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Oman2/r/seduction30/10/18 03:16 AM
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Oman2/r/seduction06/04/19 04:32 AM
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For PUA terms, "cold" approach is when you have no relation to or prompting from whoever you're eyeing, versus "warm" approach when they prompt you to (smiling, gesturing, etc.)
/r/seduction28/01/20 08:21 AM
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I would say that it's more about how it comes across, if you're always trying to get the girl, hitting on the entire bar, trying to hook up with them.. then the fact that you're trying (too hard) comes across as part of your character. I would argue that going out and doing without any expectation for the end result would build a better character; it's not that you shouldn't try, but rather that you shouldn't expect the result.
/r/seduction15/10/19 10:40 AM
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I would say that's exactly the point of inner game - even with the sharpest wit and killer pick-up lines, self hatred and knowing you're not good enough will ooze outwards and destroy every chance you have. Psychology and self-help are as important, you need to be the person people want to date/be with, or else you're going to get left behind.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:20 AM
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Do, or do not, there is no try I believe the concept is more about the mentality behind what you do; people can tell when you're trying too hard, but watching a guy just walk up and not care how the approach ends can be humbling.
/r/seduction22/08/19 12:53 AM
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It matters to a degree, but what actually matters is how you act. Two of my friends are exactly the same height; one hunches slightly and doubts his confidence, thus seems short; the second is so relaxed and doesn't give a shit how much taller anyone else is, we actually thought he was ~6ft until this topic came up in conversation (he's more like 5'8", same height as the rest of us).
/r/seduction01/07/19 05:38 PM
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I'll second this actually, time to time I fuck up what (in retrospect) was pretty clear. We all have ourselves to work on, and it takes time to get it right.
/r/seduction01/07/19 04:53 AM
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You saw straight through the facade I see. Yeah, I'm seeing a psych already, luckily enough my case is a relatively simple one, but that doesn't make my life any easier. I do wonder though, how much is depression, and how much is me just needing to do it?
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:34 AM
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Whoa, that's incredibly insightful. That's actually given me a lot to think about, you managed to put into words a bit of what's floating around back there in my head when I see a girl I like. You also reminded me that I should probably use the gym member ship I'm paying for, lol. I guess a lot of what it comes back to is trying to push past the idea that everything is good enough now, when it could be a hundred times better if I kept pushing myself. Thanks for the help, it's given me a lot to t…
/r/seduction27/06/19 07:58 AM
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I know you're not the expert or whatever, but maybe you'd have a bit of advice for a pleb like me? I've found that although I like the end result of a lot of the PUA content, a lot of it doesn't feel like who I want to be or who I am within, if that makes sense. I've taken a lot from Models and I'm building myself to be "more" (I can't really phrase that right), but at the same time I haven't got a whole lot of exposure to women with my current studies/hobbies (IT, gaming, niche sports). Part of…
/r/seduction27/06/19 05:46 AM
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!remindme [to get off my arse and put more time into it] 8 hours Awesome to see there's groups in aus, from what I'd found it was mostly America. Will be nice to know I'm not the only guy out there
/r/seduction22/06/19 01:30 PM
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Can confirm
/r/seduction20/06/19 02:48 AM
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It didn't have an explicit academic reference (I mean, who'd bother in this context), but it had plenty of other sources in the same context at the back of the book that may have cited it. It's not hard to read an author's commentary in a press release of a study, so I'd say it's a reasonable assumption.
/r/seduction09/06/19 02:41 AM
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Well shit, that's where I read about it!
/r/seduction08/06/19 09:37 AM
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Fun fact for reference, a psychology study attempted to determine what turned women on by measuring their bodily heat or something (I forget the specifics). What they found was that their video prompts did or didn't turn women on to completely variable levels: there was almost no correlation with what was generally assumed (or at all, in fact). The (female) doctor who led the study did the same testing on herself out of interest, and commented on how wildly unpredictable and unexpected it was. T…
/r/seduction08/06/19 07:37 AM
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It depends on your personality, some people tend to make jokes of it, others sideline the comment. The idea is to demonstrate that the challenge to your character isn't a threat, iirc.
