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 03:43 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeAll I am hearing is it doesn’t matter what your status is, men will cheat. Because to say that a low status man wouldn’t cheat is also a lie: we have heard the stories. ‘Don’t give the ugly/broke guy a chance they cheat too’ . So really just the same thing goes for the original post and general response of ‘what the fuck’ Saying women should go for men no one else wants doesn’t give women any trust in the men’s behavior if it’s a cultural thing in dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 04:26 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI’ll agree that sentiment is arbitrary but it’s not all chaos; we like people whom can tell us no; from either sex. Because it means at the very least that they are equal or they can teach us something. If the ‘no’ is weak then we have to go Truly learn that lesson with someone else when we try it again. That also tells us the first person may have liked us just a bit more since the ‘no’ was so weak. Weakness can be attractive because we also like people who tell us yes, but for different reason… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 02:04 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeAmerican Men who succeed in getting a date* I’m not sure why every time a topic like this is brought up, men always assume it’s a mismatch date and that the man couldn’t just 1. genuinely be in a bad headspace or 2. genuinely be a bad guy with ANY woman If Beyonce can be cheated on, no woman is safe. I know now from the comments that the issue with my post is extrapolating one particular example and applying it to all men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 01:55 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeA muscular guy with glasses. A handsome guy no glasses. Do you have any statistics as proof? Are you a tatted guy that gets likes? And if so, that is only a small sample size of your personal experience. It might be what the tattoo Is or something else in your bio that got a match. Or that you are despite them. I’m not disappointed with the answers. Not all of them resonate and some are off-topic but a few have been interesting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 01:51 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeWomen right now are very concerned about their rights and safety so actually still trying to push this ‘girls love bad boys’ narrative is kinda cringe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 06:50 PM |
| 0 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeDid the study perhaps forget to mention the partners were other inmates I actually rejected the attractive former-inmate at the bar last week but maybe it’s because I am focused on money right now, who knows | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 06:46 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeThis comment is a classic example of making human situations out to be more simple than they are in reality. Without painting clear tiers of what ‘league’ consists of it’s not even possible to evaluate objectively. If you rely on only one side of a situation (ignoring that women also have ‘cab lights’ of sorts) then you miss the holistic picture. While I did extrapolate one particular example to the dating culture as a whole, I have admitted such in the comments while also responding to apex fal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 06:35 PM |
| 0 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeIn the age of the sapiosexual, the obvious answer is that men who do not succeed are fumbling. They get a chance every time a woman crosses their path but they continue to fail. Would you send a solider out to war without being trained at all? Maybe they should take classes from their local ladies man. Seriously. just monetize it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 02:17 AM |
| 0 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeyes🙃 getting taken off the market when you are very young and then popping back in a good amount of years later seems to do that a little bit of sleeping beauty effect | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 02:09 AM |
| 2 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeOk clearly I am sheltered. I get your point. I think it has been a localized cultural thing for me personally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 02:07 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI agree. And it would be in a woman’s best interest to complain about the behavior of the top percent of men in effort to get them to change just as men tell their girlfriend ‘you don’t need makeup you look beautiful’ essentially downgrading the chances of her branch swing. However, as women historically tend to be more commitment-minded than men, women have little incentive to downgrade men in ways of commitment. And when we talk about dating, women are usually talking about for longterm. So th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 02:06 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI’m not totally sure of it being toxic though because extrapolated to sex, flirting and teasing would then also be a bribery or ‘toxic’ so I guess it depends on the vibe, intent, and follow-through | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:59 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeIn college I had a friend group of mostly virgins and it really did not seem far off that millennials and gen z are waiting so maybe you mean the non-college, selling feet pics or insta-modeling crowd. I have for sure heard of the short-term epidemic. If the man is not moving it towards commitment then it’s not a match. Women who get it bring it up but have learned not to push things. Commitment is not a bribery or blackmail so ‘dangling’ it sounds toxic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:56 AM |
| 0 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI honestly have a bone to pick with this apex thing because he was broke broke (timing was bad) and I think that’s why his light was off (mine was off because I was newly single but my default is on so I still acted like it…albeit awkwardly) Men may view the apex as the winner Now. However: many women (sadly) view the apex in terms of Potential Future wins. (not knowing she may then be upgraded but I digress) …So is the argument even really about the true apex or just about a perceived one? Agai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:46 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI notice that trend too with American dating. I kinda address it in the post in a way: men date casually until their light goes off. Wether a ‘good woman’ made his light go off or it’s ‘just time’ likely varies. As far as the top 10% always winning out on going from casual to serious, I’d first like to know what you consider the top 10%? Also it seems more likely a man will actually commit to a woman who waits because it speaks to her chastity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:39 AM |
| 3 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI really wish there was a big push for third spaces | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:33 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeThis seems like an evolved friend zone. Friend zone is not actually a date imo. Going out for food with a stranger or going out with a friend…I think we are wasting too much time going out …but I also won’t talk on apps for months either so I stopped using them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:31 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI actually never did this seeing multiple except in response to the aloofness of the apex example person. If I was dating someone, I was DATING THEM. I actually thought this was just a ‘thing’ now and told the other guy I went on a date with that ‘apparently dates being exclusive isn’t a thing anymore’ 😃 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:29 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeOk so I can see now that when I re-entered the dating field my assumptions were shaped by this apex example. I’m not sure where that leaves me now except not wanting that kind of person. It was very amicably clear that situation was not going to work out and I am thankful for that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:25 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI’ve seen this ‘apex fallacy’ thing in other comments. Always eager to learn and will be looking it up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeCommitment implies that someone is your top priority. You cannot have more than one top priority, it creates conflict of interest. It seems like that would be common sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:17 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeThis just seems to agree with the original post. Those men want their ego stroked until the light goes on. Women should definitely reject men dating multiples. This would free up more women for other men as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:16 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeFrom a female perspective, talking about men who are NOT in the dating field is completely irrelevant to women. It is a complaint about the dynamics of those who are going on dates | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:14 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeyour age for reference? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:13 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeBut were they expecting the woman to be exclusive until he decided to commit? It all just sounds like a scenario were A could choose B but B is choosing C and everyone is chasing with no one matching. Why even go on a date in the first place if you’re THAT unsure about the person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:13 AM |
| 0 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeYou would have to confirm that any match which behaves in this way is ‘20’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:10 AM |
| -1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeIt makes no sense to talk about dating dynamics with people who are not part of the dynamics. You could argue that dating apps only benefit the rich, the good looking etc etc but that is a different topic. This debate is stemming from the perspective of a woman and the dynamics of a match. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:09 AM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeIt’s true that when I re-entered the dating scene it was though apps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 05:21 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeI guess that means they are not part of this debate then. I suppose I am talking then only about the men who Do date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 05:19 PM |
| 1 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeperhaps I was misinformed once I re-entered the dating pool | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 05:17 PM |
| 0 | American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their typeA dating culture is not ‘something only a few get away with’ but it seems there may be some disagreement wether or not this is the culture | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit usIf he wants my number it’s 33¢ per minute for my phone bill. I have zero interest in dating or paying to talk to someone. We can email. If that my burden because I don’t have family pay for my things then so be it but I have zero time and I am not a part of the ‘sell her to the highest bidder’ crowd. So many parents invest in their kids to the point of acting like they Own them and can just push them off to whoever for some kind of social deal. Arranged marriages with ‘parents consent’ should be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit usNo one is trying to control anyone. It’s about supplementing or complimenting each others traits. An overwhelming amount of humans seem to love love love control though and it is making it Not Worth It to date at all. Forget dating, make money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 04:48 PM |
| 5 | Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit usJust on the face of it ‘protect themselves from women’ is coming off wrong. Should you actually fully submit to your role as a man, as you expect women to fully submit to their role as a woman, you would not need any protection from her masculine side. And we have to admit now that intelligence being tactical advantage is a masculine trait. Put simply, you’re too dumb. Women are earning more degrees, and studying harder because they have Strong Incentive to get away from men who played the male … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Many men these days would not have the skills required to keep women feminine like this. The men have lost their touch. All they can do is smile at her on the street and go ‘wow!’ because it is mind boggling how a woman gets like that. Because the loss of mens etiquette is causing women like that to either become androgynous or masculine themselves or get very very far away from him and his brethren. So yes you’ll go ‘wow’ and probably never see her around again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?These examples are very modest and old fashioned. These days at least in the US you will typically only find them worn by women working for high end luxury companies, entrepreneurs, trust fund women, or maybe recent high school graduates exploring their style. It’s not something you’ll commonly see on a college campus because it has less to do with femininity and more to do with wealth class. Clothes cost money. Women need to feel safe to engage in these looks also. Saying things like ‘everythin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Why men must never open up to women.Going out on a limb here and saying that unless you are leading an actual bonfide war between countries, joining the military, or in the armed forces then as a man your serve and protect duties are rather light. It’s comparable to women who choose to be childfree and empty nesters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Perhaps should should take a minute to reflect on how you might set your standards more than one step above hell | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Ah okay. Yeah that makes sense. When every convo turns into ‘woe is me’ and they literally add nothing beneficial to the interaction it’s like they are bizarrely and constantly choosing to not be happy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?This post has been answered more competently further in the comments. You might respect that a wife has more ‘purity’ in being a virgin or monogamous but is says nothing about your view of her competence. Men seem to view competence and respect as protective endeavors and not endeavors which earn desire or love apparently. I was expecting admiration might enter the chat and create desire. Bitchiness can be seen as bravery, hence admiration …but maybe this is only how that mechanism works for wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I actually think women argue as a way of showing general discontent or boredom with the dynamic which is really only reasonable if she is putting in effort to level it up but he isn’t matching her energy. Maybe he is taking her interest for granted at that point. Or he is too content with how things are. Married people change. One pitfall of marriage is making everyone think that the other person can never leave and things will always remain locked in completely the same as they were at the time… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?If you say it like that it sounds like she is Only interested in the dynamic of not being left and you could flip that for Secure attachment too and say ‘only interested in secure attachment’ …but like, it should become obvious she wants it with You because she chose you. However, there is also exchange. He puts out, she puts out. Poof the game is pretty much over. And we can imagine like a drug or a high, then there is a crash or withdrawal. So it does become a game then if you want to stay wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Hmm. Well we’d think these things would pop up before building a home but if they are popping up later I’d expect she learned it from the outside 😅 maybe this is why some men like to isolate women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I figured out after the responses from yesterday that women seem to set the emotional dynamic tone so even asking you about it is like requesting you to produce something. Your response being how you and her would fight someone makes sense. I wish I had a good script for home life but ‘pet’ and ‘adoration’ is as far as I’ve gotten | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Are men not also hypergamous?You use it to attract then spend it to enjoy together | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Are men not also hypergamous?Beauty definitely takes a Hit from career life. It’s practically illegal to be sexually appealing in the office environment. Oh god forbid we love and feel good about ourselves we might make Becky insecure. Stack on overtime and doing that 8 hours 5 days a week and you rack up a lot of practice being a dull cog | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Are men not also hypergamous?I agree that it seems to be more true of education and more rumored of the wealthy but if rich women are not marry rich men, who are rich women going after? Women also tend to be willing to date much older if he is a higher tax bracket but if we are talking kids and a family with everyone at a reasonable age, it seems rich women would at least date Younger rich men. So it seems only some kind of financial control incentive would cause rich men to date lower economically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Are men not also hypergamous?Easier to control in what way? Unless they are marrying, paying rent or doing business there are no official ties. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Women pressure test men because if he cannot defend against her (and/or her father, brother etc if present) then she figures he is vulnerable against other men. It seems natural to not want to pass off the role and responsibility to someone unless you can trust them and pressure testing builds trust In dating we don’t tend to leave customer reviews ‘it broke on the first try!’ or ‘flimsy material!’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Are men not also hypergamous?Do you deny yourself into the grave or do you at least enjoy once you attract? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?You don’t expect any competency whatsoever, in anything? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Women don’t respect scary if used against us but we can adore it if used to protect us Women can definitely respect hardworking men edit: I gotta think on that last bit actually. idk if hardworking men are actually as respected as ‘work smarter not harder’ men. Since men cannot be the same natural producers as women, they’d forever be chasing the nearly-unattainable. Similar to the example of most women not being physically strong enough to defend themselves. Not necessarily impossible, but near… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I really think you hit the nail on the head. Men view respect through the lens of how scary you are. While hard work and achievement can play into that, I believe the productivity aspect of that work is what women respect. Because women can respect productivity naturally as they are born producers. Because as a woman I really felt connected to the answer here which touches upon work ethic but I notice that could also tie back into servitude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Ok, I think the word ‘bitch’ has too many interpretations. What I am picking up here is at least two. One being ultra masculine…though that would seem to fall in line with the hard work ethic go on to mention (but somehow looks like smelling of piss when worn by a woman) …so there is a little bit of dissonance in that description there from A to B. The second interpretation of ‘bitch’ I am picking up on here is someone rude for seemingly no reason, just being a raging asshole. Someone who likes … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?There is a whole book on it. “Why Men Love Bitches” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?So are you not of the ‘love requires respect’ camp? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?you respect an intelligent yappy puppy though? I mean, comparatively, if most women are not your size they cannot ‘compete’ with this aspect of your masculinity the way other men might ‘compete’ to win your respect. Because we can assume smaller men also might look like puppies to you, just a different breed. If that is trophy wife territory then what would non-trophy wife look like? And wouldn’t every man strive for trophy wife anyway? I thought men only commit to their dream girl. So again reg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?You might just be masculine enough to bring that side out of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Is it because they are too difficult? Because though some men may see it that way, other men may like the challenge. Also, we could assume she’d make a highly competent partner, especially if you went into business together | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?That is one aspect of this post. Would you treat your partner more like a pet, a sibling, a co-worker? How do you develop your dynamic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:14 AM |
| 0 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?in such a world, is not everyone a victim? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?fascinating. you might be onto something there. especially if women can only find it in themselves to respect rich men. Imagine you are married to the 6’5” gym girl with a 6-pack. How do you imagine your dynamic? Do you wear the pants? Does she? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Sounds simple enough. Can you elaborate on why you respect them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I understand that most people marry based on feelings and repeating cycles or patterns of their family of origin. However, I’d like to take a moment to ponder if those patterns are healthy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?‘Innocent until proven guilty’ has conditioned too many people to ignore red flags. The at-fault party is always the abuser, regardless if there were flags or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I have looked it up before. “ men who see women as either saintly Madonnas or debased whores. Men with this complex desire a sexual partner who has been degraded (whore) while they cannot desire the respected partner (Madonna)” I am talking about the respect element. However I do not believe the Madonna is a respected partner either based on Attachment Theory but I guess that is too much thinking for your puny brains as another commenter has suggested? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I’m not talking about sex. I understand you can be attracted to a woman regardless her personality because you like the physical package. And all you want is that. That makes sense. Ok you see a bitchy woman as a man. That makes sense: because she can be equally tactical. Does that make winning her more fun? Men respect men for their track record and skill. Does a difficult woman not also gain that same respect? This post is also about the pursuit of innocent or innocent looking women and how or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I can agree with this one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:53 AM |
| -1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Many men go for much younger women whom will be inherently naive. That plays into the dynamic regardless of if that is Why they go for her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Ok well lets explore that dynamic then. Is it healthy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Vegans? flat earthers? what are you on about that seems very off-topic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I don’t understand why you are so triggered abut talking about potential healthy dynamics | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Highly unlikely. Men are known to be very rational and if you’ve read anything on war you also know they are tactical. So what kind of chaos maths are we talking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?please explain it then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?I am asking for your answer actually. If not, why would I post? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?username does not checkout | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Is that a fancy way of saying you don’t have an answer? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?or…prison? what? Trying to have a healthy relationship would be the goal. Are…are you saying they are adversarial? I never said that anywhere I just said that the different personas seem to be treated differently. If there is an alternate solution such as growing out of that complex or a different dynamic or attachment system then please present it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:41 AM |
| 0 | Are men not also hypergamous?Why do I feel like men would do this as some kind of leverage situation? Because if you are rich why would you not also date rich | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:37 AM |
| 7 | Are men not also hypergamous?Are there not stats showing rich men are more likely to marry rich women? I thought I had heard that before. Because if you are both rich and good looking, why would you not also target someone rich and good looking? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 02:36 AM |
| -1 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?How would a woman know a man is not that way? What are some early warning signs he is that way or steps he would have taken to change? What do you believe a masculine and feminine attachment should look like? edit: whoever didn’t like this thread and is downvoting: why can’t you just answer the question? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 05:01 AM |
| 0 | Do men these days still only respect bitches?Do you believe only effeminate men have this complex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex?Typically women allow themselves to let their walls down, become vulnerable and feel safe enough to form an attachment in which they offer a near-unconditional type of love. If you want to label that as a transaction, that’s on you. Men typically do not have this same kind of value offering (and if they do it is effeminate) which is why women are shifting to viewing relationships as transactional or supplementary. Money might be considered an appropriate supplement for many women who form long t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Men NEED sex. The use of prostitution should be normalized, legalized, and recommended for struggling men.He didn’t say men NEED to feel desired. He said men NEED sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 04:15 AM |
| 0 | Men NEED sex. The use of prostitution should be normalized, legalized, and recommended for struggling men.Capitalistic relationships are all I think I’ve ever known, or very nearly. There are only two categories of people: The Users and The Used. Whatever kind of fanfare or glitter you want to throw around it ultimately doesn’t matter. May as well make it legal because I guess nothing else is working anyway. Though I don’t think it is going to work how you think it will work. Women’s value won’t really deflate, you’ll just have a much clearer tier system. Skills, education or sociability will determ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex?It’s not just winner of a mate yes. I am talking about social when I say charisma. Humans could be argued to be pack animals of sorts since we form communities yes. When you see two alphas side by side you can tell because the rest of the group takes social cues from either of them, as well as there is general tension or disregard between them. ‘too many cooks in the kitchen’ is a classic example of too many leaders showing that alpha isn’t just winning These are not the only dynamics, as many s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex?if she bluffs you it can though. And in that case, wouldn’t she be the most deserving of it? If you are going to choose someone to blow your money on …or you just only want to blow it on your mistresses who dgaf because $$$ is the in my way they’ll see you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex?Alpha is a characteristic trait. You either have it or you don’t but just because one man is selected over you… does not mean the other man isn’t also alpha. For example, the other alpha may not be her physical ‘type’ Or the other alpha might demonstrate less value. Alpha mindset is a trait. A mindset. So it is not purely value. not money, not assets, not necessarily if you are more emotionally available or respectful or not. It’s basically just charisma and self-confidence. a lot more to do wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex?I totally agree that looks and social skill can demonstrate status. That is unchanged. So why are you upset with dating as a value demonstration ritual? because all you want is sex and not to go out and socialize and have fun? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex?Because you are putting a money number on a resource which many would prefer to be free and also because a woman can name any number she wants if sex becomes a product like that. The longer the negotiation stage (dating etc) the more likely she will slip up and you’ll have the upper hand. Though it’s not promised…because if you failed to close quickly that is never forgotten. You must demonstrate value and then be fleeting, not lingering like an orbiter unless you have a ‘bigger’ goal. Because i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 04:17 AM |
| – | Society is making big progress on ending financial hypergamy.I was thinking about this earlier today. It only matters if you want to be selective. Otherwise, it’s pretty easy as long as you’re not so much of a jerk that she rather rely on job security or the security of multiple men. Women can Always get men. Even ugly women. The men ugly women get might even be tall, attractive etc. I have seen a woman with a moustach with a tall, handsome guy. His demeanor was shit and he was broke but he was in shape (maybe because he’s starving but that’s besides the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 07:30 AM |
| – | Society is making big progress on ending financial hypergamy.The standards men have to live up to are different. It’s mostly focused on assets and money. Just look at how many different kinds of styles there are for various occasions in women’s clothes vs mens. Also most men don’t wear makeup and many get away with ignoring skincare so yes they live up to aesthetic standards that are inequivalent Beards don’t look good on everyone anyway but no one lining up for them doesn’t seem to be stopping them from staying chubby | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 07:04 AM |
| 1 | “try on hauls” are just ways for women to show pornographic videos to minors on youtube. This is the same as men flashing their dicks in front of kids. These women should be on sex offender lists and thrown in jail.Or it’s because I grew up with society voicing rather loudly that peeping toms watch young women changing their clothes through the window while hiding in the bushes and that ad literally gave a similar vantage point. I get it if friends or family are in your room and see you changing but obviously I do not know this person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 06:57 AM |
| -1 | How much slack do you cut your spouse/SO vs other people?But is she apologizing and you figure out the root cause of snapping? Because redirecting anger onto your spouse from something else isn’t fair either. You don’t get to ‘buy’ disrespect points using your long respect record | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 05:06 AM |
| 2 | How much slack do you cut your spouse/SO vs other people?Life experience has taught me I had it all wrong. Those closer should have less slack because their role is supposed to be more important. Any sign of disrespect, they can show themselves out. Because disrespect is not love. Exaggerated eye rolling? Contempt? goodbye. Spiteful sarcasm? You’re gross, control your jealousy. Not celebrating my wins? I think we have different plans for my future so maybe you’re not in it. Doing something I have explicitly expressed I dislike? I might let it slide on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 05:04 AM |
| -1 | Society is making big progress on ending financial hypergamy.That’s an interesting point. Not only is she a woman and has to live up to those fashion, aesthetic and biological standards but she also likely has higher employment status if paid the same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 04:51 AM |
| 0 | Society is making big progress on ending financial hypergamy.Not sexism, simply mate selection. That puts it perfectly. The only men whom need to make these kinds of arguments are the ones which have not been selected. It’s like how romance was invented to compete with rich men. Then the rich men had to also adjust. Now ‘financial hypergamy’ gets invented to combat capitalism. Except it’s a powerless argument with seemingly no value add or incentives | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Society is making big progress on ending financial hypergamy.The word ‘entitled’ is loaded and usually used with negative connotation. However, sometimes someone is entitled to something because it is earned, or even passed down from a previous generation. To our current knowledge, being born female was not a choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Feminisim will either help men or lose men-- there is no 2nd option.I feel like feminism is not all about patriarchy or leadership. I connect with some of the dating aspects or dynamic aspects but would still rather men be in the protector position. Or maybe I’m just not a feminist? idk. The female experience resonates | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Feminisim will either help men or lose men-- there is no 2nd option.I mean, if we do take your money maybe the world has a chance to become non-hostile and we’ll procreate more? Huh. Wonder if that’s what happened after all the wars | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Feminisim will either help men or lose men-- there is no 2nd option.A woman cannot help you become a woman. It seems like you are seeking an equal experience where women we can only offer equity. How do you know when the protection you offer is enough? It’s hard to know but if she TELLS YOU what she requires to FEEL SAFE and you DO THAT, but she still doesn’t YIELD TO YOU: then you are being played. If she TELLS YOU and you CAN’T or DON’T, then it’s NOT ENOUGH yet. If you don’t want kids, obviously this doesn’t apply but you still have no biological incentive or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Feminisim will either help men or lose men-- there is no 2nd option.At this time in history, without world peace, Earth is likely considered a hostile planet in the classification of civilization types. Are you actually arguing that you want the indulgence of MORE vulnerability on such a planet? Safety is an illusion. Always has been. However if a man can create a tiny microcosm such that a woman feels safe enough to let her guards down and become pregnant (which we know will be 9 months of vulnerability) then women might just forget for a few moments enough tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?I don’t think you really get to choose when you cry, unless you’re wielding an unhealthy amount of control over your emotions. What is so wrong in experiencing an emotion WHEN you actually feel it? Sounds like the company you keep is rather suppressive otherwise People cry for a multitude of reasons. Let’s not group sadness into ‘infantile behavior’ and remember that judging harshly like this can make YOU appear as a narcissistic oppressor. Everyone’s emotions are valid. As immature it may or ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 01:57 AM |
| 0 | Is it a man's responsibility to turn a woman on?Women do their part in the beginning getting pretty for dates etc etc. If she can’t keep that up as long as you keep taking her out then again it’s like the love bombing with the bait and switch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Is it a man's responsibility to turn a woman on?Dread will not work with RP women they will just dread you back 3 times worse, it creates a war-like scenario or division rather than unity. With non RP women it may trigger preselection response. With abuse victims, dysfunctional co-dependent dynamics, survivors etc it may trigger abandonment issues or cause them to draw you near but I kinda doubt you want that to be the reasons they want you They should want you because you’re amazing and attractive right? Because you have inherent value | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 05:04 AM |
| -1 | Is it a man's responsibility to turn a woman on?It’s your responsibility to be honest and find a compatible partner. If you love bomb or do extra or lie in the beginning you will fail to keep it up and the whole thing unravels. If instead you be honest with your pace, frequency, etc as long as you describe your desires Tactfully you should be good. If you are bad at describing your needs or bad at making convincing requests in general then why would you expect that to change in the bedroom? It should all come naturally to two people who actua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?Those women sound like narcissists. Not being able to have a two-way conversation is a red flag. You staying around to be used by it is also a red flag. You can say ‘but they are so hot I won’t get them otherwise’ and it’s still a red flag. You’d shit on your self-respect in order to date above your league? maybe it’s different for men because you can just leave her with a kid and be somewhat free of the disrespect edit: tbh ‘leagues’ are different for different things. 10/10 physically means on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?That’s one part of being a good Friend tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?So that’s kinda How women got to choosing these ‘luxury’ standards. Women will come across 1 guy every 6 months or so meeting her standards (usually vaguely based off of supplementary or complimentary stuff) Fix your money. Failed pursuers are too broke so they try to strategize and play mind games instead of showing value. Because they have no value they only have mind games aka romance …but not even romance anymore. Romance always included gifts etc. Broke men pedestalizing their attention wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?but if men choose women like their mothers and/or create a similar dynamic then how do they know what parts of that dynamic to disregard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?I still support a little bit of codependence because swapping chores is like an activity to do together and/or there is this thing about complimenting each other (vs supplement) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:24 AM |
| 4 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?It’s weird because even if a woman makes her own money, YOU being bad with money becomes a risk to her own. So just because or even if women work that doesn’t mean it changes the dynamics. We all want stable people regardless of who brings home the bread | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:22 AM |
| -1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?Women are doing the same thing though. All we need is AI and an app. The Know Thyself is the thing which should take the longest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:19 AM |
| 4 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?This is correct too because spiritually what is meant for you will find you but if the men are wanting the strategic slant then instinctually some things can be a turnoff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:19 AM |
| 0 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?If someone yells at you and you cry, I don’t mind your gender as long as you set boundaries with them moving forward to show yourself self-respect. There are lots of people in this world who don’t have that luxury though because for some reason people falsely believe they need ‘fuck you money’ before standing on business against abuse. There is always a new job, a new person, a new situation. You can stand on business against money because you’ll keep getting it somehow anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?Ok but if you are severely misled that has nothing to do with selfish desires. If your expectations are broken, promises are broken, etc that has nothing to do with setting unrealistic expectations unless it’s a reality check. Obviously expectations can be misunderstood but if someone is actively maliciously misleading you, no shame to cry about that to release that disappointment. If you’re more stoic you may not need to be not everyone is like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:13 AM |
| 6 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?I know that seems like it would make sense but trauma can be complex. There can be a deer in the headlights affect, shock effect where they are numb etc, could have been raised not to cry so there is conditioning it is all too complex. That’s why we are supposed to all be honest so we can trust words | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men should ever show emotion in front of a woman?Men haven’t categorized their emotions. They seem to lump pride, love, depression all in the same ‘showing emotions’ category. If you have not yet secured her and say you are afraid to lose her, she may test that theory sooner than later. Because that explanation is Extremely Vague. What exactly are you lacking and can/will it ever be acquired? If you are expressing love, pride and positive emotions obviously those wear well on you. If you are feeling sad or rejected (by her) she may even take p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 04:05 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Yet so clearly observable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 04:57 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?it makes sense how it could come off that way given the circumstances | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 04:57 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?there is zero spirituality in the moments and meaning of the day because it’s not about personal growth it’s about company vision aka control | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 04:56 AM |
