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Nope the increasing probability of getting divorce each marriage, I knew it since not being married. Each relationship not just mariage has same stat: as you get older, you are being more prudent , less patient, less naive, quicker to notice res flags and probably some form of ptsd conparing current woman with last one
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 01:20 PM
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Your time with your kids are non négociable. Soon you wont see them a s much as you want when older' Cherish evet moment like the last one, as it is a precious time that cannot be bought back or replaced , contrary to your GF...
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 06:35 PM
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For exemple ths guy used Ai to reply . Us it as well
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 06:05 PM
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Install on your phone chatgpt and Gemini. At step 1 it will help you find free attorney ressources in your area Step 2 will help you with laws of your place. Hallucination is like 5% but if you are broke and it is free you can beat it for the price. It will explain your anything your wife send it to you, the implication etc in simple terms. One single advice : don't leave the 🏠 or u will lose more and bleed more and create a precedent in custody not in your favor. Only a judge or you attorney ça…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 06:04 PM
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it is about losing your leverage , quite strange that u need anon advice to explain i to you while u cant understand it why from your attorney or maybe you pay him by the minutes ;D
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 09:32 AM
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Yes, by movin out you accepted dthat you DONT see them half of the time. this rules is so logical it is also accepted in Europe bc Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse". Why would the judge change it to 50/50 after month if not year of a new normal working reality for them? Judge want stability for kids whatever it means.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 09:28 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real …
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 09:25 AM
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⚠️Once you file you are VERY HIGH risk of FALSE accusation⚠️ AKA Silver Bullet DIvorce. I explained it here. The usual advise is to STAY at home, but NOT in your case. Once filled u better be out & ready for false accusations... Why did u let her parents +brother live with you? That was a RECIPE for Disaster Unless they were paying the mortgage or u absolutely needed them ------ The next reponse are Gemini response, i HIGHLY recommend it to assist (20/30$/month) you or use a similar one unless u…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 09:42 AM
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yes clearly, you are highly affetced by the situation thus making you dumber sorry. I HIGHLY recommend 2 eyes strategy until you can think straight. NEVER do anything without checking with a close friend/family member with good IQ & not much affected. Good luck !
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 12:42 PM
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You are overthinking: Go to their place & block her phone from your parents's phone. You dont need to even ask them, check something on their phone & do it. Based on what you said, they wont even notice her stop calling or why did it stopped.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 07:29 AM
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.These often point to underlying mental health stuff that can make relationships super unstable, bumping divorce odds to 80% or more if untreated: Past or Ongoing Substance Abuse:booze, drugs, or addictions to cope, BEST recipe for chaos. Hints: I am VERY social Poor Anger Management: Explosive rages, verbal abuse, slurs, or physical violence - usually disguised as expressed as being VERY sensitive or raw/Not hypocrite ;D Financial Irresponsibility: Reckless spending, hidden debts, or 0 budgetin…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 01:21 PM
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he never said it is related to sex, but on average stay at home are by a large majority female & he clearly state our near ancestor, women included had a hard job in comparison. If parent at home is a man with kids at school for 8h, the same would apply probably
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 02:44 PM
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Yes studies tend to conclude that traumatized adult have very high odds of getting divorce around 80% if not mentally treated for such sequels.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 07:48 PM
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You are not a investment insurance company- this was not a risk free investment. She lost her mind - don't take legal advices from her from now one on the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 07:46 PM
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No reply is the best. & U don't owe him a handshake bc it implies mutual respect & cheating with your wife (if he knew she had a husband) is the ultimate disrespect. if u meet them & Chad extends his hand , just put your hand up in a stop/Hi gesture, & say, "I'm good, thanks." Then immediately turn your attention to your kids. If she/he was a cheater, he or she is NEXT. It is just a question of WHEN. Appreciate that future sweet karma revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 01:53 PM
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You wont get SHIT expect getting drained 15/30K. Your attorney's wife will love the new swimming pool you helped to pay. YOu provided not enough details to provide abetter answer.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 09:07 AM
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Great, you are also OPEN to random STDs from your & her side & take care of the baby of someone else if pregnant
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 01:10 PM
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"expects equal chores, " Typical Huge asymmetrical selfish rights you: 100% of financial burden,NO share in that, her free time (6/10h per day easily) - only HERS You come back from a 10h work shift ? you need to help her Come on ! "her DoorDash habit ($1500/month" WTF? It is partially YOUR Fault. Wire her a fixed budget & if she amazon/doordash/whatever she needs to make it within the allocated budget & be blocked by the bank credit card processor until next month. "she needs her own independen…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 01:06 PM
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nope, i know someone who did it, he was under ton of false accusation & before divorce even started, he took depression pills & ask for therapeutic work reduction around half. One year later, Judge decide no marial spousal support based on his half time workbc his payslip was barely enough for him. The whole point is u need real justification & ccordinate with your attorney ALWAYS, of course, once divorce is ON, it is over pretyty muchtoo late but he control the agenda so far. WOmen routinely do…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 08:23 PM
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Original idea! I imagine you will have to jump like 10 official loops including psychologue, accountant and inflation-indexed payback system.if u ever make more than 2k/month up to 3 generations down 👇 lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 05:50 PM
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You are wrong. Ir does not matter who file at your level now. Why would her like her to fill? Instead focus on actionablle things: if u earn more than her you are screwed, better wait and feel once u work part time or lower paid job for a while until divorce to minimize alimony. She will do the same probably
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 07:25 PM
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You need temporarily toworka less paid job or work part time until this is settled. Women routinely do that before asking for divorce per attorney advice but men stay like a ATM machin and expect fair ess. Justice had only the name in it. This is not God judgment. So do what you think sounds just and make sure to have justification for it in case u are asked Why change of work or less working While working less focud with the free time on you only: learn something / see your parents or train you…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 08:31 AM
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do a search, this question was already answered many times: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/search/?q=AI Short answer: yes Just dont mention AI & double check eveything ie laws, & check with another IA, to avoid hallucinations lol Most AI allows to create a project, upload EVEYTHING (many files) as memory so no need each time to re explain eveything when asking. It wonr replace an attorney but unbeatable for the price & would explain in simple English any jargon/doc received
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 03:48 PM
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They voted the same shitty law in France this year- thanks USA for showing us the matriarchal way on that lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 06:30 PM
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In case anyone’s curious about the philosophy behind this & wanna to go down the rabbit hole:; it’s basically STOICISM. The idea is that you should only let things you can control make you happy or upset. So don’t get down because it’s raining, there’s another war going on, or she is acting foolish
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:46 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support She might take things from the house & handed over to her family until the divorce is finalized. BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 09:40 AM
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Yes a recording smartwatch like to tic watch. You define a side physical button to activate record as shortcut and record for hours. No way she will get it that when touchings his watch a recording is activated A workaround would be constant recording before meeting her on phone so no suspicious activities around it when it is heated. A phone can record for 10h easily without problem if nothing happens delete it and repeat next day . Aide that if she is abusive I means she has unsolved mental is…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 06:23 PM
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High risk of false accusation aaka silver bullet divorce. If you don't file first she will accuse you of being the violent one and your broken chair story will look fake after. She probably has mental issues and need therapy coz no body sane break stuff around when angry unless mentally unstable. Make sure to record all the time around her especially during heater moment for proof. Don't ask or tell. Even more when you file a divorce her reaction may be surprising and you could be our in. O time…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 07:39 AM
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Step dad = responsabilities without authority and rights. Be happy thisATM machine is providing and do random chores and in case of high probabilistic séparation, he will have not right to see them lol He is just a free nany with 🥚 🥚 Son will always remember who is his real father
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 08:33 AM
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Stepdad= responsabilities without authority and rights.At best thank you🙏 M. ATM machine
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 09:07 PM
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Divorce is already more probable the 2nd time anyway Ignoring this , He gifted her the item that can't be bought back: his life injected in real estate. and entices her even more for divorce while he will live ob average 8 years less than her bc he is a man. Equal rights means equal duties not assymetric ones. In game theory he will los on average 60% of what he gave to her that way ( expected loss =60% chance of a 2nd divorce x ( what he overpaid for her,)) + 60% of futur alimony and legal fees…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 05:32 PM
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read evey single page of this wiki: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/silver-bullet-divorce-iuvy34cw3z-xed5clv4hnpb this wiki is for violent case like yours & risk of accusation. Most of those thing you learn them by first or 2nd experience, rarely in book. To give you an advantage & your potential future (police interrogation tactics, marital theft ,parental alineation..)
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 08:30 AM
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High risk of Silver Bullet Divorce: rape and violence accusation. If she add pedo#$$ açusation on brainwashed kid, you won't see them for a while I waen you!! Good point is she is already known for her behaviour Bad point is u had never left a legal trail when she hits and insults you. That is a classic but very naive move. Such profile will flip the table over you and accused you of violence!!! With such profile, you cant stay at home once she is served.byou. Wed to be our have secured whatever…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 04:46 PM
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if u ever put the house on your kids name with her as custodian for some Dick time, u deserve the Darwin award sorry. Next, she will only need some random accusation to have it all for her for years & you out of it. Hope u are better than this
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 09:27 AM
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She filed for divorce, so you’re entitled to your half. Period. Putting the house in the kids’ names with her as custodian = she controls the asset, you lose leverage. That’s not “for the kids,” that’s power. Using guilt and the kids to sway you? Big manipulation flag. Tell her: “I’m keeping my legal rights. The kids have a home with me too.” Protect yourself, don’t sign anything. Lawyer up. DONT TAKE advices from her anymore WTF
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 09:23 AM
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The Financial Lockdown This is the most critical financial advice and can save you tens of thousands of dollars. The moment you are physically separated, you must act swiftly. Split Your Income: Reroute your direct deposit to a new, individual bank account in your name only. Order all 3 Credit reports on yourself (Experian, Equifax, TransUnion) for free from this link and freeze your credit so no new loans can be opened in your name Freeze Joint Accounts: freeze all joint checking, savings, and …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 03:22 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Here's why: --------- TODOS If 💔CHEATING💔: STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids (dont her/them until confirmed may times). Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 03:22 PM
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She is playing the Parental Alienation card. Time is running out of you! The longer it takes the more your kids will hate you bc they are impressionnable and it is a survival mechanism!. Plus after too long u won't be granted custody just fuc### child supervised visitation ie and still she can play the cards "kid don't wanna see u" and kid statement are God order in court. I have seen it! Of course the mother was behind. In any case you need to act fastwe. The longer the wait the more difficult …
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 03:22 PM
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Yes Iit pretty much have a backup plan for everything: out of the house, jobless, accused, car stolen. Unless u are very rich u will need a human network typically family that help each other If it was not for me and my mother,my divorced brother would have been homeless at minimum and in a prison for false accusation. This could happen to me in the future as well but I always helped who ever asked me so I know I can rely on many person on critical moment
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 03:13 PM
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If u cant put it away, Pay so 100$ to dispose it or put a free add, eveything is free inside
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 11:18 AM
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No, you are not crazy. What you're describing sounds more like a method of covert communication. - HTML Source Code/MIME: Every email has this. It's the underlying code that tells your email client how to display the message (fonts, colors, images, etc.). it possible to hide text within this code with coment tag for example toi= make them "invisible" - "Blank" Emails & Deletion: The "Pay Rent Reminder" is likely just the cover subject line to make the emails look innocuous in a list. The sheer v…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 08:04 AM
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You miss the major financial ones. Everything else has minor impact compare to it: -------- The Financial Lockdown - This is the most critical financial advice and can save you tens of thousands of $$$. The moment you are physically separated, you must act swiftly. Split Your Income: Reroute your direct deposit to a new, individual bank account in your name only. Order all 3 Credit reports on yourself (Experian, Equifax, TransUnion) for free from this link and freeze your credit so no new loans …
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:52 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sar…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 08:04 AM
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She made you a gift. imagine same decision with a house/mortage & Kids...You will be out of the house, bleed in another place, seeing your kid one 1/2 days max per week.. Dammit, STOP providing for a woman like if u were living in the 1800s? THis is textbook patriarchy. The usual obligation would be you to be the household of the house & she listens to you? I bet she sees u as your equal, but sure, you can be superior when it is about paying lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 09:05 PM
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She has mental issues. Chatgpt or TikTok just exacerbate that. Chatgpt has what is called sycophant behaviour : ie ass li king Try it: tell him u have a business of selling your own sh$$ to your neighbor, raw and see...maybe this was corrected since but I personally tested it and told me I am a genius andI m thinking outsidr the 🚽 Advise her therapy, this might work and cheaper than divorce. I bet she has dark secrets unsolved issues like daddy issues or up to sexual abuse younger. Only therapis…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 10:01 AM
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Than ask !🚨 For alimony!!! Don't be stupid, even. If u don't want it it could be used as leverage equalizer for négociation. As a man u are already one feet down. . Ex: you buy her back for less bc of this or she accept child custody of your chiicem
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 08:05 AM
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make sure to add std checks for next blood panel for you. You never know
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 08:02 AM
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Amanipulative tactic called the "Silver Bullet Method" is employed, where false accusations of domestic violence are made as a preemptive strike to win the planned divorce (full child custody & marital support/free housing for years). This method is widespread in western countries (Europe, Usa...) Unfortunately, the legal system can be exploited by leeches individuals that gain bloody money from your sorrows, with some evil attorneys even advising their clients , usually woman, to use this strat…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 10:32 PM
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she tells me to definitely not leave...I'm like "what could possibly happen?" 👉Listen to MOMMY⚠️DONT LEAVE THE 🏠!! unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision): THIS could happen Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 02:00 PM
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add mental issues/past trauma. Literature is clear about: it: very high probability of getting divorced. The saver Man Mindset is a dead end.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 01:51 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Here's why Alimony/Marital Support Reductiuon During Seperation PhaseBefore serving her, ideally months, reduced your working hours with legitimate reason (e.g., stress, health, business issues) to justify the drop, so the court would use you current lower income to calculate alimony/marital support+ child support. Afte divorce,u can get up again. Do…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 02:03 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why:https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/stay-in-the-house-jkfcyu7jtn-gyh3b26xircq
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 12:04 PM
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You are a vitcime of Silver Bullet Divorce: In some divorce cases, a manipulative tactic called the "Silver Bullet Method" is employed, where false accusations of domestic violence are made as a preemptive strike to win the planned divorce (full child custody & marital support/free housing for years). This method is widespread in western countries (Europe, Usa...) She is trying as well Parental Alineation typical with Siver Divorece Read The Escalation of False Accusations bc mostly they follow …
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 12:02 PM
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COME BACK ASAP! ROOKIE MISTAKE ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision): Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings i…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 11:59 AM
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There are two things in adult life that are really hard to swallow: Divorce Losing someone you love To put things in perspective, some men go through divorce plus false accusations, risk prison, or never even get to see their kids because of parental alienation. So if all you’ve lost is money, it could have been a lot worse. >It pisses me off that people don’t warn you enough about the stupid changes that can occur. Oh, I got a warning like twice: 1-6mo,nth before: a female friend told me I need…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 04:31 PM
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First, her lawyer did NOT say any of that. Lawyers don't pass messages like that. It's pure manipulation. Lawyer dont give a shit about divorce. They would gladly incited you to divorce. it is like asking a butcher if u should buy meat from his shop or save the animal & go Vegan lol. And her lawyer DEFINITELY did not give her a greenlight to hack your email WTF. That is illegal. you are at HOIGH RISK OF FALSE ACCUSATION AKA Silver Bullet Divorce ACTION PLAN : Change EVERY password you have. Emai…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:09 PM
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Worst-case scenario: you divorce her while she’s a stay-at-home wife. She’ll likely get free housing if you leave or just ask you to leave , for months, possibly years until the divorce is finalized while u pay for 2 places, along with spousal support & child support. In short she is gonna get what she asked for. At best If the judge believes a spouse is voluntarily unemployed or underemployed, they can impute income ie they assumes she could earn a certain amount if she worked, and bases suppor…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 01:53 PM
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Does. Not matter.after a while u have tenant like rights. If u move away from her don't be shocked if 50 custody won't be granted bc of such precedent. Plus if she gets marital support while u are away she may delay the divorce date for free $
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 09:17 PM
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WTF Dont leave the house unless force by the judge or at high risk of false accusation DV
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 07:51 AM
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Homeschooling is mostly badly done: no social bonding with peer making them social awkward kind of light autistic kids. Plus few parent wake up and start it a 8am on clock. They are doing the lazy version. You can't really work with her homeschooling 4h per day or more. How do u and she manages to pay the bills?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 05:40 PM
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To keep the house u need to buy her out plus alimony meaning u need to buy more than 50% of it with alimony. Do u have the$$? If not you would need to sell it. Don't believe her she will leave you it. As soon as u launch the D word, she will be informed she could keep the house for free during the separation phase that could last year's with such young and numerous kids while u pay for it! Free 🏠 nf and marital support. So for God sake if she play this Uno card ♦️ don't move our of the house. On…
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 11:11 AM
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Can u lend me money? I am paying back 2x before christmas !
