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A woman who parties and cheats with someone’s husband is not really a traditional woman so if he says he enjoys traditional values, he’s cherry picking
/r/RedPillWives31/07/24 09:09 PM
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100%
/r/RedPillWives31/07/24 09:08 PM
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BS. if that were true and he constantly says she’s “better” than you he has zero reason to stay with you. So why is he? I’m calling bs. Hes not being truthful
/r/RedPillWives31/07/24 09:08 PM
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Comparison is the thief of joy. You are lonely because your partner isn’t there for you the way he should be and your relationship lacks substance. Being introverted isn’t a bad thing and it doesn’t mean you can’t go out. We just tend to have less tolerance for social activities so we don’t go out as often or for as long. Why do you associate partying/drinking with being less lonely? You’d be connecting with people you likely have little to nothing in common with and that won’t make you less lon…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/24 09:06 PM
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You keeping him around gives him the best of both worlds. He’ll never stop reaching out because the experience of a no strings attached, fun party girl is where the appeal of her lies. Can I ask why he left her and returned to you? There is nothing wrong with who you naturally are. Putting on a disguise to appease your husband is going to make you tired and resentful. You deserve to be loved for who you are. Your husband is mean and he broke your wedding vows. Rarely do I ever suggest divorce or…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/24 09:01 PM
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When relationships grow closer to marriage, the people involved have to grow too. Your significant other is entitled to his friends, but if he wants to make you his wife one day he has to respect your feelings and boundaries and be willing to compromise. Bringing you is a good idea. If he’s not willing to because he doesn’t want to ask this woman if he can bring a plus one, not staying the night is the second best compromise. A man with a serious girlfriend he’s making plans with shouldn’t be sl…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/24 12:41 AM
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Your husband is the reason red pill men and red pill marriages have bad reputations
/r/RedPillWives09/06/24 01:28 PM
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If I don’t run for a week I feel like I look totally different in the mirror than when I run consistently. That’s how powerful exercise can be on your self perception and confidence. Even if I never lost any weight the amount of confidence in myself it gives me would be worth it. Op, Weight training is the best way to drop weight effectively, coupled with cardio. I was in better shape when I was weight lifting 5 days a week but it consumed me and I didn’t like that. I now solely run and the weig…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 07:03 PM
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Someone once explained to me that people with anger problems will find reasons to get angry regardless of how softly you exist around them because they are addicted to the release of tension. It’s cathartic for them in the same way an orgasm is cathartic for a person. Anger is a symptom of something. Anxiety, depression, ( low serotonin ), a plethora of health issues - could be anything or a combination of things. You are working on you. He needs to work on him. This isn’t something you can fix …
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 01:01 AM
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I hate the feeling of anything wet and I hate the way my skin feels post-shower or with lotion on it. It’s dry after a shower and then wet with lotion lol. And forget it if my hair is wet, absolutely not. It’s a sensory thing. My husband knows if I shower at night we’re not having sex that evening, so I try to shower early in the evening rather than before bed and I’ll be fine. I have no good reason for feeling that way, just sensory. I guarantee that’s the reason he’s asking you to dry it
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 12:29 PM
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I don’t, but I wish I did. I have one friend who I suspect leans this way whether she and her husband know it or not. Some of their interactions and what I’ve seen of their marriage lead me to believe this. It’s hard to share your opinions like this, there is so much stigma against men and women who follow traditional gender roles. I work a “light” job in mental health and absolutely no one in that work community would accept any RP ideals.
/r/RedPillWives16/05/24 03:56 PM
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I don’t think it’s a matter of hiding anyone… just keep your friends and your husband life separate if he isn’t even showing any interest in it. I’m going to be blunt here, I feel like you’re the one making this really weird.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 10:20 PM
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Why will they meet inevitably? It seems completely optional on your part. I feel like it’s rather odd she is pressing to meet him and would be suspicious of this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:12 PM
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Super discouraging but also motivating. I know how I want to raise my children and have plenty of examples of what not to do. I just wish the world was different for them.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 03:59 PM
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Lmao, it sounds like you both have a good sense of humor! Weird things bug different people and it’s often surprising to find that something we’ve said has been misinterpreted far from how we intended it.
/r/RedPillWives14/05/24 01:49 PM
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I wouldn’t say this is controlling but if it’s something he has said bothers him, just quit doing it. As a grown man he knows what’s healthy and what isn’t. If he wants to eat well he will, especially after you suggesting or making jokes about it. My husband hates vegetables and god forbid he finds a pea in anything 🤣 you’d think they were deathly poisonous
/r/RedPillWives14/05/24 01:40 PM
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That was exactly what I was saying. And even giving my own experience of yeah my husbands not a natural born gift giver like I am, love languages take time to learn, I have to be pretty straight forward, sometimes I don’t get what I “asked” for but he still gets me something he’s excited to give me so I know he put thought into it, etc. and it was like women descended upon me to shame me for accepting that and suggesting other women should too lmao
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 09:08 AM
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I have experienced this first hand in a group of friends
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:16 PM
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Was it you? Were you the guy?