/r/seduction23/05/19 07:53 AM
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We met at an AA meeting, not the meeting per se, but when we both snuck off to the bottle shop while everyone else was getting coffee I was visiting a friend at the mental ward, but somehow the nurses thought I was an actual patient. Thank fuck [my date] had a second visitor sticker to lend me! I decided to try out tinder for a bit, and for some reason [my date] was asking for help burying a dead body, it was the perfect time to try out my new garbage compactor. One night I got super drunk and s…
/r/seduction20/05/19 04:50 AM
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One thing that's helped me when I've gone clubbing solo is with more of a motive than simply trying to pick up. Go out there with the idea of trying to meet new people (not just girls, make new friends too!) as well as have fun, and if there's no room/nobody interesting just go on the d floor and pretend you're the only one there - dance to the music with your eyes closed. It worked surprisingly well for me, after a bit of solo time people tended to enjoy the spirit I had and let me join their c…
/r/seduction19/05/19 04:28 AM
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!remindme 6 hours
/r/seduction02/05/19 04:14 AM
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They absolutely do, but why you want one is the key IMO. Do you want to fill that void in your soul? Or, do you want to find a person who compliments who you are? The first part leads to personal hell, and the only way to understand why is by going there yourself. The second is how a relationship should be built, and you make yourself by working with past mistakes (in many cases the first option is one), and using them to build who you are. I regret the mistakes I've made, but I don't regret wha…
/r/seduction02/05/19 04:14 AM
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I'll offer my two cents I guess, but it's pure speculation from a straight guy. Between two guys flirting, it could work incredibly well to work in the humour and of course screening and seeding tell themselves. From a girl it might be slightly more tricky, things like seeding might feel forward (although I'd appreciate it), and you'd probably need to be sparing with "we" comments to avoid a bit of unease - but that probably holds true for guys making them too. It's definitely worth a shot thoug…
/r/seduction27/04/19 07:52 AM
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Trust me, dating with that kind of mind set leaves you with bills to pay for a place you're not staying in, embarrassing stories about calling off a wedding, or getting a few hundred dollars as a thank you for dating me present. All three of those stories (one was mine) started with that kind of mindset, and end as a catastrophe. If you're stuck there, skip getting a relationship and get laid first. It won't solve your problem, but it will let you know why it's not the answer. Once you have, you…
/r/seduction22/04/19 07:32 AM
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Hey man, have you considered that you might actually be depressed (medically)? I've got nothing on the other advice people here are giving, but remember that part of this is being yourself over being who other people want you to be. Depression manifests very differently in different people, but the disillusionment that you're feeling could be something deeper. A good way to start would be ask why you feel like that; are you frustrated when nothing works, or are you just always frustrated? A lot …
/r/seduction22/04/19 03:29 AM
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It's possible to go to clubs without drinking like 99% of the other people have (5-10 standards here), one or two the first time(s) can help calm your nerves and then once you get the hang of it you can go fully sober. If the clubs aren't free entry (those bastards!), then bars might be an alright secondary, you could probably get away with nursing a soft drink for the night and maybe bringing a book to read to keep you busy. For parties, try approaching socially and make a few friends, if you f…
/r/seduction18/04/19 05:10 AM
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Yeah no worries :) Everyone's case is going to be real different, I had guessed that some of my advice wouldn't be as good from what you inferred before. Mental health is always a huge thing that can really change how well you can perform in any respect, I'm on prescription for depression atm and it's given me a hell of a lot more enthusiasm and energy to be able to work and think straight. I don't know how your rebates might work (I hear it's crap in America, this is Reddit so that's a fair gue…
/r/seduction14/04/19 08:58 AM
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Hey man, I know a bit of that pain, and it's not impossible to work on improving your life. I'm 24 and still stuck at uni when everyone in my courses is several years younger than me, and I've found one of the key parts of studying effectively is knowing how you do best. I work best at my own desk with my headphones playing the beats I know well during the day: for other it's complete silence in the middle of a library at 1am. Try different ways and find the place/times/environments that you wor…
/r/seduction14/04/19 06:10 AM
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Do yourself a social experiment, one time go out with your chin down and eyes to the ground with a bit of a slump, keep track of how many times people talk over you or straight up ignore you (note your mood too). A second time, go out with your chin level and look people in the eyes, keep talking and finish that sentence even when people try talking over you. If you compare notes on how many people respect you in both states, along with your mood in both of them, there will be interesting differ…
/r/seduction14/04/19 02:43 AM
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Half the guys posting there (unless they're doing it ironically) only need a haircut & shave for the first time this year, what's with the woe is me mindset?