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 08:42 PM
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Aka a goan
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 08:41 PM
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It is psychological violence. But jumping straight to divorce is the nuclear option, man. What she said was a massive low blow, 100% weaponized to hurt him where she knew it would sting the most. That's a huge red flag about how she fights. The real question is if she said it just to be cruel in the heat of the moment or if that's a deeper resentment she holds. They need to talk about it when they're calm. If she can't give a sincere apology and understand the damage, then he's got a big problem…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 02:20 PM
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Worst thing u could do is divorce her while she is a stay at home. She will be eligible to get the house maybe for years bc of her position and your son autism. So u will be out paying 2 places at once. Her attorney will tell her not to work to max out marital support and alimony. Either u work part time or she works more or both or less u gonna get f### to oblivion once the D word is out. U also need to block your common joint account to avoid thief before and block any new credit Do I need to …
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 09:03 AM
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Normal answer would be: Even in a biased divorce sub, NOBODY will tell you to divorce bc u just "dont love" her , sorry to be blunt. But with no Kids, if u keep fighting, AFTER with kids, fighting will be 3X worse !
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 06:27 PM
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Which state? Some still allow a fault based one and apply the home wrecker law ie u could use the BF for marital damage and get lot of $$$. STD checks asap DNA for all the kids( don't ask/ tell them/her) u cant be sure when she really started cheating Gather all the proof or her cheating. Could be used down the divorce road. Dotb leave the 🏠!!! Even if she ask you. Unless u plan to financially bleed or a judge force you to do so
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 10:24 AM
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The Cop Who Remembered u CRITICAL WIN. This is huge. It pre-emptively nukes her credibility. Forget the "information report" title. It's irrelevant. A judge will read "Cop threatened father of kids he's sleeping with" and that's all that matters for custody. WArning !!!!! She is going to go ballistic. Be prepared for her to file immediately, make false accusations, and try to get a temporary restraining order & poush you out of the house.: see textbook strategy: https://slimwiki.com/survival/get…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 09:34 AM
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Stay in the house:Explained here why
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 01:08 PM
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WTF i am reading: Num #13 Affair in 13 years , ie one BF /year of marriage while reality is probably 2x)? how could you have stayed that long? Sorry but you need urgent STD checks FULL panel + DNA parental as well ASAP !! (dont ask/tell her/them) -------- Your plan to file a police report is the right move. But you have to see it for what it is: a strategic tool for divorce court, not a way to get him arrested. The +++: Creates an Official Record: This is huge. It takes his threat out of "he sai…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 12:35 PM
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"here's alot of talk on here about not moving out prematurely. While there is merit to that, it can work against you if she keeps trying to get you arrested or if she is purposely trying to destroy your life to get you to move out. Each case is different, but I probably would have benefitted from moving out sooner Nope, typical advice has NOT changed: ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision)…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 12:16 PM
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You are the breadwinner. She will try to get the house. Either you sell it or you buy her out or reverse. But she will ask alimony and on a form of part of the house of she can pay you the remaining rest. As usual don't leave the house even if she asked you u less u plan to bleed financially while paying for 2 places and turn her as the primary parent with more future custody by default. Only a judge decision or false accusation of DV can throw you out but it needs a judge anyway
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 11:46 AM
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I playing the Devil' Advocate so dont take it personally: 1- thinks & act like you is normal, bc he was educated by you Not related to DNA. 2-Looks like you: if he is just white+blonde as you, this is not enough. The real one could be just another blonde dude bc she prefers blonde men after all. But u have more pressing matter
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 12:36 PM
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Sorry to be blunt but have you checked if he is your Biological Son? I dont ask if you love him but you need to know bc u cant be sure when she started cheating. And if he has another biological father, he needs to know one day as well.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 08:03 AM
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Dude, you're not going crazy. You are 100% correct on the house deal. You're sitting on a winning lottery ticket worth ~$860k in instant equity. Option A (Your Plan): Buy the House Purchase Price: $688k Current Value: $1.55M Instant Equity: ~$862,000 --->: You secure a home in a neighborhood you love with a mortgage based on a ~$700k price, not a $1.5M price. This is generational wealth. The financial struggle now is temporary pain for permanent gain. Option B (Her Shitty Plan): Take the Deal Ge…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 08:24 PM
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The Problem in CA: - You've been married 15 years, which is a "long-term marriage." ---->order spousal support with no end date: "Long-term spousal support... Once a divorce is final, you may pay ... permanent or long-term spousal support. ..For marriages more than 10 years, there’s no assumption about what’s reasonable ....For these long-term marriages (lasting more than 10 years) support may last for as long as the one spouse needs the support &the other spouse can pay. This could be for many …
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 09:14 AM
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dont leave the house !!!, hope u know why, unless u wanna bleed financially for years
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 09:05 AM
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Imagine if you were earning more like most men, she would have asked for alimony+pension+marital support during the seperation phase. If she cant pay the alimony , than ask for >50% of the house price if sold.+ child pension you have plently alimony calculator your state/country online to get an idea (eg: this one for your state). SAme for child pension.+ ask a lawyer to review your agreement. START FROM here ! Maybe that way u can buy her back from the house if u only have to pay 40/35% of the …
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 03:07 PM
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from worst-case to most-likely, normally outlined in it: <48h rare unless she has allegations of DV , threats, or immediate danger to a spouse or child. 3/7 days: more common so it gives u n a reasonable, amount of time to pack a bag and find another place A reasonable Period (1-2 weeks, up to 30 days): If there are no allegations of DV and motion is granted based on other factors (like high conflict making it untenable for the kids) Where Do u Go? they dont care , u are a man & suppose to handl…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 01:13 PM
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Yes it is called Silver Bullet Divorce. Google it. In shortit means she has mental issues and she will fill for domestic violence during the divorce so she win more during divorce like custody bc u are too violent or fill for fault-based divorce. Record her as well anytime you meet her and stay 10feet away at lol time and bring a witness if u can when u see her
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 06:24 AM
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Alimony: Low CHANCE of being overruled: A judge will almost always rubber-stamp this. You're both adults with good incomes. Child Support: HIGH CHANCE of being overruled. This is the one judges get really picky about. bc The golden rule is: Child support is the right of the CHILD, not the parents. You can't just waive it.Anyway she can still ask it in the future. Your "$0 support" plan with "in-kind" payments can work, but you have to do it right. To have any chance of a judge signing off, your …
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 08:27 PM
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you will have better answers there r/ParentalAlienation/ There is also a documentary on youtube about it. Some kids come back, some dont within the SAME family. my brother is exactly in your case with the worst accusations around the kids... & other random accusations (rape, DV...) he cant see them since 2 years even supervised visits were refused (she said kids dont wanna see him blablabla & make them write phony letter) Court is biased. What helped him is he work now just half time to avoid be…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 08:21 PM
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Be careful you use a different reddit account not the theo away
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 05:49 PM
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Lesson learned for the others: import a woman is a risk of exporting your kids there !! Same thing if she is out of state or far from your place. You will be stuck there if u wanna see your kids. They will stay near her family to have support.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 05:48 PM
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she uses NOISe as a weapo& way to invade your space and disrupt your peace without saying a word. She can’t make you leave, but she can make the space you share unbearable. BUT If you were to confront her, she could easily say, "What? I'm just cleaning the house! Are you saying I can't even clean now?" This is a classic passive-aggressive tactic that makes you feel like you're the unreasonable one for being upset. Strategy 1: High-Quality Noise-Canceling Headphones, his is NOT just about blockin…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 02:07 PM
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DONT start moving $$ around or trying to hide it. This wil will look terrible to a judge. You're mistaken athings that work in your favor: 1-The court absolutely will care about her retirement benefits:401k & pension are marital assets, just like your stock portfolio & 401k. Everything goes into ONE BIG POT to be divided. They won't just leave your 401ks alone because they're close in value; they'll look at the growth during the marriage and aim to split that total growth equally. In Oregon a 50…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 02:24 PM
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debts and assets racked up during marriage are usually considered joint no matter whose name is on the card. so that 40k cc debt probably ends up split just like the house equity. -the student loans may be treated separately depending on when they were taken and whose name, but joint loans are still joint. Alimony/child support: you mentioned $4‑5 k a month. That’s in the ballpark for a household with three kids and a $160 k income, but the exact number will depend on the state’s guidelines, you…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 01:26 PM
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🚨No Kids? RUN !!! dont get baby-trapped.🚨. It will be 10x worse!!! AS a father & way older than you, I m telling you this, somake sure to watch out for your semen & I bet what ever is going on, she has a traumatic secret explaining her behavior: typical one , such as abuse when she was young or rape. Those things are like PANDARO's box when adult & can turn into pretty much any mentla issues .She clearly needs a therapist. A partner is supposed to be your teammate,& don't try to isolate you from…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 09:01 AM
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I know some women in such case: they live with a mixed of alimony and welfare and more of kids. Do average is like 2000$ for a mum enough to pay most basic bills and not work but not enough to travel etc
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 06:27 AM
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Europe is FAR from phasing it out. where di u read that? It still in place in most countries, with even worst version ie the woman stop working before launching divorce & judge Wont apply any “imputed income” but 0 ! Than husband may play the same game but usually to late bc the process is launched & it is a spiral to the financial abyss... bear in mind europe laws are more diverse than USA. Europe is NOT a federation of states like in USA, EU have 24 official languages (& almost 300 if you add …
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 07:03 PM
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100% . It does not matter How is on paper if u are married.m!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 12:01 PM
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That’s the usual price you pay when you stepas the "cuckoo" dad (1) Lesson learned: avoid single moms : higher divorce risk bc 2nd one (for you as well so no need to compound it lol), +you might end up raising another man’s kids. I wouldn’t be surprised if she lied and painted the real father as a monster (classic parental alienation). And then you, playing the ‘noble protector,’ walked right into it. Trap ! And divorce u & cycle repeat (you are the abusive man...) until too old to find even a n…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 09:58 AM
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> What difference does it make if we just create the settlement ourselves... vs a lawyer doing it? HUGE difference! You DIY agreement is a piece of paper. A lawyer's is a legal instrument. Yours will miss the magic legal language a judge needs to see about waiving rights, full disclosure, etc. It's an amateur job and it looks like one for a judge at best > ...for it to be valid... don't we have to get the lawyer to draft it, then pay another lawyer to review it with her? It's notmandatory, but u…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 07:46 AM
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alimony is actually a historical European concept rooted in Christian traditions, which is why it’s established in Western countries. For 1 billlion Muslims (yeah, the part of the world usually stereotyped as ‘terrorists’ or ‘stuck in the Middle Ages’), this concept just doesn’t exist. Instead, They have built-in deterrent for divorce. To name a few of them. 1- By default, Islamic law follows separation of assets. Whatever each spouse owned before marriage or bought during marriage remains their…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 06:11 AM
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Dude, lawyer up. Yesterday.Is it a waste of time? No Here's why: You're in Washington, a community property state.---> the starting point is she gets HALF of everything earned during the marriage. so That $300k? A judge starts by seeing it as $150k for you, $150k for her. It doesn't matter whose name is on the account. SEE POINT 1 Her verbal agreement to $50k is legally worthless & will last until her best friend or a free legal consult tells her she's entitled to $150k & wann get his 10% cut or…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 09:26 PM
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Most guys don’t realize until their 40s that they’ve been stuck in this “planetary Tsukuyomi” type illusion: get married or you’re a failure. Divorce is the brutal wake-up call. But after , when trying to warn younger trapped guys , that just makes you look like a bitter old man who “doesn’t get it.” Every once in a while you might actually get through to one, so far, my score is like 2/3 guys saved The real cold shower for the saved minority is when I redirect them to an online alimony calculat…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 08:27 AM
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Probbbeta is right, your kids need to understand the situation & young adult kids should not expect iphone with whatever data subscription while u are near bankruptcy . If needed they care work few hours there. They need to reduce your load a bit. They can reduce how much Netflix & other BS activities & work few hours the week end here & there to pay for it. it will also be a good way to understan they better succeed in college if they dont wanna work at Mac Whatever flipping burger for years.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 01:09 PM
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Dude, you're in the belly of the beast. For Divorced Dad, California seems to be Last Stage of Hell named Cocytus That's a legit nightmare scenari, First things first: The job isn't a job, it's a leash. Working for her dad is the core of the trap. You are chained right now & you ex FIL knows it. bc The moment you get a job with a predictable base pay with a company that has NO connection to your ex'family , they lose their primary leverage over you. THEN You can make legal decisions based on you…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 10:00 AM
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No kid or home , frequente dispute , no attraction and she’ll only get older+maybe with kids --> even less attractive if you wait. Move on while you can. Accept your loss & dont double bet. The longer you stay, the more you’ll lose. Every dad I know who divorced had already felt it in their gut years before like you rigt now & stupidly bc of peer-pressure, thought adding kids/house will "FIX" it while problems just compounded . Trust that gut feeling it’s usually right
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 03:58 PM
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I just don’t get it. You like exercising, she doesn’t, and it’s affecting your sex life. Can you be more specific? You seem hesitant to be straightforward for some reason. Are you fantasizing about being with a fit woman, or is it more about her weight? Just a heads-up: if she’s on the heavier side, it usually gets worse after kids. If you don’t have kids yet and there’s no shared home or serious commitment, it might be easier to move on. But with kids and a house involved, if you are already in…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 11:44 AM
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You are in a Divorce forum so biased, but mot of us would tell you to stay anyway especially if you have kids. She is a good wife as you said. It is not over. "She has no intention of strenuous exercise " Do you expect a fitness wife type? Or is she just too fat for your? Be blunt, Dont be shy. Anyway if you plan to divorce, you better put her back to work bc it seems she is a housewife & during divorce, she can get marital support & alimony. ANY attorney during the divorce will tell her to NOT …
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 09:44 AM
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was in the same boat as you +/-: I complained to my father 1 year after marriage, and he told me to divorce her asap bc there is plenty of women out there & I deserve better based on my status. I thought he was biased because he had divorced on his own terms. 5 years later, with house &kids, I realized he was painfully right on EVERY POINTS. Then he told me: “I told you so, damn it. Now bc of your inaction, consider your hard-earned house lost” But I still have my dad bc he is a persistent cockr…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 06:58 AM
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Ok suicide invitation is typical so she can have everything without you. Dont give her that no matter what. If not , than parental Alineation is next logic step in the I "wanna Erase You" plan lol I warned you !