| 1 | The sprinkle sprinkle movement is just a natural reaction to the rise in men adopting TRPIt seems more about how men have treated previous partners. If a person mistreats, it gives the green light to judge. Habits take 90 days to form. Should you really trust the player who says he is finally ready to settle down when the last time he had casual sex was also only two weeks ago? Probably not. We cannot discuss men as a whole. In reality we can only discuss specific men or women. Yes it is extremely capitalistic for me to now value saying ‘hi’ to any male stranger and giving him any t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 03:19 AM |
| 2 | The sprinkle sprinkle movement is just a natural reaction to the rise in men adopting TRP“women should still earn their own money to some extent and be able to be relatively self-sufficient, so that they can at least safely leave the relationship if things go south” I don’t believe this has anything to do with gold digging but more to do with the egalitarian aspect of men not having reached that point of pulling their own weight in being likable. The monetary compensation is more like an insurance policy against this risk. So yes maybe the man is immature, but at least he is traditi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 03:09 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Men jobs suck because first off they can’t do any self-discovery on a fixed schedule and that’s why they’re behind. A lot of things come down to timing and they can’t even plan their own timing themselves because the boss says when to have it done. It’s not about growth it’s about control. Your business model sucks. 99% of companies are running on debt. One person disconnected from the process making demands: an the ego trying to control a soul. So go ahead find your bad bitch who will deprive y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/24 06:03 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?No, women treat men first how women want to be treated themselves. Women then treat men how men are treating women. My guess is it’s because men hate themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/24 05:54 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I was under the impression that the male role was that men were providers, and if absolutely necessary for resources for survival that they are fighters either by way of arms or money If men are gonna aspire to be players then women will just all aspire to being bad bitches and breaking their hearts. What in the fuckup is this kind of gameplan | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/24 05:50 AM |
| 2 | Women harp endlessly about entitlement and men feeling “owed” but in reality most people expect to be able get someone similar to them in all areas and framing this as “entitlement” is a deflection from the real issueNor is it unreasonable for women who come from families who are not dirt poor to desire a man of similar upbringing. So let’s just segregate based on wealth class and women can spend their time chasing money instead of entertaining men they clearly are not on level with. 🫶🥂 Like what is Chad doing here anyway??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/24 05:43 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?becoming more attractive bro💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What do you believe about emotional availability?If you’re emotionally unavailable to the SO then why not just stay single. You could probably string them along without needing to marry if that’s your thing, and still gain financially But I guess combining finances etc might be a goal if you want to split it 50/50 upon leaving. Sounds like beta bux | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 03:33 PM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Your friend was ‘lured away’ from someone unattainable though, an ex who didn’t want them. I’m saying a different scenario: they have someone who they are in love with and wants them and then meet someone else as equally amazing. For Example: If you have ever been on a few first dates at the same time or talking to multiple people and you cannot choose who to date…Some people will say you must not like either. But what if really if just means you like both equally? And some people say well if yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 11:44 AM |
| 2 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I too have a lot of respect for women who stay with their sick husbands. As much respect as I have for men staying with their sick wives | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 11:40 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Same thing with intimacy. Just because someone wants to abstain doesn’t mean that they lack attraction etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:38 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Sorta wish I knew what the grace period was for most people needing a rebound. It’d be interesting to see if there is any correlation for how much the new person can be liked vs how long since the breakup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:36 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I mean it could be totally true that a rebound is Always needed but that wouldn’t stop me from finding it pathetic. Waiting it out until you find someone truly exceptional seems like an available alternative | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:29 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Have you hit up the gym? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:26 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?This is exactly the kind of response I am looking for. However I also believe that people can grow out of heartbreak without needing to find someone new first Do you believe it is necessary to grow out of the heartbreak or is a replacement simply just as good of an option? And what would your friend feel around someone else who they are really attracted to? Could he be lured away? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:24 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I could see truth in that but at the same time people can have psychological triggers that make them not want to do something (parents were married after dating for a long time then divorced soon after etc superstitions) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:17 AM |
| 2 | What do you believe about emotional availability?This is just loving someone unattainable. I suppose that could happen when you’re already in love? Is that different than settling? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:16 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Sounds like that has more to do with ego tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:13 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I have read it but since most pets are technically Stockholm Syndrome animals or held captive routinely it still doesn’t feel like the perfect dynamic. I am in favor of codependence though (just a tad) because I am not sure what an LTR is good for without it. Splitting chores, emotional labor, being Supplemental more than complimentary really | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:12 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Compatibility is why I support long talking stages. This really is at odds with the ‘struck by lightning’ theory though This seems like a stale mate. maybe the men can figure it out It seems that if he ‘wins’ she will fall for him. If she ‘wins’ he will fall for her. His ‘win’ likely means he is in the driver’s seat and intimacy happens sooner. Her win likely means she is in the driver’s seat and relationship development happens sooner. No one can really be promised monogamy on either side witho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 07:08 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?So I believe women ask for as much availability from men as they see other women offering them. Strong and fulfilling female friendships tend to have a lot of this WORK you are talking about. Think of the ways men support men. To be fair, what we can imagine is an Exchange. However men support you, ask your women to support you in that way too. If men do not support each other, maybe that is the root issue. Notice, women are still in competition with Each Other and yet STILL find ways to be supp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:57 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Can you explain what you mean by ‘afford’ to be picky? Do you mean just so if she distracts him substantially he won’t end up homeless whilst fantasizing about her for hours on end? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:50 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Largely I feel like it strikes you like lightning and everything else is bullshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:48 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?If you cannot be in love with a woman then you deserve to be treated like it is an employee employer dynamic, with all assumptions about competition and cheating included (though moonlighting should be rare, right?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:45 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?You can be dedicated to an employer but another company can approach you with a better offer. ‘Love’ is supposed to be that thing that goes ‘But my company hired me when no one else would and I am the backbone of this place!’ and make you stay due to integrity, without even asking for a raise. Because yes they hired you and though they can afford the raise now, you also get perks that no one else would get if you hadn’t come in when the company was still new. Any way you slice it, asking for a r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:42 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?That’s very dangerous though because if they are distracted easily then they can be distracted away from you easily. That needs to come into account when you are selecting a mate. If you select the most popular one then they will be the most distracted, without the same mechanisms you have for limiting your distraction. Suddenly the ‘best’ doesn’t look like the best anymore. What you are saying reminds me of how men tend to leave their sick wives. But there are some ‘good’ men that will stay. Wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:35 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Do you get with someone new easily if you are holding out hope for someone else from your past? Or are you just kinda using that person as a distraction but not fully moved on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:31 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Does that actually still work past high school? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:28 AM |
| 2 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I’ve done this also. It left them feeling betrayed but really I just wasn’t into them enough in the first place. I’m trying not to date anyone now unless it strikes me like lightning. really that’s the only way to go you can be unavailable and tell them that but if you keep in contact they might not believe you or might let themselves fall for you anyway but that can work out ok if you just wanna be friends I do believe that some relationships are not about romance, not meant to last or have to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:27 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?based. you don’t have to get married to fall in love. usually happens before that anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:20 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Even if he already thinks someone else is the one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:19 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?Actually I feel like this has more religious and traditional roots. Gentlemanly if you can say so: you would not want to mislead a woman you cannot take care for if she is looking to start a family. These days there is birth control and many alternative ways to live but I feel like the roots are more along the lines of being straightforward (which is respectable and still leaves you appearing attractive) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:13 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?So, the demand of commitment is actually about monogamy. The question here is about being in love and if that is truly unbreakable or not. There is no point to demand faithfulness if it is impossible but there is a point in demanding money as collateral. Ok so you say exploitation so it sounds like you don’t believe in falling in love in the first place. You are absolutely right, sex is an equivalent exchange. And men know that if they have to pay for it in any way then they are not meeting the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:08 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?But WHY are you this way. Is it because of a moral belief or is it because you are bonded to that person in a way that is unbreakable. And is it breakable once you’re out of the honeymoon phase? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:53 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I agree on your definition of emotional availability but I also believe some people are just shallow. And shallow people can still fall in love. So that’s why my question is broader and taking availability to mean able to fall in love. You could say it was just hormones and morality that makes them stick with someone but that’s my question | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:47 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I feel like you further explained the MUST get sorted out thing. I didn’t mean to make it sound like a preference if you interpreted that way. I guess it might make sense to try to ‘build with’ women that cross your paths until ready? I think many women will decline these days and build themselves up instead because it seems risky. I also think like the longer it takes a man to get ready, the more education, payments, necessities etc …that is all worrisome. After awhile it looks like the man is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:44 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I’m sorry, twitterpatted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:35 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I can see that. A couple 18-23 settling into buying a home. Sometimes it’s better a home than student loans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:33 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?That seems about right as far as the age brackets. I’ve always heard men get the marriage itch at 25. If they haven’t been married at least once past 35 it’s either suspicious or unfortunate imo. The data about college is at odds with being settled financially; I imagine as a fresh graduate they may have student loans. I assume the marriage rate is declining? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 05:31 AM |
| 1 | What do you believe about emotional availability?I’m not sure if it should be discussion or debate but I chose debate because I offered multiple possibilities to be debated (and also open to new) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 07:20 AM |
| 2 | What does PPD make of this "soft guy era"? Drizzle Drizzle🍆hard. 🐈soft. It doesn’t tend to work the other way around. I have a hard time believing most men Actually are biologically and naturally attracted to scary and hardened women. It is more likely the fear response (which sits close next to arousal) on the emotional scale of things. This response likely can manipulate a man into being with a woman, being her captive etc but when a naturally feminine women is with a naturally masculine man it does Not feel like captivity, even for the woman. (when … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 06:38 AM |
| 3 | “try on hauls” are just ways for women to show pornographic videos to minors on youtube. This is the same as men flashing their dicks in front of kids. These women should be on sex offender lists and thrown in jail.I recently saw a Marshalls ad on tiktok with a woman going from underwear to putting on a dress. I know underwear is like a bikini but it just feels out of place…is the effect supposed to be like I peeped into her window and watched them dressing? It makes me uncomfortable watching strangers get dressed feels awkward/cringe as fuck | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 02:43 PM |
| -2 | Men with attractive (guy)friends, how easy those friends have it with women ?I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but this just sounds unrealistic for higher ed. Women at that level probably aren’t going crazy over sloppy seconds. The rule of thumb tends to be don’t date multiples in the same friend group | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 03:16 AM |
| 0 | If promiscuous women are so low value, why would you still want to have sex with them?Okay but with the women’s sexual liberation movement, casual sex was advertised as fun and explorative. If a woman gets to choose who she is with, that’s fun. If she has no skills to make another human like her, she may use sex as begging to be liked. The man, who may bring himself to the point of begging if he has no seduction skills, also has self-esteem issues because he feels he has to beg for sex. Men have a tendency to call every promiscuous woman low value because they assume she has low … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/24 03:58 PM |
| 5 | If promiscuous women are so low value, why would you still want to have sex with them?If women are happier single and studies show married men live longer then why would you think commitment something that should be won from men? Sounds like it is earned from women, just like sex. When women have a low bar for sex and commitment, that’s when they start begging a man or complaining why they’re fucking for 6 years with no ring. She could easily leave but she keeps herself stuck in that situation with her low standards. You could assume that a women who has a low bar for sex might a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/24 03:47 PM |
| 1 | What is happening to men? I am concernedMen cannot set their own sexual expectations in the relationship but women can. A woman having a job is like a man cheating. So I guess the men can cheat to meet their needs…but that doesn’t tend to go over well. Women who use their own money in marriages aren’t immediately divorced and cheating is viewed as worse than working. Cheating breaks the marriage contract. And because men are so Adverse to making a fair arrangement and Spelling Out what financial perks the woman will be getting (becaus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/24 07:43 AM |
| 1 | What is happening to men? I am concernedWhen men speak up, their voices are often hushed because a lot of women are now setting the standards of the relationship. Even if the man pursues, he still has to make concessions. The reason could be as simple as rape being illegal. However, men want sex so badly that they have not yet calibrated themselves to balance this out in their relationship with the finances they offer the woman. Meanwhile, women are making their own money and men cannot ‘make’ their own sex. Because money actually doe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/24 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerWould you be willing to be hired for those things also? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | She has to like you moreSo this is so much to unpack and more complicated than it seems. If she is sexually attracted to you, it is more like being benched. You can still get in the game. You’re on the bench. The friend zone most men seem to describe it is the hell of being a sexually unattractive orbiter. You will never play. Some women DO NOT KNOW THEMSELVES if you are on their bench or in their friend zone. Simply because the bench was never named. It’s hard to tell if someone will play the game if they are benched.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerhe said he’s get nannies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 01:59 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.I already told you whoever invites pays. Why should someone want to go out with you. You offer to buy them lunch so you can get to know each other. I can’t believe you’re still not getting it. And if you do already know each other, you offer to show you like them. As a female I don’t ask men out. If I do, I should pay. Would I pay for my ex bosses meal? sure if I invited. though he’d probably pick up the check. It’s courtesy. If I know a man and like him and he finally asks me out, I still expec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerDoes that include payment for being a nanny? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerHe’s not making a choice with his body to either carry or be present with the kids. He wants to donate sperm and have nannies. It’s closer to your fluids your choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partner❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnernot so strange if women are getting sperm donors. While I don’t yet desire my own biological children (not sure if I ever will) I have been around kids and they can be fun | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerFor taxes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerOh no no no no 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnermaybe he is planning they will care for him when he is old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerWhy doesn’t he just be a sperm donor? Is he too short? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerExactly. Depending on logistics and style, the sex life can be so diminished with children around. It’s a lifestyle choice. However some people simply do not care and will let their kids be traumatized. It’s sick but nothing the law can do about it technically is there? I’d rather be childfree personally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 09:09 AM |
| 1 | Using surrogates and egg donors to have kids instead of with a romantic partnerHe has a point if he is going for prostitutes. What makes you think a busy mom is going to be on tap for sex anyway? I’d assume women and childless women are they ones giving the sex and a reason why men cheat. especially not being able to afford a nanny? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 08:58 AM |
| 2 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Bro. You can’t afford a second mouth to feed. What gold is there? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 08:54 AM |
| 2 | Why do guys stay in the friendzone if they know they're in it?Stacey can do it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 08:48 AM |
| 2 | Why do guys stay in the friendzone if they know they're in it?Women who think longterm and suppress their tingles will literally see if they can be good friends first. If he can treat you well as a friend then he deserves so much more. If all men are shitty friends then they can pay for it. Please note sexual attraction needs to be present from the get-go | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 08:46 AM |
| 2 | How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly?Let’s not make it a gender thing. Some people give a lot of warning signs that the relationship is failing and a lot of chances to fix it. Unfortunately a lot of partners seem to only pay attention to how their person feels dissatisfied once the person leaves. Others who do try to fix things often use bandaid approaches and never get to the real root of the problem so the partner still continues to be worn down and driven away anyway. Because the partner didn’t get upset and leave as soon as the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 07:48 AM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Operating costs of human biology are also built into the price of food. Some women state up front that they will not go 50/50. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 07:32 AM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.ok have fun | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 07:25 AM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.I can see how you might not have bought them food before dating if you got to know them in person in close proximity. I’d expect after getting intimate you order takeout or something ? you’d probably be an item at that point. That is the point, ask someone out that you know and would be ok paying for because you already value the friendship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Consequences for high status menthis is what women mean when they say men don’t know what they want. If you can’t say kids and the family is less of a win than multiple parties and partners then how can you say he did worse? Is happiness your actual happiness of diverse experience (not sad bartending) or is your happiness reproducing (had kids) because if the bigger win is kids, then Chad won. if it is partying forever then your friends won. if it is happy companionship then no one won? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 01:14 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.I guess I don’t see why you wouldn’t have already gone out during the getting to know them phase before hooking up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 01:07 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.or until after you like them enough to buy them food which we would expect for most people happens sometime before sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 12:16 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Do you personally have any loans or credit cards? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 12:09 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.You can’t argue equality when the market supply and demand is different. There is no rationalizing the percieved ‘injustice’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 12:07 PM |
| 2 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Would you like her to bring another man as collateral? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 12:05 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Superficial is asking someone out on a date when you’re not even sure if you like them enough to pay for a meal😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 12:02 PM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.you are delusional. a prostitute cost more than a meal and not offering to pay when you invite someone out is super petty unless they understand you have a poor financial situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:56 AM |
| 3 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Would you have preferred to pay instead of feeling embarrassed about that probably being why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:53 AM |
| 2 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.This could just as easily read 30% of women went on bad dates. They gave a guy a chance because they were hungry but in the end the food was better than he was | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:51 AM |
| 2 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.The entire ‘meal ticket’ idea I feel was invented by men. Many women may think ‘oh I’ll go out with him just for the food’ but it’s more with an added ‘and give him a chance’ Getting her to the table gives the man a chance to make an impression. When he does that, she’s no longer there just for the food. If he doesn’t believe he Can make a good impression, then why is he even going out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:49 AM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.I just had a thought~ wouldn’t the more effective strategy be to ask the man to pay the bill before the food arrives? Like the date is just starting, maybe you’re just sitting down. Then you could say something along the lines of how you’re really hungry but low on cash, how you’d love to stay for the date but you cannot pay, maybe suggest they be a gentleman. Then, if the response is positive, then I think it’s fair you stay. But if the man starts talking about 50/50 I think it’s fair you leave… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:43 AM |
| 0 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.Is asking you to pay .001% of the electricity and water of the restaurant on your bill really that big of a deal? It’s important that it’s not given that the restaurant always pays otherwise it will result in patrons staying for many hours and the restaurant being taken advantage of. Sure, the owner can pay if they want, but that should be completely their decision. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:36 AM |
| 0 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.If equality was the social truth then the land would be fairly split among the people of the Earth. It’s not. And when the lower classes act in this ‘good faith’ all it does is make them more vulnerable to being taken advantage of by the upper class which has no such problems such as bickering over a petty bill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:32 AM |
| 2 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.It’s not dating that is the problem, it’s capitalism. Truly rich men have no problem paying for the date. However, since there seems to be no escape from the economic situation, the lower classes have to spin it politically to make themselves feel better about the situation. As long as women can be convince that it’s mutually fun, the men won’t have to fight a civil war. Realistically, not making enough money to pay for one extra mouth to feed is very telling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:12 AM |
| 1 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.One solution is to stop asking strangers on dates. Wait until you meet someone you like enough to buy dinner. Shocking idea, I know | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:07 AM |
| 0 | The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates.These men never want children or deep conversations and intuitive insights which might help with business, family or interpersonal relationships either right? Just making sure the women aren’t being used either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:02 AM |
| 2 | Consequences for high status menDefinitely a lack of education of the subject. not even any home ec classes anymore | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Consequences for high status menWhat is the goal of your game though? I am getting mixed messages. Are kids or is sex with multiple the bigger win? Companionship where you are monogamous seems like it’s not a goal at all? Is there a quota of ‘had sex with this many’ to reach before you want to be monogamous ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 04:59 AM |
| 5 | Consequences for high status menWhere you are hooking up does not change the definition of hooking up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Consequences for high status menSo you’re saying Chad actually ended up losing in the end | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Consequences for high status menSo nowhere in there did you mention a loving relationship with a woman. even though a woman is required to make kids | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:52 AM |
| 4 | Consequences for high status menWhat is preventing them from wanting solid foundations then if they know this? Or do they just not realize it until it’s almost too late? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Consequences for high status mencan happen if he is not in proximity when she ripens for him and she is suffering economically. or if she just generally just doesn’t give af at all and will hoe around whenever on a whim. So if he is with another girl or has a business meeting etc etc then sure he will miss out. Also we have to assume that the hookup culture contributes to less relationship tolerance in general so his girl might also cheat. in fact a woman might not even decide to date seriously at all so if he is looking for a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad or good idea to display any real emotional issue or vulnerability in a relationship?I have read that treating someone like a pet is one of the closest things to unconditional love so I guess it is creepy depending only if you are dating with power dynamics otherwise perhaps it’s protective | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Is it a bad or good idea to display any real emotional issue or vulnerability in a relationship?Vulnerability typically happens when 1. you are trying to improve your weakness by showing every piece of your armor 2. you are trying to prove your trust by taking down your walls Most people these days seem to date using power dynamics however: push pull, and ‘who cares the least’ methods. This is not a friendship, longterm or team-oriented dynamic (1.) in which you can help improve each other. No matter how much they think it might be. It is a dysfunctional dynamic therefore any vulnerability… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/24 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Value OfferingsDo you not feel a natural and instinctual drive to protect women and therefore be close to (cohabitate or neighbors) your female partners? If the female is on her period in pain you want nothing to do with it but you want women to go through even more pain to birth your children? Women have already had this offer. They dislike it. And do you consider the woman’s happiness and how the mood of the mother will impact your children? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Value OfferingsSo instead of my suggestion of ‘treat them as good or better than where they came from’ you want to do contracts. It sounds like you are looking for a loophole. Instead of jumping to treating them as good or better, you are positioning yourself as available with an offer which could be better or worse and the woman partakes if she likes it. This is not much different than what is already happening. And woman are saying they don’t like the offer. So now your dream woman is definitely not interest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Value Offeringswhat is your definition then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 07:54 AM |
| 0 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?your butt must hurt pretty bad huh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Value OfferingsSo if you read the entire post men who reproduce and don’t pay child support were mentioned | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/24 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?Yes that is clear. But men can change it if they can offer something better than her current circumstances, with the promise of actual safety. Male monogamy also falls under safety because women don’t want STDs. Men have to be invested in women for women to have that safety. However men see this as a weakness and look for ‘discounts’ and gullible women instead. Women too are now seeing ‘falling in love’ as weakness rather than security. Since men have removed their investment, women have removed… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?So you’re saying you bought a $40k piece of land to do bushcraft or is this in moms back yard | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?Multiple men do that sir. Should we fuck all of them or just the men who own the companies of the men who do all that stuff? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?Why do you have to do bush craft when we live in the modern era? Are you building the house with your bare hands? If so, good on you and keep at it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 04:28 AM |
| 0 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?nothing and they know it. they know their argument isn’t valid. It’s a part of their audacity these days | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?So a man can be useful maximum 9 months to 3 or 4 years while the mom recovers. Then mother works to support herself and baby when his usefulness has apparently run out because the mom can do stuff again now so he suddenly becomes incompetent right? If not outright jealous of the baby and incompetent long before this. And when that child grows they have a home with the mother or inheritance from the mother all thanks to the man leaving. and the government helping to legalize that. And so these g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s?Right. Because 1. Have you seen the video of the woman getting kidnapped at a gas station when she ran to a male customer who did nothing to stop it? and it is usually the partner doing it? 2. if provisions are meals his mother cooks or fast food …ok? and if a female wants better she has to work or make it herself unless she married foreign. So providing a free place to stay? Where? not in a house he owns in this economy. So unless he has Chad or Beta Bux money this only matter if she doesn’t ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 04:14 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about the fact that women are encouraged to do things in relationships that men aren't?like they should get on their knees for dinner and every day is fish friday don’t pay attention to me I’m only responding to post titles now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/24 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Do women have a wall for men but they are too embarrassed to admit it?the wall is between 25 and roughly old enough to be my parent. 5 years out from parent age it starts to get creepy edit: sorry I meant the wall is down between there. may as well be up right now though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 07:08 AM |
| – | FUCK THIS PLACEunless it’s a fucking sparring match | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 09:11 AM |
| – | FUCK THIS PLACEthis anger sounds young. like from one of those things you stop caring about when you get older. part of growing up. btw letting the usually-physically-weaker sex off the hook for a sucker punch isn’t going to smear your record | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 09:09 AM |
| – | FUCK THIS PLACEso you’ve been mad for a really long time it seems because you were hit by a girl and it hurt. justifiable. if it happens again it seems that reporting her with the chance it might be turned around on you …would still be better than doing nothing and being angry for a long time like this after. also if she was going to turn it around on you she could have just reported you with nothing even happening, or hit you and report you for it as well. you can’t control what others do and you can control … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/24 09:04 AM |
| – | I think before anything, The system of men chasing and women choosing needs to changeThe incentive for her to choose has just become more expensive. Now you have to out-earn her and bring more peace and fun to her life than she could have at a job and being single. Women are the closest thing to god on this planet: their bodies literally create new lifeforms. Eons ago women were worshipped and societies were matriarchal because of this. Women are usually stripped of their goddess energy when in relationships with men, often being put in the mother role to children if not to the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?Not necessarily. Some people don’t have great parents. And even so, when there is a disagreement there isn’t that strong of a make-up phase like there is with couples. Romantic relationships and life partners are closer than relationships with parents. financially a woman can still live for free with a man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/24 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?It makes sense if you both have an activity that is timed perfectly to be the same amount of time. Also the first person dropped off doesn’t have to park | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?My comment was meant for ‘lets go shopping together’ as an activity strolling down the aisles | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?If you can afford to live on your own, sure. But in this economy in many cities it would be better to have a spouse than a random roommate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?And you’re blue pill. Sounds like a win | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?Typically errands get done faster when one person is doing them. People tend to slow each other down on errands. Hard times, yes, but more generally yes Edit: this comment was meant to refer to shopping as a couple activity where you look for items together. especially if one is the golden retriever type | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe life is generally easier as a single person?No. Life with a spouse is easier in terms of privacy and even if there are cons, there are more pros to having a spouse vs a roommate since there’s more intimacy. Partners are more expectant of each other than roommates and also feel more indebted to one another. The greater closeness makes a greater desire for agreement. Intimacy is a shared effort so it is never ‘I give them intimacy’ and it is more ‘We share intimacy’ The load does not increase until you bring children into the picture. Perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:57 AM |
| 1 | The fact that the rest of Reddit thinks PPD is “toxic” shows how messed up things are rnI have noticed on this sub in particular that there is not much upvoting or downvoting either way. Makes me feel almost wrong to vote And I feel like that’s because each voice is important. Who is anyone to anyone else to raise or lower a voice here? Everyone here has their own eyes to read any or all comments and make their own deductions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Women in their thirties are way better than many women in their twentiesThis will always be the case because each generation learns new things and specifically women learning how they were being abused, taken advantage of, groomed etc. Older women are the older generation and many may still not know any better, especially if they aren’t on social media. Also, social media tends to skew what it shows based on age anyway However, unless the woman is like...really really old, she probably doesn’t wanna be your sugar momma. Women in their 30s are looking for established… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:33 AM |
| – | Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debateWear all the protection take all the pills and get all the vaccines | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 05:14 AM |