/r/seduction14/04/19 02:38 AM
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Yeah I was going to mention that too, I saw the beginning of my depression as "being bored" when everything I used to enjoy just lacked energy
/r/seduction13/04/19 10:56 AM
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Starting your own blog (regardless of how bad your writing might be) is actually incredibly easy, I got mine up and running with a cheapskate introduction lease for a year (~$9 iirc), and the rest of it runs on open source gear like Word Press. Literally all you need to do is sign up and start writing!
/r/seduction13/04/19 10:55 AM
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That's a good one, thanks man
/r/seduction06/04/19 07:47 AM
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Ah that makes more sense, 3 is a pretty small sample so probably not a huge surprise all 3 flake for you guys.
/r/seduction06/04/19 07:28 AM
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I hang around The Valley time to time, but I'm still right at the start of this getting over AA, wouldn't mind joining in if there's a few people around.
/r/seduction06/04/19 04:49 AM
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Interesting, at a guess how often would you say a girl flakes?
/r/seduction06/04/19 04:43 AM
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Ah, once again Poe's Law is the curse of the satirist
/r/seduction11/03/19 09:02 AM
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I honestly can't tell if this is meant to be satirical or not
/r/seduction11/03/19 03:18 AM
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Maybe just copy and paste, they're a bit touchy about this sub iirc Great tips though!
/r/seduction19/02/19 07:32 AM
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Ah, answered my question quite nicely
/r/seduction19/02/19 12:07 AM
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It sounds like you're doing really well then! It's definitely a common feeling that I get, wondering if my life could get even better with a partner, but it's not something that is necessary. Ghosting is a really common problem, I honestly have no advice on that front, but it might be less intense if you didn't try and define the relationship so soon? I honestly have no idea how you'd pull that off, good luck mate!
/r/seduction16/02/19 04:33 PM
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Thanks for the post man, I wish I'd read this two years ago before I started dating, it would have saved me one catastrophic relationship.
/r/seduction16/02/19 09:48 AM
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I would recommend counselling or perhaps an appointment with a psychologist if there's deeper problems like that. For most people, the struggle is actually defining who they are without a partner, instead assuming the whole "two halves of a whole" idea that you need a partner to be a proper person. Don't get me wrong, a relationship can definitely take you above and beyond who you are without a partner, but you shouldn't need them to define you. It sounds like you're suffering something along th…
/r/seduction16/02/19 09:43 AM
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When you're on campus, is it easy to stop and talk to people? I'm meaning to try at uni, but I keep wondering if everyone has a class to go to
/r/seduction15/02/19 02:01 AM
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And even then, once you've gone through three and a half billion, you can start over and they probably won't remember you. You won't be that creepy awkward guy, you'll be the suave guy who can actually hold a conversation.
/r/seduction14/02/19 02:12 PM
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I'd say keep it playful, but also fairly short - it's hard to get across what you're trying to say in text. If you set up a date and keep it simple after that then you can get across your intent better in person, very little of what you're trying to say comes from the actual words.
