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Agreed wholeheartedly. I have quite a few platonic female friends and they're a huge help. I started going out with a new girl recently and every time we're out I tend to bump into a friend or two of mine. Having random women come up to spontaneously hug you and say hi is a nice social boost.
/r/seduction11/04/26 12:22 AM
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I think he nailed the question. Op has two choices: contribute pushing for it to go further and risk getting shut down all together or genuinely accept her as a friend. The guy above did a great job at explaining the potential outcomes there.
/r/seduction11/04/26 12:20 AM
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Yeah, I'm kind of here for the premise of this post because I am curious if this experiment works, but you fake your personality and then use a robot to respond the girls messages and you're surprised they aren't responding? I wouldn't respond to someone who was using AI on me either lol
/r/seduction10/04/26 11:22 PM
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this is genius. That part about it being a calibration tool should honestly be stickied to the top of this sub. So many guys post here about doing rapid fire approaches and having a super high rate of getting shut down. This technique right here will tell you if it's something about you that's off putting instead of stressing about whether you're saying the right things.
/r/seduction10/04/26 11:18 PM
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I've got a friend who's an online dating coach and it really opened my eyes up to the skill gap there is in the apps. If you want to be successful you have to treat it like a job. You work in online brand marketing and the product is you. You need really high end photos that show you doing interesting things and looking good while doing them. Think of it like you're trying to be an Instagram model and you want girls to follow you. It's just all about shallow presentation. I don't have the time o…
/r/seduction10/04/26 03:48 PM
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The switch up is unfortunately really common. Especially when you're in a club and doing drugs or drinking. The next day is a completely different environment with different feelings. My first thoughts based off your description is that she actually was trying not to sleep with you and was unhappy with herself for doing it. That could be for multiple different reasons. You're right in that her messages do seem low effort and she sounds less interested now, but I would still try. What I'm a REALL…
/r/seduction10/04/26 03:38 PM
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The advice in my first post and second post are the same. Bottom line: you're over thinking this way too hard and you're not going to convince her over text. So, my original advice stands. Invite her on a date next week through text. Make it casual, but most importantly, make it easy for her. You say "I'm going to this place (that's not a far drive), at this day, at this time". This way she doesn't have to think or plan. She just says yes or no. Once you're on the date THAT is when you win her o…
/r/seduction10/04/26 12:42 PM
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This is just the general problem with getting ANY advice off the internet. There are universal truths and principles to be learned in seduction and it is a skill that you can get better at over time. Different things will apply to different people and every situation will be unique. I think the fundamental flaw here is actually that you have people who have very little dating experience, and when they want dating help they don't turn to their friends, families, mentors, or coaches. Instead they'…
/r/seduction10/04/26 12:26 PM
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You know the situation better than I do, but it still sounds like I'm right. This is different then a girl you met on a dating app. She's met you in real life, so you had the chance to get her interested emotionally, and you haven't yet. She's not "wrong" for flirting with you. She's giving you the chance. You don't have to use the coffee example. If the bar is an hour away then find a closer bar and invite her to that. There's a chance she's just a flirt, but there's also a chance that she's on…
/r/seduction10/04/26 05:34 AM
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Yeah, as of right now you're clearly not a priority to her. Keep your hopes low of the date actually happening but feel free to keep pursuing it. It has nothing to do with you, she just doesn't know you well enough yet to be emotionally invested. Next week plan something simple, but specific, and invite her. "Hey, I'm going to try this new coffee shop that's not too far from your place tomorrow around 7. Want to join"? Use something that you know may interest her. Doesn't have to be that example…
/r/seduction09/04/26 11:37 PM
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Are you in a long term relationship? If so, does he feel like it's going well? Nobody enjoys having sex with someone they don't like.
/r/seduction08/04/26 08:32 PM
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What you're saying in both of these paragraphs seem true to you, but as someone older with more experience, I'm telling you you're very wrong. Your generation does have a harder time meeting people, that's very true, but it just means you're going to have to get good at learning to make it happen. Don't let something stop you just because it's hard. If it were easy, everybody would do it, but you can make it happen if you put your mind to it. You need to remember that the version of yourself tha…
/r/seduction08/04/26 02:50 AM
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it's not that a 10/10 doesn't want you. It's just that THAT 10/10 didn't want you, right at that exact moment, without getting to know you. and really, why would you expect her to? It shouldn't bother your ego at all. Most people aren't going to be interested in every stranger that approaches them.
/r/seduction08/04/26 02:37 AM
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The general consensus for most guys is that unless you have great photos (which is probably less than 10 to 20 percent of guys) you will do way better in person than online. Apps should be a side hustle. Dating in person should be your full time job. In person I can get a 9 on a good night. On apps, I sometimes strike out with 5's. The internet isn't the real world. It doesn't matter. You're in college. This is the most opportune time of your life to get good at meeting women. DO NOT spend it si…
/r/seduction08/04/26 12:16 AM
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People can tell when you're insecure about something. The fact that it bothers you IS what's bothering them. You've got to stop thinking about how to explain it, because it's not even something that needs explaining. On dates, focus on talking about things that are emotional or are playful. You don't need to spend time on things like career, where you live, family, etc, unless you're screening her for a long term relationship. If you do that it won't come up that you live with your parents until…
/r/seduction07/04/26 02:46 AM
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Hell yeah dude. If you're good enough at getting her emotionally invested you can do it just about anywhere haha
/r/seduction07/04/26 12:18 AM
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I used to be like this and fixed it through therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy with an exposure ladder. Read the books "How to be Yourself" and "Overcoming Social Anxiety". You're gonna need a journal to record everything in and you're going to have to put in actual work. There's no way around the fact that you're clearly pretty anxious and that's what ruining your good time, so you're going to have to force yourself to talk to people. You can do it though.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:33 PM
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It's not gonna effect you as much as you think but it's highly situationally dependent. If you explain your situation to a girl she's probably going to understand. The most attractive girl I've ever slept with I took home to my mom's house and had to walk her by my mom to get upstairs to my bedroom.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:31 PM
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This is an amazing question to ask yourself, but I think you should keep in mind that's it's a question that only you can answer. There is no magic answer that works for everybody and it'll change depending on where you are in life and how old you are. If you're in college and have nothing to do with your free time during summer breaks, then approach like crazy. If you're 30 and don't have your shit together then you might put girls on the back of the to do list while you figure out your career.…
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:28 PM
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The problem is that there are 2 kinds of people here on this subreddit. The vast majority are guys who haven't spoken to a woman in a year and are terrified at the idea of even just saying hi. If saying hi to a stranger is so scary you can't do it, then you don't have the social skills to worry about the more advanced stuff anyways.
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:49 PM
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Glad things are going well for you dude. My only nitpick is that at the end you randomly throw out a fuck you to PUA's and Guru's but you do realize most of the good posts here are written by those coaches and guru's right? A lot of the early "guru's" laid the foundation for all the stuff we know these days by figuring it out with trial and error 10 years ago and then writing about it. Some of these guys are for sure selling bullshit and are money grabbing and it's really hard to know who's legi…
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:44 PM
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Your brain currently thinks that a bad approach and "looking like a creep" would be physically dangerous. That's why you're scared. There's only 1 fast way for your brain to update and that's to just go do it. Treat it like a scientific hypothesis: If I walk up and talk to this woman, what happens? and then just do it. you won't know if you sound or look like a creep until you try, and if you do? what happens? do the cops come and arrest you? or do you just walk off and both of you forget about …
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:40 PM
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He's an S tier commenter. Duh.
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:37 PM
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You probably need to include more details in this post. Like, where you met her and what your end goal with her is. Unless she seems really interested in the little text messages I would stop asking her things like that all day. If she's replying to things like "did you eat"? at least that means she probably likes you lol Like other people here said, you need to actually ask her on a date. If you have her number and she's responding then that's a good sign that she's interested, but it can poten…
/r/seduction04/04/26 03:52 PM
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I'm that way. I started watching porn way too early and didn't have sex for the first time until 5 years later. Now, I'm fairly attractive and can get laid relatively regularly, but I have trouble not watching porn. I'm blessed that I still can finish in real life, but it's hard. I can go hours without finishing in real life but if I'm watching porn in only takes 30 seconds. Kind of crazy.
/r/seduction03/04/26 07:01 PM
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Some people in the comments are ripping into you harder than they need to. I just wanted to say you did a hell of a job approaching and setting up dates dude. Good job. 90% of the people in this sub are lurkers who never get the balls to talk to women. When you're in the interaction with the girl focus on getting her as invested as possible and don't ask for the number until you can tell she's really into it. This weekend I met a girl at a bar, I walked her back to her car and we were having gre…
/r/seduction03/04/26 02:34 PM
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Then what are you doing in this sub? This is a place for people to talk about how to be successful with women and if you truly believe you're hopeless why are you here? If you've given up, fine, but don't come and spread those bullshit lies around. Maybe I shouldn't be complaining because every guy that gives up is just less competition, but this defeatist attitude is so crazy. Can't imagine what it's like to go through life with absolutely no determination or faith in yourself.
/r/seduction03/04/26 02:39 AM
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As always, it depends. I have an easier time with the initial approach in a group but you do at some point need to get her alone.
/r/seduction02/04/26 10:44 PM
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I listened to a dating coach recently say that you should keep a record of your approaches. Most guys these days are online seeing attractive girls all the time. Because they see so many women they're tricked into believing subconsciously that they're interacting with them, but you're not. If you really ask yourself how many times you've interacted with a young, attractive, single girl in a romantic way in the past week, or month, or 3 months, how many guy's honest response will be zero? You can…
/r/seduction02/04/26 10:40 PM
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Google J R Martinez. Guy was a soldier who's entire face was disfigured by third degree burns in war. He survived, became a motivational speaker, met and then married a beautiful woman, and won dancing with the stars just to top it all off. I don't give a shit if OP has a facial deformity. So did the other guy and he still picked up a gorgeous woman and made a great life for himself. He could have sat around at home whining about how badly it hurt to be burnt alive for 5 minutes, or how unfair t…
/r/seduction02/04/26 10:34 PM
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I can't tell any guy how to be perfect and make every woman want them, but I used to be ugly and insecure, and now I'm not and I can get women while barely trying. I started with looks. Learn to have style, try different haircuts until you find one that looks good on you, get in shape so that you have an athletic build and develop great posture, and make sure you have good hygiene. Socially, you need to have a life. This will also help you build confidence when talking to people. Have a friend g…
/r/seduction02/04/26 06:40 PM
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You don't think women have problems in life and dating too? If you want any of your problems to get better stop spending time online and reading shit about gender wars on social media. Go talk to real people.
/r/seduction02/04/26 03:41 PM
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This is whiny bullshit and it's exactly what OP is talking about. If you walk up to a girl and you have this energy that "girls don't want guys like me" then you're completely right, they won't. You have to know that you bring value to the situation. Make yourself the kind of guy that women would want to be approached by.
/r/seduction02/04/26 03:35 PM
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Yeah, that's basically what I mean. I think both sides have it hard with dating. Guys and girls just have different problems. That's kind of how life works, everyone struggles, it's just different problems. Women deal with a lot of bullshit. I once went on a date with a girl who told me that her last first date told her he loved her after 2 hours and when she asked why he liked her the only reason he could give was that she was beautiful. She hated it and I can see why. Can you imagine what it's…
/r/seduction02/04/26 03:31 PM
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I have a date tonight and needed this reminder. Thank you. Good post! Just have fun with it instead of worrying about the outcome.
/r/seduction01/04/26 10:31 PM
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This is half true, but I kind of hate when people say it because it's not the whole truth. Women are suffering here just as much as we are. Men have to do more of the work in the beginning, that's usually true, but women have a ton of work to do in relationships. If I could change my gender in dating, I wouldn't. I know a lot of women, even some really good looking ones, and I wouldn't trade places with any of them. Having to do a cold approach sucks but it's not worse than anything women have t…
/r/seduction01/04/26 10:30 PM
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How long until the date? If it's going to be awhile and she keeps this up then I'm not against saying something about it. Last year this exact same thing happened to me. I met a girl that I really liked and she was super high interest. we hung out and slept together four times in the first week that we met. After that week, she immediately dropped off to barely texting and kept making excuses not to hang out. I was over thinking it and it was stressing me out so I just asked her what was up. Tur…
/r/seduction01/04/26 02:38 PM
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Everyone here is being dismissive because the answer to your question is so obvious and your writing style here is indicating that your problem has nothing to do with just being perceived as being creepy. It sounds like you over think way too much, don't have a lot of in person social interaction (especially being around women I'm guessing), and you're getting all your opinions about how the world works from the internet. I'm assuming you're young, so I have sympathy for you, but you gotta stop …
/r/seduction01/04/26 02:15 PM
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If someone in this conversation hates themselves I'm not sure it's me. You seem pretty angry about it
/r/seduction28/03/26 07:47 PM
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This isn't true at all in an evolutionary context. For the majority of human history we existed in small tribes. If you met a stranger it was probably somebody who was there to kill you. Not to say some tribes didn't co exist or cooperate, but meeting random strangers was not common for most of history. People nowadays should learn to do it and almost everyone needs to be more social. It took me a long time to get good and I had to push myself, but this guy above saying that attraction doesn't g…
/r/seduction28/03/26 06:16 PM
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This is just an unrealistic way of thinking about things. There will always be someone hotter. Unless you date someone way below your league, or you look like Hemsworth, it's doubtful you will be their dream man in terms of looks right off the bat. There's a lot of scientific evidence that shows attraction does build over time. It's how relationships have formed and stayed strong for thousands of years. I was engaged once to a girl I worked with. When I first met her, I thought she was cute but …
/r/seduction28/03/26 01:45 PM
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I mostly agree with your point, but there's an overwhelming amount of research that "powering through the awkward interaction" does work. Yes, you have to adjust afterwards positively, but if you stay in a social situation long enough to relax you might not even have to try to do what you're describing and it'll come naturally, and if not, most people can't relax enough to make the adjustments you're describing anyways. What you and OP are both just different aspects of common clinical approache…
/r/seduction27/03/26 09:40 PM
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You're right, you're probably going to not perform well if you're not relaxed, but you're missing an important point. It's how exposure therapy works. Your nervous system was only designed to stay heightened for a short period of time. It physically can NOT stay on for extended periods of time. So if someone is scared of snakes and they freak out every time they see one, what do you do? You lock them in a room with a harmless snake and wait for the nervous system to shut off. They're going to pa…
/r/seduction27/03/26 07:48 PM
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This shit is crazy. I feel so bad for people in modern dating lol
/r/seduction25/03/26 02:43 PM
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Don't beat yourself up on this one. There's a high chance that her response had nothing to do with you. You can never know what was going through her head. The best answer to posts like these is to ask your friends in real life. If you're doing something wrong or misreading signals then nobody on reddit is gonna be able to tell. Your friends who were there while you were talking to her will be able to spot it though.
/r/seduction24/03/26 07:53 PM
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Thanks ChatGPT
/r/seduction24/03/26 07:47 PM
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I mean, it is sales-y the way he's broken it down, but a job? He's matching with a girl on Tinder, asking "how was your day?", talking to them on the phone for 10 minutes, and then asking them to come back to his place... I'm pretty lazy at work but I hardly consider that a ton of effort.
/r/seduction24/03/26 03:54 PM
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Love the persistence dude, keep it up!
/r/seduction23/03/26 07:03 PM
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This is such a wild story. I need you to keep posting field reports lol Where do you live? I would love a wing like this.
/r/seduction23/03/26 05:14 PM
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If your approach on these girls was half as weird as this post then I'm not surprised they weren't interested. Did you just throw on a half ass "smart ass" persona that you've been practicing in the mirror and walk up to girls who are in your social circle but already know you? The fact that you used the term rizzler non ironically to describe your interaction says a lot. This isn't a movie. You have to be a normal, likeable guy, and you can't really cold approach people you already know from yo…
/r/seduction23/03/26 12:52 PM
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Fuck man, I know this is the truth, but it's hard. Really good advice though
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:16 AM
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This is some real horny posting lol
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:10 AM
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Any advice on finding a "parent"? I feel like this. I've done a few approaches and they go just fine but for some reason I'm also so psyched out about doing it. I know other people do, but I just need to see it.
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:05 AM
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Can you talk a little bit more about what you've done in detail?
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:00 AM
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Not the guy who originally replied to you, but have you actually spoken to this girl?? Restaurants are kind of notorious for people hooking up with each other so I don't think that's a giant issue. You're worried about reading signals wrong but eye contact and foot bumps are really only quick signals that matter in night clubs or bars. If you work with this girl, and you want to find out if there are signals, you have to be talking to her.
/r/seduction23/03/26 01:00 AM
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Please elaborate lol
/r/seduction21/03/26 02:31 PM
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I turned 30 not long ago and have been a little insecure about this. Can you elaborate? I'm looking to date people in their mid to late twenties and am worried I'll come off too old for them.
/r/seduction20/03/26 06:50 PM
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Don't use a robot to tell you how to interact with humans.
/r/seduction20/03/26 06:00 PM
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There's a couple different angles you could take on this, or ways you could approach it, but I'm going to try to give you one that might work for you if you're analytical. Take the 5 love languages test with your girlfriend. You don't need to know all the details but just Google it and find a link that gives you the test for free. She'll probably think it's a sweet idea and appreciate that you're trying to get to know her better. I imagine that "words of affirmation" is going to come out on the …
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:59 PM
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I never go to get laid either. I've been regularly going to shows for years just because I love it. I've had a couple girls approach me to talk or dance near me and I could tell they were interested, but I've never had anyone dance with me directly. I'll have to give it a shot and move around more. I usually stay in the same place the whole show, thanks!
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:40 PM
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If you're a guy, can I ask for advice on this? I go to a decent amount of shows, including raves, and have never managed this. I've always been too afraid of looking like a creep to just walk up and dance with someone.
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:30 PM
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You should be in the gym, but not for women, but for health. I started for women, so if that's gotta be your motivation, then do it. It'll definitely help. I'm 6 foot 1 and weighed 130 so I get where you're coming from. It sucked. Like others here have said, your physique is not the problem though. I would recommend hiring a coach or having some brutally honest conversations with guys in your friend group because there's probably something obvious that you're doing wrong that you just can't see.
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:14 PM
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Honestly, we could sticky this comment to the front page of this sub and then close the subreddit forever. I'm half joking when I say that but it is crazy how many people try to work on their "game" but don't have half the things on your list nailed down.
/r/seduction18/03/26 10:09 PM
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Just to blunt, you have to have negative social skills, or you don't have those 5 things as covered as you think. If you're an average guy but you have friends and one or two social hobbies you should be able to meet and attract at least SOME women. I have friends who have awful game and are relatively unattractive yet they still date 1 or 2 girls a year just from being a little social.
/r/seduction18/03/26 10:07 PM
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I feel this. If I were open to any relationship that came my way I would be drowning in it. In the past few years I've drastically raised my standards and it's made finding someone a lot more rare. I've read studies that show that gen Z is also just having a lot less sex in general. The younger generation doesn't seem as open to hookup culture and I think there's a lot of cultural reasons for that: Gender division due to social media and women becoming more convinced that men are dangerous, the …
/r/seduction18/03/26 02:10 PM
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This is great advice. Can tell you have a lot of experience.
/r/seduction18/03/26 02:01 PM
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I did assume that a ton of the game was fabricated but it's hard to tell how much. Really cool info though, thanks!
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:21 PM
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Awesome. I'm near the south and swing is super popular here at bars and clubs. I'll give it a shot, thanks!
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:28 PM
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How was your experience with it? I've been wanting to try dance classes but worried it would be awkward as a young single guy by himself. Champ Shit Only brother 💪 💪🏆
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:21 PM
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I wasn't involved in the community back then but after reading The Game and seeing what things used to be like I got really fascinated by it. would love to know if there's anybody specific that you can remember that this describes lol
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:13 PM
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I think the problem (myself included) is that most people here are not doing both at the same time. How many people on this sub have been here for over 5 years and not approached 5 women in that time frame?
/r/seduction17/03/26 02:04 PM
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This is the truth. You have to remember that things can go wrong that have absolutely nothing to do with you. This is also much more likely with online dating because you're meeting a complete stranger and people don't take that very seriously. Often times people are using the apps for unhealthy reasons like trying to get over an ex quickly, or looking for a quick fling, and then once the idea becomes reality they regret the experience and change their mind. If the date really did go well then t…
/r/seduction16/03/26 05:08 PM
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Everyone else in the comments has probably already summed this up. You should think about joining clubs as something you do because you love it and a way to build a social circle. There's a balance here when you're single and looking. If you just go to one or two events and then bail when there aren't enough girls there, then you're doing it wrong. You haven't actually joined any clubs you just showed up to an event or two. You have to actually go regularly and get involved. Which means you need…
/r/seduction16/03/26 04:35 PM
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Are you talking about the book, The Game? Because I don't know how that's your only take away from the book. If you're trying to get laid as quickly as possible by as many as possible, then yes, being blatantly famous and successful is the easiest way to do it, but the first half of the book is dedicated towards learning seduction to make people who would not initially be attracted to you, attracted to you. Neil is not conventionally attractive and learned to do well with women before anyone kne…
/r/seduction15/03/26 09:50 PM
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60% of all posts on this subreddit wouldn't be necessary if the people posting just remembered that women are people and not a separate alien species lol
/r/seduction15/03/26 09:37 PM
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Saying that women lack meta cognition is a wildly uneducated oversimplification that you have no evidence of at all.
/r/seduction15/03/26 09:35 PM
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I'm working towards grad school for psychology to end up as a therapist and am thinking about working in social work during the mean time. Thank you for making me feel way better about that potential decision haha
/r/seduction13/03/26 02:38 PM
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That's what it is to YOU. If that's what you were looking for you should have specified that in your post.
/r/seduction13/03/26 02:37 PM
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Like everything, this is only half true. Depends on what you're looking for and how good your game is. I worked in a female dominated industry for almost a decade and dated multiple women that I worked with, even almost married one, but when it's your career and the same people are working in the same location for years then you really can't afford to date multiple people. So even if there are multiple options in your workplace you can date one, maybe two, before you start causing problems in yo…
/r/seduction13/03/26 02:36 PM