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:13 PM
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He asks sometimes other times when we’re laying in bed he’ll turn over to me which is a pretty clear sign lmao, he’ll kiss me or get handsy i guess? lol.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:12 PM
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Marriages were so high in 1946, assuming that’s because of the end Of WW2. That’s so wholesome
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:10 PM
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wow they really reached there with the 1800s comment lol. It hasn’t been THAT many decades since women sewed regularly and patching clothes is frugal. Things cost an insane amount these days. People are too much
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 07:03 PM
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Big same with the cycle thing!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:59 PM
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Beautifully said!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:58 PM
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What a quick way to end up never married lol just end things in relationships the second they get hard. Curious the statistics on marriage compared to decades ago. How many people aren’t getting married
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:22 PM
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I agree completely. There are so many things I hope to instill in my children that I didn’t get raised believing in or doing and taking marriage very seriously is one of them. I got lucky on my end meeting a man who is genuinely good and respectable and loving, but based on the lack of mothering my mom did it could have gone very badly for me otherwise. I don’t want that for my kids. I suppose I should quit commenting on those posts because it’s really annoying to become the bad guy for suggesti…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:21 PM
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It must be very young people because I just can’t imagine established married men and women offering that kind of advice. If I got a divorce my entire life would be upside down for many years. And yet they act like that’s an easier answer than doing some work to improve your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:19 PM
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Thank you!! ❤️ took us a lot of work to get to where we are at now and RP has been a life saver for me as a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:37 PM
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3 seems like a decent number if I had to average it out. We have a 10 yr old, two 8 yr olds and an almost 2 year old. We both also work.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:36 PM
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30F husband is 33M, we have 4 kids, been together for 5 years. Sex varies. Some weeks it’s 4-5 times a week. On very busy weeks it can be once or twice. Our weekend sex is always better/longer/more intimate than weeknight sex lol. I prefer when my husband initiates. I don’t like to be the one who does it, it just doesn’t… get me in the mood lol. I like to feel wanted and respond better to him being dominant and leading even in that aspect. With that being said, I often do verbally tell him “hey …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:26 PM
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What makes you think it’s a porn addiction? And I agree, paying for it is absolutely unacceptable but you can get this content for free on the internet
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 06:50 PM
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I think this type of content is far more usual than some people think. It’s important to remember that any pornographic material that seems to depict non-consensual acts are actually consensual and that’s why so many people can watch it. They KNOW it’s actually consensual. And many average couples enjoy this type of play in real life. It’s called consensual non-consent. It would be very different to consume content knowing it was not consensual, so of course the source of where it’s being viewed…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 01:11 PM
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Exactly! They’d also harp on us if we let our kids go without because we just stayed home instead of working when our household finances need that income
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 09:45 PM
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This speaks to me. I can’t stay home although I’m lucky enough to work a job that doesn’t require much time and gives me ample opportunity to cook and raise my children and keep our home clean - but I love the videos that Estee Williams posts simply mostly for style reasons. But I found myself really getting annoyed with work as I felt it was taking away from my time to be a wife and mother. But my family needs me to work. It can really create a sense of resentment if I consume too much of that …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 07:59 PM
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If you don’t like it, then allow it to be a reason to be grateful the association has ended.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 03:20 PM
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Why are you so stuck on him making you salmon and rice? I don’t think that shows any intent. You said yourself you never went on real dates. So if you never went on real dates, how did you come to the conclusion he was interested in dating you? If he wants to, he will. Feelings for someone, especially at a young age, can be fickle and everyone has the right to change their mind. I don’t think you got played because there was no commitment for you to get invested in or to make assumptions about. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 03:19 PM
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Yes I don’t wear tight dresses either and i do fear people thinking I think I’m better than them but I know I don’t. I live in my husbands hometown of 2100 people and it’s very rural. It wouldn’t really be even second glanced at to dress nicely in my hometown which was in Florida and had a pop. of around 20,000. It’s so hard to connect with people here already coming from such a different background. Honestly even when I was dressing casually, no one seemed to be interested in befriending me any…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/24 01:01 AM
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This is a good break down and you’re right, there is judgement everywhere and I suppose I’m guilty of judging women who dress slackerish. Even when I was wearing more casual clothing, I still put myself together if I was leaving the house. But I feel better in these clothes and my husband has mentioned he much prefers the way I dress now. In the end that’s all that matters. But I really do wish that women’s fashion hadn’t taken such a casual turn and it was still normal to dress feminine and cla…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 10:10 PM
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Okay good point. I am a chronic eye averter because I feel that staring in any aspect is rude. Maybe that’s a flawed way of thinking