/r/seduction13/02/19 02:51 AM
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In our kind of age bracket, it's an easy thing to do in public places - a few times I've been second guessing myself hoping I'm not looking like a paedophile. My rule of thumb is cup size, if they don't have enough to wear a bra they're definitely too young, and if you're still a little unsure better to err on the safe side, you could add the size of their hips to that as well if you have a keen eye. Depending on where you are, one absolute is legal age to enter bars and clubs at night - I know …
/r/seduction10/02/19 01:25 PM
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I understand where you're coming from, and in the past I did consider myself to be in a similar situation (which doesn't mean we're of comparable shape/handsomeness/ugliness). It's great that you're fluent in body language - that means you're well ahead of me there! What I'm trying to get at I guess is that a lot of how people perceive you is in how you perceive yourself. Hell, I'm sure the ugliest guy in the world could do well with women if he simply embraced it. Plus, carrying a Guinness Worl…
/r/seduction07/02/19 05:58 AM
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My take on the idea is that you should take the shot for the chances you get; if you fail (for many of us, when) then there will always be another chance, so don't dwell on it too much. After all, 51% of the human population is female. --- How you perceive your reality is projected by your body language (and apparently vice versa too): that is to say your emotions and pride can be noted by your stance, where you look, and your expressions. Women in particular are good at reading body language, a…
/r/seduction07/02/19 05:28 AM
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I'm curious, why was this downvoted?
/r/seduction05/02/19 02:19 PM
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I honestly find going solo to clubs is very freeing. If you look like an idiot (in your head) you're never going to see those people again, and even if nobody really lets you join their group I just close my eyes and dance in the middle of the crowd. You're going to be forced to briefly meet other people, but that's not a bad thing - it's like exposure therapy. It's a whole lot of noise and heap of people, but they're honestly going to be more conscious of themselves than the 53rd guy they've se…
/r/seduction05/02/19 05:01 AM
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It depends on your approach, when you look like you have an end game, you'll get rejected or framed as creepy (from my own mistakes). When you're there to have fun first, you look a lot less threatening, and groups are quite happy to let you join them.
/r/seduction23/01/19 05:47 AM
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The phrase itself refers to undervaluing your own worth, in the context of a salesman selling something for less than the market value. An example: I'm studying at uni, but that doesn't make me smart (no, it's not an arts degree lol).
/r/seduction23/01/19 05:44 AM
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If you're happy on minimum wage, then retail or hospitality is great for this. If you want a future, you're gonna have to make sacrifices.
/r/seduction23/01/19 05:38 AM
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One thing that's helping me right now is to write down a few things that I want to be, the things I want to have as part of my character. Figure out how you'll get there; you can only get better by sanding the edges off of how bad you are right now. You're not going to get a six pack in a week, hell even a month. You need to take small steps and change course by two degrees at a time, and then some day down the track you'll look back on your past and realise how much you've really changed over t…
/r/seduction23/01/19 04:11 AM
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That's one thing that the classic "be yourself" kinda skips over - you have to make who you are, or else you're just a guy with dreams. Thanks for the inspirational post, I'm actually tempted to bus my way down to NSW now hahaha
/r/seduction22/01/19 02:19 PM
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I never got around to reading more of his work, thanks for the reminder
/r/seduction19/12/18 05:32 AM
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Nice job mate! We all have to start somewhere, you'll figure it all out with a bit of time and patience.
/r/seduction18/12/18 02:55 AM
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I actually find life having no meaning to be incredibly empowering. I have no predefined reason to live, no character to play, and no path to take. So what do I do? I enjoy the fact that I can make those choices for myself, and I define myself. There's no point to life, so enjoy the ride while it lasts by making the most of every chance you get.
/r/seduction27/11/18 03:50 AM
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I might be projecting a little, but it sounds like you need to backtrack a bit. You shouldn't be asking how to get the girls, you should be asking how to approach them. If you're struggling, you could be looking nervous (totally normal), or at worst a little creepy. Try and strike up conversations with regular strangers instead, it will probably help you figure out what's wrong based on their reactions.
/r/seduction25/11/18 12:08 PM
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Dress better and get a better haircut. It took me a (metaphorical) slap in the face to realise this was as much a part of confidence as body language, ditch those shirts that are ten years old and put a bit of money into your wardrobe. It helps your confidence so much when you already know you're well dressed with a good haircut, all you need to do is smile and look the part.
/r/seduction23/11/18 02:41 AM
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Fun fact, carrying a lead makes you a lot less suspicious if you're wandering around the suburbs, according to my PI friend
/r/seduction21/11/18 01:48 AM
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Thanks man, some nice ideas. Out of interest, where do you guys normally look for wingmen? I'm in Australia, so the usual reddit post is unlikely to have any luck really.
