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| 3 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?I think a balance makes sense. Like I get him not being into gift giving but he needs to lean into it for special occasions for you without it being like pulling teeth. Maybe paying for more dates and time together since he’s better off and more traditional dynamics. However I’d never expect a bf to buy me gifts all the time or pay for my car maintenance or repairs. I’m also not big into gifts though and until marriage my expenses were mine and his were his. In marriage finances are combined tho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Keeping the romance alive in marriageYour last sentence, just yes! We do need to incorporate that more. Great ideas. Unfortunately I feel like we didn’t even have much when dating so not much to build on, or so it feels right now. But we can get there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/25 12:59 AM |
| 5 | Traditional-style money management in today's marriagesI guess it just depends on the guy. Some men want to manage that more and others are happy to be hands off and pass that on to you. I grew up with my mom doing most of the money management and always wanted to do that. I do more of that in my marriage now | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/25 02:05 PM |
| 5 | Sex feels like a necessity but his rejection breaks me (F26) every time. Self esteem and sadness due to boyfriend's (M23) low libido. He is happy otherwise and wants to move in. How to proceed?I mean, it’s normal to not be having it every day - that isn’t sustainable if you guys have busy lives. Even every other day is a lot for most couples. I’m kind of confused on what the frequency is now. I totally get a low drive partner can be a hit to our self image and desire to be desired, but I wonder if he’s actually low drive and not just you are either very high desire, or you are seeking validation from sex. When I was younger I felt like I needed it every day and anytime my partner was … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/25 01:23 PM |
| 0 | i’m 20F I want to find a husband young, 30s is not the new 20s.Religious settings is the best for that tbh. I come from a religious family and while a lot of people in my circles didn’t marry as young as they’d hope, so far 3 of my siblings including myself are married off by 25. My brother married at 21 and so many of his friends from HS and college(mostly from Christian HS) have either gotten married or will get married. He has a wedding every weekend it seems and all his friends are still under 25. But yeah you need to find a good church community or go … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/25 08:42 PM |
| 14 | Do you find blue-collared or white-collared men more attractive/ masculine?I imagine it also has a lot to do with the men you grew up around too. I grew up around both half my extended family was blue collar, but they are from a different culture than than most other people I grew up with and everyone kind of pushed the college to white collar career pipeline which probably influenced my preference for that. Though you can’t be a soft white collar man… you still better be able to do home and car maintenance and save me from bugs or bad guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/25 12:10 AM |
| 6 | How do conservative women in their 20s find spouses?Your physical standards are really not helping you out. So specific and you are literally basing that on pictures not even real life interactions after you get to know someone a little. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/25 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Tired of living in two places, but feel it's too early to get antsy about marriage. Advice?I feel like some of this was me a bit ago! I’d always be the one going over, making the drive, staying over, then trying to do cooking and cleaning. I think it’s more reasonable to split a bit more evenly. He can drive some weekends to see you even if it’s just a day/part of a day before he drives home. Or you can meet part way. I wish I insisted on him meeting me where I lived more rather than wanting to be so accommodating. Part of it was also living situation where I had roommates who didn’t … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/24 02:53 AM |
| 2 | How did your life change when you lost weight?I was heavier in high school, though I never even got to overweight territory based on BMI I definitely didn’t look good because a lot of it went to my face and belly and I had no muscle so I just looked flabby. I lost 40lbs over a few years in my college years, until I was slightly underweight and now I’m up 10 lbs and at a healthier weight. I wasn’t really around boys much when I was heavier so idk how it would have affected stuff like dating plus I lost the weight super gradually by just not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryI’ve decided to try, but it feels like a “I’ll do my part but with the expectation nothing will change on his part and with the intention to let him know”. Like I want to be the perfect wife for a month and see if it changes anything… I’ll stop complaining, I’ll cook even better meals and keep the house even cleaner, I’ll compliment him, I’ll never ask anything of him or criticize him, I’ll wear lingerie around the house and buy him little gifts and give him letters and let him chill on the couc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryThat’s my fear unfortunately. I’m hoping he will get tested but who knows. I kind of can’t push it anymore as it isn’t helping. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryWell, we never fought as badly as we seem to now- while things weren’t perfect they felt manageable. Sex issues were a thing but he assured me once he switched jobs and got more sleep his libido would go up, but it hasn’t. My complaining has always been a thing but he didn’t find it as annoying before | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 06:38 PM |
| 0 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryNot necessarily about him though I was “nagging” him about joining a soccer league because he had expressed interest earlier and I was worried about him not having hobbies or social time outside of work. And then I get excited about life together so get spur of them omens inspirations to clean our whole place or merge more accounts and he’s tired because it’s a weeknight. Complaints outside of the sex initiation thing are usually not about him, I’m just used to complaining or having a complainin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Resentment in marriage and struggle to want to tryIt’s been not even two months. Maybe I just expected more of a honeymoon phase into marriage. However it doesn’t help that there has been so much change the past few months with moving, new jobs, and obviously marriage. I may be letting my unhappiness with life in general seep in and despite him saying he’s happy, I think it’s been rough on him too. We got married fairly quick compared to people I know, knew each other 1.5-2years before. We share core values and goals for our future family. And … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/24 04:26 PM |
| 3 | There is no such thing as unconditional love to menI honestly don’t think romantic love is supposed to be unconditional, at least not before marriage. Reality is, it’s give and take and wanting to build something with someone who’s life goals and values align. Once you find out it doesn’t align, you move on and find someone else. Obviously once you make marriage vows, you shouldn’t be doing that, but that’s after already establishing things and you can still leave if they stop being loving/are abusive. I’d say the only unconditional love relatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/24 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Should I withhold sex till marriage?It’s coming up, only around 5 months left. Idk, he keeps telling me it will change. I do anticipate he’ll try more in that department once we are married. I guess everything else is good though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/24 05:50 PM |
| 4 | Should I withhold sex till marriage?I don’t like the word “withhold”, but if you are Catholic, you are supposed to abstain before marriage. Might just be your conscience or Catholic guilt speaking. I’m going through Catholic marriage prep and we are trying to stop sex till the wedding. Your fiancé should also respect that boundary. I feel you with not liking frequency though… I seem to want it way more than my fiancé, except 3 times a week sounds amazing to me haha… when I stopped initiating we went like over a month where he trie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/24 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Have you lost a lot of weight?For me intermittent fasting works best- I usually skip breakfast(never hungry anyways) and occasionally lunch. I like to eat in more volume so eating 3 meals a day(or more if snacks and dessert), inevitably leads to weight gain for me. I wouldn’t count taking sips of cider to be breaking the fast either, I mean technically it sort of might be, but as long as it wasn’t spurring me to eat a meal, I don’t think it would stop any weight loss goals. My mom hated the idea of doing this but she never h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 11:55 PM |
| 11 | FashionI feel like people in the US also just don’t dress up as much. We’ve become more casual in public and in the workplace so you stick out more. While I love being comfortable, I wish it were more comfortable to dress up a bit and not feel out of place. But most people are nice about it and do not mean anything malicious by looking at you. I’d also say… heels and a-line sounds pretty fancy compared to like a casual sundress and sandals | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/24 04:04 PM |
| 14 | Do you have any conditions set for porn usage?I don’t like it, but I’ve never set conditions for my partners. I ask though. Both of my current partner and my ex didn’t/don’t use porn and haven’t for years before I met them so it was never an issue. I’m not sure we should set a condition, but you can tell him you don’t want it to be part of the relationship even when apart. I don’t think you being apart is an excuse to use porn imo. I’d also consider the perspective you are coming from. My issue with porn isn’t feeling insecure cause they lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/24 08:20 PM |
| 8 | Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingI’d never end something with someone I’m dating seriously because I notice other men with nicer qualities. But I definitely notice those men. Honestly sometimes it’s rough when I do notice those things my own man might not have. But I also know I might never have a chance to date that dude/it wouldn’t work out for other reasons. My man is mostly great, I just wouldn’t mind two very specific things that he doesn’t have as much of. My previous partner had those things though and it wasn’t enough a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 09:37 PM |
| 5 | high libido woman struggling with husband who only responds when my attention is not on him. what to do?:/ As of now I’m just telling him I need him to get T levels checked and I expect to see a change before marriage. It started when he started his current job and he just told me his boss is basically being abusive and his peers even told him they’d kill themselves if they had to work under him everyday. He’s moving out of that role in a month or two so we’ll see if it improves when he’s not as stressed. But yeah, I was like life is stressful and especially if we have kids, you’ll always be tired… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/24 05:24 PM |
| 17 | high libido woman struggling with husband who only responds when my attention is not on him. what to do?I don’t know, but this is my fear with my fiancé. As of now his libido is like very low and while he says it will improve(job changes and stuff), I’m so worried it will drag into marriage. I also don’t really get it. Like I feel like us women are often told to say yes to advances to make him feel loved even if we don’t feel like it, but it seems like men are totally unwilling to do that. I think for a healthy relationship sometimes both of you need to say yes at times to stuff you don’t feel lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/24 03:28 PM |
| 8 | Balancing between being selective and picky when using dating appsFollowed some of those principles and now I’m engaged. I think the book makes some good points. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/24 02:00 PM |
| 13 | Dating Without Attraction: Can it work? What if the Pros outweigh the Cons?I feel like you just need some baseline attraction. I’ve gone on dates with men I didn’t find attractive at all; and I could notice myself feeling repulsed and annoyed with them as time went on. That sounds like a recipe for disaster in a relationship. However, I could see myself being with someone who I might not find super attractive, but still get along well and have fun and don’t feel repulsed by and I think that can work out fine. There is enough attraction for a relationship even if it’s m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 02:49 PM |
| 25 | Advances from unattractive menI think it’s normal, men who are seeking a partner or whatever, will try to approach and they know rejection is part of the process. I guess why not shoot higher, maybe once in a while you’ll get a yes, worst case you get a no. I’d just decline politely and move on. I’m sure it’s already tough for some men to make a move so I wouldn’t try to make them feel bad even if you feel you are above their league or something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 12:13 AM |
| 8 | Dating 4+ years, boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m ready to be married and have babiesI get the worries. Staying with someone who isn’t good to you and won’t even commit, doesn’t seem like a great way to reach that goal though. Also, I know kids can bring great purpose and meaning to life and even be the most meaningful thing for many people, but I wonder where this idea of needing as many as possible and needing kids to have any purpose in life is coming from. It sounds like you are expecting them to fill some void | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 02:33 AM |
| 9 | Dating 4+ years, boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m ready to be married and have babiesI replied to your other comment, from what you says, he doesn’t seem to even respect you so he might be the wrong one plus wrong time. There are plenty of great men out there and 27 isn’t old, it’s good to know what you want and be intentional about finding that when you date, but you don’t need to try to force something because you feel like time is running out. I know plenty of people who didn’t find their spouse until their late twenties to thirties and they were able to have multiple kids an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 02:24 AM |
| 13 | Dating 4+ years, boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m ready to be married and have babiesOk , after reading this, he just seems like not a great guy. Sorry what!? Trying to make you feel like you should be lucky to date him? That’s so messed up imo. If a man wants to be with you, he’s not going to act like he’s doing you a favor by dating you… he’s going to appreciate you and feel lucky to have you in his life and vice versa. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who respects and appreciates you, no matter what your past is or how rich or successful you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 02:21 AM |
| 14 | Dating 4+ years, boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m ready to be married and have babiesJust cause you aren’t a virgin or something doesn’t mean you need to settle for any guy who will take you or that marriage and babies isn’t in your future. If he’s not committing, he’s not showing he even sees a future with you. He’s not 22, he’s old enough to and seems settled enough to know if he wants marriage and kids with you. You are young, if you want those things, chances are you can find a man who also wants that. Unfortunately, if he wants to have a family with a woman, he needs to rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 02:17 AM |
| 30 | Dating 4+ years, boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m ready to be married and have babiesI think 4 years should be plenty at this point. I don’t get his concern with financial stability if he’s doing well. Marriage isn’t what costs money anyways and you could always delay kids for a couple years until finances are in better order. I think you need to have another convo with him. Tell him you really want to get married and have a family and realize your time is limited(you have time but you don’t want to find out in 4 more years that he still isn’t ready and you are now 31 starting o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/24 01:53 AM |
| – | 2 weeks of talking online and haven't done anything togetherNope, guys don’t take that long if interested. It’s not hard for him to get on a phone call or video call, and you even brought it up yourself so no excuses. End the conversation and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/24 08:21 PM |
| 9 | If finances were no obstacle, how many children would you have?5-6. My main thing is age limit. I’d rather have them all before 40 definitely. When I was younger my age limit to have my last kid was 32-35 but umm, that seems less realistic as I’m getting older and if I want more than 2 kids. I’ve honestly never had issues with finding men who are open to big families. At least not the ones I’ve dated long term. They all seemed to desire larger families, at least like 3-4 and since I’m the one bearing the kids, they were willing to give me more say there. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 04:46 AM |