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 09:04 PM
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it’s probably more like 2 inch heels, I’m not great with measurements lmao, but either way the heels I’m wearing are suitable for casual wear I have a toddler with me 90% of the time so I can’t be out here breaking an ankle lol. I dress this way mostly everywhere I go. The way you describe feeling like you’re in a costume is an accurate way to describe it sometimes, like I wonder if it’s just really not the norm anymore so I look silly? Or if it’s just because it’s new to me so I FEEL silly
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 09:03 PM
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Yeah some of the looks I catch are not looks of admiration lol. But if I just tell myself everyone admires me I’m sure I’ll feel better 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 08:58 PM
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This is nice to read thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 08:57 PM
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Love this!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 08:09 PM
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Hmm maybe - it doesn’t LOOK overly fancy to me lol but I’ll keep that in mind next time I get dressed to go out. I actually find the outfits I wear now far more comfortable than jeans/leggings and hoodies.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 04:15 PM
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You know I used to and then I needed some new gloves and never got any. I think I’ll get some again 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 06:47 PM
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I like to paint my nails but I paid 96 dollars for a mani pedi the other day and my gel nail polish is already chipping off it’s legit been 7 days - I wash too many dishes… such a waste of money lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 02:05 PM
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You are definitely over thinking it and that’s going to be a huge barrier for you ever enjoying sex. You need to be with someone you are truly comfortable with so all the anxiety eases and you can explore. There’s no one answer about what guys expect because everyone is different. And you need to be seeking out a sexual partner who’s likes are some what aligned with yours.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 07:41 PM
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Definitely talk about this with your doctor and see if they suggest seeking out a therapist. No shame in this, could be a myriad of things. I want to start off by saying I do not suggest stopping your BC without a back up method but when I was on hormonal BC pills (tri-sprintec) I was not the best version of myself. When I got off of it, I felt much better and more in control. As far as mental health goes, you could be experiencing symptoms of a lot of things. I have pretty bad anxiety and since…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 12:18 AM
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Yes I definitely agree with other users to read the resources pinned on the subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 02:25 PM
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it’s much more likely that women who have been wronged or are unhappy will take to the internet to vent. It’s like restaurant reviews. How often do you go on and leave a positive review when you had a good dining experience compared to when you’ve had horrible customer service? You won’t find people going out of their way to get online and gush over their partners all that often, due in part to the fact we are happily living our lives. Youllknowwhenitsright is right - change your environment. Ch…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 02:12 PM
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I felt this way with the few exes I have. I started to truly even dislike them and be very unattracted to them at a certain point. It was consistent enough within my relationships I felt like it was definitely something wrong with me. I can honestly say I have never felt this way with my husband. He is the only man I’m attracted to and have never lost attraction to, even in our somewhat lower moments. I truly believe that in the past, I did not love the men I was with and they certainly were no …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 09:29 PM
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That relationship highlight is so thoughtful and meaningful! What an amazing way to make you feel heard and loved.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/24 03:21 PM
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No I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. My assumption is mornings are stressful for your husband for one reason or another and unfortunately, this weird water bottle thing is setting him off. I, too, get stressed in the mornings trying to get everyone ready and out of the door. My kids forget their water bottles quite a bit to the point we’ve stopped really sending them since they can just use cups. We never brought water bottles to school when I was a child and I’m here to tell the tale, lo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 02:39 PM
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This. If he wants to he will
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 08:22 PM
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I relate to your low point you mentioned with the coffee! I was really busy at one point this week and my husband had come in from laying mulch in our garden bed and said “I need you to help me really quickly” and I did the same as you. I sighed and said something about having my own things I’m trying to complete. Then I said what do you need? And all he wanted was for me to put ice in his cup cause his hands were dyed red from our mulch… I immediately felt awful and he did the same as your husb…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/24 12:59 PM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: 3 Demographics: 30F, husband 33, 4 kids Gratitude list: we are financially stable enough for me to engage in self care practices that help me feel confident, my children have flourishing social lives and strong friendships, my husband is spending a considerable amount of his weekend free time on our spring time “honey do” list Things I Did for My Present: got a mani/pedi, spent quality time with my daughters, bought a new dress Things I Did for My Future: cl…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/24 12:37 PM
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I get your dilemma. Unfortunately, with a baby coming you really can’t be left with no car and it is absolutely unreasonable for you to get your newborn in and out of the car several times a day when sleep for the baby is Precious those first few months. You will be so tired. You will have drs apts and that will already feel like a lot as you adjust. He’s being unreasonable and not putting you and the baby first in this situation
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 11:13 PM