| 3 | Debate: free romantic love has failedIt works if there is time for it. It works if you’re a student, if you’re unemployed, if your part time, if you have a trust fund, if you’re a millionaire, billionaire, centillionaire. you need time to have fun dating apps can work but again you need lots of free time. Women want to meet real men too. It’s not just all about validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 04:11 AM |
| 5 | Debate: free romantic love has failedYou know you love a person romantically when you only want to talk with and focus that area of your life on them and with them. Once you love someone, you don’t really unlove them. When you fall out of love really it just means you don’t like them anymore. When you say you don’t love them anymore really it’s more like saying they’re no longer a good influence for you. You can’t take back being vulnerable with someone. A part of you will always love them I can’t imagine being married to someone y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 04:00 AM |
| 9 | Debate: free romantic love has failedThis. I will however agree to be engaged without being ‘in love’ if I love them platonically and believe I will be falling in love shortly after. I believe ‘in love’ is infatuation usually trigger by physical intimacy and if everything else is good across the board I don’t see how this wouldn’t just naturally happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 03:55 AM |
| 3 | Debate: free romantic love has failedRomantic love works. People are more self-aware these days so not all the same tricks work, and they don’t make meaningful connections as frequently. The largest reason romantic love feels like it is failing right now is because we are post-covid. People are not going out as much anymore. The economy needs to be stimulated, really the culture needs to be stimulated. More artists need to go on tour, at lower cost so everyone can afford concerts. Landlords need to either lower the rents, file bank… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Should paternity tests be mandatory?Obligatory like how the hospital takes foot print stamps when a baby is born. Should be easy to do a rapid paternity test before assigning paternity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Should paternity tests be mandatory?This should legitimately so be easy. It should be required before the mans name goes on the birth certificate. I’m not sure why it hasn’t been signed into law yet...I think because the risks for violence if the tests comes back not a match | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 03:30 AM |
| 0 | Should paternity tests be mandatory?I’m in favor of testing but it should be a rapid test that gets thrown out so no dna is on record. It should be environmentally friendly, made of biodegradable plastic or something. Also in favor of couples routinely getting std testing to also ensure hygiene. There’s no way to test for cheating but at the very least you can try not to catch something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debatetrust doesn’t matter if it’s no strings ...I thought that was the point. They could be doing whatever with anyone and you’re taking that risk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 01:02 AM |
| 5 | What Makes You a Top 1% Woman for a Top 1% Man?Exactly. This question is only mindgames. As men, they should be saying what they want not asking what they can have. They only ask like this when they’ve been denied what they want in the past. It’s coming off like their standards are not equivalent with what they themselves have to offer since they’ve obviously been previously rejected ...or like they think they are selling themselves short. This gives me a headache. It’s fundamentally flawed because men are not the ‘sellers’. The ‘buyer’ in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 03:08 AM |
| 12 | Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debatenot true. He can still have no strings relationship with women who also want no strings. The untrusting men and women can date and get out of the way of everyone else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debateThe first part is true. If a girl gets a lot of attention, she gets sicks of it. Men throw themselves at her, strangers ask if they can buy her things, men make jokes about giving her their credit cards. The more it is available to her, the less she cares about it. She’s probably not even accepting the offers because usually those men want a phone number and will leave angry voicemails if she never gives anything in return for their gifts. If you don’t treat her well then you can bet on her jump… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Men need to stop being so thirsty.That’s a good point. Video games would be more interesting with more realistic characters | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Men need to stop being so thirsty.Know what sounds better? Everyone who knows about the pills just stop reproducing. Eventually the pilled kind will go extinct and humanity gets a fresh start | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Men need to stop being so thirsty.Men don’t have the balls to callout poor behavior because they are too afraid of the woman leaving. Ironically standing up for yourself makes the relationship better/stronger and should make the woman less likely to leave because she learns to respect you. She can’t know she’s hurting you if you never say anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 07:18 PM |
| – | Debate The importance off social skills is absolutely underrated in modern men.Andrew tate is loud, opinionated and annoying. none of which is endearing or funny. the only clips I have seen of him feature him loudly complaining. Smooth talked do not complain like this. Actually it gives off feminine energy that he thinks he is the prize. I feel like men are trying to define charisma in their own terms between ‘bros’ and not the way that has been admired for centuries by women. Real charisma is a mix of a gentle quiet seduction with being a leader and somewhat loud when nee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 06:17 PM |
| 1 | If you are currently unsatisfied with your romantic/relationship prospect, what is your next play for 2024?Attraction can’t really be negotiated. Sometimes it grows with time but if the attractiveness gap is too large between the two of you then it’s impossible. I don’t know how to explain without using numbers: I could see a physically fit and confident 5 or 6 pulling an 8 but any gap larger than that is something I assume is being paid for I have thought about that too! Working on being someone who someone I’m attracted to would like...but I’m honestly not sure , at some point it just feels fruitle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 03:01 AM |
| – | Why are ambiguous friendships and unreciprocated feelings causing so much uproar?Do I believe two people can be sexually attracted to each other and not have sex? Yes. Do I believe two people can turn off their sexual attraction for each other? No. I would prefer a friends-to-lovers relationship, given the choice. These types of relationships tend to be stronger and last longer and I am always interested in learning about what works. I also believe in queer platonic relationships and different variables of attraction; emotional, physical, sexual, romantic or intellectual. It… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Everything about the current dating scene makes it far more likely for sexually successful men to become unempathetic and leave women emotionally hurtThe only reason this works is because those women falsely believe you have better options since you’re writing her off so much. By chance, you might get more than one woman to fall for this at a time and so it is a ‘fake it til you make it’ strategy. However, if there are no other women around and it becomes obvious you’re a jerk with no reason to be, she will eventually catch on. Not to mention the women falling for this in the first place have self-esteem issues that are bound to manifest as d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 03:55 AM |
| 2 | If you are currently unsatisfied with your romantic/relationship prospect, what is your next play for 2024?The ‘want what you can’t have’ seems to be a theme in modern dating. If it’s the only reason someone wants you, it’s not a very good reason as they’ll lose interest as soon as you’re available. I feel like dating should be more blue pilled. Despite what men say about not liking women with lots of male friends, those are the women they will get jealous about. They’ll try to lock you in so they can take up more of your time and stop you from meeting with friends as much. Once you’re attached they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 03:44 AM |
| 0 | Women generally don't consider a mans potential, and this is causing unhealthy imbalances in the dating marketFalse. A smart woman finds some way to secure the promise of commitment before having sex. Whether that means talking about marriage, actually getting engaged, or actually already being married. Pregnancy and emotional attachment making her feel volatile is a threat to her already delicate peace, considering being a woman comes with monthly hell already sans bc. Consider also that so many men don’t want to let down their mask until married. They change or claim things will change once married. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 05:14 AM |
| – | "The Wall" Another look at the idea and what it really means for men.Basic biological reasoning. You act like men can smell this out or something. They can’t. I even read a post once where a man said he went on an amazing date with an asian woman and loved everything about her. He thought she was early 30s. She ended up being 45 or something. He got upset because he maybe wanted kids but fact is he Could Not Tell by looking at her. If she keeps in shape they are attracted just the same. It’s just a mental thing with men if they want kids | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 04:57 AM |
| – | "The Wall" Another look at the idea and what it really means for men.If you ever come down on hard times, the lambo insurance will be too much, not to mention the poor gas mileage. You won’t be able to fit anything in it if you have to move, it isn’t really built for newborns, kids, family fun anything. It’s more like a mistress than a wife really, maybe a sugar baby. And yeah it’s racking miles but it’s not doing that too efficiently and the seats aren’t broken in if you buy new so it’s kinda uncomfortable The civic, on the other hand, is rumored to be the most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 04:47 AM |
| – | "The Wall" Another look at the idea and what it really means for men.So is it safe to assume this is a relationship of wholesome celibacy since you want to be ‘daddy’ in the bedroom 🤢 Disagree that women sound 16 at 30. Maybe when women we’ren’t as educated but these days they’re grown. Plus if women are 16 at 30 then men are 12 since we also say women mature faster | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 04:30 AM |
| 1 | What can autistic guys do to not make women feel like predators?disagree. autistic men can seem childish and child-like when they don’t get out enough. If she has to tell you that dangerous people who do XYZ Exist or teach you street smarts then she is not getting the tingles. The same applies for any other inexperienced human being appearing naive but since autistics interact less with NTs and tend to stay alone alot, they carry some of these traits into their 30s Also men don’t feel weird about autistic women probably because men are accustomed to women kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?nice excuse for banging adolescents 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱 maybe you can tell the cops it was because she’s hot when you find out she’s not actually the age of consent & I guess you’re also justifying that men deserve this young poon because most of you are just sooooo healthy over 35 years of age? 😂 just look outside and you know that’s not true. How about leave the young ladies to the young fellas and try to connect enough brain cells to captivate a woman your own age Also: https://www.newscientist.com/article… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/23 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Men are the romantics. Right. That’s why they want to snag women below the age 25 so they can groom the way she uses logic. Not opportunistic at all right 🥱 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/23 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Anxious person getting close=avoidant trigger Avoidant getting far=anxious trigger imo since they each trigger each other they’re both to blame for not taking themselves off the market until they sort themselves out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Anxious person getting close=avoidant trigger Avoidant getting far=anxious trigger imo since they each trigger each other they’re both to blame for not taking themselves off the market until they sort themselves out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?sister ☹️. thx | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?It was a joke I couldn’t resist. While we’re here can you tell me which square the white horse is on? ♟ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?and I’m tired of eating here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?National Source used by Medical Doctors: “ Brain maturation during adolescence (ages 10–24 years) could be governed by several factors, as illustrated in Figure 1. It may be influenced by heredity and environment, prenatal and postnatal insult, nutritional status, sleep patterns, pharmacotherapy, and surgical interventions during early childhood. “ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3621648/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Women definitely want romantic love and that is what they will give you when you become their husband. Women do not want to romantically love a dusty First off do not talk to me like that shut your disgusting mouth. Men that use the O word and be explicit talking to strangers are some next level type of creep. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 Your parents taught you NOTHING. Parents, society, all FAILED HERE You think femdoms will display themselves and that is hilarious. No bum, you are looking for a CAM girl. Femdoms wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?If they are pressuring then the man doesn’t want them. I would say that women interested in marriage suggest it or mention it then it’s up to the man. Younger men 25+ know what they want and when. Their cab light goes on and they will tell you they’re dating for marriage. Those men will definitely bring it up...most are not dumb enough to pop the question without warning | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?just about to ask that. unless they were married before | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?You must be older since you have kids but trust no early 20-something women wants to play mommy. maybe some 30 something women or women with their own kids already | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?If women took this same view that men don’t love them then they would go on birth control, date older (and for money) meanwhile marriage and humanity may as well expire...unless the marriage is solely to acquire capital in divorce...at which point why do you need marriage? just ask for gifts In fact women may as well go into financial domination roles over men. Women are happier single than men so why not abuse the higher market value? Men want women more than women want men, on average. If a ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?This is why divorce exists when couples don’t learn how to keep the relationship afloat. At least your kids might visit and care for you when you’re old | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?I think this is where men are screwing themselves over. If they drop a woman the moment she turns 25 then they will themselves never mature past that age and never learn how to keep a woman longterm. If he does that well into his 50s now it’s like teaching an old dog new tricks. At 60 he’ll be too tired to learn how to meet women's emotional needs and since doing the bare minimum kept them around before he won’t see the point. If he wants women without knowing how to play the game and keep a rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 01:59 AM |
| -1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Leo dates under 25. The women’s frontal lobes aren’t even fully developed and probably makes them easy to manipulate. It’s legal but creepy. If a ‘blank canvas’ is the way to finding lasting love then Leo should have succeeded with the first early 20 something he dated. So it either takes going through a few of them to learn what he wants or what he wants IS to go through them and drop them when they age. The only women who are going to go for that pattern of behavior are younger women looking t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?I imagine a decent partner would ask for a divorce instead of cheating but maybe that’s only more likely before having kids. I can see how many would rationalize that cheating is better than divorce ‘for the kids’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 01:39 AM |
| 0 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?if you are already having premarital sex then why not just have a few guys on rotation to get your needs met? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:51 AM |
| 8 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?I think they call this outsourcing labor | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?🔥love this. a commitment-minded woman pays mind to a commitment-minded man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Opinions and anecdotes are relevant when matters cannot yet be deduced holistically or statistically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:46 AM |
| 0 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Not true. Their taxi light goes on and then they date to marry. Men are also traditionally the ones to propose so they are the pursuers of commitment, which is wild as they also guard it. Pursue her and guard her I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?This is true. Taxi-light theory | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:40 AM |
| 17 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?A younger woman will still be interested in the transactional nature of something with an older man. Even the most gullible woman will still figure in she at least will learn some life hacks if he has nothing else to offer. Older men are more mature, but younger women fail to realize it’s not the kind of maturity they once assumed. Men seem to mature in their careers faster than their personal lives. The only reason younger women tend to come off as more fun is because they don’t plan or see a f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?your tea is tepid. I think he wants the tea hot. his tea is cold and flabby.may as well be jello | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:17 AM |
| 12 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?Men and women are not the same. I think everyone needs to write the about 100 times | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:13 AM |
| 6 | Is dating just depressing in the 30s or what?If you are an enthusiastic worker and feel good about your job or how you live life then you will enjoy talking about it. If it feels like an interview, ask yourself: Why am I such a Boring interviewee? If conversation is sUcH a HaSsEL or that being asked about your life feels forced then maybe you should change your life first before dating. Almost everyone is guilty of needing change at some point. People had baggage coming into their first relationships anyways. More and more people growing u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 04:08 AM |
| – | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?They won’t technically be alone. And literally this poster went from ‘life sucks so much I don’t even care about my bank account if I don’t have anybody!!!🥺🥺🥺’ to ‘I CARE TOO MUCH ABOUT MY MONEY YOU WON’T DRAIN ME!🤬🤬🤬’ So it’s not even clear where their emotions are because you suggest a solution and they change their mind. Okay, stay stuck in your sucky cycle then I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 04:12 AM |
| – | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?So you’re not alone? That seemed to be the reason you didn’t care about your bank account | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:26 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?It’s almost worldwide accepted that love is a giving energy. The definition of love is to share and to give. People world-over worship the idea of someone who will love them selflessly and unconditionally. While that may not be totally healthy it still emphasizes the desire for love that is giving. No one mentioned disabilities but if you can’t understand this idea then maybe you can find someone else to help you work through it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:24 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?What I heard was Men have always been transactional, callous, and unable to love outside certain contexts. I just love how, with the advent of the modern flavor of masculism and the internet, we have the receipts now. Men largely do not want an average woman. They do not find most women attractive. They largely do not date down in looks. They are the overwhelming initiators of dead bedrooms to get nurturing and love or spin plates. Something about higher divorce rates as gay men which has nothin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:18 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?If I personally value what men have to offer then I see no problem with that as long as men have a lot to offer. 🙂 If men don’t have much to offer women then that speaks poorly about men anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:07 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?It’s pretty cut and dry actually. “A woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient.” “20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient.“ “Why men leave a sick spouse can be partly explained by their lack of ability, compared to women, to make more rapid commitments to being caregivers to a sick partner and women's better ability to assume the burdens of maintainin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:01 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Based. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:40 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Are men not valuable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:39 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?I feel like this only applies for men. Studies show men tend to leave women when they are sick meanwhile women tend to stay. This calls into question the depth of love that men are capable of. They claim to love women so deeply but it looks like that’s only when she is young and healthy. I believe this difference in how men love is why their actions must be trusted more than their words. Their track record is their actions/money. Men can be selfish too: desiring to receive deep connection to wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:36 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Desperate men will always cave but since a woman probably isn’t looking for a desperate man, it won’t last if she wants someone she feels something for as a partner. You can’t really be in love with someone who is desperate for you. Men need to hold off on some benefits until it’s monogamous. In that way, provisions will be a bit uncommon. All men need to agree on withholding the same provisions though because otherwise all bets are off. Honestly as a woman I shouldn’t even argue for this and ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:26 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Same. Only care what a man can offer me not what he can offer the world. What this means though is that a man improving the world for women specifically would be more attractive than a man improving it for other men or the world in general | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:05 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?I said world values not personal morals. If he wants to dedicate his life to restoring old boats and starts a business foundation for that but she is not crazy about the beach, just not her vibe, are you saying they can’t be a couple? What happened to accepting that people have different interests or opposites attract? Sometimes even couples that have similar goals still don’t work as a couple so she shouldn’t have to fangirl or even partake in his obsessions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:04 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?This makes sense at least. Each man has different value to the woman based on what he is willing to give | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:00 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Valuing the worth of people means you are a social creature who values people over things. What makes you valuable is what you do and give to others, not what you give and do for yourself. If you can’t give and do for women as a man then YOU are the Selfish One | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:54 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Because the women who ‘think he’s cute and interesting’ and ‘want to grow with him’ end up getting used. Once women realize they are not getting anything more out of relationships that they could give themselves, besides sex, they start to view it more transactionally. Why stay with a man who cannot offer the same level of nurturing as you or who simply offers nothing at all? Women you date is not your mother | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:52 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?but only males have a lifetime of killing kittens shooting from the hip | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:47 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?That sounds dangerous because now if women vote what if fangirls vote in warmongers because they wanna see who wins to fantasize about having his babies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:45 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Where is the straw? If being worthless is the only way to be good as you make it sound then maybe being worth something results in being bad. If being good is worth something then you cannot call it worthless | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:43 PM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?You must’ve had some sh*tty roommates. If you live with good friends there is all that stuff minus sex and if sex is the only thing a man has to offer then he will be viewed as a tool | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Is money really that important when it comes to relationships?Because women are instilled with being the nurturers which plays into caring for feelings of others. And men are instilled with being financial providers and handy men. A woman can be a nurturer no matter how much money she is making. A man however didn’t get instilled with that skill so if he isn’t providing financially, he can’t just wake up and be a great nurturer instead. So basically if you cannot offer any skill or provisions or gifts to the woman but she can still offer you nurturing then… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?sounds like time to find someone who cares about your bank account | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?projects can be a way for a couple to connect. I wouldn’t jump to assuming no connection I would think more connection is there if anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:22 AM |
| 1 | What is the worth of a man?I would value the above as a platonic roommate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:18 AM |
| -1 | What is the worth of a man?only bad persons have value. got it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low ValueI don’t think of it as narcissism...like entitlement and an unpleasant attitude. I feel like men use the term high maintenance as if it’s women who have some kind of ill-will like you say...users. Put bluntly if she is not being physically affectionate then she is using. That’s the number 1 sign imo but since some women put out I’d say not making you cute little gifts or baking or showing appreciation in other ways then yeah you get the drift, it’s give and take. There is a difference between be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 04:10 AM |
| 0 | Giving Chances is Low Valuedid this block a comment? just send it to me in braille, the automod won’t see | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low ValueThis rings true but I still want to argue with it. Would you fault the women in this case? Because if she already knew of the shortcomings, she already Agreed to them. I mean, depending on what stage the relationship is at (monogamy, marriage etc) I see women get lazy and say ‘but my man is xyz!’ and I can’t help but think...’but you picked that’ So is there perhaps the ‘other things’ which made up for it are either being taken for granted or have fallen by the wayside? edit: women complain the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low ValueGiven that selective mutism is also a thing, how do you know you wouldn’t just leave her on read or something? Big emotions may leave you speechless and even an extrovert on the spectrum is not immune if conflicts mute them. It’s a big deal to be present and able to solve emotional issues in relationships and not being there will break most neurotypical people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low Valuehmm. I don’t have that experience in this sub. Most responses are well-thought and wordy. The ‘Queen’ stuff is more of social media...not so much reddit. ...the end of your comment just sounds like random misdirected hate but I agree with the beginning how partners can improve each other is great! I heard a saying: if you wanna go fast, go alone. If you wanna go farther, go together | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low ValueSo you will come to the date with a picture book of your previous partners? It isn’t as impressive as you’d think if your previous partners were uglier than your current date. Also you would be downgrading if your current date /isn’t/ prettier and make them insecure sooooo whatever you attracted before doesn’t really help unless it was about the same edit: I don’t mean just physical obviously other credentials and dynamics too but men tend to focus on looks edit2: I realize this is at odds with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low ValueOOW kid. ...Officer on watch? Where did she say having kids with Chad? She said timeline to get married and have kids with a husband | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Giving Chances is Low ValueI would encourage you to seek out other autistic or aspie women. Direct and blunt communication can be a wonderful tool for a relationship of transparency. I am like this a bit myself but it takes a extra amount lot of patience and understanding to communicate with spectrum guys depending how far on the spectrum. There is an extra amount of self-esteem and good will which needs to be unwaveringly believed in if a guy is going to disappear on her for days on end because he is overstimulated or so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Giving Chances is Low ValueI have always found the terms Queens and Kings to be kinda cringe to be honest but I felt like using that term would connect with readers in the right way. I have seen it said however that if you want to be treated like a Queen you must treat him like a King so I can agree with it based on that. No one can just ‘know their worth’ if they want an equal they need to demonstrate it. People can be trained but most people learn through loss. Genuinely learning through forgiveness and ‘chances’ seems … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Giving Chances is Low ValueThat is a completely valid experience and unpreventable. The only thing we can do to try to prevent it is maybe read books and listen to self-improvement podcasts, study couples that have what we want, etc. Being ignorant is similar to being taught wrong so I would say it’s similar. If women can recognize those signs in you by extending the talking stage and stop talking to you completely when you exhibit those toxic traits then you would still learn that it’s not socially acceptable. You two wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Giving Chances is Low ValueYou’re right that there is a difference between breaking up over communication and intimacy issues vs marriage timeline...and I am almost tempted to assume that they come hand in hand...but if a man does not want to marry then that is a dealbreaker just like any other. They are not compatible in their plans for the future and the man also appears indecisive which is an inherent turnoff. That uncertainty or indecision will be mirrored back by the woman and make her want to leave | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Giving Chances is Low ValueI feel like these ‘starter’ qualities really are displaced nurturing qualities. It really almost takes on a motherly aspect. You would expect a man should already have seen from the example of his parents or advice from his mother how to treat a woman. It’s kinda ironic that being More nurturing is the key to low value since you would think they would instinctually choose the most nurturing women, as she would typically be the parent to his children. Let’s remember that contraceptions are also g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | There isn't any issue with women being career focused as everyone should be self sufficientI feel like this is only true for conservative men or maybe moderate (centrist?) men who enjoy supporting women. It makes them feel more masculine or valued or like they ‘won’ This would not be the case with more egalitarian (?) or equal couples who split the bills 50/50. And honestly I’m sure there are just as many hot women willing to split the bills as there are wanting to pay none so really at this point it comes down to what men want. So is that masculine instinct fun? Do you do it to feel … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 05:33 PM |
| 0 | There isn't any issue with women being career focused as everyone should be self sufficientThe daughter is not always ‘yours’ and she should be encouraged to find a husband. Parents are the first example of mate guarding by guarding each other and then there is a faux guarding of the kids by the parents. Fathers should guard their daughters and support their daughters being financially stable as part of that. Taking it too far is just as equally as weird as not encouraging it at all though so there def needs to be a balance. Not so controlling that she shouldn’t be educated but not so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 05:22 PM |
| 1 | There isn't any issue with women being career focused as everyone should be self sufficientThis comes off as men don’t feel empowered at all to be working and makes me wonder if men see some hobbies as work. She’s obviously doing those things because she enjoys them but he sees them as work because he doesn’t like them. He doesn’t want to have to help paint but the sooner they get it done the faster he can get her into the bedroom? Why do guys like this have so little going on in their lives? They must have jobs which are more draining? It seems like men feel responsible if they see w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 05:07 PM |
| 1 | There isn't any issue with women being career focused as everyone should be self sufficientThe risk here is that career focused women will not be family focused and place priority on career over kids....but well, men should have thought of that before placing career priority over their wives. When men don’t prioritize the women in their lives, they teach by example that it is okay to put something else before their personal relationships. A man who puts his mom first is a green flag as long as he can use that knowledge to put his wife first and detach from mom. Some men are emotionall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Dating would be so much easier if there were wholesome communal meeting places for younger peopleMonthly memberships. No one wants to pay a fee at the door because they don’t have the money and probably won’t go again. How does church make money? maybe also donations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Dating would be so much easier if there were wholesome communal meeting places for younger peopleSo in your world it’s impossible to give women the tingles without them being intoxicated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Dating would be so much easier if there were wholesome communal meeting places for younger peopleLet him answer. He wants to jump in and say ‘everywhere!’ like that answer is heroic when really it’s ignoring the question | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Dating would be so much easier if there were wholesome communal meeting places for younger peopleAgain, what wholesome places are wholesome men frequenting where men and women can come together for a extended period of time and socialize? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Dating would be so much easier if there were wholesome communal meeting places for younger peopleI wish there were more places to go out dancing. Not trashy dancing but actual nice traditional dancing where you need to know steps. I know there is square dancing in places I just wish there were waltz or salsa places on the reg and not just a masked ball for Halloween. More places where a dress makes more sense than jeans and cowboy boots | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Dating would be so much easier if there were wholesome communal meeting places for younger peopleJoin a bowling league or frequent coffee shops. Even in small towns these are things. Parks are also a key area to meet people but usually you have to be doing something like selling something to make people come over or using the dog park to have a reason to stop and chat. If all else fails, walk around the mall. Stop someone to compliment them but be genuine about it It wasn’t in the cards for volunteering or mixed sports but if you have interest in something else you could also start your own… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 04:27 PM |
| 1 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)Being intimidating contradicts wanting to hide which you said was spot on. Being tall and heavy may be different than being tall and healthy weight but doesn’t necessarily mean you would need self-defense training if you feel safe enough without it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:52 AM |
| 1 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)That’s a really fair point you made. Unfortunately in my case I grew up in a home without any close men or defenders. No grandfather, no father, no brothers. Also it helps in cases those protectors wouldn’t be around anyway...which is essentially anywhere in public unless perhaps you’re a muslim in Saudi Arabia (females are always escorted) I do still believe dance is the feminine mirror to fighting and do practice that also whenever possible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:47 AM |
| 5 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)this is a lie. You can’t control who these women will meet. there is no magic formula for finding a good guy or at least this isn’t it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:42 AM |
| 3 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)There’s a difference between bashing and having a preference. OP said nothing about bashing but stated that the JDBF preference seems strong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:39 AM |
| 1 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)There is no point for someone to exhaust themselves if it’s too much of a reach. Why don’t you offer an alternative of dating another 5? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:36 AM |
| 1 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)But did those couples start fat or did they gradually get fat, together? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:33 AM |
| 3 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)It’s really not but just like allergies and sensitivity disorders, it’s hard to believe unless you experience it first hand The general public has a really big blind spot about silent illnesses | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:31 AM |
| 3 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)You’re 1000% correct. Most people do not account for the various reasons for weight. And until medical treatment for it becomes free...men will continue to have this lack of unfat women. You’d think that men would have just made all plastic surgeries etc free by now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:28 AM |
| 1 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)Depends on who you are trying to love. Are you trying to love the ‘type’ of person you have loved before (similar physique, relationship dynamics etc) or are you trying something new? If you always love bad people, for example, then trying to love a good person might feel strange. It is unfamiliar. Usually we gravitate towards familiar because it is ‘easy’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:25 AM |
| 0 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)Yeah this seems false. Men look for healthy women. Mostly lower body fat distribution shows more estrogen therefore meaning more fertility in females. FAT distribution. So it is ok to be shapely, but obesity can cause pregnancy complications...so obviously there is a maximum. A waist-hip ratio is usually noted though idk if it has been compared to fertility ...(though I believe it has) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:22 AM |
| 5 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)This sounds like feeling too vulnerable to be brave enough to be a healthy weight...not wanting attention in fear that it may be predatory instead of innocent. It might help to take up a martial art at the same time if the block is mental and not just physical. Or maybe gun/weapon training etc if that is legal in your country | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:17 AM |