| 0 | Worrying about the future with my partnerYeah, he also has at least two years left in the military so that will effect things. But he could focus on making connections and maybe finishing his engineering degree. And start looking for jobs before he gets out. And yeah, if we can save a good amount, we could make the transition easier. We aren’t planning to spend much on a wedding, unless his parents are willing to pay for it, otherwise we’ve already talked about a potluck wedding lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Worrying about the future with my partnerYes, he knows and is planning to transition out for me. Yeah, that’s my concern | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Worrying about the future with my partnerHe isn’t opposed, he says he’d like to make it a reality for me. I just worry he won’t be able to. He tells me he thinks I’d be happiest as a SAHM and he respects that “job”, as he was raised by one and all that. So he’s told me it would help if I could work from home or work part time at least until he makes more money. We also plan to live with a dual income before kids and saving all of my income for a down payment/retirement for at least 1-3 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 07:14 PM |
| 5 | My ex boyfriend (M25) wants me back (F25)I mean you do you. It can work out, but I wouldn’t take the risk myself. After him lying to me and being manipulative especially, I’d be like, nope, bye. Hope things work out for you and you are getting better but I’m not risking getting hurt again. There are men who will never do those things, and imo I am more confident they will stay that way than an abusive addict who hurt me with his behaviors changing forever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/24 02:12 PM |
| 24 | How to get over being pumped and dumped?Girl, 26 isn’t that old, I promise. Plenty of women have found great men after 26. You’ll just regret giving up so early when you get older and realize you actually had time on your side at 26! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 10:59 PM |
| 10 | Loose vaginaIt has nothing to do with whether you’ve had sex before. Giving birth can sometimes do that as things can tear or it can weaken your pelvic floor. It’s just your body, everyone’s is a little different. You could try kegels to exercise your pelvic floor and help with “tightening” but surgery is super extreme and whether they can isn’t necessarily on you… a lot of guys have trouble due to stuff like too much porn use. I think it’s becoming more common for younger men to struggle because of those t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 05:01 PM |
| 28 | How can redpill women be happy?Imo if he told you that, that’s taking it way too far. I wouldn’t want my partner to think that way. Yes, we age and there is beauty in our youthfulness(which imo extends far beyond 23), but as long as you take care of yourself he should continue to find you beautiful as you age together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Should I cancel the date?Yeah, true. I reread that the last text he sent was like a week ago. If it was yesterday that’s one thing but if a week goes by and nothing I’d assume they ghosted | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 12:57 AM |
| 11 | Should I cancel the date?You could prolong the date by doing something else afterwards. You could apologize for the lack of time and say you’d be up for ice cream/drinks after the gallery closed. Like of course he wouldn’t text again if you didn’t text after his last text. If you want to go you need to confirm and show some excitement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/24 11:41 PM |
| 7 | Isn’t it better to have two incomes for one household?I don’t want to be poor but I was raised more frugally than the poster above. No new cars, I have an almost 20 year car and I plan to drive it till it dies even though I could afford a newer one. I don’t buy new clothes all the time. I do spend on hobbies and seeing family, but I plan to move back which will cut down travel and I can pick cheaper hobbies. Imo I don’t need a lot of nice things and experiences don’t need to be expensive. I want my basic needs met, a few nice things, and time with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/24 11:45 PM |
| 3 | What’s a good body count at almost 30?I don’t think virginity does much imo. I get there is a difference between only doing it with a serious partner and having been with a 100 casual sex partner but otherwise. And the whole having DNA of previous partners is a big myth. Feel free to cite studies but based on basic biology it seems pretty illogical. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/23 05:31 AM |
| 3 | What’s a good body count at almost 30?Past matters in some ways, but imo, asking someone for the body count is weird. Things come up naturally as you are getting to know each other and I think that’s sufficient. I’ve noticed the good guys rarely ask. When I was younger maybe, but now that I’m out of college it hasn’t come up except with a couple guys I did not continue seeing(for other reasons). Now I’m in a long term relationship and he’s never asked. He doesn’t want to know, we know about previous relationships and college experie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/23 10:23 PM |
| 47 | How do I find a good man?It just takes time, and it might help to be around more like minded people. Not that many men are going to just ask a total stranger out on a date, many will prefer to just naturally meet first. I’ll say, places like church are probably the best place if you want to date for marriage. You could also try hobbies, meetups, meet people through friends type thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 11:40 PM |
| 8 | he told me if he ever marries, he wants his wife to be like me, it made me overthink and I want some insightI think you are looking at it in an unhelpful way. I want marriage, therefore someone who does not want it doesn’t share my values and/or we aren’t compatible. That’s not a failure, it just saves me some time and heartbreak when dating. It brings more intentionality. It is possible I may never marry and that is not a failure either, that’s just life, life doesn’t always go by my plans.Marriage isn’t some goal I need to reach to succeed or even be happy, but it’s something I expect from a long te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/23 05:32 PM |
| 9 | he told me if he ever marries, he wants his wife to be like me, it made me overthink and I want some insightIf you want marriage, I would have a serious talk about it. How open is he to marriage, how long would he want to date before marriage, how old does he feel he needs to be for marriage, what does marriage mean to him etc. It seems you aren't even sure what you want in that regards. If he doesn't want it or is very hesitant, I would probably get out of the relationship, but I am someone who dates for marriage, expect a proposal within a couple years type deal as I think that is plenty of time for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/23 04:59 PM |
| 6 | Feeling vulnerable might delete laterYou should be able to go to him about it. I also feel that way sometimes, I’m also just a big anxious mess a lot recently. Of course if I was going to him with negative feelings daily all the time(yes there may be seasons of it because life sucks sometimes), then maybe it’s time to seek help or support through other means too. My bf has been great though, telling me he’s there for me and that one of his “jobs” as bf is being a rock for me when he can. It may be a mood killer for certain types of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/23 08:22 PM |
| 9 | What are your relationship rules?This is a good one, hard though. I definitely wasn’t good at following this when I was younger but I think I’ve become better at it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/23 08:18 PM |
| 14 | How do I move on? The last guy I dated flew on a plane to meet me and drove me to a different stateI think you are focusing too much on the him being a doctor and him putting that much effort into a first date. Imo it doesn’t mean that much. A guy can be a great potential partner without flying to see you for a first date or being a doctor. Imo has little to do with him valuing you, he just has the means to afford it and I guess and I guess couldn’t find someone close by?Maybe try to date people near you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 04:33 AM |
| 8 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!This is hilarious | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 10:37 PM |
| 12 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!I never had those issues, just like, more of them are geeky and I just didn’t find it attractive | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 10:22 PM |
| 19 | I’m a formerly poor woman who married into extreme wealth. AMA!Interesting. Must be nice! My brother is in that area working in tech and he’s told me there are significantly my men than women over there making dating tough on the male side. Definitely a lucrative field but it seems I won’t be marrying into that based on the current guy I’m seeing. I’ve dated a few tech dudes for a short time and they were just never my type. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Talking about marriage but feeling stressed about finances.Like basically only the median household income for the area, which where my parents live is over six figures so it may seem high, but it’s not rare to get near that early on in career if you go into business/engineering/tech and since it’s a big metro area. And so plenty of people in the circles I’ve grown up with(middle class) do significantly better than median income when they get to their later career years. So I don’t expect him to do amazingly early on, but once he’s 50 something it would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/23 06:32 PM |
| 3 | There is a part of me that really wants to be a stay at home Dad...Maybe marry a doctor or something! I think SAHD are becoming more common, but it’s still less common than being a SAHM | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/23 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Talking about marriage but feeling stressed about finances.Thanks for the reply. You were spot on in your first paragraph. I’m just lost rn, I would be without him too, it’s just a weird stage in life and I’m in some random city and I’m overwhelmed so leaving doesn’t even feel like an option now because I’d have to deal with moving across states and a new job too and that’s too much right now. I’ll try to involve him more. I’m bad at letting him help with the big big decisions though, mainly the where I want to live part as family is super big for me. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Talking about marriage but feeling stressed about finances.He’s actually enlisted so he’s not a commissioned officer, he’s a non commissioned one I guess. We’ll look at opportunities like that. It’s possible if he gets a more chill job(the one that would take him near family), he could do school on the side. Not California, but a metro area on the east coast. I really value family so that’s super important to me raising kids near them. Having a strong support network is important to me and would be much harder to have without family imo. And I just real… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 02:52 PM |
| 0 | Is it unreasonable to want a provider, but to not want kids?I feel like it’s less common. Idk, how would one even fill enough time being a housewife with no kids? Unless you are maintaining a big garden too or also volunteering outside the home or doing hobbies a lot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 02:01 PM |
| 2 | A cheap date is disrespectful to us young women.Honestly, I’m fine with cheap dates. As long as he’s not stingy about it all the time, there are better ways to show me he appreciates me and the date costing more money will do little to improve my enjoyment of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 12:33 PM |
| 74 | told friends I never say no to sexIdk I used to feel that way when I heard other women did that. I guess it almost felt like, well why would he “subject” his wife to it if he knew she wasn’t in the mood. And there were times I did it despite not really wanting to because I didn’t know how to say no(not a serious partner)and it almost felt like I was being violated(I know I wasn’t being, just not fun). Now, I’d try to avoid saying no because I trust my partner and love him and it feels safe with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 02:18 AM |
| 27 | How does the Red Pill Community view men who want their women to be exclusive to them, yet the man can have one-night stands and "friends for sex"? Is such a man considered an HVM?Nope, I’d never consider that HVM. I honestly doubt any “high value woman” would settle for that either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 01:38 AM |
| 9 | How do you bring up you’d like to be a stay at home mom/provided for after a few dates?I think you just ask/bring it up. If he’s bringing up having a family, ask what that looks like for him. Tell him about your dreams for a family. Or bring up your careers and goals there, and talk about how you’d love to be able to quit your job once kids come along. I honestly don’t see anything wrong with just being direct. Worst case it just isn’t a match but he already seems open to the idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 01:32 PM |
| 6 | Do women need men more than men need women because women spend more?I don’t really think so. Just cause women might spend more and make less doesn’t mean they are spending above their income either. Life is expensive especially now but I don’t need a man to afford to live and I know plenty of women doing great on their own. Women are starting to outnumber men in higher education and in some high paying career fields. I only wouldn’t want to raise kids on my own and on my own income(paying for daycare in a one income household sounds pretty unaffordable for most)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 11:51 PM |
| 4 | Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to womenI think this is true for any human. You get to know someone well and you can understand that the argument that night is caused by them being in a bad mood due to being tired due to work being long and stressful. You’ve learned to accept that when your partner has a long stressful day at work they get agitated much more easily and it’s not the time to bring up sensitive topics. Anyways, I think it’s pretty basic. From the outside emotions and actions can seem so random but if you dig deeper and g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 01:14 AM |
| – | Do women compare what their bf/husbands can provide to what other men can provide for their womenI think women are less likely to compare themselves to Instagram models and more to their own friends relationships. IG is nice but we know a lot of it is either fake or just some rich person I’ll never be. However If I see my sister getting really cute gifts from her bf or him driving far to see her every week and my bf not doing anything comparable, yes sometimes I’ll feel like I want more from my own partner. I want to be romanced too and those smaller thoughtful gestures mean a lot and are s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: People do not want to date easily available people. Average men can't easily get average women, but average women can easily get average men.I’m honestly starting to wonder if the average woman is of higher “quality” than the average man. And I’m not saying it’s either parties fault, I think a large part of it is that society has failed us all though. Or maybe that’s just in the certain groups I frequent. But it seems women are starting to do better then men in the workforce for example. When I’m in my church group there are more successful women than successful men. More “normal” attractive women. Etc. More men seem to be falling be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 01:25 PM |
| 2 | The age gap in relationships is fine and should not be demonized.Adults can do what they want. I’m not interested in anything past 5 years because I’m looking to reduce my chances of being a widow for a long time in my older age. I’ve seen age gap relationships work and 5-10 years isn’t uncommon among adults I know. Even know a couple people with gaps of over 15 years and they seem happy. Good for them if they are happy. Can’t imagine larger gaps tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?Some of it is just biology. Obviously a man you spend more time with is more likely to abuse than a stranger on the street. Doesn’t negate the desire to have a man who is bigger or stronger or who feels safe. I’ve never been with a man who physically abused me and I’d never put up with it. I live in safe places so I’d be fine on my own logically, I’m at little risk of some rando guy coming to hurt me. But it’s nice to have a man to kill the “scary” harmless spiders or to lift the heavy stuff or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 08:20 PM |
| 6 | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?You are reaching a bit. Most of the people I know didn’t grow up fatherless but that doesn’t mean they don’t prefer a taller man. I think it’s more just biology. Women are almost always physically weaker than men. There have always been threats to women because of that. Some of those threats still exist but we can mitigate them with stuff like technology or even having a weapon handy but it’s still nice to have someone make you feel safe. And it’s nice to feel small sometimes in the presence of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 07:55 PM |
