Fashion

MinimalistDreamer · 2024-05-03T15:36:06+00:00

I'm a woman and when I look at a well dressed woman, it's to appreciate their style that's all. There's nothing malicious about it, at least for me.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-05-03T16:17:04+00:00

Oh.

I love this effect.

There's a difference between covering your body and putting on an outfit. When I'm in an outfit:

I'm smiled at more
I'm complimented more
People are more agreeable or friendly
Being noticed more means I get more people offering to hold the door/higher rates of sales associates offering to help/etc.
I'm recognized and remembered more easily because I'm more distinct

This all gets trippled when I have an also cutely dressed baby, and then when my sharply dressed, muscled husband gets added to the mix, we're just constantly getting people-watched by someone.

People appreciate beauty in the world. People appreciate other people who add beauty to the world. In order to appreciate, they must first notice.

I've been "dressing up" 90% of the time since I was 15 or so. This reaction from people has become normal, my default expectation of others, and relatively recently (last couple years) I had to mentally make an effort to confirm there's a difference between throwing on anything and actually putting myself together nicely in order to describe the effect.

Flipside?

Your first impression and mistakes will also be easier to remember
If you're in a bad area, you stand out more to the wrong kind of people too
Some women will have the opposite reaction and give you the cold shoulder out of jealousy (more common with someone with whom you interact regularly than a stranger, but it can happen with strangers too, especially if you show up best-dressed to an event)

All I have to do is be conscious of the flipside and use common sense, and I can still reap the benefits. I think you'll get used to the increased attention. It's a good sign.

One-Introduction-566 · 2024-05-03T16:04:12+00:00

I feel like people in the US also just don’t dress up as much. We’ve become more casual in public and in the workplace so you stick out more. While I love being comfortable, I wish it were more comfortable to dress up a bit and not feel out of place. But most people are nice about it and do not mean anything malicious by looking at you. I’d also say… heels and a-line sounds pretty fancy compared to like a casual sundress and sandals

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2024-05-03T18:17:27+00:00

I dressed the same way in my early 20s and got compliments and generally positive attention in the office.

Out and about, I wouldn't say I got negative attention, but I did sometimes feel awkward. I remember being in a Walmart in a working class area, wearing my a-line skirt and heels, and felt like I was wearing a costume. No one said anything or looked at me (that I noticed), it was just psychological discomfort and it's unpleasant.

I still see plenty of dresses and sundresses being worn, but, I will say that shoes, especially, have gotten a lot more casual for women. When I was 20 (in the early aughts), strappy sandals were a thing, but now I think women save them for formal occasions or going out at night. Heels are pretty much for conservative industries where you wear a suit. There's a lot more boots, booties, sneakers, etc. 3-inch heels sound like super high heels to me these days.

Where do you typically go when you're dressed nicely?

Edit: This is where a bit of idgaf, main character energy is helpful. I think that's harder for women who're drawn to RPW and are trying to be submissive and considerate. Walk confidently, hold your head up high, care less.

countrylemon · 2024-05-03T19:21:57+00:00

“You always look at the woman across the room. And you think, “The woman across the room is so confident, and so put together, and so on.” But that woman is looking at you. And for her, you are the woman across the room. Everybody’s the same. It’s just a big waste of time to be insecure.”

-Diane von Furstenberg, Designer & Fashion Icon

MrsTurnPage · 2024-05-03T20:54:14+00:00

I've got video of this happening. I was recording something in the grocery store one time and got this lady looking me up and down with a stank eye in the background. I wear dresses, pearls, and my hair in curls. It's usually a mix of reactions. Got stopped by an elderly fellow one time, who thanked me for gracing his day with my presence. Probably weird but made me smile. The ladies at my grocery store called me 'the lipstick woman' and if I wear heels most people will comment on how tall I am. 5'10" not in heels. Most of my heels are only 2 inches but that puts me to 6' and I forget how weird that is.

Just do you darlin. People aren't gonna like it because they're comparing. That's not on you.

Ok_Outside149 · 2024-05-03T17:29:36+00:00

I wouldn’t assume all the stares are negative. I also stare at well dressed people because they look great

TheBunk_TB · 2024-05-03T18:44:53+00:00

Its because slovenly is often seen as normal

RedPillDad · 2024-05-03T21:09:08+00:00

A woman can dress up to show she takes care of herself and to garner positive attention. You would think that would be perfectly acceptable. These days, women get pulled in different directions and can be criticized no matter what they choose...

A simple, feminine outfit is a Basic B uniform.

