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I just wanted to chime in and say, I believe now in the current year, for men living in America, especially urban America, there has never been a greater need for proper supplementation. For the simple fact that the overall nutritional quality of our foods has been deteriorating for some time. Even if you buy straight from a farmer's market, the same damn soil being replanted year after year has been drained of nutrients. Another easy example anyone can point to is grass fed beef vs mass feedlot…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/17 11:44 AM
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I think you're thinking way too much black and white here. http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/12/the-three-alphas.html Ian Ironwood did a great post explaining the "3 types of Alphas" (not saying these are the commonly accepted types, just a good theory) Bull, Bear, and Wolf. They are all very much Alpha, but their motivations are entirely different. And the way they pursue women and goals follows differently. For instance, the "Bull Alpha" is probably what you're thinking of, and conflatin…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 09:51 PM
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If you've been here any length of time, you already knew the answer to this thread before making it. Yes, it sucks. No, you can't save him, you can only show him the door. He has to want to save himself.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 11:38 AM
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I agree with the other posters, and reinforce exactly what I said before - how can you end it with her with the least amount of damage to her - YOU DONT need to tell her you've been cheating on her and nuke her self esteem from orbit. The "right" thing to do in my mind would be to simply end it with her, and tell her as calmly and delicately as you can whatever your reasons are, you just want to be single right now. DON'T make it about how she failed, or you risk making her a completely desperat…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 01:36 AM
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1 - is this a 'lack of respect'? When she wants to have sex on her terms, I interpret this as 'you're not attractive enough for me to let you do what you want'. Is this a fair assessment? Maybe it is, but in all likelihood she sounds like she just doesn't have much of a kinky side, or you never got her inner slut to come out in the first place. Either way, you have no control over her, you can only hope to influence her with your behavior and the example you set. You're asking the wrong question…
/r/askTRP14/12/16 06:13 PM
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The best answer I have for you OP, and it's not really answering your question, but a simple truth I've noticed posted throughout the years here on TRP - why are male comedians better than female comedians?? Good Comedy, in the end, is about dominance. If you're worried about being too funny or trying too hard, that's not creating comedy, or being funny, from a frame of dominance. There's many different humor types out there, but the polar opposite and worst is the self-deprecating (beta) kind. …
/r/askTRP02/12/16 06:56 PM
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You're not alone. What I do to dissipate approach anxiety is make eye contact with every woman I find attractive as I walk on the street. Don't avert your eyes. Make her avert hers first. This. Really, make it a habit, not because you need to make it some groan inducing painful habit, but see it as FUN. You (OP) really should see this as fun, after you've done it more and it feels natural. You "caught" a bitch checking you out, and you're staring dead right back at her, maybe you smirk a little,…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 08:20 PM
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I know that post you're referencing, and just judging by the title of your OP, what I honestly have to say to you as the outside observer - be careful that you aren't falling into black and white thinking here. In a big picture sense. You read a good nugget of TRP wisdom here and there, and it contradicts what your general game plan should be. Remember that it's all strategy, and contextual. However, I've recently read that you've got to relentlessly keep at hot women until you're the last man s…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 08:11 PM
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I'll share how I found mine, but only to stress, you really have had some idea of your mission all along, just not the form it would take. Or, another method I like posed by (sometimes) RP writer/coach Mark Manson - how much are you willing to suffer for something? That's the best way to figure out the things that you REALLY want. All of us want to do all the cool shit, but which of those things are you really willing to suffer for, and put your nose to the grindstone to work for? I found my Mis…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 07:50 PM
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I might be butchering the "original" quote but I fully believe it either way - seeking revenge on someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die from it. The best revenge is living a happy life, the best possible you you can be. You probably aren't seeing it now, but, when both that loser and your trash ex wife see a better you, your own satisfaction with yourself will truly be "the best revenge". I have had the experience of a former friend turned enemy at my place of wor…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 09:50 PM
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I wanted to say one more thing to you, regarding the mention of suicide (if I had the balls to do it, I'd do it). Take it from a man who's best friend and brother killed himself 3 years ago. Completely out of the blue, and he was the most alpha guy I've ever known, refused to ever get help or open up about it. And please, I am not trying to straight up guilt you, I am being very real with you as somebody who has been here. No matter how much pain you are in right now at this moment - suicide is …
/r/askTRP18/11/16 09:24 PM
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Everything you've said here makes absolutely perfect sense, thank you. Yeah, I met her when she was 18, she's effectively been "trapped" in the LTR for 5 years, and another poster linked me the rational male article "Making Up For Missing Out" really clarified a lot of things. I've known for awhile that she is fostering some resentment, on some level, and I rarely if ever see it, if that makes sense. Like you said, her rational (what rational part of a brain females do have, heh) self is telling…
/r/askMRP18/11/16 09:16 PM
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My favorite response to "what are we?" has been "we're partners in crime".
/r/askTRP18/11/16 07:24 PM
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Seriously, what the other posters have said, don't feel ashamed for seeking help now...in real life. You coming here was the first step in seeking help. Somewhere inside my mind I'm afraid even you guys will shit on me here for being ike this. And rightfully so I think. I deserve it. Most of us probably don't believe in kicking a fellow man while he's down, but we aren't going to coddle you either. You've identified this behavior/pattern/thing about yourself, and you don't like it. You're going …
/r/askTRP18/11/16 07:21 PM
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I've never honestly thought of it like that, thank you. I have a hard time asking for help as it is, and didn't want to "burden" you guys more by going into more detail than I already did in the OP, aka trying to share my fucking life story as context for a thread.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 06:07 PM
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Yep, I got my answer I needed, thanks. I did a lot of damage pre TRP, found TRP and thought I could "fix" this, my story was not meant to be one of the successful captain turns his ship around stories we see here apparently.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 06:05 PM
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Yep, make me work harder by telling me I can't do something, don't worry I've said worse to myself already.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 06:04 PM
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I'll take the time to reply to you because I respect your posts a lot over the years here, but otherwise I'm done with this thread and have what I needed to know/hear. I should've made this thread "where is the point at which you realize you need to next an LTR?" - because I've seen a lot of successful Captain stories turning their ships around here. I've been straddling the fence for awhile now, I'll admit, because we share a lease for another half a year, and would genuinely like to improve my…
/r/askMRP18/11/16 05:54 PM
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Yep, you're right on all of that. Thanks again. I'll be honest again here too, the biggest reason I hung onto this so long, even after 1-2 years of TRP, like many deluded souls here, I thought she was close to possible can be trained into a unicorn material. I snagged her at 18, she'd only been with one other guy, that's close to damn ideal for LTR prospects. At least on the sexual past front, but that doesn't qualify her for jack shit elsewhere. I do actually want kids someday, and bought into …
/r/askMRP17/11/16 09:52 PM
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Great points, thanks for taking the time. I have had a lurking suspicion all along that nothing I really do is going to "change this" - not that that's an excuse to stop trying or anything. You're right though, I snagged her at 18, went pretty hard beta for awhile (pre TRP), and she's missed out completely on the party years. Objectively, I think I'm about a 7.5, and she's a 5. She could easily be a 7 if she'd put more work into herself, what RPW would refer to as "girl game" and put out more. S…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 09:46 PM
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Yes, several circles outside of her. Some of the circles are just nerd friends, some of these circles are my bros, some of these circles are her friends that have become more my friends over the years. I have zero doubt that our shared friends would stick by me if I were to call things quits. And I regularly keep in contact with and arrange things with a lot of close friends I've kept in touch with over the years who are out of state, most of the time she's not invited. I don't do bars much at a…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 09:37 PM
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Thanks for taking the time, I've been internalizing this a lot lately (the cogn dissonance angle) too. She probably resents herself for rationally not being able to "make herself want to do something" more, and that's not something I should encourage. I do think it is less biological than what some of the posters are suggesting, this could be me hamstering for her, but the truth is she does have hip issues/pain a lot. I've called her out a lot on her unwillingness/slowness to address this issue …
/r/askMRP17/11/16 09:10 PM
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You're totally right, and I know damn well I could become my best self with her out of the way completely. I wouldn't have even made this thread if I knew a place I could go for the next half year (we are in a lease together) and ended things. I'm working from a place of "okay, if I'm ""stuck"" here for awhile, might as well try to improve things." But compared to guys who are actually married and/or have kids together, I'm in a pretty good spot, just a lease and a dog.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 08:06 PM
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Appreciate it, thanks for taking the time. Am hitting the weights, am daygaming, have my own life outside of her (martial arts), been rock solid on that front for a year now. I expected positive change from her, and now I'm realizing that that expectation of me improving my own SMV was a bullshit covert contract.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 08:03 PM
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You can't negotiate desire. You didn't mention any game, any dread, any value. Thanks for taking the time and the links, reading them now. I added a bit more context about me/value/dread above in another reply, I didn't want the OP to be too lengthy.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 08:01 PM
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Good questions. I realize my post is rather vague, I'm not trying to be obtuse, but just not bombard you guys with too much backstory. What are you doing to change that? I would say two years ago, I got my diet under control, got down to my goal weight (260 down to 200), but wasn't satisfied with that. This year, I took up martial arts, have been living and breathing it 3-4x a week. In addition I'm also lifting 3x a week now. I'm in better shape now than when I met her at 23, and am also taking …
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:53 PM
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Yeah, that's the most basic facet of TRP. I am not planning on trying to "negotiate" shit, I've simply told her if she doesn't fix her issues in the way I'm peacing out. For more context, she has some joint/hip issues that get in the way of sex, and being in pain really can get in the way of desire. I've stayed on her ass about getting it fixed and seeking help for her issues, and I've accepted that maybe she just doesn't care enough.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:37 PM
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I think I'm in a similar boat as you, my girl doesn't have the overweight problem, just an extreme lack of fucks for improving herself. The most important plan here is that you do not stop leading by example, and the next most important thing is that you be there ready to help her when she finally asks for it. Obviously you can't do the lifts for her, but you could perhaps show her a good workout plan? Show her stronglifts 5x5 and show her how easy the phone app is for it. That's taking an activ…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:24 PM
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OP - don't focus on whether this is "red pill" or not to not tolerate this behavior. You asked how would WE feel, as individual men. That's the only judge that matters here in this instance, and no, that isn't a subtle approval of this behavior. The only "red pill" here would be having boundaries as a man, and for most of us, this would be strongly against our boundaries for an LTR. Why would blue pillers enjoy this sort of thing? Simple, for the same reason these women participate in this - the…
/r/askTRP16/11/16 07:46 PM
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Quick question on this - I subscribe to the view that our women are reflections of us. At the same time, I'm only responsible for my own actions. Quick situation - I have been with my LTR for going on 5 years now, the first year I was reasonably alpha (early 20's lucked out a bit but was completely BP inside), 2-3 years before discovering TRP I let everything slide. I've been working my ass off for the past one year, and I find myself growing beyond impatient, thinking that she'll never change. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 08:49 PM
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You didn't lose her respect overnight. It's going to take time, and all the small things and interactions matter. You're not going to pass every frame/shit test, either. Eventually she claims that she's had enough and that she really doesn't want to talk anymore which gets me more heated. Just to use your one example to drive home a point here, you realize you're doing the opposite of what you should be doing. You are responding to her getting emotional. The correct play is to not give a shit, p…
/r/askTRP04/11/16 09:05 PM
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Focus on yourself and being awesome and doing awesome things. Pretty much just this, and everything else will fall into place.
