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| 7 | Vulnerability and loveFDS is about maintaining your dignity and self-respect and long story short, not get played. The right man will understand and respect the precautions you take, your no's, your waiting periods, boundaries and etc. If you feel a man doesn't respect the necessary actions you need to take to feel safe, secure and sure, then he's probably not a good guy anyway. Case 1: You've been talking to a guy for some time and start to really warm up to him. He suggests to hang out as opposed to a date, FDS app… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 07:53 PM |
| 11 | Don't you love it when men try to tell you have no idea what you are talking about when you say your negatives experiences with men? (RANT)Yes. When i tell them my experiences: Deny They ask, "oh so you're a feminist?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 10:39 AM |
| 5 | Stop playing games if you’re looking for character. Character is consistency. Players are the sum of their cards. By definition they have no character. Don’t be fooled.That would only work if the other person is not playing games either which rarely happens. If you don't play, you lose and suffer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 10:11 AM |
| 4 | What advice would you give to a woman that never dated that wants to find real love?I made a post on this where the girls commented their best dating advice. You can check it out here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ff0js7/in_one_sentence_comment_your_best_dating_advicego/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 09:09 AM |
| 10 | What advice would you give to a woman that never dated that wants to find real love?Get out on the first red flag*. It might be tempting to stay out of desperation or justify it by saying he has "other good qualities" that can compensate for it. Don't give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't get too attached too early or else, you will be blind yourself and want his validation. If you feel he's putting a half-ass effort, he knows and he doesn't care. This includes inconsistent communication, hardly makes plans to meet, sloppy gift giving, emotionally unavailable, etc. Leave. Do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 09:07 AM |
| 50 | Thoughts on guys who “suck at texting”. What does this mean exactly?A person who wants to communicate will make it happen. Start detaching yourself from him because he doesn't seem too invested and will end up dragging you into a long winded talking phase until he figures what he wants or shock you with "I'm not that interested". Your best bet would be to protect yourself from all that by dwindling the conversation and finding better dating options. Also, don't give them that ego hype by asking them why they aren't replying fast enough because they'll start thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 05:28 AM |
| 102 | womp...womp...wompThis is not mine, but a member of a group that i follow on surviving narcissists. Oh and she didn't reply so the money could keep coming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 09:58 AM |
| 18 | How to I regain my dignity after texting my ex?Delete his number. Block him. Delete anything that reminds you of him. As long as you have memories that give you warm flashbacks, it will take you much longer to heal. Then... Take a long ass walk at dawn (or whenever, but there's something about the sun's pink and orange rays illuminating the sky and the world is quiet). Really. On that walk, just reflect on everything. Accept that it happened. The past cannot be changed. Cry, as much as you can. Let all those repressed emotions release. Cryin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Should I warn a woman that’s about to marry my LV ex that he’s been flirting and saying inappropriate things to me?Being honest and trying to save someone for the risk of being insulted is worth it and reflects the goodness of the person who tried to help. How others react to your advice is a reflection of their own character. At least when those girls realize the bullshit of the men that they were warned about they have no excuse saying "how come no one warned us?". They did, you just didn't listen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 07:08 AM |
| 0 | Should I warn a woman that’s about to marry my LV ex that he’s been flirting and saying inappropriate things to me?I don't even want to live anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 06:57 AM |
| 4 | Dating ugly menIn the past, i tried giving ugly men a chance, and they ended up making me feel like i'm the ugly one. Boy, let's time travel and remember who gave who a chance, okay? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 04:35 AM |
| 13 | Has anyone received hatemail from commenting or posting in this sub?Yeah. One guy from the incel community messaged me to say "WOMEN WATCH PORN TOO" after i posted "Do Porn-Free men even exist?" I replied, " This question was directed at men specifically. No one denied that some women watch it too. You're probably the same kind of guy who says, "men get raped too!" at sexual harassment protests even though no one denied it. Porn is harmful for both genders because it creates unrealistic expectations, its unethical, it leads to performance issues, etc." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:40 AM |
| 14 | Has anyone received hatemail from commenting or posting in this sub?Yeah. I even had one guy lurker message me, telling me not to comment or discuss anything with one of the girls on here because she is always angry and mad and you won't get nowhere. He told me, if you don't believe me, go look at her post/comment history and you'll see how mad of a woman she is. Wtf. I blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:36 AM |
| 15 | I just realized something...Just because someone is high value, it doesn't that they won't get rejected or get broken up because simply, they could be incompatible and share completely different life paths to the person they were pursuing. Ex 1: a high value man with an extroverted personality who is super spiritual and religious may not be suitable for an high value woman who is introverted, quiet and an atheist. They have two varying lifestyles that clash and will get even more complicated if they decide to have children… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 09:27 PM |