| 24 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)Immediately this just makes me feel like people are looking for the least amount of effort they can put in, like being the lowest-effort partner is some kind of achievement to be proud of instead of meeting the energy I honestly believe men do have more standards than that but a lot of them are willing to settle with less than ideal situations. Some of it may be their own lack of improvement and some of it may be bad luck...but sometimes they seem to imply that it is the dating market itself Obv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Anecdotes are superior to studies in providing sufficient information for forming conclusions regarding entering and maintaining a relationship.That is such a great point because you didn’t say where the man is trying to go. If you consulted an 8 ball for directions and questions you would open up a lot to possibility, more than your daily routine. Do you need change? Maybe you need a magic 8 ball. It really depends on where you are trying to go. You can’t say that it’s wrong to use sometimes either, except that using it all the time would probably prove unstable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Anecdotes are superior to studies in providing sufficient information for forming conclusions regarding entering and maintaining a relationship.Is Qanon saying people can’t think for themselves? because that looked like a red flag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Anecdotes are superior to studies in providing sufficient information for forming conclusions regarding entering and maintaining a relationship.Relying on personal experience is good and there are always outliers. In friend groups you can study the dynamics and habits of the group. When you have no data about someone though, they are more like the general public. It may help when interacting to know that some percentage of people are some specific way and if it is more likely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Anecdotes are superior to studies in providing sufficient information for forming conclusions regarding entering and maintaining a relationship.Maybe the studies just need to be more rigorous? More variables? Better examiners and participants? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Anecdotes are superior to studies in providing sufficient information for forming conclusions regarding entering and maintaining a relationship.It’s a good point. Always consider the expertise (or lack of) and the relevance of the sample group. How would we know which 50% of redditors are honest? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 03:13 AM |
| 1 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.Do you have research to backup that claim? Which specific skills? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:44 AM |
| 1 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.I would say almost the opposite. The more social you are and if there are any aimless friends in that group (don’t know what to do after high school etc) then you’re more at risk to not go to college at all It’s not uncommon to hear a new grad say they’ll take a year or two off then return to college only to never actually return. Best bet is probably just to keep on going until all schooling is finished. That being said, you don’t have to go to college. Unless you have the money, it is a huge d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:41 AM |
| 2 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.I have no idea where most people I ever saw at any party are these days or what is going on in their life. Maybe I’m an outlier because I tend to move on or maybe I just never made the right connection. GPA seems important to employers half the time but now companies have been developing their own little quizzes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:37 AM |
| 0 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.If you party too much in high school you can forget college. You probably won’t go and if you do you will struggle. College networking is kinda over-rated too. You’re all going to be new grads so your friends have very little power in the hiring process. You might get an interview but it doesn’t mean you get the job. Recruiters are much better for hiring. Only career fairs really make college networking worth anything because it opens the doors to internships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:32 AM |
| 1 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.Right. It’s actually easier to socialize in high school by playing sports, being in band or joining a club. I dated and partied in high school during the years I flunked out. For me, it was problems at home. Since partying was a phase, I have no friends from those years and most ‘friends’ were not real friends (they would easily steal, lie etc) and only once I transferred schools and stopped partying so much did I make better friendships | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:28 AM |
| 1 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.I would say the opposite actually. Highschool GPA and SAT scores are what get you into your dream school. Unless you don’t care what college you go to why not wait to slack off in college if you’re going to slack? The parties will probably be better anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenMost humans are not as pure as religious figures. If you try to love someone more than yourself then a likely outcome is resentment. Resentment turns into hate. Most people start to think to themselves 'I always sacrifice blah blah blah' and start hating those sacrifices. This is all normal because if you are neglecting your own self-love just to give your partner a little extra then you are hurting yourself. Eventually the small hurts weigh on you until it starts to feel big and then you wonder… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenYour reply itself is an assumptive generalization about my worldview. One post is not indicative of an entire world view. Again, you are adding nothing here. The point for you is your comments are abrasive and add nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenI could say men’s “love” is way more conditional on physical appearance, sexuality and many other things. I don’t see how any one set of conditions would be any better or worse than the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenAnd men who break up with girlfriends because they are going away to college? Or because they have ‘grown apart’? Or any other reason? Love is conditional for everybody. Just because a woman initiates divorce doesn’t mean the love is completely gone. You can love someone and realize they are bad for you, and leave them. Abuse is intolerable, regardless of how you feel based on the good memories | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenif they do you wrong like rob your house or smash your car, purposefully with hate, how do you know you will still love them? I think we need and answer for that from someone who has horrible children | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Women cannot love men like men love womenSure. I didn’t supply links. I didn’t intend it as CMV though, the mods tagged it. I also found “ Women are more likely to be diagnosed with anxiety or depression, while men tend toward substance abuse or antisocial disorders” in a mental illness study (not ncbi though) Okay that’s some very interesting data, and comments like this are why I made a post! It looks sort of opposite of my assumption. This makes me wonder if comfortability with expression of emotions makes a big impact. Obviously th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIf it was so obvious who the bad people were you would think bad stuff wouldn’t happen. Have you never heard people exclaim ‘we can’t believe it! but he was such a nice guy!’ or ‘he seemed so normal and well adjusted!’ We already know that people can behave covertly: different in private than public. Personally I do not plan on having kids so that I will never need to worry about this issue and if I did have kids and wound up single I would consider going celibate until they’re grown | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenyour comment is literally implying that taking copious amounts of illegal drugs will create reasoning. The only way that makes any sense is to interpret your comment as in insult and not actual useful feedback | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenOkay well you’re at liberty to think whatever you want but there are many people on this planet who believes in feminine and masculine energy and it has been a part of many traditions for centuries | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenI meant a particular man learning a particular woman. By writing it this way I mean men do that, generally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenWouldn’t a caregiver be more likely to teach a person than to learn about them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Women cannot love men like men love womenI could handle it but thankyou! 💛 I got busy and just now got back to this post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenHoly libral judgy pants! First off I am centrist. Do you have anything to offer as a counterargument or is the best you can do is to ridicule? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenWould you still honestly love a child that hates you and does you wrong though? Maybe all love has a breaking point and that is also why divorce exists corrected typo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIs this a Freudian slip? Does something need to be ‘wrong’ with a woman in order to be protected and ‘loved’ by a man? It’s true that we know men want to feel useful. I agree love is conditional though otherwise we would see more long lasting marriages | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenYour comment reminds me of the protector gene or the perspective of men protecting women. I wonder if unconditional love would be required for that. It could be self-sacrificing in some way if taken to the extreme but I would only want a man to tackle a situation if he knows he can handle it. Otherwise, call help. A man should still love himself enough to not sacrifice himself. Protection doesn’t need to be sacrifice, it can be tactical advantage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:32 PM |
| 0 | Women cannot love men like men love womenThis post was meant in regards to heteronormative male-female relationships. I will make an edit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenlearn their boundaries | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIf it is unconditional then why do they leave when she gets fat or gets sick. I believe unconditional love is extremely rare for either gender, to the point we may as well deem it nonexistent. Yes, if anyone ever loved someone else unconditionally, they were probably a parent loving their child | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenDo you have evidence showing that there are an equal amount of anxious-type and avoidant-type males and females? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenAnd that is a good example of how men love differently than women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love women?? Coparenting needs to happen either way. It is always family for the child | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIt is better for the children to be in a healthy home imo even if that means the parents split I am not sure how much that puts the kids at risk of coming in contact with creeps though when the parent starts dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenOkay there’s an example of how a woman might love differently. But do statistics show the women stick around? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenThis sounds pessimistic. If you had to rewrite this from the opposite, optimistic viewpoint what would it sound like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIt’s not about understanding the way a female experiences the world. I am writing about understand the love of the opposite gender and how that love forms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenThat is projection. I never said anything about anything being beyond understanding. What I am driving at is the energies but if people don’t believe in feminine vs masculine energy or chase vs run energy then I have no idea where this is going | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIs there any research about the beginning phases of forming secure attachment? It just seems like security is diametrically opposed to pursuit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenDo you live together? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:57 PM |
| 0 | Women cannot love men like men love womenI can agree with that. Women do learn about the men they are with but my point is kinda who set the boundaries in your relationship? Because if he was the pursuer then you were the one to refuse or agree until you had the dynamic you wanted. Or did you both kinda throw the ball back and fourth into each others court? Because we also see posts popping up about ‘my boyfriend says he wants traditional gender roles after marriage’ etc etc and it is not uncommon for people to expect that relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenYour comment adds literally nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenWhat is bad about learning how someone is that it should say something bad about you for knowing that? What I am saying is about pursuit dynamic. Men learn about womens likes and interest firsts to attract them even more and showcase those likes/qualities if they have them Saying you don’t believe in energies is like saying you don’t believe in vibes. That’s nonsense: vibes exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenSure! In theory is sounds like fun and I think it would be great to show each other how love feels from the other side...I’m just not sure that it is practical. If the two energies of masculine and feminine and opposite and find attraction in that, then the masculine becomes less attracted when the feminine becomes more masculine and vice versa. Maybe there is a scale, such that being overly masculine as a female or overly feminine as a male would be the breaking point but I am just pointing out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Women cannot love men like men love womenIt always appear to me that ‘men love idealistically’ meant that have a very deep committed love. Like married for 50 years type of thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:43 PM |
| 0 | Women cannot love men like men love womenI wasn’t saying women as a group. I was saying loving an individual woman. I’m not sure how that was confused. Having an attachment or bond is between two people, in a relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menWhile it might be true that subcultures are less reliant on gender roles, I would say that is a fairly recent development. There are still many subculture-types who follow gender roles | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menCan I ask if you were out with a girl and approached by an attacker, who do you expect should intervene? Because if you believe in gender roles then it is the man. If you don’t believe in gender roles, it could be either... which means it could also be neither and mean you are both defenseless | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 03:12 AM |
| -1 | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menAt this point it is coddling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 03:08 AM |
| 4 | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menMaking sexual passes and being creepy is not the same thing as being socially awkward. This post title is misleading. Oversharing personal medical or bodily concerns to strangers completely unprovoked is awkward. Making passes aggressively is just being creepy If your niceness is being taken as creepy it is probably because you have no clear motive to be excessively nice. Wanting the world to be a better place isn’t good enough so it has gotta be that you have sexual interest. Otherwise with no … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 03:06 AM |
| 3 | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menMost women are physically smaller than most men. Violence exists. It’s really not that hard to understand why women are sometimes shy about vocalizing their rejection. Yes, you must learn to read women because too many men have tempers which are dangerous. If rejected bluntly, a man may get violent. This is such an old story. The bitterness which could be interpreted from this post just further drives home the point that men would rather focus on their own feelings of hurt instead of maturing to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsIf I need to tape something to the wall without putting holes in it then I absolutely need tape. It's different than eating a salad and wanting dressing...but I get how there would be 'nice to have but unnecessary' situations...as well as that being preference because someone reading this is bound to REFUSE that salad without dressing is EVER in ANY WAY acceptable. jokes Yes I too was of that mind before to have less things. I think in some ways I just over-did it and got rid of too much. The le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsIf only one partner wants the puppy then it would be selfish to put the other partner on puppy duty. If the other partner volunteers then that's on them. The decor stuff creates a specific vibe. Traditionally, women were in charge of making the house feel like a home. The decor is kinda a cultural thing. You'll know when you're home when you see those things, long before you track down your spouse. And if death parts you, you'll also have something to hold onto. It may even help the grieving pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menWe dated 8-9 months. I thought a year would have been normal so it only felt a little short to me. I learned later that my aunts all married after 4 years. They all have 20+ year marriages. I just never thought to look at older adults as an example for that at the time, and instead looked at my peer group...since I imaged my peers were the only ones getting married...yeah..also didn't realize people get married at any age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsCan you give a concrete example of a preference a man is told to sacrifice? Most people seem to believe that good hygiene is not a 'preference' ...it's just sanitary behavior. Without sanitary behavior, one might suspect mental illness or at least depression...which is an unattractive first impression. What other preferences are men sacrificing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsGo...without tape when you need to tape something? I understand maybe changing the idea of a painting if you are missing a color but...go without glue when you need to glue something? You're right that it is incredibly exhausting. It has taken me well over a decade to actually become organized. Haha, very unexpected that you pack light. Interesting. I am a heavy packer on long trips, light on short. In the past I was heavy no matter what and I can relate to bringing everything out of anxiety. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsI can see where you're coming from in that it is off putting because it is unfamiliar. Personally I am a very curious person so when someone is different from me, I want to know more. Plus: imagine being an Organized artist. What if you kept dating them and learned more organization? No more searching for where the scissors went or what happened to the tape! 👉When things have a home you can make art faster instead of spending time searching Of course you can argue that searching for things is pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 05:15 PM |
| – | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!How many hours do you train each day? She spends 24 hours x 15 per year. Say you spend 1 hour in the gym 5 days per week. First of all this is unhealthy as the body needs rest days (4/7 days max) but whatever, 5 days 1 hour is 20 hours per month. 12 months means you are just under 12 days of effort since there is 24 hours in a day. Learning to do makeup takes a big upfront time commitment so you are mistaken about immediate results | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 05:04 PM |
| – | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!You will not draw attention away from your eyes unless you looksmaxx all other possible features. My mother when she was younger was a great example of this. I know she has a lazy eye now but she was so beautiful in younger pictures that I didn't realize she had it then too. It wasn't until she wanted to throw away a picture I liked that I noticed. Your eyes are such a small part of your body that great healthy flowing hair and a beautiful shirt and your happy smile and body language can go a lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 04:42 PM |
| – | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!Women may look more at his shoes when dancing. having 'two left feet' means dancing poorly so it was a joke. You don't have to workout a lot to have great forearms though? Average guy arms are bigger than average women's arms. If they are not, I suspect the guy is underweight or he is dating a giant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 04:37 PM |
| – | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!I said *almost* every case, not every case. Some people have a weird head shape for going bald. If you have a good head shape for it though then why not rock it? It's hard to rock thinning hair as a young guy. As an older guy, sure. Yes, I think Nicholson could have rocked the bald when he was younger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsJust because you have less things does not mean you are clean or know how to be organized. Thankfully I have always been clean but I was a minimalist since my teens and I never realized how much I needed furniture. I have an imperfect past with organization: I am an artist. Everything was on the floor. Extreme minimalism does not make you more savvy. If faced with a mess, you wouldn’t even know where to start. Organization requires practice. And if you have no practice in organizing a home then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Why women think men suck at relationshipsThey value it when mommy does it. The men who don’t learn to fold their towels and do their laundry are looking for a new mommy, not a girlfriend. I literally read a post yesterday where women admit to deciding not to have sex with a man because his bathroom is so disgusting. Now this post. Nice. It has nothing to do with values, as men like this don’t seem to have any: not even basic hygiene Yes, the bar is on the floor for men like this who leave it there. Fortunately, men with values exist Ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!Men have ‘unbutton the shirt a bit’ trick which may include a necklace also they have ‘muscle shirt’ trick to showoff biceps ‘nice dress shoes’ trick to showoff their left feet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!For men I would consider it a ‘metrosexual’ look or I have heard a guy use the term ‘sophisticated alpha’ but he turned out to be a douche. You don’t have to be gay or a douche to shape your eyebrows. Basically just tweeze the ultra long or stray hairs. Then you use gel to shape them in place just like you would with your hair if you ever used hail gel. You could also get them threaded and/or trimmed at a salon so you never have to think much about the gel thing unless you want to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!Age can overcome height. Is the taller guy too much older? A shorter guy closer in age might be better. It’s possible elite schooling may also overcome height. However that kinda plays into the ‘inhumane amounts of grinding’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!you might not know how to do it right. if you have clear skin you don’t really need to learn anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!5’1 is extreme. nothing can be done for a man shorter than me. 6’7 is similarly extreme. if he was at least 5’4 in suit vs a 6’4 in a shirt it is too hard to decide. I’d need to know other factors | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:40 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!15 days per year | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:35 AM |
| -1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!in almost every case the best decision you can make is to own the bald Edit: To make it clear: Going Bald. Owning thinning hair does nothing. It fools no one. CHOOSING to shave your head can become part of your personality. It also gives you back control about this aspect of your appearance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:31 AM |
| 3 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!If he would’ve chosen a better mom then he’d know proper grooming and how to dress right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!like a honeymoon phase that was too good to be true: everything sounding great and then it ends on toxic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Quick thought, men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them!you’re saying you can’t gel your eyebrows, won’t gel them or don’t know how? That is my ‘instant beauty hack’ and feels super gender neutral | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Should a woman who has lost significant amounts of weight give men who did not want her a chance after weight loss?Did I miss where the post said ‘objective’? It looks like just asking for our opinions. Unless all of this sub should always be objective? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Should a woman who has lost significant amounts of weight give men who did not want her a chance after weight loss?This is such a double-edges sword. On one side, if the men got to know her while she was fat then they are emotionally ahead. On the other side, apparently that didn’t put them ahead enough to date even though she was fat. It gives zero security in loving someone for their personality if their physical appearance can negate that. However, I do believe it is Unrealistic to ask for unconditional love. People do choose partners based on their attraction and attraction is very important for arousal … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:17 AM |
| 1 | I think the true love it s just when you are youngI have looked at that too, giving second chances to young love. Unfortunately for me, my ‘high school sweetheart’ was psychotic. I’d argue that if you can provide yourselves with similar comforts then you will have no doubt they like you for your personality. Even old dogs can learn new tricks so don’t be disheartened: you likely don’t know everything about relationships yet and may still find yourself experiencing ‘firsts’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:08 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?I agree with all your statement but the last part. Longterm companionship can be wholesome and married men also tend to live longer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 03:01 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?I am hoping that will kinda wear off with gen z. some of them only have snapchat or private instagram but are more about living in the moment. Edit: Obvs I know a lot of gen z is on tiktok but I got off most social media and started running into younger ppl who also had few social accounts 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:58 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?they will do everything but break the social convention of not tracking you down to knock on your door. Even though I’m pretty sure that’s how it was done back in the day. Somehow it’s okay to social media stalk and learn everything about someone in the secrecy of your dark bedroom but it’s not okay to actually find that person at their job or something and invite them out to learn about them first hand | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:54 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?I really didn’t understand the blob statement so I just ignored it. I view men as male even when I am not dating them or even friends. ? I don’t get it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:51 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?It matters a lot more for younger unconfident women or women with low self-esteem because the ego boost becomes a crutch. ... if there is no male figure then it may not matter where it comes from at all. Cue ‘looking for love in all the wrong places’ because what does a ‘right man’ look like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:46 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?As a female I have no idea about that but it sounds different than cold approach. In my experience attractive women who are confident and put-together draw attention of everyone wherever they go but to say there is focused attention there should at least be an approach | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:41 AM |
| – | Do women reap most of the benefits of a relationship being single?You do experience the lone wolf men approaching you in public though? Random guys asking to buy you things? Getting things for free? If you tried OLD you would have hundreds of likes. It’s a nice ego boost to have more likes than you can even reply to Edit: I have close to zero social media presence and it has always been this way for me when I put any effort into my appearance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Women on dating apps are worse than menbro idk how you go about thinking men with interest are ugly. They’re not. They’re 5s and above. Even some really good looking guys aren’t meatheads | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Women on dating apps are worse than menDoes it really matter if she knows that Giga Chad is just going to pump and dump her anyway? If a woman’s goal is to find a companion, then daddy deadbeat isn’t gonna be it Billy bluepill will at least stick around and set an example for his sons on how to become men. However beta a man the sons might become is a moot point since hit-and-run Harry wouldn’t stick around to safely guide them to manhood anyway, whatever ‘manhood’ means when you’re a Skeet & Flee’d | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menThis is the truth. If you can’t make “screw-you-money” in your 20s to have the time in your 30s then dating will not much change. You need time to mature and develop relationships; careers do not really offer that time May as well do sugar dating if you’re leaning on a career | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menThis mirrors the argument that the broke guys are not getting attention from women for being broke. Did you try broke guys? Equally attractive guys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:48 PM |
| 0 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menBecause realistically you are dating someone with a still-developing prefrontal cortex, who just came out of being a teenager. It’s not about it being difficult to maintain their attraction, it’s about it being predatory and grooming | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:42 PM |
| -1 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menA 23 year old is still more likely to be interested in a 30 year old than a 20 year old, no matter how successful the 30 year old guy is. At 20, 30 just looks Old. Like a grandpa. A guy only 5 years off from old enough to be a dad to someone your age if he had a teenage pregnancy. At 30 we expect men to be out of the party phase so it’s a red flag. Eventually even if the phases are compatible at the beginning, young women end up viewing the guy as immature. If the 23F and 30M phase out of that p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menAs great as it would be to agree with you because it means more abundance mentality, that simply isn’t true. The rich are called ‘top percent’ for a reason. Statistically, there is not ‘plenty’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:24 PM |
| 6 | Most college aged women do not want 30+ year old menCan confirm that when I was 20 I didn’t want to date anyone over 24. The only reason I married older was because he lied about his age until I was in love. I am now divorced (and luckily childless) since being a liar was only one of his issues. Women should always check the divers license | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:22 PM |
| 2 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to faceIf the women are happy enough to marry then it can’t be about the looks. He has to have been attractive enough to sleep with in the first place. It sounds like the failure of those guys is something else in the relationship. Also, remember horrible women exist just like horrible men exist. Cheating is pathetic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 12:22 PM |
| 1 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to faceIt means nothing until he is dating tons of women. Women use matches for validation and it doesn’t mean they will ever even meet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 12:14 PM |
| 8 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to facemost people age like milk, regardless of gender | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 12:08 PM |
| 2 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to faceI have at least a single digit IQ and I can tell you that as there are more women in the workforce now & I don’t see much of a difference. Most people seem to let themselves go and eat poorly and gain weight. There is a 40% chance you are an obese man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 12:07 PM |
| 21 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to faceI thought I was the only one who looks at couples and thinks ‘I hope it works out!’ Ideally, we should want the couples around us to work because that means they are doing something right, even if only ‘right for them’ and maybe we can learn it and get someone ‘right for us’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 12:02 PM |
| 5 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to faceThis scenario seems totally plausible. Men are less likely to want to get to know women with kids. Her personality would have to shine through right away and in this case it didn’t. Realistically, most people both men and women don’t want to be step parents to someone else’s kids if they don’t have to be. That seems like a natural human thing to not want to take responsibility for someone you didn’t decide to create | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 11:57 AM |
| 4 | As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to faceI’m done with the toxicness of redpill wall thinking. Women are people, beyond their looks, and people connect in romantic relationships based on relationship compatibility. As you get older you realize this and to say different is to completely negate that maturity even matters. When we’re young, both men and women are kinda dumb. We make mistakes while we learn our boundaries and form our personalities about what we want in life. During that phase, relationships can be very superficial: all ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 11:52 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about society making men "obligated" to lead a relationship (asking a girl out, initiating the first kiss, proposing, etc)?The example sounds like the husband couldn’t read her. Otherwise how do you get such bad luck trying when she’s not in the mood? Once has to wonder how they ever ended up doing it in the first place. I’m female and I don’t like making the first move on plans because I don’t want to wear the planner pants. If I end up doing the planning it is kinda half hearted: I might invite him to something I was gonna do alone anyway. In my experience so far, an invite coming from a woman either gets taken to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 06:36 AM |
| 2 | Cooperation for reproduction only?Ah, this was the autistic thread. I forgot that part. Well if the kind of man who wants a child is not the kind of man able to raise a child, I don’t see why he would want custody in the first place. If a guy like this wants kids bad enough but doesn’t want to care for them I don’t see why he would be too bothered paying for it? Seems likely he’d just look at it as a ‘business expense per the contract’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:43 AM |
| 0 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessYou really want to live to 98 years old with dementia shitting yourself so either your kids or some nursing home strangers have to wipe you? Suicide pods sound dope. So you want the fruits of your labor to be the shame you feel when you can’t even labor enough to wipe your own ass. It’s funny that you use pride to defend something which will inexplicably be an experience where you will either fight against that kind of help because of your pride or have to learn to be humble as you can no longer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Cooperation for reproduction only?How well we treat others is independent of gender but having kids with someone without being in a relationship means they are devaluing reproduction already anyway. I guess it’s hard for me to imagine why anyone would commit to that kind of arrangement. Seems like it will be a substandard example to set for the kids and get in the way of having real romance with future partners. Maybe it could work for aromantic couples etc but for the heteronormative majority it seems bizarre that a loving coup… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 03:57 AM |
| 4 | Cooperation for reproduction only?So women there are...begging to be single mothers? ...Pleading for the man to leave? It’s hard to not assume the man was treating her poorly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Cooperation for reproduction only?This. There is no telling how dedicated a man will be, autistic or not, except for his love. If the kids is just for the sake of having a kid then his commitment to the situation is flimsy and we don’t know if he will be lazy, detached or otherwise defective: the only way to know is for it to be real | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:04 AM |
| 0 | Cooperation for reproduction only?I mean, she could end up having both? assholes usually leave anyway right. might want to direct her over to the breeder sub women couples/parents is a viable solution since men seem to be failures | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Cooperation for reproduction only?Also considering women may become incontinent (lose ability to control urine flow) among other health problems, this request sounds insane. It’s like saying “It would be nice if men would just volunteer to get a colostomy bag to help with the ~any other problem~” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Cooperation for reproduction only?If there is no romance and no genuine family unit then that would be a rather empty shell of an existence. And consider even if she took up one of these bachelors on an empty offer, having a child is a lifelong change which impacts her desirability to a large pool of men she could have otherwise found lasting love with. There is no incentive to cash out your chips when the reward is so unfulfilling. It is in her best interests to either move on or develop a genuine connection with this bachelor … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:54 AM |
| 8 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessExcept in the future they will call it The Population Blessing: How Less of Us Means More For All | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:43 AM |
| 7 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessMen’s porn addiction, low T and inability to contribute emotionally and financially make us so uninterested in them that there are 30 year old male virgins. So what female hypergamy are you talking about? Unless you are implying lesbians? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:40 AM |
| 2 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessSuicide pods are becoming a thing. Why would you want to become a burden to your children anyway? Having kids just so they can take care of you when you’re old is selfish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:34 AM |
| 0 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessThis is irrational. Without at least financial contribution, the woman and child could be at risk of homelessness and therefore the child would not make it to adulthood in nature. However we are not playing by ‘survival of the fittest’ anymore and this is the problem: a few rich and kind souls started donating to shelters, government created food stamps and assistance programs. Women with children will utilize what they need and they very well should. It is the men, however, being negatively inc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:14 AM |
| 5 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessThis sounds right. If y’all are starving you’re gonna resort to child labor as a necessity and this is still somewhat seen in ‘family businesses’ ...’having a childhood‘ would be a luxury in many parts of the world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:03 AM |
| 3 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessHaving kids would be a benefit in itself because you get to pass on your genes but the experience could be a wash of highs and lows overall. I don’t buy the broader narrative of ‘society collapses’ either unless I see numbers. There are so many unnecessary jobs and products on the market anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:59 AM |
| 11 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessWhat is even the point to have kids if you are going to send them to a daycare? If you want kids because you want to raise humans, just work at a daycare then I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 03:56 AM |
| 1 | What is your attractiveness threshold and what are you willing to overlook?I always imagine that men with the peeing in public charge probably tried to go somewhere private but got caught anyway. I guess I shouldn’t give the benefit of the doubt though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 12:41 AM |
| 1 | What is your attractiveness threshold and what are you willing to overlook?Unless I was able to determine if the sex offender status was due to peeing in public or rape then I wouldn’t ever consider him dateable. If that could be determined as pissing in public then what’s more concerning for the immediate future is the public drunk charge. I just don’t imagine those are handed out like candy so it leads me to believe he may have been the village drunk. Usually 2 years without relapse means someone won’t repeat offend on petty crimes but I don’t really trust the drug a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 12:38 AM |