/r/askTRP04/11/16 07:54 PM
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Interesting way of looking at it. No matter how much Wilson Fisk spoils her though, he is INFINITELY more valuable than she is. He is also as the viewer should know, incredibly awkward in matters of intimate relationships and his own feelings. I'm honestly not sure if we should even grade Fisk on an alpha to beta to omega scale - he's that socially isolated. If anything, he might really be a textbook omega on the love front, and alpha on the crime boss front? I don't really have much else to add…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 07:30 PM
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Take care of your body and health. There is no substitute for it. You should always make time to take care of you. If you don't take care of yourself, you'll feel like a different person by the time you're 25.
/r/askTRP04/11/16 07:13 PM
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Happy to help. This was genuinely good to read here; She's working, but she loves traveling more than anything. It's pretty obvious that she misses me a lot. I'm getting random phone calls and texts all the time from her. The tears that get shed every time we go our separate ways are also very real. As corny/beta/whatever it sounds, we really do love the hell out of each other. This is good, this is okay. Again with my limited knowledge, I was concerned that the picture I was getting of her was …
/r/askTRP04/11/16 07:03 PM
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These are some absolute gold suggestions, thanks for sharing. I'm really struggling with coming home and turning into "fuckit mode". My lifting and getting up earlier is in order, but I have such an overwhelming desire to "reward myself" when I get home, that voice saying "I deserve it" - to the junk food/alcohol/tv/porn or whatever.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:53 PM
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OP I cannot second this enough. Fuck motivation, she is a fickle bitch that comes and goes, and she is NEVER there when you NEED her the most. What you need is reliance on yourself. There's a reason it's called SELF-discipline. Faith in yourself. You need to take a step back and look at this in a big picture sense. 2 weeks or 2 months of backsliding, whatever, you need to stop beating yourself up, and just get back on that horse. Willpower and discipline is a muscle - the more you start using it…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:51 PM
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blah blah blah how bad it is to cheat blah blah blah The fact that she even verbalized her thought out loud of sleeping with another man (cheating) (and it's you) should be your green light. Plausible deniability and respond with amusement at the whole thing, and have a good devil may care attitude at the whole notion of "cheating". 3 months? Fuck that, that's nothing. Just don't catch feels for her after you hit it.
/r/askTRP04/11/16 06:44 PM
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I thought your post was great too, what the hell mods. It was cheesy, yes. I was going to add my own little modified version - instead of visualization technique, I simply restate my Mission to myself. Especially before high stress situations in business, or before approaching. My Mission statement is simple, and it works to get me psyched up and to vanquish fear. "I am a Martial Artist."
/r/askTRP04/11/16 06:31 PM
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I would ask you a few things first, it does sound like she may be a high quality woman. Your end game mission is to have a family, whether she is in the picture or not. Correct? You need to be goddamned sure that the answer to this is a yes, and that you aren't incorrectly just wanting this with her because she just makes you feel that way. Secondly, what is she doing with her life? She doesn't sound like the type to want to settle down at all, career woman, traveler, high sex drive etc. You may…
/r/askTRP04/11/16 06:05 PM
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Alright, posting for my own accountability, a few days late but in for the rest of the month; no PMO no alcohol no junk food not taking up a new habit, but trying to increase my self-discipline to do it every day. Martial arts hand conditioning daily (bag striking), and practicing daily.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/16 04:57 PM
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What do I do? Be respectful and not get women, or the other way around? Stop thinking in such terms of black and white, first of all.
/r/askTRP04/11/16 04:10 PM
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Here's what you need to do, first of all, start taking it one day at a time. And I mean it, start actually taking it one goddamn day at a time. You're judging yourself, and you're just getting angrier as you continue to harshly scrutinize yourself - frustrated by everything you see and the fact that it's all not where you want it yet. There are many different opinions here in TRP about "self-loathing" or what have you. I'm of the opinion that it can be a powerful motivation, or it can be fucking…
/r/askTRP04/11/16 03:29 PM
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This is gold, saved, thanks for sharing.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/16 03:03 PM
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I'm 28, and I realized I wanted kids probably a year ago. Nothing specific happened, I would say my circumstances are what give me a strong desire for them. I am an only child, first off, so if I don't have kids, there's the thought that my bloodline dies with me. My parents waited hella late to have me, until their 40s - if I don't have kids in the next few years, my dad is so old and in poor health that he'll be lucky to even meet my kids. Both sets of my grandparents are dead, too. Third - I …
/r/askTRP04/11/16 02:58 PM
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TLDR: it doesn't matter what you say as an opener, it's all in how you say it. A sarcastic and cocky but genuine "Oh hi" is my go to.
/r/askTRP03/11/16 06:54 PM
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But now, that girl who initiates contact and sends messages all day doesn't even reply to my texts. I assume she found another dick or trying to play some games. Abundance mentality, read up on it. Why are you the one texting her? Texting is for logistics only now since you've fucked her already and flirt VERY sparingly. Don't say anything now, the more you text her NOW the worse you're making yourself look, just let her come back to you. Who gives a fuck what shes busy with, or who gives a fuck…
/r/askTRP03/11/16 06:21 PM
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Holy shit, are you me? I'm in Columbia SC as well, haven't hunted yet, but wanted to, don't know anyone who does.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/16 09:56 PM
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Good points! I mean, the fear of rejection goes away pretty simply on it's own just through experience. Unless we're talking a guy with deep seeded rejection issues, that's beyond the scope of this post. If a man hypothetically is fairly well skilled at pickup, he's not very phased by rejection anymore, but he still has to "psych himself up" a bit before approaching each time, I'd wager that it's because he doesn't lift enough. Regarding the social standing, that's definitely a part of it too, c…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/16 04:02 PM
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I totally agree with your points about stamina really being the limiting factor of a fighter. I disagree though in general (not with you) that strongmen type Brock Lesnars of the world cannot do heavy cardio and have good endurance. I guess I want the best of both worlds, eventually. I see way too many bodybuilders with no endurance, but for every one of those I see too many martial artists that could have so much more power if they'd just put on a little muscle. Glad to hear your school include…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/16 03:41 PM
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My bad, I need to do some more research on this. I don't follow MMA too hard, just a few favorites, and I never see them use throws. The throws we train at my school are Shuai Juaio - mostly Chinese throw techniques and lots of leg sweeps/reaping. But yeah, modern fighters there wear a gi. We don't in my school.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 09:45 PM
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Fucking gold comments here, thanks again man. Like I said I'm a year one student, but pretty serious about this long term, so I'm always trying to pick the brains of experienced martial artists. My focus right now is actually gains, and although I agree with you on me being too late, and I would be a heavyweight. I'm 6'2 and 210 lbs or so. I'm honestly not sure I agree with the "philosophy" or mentality that more muscle works against me. If I'm not trying to make a certain weight class, I want a…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 09:39 PM
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Damn, I'm envious that you got started that early, I'm almost 29 and just now starting really. I did karate as a kid but that doesn't really count. Anyway, thanks again for sharing, I did not expect to bounce martial arts notes in this thread. I mainly ask about the discipline angle, because I do actually want to make it a career, someday. Not as a competitive MMA fighter (KF wouldn't work for that anyway as there's no throws allowed in UFC) but as a teacher eventually.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 09:13 PM
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Since nobody else has mentioned it, you should do yourself a preemptive favor and record the conversation when you decide you're ready to go down with the talk. You are being honest with us and yourself about how potentially batshit crazy she is, yes. Record it so that you can protect yourself, if need be. The last thing you need is false rape accusations or some ridiculous drama about why you two broke up. Record it, and stuff it away somewhere safe and where you won't be tempted to replay it.
/r/askTRP27/10/16 09:09 PM
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Thanks a ton! I have to ask, because I couldn't fucking agree more - what martial art are you studying? I am in a 4 going on 5 year LTR now (I'm more leaning towards MRP these days) and started taking up Kung Fu a year ago which has turned my ship dramatically around. Everything in my life towards realizing TRP has clicked, now that I'm a student of Kung Fu. There was a good year of lurking, being skeptical here, and a year of swallowing the hard pill. Anyway, my real question, I am a person who…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 08:49 PM
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Thanks for that. I definitely wasn't suggesting hitting on the chicks at the gym - unless she gives very clear IoI's, women typically at the gym at 6 am with you want to work out, not be hit on. That's the one exception to the rule, and I try to be respectful of that as I would any other fellow men in the gym - I don't want to bother them, plain and simple. I feel like a completely different person if I have the opportunity to day game and went to the gym that morning, however.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 08:15 PM
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No. Just no. The redpill is NOT an ideology. It is a praxeology, like first aid. Men apply it as they choose to and please in their day to day lives. It's not fizzling out or dying anytime soon, maybe you can't remember the days of TRP being below 100k subscribers.