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 11:39 AM
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" she will turn the kids against me" Yes it is called Parental Alienation(PA), it is a classic when aka SilverBullet read this is used. In the extreme form, you wont see them ever. I infer from your text your wife has mental issues. bc very classic when DV & PA is at play I explained everything what could have with PA above bc i read so many stories & live it for a family member that I know the usual Path & Strategies around it. DV? hope you have legal proof bc she will flip the table in no time…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 08:24 AM
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> Did you contribute. You need to read the post again. he was paying ALL the bills & probably full time 40h/weak without the transport i totally agree with him & this as NOTHING to do with the sex. You just defend so because u have the same sex. I never understand this type of thought. YOu COuld be a father staying at home & I would expect you to clean & prepare a warm meal for your wife if she comes back from work & take care of the kids while she is busy working to pay for eveything. If not it…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 03:46 PM
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Yes anything earned past marriage is community property except any donation and heritage. So you know Magic Transmutation Happens 😂 But doing it now will raise Tsunami level red flags. Like in a prison break escape it wOuld have need to be done little by little like every month lol
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 11:07 AM
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For the schedul, . Include provisions for makeup time if a parent misses a slot due to illness or work. 2 (Right of First Refusal): GOOD, BUT BE SPECIFIC. bc This is a common flashpoint. To make it work, define the timescale. For example: "If a parent requires childcare for a period of 4 hours or more during their scheduled time, they must offer that time to the other parent first." This stops arguments about you having to be on call just for her to pop to Tesco. Point 7 The 20% capshe could arg…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 02:32 PM
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Think another way: You need to decide what is the COST of losing a month time every year with your kid. So get ready for the classic playbook. She will likely: Invent "welfare concerns" to paint you as a less capable parent. This is the N° 1 tactic to try and shift the status quo eg"He's always so tired after being at his dad's," or "He comes back with his uniform Unwashed/torned,"(PICS) or "He seems anxious when I mention he's going to yours & dont sleep well." Every normal parenting" slip-up" …
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 01:50 PM
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The status quo is 50/50. This is your single biggest strength if you go to court. A judge will not change a stable, working routine without a compelling reason related to the child's welfare. The burden of proof is on her to show WHY a change is necessary, not on you. Her initial proposal of every other weekend was a negotiating tactic to make her current 60/40 demand seem reasonable. It's a classic anchor. The mediator has basically told you that you ar the one compromising. This is significant…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 01:27 PM
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did u did that? The Financial Lockdown - to be discussed with Attroney to do it right This is the most critical financial advice and can save you tens of thousands of dollars. The moment you are physically separated, you must act swiftly. Split Your Income: Reroute your direct deposit to a new, individual bank account in your name only. Order all 3 Credit reports on yourself (Experian, Equifax, TransUnion) for free from this link and freeze your credit so no new loans can be opened in your name …
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 02:53 PM
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Her plan to stay in the house WONT work: . Forcing you to be her landlord for 2 years until son is 18yo is is the opposite of a clean break. A judge will almost never force one to be the "landlord" for the other. Like, what if the roof leaks or the water heater blows up: who’s paying for that? Courts don’t want to lock divorced people into some awkward business partnership, especially when they already can’t stand each other. That plan’s a total mess waiting to happen, more court dates, more fut…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 08:42 AM
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No, that's not acceptable. Not even close. It sounds like you were living with a third child, not a partner. Her being overwhelmed is one thing, but leaving dirty diapers on the floor and not taking care of the kids' environment is another. That's neglect. The autism might be a reason for her struggles, but it's not a free pass to completely check out of the family and let the house become a bio hazard. You weren't asking for a palace, just a functioning, sanitary home. Cirious how she is doing …
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 09:10 PM
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It’s not an accident, it’s on purpose. Forget Nigerian princes scam or shady pickpockets; the average real N°1 scam for Men in the West comes in a gift-wrapped with a state seal of approval & funny part is that u are begging for it !
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 11:15 AM
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"if you get laid off....In NJ ...either you find the money or go to jail." WTF, Sound like Mafia Old School racket, henchmen coming for the late weekly payment & bring back from school your 10yo daughter in front of you & tell you how cute she is with a sinister look & tell you that Ricardo like them very small...
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 07:50 PM
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forget about it, prenup can & are fight back in the divorce phase and sometimes it makes sense. Imagine alimony capped to 5K as agreed & 20 years later she is a sick SAHW , had 10 kids with you & you are Besoz with billions lol No judge will accept just 10K. Ok impossible but just to illustrate my point
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 02:58 PM
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lol well said, alimony put in "pause " the pinball love game with your son as the ball
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 02:56 PM
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--> The House: It's likely a marital asset. Her instability might factor into who gets temporary residency, but the final split comes down to math and state law. Prepare for the possibility you may have to sell it or buy her out. Don't make it your hill to die on until your lawyer says it's a winnable one. --> Therapy: The same work benefit that got you a lawyer probably offers counseling. USE IT. You're dealing with trauma, man. Talking to a pro will give you tools to handle the stress. + Lift …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 10:25 AM
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Women with Mental issues----> HIGH risk of Silver bullet Divorce:in some divorce cases, a manipulative tactic called the "Silver Bullet Method" is employed, Read more here PRIORITY #1: SAFETY Forget the assets , this is about you staying alive --> Exit Plan: When she gets served the papers, YOU SHOULD NOT BE THERE. The explosion is coming; you don't need to be at ground 0 --> The Financial Lockdown This is the most critical financial advice The moment you are separated, you must act swiftly. Spl…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 10:25 AM
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do u managed to see your kids or just supervised visitation? even for that last one, she can still play the card "kids dont wanna see u i cant do anything". I have seen it. Fathers end up being a ATM machin (pension )with 0 rights
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 08:23 PM
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I think alimony can be refused and ar least in my place u can't ask or again past divorce. Bur child support? Always on the table bo matter what expect kids death 💀
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 05:32 PM
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Negative period → is it a polite way to refer to cheating?
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 11:59 AM
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Typical advice: Financial Lock down, protetcion assets Click the link for teh details FINANCIAL Lock down is the CRITICAL to follow! She probably started being a stay-at-home, as advised, to Max marital support When the divorce is pronounced, she will be back in the workforce lol. Typical textbook strategy ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Her…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 10:19 AM
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The 4 Eyes Strategy You cannot navigate this complex game alone. This person will review your emails before you send them, and provide crucial emotional support. During a divorce, you will get emotional & may not take the most reasonable decision. So Never make a major decision without consulting one of these advisors. It has to ba someone from the Family with above IQ average &analytics type intelligence (engineer etc). Since 2022, you need to add IA, the profesionnal one . Add 20/30$ per month…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 06:51 AM
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You are a victim of the Silver Bullet Divorce bc your wife has mental issues **if you lose,**you stop seeing your kids & just get treated like a walking ATM machine for them/her What could be next? Stage 1: False domestic violence accusations. Stage 2: Marital rape allegations, even if you have children. Without proof, and assuming you never raped anyone else, it becomes your word against hers. You should be fine because the assumption is that sex within a marriage is consensual until proven oth…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 06:47 AM
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Your situation isn’t normal at all, especially after cheating. The history with your ex and the fact your kids are grown makes it even stranger. She’s not just “missing the kids”they’re adults, they can visit her anytime. What’s really going on is she’s using your house as a leech bc u are better financially & free reset: comfort, stability, playing “mom” again, maybe even testing if she still has a role or control. Planning parties at your home is a huge overstep,it’s not co-parenting, it’s tak…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 12:31 PM
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That "card" you think she can playis is called a Mesher Order: 1 parent stays in the house, and the other's equity is locked in until usually the youngest kid turning 18. Solicitors and judges try to avoid these like the plague these days because they're messy as hell and don't create a "clean break". And here's the absolute killer point that makes it a non-starter for her: A Mesher Order still REQUIRES her to be able to take on the mortgage and bills. The whole plan falls apart at the first hur…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 02:10 PM
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I think you don't understand d something. There is no case where u need to give up your share bc she wants the kids to stay in the same school. The victime card sont work. She is just dreaming. She is either buying you out or go elsewhere'. Kids won't die if they change school ultimately or suffer documented psy damaged. The divorce I'll hurt more them to be honest, not change of school. Don't give up on your part. You will regret it deeply.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 11:44 AM
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Mate, she's having a laugh asking you to walk away with no equity. It's completely unreasonable and a court wont either. Her plan is a complete fantasy if she can't afford the mortgage. A judge isn't going to order a solution that sets her and the kids up to fail and potentially lose the house later. They look at the cold hard numbers. Your ability to buy her out and keep the kids in their family home is a massive plus for you. It offers stability and continuity for the kids, which is exactly wh…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 08:37 PM
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No she did not move Fast. She is with him a long time before u even notice hence looking fast for you
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 05:23 PM
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Prenup can be fight back dueing the divorce process like she was pressured to sign. To be honest if u end up very rich and prenup like 10k as compensation she stayed a housewife for 20yo no judge I'll only give her only that bc of the dramatic disparity
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 05:19 PM
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So this is your 2nd marriage. Honestly, my 2 cents, stop getting married. Statistically, the risk only gets worse with each attempt. A 3rd futur marriage has around a 70% chance of ending in divorce anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:49 PM
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Do it ASAP e, because the longer you wait, the harder parental alienation is to fight. She is probably demonizing you to your daughter, saying things like 'Dad doesn’t want to see you' or 'Dad wants to hurt you. Sorry she is not EVEN calling u dad but just whatever name u have "Mike has a new GF blablabl" & the BF is called "Dad" and that can be very effective when a child is young. Don’t think badly of your daughter if it works, it’s an evolutionary mechanism for a kid to believe the remaining …
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:39 PM
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Yoiua e a VICTIM of Parental ALineation(PA). Read this link before ! Dedicated reddit: r/ParentalAlienation Signs of PA: > Cutting off all contact for over a month. > The new BF saying "i'm her daddy now." > Posting pics of their new 'family' online to provoke u. > Demanding supervised visits out of nowhere with weak excuses. > Ignoring all your requests to see your kid. --->classic playbook to try and ERAS u from your daughter's life. STOP. TALKING TO. HERFor real. Or From now on, only communic…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:17 PM
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the 13-yr marriage and the big income gap ($110k vs $27k) are the strongest points for her case. Judges see that disparity and immediately think about maintenance. BUT, your big argument is "voluntary underemployment." She's educated, healthy, and turned down jobs for almost double her pay. A judge can "impute" income to her. This means they'll calculate support based on what she should be earning (~$50k), not her current $27k. The problem is proving it. Without documentation, it's your word aga…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 08:13 PM
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Even in a a biased divorce forum for men, sorry but most men won't agree that you should stay asexual as you out it and should not get married. You are clearly confusing being married and having a woman/ family. Of course most men here will not recommend mariage You can have any law around men and woman and any law around food whatsoever, people will still kiss and have sex and eat. That is instinct
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 08:02 PM
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Honesty, you have been lucky to have such a good judge and critically manage to file first. ...DELETED.... Good for you. Happy story like yours are rare here.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 06:49 AM
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2/3 years on average but i read about a case up to 10 years!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 01:51 PM
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What you're describing is very common reaction. It's not about you, and it's not about love for you. It's about control, ego, +loss of a safety net aka YOU Can She Add Such a Clause to the Divorce? Yes, but it depends heavily on your location and the judge aka "Morality Clause" or a "Paramour Clause.": it restrict you to have a GF stay overnight while the kids are in the home. Sometimes they are broader and attempt to restrict ANY new partner from being around the kids for a certain period. but …
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 07:37 AM
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the house is considered the 'marital home.' She has as much legal right to be there until a judge issues a court order stating otherwise. Just agree at lawyer level to give her 50 custody so she won’t come back. Also weird that she explained to you why she needs tocome back or did you infer that?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:40 PM
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if they contain the em dash (—) which is is a long punctuation mark, longer than a hyphen or en dash, AI WAS probably Used. Typical sign of chatgpt.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:36 PM
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"How is it reasonable to...expect someone to not get fired when dealing with incredible personal stress"--> Ti is NOT but, The legal system is separate from morality. You must follow legal procedures, not necessarily what is reasonable or morally right. Law students are taught early on that law and morality are distinct concepts it it not difficult to convince any doctor as there is no blood test or hard scientific way to establish it Make sure to read online the burnout symptoms & depression/an…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 10:04 AM
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Saying ‘I was stressed’ wont be enough. You’d need something from a doctor or therapist showing the job was really messing with your mental health (like anxiety, depression, burnout) PLus changig work would make youmore present as a parent. How about managing the same job but part time? That would be around100K It helps way more if you can show your work was slipping so badly you were almost fired. Quitting early and saying ‘I left for a less stressful job’ doesn’t hold as much weight as an actu…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 06:51 AM
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Imagine u stay. What is your future? Scenario 1: She divorces you later. High risk. She knows there's a $600k payday waiting for her. She can just bide her time and cash that ticket whenever she wants. Scenario 2: She cheats again. Very high risk. You just showed her there are no real consequences for it. You stayed. Why would she stop? Scenario 3: You divorce her later. The most likely outcome. You can't live with the resentment and lack of trust. It will eat you alive. You will likely live in …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 05:22 PM
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I guess you are that step dad. You will get divorce of her as well if I had to make a bet. For each subsequent divorce risk the divorce gets higher-ups . Gogole it. Bear that in mind. You won't be he shiny savior that protect her from psy abusive narcissit Ex ..typical story sold to replacement guy lol Plus if you get attached to the kids you have Not right to see them after divorce Thanks for feeding them 😂 Yes push the dad for 50% to your futur "wife". U Ont replace the real dad no matter what…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 10:55 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Here's why ------------ The Financial Lockdown :This is the MOST critical financial advice and can save you tens of thousands of dollars. The moment you are physically separated, you must act swiftly. Split Your Income: Reroute your direct deposit to a new, individual bank account in your name only. Order all 3 Credit reports on yourself (Experian, E…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 07:40 AM
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Yes, stop that. First it is not moral at all (i am from the old chool). +You could be Being Investigated in a Suicide (sherrif call was a starter)+Civil Liability Risk(her family could attempt to sue for her suicide if they believe u played a role in her mental state) + without suicide, In certain states, you can be sued for breaking up a marriage under 'homewrecker' laws: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alienation_of_affections There was a case in NY where a man successfully sued someone from thi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 07:01 AM
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Because you CANT control her, . Its is ABC stoicism: dont get angry on things u CANT control, focus on what u can. She’s like the weather ,you don’t get to decide if it rains tomorrow. You don’t get to bargain with the storm. Y By the time she says “I want a divorce,” she’s probably been emotionally gone for months, maybe years! You are just too late to theparty. So what do you do? Focus on what’s yours. Your health. Your mindset. Your purpose. Your finances. Become SO you respect, not because i…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 06:56 AM
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He is right: “fast as possible” makes sense. IN business if u have a good deal any seller would advise to seal it asap, not in a week lol. bcThe longer divorce drags on, the MORE opportunities for disputes& financial complications. It’s just basic probability math: each month or year adds -->more chances for disagreements over it , +Situations that seem amicable now could sour quickly with new partners, financial strain bc X W Z,Or obligations can change over time new debts incurred, house value…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 08:44 PM
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You've hit on the classic separation dilemma. You're right, you shouldn't have to pay for all the bills in a house you don't live in. The legal concept to keep in mind is maintaining the "status quo." A judge won't look kindly on you suddenly cutting off all funds, especially with a child involved. It can be seen as punitive. Here's the middle ground that protects you: Don't pay "half the bills." Instead, make specific, documented contributions to the most important things. The Mortgage: his pro…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 05:59 PM
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First, that verbal agreement is risky. In Florida, it's not legally binding until it's in a signed document and approved by a judge. The house, bought during the marriage, is almost certainly a marital asset. You are likely entitled to 50% of the equity, regardless of whose name is on the deed. You'd be walking away from a lot of cash. To avoid claims of abandonment, don't just cut her off financially. Create a paper trail. Keep paying a major bill (like a car payment or insurance) or send her a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 05:55 PM
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she's asking for "space" + partying on the weekends while you're stuck handling the kid solo, +dead bedroom Like, what more red flags do you need to start suspecting cheating? In a few states (not many), proving it can actually count as "fault" in a divorce and give you an edge. Start documenting EVERYTHING right now : texts, emails, whatever shows her dipping out and leaving you with the kid. That's your golden ticket to show you're the one stepping up as the main parent, which could majorly he…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 04:37 PM
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So She want space and party the week enf while u manage the kid and Dead Bed. What other signs u need to suspect cheating? Cheating in certain state(a minority )can be used as fault. You need to document her being out by message etc. And you taking care of the child!!! Leave a electronic trail. This is in case she fights you for custody and either wanna it most of the time or play the violent father card and kid need to be protected blablabla while she trusted you With him during the weekend, wh…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 04:30 PM
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Dont take the Bait. Ignore it. ANY reply even angry 💢 one will make her happy somehow Expect your Silence
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 04:20 PM
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Divorce were requested mostly by women before Tiktok or even internet does exist so No. Social addiction is wide spread and not specific to divorce Women Of course tiktok push garbage addicted be content over all over the world while not in China so make us dumber to their profit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 04:17 PM
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Since your daigjter in her second year of college, she is an adult-> Any parenting plans expire once a child becomes a legal adult So, your ex-wife has no legal authority to dictate who you can bring around your adult daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 08:47 AM
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Yes very reasonable She's not just throwing a random number out there; she's calculated it based on a real financial Social Security (~$18k): A teacher making $65k a year pays 6.2% into Social Security. $65,000 x 0.062 x 5 years =20K Her asking for ~$18k is right in that ballpark. 401k (~$7k): This is where her ask is actually modest. Teachers often contribute around 5-8% of their salary to a retirement plan (like a 403b or 401k) +any potential employer match lets say 5%-->$65,000 x 0.05 = $3,25…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 08:36 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a ho…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 08:05 AM
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About that birthday party confrontation. DONT do that. Your lawyer will tell you the EXACTsame thing. A public scene gives her a massive advantage. She can paint you as unstable& errati. It gives her and him a chance to get their stories straight, hide assets, and lawyer up before you've even made your first move. The single best thing you can do right now is play the long game. The ultimate "win" isn't a dramatic scene; it's a fair divorce settlement where you are protected and have custody of …
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 08:05 AM
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You are totally disconnect if you think Ai cannot help you. Bc she will probably use it /advise about it so it's it is like when the first gun arrive: either have them or be conquered
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:57 AM
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Get a lawyer yesterday!! here’s the likely playbook your lawyer will run. First, they'll tell you to go completely silent. from now on, they are the only person who speaks to her or her attorney. They will immediately file the divorce petition in Indiana. It's their job to figure out how to serve her the papers in Missouri, so stop stressing about that part. Their absolute BIGGEST priority will be the pregnancy. They will explain that since you're still married, the law in many places presumes y…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:17 PM
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Threats" vs. Reality “Nasty Divorce” : Classic scare tactic. Dont fall for it, They want you rattled so you’ll cave to a bad deal. Don’t get sucked into angry text wars. Coole be use AGAINTS you. Whatever you send,say to ehr, Imagine the judge reading it ! Keep replies short, factual, and only about the kid. “You’ll only see our kid every other we” , again, Super common threat. Reality check: courts in almost every state go by “best interest of the child” which usually means both parents get rea…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 09:09 AM
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can you be more specific & provide concret examples?
