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As the dudes over at TRP would say, don't ask for fishing techniques from a fish; ask a fisherman. The point of any effective ad is to pique your potential customer's interest and draw them in so that they are interested in what you're offering. I've never seen an ad that started with the Terms and Conditions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 07:08 PM
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Here's how I would written the post: "I'm a 30F, white and fit. I have a PhD in Interpretative Dance and teach Acro Yoga, but work isn't the primary focus of my life. I love cooking, hosting dinner parties, and creating a home environment that's tidy, comfortable, and welcoming. As a hobby, I make needlepoint pillows for family and friends. I enjoy going out to parties and events, but also look forward to intimate nights at home. I'm seeking someone who is <40 years old, healthy, and interested …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 03:14 PM
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Here's my translation of this ad: "I'm a complete basket case, no marketable skills, and a history of poor judgement. I've slept around, had a lot of high-drama 'situationships,' but now that I'm 30 I've realized I can't make it on my own so I need someone safe and boring who can take care of me. In exchange for taking a huge risk, I'll provide sex (at least for as long as it takes for you to put in a ring on it) and services that you could easily pay for without losing half your shit in a divor…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 02:28 PM
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I bet you post a lot of pictures of food and your vacations on Instagram. 😆 I find it telling, too, that the first thing you mention in your title is how much money makes… before you mention his looks, how nice he is, anything else. This despite being a so-called liberal. Also, it’s very easy to be light-hearted and pleasant all the time when you don’t have kids, infinite time on your hands, and very little responsibility.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 11:24 PM
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You’ve clearly never heard of a hoarders’ homes burning down or homes that became unlivable because mold and pest infestation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:46 PM
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What exactly does he rely on you to do for him?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 03:37 PM
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Make eye contact and smile. It’s that easy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 03:34 PM
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I don’t think you should or even need to emotionally manipulate because there is a very practical reason why you shouldn’t agree to move in with him without marriage. Moving in together just to “test things out” means putting your kid in a very a precarious position. If after a year one of you decides it isn’t working, then your child will have to suffer the experience of divorce, even if the divorce isn’t happening on paper. There are 2 courses of action to take in your situation (1) Get marrie…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 12:55 PM
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They’re bullshit. Either be in a relationship or have friends.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 01:40 PM
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Can you contact him over social media outside of work? Just a quick message: “Hey I haven’t seen you in a while. Wanna meet up for coffee?” Normally, I wouldn’t advise making the first move but considering the current corporate climate, he might not feel safe asking you out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 01:40 PM
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You can set all the rules you want and they will all go out the window because he’s already stepping outside his marital agreement to love and honor you and foresake all others. Regardless, one-night stands do not mitigate any of the risks that I outlined in my response. All it takes is one time to get an incurable STD. All it takes is one time to knock someone up. All it takes is one night with a crazy woman who won’t go away. And one night with another woman is a night that he isn’t with you a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 04:23 AM
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Are you cool with the possibility of him bringing home diseases, which could have permanent consequences for your health and the health of your unborn child? Are you happy with the idea of him spending time, money, and emotional energy wooing other women? What if he gets another woman pregnant? What if one of his side pieces is a bunny boiler who decides to terrorize you? If none of these possibilities sounds appealing to you, then you need to get out now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 12:13 AM
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Why don't you trust him when he says that he can't provide you with the relationship you deserve and that it would be better if you went no contact? Are you saying that you think you know his own feelings better than he does and that he should pursue this relationship against his own better judgment?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 03:06 PM
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You've shopped this question to about every relationship-oriented subreddit over the past several months. What is the answer that you're hoping to hear? Why is the advice you've received thus far been insufficient? Better yet, what advice have you received from your friends and family?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:58 PM
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But that is something I am completely okay with, want and I see as a sort of compromise I'm happy to make as long as we can still keep our boundary of no sex before marriage Your obligations to God come before any obligations you have to a human being, even a husband, let alone a boyfriend. There’s a reason to the order of the 10 Commandments. So I would say that this relationship is already putting your faith on trial.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 09:40 PM
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A man who can afford a housewife can also afford a housekeeper or a cook/meal kit service; he does not need to risk half his assets, his pension/401k, paying alimony out his ass for decades to marry someone in order to obtain those services. My original comment was downvoted because I said that, instead of having the child OP wants to be the child. My rationale for that comment is because the type of risk and sacrifice that OP seems to expect from a man is typically reserved for children. It’s f…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 02:51 PM
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So instead of having children you would prefer to be the child. EDIT;add- Since I’m getting downvoted, allow me to clarify: if you expect a man to fully subsidize you while not working or raising children, then you are asking him to incur the risk the losing his assets and his pension/401k, and potentially pay alimony for years without any similar risk or sacrifice on your part. That is asking a man for a degree of self-sacrifice that is typically reserved for children, not a fully grown adult. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 10:47 PM
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If he asks to uninstall the app, you will blow a gasket because you will assume he’s cheating or wants to cheat on you. That’s bringing unresolved baggage into a relationship and expecting a partner to carry it for you. If you truly care about and respect this man, then tell him you don’t need the app and ask him to uninstall it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 10:59 AM
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Your trauma is your problem, not your boyfriend’s. Your insistence on tracking him isn’t just weird and creepy; it’s abusive and disrespectful. Your friend is 100% correct and you should follow her advice. The only reason your boyfriend agreed to let you have a digital leash around his neck is because he’s a young, inexperienced, and insecure guy who seems grateful to have a girl who interested in him. Perhaps that’s why you chose him in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 10:57 AM
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Keep your mouth shut and find something to do to keep your mind off this. You clearly have too much time on your hands.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:12 PM
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The problem with being someone’s trophy is that your shine will inevitably wear off and he will seek to win another prize.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:10 PM
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Ivy & Co has beautiful dresses that are modest.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 11:57 AM
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If a guy just needs a woman who can pick up after him and watch his kids, he can hire a nanny and maid. If he wants a fully realized human being as a life partner, he will appreciate that she has her own interests and be supportive of her passions.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 11:57 PM
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If you have a lot of work to do on yourself, then you have no choice but to stay in nun mode for as long as is needed to fix your issues.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 11:30 PM
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I don’t think that paying women to pretend they like you and simulate having sex with you is a particularly attractive or masculine activity, but that’s just me. And I agree with everyone who said that you wouldn’t be putting up with this crap from a middle class shmuck.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 12:39 AM
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Oh please! My husband is 45 and he still jumps me whenever he ever gets the chance.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 07:50 PM
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Men’s libidos don’t really slow down until their 60s or 70s, which makes your age difference beneficial since you will be going through menopause around the same time as his testosterone decline.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 04:49 PM
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Your boyfriend of 1 month’s preferences don’t count as advice.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 12:53 PM
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The only time a man should cry is if someone died or during a movie about World War I.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:49 PM
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When you find a man who has respect for himself, he's not going to tolerate any disrespect from you. You won't get the opportunity to have an outburst more than once. Now I'm not absolving you from responsibility for how you treated your ex, but my guess is that you carried along being abusive because you were allowed to be. I also think it's telling that you didn't treat your friends and family this way. Usually, people who are assholes are assholes to everyone who is close to them, so it's cur…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:44 PM
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Just pointing out that he has a 100% rate of accidents when driving your car.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:38 PM
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I don’t buy beauty products from companies that don’t know what a woman is.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:35 PM
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What other reasons do you have to believe that he only values you for your youth and beauty?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 01:31 PM
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A husband might be the leader of the house, but that doesn’t reduce a wife to the role of a child or household pet. I don’t care if the arrangement is “consensual” or not— a man who is willing to inflict physical pain on the woman he claims to love in order to maintain order and authority in the home is not a man I would ever submit to. I also wouldn’t want to normalize such a dynamic to my children or undermine my disciplinary authority with them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 01:27 PM
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I saw users in The Blue Pill subreddit making fun of RPW, starting reading the posts, and said, "Hmmm, this makes a lot of sense. And unlike everyone on TwoX, these women seem to be happy."
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 06:11 PM
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I’m against abortion of all kinds. Children are entitled to be born and they are entitled to be provided for and nurtured by both parents. No one should have sex with anyone whose children they are unwilling to carry or support.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 04:56 PM
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What was he like before you married him? If your husband were to list his complaints about you, what do you think they would be?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 03:01 AM
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You don’t need to have a confrontation or proactively break anything off because it’s not like he’s actively pursuing you and regularly contacting you. It’s very likely that if you simply stopped reaching out or failed to respond to a message, that would be the end of it. But on the off-chance that he does continue to try to connect with you and wants an explanation, I would simply say, “I’m looking for a long-term committed relationship and since that isn’t something you’re interested in right …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 09:42 AM
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You were doing just fine before he came along. Why do you need him now? What is his “friendship” adding to your life other than anxiety?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 01:47 AM
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The guy actually admitted that he messaged you because you were the first person who popped up and he already knew you? That should be insulting, not endearing. Stop wasting your time and energy on this “friendship” that isn’t going anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 01:43 AM
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He’s not on Tinder because he wants to make friends and have “platonic hangouts.” He has male friends for that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/22 03:32 PM
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l want my son to be handsome, charming, and intelligent enough that he could have any woman he wants… but chooses not to. Ideally, I would prefer he not sleep with anyone until he’s married; less ideally, I would like him to at least wait for someone with wife potential. I don’t want him catching STDs, get someone pregnant, put himself in a position to get unjustly accused of rape, or becoming so jaded by all the trash women out there that he brings too much baggage into a relationship with a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:11 PM
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I’m in the NYC metro area and none of ours provide meals. Go figure.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 05:28 PM
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What daycares have cooks? Not even the high end places in my area have that!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 12:22 AM
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If you truly went through with purchasing a truck that you didn’t need and was far outside your price range just to “see how far she would go,” then that was the most expensive and foolish shit test in the history of RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 05:29 PM
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Your bf has the backbone of an overcooked noddle. He can’t stand up to mother… but neither can he defend his mother against you by declaring his complete loyalty to her. It doesn’t matter what you compromises you make or constructive discussions you have; the moment she walks through the door or calls him on the phone, the boundaries will topple like a house of cards in a light breeze. Accept his mother as your Captain or find a different man.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 05:25 PM
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I was banned by BreakingMom because I was subscribed to a forbidden politically oriented subreddit. I think it does say something about how decayed our society has become that enough people think it’s perfectly acceptable to vent about how you want to smother your husband and abandon your children on the side of the road, but expressing a political opinion that is even slightly to the right of Rachel Maddow is treated as obscenity.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 02:33 PM
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Checking in after months of ignoring Reddit! I liked the book a lot for its insights on what brings people closer and why relationships can go stale. In brief, her thesis is that desire comes from the gaps that separate people... hence why being in constant proximity to a partner (such as in a marriage) can lead to lack of sexual excitement and emotional flatness. This also explains the phenomenon of “hysterical bonding” after cheating has been discovered. My issue with Perel is that her explana…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 02:26 PM
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Other than the DMV, you will never see a more representative collection of middle-aged men of all races and class strata as you will in Costco and Home Depot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 11:13 PM
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For every Mike Rowe there are 20 Homer Simpsons.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 08:43 PM
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If being a whore was as lucrative and personally empowering as liberal feminists would have you believe, more men would be doing it, even if they were only gay for pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 09:31 PM
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I challenge anyone who believes that men age like wine to go for a Saturday stroll through Home Depot or Costco.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 09:22 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 09:16 PM
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My retort to those women is: "If all you attract are flies, maybe it's because you're a turd."
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 04:01 PM
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I’m guessing pretty boy was teased for being effeminate, not for having broad shoulders and a square jaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 06:39 PM
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No one on this thread is conducting a randomized, controlled, clinical trial so what type of evidence are you expecting to find? We're each speaking from our own experience and observations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 06:26 PM
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I'm not saying that boys are completely unaware of their looks, only that it's never presented as their defining trait... they're more likely to be judged for their abilities (playing sports, making music, being smart, etc). It's something I really didn't even notice that much until I became a parent to fraternal twins (boy and girl). Of course, people comment on how they're both so cute... but with my son they will say "oh he's speaks so well! he's so funny!" and with my girl they say, "she's s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 06:24 PM
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I'm not saying that women need to sit in a corner patiently waiting or that men need to hunt like hungry hound dogs. There is a balance. Women don't do themselves any favors by being overly passive and inaccessible and men certainly aren't attractive if they're desperate or predatory. If a woman makes eye contact with a man who smiles at her, there's nothing wrong with saying "hi" first. But from that point forward, I think a woman would be better served to let the man advance things further. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 05:59 PM
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The attractiveness of boys is not an issue for them before they're even at an age that they're romantically interested in anyone. They do not have their looks constantly commented upon (to the point that, sadly, many women think it's their defining trait) from the moment they leave the womb. They don't get cat-called at the bus stop and notice who doesn't get cat-called. Some boys might bullied if they're ugly or fat, but at least they won't get bullied if they're too handsome. It doesn't seem l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 05:37 PM
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I know you think you're very clever, but equality does not mean "sameness." Men and women have different interests and different end goals when they're choosing their mates. Their dating strategies are reflective of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 05:23 PM
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Women aren't clueless; from a young age, we know exactly how our appearance ranks relative to our peers. Almost from the moment we hit puberty, for better or for worse, we know what types of men are attracted to us. There are far more neckbeards who are bewildered when they can't land a date with a girl who looks like Sailor Moon than Miss Piggys who are disappointed that Chris Pratts won't ask them out. Dating apps fuck things up for women who don't realize the standard of woman that a guy will…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 03:01 PM
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Women not willing to approach men or make the first move is part of the vetting process. I don't want a man who is too timid to risk rejection or so lazy that he prefers women to come to him. I learned this lesson the hard way. I was once a feminist who believed that not approaching men was a sexist, old-fashioned attitude. But without fail, any time I expressed interest first or did the pursuing, I ended up with simpering fool or a complacent jackass. Maybe I just had bad taste in men. Or maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 02:31 PM
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More often than not, the reason someone comes on the Internet for relationship advice is because they’ve already exhausted other options and everyone they know in real life is sick of listening to them bitch about the same shit over and over again. So while I agree that people who post should put more time and effort into a post rather than “just leave him!”, it’s a complete waste of time to both commentators and OPs to try to make a turd smell like a rose. Lastly, making “imminent danger” the s…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 12:22 AM
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Unless you’re referring to priests, no.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:07 PM
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Others have touched on the need to put an end to the co-sleeping, so I’ll talk about the intimacy part specifically. Ever since my kids were born (I have 2.5-year-old twins) I don’t just get horny like I used to. If I waited until I was “in the mood” we would have no sex life. The most important thing for you to do is get out of Mommy mode before sex. That means doing something to spoil yourself before initiating, such as running a bath, drinking a glass of champagne, eating a piece of chocolate…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 03:49 PM
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My cat hates short men and would try to rip off their faces whenever I brought one home, so really, I had no choice but to marry a tall man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 02:18 PM
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He said “Just trust me”?! That’s fucking rich.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:16 PM
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I have the same response to people who say that as to incels who say women are trash... if you can’t get along with half the population, the problem is you not them. And if a large portion of a generation of men raised by single mothers is poorly adapted for life in polite society, then maybe the problem isn’t men at all.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 12:47 PM
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I hope you don’t mind your coworkers knowing what kind of knickers you wear because that’s going to be the topic of discussion at the water cooler (or Zoom meeting) tomorrow.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 12:42 AM
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This can be an issue if your primary method of meeting men is going to bars and night clubs. These are not places you can go to alone and if you’re going with your friends who consistently get hit on more than you, there’s no way it won’t be demoralizing. But keep in mind that your objective isn’t to meet someone who wants to fuck the hottest girl who will is willing to have him; you want a relationship. That’s why it’s better to meet men through hobbies, meetups, church, etc. Plus these are thi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 01:36 AM
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Generally speaking, men don’t care about the sex you had in the past if they’re happy with the sex they’re getting from you in the present.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 09:06 PM
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I don’t worry about my husband leaving me for a younger woman... if he decided to throw away our amazing connection, his integrity and honor, and the family we created for a piece of ass, then good riddance. My worst case scenario is the idea of my husband being miserable but staying with me anyway because he feels he’s “stuck” out of obligation and doesn’t want his kids to have a broken home. This is why, even though I have no worries about hot coeds banging down his door to steal him from me, …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 05:55 PM
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I’m sure you have plenty of friends; you came into this looking for a future husband (which he knew) and if he’s not you have no obligation to keep him in your life. It’s also not possible to be friends if you’re still heartbroken over him. As an aside, kudos to you for the walking away from this gracefully and with dignity. You’re a real lady and Mr. Right will be lucky to have you!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 10:38 AM
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Some Democrats I can deal with but the commies aren’t really human anyway so I don’t think they count.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 01:45 AM
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If you hate 50% of the population, you need to fix yourself. There’s nothing the opposite sex can do for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 05:48 PM
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I think you’re both wrong. Child care is a helluva lot more than feeding and changing diapers. If that’s all he thinks there is then he’s really ignorant about what’s involved. But you’re also ignorant to say that women who have careers instead of being full-time SAHM aren’t “raising” their kids. I’ve done both and there are pros and cons to both scenarios (which I would be happy to expand upon if you’re interested). Even in the good old days (before women had comparable careers to men and the a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 08:05 PM
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A lot of people are in your boat right now, especially with the lockdown and schools and day cares being closed. My husband has a full-time job and I’m a freelancer; we have to split child care duties and it’s fucking exhausting. If he’s not complaining then you shouldn’t, either. Being insecure is just going to compound your stress. If you want to make sure that your husband feels loved and appreciated, think of little things that you can do to bring joy into his life. Order his favorite food f…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 03:00 PM
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Ok, pat your husband on the head for being a good boy who doesn’t use a platform that you yourself use... which is totally fine because you can handle it, whereas he knows that for all men //r/aww is but a gateway drug to cheating and degeneracy. /sarcasm I see in your comments that your ex was addicted to porn and that was a problem in your relationship. I think a much more helpful post to the RPW community would’ve been a field report (or some such) about how having a porn-free relationship wa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 02:47 PM
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Oh he is a purple unicorn! How is Arcadia this time of year, OP? 🦄 There’s actually a really good discussion to be had about the impact of porn on relationships and perhaps even the benefit of porn-free relationships... but we’ll just have to have it elsewhere here in the real world.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 12:44 PM
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You flat out said in your post that you don’t think men should look at Reddit because it’s “an easy site to fall down the rabbit hole in.” I’m assuming your husband is a man and not a purple unicorn; therefore, your statement applies to him as well.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 10:57 AM
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So what you’re saying is that you’re perfectly capable of using Reddit without looking at naughty subreddits but don’t feel confident that your husband, if he used Reddit, would be able to do the same. That doesn’t demonstrate much confidence in the values and self-control of your captain. But if your position is that Reddit and other forms of social media are inherently toxic to relationships, then you’re being a complete hypocrite.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 10:49 AM
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Why aren’t you following your husband’s example?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 01:26 AM
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Obviously you missed the entire point of this post, and in the process, revealed a lot more about yourself than you intended. There’s few qualities listed here that a healthy, successful, well-adjusted man wouldn’t have. So if you think the list is unreasonable, maybe you have more work to do on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 11:35 AM
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You need to at least be able to effectively manage your illness through healthy, strong coping mechanisms (and remain in therapy and on medication) before you have a partner in your life. The analogy I make is this: If you were paralyzed and couldn’t walk, you might need to occasionally ask your partner for help, like getting up the stairs of a friend’s home. It wouldn’t be acceptable to ask a partner to carry you everywhere because you refuse to use a wheelchair. It’s similar with mental illnes…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 11:31 AM
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Why did you start marriage counseling? Was it something he agreed to as well? If so, what are his perceived shortcomings with the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 02:25 PM
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Thanks for the follow up response! If your friends are forcing you to be friends with someone you don’t like or makes you uncomfortable, then they’re not really being your friends. I would stop arguing about it and just bow out when she shows up or not engage with her if you’re at the same social event. You can be polite without being friendly. I seriously doubt that you’re going to be close friends with this group after school is done, but in the mean time, enjoy your experience and look at thi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 07:05 PM
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(1) Stop trying to teach them anything. They’re not interested in or approving of your dating preferences, so you don’t need to discuss these things or try to push your point of view. If they want to argue with you about toxic masculinity, roll your eyes and change the subject, or try using my favorite line: “Toxic masculinity? You mean those things that make men interesting and sexy?” (2) Who cares if your friend wants to keep a creepy beta orbiter? Why is that your problem? When she bitches ab…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 03:55 PM
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You deserve a lot of credit for recognizing the pattern and pulling yourself out of this situation. I hope you’ll keep posting about your journey and reaching out to us if you need it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 03:00 PM
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You have us! Feel free to reach out!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 12:40 PM
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What the hell were you getting out of this relationship that made you stay for 3.5 years? That’s not a criticism of you; I actually want to understand so I can better empathize with and advise women in similar situations who come here.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 12:33 PM
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It seems like /u/999citrusjellyfish is so afraid of rejection or appearing desperate that she’s unable to relax and enjoy the company of her dates. That may come off as aloof or uninterested or just neurotic. That’s why I told her to let go of being worried about the next date instead of enjoying the current one. She’s doing the choosing, too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 12:27 AM
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Whatever you do, don’t get yourself into a mindset of thinking that all you need is the right guy to come along and that will fix everything. Maybe that’s not what you want, but we see a lot of women come to RPW saying “I really want a leader” because they want to take all the responsibility for running their own lives and put it on someone else’s shoulders. I think what got you into this relationship in the first place was because you thought he was the opposite of your ex; if you keep a reacti…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 05:28 PM
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Developing different aspects of your personality doesn’t need to come at the expense of your existing qualities. It would be a shame if you stifled your natural humor and vivaciousness! If you’re worried about being too loud, try listening. I don’t mean sitting their mute but just getting better on focusing on what they’re saying and being responsive to that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 08:00 PM
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The biggest mistake you’re making is that you’re treating dating like an interview when really it’s about having fun and seeing if you’re compatible. That means he needs to try to win you over and not the other way around. Maybe this guy really is as awesome as he is portraying himself to be but he might not be... yet you’re already intimidated by a person you haven’t met yet. Instead, you should be thinking about whether he can live up to his own hype. Flip this around and look at it as a court…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 05:29 PM
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If that’s the case, she should’ve included that information in the body of her post if she wanted the advice to take that into consideration. I’m having trouble with her reliability (or at least her perception of reality) based on the fact that her characterization of her partner (meek people pleaser) in the main post is so wildly different from her follow up comments (explosive angry drunk). Is she trying to deflect criticism of herself by talking about how horrible he is? Or is she trying to d…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 05:18 PM
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Your opinion isn’t supported by data. People generally marry people with the same or similar education levels as themselves, so if a woman wants a college-educated man, she will have a better chance of landing one if she has one herself. Furthermore, college-educated people tend to have lower rates of divorce. If you were a woman, I would tell you to quit getting your ideas about love from Hollywood. High-powered CEOs don’t frequently marry waitresses and billionaire super hero industrialists do…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 04:53 PM
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Her husband /u/guywithgirlwithabike is the one that called you a whiny cuck, not her. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 04:21 PM
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I love this example. He not only apologized but recognized his own flaws and took active steps to improve himself and handle his anger and disagreements in a more constructive way.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 10:10 PM
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I was leaving a guy’s house who lived in a dodgy neighborhood in the South Bronx. It was late but I couldn’t spend the night. He didn’t offer to call a cab service (this was before Uber and yellow cabs didn’t want to stop in his neighborhood). That could’ve been forgiven as an oversight, but I asked him to walk me to the subway and wait with me but he said he was tired and didn’t feel like it. Between the screaming crack whore on the platform and the leering thugs on the opposite track, I was ab…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 09:37 PM
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If you’re interested in my advice, see my comment directly to the OP. She has a lot of her own issues and plenty of work to do on herself, which is what she should focus on because that’s something that’s within her power to control. And if she feels more comfortable talking to his friend then him, then that’s another aspect of the relationship she needs to work on instead of covertly trying to control him through other people. Going to family or best friends is necessary sometimes, like if he h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 02:13 PM
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And I’m telling you why I disagree with your advice. Any best friend of OP’s boyfriend (if he is a good friend) would tell her to go jump in a lake and tell his friend to dump her ass for someone he desires him because this chick obviously doesn’t. It would also embarrass her boyfriend to know she’s complaining about how unattractive he is to a friend. I used my husband’s best friend as an example because he is active on TRP... and even he would find it abhorrent if a woman dating his friend com…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 01:36 PM
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The reason you don’t respect or desire your partner is because you don’t respect or have standards for yourself. You doubt his love (even though his actions indicate nothing but devotion to you) so you can feel better about not reciprocating it. By your own admission, you’re lazy, unkempt, carry a fuck ton of emotional and psychological baggage, and are unmotivated to put effort into your own sphere of the relationship... but instead of improving yourself, you demean him since he’s not good at s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 12:36 PM
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Talking to his best friend about how he needs to be more alpha would humiliate and emasculate him. I know my husband’s best friend (who is TRP by the way) would tell me to fuck off and I don’t deserve him if I started talking about him the way OP talks about her husband.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 12:22 PM
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If she sends him to TRP, she needs to be willing for him to get a message that serves HIS interests and not hers. What if he decides after reading TRP that he doesn’t need to put up with a woman that doesn’t respect him, doesn’t have passion for him, and is unmotivated to even improve herself. What if he levels up to a high-value woman that doesn’t see him as her project? Or maybe he’ll decide to start spinning plates instead.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 12:21 PM
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It’s hard to give advice without knowing the full context of this in-law relationship. Is this a woman who will make a scene if the food is declined? What other conflicts are at play here? Is husband constantly rolling over when it comes to his Mom and this issue is the last straw? If my MIL was delivering unwanted food I didn’t want on a regular basis, I would thank her but say it’s not necessary since we don’t want to waste our groceries. Perhaps she could bring us the food on a Friday as a sp…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 03:25 PM
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That would be awesome! Would love to connect with you and the other ladies I know so well through the virtual world!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/20 09:52 PM
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Awww damn sorry I missed you!!! I was exhausted and had to crash after we recorded the show.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/20 12:09 PM
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If this topic is so important to you, then why not make your own series of posts and videos about it? You’re the expert on the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 08:30 PM
2