| 17 | How to set new expectationsId talk about it. It sounds like you are doing all the leg work for the relationship. If he values it he should put the work in too, I’d be upfront and tell him your expectations. If he isn’t willing to change it/doesn’t start taking initiative he may honestly not be very invested. Maybe he’s just sticking around because you persist and hey it’s nice to have a girl who calls and visits and does stuff for you even if you aren’t very into her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/23 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Settling - something is better than nothingI didn’t say anything about wanting or not wanting. Just that most people settle, and loving someone doesn’t negate that. You can love someone and still dream about other things. Heck you can love someone and leave them because their goals or whatever don’t align with yours and you aren’t willing to compromise on that goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 08:03 PM |
| 0 | Settling - something is better than nothingImo everyone settles. Maybe not consciously but you obviously aren’t going to get some perfect partner. Someone is going to be hotter or richer or funnier or xyz. Relationships require compromise and sacrifice. I don’t expect whoever marries me to see me as perfect or the most amazing/beautiful woman ever. Just cause you love someone doesn’t mean there isn’t some settling involved. It’s not that something is better than nothing but that something is good enough to choose to settle for. Shared go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Ladies would you date a man who makes less money than you or who is unemployed?It’s more about the long term. If he makes less now that’s fine. He might still be in school or between jobs or be figuring out his path. But long term I’d prefer he be making at least as much to be able to help provide for a family. I will have to cut back on work due to pregnancy/childbirth/kids and so I need someone who can pick up some slack. I’d prefer to focus more on childcare and housework so I’d prefer he do better in his career so I can do that. Plus some ambition is attractive. Honest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 06:16 PM |
| 8 | I feel like I’m doing more than my fair share in my relationship. Any advice?Yeah, this doesn’t sound like a good arrangement. He needs to pull his weight. You are doing everything, at this point you need to have a serious conversation about how it might not work out if he doesn’t get more involved. You need to figure out how that would look for both of you. Unless he’s doing the majority of the housework and childcare, he needs to get a job. Like at minimum since it seems even when you ask him to help around more, he doesn’t make any meaningful changes. Tbh if he can’t … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/23 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Would you marry for love or money?I feel like both would be ideal… I don’t think you should marry purely for money, but finances is something to consider before marriage because it will have a big effect and you want to prevent issues from arising in the future because you didn’t address it. Love is great but it doesn’t erase the circumstances. Y’all are going to build a life together and if you are on different pages or you have to make all the sacrifices it may not end well. Love doesn’t mean giving up all your dreams for one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/23 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Most women with green flags are boring and men don't actually want them.Generalizing, but yeah, sometimes unstable people just feel more exciting, sometimes we crave the rollercoaster. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 03:12 AM |
| 14 | The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand.I honestly think there is more to it. Just looking at my dad and brothers, sometimes I really just think men need women more for emotional support etc. Often times their wife or gf are their only confidant or emotional support. I honestly worry that if my mom died before my dad, he’d lose it, whereas I know my mom would be really sad, but she’d recover much more quickly due to having close friends etc. I think women often have stronger support networks and more vulnerability among each other. Me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Are women financially better off not being with men?Not usually… two incomes is better than one you know, a lot more purchasing power especially in this crazy housing market. I mean not having kids does make it easier to get to the top at work, having kids will often put a damper on your long term earnings due to needing to take time off work, needing a more flexible job etc. That’s more choosing kids rather than having men in your life. If all I want is to become some top whatever and be a workaholic then sure, relationships take time, it’s gonn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 11:44 PM |
| 3 | Cycle SyncingWhat even is cycle syncing? Is that just tracking fertility or something else | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Women, which of these four relationship choices would you make if you had to choose?C then🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Women, which of these four relationship choices would you make if you had to choose?If B had an amazing personality; charisma and intelligence etc. Thing is I feel like if he’s so amazing his earning potential should go up, because charisma and Intelligence are huge perks in the corporate world and I need my man to have ambition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 05:15 PM |
| – | Why do so many guys lose their edge in a relationship or platonic friendships with the opposite sex, but when being with their bros their drive and ambition is still kicking in, where as with most women this doesn't really seem to have a strong deteriorating effect?Man I’m already noticing this in my bf and like… I wanna do stuff!! It’s depressing to sit and watch tv after work. Why isn’t he doing hobbies or being more social. Honestly the life seems super depressing. Hard to even get him to do stuff with me because my hobbies are not his or he doesn’t want to be around new or other people in his time outside of work unless they are his bros he barely sees now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 12:18 AM |
| 2 | I hear others say that relationships where the women pursued or initiated are set to fail, but why do so many marriages which are often initiated by men fail? does which gender initiate really determine the outcome then?I think men want relationships more some of the time but romance is not the same as marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 08:31 PM |
| 2 | I hear others say that relationships where the women pursued or initiated are set to fail, but why do so many marriages which are often initiated by men fail? does which gender initiate really determine the outcome then?I think they do like the other person, they might just not really care for marriage? I’ve heard especially for men, if they can basically get all the benefits of marriage, without the commitment. Even if you aren’t super into that person anymore, it’s comfortable. Now you have shared expenses, a shared lease or mortgage ,and a built in sex partner etc. Breaking all that up cause she wants a ring… I mean it’s going to rock your world for several months. It’s also a reason why marriages where coha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | I hear others say that relationships where the women pursued or initiated are set to fail, but why do so many marriages which are often initiated by men fail? does which gender initiate really determine the outcome then?I mean better than a breakup at the time I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 07:37 PM |
| 2 | I hear others say that relationships where the women pursued or initiated are set to fail, but why do so many marriages which are often initiated by men fail? does which gender initiate really determine the outcome then?Yup it’s possible. I’ve had that happen to me, I tried bringing up the topic to gauge intentions and he had some vague idea which already made me wonder if he saw anything with me. Which is fine, not everyone will be into me. Then multiple dates cancelled on his end. He then decided to follow tik tok advice and ghost me to see if I’d reach out first. I’d already moved on when he reached out and tried to beg me to leave my current relationship for him. I know he grew up with divorced parents and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | I hear others say that relationships where the women pursued or initiated are set to fail, but why do so many marriages which are often initiated by men fail? does which gender initiate really determine the outcome then?I think there is some truth there. I’d say less about quantifying love but more like, say you are talking to two men, one seems genuinely interested in a relationship and makes it clear. The other is flakey and does not bring up the topic of relationship and for all you know just wants a fling. So assuming I’m looking for a long term relationship and these men and have some interest in both , it’s obvious you choose the one that is actually serious about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 07:28 PM |
| 2 | I hear others say that relationships where the women pursued or initiated are set to fail, but why do so many marriages which are often initiated by men fail? does which gender initiate really determine the outcome then?I doubt it matters much for marriage, but are marriages really initiated by men? Sure, men usually propose but often it’s after their gf has been talking about and pushing for marriage. I feel like the trend is that women want marriage more or sooner then men, while men are dragging their feet and women are wondering why he hasn’t proposed yet and dropping hints or even ultimatums. So maybe marriage is really kinda pushed by the woman more often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Men should just refuse to get marriedI mean go for it but a lot of women also won’t even date you if marriage isn’t on the table | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 01:35 PM |
| 1 | CMV: An age gap of around 5 years is optimal once both partners are at least in their mid-twentiesProbably more mature but I doubt it makes a huge difference tbh. He’s just older. I have more savings at this point and am making the same amount and have less debt🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | CMV: An age gap of around 5 years is optimal once both partners are at least in their mid-twentiesI’m dating a man 5 years older and while he’s more mature, he’s not any more financially stable. Honestly, If it weren’t for me pushing, I might easily surpass him in even just a couple years. I think him being older isn’t really more beneficial tbh, it’s just the way it is but I don’t feel like it makes him significantly better than he was at my age from what I know about him. We’d actually just have more time to improve our financial situation together before kids. Since he’s older he wants ki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Going on dates doesn’t mean anything . High volume is not a good thing for straight guysI’m not sure, depends. I did notice the locals married younger and the women I knew seem to all be married to men less attractive then them. Looks aren’t eve everything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Going on dates doesn’t mean anything . High volume is not a good thing for straight guysI feel like it’s the same for girls though. Volume makes it easier to not commit to anyone on both ends. I went on a lot of dates in the city I’m living in as a girl and that’s how it went. I got my fair share of rejection from them too. I can see how it might almost be easier in a smaller city | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:47 PM |
| 8 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessNope, sacrifice has always been involved and is involved in most aspects of life, but it had more return back then. Regardless, the economy is only a small part of the reason people are having less kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 02:18 AM |
| 5 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessWell, actually back then people had kids because they needed more hands on deck to work the farm/family business etc. And in a lot of cultures kids are basically your retirement plan. You put some in and now you have someone to care for you and provide housing in old age. It’s not all give give give as a parent. At least it wasn’t that way before. However, now you can expect it to be much more expensive(no built in childcare from family and staying home with them is unaffordable to most, and mos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 02:09 AM |
| 6 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessEhh, assuming people don’t want kids just so they can have more leisure… I mean it applies to some, sure, but I think a large part of it is to stop someone else from having to exist and suffer in this world. Heck, I love kids, I dream of being a mom, but I feel like it would be a true act of selflessness to give all that up to prevent someone from having to deal with the kind of life I’ve been dealt. Plus with the economy it’s quite likely they’d have an even worse life than I had growing up. Bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 02:04 AM |
| 6 | Cooperation for reproduction only?No one is denied the right, consenting adults can reproduce as they please. It just requires another person agreeing to it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Cooperation for reproduction only?I mean women already do it to some degree. There are women who as they get older feel more desperate to settle down and are more willing to overlook unattractive traits. They want kids and the clock is ticking Boom, some of those women are now more willing to settle down with an awkward guy so she can have kids but have a partner to raise them and provide financially. It already happens. Probably won’t increase drastically any time soon | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:45 PM |
| 4 | Cooperation for reproduction only?Me having a few kids isn’t going to fix the problem, they’ll just also have to deal with it too. Why not just have the suffering end with me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you think there is a large trend of women cohabiting with the same men?Really doubt it, honestly I think it’s harder today for men to do something like have two families in different locations type thing. It would be pretty easy to tell if he was living with someone else… while we live together | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Feeling undesired in relationshipHorny lol😭 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 10:14 PM |
| 3 | There's nothing wrong with treating women like children, a lot of women like it when you take care of them in a loving mannerDoing stuff for someone doesn’t equal treating them like a child. We all like to be taken care of, I appreciate when my man kills spiders or helps me with car problems cause I don’t like doing that, but I also love cooking for him, or helping him do chores so he can rest after work, etc. It’s more of a partnership where y’all both take care of each other in different ways as an expression of love. I love doing household stuff, I’d prefer to take on more of those tasks while he does more fixing e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 04:35 PM |
| – | Dear women, what makes a man "boring"?It just depends on the girl. I like being able to have philosophical discussions about life or even debates. I like when they are knowledgeable and passionate about some subjects even if I don’t share the interest. I don’t label people as boring though, I feel like most people can be quite interesting, but sometimes we don’t click and convos get bland quickly, it’s less about either of us being boring | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 07:05 PM |
| 2 | [Q4All] Whats your thoughts on the phrase “ Meeting the Right Person at the Wrong Time”?There are multiple people that could be a “right person” for anyone. I might be a right person but they are in a relationship with someone who is also a right person. Leaving that person for you is scummy if they have a good partner and relationship, it’s almost like cheating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Assuming traditional gender norms in dating, what do women offer in the initial dating stages?How do you measure success? Have you gotten a long term relationship out of it? A wife? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Are men and women's sexual standards too high because of over stimulation?I do think cutting out porn and related activities is usually good. I’ve not used it much but I’ve seen the problem in men who overuse. Social media can create unrealistic standards in general, not just physically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Why do so many men not seem to care whether women actually enjoy sex?Men do care, but they do sometimes have fragile egos. So it’s easier to pretend they are pleasing you than to hurt their feelings | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/23 10:48 PM |
| 3 | Declining birth rates around the worldAll reasons I’m hesitant to have kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/23 02:35 AM |
| 11 | Divorce reasonsWomen don’t “give” you their virginity. You can’t give that to anyone. And no, it’s not as special as a guy marrying a woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, in your opinion is it better to work or be a stay at home wife?I feel like it depends on the couple/family and circumstances tbh. I’ve even heard mixed things about the outcomes of kids in stay at home parent families versus dual income etc. I was raised by a SAHM and around lots of those types of families but we also knew moms who worked, either because they had to or because it was more fulfilling to them to be in the workplace too. I think inevitably if you have kids, one or both of you will need to make sacrifices in your career to properly raise your k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/23 03:33 AM |
