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| 1 | Do you guys feel like you need to get a lot of hookups out of your system before you're ready for an LTR?So, dating is the path to LTRs. Its not a great of an idea to end up in a LTR without having dated around some first. Esp if you're coming right out of a LTR. It's best to date some people before deciding 'she/he' is the one, in the same way some people switch careers, or friend groups. That dating should include sex since you don't know if you're compatible until it happens several times. Sex is part of dating. Also, as guy, I've found dating casually for a while helps me attract better LTR par… | /r/seduction | 14/02/20 03:15 AM |
| 13 | When did you start to bloom?27 for me. 26 was the driest year... Its sort of a weird age between college mentality and young adult mentality. The one thing I can say is that mental health issues seems way more common these days then 8 years ago for people my age. Part of that is due to the the times, part I'm sure to aging. | /r/seduction | 12/02/20 02:38 AM |
| 16 | When did you start to bloom?How so? I'm 34, some things seem different from 27, some things the same. Physically I feel the same as 27, stronger if anything.. | /r/seduction | 12/02/20 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Realistic Options Outside OLD for Mid-30's GuyI didn't really get any good advice with the last post. I'm not looking to have my hand held, just wondering what sort of avenues that are somewhat successful for meeting women organically, in person, without the apps. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 07:42 AM |
| 2 | 48 and newly single - My approach to getting a kiss on the first dateHmm... I like this idea. How do you do this without coming off as creepy... Like hang out in her car to do what? I just feel like girls might be a little protective about letting you in their car? | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Small town dating tipsUnless your in a college town, your pretty screwed unless you go to church. I've always felt weird about meeting people where I go to workout or do yoga... in fact my friend did 100 approaches after yoga class and got 1 date out of, i. I'd maybe see, if anything, there are social events that the yoga crowds go to. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Had great sex on the first date. Few days after she says she really likes me but still has feelings for ex. Wants to remain friends. I told her peace out.I don't normally bang on the first date anymore. Too many emotions, on both sides, when you fuck a stranger after only a few hours of knowing them. I've never had a one night stand become anything but FWB. Probably she feels slutty and doesn't know how a second date would go, since there is nothing to escalate or any more mystery to unfold. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 06:30 PM |
| 3 | The biggest lesson I've learned in game: Put in a little effort and also be patient, it's truly a numbers game.I agree with this. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 05:39 AM |
| 2 | What helped you overcome depression?I've been going through a pretty bad depression (if you'd call it that, I'm not sad or suicidal, just feel more dull then I used to), for the last year or so. I think a lot of us of are, especially in America, things are just pretty messed up in the world and its normal to feel shitty about it. For me the things that help the most are time with friends and feeling a sense of community and purpose... Its just hard to do that since I don't get a lot satisfaction out of my accounting career. I used… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 12:56 AM |
| 6 | Do guys really struggle finding girls for either sex or LTR in real life?As I've gotten into my 30's this is only more true. I'm my real self, I know how to be charming fairly handsome and in shape. One tip I've learned is to make sure the venue is a place I feel natural. If its a loud bar, that doesn't happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 01:48 AM |
| 3 | To those who hate current dating scene, what prevented you from finding a significant other earlier in your life? Why did you not find someone in your social circle?I have had bursts. I did well in high school social circle game and had a semi-long term girl friend, and several hook ups. Highschool gf cheated on me when we went to different colleges. Then my first two years in college sucked, I was at a commuter school, struggled to find ways to meet girls, had no game / confidence. Transferred to an actual campus, and had a bit more success. Got locked into a relationship with a cute girl that lasted until my mid 20s. It ended because I got a job in a diff… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Trying to figure out what happened to the Red Pill culture and drove it to insanity?IDK about Roosh, but the early guys like Neil Strauss and Mystery never really came off as right wing. More just dorks tying improve their options with girls, which is what drove into game/pua. I just wanted to get dates and not fck up. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/11/19 01:17 AM |
| 9 | Trying to figure out what happened to the Red Pill culture and drove it to insanity?Holy shit that's one of the most brilliant things I've read online in a while. Thanks for taking the time to write that out, I generally agree, it's something I've put a lot of thought into and came up with similar conclusions. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/11/19 04:56 AM |
| 2 | Trying to figure out what happened to the Red Pill culture and drove it to insanity?Interesting read. I never thought about forums that way. .. not a good statement on broader society. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/11/19 04:30 AM |
| 11 | Trying to figure out what happened to the Red Pill culture and drove it to insanity?The weird thing with Roosh was that he, at least at one point, seemed to be the most grounded and philosophically mature person in the 'PUA' scene. I think he might be a sociopath on some levels... or has a messiah complex. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/11/19 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts about the book "The Game" by Nail Strauss?Club game isn't much a thing in most cities anymore, in my experience. I think girls tend to meet guys more online then going out dressed up and getting gamed. Not to say it doesn't happen, just less common now then in 2004. Social media a dating apps changed everyone. | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 01:11 AM |