/r/askTRP27/10/16 07:33 PM
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But how does one agitate for a simple return to the truth? I've been pondering this question for a few years now, and my answer to me is to someday have my own "clan". Not just my own flesh and blood children, but my friends that are my "chosen family" who we all work with and help each other succeed, band together. Or as Jack Donovan says in the Way of Men, men should start forming "tribes" again. That all being said, I do not want to advertise TRP to the world, or preach to anyone, or try to w…
/r/askTRP27/10/16 07:30 PM
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Really annoying because I actually know this isn't the only solution Time to take the next step beyond lifting, martial arts! You can't fake the confidence that naturally comes from regular sparring, and you begin to size up other men as you would women, as to how you'd fight them if you needed to. Also, this kind of training to remain calm under a chaotic melee situation also does wonders for staying calm under good old AA.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 06:33 PM
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Thank you, appreciate it. I've found that I gain the most benefit from all of TRP by learning ways to reframe things, obstacles, whatever it is, by seeing it under this lens. I've seen the term Approach Anxiety discussed to death for years now, and struggled with it myself, but upon realizing reframing it made it tons easier for me, I thought others might benefit too in this same sense.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 06:31 PM
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Just to get it straight when we go to gym our testosterone jacks up and we're in "fight" mode when meeting a woman. If anything, I would argue that you're in "calm" mode - IE there isn't a fight or flight response in the first place, because you're solid, in your body, and know you are hardened through tough work. The approach anxiety, or fight or flight response simply doesn't even happen with less attractive women. If you are physically powerful enough and know it, even with the extremely attr…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 06:28 PM
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This theory behind AA has been around since the Mystery Method, perhaps even before that. This is the first time I've honestly seen that theory, I dunno how it slipped past me, given that I've lurked here a good 2 years. It was one of those lightbulb comes on epiphany moments in my brain, of reframing something that I previously thought of as a tough obstacle. Props to Mystery then, I read The Game probably over a decade ago, and didn't think too much of Mystery back then.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 06:25 PM
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You should seriously be grateful to your parents for trying that hard to get your ass in shape then. It sucks, but experience is the best teacher, and it looks like you learned, and continue. Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble, and the sculptor.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 05:43 PM
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I'll just chime in this with regards to lifting, and why women find STRENGTH in a man so intoxicating, sexy, and tingle inducing; it's a primitive response. You can be ottermode/swimmer ripped mode, think Michael Phelps, am I going to say he's not fit? Hell no, he is. The primitive part of this equation, is that a woman sees a man with strength as somebody who can emerge the VICTOR in a Fight or Flight scenario. Conversely, the runner-ripped guy, he would probably succeed at running away, but co…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:30 PM
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You should've playfully teased back that "I should get those (blowjobs) anyway/for free" - the point is you do NOT negotiate or "trade" for sex.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 04:39 PM
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Came in just to say this, 5x5, do it. OP - whatever you do, stop overthinking your weight training regimen and fucking lift heavy.
/r/askTRP17/08/16 04:57 PM
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Tough questions you got here. I don't think I'm completely qualified to answer but one of them; regarding the picking up other women - Should I nuke the finances again and give her no access to my money at all? Logistically, it is easier if she can go to the grocery store, fill up her car, etc., without having to ask me for money, so I'd rather do it that way. But this latest rogue purchase is not at all surprising. She keeps asking for the password to "our" bank accounts online but fuck that. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 03:38 PM
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The writers of those books aren't flawless and the books themselves aren't gospel. This isn't a religion or even an ideology, it's a strategy and you are free to leave out parts if you don't like the morality or feel they don't apply to your situation. Freaking this.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 04:51 PM
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You've got a ways to go man, but you're in the right place. The only real answers I have for you are it's going to take you a lot of time to work through this - the reading we have here, the harsh truths, and how it all pertains to you and your situation. I glanced over at /r/relationshits and had myself a very good laugh at how quick everyone was to blame you, and just in general, their toxicity. If I have one big suggestion for you, it's the book No More Mr Nice Guy - it flies in the face of e…
/r/askTRP16/09/15 05:45 PM
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Should I tell her overtly that she needs to lose x amount of weight or just control what I can and up the dread? I definitely think this is the wrong approach. What you're doing isn't wrong on principle, but you need to frame this situation in terms of "the big picture" though. Losing X weight or can't eat this or that is controlling and short sighted. You say that it took her a year or more, or that you've been lurking for over a year working on yourself. She's going to take some time, if you r…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 05:13 PM
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Sad, isn't it? Truth. The fucked up part is, if you really love and care for someone, you should be able to speak your heart's honest truth - not just to women but to close friends who need to hear it like it is sometimes. If you have to censor yourself, then there's a barrier in the way of true trust between two people.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 05:08 PM
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Seriously, tell her to subscribe over to /r/keto. There's a wealth of fat women over on that sub who have dramatically lost half a person or more. It's all the motivation she needs, the progress pictures, the pats on the pack, whatever - that isn't your job to do. It's seriously an amazing launch pad though, if she has no clue where to start, EVERYTHING she needs besides going to the grocery store is in that resource. More importantly, she should do this because she cares about her health, and b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 04:58 PM
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Completely agreed on all counts there. I'll even admit the main reason I came in with the intent to "nitpick you" was that I see a lot of "Reject this analogy, use this analogy instead" (both in question and answer form) type of posts on TRP lately. If you're going to tell folks why analogy X is "bad" and why analogy Y should be better, it's going to draw some fire for sure. I hope you see my intent here that this might help you in the future, contrasting two very big concepts against one anothe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 07:00 PM
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As soon as I saw you list the word "courage" instead I immediately began thinking of yeah that word could replace "vulnerability" in just about every frigging instance. Good call, couldn't agree more.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 06:50 PM
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This. The Alpha man OWNS his feelings, expresses them in a direct, no bullshit way. If there's nothing he can do or control about them, he "goes stoic". There's simply too many scenarios and examples this could encompass, which OP is why I think you're having trouble dilineating the two. The "beta" reacts to feelings. They don't go stoic when they should, they react to bullshit. They seek validation. Owning your feelings, IE - "expressing feelings" or "allowing yourself to be vulnerable" I think…
/r/askTRP21/08/15 06:05 PM
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You don't think betas trying to unplug don't see their wife as an enemy? I'm sure they do. Was the intent here to try and direct them against seeing it that way (war/enemy)? Seeing them (women) as a project instead? I'm simply of the opinion directing them to see themselves as the project, or the enemy is more productive in the long run. Black and white? What the fuck are you talking about? Didn't you just tear me down seeing no validity in anything I had to say? I see plenty of validity in what…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 05:54 PM
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Wouldn't that make women just as fucking amoral as TRP. They just seem to be socially justified for it, as we are crucified for simply adapting to the world and overcoming. Yeah, their imperatives are amoral, just like our knowledge (TRP) of those imperatives. But so what? Put the women aside for a minute, who gives a fuck what their "biological morals" are or aren't. This isn't about them at all, it's about us. I once told a friend who was very depressed and on the edge, lamenting about "what's…
/r/askTRP21/08/15 05:34 PM
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How about instead, Stop thinking in black and white? Yeah, turning ship around is sometimes referred to as going to war here. This "going to war" mindset is YOUR mindset, not mine, or anyone elses. Going to actual war requires plenty of delicate planning, strategy, endless measurements, research, and out of the box serious thinking too. Not just reaction and adrenaline, that's for the actual combat. But instead of viewing it as a war that requires bravery and emotion. It requires plenty of brave…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 04:16 PM
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Good questions. I think the end goal, for me at least, is to be an alpha "tribe leader" - not just have my own biological tribe someday, but my close friends who are in my circle are my "tribe". I find a lot of fulfillment in helping them get ahead in life. You can't help others though unless you're in a position of strength first, and are giving from a place of fulfillment. So, when you've 'made it' it falls on you to decide, do you give back and help those who are worth helping, or do you stay…
/r/askTRP21/08/15 04:07 PM
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This too shall pass. The best way you beat the numbness/apathy stage really is by focusing on numero uno. What's some awesome new hobby shit you've been entertaining the idea of for years but haven't done yet? Go get to it. You beat the apathy/coldness for people by leading an awesome life and putting your own needs first. Oh, yeah, AWALT, it's just their nature, who gives a shit, I have a game to win, I have a race to do, I have weights to crush - whatever it is you do. In the end, you will fee…
/r/askTRP21/08/15 04:01 PM
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Is this what TRP is being reduced to now? A shameless thread topic opening with I have no control over XYZ about my body?? Bullshit you don't.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 03:58 PM
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No, you're not too old to change what you're doing, but you're too old to keep bullshitting yourself like this. Please keep reading the sidebar, keep an open mind, and read up on Monk Mode. Most importantly, you have to want to walk through that door and turn into a better you.
/r/askTRP20/08/15 05:17 PM
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Alright, I've been sort of in this situation. The biggest takeaways for you I want to give; 1 ) If this was your first time agreeing to go with her to a nude beach, you need to stress to her how you really feel (yes I'm serious) and that you didn't know you'd feel this way. Nobody can control how they feel, only their actions. If you've been to one before and/or been in this situation before with her, you reap what you sow. Following that first point, the issue here of trying to argue "owning he…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 07:21 PM
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The first rule of Fight Club is..