How many people do you know use dental dams and condoms for oral sex? According to recent statistics, only 20% at most, even among people who are diligent about condom use for intercourse. Condoms don’t prevent all STDs. Herpes, HPV, and scabies, for example, can be transmitted just from skin-on-skin contact. If you’re not yet monogamous with someone, you are putting yourself at a higher risk if you sleep with them; that’s just a fact.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 08:02 PM
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I think men pine after their exes for years for 2 reasons (1) Their sexual opportunities are not as abundant as they thought they would be after the breakup (2) They realize that no other woman will put up the same shit that their ex did. I think it’s the opposite for women who are Alpha Widows; they pine over men who they never felt they really had in the first place (hookups that never turned into committed LTRs or intensely passionate relationships that burned out really quickly once the chas…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 03:09 PM
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His “personal life is pretty settled” is a nice way of saying he’s not looking to start up a relationship with you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 01:52 AM
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Oh man RIP your inbox... male lurkers ahoy! :-P I just want to say that you’re not dressing to attract any of us so while our opinion can be helpful, it’s limited. The best strategy (if you’re wondering if your style works for you) is imagine the man you want and think about what would be attractive to him. Do you want a master of the universe corporate tycoon? Then maybe Ivanka Trump’s style would work for you. Is your dream man a biker or rocker? Go for Kat von D’s look. Etc, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 01:42 AM
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I think /u/bellsandbutterflies can wait the year until she’s done with school to give him the good faith time he’s requesting to figure things out, since she’s not in a position to leave him right now anyway. But I wouldn’t go beyond that because the last thing she should do is sink the last few years of her 20s into this dude. OP, I’m not saying to give him an ultimatum; just have an end date in mind for how long you’re willing to wait before you call it quits. This gives you time to enjoy the …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 01:32 AM
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I find that this approach is particularly useful against gaslighting because it makes people contradict themselves and it’s almost impossible to resort to deflection because they’re being asked to explain their behavior, not defend it. And on the off chance that he is a decent guy who just has trouble managing his insecurities, he might be provoked into thinking through his position and realize it’s irrational and unfair.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 08:23 PM
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A better tact is the Socratic method. “Boyfriend, you have a lot of female friends. How do you manage to maintain boundaries with them and keep your interactions platonic and appropriate?” “Boyfriend, why are you secretive about your friendships with women? Why do you think I wouldn’t like them and or disapprove of how you interact with them?” People will reveal a lot— even inadvertently— when they think they’re being given the benefit of the doubt.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 07:25 PM
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This was a classic shit test that the BF obviously failed. Forget that this was about clothes for a second. He tells her he doesn’t like something. She could work with him to find a solution or even flat-out say “I don’t think your request is reasonable and I want to do what I want.” But instead, she just ignores him and he blows up. OP, is passive aggression your usual way of dealing with conflict with your boyfriend?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 07:20 PM
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I actually think the stereotype about men being afraid to commit is bullshit cultivated by men themselves or perhaps by women who just didn’t want to admit what they know in their hearts to be true. With the exception of men who have already divorced, men have absolutely no problem committing to women that they are thrilled about. Even the most anti-authoritarian, “marriage is just a piece paper” guys I know put a ring on it with no prompting when they fell head-over-heels in love.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 06:48 PM
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Why would he commit to you when you haven’t made that a requisite for getting your love, affection, and sex? It doesn’t have to end in an ugly, dramatic way. You can part ways respectfully and with your dignity intact. “I think we want and expect different things and you’re not staying here permanently anyway. I wish you all the best for the future. Bye Bye.”
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 06:12 PM
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I think prioritizing skin care is important but you should also prioritize things that make your husband happy. For example, if your husband prefers you blonde and doesn’t mind the cost of frequent dye jobs, then you don’t need to skimp on that. I also recommend buying designer clothes on consignment and limiting your wardrobe to classic, high-quality, and versatile pieces. This will also be a godsend when you’re a stay at home Mom and don’t have time to plan outfits and dig through your closet …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 06:08 PM
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Why should a sensible woman risk pregnancy, STDs, and emotional attachment to someone she’s not in a relationship with? I didn’t make past boyfriends wait months or for commitment to sleep with them and I regret it... for the sole reason that “sexual compatibility” completely clouded my judgement. I wasted so much time on idiots I could’ve weeded out by keeping my legs closed. My husband and I had sex before commitment and the only reason I think it worked out was because we were close friends f…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 05:57 PM
3

I think the only purpose of Rent-a-Boys are for closet cases who are paying for discretion, not just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 04:03 PM
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Thanks for responding. Here are some tips from when I was in Nun Mode that may work for you: *Exercise frequently, particularly high-intensity cardiac exercises. The endorphin rush you’re getting from sex can be substituted with exercise and it will help relieve stress, too. *Focus your energy on learning something new or acquiring a skill. Is there a second language you always wanted to learn? Is there a professional certification you’re interested in? Any home improvement projects that need to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 01:18 PM
1