| 1 | The best form of love is when you don't want anything from the other person.Romantic love will never be unconditional, nor should it be. If your partner stops giving you love or affection you don’t stay with them. I really think it’s only possible in familial relationships. I know my mom would love all my siblings regardless of how we treated her or what bad things we got into. Doesn’t mean you don’t limit time with that person or try to stop them from hurting themselves. But if your sign I can’t other starts abusing you etc, you cut them out of your life no matter how … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 03:03 PM |
| 2 | If you have ever complained about men "pumping and dumping", have you tried lowering your physical standards?What I’ve learned is, if you don’t want this to happen you just don’t have sex for at least several dates. I like the policy of not doing it until y’all declare y’all are a couple or say you love each other. A book I was reading advocated waiting at least 6 months or up until marriage but I can’t imagine doing that👀. However I was raised religious so I know several people who are waiting for marriage and respect that and would wait for a man if that’s what he wanted to do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Do most people only look for partners in a narrow age range?For me it’s no more than 5 years older. Maybe a few years younger when I get older but rn I can’t do more than like a year younger. I think there are plenty of guys who are older and attractive and might make great partners but I’d rather reduce my chances of being widowed younger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 09:12 PM |
| 4 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?Yeah sometimes they do have their reasons. Other times it’s just a feeling. Regardless, attraction isn’t always a rational thing like “he is good looking and checks all the boxes so now I’m in love”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 05:08 PM |
| 9 | Do Women have higher standards OR are we failing as Men?Attracting a hookup is much different than a relationship. That confidence probably won’t get him a gf his age now if he’s unemployed unless he’s dating women in similar positions as him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Do Women have higher standards OR are we failing as Men?And who is he pulling? And is he just getting hookups or long term relationships? That might make a difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Does having a 'hoe phase' come from a place of pain?It just depends on the person. Can be a variety of reasons | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Born Again virgins and hoe phasesI mean I’m not a virgin but my bf never asked and thought I was. Idk when my hymen broke because I’m not sure I’ve ever noticed it nor has any guy, but sex hurts even though I’ve done it before so he thinks I’m inexperienced. Nothing else I do makes him think I have any experience. So no, it’s really not necessarily obvious unless she tells you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 12:17 AM |
| 3 | There's no point for a man to get married in a western societyIt does create more incentive for a couple to try and make it work. Not saying stay in an abusive unhealthy situation. But having more incentive to make it work in one where maybe you just aren’t “feeling” and there is room for improvement that can lead to a happy outcome for both, it is probably a positive at least some of the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 06:48 PM |
| 10 | Women, how would you or did you prepare your sons for dating?Totally agree with this especially seeing the difference between my my bf who went to an all boys school and had no sisters compared to my brothers with sisters and friends who are girls. I do really think it’s beneficial to be around opposite sex peers in the formative years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Is there a point being tall starts to become unattractive to most women?I mean at some point it’s a bit much. But I know taller men in the 6’5- 6’7 range who were fine. Their kids are tall despite marrying shorter women. And I’m pretty sure being very tall is correlated with a slightly shorter lifespan and maybe some other health issues so not always great. Plus it makes things more uncomfortable. I have no objection to super tall guys but I am tall myself and would prefer my kids not grow to be 7ft tall for their own health and well being | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 02:33 AM |
| 5 | Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their HusbandsReligion isn’t against having sex in marriage, the problem is that because it’s usually considered a sin to have sex outside of marriage they often put a ton of emphasis on not doing anything sexual(obviously before marriage) because it’s a big sin and hell and it’s especially pushed upon women that we are supposed to be pure and not lead men to sin(we’ll tempt men to list if we dare wear tight pants or a short skirt etc). I was taught at my school that only men wanted sex, and as a girl I only … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their HusbandsYes, this is very true. I also come from a very religious background and it wasn’t uncommon for women to not feel comfortable with sex after marriage because of how much purity was emphasized. So it felt dirty and bad even when it was allowed. Plus turning off those desires with your significant other to avoid “sin” and now you can’t do it at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | is it wrong to want a feminine woman ?The lifting weights is weird. I don’t think that’s inherently masculine, it’s just a form of exercise and it has a lot of health benefits for women and men it doesn’t mean she’s like buff or doesn’t wear dresses | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 08:00 PM |
| 0 | Question for Women - Is it true that you find the majority of Men unnatractive?I think it’s the whole, I don’t notice men that much. And I may meet one but I can just tell he wants different things than me and it could never work out so bam, now not attracted at all if I ever was. But I could get to know a man I’d never notice while walking on the street and fall in love and think he’s super sexy and attractive. Like I think a decent portion of men are physically attractive enough for me to date them but I’ll only feel attracted to them if they have other qualities and mat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: how would you treat women if you were your ideal self?Why have kids if you won’t even be in their lives | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: how would you treat women if you were your ideal self?A lot of people won’t commit indefinitely without a contract just cause you are hot. If a women wants the marriage contract she’s not gonna settle for a man who won’t give it even if he’s hot. Now if she doesn’t care that much sure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: how would you treat women if you were your ideal self?Curious how old you were when you met/married your spouse. Was it after your 20s when you were better or in your 20s? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:42 PM |
| 5 | Q4M: how would you treat women if you were your ideal self?Love this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Women, would you rather date an attractive poor man or an unattractive rich man?It depends why he’s poor and how unattractive the rich man is. And a host of other factors. If he’s poor at 23 but intelligent and ambitious and willing to work hard then I’d rather date him. If he’s just destined to be poor I’d rather be with a nice rich guy who is less attractive. If he is rich and an asshole and hideous I’d rather just be single | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 09:25 PM |
| 1 | In 2023, should men still be expected to pay for dates? Why?You can do as you choose. I like when a man pays on a first date but it’s not a requirement for me. However it does give me a slight indication on what kinda relationship you are looking for(not always though tbh because sometimes they are just stingy or poor students etc), I feel like a more traditional man will be more willing to pay and I’d prefer a more traditional relationship style but it also varies a lot. I always offer to pay and suggest free/low cost first dates such as coffee or a wal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Money 100% does help with dating and does compensate for shortcoming no matter what this sub saysYou gotta offer more than money. Also, imo the amount of money you have really only matters if dating for marriage. Like I don’t have any desire to have a sugar daddy or to be a prostitute or to be bought expensive gifts or go on lavish vacations with a bf. But you got money and now we can provide a great life for our kids and I can stay at home with them and we can afford vacations and private school. All for it if you also have other good qualities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Money 100% does help with dating and does compensate for shortcoming no matter what this sub saysIt’s normal and fine as long as it’s not the only reason she’s with you. It can be a big factor in attraction just like lots of things that might be considered superficial | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Dating for long term relationships past university age is pointlessI mean you dated them so you must be of similar quality then, especially if it wasn’t just a one off thing. If you don’t like OLD then don’t use it, there are ways outside of school to meet women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 04:34 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women, especially those on the younger side, crave excitement and adventure, not stabilityIdk if the dark triad traits are actually attractive. Nor are they the same as “tall, dark, handsome”. Everyone is different. I notice it’s also young guys(my age) who want adventure and don’t want to settle down, so I end up dating older men who want what I want… ie to marry and start a family soon. Of course if you’ve had adventures you might have more stories to tell, but otherwise idc, the guy I’m dating had “adventures” in his youth but he’s set back career wise and I don’t love that becaus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 12:53 PM |
| 8 | Discussion : Will modern life get so comfortable for women that literally most choose to stay single?Yeah, I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. I’ve also noticed men seem more keen on keeping their genes going than women do but I could be wrong. Like I’d love to be a mother but I could care less if they share my dna and I’d honestly rather they not because of mental health issues I’d hate to pass on to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/23 01:11 AM |
| 3 | Reddit gives completely different answers depending whether a man or a woman is doing the asking for the same exact thing LOLI mean everyone is a bit different and I wouldn’t agree with a lot of the examples you gave, but women and men are different and the same behavior can mean different things. Like I think as a girl, being what I consider friendly often can get misinterpreted as flirty or interested when I’m actually not, it’s just how I am with both girls and guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/23 09:44 PM |
| 17 | Discussion : Will modern life get so comfortable for women that literally most choose to stay single?I mean it’s easier to stay single as a women. Doesn’t mean women don’t long for companionship and a partner but since they don’t need a man, why settle with one who would only make your life potentially worse? If the number of men who would actually make life better are lacking then it makes sense women choose to be single | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/23 05:03 PM |
| – | Passport dating...for women?I feel like that would be easier in the US than lots of other countries tbh. Are there not enough single men in the church/groups you frequent? Do you live in a more liberal area? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Who is more likely to be the hornier person in a monogamous relationship where sex is great?I feel like usually the man but not always. My current relationship probably the man, my last one was me a woman but mostly because he had trauma that made it difficult for him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/23 06:08 PM |
| -1 | Is the pattern of dating the most desirable men in their 20s and then settling in their 30s nd 40s a common pattern of modern day women in most 1st world countries?Not always. Nor is that the main reason women leave. I’ve never left a relationship because of boredom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:54 PM |
| 3 | Is the pattern of dating the most desirable men in their 20s and then settling in their 30s nd 40s a common pattern of modern day women in most 1st world countries?The culture there is very different, there are lots of other factors at play. From what I’ve heard, Japan is a more traditional country. Women are still expected to stay home once they have kids and deal with domestic tasks but cost of living is super high there and working culture makes you work insane hours. It’s not even like they have a choice a lot of the time, women are denied raises and promotions and things because they are expected to drop out of the workforce. My bf traveled and lived … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Do women even want men to be successful in dating ? Like honestly?(22M)It’s obviously easier to get sex as a woman. I find it annoying when men talk like incels and it makes me less inclined to have sympathy for you because those attitude and views are obviously going to turn off women. Otherwise, I’d love for men and women to be successful in dating. I get it sucks all around, but I want my brothers to find a good wife, I don’t want my future sons to struggle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 01:42 PM |
| 7 | Current Obesity statistics USA and WorldwideMost women who might be a little overweight don’t look like that unless you live in a poorer smaller town/part of the city. Maybe move out to a city? Most young women there are fit and healthy and beautiful if you are so concerned. Might just be where you live if this is what you encounter regularly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Current Obesity statistics USA and WorldwideI imagine it’s roughly the same amount of men and women who are overweight. And a lot of them date each other. You are free to not date someone you don’t find attractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 08:55 PM |
| – | Developed countries and the context of the us place in birth rate declineWell it won’t affect those who choose not to have kids because they’ll be dead by then. So why does it mayter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Most modern women are educated and employed - they only want men to "provide" for 1-2 years before the kids are sent off to daycare.I’m impressed you could recover so quickly from a c section! I’m sure it does depend. Every family will do things a little differently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/23 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Let's swap the sexes in the debate over going out to nightclubs/bars alone if you're taken.I wouldn’t care. I’d find it more entertaining. Idk I’ve never really worried about my man being faithful. Anyways neither I, nor anyone I dare long term enjoys bars/nightclubs so it’s never gonna happen on either end | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 12:14 PM |
| 3 | The best possible option for highly educated, high earning, healthy weight men in the west is to passport bro.It’s not just about being a foreigner. He’s white in a non white country. White features and cultures are esteemed more over there. Having half white kids might be what they’d consider great since those features are considered more attractive in their cultures. Sweden is mostly white already and are a wealthy country and also, a lot of them might have some negative stereotypes of Americans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 11:40 AM |
| 3 | The best possible option for highly educated, high earning, healthy weight men in the west is to passport bro.I’m pretty sure Swedish is more progressive than the US… and is a pretty prosperous country. With tall good looking successful white men. Why would they have any interest in men from America? It’s not Asia | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 11:32 AM |
| 3 | Most modern women are educated and employed - they only want men to "provide" for 1-2 years before the kids are sent off to daycare.Even if you plan to work a lot of women still want someone making a similar amount as them. And even if we can go back to work, we often have to make sacrifices in our careers because of pregnancy/childbirth and dealing with sick kids etc. So knowing a man can hold up more of the financial burden at times is nice and gives you a bit more stability | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 02:02 AM |
| 5 | Developed countries and the context of the us place in birth rate declineWhy is that bad? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 02:15 AM |
| 3 | How often are women marrying men they have little sexual desire for (or far little compared to other guys they’ve been with)? Are they cognizant of the long term effects of such decisions?Well, good news, you don’t have to get married:) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 02:12 AM |