/r/askTRP19/08/15 05:54 PM
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You don't want that either. You get that as a side effect of wanting to be the best man you can be. Just like pussy.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 06:06 PM
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Tough situation and lots of angles to attack this from. I can't really give definitive advice of any type without knowing your specifics, not that you need to share. On the inverse, how do you discourage your wife from adopting a similar behavior pattern whereby she makes purchases that you both have to live with but she doesn't consult you first. Problem I keep encountering is my wife uses instances where I've bought art, furniture, etc. without seeing if she was into it, as an excuse to do the…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 01:08 PM
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I just wanted to chime in here and mention that this is a very caveat heavy subject. I just had one of those "heavy conversations" with my LTR of 4 years yesterday, the explicit subject being that she is "uncomfortable" with our "arrangement" and me being "Captain". This is coming from a 22yr old woman who is very very new to TRP ideas, I've vaguely shared some snippets of TRP here and there over at least a year, and she's overall hostile to them with lots of feminist indoctrination. After remai…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 11:55 PM
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I thank you for taking the time, and do try to implement some "play hard to get" or simply "being a tease/playful" however you want to frame/phrase it. Given the context of my LTR, falling into beta for a year, discovering TRP/unplugging/working on it, and judging by how eager she really was, this was in no shape or form a reward for good behavior. Just real earnest enthusiasm for some out of the norm behavior, she seemed surprised at herself - it was NOT the normal for her to come back from a h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 11:03 PM
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I thank you both for the replies and taking the time. I'm with alphabeta though, in this story at least, she was super wet before the panties even came off. Plus, I wasn't thinking to myself when I heard her car pull in "I wonder if she'll be in a good mood to have sex with me tonight" - I simply kept working on my shit and didn't even get up to unlock the door for her. The funny thing is, by not even thinking about the outcome at the time (I realized now while posting) that mindset is absolutel…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 10:58 PM
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Thank you for that, good catch, and you're right - that's not so much "acting RP" as it is just being Masculine. Glad to hear you mention Acta Non Verba as well, that's another truth we say here that could easily be a takeaway home run point of every thread in here. What I did here was just a small act of it, and understanding it finally + feeling comfortable implementing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 07:30 PM
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so trp is selective perception and selffullfilling prophecy combined? No, it's having knowledge of social dynamics, and what the general tendencies are for given social dynamics. If you know what the average or mean is, you're going to be right a vast majority of the time if you make predictions based on (or against) them. This is very much against "selective perception" - selective perception implies that we're only looking for evidence that confirms our beliefs. Observing the norms of societie…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 05:48 PM
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You're most welcome, happy to help and thank you for that. I've seen this topic come up at least a dozen times over the past 2 years I've lurked - and I've pondered it a lot to come to these conclusions. Just the way you phrased the question "Marijuana and TRP" - I phrased questions a lot like this too, as in, "what's the RP stance or logic on XYZ?" I wish more folks would advocate that there is NEVER a magical RP play for a scenario, or a RP way to handle something. There are only options. A ma…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 05:21 PM
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This. "Think as you like, but behave as others." -38th law of power. My father always told me as a child, way before I discovered TRP his own version of this "son, be a non-conforming conformist, in anything you do". OP, always ask yourself in these situations that rub you (and all of us) the wrong way, the politically correct snobbery, whatever it is....what do you actually have to gain by taking a stand against it? At best, you wasted some of your brain power and time. At worst, you're going t…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 05:15 PM
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I'm in agreement with you here. However, the point about it being an SMV lowerer is more in the long term I believe, this needs to be stressed. I don't care whether a woman finds it attractive or unattractive, that's irrelevant. The point that smoking's negative effects will negatively impact your physical SMV is true for us all on a long enough timeline and with enough use. I don't need to go into that, this is common knowledge, but your physical strength and stamina are part of your SMV as a m…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 05:02 PM
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"You don't date me to dictate my decisions, you date me because you trust them. Now show it." You fucking killed it with this, best reply I've read all day. You came here making this post wondering if you failed or could've gone about it in a better way, I think you hit a home run here. Case in point, if you have a fight or argument, you hold your frame with a very tough but sticking to your guns statement like the one you used, and then have sex later = that means you won today. Keep your edge …
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:57 PM
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The easiest way to "confirm" TRP I believe is through the laws of averages, or similar concepts to that effect. We deal in generalities here, such as AWALT; that doesn't literally mean all women are going to cheat, but we recognize the tendency on a long enough timeline, given enough influencing factors (your SMV drops and she sees a high SMV opportunity). There's never going to be "scientific consensus" backup for us here, because "hard truth" science is obscured by politics these days. The clo…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:51 PM
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First of all, disregard any comments from users here who aren't at least well versed in the fact that many different strains of cannabis exist and have varying effects. IE: some weed actually makes you very energetic and focused (sativa). The biggest point to drive home here, there is no RP stance on it whether it's right or wrong. There never is a "RP stance" on anything. RP asks you to evaluate the situation yourself, and come to a decision with logic and reason. The only thing RP has to do wi…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:47 PM
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I still don't have the desire to really hang out with them Alright, you're being deep honest with yourself for a straight minute, keep being honest with yourself for another two minutes while I give it to you straight; You don't fucking need them. You're rationalizing that you "should" still be friends with them because they're "good guys" right? What was then and what is now, and what matters more? The life you're living now. They can choose to stop being namby pamby bitches and add value to yo…
/r/askTRP11/08/15 03:57 PM
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Agreed with this guy. Assuming this job of yours is not your financial lifeline right now, who the fuck cares. I'd make the argument that you SHOULD go after any and all of them - the truth is, women pay very very close attention to who's wanted in their workspace and who gets attention from the guys. If you can nut up and succeed with one of them, you've immediately got social proof in the whole place. Provided she's attractive, of course. This will completely backfire if she's not. The greater…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:42 PM
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I think you're applying the theories of RP in your social life into your new "business life mindset". There's plenty of areas where RP does play well into business I'm sure. Since you're new to it, you'd probably do best to remember that your business is there to provide a service and you DO need to win people over. Don't kiss ass, but be enthusiastic and genuinely care about your customers. How do you go about not giving a fuck, but not getting people to hate you? Simple, be a genuine cool dude…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:29 PM
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I would recommend to you the Eisenhower Priority Matrix, if you're not already laser focused as a student. This isn't suggesting you're disorganized, either. But you are asking for ways you can better focus your mental energy, and I feel this is a good template to use in that respect. Perhaps in the second quadrant (not urgent, but important) you can devote an hour on a weekend or what have you, when nothing else is pressing to re-read some of the stuff you've already gone over. This should help…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:20 PM
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Very solid advice. OP didn't say his age or any context really, and that's why this "debate" over nofap is so ...vague, or context dependent. OP - good on you for wanting to temper your willpower or admitting to yourself you have a problem that needs work. The most important thing here is to truly be honest with yourself - you can't lie to the man in the mirror. If it's really a problem for you - IE with your partner(s), you're wasting tons of time on it, you should modify what you're doing. Goi…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:08 PM
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Yes, you're overthinking this shit. Yes, you have to talk some to capture her interest at first, but body language and proper preparation (appearance) can do a lot of this too obviously. Once you've got her blabbing, you know you have her interested already - let her blab, inject sexual innuendo or remarks here and there, or the occasional topic change if need be. Protip, women don't actually overthink this, they are getting attention from males they perceive as attractive, or at least that's th…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 05:00 PM
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Great applicable advice here, hope the OP takes it to heart. He needs to not see them as challenges/threats, but rather, show them amusement.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 04:55 PM
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There is no "magical red pill play or RP thing to do here". There you have it. TRP encourages us as men to logically and rationally assess our options - that is what you have, options. You analyze the pros and cons of each. The "obvious redpill thing to do" in a lot of situations, or what creates a perception of there being a "RP play" is because so many of us were beta, and reacting through emotion. The RP thing to do in general terms is to not do that. Hindsight here is 20/20 of course - I agr…
/r/askTRP07/08/15 04:46 PM
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"If you ever tell me what to read again, it's over." Fucking this, or please turn in your balls OP.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 05:17 PM
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I just wanted to chime in, this thread has a very happy ending. Taking the 10 second kiss rule + push her against something and kiss her hard, I did exactly that upon getting home today, and within 5 minutes was eating her out and fucking her brains out. I've come up with a new rule for myself - a slight spin off on the time honored rule "First impressions really fucking matter" instead, "first impressions when you get home really fucking matter." If I get home acting tired, bitchy and wore out …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 12:43 AM
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Roger that, thank you. Yeah, just a little confirmation helped, I figured as such - she's just fulfilling her need for drama, which she engages very little otherwise in.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 12:00 AM
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Thanks for posting this, and these are great life lessons I completely agree with you. I have a very simple question about #10. On avoiding other people's misery - does anyone have any good tips or experience in how do you get your woman to stop engaging in other people's bullshit misery? I have done my part in cutting out negative friends/people, but my LTR/almost wife loves to fuck off on the internet reading about the poor downtrodden saps on whatever hellhole of the internet. I know damn wel…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 07:15 PM
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This is fucking brilliant, thank you for taking the time and sharing your method, seriously. I think on a subconscious level, I do analyze myself with the same sort of steps you mentioned, or at least used to. Time to be 110% conscious of it and remind myself to. -#2 is really a hard area for me - a lot of the time she has a "somewhat legitimate" reason, IE just too stressed from whatever and sometimes it's hip problems flaring up, the sex wouldn't be worth it anyway and she'll say so. A lot of …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 07:04 PM
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I'd agree with this lady here. I have some exposure-experience around lesbians as a straight guy; obviously this doesn't apply for all lesbians, but they tend to be less ...."delicate" than straight women. They'll straight up ask ballsy questions, they don't give a fuck if it's shocking or revolting to some, they enjoy getting a rise out of men! No, that does not mean she wants the D - she's put into an unusual situation where she can comment on something that normally wouldn't be "appropriate" …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 06:48 PM
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Trust me when I say I've definitely swallowed the pill, but you're definitely right, in that this one specific area is something I've struggled with - affection is by far the hardest to me. It's not that I'm "worried about being an asshole", it's that I simply "like" being affectionate, as mentioned above. Simply withdrawing it doesn't make me an asshole in my mind, it makes me feel manipulative - to myself, that knows this is part of my game to get more sex. Do I give a damn if it gets the resu…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 06:39 PM
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Good point, I find myself agreeing more with you. I'm glad you pointed this out and why specifically - the if she's angry, the best response is to be amused and counter her anger with your positive energy. If it can't be diffused with positive I'm the shit vibes, then go do something else, agreed. I haven't been lurking TRP in way too long and my perspectives have gotten rusty, thanks, seriously. A&A really is the go to the majority of the time, what I was advocating, the blow up back at her if …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 06:30 PM
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Great honest question, thanks again. I met my girl when she was 18 when I was 23, at my absolute most alpha, lifting hardcore 3x a week, 6'2 200 lbs fighting fit. Fast forward now, she's 22 I'm 27. I went BP pretty hard 2 years into the relationship, put on 60-70 lbs. Discovered TRP after the 2 year mark, and have been working on it since. I've worked my ass off and lost it all, and can honestly say I'm almost back to where I was at 23. Not fat at all anymore, decently cut but working on getting…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 06:14 PM
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Great advice, thanks again. This REALLY clarifies things for me. I kind of feel a need to apologize for dragging this on - I just had a very black and white way of viewing things here, and ultimately "withdrawing affection" is just a very broad term I've read a lot here in general. Slapping her ass often, check, do that all the time Give her a ten second kiss every day, check. Push her against the wall, that's fucking great advice, adding to the list Keep trying to initiate, on it, just needed t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 06:04 PM
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If the woman in question is being unreasonable, shrill, yelling at you (at least the picture I'm getting from the OP) AFTER you've tried to handle the situation like a Rational Male and tell her "hey, it's handled, let's move onto something else" - then yes I absolutely have zero problems telling her to her face "well, go complain to a wall, your girlfriends, or the internet or something, I don't have time for it." and leaving the room. I don't agree at all with letting her rage and rant for 10-…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 05:54 PM
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Thanks again. I really like the examples and this is what I was ultimately having difficulty with - visualizing the how I do this. I'm probably overthinking the damn thing, and what's the worst that can happen honestly, you're right. I just know exactly how it's going to go the first few days - "you're being so distant" "why are you so cold towards me these past few days?" "what did I do to push you away?" Basically the best play here is to absolutely just ignore that shit, and or just try to in…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 05:45 PM
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I appreciate the response, but I've seen plenty of guys who aren't legally married post in here in the year I've been lurking. This is my LTR of 4 years I'm considering marrying, and I discovered TRP 2 years in. I realized I have a lot of work to do before I get to that point, and I'd like the wisdom of real men in here, instead of my post/questions getting lost with the "Hi guys, I'm 18 and why isn't this girl returning my text?" that you see polluting /r/AskTRP. I want the perspective of bette…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 05:27 PM
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Thank you for the response. I agree with you 110% on principle. I'm not disagreeing with you when I say "it doesn't quite work like that" perhaps I'm asking for advice specifically on holding frame when I start withdrawing soon - I'm envisioning her asking me "why are you mad at me?" "I'm not mad at you. If I was mad or upset with you I'd directly tell you so and why" followed by "you're being more distant than normal etc". This is how I'm envisioning it going anyway, at first. Basically, just i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 05:22 PM
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"I handled it. This discussion doesn't need to continue unless it's just about your feelz, in which case you may vent to me uninterrupted for twenty minutes, no longer, as my personal gift to you. Better yet, tell her to vent to a fucking wall, and leave the room, other than that, great advice/reframing the situation even better.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 04:08 PM
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I just wanted to say, this post was fucking incredible, and thank you OP. I just spent about 2 hrs talking to one of my best friends of 10 years, about whether I should stay with and fight it out/improve myself with my LTR of 4 years, or just say fuck it. You've seriously inspired me, through much different circumstances, I'm sure, but nonetheless, I believe I can turn my ship around too. I've been trying to "correct course" seriously for about half a year now, but have not been giving it 100% a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 04:44 AM
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Freaking this.