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Just listened to a podcast the other day with Dr. Paul Eastwick where he talked about the research on this and was adamant that in the context that humans were designed to date in it's exactly the opposite. People do make instant judgements about each other when they meet but those usually change over time and tons of people end up dating others that they were not initially attracted to. I think this comes into play with HOW you're dating. If you're doing rapid fire cold approaches on the street…
/r/seduction12/03/26 03:15 PM
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You're making a strawman here. I don't think anybody actually believes that you can completely communicate through nothing but body language or that only 7% of all interactions are verbal. The point people are trying to get across to OP is that coming up with preplanned lines isn't effective. The last stranger I made out with I met by walking up to her and asking her "are you taller than me"? She was 5 foot 10 and I'm over 6 foot. I spent the next 5 minutes making nonsensical small talk with her…
/r/seduction11/03/26 11:18 PM
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It's just an awful way to meet people and it's effect on culture has been a net negative. It forces you to make split second judgements about someone based off of superficial qualities which we have plenty of research to show is not how humans are designed to develop relationships. I've had some success there and do use them, but just like the internet as a whole, it's replaced most people's primary form of social interactions and so they're much less likely to engage in it in person. I use old …
/r/seduction11/03/26 10:10 PM
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Can you expand on why you think this is such a good opening line? It's just a slight variant of "are you single?" which feels pretty normal
/r/seduction10/03/26 09:28 PM
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I don't agree with OPs point at all, but you say "you're not god" and then try to establish your view point as if you are. Women aren't a monolith. They can decide themselves what they're here for and some of them do see themselves as here to build a relationship with a man and help him with his/their purpose. I think it's up to each person to establish what relationship dynamics they want for themselves.
/r/seduction10/03/26 09:07 PM
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That's not exactly what he's saying. your last sentence is what he's critiquing though. Doing what "she wants" doesn't have to be normal. Obviously, don't push anyone to do anything they don't want to do, but you need to be framing things for what YOU want to do. When kissing a girl on a date, instead of getting into a heavy make out session and it potentially stopping there, pull away a little and playfully push her off saying "woah, I don't know if we should be doing this" or "I don't know if …
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:44 PM
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Seems like it worked!lol Yeah, we were friends for a long time and eventually slept together. I'm sure I told her a couple times over the years.
/r/seduction06/03/26 02:21 AM
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No. Though if we're talking about results and leaving out morals then, that does seem to be effective and many people do it. What I'm suggesting is that OP's confidence level is currently inflated because he currently has a girlfriend. If he breaks up with her, give it a few weeks, and then see how confident you are that you can "get a lot of girls that you want".
/r/seduction05/03/26 06:22 PM
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Wild title lol which means nobody will read the whole post. You make a really good point though. I also have a big crooked nose that I used to be wildly insecure about. Last year I started going out with a girl who absolutely loved it. I thought she was lying until we were talking about celebrity crushes and she said hers was Adrian Brody. You put it really well when you say that we are attracted to each others rough edges. There's a lot of truth in that statement. Our imperfections make us huma…
/r/seduction05/03/26 02:10 PM
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Y'all need help 😂
/r/seduction05/03/26 02:00 PM
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I hope OP understands what you mean by this. I have broken up with an above average amount of girls in my life and EVERY single time I think this. Every single time I am surprised at how wrong I am. It's like job hunting. It's much easier to get a job when you already have a job. Finding a job when your resume shows you're currently unemployed is a much different story.
/r/seduction05/03/26 01:55 PM
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You know him better than we do, but I feel like that definitely will get the message across haha
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:27 PM
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why are there always these wildly negative, unhelpful comments on every useful comment?lol It's like saying "eating vegetables is a great way to have a healthier diet!" and then you say "unless you're like my friend and it turns out you're allergic to brussel sprouts and you end up almost dying from an allergic reaction". All good advice has obvious caveats. Unless you have a helpful suggestion on how to avoid doing the wrong thing and create bad habits, why even comment?
/r/seduction03/03/26 05:33 PM
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You can do what the other comments here have suggested and go out for a drink, it's not a bad idea, but most guys also love when women are more direct. Text him and say, "hey, i've kinda changed my thoughts on what I'm looking for right now and might be up for something more casual. Would you want to meet sometime soon?". You can rephrase that in a way that sounds more like you but that's going to be helpful for 2 reasons. First, it gives him a gentle way to let you down if he's not interested f…
/r/seduction03/03/26 05:28 PM
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Well, that should make you feel incredibly optimistic then. Most guys spend there whole life trying to get the rest of the equation because they didn't get dealt a great hand by genetics. You're good looking already and now all you have to do is just go out and practice a little. Start off by having a great attitude. It's going to really attract people. I've been doing this for 10+ years and built myself up from being pretty unattractive into someone who is above average with women. If you ever …
/r/seduction01/03/26 08:23 PM
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Yeah, it's really funny because it's obvious when people just have never met a really attractive guy. The guy I'm describing was tall and on steroids so I should point out he was supraphysiological in terms of attractiveness. Like, you literally couldn't look that good without drugs and years of lifting. These guys are rare, but they exist, and once you hang around them you realize women are JUST as visual as men are. there just simply aren't as many male 10's. You can go on tiktok or instagram …
/r/seduction01/03/26 08:20 PM
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Yeah 100%. It's a weird paradoxical truth that you can make people like you by doing nothing more than liking yourself.
/r/seduction01/03/26 07:48 PM
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You're never going to get an average answer on this because it will depend on where you're approaching, how you're approaching, and how good looking you are. I once worked with a guy (at a relatively low stakes job) who was very attractive, like a 9 by most women standards, and he basically couldn't miss. Girls would start flirting with him the second they met him, I saw girls get into fights over him, and I know that he slept with plenty of girls outside of work too. I'm only slightly above ave…
/r/seduction01/03/26 04:02 PM
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I had wildly low self esteem for most of my life. I dedicated myself to doing these for a couple years like it was a part time job and I'm now so confident that some of my close friends call me egotistical. It works. You just have to be consistent.
/r/seduction01/03/26 03:43 PM
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Great comment. I've learned over the years to create that synthesized happiness and I've gotten pretty good at it. I think it's important to learn that for our long term relationships. The grass will always seem greener on the other side, but when learn to find happiness where we are (and in who we're with), is when we build relationships that are truly sustainable.
/r/seduction28/02/26 05:17 PM
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As someone in school to be a therapist, who's been involved in this community for a decade, I didn't really like the beginning of this post but did end up vaguely agreeing with you in the end. I think the first half of your post is your opinion based off of anecdotal evidence that's phrased as a fact because you used some big words and have a degree. That being said I do think you bring up some good ideas but the people you're addressing need more direct examples of how to implement what you're …
/r/seduction28/02/26 01:54 AM
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I would wager its roughly equivalent to the amount of men who leave their unfulfilling relationships and end up happier. Which leads us back to my original point: when you have an overwhelming amount of choices, it's near impossible to know when you've made the right decision. Learning how to do that is an art in and of itself.
/r/seduction28/02/26 01:31 AM
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You say that but how many men here have personal stories of not feeling fulfilled, leaving their girl, and then regretting it because they didn't realize their lack of fulfillment was their own fault?
/r/seduction27/02/26 11:02 PM
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I don't disagree with your point, but this is truly one of the greatest struggle of everyone's life. How do you know when you've got something good and how do you know when you need more? 90% of the population never figures that out in life and that's why stories like Bruno and Denny are so common. That's the paradox of choice at its worst. When you have a million women to choose from, how do you know which one is the final one to settle down with?
/r/seduction27/02/26 01:30 PM
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Except this is wildly untrue. I've been multiple relationships that were full of passion for years. It didn't die off after the first 6 months to a year and I was still excited to sleep with them. Yes, the Coolidge effect is real, but it's not like novelty is the only factor in romantic relationships. Great relationships are rare, but they exist.
/r/seduction26/02/26 07:53 PM
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You say "no one cares what you think", but everything you do is a reflection of what you believe about yourself and the world. I get results with women because I believe that I'm a man of value and that comes across in the way that I live and the choices that I make. Many of the women I've dated in the past few years have told me that the first quality they noticed about me was that I was confident. I only have that confidence because I don't wait for the world to tell me that I have value based…
/r/seduction25/02/26 07:25 PM
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I'm not really getting what you're saying here, beyond your first sentence. I believe I have inherit value, I believe I'm capable of expressing that value, and I do so, often. I think that by being born and being a human everyone has inherit value. Life has inherit value. Whether you make use of that value and live it to its full potential is up to you, but the value I have is with me at all times. It's there if I'm broke, it's there if I'm lonely and no woman wants me, and it's there even if ot…
/r/seduction25/02/26 01:30 PM
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I have been learning this lesson the hard way lately. I broke up with a girl last month and it was super emotional for her. It broke my heart to break somebody else's heart. I definitely have been working to make sure that doesn't happen again.
/r/seduction25/02/26 12:08 AM
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I don't think there's really definitive proof on this. It's kind of a "chicken or the egg" situation. Believing in my inherit value is what built myself esteem and made me as confident as I am. I think it's a good framework for seeing the world.
/r/seduction25/02/26 12:03 AM
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May sound crazy, but I'm convinced that the internet is our generations version of smoking. It's simple, easy to do anywhere, and it's easy to feel addicted. It seems harmless at first so everybody starts doing it. After a few decades we realize it's awful for our health and we're all gonna realize that we have to quit.
/r/seduction23/02/26 01:46 PM
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I describe it to people like going to the gym, but for your brain. Replacing your old shitty thoughts like "I'm a loser and that girl wouldn't like me" to positive thoughts like "I'm awesome and that girl would love me" is an exercise. The more you do it the faster you will get results. The only difference is that in the mental gym, you don't ever get sore, so you can work out 24/7 and just keep getting better and better.
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:12 PM
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I also have majorly changed my life using positive affirmations. This is a great post and I hope more people understand how powerful they can be. You just have to fully commit yourself and do it a TON
/r/seduction22/02/26 05:29 PM
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The more I get outside the more I realize the internet no longer reflects the real world. When the internet was first invented it wasn't like this but now the internet is its own weird little place with crazy ideas and the way people act here is not how they are in real life. The gender war that's popped up in the past few years is entirely online. When I go outside and meet real people they're largely all great people who respect each other. If you're struggling with dating you gotta get outsid…
/r/seduction21/02/26 10:19 PM
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The link you gave shows statistics for couples who met in that decade only though. The majority of couples alive and still together met in previous decades, so while saying the "majority" of people met at work is probably not true, 20 - 30% wouldn't be unbelievable. I'm also not a fan of making up statistics but it's just harping on one aspect of his comment. The rest of what he said is still true.
/r/seduction18/02/26 05:43 PM
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The idea that you should have to go out of your way to date other places is what's weird. You spend the majority of your waking hours at work. It's our bs corporate culture that has instilled this idea in us that we should be soulless robots at work for 8-10 hours a day and separate all feelings from the people we spend the most time around. And then people wonder why depression and lonliness is on the rise. If you want to have a meaningful life you can't spend your time emotionally distancing y…
/r/seduction18/02/26 03:47 PM
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I think them using the word "majority" is wrong, but a ton of people meet at work. Even according to the article you linked 20% of all people met there spouse through work for the better part of a decade up until the internet was invented. I think it makes sense that people meet their spouses wherever they spend the most time. Nowadays people spend a majority of their waking hours online and it makes sense they meet partners that way. Don't think that makes meeting at work much less of a viable …
/r/seduction18/02/26 03:33 PM
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I live in the south and swing is crazy popular here. Where did you try it at?
/r/seduction17/02/26 08:04 PM
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Damn, I wasn't planning on going out tonight but now I want to haha
/r/seduction14/02/26 10:01 PM
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He's just saying to use it as an exercise to practice getting over social anxiety. You ask for directions, get directions, and then walk away. You don't have to use it as a fake pretense to hit on the girl.
/r/seduction14/02/26 06:15 PM
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How many approaches have you ever done? I'm not an expert. I've done less than 30 approaches in my life, but the only negative ever (besides some awkward small talk) was a girl's friend jumped in and started chewing me out. Then the girl i was trying to talk to stopped her, laughed it off, and hugged me after saying I was nice and she hoped I had a good night. I think social media blows this way out of proportion. I go out fairly often and I've never seen a guy strike out so badly that it caused…
/r/seduction14/02/26 06:13 PM
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That's sounds awesome. I'm really jealous, I've always idealized a lifestyle like that and I wish I was living somewhere that it was an option, or maybe that I'd known about it sooner! Also, read your post on career guidance about taking the step down. I don't know if you already made a decision or not but I wouldn't listen to all the top comments in that thread. They think you're in the corporate world. Life's too short to not do stuff you love and it sounds like you already know what you want …
/r/seduction14/02/26 12:56 PM
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Yeah, that sounds pretty sick. If I were a girl I'd be interested in lol Talk to some close friends and ask them to be honest. If you have the dedication to run 20 miles and you just apply that to getting better with women you'll eventually get there. 27 isn't that old If you start now. You got it!
/r/seduction14/02/26 01:05 AM
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The answer to a lot of these kinds of posts are two things. First, if you really have your career and fitness together, then it's probably your attitude. From this post it sounds like that might be it. Second, you need to ask people in real life. People on reddit can only see what you're telling them, which could be wildly inaccurate. You need to have people who see you in social situations give you their feedback, because if you are fit, have your shit together, and are social then by 27 you sh…
/r/seduction13/02/26 07:23 PM
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As far as I know the stuff this guy is bringing up is 20 years old. There's dirt on everybody because all people are flawed. Doesn't mean he didn't have some good ideas.
/r/seduction10/02/26 11:56 PM
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I think it helps to remember that most of mystery's game was invented in packed nightclubs. His method is incredible for that setting. Outside of that, yeah, you have to take it with a grain of salt, but there's some great stuff in there.
/r/seduction10/02/26 11:51 PM
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You got this! I see a lot of people here in the comments giving you shit for not getting her number. Don't sweat that at all. Last time I went out to a club I was talking to a girl and she clearly liked me, but after awhile I just walked away. All my friends were giving me a hard time about not getting her number but I didn't care. Then, later that night the girl and her friends found me and waived me over to join their group on the dance floor. 5 minutes later I was making out with her. Sometim…
/r/seduction08/02/26 02:46 PM
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I just want to comment to say thank you. I've been subscribed to this subreddit for years and lately it's just endless post of either guys complaining about their poor results or "gurus" and coaches spewing ai novels trying to get people to go to their website. This sounds like it actually works, it's not pushy or aggressive, and just sounds fun. These are the kind of posts that make staying on this sub worth it. I'm newly single and can't wait to give this a go. Thanks again!
/r/seduction08/02/26 02:41 PM
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Nice work dude, proud of you. The next time you're both at the gym at the same time you'll know for sure whether she's interested based off her eye contact and body language when she sees you. Just give her a smile and if she responds positively you should go for it.
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:50 AM
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They met after the burns. Not many people are so ugly that being in shape, correcting their posture, a decent hair cut, clothes that fit, and good hygiene won't put them at least at average. You can say what you want, but I coach guys regularly, and the number 1 thing I see that tells me their ability to improve is whether or not they believe they can. Being stuck in such a negative loop is a surefire way to make sure you will never improve. I'm 30.
/r/seduction06/02/26 07:48 PM
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I used to be like you and have thoughts like this. It's 100% an attitude problem. J.R. Martinez is a US veteran who's face was horrifically scarred by 3rd degree burns and afterwards married a beautiful woman. If that guy can do it, you can. Nobody wants to "change" the evidence because you have an incredibly negative mindset. It's hard for anyone else to believe in you if you don't believe in yourself.
/r/seduction06/02/26 07:08 PM
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I've known multiple people who are autistic and not conventionally attractive and have found partners or had healthy relationships. I hope that you can find it in you to stop devaluing yourself based off of those things and know that you're worthy of real human love and connection.
/r/seduction06/02/26 06:41 PM
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But a robot isn't a romantic life. A romantic life is created by two people's mutual interest and attraction. A robot doesn't feel anything. It can't be romantic. You're talking about government mandated, talking fleshlights. Instead of settling for being an "undesirable man" have you thought about putting in the work to make yourself a man that women might desire?
/r/seduction06/02/26 04:40 PM
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He pulled it out of his ass lol
/r/seduction06/02/26 12:01 AM
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I can't believe stuff like this gets up voted. How many people in here have never had a normal, healthy relationship with a woman. I won't settle for a clanker. It'll never replace real human intimacy.
/r/seduction06/02/26 12:00 AM
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I don't think I agree with your premise but let's just go with it. If it is lower educated men and highly educated men wouldn't those be the two categories of people most effected by dating apps and the paradox of choice? Highly sought after men are able to use dating apps to find a plethora of lower educated women who will seek after them. This means the lowly educated men will have no options because they were taken by the "better" men and the highly educated women won't have any options to ch…
/r/seduction05/02/26 11:57 PM
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This is biased by the internet 1000%. You're seriously can't think of any men you know who are misogynistic and bad with women? The truth is that it doesn't have much of an effect on your ability to get women. It only has an effect on your ability to have good relationships with women. Sure, any "pick up artists" who are pulling a lot of girls probably lean towards being misogynistic because that's the attitude you have to have if you want to treat women like they're a game and you're going for …
/r/seduction31/01/26 04:50 PM
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It seems hard because it is. Cold approaching is like any other sales gig. It has a really high reward because it has a high skill ceiling. If it were easy, everybody would do it. You're young and don't have a lot of practice at this. It'll get easier with age and experience. What you need to do is find a way to have fun with it in the mean time while you learn. First, if all the girls seem in a rush, you're probably interrupting them while they're on their way to something else. Or you're makin…
/r/seduction31/01/26 01:51 AM
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I talk about this with every girl I've ever dated and it's never turned anyone off.
/r/seduction25/01/26 02:34 PM
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These are valid points. Overall, I just think it's kind of funny that coaches are raving about social events like it's a new discovery. Like, yeah, who knew the easiest way to get girls was to leave your house and meet new people? Genius lol
/r/seduction03/01/26 09:56 PM
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"Most" is hard to say. I will say that almost every guy you see on YouTube making content didn't learn the skills from YouTube. All of the RSD guys were mentored by mystery and his group and a lot of modern day guys were mentored by the RSD guys. I see posts from guys talking about doing dozens or hundreds of approaches and getting almost zero results. That's what trial and error can often gets you. There's just no harm in trying to find a mentor or friends to do this with. All coaches have free…
/r/seduction30/12/25 03:15 PM
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I agree with that statement mostly. It's true for most people in most cases. I think a huge part of the problem is that people don't like the term "coach" because it's too gimmicky and over used. If you go back to the beginning of seduction as a hobby ALL the guys had mentors and friends they practiced with. In the "the game" Neil Strauss often refers to them as gurus and a lot of them weren't doing it for money, they were doing it for the love of the game. Most people in it nowadays see that th…
/r/seduction30/12/25 02:57 PM
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I had a relatively good experience with it. A lot of coaches give everything a bad rapt because they're gimmicky and they suck. Most people are going into this with very little experience and think they can learn everything from YouTube videos. If you don't have any friends you're working with this on in real life then the best thing you can do is get real people to talk with that can give you feedback and experience. That's how you get guys who come here and say "I've done 300 hundred approache…
/r/seduction30/12/25 12:08 AM
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You're making the mistake of assuming everyone's experiences are like yours. First of all, your description of bars and clubs are not how it is in my city. Second, I go to nightclubs primarily because I think they're fun. I like letting loose, talking to drunk strangers, and dancing. Meeting people there is easy because I'm just talking to people who like having fun the same way I do. If you don't have fun there then it's not the place for you.
/r/seduction27/12/25 02:29 PM
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bingo.
/r/seduction14/12/25 08:24 PM
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I like your metaphor. You're definitely on to the right idea with the trains example. For me, the process of figuring out how to be happy with myself started with getting with a good clinical psychologist at 18 and learning cognitive behavioral therapy. From there I branched out into practicing meditation and using the ability of being hyper aware of was happening in my own head to change my thoughts. I would sometimes spend up to 4 hours a night alone at home laying in complete silence in the d…
/r/seduction14/12/25 04:41 PM
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I think a lot of people here get too narrow minded about what seduction is and what exactly they're trying to do. We all have different goals with women and those specific goals have to be trained for in individual ways. Often training for one goal will inhibit your ability to achieve others. To give a concrete example: if your goal is to sleep with 100 women, then you'll need to learn certain skills. Like, maybe making yourself really physically attractive, learning to be less empathetic so you…
/r/seduction13/12/25 10:15 PM
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I don't have the energy to respond to everything in this wall of text, but just know that focusing all your energy on having multiple options stops you from completely diving into one option. To use your own analogy about dancing to a song: when I go out dancing and it's early, I know there are plenty of songs coming, so I don't pay any particular attention to any one. When I know there's only 5 minutes until the venue closes I'm fully appreciating those last couple of minutes and I'm focusing t…
/r/seduction13/12/25 08:16 PM
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I don't really know what apologizing is going to do at that point. I would consider changing your approach tactic though because that's a great way to come off as a creep.
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:56 PM
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One of the best indicators of future behavior is past behavior. Someone who spends all their time focusing on meeting, talking to, dating, and sleeping with as many people as possible is not building the skills necessary to commit to one person. I consider myself very average at seduction but I'm a very good partner once I'm in a relationship. I learned that by being in long term relationships and practicing that skill though.
/r/seduction08/12/25 01:55 PM
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This is part of it, but it's getting worse. People aren't actually socializing as much in person and I think that's a huge part of the problem. When you actually have to spend many hours interacting casually with people of the opposite sex you can often learn that all the "women are overly emotional" and "men only want sex" ideas are nonsense.
/r/seduction22/11/25 07:48 PM
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I agree with you that the cycle you're describing probably does play out sometimes and that's sad. I don't think people do it intentionally though. I really wish that we could stop seeing the other gender as something different and realize we're all just people who want to find happiness and be loved. Often times we go about seeking that in ways that are counter intuitive because of our own mental hang ups and the society we live in forcing us to date in ways that aren't natural. Though, most of…
/r/seduction22/11/25 07:08 PM
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I hope you know that many women do this exact same thing. Again, it's definitely not all women but plenty of girls are very open about their blind hatred for men. I recently started seeing someone new and before I met her two best friends they openly told her that they wouldn't like me because I was a man. When I finally did meet them they were openly hostile and cold towards me before I'd barely spoken to them. I've been on dates with women who were openly like this, it's confusing, but it's no…
/r/seduction22/11/25 04:34 PM
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It depends on so many different factors that you can't get a "yes or no" answer to this. I've never had anyone act "disgusted" by me but I have had some negative responses when I was younger. I'm 30 now and much better and my approached vary from girls being really interested to "sorry I have a boyfriend" but they're still happy to talk and have a nice conversation. Focus on building an interesting life and then just approach girls everywhere. Go to events you find interesting, go places with yo…
/r/seduction17/11/25 07:20 PM
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Comments in here are kind of disappointing. I think the "why" of this question has evolutionary and societal explanations that have already been discussed here. I think the more interesting question instead of "why?" is "what do we do about it"? The first misstep is making it an issue that apply to just one gender. Both genders seem to be struggling in dating. Why don't we look at a solution that applies to both men and women and takes the positives from each side instead of pointing the finger …