| 2 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societysomeone who can legally talk to your doctor for you when your parents are gone. eventually, everyone gets old. it’s nice to have family | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyreplies like this make me wish I was lesbian | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:38 PM |
| 1 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyHow can you say that men are ‘so sexually charged’ if they have all these risky lifestyle changes and health issues which lead to becoming less attractive and therefore less sexually active? It seems like these are not the same men I agree that commitment takes maturity but I don’t buy into the prowess. Otherwise the men claiming they don’t want to be married due to sexual appetite are the same men who are overweight/diseased and already lost their libido anyway? Sounds like they don’t have much… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:35 PM |
| 1 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societydo boyfriends and girlfriends not love each other? marriage is not to prove love it is to become a family | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:13 PM |
| 6 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyIt sounds like he is saying he doesn’t care about western women. He wants western women to be used and then marry a foreigner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:11 PM |
| 3 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societywritten a bit too strongly for my tastes at the end but overall message has mature clarity. anecdote: I just returned from a trip where a stranger at the bar told me his virgin-when-married wife has turned out asexual…and I couldn't help but believe it was his fault since he basically introduced sex to her? Also he then went on to use his interest in human sexuality as an excuse to ask me incredibly inappropriate questions that he would NOT be asking if his wife were there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 10:08 PM |
| 2 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societypartnerships of any kind usually have a goal. if you have no goal of having a family, even a spouse, then you would not need marriage remember though as you age you may need someone to help make medical decisions on your behalf, you just never know edit: this can also come down to things like inheritance also | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:59 PM |
| 3 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societythey are not legally a family. unmarried couples cannot make medical decisions for each other. also there is no legal support for alienation of affection or Home Wrecker laws if that is ever a problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:55 PM |
| 3 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyRight. OP seems to have no vested interest in society | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:49 PM |
| 6 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyRight. If western men will not marry then there is no incentive to date them in the first place because no one wants to end up as a single mom Also unless maybe you’ve gone through a lawyer, remember that in case of medical emergency only a spouse can help make decisions on your behalf. There are reasons other than paternity to get married | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:47 PM |
| 7 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyFinancially it can be a great decision if you are combining wealth or getting tax breaks, scholarships etc. There are some things which come easier to married persons. Also saying from a business standpoint…some businesses are run by power couples. Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation for example obviously after all that yes it is just a personal decision | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:40 PM |
| -1 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyIs there a purpose for purity besides ensuring paternity? because if paternity can be ensured without it then I guess I don’t see the point many many men even from the most conservative cultures (muslims etc) are not virgins when they marry | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:35 PM |
| -7 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societychange ‘dude’ to ‘chick’ and you’ll see why this statement is false | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:32 PM |
| 3 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyIt’s not just for virginity, it’s basically an insurance policy on paternity. Marriage is supposed to make women essentially take themselves off the market: she rejects advances from others. During dating she might say she has a man but there is still some wiggle room to branch swing if the guy can get in her head. We date to find the best match and marry once we think we’ve found it so while dating can be monogamous, it’s not legally enforced. However…I do believe a man can be taken for child s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Would a lot of people be more happy with finding partners if they were willing to expand their age ranges?The women 25-27 are with 29-31 males. Why can’t the men 25-27 then be with the 29-31 females? It really honestly doesn’t matter. 25-35 everyone is in prime reproductive age if it’s about family; everyone has a matured brain if it’s about mentality. Younger humans may still be learning and making mistakes so the 29-31 crowd dating each other is probably the safest bet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Would a lot of people be more happy with finding partners if they were willing to expand their age ranges?Lots of couples have agreements like if one of them gets hurt and is unable to perform then they can pursue outside relationships and open up the marriage. I feel like getting too old would be one of those cases. also you can also hire help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Would a lot of people be more happy with finding partners if they were willing to expand their age ranges?Some men actually don’t want kids or are infertile so could work for them. maybe even if they’re on the fence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Would a lot of people be more happy with finding partners if they were willing to expand their age ranges?If a young male has big plans for himself then let him power through. If he is hot he will also have younger hot women available to him too If a simple young guy is dating up in age then yes he should still be hot but he gets a pass for not having his life together. He might never be as successful as the same aged or older men the female could be dating. It’s not a hard and fast rule but he gets a higher status hot-but-older woman and she gets a hot but-lower-status male. The risk here is he cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Would a lot of people be more happy with finding partners if they were willing to expand their age ranges?Women are having children later these days. In the past you might be dead at 35 but thanks to clean water and modern medicine we are living longer. The elements wear on your body but we are so sheltered and safe now we can go longer. If most women are 28 for their first marriage that means a lot of pregnancies are 28+. I think my grandma even had a surprise kid at 40 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 04:14 AM |
| 1 | How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you?If you're being described as a monster I'd say find your target audience: people with monster fetishes. Time to get LARPing! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 05:24 PM |
| 4 | How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you?If there's nothing good in front of you in that case are you relying 100% on your imagination ? Still seems like there'd have to be some kind of inspiration | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 05:21 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you?Right?! Women do the same thing. It is no longer a gendered issue if it is a poverty issue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 05:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you?See you wouldn't know if this is sexual or romantic attraction he is feeling though. Does he introduce you just because he thinks your hot or just because he thinks you're cool or both? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 05:08 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if a man who has sex with you is truly sexually attracted to you?I have a feeling opinions are gonna vary a lot on this. I apologize in advance if any of this seems harsh but I tend to like this sub for its ability to be honest without too many nicities. It sounds like the type of sexual attraction you are describing is just more intense. If you have a great body and an ugly face, men are still sexually attracted to you. The nature of it sounds like they are objectifying you but it still counts as sexual attraction. If it makes you feel any better, when men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 05:04 PM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.no offense but if you had kids at 24 and he was 34, and he was dating a 19 year old before you…yeah y’all were adults but that’s a big gap for that age range. many might say it looks like grooming especially when he is 30s going for 18-25. just saying. he could be a sweet guy and if so I’m glad it worked out because obviously what’s done is done but yeah also having kids when you’re broke sounds like a bad idea unless you waited until you were stable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 05:04 AM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.man that is so totally false | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:50 AM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.First date, I may offer to pay half. If he refuses, I let it go. If I insist, I probably don’t like him ‘like that’ (yet? ever?). To me, paying for my things is a nice easy nonverbal way to set an expectation for where things are going. I don’t let men I don’t like ‘like that’ buy my food unless it is a business meal and I am offering unpaid consultant/business advice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:47 AM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.If that’s a part of their gender expression I’m not gonna discriminate against it. Can also depend on their culture. Besides, saves you money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:41 AM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.totally depends on your experience. in my experience guys try to buy me and give me free things while expecting nothing, apparently just my attention never been asked to pay for food. actually made a guy grimace the only time I did | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:39 AM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.Well I guess take my replies with a grain of salt then. I’m at least two of those three things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.so don’t have kids. got it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:30 AM |
| 0 | At this point in time women already have complete psychological control over men.Ironically around a decade after Fascinating Womanhood was published. Confirming the theory that woman don’t also use their intellect, right? The whole premise here says what exactly about mens intellect anyway? …when women ‘without intellect’ have successfully ‘manipulated and gained complete psychological control’ over men? It is Sounding like men are not good for much more than sex either if reasoning capability goes out the window so easily? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 04:27 AM |
| 20 | CMV: Women must feel like they are going crazy when most men are willing to sleep with them, but only a handful would be interested in a committed relationshipWomen are not evaluating their own attractiveness compared to the men they choose. Yes being at least equal attractiveness is important and nice but women historically chose men for being good providers. Women compare themselves to your other options, not to you directly EDIT: It may be necessary to say that gaming this with dread can backfire: if you make it look like you have Much Better options then you might just scare her off. It’s important to play carefully if you plan on faking it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 03:54 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Women must feel like they are going crazy when most men are willing to sleep with them, but only a handful would be interested in a committed relationshipFeel like there is a fundamental flaw in your argument. If a supermodel was interested, we could assume it is for more than your poor looks. You can’t both admit she can find ‘better’ but just want to be with you once. Her choosing you at all is indicative of her options at any given time, with the fundamental assumption that she will always choose her best option? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Love is Simping for Someone Who Has SimpedIf he continues simping after being done simping for you because he is in his simpdom now. I guess we could say it's just a simpdom of love... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Love is Simping for Someone Who Has SimpedThis is what I mean | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Love is Simping for Someone Who Has SimpedThankyou for your comment. I will have to follow up on those three you mentioned. Do you have an example of any theories which do not seek antagonistic power struggle? I know some buddhists (usually monks, for example) pursue life ascetically but I see driving force in duality and so see no escape from these contrasts | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Love is Simping for Someone Who Has Simpedhahahaha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Love is Simping for Someone Who Has SimpedHmm. Maybe I need a different definition. What it looks like to me is that redpill says all women are the same and there are no snowflakes, So to me it looks like saying someone is special and being in love itself would be simping | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Do men actually want love?When you say some men realize Why they are loved is it because of status and money? Because if they wanna be loved for their sexual prowess or physicality (what women tend to loved for) then maybe it is a case of wanting what you don't have? There are pros and cons either way. Once you reach a certain status sure your status can change but you've passed some kind of bar. Once a woman gets older sure her looks can fade but if she was hot she's probably still kinda hot Men don't want to be loved o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Do men actually want love?I kinda took it out of context for the joke | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 02:35 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.no they mean the toxic dumpling is the person who has not been cultured morally. basically back to the same idea that everyone should be perfect dating material in the first go. It’s not realistic for everyone that their first relationship is their last but if we work on ourselves more in general we might become ‘more cooked dumplings’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 04:03 AM |
| 4 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.You can’t just put that on women because men are going further than their small hometowns too but otherwise I agree that more opportunity/choice can sometimes complicate it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:58 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.LDR are for boundary building but advertised as real and committed. It’s very much like the first few people you date in life and f*ck things up because of inexperience. My guess is guys use it as a chance to see what happens in cheating. experience makes you a better partner for someone else and helps both sides either way. always take a LDR with a grain of salt edit: freudian slip LTR for LDR has been fixed. oof. depending on how long LDR lasts they can be rough edit2: I see now these comments… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:41 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.just chiming in as a woman and maybe not all women think this way but if I see a dating profile say something like that it looks like ‘too much too soon’ because how can you know you are looking for that with the person you match? There is a section where you can tag looking for long-term so imo no need to write it in the profile. I don’t want to feel like I HAVE to be serious about you before we even go out. What if we only end up as friends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:33 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.So I have to ask. What is your opinion on say a 18 year old and 20 year old couple breaking up from boredom vs 25+ couples? Because I feel like there is a difference. Young persons dating are still developing their frontal lobe and finding their preferences. Unless you believe we should just know what we want from birth when we have no experience? Consider that marriages in the past were arranged and families were the ones who had experience in knowing the personalities of the bride and groom an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:29 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.Studied have shown humans prefer adventure over love. Think I’ve seen that somewhere recently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:24 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.I have heard of this happening but it seems to be rare | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:23 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.‘just not feeling it anymore’ if they have someone else already in mind is usually branch swinging. never never never date someone who wants to go on a ‘break’ to leave and come back. They are only coming back because a branch broke (unless they truly have commitment issues like emotional instability, LDR, etc or you have serious incompatibility or communication issues etc) . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:22 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.You should definitely not leave someone for just any reason but I can’t help but feel like a lot of reasons might be wrapped up in abuse and it’s hard to say how much or what kind of abuse would be forgivable, if any at all…and it is also hard to agree on what is abuse in situations of miscommunication. Misunderstanding could possibly come off as abusive because of misinterpretation. That is why you must pick a Good Person: Someone you can always trust has your best interests in mind edit: I see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:09 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Social media and dating/hookup culture in the west is encouraging the erosion of the solemnity of long term relationships and life long marriage.“ leaving someone you claim to love and who loves you and whom you share a history and memories with for trivial reasons that have the potential to be resolved immediately or in the near future” I agree with you. My last few breakups were for medical reasons. I’m not asking someone who snores to get surgery and I’m not forcing someone to go to the doctors to check if they’re low T I have also become hesitant to start relationships at all in this dating climate. Some men seem to think it is appro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 03:05 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?So based on one of the top comments there about romance, would a man want a woman to ‘create a sunrise’ for him, so to speak? Would that make the man feel feminine or would it make him feel romantic? Would he or can he enjoy being given romance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:22 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?It counts but all the stuff you mention as cringe is not cringe. Many people have gifts as their love language and especially with handmade items it depends on the quality/talent because experience is what makes those kind of things high quality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:14 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?I feel like you can have self-confidence and still seek validation from someone you respect as long as you accept their validation as an equal. I feel like seeking validation also gets confused for desperation. I imagine a happy inter-dependent relationship would involve supporting and encouraging each other | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Do men actually want love?I can relate except that I only really desire to have sex in a relationship. I am self-sufficient and getting tied up into all those hormones could negatively impact my finances purely because it is distracting. A man would have to want to cover the costs of my new brain fog at the very least and it just wouldn’t feel like much of an empowering relationship unless he was in it for keeps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Do men actually want love?I definitely agree that there is a subconscious exchange going on there. I would believe most people are looking to get something for their service, even if they don’t realize it. The only time people are truly altruistic is if they do it for the art: for the journey. If she LOVES baking she already got an instantaneous return on her investment and anything she gets from serving cookies is a bonus | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Do men actually want love?With respect to emotion you seem to give lust as the example. That’s not what I mean. What I mean is wanting to spend all day with someone. I mean wanting someone to want you too, not any kind of altruistic thing where you manifest your own rejection through faking it til you make it through law of unattraction. I do believe romantic love can be butterfly feelings! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?I don’t understand why a high body count would indicate cheating in the first place? That is like saying someone can’t control how much sex they have or with who? Women understand being single vs being taken. Even if they sleep around when they are single there is still room to assume they can be faithful when paired up. Isn’t it just common decency to be faithful? It would still probably help to understand masculine romance from the bluepill perspective and see if it is achievable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?I believe respect is a component of platonic love but it does not seem to be a component of romantic love in practice If you use respect as the shit test here is the problem: hurt people hurt people. If she feels neglected by you at all she may show this with disrespect. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you it just means her empathy for you right now is at an all-time low due to your neglect/failure Intrusive thought means thought you DON’T want or agree with. It is unintentionally reckless. Int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?Is respect more important because it puts him at an advantage economically? I’m not sure if it is a function of romance. I can see how respect would be more important in business with other men and if a woman didn’t respect you it would impact that Do you not believe women can have honor and duty? A lot of women don’t want to get married BECAUSE they respect the institution so much and divorce rates are so high. There is a lack of faith in these things unless the man is like you said and as long… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?Can you elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:49 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?based on the extremes I see on reddit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?I ignored that part because the old definitions for romance sound archaic but appreciate the rest of the answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?I do believe doing something for your partner and only for your partner is also romantic. It is altruistically and unselfishly romantic. As long as both partners continue to show active appreciation for those things I think it can work longterm. Otherwise, if an effort isn’t appreciated you should try a different effort. It is hard to give gifts of anything: many people end up giving gifts They Themselves want instead of really thinking ‘what does the other person want/like/need?’ so it is hard … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?Some women are very tall and cannot help but date shorter but I agree that is an outlier. However, very short women also exist so I feel like this is kinda a moot point. Humans seem to have a preference for dimorphism, such that the male is larger than the female. Men like small women because it makes them feel even bigger. however on the other end of the spectrum is really short men who might seek adding some height to their kids | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?To be honest I would agree with you because red pill opened my eyes to a lot of my nature in a very ‘breaking the third wall’ type of way…but I believe both do romance naturally, differently. maybe it is usually the guy who orchestrates things to feel more serendipitous (?) but women can be romantic too: cook him food, handmade gifts, thoughtful research about something he likes in discussions. I would say men even traditionally pick the place to eat or have a date but in modern times women do t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?I’m not having sex as recreation. I knew lots of virgins in college also. I agree that apps like tinder makes it look like everyone is just banging but these days it’s a way to make platonic friends too Romantic relationships are NOT just companionship and sex. That’s like the ‘roommate’ scenario. Romance exudes lust and love. Romantic attraction is like having feelings with a storyline. It’s like there are roles for you to fill with each other. Something synchronizes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 08:01 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?What about when they get older and it’s no longer financially or practically responsible to make babies? Do older men still have little interest in women, seeing it as fruitless, or do they tend to get more attached? edit: I originally thought this comment was from a male but see now it is from a female | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:53 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?has it always been that way for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?I saw one guy said cuddles and hot cocoa! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:47 AM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r3Pr1_v7hsw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:46 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?Is this actually based on being sexual or is it a power thing? When you say ‘serve their every need’ it makes it sound degrading instead of eager and willing. I don’t see any opposition to why you can’t then just be monogamous with a ‘slut’? In the west, monogamy is one man during the duration of a relationship. In some cultures, monogamy is like swans: mate for life. and sluts are anyone beyond 0-1 partners What are the fantasies of a Blue Pill man? maybe I’ll jump over to that sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:44 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?You don’t have to be Christian to have traditional western values which I agree were mostly based on Christianity and Judaism. The morals are pretty much written into the law but I would say we could do with more mentors or moral guidance and consensus in general | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?A decade ago ‘realtionship’ and ‘dating’ would have been the same thing. These days people ‘date’ multiple and don’t call it ‘relationship’ until it’s monogamous. I feel like that is a big problem. If you are so lukewarm about someone that you are dating others the same time then that person is boring you. and you are probably dating another bore too unless the other one inspires you to drop everyone else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?romantic marketplace | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:17 AM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?See when I feel romance it’s more like ‘what do we have in common?’ and certain things line up or I ‘get’ them right away and it’s on They can have physical attributes that I like that I might focus on but I really don’t judge the person beyond their relation and similarities to myself? Like obviously maybe if I was hiring them as an employee I would think about practical things…to be honest I have been looking at those things with some men more, observing poor behaviors, but I was never romanti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:13 AM |
| 3 | Do men actually want love?It doesn’t sound like you are describing a woman in love. I have dated guys I wasn’t in love with and those always ended for these ‘boredom’ type reasons but when I am in love they end up longterm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:05 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?That sounds like platonic love + lust | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?How did you jump to ‘sex and love are the same thing’ from ‘I would stay with her if she became sick’? It looks like he was demonstrating there is still a love bond even when there is no sex. But I agree with you though that the physical component is necessary. I don’t know how anyone could say they are ‘in love’ with anyone else unless both those people make at least some kind of physical contact…and it is the reason I refuse long distance situationships. It might not be a Total waste of time b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Do men actually want love?I think I got the title question wrong. I guess what I meant is do men want romance? Romance and love are very similar to me but I see it as much different than stability. Might just be my experience too as a female that it feels much more romantic in the beginning and less romantic as it becomes more stable. Seems like less effort gets put in because it is more comfortable. It’s funny because in any other situation getting too comfortable has been warned about for leading to mistakes. I also am… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 06:44 AM |
| 0 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.If a man only objectifies his female partners that’s sexist. If he also objectifies his male partners (if any) then I would be less offended as a female. If he is unable to NOT objectify his partners however …that seems to be a social issue. Imo it’s not bad to be objective sometimes… I mean that’s what preferences are… but sometimes things should also be subjective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:41 AM |
| 2 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.The male brain and female brain are hardwired differently, for different tasks biologically. Best interests (biologically only) of men is to impregnate as many women as possible, likely meaning staying emotionally detached? Best interests of women is securing a male for at Least 9 months during pregnancy, meaning getting him attached in the experience (hormones etc) good thing is men love oxytocin anyway and we also partner for social and economic reasons | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.There is a difference between acting and being. Being a leader is attractive but if he is trying too hard it looks cringe even if succeeding. I’m not exactly sure where the cutoff is but might have something to do with other factors…like if his parents are your bosses in-laws or some kind of social ‘hall pass’ where he doesn’t get embarrassed even when he says stupid shit: too much alpha can boil over into anti-social which is obv not as attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:27 AM |
| 4 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.the word ‘attract’ is a very general term. primal attraction, sexual attraction, emotional attraction, intellectual attraction. I can see how the first few terms would apply | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:12 AM |
| 2 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.I think you are mixing up narcissism with assholeism. The only women that like being treated like shit are the ones who can’t find dominant males that treat them well. It’s confidence which is the attractor | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:08 AM |
| 2 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.altruistic narcissism doesn’t show as narcissism at first because the person is so charming. almost makes me wonder if it’s just a failure to communicate their own needs or listen to their own boundaries which gives them IED | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.I think there have been studies that show humans prefer adventure to happiness. So longterm happiness would also need to have some adventure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.I can’t imagine a narc freaking out let alone caring what a supply does or says after they have stopped being a supply. Sounds more antisocial than sociopathic, that last example | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.I feel like most of what you are describing there is sociopathy. not seeing people as human or plotting to give them the needs you see they need (so you could blackmail them or something…?) but I would be careful there because seeking out to fill the needs of others can also be a genuine desire …or at worst a great dating tactic to make yourself most marketable? I guess we have to ask at some point: how ‘fair’ is the game anyway? And does tact always imply dark motivations or is it just playing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.based on another reply here I think your example is psychopathy, not bpd/npd | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:48 AM |
| 3 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.I agree with the poster. It likely depends on how the validation comes into play. Does she want to accept you to feel more empowered or does rejecting you make her feel more empowered? Extremely skimpy clothing leads us to assume lower education and likely not a ‘boss babe’ entrepreneur type (stereotypically) and so she might feel empowered by catching a man with power because she doesn’t have any of her own. Already empowered women (financially independent ‘boss babes’) feel less like they need… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:45 AM |
| 3 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.Did your relationship with your husband also start with love bombing? It seems normal that any new relationship, in order for both parties to want it to become monogamous, would feel more ‘special’ and be more ‘favorited’ than all the rest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Men are attracted to narcissistic and BPD women because they are also hypersexual, not because of their personality.What is a personality? I fail to see how mental afflictions would not also be a part of a personality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 08:28 AM |
| – | When women say they want "a little bit of muscle" on a guy they still mean a lot of muscleok I think I figured out why. I never do the contour thing which makes your face look different because it's like an optical illusion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 10:59 PM |
| 2 | When women say they want "a little bit of muscle" on a guy they still mean a lot of muscleMen can gain muscle faster than women. Just bulk up by eating more food/calories, lots of cheese and proteins: chicken, rice, beans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 03:27 AM |
| 1 | When women say they want "a little bit of muscle" on a guy they still mean a lot of muscleWhat kinda of magazines are men’s magazines? edit: you mean like Motorcross Mag or something right? I didn’t mean X-rated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 03:25 AM |
| 0 | When women say they want "a little bit of muscle" on a guy they still mean a lot of muscleI have passively yelled at a guy at the gym to do legs because he was looking lopsided. probably not nice now that I think of it but seems like no one was telling him. I’d appreciate if men gave me suggestions idk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 03:23 AM |
| 3 | When women say they want "a little bit of muscle" on a guy they still mean a lot of muscleconfused by the last part…recently told I look good with no makeup and full makeup doesn’t make me look different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 03:21 AM |
| 0 | When women say they want "a little bit of muscle" on a guy they still mean a lot of muscleGood job! Shoot low so we’ll settle! This is fine but he’s probably 6’6. Really Tall men can’t keep the weight on them they’d have to be eating all day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Not everyone is capable of being in a healthy and monogamous relationship because of their family background due to being part of a dysfunctional or broken home and that is completely fine.yes and no. I’d say it depends on the extent of the damage and if that person is actively working to repair it. Historically, damaged people seem to turn to drugs, violence, addictions and other distractions like cheating, self-harm, serial monogamy, etc…but if someone is clean, in control on their emotions (or getting there), taking time to themselves and growing…then I’d say maybe they can heal. YouTube is a great, valuable resource for anyone, especially those who cannot afford therapy Obviou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/23 09:43 AM |
| – | Women Cannot Detect a Red Pilled Man If He Knows What He's Doinghttps://tenor.com/view/never-selling-wolf-of-wall-street-wallstreet-wsb-proton-gif-20319862 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 04:21 PM |
| – | Women Cannot Detect a Red Pilled Man If He Knows What He's Doingvideos | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 04:19 PM |
| -1 | Women Cannot Detect a Red Pilled Man If He Knows What He's DoingThe issue with Tate is the abuse he was doing with those women. It’s not consensual if you’re afraid to say no or financially trapped. He demonstrated value with his cars etc sure but the emotional immaturity and small d*ck energy is the issue: he comes off as a small angry man and idk even how tall he is but the presentation of how he shares his ‘insights’ is what comes off as cringe. Why? Because if you GOT IT you don’t have to FLAUNT IT. How does he MAKE his money? Probably selling courses or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Women Cannot Detect a Red Pilled Man If He Knows What He's DoingAssuming she doesn’t bring up the topic of Red Pill first or doesn’t take it as a turnoff that you don’t smooth talk it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 01:02 AM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedOk well maybe it’s just me but I really see no point in ‘debating’ anything unless you’re transparent in trying to ‘help’ others on your own side or even the opposing side. We should help others understand our vision of the shared goal ...and this post is Literally asking for advice aka help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 04:46 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedouch. unnecessarily cruel. sure having whatever relevant standards makes sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 03:05 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedSo you come to this sub not to help. ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedIn that case women should not make any exceptions for you if you’ve ever visited a prostitute or been with a woman who has some personality issues which might be the female equivalent to ‘douchebag’ (hot but super emotionally unstable chicks etc) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 12:32 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedI am referencing another reddit thread where users said they had married after first date sex but why would you not reveal magic sauce questions? Like ‘the magic 23 questions to fall in love’ or whatever we saw online years ago? Idk if they work or not but why WOULDN’T you share with the world how they could get love? If it’s because you don’t want competition really you just gotta have the mindset that if it’s supposed to happen with a specific person then it will | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 12:26 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedHow about premarital coitus as long as there is engagement asking to wait for marriage in this climate is like squeezing water from rocks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:31 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedIf you are looking for a truly equitable relationship, seek partners who have the same or similar experience as you with regards to quantity and frequency of previous partners and then we can stop debating this n-count thing once and for all because everyone is looking for something different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:27 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedif she is engaging in casual sex it really doesn’t matter who it is with. It could be a really hot broke guy or a really rich hot guy. doesn’t matter. sex for sex is for sex: physicality. Both guys are hot. Had sex. Nothing else matters. No kids to demonstrate commitment or elevate social value. No finances involved. Otherwise you have to say any prostitute visited by a rich high value man has elevated her value. But no one cares about that prostitute: she is still just a prostitute. Casual sex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:14 PM |
| 3 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedis this theoretical guy honest or is he lying about his intentions? maybe that doesn’t have anything to do with being alpha and just has to do with ‘saying anything to get in her pants’ Edit: There was a reply to this comment but now I can’t find it. To be honest I have only ever heard men say other men ‘will say anything to get it’ as a warning to me or other women and have never heard women use this phasing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:04 PM |