| 8 | How often are women marrying men they have little sexual desire for (or far little compared to other guys they’ve been with)? Are they cognizant of the long term effects of such decisions?I mean you don’t marry someone just because of sexual attractiveness. Obviously there are hotter men, but they don’t necessarily make great husbands or aren’t necessarily looking for marriage with you. And desire changes over time. Being young or feeling more free because of alcohol or a party setting might make a woman loosen up. Doesn’t mean she’ll feel like getting down with you every night or that she won’t feel the same for whomever she ends up marrying in the early stages. Kids, life stres… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Why don’t short man and tall woman date each otherI mean as a taller woman I am open to dating shorter men, mostly because my thought process is… I’m tall already so my kids already have a good chance of not coming out shorter than average even if their father is shorter. However I also prefer to be smaller than my man, but that can just mean he is heavier than me and strong enough to carry me for a short distance. Which is realistic even for a shorter guy. I’m sure some of the desire is biological but I think it’s also social conditioning. Eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 10:35 PM |
| 5 | A question about datingI’ve done both. I’ve actually had more success on dating apps. I’ve met nice guys in real life but never been interested enough to keep seeing them. Apps is definitely a numbers game but as I’ve gotten older and can date men in their mid to late twenties, my experience has improved. This round I basically went on around 10 different first dates, then did a second if we both liked each other enough for a second, then same for a third… etc. until I had 2 people who were ready to take it to exclusi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 01:56 AM |
| 2 | What dating advice would you give to women?I’m a woman but I feel like, you want a guy who initiates commitment, brings up exclusivity or a relationship himself, usually within a few weeks to a few months but it depends on the circumstances. If he’s not bringing it up or says he just wants to “see where things go”, he doesn’t really seem to think that highly of you as partner/wife material(again, it can vary though depending on how you met and how many dates you’ve been on). And… sex isn’t bad but I’m all for waiting until he brings up e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 01:42 AM |
| 2 | What are your hobbies? How do you spend your evenings after work?Right now my main hobbies are ice skating and aerial arts. And occasionally playing volleyball and trying other things that peak my interest. You seem to have a decent amount of hobbies, I don’t see how you’d be boring because of them tbh, people have other stuff going on too and you only have so much time outside of work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Women will never understand a man's disgust about promiscuityI get it’s not attractive but I also just don’t think it matters that much. At my age men don’t ask or want to know, nor do I ask. He could be a virgin or have had a million partners and unless he says so, I don’t really know nor is it my business. I don’t partake in any other activities or social scenes associated with promiscuity so I think that’s enough for them to trust I’m not like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Are average guys really “struggling”?I feel like it just depends a lot. I know average guys who are almost never single and have been in multiple relationships and I know ones who seem to have almost no relationship experience despite being successful or pretty handsome or tall . I’m sure there are many factors at play | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/23 08:01 PM |
| – | 2 years of online dating. Here are the things I've learned about womenI would sort of disagree with #1 if you mean full on sex, but there has to be something physical. At least like holding hands or arms around each other. I’ve gone on dates with religious guys where no touch happens in the first three dates and it definitely starts to feel just platonic and weird and a turn off. I prefer to wait on the actual sexual stuff though, but some touch can help me gauge attraction. And I’ve definitely stuck around after some bad kisses so it does happen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/23 05:27 PM |
| – | 2 years of online dating. Here are the things I've learned about womenI would sort of disagree with #1 if you mean full on sex, but there has to be something physical. At least like holding hands or arms around each other. I’ve gone on dates with religious guys where no touch happens in the first three dates and it definitely starts to feel just platonic and weird and a turn off. I prefer to wait on the actual sexual stuff though, but some touch can help me gauge attraction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/23 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Trad Wives are UnethicalSeems dumb to focus on equal outcomes. That takes away from freedom of choice if you take it too far | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend wants kids in his mid thirties, im not sure if I can wait that longCurious, how do you know if someone is a good match? Like assuming they are a good person, would treat you well and be a good dad and serious about marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 08:05 PM |
| – | Why are "happily married" people browsing these subs?I mean is Reddit useful to most people? Probably not. People use it a lot to waste time and stave off boredom, not to be useful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 07:59 PM |
| 1 | How can women tell if a guy is 'inexperienced' or a virgin if he lies?I don’t think you can tell. I’m dating a guy and I have no clue if he was one. He talked as if he had never done it before but he was great at it so🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Would you be okay marrying a stay at home husband ?Never, I hate working so I’d never take on the responsibility of providing for kids on my own too. I also would much prefer to be a SAHM. I’m sure some women are fine with it, I’ve known some families who made it work but that’s a total dealbreaker for me because that is not the lifestyle I’m looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Is it still offensive to ask a woman to disclose how she weighs?You are allowed to not date women who are overweight. I’ve heard plenty of guys say they could never dare a fat women. Of course calling someone that to their face is rude, but everyone can still tell if you are bigger and guys will still filter girls out that way. Doesn’t mean you need to ask for a number just because people put a number to your height. Both totally different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 11:32 AM |
| 7 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?If he wants to know he’ll ask, a lot don’t even wanna know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/23 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Women shouldn't give one man her 20sI experienced it a few times and I have no desire to ever do it again. Not fun, so many things I enjoy more that I can still do with a husband | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 03:52 AM |
| 4 | Women shouldn't give one man her 20sI’m a woman and …. I have no desire to party or sleep around. I have a job but it’s not ever going to be fulfilling and I’d love to have a family and focus on my kids and even take time off work to do that. I have no desire to sell my body online, no thanks. I don’t want to put all my energy towards one man too quickly but finding a husband earlier and being able to start a family sooner with a good man would be awesome. I want my kids to have a father and I know Many examples of good fathers. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 03:49 AM |
| 4 | Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationshipsI agree somewhat in the culture we live in that’s already more individualistic. However in a more communal society I think this could work better, when extended family and community is always there and a big part of your life regardless of whether you are single or not. However that’s not very realistic for most. I’d argue it’s less about one romantic partner and more just what happens if you don’t start a family when most of your peers are doing that with life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 03:17 AM |
| 9 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.I think there is truth to what you say. I can’t lie, as a girl it’s easier(I assume) for me to find a man to at least go on a date with or cuddle with if I’m lonely- just by going online. Can’t lie and say I haven’t done those things probably out of loneliness. Sure, it hurts when men have not great intentions but at least I’m desired in some way even if it’s just for my body. It’s natural to crave that someone else and it’s sad that some people rarely get to experience that. I will also say, as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 01:18 AM |
| 0 | Why do low quality guys just not lower your standards comparable to where you actually are?Guess it depends where you go and how the scene is. Where I go there are beginner classes where everyone rotates partners and many people come alone 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Why do low quality guys just not lower your standards comparable to where you actually are?Dancing, like swing or salsa/Latin dancing. There are always more women than men at the classes and social events and not enough leads to go around. You get to dance with many women and can have short convos with plenty and decide whether to continue the convo after | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/23 08:27 PM |
| 2 | No women to share wedding planning joy withIt’s pretty nice, a lot of the women have become friends through it and it’s a very supportive community regardless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/23 11:52 AM |
| 1 | What is with this sudden womens OBSESSION with height?As a tall woman I don’t care if guys are shorter and have dated some. Of course I’d still prefer him to be stronger or to be able to carry me but men are almost always stronger regardless of height. Other than that, I’m like I have enough height to compensate so that our kids probably come out at least average height lol plus it’s low key fun to wear heels besides a short guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 12:24 PM |
| – | Don't tell women to lower their standards, tell them to "skim off the milk fat"I think it’s just being realistic. I’ve also read actual books written by women counseling women to focus on what actually matters and being more open to men they wouldn’t have otherwise considered. I think a lot of women realize this though, maybe a select few are excessively Pocky | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 05:25 AM |
| 1 | No women to share wedding planning joy withI’ll just say, I can also relate. I’ve found Facebook groups and joined a Bible study(I’m semi religious but they are open to anyone) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/23 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Being Emotionally Available and a Good Communicator is Reduces the Chance for Sustained Attraction for Men Seeking a Relationship.It probably depends a lot on the demographics and each girl. I want something serious that could lead to marriage. Now when I date, If a guy doesn’t initiate more dates and initiate the I want a relationship talk I’m out of there. If he plays games with the texting… like either you are immature or not that into me or both. And it’s seemed to work because I’m left with marriage minded men who are actually into me and not just with me for the sex(I also don’t put out right away anyways). Doesn’t m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/23 01:39 PM |
| 9 | Are attractive woman generally extroverted?What makes you think introverted women are rare? Just curious 🧐, I’ve heard mixed things and had mixed observations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/23 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Women over value how much their career and education is attractive to menBoth require intelligence and arguably, software engineering is a smarter financial choice because you can do it with minimal time and money investment in comparison to medicine. You can have a starting salary of a doctor in like 5 years without the debt and with a higher starting salary than a resident and 4 years less of school if you aim high and are smart | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 12:41 AM |
| 3 | The average woman is completely delusional about men's income and what they "qualify" for.I think you overestimate the amount of men going for significantly younger women or at least vice bersa. I’m in my early 20s, sure I could try to date a guy in his 30s with a great job who wants a young fertile woman and I’ve had the chance… or I could date someone closer to my age who is still figuring stuff out… but if he’s smart and motivated I believe he’ll do great. I choose the latter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 06:28 PM |
| 6 | The average woman is completely delusional about men's income and what they "qualify" for.Yup, sorry, you need a job or be in school to get one, I’m not having kids with someone who can’t provide at least partially for a family. I’d rather lower my chances of finding someone then raise my kids in poverty🤷♀️. Anyways, if a woman has a well paying job she’s probably surrounded by men in similar fields or in the same economic class and more likely to find someone who makes a similar amount of money. I don’t think anyone expects a 22 year old to have his life together or a great paying … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Wanna See What Average Couples Look Like? Check Out the Crowd at Your Local ZooOh wow, I didn’t know apartments had this! I might see if some in my area do. Sounds like a lot but totally worth it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/23 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Wanna See What Average Couples Look Like? Check Out the Crowd at Your Local ZooWhere did you meet the people you liked? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/23 08:46 PM |
| 4 | how do i level up in terms of getting my career and school life together? i really need someone older than me to guide meThanks for sharing. My parents are in a sorta HCOL area. I don’t even live near them atm but they always tell me I can move home to save money and I did live at home throughout college. Just felt like my social life really struggled and while I’m better at putting myself out there I still worry it would suck and I’d have to kinda start from scratch:/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | how do i level up in terms of getting my career and school life together? i really need someone older than me to guide meHow do you do the live with parents thing if they live in an area that’s just families or old people? At least In your early to mid twenties? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 10:35 PM |
| 11 | CMV: If makeup vanished overnight, the game would change drastically.Do guys not know what women look like without makeup?? Do you not have sisters or do your gfs never take it off? Makeup can definitely affect looks but not every girl wears it or at least not in every setting. I barely wear makeup except for the occasional mascara and don’t feel like I have any trouble with dating because of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 12:15 PM |
| 1 | loyalty until marriage?I mean sure, it might benefit me but you also need more time together to discern marriage and that’s hard if dating multiple guys at once. And I doubt most guys would agree to non exclusivity for like 1+ years till proposal | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 02:29 AM |
| 15 | CMV: The most obvious reason why modern dating is broken is because women have too many options because of the internet.This definitely seems like a thing although I’ve seen pushback on it a bit more. It also just feels hard to know where to draw the line. It feels like a fine line between understanding relationships take work and working to build something with someone as imperfect as you and also not settling for someone who will hold you back | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | What's something you've learned from dating that typically isn't preached here? I'll share mine2 is not something I’ve ever noticed as a girl although I do get a lot of people go by the three date rule. I think it’s less a sexual direction and more like, there needs to be some physical affection for me at least | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 11:55 PM |
| -4 | Men's obsession with the sexual purity and virginity of women harms young menI get wanting to know about some of those things but none of that requires asking her “body count”. I think some young men get caught up with it, and like it’s just kinda weird. You can ask about past relationships and what sex means to her etc and probably get a better idea than just getting a number. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 01:15 PM |
| 1 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?Yeah I also want at least 3-4 children. See, it’s hard for me to compromise but I understand if I get older and more desperate I may. I do think 150k can be just fine even for HCOL but it depends a lot on your mortgage and housing prices have gone up a lot in the past few years so idk. That’s the biggest expense to deal with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 08:01 PM |
| 4 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?Yeah, I mean I just mean I don’t intend to provide most of the finances part. I think I can raise them well and give them what they need in life but not if I’m working a demanding job full time which is why I’d want a man to take on some of that role. I’m honestly of the mindset though that I’d rather be childless than not provide the life I want to provide to my kids(with my husband of course) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 07:54 PM |