| 14 | Admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery LOLRed flags with a penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 05:13 AM |
| 7 | I have issues comparing myself to another woman...This is normal. Everyone compares themselves with others whether they were in dysfunctional families or not. An ex's old or new lover doesn't even have to be objectively more attractive than the person doing the comparing, it simply has to do with themselves and often times, their own insecurities. In fact, personally, I was comparing myself MORE with, by society's standards, less attractive girls because they always seemed to be in relationships and were loved while I was not... even though by … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 03:52 AM |
| 3 | I like him but he has someone.Yeah. I'd say avoid it at all costs. Once he's gone, you'll forget about him. Before quarantine, i developed a crush on a guy. Now that we don't see each other at all, the intensity of my crush depleted. As for liking a man who is already in a relationship, don't fret. It's completely normal to like someone who is in a relationship or even while being in a relationship yourself. You can't control involuntary feelings because those feelings are simply just that without much basis at all. You can'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Case Study: Online Dating vs WomenAhaha! There's nothing wrong with motorcycles, but I just felt that it was his way of hooking me in and swooning me over, thinking i'll be super impressed. He had that sort of vibe like "oh look at me, super alpha male who rides a bike while every male you've talked to has a car." I think he knows the persona of a motorcyclist attracts women, but i can never be fooled with that. Literally had nothing to offer other than he rides a motorcycle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:53 AM |
| 7 | Case Study: Online Dating vs WomenHaha, right?! I categorize personal questions into two: emotionally taxing personal questions (sexual history, relationships, death, abuse etc.) traceable information questions (location of home, workplace and other places of affiliation, the names of my contacts etc. ) Virus #2 asked questions in category 2 which poses a risk to my personal safety. He told me he wanted to know which neighborhood i live in to see "if we are neighbors, haha" among others. I understand that questions in category 2… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:46 AM |
| 14 | After becoming exclusive/official for a while , what is a way that one can disclose one is a virgin in the most FDS way possible? Should it be casually mentioned or more formally ? Etc .When the topic of sexuality comes by, you should share any information in a manner that makes you appear confident in the choices you made. You don't want to make him think that "it just didn't happen", instead, this was a decision you took into careful consideration. "I have made the conscience decision to avoid physical intimacy until i'm sure of the partner I extend my energy to." "I'm a virgin by conviction" "My body is a temple and my safe space, so i made the decision to share my sexual ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 07:47 PM |
| 14 | Unsent LetterThank God you didn't send it. They won't care, but I'm pretty sure it felt relieving to type that out. ...but giiirrrl, are you sure we didn't date the same person? 😂 When I met my ex, he gave me a sob story of his life and then eventually revealed his former meth addiction including the problems it caused him. Being the empathetic person I was, I became his therapist-lover...all while treating me like shit. Eventually, I noticed he was heavily drinking too...and that was the last straw. Okay fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 04:51 PM |
| 88 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.This. I think people are afraid of breaking up relationships, be it short or long , because they fear the embarrassment and humiliation that follows. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee, it feels embarrassing or shameful. Irrationally. Being the dumper is still better than being the dumpee, but you still carry a little shame because you couldn't maintain the relationship. As for being the dumpee, you are additionally more embarrassed because your ego is hurt. You might feel unwanted and und… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 06:56 AM |
| 13 | What is the best thing that happened to you after your left your bad relationship?This very light, freeing feeling. I no longer had to keep looking at my phone, waiting for an LED light, a sound, a vibration notification. Sometimes, I would anticipate a text or a call that I started to imagine seeing LED light, hearing sound and feeling the vibration. It would frustrate me even more if i got a notification from anyone other than him. This obsession started as a result of him bread-crumbing me and tarnishing my self-esteem. I no longer had to worry about what i said or how i a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 08:33 AM |
| 10 | Reconnecting With an Ex and Realizing You Don't Love Them Anymore?Yes. Closure. The hope we have for people who break our hearts and wish they come back is what keeps these fantasies thrive. However, our vision of old lovers become clearer when we see them in reality and no longer yearn for that darned hope of what we could be. Good luck to you too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 06:44 AM |
| 12 | Reconnecting With an Ex and Realizing You Don't Love Them Anymore?Thank you girl! The thing is, my fantasy of him was built on reality. It wasn't a distorted one. My fantasy of him was based directly off of the great dating experience I had with him. But this still rings the bell! I may not have fantasized and distorted the image of who he was, but i surely did fantasize and imagine a relationship with him that didn't exist...which was possibly my ultimate goal now that i think of it. Regardless, I agree. I was under some sort of illusion be it about him or th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 06:36 AM |
| 6 | Men over 50 who have never marriedJust out of curiosity, since you don't believe in marriage, do you still want a long-term or life-time relationship as long as it's with the right person? Because if you do, isn't that similar to marriage just without the extra steps? Is it the legal documentation of marriage that wards you off from it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 10:00 PM |