/r/seduction21/11/18 01:45 AM
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If you're starting out to conquer approach anxiety like I did (am), I found it helpful to start with a smaller goal. Give it all a shot and see where you're at, but this what what I set out to do: Say hi to people as you walk past Ask random questions of a stranger Compliment a girl as you walk past Approach a girl and compliment Approach and start a conversation Approach and flirt If you're past this stage, props to you! Otherwise, force yourself to try what you're up to every day, but if you c…
/r/seduction20/11/18 10:24 AM
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Hey man, it might be worth thinking about how this influences your approach, if it's got you really down it might make you look a bit less confident - it might be time for a breather.
/r/seduction18/11/18 01:01 PM
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True, but if you're that desperate to begin with, you're more likely to settle for bad women
/r/seduction09/11/18 05:22 AM
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I might give that a shot actually, nice idea
/r/seduction07/11/18 07:28 AM
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There's always a million reasons why they might have, don't beat yourself up over being unable to decipher an entire human through a few lines of text. I only bother to use Tinder in my spare time (though learning a language is actually a great idea), since my track record of tinder dates flaking is honestly depressing.
/r/seduction07/11/18 07:26 AM
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Ah, too many subs going at the same time. One actual date that went nowhere, and one date that was to a club (not quite a date, but it went somewhere). My other set ups for actual dates have been generally ghosted - a bit of hyperbole for a good story. Aside from that, a fling or two. Depending on the context, a couple of dates and a fling can be relative success, or drastic failure - either way, my match rate hasn't changed much with a fancy bio. Sorry for the miscommunication.
/r/seduction07/11/18 05:36 AM
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Well, hopefully other people will read it - but honestly a lot of it just came as a bit of a mind dump, and as a side effect of my procrastination. My exams are looming, and yet here I am giving advice on Tinder hahaha. Seriously though, unless your profile is meme based (and even then), a couple of alright photos and a good pool of people swiping will get you a few results. Maths doesn't lie, but it can cause depression in these cases.
/r/seduction07/11/18 05:29 AM
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Oh I doubt I have anything on Elon Musk, but when classes are finished the week before exams, I normally prefer to study at home - tends to feel more comfortable than the cubicles in the libraries. I know it's a pretty flimsy excuse really, but me using reddit is wasting enough time already, spending more time trying to get my game started a few days before exams is just begging for another excuse. Getting a date would be an epic excuse, but right now I'm better off with less to think about IMO.
/r/seduction07/11/18 04:26 AM
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Well for me, 5 minutes at uni is half an hour to get there (and again back) that I should probably be studying instead, I'm getting rather low on reasons not to haha I'm making use of every time it's mandatory to leave and get more milk for coffee though, so I'm not trying to find excuses (I hope)
/r/seduction07/11/18 02:36 AM
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I'll be honest, I'm not the expert for bios - I conscripted my housemate (23F) to write a better one for me. The one I used originally for a few months was more or less my intro to Tinder, it scored me a gf and a couple of other dates before that. I actually haven't seen a significant change in how many matches I get with the new bio, which from a bit of googling tends to be common really, as long as it's not bad, then it's good. My idea was more so to poke fun at the situation, if you don't hav…
/r/seduction06/11/18 01:14 PM
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Ah now, the thing about it is exactly the probability though, there is a stupidly low chance of getting a match when you compare with a specific girl's profile, but the raw numbers of it (somewhat) make up for it. I get maybe five matches a week when I'm lucky, of probably a thousand who swipe left on my profile each day. Side note, I was a bit harsh on my comments before - it's more so the models that get the matches, not because of their jobs, but because they look damn good and have professio…
/r/seduction06/11/18 01:06 PM
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Or just jerk off and save money. I don't know man, tissues can get expensive
/r/seduction06/11/18 04:07 AM
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The funny thing about life is you meet people in the weirdest of places. Two years ago in Engineering I knew zero girls, now in Computer Science, there's (relatively) more girls, and at the sports club I joined there's also a few girls around. If you're at uni/school/whatever, join a club; if you're working you could probably make a few friends from other departments, possibly HR from the stereotypes. Either way, male to female ratio is 50:50 in every city and town, there's plenty of people if y…
/r/seduction06/11/18 04:05 AM
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If you're too far into the "friend zone", you could even ask if they have any single friends