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 11:37 AM
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Your are on the Deed so this a legal ownership stake in the home. so her simply stopping payment does not mean you automatically get "kicked out." If the mortgage payments stop, it will negatively impact everyone whose name is associated with the loan and property, including you, even if the primary loan is in her father. How old is she? are you it it is not into a perimenopause explaining her behavior?
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 11:35 AM
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What do u mean she is not just the same. This is very vague and I suspect there is nothing ground shaking that could justify it or you would have been very specific. You mean u just don't love her anymore? Don't take your friends as proof of what gonna happen if u don't gile divorce now. If there is nothing else sorry but his is a just poor justification for divorce. You need fault ground for most of us dad in this forum even if you could divorce for no justification those days. We don't recomme…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 07:08 AM
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You maybe in a divorce sub but understand that most of us men and father are by default against divorce unless there is a fault ie the old waythat make cohabitation very difficult ignore impossible( cheating, violence ..) So you did not mention any fault and you have a kid, please fight back for your marriage first. voudl we know why would you like to divorce her?
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 06:58 AM
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There’s basically no education on marriage as a prerequisite. I wish there were at least a way to ensure people are ‘wedding-ready,’ like requiring an online quiz covering basics, risks of divorce, recent statistics around it, most common marital contracts, and why they exist, before getting married. The Average man, ready to get married, spend more time on preparing his honeymoon trip than learning about his marital contract he will sign anyway The closest thing to this that filter poor mariiag…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 04:32 PM
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this number can be even around 90% if college-educated & your stat is not just for USA but worldwide (China included for eg) An attorney once compared marriage to a broken piece of technology & any other technology with such high failure rate would have been stopped/banned or at least profoundly revised. And he said Imagine being told that every time you walk through a door, there’s a 50% chance a bowling ball will hit you. You’d at least wear a helmet, put up some guards, and be prepared. But w…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 04:06 PM
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🚨WARNING🚨Your wife's profile (BPD/narcissistic traits, alcoholism, smear campaign) is TEXTBOOk ideal candidate for a "Silver Bullet Divorce. & linked PA (parental Alineation) when u wrote that "trying to align the kids against me" until dieally kids hate you so u dont see them again ( & yes it is not that hard especially if they are young & u cant see them for a while bc of false accusation). TODOS 💔CHEATING: - STD check - DNA parental test (dont her/them until confirmed may times). - While all …
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 11:56 AM
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Like lottery winner
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 09:52 PM
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Be aware of two major threats. The first is the "Silver Bullet" divorce scenario. Given her history of aggression and manipulation, a false DV or abuse claim is a very real possibility when she realizes she's lost control !!! The 2nd, which you've already seen signs of, is a brutal Parental Alienation campaign see r/ParentalAlineation for horrible stories. But your daughter is 31, so it is kinda of too late to work but if PA was already done, there is apprently some damage in your relation. She …
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 01:29 PM
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When divorce 4? Sorry but ho many divorce do u need to learn the lesson of Not getting married. And for current wife n°3 u made the rookie mistake of asking her to stay at home without knoIng that would maximize alimony to oblivion? U dodge financial disaster 2 times apparently bur ubkeep playing fire 🔥 regardless? Hope u the best anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 08:52 PM
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🚨 Heads-Up: "Silver Bullet" Divorce Tactics LSome exes play hardball to win custody, using parental alienation to turn your kids against you. Kids under 10 are super easy to sway they’ll repeat whatever their mom says, even if it’s lies about you. Worst case? She might drop serious accusations (like abuse, pedo style) to cut you off from your kids. No proof is needed bc kids testamonial' is God statement pretty much on court. It’s messed up, but kids echo what they’re told to survive with remain…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 07:34 PM
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Most crucial financial advice: freeze joint account and redirect payslip to yours. Bc once the D word is our, stealing is to be expected Froze any possibilities to add more credit on your. There is a free website to check current status on 3 vendors. . Move anything valuable from house elsewhere if it only yours. Don't move our of the house unless u wanna bleed financially and don't have the your requested child custody
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 08:54 PM
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What you're describing is quite common. That freight train analogy is spot on. The technical term if u wan read about this is Delayed-Onset PTSD: "a person does not develop a diagnosable post-traumatic stress disorder until at least six months after exposure to a traumatic event. Sometimes, it may take years for a person to begin displaying a trauma response" Healing isn't a straight line. Now that you're finally "safe" and have been happy, your brain has decided it's time to process the deep-le…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 08:01 AM
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Generall rule is to STAY at home expect in false DV(domestic violence) accusations--->Ideally you should use the compalint to remove her out but as she is pregnant & u probably cant, Get out of there. Your safety is priority #1. Physical Safety: Staying in the same house is LIETTERALY asking for another incident. Legal Shield: Living separately makes it MUCH harder for her to invent new "ongoing" DV claims against you. Every day you're not there is a day she can't claim you did something to her.…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 08:22 PM
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Kan you ban the affair partner? Almost zero chance of a total ban. The standard is "best interest of the child." So nless you can prove he's a direct danger to your kid (criminal record, abuse, etc.), a judge won't block your ex's new fucking buddy. Being a "scum bag" isn't enough legally. So what else? Push for a "morality clause" (or paramour provision) in your decree.It usually states no unrelated romantic partners can stay overnight when the child is in the house. This is your most realistic…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 04:19 PM
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The obvious // I see is with lottery winners : studies show that majority of them eventually return to their previous financial state.Ex: Michael Carroll Carroll won £9M in the National Lottery in 2002 in UK. 8 years later he returned to his old garbage job ! This means that if you give lot of money to so who doesn’t know how to manage it, most of them will go back to their "mental" financial baseline few years later if not worse, whether they’re a lottery winner or receiving a big alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 09:04 PM
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Late 40s is prime perimenopause territory & coud explain HER wanting a delusional divorce (hormones go nuts, mood swings, identity crises, “I need to find myself Blabla” trips, the whole thing . Not saying it’s Only that, but it can push some to make irrational life changes. Either way, you can’t stop the train moving. If you want to check, ONLY she can do it (doctor visit with hormone panel) & pay attention to classic symptoms (hot flashes, sleep issues, sudden mood shifts). You can suggest it …
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 03:09 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision).Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real e…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 08:14 AM
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On Pressing Charges: Your son is 16. He's trying to protect his mom and keep the peace as a short term solution. You're the father. Your job is to think long-term and protect your family. Pressing charges isn't about revenge; it's about creating a paper trail. IF you dont it, she could acccuse YOU of being the Violent ONE ! Who file first & even more she is a woman win. Whatever you file AFTER will be seen as revengeful act & discarded as such. I see this move many times in Europe & USA! It seem…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 07:53 AM
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At least use the request for money as leverage so she complies on your requests and stay amical and not cashivore lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 08:29 PM
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That's not a request; that's a cash grab. You're already agreeing to 50/50 on the kids, which is fair. Her housing is her own responsibility, especially since she has mortgage on it If this stuff were to go to court with full financial disclosure,it is more probable that she would be ordered to pay you alimony o not the other way around. Her threat seems to be a way to avoid that outcome and pressure you into an informal agreement that is financially lopsided in her favor. Why did u not asked fo…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 05:02 PM
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DO NOT IGNORE THE PETITION. U have 20 days to file a formal, written response with the court. Your goal isn't just "refusing the test." But get the entire petition dismissed before a judge ever orders a test. Your silver bullet is the other guy!!!. most places law presumes the man who signed the birth certificate and acted as the father i IZ the legal father aka "presumption of paternity." For her to come after you, she first has to legally disestablish paternity for the guy who has been paying …
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 12:14 PM
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This is a medical crisis, Act asap 1. Lazywr up yesteeday Find one experienced with cases involving severe mental illness. A Action: Ask him immediately how to handle joint bank accounts. Do not freeze or empty them without legal advice, as it can backfire. She could empty it anytime 2. FREEZE YOUR CREDIT. TODAY. Contact all three credit bureaus (Equifax, Experian, TransUnion) and place a credit freeze on your file . This prevents anyone, including her, from opening new credit in your name. Then…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 10:52 AM
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Yes, the equity in her apartment is a matrimonial asset if acquired during the marriage. The starting point for the court is a 50/50 split of the total matrimonial pot. Total Pot (her version): £180k - £50k loan + your £100k = £230k. Split = £115k each. Total Pot (your likely argument): £180k + your £100k = £280k. Split = £140k each. Your lawyer will demand hard evidence for that "friend's loan." No dpc, no loan agreement, no proof of transfer = a judge will likely dismiss it as a tactic to hide…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:08 PM
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Calling her BF 'Dad' is a hallmark sign of Parental Alienation (PA)!! Other typical signs would include kids parroting adult expressions, i.e., their mother, and thus hating you and not wanting to see you. However, since you can still see her, full PA is not yet in place. In extreme cases, her BF might even attempt to adopt her if they manage to remove your parental rights through false accusations. Be cautious, as in more advanced stages, she might use fake accusations around the kids, such as …
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 08:59 AM
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It is called parental alienation there is even a sub reddit for it. You need to learn about it as tactics used as the same: mother tell her to call bf daddy instead of you, kids parroting the mum, father demonization, administrative erasure etc . Bear in mind Pa can be linked to false accusation to make it worse like everything u can accuse a father against kids yes all of them!! This enable to have administrative erasure by the court so u cant see them with this the last stage of PA so brainwas…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 08:39 PM
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Filing for bankruptcy puts an "automatic stay" on most legal actions, which can pause the financial parts of your divorce. A bankruptcy trustee is appointed, and their job is to find all assets to pay off debts. This could actually be a good thing for you, as the trustee has broad powers to uncover the money she's hiding from the business. They are very, very good at this. The downside is it adds another layer of complexity and another set of lawyers. Your divorce lawyer and your bankruptcy lawy…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 10:39 AM
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The biggest hurdle in your plan is the pension. After 23 years, that's a massive marital asset. A judge will almost certainly split it. Thinking you can keep it entirely without a major trade-off is likely unrealistic. Revised Strategy: * Value the Pension: Ask your lawyer for a present-day valuation of that $2800/month pension. It's worth a lot more than you think. Let's say it's valued at $300k for this example. * Create a Master Balance Sheet: * House Equity: $500k Retirement: $550k (use sepa…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/25 04:49 PM
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Don't move our of the house unless u wanna create a precedent in custody and extend the divorce for years with free housing while u are bleeding fincially. When u stays she will speed up the divorce. If u really moves our ask for compensation for the virtual rent and approved by lawyer so they won't extend the situation for years to max out marital support + free housing. Yes there is one solution to push you out: dangerous move and possible if she has mental issues which I suspect with her over…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 09:40 PM
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Can they get away with it? Only if you don't have proof to counter it. The burden of proof is on HER to prove these wild accusations. At least in Theory lol Is it common? Yes it is called Silver Bullet Divorce. Google.it.and next is parental alienation google it. It's a desperate, last-ditch mov but some judges have seen it all before. What to do? DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. You're already doing it. Your evidence is your weapon. California? CA courts generally favor 50/50. They'd need serious proof to …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 09:13 PM
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Provide her supervised visitation ie you watching her interacting with them. Nothing legal or official if things go south stick to legal orders Kids will grow up with mental issues if they can't see their mother, drug addict or not unless after a certain age they explicitly tell you they don't wann see her. Even with drug addict they could be able so stay normal for one hour with kid so at least kids have a false sense of stable second parent that they can see sometimes. When they are old enough…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 11:53 AM
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I read different number and in short only a quarter are happily married. So take it further based on average divorce rate you can compute how much on average a married man would lose: in my country itt is around 30k on average regardless of divorce or not.And this theory game a woman would win that 20k minimum on average and legal system 10k Imagine if it was required to announce to Any future married man that he would lose 30k on average !!! No they just hide this financial Hot and u won't see …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 06:35 PM
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Poinr 1 to 3 at covered by just filtering only working or studying on a hard field not dumb littérature psychology bs ..just reading her CV.woild make it clear: a hard-working woman without mental issues would have no empty years in it and follow a path to excellence. A dumb one or one wiyh mental issues would cling to a man and is very dependent. Same thing for a man
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 06:30 PM
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The decree is your shield here. It's a legally binding court order. * Legally Required? Almost certainly not. The decree specified "refinance or pay off." Assumption is a different process that you are not obligated to initiate. * Non-Compliant? No. She is the one with the court-ordered obligation. You refusing to help with an alternative method doesn't make you non-compliant. She's the one who will be in contempt of the court order if the deadline passes . * What happens after 90 days? If she f…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 10:08 AM
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Damn, man. That's not a vent, it's a horror story:she treated you like a legal loophole to be exploited. Your savings for her debt, the car gifted in her name, yourlabor to fix the house just to increase her payout For the other and your future:The brutal lesson here is that the moment things go south, you stop listening to their demands and hire your own lawyer. A lawyer would have fought for your "sweat equity" and your initial investment in that house. Commingling Funds: That down payment cam…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 10:25 PM
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A kid needs to see his father unless extreme case al case like pedo etc. Most cases I know are BS and come out exactly during the divorce aka silver bullet divorce bc a s a woman u are enticed to play the DV card just before the divorce for Leverage as advised. And worst case scenario once the kid are removed from the mother as well they are now target for pedo## gang in those institute. A predator target infant without parent around it. Same thing with human. If uu are a black and poor woman an…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 12:07 PM
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Yes obviously if she just stop like magic just before divorce..very suspicious especially for she was a consistent higher earner. Solution: amputés income will force her to work anyway. If this is not taking onto account , sadly u have to use the same strategy, after discussing it with lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 02:08 PM
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She is trying z form of parental alienation. Google it. With evr mental state and past violence your re at Very High risk of Silver Bullet Divorce. Google it. Ir does not matter if u are Mister White Perfect with University Degree and over 40 With no record. Once she throws the accusation as youz re a man u are de facto the violent one. And if she accused you of anything around your son like pedo or violence u won't see him until this is over. And during that time frame she will brain washed him…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 11:31 PM
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Offer to trade your share of the house equity for her share of your military retirement. This is most realistic path to keeping pension. Biggest Leverage:She cannot refinance the house. If she rejects your offer, your backup is to force a sale Key Financial Arguments (Credits Owed to You): * The $13k in CC debt you paid post-separation. * All mortgage, tax, and insurance payments you've made since you moved out. * Compensation for her tying up your personal VA loan entitlement. Moves to Consider…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 03:39 PM
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Lawyer up asap..he may tell you to fill or do this and that before her to kill any accusation before birth .that is your list urgent task..don't tell.her she is too Instable and u could get a nuked response Hidden audio record and bait her to admit again she was threatened you to call police for false accusation. Make sure to say her name. Gogole silver bullet divorce and parental alienation. You are at Very high risk of her using it. Don't ever stay next to her without hidden recording plus 10f…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 10:52 PM
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Unclear & desired-based reasons for divorce make you sounds like a woman style post & expected to be praised after her selfish divorce ("go go queen"). If your read men's stories here , there is this invariant: father stay & suffer & even if we are just roommates, even if she abused her for years verbally, insult us, bc of the greater good: the KIDS ! So usually none of us would recommend a divorce for lifestyle-driven reasons such as she not your best friend or you dont have sex every 2 days as…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 01:09 PM
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Destructive behavior: hiding car keys, throwing them into a neighbor's yard, and locking you out of your own truck. . & the Collision. Chasing her at a full sprint. Her part was turning into you. In these situations, it doesn't matter who's "more" at fault; the whole thing is just toxic and dangerous. ---> FROM NOW ON STAY 20 feet away FROM HER: + + never meet her again without witness &/or hidden recording with phone or better a wrist watch (nobody suspect a recording wrist watch ) & explain wh…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 07:28 AM
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Sometimes the truth hurts more but brings clarity, even if it’s painful & frees you from doubt and suspicion, which poison relationships over time. Imagine if the mother tells the kids one day that his real dad is someone else. Better know it before
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 08:23 PM
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where you divorced long time ago? which number(s) above in my comment did she "play" with you, out of curiosity?