| 7 | Men over 50 who have never marriedThis scenario has layers. So if he was 50 years old and never married, one might suspect he prefers temporary or short-term relationships. Then again, he could've have been just a very unlucky guy who never found the one yet. On the other hand, if he was formerly married once or multiple times, one might come to drastic conclusions why his marriage(s) ended— was he abusive, impatient, hard to live with, a cheater, selfish, etc. Of course, irreconcilable differences and incompatibility could be t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 09:51 PM |
| 16 | “before you I was afraid of being alone but after you.. now I’m afraid of settling”Anytime I feel too intense and want to send a message, I usually save it for at least three days before I actually send it . Usually, by the next day if not the next few hours, I end up calming down and cringing at the message I was about to send. This way, I don't end up regretting anything and if i do make any decisions, it would be a calculated one instead of a hasty one. Just for next time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:27 PM |
| 26 | Should their career choices be a red flag?Wherever men land on the career hierarchy pyramid doesn't matter because the way they treat women (and people in general) doesn't necessarily have to align with their education, career choice, social status, etc. You have to be weary of all men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:11 PM |
| 14 | Men Who Re-Marry Quickly After Their Wives DieI know a man who married 10 days after his wife died. His wife knew about it though and she planned the marriage with him before her death. She was slowly dying from cancer and told him that after she dies, he should marry girl B (this girl was single and has been married twice before with no children). This was the dying wife's wish because she was concerned of her 8 very young children she was going to leave behind once she died. The concept of nannies was not prevalent and plus the woman want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 09:04 PM |
| 47 | Girl, go to therapy, please...Ha...that's totally me. To this day, I will question loving words and actions. I think that people only try to be good so they can deceive me and lower my guard. Once my guard is lowered, i'm vulnerable and i become an easy target. It's very hard to distinguish between ill-intended love bombing and genuine love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Romance shouldn't be a literary analysis. It's clear.hahaha, that's a good one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 08:25 PM |
| 28 | Romance shouldn't be a literary analysis. It's clear.It means that real love doesn't leave you confused. Real love is clear. You shouldn't have to do a literary analysis (interpret, analyse and attempt to understand) his words and actions to figure out if he loves you or not. A man who loves you will be explicit (clear) anything else is hesitation and mind games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 10:16 AM |
| 126 | This is the 'empowering' dating lifestyle lib fems are trying to push on us. Lmao. I can'tI don't think this girl has low self-esteem nor does she think she cannot pull guys. She said she can and could date 20 guys if she wanted to who could give her an allowance. She's into him for one thing and one thing only. I think the comments are vouching for him more and dismissing the age gap because they see a much bigger and apparent issue between them than merely age: appearance. Everyone sees that she is so out of his league that they are astonished that she is in a relationship with him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 05:49 AM |
| 168 | Romance shouldn't be a literary analysis. It's clear.Love should not be hard to interpret. If you find yourself annotating, analyzing, and dismantling words and actions of love to understand them, then run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 01:22 AM |
| 6 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.This...this was so fucking painful to read. Does he not have any dignity at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 01:00 AM |
| 79 | New Red Flag Vocabulary Word: SimpInteresting. I always thought "simp" was just the equivalent of a "pickmeisha" because I usually heard guys telling it to guys who are too desperate and keep chasing a girl who isn't interested in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 09:30 PM |
| 28 | Ya burntPeople know exactly what they're doing. Don't romanticize any toxic relationship to the point you start doubting yourself and justify bad behaviour. Your instinct is right, the justification you make as soon after is not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 06:36 AM |
| 38 | Ya burntShe shouldn't regret that message now that the deed is done. I hope she moves on to better things and i'm sure she is. If that was her way to satisfy and give herself closure, each to their own. Personally, I just wouldn't. I cannot live knowing i gave someone the satisfaction to know i was/am still hurt. I'll be sad in my head but not outside my head. You can take me to hell and back than to reveal my hurt to a good-for-nothing. As for your question, people are well aware when they hurt others … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 06:06 AM |
| 98 | Ya burntTrust me, if you did not respond, he'll realize that you see right through his bullshit. Hell, you not replying might even make him go crazy wondering what you're thinking. You just gave him an ego boost letting him know that he had the upper hand by being the dumper instead of the dumpee and that you are still angry about it. Your texts are not going to knock any sense or morals into him, nor will he feel remorseful and shocked about his disgusting actions. He'll just smirk when he sees it and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 03:22 AM |
| 304 | Ya burntI know its super tempting to reply to the ex-ships...but, i would have not responded at all, especially the way you did. Your texts revealed that you acknowledged his ghosting, that you are annoyed and angry. I have too much pride to give them the pleasure of knowing that their behaviour still conquers me emotionally grudgingly. Next time, don't respond. That way, it shows your indifference to their very existence. Let them keep guessing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 03:04 AM |