/r/seduction06/11/18 03:56 AM
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You act like it was nothing serious to get rejected - because it wasn't. It only gets weird between the two of you if you make it weird, the only thing that's happened is you've learnt that she's not interested in you, so carry on and look for a girl who is. From personal experience, asking out a friend of a friend (and getting turned down) is nothing serious at all, life carries on for the both of you. I still come across her time to time, but there's nothing weird about it and absolutely nothi…
/r/seduction06/11/18 03:53 AM
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Thanks so much for including that bit about you having trouble actually approaching your first few times, I'm having the same trouble now (was kicking myself for not doing anything last time), and it's good to hear that I'm definitely not the only one who's had this problem. It took me a few rounds of the store to get the guts to approach the girl who commented on my shirt (Top Gear's "seriously uncool" lmao), but I'm glad I had the guts to find an excuse to ask her where something was and flirt…
/r/seduction06/11/18 12:37 AM
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One thing I found really interesting about Tinder was how the girls treat it, a couple of my female friends showed me how they do it, and they swipe left on maybe 95% of profiles. The ones they don't swipe left on, they look through and look at every picture, read every description and link, and once they have they choose a total of maybe 1% of their options. Most of those swipes they get are guaranteed matches, and then they get spammed with so many stupid, boring, or even crass messages that t…
/r/seduction05/11/18 08:20 AM
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My personal preference for writing is a bit of satire, you could try making a bit of a joke out of it, perhaps like this (going with social status and doing stuff your own way); "Some people say I have no social status, but I think they're just jealous I'm the punk rock of life." Try not to take Tinder seriously, if you treat every match like you're in and every date you set up as guaranteed, then you're in for a lot of disappointment. Trust me, I've learnt this the hard way.
/r/seduction05/11/18 08:06 AM
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Damn, 20 a day? What sorcery were you using?
/r/seduction05/11/18 07:56 AM
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Story of my Tinder life. My key to dealing with it is to treat it more like a game, when you get a match try and keep it fun and flirty (don't assume they'll respond either), and once you've set up the date don't believe it will actually happen until she's standing there in front of you. It's honestly not worth investing time into.
/r/seduction05/11/18 03:24 AM
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Could try card games, poker or blackjack might work with a bit of a rule change
/r/seduction05/11/18 03:19 AM
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Bit of a warning here, I was reading about doing so recently, and apparently they've been significantly more aggressive to people doing exactly that these last few months
/r/seduction05/11/18 03:16 AM
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Yes actually, that was my starting point for dating - it's a hell of a lot easier to approach online, and getting rejected (aka mildly ghosted) like that doesn't really damage ego that much
/r/seduction05/11/18 03:15 AM
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Oh there are good girls out there, I can vouch for that, but the time you waste finding them is better spent elsewhere
/r/seduction04/11/18 02:13 PM
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Rejection is your friend, my dude. This. So much this. I was so scared of being rejected that I never actually did anything about the girls I liked, and when you're awkwardly wondering what they would say if you did ask them, it just makes it so much harder to do anything at all.
/r/seduction04/11/18 12:50 PM
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Of all the suggestions I've read, none have managed to make me bother using it for more than killing time every other day or so. And even then, maybe ten minutes at most.
/r/seduction04/11/18 12:36 PM
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Reddit noob here, so please tell me where I can find this from a browser. On mobile, you can use the ... of r/seduction to view the Community Info page, which has a whole list of threads that have great starter info.
/r/seduction30/10/18 08:43 AM
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Like.. about what I do? It's a retail job filling shelves, facing the store, and manning the kiosks/checkouts. We've all been asked to actively help customers when we're on the shop floor to improve the image of the store.
/r/seduction30/10/18 06:27 AM
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Hmm I'll definitely watch how they react, thanks!
/r/seduction30/10/18 04:11 AM
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Thanks for writing that, I'm just stating a similar sort of journey, and it's good to hear that it can be done!
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:43 PM
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I really enjoyed reading that, I'll definitely try doing something like that at my new retail job
/r/seduction28/10/18 12:28 PM
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