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 06:17 PM
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Community: Everything earned or acquired during the marriage is presumed community.Stuff you had before +gifts & inheritances made to one spouse alone, are usually separate. But… if you commingle the heck out of something, it can morph into community (or at least get fuzzy). House: Even if her mom “gifted” the down-payment, the equity built up from mortgage principal reduction and appreciation during the marriage is community. Her mom’s gift letter is gold. It says “no repayment expected,” which…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 05:29 PM
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Lesson learned for the others: Avoid a mom & raise a kid that’s not yours. - Responsibilities without NO rights. If she divorces , unless you legally adopted the kid u have ZERO rights to see him. Imagiene investing time/$$$ into a kid only to be ghosted - The “You’re not my father!” moment WILL come. One day that kid gets upset, & can drop the nuke:“You’re not even my REAL dad!” meanwhile u pour time/$$$ someone else’s DNA. - You’re in a love triangle you didn’t sign up for. Yep. The reald -fat…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 01:49 PM
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you wrote "she was thinking about seeing other people " 💔CHEATING ALERT💔 don’t be fooled!! She is testing the water & dont wanna hide him anymore & want your cuckold blessing!" TODOS: STD check 💉 Put the recorder on your phone (dont tell) & Ask her: "When you asked for a separation how long have you been with your BF?" Then watch closely: PAUSE = hesitation = guilt-> She is filtering the truth. Eyes Looking to the top right (from HER point of view->ie YOUR left) means it is a lie with 90% accura…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 10:08 AM
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Dead bed room + She is in a seduction phase--> I smell 💔CHEATING💔. TODOS: STD checks DNA parental test 🧬 while you have access to your kids (dont her/them)Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony. eg: Michigan courts consider “a party’s fault in causing the divorce” when settin…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 07:54 AM
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Possible reasons she’s gone ninja silent mode: Lawyer told her to shut up. First thing many attorneys say is “stop talking, start gathering docs, don’t tip your hand.” afraid of confrontation / guilt-ridden Conflict avoidance. She hates confrontations, so she outsources the ugly parts to a lawyer. Line up all finances before you notice. like pausing pension contributions or opening new accounts ,harder to undo once they’re set. Protecting an affair!!!. Silence keeps you from asking pointed quest…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 09:41 PM
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VIOLENCE She’s yelling, belittling, and putting hands on you in front of your kids. You need to record her & describd EVEYTHING as a blind is litening. Can be used in case of contentiuous divorce & used for fault-based divorce. Silver Bullet Divorce: You are at risk of being a victim of it Read about it to be prepared bc she has mental issues && could FLIP the table once the D word is out & accuse YOU OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE(DV). Yes you read that !!! this is NOT a typo. Typical strategy of violent…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 09:03 PM
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Why are u paying everything dude? Are you livig in a Islamic country that require you to do so? If not, What is the point of paying everything if your marital contract specify that it is 50\50 in % of your income. She just has the benefit of both world: privatizing her income while using yours as property community lol She is probably hiding all assets she can and need more time hence the silence. It does not matter where u leave, there is always financial "montage" to hide stuff and appears in …
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 03:33 PM
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Alimony :You need to stop to make that much if not needed . You gonnat get alimony to oblivion with such income !!! Same thing with kid pension Why 2 jobs? I guess as it is remote you are not doing 16h per day but overlap them somehow. Slavery You are cooking and doing everything? What is she is doing all day? You are not a piece of shit as u said but you allowed her this behaviour sorry man! You shoud not had a 2nd baby bc u gonna have no even more work noW. Therapy:She clearly has mental issue…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 01:13 AM
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You are exaggerating about the 80%: how can asking your credit report, list any assets, do a financial snapshot of whatever you have, do do a house inventory, tell your neighbor to warn you if he sees a moving truck is illegal anywhere in ANY country in the world? Anyway, all financial points need to be discussed by attorney bc unfortunately they dont give your a Urgent CheckList TODOS & adapted for your case & distill their info mostly orally & & not fully as they are paid by the hour. And it i…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 12:02 PM
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Silver Bullet Divorce: You are a potential victim of it Read about it to be prepared bc she has mental issues & I bet hidden past secret explaining her mental instability you probably dont even know about them (like rape, incest when younger etc) Learn about police tactics if falsely accused bc u may need it Prep phase (now). • Copy every bank/retirement/tax document, kids’ records, insurance, mortgage, car titles, backup any photos of family before erased , Screenshot balances; Open a new check…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 10:12 AM
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When she saw you with another woman, she probably thought you had something new going on more $$ or better status. That’s called preselection. Then she starts wondering if she overlooked something valuable in you. So she checked , But meanwhile she finds a "better branch" and swings to it . Until that branch breaks... and suddenly she could be back again. Don’t let yourself be played twice. Know your worth.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 09:53 AM
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Put everything in chronological folders; lawyers love organized clients !!! 6. Ask your attorney about • Emergency/temporary orders (exclusive use of the home, asset freeze, temporary support). • Whether to file first (often advantageous in long-term marriages). • Spousal support/alimony expectations • Valuing and dividing retirement accounts (QDROs). • Keeping or buying out the house vs. selling it.• Limits on surveillance/recording so you remain on the right side of the law. • e “standing rest…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 08:16 PM
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Protect physical evidence & docs • Back up camera footage in the Cloud • Photograph + video every room so you have a time-stamped inventory of what’s still in the house. • Gather the originals you still possess in a friend’s s home or a bank safe-deposit box • Make a master list of documents she already removed 2. Lock down finances Open a new checking account in your name only at a bank she doesn’t use. Move direct deposit for your paycheck there. Order all 3 credit reports on yourself (Experia…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 08:00 PM
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U.S. passport for kids under 16 implies BOTH parents have to sign. You can just say “no.” • Still worried she’ll try something later? Put the kids on the State Dept’s Child Passport Issuance Alert Program. • Canadian passport: same deal—mom usually needs your OK unless a court order says otherwise. Once passports exist ,yep, they don’t always ask for a “dad says it’s fine” letter at the border. So yeah, travel gets easier for her So: - Tell her you’ll sign AFTER a new court order spells out trav…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 12:08 PM
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Youa re a victim of SIlver Bullet Divorce, possible if your ex has mental issues. Accusations can be worse (rape, pedo##) with upcoming Parental Alineation on your kid. This may be NOT finished. Please read link above to protect you. Other pages of my wiki worth reading: Digital helmet: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/digital-helmet-81atoqy7cs-bilfhf0dfd9n Police tactics: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/police-tactics-rq03uzst21-t733uq1yhydh Protective order: https://…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 11:56 AM
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State laws can vary a lot. But in general, courts look at a few key things when deciding if this "dissipation" Timing matters If you gave something away after things started going south—like after marriage counseling, moving out, or hiring a divorce lawyer—that’s a big Red flag. gift was made years ago when the marriage seemed fine?, harder to challenge Who got it? Gifts to kids (e.g. college tuition) or real charities usually don’t get touched. But if it went to a friend, or some random LLC you…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 02:55 PM
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What to Expect: 🚨I Am Not A Lawyer🚨 This is info to help you ASK a lawyer the right questions. You MUST get a real lawyer Yesterday The Financial Lockdown This is the 🚨🚨MooOOOOSST critical financial advice🚨🚨 and can save you tens of thousands of dollars. The moment you are physically separated, you must act swiftly. Split Your Income: Reroute your direct deposit to a new, individual bank account in your name only. Freeze Joint Accounts: Contact your bank and freeze all joint checking, savings, a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 09:30 AM
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The vasectomy demand cant only come from so mentally disturbed. In a Dumb & Dumber Movie STyle, I would have asked her first to do a Mastectomy 🤪 - LAWYER. UP. YESTERDAY. One who specializes in military divorce. you tried to DIY a divorce with a BPD/BP spouse. You're bringing a knife to a nuke fight lol + your OFFER IS TOO NICE. You're in "please just leave me alone" MODE and offering her the whole damn kingdom & friendly vastecomy maybe??. Your lawyer will start with a normal offer (like 50/50 …
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 08:44 AM
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Instead he rewarded her with marriage. So she can continue cheating With little repercusion Like a badly written soap opera with a military guy deployed on the other side of Earth fighting for a fake War while being cheated while he risk his life for her. I honestly thought for a sec this is a Troll! Maybe NONE of those kids are his kids. Victim of the Cuckoo bird 🐦. Never saw this level of denial with Building-size Red Flag. This seems mean but I wrote that way to wake up you!! u need to wake u…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 07:29 AM
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I just see your story with this prisme: you and his ex are fighting for his resourced and u are not happy that another woman is sucking it while being with him lol Don't date a broke maybe. Her ex can harassed until the kid is adult so u know how many years are left
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 07:00 AM
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add he does NOT have children, period
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 08:50 PM
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DNA parental test from a reputable laboratory(dont ask/tell her/them unless double/triple confirmation) You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. U cant know when she started cheating STD check 💉
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:29 PM
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bear in mind going back to the HOME is a very dangerous move bc more false DA down the line Now she probably knows what works & not, she can just hit herself or & Even Worse accusations( rape, pedo## more on link below) AKA Silver Bullet Divorce So if he still wanna stay: The Camera is his insurance policy against another bogus DA charge. so yes BUT ONLY in common areas like kitchen, hallways, entryways , not bathroom or bedroom. With AUDIO? He needs to check his state's laws on audio recording.…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 09:47 AM
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Lawyer up YESTERDAY: priority number 1 & make sur to mention him the points below (record him, dont ask & tell, so u go as fast as possible) so u can listen back with a trusted partner (4 eyes strategy) & takes notes AFTER when relaxed/at home + Document EVERYTHING: Take pics of the boxes in her truck+ empty spaces in basement. Make a written list of EVERY single doc and stuff you know is missing. Bank: Open a new bank account in your name only at a completely different bank. + Redirect paycheck…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 07:55 AM
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You are still somehow in denial: given her history, you cannot treat this as a "one-off" incident as you said. His intense need to practice counting is a classic trauma response (Hypervigilance, PTSD) ie trying to be "good" so it won’t happen again with you and he Call your lawyer yesterday, and then CPS first thing in the morning if he agrees. Getting him into therapy is the right call — a therapist adds a pro voice to the case. Do not confront her or tip her off. Let your lawyer make the next …
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 01:15 PM
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**Document Everything:**when she is gone, evenings locked in her room, when she leaves them to you unexpectedly, your engagement with the kids (school events, play time, doc visits...). it is to protect in a potential custody dispute.When she mentions her "soulmate" You need to demonstrate that you are the primary, stable caregiver. If u are really sure, Initiate the Divorce Once she has a few paychecks, not before When ready, Freeze Joint Accounts, Contact your bank and immediately freeze all j…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 11:45 AM
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💔CHEATED💔: Todos STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get🤑🤑 Alienation of affection , aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few sta…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 10:05 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u have a lawyer-approved agreement is in place or legally advised/forced to do so (you lawyer or judge decision). Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a ho…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 10:03 AM
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Did they saw you beating their mom or this is false accusation ? If second point then you are a victim of parental alienation google it..YouTube has documentaries on it. You should be lucky u can even see them. Once old enough they could just decide to not come if they decide or ex said so about them so u won't see them
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 10:08 PM
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You dont have the WORST case.. My brother just can see his kid AT ALL since 3 years, it is called PARENTAL ALIENATION. ie kids hating to see him bc they have been brainwashed + . It is VERY LIKELY than that judge will interrupt YOU before you finish bc you statement explicitly declares u wont presenting evidence and is instead a critique of the process+ so A judge will recognize this immediately & make you shut up. So what goal will you attain if they stop you at sentence N°3 ?