| 14 | Shallon Lester - Should you tell a guy you like him?Its supposed to be a joke, exaggerating how far I would go to not let a man know I like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:39 PM |
| 22 | Shallon Lester - Should you tell a guy you like him?Future Wedding Pastor: Do you take him as your lawfully wedded husband? Me: ...can I have a second? crowd intensifies Me texting FDS: okay, so today is my wedding day and the pastor had the nerve to ask me if I would take my HVM fiance as my husband. Should I say yes or does that come off as too desperate? My girls on FDS: Hmm, tricky. I think you should accept but don't come off too strong. Me to me: rad fucking advice Pastor: ...So? Me: I mean, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:04 PM |
| 5 | This sub helped!Proud of you sis. :') | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 08:34 PM |
| 19 | Clear Sign Of A NarcissistOr it's very one-sided, like this: Person: hey, what's up?! How did your job interview go? Narc: It went okay. That fat bitch of a manager was rude (The narc thinks everyone is in the wrong) Person 1: oh...what happened? What did she do? Narc: [insert false victim story here]...but yeh. Person: mm okay, some people are like that (says this even though person doubts the authenticity of the story, but loves the narc too much to question it)What did you do after the interview? Narc: I just watched … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 07:34 PM |
| 14 | Found a 🤡 text message from high school , wish I had known better thenThat's why I delete my old texts. I get second-hand embarrassment from my own goddamn self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 07:11 PM |
| 8 | So fuckboys are really pulling an uno reverse card on feminism?Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 01:03 AM |
| 37 | Did plastic surgery help with your self esteem and dating?Plastic surgery may help with your self-esteem but I doubt it would help with your dating life. In fact, I feel that if one of the main reasons you're getting surgery is to widen your dating pool, then your pretty much objectifying yourself. You would see your worth merely based on beauty. It won't make men stay. Sure, they'll acknowledge your beauty, but it's just that. If being beautiful kept a man, all these female celebrities—talented, award-winning, rich, high maintenance, tons of enhanceme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 10:29 PM |
| 10 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!Okay I'm "traditional" but what in the actual fuck is tradwife- kind-of-traditional? This reminds me of the handmaid's tale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:45 PM |
| 2 | So heartbroken for herAbusive boyfriend isolates girlfriend from friends and family. At 36 weeks, he beats her up and renders her unconscious. The post contains bloody graphic pictures of her physical abuse: nose fractures, upper lip slashed in two, black eyes. When she regained consciousness, he tried to shoot himself but was scared he will shoot her and the baby. She convinced him otherwise and asked if he would take her to the hospital. He refused unless she made up a story about her bruises. His parents know the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Would you continue seeing a guy as a friend ?Sometimes guys hope you would get the hint and hope you would refuse that kind of arrangement so he doesn't feel like a jerk. They don't want to be blunt about their lack of interest, so they pick a fight , ask to be friends, tell you "you deserve better" etc. In other cases, he could be keeping you as an option for when his first option doesn't work. Just tell him, "I appreciate your invitations but I'm focused and looking for other things right now. Thank you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:17 PM |
| 15 | LVM won't genuinely uplift youYep...I thought I was the only one that didn't get LVM to ask me about the important parts of my life. I brushed it off as "guys are not too detail oriented as we are and so I shouldn't take it personal if he doesn't ask too much about my life" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:33 PM |
| 39 | LVM won't genuinely uplift youYeah...they also don't ask about you at all. Like, if you have expressed that you are working on a project buisness idea or something really important to you, etc. they never ask the progress of that goal you are trying to achieve. They never go into details about it. If it isn't about them, then everything else is meh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:27 PM |
| 38 | I met a fashion model but doubting on his sexualityI think you pointed out enough red flags and plot twists to his personality that reveal he just isn't for you. As for your lonliness, just occupy your time so it won't be theme of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 07:41 AM |
| 8 | Need supportIn hindsight you will realize that you made a good decision. People don't often realize how bad their situation is until they get out. And by realizing, I don't mean you will realize immediately. This will take time. It could take a week, a month, and maybe a whole year even to really look at your past relationship objectively and not with a blind eye because of the love you have for someone. To stop regretting the decision of cutting him off, you need to occupy yourself: •Pick up a hobby. •Read… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 07:24 AM |
| 7 | So heartbroken for herI think you have to be logged into facebook to view it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:38 AM |
| 7 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?NAH. Do something fun and then come back to study. Get some fresh air sis!!!:) All the best to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:44 AM |
| 15 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?Also, now if he wants to ask you out again, he'll ask beforehand! He knows you won't accept anything less. PLUS, now he knows your not easily swayed all for 50-100 bucks that he wasn't even planning on using on you. He has to put effort now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:42 AM |
| 12 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?OMG, I FUCKING LOVE YOU. YES GIRL YES. THAT'S THE WAY TO GO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:36 AM |
