This is mostly for tinder/bumble, I thought I'd keep that going in the background while I work on my approach anxiety.

The last week or so I've set up three dates, two of which have flaked on me with semi-plausible excuses (but the same "oh.. I'll get back to you.."), and the third still hasn't replied to confirm tonight.

The first kept texting constantly, and although I appreciate the enthusiasm(?) I kept my replies fairly sparse to prevent getting friend-zoned. When I rescheduled the original date (was sick), she had "plans" for both of the nights I suggested, and I doubt she'll get back to me with her own suggestion.

The second I've spoken with sporadically via snapchat; I'd send the odd snap that she'd reply to pretty quickly, but when I went to set up the date proper, she also had plans and would let me know..

The third I've barely talked to since setting up the date; I'll admit I probably should have got her number or something, but of all three she seemed the most keen for it. I'm honestly surprised that she still hasn't replied, but ~24h wait is pretty clear.

I know you guys can't really get a solid idea of what I've done wrong without a full transcript of the messages, but what are some plausible problems in my approach?