What are your goals with celibacy? Also, have you read our sidebar and think this sub aligns with your values and goals?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 11:26 AM
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Even gay male prostitutes are a minority in the sex industry because there’s such an abundance of men who are willing to have sex with any willing random dude for free. OP, dick— even top-shelf, Chad dick— will always be at a surplus.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 10:44 AM
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If prostitution was lucrative for men, it would not be a female-dominated industry. Men are willing to pay money for sex and the illusion of being liked; women do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 10:36 AM
2

If he wants a tattoo that’s fine but if you prefer a ring, that’s what you should get.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/20 05:46 PM
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Hence the celibacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 02:47 PM
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Maybe women have realized that casual sex isn’t empowering. doesn’t benefit them at all, and they don’t want to be saddled with single parenthood. Maybe they’ve realized grandma was right and it’s better to make him buy the cow than giving away milk for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 01:50 PM
1

Why are you pissed at him for not seeing you as GF material when you told him you weren’t in the headspace for a relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 02:19 PM
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He wasn’t stringing you along; he told you he didn’t want to commit to you and was with another woman. Expressing desire does not = commitment. Jealousy does not = commitment, either. And for the future, don’t bullshit him or yourself by saying you’re not in a head space for a relationship... you’re clearly into him. The proper response to a man saying he’s not ready for a relationship is: “I understand. Call me if your status changes and if I’m still single we can see where it goes. Sorry, not …
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/20 05:34 PM
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Love you always and forever!!! So proud of you!! :-*
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 11:28 PM
0

You didn’t “lose” anything. There’s nothing magical about a man’s dick that causes a woman to be transformed into another person after having one inside her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:27 PM
1

Your first mistake was dating a guy with a female best friend.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:25 PM
3

I would NEXT this mofo and not look back. He doesn’t want to commit, but instead of admitting that, he’s putting the blame on womankind.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:23 PM
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Slow. Down. My husband and I were very close friends for 6 Years before we got romantically involved. When we finally got together, our chemistry was explosive. Our values were also very well all aligned. It seemed like we could just skip over the whole courtship phase and just get engaged since we knew each other so well and everything fell into place. Plus, we were in our 30s and had plenty of incentive to not dilly dally. I’m glad that my husband waited a year to propose (still a relatively s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 02:24 PM
2

The few families I know from Church who practice NFP can fill a whole pew with their kids.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 08:54 PM
5

This was really disrespectful and condescending.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 08:54 PM
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My point is that it’s not a question of whether an older person would choose a younger person; most men probably would go with a younger woman, but since that’s not an option for most men, they go for women their own age. OP is confusing a lack of options for a preference. There are a few exceptions to this; for example, as if a man in his 50s doesn’t have children or already has children and isn’t interested in having any more. In that case, he maybe unwilling to take the risk that his partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:40 PM
2

People only bitch about what’s important to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:06 PM
3

Men will date women in their 20s for as long as those women are willing to date them. Most men are closer to Kevin James in the looks department than Brad Pitt; hence the men with those options are few unless they’re fabulously wealthy or accomplished. Men in their 20s and 30s are willing to screw older women but when it comes to settling down they will find a woman close in age to them or slightly younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 10:58 PM
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Death is actually the easy part. It’s not having someone who can’t keep up with you or that you have to take care of while you’re still a relatively young person that’s the hard part. My stepgrandfather married a much younger woman. It was all fun and games and globetrotting when he was 45 and she was 20, but now that he’s 80 and she’s 55, it’s not so great anymore. He can’t travel as much or do all the activities that they used to do. They argue constantly because he expects her to be home look…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 12:30 PM
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The answer to that question is why couldn’t the young woman find someone closer to her age who has that same qualities and with whom (most likely) she would be able to have an additional 2 decades to enjoy their common interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 08:32 PM
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Just because you’re a woman’s first doesn’t make you her last. And just because you’re a man ‘s last romance doesn’t mean that you were his greatest love.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 07:33 PM
1

You need a change of scenery then.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 10:47 PM
5

STFU will get easier with time; in fact, the more results you see with adopting a red pill attitude, the less STFU you have to do!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 12:58 AM
2

That's pretty much exactly what I said. OP seemed to be under the impression that women were all pampered housewives until 1980; that's what I was taking issue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 09:15 PM
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You’re missing my point. Men in the old days still treated most of the time but maybe it was for 6 months of dating, not 6 years. Also, people generally dated 1 person at a time... guys wouldn’t have been paying for 10 dinners a week for all their Tindr matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 06:27 PM
3

Horseshit. Women always loved sex and loved giggling about it with their close friends. Past generations were simply raised to value the love and devotion of a single exceptional man over casual sex with 1000 meaningless men. The big joke of the sexual revolution is that men were the primary beneficiaries, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 06:25 PM
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You’re still applying modern standards of dating to the old days. People didn’t “date” for 3 years before deciding if maaayyyybeee they’ll move in together and mayyybeeee they’ll get married after that. It was also uncommon to be dating multiple people at the same time. Even with women going dutch and treating, modern dating is way more expensive than it was in the past and not just for men. Dating for my grandparents actually cost $0. Grandpa went over to grandma’s family’s house for dinner a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 06:12 PM
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With the exception of a brief period of unprecedented peace and prosperity in the Eisenhower era, most women always worked. The only thing that changed was the range of employment opportunities available to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 01:31 PM
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First generation Italian American on the East Coast here, called forth by /u/girlwithabike! Here are my suggestions: (1) Bring a dessert, either something you made or something you bought at a top-notch bakery. For an added touch of class, a small bouquet for the lady of the house who is hosting. (2) Don’t offer to help clean; just get up and helping as if you were at home and you wouldn’t dream otherwise. If they force you back into your chair, put up a fight but then graciously surrender. (3) …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 01:43 PM
3

Until you have kids, you have no idea whether or not being a full-time SAHM is something that you would enjoy or even be capable of handling. Also, I don’t see why you shouldn’t work or at least have a part-time gig once your kids are in school to supplement your husband’s income. Lastly, if you’re waiting for each kid to be in middle school, depending on how many you have any how many years apart they are in age, you’re talking about being out of the work force for at least a decade but most li…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 04:28 PM
5

Him dying before you is actually the easy part. Once it happens, you deal with it. The real question is, how many quality years will you have together? Would you be able to handle having young children who need your care and attention while at the same time having an elderly husband who can’t keep up with them and/or will eventually need care as much as the kids do? My father is in his 60s and married to a much younger woman. Although he’s in great shape and does his best to maintain his health,…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 07:58 PM
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Don’t feel bad for G. Unlike the husband, he’s getting exactly what he signed up for.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 07:33 PM
10

There’s no way to divorce someone and have them be happy about it. But if you want to mitigate the damage you cause your husband, then let him keep all the money and shared assets and rely on your paramour to fulfill his promise.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 07:29 PM
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There’s certainly projection happening here but not in the direction you think it’s coming from. I’m happily married with children... and yet I don’t have to debase myself, allow other people in my marriage, or strangle him with the purse strings in order to keep my relationship healthy and strong. If I had to do it your way, I would’ve stayed single the rest of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 07:03 PM
2

This is some seriously black-pilled bullshit I would expect to read about from an ex-hooker or an Incel. I feel really bad for whatever’s happened in your life that brought you to this frame of mind. But I’ll also say that you’re an idiot if you think the purse strings will keep him from leaving you. In fact, he might divorce you and then you find yourself paying him alimony or watching him pocket your pension. L
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 05:10 PM
2

You and my husband are in the same category as Steve Irwin. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 01:19 PM
2

Your only focus right now should be on building a skill set that doesn’t involve selling sex (or the possibility of it), getting out of the clubbing scene, and becoming self-sufficient so you’re no longer making shitty choices out of desperation. You’re not in a place at all to be thinking about a relationship and you won’t find a decent one in your current environment. Also, if you want a good man to reconcile himself with your past, you need to be far enough removed from it. There are basicall…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 01:14 PM
1

I didn’t give a shit about getting married or having kids until I got together with my husband. He’s the smartest, most passionate, and family-oriented man I’ve ever met. It also helps that he made it clear that he would not be putting up with any bullshit; I respected him for that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:36 PM
3

Polyamory is trendy right now, mostly because it’s a convenient way for people to try to recast their inability to commit to one person and desire to fuck around as a sexual orientation and call anyone who disagrees a bigot or a prude. Monogamy still exists and survives. I can’t really give you advice on how to avoid the types you seem to be attracted to or attracting because I’m not observing what you are or aren’t doing in your interactions.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:15 PM
4

In those 2 examples, one man is clearly a leader and the other is clearly a fuck-up. But in reality, most men are somewhere in between. They may be competent in some areas but not in others. Leadership just might not come naturally or their natural inclination toward leadership was emotionally beaten out of them by domineering mothers and “strong, independent” girlfriends. Also, the less responsibility a man has, the less responsibility they are willing and able to take on. Women who need to con…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 04:22 PM
8

A Dylan Thundercock spotting in the wild here, folks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 11:23 PM
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She’s not a wolf in sheep’s clothing... she’s a rabid coyote that for some reason or another OP feels obligated to treat like a puppy instead of chasing her out of the house with a shotgun.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 07:32 PM
3

Even if she wasn’t hot for your husband, she’s an obnoxious person, an exceptional fuck-up, and has no respect for you or your parenting. edit;add: The fact that she offered up a threesome to essentially a random person that she only met online should’ve been your first red flag. For all she knows, you and your hubby could’ve been total sickos who would torture her and keep her chained to a pipe in your basement... then again, that might even be an improvement to her current situation. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 07:31 PM
3

“I’m sorry honey but I just can’t work a full day, prepare you a nice meal, and complete all the necessary chores. I could make sure the house is sparkling but that would probably mean you would have to fend for yourself for meals. What suggestions do you have for how to handle this?”
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 03:05 PM
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Why should your boyfriend pay for travel that doesn’t involve him? How is your boyfriend supposed to know you need or will accept his help when you don’t ask for it? Most young men nowadays think swooping in to try to rescue women is at best disrespectful and patronizing and at worst oppressive. Have you considered that your boyfriend sees how you value independence and self-reliance and thinks he’s being loving and supportive by stepping back? Consider the possibility that your parents, though …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 08:58 PM
1

You’ve talked it out several times previously. What do you think will change this time?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 04:58 PM
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Do you feel that this man loves you as Christ loves his Church? Do you want to bind yourself legally and by your vows to a man that you don’t trust?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 03:26 PM
4

“Sarcasm is mean and lacking empathy,” Dylan replies. “I am always sincere... even when it makes me feel vulnerable.”
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 08:11 PM
3

But if you’re not ugly than you have their attention.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 08:16 PM
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This is SO important and I’m glad to see a post on this subject. We used to commute home together, but once I became at SAHM/freelancer from home, I found myself running to the door and yapping like an excited dog the moment I heard his keys in the lock or his footsteps on the porch. It was really overwhelming for him. I still greet him with a hug and kiss, of course, but I give him the breathing room to put his stuff down, change out of work clothes, and chill out in the man cave for a bit. Thi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 02:40 AM
2

Depending on what country she lives in, she might be right. A blonde in Asia or the Middle East, for example, will always turn heads even if she’s ugly.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 06:29 PM
1

Questions you should consider: Do you have your heart set on a particular shade or are you willing to consider others based on your skin tone? Are you willing to cut your hair? Bleaching your hair is going to damage and dry your hair out, so you will probably need to keep it shorter (no more than shoulder length) for it to look healthy. Do you have the money to regularly color and maintain your hair at a proper salon?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 06:10 PM
1

I completely agree with all of that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 05:34 PM
2

The sex is consensual, so I still don't see how your advice applies. It just might take several more time before it stops being painful.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 01:46 PM
2

Your point #2– consensual sex shouldn’t hurt— isn’t accurate. Women’s bodies are vary considerably. Losing my virginity was a painful experience and it took a bunch of times for it to stop hurting and then a bunch of times after it stopped hurting to become enjoyable... even though I was very aroused and with a considerate lover. Also, we don’t know what OP’s sexual life was with her husband before they got married... did they engage in foreplay or just hold off on everything? If the latter, the…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 05:03 AM
3

You don’t need to be ready for a new relationship yet; you just need to get to a point where your comfortable with yourself and indifferent to him. It’s going to take time and you need to cut yourself some slack.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 08:45 PM
3

I think men don’t find talking about their problems to be productive and don’t experience the same catharsis that women do from venting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 12:46 PM
21

Morticia Addams and Valeria from Conan the Barbarian
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 12:16 AM
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As a general rule, give yourself a month for every year, a week for every month, and a day for every week together to get over the initial post-breakup misery... the crying into your ice cream and pining away obsessively phase. 7 months together = 7 weeks of feeling like shit. You might not be completely over it after that amount of time, but you should be able to get through the day without your thoughts being disrupted by him. The most important advice is this: CUT CONTACT COMPLETELY. Block hi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 08:52 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to respond and for putting your relationship in context; your situation is very unique and few people can relate to your experience. A lot of women come to this subreddit asking a specific question, but their relationships are a lot more problematic than they are willing to acknowledge. That’s what a lot of the ladies were thinking based on the age difference and his advice for you to drop your certification to be a housewife. In your case, the advice turned out not to…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 05:18 PM
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There’s no reason to not finish your degree. You have 1 year left and since it’s sponsored you’re not in undue financial duress in the process. No matter how great or well-established he is, and even if you were 100% gung-ho about being a housewife, you should never be in a position where you can’t support yourself, even if you choose not to. Your thinking in your last paragraph is spot on. Second, just as being a career woman can be “glamorized,” you should idealize being a housewife either... …
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 09:02 PM
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OP, between your work, chores, and studies, do you have any time for yourself? How often do you see or talk to your family or friends? Does your husband encourage or support you to have your own interests and life outside the house? If you gave up your current job, are you confident that your husband would be supportive of you pursuing other career avenues or hobbies that might be more suitable to you, or do you think he will expect that tending to him and the home should be your only interest? …
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 08:49 PM
3

Totally a typo, but a pretty funny one. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 08:26 PM
2

Have you asked her what’s going on?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:45 PM
2

I think she should spend less time worrying about scaring off men and more time worrying about the ways she can bring joy into their lives.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:37 PM
3

That depends a lot on the field of study. Some programs are a lot more intensive and stressful than others.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:36 PM
3