| 69 | Wtf. Why can’t they even attempt to have a conversation? How would you respond, ladies?I wouldn't have said "Thank you" I would not even acknowledge their existence. Story time: One time, a seemingly normal guy, sent me an unsolicited dick pic. To frustrate him, I said, "what did you send? the attachment isn't opening". He said, "Oh okay. I'll try again." He kept on sending dick pic after pic but I just kept saying, I couldn't see whatever it was he was sending and that perhaps there was a glitch in the app. He was so keen on showing me that he downloaded 3 apps and created new ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:28 AM |
| 65 | What’s Your Instant Red Flag/Trigger Word In OLD or Texting?overtly affectionate when they haven't met me...like boy, you good? I think its manipulative method to stir feelings in naive girls to get what they want. Once a girl is vulnerable, he has the upper hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:15 AM |
| 10 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?If he gets mad at rejection then he's insecure and feels entitled. You owe him nothing. Don't feel bad because their ego might get a little hurt. That's not your responsibility. Never was. Why would you care about his feelings when he didn't even respect yours (time, backup plan). And you never know, he might ask you out again because you respected yourself. Like damn, I really got to work for her. And if he doesn't ask you out again, then he filtered himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:56 AM |
| 8 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?You'll get out of college one-day, get that bag, and go to a comedy show one-day. Your peace of mind is priceless however. Never stoop especially when your intuition tells you so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:50 AM |
| 18 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?No, don't say that. Don't even let him know that you know what probably happened that lead him to ask you on a date in the first place. We're trying to unravel his true nature without guiding him. Say something like "thanks for the invitation but I have other plans tomorrow. Enjoy your time." His lonely ass time, unless he gets a pickmeisha to go out with him an hour before 🙄😒. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?Yes, yes and yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:36 AM |
| 12 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?The problem isn't that...he already has 2 tickets before even guaranteeing that she will go out with him. It's obvious he probably invited a girl before who bailed on him. He never tried for her...it just so happens that someone cancelled on him. If the other girl/person didn't bail on him, he wouldn't have even asked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:35 AM |
| 5 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?I challenge you to decline respectfully (don't tell him why) and then update us to how he responds and how he treats you after this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:30 AM |
| 5 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?Sure, a fun nice trip that you don't have to pay for...but letting men pass on their sly tricks is how men continue to treat women like shit. He probably thinks, "she won't give that offer up and she probably thinks I prioritized her like that...brownie points for me!" But you're smart enough to know he probably didn't. Let him know no matter how irresistible the offer is, you won't stoop low. Maybe he'll come around next time and try better. I wouldn't go. Heck, do something else fun that night… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:26 AM |
| 14 | Haven’t even talked to this guy for a whole day and he constantly called me overbearing pet names. Asked him to tone it down but this “nice guy” couldn’t handle it. Tells me goodbye then gets mad when I don’t answer his spam calls or textsL m a o | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:17 AM |
| 3 | Got asked to a date tomorrow night? Should I accept?Tricky. Especially since you say he already has seats. It seems he already planned on going with someone particular who cancelled on him last minute but didn't want to waste his money so he invited you as backup plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:12 AM |
| 34 | The audacity of LVM never ceases to amaze me...I swear it's always Gollum lookalikes with the highest expectations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:57 AM |
| 8 | Breakdown and inability to let go of conflictBeen in a situationship too...and somehow, those "almost relationships" hit harder than relationships themselves. But anyway, I completely removed him from my life. In one-day, I disappeared without notice, deleted/blocked on social media (I ended up deleting social media completely), changed my phone number, etc. There was no way for him to get in contact with me at all, only I did, but i had no temptations contacting him anyway. I was too hurt and had too much ego after doing that dramatic exi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:44 AM |
| 13 | Promise ringsIt's usually given by a man to his girlfriend as a promise to marry her... one-day, usually after 10 years. Okay but seriously, a promise ring could be either: When a woman hints that she wants to get married, he will get a promise ring so that he shuts her up for the meantime. Maybe I'm being way too ruthless, so ofcourse, there are guys who mean good and give it as a token to express their love and his promise to marry her soon enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 11:48 PM |
| 16 | What's wrong with central european men?That's a given. There will be terrible men online and in real life but boycotting dating apps will at least significantly lower the number of LVM approaching women. Hiding behind a screen without the fear of any consequences raises that number. Plus dating apps give men such easy access to women without putting any real effort. It's laughable. Unfortunately, innocent women often fall for this trap, thinking a man's slightest display of affection means winning his heart when that is far from true… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:53 PM |