/r/seduction14/11/25 08:06 PM
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I definitely notice the trend you're describing and it's been disheartening lately. Apparently sexism is fine as long as it's men that you're blindly hating based on their gender. I'm very picky when I'm dating for long term relationships and I don't date people who don't like my gender. It's becoming less common but there are plenty of women who aren't sexist and I save my time and energy for them.
/r/seduction12/11/25 07:01 PM
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Fair point. I just think very few people actually have testosterone levels naturally low enough that they "need" trt. Most people would just rather take drugs than make lifestyle changes. If you're using a testosterone dose that makes you feel normal then my comment doesn't really apply. I'm mostly talking about the many people I've met who claim to be on a "therapeutic" dose who go from looking out of shape to jacked in a year.
/r/seduction12/11/25 12:50 AM
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Yep, I'm 100% with you. You go to the testosterone sub and you'll find hundreds of guys raving about how great it is but nobody ever talks about the downsides. First and foremost that you might be forced to run it forever. My main passion is longevity. I'd like to be healthy and alive as long as possible and the jury is still out on this but I think artifical altering your hormones is not optimal for health. It can be in some cases but doing it just to put on muscle when you're young is not a go…
/r/seduction10/11/25 03:49 PM
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I don't like pretending that there is much of a difference between steroids and trt. The most common steroid is just straight test and most people on trt are getting more than just a therapeutic dose. The downsides are that there are a lot of questions about what drastically elevating your testosterone does to your health long term. In large doses it obviously has some pretty negative effects on longevity, but I think it can even at lower trt doses. I was prescribed trt by a clinic but never use…
/r/seduction10/11/25 01:47 PM
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This is a such a misconception. I swear most people just don't know any guys who are in shape lol Actually body building? Yes. No one wants to fuck competition ready Jay Cutler. But if you are a man who is very muscular you will generate TONS of unsolicited attention from women. I've known multiple guys who were on test and got huge. The way women treated them was crazy and they didn't even have to try.
/r/seduction09/11/25 06:53 PM
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I've had that happen plenty of times and I've never taken pills or T.
/r/seduction20/10/25 06:59 PM
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If you think this is unbelievable then I feel really sorry for you lol
/r/seduction20/10/25 06:58 PM
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Insecure in Love by Leslie Becker-Phelps for the self doubt and anxiety, Models by Mark Manson for a good framework on how to approach dating, and I liked The Game solely because it's a classic and shows you what's possible if you practice enough.
/r/seduction20/10/25 12:01 AM
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Your point was that you wish mystery would prove he got "LA 10's", then I pointed out to you that he is on camera doing that, and your only argument is "well, that's subjective now". So, when there's video footage of something happening that's subjective to you? If the girls mystery dates aren't hot to you then it doesn't count? You're the sole decider on whether his girlfriends are hot or not? You're wrong, you know you are, and your best argument is just saying "it's subjective". Does using un…
/r/seduction15/10/25 01:20 AM
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So you're saying that the point is impossible to prove because you're the only one who gets to decide who's attractive and who isn't? Seems awfully convenient lol
/r/seduction14/10/25 11:18 PM
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You realize that 90% of the populations view of ANY form of "pick up" is cheesy, cringe, and kind of sad, right? Most people think that the fact there are guys on message boards talking about the best way to pick up chicks is pretty lame, but if it works, it works. The bits of the show that I've seen are really effective basics that he was teaching people. Go into a venue, be social, introduce yourself to people, and then introduce those people to new people and make yourself the center of a soc…
/r/seduction14/10/25 01:50 AM
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Anything worth doing ain't easy. Mystery has tons of on camera footage showing that what he does works.
/r/seduction14/10/25 12:08 AM
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Mystery literally had a TV show where he went into nightclubs with hidden cameras and was mic'd up and you can watch him work. It's still the most high quality in field approaching footage there is. I say this as someone who used to be a big mystery hater.
/r/seduction14/10/25 12:05 AM
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If you like them, it'll give you more opportunities to deepen that affection. If you don't like them, it'll give you more opportunities to deepen the hatred. Yeah, it does go both ways lol
/r/seduction11/10/25 12:49 PM
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Completely accurate and really well put. This is the answer.
/r/seduction11/10/25 12:19 AM
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That's because you're assuming that what you read on reddit applies to the general public. I know multiple married couples who met while the woman was working. Also have dated multiple women I worked with. They were very open to it. There are millions of people out there. There's never one rule that applies to all people in every situation.
/r/seduction11/10/25 12:19 AM
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In psychology it's well known the largest determining factor in the likelihood of any kind of relationship forming is 1 thing. Proximity. The more time you spend in the presence of someone the more likely you are to develop a deeper relationship with them.
/r/seduction11/10/25 12:01 AM
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Not all nurses are RN though. Not sure what OP was referring to.
/r/seduction09/10/25 08:02 PM
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People who aren't necessarily sexually interested in you will tell you're attractive as if it's a fact. I went through a glow up as an adult and now strangers I meet refer to me as handsome, old ladies tell me they'd love for me to meet their granddaughters, the employees at the place i go for lunch every day write notes calling me cute on pick up orders, my friends comment on how how often girls want to seem to be around me, and at least one girl has been romantically interested in me at the la…
/r/seduction09/10/25 12:57 AM
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I really don't mean this is an offensive way, but if you're in an OCD like spiral from one girl you met in a bar not texting you back then you definitely have a very deeply ingrained negative attitude. One that's probably noticeable in your interactions. Do you have close friends that you could ask for advice on this? Like I said, my advice would be seeing a dating coach for a few sessions or more and going out with friends so they can see your behavior. Everyone has blind spots. Some are bigger…
/r/seduction08/10/25 04:28 PM
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Honestly, nobody is going to be able to give you advice based off the limited info in this post. Your defeatist attitude implies there's probably something obvious that you're doing wrong, that you can't see, but people around you would pick up quickly. You're going to need more opinions from people who know you. Ask friends who go out with you or talk to more dating coaches and do a deep dive with one or a couple of them. Anybody who's giving advice based off your post is just winging guesses. …
/r/seduction07/10/25 06:57 PM
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The metaphor isn't perfect here. Ignore it. This is still a great idea. The point is that a doctor can be bad or good. That's a little more objective. You, as a child, or a human being, is more subjective. There's no reason not to be supremely confident in yourself because the only thing that makes it genuine is whether or not you believe it. If I say "I'm great guy. I'm fun and really enjoyable to be around!" Then who's to say I'm wrong? Some people will agree and some will disagree, but I can …
/r/seduction02/10/25 06:45 PM
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Internal Family Systems and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. They're both therapy systems that can use this style of visualization practice.
/r/seduction02/10/25 06:37 PM
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Cool, this gives me some ideas. Thank you!
/r/seduction25/09/25 06:05 PM
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I also have thick, dry, wavy hair and have struggled for years to manage it other than keeping it relatively short. What kind of products did you use to help with frizz?
/r/seduction25/09/25 04:59 PM
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This advice is just misconstrued. Everyone likes to chase, but you have to make sure they're initially attracted to you first.
/r/seduction24/09/25 03:56 PM
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Comments in here are super weird. Who gives a shit about the city lol I also did this recently in a similar sized city and would recommend! I convinced a group of the girls from the event to go to a bar afterwards and we had a fun night! Met the girl I'm currently dating at the event too.
/r/seduction17/09/25 09:20 AM
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If you actually enjoy dancing it's not a gimmick though. I know people who, for them, it is the bread and butter of their interactions. There are clubs in my city where they are based around certain types of dance and going to dance is the main point. There's a new post here every day from guys saying that they've been doing hundreds of approaches and seen no success. Those guys could absolutely benefit from picking up a fun hobby.
/r/seduction08/09/25 05:42 PM
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If this guy was talking about going to the gym and it taking years, I'd agree with you, but this is different. Talking to women should be basic social skills but this adds on so much more. Not only is dancing a great way to meet women, it shows value, sets you apart in a busy bar or club, and makes an emotional connection. Those are some of the biggest sticking points for most guys when cold approach.
/r/seduction08/09/25 12:11 PM
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I think there's a middle ground between cold approach and social circle game. Going out to do this you enjoy and meeting new people while doing it is a great way to meet women.
/r/seduction06/09/25 01:07 AM
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All of the best relationships I've been in have been with women I wouldn't have swiped right on in a dating app. If you're looking for a hook up, looks matter a lot. If you're looking for a long term relationship then looks have almost 0 correlation with whether or not that person will be a good partner.
/r/seduction02/09/25 12:33 PM
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Goat comment here. This is just great life advice on how to handle judgement from others.
/r/seduction27/08/25 09:48 PM
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It's not just girls who are like this. It's people. Guys do it also and they often just call it being "friend zoned". Most people have mental hang ups that stop them from being successful in relationships and accepting worse treatment than they should. You just happen to notice this particular one of hers. Almost everyone has them.
/r/seduction20/08/25 02:56 PM
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I don't get what you're implying. I've been in all kinds of relationships. From flings, to being engaged, to dating people currently. In the past, and in the current day, I have met plenty of women who are willing to be equals.
/r/seduction16/08/25 07:57 PM
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I just searched for it on amazon and was able to find it...I also come across it every time I stumble into Barnes and Noble which is where I picked my copy up 6 months ago.
/r/seduction16/08/25 02:05 AM
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Turn out last week was awesome. Always happy to have new people. See you guys tonight!
/r/seduction15/08/25 02:51 PM
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Because it isn't hard to find lol it's probably the most well known book on pickup.
/r/seduction13/08/25 09:04 PM
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I agree with the comment above wholeheartedly and just don't have the time to type up my own experience. Getting out of the game can be hard when you built your whole life style around it but the way you get out is to focus on how great a relationship can be. There are so many exciting things you can experience in a deep relationship with one person that you can't experience when you're busy playing the game.
/r/seduction12/08/25 07:02 PM
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This is true. I've spent the past 6 weeks or so kind of obsessing over game and the results have been awesome but I've stopped going to the gym, I eat out a lot, and my work performance is suffering. I'm having to go out every Friday and Saturday and stay out late which leaves me for no time with family or chores, and it's ruining my sleep schedule. I have no idea how people do this long term. I'm just ready to find a wife and be over it lol
/r/seduction10/08/25 01:43 PM
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I just DM'd you the link. Nobody will have to let you in and there's no password for this one. Hope to see you in there!
/r/seduction08/08/25 02:33 PM
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Awesome. Calls have had really good turn out lately. See you guys tonight!
/r/seduction08/08/25 02:20 PM
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We try to only add people to the whatsapp group after they join us in the call. Keeps out trolls or people who aren't as serious. If you join tonight we'd be happy to add you!
/r/seduction08/08/25 02:11 PM
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This is perfect advice. Really great comment for someone who doesn't know where to start. Baby steps and then work your way up.
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:24 PM
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You're 100% right. Most of the time it just adds unnecessary strain to future relationships. I have some exs that I like and we ended on great terms. We're friendly and we wish each other well, but we're not "friends". A lot of times you see this when people just don't know how to let go.
/r/seduction06/08/25 03:17 PM
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1000% I'm hoping people start to wake up and realize that soon.
/r/seduction05/08/25 10:33 PM
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I see so many men with this attitude and I think that it's a symptom of the internet and people being constantly online. I actually see it in women too as the "all men are evil and want to murder me" mindset. People have stopped having genuine human connection with each other and most of their world view is being shaped by bullshit they're reading on a screen. A lot of people are missing out on the daily experience of staring into another person's eyes and being reminded that they're just anothe…
/r/seduction05/08/25 10:11 PM
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You need to touch grass. This mindset is not only wrong but it's rotting you. People can feel the energy coming off you when your mindset is that negative.
/r/seduction04/08/25 11:26 PM
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Just chiming in to say that the call is legit. We have a good group of regulars every week and it's a great place to get good advice if you're new and want to talk to people who have experience OR if you go out regularly and want to share your experiences.
/r/seduction01/08/25 02:35 PM
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I'm too sleep deprived too write a logical response to how wrong this is, but I hate that the most incorrect comment is the only one getting up votes.
/r/seduction28/07/25 05:58 AM
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Wouldn't you assume that the type of women who can/are willing to pay for matchmaking services aren't representative of the general population and are doing so because what they're looking for isn't the norm? Maybe some guys are bumping into those women but I think I'll just keep dating women who don't expect me to buy their love. Been working so far. I'd hate for other men to get it twisted and think it won't work for them too.
/r/seduction26/07/25 10:03 PM
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Would love to hear your experience as a man dating women. Because I don't think you have any lol
/r/seduction26/07/25 08:46 PM
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What kind of women are you guys dating? I've dated dozens of women and not a single one ever expected me to buy things for them. I pay for most first dates but after 1 or 2 the girl almost offers to split things or offers to pay for me. All of my LTR's have been equal also. I'm curious if men saying this sort of stuff just believe everything they read online or if they just have terrible taste in women.
/r/seduction26/07/25 06:26 PM
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She most likely blew you off for something 100% out of your control. I've gone out with two girls recently that I liked that I could have seen myself with long term and both of them had their ex boyfriends pop back into their lives. Nothing you can do about it, so you move on. Having sex might have made her act differently. Or it might have changed nothing. You'll never know so don't over think it. You did the right thing.
/r/seduction23/07/25 04:52 PM
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He was in the game. His name started with an x and he joined project Hollywood on the RSD side.
/r/seduction23/07/25 01:16 PM
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Just my opinion, but the concept of "I like to have intelligent conversation so I'm too good to enjoy meaningless fun" is kind of bull. I live for deep conversation. I am able to get a lot of women interested in me because I'm very good at expressing my emotions and being a safe place for other people to express there's through deep talks BUT I can also go out, have a few drinks, and just have a fun time with "talk to talk" as you put it. It's called having fun. Saying that you get bored just te…
/r/seduction21/07/25 12:44 AM
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So sick of this crap.
/r/seduction21/07/25 12:30 AM
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Comments in here are weird. Yeah, use the picture. No, you don't have to disclose that it's not yours. It's weirder if you do disclose it. It's not like it's a child.
/r/seduction21/07/25 12:27 AM
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We're having a zoom meet-up tonight for this sub where a group of us get together and talk about logistics stuff like this. It's at 7pm central time. If you want to have a conversation and hear from people that have some experience with this I can send you a link!
/r/seduction18/07/25 08:07 PM
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Don't know what time zone you're in but at 7pm central tonight we're doing a meet up for this sub and we talk about stuff like this. If you want to join you can DM me
/r/seduction18/07/25 08:03 PM
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She's probably religious and has some hangups about sex and relationships. Like someone else here said, just be very direct. Don't allow her back and forth to mess with you. If it happens, it happens. If not, so be it. The more direct you are though the faster you'll get an answer.
/r/seduction18/07/25 07:35 PM
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It's a joke here that's really surprising nobody gets lol
/r/seduction17/07/25 10:50 PM
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Yeah, that's the problem. Social media doesn't represent reality. Instagram and the real world are different places. Choose which world you spend your time in wisely.
/r/seduction09/07/25 01:38 AM
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I could give this a really long response but it boils down to this...how many women do you know? I used to have a lot of female friends and I've been with a fair amount of women romantically. All of your beliefs just make me think that you don't actually talk to women. Go out with girls. As friends and as dates. Develop intimate connections with them and have deep conversations with them. They're people just like you or me. They have animalistic desires, enjoy sex, and a lot of them dream about …
/r/seduction08/07/25 09:57 PM
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We're trying to make it weekly! If you can join tonight just dm me!
/r/seduction04/07/25 11:14 PM
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No problem. Some of us from this sub are getting a group together in an hour on zoom for a weekly meetup. If you want to hop on the call DM me!
/r/seduction04/07/25 11:04 PM
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While this might be a smidge true it entirely depends on where you're dating and what type of girl you're looking for. Are you in LA or Hollywood chasing girls who look like models in night clubs? Then yeah, wealth helps. Do you live in the Midwest in an average size city and are looking for a nice woman to marry? Wealth doesn't matter. I know plenty of guys who are broke and have zero problems with women. I make just enough to be able to go on dates and I do just fine. Any woman who likes you f…
/r/seduction04/07/25 10:45 PM
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It's not always true, but this is my experience as well. I've known men who were really good looking and were really successful with women. All of them were deeply insecure. They were "drowning" in women to try to fill a void and it wasn't working.
/r/seduction04/07/25 01:33 PM
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Read The Game. Has the exact advice you probably need.
/r/seduction03/07/25 10:48 PM
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There's always a solution for this and it's to be direct. If she rejected you, fine, but now you have an answer and you can move on. The next time you're talking to her ask her directly if she's interested. "Hey, I gotta be honest, I find you attractive and I like you a lot. I want to see if you would want to go out as more than friends. How about Friday night?" Basically, you want to force a yes or no out of her. Most guys think that rejection is the worst thing that could happen. It's not. Rej…
/r/seduction02/07/25 08:36 PM
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This comment was great lol you might be too harsh on yourself
/r/seduction29/06/25 05:40 PM
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I'd rather read bad English than ideas written by a robot.
/r/seduction29/06/25 05:26 PM
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Please do. I'll show up and it'll be good to talk to people with some experience!
/r/seduction27/06/25 11:37 PM
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Disagree here strongly. This might be true for your average guy but there are good men out there who don't just fall for anything. Men don't value themselves because society doesn't value us. Robots can do dangerous physical labor now, there's no wars being fought, and women can earn enough income on their own to not need a man to provide. For most of human history this is what men brought to the table. Now we live in a different society where that isn't cutting it and there's 8 billion people a…
/r/seduction26/06/25 11:35 PM
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Self reported, unverifiable facts, from a small, specific sample size. Given by a corporation with a profit motive. Yes lol
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:39 PM
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You read enough to downvote me lol
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:23 PM
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The dating app is asking women what age they would prefer and then they're entering their preference. It is self reported data. They're not actually showing you what age the men that these women end up with are. A woman could sign up for Hinge one day, put their preference as 21 - 25, and then delete the app and end up dating a guy who's 40 that they met in real life a week later. There is no better quantitative metric of what women look for in dating apps. My final point is the last sentence of…
/r/seduction26/06/25 05:11 PM
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This isn't accurate data though. Just because girls set their preference on a dating app to that doesn't mean they ACTUALLY prefer it. First off, the actual percentage of women using Hinge is only a minority of young single women. So, you're getting a skewed answer regardless because the data from Hinge doesn't represent the average single woman. Second, what people self report as a preference is often wildly inaccurate. People are biased and have a tendency to drastically over or under estimate…
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:30 PM
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This is my exact mantra. I tell myself "nothing interesting ever happens alone indoors". Sometimes the crazy stuff can happen to you just by walking outside. You just have to get involved in the world.
/r/seduction26/06/25 01:04 AM
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This is also my experience exactly. You just break it down really well. I'm a slightly above average guy but nothing special and I have a fair amount of success with this exact model. Last weekend I set up a date through an app, met the girl at a hotel bar, talked to her for an hour over drinks and it probably just did look like 2 friends catching up. I added in some touch when I could and I tried to get her laughing. After a while it was getting warm outside on the patio so I suggested we go ba…
/r/seduction25/06/25 11:25 PM
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I've done this on and off for the past couple years. When I'm single ill often sit down at the beginning of every week and just plan as much social stuff to do as possible. If I don't have plans on a Friday or Saturday night I force myself to go out to bars/clubs/ events alone and then try to talk to as many people as I can. For one whole year I had this mindset. I was always planning events and that attracted other people. People love being invited to fun events when they don't have to find it …
/r/seduction25/06/25 11:15 PM
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Honestly, the type of girl who cancels on a pre arranged dinner date to go to a party and is Instagram famous is never going to be yours anyways. These girls are young and living it up while they can. I'm not knocking that, I'm just saying that you probably weren't going to lock it down anyways. It's been really hard for me to get this through my head at 30 but I realize more and more as I get older that looks have 0 bearing on how happy your relationship is. If a girl is truly a 10 there's a ve…
/r/seduction25/06/25 10:36 PM
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Comedy clubs are a good one in some situations. If someone wants to drink, they can, but you don't have to. Only downside is that it's like a movie, where neither of you can talk during it. Upside is that it gets her laughing and you'll have inside jokes. I love comedy so this is my go to.
/r/seduction25/06/25 10:13 PM
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Don't beat yourself up. You're gonna be fine. It's great to wear protection but one slip up in this case is not going to kill you. If you pulled out long in advance you're not going to get her pregnant. Even if it was possible there's no use in stressing about something that hasn't happened yet. Personally, I've done this more than I care to admit and it has never caused even a slight issue for me.
/r/seduction23/06/25 11:24 PM
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Just my two cents from very limited info: sounds like you're about to fuck up a really good situation. Things will always seem better on the other side. Do not throw away a good relationship just to go chasing strangers. That shit gets old fast. If you want to live a fun exciting life do that with your girlfriend, or take a little bit of space, and do it on your own. You can find fun and fulfilling stuff to do in life that has nothing to do with women. At some point sleeping with strangers or ch…
/r/seduction19/06/25 06:23 PM
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This is a really sad take and I would encourage you to open your mind as you get older. You say in this post to "live life to the fullest", yet you say to hold yourself back from falling in love. How do you not see those as contradictory statements? What you have to understand is that living life to its fullest doesn't mean that every second of your life will be full of joy and bliss. It doesn't mean that nothing bad will ever happen to you. And that's a good thing, because as you get older you …
/r/seduction19/06/25 01:32 PM
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That's why I said "if you're good at it". I've been doing this my whole life so I can tell if the girl is comfortable getting emotional or if I need to dial back. I don't really "trauma dump". That's usually something people only do if they're not good at managing their emotions. I like talking about feelings, but I don't feel the need to dump mine on anyone else. Personally, I feel that if I calmly open up about my feelings in a secure way to someone and they judge me for it, then they weren't …
/r/seduction17/06/25 06:05 PM
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It can. I've dealt with issues because I've had women before really attached really quickly. It's a balancing act and you have to learn to be very honest about your intentions.
/r/seduction17/06/25 06:00 PM
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I do agree. I went on a date this weekend where we spent 3 hours talking about blood work, longevity, and health and fitness. It was a great conversation, but I didn't feel like it made her attracted to me. That's fine, because that's not what I was after. I'm very go with the flow, but you can change the topic of conversation too. It comes down to logic versus emotions. If your "deep conversations are about politics, philosophy, or culture then that's logistical and it's not sexy. If your deep …
/r/seduction17/06/25 05:59 PM
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Could not disagree anymore, ChatGPT. Maybe emotional connection doesn't work for you because you're not good at it. I go on dates with girls not to get laid, but because I genuinely enjoy having deep emotional connections with other human beings. I'm great at getting emotionally deep on dates and more often than not I can literally feel the girl falling in love with me on the first and second date. Yes, you do have to keep up a flirty, sexual, fun tension, but when you can do that while also bei…
/r/seduction17/06/25 12:56 PM
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Fair enough. I just think using planned "techniques" is a slippery slope for a lot of guys to accidentally come off too strong if they're not already pretty charismatic. I did throw out a couple of basics in my comment to give some simple ideas.
/r/seduction16/06/25 06:55 PM