If you ever go on a date and a guy questions you about your sexual past, I implore you to use the wife of Hosea as an example, like you just did in your debate with me. Then, I beg of you, please come back and write a field report. I promise you, I will give you Reddit gold. I will check RPW daily in anticipation.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:39 PM
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Your Mom’s approach of hiding her degrees and accomplishments is actually designed to attract insecure and emasculated men, not repel them. Also, men are going to be instantly turned off by and suspicious of a woman who thinks lies and omissions—even seemingly innocuous ones supposedly made for his benefit — are acceptable in a relationship. Lastly, I’m skeptical that her education and success is the sole or even primary reason she’s been unlucky in love... it seems more like a self-serving excu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 07:15 PM
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I agree with you that’s there’s nothing we can do that’s beyond Christ’s capacity to forgive. But to expect that degree of grace from men that you’re dating is asking too much. I’m sure there are exceptions (and I sincerely hope you find them!) but very few men will pay a million dollars to obtain what other, perhaps lesser men, got for free.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 06:44 PM
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If you’re a virgin and are seeking a similarly religious man who shares your values, this approach will possibly work for you. If you’re not a virgin and/or you’re planning on dating outside of traditionalist, religious circles, then enjoy nun mode because the only man you’ll find who will meet your expectations is Jesus.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 04:46 PM
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No woman is such a unique snowflake of special unique specialness that a high-quality man with tons of options will forgo sex completely and take the risk that he will suffer a lifetime of bedroom incompatibility when he has a good chance of finding a woman who is equally if not more well-suited to him who is not going to demand he become legally, financially, and religiously bound to her before going to bed with him. It sucks that the sexual revolution and feminism have created this state of af…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 01:34 PM
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When sex is good, it’s only 10% of your relationship. When it’s bad or nonexistent, it’s 100% of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 01:25 PM
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The only thing I would add to this is that, up until you get engaged or married, you should still be vetting each other.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 01:24 PM
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It seems like you’re looking for a checklist to mindlessly follow about what to do and what not to do for every single thing in your relationship, which is impossible. I recommend you read the materials in the sidebar/wiki, and make a different, more specific post that follows the RPW guidelines for asking for relationship advice. This way, you’ll be better informed and you’ll get better advice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 01:19 PM
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Ok, so by your own description, he’s a non-committal party boy who’s deep in debt and maintains a whole cabinet of plates. So what advice are you looking for again?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 05:13 AM
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Actually, men in the trades are better off financially than most men working white collar jobs. They don’t have crippling student loan debt and there’s considerable job market demand for their skills. The first of my friends to buy his own house was an airplane mechanic. The two best houses on my street (other than mine of course 😉) are owned by a landscaper and contractor.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 05:07 AM
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How is the “typical standard is to be frumpy” different than calling them “frumpy”? Generally speaking, women do tend to operate according to group consensus more than men do. I’ve never once heard a guy call his friend up before an outing to ask, “What are you wearing to tonight?” In any case, if you feel out of place among these women or don’t like them, then find another group with whom you’re more comfortable. If you want to continue hanging out with them, then stop comparing yourself and se…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 02:59 AM
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Exactly, it doesn't seem like she even likes these people and only associates with them because their kids are playmates. I was part of a postpartum depression support group and there was a woman who always showed up dressed to the nines and we would compliment her on her outfits and admired her for making time to be so put together. She was a warm and friendly person and we reciprocated that. By contrast, there was a different woman in the group who clearly thought she was better than the rest …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 09:22 PM
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I’m glad that this post was the red pill you needed to wake up to the reality of your Dylan. But admittedly, I’m kind of in awe of him as well. He must be so friggin’ smoking hot and his skill at delivery so well honed that he could spout shit like “my gf is controlling and abusive if she won’t let me fuck you” and you (and likely another woman or three) considered that reasonable, even if it was just for a half-second. Lastly, don’t worry that you’re “outting” him on this thread. The whole reas…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 08:27 PM
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Sorry I blew up your spot! Then again, the girls you’re banging are probably too busy arguing among themselves at TwoXChromsomes or asking if they should be intimidated by all your female friends.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 08:08 PM
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Are you sure they’re reacting negatively to you dressing well and not your perception of them as frumpy?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 05:16 PM
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Meh, I don’t think this works, because there are no archetypes for a good husband, or, more importantly, a strong and healthy relationship. People need to find someone that’s attractive to and compatible with them, and who shares their goals and values. For some women, that might be a man with grease on his hands; for others; he wears a suit and hires people to do the chores he can’t or won’t do.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 03:20 PM
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Why does it matter either way? If a guy tells you he’s not good enough for you, take him at his word.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 03:11 PM
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When a guy— or perhaps any guy worth dating— is really interested in a woman, he doesn’t dress himself down to appeal to her. Actually, another way to look at it is that he’s not actually complimenting her; he’s fishing for compliments for himself or testing her to see if she’ll either stoop to his level or prop him up. Neither are attractive qualities in a man. Edit: I’m not OP, so I don’t know what she is or isn’t doing to attract these types, but continuing to date them isn’t doing her favors…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 03:09 PM
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That’s a nice way of saying “It’s not you it’s me.” They’re not interested in you and are phrasing their parting words as a compliment because they don’t want to hurt your feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 01:28 PM
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What woman ever finds it easy to let Dylan go?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 10:15 PM
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Nah, Alan isn’t part of the Thundercock family and doesn’t really hang out with them, except for the few times Chad spotted him at the gym or when he was at the bar while Dylan’s band was performing. Alan’s girlfriend is a solid 6, maybe 7 on a good day, so clearly beneath Chad’s notice. Dylan hit on her when they were taking Comparative Lit sophomore year, but it was apparent he hadn’t done the requiring reading for the day and was just making stuff up.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 08:28 PM
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Low-key attracted? That’s putting it mildly.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 08:21 PM
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Let me get this straight: You want to badmouth your sister to her fiancé because she doesn’t like you calling or texting him behind her back. And your best anecdote to demonstrate how she is such a terrible person is the time she didn’t want to pack tarts in her suitcase. Do I understand this correctly?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 08:17 PM
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That’s what I thought. He’s probably part of a subset of guys who can’t find American women willing to date them, so instead, they pursue foreign women online (particular Asians, Eastern Europeans, and Latin Americans) because they think they are “submissive” and they will have better chances with them. A genuinely family-oriented, Christian man would not demand sex upon first meeting you or try to coax you into sexual conversations that make you uncomfortable. I also wouldn’t believe much of an…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 07:47 PM
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You’re contradicting yourself. On the one hand, you accuse me of “damseling” women, while on the other hand, you outright say that they need to be protected and have everything my post implied spelled out to them or they will take away the wrong message from it. At least give the women who read RPW just a teeny tiny bit of credit and not assume that they require every morsel of subtext to be spoon fed to them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 05:50 PM
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Do you live outside the United States and are talking with an American online?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 03:58 PM
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I’m sure it works; most men aren’t interested in what you have to say anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 03:44 PM
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“Sorry Becky, Chad hasn’t come home from football practice yet,” Dylan says. “I know you don’t feel like waiting, but do you want to hang out in my studio until he gets back? I can teach you how to play Free Fallin’ on my acoustic guitar. Or you can just sit back, relax, and smoke a joint while I refurbish my mandolin.” /u/girlwithabike
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 02:22 PM
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Lol, when have women needed to invent excuses to avoid taking responsibility? 😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 02:12 PM
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Dylan would like to thank you for coming to his defense, just as Chad did when they were growing up and the other boys would make fun of him for being a nerd and a sensitive, artistic soul. He also agrees that women aren’t damsels or victims. They are powerful beings — if not more so than men! — who are free to choose to confine themselves to 1 man or liberate themselves and learn the many colors, flavors, and aromas of penis the world has to offer. “I’m sorry, did I say ‘penis’?” Dylan quickly …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 02:00 PM
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And porn has been embraced wholeheartedly by third-wave, mainstream liberal feminists (as opposed to old school radfems) as normal and healthy expressions of female sexuality, and is now taking that one step further by trying to remove the stigma against women who work in the sex trades. But that’s a discussionfor another day...
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 01:49 PM
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Dylan doesn’t understand why you think you need a man to provide anything for you. You’re a strong, intelligent, beautiful woman with a long, bright future ahead. The only thing you really need from a man is to be truly loved and accepted for who you are... and for that, Dylan is here for you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 01:42 PM
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“Thank you, /u/Vellore992, for understanding me so well,” Dylan says. “You know, just as Ruby does, that I am not a bad man. I have too much love to give.” “Men are so judgmental, so quick to assume the worst of everyone,” Dylan adds, looking to the latest female member of his polycule. “This is why I prefer to be friends with women. They’re so much more relatable.”
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 01:31 PM
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Again, I made no moral judgement against Dylan and I didn’t imply that women have no agency and are helpless damsels. If that’s what you think, even after my explanation and reading /u/guywithagirlwithbike’s responses to Whisper, which were totally on target— then you’re missing the point deliberately, probably because it upsets you on an emotional level. Did you aspire to be Dylan one day, Loneliness? Regardless, in a woman’s-oriented sub, it’s beneficial for women to learn about the different …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 12:33 PM
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Dylan's not into Buckowski; his writing is far too misogynistic. Dylan is very grateful to the ex-girlfriend who introduced him to Anais Nin... it taught him so much about eroticism and sexuality from the feminine perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 05:21 AM
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It actually didn't capture my intent, which I explained in another comment on this thread, but perhaps that's just a fault in my execution. The inspiration for writing about Dylan Thundercock actually came the other day when I was reading the post "Stop Judging Other Women," which was basically a treatise on how women should never look down on other women, even if they make horribly shitty choices that are detrimental to themselves and to women as a whole. I was imagining Dylan nodding as he rea…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:57 AM
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As the author of the post to which you're referring, I disagree with your interpretation that I was characterizing Dylan as a "bad man" and somehow "white-knighting" the damsels who succumb to his charms. If anything, the people I intended to mock and malign with my literary exercise were feminists who manipulated--cough, cough, I meant empowered-- generations of women to embrace rampant promiscuity and all manner of sexual deviance, even though the effects have been detrimental to women persona…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:46 AM
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Wooooooooosh!!!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:09 AM
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Dylan doesn’t need to ask you questions... he can see into your soul, remember?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 08:04 PM
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I don’t see what you have to be uncomfortable about here; if anything you should feel bad for her. This ex is clearly desperate to insinuate herself into your social circle by any means possible and she’s largely been rebuffed. She gets excluded from events that you’re attending, so you and your husband are clearly prioritized above her in the social ranking. She didn’t get host the party that she wanted, so now, at this alternate venue, she’s forced to deal with you on equal footing. If there’s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 07:57 PM
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Enough about Dylan... he’s more interested in hearing about what you think!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 05:30 PM
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(serious) And that’s a moment when you stopped being a girl and became a woman! (/serious) Dylan is very grateful that he could be a catalyst for your personal growth and will think fondly of all the beautiful moments you shared together. Although parting with you was bitter sweet, fortunately, there are plenty of liberated women who don’t judge him for putting mozzarella on tofu.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 05:27 PM
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I think OP should also be mindful of what the cultural norms are where she lives. If she’s in the US, returning a smile to a guy in public might be met with some nice chit chat and exchange of phone numbers. In other places, men can be a helluva lot more aggressive.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 04:05 PM
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Actually the only thing stopping women from sleeping with men outside of being in a relationship with them were their values against sleeping around and fears of being labeled a slut. There was nothing restraining men from taking advantage of sexual opportunities. So yes, men benefitted (the exact number is irrelevant for the purpose of this subs readers) from the newly-made abundance of women who were no longer afraid of being called sluts for sleeping with whoever they want, even if it harmed …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 03:52 PM
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To be fair, my brother Chad calls women gold diggers and is way too obsessed with money... it’s one of the reasons he refuses to get married, Dylan says, with an exasperated sigh. I’ve told him so many times that there are women out there who will fall on their backs just because they love you as a person. Dylan’s not getting married either, but only because the institution of marriage is a patriarchal trap to keep women in lives of servitude. He would never selfishly subject a woman to that lif…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:26 PM
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Dylan doesn’t know what you’re talking about. He shuns labels of any kind; they are tools of oppression. What’s all this obsession with the Greek alphabet, anyway, Dylan wonders. Alexandra was arguing about alphas and betas on the Internet for hours the other night. It took longer than usual to get her to come to bed. Fortunately, he muses, she let me her tie her up and whip her that night (totally consensual of course). She said the experience was so empowering.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:20 PM
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Finally, a woman who understands him!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:07 PM
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That’s made-up, misogynistic bullshit, Dylan scoffs. If 80% of men are sexless, perhaps it’s because they only want to date the 10% of women who look like supermodels.. ever think of that?! No, more likely, is that men who are lonely and sexless just need to be themselves, love and respect women more, maybe try being their friends instead of only seeing them as sex objects, Dylan advises. That’s always worked tor me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 12:24 PM
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He doesn’t have enough money for a Tesla. You see, unlike Chad, he never really cared much for wealth or high status. To be perfectly honest (and he really only feels comfortable confiding in you), his real dream is to be a stay-at-home Dad. He’s just so nurturing and full of love, that role would come so naturally to him. But not right now, of course... he’s focusing on his music and his art at the moment. Maybe in 5 years, possibly 10? You’re not in any rush, are you?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 03:42 AM
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Leadership? How paternal, how tyrannical! Dylan wants a woman who can forge her own path forward... directly to his bed.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 03:35 AM
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My husband corrected me on this point as well. He said Dylan drives a used Jeep Wrangler. The classic Mustang belongs to Dylan and Chad’s Dad, who taught them how to fix cars in his garage and to whom they owe all their knowledge of the women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 02:08 AM
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(Serious response) I’m glad you posted your experience and you’re able now to recognize the situation for what it was. I hope that at least some women will be able to recognize that validation is not the same thing as genuine love and respect... and that people who tell you what you want to hear are usually trying to sell you something.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:49 AM
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Do you have a couch I can crash on?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:37 AM
12

That’s cool, Dylan says, we can still be friends. 😎
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:36 AM
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Dylan loves that he can make you laugh! Your giggle is like wind chimes and your eyes sparkle... just like hers did so long ago. He sighs and looks off into the distance, full of nostalgia and deep longing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 01:24 AM
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Dylan isn’t friends with Phil anymore. Phil catcalled some girls outside the bodega the other day and Dylan had to yell at him to stop being so rude (very loudly, so the women would feel safe).
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 09:57 PM
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Dylan loves you too, just as he loves and respects all women so much, even when it hurts.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 09:53 PM
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Dylan has the utmost respect for working-class people and is acutely aware of his white male privilege. He also greatly admires you for studying and working in what is no doubt a traditionally male-dominated profession. He would like to hear more about your struggles to succeed and the fascinating work you’re doing. Should he pick you up at 6?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 09:51 PM
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Dylan harbors no hard feelings against you, even though you broke his heart and he has to live with the fact that he can never have you. If only there was a wonderful woman out there, one who isn’t confined by patriarchal traditions, who can heal the wounds you inflicted upon him... even though he only wanted you to be happy!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 09:32 PM
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Dylan would never tell you or any woman what do. He knows you’re strong and brilliant, you don’t need anyone to mansplain to you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 09:25 PM
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Dylan is heartbroken that you would accuse him of coercion. He would never dream of overstepping his boundaries... he understands that some women are just not ready to overcome their ideas of what’s taboo and leave their comfort zone. And seriously, you’re going to kink-shame Dylan for his polite request? Not cool, man, not cool.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 09:22 PM
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Dylan is upset that you’re age-shaming someone on the Internet. You’re so bigoted! Dylan actually prefers older women. They’re so much more mature, interesting, and sexier than 20-year-olds.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:59 PM
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Dylan blushes and looks away sheepishly as you tell him this. He was always so dorky and awkward growing up, he confesses. He can’t believe someone as beautiful and intelligent as you even notices him! Dylan asks to continue this conversation somewhere more private... it’s so embarrassing to share his innermost thoughts and insecurities around all these people.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:57 PM
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Nonsense, Dylan doesn’t con anyone. He has too much love to give.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:41 PM
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If you were really Dylan you would know that you belong to human kind (not any woman) and that women who only care about money just need to learn that the best things in life — like your cock — cannot he bought and sold. And they would be so eager to learn this valuable lesson.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:37 PM
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Well, first and foremost, it’s intended as a humorous essay for a red pill-aware audience. Second, it’s a satire of “sex positive” third-wave feminism, which tries to reframe fucking around as a form of liberation from men and personal empowerment... even though men are the primary beneficiaries of this “revolution,” since they can fuck as many women as they want while making as little investment in their relationships as possible. Third, it’s a bit of a warning to young and/or inexperienced wom…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 07:01 PM
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That's not what Guywithgirlwithabike said at all... he implied that her worldview indicates naivete and a lack of life experience. The idea that every person (or in this case, every woman) is a special unique snowflake of special unique specialness and that collective desires and interests don't exist is something I would expect from my 1-year-olds, who, at the moment, really are at the center of their own little universe. In fact, his opinion is much more charitable opinion than mine, which is …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 05:11 PM
3

Ah yes, like "healthy masculinity" and "toxic masculinity" (ie, any expression of manliness with which feminists disapprove)?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 05:01 PM
5