| 2 | I need to stop seeking validation from women but holy fuck is it difficultI know the feeling, and struggle as well. Try to think of the long game. Unlike other things, sex isn't something we can just get unless we are in a relationship, which brings a lot of other issues and challenges. The best situation for non-monogamous guys is to develop FWB situation with one or two girls, maybe not you're ideal lifetime partner, but someone you trust, and who are cool with the situation. Then going after girls you find amazing. Not an easy thing to achieve but possible with wor… | /r/seduction | 21/11/19 11:40 PM |
| 1 | 30M newly single and for the first time, very high SMV: how to make the most of it?I'm 34, also out of a long term relationship but no desire for kids. I'd recommend maybe a year of playing the field and seeing whats out there. Hooking up with a bunch of girls, even if ephemeral, will help your long term game and frame in a marriage. | /r/seduction | 18/11/19 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Being hell bent on making out with the opposite sex will definitely lead to failure!I think the key is always be escalating (of course) BUT also build comfort and emotional connections at the same time, while not coming on too strong or desperate. Basically ya got to read the room. After a good first date, that I end at 1 hour, I'll usually just drop a casual 'I'm heading home to (do X cool thing, cook a healthy dinner, watch X). You're welcome to stop by if you want.' This worked about 50% of the time, and if she comes over, its game on (not always sex, but at least intense ma… | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Lay report: Tinder cougar (thought I'd bring a bit of positivity given the recent shitstorm in the community)Yeah, good for you. There is theme in the pick up world that you should only go after model looking types. But that's unrealistic for most and mostly marketing. Not to say it doesn't happen, but even with the 'pros' it's a numbers game. I've found having a girl around for a FWB situation that is a little under what you're looking to pull is healthy. In my experience it's a win-win for both. You get to have sex with a girl regularly while improving game while she get's to have sex with a guy more… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:50 AM |
| 2 | I don't even see the point of going out to nightclubs and bars to meet women anymore these days... am I doing it wrong?I think it was more common for single people to go to bars and clubs to hook up back in the day... before social media, dating apps, etc. I hardly see guys approaching girls when I'm out. Like I said, seems like everyone knows each other. I'd suggest clubs or social meetups around a particular topic. Or even smaller concerts, at least you get to see a show and if you see someone there who is attractive, you at least have something to talk about. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 01:53 AM |
| 0 | Lay report: Tinder cougar (thought I'd bring a bit of positivity given the recent shitstorm in the community)Why chase cougars in your 20s? Of course if your a decent looking normal guy banging 40+ year old single moms ain't going to be hard. I don't think you even need game really. I guess the one advantage is that they probably do tend to put out quickly with less tests. So if you just need sex to get out of a rut, sure. I've done that with slightly chubby girls after breakups. But to improve game at your age don't even mess with girls much older then 30. At 28 I found 24-27 prime. At 34 now I'm 'dat… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Girl brings up hanging out again after first date, but says 'if nothing else, we'd have a great conversation'. Friend zoned?Thanks, yeah it kinda bothered me too. I did kiss her and she was receptive, and kinda acted like she wanted more... so I doubt she would want to meet up and not think I'm going to kiss her more.... who knows. | /r/seduction | 06/11/19 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Girl brings up hanging out again after first date, but says 'if nothing else, we'd have a great conversation'. Friend zoned?I usually wait to pull that on the second date if its a girl I meeting online. The goal of the first date in that circumstance is to establish trust and secondly to build attraction. The second date is about getting her ready to take the D. At least this worked for me 4 years ago when I was last single. Not saying I haven't had sex on a first date, but its just not what I go for. I like the build up. | /r/seduction | 06/11/19 10:44 PM |
| 1 | first date: activity vs going out for drinks?I'd leave activities for at least after you have crossed the intimacy line (could be sex, could be passionate make out, depending on the girl and situation). Cross the physical threshold and make sure you're turning her on. If anything, going for a walk in a place like a park is about as much of an activity as you should shoot for on a 1st date. The attraction and comfort should be built through conversation and body language, thus bowling would be a distraction to this. | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Getting ghosted even though things seemed to be on course / attraction being built? Is this more common these days?Yeah, it surprised me because we had pretty good communication for a while. And we only had one date, so its not like there was anything to blow up over. Just seems like, even if its a lie, saying something like 'hey you seem like a great guy but Im just not ready to date anyone.' is better. I mean, I not stressing it but it would be nice to know that the person didn't die a car wreck. | /r/seduction | 31/10/19 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Getting ghosted even though things seemed to be on course / attraction being built? Is this more common these days?For sure, I deleted her number. | /r/seduction | 31/10/19 09:01 PM |
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