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This one I've been practicing for years and I love doing it. I find a way to smoothly tell/ask them if I can kiss them because I find just going for it to be awkward. I went on a date Saturday and I knew the girl was into me, she had already brought up sex, so at one point she made a bad pun teasing me and I said "ouch. That hurt. I think you owe me a kiss for that" and she just smiled so I went for it. Another time a girl was telling me about how she grew up with strict parents and they told he…
/r/seduction16/06/25 04:56 PM
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Personally I think over thinking kino is a bad idea. If you're doing it right it'll come very naturally. My favorite is grabbing them by the knee or shoulder when we're having an exciting conversation. If they're telling me a crazy story and we're laughing I'll lean in, grab them by the shoulder and say "you did what"?! While making really strong eye contact. But I don't usually plan on this it just feels natural in the moment. Placing a hand on the small of their back to guide them through a cr…
/r/seduction16/06/25 02:10 PM
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I wish I had more to add, but I struggle with this too and would love explanations and answers so I'm commenting in hopes it gets this more visibility lol
/r/seduction15/06/25 08:07 PM
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I've been through this a dozen times and I'll tell you right now. There is no good way to do this. You just have to rip the bandaid off. Tell her almost exactly what you said in this post. "Hey, it's been great getting to know you the past couple weeks and I can't really tell if there's anything romantic here but id really love to continue hanging out with you, as friends. If you're up for that do you want to go do - blank- this weekend"? Obviously don't say that word for word, but the longer yo…
/r/seduction14/06/25 07:33 PM
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I disagree slightly. I have great success trying to get to know the girl. I don't rush it, or force it, I just genuinely like getting to know people. I've had many women tell me that our first date was the first date they've ever had and I don't do it intentionally. you just have to make sure you're having fun while you do it and don't bore them. Apparently, that doesn't work for everyone so if it's not working for you, I do agree you should maybe try a different approach. I listened to a podcas…
/r/seduction13/06/25 11:33 PM
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Depends on how deep of an emotional connection you're talking. If you thinking you're forming an intense emotional connection after the first date... that seems a little nuts. I can form a good emotional connection on about 30% of all dates that I go on. Maybe even 50%. I often have women get really hung up on me after the first date because it goes so well. But that's not real. I was engaged to a woman who was great. She was my partner, best friend, biggest supporter, my should to cry on... she…
/r/seduction13/06/25 11:10 PM
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This is beautifully said. Really great insight
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:03 PM
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This makes me feel a lot better because this is my exact experience. I'm always surprised that Tinder is dead because it's still seen as the most popular app.
/r/seduction11/06/25 03:10 PM
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Most of this is solid advice but it's all pretty basic stuff. Most of the advice you're hearing on this subreddit is from guys who have these basics down. If you're a guy and you don't have any hobbies or basic hygiene then that's a huge problem. A lot of the advice you hear here about things you think don't work, only don't work for average guys, they do work often for guys who are already attractive and have good fundamentals.
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:19 AM
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I agree. That's a crazy number. I think this is highly dependent on your current level of social skills. If you're a shut in with bad social anxiety who's bad with women, then yeah, maybe. I just recently started approaching (people in general, not just women) and I'm doing fine after just a few approaches. I've been working a professional, yet customer facing, job for 8 years, have a fair amount of experience with nightlife, and I'm already good with women so it's not starting from scratch. The…
/r/seduction10/06/25 05:39 PM
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Why does approaching have to lead to sex?
/r/seduction05/06/25 01:55 PM
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That's not how I read the post. If he's saying that the girl likes him and really wants to date him and he leads her on just so he can practice sex, then yeah, that's a no go for sure. From his post he made it sound like she's the one bringing up having sex
/r/seduction05/06/25 01:11 PM
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"She has been saying she wants to fuck me so I can get better dick game" Maybe I'm reading this comment wrong, but it sounds like this girl offered to sleep with him so he could get better in bed. How would it be wrong to take her up on that if she's the one offering?? Personally, I've learned to avoid the situation, but if someone is saying "I really want to have sex with you. Please have sex with me!" And then you have sex with them...I don't understand how that makes you a monster.
/r/seduction05/06/25 12:21 PM
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This is a complicated moral issue that there is no right answer to. The best rule of thumb is to just make your intentions clear. If you tell her you're not interested in dating, but she wants to sleep with you, do whatever you want. In my experience you have to be careful though because many people will get their hopes up and try to get you to change your mind. They will be hurt when you don't and you may have to deal with the fallout of that. I've been through this once or twice and at this po…
/r/seduction05/06/25 12:01 AM
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I think you're just going off you're own personal experiences and making the mistake of generalizing that to all women. Like I said in my post, I have multiple female friends who are single and would love it if more random men approached them. Obviously, if he's a creep who just wants to sleep with you, it's weird. That's the point of game though, you're learning to make the other person feel comfortable. You can watch YouTube videos of guys doing this infinitely. Yeah, in the middle of the day …
/r/seduction04/06/25 11:22 PM
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This isn't true at all. I have plenty of female friends who go out with the intention of being approached. This is highly dependent on where you live, where you are at the time, and how you approach the situation. If the girl is filling up at a gas station and you're just getting off work in your greasy overalls and you ask the girl for her snapchat.... yeah, most women aren't into that. You're downtown at a social event where everyone is drinking and having a good time, you're an attractive man…
/r/seduction04/06/25 10:55 PM
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Exactly. You can't boil an entire gender down to one statement. Some women will, many won't. I think OP needs to ask himself, if you can attract a women solely through "status" is that really the type of woman you want to be with anyways?
/r/seduction04/06/25 10:34 PM
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It's so vital though. I actually never realized how much it mattered until I dealt with it personally. I'm no supermodel but I'm above 6 foot tall, am in shape, and am above average looking, and at this point I almost hate when people comment on my looks. Even just a woman saying "wow you're tall" with a certain tone tells me she's interested, and often, it's too much. I've gone out with girls who wouldn't stop complimenting me early on in dating (if we're in a relationship and the compliments a…
/r/seduction02/06/25 04:21 PM
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Everyone says that but I don't see how. People usually go in groups and are there for an event. Do you just walk up to a group of people dancing and start talking to them? I'm usually there to dance and have a good time and that just doesn't seem to get me involved with others.
/r/seduction31/05/25 12:30 PM
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I guess I'm probably just bad at talking to strangers lol
/r/seduction30/05/25 11:39 PM
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I love going to raves but never meet people there. Could you give me a break down on how you do this??
/r/seduction30/05/25 11:33 PM
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I think you're completely right and me being in the gym constantly and watching fitness content has changed my standards. I said 10% of men but it didn't feel right. I think the type of guy/physique I'm describing is well less than 1% of all men. That being said I do think you can make tremendous progress without it and that it's a worthwhile pursuit. Being healthy and living a long life for me are always the ultimate goals. You have a good one too! Good luck crushing it in the weight room!
/r/seduction29/05/25 12:39 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said here, but steroids do take it to another level. I had a friend I worked with awhile back who was 6'3 and weighed about 210 while still being lean. We worked in an industry that was pretty social where there were a lot of young women and girls would completely change when he walked in the room. Married women would drunkenly hit on him at Christmas parties, girls would start conversations with him by flirting, and girls we worked with even told me th…
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:52 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said here, but steroids do take it to another level. I had a friend I worked with awhile back who was 6'3 and weighed about 210 while still being lean. We worked in an industry that was pretty social where there were a lot of young women and girls would completely change when he walked in the room. Married women would drunkenly hit on him at Christmas parties, girls would start conversations with him by flirting, and girls we worked with even told me th…
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:52 PM
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Absolutely. It just goes to show the limited experience of a lot people who spend most of their time online. If you're into lifting and have friends who lift or are on test you'll see first hand the difference it can make with woken. Same thing with having friends who are women. They'll talk to you honestly about what they like. People need to get off the screen more and out into the real world.
/r/seduction28/05/25 05:21 PM
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Im not saying you can't do well with women without it, but saying it doesn't work is a lie.
/r/seduction28/05/25 04:51 PM
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Personally I don't think so at all. If you're looking at fitness influencers they're always going to take pictures in great lighting where they look as good as possible but his physique looks attainable in most pictures I see of him. If you want to look like him you're going to need to be at 7% body fat though. For most people that's a matter of diet more than it is anything else.
/r/seduction28/05/25 03:07 PM
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I definitely can't tell you if Jeff's ever used anything, but that body type is certainly achievable naturally. The common saying is that you can either be big, or be lean, but it's very hard to do both. Jeff isn't that big of a guy. If you saw him in a large sized t-shirt you might not even know he lifts. He's been lifting a long time, has great muscle mass for a natural, and is just at an incredibly low body fat percentage. That physique is really impressive but it doesn't scream steroids to m…
/r/seduction28/05/25 02:32 PM
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I don't like to call out people specifically unless I'm very confident they're on and I don't really know a lot about powerlifting. In most cases in my experience it's rare for someone to be competing at the highest level of a sport and not have been on something at some point. Many sports have pretty relaxed or easy to cheat testing protocols so you'll never find out whether they're using or not. I know a lot about MMA specifically and it is definitely like that. Most sports are. Just from a Go…
/r/seduction28/05/25 01:50 PM
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I wish more people understood this. I've known lots of guys who have used it and you would never know unless they told you. I'm a personal trainer, and have researched this pretty extensively, and I can often tell when a guy is on, but the average person probably wouldn't notice. It's way more common than you think and women DO like it on average. Anybody who's spent time around guys who are big will know it.
/r/seduction28/05/25 12:31 PM
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I have considered steroid usage for years. I've seen a TRT doctor, done tons of research on their effects, and talked to guys in real life who have done it. You're exaggerating this a lot. Are some of the side effects possible? Sure. But acting like you won't be able to do 5 minutes of cardio because you take T is insane lol And whether women admit it or not, they like the bodies of most men on it. Now, if you're talking about Ronnie Coleman or Jay Cutler, then probably not, but I have known men…
/r/seduction28/05/25 12:28 PM
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That's a pretty good example actually, thanks! I'm off the apps right now but I'll keep this in mind if I ever go back!
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:01 AM
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I guess I need specific examples of you're making this work. I'm great at it in real life, because it builds rapport, but it falls flat for me on the apps. I talked to a girl a while back about how we both liked the same metal bands. It just felt like a conversation between friends that fizzled out. What are you commenting on from their profile that you're able to turn fun or flirty?
/r/seduction23/05/25 01:51 AM
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I've always wondered how guys are doing this consistently when what's in people's profiles are often so generic. Every time I try talking to girls about things like the specific gym they go to, their dog or cat, or where they've taken trips it just turns into an interview. I have 10x better results when I just say some stupid confident shit like OP is talking about in his post. It just sets a fun tone. The best bio I've ever had on the apps was "I've decided to give up on women and focus all tha…
/r/seduction23/05/25 01:42 AM
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I don't know why but reading this fucking killed me lol he wrote this long post but the entire thing is killed if the weather is just a little cloudy.
/r/seduction23/05/25 01:37 AM
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Not to be demeaning, but good luck with that. Getting big enough to get attention from girls without steroids takes years of hard, consistent, skilled work that 90% of men are not capable of. If it was easy wouldn't everyone be doing it? Especially without steroids. If you've done 100s of approaches and you're not having success then you're either very unattractive or you're doing something wrong. You absolutely should be going to the gym but you should probably talk to a coach to figure out whe…
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:45 PM
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I'd love for you to give a breakdown of this plan. I'm sold on your premise. The hard part is having that life style. Being good with women actually comes easy to me, it's building an active lifestyle that's hard.
/r/seduction25/04/25 04:20 PM
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I disagree so strongly. I think guys being scared to double text is either an ego thing or a confidence thing. Smart phones, dating apps, and social media are designed to be as distracting as possible. I forget to respond to people every single day and I know I'm not the only one. I've had great success with double texting. Obviously, not right off the bat. It can look desperate, but if done right it's also a show of confidence. The last date I went on was with a girl who went 4 days without res…
/r/seduction24/04/25 10:56 PM
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Yeah OP is overreacting big time here. He's young so it's kind of to be expected but this whole story is a green flag. His friends kept in good contact the whole time after encouraging him to go out, the girl was respectful, nice, and tried to follow up after inviting him to stay, and his friends checked in the next day and were really supportive. OP if you're reading this at least unblock the girl long enough to thank her for her time and tell her that this is something you just don't normally …
/r/seduction22/04/25 03:52 PM
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You nailed it here. It's low self esteem. When you have no insecurity you will realize that being rejected doesn't say anything about you personally, and therefore, it isn't a big deal. If dating or seduction feels frustrating, then you have an internal problem that needs work.
/r/seduction18/04/25 06:04 PM
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Yeah, I'm dealing with this. I grew up incredibly isolated. My parents had no friends and no contact with any of their family, so I grew up not knowing anybody. Definitely have made improvements as an adult but it's hard to break those habits.
/r/seduction18/04/25 03:59 PM
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You don't kiss anyone unless you're seriously dating them long term?
/r/seduction18/04/25 03:26 AM
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What does that last sentence mean. How would you have to "get her back" if you haven't broken up??
/r/seduction18/04/25 12:54 AM
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You gotta be really careful with what you're doing to yourself here man. At this point sex becomes like a drug and it sounds like you're using it often.
/r/seduction10/04/25 04:56 PM
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Honestly I don't even view this as a bad thing. Some people just don't want to rush into sex and often times repeated escalation and disengaging just builds tension.
/r/seduction09/04/25 06:25 PM
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Genuine question. How do you manage this time wise? I get overwhelmed just when I'm trying to talk to a couple people on a dating app. The idea of having to juggle multiple people sounds exhausting.
/r/seduction07/04/25 11:23 PM
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And this is the reason our generation is the lonliness one to ever exist. The reason the surgeon General had to publicly declare lonliness an epidemic. I would love it if someone, anyone, approached me in public. I need friends and I'm single. Many girls feel this way too. You just can't be socially blind and annoy people. If they're not interested learn when to walk away. I'll tell you this though, if you're so nervous about approaching that you're posting questions about it in this sub, then y…
/r/seduction07/04/25 11:19 PM
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"It's all about what type of man we want to be". This is a near perfect quote. We all have the ability to wake up every day and do things that will change who we are. It's up to us to decide what type of men we want to be and then choose to take the actions that will make us that man.
/r/seduction06/04/25 07:38 PM
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I've never related so much to a post on here. I feel exactly the same way. Op is just protecting because he feels this way and assumes everyone else does too lol
/r/seduction04/04/25 11:12 PM
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Interesting. You sound really outgoing and it sounds like where a lot of your success comes from. I go to a lot of concerts, usually alone, and I struggle to meet people there. How do you usually go about striking up random interactions with strangers in that setting?
/r/seduction30/03/25 08:18 PM
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Great conversation in this thread. Can I ask where you meet a lot of these women? You must be going out somewhere pretty often. Is it just bars or do you have hobby groups you use also?
/r/seduction30/03/25 04:04 PM
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You put this in to words so well in a way I wish I could. This is what I try to do, but am probably not as successful as your friend. I have and have had quite a fee female friends over my lifetime and I often talk to them about dating and relationships. You'd be surprised at how many of them go out specifically hoping to meet someone new. When I ask them how they "hit on guys" most of them say things like this. They'll say they find an excuse to stand near him, occasionally glance at him from a…
/r/seduction30/03/25 04:02 PM
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Apparently op's comment history suggests he doesn't shower, so sounds more like he stinks and that's why she dodged him lol
/r/seduction29/03/25 08:03 PM
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It works great. I'm not afraid to bring up sex when I go on a date if it feels right, but I never push for it, because I genuinely don't care. I've had sex a lot in my life and I don't need it to feed my ego or to fill some sort of void When I go on dates with girls I'm genuinely not trying to sleep with them. I'm just trying to have fun and get to know them. The instant a girl realizes this it really seems to change them. I've had girls pursue me pretty intensely once they realize I don't care …
/r/seduction26/03/25 05:16 PM
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This had nothing to do with you. She has some personal stuff going on and she's not doing well. Honestly, you probably dodged a bullet.
/r/seduction26/03/25 12:14 PM
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I've tried this and it's freaking exhausting. I don't have the mental energy for it.
/r/seduction23/03/25 11:37 PM
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I went out drinking with a group of all girls last weekend. All of them that were single were hoping that someone attractive would come along. For most girls, getting dolled up and going dancing is fun by itself, but a lot of them are also hoping to meet someone. It definitely adds to their experience and some of them even go out explicitly for that reason.
/r/seduction21/03/25 04:53 PM
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How have they introduced ai? I've been using it on and off and haven't really noticed anything
/r/seduction17/03/25 10:13 PM
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I've had the opposite experience. Everyone has Facebook so it attracts the common denominator. Quality is solid and quantity is high.
/r/seduction17/03/25 06:53 PM
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They have unlimited options. They're finding the hottest guy who matches with them and then getting off the app.
/r/seduction17/03/25 01:14 AM
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This is mostly true, with the one caveat being your body. When it comes to your style, clothes, posture, face shape, then yes. Trying to maximize is a waste of time and guys online get way too obsessed with it. Get to a 7/10 and you're fine. It's different with your body though. I've known guys who were very big, strong guys and they did get tons of attention from women just from having great bodies. Girls would approach them and flirt from the second they met them and they could easily get on t…
/r/seduction15/03/25 04:22 PM
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I still think you could also give some genuine good qualities about yourself, especially if you're looking for a long term relationship, but this is a text book definition of framing. When people on this sub ask how to frame their way out of a shit test they should just be directed to this comment.
/r/seduction09/03/25 07:23 PM
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Cool, gonna try it out! Thanks!
/r/seduction07/03/25 02:19 AM
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I've been thinking about doing an improv class. Any particular reason you suggest it?
/r/seduction07/03/25 01:42 AM
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Therapy might be covered by your insurance which would make that a lot cheaper. Like other people here are saying, you're over paying for a lot of that. I've been lifting for over 10 years and am becoming certified as a personal trainer right now. I'll tell you, spending 2500 on a nutritional coach would be a huuuge waste of money. You can get a gym membership for 25 bucks a month and then do a few hours of research to learn how to lift and eat right. You can DM me if you want and I'll get you s…
/r/seduction07/03/25 01:38 AM
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Same experience. Women are generally pretty receptive and interested.
/r/seduction03/03/25 06:21 PM
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Hard disagree. I've told multiple women and I feel they do appreciate the work that goes into it. I've never had anyone think it was creepy. I think if a women thinks you're creepy for being social and confident then she's not for you anyways.
/r/seduction03/03/25 06:20 PM
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This isn't the ONLY way, but it is the best way. Neil talks about this in "the game". It's why him and some other pick up artists rented out a mansion and threw parties in hollywood.
/r/seduction02/03/25 02:42 PM
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Overall great post. Just wanted to say that I disagree about cold reads. I think you can and SHOULD cold read things about the girl that are untrue. Unless it's something really negative, but if it's neutral, go for it. I think it's almost more intriguing for the girl if you get it wrong because then she's thinking "why did he say that? What about me makes people think that?". And that can make a conversation really fun.
/r/seduction28/02/25 08:04 PM
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This is it. Most guys go into sex selfishly just thinking about what they can get out of it. If you really want the girl to like you, don't worry about yourself at all, and solely focus on giving her a good time.
/r/seduction25/02/25 11:48 PM
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No worries, I didn't mean to sound like a dick lol Listen to this: https://youtu.be/33olenz_iiQ?si=LWz-Q9SjcE-8Xl4d0 I think it might help you a little. I'm gonna say it's actually okay to put a girl on a pedestal a little when you're dating her. As long as she is doing the same to you. You said it best yourself, relationships should be balanced and both parties should be benefiting. Those types of relationships are rare because people don't value/ or build the skills required to have and mainta…
/r/seduction24/02/25 01:49 PM
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You're using so many slang words here that I have no idea what you're actually asking, but I'm going to try to give some advice: You can't get into deep with the stuff you read online when it comes to women. You don't understand human relationships by reading about them on a screen, like it sounds like you're doing a lot of. You do it by having real conversations with them. A lot of stuff you read here about "framing", "being mysterious", "pushing and pulling" or having an "abundance mindset" is…
/r/seduction24/02/25 04:01 AM
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I think you either misread my comment or you don't understand the point of this sub lol
/r/seduction19/02/25 02:45 AM
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Yeah, I don't get how some of the guys here have such high body counts. Being able to pull girls is a great accomplishment, but it gets boring and empty so fast to have meaningless sex.
/r/seduction18/02/25 08:26 PM
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Your problem is not a physique issue, it's a mental issue. The way you're obsessing over this is unhealthy. Get off reddit, get a therapist, and spend more time outside.
/r/seduction16/02/25 10:11 PM
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I'm not insulting you here dude. Maybe you're right and you're at 13. The numbers don't matter though. What you look like matters. From that picture you posted you have very little definition at 170 pounds right now. You posted that photo in the subreddit for getting shredded. If you want to get shredded, you gotta lose weight. You can easily lose 5 pounds a month, so do the for 1 to 2 months until you like the way you look and then bulk afterwards. Your over thinking it.
/r/seduction16/02/25 10:06 PM
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You could try 10 and see how lean that gets you. In my experience, to get girls attracted to you, you either need to be very lean or very big. It's way easier to lose 15 pounds then it is to gain 30 pounds of muscle. You said in your post you think you're 13% bf but you can't even see a faint bit of your abs. I'd say you're in between 15 and 20.
/r/seduction16/02/25 09:48 PM
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I checked your post and I was in the same position as you not that long ago. I would cut 15 pounds or so until you're relatively lean and then bulk from there. Doing regular cycles to make sure you don't get too fat. Too make a big enough change to your physique to pull girls you're going to have to dedicate a couple years to weightlifting 4 - 6 times per week. Honestly, I wouldn't bank on that being your only way to pull women. From reading your post history it sounds like you have social anxie…
/r/seduction16/02/25 08:54 PM
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This thread reads like a bunch of guys who are lying to themselves or coping lol Yes, you can attract tons of women without a great physique, but the physique can be a game changer. I've known guys who were jacked and women swarmed to them. They weren't even very handsome but women throw themselves at them sexually because they were big and strong, and I had some women even admit that to me directly. Nowadays a lot of girls prefer really big and strong, with low body fat not being as important. …
/r/seduction15/02/25 01:43 PM
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Fuck everybody else in here calling you a white knight. This is a good post. Good for you man, that's what it's about.
/r/seduction07/02/25 03:42 AM
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Disagree lol
/r/seduction05/02/25 11:19 PM
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The correct response is to never respond to the statement or question directly or seriously. That would imply it was a legitimate thing worth responding to. You usually do this by some version of being sarcastic or agreeing and amplifying. It doesn't actually matter what you say so much as the fact that you playfully dismiss it.
/r/seduction04/02/25 11:52 PM
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What is your point in asking these questions? You know why you would fuck someone you don't like. You want to have sex. Your value system for sex isn't everyone else's and you know that. Also, there are multiple comments in this thread that are well written and articulated. You can't look at this and say we're illiterate.
/r/seduction03/02/25 01:48 PM
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I went years without a couch and it never stopped me from getting girls. I'm a minimalist and don't buy shit I don't need. Make a joke about it and gauge her interest. If she's willing to come home with you she already likes you. You can find any excuse whatsoever to get her back. Niel Strauss laid out his typical game plan in his book and he always suggests skipping the living room and finding an excuse to hang out in the bedroom anyways
/r/seduction02/02/25 05:11 AM
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You'd be surprised lol
/r/seduction31/01/25 02:50 PM
1