Thank god there’s at least one sane person here!
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 06:24 PM
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This is the most judgmental sub because it’s the only women’s sub that, for the most part, is actually honest and doesn’t blow smoke up our asses. RPW doesn’t say that every choice is equally good just because a woman is making it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 02:57 PM
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Judgement is actually a very important and necessary ability to have... it’s a survival instinct. Judging someone’s behavior is necessary to keep yourself out of harms way, prevent you from modeling behaviors that would be damaging to yourself and those around you, and interacting with people that are toxic. Also, I see nothing wrong with the emotion of “shame” either. You should be ashamed if you do something that brings unnecessary harm to yourself and other people, or degrades the moral fabri…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 02:50 PM
3

What are you seeking from this thread that you didn’t get in your previous threads?
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 02:48 PM
2

I think you need to make time for yourself just to have fun... fun that doesn’t include men. Even if it’s just a few hours after the kids go to bed or, if you can get child care, a few hours on a weekend afternoon to do something you enjoy... visit a museum, see a concert, go to see a movie with friends. Or maybe something that you wanted to do when you were married to your ex but weren’t allowed. Nun mode doesn’t mean living like you’re in an actual convent... praying and scribing and nothing e…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 02:44 PM
2

I was going to write out a hugely long post, but honestly, I don't think anyone really knows how they'll think or react until they're actually in that situation. Not be too dramatic, but it's the relationship version of the apocalypse. I can say with 99.99% certainty I would immediately file for divorce if he got someone pregnant, gave me an STD, or fucked a bunny boiler.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 02:44 AM
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See I disagree that all or even most affairs are due to a shortcoming on the part of a partner. In fact, I think most people make up excuses about how shitty their partner is after the fact in order to justify bad behavior. 9 times out of 10, it’s not about filling needs that aren’t met. It’s something “extra”... another slice of cake after dessert. It’s people who can’t exercise restraint and have bad boundaries. People who are genuinely unfulfilled and looking to step out on their partners nee…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 05:58 PM
2

A majority of affairs don’t start with someone waking up and saying, “I’m going to commit adultery today!” It starts with “oh we’re just friends.” Then “Oh, we’re just harmless flirting!” Then “well holding hands and hugging is fine.” Then “it’s just a kiss.” Then, “we’re just meeting for drinks to clear the air.” Before you know it, you’re on your back, legs in the air, getting plowed like an Iowa cornfield.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 04:00 PM
2

Clear polish on neatly manicured nails for most days. I don’t have to worry about my nails looking cheap or gross when they start chipping or the expense and damage of regular gel manicures (which I save for special occasions).
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 03:46 PM
2

Thank you for taking the time to write a thoughtful response instead of the knee-jerk downvote.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 08:54 PM
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The problem with the word "privilege" is that it's used by people to claim victim status and portray anyone who has something they want as an oppressor, wittingly or not. It completely denies people of their individual agency.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 01:36 AM
3

A privilege is something that can be given or taken away from someone else; it’s not an inherent quality.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 04:41 PM
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So is every advantage that people have in life considered a “privilege” now?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 03:04 PM
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A privilege is something that can be granted or taken away by a third party. Beauty is an advantage... the same way that intelligence, physical prowess, wit, and charm are advantages. Do they give people who possess these qualities in edge in life? Sure, but it’s certainly not fair to resent them for what comes naturally and is completely outside of their control. At the heart of people who are focused on “privilege” and want to attach that word to anything is a sense of deep entitlement. You th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 03:00 PM
6

Ah yes, the No True Scotsman Fallacy out in the wild...
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 08:37 PM
10

RPW in the bedroom,TRP in the board room!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 06:20 PM
3

Unless you come from a culture/religious community where getting married young and staying in the home is the expected norm, no, you’re not going to meet marriage-minded men at 18 years old, let alone one who is on the market for a housewife. Furthermore, you’re going to be hard-presses to meet a man nowadays who is going to automatically agree to be the sole breadwinner right out the gate, certainly not before you have kids. Even if you don’t aspire to climb the corporate latter or become an as…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 02:55 AM
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You need friends. It’s not healthy for your boyfriend to be your only emotional outlet. I think if you were happier with yourself if you had other people with whom to socialize, you wouldn’t feel so threatened by your boyfriend’s interactions.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 02:42 AM
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You classify the "worthiness" of men materially and not in terms of their character; that's /u/girlwithabike's point that you're missing. The reason your strategy is so "successful" is that your strategy is designed to attract two types of men: (1) An inherently weak-willed man with no well-developed sense of self who could be easily led and manipulated, and/or (2) An apex-predator type who is thrilled by the "hunt," needs to be in control, and will either completely lose interest once you fall …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 02:30 PM
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Paging /u/girlwithabike... best sense of style and home decor of anyone I know.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 02:21 PM
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He's not your problem anymore so who cares. Read the side bar.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 10:49 PM
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Read the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 10:45 PM
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Now I can recognize that I'm fundamentally pretty insecure, and love novelty and getting attention from attractive females. So you needed to pay a psychologist to find out that you have the same base desires and fears that every man has? >but isn't compatible with the other part of me that enjoys being a responsible family man and all that entails. If you enjoyed that part of yourself even half as much as you claim, you wouldn't be utterly failing at it. > She believes in unconditional love, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 09:05 PM
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Definitely get him into sports and martial arts! Also, get a heavy bag and some boxing gloves for his room that he can just go to down on in his spare time. They sell heavy bags and sparring equipment for children online.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 06:26 PM
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> But then another part of thinks I can do better; maybe I’ll find that 21-year old bisexual lingerie model who’s also polite and loves children and home cooking, or whatever chimera my mind has conjured up as a vision of what would actually satisfy my own hypergamous instincts. Dislodge your head from your ass and deal with reality. By your own admission, you're irresponsible, disorganized, emotionally unstable, and unfaithful. If you get divorced, you will be a middle-aged man with two childre…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 06:12 PM
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Your experience isn't real; what a bunch of dudes say to each other on the Internet is real. :-P
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 07:20 PM
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Amoral sexual strategy is for men trying to figure out how to get laid as much as possible. It's not sound strategy for women who are trying to have mutually-fulfilling relationships. Your advice isn't RP... lying to and suckering poor useless idiots is actually Blue Pill 101. Any woman can do it and many women do.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 05:02 PM
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Her past does present many challenges to finding a relationship now; no one here is sugar-coating that fact. But it doesn't mean that her only option is to scrape the bottom of the barrel. Besides, there isn't a man alive who wants to be the partner of someone who "settled." Lying might work to secure someone (anyone!) in the short term, but it's a selfish and short-sighted strategy that will ultimately make her and her partner unhappy in the long term.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 04:50 PM
4

Some guys really want to believe that all the girls who slept with everyone except them are home alone crying into pints of chocolate ice cream while surrounded by cats.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 04:35 PM
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That depends entirely on how you define "success." You don't need to be the right woman for most men; you need to be the right woman for just one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 04:05 PM
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Go for a beta guy and don’t tell him. If he ever finds out, he may be too bonded to leave. /u/wittyrutabaga, this is straight-up bad advice. The last thing in the world you want is to give a man a reason to think that you're a liar or willing to hide things from him. Any resentment he might feel about your sexual past will absolutely pale in comparison to the anger and resentment he will feel about being deceived or robbed of the ability to make a educated choice about his future. Honesty goes h…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 03:59 PM
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I was in your exact position almost to a T, and long story short, it didn't stop me from marrying a handsome, high-value man of strong character. It wasn't easy, but it's not an impossible feat. The first thing I will say on this subject is that men generally don't fret about your past if they're happy with the relationship and the sex life they have with you. If there are certain acts that he's asking for that you've done in the past, but don't want to do again, then articulating a fact-based r…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 03:44 PM
2

Ask the fisherman, not the fish.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 02:43 PM
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I think you should take him at his word and decide from there if you're compatible with him. If you're naturally submissive and don't thrive on conflict, then he's probably not the right guy for you. As an aside, you should never try to tailor your personality to suit whatever guy you happen to be interested in. You should try to find a man who suits the person you are. ​
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 02:41 PM
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That depends... is he just not talking about them or has he never been in an LDR? How old is the guy we're talking about here?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 09:38 PM
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Maybe I'm just an outlier or maybe it's just due to the social circles of which I was a part, but not a single man I met after college asked me about my n-count. Not one! Men (at least secular ones) really don't give a shit about the sex you've had with other men if they're happy with the sex they're getting from you. As /u/girlwithabike articulated, there are other pitfalls if you choose the route of casual sex (attachments to unfortunate men, STDs, pregnancy, alpha widow-hood). You have to dec…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 06:01 PM
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I completely agree with you that you should find a man whose outlook on sex matches yours, and you're allowed to set the criteria for whatever that happens to be. For me, how a man relates to women and conducted himself in his past sexual relationships is more important than a specific number of people he's slept with. Was he diligent with condom use? Did he ever get anyone pregnant? Did he ever cheat on anyone? Does he speak ill of his previous partners (if he even speaks of them at all)? Is he…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 04:32 AM
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I'm not trying to be snarky or put down your relationship, but I don't see how it's possible to maintain a close relationship if you can't speak frequently or for a long duration. How often do you see each other in person? How long are you going to be in an LDR?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 04:07 AM
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You're an LDR and you can't talk much? How is that still a relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 05:54 PM
1

Mike Dunn's two amazing podcasts The History of Rome and Revolutions. Also pretty much anything True Crime... just finished up Dirty John and Dr. Death.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 02:31 PM
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The only thing tempting me to read it would be to see whose posts he plagiarized.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:37 PM
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It's not your partner's job to "hold frame" and correctly "handle" your ranting and raving; it's your job to always treat your partner with love and respect. If you don't love, respect, and desire him just as he is, then you shouldn't be with him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:05 PM
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I would be morbidly curious, but I have no interest in feeding an admitted rapist my attention or my money. ​
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 02:51 PM
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I have no idea what advice you're looking for anymore. I'm not the guy; I can't read his mind for you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 03:33 PM
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How was he supposed to respond? What are you trying to achieve here?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 03:57 PM
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Maybe he will continue holding a torch for you forever but that’s not likely. Maybe he’ll find another woman he likes who will be his soft place to land for when he dumps his girlfriend. Or maybe he’s not really miserable with his girlfriend at all... he just wants to keep you simmering on the back burner just in case. Regardless, you have no business considering dating him again or having long, heartfelt talks while he still has a girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:54 AM
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I think women go through a "guilt" phase. We feel stupid for everything that we believed before and are ashamed of our past behavior, whether it's riding the cock carousel, pining for Chad, squandering our youth and beauty, or treating a past partner or a current partner disrespectfully. Just as men need to push through the anger phase to grow as men, we women need to not wallow in the guilt phase if we're going to progress further on our journey toward improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:39 PM
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He's matured so much that he keeps his ex-girlfriend from high school mounted up on a pedestal is his head and needs to gauge how interested she might be in getting back together before he dumps his current girlfriend. /s
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:35 PM
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From my Mom: "If a man ever tells you that his last girlfriend tried to run him over with a car, the day will come when you will wish she succeeded." From my Mother-in-Law: "Treat him with a light touch."
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 10:58 PM
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Ideally, it’s good for both of you to retain some form of intimacy through affection and other non-PIV sex acts while you’re in recovery. But in the immediate aftermath of having a child, you need to prioritize your health and well-being. If that means that you’re too tired or in pain for certain acts (at least for the first few weeks after you give birth) your husband should be ok with masturbation. It’s just temporary after all.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 03:25 PM
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The problem with saying "I did x and it worked out for me" is that some women might take it as a criticism, even if it's not meant as such. So to use your same example, instead of saying, "I waited to have sex with my husband until we were exclusive," ask her: "What about if you waited until you're exclusive before you sleep with Jim? It will give you a chance to get to know him well and gauge how serious he is before you get attached."
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 10:03 PM
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The most simple and effective way to give advice on any subject, in my experience, is the Socratic method: Ask a lot of questions and get the person to think through things on her own. As much as I feel like I've learned a lot since taking the Red Pill, I always try to retain my humility rather than be smug or judgemental. I can't presume to know what's best for each and every woman or their relationships. I know plenty of feminists who are happily married and have success in the dating world, a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 09:58 PM
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You don't need our permission to dump the guy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 02:27 AM
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You came to him with your problem; at least try his proposed solution. I think you should take him up on his offer to be included when they hang out and see how well he can shut down her flirtations and enforce boundaries. Also, him hanging out with this person once every 2 weeks is pretty frequent and if they communicate often outside of hanging out, it's safe to say they're good friends... so if you truly decide you can't stand her and you're not happy with how he handles her behavior, it's to…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 08:42 PM
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Hang on to your friends because they did you a solid by stopping you from approaching those young guys like a cougar creeping up on a group of deer.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 06:21 PM
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Here's a question no one has asked yet: Why are you miserable? Ultimately, your happiness shouldn't be contingent on another person. Also, what happens if you meet the alpha of your dreams and you're still unhappy because you thought you wanted a man to lead you but you're not content to allow him to take you places you might not want to go? Surrendering, in my experience, is way more difficult than being in control. In the latter case, you get credit for your triumphs and you own your mistakes.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 06:16 PM
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I think if you've gone out 2 or 3 dates with someone, you know whether you like him enough to consider whether you want to see if it turns into a relationship. I don't think it's necessary to keep multiple men on the backburner. You can properly vet men and cycle out low quality men and commitment phobic men. The easiest way to properly vet men is comparing them side by side, women have a tendency to fall for works in progress but don't know what a man who is already a man is like. I completely …
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 07:48 PM
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> I am currently struggling - I feel like no one cares how much I support, love and honor my SO (Still not married cause it might cause the Skids to fly of the rails as their birth mother said. Bullshit I say. They do not get a say into these matters. But SO is not yet ready to commit to me this way and hurt their feelz) , how much time, love and effort I put into our children and how much I sacrificed career wise to keep our family together. I think you're burying the lede here. Anything you ne…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 03:08 PM
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I'm a little disappointed OP deleted the post instead of responding further... this could've been an interesting discussion. I think a lot of ladies new to the red pill think it's all about manipulating men to do what you want, when it's actually more about letting go of the need to control... hence surrendering.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 03:00 PM
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I work from home as a freelancer; my husband is the primary earner. I hire a nanny for the hours that I'm working and have a "mommy's helper" who comes in a couple days a week after school to help with minor chores and some babysitting. We didn't really decide much of anything; the division of tasks (fortunately) fell into place naturally. I used to do most of the cooking, but after kids, we split that pretty evenly. It comes down to who still has time/energy left at the end of the day to prepar…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 08:34 PM
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If being an addict and using drugs is an absolute dealbreaker for you, then you shouldn't be graceful about it... you need to make it clear that you're not going to accept a guy who uses. If you're not willing to break the engagement then I recommend postponing it, both to demonstrate that you're serious and to give him time to get his shit together before you marry him. Things to consider: The men in his family are addicts. He may have a genetic predisposition to addiction (which your future ch…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:22 PM
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While I agree that men's physical attractiveness decreases later in life, for many (if not most men) it does decline sharply at some point, particularly if the man is complacent. In your everyday life, I bet you see a lot more John Goodmans than you do Richard Geres. Most guys are used to not having to watch what they eat or drink for their entire 20s maybe into their 30s (because young men tend to be more active and higher metabolisms; plus, their not bombarded as much as women are with the pre…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 02:46 PM
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My husband and I wanted kids desperately. I love my kids to death and I count my blessings every day that we have them, but I would be lying if I said there weren’t some moments when I thought to myself, “So what was wrong with my life before that I needed to make it so exponentially difficult?!” Therefore, I can’t imagine anyone having the stamina for child-rearing if they didn’t want kids or were ambivalent about them in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 03:28 AM
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You’re incorrectly defining manipulative as tactful and considerate behavior. It’s not. Manipulation is an act of covertly exerting control over another person, particularly abusing your knowledge of him as an intimate partner to exploit his weaknesses and insecurities in order to get what you want. I get the intent by your post, which was how to influence your man in a positive way rather than bludgeon him with demands but that’s not manipulation. Also, the example you used was really off-putti…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 03:20 AM
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Haha that's awesome! Since we're both animated, we would both be welcome in Toon Town. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 08:56 PM
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Men realize that they, too, are aging and aren't going to hold you up to a standard that's not achievable for themselves (unless they're really unreasonable and out of touch with reality).
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 08:55 PM
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Awww, thanks :-)
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 10:12 PM
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I think he has more of Eddie Valient's temperament.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 10:12 PM
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Great insight! I think it's fair to say that our choice of partner is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. If we feel insecure about ourselves, we'll find partners that validate that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 10:10 PM
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If she prefaces a conversation with any variation of "Please don't tell..." or "I don't want him to know but..." just stop her right there and say: "I'm sorry, but I really don't feel comfortable keeping secrets from [boyfriend]. If you don't want me to say anything, I would rather not know." If she tells you not to tell him after she's disclosed the information, then say: "Please don't share secrets with me anymore if I can't tell [boyfriend]. It makes me really anxious and stressed if I feel l…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 04:23 AM
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So many new recruits get married right after basic training for the housing and the benefits and then get divorced after a year or so... it's so common that's it's become a stereotype. Are you currently working or in school?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 05:04 PM
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It sounds like this lady has some screws loose. If you don't hang out or talk outside of work, it's bizarre that she would assume that she would get invited to your parties, let alone your wedding. As others have said, lock down your social media. If you're worried about causing drama by blocking or unfriending people, then just deactivate your accounts or set everything to private. If she keeps harping on you about the wedding, just tell her that you're not inviting co-workers since you don't w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 03:17 PM
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Everything else that goes into being a loving and supportive partner who brings joy into a man's life. I mean, if cooking and fucking were the only things that men required, they would just hire maids and hookers.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 08:22 PM
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That's like saying "Communism isn't bad, it just hasn't been done correctly!"
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 02:30 PM
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Not the person you were asking, but my advice is that you have extensive discussions before you even get married and have kids and come to an agreement about what your shared goals are for the future. You can also come to a compromise, too. Maybe instead of being a homemaker until the kids are 5, you stay home until they're pre-school age. Alternately, if money is a serious issue, you could work part-time or get trained in a role where you could work from home. The latter is the route that my hu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 02:20 PM
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The #MeToo/BelieveAllWomen movement is (or has been turned into) nothing more than a weapon for leftists to bludgeon anyone who disagrees with them. It's a coordinated assault against due process and the presumption of innocence until guilt is proven. Ultimately, it hurts genuine abuse victims rather than empowers them. If feminists gave a rat's ass about rape, they would be encouraging women to report abuse to authorities when it happens, rather than trying to push #BelieveAllWomen in the absen…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 11:22 PM
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This mentality creates a dangerous illusion that people can control how other people think and behave. Perhaps more importantly, frequent, satisfying sex and excellent housekeeping is the bare minimum requirement of what it takes to be a good wife.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 03:39 PM
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Great list. I will also add: Cut out toxic people from your life. This is good advice at any age, of course, but it's worth pointing out that emotional vampires can drain you of your energy and joy, and consequently, your beauty. Don't be a sun worshipper. It's healthy to enjoy some sun for mood and Vitamin D production, but don't be the idiot who wears only SPF 8 and shuns hats and umbrellas.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 03:18 PM
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It depends. Gray hair tends to be thin, wiry, and brittle and women's hair naturally starts to thin out around menopause, so if you're older or are young but have a lot of gray hair, it makes sense to keep your hair shorter (even just above shoulder-length) in order for the hair to look smooth and fuller.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 03:15 PM
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This sounds like the type of argument that only a guy who doesn't get laid would make.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 07:31 PM
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He's the one who has been cheating on you, so the onus is on him to win back your trust and take the lead on repairing your relationship. If he's unwilling to do that, then you have to decide whether you can live in the marriage as it is now.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/19 07:26 PM
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Do you have fair and realistic expectations for other people? Because in reality, perfect reciprocity is impossible. There will be times in any close relationship where you will take more than you give and give more than you get back. If you're trying to keep score, you will always feel disappointed.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 09:59 PM
1