| 119 | What's wrong with central european men?I think it's time we women all over the world boycott dating apps, forcing men to start approaching us in real life. I wonder how many will then be so brave to say "let's cuddle", "show me your tits", "you have no personality" in real life. Such cowards behind screens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Parents and enmeshment, mama's boys versus girls relationships to father's and dating marriage, wondering what people's thoughts are?If you've known a guy long enough and he still isn't willing to see your family, then it's a little sketchy. I understand that guys can be nervous or shy but to refuse the idea outright might show he's got something to hide. Your dad or a loved guardian has your best interest (unless they're vetting the guy for racist/culture superiority reasons) so when a guy refuses to meet him, it's because he knows your father will find characteristics in him, unworthy as a potential partner for his daughter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 06:50 PM |
| 35 | Now working as a waiter is compared to prostitution. Wow"posted by u/hornygopher" His username tells it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:50 PM |
| 46 | A valuable lesson I’ve learned from Being a Woman Online"our generation is becoming too busy trying to prove women can do whatever men can do. Women weren't created to do everything men can do, women were created to do anything a man can't do" We are in high demand, not them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 03:14 AM |
| 50 | It’s quite disrespectful in my opinionI would've been in jail if that was me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:16 AM |
| 6 | Do I have to disclose to my future boyfriends that I have breast implants?Since you have visible scars, unless they ask, just be honest. If he loves your soul, he'll stay regardless because surgeries don't change one's soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 11:15 PM |
| 32 | Anyone else having a hard time dating in their early 20s?Or they pull the "lEt's sEe wHeRE tHinGs gO..." Boy, no. The only thing I'm letting go is you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 11:06 PM |
| 8 | NO EXCUSES - Date Multiple Men Until Commitment is EstablishedPersonally, I would apply non-exclusive, rotational dating method just without the sex aspect until engagement/marriage. I wouldn't want to be having sex with all the guys that have proved themselves to be serious suitors. Because let's say you date 20 men and only 3 jive with the idea of you not being exclusive until marriage, I wouldn't want to have sex with all 3 guys. Maybe I'm traditional, but this is how I roll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 10:31 PM |
| 14 | NO EXCUSES - Date Multiple Men Until Commitment is EstablishedI think being monogamous in the dating stage is such a new and western phenomena. In the east, they practice rotational dating. Men actively search and ask permission from the guardians/parents of the girls they wish to date. Girls do not actively search, they are passive and await the arrival of multiple suitors throughout the year. Both men and women win in this situation because they dated multiple people until they filtered their choices to one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 09:28 PM |
| 34 | NO EXCUSES - Date Multiple Men Until Commitment is Establishedhttps://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5532911/Get-Ring-coach-says-women-refuse-exclusive.html https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/dating-proposal_uk_5db07942e4b0131fa99833d1 Read these articles by Sami Wunder (dating expert) who dated multiple men and wasn't exclusive until one of them proposed. She wrote a book called "Your Feminine Roadmap To His Commitment" Excerpts from the article: "'The system only ensures that you don't offer full husband benefits to such a man, that only wants to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 08:47 PM |
| 7 | The small things count.Yaaaas girl!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 05:41 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend seems indifferent occasionally.I think everyone's projecting their own opinions, that's why its called my comment and not x's or y's comment? Regardless, he gotta go. It's clear he's using her for sex. That's the real tea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 12:16 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend seems indifferent occasionally.Also, it clearly seems to bother her since she made mention of it even when it has nothing to do with her main issue: boyfriend seems indifferent unless he wants sex. She could've just cut all that detail out about them not being married and just mentioned the main issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 12:01 AM |
| 6 | My boyfriend seems indifferent occasionally.I didn't miss the point. I know exactly what she meant and tried to do when she mentioned that marriage is not a part of the spain's culture and "not a sign of a bad relationship". In my opinion, i think when people do that its a self-defense mechanism because they're in denial so they use excuses and justifications because they're comfortable with where they are and afraid of change. For example, my mother who is co-dependent, always makes excuses for my dad by saying he's not being rude to her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 11:45 PM |
| 24 | My boyfriend seems indifferent occasionally.Sorry but he's taking advantage of you. Also, I think you seem upset at the fact that he hasn't talked about the idea of marriage and you're trying to make excuses and justifying it by saying it's the culture practice. If you make it clear you want a more a serious commitment than a forever girlfriend, he will be marry you if he really loves you. He wouldn't be reluctant to marry you unless he sees you as a temporary, but long-term convenient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 10:27 PM |
| 12 | Dating in Asia vs the westSame. It got so tiring and eventually, all the men started sounding the same to me. I didn't find any of them unique because they always had the same small talk, the same replies to my rather interesting conversations. I had to give up on OLD because it no longer had the same excitement as when I first started nor the tolerance. Plus, after 2 years, no serious relationship resulted out of it. I also got scared from my own self because I started seeing people as robots not humans because how gene… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 10:06 PM |
| 25 | Dating in Asia vs the westIt's so sad that us women dismiss sexual innuendos, remarks and pictures from guys because we think they're just "being boys". In this generation, we think it's normal and that if we dismiss every guy who brings up sexual remarks then we'll be dimissing every guy. If we, women, stopped tolerating boys that talk about their dick, sex, women's bodies etc., then maybe men will eventually stop this atrocity and start talking to us like human beings than mere objects. By dismissing their behaviour, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 09:49 PM |