/r/askTRP31/07/15 11:45 PM
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The more I know, the more I know nothing... You can stop with the self-deprecating bullshit. What purpose does it serve? None. You can choose to own your mistakes, and then work on them, or you can expend precious manly willpower beating yourself up.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/15 02:37 PM
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"Alright, feel better", and then go radio silent and let her come to you. Or she doesn't, and that doesn't matter, you next her.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 04:42 PM
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The SJW crowd are so obviously malicious, so malevolent, so selfish, so myopic and just plain crazy that we may be at a point where they are turning off more people than they are successfully indoctrinating. It's definitely happening - see /r/TumblrInAction. I'm just waiting for a breakthrough powerful comedian to start cashing in on the goldmine waiting for them - SJW's are ripe for the rest of normal people to start rightfully mocking.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/15 06:19 PM
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Hey, I know you. Get her off the fucking pedestal. She's a 10, so what? You treat her like you would approaching/initiating chat with any other woman out there, seriously.
/r/askTRP04/02/15 04:27 PM
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I'm not racist, I'm a culturalist. Hah, when people may say I'm "racist" my response is to say I'm not a racist, I'm a race-realist. 110% agree. It's easy to identify a certain culture that some races may or may not exhibit. I just love how TRP is real about it and doesn't hide behind politically correct bullshit. And as for the "Indian friends" - I personally had no idea what the culture was/is like, so again, that was very illuminating. Anyway, I seriously think the topic of "race realism" in …
/r/askTRP30/01/15 06:36 PM
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Thanks for this reply, I love how this sub illuminates me to other cultures and worldviews. I saw the "drop the indian friends right now" line, and if I were blue-pilled and politically correct, I'd have said "wow, that sounds racist!" What do you know, here's a man who actually has firsthand experience behind his views, and why they are the way they are. Thanks for sharing.
/r/askTRP30/01/15 06:21 PM
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Hell no. Maintaining frame is something you should do all the damn time, for you, and nobody else.
/r/askTRP30/01/15 06:10 PM
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EXCELLENT, AMAZING ADVICE. Man here, this sounds exactly like my situation. Even down to the same chores - I do trash, have a game room (exactly like you described) blah blah blah. We're going on 4 years together now, the first three have been bumpy, but this was a big game changer for us. As you said, it really does come down to "choosing arenas". Having clearly defined expectations for both of us I've found is a very liberating thing despite previously thinking that it was limiting or restrict…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/15 05:00 PM
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I defend the importance of considering ideas that might run contrary to your own – if for nothing else than to challenge, specify or confirm your pre-existing beliefs. I went to 2xc not because I was angry or expecting to learn anything but because they tend to be our greatest antagonists and I wanted to see if their content had anything behind it to legitimately question my world views. Serious props to you for this. Can't agree more - this is what makes us men. Never stop thinking critically o…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/15 03:29 PM
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Because plates fall off. She's not yours, it's just your turn. Also, it could be one in a billion useless women subjective reasons. You aren't going to know, and it's irrelevant anyway. It might be your SMV dropped or she found somebody new, but even then - most women aren't going to outright tell you the truth about cutting it off. The best play really is to just keep focusing on improving yourself, to hell with whatever the reason may be.
/r/askTRP28/01/15 07:56 PM
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Do we have a compilation somewhere of the best of the best, I mean, worst teeth gnashing SJW nutters out there? Purely for science and entertainment value on the side, of course.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/15 04:46 PM
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Fucking this. If you seriously stop taking everything, including yourself so seriously, you achieve that state we call Game, and it will flow far more organically. OP - you're "on the right track" but you need to keep working at it harder. IE the joke about you should delete her number for xyz. You need to do more of that and seriously not care about what she thinks. That part of your subconscious that is hesitant to go "too far" with it, that part of you that's worried that she might not "appre…
/r/askTRP23/01/15 04:28 PM
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Also consciously, I think I shouldn't do it because I may get distracted, lonely, or depressed during these next important semesters. What in the actual fuck? These are potential and very weak maybes. These potential weak maybes are not actual healthy grounds for staying with the person you're with. You should be with them because you enjoy them and want to be with them. Might get depressed because of a lonely spell during your next semester? Man up and put a fucking lid on it if that happens. T…
/r/askTRP23/01/15 04:03 PM
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And, reverse kegels - more critical than "regular kegels". Just clarifying for OP and anyone else who bothers to look up what the hell kegels are.
/r/askTRP21/01/15 05:53 PM
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Fucking this, great analogies. People learn the best lessons in life when they are forced to. Nothing is going to force this girl to learn, she either will have some breakthrough that genuinely makes her want to, or the OP of the story will suffer needlessly forever with this expectation that'll never happen.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/15 03:21 PM
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Wow, that struck a nerve with me, good post. I had the exact same thing happen to me around 22, made friends with a really beta guy who dumped all his bullshit and I sensed then that something was really off. Long story short I've since moved on, and it was MUCH harder ripping the band-aid off since I basically started doing the same bullshit with him to make the friendship feel reciprocal. It wasn't so much that I wanted to share my shit, so much that I had this overriding directive telling me …
/r/TheRedPill17/01/15 01:34 PM
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I have replaced I don't know with I will find out for you Great post, can't agree more with this. Saying "I don't know" has become the new fucking "um" or "like" used by conversational dimwits these days. Or even worse "yeah I dunno" or "I dunno man" - not even really conveying a lack of knowledge on a particular topic, it's just used like a conversational tic or crutch at this point. And, it makes anyone who uses it look weak, military or not. Or, maybe I just used to hang around hippies too mu…
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 08:56 PM
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I think the real question is, could TRP seriously use less pedantic posts from people spouting off their own bullshit projections when they see one word they don't immediately click with? I don't know where any of that came from or where you got that message, but good for you? What's more important than "education" as a catch all term in the context of TRP (or whatever flowery useless things you see when you see the word education) is a man who is "self-educated" and simply desires to learn more…
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 04:35 PM
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An educated man can always entertain himself. An educated man can also entertain others. And, an educated man can entertain new ideas. "The educated man is able to lose himself in a task, a hobby, a conversation, or a book because he has developed his powers of focus and concentration." I'm straight up copy/pasting/paraphrasing from one of my favorite articles from AoM here, but if anyone would like to read more on this subject, here it is; http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/10/30/the-3-characte…
/r/TheRedPill16/01/15 05:55 AM
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Well said, great points. I think NoFap gets a lot of it's flack because of the overall "shame" factor - let me be clear, not ALL of their members are crusaders (I've lurked for a bit there). By the same logic, not every man who reads TRP is a fedorabeard rapist, much against the beliefs of feminists. But, to us who are Red Pill, the biggest problem I personally have with the NoFap community is that they seem mostly motivated by shame and guilt. Then I realized, this is playing right into the fem…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/15 02:09 PM
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Thank you so much for these links. I just spent a good while reading, and I'm a bit skeptical of this doctor (he advises circumcision for all boys), but if there is hard science behind mineral loss tied to ejaculation, I'm all for giving nofap another look/try.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/15 01:59 PM
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Couldn't agree more. But, it's these kind of situations that generally lead to guys becoming unplugged men. Most typical redpill subscribers come here out of curiosity or insert some bad woman experience. It's simply the facts of what's happening out there correlating with the volume of these kinds of posts. I agree, it gets annoying, but every guy new to TRP and struggling with the "ex emotional hell" needs us most then and there.
/r/askTRP12/01/15 09:09 PM
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You give your best cocky grin and tell them you know they love it.
/r/askTRP11/01/15 09:42 PM
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This is absolutely true and I don't disagree, motivation is often what gets us started down our right paths. My only biggest point here, is I see so much damn talk of motivation, but discipline is far less glamorous and less talked about. You have subs like /r/getmotivated and all these memes and pictures. You have your assortments of get pumped up music (I'm not bashing that, we all need some good music for lifting or whatever). You see some epic moment in a show or a movie that motivates you. …
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 10:13 PM
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Absolutely correct. Your efforts are much better spent keeping your SMV sharp and your "asshole game" sharp, instead of trying to make "genuine connection" bullshit through conversation. In the words of David D'angelo, "Attraction is not a choice." It's so simple, but it bears reminding to yourself as much as is needed for how true it is. Because in the end how you say it matters far more than what the two of you are talking about.
/r/askTRP09/01/15 10:04 PM
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You're welcome. Good man, you know how to roll with it and learn, good luck again. I really like that as a litmus test to think to yourself, props to you for it. And seriously, when you get more confident you'll notice it just plain works more.
/r/askTRP09/01/15 10:03 PM
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Look, here's the short and harsh answer; I don't say this to berate you in the least so please take it and learn from it constructively. You started fucking this up before you even met her face to face. Some preface texts she sent: "With with that eye candy you have it may be a possibility ;)" in reference to me saying I was worried she was going to take advantage of me, followed by "Haha I was totally kidding I would never do that before I got to know someone" What you said here was absolutely …
/r/askTRP09/01/15 08:37 PM
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This. OP, I hope you see this, but yes, (real, clinical) depression is every bit as much of a physical condition as it is a mental one. It needs to be attacked from multiple angles. And the physical side of treating it cannot be discounted or ignored.