| 1 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?You don’t need to make millions to live in HCOL… you do need a good salary though. My brothers aren’t married, they are in their early 20s, one is engaged but they are super young still, yes money can change but they have a work ethic and a skill set and experience that should serve them well unless the economy totally collapses. Anyways, the issue is guys are smart but they don’t aim high. They might have started out in something more lucrative but some art thing piqued their interest and now t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 07:52 PM |
| 1 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?I mean they were middle class, could have been upper middle class but they had 10 kids and have been sending us to private high schools for religious reasons. Yup, I’m not sure what I bring to the table other than that I can provide myself that lifestyle if I keep working in my field so why would I give that up for a man. I get guys don’t really care about my career though. Otherwise, I’d love to take care of a guy, I’m young and think I could make a decent mother and take care of a home | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 07:47 PM |
| 1 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?Haha I have | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 07:38 PM |
| 0 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?Yeah, where we live is a big determinant in how much money we need to do well. Unfortunately all the cities I’m looking at are at least MCOL and if I wanted to move near family it would be HCOL I also get it takes time to build up to a higher paying job but if he’s in his late 20s and still figuring things out I guess it’s not super attractive | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 06:57 PM |
| 6 | How to not settle but also not aim too high?Basically I just want him to do well in his career/have potential to live a middle/ upper middle class lifestyle. I could care less about cars or even a big house, but I do want to live near a city and that’s pricier and I want my kids to be able to do different activities and to be able to help pay for their education. I’d love to be able to stay home with kids when they are smaller. I don’t want to constantly worry about money. I mostly want to provide a slightly better life than my parents di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 06:48 PM |
| 1 | CMV Women aren't usually lazy and entitled, they're usually just insecure (like men)It’s kinda just the way society has worked for a while. Guys say they want a women to do some of the leg work and then they often feel emasculated or they weren’t that into you so that’s why they didn’t try to ask you out first. I think some of it is just differences between the sexes, maybe it’s societal, maybe it’s biological idk but a man who can take initiative and be a leader is much more attractive and I’ve heard plenty of men say they don’t like when women do that cause they should be pas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 05:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV Women aren't usually lazy and entitled, they're usually just insecure (like men)Bruh. Some women do want those things but it’s more complicated than that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 04:53 PM |
| 6 | Legal commitment is way overrated by womenThe legal part helps a lot. Still much harder to leave then a regular relationship and for me once we make the vows, it’s final barring something terrible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 03:09 PM |
| 10 | Legal commitment is way overrated by womenI want marriage and I expect commitment, if he can’t make the commitment legally for me then he’s not that committed/we don’t share values. Legal marriage has its benefits and just because some people still get divorced doesn’t mean I can’t do what I can to avoid it. Marriage is still much more final, I can’t just leave because I don’t feel it anymore, we are tied together and I want that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 02:44 PM |
| 2 | What does self improvement look like for you?It’s too overwhelming for me haha. I have no eye for that stuff but yes I’ve watched videos about it. Social goals, just talk more in certain settings and initiate more instead of leaving or waiting for people to initiate | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/23 06:49 PM |
| 6 | What does self improvement look like for you?For me: Pass CPA exams- have barely made progress but I’m half way there Max my IRA and save x amount in cash - doing alright New wardrobe/discover personal style that flatters me- really slow on this one Do two of my hobbies more(I have set amounts of time/days but I won’t expand here) Keep in better touch with family - I’d like to make sure to call weekly, and then my older siblings call monthly Social skills- I have different goals here | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/23 03:18 PM |
| 9 | CMV: The fire that's burning dating down started with women unrealistically raising their standards. And men are fanning those flames with pumping and dumping.As a woman I feel this. I am younger so maybe it will change once the biological clock starts ticking I’m not sure, but while men are attractive and it’s nice to have a companion, I could take it or leave it if I have a decent community of family or friends. I want kids but like, I don’t want to have kids with any man and would rather be childless than have kids with the wrong man or a guy I’m not that into | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 12:32 AM |
| 9 | If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship?Ok yeah, I can’t imagine feeling jealous of his sex life with his ex. Sex is a tiny part of my life and well he better like it I guess but I don’t need to be a sex goddess either, I just don’t care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 04:15 AM |
| 14 | If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship?I can get jealous, but I’ve never gotten jealous of my partner’s exes? At least not in relation to him. Sometimes I get jealous if they are more successful than me or something because for some reason I compare myself a lot to other women when it comes to that sort of thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 04:07 AM |
| 57 | If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship?I wouldn’t be with a guy unwilling to give it regardless of whether he did it with his exes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 01:16 AM |
| 1 | How important is education(university degree level)?? I want to earn money right now!!!You can work while you are in school, but it probably won’t be well paying. To pay for school I was often working at least 20 hours a week in internships or childcare or on campus jobs. I’m sure you could find ways to get a part time job if you need it bring in a little cash. Also, if you really want to make money, your major isn’t doing you favors, you’ll likely have to get another higher degree and get clinical experience(often unpaid). If you want to make money faster switch to a business or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 12:29 PM |
| 1 | It appears that women don't want menYeah having money makes you way more attractive. Maybe it’s just biological programming. When it comes to sex… yes, I do prefer a low libido man with a small dick who finishes in under 5 minutes. Otherwise sex hurts and I resent it when he wants it all the time and I am bad at saying no. That’s the reality for me. Some women have higher libidos but again, we have monthly cycles for a long time and deal with pregnancy and stress and life might affect our libidos(idk how it works for men). I can’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Fashion advice to be feminine and timeless but also take body type etc into account?Thank you for sharing! I may take you up on getting personal tips if you don’t mind | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Opinion on dating for males- from a lonely 24MI will say, a man’s worth doesn’t have to be in providing something to women that she can’t provide to herself. Like oh no now she makes money, she doesn’t need me . Thing is, lots of women are straight and want companionship and love and sex. Yes, maybe some women have standards that may be unrealistic in todays world which may lead to more single people of both sex. At least some studies seem to point towards that happening soon | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 04:59 AM |
| 9 | Opinion on dating for males- from a lonely 24MOr maybe she’d rather be single than be with an average man , doesn’t mean her ego is inflated necessarily, just that a relationship isn’t the end all be all to her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 04:55 AM |
| 2 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Might be too personal but Curious how you feel at your current weight? I’m your height but a different weight but want to change my body composition a bit | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 03:50 AM |
| 2 | How much of a deal breaker is a small dick?Small is better imo and yours isn’t even small | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 12:14 PM |
| 19 | Women claiming to be 'Sapiosexual' often do so either inaccurately or as code for something else.You wrote that all about sapiosexuality? Seems a tad bit much. Idk who even uses that term. Yes, intelligence is hot to me. An intelligent driven successful man is super hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 12:09 PM |
| 8 | Q4M: How do you define “fat”?I’m 5’10” and 160 looks fat on me and my face gets chubby. But it’s different for everyone. Some people carry weight better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Women, how would you feel if a man expected you to split rent?Cool unless he makes way more than me and the place is expensive. If we were married it would be different because our finances would be shared and if our finances were shared and we both were working I’d like to put all of one of the paychecks into living expenses and save the other one for retirement/down payment/etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Women, how would you feel if a man expected you to split rent?Cool unless he makes way more than me and the place is expensive. If we were married it would be different because our finances would be shared | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Any women out there that have a thing for tall guys but ended up with a shorter guy?Thanks, maybe one day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Any women out there that have a thing for tall guys but ended up with a shorter guy?I’m glad I’m not a man. I’ve also had bad luck when initiating though. Often they’ll go on a date or two but they eventually fizzle or reject me. So I’ve come to the conclusion, if they are not initiating they probably aren’t that into me or have other options(also including online dating) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Any women out there that have a thing for tall guys but ended up with a shorter guy?Fascinating. Well I’m open to it and have dated them before but I can’t imagine initiating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Do you care about a women's income when it comes to dating?Yes, you need a bit of both I’d imagine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 04:37 PM |
| 4 | Do you care about a women's income when it comes to dating?Smarts is also good though. A higher IQ person is probably going to have more things they can succeed at that make more money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Do you care about a women's income when it comes to dating?I’m just thinking I have no skills outside of my field but I could pick up my own clients and do a similar type of work for extra money. Idk how people start side hustles | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you care about a women's income when it comes to dating?Good genes only come through appearance? We are Twinsies though, haven’t heard many articulate they want good genes from their partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Do you care about a women's income when it comes to dating?Is your side hustle related to your job? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Any women out there that have a thing for tall guys but ended up with a shorter guy?5 ft 10 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/23 03:27 AM |
| 3 | How would you introduce RP to your daughter? Do you wish you had known about RP at a younger age?I don’t have kids , I’m a young adult. I think just foster a relationship where she feels comfortable going to you with questions. I’d not focus so much on red pill but more just make sure she knows what kind of behavior from boys she shouldn’t tolerate. Be open about talking about sex so she can go to you for questions and maybe treat it as a serious thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/23 12:00 AM |
| 3 | What is your age and what age do you find most physically attractive in women?Wow so I just need to try and I’ll be fine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/23 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Any women out there that have a thing for tall guys but ended up with a shorter guy?Honestly I find lots of short guys attractive even though I’m taller than them, I just worry they wouldn’t even give me a chance because of my height. Height is nice but a good face has nothing to do with height and is waaaay nicee | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/23 04:34 AM |
| 6 | CMV Women rating 80% of men as unattractive just proves women find different things attractiveI’m tall and I stopped caring about height. I don’t want to rule out good men over something like that plus I’m tall so it would be a big portion of men. I was dating a shorter guy and tbh the height thing was a bit fun and thankfully he was very secure in himself. I loved when I’d look in the mirror with him and look taller and I’d joke about wearing big heels around him so he could show off being with a model(I’m not one, but I’m tall and skinny and sorta have the body shape going for me). I f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,A good face can makeup for lack of muscle | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,Yeah I’m aware, he looked ok in titanic but he’s definitely not the best looking Hollywood star by far , I think I see lots guys in his age range in regular life who are more attractive to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,Yeah I’m sure some is genetics but at least in your youth you should be fine. I also never thought Leo was that attractive, especially now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,He doesn’t need to be a god in bed to satisfy me though, plus the option doesn’t say he can’t become one or that he sucks in bed. Mostly I just want a guy who is willing to learn and has a bit of coordination. As for size, I’d actually prefer a smaller member as that feels waaay better to me and a big one would probably make me hate doing it regularly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,I don’t care at all about height and I’m as tall as the average man in the US. I’ve dated shorter men and it doesn’t make much of a difference in attractiveness. As long as he’s still masculine in other ways. I care more about genetics too. He might not be muscular but he can become muscular if he puts the work in. Being naturally handsome will make it more likely for our kids to be decent looking lol. I already have the tall genetics so even if he’s shorter it’s more likely our kids will be at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,1, 7, 9, 11, 4. 1 would probably include muscle lol. Who literally cares about 3 or 6. Him being hot, manly, romantic, wanting kids, and with money would be like an almost perfect man(assuming he’s a good person). I don’t care about Elon musk level rich but a man who can provide for our future family absolutely is more attractive than one I have to provide for | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Men are better divided into three groups, not twoYou aren’t ugly but I’d get rid of some of the staged behind a screen pics and do more out in the world. Also I’d get rid of the costume pic since more girls don’t necessarily love that kinda stuff and sometimes find it to be a turn off. You also would do well to get in shape and gain some muscle, you have a really nice face but looking fit could go a long way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 02:50 PM |
| 1 | I've(22f) been dating my new boyfriend(26m) for nearly 2 months, I'm not sure whether to continue or not, am I being superficial, feeling confusedI just finished reading that book. It did open my mind a bit but also made me more confused in others! You may have been the one to recommend it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/23 05:05 AM |
| 3 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menI’d rather not do it myself , sounds exhausting and lonely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 11:52 PM |
| 1 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menI want marriage and family | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 11:29 PM |
| 5 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menMaybe it’s like I’ve noticed guys 27+ are like talking about wanting kids and a wife soon, the younger men are just like “see where it goes” which means like you don’t even know what you want and I don’t trust you want anything more than a friend or fuck buddy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 11:22 PM |
| 1 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menIdk, I read stuff about struggling to date after a certain age or idk, I’m just supposed to pick an eligible and willing guy before too long | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 11:20 PM |
| 9 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menThis gives me hope! I’m finding commitment minded men but they are generally a bit older but I’m already worried if It doesn’t work with them I’ll be left high and dry, much harder to find serious among those my own age though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 09:28 PM |