| 10 | Dating in Asia vs the westLVMs are found everywhere but some aspects are more emphasized than others. But if I were to point out which regions in the world has the most and worst LVMs, I would without hesitation, point at the west (States, Canada, UK, Australia). In the west, LVM tend to objectify women, less committal, manipulative, and get women pregnant without caring about the vulnerable position they put single mothers in. In the east, LVM expect you to confirm to rigid gender roles, are less expressive and emotiona… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 09:30 PM |
| 7 | How reliable is your intuition?It's reliable— depending how you look at it. So sometimes I trusted my intuition only for the situation to turn sour but in hindsight, I realized that it happened to lead me to the next step. Trusting your intuition doesn't mean only sweet things will happen as a result but rather, the right thing (be it sweet or sour...but in all cases, the most necessary thing to happen). For example, I knew a guy for a year and there was a lot of meaningful coincidences (synchronicity) between us. I thought t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 12:05 PM |
| 10 | Dress Code for a HVW?Hmm, I think you got the wrong impression. I guess what i meant by this post was, when men get the impression that you don't need much, they don't try as much. If you keep a certain image, they only mirror it back. Here's the context: So I grew up with women in my family who kind of dressed down, never got their hair or nails done, rarely went on dates with their man ( once in 10 years, no joke)..and to be quite frank, hardly bought anything new, just shopped in thrift stores so they wouldn't bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:49 AM |
| 8 | Dress Code for a HVW?Oh i never said that HM don't get approached! I was just wondering if being an HM woman helps ward off LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:14 AM |
| 5 | Are HVM Born or Made?Maybe it's innate just because of how women and men operate differently on a biological level. Early societies perhaps then divided labour accordingly—the best sex for the role. This perhaps became the cultural and social rule which is why even after thousands of years later and all over the world, the expectation for men and women remain relatively the same at it's core. Yes, major and slight changes have been made to this culture and social rule but the core remains so. I think we live in a ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?I deleted social media because of this in hopes that my name will disappear from the texts at least. Also, now, I will not communicate with any guy unless it's via phone call or a texting app (like Snapchat) which deletes messages immediately. Some people might think that's extra, but my coping mechanism after a breakup is to pretend the relationship never existed and remove all evidence of it. It just puts my heart ease and allows me to move on. To my surprise, although I was never a phone call… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?Thank you for the book recommendation. Will definitely check it out. Sorry to hear your family didn't regard your feelings. That's a tough situation because it leaves young women in such vulnerable positions. When young woman don't feel loved at home, they look for love outside. When they do find love outside, they accept the crappy, low quality love they have always known at home. And yes, I could totally relate to you with God. I was irreligious and did not find God relevant ...but as soon as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:35 AM |
| 7 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?I'm sorry that happened to you. There are exceptions to the "thriving after pain" narrative such as yours that no one would be glad they endured so they could simply learn. Wish you the best on your healing journey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:10 AM |
| 3 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?It's a lot of hard work. I agree. I hope you heal soon enough and find what you're looking for. But yes, it's a lot of hard work. It's not even guaranteed that one can be fixed after so much trauma and pain. I used to be clinically depressed (panic attacks, severe anxiety and all)...now, I'm jaded which I would call a latent depression. It's not the kind of depression where I'm crying relentlessly and having heartaches...i'm just numb and colder than I once was, but smarter. The only part I do r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?I love your language analogy. Sums it perfectly. :) Best of luck on your healing journey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 05:50 AM |
| 15 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?I would definitely regret casual sex. Fortunately, that was not something I dabbled in anyway. I'm celibate until commitment. Something that was taught to me at a very early age, thank God. But even if you dabbled into casual sex, it's never too late to learn it in your future relationships until commitment has been established. Even though I did not have sex, I invested deeply on an emotional level...and while at times, I did regret it and wished I could delete old texts on his end so that no o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 05:48 AM |
| 5 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?It's not necessarily attributing success to abusers. You are attributing pain to abusers. Then, this pain is transformed and in which one can thrive and succeed. Unfortunately, good things don't come easy, they come with pain or difficulty. An HVW attributes her success in her strength, finding her self-worth and her ability to escape pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 05:42 AM |
| 9 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?Sure. But I feel meeting them also helped me not just in romantic relationships but any other relationship (friendship, co-workers, etc). Like I know my self worth now after healing to not let shit pass because I've seen it all, and I'm done, done, done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:58 AM |