Yeah, this thread is making me realize I might actually just be good looking and the kids gave women an easy excuse to talk to me lol
/r/seduction31/01/25 01:44 AM
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They think you're a single dad often, yeah, but that doesn't stop them from hitting on you lol
/r/seduction30/01/25 07:17 PM
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I had this happen to me in doctor's office waiting rooms, public pools, schools, and occasionally grocery stores. So it helps if it's places where people are already casually waiting around. I'm also tall, mildly conventionally attractive, and I had a great,fun relationship with the kids. So, not sure how much that helped.
/r/seduction29/01/25 11:29 PM
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I lived in a suburb outside of a city of half a million. You have to go places adult women will be. I had this happen to me at grocery stores, doctors offices, and public swimming pools. Just gotta get creative if you live in small towns lol No matter what you do, you'll end up spending more time with family, which is never a bad thing.
/r/seduction29/01/25 11:27 PM
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This is the truth. I dated a single mom for a few years and every time I would take her children out in public by myself women flocked to me. If you have nieces or nephews, take them out just the two of you, and women will come.
/r/seduction29/01/25 10:40 PM
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Everyone in these comments are going to tear you apart, but I guarantee every guy in here has made an equally dumb decision at some point in their life. It's really easy to judge other people's decisions but really hard to judge your own. Mess around with this girl if you want. Just don't get your hopes up and treat it as a learning experience. Don't get her pregnant. Wear a condom. Don't commit yourself to anything.
/r/seduction29/01/25 12:15 AM
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Answers in here are stupid. Girls throw them around interchangeably all the time. They mean different things to everyone. You're not going to get any insights from what term specifically she calls you. If she finds you attractive, that's all that matters. And you should already be assuming that attraction before she has time to call you hot anyways.
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:26 PM
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This is the best comment in the thread. Really appreciate it! Great advice!
/r/seduction28/01/25 03:01 AM
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Non ironically about to start using "hey there baby owl" as an opener lol
/r/seduction20/01/25 07:27 PM
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I agree that there's been some sort of shift. I really don't think that pick up culture is doomed or anything, but I don't fully understand to what's happened to dating apps. I'm a good looking guy. I'm tall and fit and I get told I'm handsome by strangers often. Yet I get terrible results with the apps. I'll get a fair amount of matches, and I know I'm not being boring, yet I can't get them to go anywhere. I'd say I have about a 70% to 80% rate of the girls responding to my messages, 50% of the…
/r/seduction20/01/25 05:15 AM
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Neil strauss has a theory he outlines in the game. It's that women like sex as much as men, you just have to remove the barriers that they put up for themselves. If this girl is willing to make out with you alone in your bed, she clearly wants more, it's your job to make her feel comfortable enough to lead her there. If you're wanting a LTR relationship with her then you should probably just have a conversation and let her know what you told us In this post. If you want to progress things sexual…
/r/seduction18/01/25 06:14 PM
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I do notice that women are generally decently receptive to me. I might have to start paying more attention. My real problem is that I'm just scared to approach and am going to have to learn to push past it.
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:58 AM
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I actually just feel like I hit that point recently. I used to have a lot of mental issues but I have sorted them over the years. I have a good job, more money than I need, enough friends and family, I'm in really good shape, I sleep great and eat clean, people tell me that I'm handsome frequently, and I do genuinely love talking to new people. I just have to push myself to do it more often.
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:40 AM
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That's a really great way of looking at things. I've tried similar things in my life but never related to seduction. I can't wait to give that a shot. Logistically what do you do if it's brought up by a girl that you're out solo? Do you just say you really like to dance and you came out alone? Your friends were busy? Mentally I think I just beat myself up for not having friends to party with these days and I'm afraid women will judge me too.
/r/seduction17/01/25 11:54 PM
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It's different for everyone. I thought I was ready immediately after, but I wasn't. It took me over a year. BUT dating someone else is what helped me to get to a place where I realized I was ready to move on. I don't think I would have figured it out had I just stayed single.
/r/seduction17/01/25 09:32 PM
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I might have once or twice, but it's been so long I don't remember. I entered 2 long term relationships back to back after that so I haven't been single for long in almost 5 years.
/r/seduction17/01/25 09:30 PM
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I'd love some insight. Honestly, I have no idea what would have happened. It was also about 5 years ago. When I was dancing with them they weren't particularly talkative with me, but they didn't seem to mind that I was dancing with them. If I had been more confident in myself I probably could have escalated, but I'm not sure how I would have made that job...
/r/seduction17/01/25 07:59 PM
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I agree with this for the most part. I just thought the idea of having other people to bounce skills and ideas off of would be helpful. But I'm certainly not blaming anything on others.
/r/seduction17/01/25 01:43 PM
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It's not as tight knit as what I'm describing though. A lot of these guys were going out together, calling each other often, and even living together.
/r/seduction17/01/25 01:41 PM
1