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It is hard isn’t it! I don’t really work full time but sometimes the preparation for work takes precedence over some of the ways I like to serve my family and husband. That frustrates me. - like for example, if there is a chance I will get called to work overnight I have to get to bed around 8. So intimate time after kids bedtime when we tend to do the most one on one time and I normally give Him a back rub or make him a snack, etc. - is nonexistent that night. I try to remind myself that with e…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/24 11:11 PM
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6k is plenty to afford everything you’ve listed and you could definitely save a couple thousand for a couple months from that budget and buy a decent used vehicle.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 10:59 PM
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I grew up in a town of about 58,000 people, coastal Florida. Endless food options, a great mall, tourist attractions… a beach lol. I now live in my husbands rural, northwest Illinois home town of 2100 people. We also don’t have much here. We do live about half an hour away from a larger area with more dining and shopping options and my hair dresser who has been a god send after I had a similar hair experience as you in my local area. The biggest metropolitan area besides Chicago 2.5 hrs) is abou…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 01:03 PM
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My husband likes to cook and tends to be better at me than a handful of dishes. He also always does the grilling. I take care of almost all the meals with the rare exception on the weekend when he does it for enjoyment. Normally I’ll make the side dishes or make bread or a dessert to accompany so we are both in the kitchen together. Maybe try that! Then he’s never making 100% of 50% of the meals.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 06:08 PM
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I agree with what everyone else is saying. But I will also note, that being overweight generally contributes to depression, sexual dysfunction, etc. exercise really can boost testosterone. And if he has low testosterone already (which he probably wouldn’t even know unless he asked a dr) that can be why he’s experiencing so many of Those “side effects.” You can’t change those for him. You can only support him and try to encourage him if he shows interest. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 10:11 PM
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I believe wholeheartedly my husband has never cheated. And I don’t think all men cheat. I think many men who are products of today’s society do cheat. Monogamy and traditional marriages have gone to the wayside for many reasons, not the least of which is because it takes effort and work and requires selflessness - all things so many adults and adolescents lack these days because of passive parenting. I have certainly been cheated on in the past by others and it is one unforgivable thing for me. …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 01:13 PM
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I am really trying to start doing more of this and would love to read more about ways you go about this - some specific examples of things you do. I already try to teach my daughters the right way to clean and to bake and cook, and we have started crocheting although it’s a bit hard for them at 10 and 8 lol. It’s a good bonding time. But my 8 year old hates to clean, hates to spend time cooking. She enjoys learning cursive and putting together pretty outfits. But she has such an attitude. My ten…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/24 02:43 PM
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This is my favorite way and I used to formally set our table, light candles, etc but then my baby turned into a toddler and nothing can be on my table anymore except the bare minimum lol. Anxiously awaiting the day he understands no a bit better and I can put back on my center piece and charger plates!!!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/24 02:39 PM
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I’m not familiar with discord. How would that work?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 12:42 PM
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Yes exactly how I feel. I think I am considering the same with the classes and that was my exact thinking. Reddit has been a really good place for me so far, but I wish there was a place with a more community-vibe where we could share recipes and tips for homemaking / parenting with the RP tools, maybe outfit inspo and just communicate more directly. I don’t use social media but if there was platform just to communicate with RPW in that way I would jump on lol. Maybe we just have to get creative…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 09:52 AM
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That last part gives me the ick lol. I definitely don’t lean that far into RP. it is hard to feel like you have tools other women could use that would really change the way they feel about their marriage but can’t share them. I just feel like it’ll be perceived as a “im better than you do what i do” thing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 12:50 AM
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yeah that’s a pretty decent idea. I’ve been thinking of taking a sewing class and my husband and I have been considering doing a Spanish class over the summer together. Maybe if I do that I can meet some new people. It would be nice to find friends whose family values match my own but I guess it doesn’t have to be the only thing I focus on. I just don’t want friends who openly trash talk their husbands as a form of bonding lmao
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 12:49 AM
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Oooh this is a good idea
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 12:29 PM
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I feel this so hard and love all of it!!! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 04:55 PM
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Yes that is exactly right with the sensory stuff lmao. But I agree, he does things he doesn’t necessarily want to do for me and I need to focus on doing the same when he needs me to. I do feel so much better and am a lot more proud of who I am and the role modeling im doing for my daughters. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/24 10:09 PM
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Honestly, reading a BUNCH of posts on Reddit/marriage and Reddit/Am I the a**hole that were primarily about spouses being horrible people or marriages failing, etc made me realize how good of a man I have and how I never want to be in those situations I read about. I started doing some research about self improvement for women and watching red pill / traditional marriage content and here I am lol. The main podcast I’m listening to (and watching cause they stream on YouTube) is 2 Be Better - I wi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/24 10:07 PM
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I work a third shift on call position - the pay is the same regardless of whether I work or not. Then I’m home during the day with my 18 month old and my older children after school. I also clean 2 nights a week for some extra cash.
/r/RedPillWives30/03/24 04:32 PM
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