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 05:26 PM
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"But I will not participate in pretending it reflects justice, or truth, or even shared burden". All student in law learns that during their first lessons, the Legal system is NOT justice & NOT moral. So nothing new. Justice system has only the word in it for historical reason, nothing more. YOur statement is confrontational &act of defiance.so A judge is highly likely to perceive it as an attack on their integrity. This will almost certainly have a BAD impact on any rulings, resulting in a judg…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 04:14 PM
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Resilience: ability to adapt & the capacity to absorb and manage difficult emotions. You're going through a tough time, so it's time to add some cushions Physical Get your body in shape: ⚠️lift weights, do cardio⚠️ You need to be strong, both physically and mentally, to take on the challenges ahead. It is either this or take depression pills. Exercise has been studied as being as good as Prozac Get a full bloodwork before starting to see result a year from now. Add STD check while u are on it...…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 04:04 PM
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Talke about your lawyer to file a Motion to Enforce . This is the official "cut the crap" form you send to the judge. make sure to Organize proof for each violation (therapy, communication, etc.) to make it easy for the judge to see she's in breach. + Frame everything around impact on your kids. This is what courts CARE about most. Ask the judge to force her to follow the rules AND make her pay for your attorney's fees for having to file. Your "clean hands" (ie you following the rules perfectly)…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 04:01 PM
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"video evidence is inversely proportional to ex-spouse's alimony demands." I laughed lol Thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 09:46 AM
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This is textbook domestic violence (DV) in a legal sens:Destruction, threats. Just because she hasn’t HITyou doesn’t mean it’s not DV. But you are a man & maybe one of color (so double bias against you) & would need solid proof as just her Holy accusation could be enough for DV accusations against you ( yes it is very classic for a violent woman to flip the table & accuse YOU of being violent) GO FILE a Report or handrail EVEN JUST A draft to the police so u have a legal trail you could use if t…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 09:37 AM
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Yes, this is textbook coercive control & domestic violence (DV) in a legal sens. You probably think that DV is ONLY when physical violence is involved. WRONG. We are not in the 90s. Domestic Violence include psychologic one, economical one , sexual (marital rape) etc You can't know for sure of if was her who took the wallet and passport bc nothing move the needle towards her. Just don't let them anymore withing her reach from now on . Controlling behavior, destruction, threats, phone control — a…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 05:07 PM
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With your comments throwing it away or discarding it for pennies , I feel there’s a market opportunity in recycling style ♻️: buy rings from divorced angry men and resell them to the “new fish” 🐟 for half the discount price in a refurbished package.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 12:57 PM
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#1c priority: Stop the Bleeding, bc u are in an unsustainable financial situation. You CANT fight if you are bankrupt. as u said, You have experienced a "material and substantial change in circumstances" since the orders were signed. +The fact that you are operating at a documented monthly deficit -->SO The original order is no longer viable. Soo Here Your Financial Affidavit is Key: pay out $12,600/month from an income of $11,800. This is mathematically impossible. So demand to recalculate chil…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 11:40 AM
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U are at a fork & both paths suck in their own way. - A: "bite the bullet," stay miserable, and continue living in this resentfu for the rest of your life. & walking on eggshells until death or she ask divorce. but You save your retirement - Path B: You take the massive financial hit& gonna hurt like hell but that it is the price of freedom. If i were you, i will ask another lawyer to get a 2nd opinion& record it to ask as much questions as possible & listen back when back home & share it with s…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 09:54 AM
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Ok more clear, bear in mind this has nothing to do with who pay what Lot of men are thropw OUT of the house as decided by judge during the separation phase as request by her & pay EVYTHING while bleeding miserably in small room bc "kids interested "blablabla & her being the primary care taker. Hope it would be an amicale divorce but always have a backup Plan ie Documenting asap Your Involvement: Every time you take a child to a appointment (date, time, doctor, reason)e or game or meeting you att…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 04:51 PM
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Usual yada yada for the veterans here bt, but dont leave the home as she will probably ask u to move for "the kids" lol unless u plan on purpose to reduce kids custody time after divorce by creating a precedent. It is a ABC, 101 typical men Divorce Mistake + If this goes into a conflictual divorce, du need to know if u are in a fault-approved state to use it during the divorce. Even in no-fault ones, u can still used it at your advantage in some case so make sure to gather proof around it or tal…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 03:51 PM
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totally, his neural pathway is already there so easy to go through it with less fear. You brother probably knows that intuitively. In most society, it is not a shame to be married with a male divorcee. Does he has kids? If yes, things will be more complicated
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 11:51 AM
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A familly attorney said he would recommend marriage to his daughter but NOT to his son
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 08:17 AM
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It's legal to "level the playing field" so you can't just "out"-lawyer her just bc she is broke. Your only move is to document every violation of the MSA and her bad-faith delays. Mayb have your lawyer file a motion for contempt to show the judge she's abusing the system. This is your leverage to get the order stopped. It's a war of attrition
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 08:16 AM
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How about you're taking a legitimate risk to build something for yourself. A lower income in the first few years is a natural, defensible result. #1 Lawyer Up. Find a shark one who specializes in post-judgment modifications. Ask them one question What does a judge need to see for a 'material change in circumstances' to be considered legitimate? #2 The Grind. Launch a REAL business you care about. If a judge thinks it's a sham, you're toast. You have to build a track record. This is the hardest p…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 03:44 PM
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Stoicism: you cant be angry if is raining or cold outside bc you just CANt cotnrol the weather so you should not feel sad about it. That is a core tenant of stoicism. Focus on what you can control only ! The Circle of Control: its a concept from Stoic philosophy could be useful in your case: Inner Circle (What U CAN Control): Your physical health (you're already working on it ). Your response to your thoughts (u don't have to believe them or let them rule you). How you spend time with your kids.…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 03:44 PM
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what she wants as a Wife or husband, this has nothing to do with law. He & she as well cant be kicked out unless a judge order it & has all the right to stay there unless she play the domestic violence card. U need to separate feelings (wife, love, husband blabla) & what is legal. So both can stay until a judge decides that one needs to move. Also this is NOT necessarily the best interests of the children. That is the typical excuse used by the wife to push him over. "it is for kids, babe! Plz M…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 01:13 PM
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SAHW: You wanted a SAHW from day 1?The traditional model is at its most vulnerable in a divorce. bc built on the premise that it would last forever but i wont (50% chance)! Sot it was a Rookie mistake: the alimony will be through the roof bc of that choice making her dependent on you. DONT count on her to work now lol Her Attorney will tell her to stay put. 1.⚠️DO NOT LEAVE & GO TO THE GUESTHOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or signed lawyer-approved agreement is in place near divorce. Repeat that…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 12:59 PM
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Only if she has mental issues, she will play the Parental Alienation card & for that she needs to accuse you of very bad thing especially around your daughter.... to push you away aka Silver Bullet Divorce So question is that: does she have untreated mental issues? Like she breaks things around, house is a constant mess & she seems lazy as fuck, dont wanna work, hit you, can't sustain any job etc You need to provide more details about your job, her job, daughter's age, etc to get better answer
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 09:02 AM
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at least record any attorney call/meeting. Make it as fast a s possible & prepare questions in advance in inverse order of importance so most important one & if u run out of time , the biggest ones were asked already. Dont ask explanation in technical term. U can relisten it & with someone else (4 eyes strategy) while alone & will be astonished ho much you missed bc your brain was analyzing last 5s whil he was speaking & ask ask IA for any obscure point. We did it that way . We save thousand of …
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 10:09 PM
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You are a victim of SILVER Bullet DIVORCE. & parental Alienation down the line (ie your kid hating you up bc brainwashed to the point u wont be able to see him). This it NOT a breakup but very highly conflicted divorce LAWYER UP. YESTERDAY. Not JAG. A civilian attorney who specializes in military divorce in Hawaii id possible. Your career and future with your kid are on the line. This is your #1 priority. Chain Of Command. talk to your First Sergeant and Commander in the loop. Show them the "unf…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 12:55 PM
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1-how could u be sure the miscarriage one was yours anyway? She may have started cheating even before. 2. Failed Step dad ? Lucky you, you just dodged a Giant bullet: You can raise the kids for years and still have no legal rights to them. If she leaves, you’re out—no right at all , visitation, nothing .Just a thanks for the $$/time spent on her/him !! You get responsibilities without real authority. You’re expected to provide and parent, but one argument and you might hear the kid shout as usua…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 12:47 PM
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Marriage is flexible. Most men would stay and just do colocation. Better than broken finances and kids. You clearly need therapy. Love will never stay anyway. You are confusing wife with friend I think. I used have very little common interest with my wife and it was totally fine. I think that the greater good of a stable family is better than my strict personal interest of having a sexy,4ever young & hard-working & best-friend woman lol . For divorce anyway u can't let her stay unemployed. That …
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 11:08 AM
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not clear who is in the house now but DONT LEAVE THE HOUSE !!! unless judge tell you to move or near divorce with signed agreement. Details on why here
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 09:36 AM
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a man did a one-sided hidden divorce while still living with her for more 20yo to protect his fortune& she discovered it decades later lol. Details here
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 07:54 AM
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"she will not fight with me if she can rent the house till she can buy it." Make sure to have it in a signed lawyer approved agreement BEFORE leaving it. Promises are only binding on those who believe in them, especially if you are the one paying the credit.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 05:57 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or sined agreeemnt near divorce is approved by your lawyer. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 02:24 PM
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Bezos has not learn his lesson. he probably did some diamon-level prenup but it is only need a judge disagreement to make it exploded & aound millions in legal fees. Legal system is not predictable science. His 50s wife was already married etc she sill wanted a pristine virgin young 20s something romantic marriage in Venise. No way a billionaire will stil with her next 20yo. He is probably harassed by a constant stream of 20s hot goldigger & will fall again & cheat & divorce etc
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 10:15 AM
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I'm incredibly glad you made that call. . Reading that you called your counselor is the best news. Now that u have proof she wants you dead as predicted than FIght The Snake back ! Dont listen to her poison ! You need to know that it's completely normal to not be thinking straight right now. Your mind and body are in crisis mode. No one could think clearly in your position. What you're feeling is an understandable reaction to trauma. Making that call was the single most important step. Keep focu…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 08:31 AM
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Lawyer Up Yesterday: Tell him that she leaves you with the kids 100% of the time. This sets a precedent for custody. Unknowingly, she helped you ! Document every night she leaves on a google drive or sililar.Every. Single. One. Paper trail: Make sure to communicate to her discreetly each time she left you them by msg " Hey, Max is asking you when u are gonna come back? managing him with Jenny is difficult. It is been 10h now that i am handling them & I need to rest" The Schedule: Send her a text…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 08:15 AM
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Congratulations on cutting loss BEFORE kids/1 house, 10 years later.Many men here regret not doing it as early as you bc they were in denial, naive etc. It would ONLY get worse once u have kids /house with such woman's type. Washington is a community property state.Legally, the starting point for division is 50/50 for all assets and debts acquired during the marriage. It doesn't matter that the accounts are in your name. That $200k is considered "community property," and her legal claim starts a…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 03:28 PM
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FINANCES & ASSETS: She stole from you. if acquired during the marriage, it's considered JOINY property. Give your lawyer a detailed list with estimated values Retirement: xThe portion of her retirement earned during the marriage is very likely a marital asset you are entitled to a share of. The Income Disparity: She is demanding you get a better job while she earns $68k and you earn $23k. DONT !!!This will be a major factor in court. U are entitled to temporary spousal support (alimony) to help …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 03:10 PM
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#1: CRISIS TRIAGE - YOUR LIFE IS THE #1 PRIORITY Your child needs their father. Secretly, Your ex will PROBABLY be happy that u just give her EVEYTHING by killing youself. Dont !!! Tell Your Counselor Hand him the ripped-up letter if you have to. They are trained PRO equipped to help you with this specific, overwhelming feeling. This is what they are there for. DONT HOL BACK ! Call or Text a Hotline (free): National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 03:09 PM
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Tell him how do I feel. Divorced or not you are older enough to see him if you want so . This or not the end but the era of something différent. Ok he will not come to your room and kiss your front head lol but u can probably meet him outside like any friend without mom's approval . You also never mentioned your real father. Unless he is in jail or dead u need to so something about it. You clearly lack a father figure
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 09:06 AM
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Bear in mind in some part of the world ie not western countries (eg: in 50 muslim countries), a woman cannot divorce bc she feels it. She need like judge-approved reason like physical violence abandoned etc. Default marriage contract is one with seperation. And even after fault based divorce is accepted, the father remains the legal custodian and as final world for every major decision of the divorced kid. Mother can take care of them if agreed when very young. And being divorce is considered a …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 09:00 AM
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She could not want to and once she earns 2x you can ask for it. It both ways
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 08:45 PM
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Triage Mode: ON. Ask yourself: "What is the absolute most critical thing I must do in the next 3 hours?" Right now, that’s probably your aunt's affairs & your mom. Focus ONLY on that. The divorce, the house sale, work—they can wait Lower the Bar to the Dam floor. You don't have to be the perfect son, perfect Ex, and the perfect employee right now. So Give yourself permission to do a C- job at some of these tstuff Boundaries with the Ex. It's okay to say, "I care about you and I will help you wit…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 08:45 AM
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Sounds like domestic violencd ce towards kids. The kid needs to go a specialist pedotherapist and this one will either confirm that and this can be used in court or refer to something else
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 06:16 AM
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i want also this money if he dont mind & i am a man lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 10:36 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or u have a signed lawyer-approved agreemnt NEAR divorce date. THAT is a TRAAAppPPP Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the we dad." or ATM machine Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF in YOUR bed lol Don't fall for her suggestion, claiming it's better for everyone/kids. She wi…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 10:32 PM
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as stated in my usual advice (not here): "Only exception : If she's violent or has mental issues, and you're at risk of bogus domestic violence accusations & & TRO strike( i.e. a judge telling you to get out).. If so, Read t Silver Bullet Divorce Method/Protective order " but it is a minority
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 03:11 PM
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enough recording to make a netflix series. DONT throw them, u never now, & at least your kids may listen them in the future in case they side with her too much & rewrite the past
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 08:37 AM
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Oregon is a "no-fault" divorce state. ie They won't "punish" her but look at the numbers and make things "equitable." so You can't say, "She was mean, she gets nothing." BUT u can say, "Her actions caused specific, provable financial damage to our marital estate, and that needs to be factored in." Here are your main angles of attack. Financial Abuse & Affairs = "Dissipation of Assets." u need to prove she wasted marital money on non-marital things. lke hotels, gifts, dinners, and trips for her a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 08:31 AM
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dont leave the house even if she asked for it until judge force you or u got a signed, lawyer-approved agreement with her or else u will blind financially & let her have child custody as requested.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 08:09 AM
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Yes he has probably a nice naive view n how men are treated in court bc so far he is biased bc he is the victim. He don't understand hO random and cruel this could turn against him as a man seeing as only a violent person and atm machine
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 08:05 PM
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Yes he is at high risk of silver bullet divorce and reverse of accusation and probably not aware ho men are treated when things are reversed He loves her obviously and blind and in denial of the reality
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 08:00 PM
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Focus on protecting your kid, not on "not being the bad guy." On Custody: You have a very good chance at getting primary or even full custody. * The "Best Interest of the Child" is the #1 rule. A judge's main job is to keep your daughter safe. * Your wife has a documented history of violent outbursts (the arrest, broken glass). The kid was in the home. This is a mAjor ed flag for any family court judge. * Her not taking the court/CPS demands seriously is a gift to your case. It shows she's not a…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 07:58 PM
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On Hidden Money: If she hid money, spent it recklessly (e.g., gambling or gave it away without your consent, a court can make her pay it back into the "marital pot" during the divorce settlement. A lawyer can hire a forensic accountant to find it. * Alimony+ temporary spousal support right now because you have no income. This would force her to cover your living expenses during the separation and extend it for years. This is classic loophole * Housing: As the primary caregiver f very high chance…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 07:11 PM
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only at start u can tell him to act that way than it fades awaysomehiow in the conversation as it gets longer. using other IA than chatgpt or just challenge it by taking the opposite side like "criticize this approach "
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 04:11 PM
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Can do the same with notebookllm in a more reliable wat to gather legal evidence in case of accusation or just do as you did. Chatgpt is more prone to hallucinations while Notebookllm will cite the exact conversation snippets for each points 👉 easier for double check ✅. I personally helped a friend to gather evidence from his messages for his high conflit divorce. This would have cost him thousands in fees if he would have asked an attorney & i dont think any one would have read years of exchang…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 07:44 AM
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Usual advice: Don't leave the house 🏠 unless near divorce and signed agreement on what u want or judge will tell u to move. Why? 1. Hee attorney will advise her to make the seperation onger to benefit from free housing and marital support 2. You create a precedent in kids custody by setting her as the primary caretaker 3. She has no incentives to make the divorce faster if u are away and stay aATM machine 4. She may have her bf living in your place in your bed at your expenses and ask kids to ca…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 06:53 AM
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if she gets period, u should find bloody wipes in the small bin toilets as usual Just propose her u handle ALL the bin & throw them. If u dont see them within 2 months this is self explanatory. or just ask her to show you one when she have it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 12:01 PM
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in a nutshell: Stop trying to teach her the law ¯\ (ツ)_/¯. Propose mediation so a neutral pro can educate her. Insist you BOTH get your own lawyers (aka ILA) to make the agreement stick. If she refuses everything, you file, she gets served, and the system WILL FORCE her to learn anyway but this will be expensive so last resort. _________________________________________________________________ Here’s the game plan. -Stop Being Her Legal Encyclopedia. You are the "enemy" right now. Nothing you say…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 09:53 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or near divorce u have a signed agreement on what u want (virutual rent, child custody..). Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house w…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 10:20 AM
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Mistake n°1: you should NOT have left the house WITHOUT an agreement on child custody, virtual rent etc. This could continue for years as her evil attorney will try anything push further the date if divorce ti squeeze out of your marital support + free housing while you are bleeding financially + advise to NOT work, at least officially. This is ABC textbook strategy for stay at home mother or similar . In dont know where u leave but in my place this situation ca last up to 8 years.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 07:45 AM
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You a probably a victime of Parental Alienation and usual excuse of the parent is that she is not pulling the trigger but the kids has their own will parroting her .