Thanks for linking the website. Skilled seducer looks kind of like what I was going for!
/r/seduction17/01/25 01:40 PM
1

Can I ask you some questions about going out alone? I made a post about this recently, but I have some hang ups. I love doing things alone, normally. I regularly go to comedy shows, concerts, and movies alone, but for some reason I can't bring myself to go out to bars or clubs alone. It's always seemed like such a social activity to me and I'm afraid of not having the social proof of being with friends. One time, years ago, I went to a rave by myself downtown, and when it was over I was still re…
/r/seduction17/01/25 01:35 PM
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Good points. I just also struggle to make friends as well, which is why it appealed to me. Community is hard to find these days.
/r/seduction17/01/25 02:56 AM
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I actually looked this up but throughout all of the game I've just thought of Mystery as a giant weirdo lol and now especially with him being 50 and still using the same outdated tactics it just doesn't seem worth it lol
/r/seduction17/01/25 02:56 AM
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Funny coincidence that that's when dating apps got popular.
/r/seduction17/01/25 02:52 AM
3

Yeah, honestly that interests me more than anything else. My whole life I've never really had a problem with getting girls. I could be better for sure, but it comes fairly easily to me. I just really would like a community and friends who were into it like a hobby.
/r/seduction17/01/25 02:51 AM
2