| 2 | If a girl likes you, she's more likely to make you waitIt depends on how long y’all have known each other. First few dates should be low pressure imo. It’s easy for both of you to put on a front and appear your best. No, it’s not enough time to get a good idea of who you really are and your intentions no matter what comes out of your mouth. I’m happy to drive myself and feel safer doing that and go take a walk at the park(I usually suggest it), or coffee if it’s cold or rainy. I always offer to split/pay my portion or pay for the next activity . I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | If a girl likes you, she's more likely to make you waitAttraction and trust are different things. Attraction to someone doesn’t necessarily inspire trust. I need some level of trust to make myself vulnerable with someone, trust takes time to grow, attraction can be more instant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 04:09 PM |
| 6 | Relationships are for losersYou can literally buy a sex doll and watch pornography, it’s much easier to satisfy those needs by yourself than your emotional needs. Just because you are used to living without them met doesn’t mean they aren’t there, and not every guy wants to be content without those needs met | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 03:48 PM |
| 3 | Relationships are for losersIt’s not all about sex. Who cares if Chad is hotter if he’s selfish or can’t have fun convos with you. You are just focused on everything you must provide as if that’s a bad thing. As if you won’t get satisfaction from also giving and making sacrifices for someone else. Being selfish and just living for your own pleasure isn’t going to lead to long term happiness or fulfillment . Guess what you get from a relationship… intimacy you don’t share with anyone else, someone to build a life with, some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 03:46 PM |
| 2 | If a girl likes you, she's more likely to make you waitYou can make out or hold hands or hug, I’d keep meeting in public, eventually they might bring up meeting at their place at which point the convo might come up. Hey, I’m not ready to get intimate yet… time is right … blah blah. Maybe the time is right when they first mention doing that depending on how long y’all have been getting to know each other. Again, you make it sound like they owe you trust and vulnerability when they barely know you. Guess what, if I’ve only been on three dates, yes, my… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 03:19 PM |
| 2 | If a girl likes you, she's more likely to make you waitI think it doesn’t have to be super calculating. I can be very attracted but try to force myself to wait just to protect myself. The act makes me become super attached to someone which is great if it’s going somewhere but If I barely know him and can’t necessarily be sure I’ll even see him again, it’s a risky move because I’m making myself super super vulnerable for someone I don’t trust yet. Now if he decides for whatever reason he’s not that into me, it’s going to sting at least 10xs more at l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 02:32 PM |
| 1 | If a girl likes you, she's more likely to make you waitI’m pretty sure the guy I’m dating thinks I’m either a virgin or only been with one man, but he hasn’t asked. I have no clue if he’s a virgin or not and since he hasn’t asked, I’m not going to, I guess it’s just not classy to talk about. He also wants to wait so it’s not just something I forced upon him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 02:23 PM |
| 1 | How to choose between men who want to be exclusive with youYes, marriage doesn’t have to happen, it’s just harder to decide because I’d have to reject a potentially other good match and I’m afraid of having regrets later on or not coming across someone as good if it doesn’t work out with the one I choose | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 04:37 PM |
| 1 | How to choose between men who want to be exclusive with youThank you for this, I think you made me feel a bit better about the military guy. I do enjoy time with him , my main issue is literally just his job and what’s coming after he gets out. Sure, I wish he stuck with his engineering degree and didn’t switch to liberal arts so he’d have a good job and not be in the military rn but I also never would have met him and knowing other ex military families, he could do really well and it would be easy for him to find work near my parents lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 04:31 PM |
| 1 | How to choose between men who want to be exclusive with youI feel like … getting into someone takes time for me. Like I felt a similar way about another guy and then I got super into him but it didn’t work out cause life. Idk I’m just too practical and my feelings never get much say | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How to choose between men who want to be exclusive with youWould fake combat in training do that to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 01:46 PM |
| 1 | How to choose between men who want to be exclusive with youWhere do these demons come from? I wouldn’t stick around unless he wasn’t going to reenlist also, I refuse to just wait around at home for him kinda deal. He’s well educated plus gets money for school plus could be qualified for many government jobs with his background. Many of my family friends growing up had dads who were in the military and now do government or contracting and do really well for their families. I’ll consider the last thing you said. I’m young and not even totally sure about t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 01:19 PM |
| 2 | How to choose between men who want to be exclusive with youYeah I’ve always leaned against them because of stuff I’ve heard. He’s only been in a couple years, and it wasn’t his original plan in life. He’s well educated and intelligent. he comes from a good family, similar religious upbringing and values, maybe some quirks based on what he’s told me. I don’t know what bad stuff would be/come from(Im clueless about that) He hasn’t been in war or anything. He seems chaste and values that. Really values family and seems to have similar parenting values He’s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 01:14 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It is sad that it has become so normalized to not settle down until you're 30+I’m in my early twenties. Idk two people with my income could definitely support a kid just fine, maybe we wouldn’t have the nicest biggest house right away but our incomes would go up most likely to where by the time they are old enough to remember they’d have a pretty comfortable lifestyle and we could afford trips and to live in a decent place and even save up for their education or get them involved in activities. Definitely doable even with daycare costs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 03:39 PM |
| 3 | How to stop feeling inferior to women in STEM degrees?This story gives me some hope that things will turn out even if it’s not the straightest path or everything I’d planed for. Seems like you’ve got to experience so many things! Kinda trying to figure out how to do that while also balancing work | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/23 02:27 PM |
| 2 | How to stop feeling inferior to women in STEM degrees?I’m going to say I feel similarly. I didn’t study liberal arts, I majored in accounting which might be sorta closer, but I know people(men and women) who’ve gone into stem or higher paying careers and it’s hard not to feel down on myself. Especially when it’s a girl because I’m comparing myself so hard, like why didn’t I try harder, or she makes more money than me or must be more intelligent. Or she is working at a better firm or in a higher position etc. And while I don’t even care about workin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/23 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman?Well I’d say I’m most of those things in the home or a relationship or with a man unless I don’t respect him. And I do have hard lines where I won’t compromise on like everyone does | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 02:57 PM |
| 5 | Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman?So what qualities make one not traditional, soft, and feminine? Like for example I love to dress feminine and look pretty and I love doing traditionally feminine tasks in a household and taking care of people(and of course my man) but I also can be bossy and like to have a say in things when it’s important to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman?A guy who can provide can provide a lot more than just financial security… for example often he’s also intelligent and enjoyable to talk to and hang out with, many of those men really value family and want kids and are great with them and would make awesome dads. You can have a happy and healthy and loving relationship/marriage with them just as with anyone else but a man who wants to provide and does well for himself probably shares more of my values so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 02:44 PM |
| 2 | At what BMI/weight did you receive the most attention/feel the most attractive? Is there an ideal?Can confirm, my ex told me he wouldn’t mind if o was less bony. He also did not volunteer this info, I drew it out of him because I genuinely just wanted to become more attractive for him and he wanted me to put on weight whereas I liked being around 18.5-19.5 bmi he would have preferred another 5-10 lbs | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/23 03:23 AM |
| 1 | CMV: We have turned relationships into leisure, most relationships are no longer focused on starting a family or working towards a common goal, as a result people are naturally gonna get pickier with their optionsIdk I’m much pickier about who’ll I’ll have kids with than who I’ll date. Like my kid is probably going to have his DNA! It better be some nice DNA worth procreating with lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?You should probably read the book “marry him, the case for settling for mr good enough”. The author is literally talking to people like you because she was in the same position in her late 30s… your options just get slimmer as you age so being too picky just makes it more likely you’ll hit forty and have even fewer “eligible” options to choose from. Height for example, is not something that’s going to make or break your relationship | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 02:00 PM |
| 3 | What does the average experience of an average man in the dating world look like?I notice minorities often date people within their culture anyways where I grew up, sure some dated white girls or other cultures and mixed marriages weren’t uncommon but as some were more traditional there was a lot of pressure from their parents to marry within their culture often times | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Online Dating, Conversations & First Dates: How to handle it all?I’m your age and just got on a bit ago and rn am seeing a few people for 3+ dates. I only meet them in public , if they are still around and ok with that after a few dates I usually feel they are more serious. I do live in the south so men are pretty respectful, offer to pick me up, open the car door, pay which is nice. I went on like 11 different dates and then stopped seeing any new people | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/23 10:11 PM |
| 0 | CMV: "The bar is in hell" is a true statement.......but only for modern women.Idk, I feel pressure at least from myself to be a decent cook, to maintain my figure, to work on my looks, to dress well, to be financially independent but also find a job that would allow me to follow my future husband around/take a break to raise kids, to be feminine, friendly and bubbly etc. Maybe that’s all pressure I put on myself, I don’t know. But I would prefer a more traditional relationship or to be a SAHM when my kids are small so that will require me being able to carry most of the l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:37 PM |
| 1 | The people who say “women should settle down in their 20s and doing that in their 30s is a bad idea” are manosphere guys, bible thumpers, and successful conservatives. In general, it’s a bad idea.Yes… doesn’t mean you can’t date and find your person in your twenties though. Divorce risk goes down at around 25 which is mid twenties. If you want kids you are most fertile when you are young. Sure, you might have less money but having kids doesn’t have to be insanely expensive and you can grow your career while you have kids and come out quite comfortably and still provide a good life for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 01:49 PM |
| 6 | The advice here really works!That’s awesome! I’m curious, what sort of feminine styles did you incorporate for clothing choices? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/23 04:27 PM |
| 1 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?This is a really interesting angle to look at things! I’m going to try this. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/23 01:50 PM |
| 3 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?I’ve actually been in therapy and this came up recently and I was tasked with making a list of my own values for next session which is kinda funny you mentioned something so similar. I guess in the past I’d just go with the flow too much or want to please men or just be told what to do, it’s hard to flip the switch | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/23 12:19 PM |
| 1 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?Thank you. I have decided but I don’t know what to save for later. Obviously full on intimacy, but what about kissing? What about going to his place? Where do I put the boundary? Also, how to I know when to weed out a man if there are several potential good men? Just who I click with more or not? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 07:54 PM |
| 3 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?Yeah; I mean I wish I had more time because I would consider staying if I met someone. I just don’t think I’d have any other reason to stay here though. I know I don’t have forever which is why I feel like I need to find a place to settle soon | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 07:07 PM |
| 3 | How to control desires when dating for marriage?Just started it at your suggestion! Thanns | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Discussion : My theory as to why dating on apps is so hardI just assume if he doesn’t text right away to at least say, “I had fun let’s do it again!” , that he’s not that interested and just trying to let it fade/die out. So I’ll give other guys a chance. If you make it clear early you are interested and I am too, I’m more likely to reject other date options and focus on you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Discussion : My theory as to why dating on apps is so hardI noticed this too as a girl! Like so many frat looking guys with abs, I’m like I don’t see those in public. I don’t even swipe on most of them because they look like fuck boys and they are definitely out of my league for anything but sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?I’m both of those… no issues losing my virginity. If I was a guy that might be another story but as a girl all I had to do was download an app and I could get several offers that week if I wanted. And I don’t mind one on one stuff so meeting a random guy didn’t make me too anxious. Plus it felt low pressure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 08:32 PM |
| 4 | Am I doing it wrong?I feel like I’m in a sorta similar place just being the same age and wondering what’s happening in my life. It’s scary but I think we have time… I think👀. And living at home is becoming more and more the norm with housing prices and stuff. I also want a bigger family so I get the pressure to start earlier especially when parents did! if you do put yourself out there you can meet some nice men. I never thought I’d get asked on dates in person but showing up to meet up events or young adult church… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 03:04 AM |
| 4 | Considering not having children bcz I have semi-ugly genes? Thoughts? [21F] POTENTIAL DYSMORPHIA WARNINGHonestly I get your mindset, as I feel similarly about worrying how my kids will turn out but I’m much less concerned about looks and much more concerned with personality/mental health. Tbh even if it mattered if you are a 5-7 out of 10 that’s pretty good. Unless you were significantly below average idk why you’d be worried. Most people are average and do perfectly fine, it’s not going to really hold you back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Feel lost in my 20s. So many decisions ahead and never feel readyThanks, this gives me hope. I know objectively I do have time and things don’t always happen on our timeline it’s just so hard sometimes. And I guess I also just don’t feel like waiting that many years cause it sounds lonely :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/23 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Feel lost in my 20s. So many decisions ahead and never feel readyYeah I stopped a while ago. I mean I’d love a relationship it just hasn’t worked out so far. Some dates were guys I met in person. Just everytime one of us if not both of us, weren’t interested. Most guys were decent. A few told me they weren’t looking for relationships or were clearly looking for something casual when I Met them, despite what they’d said previously. I have been trying to take a break. I do feel like giving up on trying in the city though. I have joined a church and done hobbies… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/23 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Feel lost in my 20s. So many decisions ahead and never feel readyI’m just very painfully shy so after a few times I give up trying to engage because it’s very uncomfortable and everyone seems to engage with other people more, so and mostly just do my thing/listen. Before I’d try to smile and engage in conversation type thing | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/23 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Feel lost in my 20s. So many decisions ahead and never feel readyThanks. I am trying to not get back on the apps but feeling bad and tempted to get a quick fix. I have done church groups and hobbies and work events. Maybe I’m just not someone people want in their lives or I’m doing something wrong. I guess I can keep trying | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/23 05:32 AM |