Does your husband manage the finances? How is the budget managed now?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 08:17 PM
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Since your home is more affordable, take whatever extra you're saving by not living in your downtown condo and put it away for home repairs... don't get blindsided by a broken boiler or a leaky roof!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 09:31 PM
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Oh hell no! Look, most women who unwillingly discover their nudes on the Internet sent them to partners they trusted. I know, because it happened to me, and it's not a humiliation that I would ever wish on another person, even my worst enemy. Never ever make the mistake of thinking that this is the type of thing that happens to other people and not you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 07:06 PM
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Your value isn't dependent on how he feels about you. I know that's hard and not very reassuring when you're reeling from heartbreak, but the fact that he didn't give you the decency of a goodbye speaks ill of his character, not yours.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 03:01 PM
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<face palm> Did you inject your hampster with meth? Because it's spinning so fast that wheel is going to break. Here's a protip: If you're worried that a guy might think you're too crazy it's because you probably are. Seriously, lay off the dick and get your house in order. Or keep doing what you're doing, because it's always worked out for you so well in the past, right?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 02:36 PM
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No, it is not possible to be in nun mode and still date and entertain "male friends." It's also incredibly selfish to use men for attention and affection if you have no intention of seriously dating them or putting out. Any man who is even slightly aware of his own value and who might be interested in a relationship with you won't stand for it, and guys who want to fuck and dump you will have no problem wearing down your weak boundaries and turn "cuddling" into sex. Commit to a path, one way or …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 02:29 PM
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My husband is not my best friend... but he is my favorite person. As this post beautifully articulates, that’s an important distinction. On RPW, we often idolize how marriage was in the “good old days.” But how often did we see our grandmothers bro-ing down with our grandfathers smoking cigars and playing cards and grandpa joining in on grandma’s knitting circle? The thing that our elders understood that we lost in our modern conception of marriage is that a spouse is not supposed to be our prim…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 07:06 PM
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By that age, most people have a strong sense of self and are pretty sure what they want out of life; they're also coming out of the angst and struggle of the early 20s and the quarter-life crisis that happens to some people. At the same time, it's still a young enough age that there's some wiggle room to enjoy married life for a couple years before starting a family.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 02:25 PM
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Too bad... he's living in a different culture now.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 02:20 PM
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Aww, congratulations, lizard mommy!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:57 AM
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27
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:53 AM
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What kind of lizard and what's its name? Don't leave me in suspense!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:53 AM
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There isn't a person alive who wouldn't know that comment would to a chubby girlfriend would be hurtful. Either he's: (1) got an IQ of 6, (2) he gets sadistic pleasure from making women feel horrible about themselves, or (3) he just arrived from Mars yesterday and is completely unfamiliar with even the most basic of human social norms. Considering he's a mommy-hater, my money is on #2.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:47 AM
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If your father went on to TRP to complain about your mother, they wouldn't advise him to get your mother to read The Surrendered Wife... they would tell him that she treats him exactly the way he allows her treat him, and consequently, it's what he deserves. Obviously, he's your Dad and you love him so you would never say such a thing... but ultimately, his happiness isn't your responsibility. Nor are you, as a their child (albeit now an adult), responsible for peace and harmony in your home in …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:38 PM
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Have you had a straightforward conversation outside of sex? What about rubbing your own clitoris during sex?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:27 PM
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You're contradicting yourself. Either he builds you up and helps you feel like the best version of yourself, or "[you] feel like my self worth has been chipped away at and I don’t know how to handle this situation at all. I have never experienced a guy who treats me like this." Which is it? If this is how he treats you now, how do you think you'll feel when you're pregnant and after you have a few kids? How do you feel about growing old with this man? Have you also considered the possibility tha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 05:49 PM
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Other than my BFF, I have absolutely no like-minded women with whom to discuss relationships. I suppose I should be grateful to have at least one IRL person, though. I also read here to keep my inner hampster in check before it flies off the wheel. Lastly, I'm an old lady by Reddit standards, so I like to give the young women here the good advice I wish I had gotten myself when I was their age.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 11:36 PM
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You have no idea what's going on behind the scenes of your parents' marriage. It's possible that she's a complete harpy, of course, but it's also possible that there are other issues happening of which you are simply unaware. You think she's yelling at him over a loaf of bread, but what she's actually pissed off about 50K in unpaid credit card debt. I'm not saying that's what's actually happening here; it's just a hypothetical example. Also, if your mother is the type to go off on her family ove…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 11:31 PM
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He's also a very good friend to Bryan, who's a nice guy but is a little insecure. He was hyping Bryan up throughout the night, which was very sweet to see. Are you 100% sure Bryan isn't interested in you? Because if Bryan is interested in you (and told Anthony this after the party) that might be why he's backing off of you now. I wouldn't ask Bryan for his input unless you're sure he doesn't want you for himself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 05:40 PM
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I'm not offended at all; I have no investment this at all. I was just trying to clarify my original point. On the one hand, you say you want him to lead, he's good at leading, and you're perfectly fine with whatever you get. If that's the case, why do you need to intervene at all, even behind the scenes? If it's purely about making him feel comfortable and more confident, what's bad about just reassuring him that you love him and the idea of being married to him?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 04:18 PM
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In my suggestion you're not talking about it directly; you're letting him know how you feel about him and helping him feel comfortable with making a decision. If you read my original phrasing of broaching the subject, it doesn't mention a ring even once. If he pushes the issue, then you say you trust his judgment and don't need to be involved in the process. If he continues to push the issue, then you should give him feedback rather than being coy. You will only frustrate him. If the idea of any…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 03:35 PM
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"Hey honey I'm sorry I froze up the other day by the engagement ring counter... I just want you to know that you are the most amazing man because [list your favorite qualities about him] and I'm overjoyed at the idea that you would one day ask me to be your wife and build a life with you." Then leave it at that. Edit; add - If he takes this statement as an opportunity to ask your opinion about rings, tell him that you trust his judgment. If he insists he needs your input, ask if it would be help…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 03:02 PM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 02:46 PM
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The value that you bring to a man's life goes beyond "wife privileges" (like cooking, cleaning his house, and doing his laundry); if you think about it, those are all things he could pay for if he were single. The best way I could describe adding considerable value would be the ways in which you uniquely bring joy into his life. One example I can use from my own life is that my husband can be very hesitant to leave his comfort zone; he has credited me with getting him to enjoy a variety of exper…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 01:17 PM
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According to your definition, there really is no practical difference between an ultimatum and a deadline. The consequence in both scenarios is breaking up; I doubt there are many men who would interpret an ultimatum as, for example, "marry me or I'll shoot your balls off."
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 06:56 PM
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Dating for many years is feasible and makes sense if you met and started dating as teenagers. But after 25 years old, you should have a clear sense of where your life is going and what you want. If you or the person you're dating can't figure things out after a couple years of dating as grown-ass adults then you probably shouldn't be together.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 06:51 PM
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Do you live with him already? If not, then rent an apartment in the new city and let him know that you're happy to move in and purchase a home with him when he's ready to get married. If you already live with him and have plans to share an apartment in the new city, then tell him you won't buy a house without getting married. There's a practical reason for this; it's too much of a legal and financial commitment to make without being married. You just need to make sure that you're willing to stic…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 06:41 PM
1

In general, I oppose invasive plastic surgery procedures (such as breast implants and tummy tucks) because there's too much risk involved for infection or other complications (even if you're under the care of an experienced and skillful surgeon) for an elective, purely cosmetic reasons. The only way anyone is getting me to go under for general anesthesia and cutting open my body is if they're taking out a tumor! In your case, this seems like it would be a minor outpatient procedure so you wouldn…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 02:57 PM
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There are 2 problems with using an ultimatum to get married: (1) Even if you get married you will always have the worry in the back of your mind that you only got it through a threat/manipulation and not because he was madly in love and thrilled to make you his wife. (2) You have to be 100% willing to follow through on it if you don't get what you want because nothing you say will ever be taken seriously again. There's no room for flexibility. It's great that it worked for these women that you k…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 02:35 PM
15

Actually one of the things that she says in the book is to not get rid of things without people’s permission or pressure them to de-clutter because it erodes trust and causes unnecessary conflict. This is advice I’ve taken to heart whenever I’m tempted to throw out this one disgusting ripped hoodie for which my husband has an unreasonable attachment. :-P As for repurposing/selling/donating things she doesn’t really touch on the subject at all so I don’t think it’s fair to say that she is activel…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 02:21 PM
3

If anyone cursed me out in front of my child, I would kick his ass out my door so fast his prostate would get whiplash. I can’t believe you tolerated that even for a second. Your daughter doesn’t need an example of a man putting a woman being degraded and disrespected; she needs an example of strong but loving leadership and how to resolve conflicts rationally and amicably. I see in your other comments that he’s a prince “90% of the time.” So basically, when he isn’t stressed or annoyed and you …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 02:33 AM
3

I believe veteran TRPs refer to these men as “Red Pill Rambos.”
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 02:21 AM
7

Love these. Which saints are on the other side?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 02:15 AM
3

It depends on where you live. It’s not PC to admit this, but men in certain ethnic, urban enclaves will catcall or follow any piece of ass in their vicinity, even a mother pushing a baby carriage.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 04:10 AM
1

You shouldn’t keep secrets from your boyfriend about things that his son tells you, as that puts you in a potentially conflicted position. I would be upfront about that with the son, but in a gentle way of course. Something like: “I want you to feel comfortable talking to me and asking me questions, but I just want you to know that your dad and I don’t keep secrets from each other.”
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 04:05 AM
1

If you base your value on what other people think of you and your choices, you are doomed for a life of misery and disappointment. The only opinion that matters regarding whether to stay at home vs. going back to work is your husband. Edit; add: As for my personal situation, I have an advanced degree and was working full time for 15 years before my kids were born. My husband and I decided that I would be a full-time Mom for at least 6 months, and then pick up part-time/freelance work to make ext…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 11:28 PM
3

I guess we're defining arguing differently. I don't see why disagreeing in front of children is a bad thing if it's done civilly. The only exception would be if we're disagreeing about something pertaining to them; in that case, it's important to disagree only in private and present a united front to them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 11:22 PM
4

I don’t think arguing in front of kids about matters unrelated to them is a bad thing as long as you’re not hurling insults at each other. They should also see you two kiss and make up. Teaching kids what healthy conflict in a relationship looks like is really important.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 01:44 PM
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It’s not fair to call her husband low IQ and low earning. Electrician is a blue-collar profession but it pays well; most skilled tradesmen actually make more and have less debt than many high-prestige jobs like lawyers and engineers (albeit not as much as surgeons). She also says he enjoys sports and video games but is very hardworking, so it’s not like he’s a lazy couch potato.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 03:58 PM
5

A man with that level of ambition and projects probably doesn’t have much time or interest in devoting himself to a relationship. Every woman wants a Master of the Universe until they realize it means going to sleep alone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 03:51 PM
1

The men with the backgrounds I'm describing typically marry young and to women who share their upbringing. It's rare to find one out in the wild unless you're actively looking for such a man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 11:09 PM
2

In the case of male cousins who lived at home, they chipped in for the living expenses while they remained at home, but this was entirely voluntary. The way my aunts and uncles saw it, it was my cousins' job to get a sizeable nest egg stashed away so they could start their married lives essentially debt-free. When my cousins got engaged, they took their future wives househunting, paid in cash, and moved right in after their honeymoon. I realize, of course, that this is an exception rather than t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 11:01 PM
2