/r/askTRP09/01/15 08:25 PM
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In all seriousness, I'd recommend you look into and give meditation a try. The number one thing that compelled me to post was what you said here; I spent the last few days with my girlfriend and couldn't properly enjoy anything with the knowledge of my own mortality in the back of my head. As we would say in the meditation community....YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. You are judging these thoughts, and you are caught up in attachment. You couldn't "properly enjoy yourself" because you have an attachm…
/r/askTRP09/01/15 08:19 PM
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She boasts that she has more male friends than female friends. Why is this something worth boasting about? It's not. The fact that she thinks it is sounds arrogant in and of itself. She tells me that she has only one girl best friend and all other best friends are male. Once again, cool story bro-ette. Obviously, she is thirsty for validation and beta orbiters. Basically in a nutshell, just echoing what the other guys are saying, she sounds like a vapid attention whore. And in complete honesty, …
/r/askTRP09/01/15 08:11 PM
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Yeah, and I posted explicitly to try and snap people out of it - aka the realization that motivation is something completely out of your control, vs discipline being completely within your control. Ironically, I've found my "best motivation" to get disciplined upon realizing that they are completely separate beasts and need to be seen as such.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 07:37 PM
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My favorite reply in this situation would be "Is there something wrong with your hands?" A purse or a bag is trickier obviously, and you do need a more tailored response, but this is the generic equivalent. I have used the "Is there something wrong with your legs?" response many times when asked if I could go get my girlfriend a drink. Also, I don't think your reply was BP, that was at least A&A on principle - you gave a ridiculous/sarcastic reply back. Whether your response was "good" or not, I…
/r/askTRP09/01/15 06:18 PM
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Fuck motivation. Yes, seriously. Now, with that out of the way, the real question we should be asking, (for those who aren't there yet) is "how do I cultivate a rock solid foundation of Discipline?" Motivation is a fickle bitch that comes and goes. If you are running on it, no matter how good of a fuel it is right now, it's going to be inconsistent, because life happens. This is why you want discipline. Discipline is much harder to cultivate, and takes a lot more time and gradual here and there …
/r/TheRedPill09/01/15 05:46 PM
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I would say the message I'm getting first and foremost from your post is that you're disillusioned right now. Yeah, American women in general aren't worth a damn. You don't even need TRP to tell you this, but so what? Are you mad that you had a loftier expectation of them, and TRP shattered it? This should actually be liberating - you now know better how to gauge people (in general) and quickly weed out who is a waste of your time and who isn't. Yeah, most American men are pretty blue pill, that…
/r/askTRP22/12/14 09:13 PM
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Yeah, everything about this should enrage most of us. Could you at least archive it so that we don't give this cunt rag free click revenue?
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 06:25 PM
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Good points. It's important to remember too, this is supposed to be a safe space for men to vent, because there isn't really anywhere else in life free from women at all anymore. To sum this whole post up; help those who want to help themselves, fuck the rest.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 06:21 PM
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This, seriously. OP, I would tell you to fuck off too, whether I agree with you or not, my views on cuckolding aside - preaching "advice" to people who haven't asked for it is offensive. OP, why don't you try being a jehovah's witness instead, and stop making us look like idiots?
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 06:19 PM
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Agree with you. OP, painful as it may be, this is not your battle. I've been there too, your father needs to face whatever it is himself.
/r/askTRP22/12/14 05:42 PM
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I could not agree with all of these points more. I work in accounting/IT, over 90% of the women here are twice my age. I obviously have zero interest in them, but I've been shit tested plenty over the years. If you allow yourself to take any shit, you will get more of it. Strong eye contact, good posture and don't smile too much. This shows them that you're there to get shit done and not socialize or get your hair and nails done. Women respect a strong silent type. Truth. I would only add that O…
/r/askTRP22/12/14 05:34 PM
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This is probably the simplest and best way to play it, hands down. I like a lot of the other suggestions, but the truth is unless it's happened to you before, it will take you by surprise and you won't have that perfect theoretical frame that we love to think we have all the time when here on the forums. +1 for appropriate response, useful, and more likely to be implemented in reality. ♂
/r/askTRP22/12/14 04:50 PM
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The short answer would be, don't even worry about this for another ten years, seriously. You're young, you have your life ahead of you. The really long answer is, when you bring a child into this world, don't you want to give them a good life? That's why you need to acquire resources and build yourself up now. As well as be able to selflessly commit to raising them - go have your fun now, when you're ready to settle you'll know when. Committing to being a good parent is an extremely selfless act…
/r/askTRP22/12/14 04:42 PM
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Great points. This is a painfully complex issue - on one hand, most guys who have gotten themselves into this position in the first place have let themselves get there. The part where it's not entirely their fault is because of the indoctrination out there, and subsequently men in general having a woefully incomplete education regarding men and women interactions. I think the best play here in any situation like this is to take a page from Gordon Ramsay's playbook; (very short clip) https://www.…
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 04:22 PM
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Great point, couldn't agree more with you. Our upvotes really are doing the job and getting the most sensible replies to the top.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/14 04:05 PM
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You're probably getting these thoughts because you are bored and don't have enough going on in your life. If you're the man and running your own busy show, shit to do, goals to meet, deadlines to watch, side job hustles, and a career or education on the line - you don't have time or the cares for this kind of bullshit thinking. It's probably both insecurity and not being focused enough on you and your mission.
/r/askTRP22/12/14 03:57 PM
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Anything worth doing in life is going to be hard. You shouldn't force yourself to pick up new bullshit hobbies you clearly aren't enjoying, but video gaming (or anything else) can be destructive if taken in too much excess. It's on you to be honest with yourself there. You probably haven't found enough real reason to take action, or you'd be doing it. The best way to get started on a new path, if you want to really try it, is Monk Mode. You either do it or don't, but fuck motivation. Motivation …
/r/askTRP22/12/14 03:54 PM
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Yeah, definitely agree. Mostly what I'm trying to do is shatter this idea that I notice a lot of guys have, that we have to be 100% honest with new people we meet in order to accomplish our objectives (sex). It's a bit of knee-jerk social conditioning, but that's another topic probably - "what do you do?" and the typical blue pill response is to give a real answer to that, instead of giving a bullshit or fun/ridiculous answer tells the person asking "you don't get to know about me yet".
/r/askTRP19/12/14 09:27 PM
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Yeah, I do think you're giving away way too much in conversation. Why the hell are you even telling a girl you just met what you do? I'm willing to bet you don't lie enough for fun in these types of situations. Have you ever flipped the script and playfully asked them back "I could tell you, but wait.. are you trying to interview me?" (silly example just to show you - keep your frame and don't immediately give them the answer they want, this is a straight up shit test) Seriously, try telling one…
/r/askTRP19/12/14 09:14 PM
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Holy shit. So true. Will have to save this and read later in depth, thank you.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 09:05 PM
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No, sleep is a HUGE factor in T-production. If not the single biggest factor, because you need deep sleep to produce sperm. Do you notice waking up with morning wood after getting a deep, refreshing sleep? Diet is a big factor as well. http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/01/18/how-to-increase-testosterone-naturally/ If your diet and sleep is shit, that is easily half of the equation working against you right there, hands down, no further explanation needed, and you need to fix those.
/r/askTRP19/12/14 08:24 PM
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end up typing a decently long response once the conversation gets past the initial greet and meet phase. I think you just made your biggest problem very clear to see, to me at least. I'm willing to bet, you are talking too goddamn much, plain and simple. Do you speak carefully and with thought? Or do you have to fill in the voids whenever there's an uncomfortable silence? Plus, you say you get overexcited, which reinforces my thinking that you're shooting yourself in the foot by running your mou…
/r/askTRP19/12/14 08:18 PM
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Well said. We have found a way here, and must never forget it, how to be our own man in this world, forging ahead. That being said, I'm glad to see more encouraging posts instead of "shut the fuck up, you're doing xyz wrong, blah blah blah and go lift faggot /brotalk". We are NOT here to coddle our fellow men, but we aren't here to berate them either. We're here to improve ourselves.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 08:10 PM
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This. OP, I'm stressing this because this poster told you exactly how it is; her bitching is actually a good thing here. Given that you're kinda doing the distance relationship thing, the red flag would be that she stops caring - and could be pursuing other dudes in the meantime you're unaware of. Long story short, you're doing something right if she constantly misses you. Just get better at playfully deflecting her or being like "you just miss the D, can't blame you though".
/r/askTRP18/12/14 09:06 PM
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What in the actual fuck are we even reading here? What was her "question" you were "ignoring?" What does silverware have to do with anything? No context, no real answer.
/r/askTRP18/12/14 06:41 PM
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Why the hell do you care who she talks to? She's a plate, not somebody you get jealous over. Yes, you work on your emotional discipline and not care, and just fuck her good. Or, acquire more plates in addition to.