A revealing, hyper-sexualized outfit is a Bad B uniform.

A name-brand outfit is a haughty Hot B's uniform. A combination of sexuality and exclusivity.

A garish, anti-fashion outfit is a radical feminist's uniform.

A power-suit is a Boss B's uniform.

A relaxed, baggy outfit is an androgynous 'slacker-wear' approach of not trying. Mom's often choose this out of necessity, no time for dressing up.

A feminine look was once widely acceptable and generally exempt from criticism. Times have changed for younger generations.

My wife enjoys looking feminine. She gets plenty of positive attention from men and women. That wasn't always the case, even my own sisters tried to discourage her from dressing and behaving in a feminine manner. They were more into the slacker and Boss B looks.

My wife's sister is married, north of 60 and still pushing for that Haughty Hottie look that draws the sexual attention of men.

AutoModerator · 2024-05-03T14:52:51+00:00

Title: Fashion

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Full text: In my pursuit of incorporating more RP ideals into my marriage dressing more feminine has been something I’ve focused on. I was never un-feminine - I’ve always gotten my hair done and liked to have my nails done/do my makeup, etc. but my style was not feminine. Mostly jeans, sneakers and sweatshirts or shirts. I’ve totally revamped my closet into feminine blouses, dresses and heels / heeled sandals. I’m feeling so good about myself, my husband has even followed suit and revamped his own wardrobe a bit.

My problem is that it seems when I dress nicely and go out into public I’m met with stares from other women. I’m not a flashy person - we’re talking a-line dresses and 3 inch heels nothing insane. But I never see other women dress nicely out in public really ever and it’s hard not to feel like the odd (wo)man out… I know this can be as simple as not caring what others think which is what I focus on but why the heck does no one bat an eye when women wear pajama pants and slippers to pick up their kids from school but it’s like I have three eyes when I wear dresses and heels… It makes me so self conscious. Wondering if anyone else experiences this in their community - it’s sort of ostracizing

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CountTheBees · 2024-05-04T00:09:39+00:00

The Female Social Matrix,, an old blog post. Standing out among females is generally an anxiety inducing thing, even if no one does anything about it or has any chance to sabotage you (eg they're strangers on the street).

CozyPetals · 2024-05-04T00:44:24+00:00

This used to happen when I was living in my hometown. There was always this implication that I was “dressed up” (and by “dressed up,” I mean a skirt or dress instead of grey sweatpants…) When people would ask me about it in a malicious way, I would tell them the truth that I’m not “dressed up,” I simply do not own clothes that I dislike or that I feel disheveled in. I feel best in feminine clothes, and it makes no sense for me to own clothes that I feel uncomfortable in.

My idea of casual or daily is a dress that isn’t as fitted so that it’s cooler in the summertime, easier for me to move about and run errands etc… Someone who has a choice between sweats and a dress may pick the sweats for the sake of being comfy, but since I don’t own sweats in the first place, it’s my most casual option. It’s just the way it’s always been for me.

When I got older and moved away, a “friend” told me that a lot of the girls in the area didn’t want to befriend me because “they thought that I dressed as if I thought I was better than them.” This was never the case. The way I present myself is my choice, and if I want to show up as someone feminine, it doesn’t stop the girls around me from doing the same. It’s all personal choice and conscious effort, and any backhanded comments are easy to interpret as jealousy… those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind don’t matter.

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_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2024-05-04T16:35:26+00:00

why the heck does no one bat an eye when women wear pajama pants and slippers to pick up their kids from school

What. They do?

Sooo, I read you live in a very small, rural town and you're having trouble fitting in. Honestly, being massively overdressed compared to all other women is not going to help.

You've got two options:

Don't care. You like the way you dress. End of story.
Tone it down a bit while still mantaining the feminine style you like. Don't underestimate how much accessories like shoes, purse, jewels, + your makeup and hairstyle can dress an outfit up or down. Something so simple as wearing flat shoes can really change the tone of your outfit.

I mostly go with n. 1, but I think there's something to be said in favor of n. 2. If you want to appear graceful, then dressing appropriately for the occasion is part of that, and it's going to depend on the social norms and context of the place you live. An outfit might be appropriate at an arts student cafe in a big city, and out of place at a farmers' market. There's something in the middle between slippers and 3 inches heels, if you want to fit in more.

Or dgaf. Really. Who cares.

Title	Fashion
Author	Reasonable_Tie_132
Upvotes	26
Comments	26
Date	May 3, 2024 2:52 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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