| 3 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedhow did you first meet? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:00 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedHe can break the smaller rules but he gets a spanking later or whatever equivalent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:57 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedEven if this would be more likely to lead to falling in love there is still the issue of knowing personality compatibility (which unless sexual chemistry was used as the bar, should be the bar to becoming ‘comfortable’) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:56 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedIt is smart to be uninvested basically so you can pivot immediately...I wonder if both parties doing this makes them more likely to fall in love Doing it only for pleasure is very short-term as it is literally living for the moment. Oftentimes living for the present moment makes us feel more alive and there can be a romantic attraction in that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:53 PM |
| 6 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedHonestly some people have made it work all the way to the alter. There must be some kind of secret sauce or magical questions we’re supposed to be asking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:47 PM |
| 7 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedFind that hard to believe as I can’t imagine sex with an unenthusiastic person would even be any good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:45 PM |
| 5 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedAgree. 2-3 months typically means you’ve have 4-6 dates/meets. If it was going to fizzle it would have but it’s still early enough to keep it burning | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:43 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedExcept that this kind of advice recommends that women put energy into interactions which may have no return. Instead of giving into her desires at every whim she could be building a business or sorting out her finances. There is literally such limited time in a day if you work full-time it is bad to recommend she waste her resource especially if men have it planned out that they will pump and dump and then be good for another three months meanwhile she continues on dating. How about let’s recomm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:41 PM |
| 3 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedWhen you are instinctually and magnetically sexually drawn to someone it is hard to hold off enough dates before becoming physical. A good barrier might be if they are a (preferably non-subordinate or non-superior) coworker and Maybe you can learn about them while the tension is thick enough to cut with a knife but then again maybe your thinker will be broken Men also seem to place more Weight on that instinctual attraction also, which doesn’t help anything and seems nonsensical since commitment… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedthis is laughable. unless he implicitly expresses (explicitly can come off as desperate) that he dates for marriage then there is no point to demonstrate anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:33 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedStop Dating. Easy peasy Or date foreign men. American men and I’d venture to say European men are a lost cause. Depending on how you define High Value Male, also a lost cause Date a Hindu, Muslim or African Christian If he is in his 20s he will let you help build him up and leave you for someone younger unless maybe you were his highschool sweetheart If he is in his 30s he is playing games for the next 10-15 years. This also applies to other white HVM of mixed, latino or non-white countries For … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:29 PM |
| 0 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveThat’s a good argument for polygamy. I would want to see some incidence stats. Is there too much risk to even partake in monogamy maybe? Imagine losing to a loser all because you weren’t there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractivesurely you don’t mean to imply that mate guarding is the Only way to show you care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 02:48 AM |
| 3 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveJealousy comes from a place of insecurity. Always. Jealously tends to be bitter I would argue jealousy is NEVER healthy. At most, you should only find envy for people/things Mate-guarding shows you care. Protection against a foreign threat comes from a place of security. If you are jealous, it’s because you feel like the threat has already ‘won’ Men don’t need to get jealous but they should show they care. If your woman is initiating or reciprocating flirtation with another man then maybe you dr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 02:45 AM |
| -4 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveI think it is fair also for your husband to step in if someone is undressing you with their eyes he doesn’t necessarily need to wait until it escalates too far and they get handsy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 02:33 AM |
| 4 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveA little part of me wonders how men feel about the woman in this scenario though...like...is it not a turn off if your woman can be distracted so easily? I get that maybe it is your ‘fault’ for not satisfying her... Sorta feel like if the woman is satisfied then this should not be an issue/worry as she would reject the advances of her own accord | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveIt’s important how and why it is done. If it comes from a jealous place of insecurity that’s no good and signals the man might also end up being controlling due to insecurity. If it comes from a confident place of mate guarding and instead of angry/confrontational is more suave at throwing off the advances of others then that is more attractive and ideal I still like to see the defense of territory but I like to see tact | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?I think this is the best answer when you say you didn’t think about it (and has nothing to do with being cheated on as that was just a dud) If you are confident in yourself you don’t think about the competition and it wouldn’t matter if she went on a dozen other dates before you settle down, you would just know they could never measure up to you And if they do then you just say ‘Well it wasn’t meant to be’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?but you are 24M are you established enough to compete? this will of course be your answer if not! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?right! a date is just a date as long as you’re not putting out or being insane and getting hitched in Vegas | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?What phase is she supposed to reject them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?I am beginning to wonder about asking reddit. Should be asking target demographic ... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?That is not obvious to me if they prefer with or without. If you consider supply / demand as an example with women as the main consumers then I don’t know what supply / demand looks like in male-based consumer economy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?Well traditionally if you were religious sex would be saved for marriage so it’s not that far off based for her to be looking for her half of that exchange. Don’t know why or how it became a thing for women to seem crazy to want commitment if they are filling their half of the deal and getting physical?? It’s too soon for marriage sure but it’s also too soon to be that physically involved and she gave into her emotions with no security of commitment in that case but why are you doing that anyway… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?So the minute she finds someone more interesting you’re out. I can respect that if you’ve been seeing each other etc but my question is kinda the pre-seeing-eachother phase | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?not even gonna read all this misogyny | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?There is nothing about exes in here... uh oh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?Your choice was to be the fastest lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:51 PM |
| – | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?Where are you reading that I am into my feelings? all I did was state bare fact Yes either sex can play hard to get but that is not the example I am presenting. Usually people ‘play’ hard to get by making up fake shit My point is playing hard to get is different than Being hard to get and in the latter case it just depends on first come first serve. If you didn’t make your move that’s on you As for post, the reason to bring this kind of conversation out here could actually be to figure out why m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?Why would she ask guys out if a line of guys are asking her out? Why would she ask out a guy who has not asked her out if she is conditioned to have guys ask her out? It would feel unnatural | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 08:46 PM |
| -1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?Can you explain a little more about why you chose option 1 Maybe she doesn’t think you’re interested enough because you didn’t make a move How can we really even know for sure? I have always been told to never wait. You don’t want to wait on her so she doesn’t want to wait on you right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?It’s not playing. Have you ever heard the saying ‘it’s not tricking if you got it’ ? Playing would be like her Lying about having a date or somewhere to be/go | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?Do you understand supply and demand ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 07:40 PM |
| 0 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?I can’t fix the title. Not sure if it’s because I’m on mobile but just assumed you can’t change reddit titles once submitted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 07:40 PM |
| -1 | Does the prize does get a prize for waiting to be given?first come first serve. based. but what if someone else gets her before you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takeDate only high value men or raise your value until you can. Seems like most problems are coming from people wanting to date outside their pool and without any efforts of increasing their own value Obviously if women are only dating for marriage then men need to agree to the same. I could just as easily say “And this is exactly what American men don’t want because it locks them out from banging low value women” but if they agree they want serial monogamy then it’s fair game HVM need to agree to d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takeSurprised you support serial monogamy but I think that’s the piece that has been missing. I thought this was seen as promiscuous because it increases n count. That should be a pretty easy compromise for American woman if all men are asking for is serial monogamy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:23 PM |
| 1 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?maybe so...not sure how bad it is over there these days | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:19 PM |
| 2 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?😬 honestly have not visited the redpill sub for at least two years. I know redpillwomen still exists but I thought the original redpill sub was banned two years ago still haven’t checked either...really have no desire to go there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:18 PM |
| 1 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?I am upvoting your comment assuming that’s accurate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:16 PM |
| 2 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?Spinning plates seems very PUA-focused imo...but I think there is a ‘Married Red Pill’ sub? so maybe not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:14 PM |
| 2 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?Well traditionally you probably wouldn’t have funds for much more anyway unless you’re rich. It’s different these days with having more infrastructure and access to non-essentials, depending where you live | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:13 PM |
| -1 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?or other homemaking hobbies and typical social gatherings I’d figure but judging by the downvotes I’m no redpill woman expert. I’m likely thinking of just the traditional way of things so perhaps it’s more modern... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?but definitely make sure you get a goldfish right after | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takeI honestly would doubt that claim. 140+ doesn’t even think to take the test unless you ask them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:05 PM |
| 2 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?Well maybe that is a difference from traditional men then because I would expect a redpill guy to always pick up the bill but you’re right especially incels who find redpill probably jump to over-valuing themselves and refuse to pay because they think this special knowledge somehow makes them alpha and they think Chad doesn’t pay for anything. In reality most traditional guys Like paying for things: it makes them feel needed and useful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takeYou keep saying ‘go overseas’ as if you won’t have HUGE conflicts for cultural reasons. There is no ‘easy way out’ Relationships take work: find one that’s like a hobby Even if you do secure the young virgin, in western culture she may leave you just because she feels like she hasn’t ‘explored’ her sexuality enough. It seems kind of backwards at this point to not be a little more liberal about women’s sexuality especially since women go to university and are part of the working class You’d have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takemaybe y’all could talk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takeVery useful to note if Redpillers are not ‘drowning in titts’ if that was the promise. That seems like something that would have come more from the PUA side though There is a difference between men wanting to exploit and abuse game vs using it to secure commitment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Moderately successful men in their 30s with very limited dating experience, have to be a very harsh decision to takeAnyone who has had a previous partner, even just one previous partner, will come with a set of standards from that experience. That has nothing to do with manipulating men. Don’t date fiscally broke women if you want to avoid your money being a ‘pro’ of dating you. Date only in your financial bracket if you really hate that so much. Women are unlikely to date lonely/desperate men seriously (committed and putting out etc) unless the man has that ‘pro’ of money. Because then the woman can at least… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:36 PM |
| 5 | Should men be offended if they have to get get money first before you date them?No. It makes sense biologically that if there is a risk of getting pregnant, you should only date men who might be able to handle that risk Beta bucks is of higher position than broke alphas Being accomplished makes a man more accomplished. If accomplishment could make you alpha then there would be no beta bucks Being a nerd has no impact on alpha or beta status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:24 PM |
| 0 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?you are confusing assholes with redpill men. There are some assholes in the community (like any other) but there are also reasonable guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:21 PM |
| 0 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:19 PM |
| 2 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?Well, that would be the wrong kind of drama for sure. Sounds toxic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:19 PM |
| 0 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?Can you elaborate? Because honestly it seems like a pinch of drama may be necessary to keep the desire cycle going | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:18 PM |
| 0 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?I see little to no difference between traditional men and red pill. Red pill is the informed traditional man. Same values, with an extra assist of PUA mating tactics and psychology (game) which may be leveraged against women’s psychology, based on inherent biological truths. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:16 PM |
| -11 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?If the woman has too many desires beyond the traditional family life I’d argue she’s not truly redpill. Needs, as far as essentials, would definitely be taken care of by a redpill man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:12 PM |
| 1 | What do women actually gain by getting into a committed relationship with a Red Pill man?I came here assuming the husband doing chores WAS redpill. A truly ‘traditional’ redpill man would feel like a deadbeat if he didn’t pick up the slack. Idk why but I have this image in my head of a strong lumberjack. Strong, burly men don’t bat an eye at doing chores like this when the woman is vulnerable. I think the way it was worded here is too open to interpretation: including the unnecessary ‘Exist’ makes it seem like bragging to some, while others understand it is hard to exist while breas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 12:10 PM |
| 8 | the fundamental issue with most dating advice directed at men is most of it boils down to “be someone else entirely”An Idea: Take away birth control so the Chads stop banging ugly women because they are too afraid they might get them pregnant and the incels can finally get some women I’m not saying we SHOULD I’m just saying it’s an idea | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:22 AM |
| 1 | the fundamental issue with most dating advice directed at men is most of it boils down to “be someone else entirely”That’s Fair. Everyone likes something different. I was turned onto this advice by someone once: Look for the expert. That means if you are having marriage issues, ask a happily married person for advice. If you need to pick out flowers, ask a skilled florist. If you want to know how to attract a specific kind of women or a specific Woman: ask those kinds of women/That Woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:15 AM |
| 1 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?maybe some anthropologists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:10 AM |
| 2 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?also assumed it’s already been a thing. would be a pretty interesting job tbh. Would be inclined to give that job to psychologists of varying political views | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:09 AM |
| 1 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?if you actually want to invest in mass therapy for all the ‘Karens’ on record you might be able to entice them by saying they’ve won a cruise sweepstake? and then the cruise is like subliminal mass therapy to be a better human being? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:07 AM |
| 2 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?ban prostitutes. incels are paying women online tons of money to send pictures. have to say this one makes less sense...also who is gonna play videogames on youtube to distract kids so parents can have some alone time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:04 AM |
| 3 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?take away their phones ban ‘youtubing’ as a career where a poorly dressed lazy guy can play videogames 16 hours a day and get paid in ads because 7 year olds are watching him. The media consumption of kids and ‘non-contributors’ is effecting the market BAD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 02:02 AM |
| 2 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?You can’t have purple pill without BOTH blue and red pill sides. But it is important to pick out the extremist parts (and I think this has more to do with individual members than pill sides) maybe look for threats in the PUA (like tate) and MGTOW (likely true incels) subclasses from red pill side | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:58 AM |
| 0 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?is the RedPill sub even still there? I thought it got deleted Idk why but I am willing to bet those kind of comments are coming from politically charged people (antifa is the extremist right group correct?) but correlation is not causation. Someone could be an extremist on redpill but redpill is more like dating theory (or even sorta Darwinian) for the more traditionally minded. It’s like separating church and state or work from homelife: pill groups are like , the personal/homelife stuff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:55 AM |
| 0 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?All comments like this I ignore. Government workers are workers just like anybody else. Everything is a case by case basis and social media is at the fingertips of everyone and impacting our world view as a whole. no one is immune to the trends. If the government was so far removed from the people it governs then they wouldn’t even know what these terms are. they know what they are now they’re just trying to figure out how to weed out the actual threats in the extremist sides of that sphere | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:51 AM |
| 3 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?YOU’RE it’s the third time misspelled in this thread | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:45 AM |
| 1 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?sure why not that’s their job | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:45 AM |
| 1 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?What are the ‘rights’ of cyberspace? Reddit especially is basically anonymous public like a church confessional box and other social media is already outed No real need for much privacy on platforms like this...and if the fbi is following anything the reddit subs are public anyway 🤷♀️ I mean, follow it I guess? And if it’s sus check it out/look further? they likely have ways to ‘out’ reddit accntz etc if needed edit: accntz waz typo but I’ll leave it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:43 AM |
| 1 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?this. really. because the internet isn’t really private anyway. Sometimes you can interpret peoples intentions just based on their reactions...or interactions I guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:40 AM |
| 12 | FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice?this will be difficult as mainstream started using terms like ‘Karen’ and ‘Chad’ and what does looksmaxxing/glowups have to do with anything? People looksmaxx to make themselves more attractive it’s just general self-improvement? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?What you are saying now is that diversity hires can never be as good as regular hires? There is still competition in the diverse amongst themselves. You get the top quality candidates of that pool. Unless you’d rather all companies only hire white Chads? If a poor man has full custody of the child he is not eligible for WIC? Maybe if we think about the teacher thing some more as a collective the female teachers will be punished just as harshly. This won’t happen overnight obviously. Instead of l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 04:43 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?I guess I know why now because they bring it up fast and first | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 05:39 AM |
| 0 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?We’re not in high school anymore and my first bf taught me chess 🤷♀️ Pretty sure even the popular kids can be found playing it these days tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 05:35 AM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?X% This is because women have not been in the workforce as long as men (especially in certain sectors) and so are considered in inclusivity Do single fathers sticks around? I assume welfare goes to whoever is caring for the child Teachers should not interact with students at all until/unless they are of a legal age and no longer students. I don’t see any reason for male and female teachers to be treated any differently with respect to that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 05:26 AM |
| 3 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?Sexual or not I would think she probably ruined that thing for him. I would feel bad that he doesn’t get to enjoy that thing he liked to do because a previous partner made him not want to do it for anybody anymore | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 02:24 AM |
| 3 | Chat GPT - Is there such a thing as a "right" or "wrong" sexual strategy? Discussion ThreadI can’t tell what people are generating or replying themselves in these comments so I’ll give it a go, ChatGPT response to 1. As an AI language model, I don't have personal beliefs, feelings, or opinions. However, I can provide information and insights based on existing research and theories related to the concept of sexual strategy. The concept of sexual strategy proposes that males and females have different innate strategies when it comes to sexual behavior and reproduction. According to evol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?early 30s female here & I’m with you that fraud isn’t r @ p3. It is IMMORAL but this isn’t a marriage here: there is technically no enforceable morals yet. Also, I found the solution to consent while drinking is simply to watch my limit and/or NOT drink with people I wouldn’t consent to. If I am knowingly drinking past my limit I’m basically giving consent Edit: & I have no comment of the rest of the explicit stuff posted here (tbh wouldn’t have even replied had I read the rest first) 👉If it’s n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?If she wears makeup she has no place arguing about his physical gains. The genes only really matter if you want kids tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?She didn’t do her due diligence on the guy and it’s a shítty situation but it’s not r@pe Deception and scams are lessons...that really suck because it makes it harder to trust people in the future...but sometimes it’s just bad luck and you don’t wanna be bitter over some bad luck when good fortune could be waiting in the future | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?Gotta disagree with the second half. The quote made me smile but heartbreak tends to put both men and women on the rebound. In rebound, nothing is hacked by someone new...it was simply broken and left open by someone previous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?What you just described is self-improvement. No. Those men that improved themselves are NOT what they once were. Actually these guys are Genuinely less likely to lie about their preferences for boundaries in a relationship...because they don’t likely have previous dating experience and so therefore they don’t have any... It’s like how abusive men might be more likely to seek out a virginal woman because she won’t know if he treats her poorly...the guy who switches up his diet and drops 200 lbs, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:40 AM |
| 0 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?I’ll take the chess master if you can make him at least 5’6 and he can lift 110 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:23 AM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Again, sounds like those women are either not dating to have a relationship or they are in it for a free meal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:24 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?It took me forever to understand what you were trying to say by this, because dating gets harder if you take away incentives but I wasn't sure why you were so against competition and it becoming harder. Obviously competiton is good for change and growth. But I realize I think that you weren't implying that either side has a hard time becoming more supportive emotionally and physically or more mature...and instead meant that the incentive missing of getting potential divorce proceeds(?) makes wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Literally if you have to ask ‘what is this’ that sounds like to me that those two people are only meeting up for sex and are friends with benefits under no certain terms and one of them(whoever is being accusatory) caught feelings and instead of admitting they f***ed up. If both people like each other they usually admit it Can you not tell when someone likes you? If you have to ask what it is you already know the answer. If she likes you then you’ll know and if not you’ll be confused It’s a HELL… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:23 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?I don’t know how or why but I have never had to ask a man what we are. Usually we become exclusive pretty quickly. I think if you have to doubt what it is then maybe that is the wrong person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Usually when you are dating to have relationships* I am not talking about casual sex. Casual sex usually isn’t even dating. ‘Netflix and chill’ is not a Date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:13 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Younger women are obviously inexperienced. My point is you’re not getting a previously coddled person if they have just never experienced something. I was saying if you want to reduce the risk of dating inexperienced people then don’t date much younger women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 04:53 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?I’m not sure what you’re trying to say. Can you add more in between that jump in logic to explain how you got there? If you read my other comments you’ll see how it comes back to this and it has to do with more security for both sides. It’s easier for men to lock women down when they have money and easier for women to lock in older men. You can both pay 50/50 and fight wars 50/50 and date the same age...and maybe that even comes off as more Secure even but this is not about attachment style it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 03:06 PM |
| 1 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?That is completely false. Most women looking for a serious relationship know that men view most women like this: that women have casual sex often. Men view women like this because that’s what men would do if they were able to do it. Not all women do that though and when they don’t they have to fight that stereotype. Also, women know that having sex too soon can undermine building a solid foundation and longterm connection so they avoid it. Casual sex would either take some extreme sexual chemist… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else noticed a lack of "mixed gatherings" post Me too?this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:51 AM |
| 3 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?meet different women. directness is a personality trait not a gender trait | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:49 AM |
| 13 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?even the least effective form of birth control works relatively well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:48 AM |
| 2 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Slandering women just because you want to date younger women ...probably means younger women don’t want to date you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:46 AM |
| -2 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Stop dating younger women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:41 AM |
| 3 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Both sides can have as high of standards that they want, it all just depends on the pond and what is realistic in terms of settling Typically you will screw up before you figure out the limit of your ‘reach’ pool 😢😭(but also figure out you can ask for more from the pool that is ‘safe’🤪😜) After this, it all just comes down to luck. and honestly...after thinking through all that I think it’d be better to find an equal match. At the end of the day no one wants to settled or be settled on...and too … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:40 AM |
| 7 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?You are not seeing the top of the pyramid. You say women don’t have to compete but EVERYTHING depends on the pool. You have to make it your job to be the big fish in the small pond no matter what side you’re on Women DO need to compete with younger women. There can be leverage in areas like beauty, health, finances, education, etc but there is also risk. I’d love to say longterm interest can be nuanced for men but sadly I’m uncertain...How many men want a woman they can ‘mold’ vs a woman who alr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:26 AM |
| 3 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?I still cannot imagine marrying a man SOLEY for his money. A beta can still be OBJECTIVELY attractive it’s just that their Subjective ways make them lower on the social ladder. They could even be HOT until they open their mouths and dribble off some self-disempowering speech. I highly doubt betas don’t know what they are getting into. They know EXACTLY what they are getting into: that is why they throw money for the chance to keep her around. Even Alphas will do this for certain women. I can’t f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 08:09 AM |
| 6 | What do you dislike about female behavior with regards to sex and dating? What changes from women would you like to see?Ideally, you should be exclusive a few weeks to a few months before hitting a home run. I can’t fault men for not wanting to give commitment to a ons or someone emotionally unstable but it is deceitful if you Know she doesn’t understand she is getting herself in trouble with you. For example, if she hasn’t had many relationships and then you take advantage of this. You can’t say you are doing everything in good faith if you start playing word games. Women tend to interpret ‘dating’ as ‘exclusive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:45 AM |
| 1 | In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want?Right. I kinda took this thread too literally at first. I am on This sub because I wanted to see how red pill theories get corrected here and kinda balance me out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:31 AM |
| 5 | In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want?Are you also attractive with low 20s BMI and can cook and clean? Because there are men out there like this who are also still willing to pay 100% rent just for the chance with a younger woman. I would rather take an older guy who has this. I would even prefer to split rent 50/50 if it meant a guy my age who keeps in shape and does more housework. Because honestly if a guy is trying to buy his way out of having attractive characteristics I wouldn’t date him unless I literally couldn’t afford rent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:24 AM |
| 1 | In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want?this but also filling the voids of social things and stuff is important too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:13 AM |
| 2 | In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want?I have lived with roommates before so I know I don’t just want people present, especially since sometimes roommates can be annoying and then there is no intimacy to smooth things over. I have no feelings about expectations. I have considered that maybe I don’t actually want a longterm relationship...which may be what has led to me being single for so long...so in that sense a ‘void’ may be the answer...but social hobbies costs money I don’t have and time I probably won’t have once I have money. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.If he is not objectively smoking hot he has the first 90 seconds to make a big Personality impression which can turn him into smoking hot That being said, the difference between not being or yes being smoking hot would now be negligible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 11:45 PM |
| 3 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Attraction can be built with intelligence but Most Unattractive Men are Not Confident | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Where the hell are you finding Unattractive ambitious men? It seems like most of the time being unattractive kills their drive to do anything else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 11:40 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themhe said sugaring. some women might feel pressured if handed a bunch of money. I wouldn’t but some would | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 06:08 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themIt doesn’t work in any case where she feels pressured to have sex earlier than she’d want to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 04:18 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themWhat if she is getting paid while she gets to know if she likes him or not?🥴 I could never do it as my main source of income (too risky) and I feel like there should be some other skill contributed as well ...like cooking or something Edit: To clarify, just paid to spend time with you and if she likes you she stays You will say it’s not different than dating but I think that is different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 04:15 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themThat’s surprising honestly. I think there must be two different sets. Because I have seen younger women be more focused on the money aspect if they know they don’t want to settle down yet (if they realize they’re young and want to pursue work first etc) and I feel like that set is likely to use men. On the other hand older women are kinda ready to settle down and if they used men or not either way they want a real connection Then there is the opposite. Where you have younger women who don’t know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:35 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themI do have to say if it comes to kids she may pick the younger male just because it is assumed he will have more energy to parent etc (in a case of similar value males of different ages...) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:44 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themThis is the truth. Are you female? Also, women dating older men will still be more demanding than women his own age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:43 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themIt doesn’t matter what he can afford unless he is sexually attractive to her These men are lying to themselves about the experience. When you have chemistry and you click is a lot different than if you just paid someone. Imagine it. Did you ever have friends in high school who seemed to ‘pay’ to keep their friends around? Buy stuff for them because they didn’t feel worthy? It’s the same thing. When you bring money into it like that you will always question if you’re actually ‘worth it’ unless it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:36 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themI’d say that’s true. Younger women 18-25(?) prefer to stick around their age but 25-35 might be different because their at the career stage | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:35 AM |
| -2 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themI am done arguing how bad it is for women to want successful men. It is very obviously in our biological nature to only want to reproduce with males who can handle the world. You make it sound like men are trying SO SO HARD but the reality is you probably wrote this sitting in your underwear wearing the same socks you’ve had on since last Sunday and if you didn’t the point is a lot of men are doing just that. They put in the minimal effort and then complain that hot chicks are not fawning over t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoSounds like they’re not lonely then? I guess OP isn’t one of them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women Doidk I haven’t seen much so far to even indicate their interest that tbh. most recent comments I see are ‘cats forever’ and general slander towards men Actually wasn’t there a study done on this already showing explicitly that people are having less sex and moving toward celibacy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoTo say women are not alone...but to completely ignore that any kind of ‘casual sex, hookups, dinner dates, FWB‘...would Also Include men...seems to make the argument irrelevant Also just because women CAN easily find men to do that with doesn’t mean they do it. It all depends on how the women values sex and what kind of sex she is looking for or if she would prefer to have a partner. And in the case that she is stringing guys along, those guys are equally as ‘lonely’ as her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoThe deepness of the bond is what has been driving me to try to first be friends with men. But I’ve started to feel like that impedes the natural flow of things(?) ..maybe it’s better just to not use labels until you’re sure what it is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women Doit’s a delicate dance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:26 AM |
| 3 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoWhynot? Is he not literally ignoring the responsibilities of being a parent so he can play games? Why doesn’t he play games the kids can play? Or schedule his hobby around when the kids are out at a friends house or you have a sitter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:24 AM |
| 6 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoThis is a valid argument. Some men are actually lazy workers. I’ve seen lots of comments bragging how much time they waste on facebook or automate their job and play videogames or browse reddit the rest of the time. I think this probably happens equally as much with housework...all depends on the personalities involved and work ethic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoGot it. Sounds like the solution is to order takeout and call someone else to fix the bathroom. And if you can’t afford to do that, accept this is what you chose. A renovation is not usually a NEED, it’s a WANT for a different aesthetic. If it is a functional issue with the bathroom...that’s life...but it’s also a one-off thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:19 AM |