/r/askTRP18/12/14 05:29 PM
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You definitely can't compare free (that isn't really free) healthcare in a melting pot society like America to free healthcare in some of the successful European countries. I like how it's working for you in Germany and some of the others. I agree with you on the smaller societies, communes and tribes being the natural way it should work, and people would by default want to help their fellow neighbors more. There's been some groundbreaking studies done in the last few decades in America (I will …
/r/TheRedPill18/12/14 05:27 PM
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Thank you for posting this. I'm on the fence about nofap, and was curious about IllimitableMan's thoughts/position, I'm not surprised he's on the fence as well. On one hand, I don't like how the nofap movement (a good sized portion, not all of them of course) demonizes self-pleasure and pornography. It's almost completely buying into the feminist narrative, and trying to shame men out of doing it, and that sentiment can seriously go fuck itself in my book. Yes, there's some porn that's absolutel…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/14 05:07 PM
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It's way less about the number, and more about asking them out first, getting their agreement and assessing that yes, interest is there - then getting the number to figure out logistics later. But yeah, giving your number is worthless. Even then, women today will give their number like candy, just to get guys to leave them alone, and later throw it away or forget about it. Just because she gives a number is not a reliable indicator of real interest anymore. This is why I say it's best to just ha…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/14 04:59 PM
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This. Anarchy is anathema to an ideological group that needs big government to support it's whims, birth control, welfare, and lolfree healthcare.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/14 04:51 PM
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Former brought up hard Catholic here. Went to a private Catholic school and all. Very similar circumstances as you describe OP - I broke away from it, but still wanted some "spirituality". Things I do to take care of it... I meditate every morning, first thing when I wake up. Despite what other posters are saying, I see absolutely nothing spiritual or religious about meditation - it's simply alone time with you and your thoughts, and clearing your mind, releasing tension, whatever you want it to…
/r/askTRP16/12/14 05:22 PM
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Couldn't agree more, again. I'm happy to see that Russia is on the right track at least, they just approved chemical castration for repeat offense pedophiles (over 90% of their convicted pedophiles are repeat offenders). It just amazes me the difference between a country like Russia who is willing to admit they have a problem, and make a hard, possibly unpopular, possibly seen as "brutal" decision in order to actually deal with said problem. And then on the other side of the coin you have Britai…
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 05:07 PM
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Exactly, well said, couldn't agree more. This is why we avoid discussion with them like the plague because the only winning move is not to play. No matter what their grievance is, legitimate or bullshit, they have nothing constructive to do about it. I made a separate post in the thread here; "On a side note, do any of us reasonable human beings think that feminists in any form, organization, or with any amount of money or power would actually do anything about this problem? I mean, even the fem…
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 04:55 PM
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To me, this has nothing to do with feminism, and everything to do with proof that Britain / most of Eastern Europe has gone full blown pathetic fucking spineless beta. Seriously, how are average fathers and men in Britain not enraged as hell by this? Random people getting decapitated in the streets in broad daylight by fanatical Islamists wasn't enough to get them to admit they have an "immigrant problem". I guess the ultimate lesson here is society, not just people, if you allow yourself to tak…
/r/TheRedPill16/12/14 04:48 PM
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I'm with fnordsnord on this. This is overall a shitty situation, and OP, I think you're wanting to rectify what's probably years worth of damage in some measurable action in front of you - taking away her toy here. You're not going to fix the shitty sex life overnight, that's for sure. I personally think it's a huge mistake to try taking it away or making any kind of statement like that, it comes across as whiny, butthurt, and controlling.
/r/askTRP11/12/14 06:22 PM
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Yes, these are shit tests. The game never ends, and LTR's are RP on Hard Mode. Keep your edge sharp. Anyway, I'll try my hand at some responses to some of these; 1.)"the amount of nice things you say to me vs the amount of mean things you say to me is unbelieveable" So where is the "mean things I say" score chart you're keeping located? I would love to frame it. 2.)"I always do stuff for you what do you do for me?" My job isn't to do stuff for you, my job is to stuff you. 3.)"I feel like you don…
/r/askTRP11/12/14 03:30 PM
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I want to tweak some stuff without changing who I am. Then enjoy the hell out of your mediocrity and whining. You want to get results? You want to stop failing? You want to change the things about yourself that you already admitted you don't like? You're going to have to first be willing to face uncomfortable changes, and stop obsessing over whether it's "changing who you are" or not. Yes, you want to change, face it, accept it, OWN IT. Now change for the better, and keep doing it.
/r/askTRP11/12/14 03:14 PM
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do I refuse to be her backup boyfriend? Do I friend zone her? Do I cut off all contact? Why the hell are you asking us for permission to do what you already know you should do? YES, YOU REFUSE TO BE HER BACKUP ANYTHING, EVER AGAIN. You don't friendzone her because staying "friends" with her is a parasitic bullshit farce that passes for "friends" - she's going to do what every other bitch ex does, she will try to keep tabs on you, and get into your business. You don't need that, and can't have a …
/r/askTRP11/12/14 03:08 PM
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When somebody takes an entire paragraph to say how attractive a girl is, I can't help but think that he doesn't have other prospects/plates spinning and a mild form of obsession is taking place. I understood she was attractive simply from the title. Fucking this. OP, if you really want to fuck her, you'll get her off that goddamn pedestal. You're welcome for the reality check. ♂
/r/askTRP11/12/14 03:03 PM
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Why the nofap as a deliberate-extreme BP thing? I'll definitely agree with the sentiment you're expressing here, especially @ the vegan one does go hand in hand with being a deliberate BP. I've seen a fair amount of division on TRP in general regarding nofap, but I genuinely want to see RP'ers opinions on this who are against it, and why.
/r/askTRP11/12/14 03:00 PM
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Go read the 48 rules of power. Law 38: Think as you like, but behave like others And, in the long run, realize that you're only lowering yourself by engaging in their bullshit. Why do their wrong opinions matter again? Not your job to change them.
/r/askTRP11/12/14 02:57 PM
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You didn't just permanently lose girl A's trust, you went full beta when she confronted you. You showed extreme weakness here, sorry, but your best move is to work on yourself here. This was a total frame break, and you're going to have to work hard to get it sharp again. This jealousy was/is a good thing, and you need to recognize it when you see it, laugh at it, disregard it, and/or just smile it off next time. As for can this be salvaged? I don't know. I think you should stick it out and try …
/r/askTRP11/12/14 02:43 PM
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Well, I'd say be truly as honest with yourself as you absolutely can. I don't know how long you've been back in this setup, it may just be adjustment blues you're still going through. If you come to the conclusion in some more time that it is bleeding your soul dry, then you know what you have to do. Other than that, it sounds like you're still doing well for yourself overall, not to mention something noble. So what if it's not the ideal man-pad for having women over? You still have your indepen…
/r/askTRP11/12/14 02:30 PM
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I've been a regular off and on user for the past 4 years, ADD-Inattentive type. What type are you exactly? I've gone cold turkey for half a year stretches at a time without the stuff, to try and prove to myself I didn't "need" the medication, long story short, found out I just plain do better with it. Like you, I have a dead as shit office job and mostly take it to function. However, complaining that it's "affecting your game" sounds plain wrong to me. It could just as easily be a thousand other…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 09:00 PM
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Given that she knew about your photography and how supportive she is, I firmly stand by what I said before, that this is her hangup to deal with. Now, how to execute that in a Captainly fashion, is going to take a nuanced approach. I think first, since you apologized already, it's okay to admit your fault in this, and you should use this as a "gesture of good faith" - with the game plan being "we both fucked up, we're fixing this, and starting on a clean slate". This is just my experience anyway…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 07:53 PM
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Holy fuck, that hurt to read. I didn't think it was possible for a bitch to possibly be this pathetic, this is beyond my wildest imaginings. Look, the short answer is, you and the rest of your friends are all in agreement and trying to smack him out of it. The bitter and harsh truth is, your friend has been lying to himself for a long time here, staying in this situation. Your friend is also blue pilled, hard, and doesn't want to change, evidenced by him lashing out and you saying "you don't kno…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 07:19 PM
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If she wants to bring friends when you're the one asking her out, that is both insulting and she's trying to friendzone you. It's the same thing as you offering to take a woman out for drinks, and she counter-offers "can we do dinner instead?" No, they're not fucking invited, I want to go out with you. This is especially true when you've already been out one on one already. You've lost this one, move on and more importantly, learn what you can from it.
/r/askTRP10/12/14 07:11 PM
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Why would she trust you? You took pics of naked chicks behind her back This is a good counterpoint. OP really needs to give more context here, if he's a hobby photographer or whatever, this is more understandable. If he's photographing amateur sluts and the pictures look like they're audition level amateur pornography, spreads and/or sexual poses, that's a much different scenario...either way, the context I'm seeing she's outraged and it could be "tame" "landscapey-artsy erotica" for all we know…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 07:03 PM
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This. You fucked up hard by apologizing, and I'll guess it was a knee-jerk sorry. Whether they were models and you're an actual hobby photographer or a real paid photographer is irrelevant, just because she didn't know about it didn't make it wrong. The issue here is she is uncomfortable with it, and that's her hangup to deal with, and you should tell her exactly that. EDIT: I just replied to tom's comment, and think this simply needs more context. I'm giving you (OP) the benefit of the doubt th…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 06:56 PM
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Long story short, stop worrying about "how long" and instead make sure your escalation game is as tight as it can be. Sex can and will happen on first "dates" if you play right and she's down. One of the best field reports I've read to filter this was a guy explaining something along these lines - he was having the same LMR issues you're explaining, bringing girls back to his pad but his escalation was unsuccessful. He gave a shit test in the form of inviting her over for a movie. This is also p…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 06:38 PM
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The key to happiness, when you boil everything else down, is growth. Even if you're worse off this year than you've been in the past decade, if you are growing, you can start to feel happy again. The most common suggestion of finding new hobbies is a testament to this; you want to find any kind of growth, no matter how small, new interests and hobbies give you that sense of learning, improving, even on a small scale. Basically, start small and still seek help. Also seconding the suggestion to se…
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 04:17 PM
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In the end it comes to developing your ability to just stay stoic in stressful situations. This. OP, the good news is, holding frame/staying stoic/calling upon your willpower are all an exercise. The more you do it, the stronger it gets, the easier it gets.
/r/askTRP10/12/14 04:09 PM
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Head on over to /r/theXeffect and give meditating 5-10 minutes a day a try. Seriously. You see the value in the gym, but cultivating your mental willpower is a muscle like any other, and it must be trained too. The takeaway here is that you obviously aren't going to avoid stress, and seeking to do so is beta blue pill shit. Just as the weight training allows you to lift heavier weights and carry heavier burdens, strengthening your willpower will allow you to push through the stress. The stress w…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 04:05 PM
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Head on over to /r/Married_RedPill - they can probably give you way better advice than the general parent sub here. You're going to need it, and take your time.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 03:44 PM
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This. Captain - First Mate game is seriously gold reading, and /r/Married_RedPill has a much more in-depth perspective over on LTR/married game. They aren't kidding when they say successful LTR's are RP on Hard Mode.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 03:42 PM
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@ OP - the best lessons in life are the ones we're forced to learn. Don't forget it, harsh truth it might be, you were just finally ready to fully swallow the pill - looking back on yourself and seeing your two sides in a more rational perspective.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/14 03:40 PM
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It's possible, but rare. You really do have to snag them young. And hope that she was raised well with parents or at least adult figures with good values. Even then, unicorns do not exist - unicorns must be groomed. Even "good" women with a perfect track record can be susceptible to shitty behavior; not to dissuade us from trying, but it should be stressed that LTR game is TRP on Hard Mode. You have to keep your edge sharp above all else, or how "humble" she is or "well raised" doesn't count for…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 03:00 PM
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When trying to meet people doesn't work out as expected, how do I keep a positive mindset? * The problem is you're attached to this idea, and not outcome independent. You need to learn how to have fun while not giving a flying fuck what happens in a social scene - go tell one of your craziest stories to random people purely for the laughs and you'll see what I mean. They may really like your story, buy you some drinks, or not care too much, or you may make new friends, either way if you had fun …
/r/askTRP10/12/14 02:56 PM
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Totally solid A+ reply here, OP read this again and again: The thing about rejection is: any specific rejection probably doesn't have much to teach you. Rejection doesn't mean you are unattractive, unmanly, or anything like that. It just means that You didn't have what one particular girl wanted at that particular time in her life. ♂
/r/askTRP10/12/14 02:49 PM
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The short answer is, you learn to figure out conversational opportunities. If you can make witty responses to whatever the hell it may be, try turning the conversation sexual or give some innuendo here and there. Don't be overt/creepy about it, but straight up cocky and own it. You don't ever just bluntly state "I'm interested in sex and not interested in being your friend" - your actions say this ultimately. Also, kino. I would go so far as to say kino's effectiveness is subconscious - you're s…
/r/askTRP10/12/14 02:43 PM
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This. If nothing else, remember the universal truth that women hate any and all signs of butthurt. As should you (OP).