It's extremely common among devout Catholics and some Southeast Asian cultures. I'm first-generation Italian-American and the first in my family to move out before I was married. All of my cousins, including the men, lived at home until they were married.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 10:55 PM
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If you’re lucky, men will think you’re an escort. If you’re not so lucky, you will get roofied or attacked. If you want to meet men and are going out alone, try some place like a music or arts festival, a coffee shop, or a concert, or some organized group activity in your community.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 12:06 PM
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The problem with a lot of women is that they completely ignore red flags and are lax (at best) with vetting when they have insane chemistry with a guy. A less common (but no less serious) is marrying a guy who is “good on paper” but to whom you don’t feel attraction. To quote my godmother, “It doesn’t matter how good the other ingredients are; soup without salt tastes bland.” The salt, of course, is passion. We all want a good guy with compatible interests and values who is also ignites desire. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 05:38 PM
4

Another comment: An important exception to the “lives at home” rule would be if he’s from a religious or ethnic background that strongly disapproves of cohabitation or living alone before marriage. Also, there are still a few men prefer to stay home and save for a deposit to buy their own place rather than rent. The things to look out for if you find a guy in the above circumstances is: -Is he frugal with his money even though his living expenses are minimal? If he’s living with his parents but …
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 04:06 PM
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I remember going to a male strip club for a bachelorette party, and all the male strippers were dressed as firemen, policemen, doctors, construction, etc. The thought that occurred to me: Doesn’t matter the race, size, or creed... all a woman wants is a dude with a job. Ideally one with a good benefits and pension.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 03:27 PM
2

Heavy porn use has the same effect.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 03:26 PM
2

I'm sorry but there's no way to be in a good mood while you're sleep deprived. Being moody and rude are symptoms of sleep deprivation. You can't be the person your family needs in this current condition. You will crack eventually; you're obviously cracking now. Your current arrangement simply isn't sustainable; he needs you need to make that clear as Laura Doyle advises with a simple "No. Why? Because I can't." Let him figure out what to do from there.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 05:55 PM
2

What would happen if you just said to your husband, "No I'm not getting up for him right now. Why? Because I can't."
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 05:24 PM
3

Baby shark doo doo doo doo doo doo Yes, this is the Mommy equivalent of a rick roll.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 05:20 PM
2

OK that description makes a lot more sense. Also, it's refreshing to hear from someone in an open relationship who doesn't evangelize the lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 05:18 PM
2

The funny thing is that his “examples” were entirely hypothetical based on his own biases.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 01:34 AM
1

As always, you are a treasure.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 01:33 AM
1

Not world leaders, but Vin Diesel plays D&D, as did the members of Led Zeppelin. I don’t think anyone would characterize those men as lacking ambition or sex appeal.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 01:32 AM
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I was a hard-core tabletop role playing gamer for years and I can attest to /u/Rape_And_Honey’s experience with online dating. I too emphasized gaming and nerdiness in my profile because I thought it would be great if I could find a guy who shared my hobby. Instead, I got tons of messages from maladjusted dudes who seemed to assume that our relationship would consist of me dressing as Slave Leia 24/7 and blowing them while they played WoW for 36 hours straight. No thanks. My husband is a fellow …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 01:27 AM
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I find it impossible that your husband would be able to abide by all those rules with anyone who wasn’t a prostitute (except for the no spending money part I suppose) or the lowest rung skank on the totem pole. Getting any reasonable woman into the sack, even for casual sex, requires some degree of courtship and time investment on the man’s part. So don’t be surprised or hurt if you one day find out that he’s cultivated some form of “friendship” with a woman he’s screwing or screwed in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 08:41 PM
6

No friends of the opposite sex is overly rigid and unreasonable. A much more sensible boundary is no opposite sex friends who aren’t also “friends of the marriage.” Another reasonable boundary is no close friendships with people of the opposite sex who were former lovers. And this goes without saying: Never say to or do anything with a friend of the opposite sex that you wouldn’t if your spouse was witnessing the entire exchange. I have a couple platonic male friends from when I was single who a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 08:19 PM
2

Deadbeat? Kevin Federline fought for and won full legal and physical custody of his kids. For a while, Britney only had supervised visitation, and now she only sees them on weekends when she isn't performing. He's essentially a full-time dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:52 PM
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The question was about why single dads receive more sympathy, not whether or not they're actually deserving of that sympathy. As for your first point, widows are not who people are referring to when they deride "single moms." Both widows and widowers caring for children on their own are almost always viewed with compassion. As for the second point, a man's choice about whether or not to become a father ends once he gets a woman pregnant. So if he chooses to stick around to raise a child he may o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:37 PM
1

I don’t understand how sex became equated with empowerment for women. It’s not like creating a cold fusion reactor; it’s literally the easiest thing in the world for a woman to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:41 AM
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If you’re a single Dad (meaning a man who is the lone primary caregiver, not just a dude who knocked up someone to whom he wasn’t married) it’s because your wife died or your ex was such a flaming dumpster of California wildfire proportions that you deserve every bit of sympathy you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:36 AM
1

Stop using heat on your hair and stop brushing your hair when it’s wet. Use a wide-tooth comb to detangle your hair when it’s wet. Stop doing any chemical treatment to your hair from here on out. Also, I found that a few drop of Argan oil or olive oil applied to the tips of you hair when it’s wet makes your hair look glossy and helps prevent breakage. Avoid hair ties (particularly the kind with metal) and use banana clips, ribbons, or hair scarves instead. Take Biotin supplements. Use sulfate-fr…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 03:13 AM
4

I, too, married a man who could keep me alive if we lived in the 18th Century! Sounds like your husband stokes more than one fire! ;-)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 06:00 PM
4

I think at least 50% chose to breed with a fuckwad thinking he would change.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 03:39 PM
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I was exhausted and sleep-deprived all week from taking care of our twins, an influx of freelance work, and going to the gym at 5 AM in the morning to get my workout in before the twins woke up. This morning, I woke up at 10 (which is really late for me) and panicked because I expected to be awoken hours ago by the alarm or the babies over the monitor. When I came downstairs, I discovered my husband had done the entire morning routine for me so that I could sleep in.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/18 11:47 PM
6

I find that subreddit funny because it just shows how detached from reality many women are and how modern culture has validated their sense of entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 11:39 PM
2

I don't consent to my tax dollars being used to support the children of men who rely exclusively on women to take birth control because they can't be bothered to wear a rubber and pull out during sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 04:30 PM
6

The Addams Family
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 04:52 PM
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I don't doubt that RP is worthless to him because he already has the traits that the men on RP are trying to cultivate. Sometimes he hurts me as a woman. Sometimes his banter cuts deep into my insecurities. He might not be deliberately or maliciously trying to dread you, but that's what he's doing.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 02:31 PM
11

Honestly, no woman misses this. Unless a woman has pretty severe hang-ups, she will do absolutely anything for a man who inspires her desire and admiration. Problems in the bedroom tend to happen when one or both of the partners become complacent, or if there was little sexual chemistry from the start.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:06 PM
169

BREAKING NEWS! Wealthy Adonis and Master of Dread Game gets enthusiastic sex on demand from wife who is afraid to lose him to a 20-year-old!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 04:02 PM
2

You’re conflating SMV with RMV. If you got divorced, you could probably sleep with pretty much anyone you wanted. But would they stick around to help you raise 4 kids? Probably not.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 12:42 PM
5

Just as a man wouldn't want to date a woman with a satellite ring of beta orbiters, why would I want to date a guy with a cupboard of plates?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 07:57 PM
13

If you’re 29 years old and already own a home, you are miles ahead of many people your age, most of whom will be perpetual renters for the rest of their lives. It sucks getting hit with a huge bill for repairs, but the fact that you were able to dip into your savings to cover it (as opposed to plunging deep into debt) is, again, an indicator that you’re on track and doing well. You can’t convince him with any argument that he’s doing well, so all you can do is demonstrate through action and atti…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 11:02 PM
7

I looked at her post history and apparently he’s an absolute dick to strangers (like waiters and symphony ushers), was love-bombing the shit out of her when they first started dating (talking marriage and kids right out of the gate), and has now progressed to berating her. On top of all that, her parents and her ex were abusive, so she’s clearly drawn to a type.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 10:00 PM
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Your boyfriend is so chivalrous... his behavior is reminiscent of that legendary line from Le Morte D’Arthur when Lancelot says to Guinevere: “Shut thine trap, ignorant strumpet!” Never mind, I think I’m quoting a drunk at Ren Faire. Even if you were totally wrong 99% of the time and he was an enlightened scholar, you should still feel comfortable coming to your man when you have concerns and be able to disagree with him without being berated. Unfortunately, you’re in love with a mean idiot. No …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 09:25 PM
2

Do you live close enough that you and your brother would be able to stop over your family's house for coffee and dessert by yourselves?
/r/RedPillWives19/11/18 05:30 PM
23

Some guys consider a woman asking them questions about anything to be shit test. Careful vetting eliminates such men. ;-)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 09:15 PM
3

It’s his responsibility to manage his own baggage and his own healing. If he has such severe trust issues that misunderstandings and arguments are a fairly regular thing, then maybe he shouldn’t be in a serious relationship until he sorts himself out. The only thing you can do is be trustworthy, transparent, and consistent... as you would be whether or not you were with a guy who had been cheated on in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 03:21 AM
15

So jealous that you’re going to meet GEOTUS and Melania! I would go with something elegant with some sparkle. Of course, I love sparkle normally, but I think it would be even more appropriate since you’re meeting the Trumps.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 03:17 AM
18

I now understand the appeal of monasteries.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/18 12:11 AM
8

I can't speak for anyone else's man, but when my captain's stress level is off the charts, he just wants to hide in his man cave. Anything I do to dote upon him while he's in this state is received about as well as stepping on an angry dog's tail. I save my acts of comfort and service for when he's a more chilled out and indicates that he is ready to engage with humanity again.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 08:59 PM
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When you're huge and your nesting instinct kicks in at 100%, you're going to be so relieved that you're not going to have to deal with all extra crap that you're not using and that everything is safely tucked away in bins. Also, don't make the mistake that I did and make decisions based on how much time and energy you have now... simply put, you won't have a surplus of either of those resources once you're the size of a house and/or you have Babywithgirlwithabike with whom to contend. ​
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 08:52 PM
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My Dad never spanked me because he didn’t want me to grow up thinking it would ever be right for another man to lay his hands on me. That’s the lesson I want to continue for my daughter. Similarly, I don’t want to raise my son to be the kind of man to use violence to coerce or assert his authority on another person.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 01:55 AM
6

Yes women age like milk... fortunately cheese pairs well with wine.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 01:24 AM
2

That’s so beautiful and succinct.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 01:41 PM
2

My husband and I got together in our early 30s. When we agreed that we were going to be exclusive-- about 1 month into the relationship-- we also shared that our end goal was marriage and children. If we were younger, we might not have been so straight-forward so soon; I imagine we would've dated for a while and the subject would've come up organically as a "hypothetical."
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 12:15 PM
3

Inexperienced is different from immature.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 12:31 PM
17

Why did you fall in love and marry him? And don't just say were young and naive... you were 25, not 15.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 07:43 PM
2

Oh what do we know? I'm sure her future suitor won't mind at all the OP makes no effort to befriend his sister or his Mom, and that he hardly gets invited to parties anymore because she's nasty to his friends' wives.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 05:02 PM
3

I don't think other women are as preoccupied with you as you are with yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 11:34 AM
6

If I skip breakfast, I’m ready to gnaw my arm off by lunch and I inevidably make a bad choice. I had a trainer advise me to eat something high in protein within 2 hours of waking up to kick-start my metabolism for the day. If you need to skip a meal, it should be dinner, since you will be going to bed soon after anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 05:27 PM
3

Damn I’m old.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 02:05 PM
23

If my husband had his way, I would probably be dressed like Mary Ann from Gilligan's Island every day.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 04:23 AM
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If your husband tells you your beautiful and still wants to have sex with you regularly, then believe him instead of driving yourself nuts with self doubts. Your kid hasn’t even been born yet; give yourself time to physically and mentally recover before you start worrying about looking hot in a bikini. Your #1 concern for personal wellbeing for the first 6 months of your kid’s life should be getting enough sleep. In fact, not succumbing to exhaustion is about 90% of the challenge when trying to …
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:58 AM
3

If he reacts badly to you saying I love you after several months of dating, then you probably shouldn’t be going on a trip together away.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 02:44 PM
4

Think of it this way... if he was a total dick who treated you like a cheap booty call would you still want to fuck him on a regular basis? Probably not. It sounds like the guy is a decent person who takes the “friends” part of the “friends with benefits” seriously, is even if doesn’t have any interest in a committed relationship with you. I don’t think cheapening your view of sex is going to heal you or make you immune from pain in the future; if anything, your current strategy is tanking your …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 01:58 AM
1

Think of it as getting some good exercise, too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 04:00 PM
3

In addition to Laura Doyle's unholy trinity of addiction, abuse and cheating, I'll add these: It is not possible to save a relationship when one partner is committed to saving it, but the other person wants out. It can be difficult to tell when your partner has reached that point, but one sign could be that he acts so disinterested in you that he can't even bother to engage in an argument with you and basically carries on with his life as if you don't exist. Another sign is if he always looks at…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 08:45 PM
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“we also had almost nothing in common.” Looks like you answered your own question.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 05:14 AM
2

The best way to avoid arguments is to not engage in conversations that touch on these topics, even when she brings them up. It’s nearly impossible to argue what is, at this point, purely hypothetical so it’s a waste of energy anyway. Save your energy for disagreements over things that are actually happening. Also, a little empathy on your part goes a long way, too. She may perceive your life choices as a criticism of hers, so instead of saying “I disagree because of xyz” you might be able to def…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 10:34 PM
1

The no-brainer way to avoid looking like “mutton-dressed-as-lamb” is to not shop at stores that aren’t targeted at your age group. If the models in the catelogues or web sites weren’t even born when you reached voting age, the clothes are too young for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 09:58 PM
2

Have you actually met him in person?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/18 07:00 PM
4

Thanks for this debunking! I get annoyed when I hear ladies say they’re afraid of lifting weights because they might bulk up. Chicks do not look get that scary, bulked up look unless they’re taking steroids or hitting the bench like a maniac. Our bodies just aren’t built to pack on muscle that way.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 10:13 PM
2

What do you mean by him not putting in as much effort as he used to?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 02:18 PM
2

There's so many options for figure-flattering outdoor attire.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 11:27 AM
2

OK keep doing what you're doing, since it's working out so well.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 11:25 AM
3

You said in your comments that at one point you were spending whole weekends together. As for cleaning the air BnB, you had nothing better to do with your day off then clean it for him? It’s his responsibility as the property owner to take care of it, and if he didn’t have the time, he could’ve hired a maid. This is precisely what I mean by showing that your time has value.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 10:36 AM
2

Lesson #1: No matter how hot and heavy a guy is when he meets you, keep a handle on your emotions and don’t dive in head first. Part of why you became such a mess was because you overinvested your time and emotions with someone you barely knew. This means that just because a guy you met on vacation wants to spend every weekend with you and is calling you incessantly for the first week doesn’t mean you put a halt to the rest of your life and not keep any distance while you’re vetting him. Lesson …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:25 PM
2

If he dumped his girlfriend of 3 years for an LDR with you, then what you describe as “rough times” was probably the death rattle of their relationship. The only thing stopping him from dumping her sooner was his own fear of being alone, as indicated by how he said he sometimes regretted breaking up with her out of loneliness. You and his ex are putting all the responsibility on your shoulders for what was entirely his decision. What should concern you going forward is whether he will man up and…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 01:59 PM
4

Says a really hot woman, actually. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 05:23 PM
5