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 06:43 AM
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Be careful about relocation. She may wants to move near her parents and ask you to help and then divorce there donu will be stuck in her state to see your kid. For Your Marriage (If You Both Want to Save It): * Stop Defending and Start Validating: When she brings up the past, your immediate instinct is probably to get defensive and say, "We already talked about this! it's about acknowledging her pain in the present moment. Right now, she doesn't feel heard. * Radical Transparency: You need to be…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 07:06 PM
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Take all document and proof of eveythin she has. Scan them and store them outside on a secure private cloud or at a friend place. This include any certification or diploma payslip she has
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 10:21 PM
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Easy peasy: ask for the home and her out and stretch out as long as possible the financial support plus child pension during separation. That is why she is advising you to work before divorce lol Any attorney will tell you not to Work to maximize alimony and still manage the kids as usual . Bear in mind u have the leverage and should be given primary custody bc of your past dad at home normally Than ask oblivion alimony for all men that got it. Std check and DNA parental test should be done in h…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 10:16 PM
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You are at risk of bogus accusation aka silver bullet divorce method. Google it. Advice. Record all interactions from now on and say her name and make sure to described whatever happens as the recipient of it is a blind 🦯 guy. Make sure to not ask permission. Also the advantage is that u can relisten it and notice any weried pattern or make sure to check u did not shout when she said u shout blablabla. Also consider that from no on u have been recorded all the time so watch your tongue. Always s…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 08:37 PM
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I would add USa need to take her out asap with us taxes. It is not just for you but she is a threat for the whole 🌎!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 12:39 PM
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Don't move our of the house. This is a rookie mistake. If u don't understand I can details it. Gather all proof of her cheating to geta fault-based divorce. Once the D word is out everything can be stolen I using u care and judge don't care most cases as I are married. So make sure to take pics and proof of everything valuable outside of the house. And even secure expensive object that are only yours outside. Same thing for all financial docs I clouding her payslip etc. And stop the joint accoun…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 12:37 PM
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Propose her a therapy. If she don't improve a lot within max 1 year or she refused just moves on!!! U are a husband nor a therapist. Once u have a kid With her maybe a sick one and house u will burn or explode as mental issues just makes evythinf more complicated and 💥 All older men that stay with baggage women regret their choice after years and children. Trust your guts if you don't see you with her next 30 years. She probably has dark secrets that explain her mental states such as incest rape…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 12:10 PM
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U made a very common mistake : leaving the house without being at risk if false accusation. Guess what her attorney si advising her? Stretch out as long as possible the seperqtiob phase for free housing and financial support form you. He advise her to NOT work to maximize ho much she gets form you and than alimony based on income differences. Plus you created a precedent for custody by making her the primary care taker. Talk to Your Lawyer About "Imputed Income":concept where a court can attribu…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 07:17 AM
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Than don't buy house or anything that would be a pain to separate. Don't buy anything expensive that would be for both. Renting is a safe option eve. If expensive
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 09:51 PM
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it is not a white or black scenario. Phase 1: - Water is Your Best Friend: This is the #1 answer for back injuries. The buoyancy of water takes the load off your spine& get your HR up with minimal impact. eg: Deep Water Walking/Jogging, Swimming, Water Aerobics: - The "Essential" Work A physical therapist will guide you here, but this is the stuff that will actually let you return to sports. * Dead Bugs: Lying on your back, slowly lowering opposite arm and leg. * Bird-Dogs: On all fours, extendi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 01:13 PM
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You are a typical victim of SIlver Bullet Method & parental alinenation False accusation can get WAY worse so make sure to read the link above to be prepared. Resilience is the ability to adapt & the capacity to absorb and manage difficult emotions. You're going through a tough time, so it's time to add some cushions Physical Get your body in shape: lift weights, do cardio You need to be strong, both physically and mentally, to take on the challenges ahead. It is either this or take depression p…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 07:18 AM
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Secure the proof of t while you can. It can be used as leverage if divorce becomes a contentious one. 💔CHEATED?💔 STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony Alienation of affection , aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few states, allowing a married or divorced person or to sue a 3rd party for damaging their marital rela…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 06:13 AM
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Past "baggage" you probably dont know could explained her behavior (eg: incest). - Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) Traits: her disproportionate rage is a classic sign. For u it creates an environment where you are constantly "walking on eggshells." . This is a form of emotional abuse. - Othello Syndrome: This is NOT normal jealousy. It's a delusional, paranoid belief that is not based in reality. No amount of reassurance, proof, or perfect behavior on your part will ever be enough Since yo…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 12:27 AM
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I think BestIntereste App (never tested) may help you WITHOUT her needing to install it & rephrase Trash Talk into neutral one so u dont get triggered BUT still get the message. Once install, app will assign you with a 2nd phone number which you can provide to her. ALL communication should go through this number, and it is safe to block them your ex on all other channels.& and let the AI filter review incoming messages. This way, you only see what’s necessary for effective coparenting communicat…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 12:12 AM
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Nope unfortunately "There’s NO option to create a ToneMeter report, and none of the ToneMeter feedback is recorded. It’s just a tool for self-reflection. It’s entirely up to you what you do with this feedback. " Source here I know many users asked for this feature but for whatever reason they WONT develop it as it would have helped any attorney say to the judge On X different occasions in the last month, a neutral, third-party AI informed her that her language was emotionally charged. On all tho…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 10:37 PM
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The "Lighter" Legal Option: A Formal Cease & Desist Letter You instruct your attorney to draft a formal letter to her attorney. This letter should: State clearly that your ex-wife's communication constitutes a pattern of harassment. including several of the worst examples (like the ones you shared).+State that this high-conflict communication is not in the best interest of the children. Demand that all future communication cease on personal channels and be restricted to a single, dedicated email…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 06:39 PM
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Yes, many people have successfully forced the use of OFW through court order. It is very common in high-conflict cases for the reasons you're describing. the attroneys reluctance are common, may be signs of attorneys who either want to avoid a fight or don't fully appreciate the psychological toll of this kind of "papercut" harassment. Its Value is about CHANGING the dynamic: Creates a Single, Verifiable Record: All communication is logged, time-stamped, and CANNOT be altered or deleted. This im…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 06:38 PM
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Sorry not all of us. When i married, YouTube was barely a thing. I did not even know alimony existed. It is a government thing to push us men towards it while NOT forcing anyone to read the default marital contract & force us to write "rezad & approved" before signing it like most major contract. This could only mean one thing: it is a state-sponsored manipulation meant only to hurt naive young men by hiding those clauses behind laws. Of course, the whole world is not promoting it. It is mostly …
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 06:26 PM
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You wife has probably mental issues (anger management, dirty house with no kid). Put her in therapy if nothing improve within 6 months, move on. I bet she has past secrets she has not told you, hence her behavior, but the psy will make her talk & let her guard down, than only u may know... DONT have kid with her, thinking it will fix it, it will ONLY get worse.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/25 09:51 AM
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Resilience is the ability to adapt & the capacity to absorb and manage difficult emotions. AS You're going through a tough time, so it's time to add some cushions Physical The MINIMUM things to do:Get your body in shape: lift weights, do cardio You need to be strong, both physically and mentally, to take on the challenges ahead. It is either this or take depression pills. Exercise has been studied as being as good as Prozac If really angry add a marital sport (boxing etc) to unleash your refrain…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 01:22 PM
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MP if u wanna more, as I cant mention it here for personal reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 09:10 AM
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You are a textbook victim of the Silver Bullet Divorce . What to expect next: Stage of escalation, Parental Alineation ... More about it here Also to prepare you for Police convocation . Read about it her in my wiki If you still love her & DONT move on, You are at risk of returning living with her & false even WORSE accusations, once she learn more about what works & not with Legal system & end up in JAIL ! Never hear any case of woman apologizing as false accusation could mean prison & heavy sa…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 08:57 AM
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Do they ever stop ? "No": A bitter ex-partner often doesn't "give up" in the way a rational one would. She will often continue as long as the BS system allows it & use it to punish you. Unfortunately , the stage of escalation are not finished, as i can be even worse. Red my wiki pages only for high-conflit divorce & false accusation. Make sure to read other links on the left menu. I hope u learn a few things to protect against bigger things because u are a ideal candidate for the upcoming Parent…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 07:03 AM
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You bought it prior to dating, let alone the marriage. This makes it classic non-marital property. It belongs to you ONLY But she could try to contest it: Reimbursement for Marital Contributions: marital $$$ were used to increase the value of it: eg: $24,000 in mortgage payments were made during the marriage& made from an account where you deposited your paycheck (which is marital income) Transmutation This is a more difficult argument for her to win, but it's possible. Transmutation happens whe…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 12:38 PM
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read ALL pages of my wiki: (menu is on the left) they are done for those in divorce facing protective order, silver bullet, parental alineation, stage of accusation etc Good luck man
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 11:44 AM
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to make it short, you find a hot woman making more than you & take you out of your parents house to her place & improve your lifestyle & asked for kids that u did not wanted. Honestly it sounds like a woman's story that wanted to stay childless if i did not know this is a men's sub Lot of men would have fought to be in your place, u have no idea, Average man is the provider & is expected to provide & take care of many stuff at home & fix things & after a/2 kids, his wife is fat & weight more tha…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 07:28 AM
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⚠️DO NOT move money out of the joint account⚠️. A judge will see this as dissipaion of assets and it will DESTROY your credibility. You could be forced to return it and pay her legal fees. DO have your lawyer file a motion to freeze the account immediately upon filing for divorce. This is the correct, legal way to protect the money. Your lawyer is right. In a short marriage (<2 years) with no kids, the court's goal is to unwind the finances and return each party to their pre-marital status. T Re…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 10:25 AM
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Her lawyer works for HER, period. "You don't need a lawyer" is the biggest red flag in any divorce. In many countries 2 lawyers are mandatory for THIS reason ! So yes , move out. + odds of it being used against you as "abandonment" in a mutual, no-fault divorce are very low, especially in Maryland. The Way to Do It: Wait for the Lawyer's Green Light: Before you sign a lease, have your first meeting with your new JAG. Tell them, "I want to move out ASAP, is there any reason I shouldn't?" They'll …
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 07:11 AM
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#7 💔CHEATED ?💔: STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. You dont wanna be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get🤑🤑 Alienation of affection , aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few states, allowing a married or divorced person or to sue a …
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 06:50 AM
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# 2: Consult a Family Law Attorney. YESterday. This is NOT optional. This is your #1 priority. Do NOT talk to her or her father about it until you have spoken to a lawyer. Why? A lawyer will tell you your rights and obligations in your state regarding custody, child support, and division of assets/debts. Fear of Arguing: You are afraid to argue because you don't want to lose your girls. This is exactly why you need a lawyer! A lawyer will fight for your rights as a father. REcord the meeting, do…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 06:50 AM
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You Are Being Manipulated: Her father's "suggestion" is a plan designed to benefit HIS daughter at YOUR expense. Let's see the plan: YOU pay for an apartment for your wife & kids. You move AWAY from your YOUR parents. Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" You become a live-in, unpaid caregiver for her grandmother with dementia. Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free appartment and finan…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 06:49 AM
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Good for recording throw in into notebookllm for a full transcript and ask questions about what has been said etc . For those who don't know notebookllm is like chatgpt but only for your data (audio document anything)
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 10:49 AM
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TODOS If you suspect 💔CHEATING💔: STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or u got a signed agreement on what u asked f or divorce within a week. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" He…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 08:03 AM
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Trying to meet her vague, contradictory demands will drain u emotionally +financially, and it will destroy your self-respect. From now on, use this MENTAL BS Filter when she asks for something: #1- "Is this necessary for MY well-being and stability of OUR child? #2- "Would I be doing this if she was dating another guy?" If the answer is No to #1. your final answer is No eg**:** My car is making a weird noise. Can you come take a look at it this weekend?" YEs to #1 ? then ask yourself #2: - YES a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 03:37 PM
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which state in USA
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 02:40 PM
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depends , which state or country are u from?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 11:04 AM
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Reduce your retirement contributions to the minimum so less to split later Once she is doing a variation of Digital helmet. (u have to do it), that is sign that something significant is about to happen, so don't be misled by her who suddenly claims they want independence . Pay down any joint debt. Time to anticipate renewing your phone & clothes without raising attention with common account (they will be yours) Once separated, split your income IMMEDIATLY & freeze your joint accounts to stop you…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 07:55 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or a signed agreement onn whhat u want. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse". This lower your chance of having a 50/50 by creating a precedent. Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce & accept your signed agreeme…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 07:49 AM
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In short yes under domestic violence laws, she would live in house +financial support from you +you pay the mortgage but not forever , especially without kid or cohabitation agreements. But enough to make your bleed financially for a while. In NJ, Palimony (support for an ex who was never married) requires a written agreement since 2010. So just living together doesn't usually qualify. Solution? Risk avoidance: dont live with her especially if she has mental issues as all false accusation pretty…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 07:23 AM
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In short you described partially much divorce/marriage system in Muslim countries where alimony don't exist, a reason is needed to divorce expect if the man ask for it , and the legal guardian stays the father no matter what expect in extreme case and default marital contract is of separation but as the man and family,s boss u need to provide for everything during marriage. . At best woman manage them when young but she needs father approval for major decision like surgery out of country travel …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/25 02:51 PM
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Just make sure to not leave the house bro during separation phase. If u don't know why, I will post the classic readon
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 05:26 PM
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Typical trap: 1. You move to her state or country with kids 2. You helped her moved stuff and buy a house there 3. She ask as planned for divorce bc now she has her family to replace you until she monkey branch. You are stuck in this state bc if u move back u can't see the kids as much as u want Lesson learned: never move near her family. You were a transport donkey and u did not even knew it. Worst case scenario is a nowhere state between your idéal palce and hers. Ideally just stay near your f…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 05:18 PM
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"We went 6 months without any intamacy, because she thinks I’m a bad person "BS. she got a new BF that provides her Vegan Sex lol. Asap, do a STD check. ⚠️*COME BACK THE HOUSE *⚠️ Here's why: Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings her Vegan BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids) 🚨 If she to forces yo…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 09:40 PM
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i called hotline, told them i am a man, they replied "sorry only for battered women", they redirect me to the hotline for violent men, no kidding
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 11:51 AM
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Can you be more specific? So far, it's more like a feeling than cross-checkable facts
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 08:35 AM
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Plz provide more specific details. The quality of the answer is directly tied to the quality of the question asked. you cant expect a lengthy answer if you dont take time to even ask properly as if u are super busy. Look i can reply as you have asked: yes i filed one with my brother. When did the incident occur? Who is involved in the situation? What exactly happened, including any specific accusations (such as domestic violence), and are there physical traces, proof, or witnesses? Where did the…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 08:34 PM
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In Europe we have national individual initiative named like daddyDivorce with hotline, attorney , guidelines etc but those are only association launched by divorced guys. For violence I called an hotline and women give me a other number telling me this is only for woman a d I should call the one reserved for violent man wtf. Man victim ? Nope
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 12:05 PM
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After pushing her to police officer anyone would have told you it was divorce time and there is no come back form that. You should have not come home back as she could have played the same dv card against you and you have had a TRO strike against you. Revenge is a b#### and as a man she would need very little. I don't even know why u did not request one. Then with such violence proof and complaint u have asked for a fault-based divorce to get leverage in custody and alimony. Why have not you don…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 12:02 PM
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no love stays for life. This has been extensively studied. It is just made so u support each other to bring the next generation. I would not divorce of a woman just bc I don't love her but she does her job. She is not insulting or disperect you and dot throw tantrum randomly and you do her things and take care of her kids right? If you divorce her just bc u don't love her it is selfish and more like a typical woman divorce reason. The next woman u may love her but again it won't last forever tha…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 04:40 PM
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Yes, I know. The penalty during the 60s/70s in some European countries for infidelity was jail time & fault was needed for divorce.. Now, everywhere, no-fault, no-reason-what-so-everi divorce is allowed. Only a few bastions resist the so-called 'Matriarchy tsunami'. Vows mean nothing. It is mostly now a temporary contrac
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 05:43 PM
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Women and divorce: Technically, yes, a woman CAN ask divorce but this is NOT the same as the man’s higher right to divorce. A man can divorce unilaterally WITHOUT court approval. A woman usually NEEDS the husband's consent OR or has to go to court and prove serious harm for a judge to dissolve it. A “dead bedroom” might be considered harm of course, , but it’s not a guaranteed path to divorce, especially if the man is still fulfilling his financial duties Alimony: What you're referring to is par…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 08:35 AM
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In Muslim country.u need a reason to divorce. And father is the legal custodian of the kids no matter what..at best the mother is the caretaker when very young. And there is no alimony just 3 months max of expenses. And default marital contract is of separation. And if the woman after divorce despite that get remarried she is at risk of losing total custody to the father so monkey branching is punished . And divorce is a shame and all family will fight against it. And dead bed room can be a reas…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 10:22 PM
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with the children, you are a victim of PA (Parental Alienation). Usually this implies that the motehr has mental issues bc no normal mother would weaponize his kids against their father, even if she dont love him. Did she asked you to get out of the House until divorce? If yes it is a ABC trap, i can explain in details.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 02:02 PM
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California Family Code §§7540-7541 says that any child u got while the mother is married is presumed to be YOURS. So if you dont do anything, you will be his father :D BUT, You can defeat that by Filing a motion within 2 years of birth: asking the judge to order genetic testing under §7541: The notice of motion for blood tests.... may be filed NOT later than two years If DNA testing shows you are NOT the father, you will have no child-support obligation . So DONT sign the birth certificate ,DONT…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 11:01 AM
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⚠️GO BACK TO YOUR HOUSE ASAP⚠️ & dont leave it unless a judge orders it. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids) Don't fall…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 02:11 PM