| 10 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoThat’s fine but she is working more hours: she is full time with the kids+dinner+laundry= it never ends. They could hire a sitter for nights and relax evenings together or maybe he takes over all weekend The point is a lot of men want to have their cake and eat it too: Have kids but not put any work into being a parent...Instead of accepting the responsibility that comes with having kids and trying to help keep everyone in the family happy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:14 AM |
| 12 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoSounds like he is being immature. If you want your needs to be first don’t have kids...this should be obvious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoIf he is doing the childcare while you work, would you say it’s fair he could do it full time weekdays and you only take weekends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women Do👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:08 AM |
| -1 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoHe is talking about men who want romance and longterm. You are talking about men that lie about what they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:06 AM |
| 6 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoIf a man is looking for Real romance, it is assumed he wants a partner who also is equally as interested. All the complaints you see here are from people who have not yet found a good match If you have been mutually in love in a LTR at any point in your life, you already know this, even if you’ve forgotten | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 02:03 AM |
| 2 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?Yes. It’s not. Eye contact is a signal of self-confidence, not necessarily a signal of interest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?I could be approached by a broomstick at this point Edit: let’s be honest. a top-tier broomstick | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?I’m not sure but apparently when I’m ovulating I’m like a giant walking green flag and things quickly get awkward | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:10 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.Idk maybe it depends on how she was raised. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 02:24 PM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.isn’t the Chad meme like really really old though ? Like REALLY OLD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 05:32 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.You would think most women would only want to lose it to someone who seems impressive enough and worth having a relationship Virgins have no concept of how relationships work. If you want her to be faithful, ask. And if you go to college out of state and want to bang college chicks so you tell her ‘lets have an open relationship’ and at the same time she meets Chad...that’s what you asked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 05:29 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.This | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 05:17 AM |
| 3 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.if you want first date kids you better also have first date ring on it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 05:04 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.if this is the truth then I gotta say also it is probably a bad idea to Ask if you can kiss her. maybe just imo but ...I mean, it can cause her to think about where things are going and start considering you more seriously before being ‘caught’ you always want to prevent her learning more reasons or reasoning through reasons to reject you...until you have that value-add of a bond ...idk if I should even give this advice tbh because if she has reason to reject you then you shouldn’t want her anyw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 05:02 AM |
| 2 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.Sure, if you say you have experience then run with it. I have always said I don’t kiss first date but the only person that kissed me first date did it unexpectedly and we got married 🤷♀️ maybe there is something to it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:57 AM |
| 2 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.Everything you said sounds correct (though initially surprised women would consider men strangers after sex...but I guess it makes sense if it was too soon) This is the main reason you should stop chatting on the apps. If she matches you she is probably down to go on a date. Just ask her out and say in person is always better than texting on the app edit: it still doesn’t make sense. a ons is not a stranger, a fwb not a stranger...it is nonsense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:51 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.4) Hugs are physical contact and you can try prolonging those first and then stay with that a few weeks. Since hugs can be platonic or romantic depending on context it’s just ambiguous enough to not be too bold. You can kiss on the cheek or kiss cheek to cheek but mileage varies. I am American so I find it unsettling...but I also would rather wait until date 3-4 to kiss...or maybe even up to a few years where everything else might be added all at once | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:46 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.3) She was feeling it and then you failed to move so now she isn’t feeling it anymore* edit to correct typo (anyone) but also: until she has full-on rejected you yet there is still hope. if it is after she rejects you, you will have to increase your value before you can reasonably try again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.What men don’t understand is they CAN touch the women they are friends with. 👉You can touch her in soft ways. Most women touch their friends (other women) and friendship tends to be more physical between females than between (straight) males usually | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:30 AM |
| 1 | I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it.There is some truth to this. If she already has some sentiment for you, for whatever reason, then as time goes on you only have more opportunities to mess up her interest. If you don’t at least kiss her or stare deep into her eyes and get that oxytocin going before the differences start piling up you might lose the chance therefore always try to move it that way: to bonding. It doesn’t have to be totally sexual but the kino should exist: give her a kiss on the cheek, a massage etc. Something has… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:26 AM |
| 0 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.You know what, go ahead and approach the hottest girl you can find. probably everyone else is too afraid to approach her anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rule_34 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.People tend to get more attractive as you talk to them. Try dating someone not your first physical preference and see if anything clicks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.Someone is about to make money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.I did. If you read the rest of my comment I said : Think of it like weight classes If you want to compete against other men in wrestling you don’t come in at 145lb looking to wrestle a guy 250+ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.Let’s not forget specialized preferences though. I’m sure there are websites where women are ONLY seeking short men etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.Please provide the study This height is why I bring up prejudices and preferences. Yes if he is White, short Latina women may be interested for example and if he is in the US then Mexico is right there But this also all goes to say the women are looking for fathers. If they plan to be single moms and they are smart, they could just take themselves to the sperm bank where it is always 6’+ Edit: Feels weird capitalizing White (not really an ethnicity...) but felt weird not capitalizing Latina | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.🤠 with education you find people with less biases and more understanding of their own subconscious biases so imo it depends on the pool as far as prejudices but with the height thing I feel like it’s less that women want someone 6’+ and more that most women just want someone taller | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:47 PM |
| -1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.The keyword here is most. But most men don’t want most women, they want the top 20% of women right? It all depends on what pool you are talking about and what opportunities are available Edit: the key is to Stop Wanting whatever is outside of your pool. It should be unattractive if someone finds you unattractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:42 PM |
| 0 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.The brain is fully developed at 25. 25-30 is fresh adult. your analogy to kids is creepy and also makes no sense if you are referring to the women. If you are referring to the men (competition, comparison to sports etc) think of it more based on weight class | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.Were you living with parents or living on your own? So you were stable enough at that age you would have been ready for kids? Ah, ok...yeah seems like you dodged a bullet Sounds like you have it figured out. I would argue there isn’t really much difference between sugar dating and being a beta bucks though...So if you wanted to traditionally date and sugar dating isn’t working out, you might reconsider your pool that way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.Boots will easily add 1-1.5 inches. Date women 5-5’2. As long as you don’t have any other competition this should be a pretty good bet. Also its not as much as it was before but there is still racial bias. Date interracially could also give you a competitive edge. Being too jacked imo can be off putting. You want to look like a protector but imo being too jacked looks too aggressive...and would make me wonder if I would need protection Against a guy rather than being able to get it From a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:26 PM |
| 0 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.You can keep trying others or you can adjust your pool now, depending on your timeline. Some guys can afford to date women 30 and below and other men just can’t swing it. Once you find your pool you’ll be happier because you’ll finally have at least found somewhere you can have success | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:51 PM |
| -3 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.You. Were. Not. Financially. Stable. at that time. At that time they were dating and marrying older men who were If you are stable now you can date and marry a chick in her 20s if you find her likable or you can date different women your age Edit: or you can date older. there is no one-soze-fits-all and other factors are obv involved | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:36 PM |
| 0 | Dating women your own age is easier in your thirty's is a lie.If that’s your pool then run with it. Even dating a woman 4 years older (40) could bring your youth into favor if she wants kids who will have a father. Are you sure you aren’t trying to pick up women in your sweatpants, anime tshirt or gym clothes? I find this hard to believe if you are financially stable and dressing well (dress slack and button up) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themThis is true but the wonky guys would have to have exceptional social skills and really shine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themThis | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themThis is very Scenario Positive. These women are out at night with their friends, around lots of people and dressed up to make connections at clubs. This is very different from the girl in her workclothes at the bus stop | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themExactly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themI have considered getting a fake ring too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:45 PM |
| 8 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching them“ Women in the US are more likely to be murdered during pregnancy or soon after childbirth than to die from the three leading obstetric causes of maternal death ” The danger of men doesn’t end after giving him your number | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching themit’s not weird to talk to women irl I don’t know who is saying that but context matters. If she is standing in line line or in the same aisle at the grocery store, fine. If she already packed up her car with groceries and is getting in her car and you chase her down or pull up with your beamer now it looks sketchy. Trying to demonstrate value (showing off your car, showing cash in tour wallet) while she is trying to LEAVE from somewhere reeks of desperation. Now we gotta wonder if you are gonna … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:31 PM |
| 1 | If A GF Can Post Bikini/Half Naked Pics, Can Her BF Like Other Women's Pics as well?He can post his own speedo pics and have women like them. But he won’t, because apparently no one will like them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 07:45 PM |
| – | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....It’s ovarian. Some women may not have the ovaries to try it, especially with hvm. If you ask, men will hop into chats with each other. They will show up to in person get-togethers and compete in person against each other. As long as the women is staying chaste it‘s still worth the chase. I bet he ghosts her though if she doesn’t vote for monogamy as soon as it’s no longer chaste...seems to be a dealbreaker to keep having guy friends at that point...but that also seems controlling/untrusting? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist.he’s hiding his money in there! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 03:34 AM |
| – | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....but they’re not dates they’re just frens Isn’t dating once you have the talk and become monogamous with that person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 03:32 AM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayDo you own a home? In some cities making six figures is nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:44 AM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayCan get behind it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:42 AM |
| 2 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayJail! To jail with them! It’s like SS anyway: taxpayers pay /h | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:40 AM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayAnd? Isn’t it likely you also do so yourself? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:39 AM |
| 2 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayEven if the women is the ‘average man’ for herself it makes a difference when it comes to childcare. The ideal may be to have a supportive partner and quit work while pregnant. The average dude might be able to support that on his income; alone she would be working while preggers. Never heard of the concept of a high status man that doesn’t provide; that’s rather worthless as women seek financial security/status FOR provisions. If you mean high status as in attractive physically then I would agr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:32 AM |
| 2 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayThere is incentive for pairing if at least one partner (let’s say the man)has a place of their own. In the current market with many men 20-35 stilling living with parents there is little incentive to date them because there is nowhere to go to be intimate (and hotels make it sound too casual) so if the woman is looking for something serious then unless they start as friends who become roommates or random craigslist roommates, there is no incentive (he’s just too broke) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:03 AM |
| 9 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayYou’re just wrong. If the prices of everything have gone up then the cost of a date has gone up. It has nothing to do woth women being demanding or not. I’d say women have become less demanding even since joining the workforce and tend to at least offer to go dutch. Your statements are false. Even if she is not demanding dating is still not free. There are only so many walks in the park you can take without grabbing coffee or lunch in between | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:52 AM |
| 4 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayPerhaps every generation needs to run their own game. This was theirs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:47 AM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayFinally, with the advent of AI and Machine Learning on the near horizon, it is imminent that we will only see a greater level of income and socioeconomic inequality in the coming future. I don’t think this is exactly the right sub for this but it’s a good idea to bring it up here anyway as it does feel like there are some deep-running similarities between dating market and labor market (law of supply & demand etc) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:45 AM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayshowing a clear trend that more and more people are moving back to their parent's place (or aren't moving out to begin with) And the majority of Americans can‘t even fathom how someone would even Think about starting a family when both they and their partner are both still living with their parents. We are going backwards: back to the third-world lifestyle of having multiple generations under one roof (or likely worse because we were promised a lie and therefore not producing at all) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayThis may even serve as an explanatory factor as to why we are seeing an upward trend in more age-gap relationships as of the last few years. Wow. Never thought of it that way. I mean, I was making my way there I’m sure but this just kinda puts it more in perspective. Maybe the boomers scoring younger chicks aren’t really the top alpha: all that is happening is the game is rigged. How can they even justify the ego in that case? If there was financial balance and they won by being in shape, having… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:28 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....uh...I’m grown I think I’d need both to be mature | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 03:32 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....So if there was the guy that wanted to stay a virgin but then was with that one girl and she left him...then he slept with more women to get over his heartbreak...do you consider him promiscuous or just a heartbroken guy making poor choices? Because like in another comment that guy still wants to find a pure girl when he gets over it. Would you say if he repents or something then he is worth it? Do you believe in rebounds? What about divorces? I understand now what you mean by fantasy and adding… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 03:16 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....yes but what he thinks of her after is what comes into play. for the men that ‘failed their own test’ he might no longer think of her as GF material...and that is what I think is why we get all these ‘he ghosted after sex’ posts | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 03:05 AM |
| 2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....I feel like this could be a circular argument. Holding out for the right person could feel internally rewarding in itself. Unless you mean something to do with religion I feel like it could be rewarding enough to be an exercise of discipline or patience which should payoff with finding something good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 02:57 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....So these guys want ‘special delivery’ which seems to be not sustainable or not good enough for the longterm? Sounds like they are looking for a hookup Yeah, I get it. Maybe they are not as hot as Chad or as good at kino and need to become more attractive through personality for something serious...which they don’t want anyway. Might be time to visit the red light district until they’re ready for something more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 02:22 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Go to Europe and use hookers. Go have your party phase. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 02:00 AM |
| 0 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....I would argue it has a better short-term return on investment but it also comes with extra issues: she may linger even once she is no longer satisfied with you. Once incompatibilities are found they will create unavoidable drama and expenses that you could’ve avoided if you had waited instead...and in the end it’s hard to say if these things would cost you more or less time and money than a few more dates (there is probably a break-even at some point but not very predictable) Marriage has more f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:57 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....It makes me sad when people talk about waiting like punishment. maybe some people out there really aren’t using that time to develop their relationships deeper before the dynamic is no longer as innocent and changes :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:49 AM |
| 2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....If that’s the case then no amount of previous partners would ever be acceptable unless it were 0 but this is also a good case for why getting to know her and form a bond with her first is so important. any performance better than ‘revolting’ or ‘cold’ should be improvable with patience and time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:38 AM |
| 3 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....This feels like a bias. When you say ‘women with high n count’ it sounds like you actually mean ‘alcoholic college-aged women’ or ‘alcoholic women in general’ In fact a lot of redpill seems to look through that same lens: either plating a party girl or gaming a fundamentalist christian or muslim virgin. (Or gaming in another country because ‘western women are sluts’) Should we at all consider that maybe men can be rejected for other (non-sexual) factors and women vary just as much as men ? And m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:28 AM |
| 2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....This line of thought makes guys look really insecure. What if she tells you about something she tried once but didn’t like? Are you gonna be mad she learned her preferences without/before you? How & when we learn things can impact if we like them or not But does this mean you waited too? Or does it mean you’re mad she won’t do what other women did with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:18 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....😂 they always want it without paying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....I’d like to introduce you to someone. We call her the Born Again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:09 AM |
| 2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....It’s a dance. He steps left, you step right. He wants you to like dad bods, you try it out. He moves the other way: you’re LV now for liking that. You move back to demanding more. He complains about your standards. You try dating without them. Doesn’t have to make sense but yes probably could be done in a way that’s more fun | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:07 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Is this really really ultra conservative perspective? I don’t understand the term ‘fantasy’ as used here. To me it sounds like be ultra ultra vanilla ? And ironically can you please explain it in a modest way or else I won’t respond | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....they knew each other 3-4 months before the date. it’s like being frens with a girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:42 AM |
| 4 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....That is exactly the message. And how is a virgin supposed to magically know you’re not gonna ditch after 3 dates? The only way they can kinda know is marriage, or looking for someone with similar value to them I think this scenario is happening when liberal men are looking (for some reason??) for conservative women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:09 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Men seem to have this impression that women make them wait ‘for nothing’ while women may be trying to actually see if there are longterm dealbreakers. The more people date, the more dealbreakers they learn and learn about themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:04 AM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Wasn’t there a movie about this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....if they started at 17 that’s almost half their lifetime | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....What is a 304 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:54 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....The parties in America change every four years. How can you expect consistency in this environment (at least for the Americans)? Maybe it’s meant to be inconsistent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:54 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....said man comes around at which point he doesn’t even get to meet her in her true form (unless it’s online first maybe) because only an unlimited budget can afford to wear the good stuff every day and since he wasn’t there before she didn’t care because no one else made it worthwhileeellloolll | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:51 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Shhhhhhh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:38 PM |
| 2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Yes and no. If he actually takes his morality seriously either due to religion or philosophy then it is likely that he values being faithful (even if he is attractive). However, with a glowup thing there is a risk of him wanting to sow his wild oats...and that may depend on his options | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:37 PM |
| 3 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....you are only looking at one way to play the game though. If she values settling down she might also look for what looks like the attractive but most safe option | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:32 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....At least he was honest! edit: I cannot control how reddit reads into my comment. all I mean is men have been known to lie on these kind of questions because ‘they will say anything to get it’ (keep approaching the topics to figure out if he was lying) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:27 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....This is true too. Lots of fwb situations may turn into something serious later, depending on circumstance. it’s so hard to generalize this kind of thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:24 PM |
| 2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....And they don’t have to. no one is owed anyone anything and it was the risk they took. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:22 PM |
| 5 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....what does his value even have to do with it? If a guy has had many partners he shouldn’t care if he finds a girl who has also had many partners. Because what exactly are you trying to tradeoff there? Your resources? Men can’t use their wealth as blackmail anymore: women work. And if she doesn’t work then she tends the home. I don’t understand what the trade even was in the first place. If you are religious then men are ALSO meant to be chaste. The whole argument of ‘men sleep around while women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:21 PM |
| 4 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....I get the impression that no guy wants another guy coming to him and saying they banged his girl. at least not unless he’s into that... the impression is most guys die inside a bit if she makes her way around their circle of friends...either that or they pass her around to each other at least that is what I have gathered from reddit, results may vary | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:17 PM |
| 5 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....name the men. name them. because I’m not so sure at the very very top that’s what it’s looking like. If you mean for marriage...maybe? But are they even getting married anymore anyway? What reason does a woman have to stay chaste if there is no endgame? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:13 PM |
| 0 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Is there not a difference in the experience for guys when they're with strangers vs someone they actually got to know? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:12 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....This is like asking if you need infinite options to really fall in love. Obviously not. Infinite options makes it harder to choose because it is distracting and time is divided. It’s still possible to have sentiment with limited options...if not moreso | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:02 PM |
| 1 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....men could say the same thing because different women want different things as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 10:54 PM |
| 2 | For men dating is basically a series of job interviews.This is deeply true. Especially if you find you are more attracted to someone who does similar things or complete opposite things as you. I think this question is asking from an instinctual standpoint which kinda might be outdated. It kinda gives redpill type vibe which is an extremist view. There is ‘talking about how relationships work on the internet’ and then there is actually having relationships IRL lol ... It’s important to DYOR in the field. The comments on reddit may come from bitter pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:42 PM |
| 0 | For men dating is basically a series of job interviews.Beautiful women have it easy when they are young and can add to the lives of (typically older) financially stable men would be the case scenario where neither one is ‘working’ When women age, they have to work more to upkeep their appearance. Older men in their peer group are financially stable at this point and done working to save finances. If she wants access, she has to work for it Men start off studying and working when younger to build the finances so they can have it easier when they are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.the premise already sounds wrong since men are traditionally wanted for financial success and food/housing security. Single men with kids are less attractive of an option than single men without kids | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.I think it is very important that you brought up what gives men the ick because that further shows that the female strategy of ‘build a harem of men’ won’t make a female more attractive to a monogamous male suitor (duh?) At the same time I have to say I realized I also am getting the ick from guys for this Same Reason At the heart of it, it looks non-monogamous and noncommittal. For men, that plays into genetic security of possible children being their own. For women, it plays into financial sec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 02:39 AM |
| 5 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.That doesn’t seem to be the case anymore. Maybe 15 years ago but these days doesn’t look like women are settling at all. They can choose to be single moms like in The Back-Up Plan, go lesbian and date women, choose high quality men who don’t want kids, choose a hvm who already Has kids (it does count against him), choose a hvm who is much older (lower quality objectively), choose to not have relationships, be a cougar, be a sugar momma. Women work now. They get roommates if they need to cover re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 11:52 PM |
| 3 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.are you part of a group making up ridiculous usernames just to comment on this sub😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.see didn’t even finish reading your comment before replying but we can already tell it’s about shame the problem with eliminating shame is that it seems to be a good correction tool without resorting to violence right away. We have historically used it to correct each other instead of conversing lovingly or openly to try to reach an understanding And sometimes problems are DEEP. and we don’t have 15 minutes to explain or connect or people are too messed up and shame just works quick! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.Because it’s fun. And because some people don’t know their preferences and instead of trial and error (especially when trials are shamed) they try to infer those preferences from that of others | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.This is 100% the best idea. You should even be using rational thoughts to listen to your ATTRACTION before acting on it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.Why not just seek the truth instead of making false generalizations claiming you or anyone else can have anyone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.They are attracted for a night. They’d have to be awfully immature to be attracted for much longer. Life experience makes a difference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.People keep saying 35 is when it ends but in reality it depends on the pool. If a hot 25f can get with a rich 32m she doesn’t need to go with the 45m. And apparently the much older men seem to prefer more mature women for conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.Username checksout | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samescrawny is much butter than overweight imo. You can only be so strong in mind because once she starts asking if you can touch your toes or carry something for her it will become laughable. Construction workers are powerful. A rich construction worker would be More powerful. A Rich, Educated construction worker would be Super Powerful (and probably run his own multiple businesses and be on the way to being somewhat elite) Elite people running the world doesn’t negate the power others have in the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI guess maybe I am a smart woman then because that seems like a bad deal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the same‘what is a restaurant‘ for $20 please | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameno but then again I’m not a guy so it’s not my problem. I tried to give a guy The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them, without reading it myself in hopes he could trick me into something but apparently I am either too redpilled or COVID just REALLY REALLY REALLY fucked up all dynamics. We had lots of marriage talk over the covid years but were never able to come to a conclusion. I think in the end he just decided to start paying for friends (and likely women)...which thought was p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameThere is a price for everything and they will have to pay it eventually if they want something longterm. The ‘hard work’ is what holds people together as it being a mutual investment. Sometimes fwb turn into real relationships but it’s not promised. If the guy is given physical access before he has ‘earned it’ there is always the potential that he didn’t actually have what it takes and never will...otherwise, why was he rejected? How it looks so far is it all depends on who rejected who and why.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samemaybe you mean it is the most desirable for men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI’m just saying there seems to be a difference in many guys heads about what being in shape is...and doctors play into this also by saying stuff like ‘you are in perfect shape except for the weight. You just need to drop another 50 lbs’ and equating being in shape to not having any comorbidities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameExactly. And with abuse the likelihood of that approaches zero. Therefore women have sought other work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:38 PM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samenot necessarily. you can always hire help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samepopulation crisis | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameMaybe they didn’t want to work outside they just wanted to be paid at home but home didn’t pay anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameThey do that because their wives are PMSing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:34 AM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameShould’ve been collecting an allowance and saved up for situations like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:34 AM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameyeah both of these sound like the dude was the problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:33 AM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameIf we rely on each other for specific tasks, we may fail each other. But that is life. We shouldn’t doom ourselves to being competent in everything to avoid one mistake: as long as a partner picks up the slack we can both make due easier. There seems to be a lack of trust that we will find a partner able to contribute in ways we need. This is why I prefer gender roles because tasks were already agreed instead of needing to learn everything just to take turns | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samefor a majority maybe...but aren’t more women also staying celibate these days? I think I remember reading about a rise in celibacy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:17 AM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI think so too. Along with the freudian parent-child 🤮dynamic dying ...maybe until then something more hick like cousin-cousin or something authoritarian like teacher-student could be a dynamic replacement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameIs there evidence for this or do we just assume it? Somehow I feel like a lot of top earning workaholics probably skipped out on a lot of socialization and old money can be kinda awk outside of their limited circles | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samethey don’t filter for them yet but there will come a time of competitive advantage. Once those guys are both physically attractive and have the emotional skills down as long as they live in an area where 50k can afford the mortgage Edit: tbh as long as there is sexual and intellectual compatibility I choose this theoretical guy over the law of sixes fuckboy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameThey are definitely getting rejected. It has to do with if they have fuckboy energy. Fuckboy energy immediately makes you worth nothing more than FWB material unless you stick around longterm and demonstrate companion suitability. And if women know they are gonna get their heart broken then there is no point because that means it’s only about the sex. If it’s only about the sex they could just find a younger, even taller, more fit & sexy dude for FWB and avoid relationships because what’s the po… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameExactly. You might have just started your period. They might have eaten a bad taco right before meeting. But if you’re really meant to be together you’ll get back to it. You gotta let go and be outcome independent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:43 AM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameRomance should always be a mystical thing which makes you wonder if there’s a bigger picture to all of this, not an option but a happening | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samesee my above comment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samehttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MPYWBBvBQgc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the samemen that are out of shape are not powerful. I think you have some confusion about the physical aspect here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameLooks are majorly important here, yes. Most women should understand by now that if we are holding men to female standards that men haven’t had as long to practice/learn The men that focus more on the emotional skills are wasting their time unless they already have the physical part down. You have to get to the first date before any of that other stuff even matters. Depending on the woman, she could just opt out to date younger guys. So you at least should look like ‘maybe he looked hot when he w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:29 AM |
| 3 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameHe’s says he doesn’t want to quit drinking beer and start taking cold showers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:23 AM |
| 2 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameJust because you exercise 3 times a week doesn’t mean you are in shape. I feel like a lot of men mislead themselves into thinking they are in shape when they really haven’t been able to carry their peak on through their golden years If you work at it you should never HAVE to lose your peak. Physically being in shape can be a lifelong thing until parts start giving out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:22 AM |
| 2 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameSo many men over 40 are out of shape that being physically fit sets them a head above the rest. Being able to maintain her sexual attraction to you is the competitive edge. Almost the MAJORITY of men need to have more frequent doctor appointments, consider surgery, consider seeing specialists and take on major diet/lifestyle changes Literally to put it simply most of you are just plain fat, and some niche people may be into that but it looks unhealthy and health is what attracts most people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 05:19 AM |
| 0 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?It def is synonymous with fuckboy. If those women get involved they either know what they are getting into or think they can ‘change him‘ when reality is it’s a phase that takes time yes, after the club you graduate to the book club🤓📕 pick up your copy this fall 🍁🍂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?We create our social realities. It’s like saying ’everyone sells suicide kits and so do I. If that encourages suicide that’s not my fault’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?The term ‘playboy’ just sounds like a frat bro needed slang for ‘Manchild’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 03:31 AM |