| 15 | How do you dress to the gym?I wear what I have... usually leggings with a loose shirt and sweatshirt for before I get hot. Sometimes sweatpants or shorts. Idk, I exercise to exercise so I don't try to look good or wear the trendiest gym wear or what I think will flatter me. I don't think it really matters, you are there to get a workout in and will probably sweat, wear what is comfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/23 09:30 PM |
| 1 | How do I become better?I think I definitely accept that there are great people. I love people, it’s just harder for me to accept suffering. Like a world where suffering is just the default and we are just supposed to accept that and be grateful when we get more than just misery in life. the only guarantee in life is suffering and death. There is no guarantee we will have even our basic needs met, that we will have a loving family, etc. And even as privileged as I am, not poor and have a decent loving family for exampl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 10:33 PM |
| 1 | How do I become better?How do you change the attitude when you have a more naturally neurotic/pessimistic view of things? I obviously understand this hinders me in some way, but I feel like my views on the world are much more realistic then say… an optimists. And changing the view feels a lot like just giving in and accepting things as they are when I really hate how things are and they seem to suck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 07:41 PM |
| 5 | What was your timeline?I feel like I have no time😭. It’s overwhelming. I’m supposed to work, then take exams for work to be a better professional or whatever, then I need to have hobbies and a social life, then I need to try to date. And work on myself. Idk I don’t feel like I have time anymore :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/23 03:48 AM |
| 2 | What was your timeline?How can I do this haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/23 02:07 AM |
| 3 | What was your timeline?Is it worth investing in a new wardrobe, makeup etc at 23? I don’t have the best paying job but I don’t want to waste my youth either. I could afford it, I’d just have less in savings … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/23 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Confused about a guy, don’t know what to doYeah… I figured. I’m not sure I’ll stay here for more than 6 months so I’m not sure I should date since I don’t want to expect a man to move for me. I mean I guess if he was amazing I’d consider but I miss my family | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/23 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Potentially moving onDoes he not want kids at all? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 10:48 PM |
| 23 | Second date and he wouldn’t take me to a restaurant?I wouldn’t read into it that much tbh. As long as he’s not just expecting you to go to his place. I never knew second date had to be dinner at a restaurant and that happened several dates later in my last long term relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | How often are you asked about your sexual history?I have a bit of a past but men seem unsuspecting. I have a guy friend who knows and he told me he couldn’t believe it because apparently I come off as quite innocent. I guess this works in my favor lol. Many guys I’ve met told me I come across as innocent because I’m more reserved and sweet | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | The unspoken rule about sex with womenMaybe some are into that. I absolutely would hate that and when I say I like romantic and soft I absolutely mean that. If someone did that without asking I’d be so pissed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Is it ok to take a break from dating? Am I too broken?I’m currently sorta seeing someone but I can’t seem to get invested even though he looks great on paper. I don’t want to lose something good but idk. Is it ok to end that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/22 05:36 AM |
| 0 | Do all men lack sexual boundaries?I’m noticing this | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a low-value woman?Is there a way you could get a job or volunteer or start school, even if part time? I don’t love working but having some to keep you occupied and on a somewhat regular schedule has helped me feel less useless and hopeless. Often working towards something even if it’s not some lifelong dream has helped me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/22 12:03 AM |
| 23 | I will never fit in any society because I don't find the modern lifestyle appealingI think you can find people who share similar values. I’m guessing you are a student? I don’t think it’s wrong to be casual friends or acquaintances who may not share values though. Doesn’t mean you have to engage in what they engage in | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 03:56 PM |
| 2 | I was committed to celibacy but have given in to him twice. How do I regain control of the situation?I will say, I can relate to where you are coming from! I sorta disagree with the idea that you can't come back from it. I saw that you are converting to Catholicism and from that religious perspective, it is never too late to begin to be celibate(assuming there are religious reasons). I think the most important thing is whether or not he will truly respect your decision. If he is pushing for sex and not used to living "chastely" he might not actually be willing to accept your boundaries on the m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | I’m finally updating my wardrobe and it’s made me realize how much I neglected my mental health.This is something I need to do! Mostly none of my clothes fits right and I have no sense of style and I’m cheap and tall so it’s hard to find clothes that fits right. I don’t even know where to start but I think I’d feel more confident. Instead I feel like a slob with no energy to try and look nice | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/22 10:26 PM |
| 1 | My hypothesis on why dating is fu*ked for both genders. ( AS A MAN )I’m not expecting the best guys. I don’t go after super hot dudes who are rich and successful. I know I’m average enough so I go after guys who are also average and who can make as much money as me and afford my future family the lifestyle I was afforded, which was very middle class and frugal, yet comfortable. I have brothers, I expect a man I date to be on their level or at least not too much below it in the things that matter to me. I’ve gone on dates with guys shorter than me, or who were ch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/22 01:50 AM |
| 5 | My hypothesis on why dating is fu*ked for both genders. ( AS A MAN )I thought about the lowering the standards part but then some men were telling me I shouldn’t. That men are the ones not stepping up to the plate, whether by not doing anything with their lives or unhealthy habits/addictions. Idk, yes I want a relationship and a family but when I reject someone it’s usually because I just can’t imagine having a family with them. I’d rather be single and childless than make babies with them. It’s actually sorta my thought process. Whether it’s because I don’t fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/22 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Feeling discouraged by life and relationshipsOh I’m know I’m not the most beautiful by far. I’m not going for the top men anyways, at least not in looks. I’m not pretty enough to be loved for just my looks anyways. With the man who may have love bombed me we just connected so well emotionally and had similar values. He seemed to really want to pursue me and did at first:/. He’s just emotionally not available and distance and maybe he just doesn’t like me that much either. Do men go for sex more with less attractive women? Are they “easier”… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/22 03:23 PM |
| 4 | Feeling discouraged by life and relationshipsThank you for sharing. Yes, I’ve avoided hookup culture now and always said I’d wait till I was in a relationship. I guess I let me feelings get ahold of me too fast and gave in. I need to be more prudent next time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/22 01:51 PM |
| 10 | I've recently been having a lot of anxiety around RP.I think I know what youtuber you are talking about. I really wouldn’t listen to it. She’s generalizing and you don’t need to fit into some perfect mold to be loved by a man or to have the type of relationship you seek | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/22 03:47 PM |
| 1 | 25yo RECLUSE (but "wife material").. how do I meet a husband ? +other anxiety questionsHow do you get mentorship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/22 11:40 PM |
| 2 | How do you know someone is right for you?What if you align perfectly there but might not have the strongest feelings towards them or something? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/22 08:43 PM |
| 0 | Long distance with someone I just met?I mean, I’d like to marry before my 30s and so I’ll have to get more serious by my mid 20s since it seems to take 2 years of dating to get to marriage. So years spent waiting for someone could feel like years wasted even though I’m sure I’d learn from the experience. Thinking of moving… I mean I’d like to be able to say I will be able to look for jobs that allow me to move in x months or years so we know the distance can close . I definitely won’t move for at least 9 months. I like your stay as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/22 07:00 PM |
| 33 | Conservative UpbringingFeminism should be about giving you the option to choose now, not shaming you for choosing a more traditional path. You are totally allowed to want that, how realistic it is might depend though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 05:47 AM |
| 2 | Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy…I have thought about this. It would be nice to be a SAHM, but I know that could be difficult in this economy. My plan is to try to work hard and be smart with my money and at least have savings that could be used for a downpayment we want to try the SAHM thing and something set aside for retirement. Working part-time could also be an option or just taking time off only until kids are school-aged. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/22 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Body Counts and Quality Men: The 2022 Complete ReviewI’m in the same place! I feel you. Also going to be more selective in the future and I know it’s not worth it at all for me | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/22 08:01 PM |
| 3 | How to get s*x practice?You are supposed to learn with your partner. I think sex with each person is different anyways. Ideally you should be comfortable enough with a partner to explore and give each other feedback | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/22 05:02 PM |
| 18 | My husband wants to pay everything for me even though I earn 50% more than himMaybe if y’all combined incomes/had a joint account? Then what you earn is also his and vice versa. Or if he covers expenses with his income, you can use your income to save/invest to retire early, travel, eventually have one of you stay at home if you have kids etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Does N-count on men matter?To be fair, I would not have issues with a man with a similar body count as me. Two or three times as much and I’d be a little concerned though. And I understand why a man would be hesitant to date me because of my past. I did not hold it against that guy who had those hang ups. I understand where he was coming from and the fears associated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Does N-count on men matter?I’m honestly not sure. He wanted to and said he’d try to as long as I’d be chaste with him. But our values were different in other aspects so it didn’t go anywhere anyways | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Does N-count on men matter?I never really thought it mattered any more or less. I think sometimes it can indicate your values surrounding sex, but not always either as people change and people remain virgins for different reasons. I’m probably a hypocrite but if a man had an insanely high body count I might be concerned and if he bragged about his high body count I’d know we don’t share the same values. I personally have a higher body count though and have only dated men who had them and never thought anything of it. I wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 01:57 AM |
| 17 | Why N-Count MattersI definitely don’t agree with number three. I’m pretty sure that’s a myth. You aren’t going to become loose the more sex you have. Penises aren’t THAT big and if that was true, the the menstrual cups I use should also make me lose since their diameter when open is about the same as a man’s. I think it also depends a lot on each individual. I’ve had past experiences and it just made me appreciate my long term partner so much more. And I had no fond memories of my past experiences and all I learne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 08:47 PM |
| 23 | Where to meet other local housewives?Well, this may not apply as much if you don’t have kids, but my mom has met many stay at home mom friends through a church moms group which she actually started. It is a range from young mothers who may be pregnant to older moms with adult kids and is more for fellowship then about doing activities with kids which some groups might do more of | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/22 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Be less boring and lack of motivationI really want to! I haven’t done any recently but I’ve looked around to see what I can get involved in at least in the place I’m moving too | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/22 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Ideas for nun modeNot OP but newly single and struggling with validation from men and men wanting certain things from me:(. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Be less boring and lack of motivationYeah, I think it might be that. I have also brought up the autism thing jokingly because I remember feeling kinda different as a kid because I was shy and everyone I have talked to has been like nah girl and I’ve seen several therapists and a couple psychiatrists so I imagine someone would have caught on. It’s definitely depression probably made worse by the breakup | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Be less boring and lack of motivationYeah, it doesn’t help at all. Definitely should start with the hobby thing even if it’s just one thing right now. Honestly never considered adhd but I will look into it. At this point it couldn’t hurt to talk to someone | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Be less boring and lack of motivationSadly yes. I really need to stop | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 08:57 PM |
| 4 | Be less boring and lack of motivationNo I have not. I’ve had depression and grew up with social anxiety though. I still feel behind on the social stuff. I used to joke about the adhd thing because I heard the medication helped with studying but my parents didn’t believe me, I mean neither did I to be fair | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/22 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?Like lower them for someone who makes less money or isn’t as attractive? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/22 06:53 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?6 hours away. Months between visits because stuff kept coming up for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 08:53 PM |
| 7 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?He was my first serious relationship. He initiated the breakup. Long distance made it difficult. Neither of us felt loved, he wasn’t able to make plans to move, lots of family stuff on his part led to too much uncertainty. We had different expectations and he felt he could never meet mine. Apparently the final straw was when I told him I didn’t feel loved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 08:48 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?I have mulled over it. I know I wasn’t the perfect gf and I could have done things differently/better. But I also hate having guilt eat me up and feeling pain ok behalf of my ex bf since I can’t just reach out to him anymore | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?It wasn’t hard in the honeymoon phase. I mean we had little issues come up but it only got really bad around year 2 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 05:41 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?Yeah, because that question has come up before | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 05:30 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a breakup and the fears surrounding it?I never knew one could keep it away from a partner. My ex knew about my past and accepted it and was a respectable guy but I don’t know if other guys would be as accepting. I thought it was normal to bring it up early on. How would you dodge the question if it was asked? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 05:03 PM |
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