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Worst case scenario: In Europe, 45yo state college teacher, clean record except for a minor traffic ticket. Had a wife with mental isues, and 3 kids, but in the span of 1 hour, his life was turned upside down. Sudden Domestic violence allegations with 0 "traces" & contradictions led to a TRO that kicked him out of his own home in under an hour +sudden 48h police detention without charge. Sam day,Things escalated to a full silver bullet divorce, Boss level: domestic violence over wife & kids, mar…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 03:49 PM
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And if they send you money for this month, how about next month rent food kids etc. It is not a real solution if u keep having issues finding gigs. Given that u just received 50$ from your so "massive network of people" speaks a lot how inflated is your real network. Honestly i could send a message to 4/5people max & get with high confidence min 500$ without much details for 1 o 2 people easily.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/25 08:51 AM
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In which country or US state would men tell you that woman kicks and bites and blood out are something normal'? Even as a dumb teen, I would have recognized your obvious signs of a battered man , if you had told me this. I am from Europe, by the way
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 06:34 PM
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Catch up on her once in a while like every 6 months to see how life goes on for her. Make sure to present her the new 10yo younger GF. I am sure she will love it lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 04:22 PM
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Please not matter what dont fall into the PA (parental alienation) trap even tough it is more rare for a man to do it. Cutting ties with a parent is rarely good for so health. She might be a cheater but she still has the right to see her kids, adult or not.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 12:25 PM
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She weaponized them to hurt you &/or to get more child support. I would say she is trying to do parental alienation, but as the kids are not falling for it, it's not working. I don't know any father that wants to have nothing to do with their children. Some women who are complaining are bluntly lying. I know a case where she said to everyone, including her own family, that their father didn't want to see them, while in reality she asked for a protective order and now the father can't see them or…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 07:32 AM
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Ok, so she tried to reverse the accusation on you somehow. You are lucky she did not punch herself or hit the wall with bigger injuries. No one would have believed you, and she would have said she acted in self-defense. You are lucky she was not the "brightest" one lol , because if she had said you were drunk, it would have meant that any alcohol-based test would have come back positive, and I'm sure either they didn't need it or it came back negative. A slightly higher intelligence level would …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 03:51 PM
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Let me guess what happened to you: Near divorce, you get accused of false domestic violence, because violent women have mental issues and are willing to flip the table on you. And you regret not having seized the moment with witnesses and proof of not having pressed charges. Than u got pushed out of the house (TRO) & fault-based divorce bc of DV. If this did not happened to you, congratulations, u just missed it by a thread. Happened many times here.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:25 PM
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Stop yelling behind door & checking her phone ( privacy violation) or else u will meet soon TRO (Temporary Restraining Order) just before divorce so she can get her BF fucking her in your bed while u are pushed out of the house & still pay for it TODOS If you suspect 💔CHEATING💔: STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦 a bird that rely on others …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 08:12 AM
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⚠️You NEED urgently⚠️ to see a doctor bc if u think abbot suicide, u are at least at Dperession Scale 2 or 3. Also, Resilience is the ability to adapt & the capacity to absorb and manage difficult emotions. You're going through a tough time, so it's time to add some cushions Physical Get your body in shape: lift weights, do cardio You need to be strong, both physically and mentally, to take on the challenges ahead. It is either this or take depression pills. Exercise has been studied as being as…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 12:22 PM
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that is nothing specia as u long as she is not fat & has a hole, many candidates are in line. BUT MARRIAGE with a mum with 3 kids with a man <= her age, she has higher chance of Winning Lottery. Unless he is also a poor 60s man with also 3 kids as well, so no financial risk. MOST Men HATE being a victim of the cuckoo bird lol Around 40s As a man u have a higher chance to find a nulliparous woman, even for a stupid marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 09:27 AM
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Make sure they got them. If u give them to mom she will hide them and throw them. Try at school from the teacher or directly in their hands or trusted person outside the mom
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 08:55 AM
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It is almost over for her: Yes, a woman in her late 30s (typically 37–39) can still have children, but fertility is significantly reduced compared to earlier years. Here' At age 35: ~66% chance per year. At age 38: ~40–45% chance per year. Fertility declines sharply after 35 due to reduced ovarian reserve and egg quality plus she is at higher of birth defect autism ( and if u are over ,40 as well as a father)
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 09:23 PM
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You are a victim of PA (parental alienation) Some typical signs with erasure attempts such as -they call you by your name (David) & call VF daddy -they demonized you & ONLY remember bad things real or fake about you. -they change their name to their mother's name. Irony is that it is their Grand Father name lol -they cut pics/edit videos where you appear to make your disappear -mother cut out any letter/present your bring & explain them u dont care hence lack of gift/letter -Parrot mode: Kid ado…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 05:27 PM
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I recommend weekly therapy with a psychologist if thai is your last chance . I saw similar case where this 200$ investment paid off. There she needs to do a catharsis to clear and flush all his trauma and she can't do it with some close. She needs a specialist to let it go without risk of back fire and full trust. But yeah u could say no fuck it I am done playing therapy and move on
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 03:10 PM
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One the D word is out, you NEED to be ready like un survivalism mode, it is almost a matter of WHEN not a IF. You are lucky enough she warned you multiple time to get ready for divorce. That is like announcing your enemy in war your date of invasion, backing off & on multiple times.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 01:03 PM
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With a kid you would have been drowning into baby task such as waking up 4h per night first 6monht while still having tonwork. Plus all the regulars appointment once per month and more if complication. It would have just fastened your divorce or u would have shut up for years like all daddy for your kid's sake. The thing s bot just having a kid but having one with the right mom. If your ex is lazy chance are your kid will be also by imitation and or genes. You escaped this and 20 years of bs/chi…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 07:28 AM
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As the saying goes, women lose custody while men earns it
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 11:42 AM
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Owning house before is not bulletproof. She could have asked alimony and if matches house price or near she could have ask for it as soon payment if u can't afford it I. $__
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 11:37 AM
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U think marrying again your ex reduce the chance for another divorce lol? U just entered a timely loop with new divorce and alimony etc Once the brain went though something he can do it easier next time divorce included and even more if rewarded
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 11:35 AM
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It is strange for a successful man to be conned by random in-laws with poor strategy to make you move into their hosue. Just this was smelling problem 100 miles away. & second agreeing to renovate their house for whatever reason. Mine asked me renovating their house before I even had my own (and they already had 2houses). I told them, 'Are you kidding me? I'm not contributing to your 3 brother's inheritance. If you want to renovate, stop talking & work for it - they're your parents, not mine.' C…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 08:47 AM
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The Financial Indiscretions : Severity: Gifting hundreds of thousands of dollars, especially by debt ($50k loan for a $90k gift), WITHOUT your knowledge or consent is a MASSIVE breach of trust. This isn't just about $$$$; Hidden Liabilities: Your suspicion that there's more you don't know is likely well-founded. This pattern of secrecy and large unilateral spending is rarely isolated. When a marriage is clearly in trouble and one starts moving significant assets, "dissipation of assets" obecomes…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 02:32 PM
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I haven't experienced parental alienation, but my brother has gone through it & worse version than you: accusation of DV, marital rape, & pedo### he cant even see his kids !!! There is always worse.... but I'm aware of how devastating it can be. I'm surprised, that your colleagues seem to be missing the point. If I met someone who had fled a war like Ukraine or Gaza, I wouldn't tell them that they can't compare their traumas to others & some BS new age like "Everyone handles trauma differently "…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 09:22 AM
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Throw her under the bus. Did u got the confession on record? Talk to the family of the man and explain her she confessed about lying to put him in jail. Fight fire with fire but legally. Hopefully they will liberate that innocent ex and out her in Jail instead. But he need your help. He is another ex husband and father that need his kid. I would never had stay idek after learning this. Being out is not enough..if u were in jail bc of her I am sure u would have love ifhe renew man reached out to …
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 11:57 AM
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If she truly filed for divorce bc u went broke, than yumanaged to get back on your capital and more, than that was a almost painless marital stress test. She failed the test with flying colors You will be dumb to take her back especially for u don't have kids and house etc. if u go broke gain she will mostly divorce you again and perhaps with kids house etc. don't be that rebound Guy. She made you a 🎁. Don't throw it. Move on and don't get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 11:47 AM
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1.High risk of parental alienation. Google it. U mean snap I understand you have anger management issues and may insult or even hit her? She will use the Silver bullet divorce. Google it. She probably record u when she push your button so she can call the cops on you and you are out of your house 🏠 for many months if not years see TRO in ⚖️ . Once our of the house u create a precedent where she is the primary caretaker for kids. I really hope u don't have drug or drinking issues. That will be us…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 03:32 PM
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yes u read that, he apparently tri to insert in him a The Nintendo DS with the dimensions: height: 3.33” (84.7 mm) Width: 5.85” (148.7 mm) Depth: 1.13” (28.9 mm) Weight: 9.7 oz (.275 kg) She could have said he was a hidden Nazi or Ben Laden or Hunter Biden, police would have recorded her statement
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 06:58 AM
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ep exactly & this happened in Europe, meaning this is a western-wide issue, usage of Silver Bullet Divorce but Hard mode. In theory, you are innocent until blablabla bu even the female police office tried to trick her many times, like not letting him read & changing his statement, refusing him to use a pen & laughing when asked for a pen to review his statements as asked saying "we re not in school mister & i am not you student". She wanted so hard to catch a pedo to shine in front of her superi…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 06:55 AM
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Out of nowhere after 15 years old of marriage, My sister-in-law just before divorce, said their father ie my brother used to hit her, the kids, rape her & the kids & used to watch p### with their kids & plug a full Nintendo-DS console into 5yo kid' anus without injury (no kidding, judge did not bat an eye on the impossibility of that) After 3 years, he still cant see them. Parental alienation at its pick
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 06:48 AM
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" stay away while she heals herself" 🌟BRILLANT.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 01:06 PM
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🚨 Simplified Algorithm for MOST DADs: ╔═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════╗ ║ IF NO 🧒 involved THEN ADIOS AMIGOS, ADIEU 👋 you are NOT her therapist ║ ELSE try counseling with caution ie → NO House 🏠, or expansive CAR UNTIL she recovers (LOW ║ probability + need 10 years) ╚═════════════════════════════════════════════════════════════╝ Personal opinion: she probably suffers from Child/Teen trauma or similar that would require years of therapy & you dont know it... yet. Tr…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 01:01 PM
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lessson learned for the others: : Save all receipts: Even the stupid ones from big stores like Walmart. You never know when you'll need them, so keep them in a box for at least a year. Scan important ones: Use a phone app like Microsoft Lens to scan and save receipts that matter.Dont slakc off & postpone, do it as soon as u have it on your hand. it is a 30s task. Track your location: Turn on Google Maps tracking so you have a record of where you've been. Leave a trail: Send messages to others ab…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 08:06 AM
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5k/month? you had to earn at list 15k/month for such high "maintenance". House to her +100K down the attorney's drain + Paid her for 8.5 years for a 10 year marraige, What a nightmare. Imagine u had children. I bet my head u wont remarry soon lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 08:00 AM
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Lift weights & do cardio. It is either that or take depression pills. There is a light at the end of the dark tunnel. "For indeed, with hardship comes ease."
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 09:35 AM
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TODOS If you suspect 💔CHEATING💔: STD check 💉 DNA parental test 🧬 from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo 🐦: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get🤑🤑 Alienation of affection , aka "homewrecker" law, is only availa…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 03:52 PM
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The Home Loan: u are right to think this timing is beneficial. To qualify for one she will need to demonstrate sufficient and stable income to the lender. Lying on a federal loan application is abank fraud). she's less likely to do underrporeting when trying to secure housing. ---> The loan application itself, +any supporting income documentation she provides to the lender, will be GOLD. Your attorney should subpoena these from the lender if she doesn't produce them. Imputed Income: Even if her …
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 11:40 AM
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U got it backwards. Imagine the opposite: let her be housewife only and force her to stay unemployed. U gonna get alimony to oblivion bc of the disparity created
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:14 PM
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If you suspect CHEATING as mentionnned: STD check DNA parental test if you have kids & asap from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states & other countries still consider adultery when when determining alimony Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get $$$ Alienation of affe…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 07:45 AM
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if she is talking/shouting too much, why don u just l move to another room & lock the door? You are not a plant to just stay there & listen ad nauseam. I did not propose to record her to admit lying to you. U need to catch her insulting multiple times on multiple occasion ideally to fill for DV--> fault-based divorce It is a completely normal deescalation behaviour & has the benefits if she is crazy, she will slam the door or try to break it ie she is being violent even if only towards object. Y…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 07:20 AM
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HIGH RISK of FALSE accusations (DV) + Parental Alienation (PA) aka Silver Bullet Divorce In some divorce cases, a manipulative tactic called the "Silver Bullet Method" is employed, where false accusations of domestic violence are made as a preemptive strike to win the planned divorce (full child custody & marital support/free housing for years). This method is widespread in western countries (Europe, Usa...) Unfortunately, the legal system can be exploited by leeches individuals that gain bloody…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 03:03 PM
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You could take the same approach only in case judge wont consider her previous income: fight fire with 🔥. If she reduced her income by 50%, do the same after agreering with attorney in acceptable/legal manner. If not this could happen in the future:. Once she gets what she wants and divorced, she'll go back to her previous income level and won't remarry a new one unless it's to a wealthy man, thus being supported by 2 men: you + her new BF As a result, she'll have the financial upper hand, and y…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:37 AM
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In some ways, we live under a form of matriarchy, especially when it comes to marriage and divorce — but most western men don’t even notice it, like fish in water, that the Whole World dont live that way. You only start to realize it when you travel or if you're an immigrant and know how differently men are treated elsewhere. For example, in most Muslim countries — and I get it, if you're from U.S. you've probably been brainwashed to see them as just "terrorist 24/7 (to justify to the wars there…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 06:51 AM
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totally agree, time with kids cannot be bought back
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 09:52 PM
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court often disregards common sense when DV is involved, & women lose child custody while men are expected to earn it. Unfortunately, menace frequently stereotyped as misogynistic, violent, and only seen as ATM machine or for a free ride to DisneyLand. DONT think Truth/ will somehow prevail in court, this is a naive approach & could even backfire. I recommend checking out my profile for last topic on utilizing AI in a legal context Be aware that accusations can escalate quickly. The behavior bei…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 03:58 PM
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Soon or later she will ask you to leave , as usual , but ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring ho…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 03:48 PM
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i have made wiki focuse accusation-type divorce here: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/welcome Make sure to read all pages on the left menu. It is 2 years worth of advice with a real nuts & reading here
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 11:43 AM
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She is applying the silver bullet divorce. Please Google it.it means your wife has also mental issues and kids are at high risk of parental alienation. Understand that domestic violence could not be the end. My brother was accused of everything by her wife expect terrorism : mortal rape, dv, dv against his own children, peso###, police seize all his electronic material for a scan but found nothing. A guy was accused no kidding of being part of 9 11 by her wife. Your children are at very high ris…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/25 09:21 PM
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Melatonin Use in Children: melatonin can be effective in treating short-term sleep problems, particularly in children with ADHD or autism spectrum disorder. However, long-term safety is poorly studied, especially in healthy children. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine and most pediatricians caution against chronic use in young children without specialist oversight. I personally use a diluted version sometimes (<1mg) even on my 3&10yo before a school day if they wake up to late, this is not a…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 11:22 AM
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Change the password add a 2 factor authentication ie she would need to login to have access to your phone typically.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 07:11 AM
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Be prepared once u ask for alimoney depend on the amount she would stwitch to a conflicted divorce. Her attorney will try to use any "abuse" you mentionn to requets a fault-based divorce & cut the alimony as a result either directly or indirectly by requesting $$$ for abuse I really hope you dont send her mesage about this "abuse" & hide any paper that proof it. . From this point forward, assume that anything you say or write to her may be presented to the judge agaist you by her attorney, so be…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 07:01 AM
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Import your wife is a risk of exporting your kid. Ie if you ever have kid and you divorce her, a expected move would be her to move back to her home country with her kid.to get her family support and fu## you as well. Good luck fighting in court in a foreign. Country lol You have dodge a bullet if u don't have kid with her
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 10:17 PM
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Who told you any woman is fertile at >50yo? Have you ever met a 50yo mum with her newborn? I hope u are trolling or else I am lost for words. By 50, almost all women are either perimenopausal or fully menopausal (no periods for 12 months). Ovulation becomes extremely rare or completely stops
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 10:10 PM
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I stopped here:"So, I (34M) married a single mother (53F) She was financially struggling ...Her son was in juvenile detention" In short you married a poor woman the generation of your mother, with 0 chance of getting your own kid, mum of a delinquent and nothing ring a bell 🔔 in you? Is this a form of social suicide ?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 09:53 PM
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So not leave the house unless judge decide so or divorce is 99% is finished Why? 1. Once u leave the house 🏠 her attorney will advise ber to drag for years the divorce to get free housing+ monthly allowance and court order about it bc as long as u are married and are obliged to help her 2. U create a precedent around child custody by making her the primary care taker and you the DisneyLand Daddy and ATM machine. Ie you won't get 50/50 child custody as judge will just continue the current situati…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 11:28 PM
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🚨Warning🚨 High Risk of Kid Kidnapping + False Accusations A lesson to be learned: Importing a woman put you at risk of having your child EXPORTED 🚫. +, you're also at high risk of being falsely accused of domestic violence 🤕, which can lead to a restrictive order 🚫, separating you from your child and partner for a while 🕰️. Navigating the justice system can be expensive and costly in your own country 💸; imagine the added complexity and expense of dealing with international law and the laws of he…
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 02:34 PM
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Guess what. After your ETERNAL alimony, do u REALL u think she will get back in marriage unless guy is Super Rich? No. They will take $$ from 2 guys lol. In doub,t You will need to hire a detective to find out her new man
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 02:29 PM
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that is not even an opinion, each divorce increase risk of being divorce again.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 02:26 PM
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Totally agree. Nothing beats GEMINI so far. And also provide you insights you would not have detected yourself
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 09:11 AM
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Be prepared for worst accusations like the worst with your own kids, pedro Style if you get it...You CANT meet her unprepared anymore
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 09:10 AM
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