| 3 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?I feel like thinking this is wrong and only incentivizes men to get into relationships for a status boost even if they are not prepared for the actual responsibility | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?I mean you can respect his ability to go through that as a hardship but it is different from respecting someone who has built a beautiful life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:51 AM |
| 0 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?If he is partnered but still living with his parents or in a cheap apartment imo it shows his responsibilities are out of order. Just because someone has a partner doesn’t mean they are responsible. All they would have to do is find a partner with very low standards in order to look respectable? lol being able to maintain a relationship doesn’t mean much unless you know the partner has high standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?I respect whichever man is making the right decisions with his current finances. If he can’t support a gf/wife with his current situation then I respect him staying single. If he has saved up and allocated his finances and been responsible before getting married then I respect that also. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:41 AM |
| -1 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?‘playboy’ and ‘no interest in’ Have you seen the ‘These two images are the same’ meme? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife?men are not currently viewed positively in society Edit: Did you want the Truth or something PC? If you don’t like my reply please comment here with your counterargument. It is not my intention to hate on or discriminate or be misandristic I am just speaking on my general current impression | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:33 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Complimenting a woman you're interested in on looks is dumb and almost always detrimental.🤷♀️I like it when a man touches me with his words💋 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersCould be anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersWomen in groups date the same dude because of something called ‘Preselection’ This is instinct and that dude was probably the alpha of his group. Those kind of relationships usually don’t last because the are based solely on sexual attraction. For a longterm relationship you want personality, things in common, AND sexual attraction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersI agree it ruins friendship if it’s one sided. There is also a large camp of people who still believe men and women cannot be ‘just friends’ Personally I believe they are not ‘just friends’ if they have no shared activity or cause outside of the friendship. I believe they can be friends but not Only friends; there is another intention there keeping it together It seems like most men become ‘friends’ with the intention to date, at least single men not trying to waste their time. He may entertain … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersI wouldn’t generalize it that way though because this is dating not just general social interaction with strangers. Sometimes people gravitate towards a certain ‘type’ while dating so he could be going for women who don’t seem to like him be it that they are ‘emotionally unavailable’ or just flatout don’t like him at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersOr it could mean the woman is emotionally or geographically unavailable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersOverseas is a tad impractical, speaking from experience with COVID | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersThis is because most people have not standardized friendship or even really practice it. A sh*tty friend is hardly even a friend. If they can help pull you through a tough situation and you can note that then when they ask you out it doesn’t make that go away. If you were actually a friend you can name how | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersThis is against preselection bias yes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersLOL | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersthe best friend is the Madonna version they are just thinking to mitigate risk for being stable longterm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersYou gotta show him both at some point either way and I don’t think it matters what order. The Madonna is better for homemaking and child rearing and...okay I admit it makes sense the prostitute version would come before | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersYou ask the best friend, not all the friends. I agree it always looks bad to fish in the same pond... and I feel bad for the guys who stay in groups where their girl moved onto his buddy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersExcept me? I totally mean asking out your best friend or making a best friend and then asking them out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:17 AM |
| 6 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersThat’s because there is this backwards notion that the friendship is too ‘sacred’ to ‘ruin with sex’ and a negative association to sex and also negative implicit expectations that sex WILL ruin friendship when we SHOULD be supporting a narrative which sees sex as a potential to turn a friendship into a romance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkersMaybe we should stop making it such a big deal. When I think ‘hitting on’ I think crudely soliciting primarily for sex but when someone lightly flirts it’s a good way to test the waters. It might be a bit nuanced but I’d imagine you’d get better at understanding the signals as time goes on? You can also bring it up as a conversation and ask what they think about dating in friend groups etc to kinda hint that you’re interested | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:13 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.you’re making me want to go back to him for a Third time . I don’t think he’d accept it and he wantedtogetmarried wantedtogetmarried wantedtogetmarried like ants in his pants ...which is fine because he was really HOT but it just ruined the honeymoon phase for me to not want to...you know, Actually HAVE a honeymoon phase if you are not going at it like rabbits then idk what that phase for you is Edit: I am almost partial to blaming low T or hormones for everyone who is mismatched drives. if you’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 12:54 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.This is all true but it is also true that some physical attributes have a competitive edge longterm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 02:11 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.He might get older but he won’t get much shorter. Obv there is competition from guys who keep themselves in shape as they age but height is a factor that doesn’t change, much like bone structure in women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 02:10 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.I thought it was spontaneous for women but I think you’re right. I guess having a man in your life just makes it feel like you’re spontaneous if you respond to him easily | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 02:06 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.if you have mismatched drives and can’t find a compromise it is fine for either person to leave if it is a deal breaker for them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 01:59 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.I found studying to be harder and realized I prefer doing all those feminine things instead as long as I have someone in my life who is worth it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 01:57 AM |
| 9 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.It is easier in the sense that the woman has no coworkers or office drama when keeping house but once children come into the picture I would venture to say it’s harder than a regular 9-5 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 01:52 AM |
| -2 | Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal implyand then why have a spouse? marriage is basically on-call sex work with the spouse as the employer (I know it’s more than that due to mental & emotional aspect) making lots of money at a ‘real’ job gives you potential to employ others or gives you no need to be employed by anyone else at all. Women with high earning potential only want higher earners and it seems like mental potential maxes out long before the earning potential does...so at some point, men with high earning potential don’t seem … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal imply...what if they just said it that way to emphasize the labor of the actual process | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 05:56 AM |
| 8 | Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal implyit is honestly probably better to have no father if the only choice is a sh*tty one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 05:49 AM |
| 1 | Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal implydid men not invent condoms? never heard of being against paternity testing...though it would make more sense if that was just standard hospital procedure at time of birth (to verify birth certificate) because otherwise it just makes you seem like you don’t trust your partner (which really u don’t if ur asking) ...Women likely want to mostly be in businesses that are humanities as that is traditionally the areas women showed strength so having a business in that is more about utilizing the natura… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?prenups can say whatever you want them to say. If they said ‘Drop 1 mil in their retirement account and remove them from everything else’ it could say that. if it says ‘relinquish responsibility to them for this and that’ it could say that, you could make a contract that says ‘4 date nights per week’ or about pretty much anything that seems reasonable. ‘house must be cleaned every Sunday’ or ‘money moves every Monday’ it’s late I’m tired maybe add more later | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 07:42 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?If I put any current interests aside I literally cannot visualize and it is so worrying. Do I not want a relationship? Do I not know what I want? Someone old enough to be experienced but young enough to still have energy. Takes good care of themselves & their body: in good shape. Being richer than me includes nearly all of humanity at this point. Mature at least when they need to be. Being serious in sprints would suit me better and have fun the rest of the time. Smart as or smarter...I just fee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?My take on hypergamy hasn’t much changed. If women are out-manning men then they won’t be attracted to them and that seems natural. If I am more level-headed than a man that seems to lose my respect more than immaturity and maybe on the same level as finances. So if a man has angry/emotional reactions to something I say...that puts me in the masculine...which messes up a whole lot of other stuff as well so in order to long last he’d have to be smart+stoic. If you count this towards intellect the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:31 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenWhat is ‘smart’ here is all relative. Genetically/Instinctually? Probably should impregnate as many females as possible. Socially/Practically? That’s a lot of child support and father-son time if you plan on being a parent to your kids at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:06 AM |
| 3 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenI feel like most women don’t even go into dating with the goal for a partner. It’s just like ‘hey, cool! A new person’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:00 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenI get your point if you are meaning to present this as a redpill concept for a ‘winner’...because redpill tends to work with numbers and pure data but it’s the same thing as looking good on paper. You don’t really know people until you know them for sure I have tried posting redpill concepts like this and justifying them to myself, explaining them to myself in the post. It has never felt ‘me’ if that makes sense. It never rang true. It was more like “here’s this thing and this is reality” and be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:57 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenwas curious because I don’t believe it takes much skills to be a gold digger. We could say it’s above average though or else every women would be doing it...but I don’t like your chess reference here First, because men usually play games with other men. Second, because the topic is a lot less wholesome than the chess games I’ve played. You mention f-boys and that sounds about right. It’s toxic. Do you find yourself having bad feelings about this path? It leads only to darkness. It doesn’t feel r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?I have never thought to have one except now that I think about terms more. And feeling like you need one to protect yourself is a lot different than wanting one to have terms negotiated. Actually they should be contracts you can even amend if wanted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:13 AM |
| 2 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?It might also be a good time to make a will. It would actually just be so much easier if our college funds had been automatically funded alongside funeral disbursements or something. Imo it’s better to have money set aside than depend on insurance for funeral costs for ourselves and it’s something no one ever wants to talk about so I wish there was some sort of mandated ‘you have to set this up’ when we turn 25 or something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:10 AM |
| 5 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?The household chores are her physical labor she might trade for housing and your physical labor which pays for that. If she prepares the food: she did her part in helping with that. If she thinks of ways to improve the relationship while you are busy working, that is uncompensated mental labor. At work, your mental labor goes to your employer, not thoughts about your relationship. Maybe you think for 10-15 minutes driving in the car ride home but that’s it. Maybe you do give gifts to compensate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?He brings in food and rent. Ok, lets try it. Imagine I am working to pay for my rent. With a normal job I would still also have spending money leftover after paying for food and rent, especially if I also have a roommate to cover half the rent | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?I thought all that got covered with weekly allowance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 04:55 AM |
| -2 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?there is also a thing called sexual prenups so it’s not always about money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 04:53 AM |
| 0 | Whats your opinion on pre-nups?no. yes. no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)is this the same thread where I mention someone waiting in the bushes half jokes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 09:08 PM |
| 0 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)nope. the only tv I have really seen lately is bits and glimpses of Friends episodes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 08:26 PM |
| -1 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)I don’t have plans to move current friends past friendship. I guess I might not find them attractive for more than just friends. If it does go anywhere it will take time until I find them more attractive, if that happens sufficiently at all. One of them does look like a male sex symbol from a certain angle Until I like them more, nothing happens. And usually when I like someone I know right away so I don’t have any high hopes either edited for typo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)Actually I forgot that I started a group of guy friends that meet on the weekend! no meeting today tho because of snow... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)Actually I don’t go out much and my current circle is family or far away. I did have a guy try to buy me a snake at the pet store before but I declined. If I check a guy out we usually end up dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)I wouldn’t necessarily define a man completely by his family either tbh. Depending on education and how much contact he has with them it might not be a good representation of character. Thank you for highlighting ‘things that make him happy’ as this is a good contrast to ‘skills to provide’ unless those skills are his source of happiness. I do believe that some men perhaps don’t see their own worth but issues with self-confidence don’t get a pass. We evaluate ourselves with respect to the dating… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:31 PM |
| 0 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)A body. So you want women to love you for your body. As it is now? What if it changes. Theseus’ ship Not to mention ‘body and electrical patterns’ is so vague of an answer it’s pretty much BS. Women do tend to love the initial pattern. The problem is after the honeymoon stage the pattern changes. Because no one seems to have the discipline to temper themselves in the beginning or the stamina and interest to keep the honeymoon going. Only if there is a deeper underlying pattern we enjoy does it b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)it’s only creepy if you don’t like them. otherwise, you pull them outta there and ask to go shopping | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:52 PM |
| 5 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.I can’t imagine supporting a man, 6ft or otherwise...but if you work multiple jobs you won’t have enough free time to actually build a relationship. Are you saying you can’t get women At All? Or are you saying you can’t get Attractive women. It’s a two way street. If they are going to pick you despite not being their ideal then they shouldn’t be your ideal either. Working multiple jobs for the pay bump can put you in a position of getting more attractive girls maybe if you are looking for a suga… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:49 PM |
| -1 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)Can I be honest though? It’s not happening. It’s not. A majority of highly educated men at least seem to not put too much thought into this training you’ve outlined here. Because they don’t have time to practice and now they don’t have anywhere to go. There is nowhere to go in the north in winter or covid or when you are addicted to social media or video games. People are not going anywhere. How many are going anywhere? They are sitting at home swiping left or right. Maybe the cities are still l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 08:01 AM |
| 2 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)The man just happens to be in her city and realized she must stay nearby and maybe this is her house | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 07:39 AM |
| 5 | Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect)Someone fucking happen to me please. I think I broke the system | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 07:37 AM |
| 2 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.And previously married to an A-Type personality dude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:52 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.So if you ask if she wants to date casually or not what does she say? And what does it mean to either of you? I think of it as people who have casual sex. When I tell a guy I want to be friends first and hopefully become best friends that have a romance it means platonic only. Lately I haven’t even said that much & just keep it to just being friends I don’t understand what part of it is taboo. Maybe you are asking about sex too early. Besides saying I’m not looking for casual I wouldn’t want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 08:45 AM |
| 1 | Signals it's overThere doesn’t seem to be much of a majority reason for divorces in general..a quick google says it’s about 20% for any give reason (abuse, sexless, cheating etc) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 05:35 AM |
| 7 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.…I’m a chick | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 05:31 AM |
| 7 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.I mean held responsible not…⛓ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:46 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.it’s sarcasm (I think?) but needed the /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:45 AM |
| 4 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.we have a winner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:44 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.This is exactly the situation…but everything is kinda like that. You could wait until you find the man of your dreams and ask his opinion but then you lose that opportunity of having the boobs NOW (imo natural is probably better because you can potentially lose feeling etc but the choice is yours) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:44 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.try it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:39 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.it was likely easier to understand when the opposing narratives were politically or religiously charged | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:38 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.Obviously these are two very different women so what they say ‘feels good’ is going to be different in their opinions. Doing something ‘taboo’ etc can be an aphrodisiac for people which is what the woman in the first article describes: it’s sexual. The second women in the video saying ‘this doesn’t feel good for women’ is coming from the emotional argument and longterm aspect of it. The women are different. Some women honestly don’t want kids and maybe just want a string of partners or friends o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:36 AM |
| 41 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.I don’t know if it is a generational difference or what. I am in my 30s and I feel like I understand the points this poster was trying to make. Yes, a few of these things may also be done by men as well but I feel like an underlying question was why aren’t women punished harsher for it and the answer is twofold: women are typically seen as more emotional and attractive women in particular are seen as a resource. Attractive men also tend to get away with more in intimate relationships (being lazy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:23 AM |
| 1 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.I believe this stems from their parents and/or friends. For the first one, I imagine they might have grown up with parents which have no respect for personal boundaries at all. Likely didn’t let them lock or even have a bedroom door and go through their things and not allow their kids any kind if personal space. In that case those women grow up not understanding personal space until finally someone teaches them. In the case of sex, a lot of woman (particularly if attractive) get told over and ov… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Signals it's overYou can add 1. When You Stop Having Sex With Her 2. When She Always Has To Be The One To Initiate Sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overDo you have stats that say divorce is mostly cause due to cheating? People can also get divorced due to being jerks. Lots of reasons for divorce. ? I didn’t say anything about women being cheated on I said divorce is a pathway in a sexless marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overYou said marriages get better with cheating. I wanted to see those stats yes I believe that is true about deception and trapping in sexless marriage. 3+ months no sex should be a time to talk about divorce. Sex is also a reason to say no to most long business trips/plans unless the spouse is also travelling EDIT: I want to add that if a man can’t wait 9 months while you’re pregnant though then you married a selfish jerk. He can remain faithful and ‘take care of himself’ during that time if he wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overhow about this: my grandmother didn’t cry when her best friend of 20+ years died (at least not in front of us) The only time she cried in front of us was when the dog died. No females in my family have I seen cry except one which is mentally disabled who cries and whines about everything due to limited mental capacity. I seen only two females cry. One because she was upset I showed her how to do something and she wanted to do it herself. She decided that was immature even though I accepted her e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overI can’t say what other ‘script’ would do it for me honestly. Isn’t there also some kind of unspoken rule to not take advice about women from women? I am the customer in the scenario, not the salesman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's over🤷♀️to each their own | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Signals it's overPlease supply stats which prove this. I can see how fulfilling whatever selfish desire one knew they couldn't get filled from the partner you married (but married anyway?) would make one less bitter towards said partner but that doesn’t make it any less shitty. But of course if it is something the partner agreed to but then stops after marriage or later in the marriage I could see opening the marriage would be a solution. Cheating is a betrayal of trust and intimacy though while open relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overWhat is the point in vulnerability ultimately? Should your partner help you overcome those fears? Is throwing them in your face the way to do that? What is their role in your fears? To be only a listener? Are these topics better suited for therapy or for a partner or for both or for neither? People look for roles to play and ways to use the information they are given. Sometimes we may hear ‘my last partner did XYZ’ and so we do XYZ because we assume that is what a partner does with or to you. So… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 04:10 AM |
| 0 | Signals it's overI don’t know if this is the best example but if I reject him and he cries that actually makes him become more attractive. Crying is an ‘open’ thing kinda, him being open with his emotions...and I think it comes from the fact that the earlier it is and if he’s attractive etc but you have reservations: he’s not crying because he fucked up with you he’s crying because he WANTS THE CHANCE. And someone wanting you that bad before they’ve ruined it is a lot more attractive than them crying because the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:56 AM |
| 7 | Signals it's overIf you want only honeymoon phase then you aren’t looking for longterm compatibility which is what these tests do: either comparing you to how their family is, how previous partners were or how their other options are (and even comparing you to themselves) so if you don’t want that then why even go for a longterm relationship at all? Just leave after the honeymoon. If you are more distant won’t that also ruin your own experience of it? tbh she should be testing you like this before dating you but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Signals it's overThis is NOT solely attributed to women. If men think they can get something more from other women they will also do similar. People are programmed to try to get the best they can and the only thing that really stops that usually is morals and marriage. Even if you are dating longterm, you are still legally single | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Signals it's overI’m sorta traditional as far as attraction I guess. If you need help carrying something that takes two people then obviously that is no big deal. If you need help in something typically feminine that is also no big deal. If you need help tying your shoes, call mommy. It is fine to open up about sensitive things As Long As she is also opening up to that same degree. If you are afraid you might lose her: that is totally fine to say. It might negatively impact the short term but it can be good for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Signals it's overI would say also extremely immature things, which can come across in your humor even online, can also be a pretty big turnoff. And in person you’ll have to present different against that image. It can’t really be over before it has even started but it can get you off to a rough start | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Hepeating, the new mansplaining?Uh, just found out this was a thing and I kinda rely on it actually. Is it weird that I prefer this dynamic sometimes to get things done, especially if the male is more senior? I don't want to steer the boat I just want to ride it In the old days there was a saying that 'behind every great man is an even greater woman'... the comments here seem pretty even-keeled though that this is just a non-gendered thing edit: unless I am hired to steer then I Absolutely will steer ...just hope there's no ic… | /r/MensRights | 22/02/23 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsmost of what I say I wouldn’t mind if family reads... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:46 AM |
| 2 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsif we were having this conversation on the subway I think I would start inching away once you start mentioning specific sex acts but we’re online so I didn’t even finish reading it Would like to take this moment to say I consider reddit somewhat ‘in confidence’ ...like lurkers are my secret anonymous online friends of the world or something...Therefore the things I say here I wouldn’t necessarily say at all or in the same way in public not sure if I should change that or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsAgreed. Let’s both try to do better. Women will work on being sexier and men will work on being more romantic Edit: sorry didn’t see what kind of shows were mentioned. the poor dynamics on tv is why I’m super selective about what I watch and pretty much stick to movies I know the endings of or try to follow my own random ideas | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:38 AM |
| 3 | Should we just raise the consenting age to 25?We HAVE been complaining. For a long time. And now the DoomsDay clock is 90 Seconds to Midnight https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=IFZUDQ85bFU | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Should we just raise the consenting age to 25?I would not include military education but active duty, maybe. I would say college should be paid for by parents and college in the USA is way too expensive anyway. Education is for any age but the consent aspects would be better for the 25+ crowd. Typically you already have to be 25+ to rent a vehicle but I wonder if that comes down to years of driving experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Your personality is irrelevant if you fall below someone’s threshold for what they find physically attractive.by also having an attractive personality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Your personality is irrelevant if you fall below someone’s threshold for what they find physically attractive.This is another reason to accept the friend zone, as people tend to appear more attractive if they have an attractive personality And if you don’t want to do friends first, it’s kinda a red flag that your personality probably sucks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI wonder how this would be reciprocated? women do the exact same thing and make sure they have time outside of their hobbies if she wants ‘romance’, she has to plan for it This is way after the fact. You're already married. If she is stay at home then it's part of her 'job' now. If she is bringing in money though or it's been this way for long...I imagine it's easy to feel like she deserves more or to start taking the rent payments for granted. It sounds like you have a good thing though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 07:04 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Telling unsuccesful men that the young women in impoverished countries only want them for their money is pointless, these men believe that women their age in their country are the same. And we can't blame them.Ideally, the two high value (reproductively speaking) people need to come to a consensus before their eggs expire and sperms stop wiggling as much. So for both sexes: about 35 years old Money can be an issue but money is an issue for anything. If a man needs to put a house over his own head then why does he freak out if a woman also demands that? Of course the woman would ignore you at the club if she is smart and doesn’t want to be a single mom. And now that you are older and probably more resp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 05:42 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Telling unsuccesful men that the young women in impoverished countries only want them for their money is pointless, these men believe that women their age in their country are the same. And we can't blame them.If I'm going to Beta Bux, I might as well do it for a hotter woman with less standards because she's poorer If you think this way it means hot women will find little incentive to be rich on their own. They may also decide that student loans are not worth it. And if you like Smart hot women, they will be more motivated by money than love or else why would they pursue money/loans/education? And if you want a rich hot woman then you can only date rich. And she will be dating rich hot guys. So now y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI agree with your 3 points. I think TRP dudes could agree with them too though they might spend more up front or decide to divide things differently. I think separate accounts are a good thing either way, just from the standpoint of being individuals. Dividing the 'work' in a relationship... ideally divides it in a way where everyone does the things they like and/or are best at...and honestly I don't buy into the companionship aspect of sugar relationships. How would you ever really know if she … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeYour Romantic life is not worth $20 per hour to you? It's hard to put a price on that imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI assume that unless he is a workaholic that he would spend those 2 hours with friends or hobbies or otherwise therefore would not be making money with that time unless a passive income, in which case that would be unaffected by spending time with the woman. Otherwise, if he has not organized his schedule in such a way to allow that time for romance into his life, I can see how it would be a disruption and possibly cause more loss than if he had organized his time efficiently and thought ahead | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeDoes this mean we can troll this comment? Because trolling is against the community rules but my method of trolling usually comes off as (or is meant to come off as) some kind of dark humor | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeWho is responsible for feeding the woman so she can grow the grandbabies? Is it the grandparents which want to see their progeny or is it the spouse? What about the spouses parents? Or is it solely the woman's responsibility now and she better have a good job with medical/maternity leave? And if she doesn't have that kind of support, just don't have kids? Or should she ask for help from the government? It's easier to debate what and where investment is 'owed' through the lens of children. Imo se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI have to agree holistically but love also plays a role between parent and child. Be it for a brief time as a learning tool for how to treat future partners or as a social tool to support our elders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI prefer work in/around the home because that’s what I like and traditionally a role women take. Maybe that is just a role that runs in my family but anyway I don’t really call it work if I would do it for free. If we didn’t live in a system which requires money to get nice things then it would be for free but I am not sure what kind of system that would be and would not suggest to replace the current one unless I had a good idea If you do work you enjoy, it should feel like retirement no matter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeunless they are equally-enjoyable work woes like we are both workaholics because it seems more like a hobby than real work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeFor me, it feels more feminine to have inter-dependence in a way where the man takes a more traditional role in how things are divided. I am no stranger to work and I like it but would rather care for the home and have more time to plan fun things to do together that are not work...and also not have any work woes to bring into the home :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI didn't mean boundaries around sex, I more meant emotional intimacy like rules for what is private or not, etc...rules about other topics, boundaries with other people or places they are willing to go. Comfort levels, generally If you're already married you must've figured out frequency and all those things beforehand but I meant others things: division of chores, etc Edit: this sounds too lax but I meant boundaries of more like hard comfort zones. Like 'this makes me so uncomfortable I won't b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeNobody owns sex, but the idea is that men usually want sex more often and almost always are willing to have sex with more different women than women are with different men. Is it statistically proven that men want it more often? I'd like to see that. I believe diversity could play a part in attraction but many men also go for LTRs It’s a competition among men. Men who frame women as being the problem either don’t understand biology or are choosing to ignore biologic facts because of their frustr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangepersonally as a woman who has been wealthy enough to care for a man I can say that my choice would be not to, because I prefer a more traditional relationship...just my preference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI am sensing you might have another question or a different issue? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeYou mean like helping her out to get laid? My point was just answering your question about what a Traditional relationship was/is like. I’m not implying that this is how modern dating is on a whole at all, just answering your question Edit: you spiking her drink is probably bad. if she drinks voluntarily though she might be using it to loosen up. always good to double check | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI want to mention that a man can also take care of a woman emotionally but I feel like this is kinda new or not so traditional, especially if we care going off examples from other comments like forced marriage. The man might have had everything covered financially back then but it wasn’t willing Edit: Examples include mutually beneficial conversations surrounding mental health (emotional support) or giving her ideas for how to get out of a bad situation/next steps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI mean...shoes can be involved but that’s more like ‘splurging’ than ‘taking care’ The wealthier a man is, the more a man can take care of a woman and care at that point reaches beyond necessity (or at least her own)...at which point it’s sorta an abstraction...and creating problems that don’t exist (because he has usually already fixed all the basic ones) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI can only give examples. The man takes the woman out to eat, helps fix her car if it breaks, pays off her student loan. The level of help will all depend on how financially capable the man is but the point is it’s not like he hands her a wad of cash to spend on new shoes: the money is focused on addressing problems like hunger, misfortune and transportation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeThis sounds closer to what I have been hearing. I do believe what she wants to give is a big indicator of if she is ready for a relationship with you...but imo objective attractiveness is different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeOkay thanks for the input. It feels like you are responding from ‘across the pond’ This all sounds very nuanced and I look forward to seeing what kind of responses it gets 🤞 not sure if my post will take off but hopefully some good traction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangealso right in general. there are special cases these days (not wanting kids etc) but that’s a smaller percentage of people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchange‘taking care of’ just sounds like a standard traditional relationship to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeI mean in more recent times. ‘Women own the sex’ has become a social phrase so obviously it stood at some point. I think it translates roughly to ‘women get sex easier than men’ It is also totally valid that even further back women were coerced into marriage. I think there is a typo where it should be ‘shouldn’t have to’ Fair to answer the power struggle thing yes or no. I never outright asked if it was right to do or not (though sorta imply no and theorize that it might come from trauma) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Relationships and value exchangeMaybe you’re right that we should look for people who have that ‘give’ element to them, while also having it in ourselves. I don’t believe we should do ‘anything’ to keep our partner happy because that sounds like we might cross our own boundaries and end up hurt. I really do believe that keeping score is a toxic thing but that’s because I think it should be more nuanced. Micro-managing every aspect is impractical and drains all the fun but it is healthy to at least step away when you feel that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 03:49 PM |
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