I'm somewhat guilty of this, but damn that's funny lol
/r/seduction15/01/25 07:36 PM
5

90% percent of the posts like this in this sub can be answered by asking, have you ever actually gotten to know a woman?? I really think tons of guys on here haven't. Sure, there are plenty of shallow women out there who won't give you the time of day unless you're a very high status man but unless you're hitting on 10's in LA then they're the exception rather than the rule. Most women are just normal people like you or I. People who have feelings, insecurities, doubts, and just want to be happy…
/r/seduction13/01/25 01:48 PM
4

I have this same experience. I'm learning this is just the norm now for dating apps. Women do sort of have the upper hand and when they have a million options it's easy to ghost. I'm guilty of it too, but I get it's frustrating. I'm above average looking for my area. I've gotten approached in person and I have no problem getting attractive women, but on the apps I only have success if I'm better looking than the girl I'm talking to. It's also really hard if you're not looking for something serio…
/r/seduction12/01/25 11:31 PM
12

Well first off, all those problems you mentioned are able to be systematically worked on. You said though that it's difficult for you to attract hot women. Your problem is that you just can't attract any women at all. Yeah, if you have no social skills, no friends, no game, aren't good looking, and aren't confident then you're going to have a hard time attracting women. I don't even see what your point is. You've gotta fix your mindset before you worry about getting attractive women. You talk ab…
/r/seduction10/01/25 06:14 PM
65

It's actually a lot easier than you think when you realize that they're just normal people like you. They have problems in life. Flaws, failures, insecurities, things they want but feel they can't get. They're hot. So what? I used to be below average looking and I put 10 years of work into getting fit, dressing great, improving my posture, and getting nice hair cuts. I now occasionally get approached by women in public and I often get called handsome. You know how much my life changed? Barely at…
/r/seduction10/01/25 02:42 PM
1

I mean, this explains your problem right here. Old is way different than in person dating. Being very good looking and having a great profile is all that matters in OLD. You moved from a place with tons of beautiful women hanging out in parks and at beaches and now live in a small town. The whole setting is different. Women probably aren't as care free and outgoing there and there's less options to choose from. Unless you can make yourself very good looking on your profile you're not going to ge…
/r/seduction04/01/25 05:18 PM
13

What's "wrong" with it is that whether you believe in God or evolution you will literally born with the intent to mate. Having romantic experiences is so integral to the human experience that if you're not doing it, you're not truly living. It's like eating or exercising. Your whole biology is based around doing this. If you want to give up and admit defeat that's fine, but don't just shrug it off as not being a big deal.
/r/seduction04/01/25 04:20 PM
1

I've been told I'm a pretty good time lol
/r/seduction03/01/25 06:19 PM
2

Yeah bro, you have to assume they're so attracted to you that they were too nervous to show up for the date.
/r/seduction03/01/25 12:14 AM
1

You would think. But they wouldn't be doing it if it wasn't working.
/r/seduction31/12/24 10:46 PM
5

This is my experience exactly. I'm way more attractive and confident than I was even just 5 years ago but my success on the apps is drastically reduced. I used to be able to have conversations easily and they would often lead to a connection. Now, I get plenty of attractive matches, and they even respond, but good luck getting them to actually go on a date. The interesting thing is that I notice a mindset shift in myself as well and I'm wondering if the algorithms have become more successful. Th…
/r/seduction30/12/24 11:35 PM
19

I do get where you're coming from. I just took the post as, go to a rave, have a good time, and everyone there is more free spirited so it might be easier to talk to girls. I love going to raves and think they're a blast so I get where OP is coming from too. It's a unique environment.
/r/seduction30/12/24 01:13 AM
56

I mean this mentality is true everywhere. I've seen skeezy guys hanging out in the back of night clubs waiting for girls to get pass out drunk and trying to take advantage of them. OPs main point is that girls are more free spirited in that environment. It's just like a club but turned up to 11. There's no problem approaching there if you're not going after women who are too intoxicated. I just wouldn't go solely to approach because you actually have to be willing to dance and get into the rave.
/r/seduction30/12/24 12:08 AM
1

Great tips. Thank you! I especially think hanging out after bars and clubs are closing is a good idea. That always feels like a good environment to meet people!
/r/seduction29/12/24 06:56 PM
2

This is the answer. I hate that the top comment just immediately jumps to the idea that she's cheating.
/r/seduction28/12/24 11:28 PM
3

And do what? Just sit at the bar by myself? I can definitely do that and enjoy it, but I was looking for some specific examples or experiences people have had with it.
/r/seduction28/12/24 11:19 PM
1

Any advice on how to merge into a group? I would love to learn to do that.
/r/seduction28/12/24 11:18 PM
2

Making conversations isn't really the part I struggle with. I just don't know how to get out in the first place.
/r/seduction28/12/24 11:17 PM
2

Damn, this is genius.
/r/seduction28/12/24 10:49 PM
3

Stop talking to 15 - 20 people at a time. I was doing this and it's absolutely exhausting. Pick 1 dating app and don't swipe on it too much. I usually have 1 to 3 girls from apps that I'm working on setting up a date with at a time and that's it. Juggling anything more than becomes exhausting. I also have a problem with texting people back and I'm going to start working on a challenge for it. My idea is to reframe the goal so that you can't fail. Instead of trying to get a girl to go out with yo…
/r/seduction28/12/24 10:46 PM
1

Perfect answer.
/r/seduction26/12/24 09:25 PM
2

Damn. You sound like you would be fun to go out with.
/r/seduction25/12/24 03:22 PM
1

Marriage is an agreement between two people to do life together. To put each other before themselves and love the other unconditionally. Through good times and bad. In sickness and in health. If you're going to into marriage and your primary concern is who's going to benefit the most from it financially then you have already royally fucked up the entire process.
/r/seduction25/12/24 02:30 AM
4

This is a really narrow view of what dating and relationships are like. Honestly, it feels like this is what you get when you put women on a pedestal and start treating them like they're anything other than regular human beings like yourself. There are women who are like you describe, sure, but is it the majority of them? No. Think about how much time you actually spend talking to women...I have a feeling it's not a lot...
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:28 AM
5

To add to this, physical proximity is the number 1 way that most relationships are formed. Romantic and platonic. Meaning, most of your relationships will develop just because you spend a lot of time around each other naturally. This is why it's so easy to make friends when you're in school. Often times I'll see attractive women with unattractive men. Most often, they met them naturally through work, school, or their social circle. Looks are definitely not number 1. Spending time around women is…
/r/seduction21/12/24 06:03 PM
1

It's almost like people aren't black and white and can't be summed up with all or nothing, logical thinking. You can't know what type of person someone is or what they want deep down on a first date. The other comments in here are spot on.
/r/seduction20/12/24 02:21 AM
2

I just wanted to comment because the point you made in your first paragraph is so true. I've had multiple conversations with my female friends that go like this: Her: I really liked a guy, and I hit on him, and he rejected me. Me: what did you do when you hit on him? Her: ...well I smiled at him briefly from across the room. Like, they actually think that making eye contact for 1 second from 30 feet away is them throwing themselves at you lol
/r/seduction17/12/24 08:39 PM
2

This is great advice.
/r/seduction16/12/24 08:09 PM
2

It's because there are so many of them. Literally 40% of all women in my age range are in health care. I've gone out with at least 4 nurses in the past 6 months.
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:55 PM
1

This is my experience. In my early 20s I was just a ball of awkwardness trying to figure life out. Now, I'm about to turn 30 and I'm in good shape, have a professional job, have good posture, and am socially confident. I actually get approached sometimes now and people comment on my attractiveness often. I'm not even that good looking, I just have my shit together and am confident. Which makes me more attractive than a lot of the population. Work on yourself relentlessly, because that experience…
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:47 PM
1

You're 16 dude. Good on you for having ambition, but don't beat yourself up. At 16 I thought I had no future and would never have a family, a good job, money, or success with women. Now I have everything I want and that was only 10 years ago. You're gonna be okay.
/r/seduction06/01/22 12:49 AM
4

1 isn't true though. Sure a low bf content is ideal, but if you're a small skinny guy with low body fat, that's a lot less attractive to girls than a bigger guy. Especially in the day and age of a dad bod being attractive size is what matters. If you're huge and in great shape with low body fat, that's awesome, but even if you're a little on the larger side it's still better than being tiny with low bf
/r/seduction01/01/22 07:53 PM
1

Depends on what your goals are. You posted this in the seduction sub because you want to look good to women. You said you're 5'10 and 155 pounds at 10%bf. Just being honest with you, that's not going to be big enough to be attractive to the average girl man. Im barely taller than you at 190, 15%, and people still think I'm on the skinnier side. I'm not saying you still can't pull girls. You can do that at any height and weight. But if you're trying to optimize your attractiveness then getting bi…
/r/seduction01/01/22 07:46 PM
1

Dude, this makes no sense. You can absolutely get big, and still run out swim. Getting to a good size at a low body fat percentage is hard, sure, but it's doable. You have to work at it. If it were easy everyone would do it.
/r/seduction01/01/22 07:06 PM
9

I've thought about it a lot. It's the best decision I've ever made.
/r/seduction09/12/21 04:05 AM
6