/r/askTRP10/12/14 12:14 AM
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I think you're stretching yourself WAY too far here man. Not that you can't dream big, or go big, don't get me wrong. If anything, I'd say go back to the basics, and cut away "things that would/might make you happy" and figure out the things you "can't see yourself living without". Help the people in greatest need (would help if I had money, which means I need to graduate college) For instance, this should be no offense, last on your priority list. I'm not criticizing the altruism whatsoever her…
/r/askTRP09/12/14 09:01 PM
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Focus on curing my depression? You answered your own question already, let me remind you why. This whole post is about you, and you asking how to put yourself first...in many different regards, such as women, social life, etc. Helping yourself beat your depression should be numero uno. To hell with worrying about these other things yet. Depression is also not just a "state" of mind, it's a clinical condition and you need to treat it as such if you haven't already. All these "things" you write do…
/r/askTRP09/12/14 08:56 PM
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"That delicious vagina of yours, oh, and the way you and your titties enthusiastically bounce on my dick." "I guess I also like your eyes more when my dick's in your mouth." This is the generic response..you could get a bit more specific (and funny) depending on her specific features here. ex: "I love the freckles on your tits, too I guess" You're welcome. The delivery needs to be sarcastic/totally cocky/not taking her seriously, as well.
/r/askTRP09/12/14 08:29 PM
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The OP's greater point is that most of these "issues" are trash fringe issues at best; stuff that would've never seen the light of publication 50 years ago. Nowdays, you can't ignore it, it's shoved in your face by shitbook's newsfeeds, and everyone chain reposting their insert favorite pet cause. The worthy battles are certainly still worth fighting. The issue is, nowdays in our degenerating culture, your attention is a commodity. The more sensational and bullshit news it is, facts be damned, i…
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 08:17 PM
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Biggest tip anyone in this thread can give you yet; Stop being afraid of exaggerating/lying/bullshitting a fucking woman you don't even know. It's part of the game, part of the chase, part of the fun. Now, get ridiculous and stop answering them seriously or putting so much useless thought into it. I know I should deflect but I'm not sure how. You don't need to deflect here, you need to agree and amplify - amplify the innocuous/pointless questions with absurdity. "I'm a pornstar some months of th…
/r/askTRP09/12/14 06:55 PM
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This is just a good example of why more government control usually just fucking sucks in execution. The few states where cannabis is legal now, the stores / independent businesses who actually want to sell cannabis for profit, can barely actually make a profit, due to 1980's "war on drugs" era laws still on the books. It's basically federal law hanging over the new state laws, still considering it a controlled substance, and these businesses are taxed to hell accordingly. You say that "people st…
/r/askTRP09/12/14 06:15 PM
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Could someone explain it please? I think it's key. I was raised to help people in need so to me not helping someone who needs you (even if it's in order to protect yourself) makes you a very, very bad person. You're simply wrong, even if this is honestly noble thinking, and I hope you snap out of it. Quite simply put, I think you're confusing "assuming responsibility" with "helping someone". A single mother with another man's child, and her own sob story of how she got there, is NOT YOUR RESPONS…
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 05:35 PM
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Monk mode, read up on it. I'd also strongly recommend heading over to /r/theXeffect and try meditating for 5-10 minutes every day.
/r/askTRP08/12/14 08:35 PM
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You can sympathize with a rabid dog. But you don't let him into your house. Well said, this. OP: No matter how bad you feel for the girl and her bad decisions, that still doesn't mean it's your fault or your job to fix. More importantly - pretend that it's a man for a second; if you would judge, look down, or criticize a man for his terrible decisions, do the same for the woman, period. It's also unfair to your future children to take care of another kid. For one, you're never going to love anot…
/r/askTRP08/12/14 08:30 PM
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Probably the only good thing about strip clubs in a RP context is that they can help you stop idolizing women and pedastalizing pussy/boobs. Then again, internet pornography can do this too, for free. Whatever you do, don't get hooked hard into either of these, get your rocks off once in awhile, and go to have a good time. As another poster said, go for the funny stories. Also, bringing women with you makes the experience even better. Otherwise, there really isn't anything RP about strip-clubs, …
/r/askTRP08/12/14 07:28 PM
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about re-plating her Why not? I say go for it as long as you are just plating her. It sounds like it's going to require more discipline and emotional fortitude on your part this time too; be prepared to resist her efforts there, and this should actually be good practice for getting over oneitis. Just don't bullshit yourself and get roped into an LTR, but it sounds like she wants the D. What about re-plating her. There's def interest on both parts, but BIg Huge RED FLAGS waving im my face all ove…
/r/askTRP08/12/14 07:18 PM
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You're a good man = good, generally speaking. You're a good man is a lot rarer, and both men and women I'd say who use say this mean to denote that you're a man of integrity, good values, etc, and an actual man. You're a good guy = beta/bad/not interested/sees you as too nice. Good "guy" is almost interchangeable with "boy" here, and it's said in almost an affectionate tone. Whereas "he's/you're a good man" is said usually in respect or admiration in a serious tone. As far as this plate who call…
/r/askTRP08/12/14 06:48 PM
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She's drunk now, she just got back from clubbing. This explains the whole post right here OP. She was drunk and slutting it up over FB, now she's back to being sober and either forgot the entire thing or is hamstering away her denial. Basically, this conversation and the pic sharing means fuck all that she wants you or not. If and only if it leads to real hooking up, did it mean anything, now stop worrying about it or whether you screwed up, the simple truth is she was just drunk and talking to …
/r/askTRP08/12/14 04:40 PM
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You should read up the Captain-First mate model. The long story short, any LTR requires being alpha action with a few slices of beta, in controlled doses. http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1tjcbg/ltr_game_maintaining_frame/ This model reading will give you more insight on the nuances of when and where it's appropriate as well as when you shouldn't give in. An LTR really is the red pill on hard mode, basically.
/r/askTRP08/12/14 04:36 PM
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This. The part about letting her know you even saw see her facebook shows that you care and a host of other bad things, critical good advice here by Tom. ♂ "Who is this" really is the best response, as is not giving a shit who she is or barely acknowledging her. OP - IF and only if she practically throws herself at you, should you even consider wasting your time, otherwise you should be too busy with new women.
/r/askTRP08/12/14 04:34 PM
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You're very welcome, happy to help. The simple answer here is, never stop improving your SMV. A girl should know deep down that you're the catch, and have more options. If it's roughly equal, like you're describing, assuming she isn't totally bullshitting you, it's going to come down to a roll of the dice most likely (as do all relationships). Your best odds are simply always going to involve being as high SMV as you can, as already mentioned. The red flags I see and still see as terrible is the…
/r/askTRP08/12/14 04:24 PM
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This is a complicated question. I can address your first part, which I think is a misconception you have; That said, I observe a strong feeling in the community to prefer shy, not so hot, not so horny women for LTRs as they raise less red flags and therefore save us future headaches. What many of us are advocating for, is a low partner count. That means, the 18-21 year old girl who has only been with 1-2 guys or less. And yes, that typically does mean "still innocent" and shy and reserved - that…
/r/askTRP08/12/14 03:25 PM
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Quit looking for a shortcut. We could suggest "logistics" to you but it really depends a lot on where you live. The best advice is probably to become a regular at some bars in your area. That means tip well, make conversation with a lot of people, guys and girls, and hopefully some new friends. Ideally, they'll know some chicks and you go from there, the greater point is that doing all of the above will expand your social frame and network. The concept of social proofing is a game changer, new w…
/r/askTRP08/12/14 03:16 PM
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Dunno why the hell you're getting downvoted, this is true.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 02:55 PM
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This. Duty sex is just a symptom of the much bigger picture of problems.
/r/askTRP06/12/14 09:42 PM
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I definitely agree with you there, sexting is and should be the exception! When I meant "texting" though, I meant in the context of "chatter", definitely with you though that working on your woman during the day is an absolute game changer as well. Too many guys get home and complain that she's not into it or complain that they can't escalate then, well no shit, you're both drained and usually tired. It's so much easier to just be proactive with it.
/r/askTRP06/12/14 09:40 PM
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This topic really shouldn't come up in AlreadyRed, how do you not remember that you can't make anyone take the pill? You can't save those who don't want to be helped. OP, I completely agree with you about we could use more "implicit examples" of RP philosophy in media, literature, etc. The problem is, the young boys/beta guys have to CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to see it and embrace it, ultimately. I won't deny that there's more betas than ever before, and society (I mean, feminism) is pushing more guys …
/r/AlreadyRed05/12/14 07:17 PM
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Here's a general list of useful things to turn the game around - but remember, it's ALL about the small things. You have to realize that small things do matter, and consciously make Red Pill Manly choices when they arise, quickly. Stop texting her so damn much. If and only if it's an important question, usually logistics. This should be a no brainer, this is standard procedure we preach here for meeting new women. It's still true in LTR's - texting during the day basically comes down to being se…
/r/askTRP05/12/14 07:04 PM
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My game changer was Cooking. To keep the backstory to a minimum only for context; my 4 year LTR and I have lived together for 3 years now. At first, she cooked the majority of the time, I didn't have any interest in it myself, and/or we just did take out all the time. I really let myself go in year 2, putting on weight/you guys know how the beta slope goes. We had ENDLESS fights over the most common dumb question of all LTR's - "what do you want for dinner tonight?" Anyway, I decided I wanted to…
/r/askTRP05/12/14 06:14 PM
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Hey OP, see this? The idea of basing a relationship on hobbies and shared interests is pure blue pill bullshit. Read it again, and again. You're welcome.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/14 05:30 PM
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