| 11 | Do you regret meeting LVM or did it make you a better woman?Of course, after learning about them, there's no going back. That's what I mean by better. You realize your self worth that you won't tolerate the slightest LVM vibes. You are better. No tolerating shit around here and that's definitely an improvement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:52 AM |
| 52 | Solutions to the STARING ONCE AND FOR ALLHonestly, I dead ass stare back intently without smiling until I make them look away and uncomfortable. Like here's a taste of your poison, bitch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:42 AM |
| 79 | Casual sex wouldn’t be a problem except 99.99% of straight men are TERRIBLE in bedDo you think maybe cause the majority of men watch porn, which drastically ruins their sex life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:17 AM |
| 0 | Lmao, I’m 19.I never emphasized money. I don't know why keep bringing that up. And second of all, I simply encourage hvm whether young or old. Both young and older men could be creeps and sleazy, so for me, being attracted to a mature/older guy who is HVM isn't a problem. Being a creep isn't an exclusively an old person thing. Also, maybe we have different ideas about young and old. It's a subjective thing which I shouldn't get scrutinized for. A 40 year man or woman isn't old in my opinion. Kourtney Kardash… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 12:15 AM |
| -3 | Lmao, I’m 19.Yeah I was telling her that some older guys could be HVM and so what? And idk where you find the conclusion that I'm a gold digger. I only mention he has to be financially secure and stable because HVM are financially capable. No LVM should date if they don't have money and that's just facts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 11:42 PM |
| -1 | Lmao, I’m 19.I never said that only older men provide security. Of course, some younger guys do too. But in my experience, i find it's very rare for a guy her age to provide that sense of security, emotionally or financially. Financially, older guys are usually in the workforce longer. Emotionally, older guys have probably dated around enough to know what they want and learnt from past experiences how to treat a woman as opposed to their foolish younger selves who thought they could get every girl they could… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 11:10 PM |
| 65 | Don't reveal your hand to men, until you have THOROUGHLY vetted them.Ugh yes! After learning about levelling up and knowing my self-worth, I would tell guys who tried to date me what I accept, "I don't like mind games" and what not. If you make this mistake, you put yourself in a very vulnerable position because you will never know if they're HVM or LVM disguised as HVM. Don't tell them anything. Let them mess up. Exude your high value through actions not verbally. An HVM will mirror you. An LVM can't keep up naturally and run away. NOTE: when LVM do run away bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:55 PM |
| -9 | Lmao, I’m 19.Hmm. I guess I see where the "not all men" vibe comes into play but I was speaking generally about young vs older men not about him specifically. When I said I don't think she's wrong nor is he, I meant they're not wrong to have preferences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:40 PM |
| -13 | Lmao, I’m 19.I never said he specifically is a HVM. I was speaking generally about older men who could possibly be HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:34 PM |
| 23 | Hv guy friend preaches FDS ideologyAll guys know this. They know how to successfully and appropriately make a woman love them. They just don't apply it if the woman is a LVW who tolerates every shit thing he does. That's why girls in situationships always get treated like an option for months and even years on end, but when a HVW comes along they suddenly treat her better than you and commit to her in less than no time, only to make you question your self-worth. Your value to men is directly based on your self-worth. If your stan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:26 PM |
| -10 | Lmao, I’m 19.Edit 2: can someone explain why I'm getting downvoted? SheRaseven, FDS approved youtuber, even married a guy when she was in her early 20s to a guy in his 40s I believe because she felt more secure with him than all the guys her age. This discussion boils down to preference and attraction. If an older guy is HVM then what's wrong with dating him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:13 PM |
| 43 | I cannot stress this enough, young ladiesYes! Instead of finding a female friend older than you, find a female friend with multiple experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 07:45 PM |
| 13 | I went on my first date in months.How do guys even have the audacity to ask for money from women. It's such a turn off and super cringey. I would never ask my own girlfriends for dinner money. Good for you for standing up to that. Next time, we'll stand up to them in real life so they could be slapped in the face worse than a text. What did you reply to his response? Going on another after he learnt his lesson? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:36 AM |
| 13 | Anyone out there who actually wants to be a SAHW/SAHM? How to make this possible without being taken advantage of?I want to be a stay at home mom/wife as well. I just want a man who is comfortable with the idea that I can choose between being a sahm/w or working. I'm not comfortable with a man who wants me to work just as much yet also have his kids and maintain household duties. I'm not comfortable with a man who wants to dim my identity and force me at home either. I want to be given the freedom of choice. If I decide to be a sahm I would probably work from home, start a home buisness, be self-employed, e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:25 AM |
| 3 | Red flags? 18F and 19MI think you have to set some boundaries. Be clear and communicate that you both need to maintain your independent lives which requires both of you to be away from one another for a part of the day. Tell him you are at work, getting pampered, and practicing your hobbies. Don't give him all your time even when you don't have anything to do that day. If he still doesn't respect your boundaries and how often he can have access to you then you might want to move on to a relationship where the guy is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:09 AM |
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