I fucked around dating losers and women who were not long term material until was 25. Now I've been in the process of settling down for over a year and, let me tell you, you don't have to wait. I promise you, there are tons of women around your age who want to start a family.
/r/seduction09/12/21 03:00 AM
6

I'm 26 also and am realizing this right now. I'm settling down with a wonderful woman who has kids but I definitely see how this is the perfect age. You have just enough youth and stability to be attractive enough to all age ranges.
/r/seduction09/12/21 02:54 AM
4

I do "fashion". I get complemented regularly by men and women on how I'm dressed and I'm known by my friends and family as the guy who's always dressed well. I also buy the majority of my clothes at either Walmart or target. Most of my clothes are not about a "fad". I wear simple pants that aren't too tight or too loose, and I often just wear plain colored dress shirts or t-shirts. Being well dressed doesn't have to be expensive. People use that as an excuse often. If you don't want to look nice…
/r/seduction06/12/21 02:35 AM
3

Jesus, this sounds like something I might have wrote when I was 15 lol I love metal too, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to look nice. You dressing in all black and having long hair is just another type of fashion. Just because it's not the average, doesn't mean it's not it's own type of style. And having long hair isn't "non - conforming", it's literally just a preference. If you don't want to dress a certain way, then don't. Why be whiny about it though?
/r/seduction06/12/21 02:26 AM
1

I'm dating a woman who has kids and we have a great relationship, I wouldn't trade it for the world, but all of this becomes more challenging at that point. Have you tried being fun when your wife has spent all day with a sick toddler crawling all over her while her 8 year old runs around the house screaming all day? When she's stressed out of her mind, you trying to be fun isn't fun anymore, sometimes it's just annoying. She doesn't want to have fun, she wants someone to pull the crying 2 year …
/r/seduction03/12/21 08:33 PM
30

This sort of advice is harder to apply once you get into deeper stages of a relationship, especially once you get marriage and kids involved. But overall this is great advice. A lot of people would do a lot better if they listened to this and made it a habit.
/r/seduction03/12/21 03:16 AM
7

Not all girls think that way though. The way you described this woman it sounds like she just wants to go slow. You said you've kissed and you're going on dates, so she's definitely not just putting you in the friend zone.
/r/seduction02/12/21 02:35 AM
15

It sounded to me like she was trying to say that she has a good reason for being prudish. She may be religious, have some traumatic background, or just feel really strongly about waiting. I think she was just letting you know that's a touchy subject for her and you should steer clear of it. If you've been on 3 dates and nothings happened, and then she subtly hints she wants to take things slow with sex, I think trying to be seductive isn't going to allow you to talk your way into her pants. If s…
/r/seduction02/12/21 01:21 AM
9

This is the truth for the most part. I started dating at 15 as much as I could and probably went out with at least 30 girls over that time span. Some were 3 dates, some were 3 years. Dating is like anything else, if you want to be good, you have to practice. It took me 10 years of making mistakes with terrible women, and sometimes even just settling for nice girls who weren't right for me. It took that decade of experience for me to learn how to find someone highly compatible with no red flags. …
/r/seduction02/12/21 01:13 AM
2

Don't go out just to hit on girls. Go out by yourself to have fun and nobody will judge you. I once went to a concert alone and it let out at midnight. I wasn't tired yet and wanted to keep dancing so I walked down the street to a nightclub and danced by myself for 2 hours until the club closed. It was awesome. Noone judged me and I even danced with a couple of girls. I wasn't there for them, I was just there to have fun.
/r/seduction04/11/21 12:17 AM
25

You're not reading the full comment. He phrased it poorly, but he clearly meant to not lead the girls on. This obviously wasn't about rape.
/r/seduction29/09/21 01:45 AM
17

Online dating
/r/seduction27/09/21 12:20 PM
37

If a girl blocks you and ignores you because you declined to sleep with her on a first date then she's crazy and you're dodging a bullet. Reverse the genders in this scenario and see how ridiculous that sounds.
/r/seduction26/09/21 02:50 PM
1

If that's all this post is saying, then why not just say that? The issue is that he's saying that men are having their masculinity stripped and they're pussies for not chasing after women. I've been young and dramatic about this stuff too, I'm just saying this is really over the top.
/r/seduction16/09/21 01:06 PM
2

I'm glad someone else feels this way. I think the toxic masculinity shit is usually over blown, but "we are so weak and pusified" and "tear down our masculinity"? Come on lol men have been nervous to talk to women since the dawn of time. Even in animals we see shy behavior during mating rituals. And if you're going to say that we need to be mindful of death and grab life by the horns, why is hitting on girls the way to do that? This is all seems a little dramatic, and as someone in a committed h…
/r/seduction14/09/21 12:43 PM
1

100%
/r/seduction14/09/21 12:37 PM
1

You definitely have the wrong mindset here. I made my body count a goal when I was younger and because of it I ended up sleeping with a lot of people I regret. Sleeping with a lot of people doesn't make you cool. Being confident enough in yourself that you don't care how many people you've slept with is what makes you cool.
/r/seduction01/09/21 12:40 PM
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You can't escalate at parties through talking. Especially if you're not a natural. It's all body language and eye contact. Go to parties to have fun and when women see that you're a good time they'll be drawn to you. If you awkwardly walk up to a girl at a party and tell her your name she's going to know you're trying to hit on her and that's not attractive.
/r/seduction29/08/21 06:53 PM
3

Disagree completely. Less boring from an erotic standpoint? Maybe not. I have sex with my girlfriend about 5 times a week. And sure, probably 3 of those are kind of average, but every now and then the emotional connection we have sets off a spark that I've never even dreamed of with someone I didn't know well.
/r/seduction28/08/21 05:27 PM
9

Who hurt you?
/r/seduction02/06/21 11:57 PM
1

I'll give you that, it would be difficult. I think I've learned my lesson and will probably start avoiding women I work with, but I was just trying to point out that it can work out okay. It's not a great idea, but it's not the end of the world!
/r/seduction29/11/20 02:28 AM
6

Agreed. I just got done having a fling with a girl I work VERY closely with and its turned out fine. We agreed it would be just sex and it would be short lived and she was mature enough to cut it off after that. If anything it's made work even better. The last woman I was in a long term relationship with also worked for the same company as me when we met. It was great. I worked for a small(ish) family owned business and all our coworkers and even our bosses supported us. It was one of my favorit…
/r/seduction26/11/20 02:46 PM
7

This is awesome. Great work on the video. Inspiring stuff!
/r/seduction26/11/20 03:35 AM
1

He got the girl to agree to a date, and then made out with her. Most people would call that working, yeah.
/r/seduction02/04/20 04:54 PM
3

You become a better person by focusing on your own goals and not letting members of the opposite sex distract you from that. Which is exactly what he did, and it seems to be working.
/r/seduction02/04/20 04:18 PM
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People who think like you really dont understand the concepts of game that we're shooting for here. I know it's nice to act high and mighty as if you're one of the "smart ones" who wont "fall for it", but that's bullshit. Call it manipulation if you want, but we've all gone out of our way to do things that we think will attract someone we're interested in. It's not about putting on an act, it's about trying to better yourself and become the person you want to be.
/r/seduction02/04/20 03:30 PM
1

This is spot on. I have been with 1 or 2 women who were sexually aroused by being degraded, but those women are few and far between and are certainly not the norm. I often times will, somewhat jokingly, call my girlfriend a name or tell her what to do in a demanding way and she loves it. But it's not about being degraded it's just about perceiving the man as high value and dominant. If you're genuinely degraded women and being mean to them, they won't like it.
/r/seduction17/07/19 07:36 PM
2

Go for other girls. Or focus on anything else really. When we become really attached or attracted to someone we don't know well, it's usually a reflection more of how we feel about ourselves rather than how you honestly feel about them. Whatever qualities you like about your crush, there are a million other women who have the exact same qualities and may be even better. Is she funny? There are funnier women. Is she pretty? There are way prettier girls. Most likely what's happening to you is that…
/r/seduction18/06/19 12:31 AM
4

Favorites of mine are axe throwing, comedy clubs, or just a walk in the park. I generally try to stick to activities that don't require too much attention so that I can focus on talking, but a lot of the time it's a good idea to do something that's interesting or exciting to the girl.
/r/seduction24/05/19 07:37 PM
11

Not a single person in this sub would suggest groping someone you dont know. This entire sub is dedicated to learning how to talk to women.
/r/seduction24/05/19 06:12 PM
5

Absolutely. It's fucking ridiculous.
/r/seduction17/05/19 03:10 AM
7

AAA. Always assume attraction. If a girl is attracted to you, she may give off noticeable signs, or she may do absolutely nothing because she's terrified of rejection. But if she's not attracted to you, you'll find out really quickly. So just go for it.
/r/seduction16/05/19 05:14 PM
3

This 100%. This is the answer to the OP. Women might want one thing consciously, and another thing subconsciously. Society teaches us to try to appeal to the conscious, while the guys who get laid consistently learn to appeal the subconscious. Men are guilty of this too. When it comes to long term relationships I always tell myself that I want a kind, healthy, loving partner. Yet, I always end up head over heels for women who treat me like shit. At the end of the day, we're all animals and its h…
/r/seduction16/05/19 04:03 PM
5

I used to be like this with women, before I started learning game. She's probably just needy and likes you. I'm seeing a girl right now that does the same thing.
/r/seduction09/05/19 02:26 AM
2

Read "intimate connections" by David Burns. It's mostly for people who need help forming connections, but it also teaches how to form them in a healthy way, which it seems you haven't. Learn to love yourself and you wont need the validation from others. It's a long journey, but a worthwhile one
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:27 AM
2

As another poster said, ask her about a ring or piece of jewelry. Really good way to initiate.
/r/seduction27/04/19 07:09 PM
6

I see so much of myself in this post. I was a depressed loser with no job, no ambition, who played video games 24/7 and based all of the small amount of happiness in my life on my girlfriend. She cheated on me as well and I ended things, but I was broken. ​ It's been a year now, and I've turned it around and made amazing progress to the point where I look back at my old life and tear up at how far I've come. I know I still have so much further to go though. Thank you for sharing your story, this…
/r/seduction23/04/19 12:30 AM
4

Well, being a seduction group, I imagine the ratio would be very heavy on men to women. I just thinking it might be nice to have a group to go out and game with.
/r/seduction16/04/19 06:03 PM
1

Also, for people who are more anxious in relationships instead of distant, the book "insecure in love" by leslie Becker-Phelps is a great resource on getting better.
/r/seduction07/04/19 02:56 PM
5

These are awesome to read! Keep it up! I'm just starting out and have terrible approach anxiety. I can't seem to get over it unless i'm absolutely wasted. Any tips on pushing past it in the beginning??
/r/seduction07/04/19 02:44 PM
7

Something I feel a lot of people on this sub could learn from is the psychological concept of attachment and attachment anxiety. All people connect and attach to their romantic partners in 1 of 4 different ways and this leads to pretty distinct behavior patterns. 1 of these patterns is where the person typically has low self esteem and feels an IMMENSE amount of anxiety when it comes to their close personal relationships. I myself happen to be one of these people. It's very unfortunate and is a …
/r/seduction06/04/19 01:11 PM
1

I think you're on to something with the unpredictability. Anxiety is linked to sexual arousal in the brain, so the constant uncertainty could probably lead to finding them more thrilling physically. I assume that's definitely partially to blame for what's happening to me.
/r/seduction05/04/19 03:15 AM
14

I think the OP was trying to get across was that you shouldn't be using alcohol as a crutch, and that you should use it in moderation. If you're going out to bars solo 4 nights a week with the intention of doing approaches, you shouldn't be getting drunk every one of those nights. But if you're at a club with a group of friends to have a good time and you see a girl you would like to approach, there's nothing wrong with that.
/r/seduction17/03/19 02:02 PM
3

This is the best post I've ever read on this sub. Awesome. Thank you.
/r/seduction06/03/19 12:52 PM
2

Fuck yeah! Nice!
/r/seduction26/02/19 01:10 AM
2

I went on a date just yesterday and could have closed easily had I wanted to. Approaches are still the way to go, but tinder isn't useless.
/r/seduction25/02/19 03:46 AM
1

Go for it. Just dont get attached.
/r/seduction25/02/19 02:32 AM
1

I've been exactly where you are, but I promise you, it's just a problem with your mindset. There are approximately 3.5 billion women on the planet, and you think you just happen to have found the best one? Or the only one who's compatible with you? There are thousands, if not millions of women out there who are just as great, with the same qualities as her. And a lot of those women would be into you, and if not, you can make yourself into the type of guy those girls would want. You have to chang…
/r/seduction22/02/19 04:03 PM
1

If your game is bad sober, but good drunk, then you're dealing with anxiety. Start approaching a ton while sober and you'll begin to let go of that anxiety and get a lot more comfortable
/r/seduction22/02/19 03:30 AM
1

It sounds like you need to do a lot of work on your inner self before you're dating in general. Forget about this girl and start doing some approaches.
/r/seduction19/02/19 06:24 PM
1

Don't. Move on past this girl. It sounds like you have a serious case of oneitis here. I know it sounds rough, but there are a million fish in the sea, and you need to find one who responds to your texts more than once a month.
/r/seduction19/02/19 04:05 AM
2

This is a great idea. I'm looking to start something like this. If anyone is interested DM me! Or if you guys have room for an extra, I'd be happy to join.
/r/seduction19/02/19 03:58 AM
1

Good for you. This is all just a numbers game. Just keep trying and you'll get there.
/r/seduction19/02/19 03:22 AM
2

Awesome story to hear. Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction18/02/19 11:35 PM
2

You say you're not grouping, then you ignore everything he said, and continue to group him in with what you consider "game shit". He answered your question. Your views on what game is classified as is just limited.
/r/seduction13/02/19 02:25 AM
1

This is a great realistic write up. Thank you!
/r/seduction09/02/19 01:00 AM
2

Really interesting how that works.
/r/seduction09/02/19 12:57 AM
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It's simple, just follow the 2 rules. Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
/r/seduction12/01/19 08:50 PM
1

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 This book will probably give you a lot of the answers you're looking for. It talks about the science behind attachments in relationships and the seemingly unexplainable anxiety they can bring.
/r/seduction07/01/19 06:10 PM
1

Currently failing at steps 1 - 3. Working on 4 and 5.
/r/seduction28/07/18 10:10 PM
2

Yep. Almost immediately after us having that conversation.
/r/seduction02/07/18 12:07 AM
6

One thing I find works really well is talking about sex more in general terms, or in a story. It puts the idea of sex in their mind and also lets them know that it's something you're interested in. Believe it or not, women are just as afraid of rejection as you are and they don't always assume every guy wants to bang them. It can help for you to bring up the idea of sex in a way that doesn't sound like you're trying to seduce her. For example: recently I was on a first date where we had spent 4 …
/r/seduction30/06/18 11:47 PM
1

I'm exactly the same way. I find a woman who has a great social life, a good career, and is physically fit very attractive, because that's what I want for myself. It's really interesting to think of that way.
/r/seduction07/06/18 03:09 AM
3

Good for you, man!
/r/seduction19/05/18 09:45 PM
1

The grass is always greener. In my opinion having sex with one person who's awesome in bed over and over is way better than sleeping with someone new every night. The human brain is designed to want novelty in sexual mates, just know that once you get it you may realize you were better off the first time.
/r/seduction19/04/18 06:51 PM
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