Stop looking at your Tools as Weapons

IanIronwood · 2015-08-21T14:12:51+00:00

Amusingly enough, by shifting your perspective in this manner you are actually objectifying your wife. She is no longer an enemy to be caught and conquered, shes a leaky old boat that you need to fix.

Sepean · 2015-08-21T14:52:44+00:00

The issue here is that you think of war and fighting as something that it isn't. It requires finesse, deception, planning and determined execution. It isn't some gung ho activity where you just give a battle yell, charge the enemy and hope for the best.

You'd probably be served better with a different metaphor because you're not a soldier, but that doesn't make the metaphor bad.

UEMcGill · 2015-08-21T13:27:25+00:00

And Neo sees the bullets as they move past him in slo-mo....

Whether it's a hammer or a hand gun, we use tools to modify our environment to one that suits our purpose better.

strategos_autokrator · 2015-08-21T14:54:19+00:00

Once you accept women for whom they really are, you can turn their behavior around and see it as features. What before seemed like weapons against you, like shit tests, are turned into tools for you.

Archwinger · 2015-08-21T14:09:47+00:00

A hammer can build a house or bash a skull in. Two very different uses. Both can save your life in the right circumstances.

Sometimes, your wife sets out to be your enemy and needs to be routed. Other times, she's just a woman and needs to be guided.

Red_Invictus · 2015-08-21T16:16:07+00:00

How about instead, Stop thinking in black and white? Yeah, turning ship around is sometimes referred to as going to war here.

This "going to war" mindset is YOUR mindset, not mine, or anyone elses. Going to actual war requires plenty of delicate planning, strategy, endless measurements, research, and out of the box serious thinking too. Not just reaction and adrenaline, that's for the actual combat.

But instead of viewing it as a war that requires bravery and emotion.

It requires plenty of bravery to face the man in the mirror and admit to yourself you have weaknesses, or things to work on, unpleasant whatever it is. And then committing to working on them. Thinking of the wife as an enemy? Guys actually do that? No, your inner beta bitch is the only enemy.

This "this metaphor is bad, this one is how it is" just smacks of black/white thinking to me though, no offense. Sure, doing a project and treating the wife as a long term project, whatever floats your boat. The only project, or war, should be with yourself though, constantly building yourself into a better man each day.

The wife, better sex, her being better in whatever XYZ ways, those are all side benefits that come with improving yourself, they are not the goal, nor should ever should be the focus.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-08-21T19:41:12+00:00

while meditating in my underwear out in the cold of my backyard this morning.

That's pretty hard core.

Read the Art of War for a better understanding of warfare. It is not about fighting battles that wins wars, it is choosing your battles. It is not about manipulating the enemy but about putting yourself in a superior position. It is not even about attacking the enemy- the better alternative is always to win the battle without fighting.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-08-22T14:48:45+00:00

Yup, solid perception.

I never even considered it a weapon, what need is there to make this a confrontation?

KyfhoMyoba · 2015-08-23T00:11:57+00:00

Love the analogy! Love. It!

Title	Stop looking at your Tools as Weapons
Author	jessalon
Upvotes	11
Comments	22
Date	August 21, 2015 1:07 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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