Yup!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 05:20 PM
4

Maybe if you spent all that time and effort you spend catfishing into a career or time at the gym, you would get laid more than once every leap year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 05:12 PM
3

Pro football players are in the upper stratosphere of wealth and status where race and/or ethnicity becomes essentially inconsequential.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 05:09 PM
11

It will be a miniature divorce... so there's a chance you might just stay and one day, marriage will seem like the next step, not because it's right, but because it's what people do. At least in a divorce, the state has rules regarding division of assets and property. Breaking up when you're living together is all the mess of divorce with none of the legal clarity.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 05:03 PM
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If marriage is your ultimate goal, you should wait until you're married to live together. If that's not realistic, wait until you're engaged (with a date set) or, at the very minimum, have a timeline in place for when you expect to get engaged or married. Otherwise, you run the risk of the guy dragging his heels because he has no incentive to marry when he's already getting the wife experience, or worse; you get the "marriage is just a piece of paper" conversation. Some may disagree with me on t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 05:01 PM
2

Late 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 07:16 PM
3

I said crazy feminists not all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 06:53 PM
4

To balance things out, I will speak of the times in which I was the shitty instigator of break ups. I was the Queen of Ghosting before ghosting was a thing. One day I would be in love, the next day I would be in contempt. I had a broken hearted guy call my parents house to make sure I was still alive because he couldn’t believe I would just disappear on him like that. Most recently, I was really into one guy but I wasn’t sure if he would commit to me, so I went on a few casual dates with another…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 03:31 PM
2

If he was able to excel and Ivy League institutions, climb to the top of his chosen profession, raise a beautiful, loving family all while being a drunken brawler who successfully ran rape gangs that went unnoticed for almost 40 years, I say his temperament is superb. But in all seriousness, complaining about his temperament (under such extreme circumstances) is what vapid idiots like yourself have to say when the facts don’t line up with your opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 03:01 PM
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MeToo is what happens when a social movement has achieved its goals but needs to contrive new injustices in order to justify its continued existence. Women have the right to vote, own property, obtain credit, work in whatever their profession they choose, marry who they want, fuck whoever they want, or stay single if they choose. Feminists have no reason to exist whatsoever. Perhaps this is why they welcome the Islamification of the Western World. It would give them something useful to do with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:43 PM
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The sex must’ve been amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:58 PM
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And women who aren’t fat or butt ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:56 PM
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I always laugh at people (like Madonna for example) who claim to have been some famous and important person in a past life. I always say, if reincarnation does exist, you were most likely a poor farmer, not Cleopatra.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:54 PM
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Precisely. By contrast, society was already moving toward consensus on issues such as gay marriage and segregation long before the Supreme Court took up those cases. Roe v Wade was also decided based on completely stretching the interpretation of the right to privacy. Just because something is legal (or should be, depending on your perspective) doesn’t mean it’s a right guaranteed by the Constitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:50 PM
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He will always have a cloud of suspicion over him for the rest of his life. And just because they failed to destroy him utterly doesn’t mean they didn’t try.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:44 PM
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I am a woman, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:59 AM
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That's like 10 times better than slam poetry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:48 AM
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I feel the same way, too. I used to be pro-choice and then I was undecided. But considering how feminists have gone completely off the deep end and went so far as to destroy an innocent man's life to protect Roe v Wade (without even knowing if he would overturn it!) completely turned me to the other side. I hope all those cunts bleed out from back alley abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:43 AM
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Will you toss them from helicopters? At least figuratively?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:40 AM
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Lying about slang words is complete bullshit. Slang evolves and changes meaning over time. There was no Urban Dictionary to consult in 1982. But what about Ford's lies? She lied about the reason for the second door to her house (which was about the stupidest lie I ever heard), she lied about being afraid to fly, she lied about hearing Kavanaugh and Judge talking with other people down the hall, and the only details she claimed she "couldn't remember" were, very conveniently, those that would've …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 11:26 AM
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+/u/User_Simulator RubyWooToo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:05 AM
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Please explain to me what the “appropriate” response should be to bring falsely accused of a heinous crime, having your life called into question, your character wantonly besmirched, and your wife and daughters suffer humiliation and threats of violence. The women throwing tantrums on the steps of Congress and the Supreme Court were upset that they weren’t getting their way. Kavanaugh was fighting for his life, career, and family. That’s the difference!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 01:53 AM
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He sounds like an insufferable buffoon.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 10:49 AM
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Happy to join in. I probably have better things I should be doing anyway. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 03:22 PM
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Lol!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 01:38 AM
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Great advice! It’s sad there isn’t more advice for women on how pregnancy effects relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 07:06 PM
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Why should he grow and change when he has all the emotional and sexual benefits of a relationship with you with absolutely none of the commitment? If he should change for himself and absorb RP truths, what makes you think he’ll still want you? How do you expect to attract a suitable captain when you’re still emotionally and sexually involved with your ex? How much have you really learned about self-improvement and RPW if you’re still sleeping with a man who you don’t consider worthy of your comm…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 05:19 PM
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I just got around to reading that ridiculous Stony Brook link that appears on the warning page when you try to go to the TRP subreddit, and if I didn't know any better, I would think it was satire. Also, that warning message will be about as effective at deterring interested male readers as a parental advisory for sex and nudity is at stopping teenage boys who used to watch Cinemax at 2 AM.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 10:41 PM
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It's not always hateful and sexist drivel! There are frequently really chipper posts about abortions, and detailed, fetishistic accounts of rape and abuse that would make E.L. James blush.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 05:48 AM
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I think it’s fine to ask him for an engagement ring. You don’t have to get a diamond, but I advise against any cheap metals or cubic zerconia. You want a stone that is durable and a metal that isn’t going to give you a rash or turn your skin green.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 08:50 PM
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It seems like in your case that your guy was at least open to the idea of being exclusive with you and your relationship was already functioning as a committed one even though you hadn’t put the label on it yet. This is way different than the posts we see occasionally where a woman says, “He’s SO BUSY with work that he only comes over to my place to hump once a month but I’m totally his girlfriend, right?”
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:36 AM
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Know what your man finds attractive and style yourself accordingly. If you don’t yet have a man, imagine your ideal man and the type of woman he might be drawn to. Is your ideal man a Master of the Universe? Ivanka or Melania Trump should be your style muse. Is he an outlaw biker? Try getting Betty Page bangs and a leather mini. Is he an artist or musician? Channel your inner Zoey Deschanel. I’m not saying you should turn yourself into a walking cliche; rather, you just have a template in mind f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:27 AM
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RPW does not advocate starting out as a plate, even though it’s possible in some situations to get upgraded to girlfriend or wife. As my husband would say, “You can make exceptions to rules, but you shouldn’t base rules on the exceptions.”
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:11 AM
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Nah, her attitude is common among women who prefer beta orbiters to friends.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 03:41 PM
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If you can’t get along with 50% of the population, you have a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:11 PM
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If you move to another part of the country (such as the South or the Midwest), there might be more masculine men who are looking for a traditional relationship, but there will also be more women to compete with whose value system is more compatible than yours with the men that you want.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 09:36 PM
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If you want to be led by a man, then you need to be prepared to follow him, even if it's not always according to your terms.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:32 PM
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If artsy effeminate men don't fulfill your needs, then what do you have to offer to fulfill the needs of the type of men that you want?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:29 PM
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Even if she looks great in a bikini after birth, her hormones will still need get back in balance and she might experience postpartum depression to some degree, especially without support and love from a partner. Sleep deprivation also takes its toll mentally and physically. Also, one of things I learned from having kids that no doctors mentioned is that nursing kills your sex drive, dries you out, and your inner lining thins out so sex can be painful. Hopefully, she will be one of the lucky peo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 01:36 PM
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You shouldn’t be thinking about men at all right now; your focus should be 100% on caring for your child and being able to support him or her. It is extremely difficult to raise a child without a partner, even if you have your own money and a support system. Getting back into the dating pool should be very low on your list of priorities, at least for the first year of your child’s life. And sorry, but there is no way to prepare for a “quick” recovery from child birth. Even if you’re in tip-top p…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 11:46 AM
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One way is to dress in lingerie or wear very little around him. He will automatically see that has an invitation to sex. Rub up against him when you walk past him, or grope him playfully. When he leans in to kiss you, respond passionately.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 10:47 PM
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The length of a relationship is no indication of its quality. It’s great that your arrangement works for you. But one person winning the lotto is not an argument for everyone to quit their day jobs. What I see in OP’s situation is a guy switching the onus of responsibility for his own desires from himself to the OP. If she declines to open the relationship, then she’s the mean controlling girlfriend. If she dumps him, then he can say it’s her fault for not being open minded. If she agrees to the…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 09:16 PM
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Nice try, OP’s boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:42 PM
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<stands and salutes>
/r/PussyPassDenied13/09/18 05:55 PM
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Shower at night and wake up 30 minutes earlier than usual.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 02:53 PM
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This, lady readers, is a perfect example of how awesome sex can totally cloud your judgement. Contrary to popular opinion on RPW, holding out on sex until a man has been thoroughly vetted and commitment is secured has less to do with not being a slut or using sex as a bargaining chip and more to do with being able to identify a relationship is a train wreck waiting to happen BEFORE you get emotionally attached to a guy. OP, I’m sure this comment offends you and you’re prepared to list off a whol…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 02:30 PM
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Male friends are fine. A bunch of dudes waiting in your batting lineup is not.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 08:07 PM
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Did you gain weight since you’ve been with him or were you more or less the weight you are now?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 04:38 PM
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If people want to destroy their health and their own bodies, that's their business. But don't demand that I should be supportive of people damaging their health and their bodies while putting an undue burden on our health care system in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 02:29 PM
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There are genetic factors that predisposition someone to becoming obese... but if you take steps to prevent that, such as eating healthy and maintaining an active lifestyle, you're less likely to become obese. For all I know, I might have a genetic disposition toward getting lung cancer. Fortunately, I'll most likely never find out because I'm not a smoker and not regularly subjected to toxic air conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 02:23 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 02:22 PM
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People also develop endocrine disorders *because* they destroyed their bodies by eating crap and packing on more pounds then the body is equipped to carry. Then they say "but muh thyroid!" after the fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 02:16 PM
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I think you're confusing SMV and RMV. A high SMV man can sleep with any woman he wants; a man who also has high RMV won't.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 10:07 PM
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These women are misguided. Just because a guy is willing to bang you it doesn’t mean he considers you girlfriend material, just as a man who prefers filet mignon for dinner won’t turn down the occasional hot dog.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 07:10 PM
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If my math is correct, you’re not even 25 yet. You have plenty of opportunities still ahead of you to meet a marriage-worthy guy. Of course you made a dumb relationship decision with your teenage sweetheart; you would be an anomaly if you didn’t. Actually I’m not even convinced that your sweetheart would’ve been the best match for you in the long term. The only qualities he possessed is that he didn’t hurt you. Well, neither did half a dozen men you probably know, but you’re not married to them …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 02:54 PM
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Be kind, respectful and warm towards them. Also, don’t go overboard trying to be complimentary or agreeable as it may make you come across as phoney; whatever you say should come from the heart.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 05:32 PM
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The silent treatment is cruel because it shows that you don’t care enough about the person to even engage with them verbally.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 02:13 PM
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Why do you need to participate in those threads? And no, 90% of the questions and discussions aren’t specific to marriage... in fact, I would say a majority of the posters are still dating.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 02:00 PM
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It is that simple; I think you're overly complicating it. Alternately, you could tell him to narrow down his choice to two vehicles and you'll tell him which you prefer.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 02:21 PM
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"Honey I don't want to be involved in the car buying process. I trust you will make a great choice."
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 12:00 AM
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Other than emotional support, the most critical role of a husband during pregnancy and childbirth is being the mother and baby’s advocate... he should be respected and well-informed enough to speak up with something doesn’t seem right, ask for second opinions, and step in to make decisions if his wife can’t speak for herself. My father’s intervention during my mother’s delivery likely prevented me from getting seriously injured when she was giving birth. When I gave birth to my twins and was a p…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 01:47 PM
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You can find a meetup or even go to a convention for one shot games! Don’t feel intimidated; most people are really nice!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 11:56 PM
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Not sure if you're a nerd or not, but gaming groups or conventions (for board games or table top role playing) is a great way to meet new people and have fun in a low stress environment.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 07:55 PM
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You can walk and chew gum at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 08:41 PM
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The important thing to take from your comment is that you both had shared values and you married young, indicating that both marriage and physical intimacy is important to you both.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 01:45 PM
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If you’re religious, or from an ethnic or social group that prized virginity, and you plan to marry young to someone from your religion or group, then yes, I think staying a virgin is prudent and practical. But if you’re ideal mate is “secular” and you don’t plan on getting married until your mid to late 20s at the earliest, then remaining a virgin until marriage isn’t realistic or desirable to the type of person you want to attract. Men who do not share cultural or religious preferences for vir…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 01:44 PM
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How vigorous are the physical activities? If you’re going to do some serious hiking, you need to invest in hiking boots or sturdier shows than sneakers. Also get a pair of convertible pants (the kind where you can zip off the portion at the knee and turn them into shorts if it gets to hot). There is nothing sexy about twisting an ankle or getting tick bites. Also, don’t overpack. It’s perfectly fine to rough it and wear the same thing more than once, and I doubt you’ll need a ton of dresses and …
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:29 AM
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Thank you for introducing me to the phrase “buckle bunny.” I have to find an excuse to you it in conversation. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:17 AM
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She might have gotten to the door, but it doesn’t appear she’s opened any. It looks like all she does it get paid pennies to write inane posts on a bunch of crap women’s web sites. According to her, Instagram “stardom” hasn’t done much either other than get her free products and messages from creepers. You don’t even need a GED to pull that off.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 02:50 PM
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So that’s what a Harvard education gets you these days?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 01:03 PM
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It’s a good idea to read the journalists’ previous articles if you are solicited for an interview.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 07:35 PM
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The important distinction here between having a child with a deceased partner and being divorced or broken up is that the men who might consider dating OP won’t have to factor in the aggravation of dealing with an ex-husband or a boyfriend. He won’t need to negotiate parenting with another man. If they marry and he wants to adopt OP’s child as his own in the future, he could without any legal wrangling. There’s still emotional baggage with being a widow or a child whose father is dead, but at le…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 04:42 PM
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So there are quite a few red flags here: He cheated on his ex-wife and clearly hasn’t resolved his own issues that led to that. You’ve been in an LDR the entirety of your relationship. You only just met his kids after getting engaged. This is one of those posts that’s hard to give advice for because I feel like I’m only seeing the tip of the iceberg.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 03:09 AM
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It’s not fear mongering. Women’s fertility declines at the age of 35 and goes off a cliff beginning at age 40. Some women like your Mom are lucky enough to have enough high quality eggs to start their family that late in life but that doesn’t mean waiting so long to start a family is good advice for most women. Source: I had to undergo fertility treatments after 2 miscarriages messed up my tubes. I did a lot of research on this topic and my doctor was very upfront with me about what my odds woul…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 02:53 AM
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Just because she didn’t jump in bed with you immediately doesn’t mean it didn’t work. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 02:43 AM
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So many male lurkers are going to read this post, try to mimic Hank (“hey baby look at my abs!”) and fail spectacularly.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 11:04 PM
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My thoughts: You follow him because he inspires you, not because you’re intimidated by him. He can admit when he’s wrong and take corrective measures. He is aware of his strengths and weaknesses, and isn’t so proud that he won’t seek advice from you or another person who has more expertise or experience in an area he may be lacking. He’s trustworthy and transparent. He’s not afraid to take risks but he also knows how to show restraint. Even if you disagree with his course of action, you always f…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 11:01 PM
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Here’s my list: Our finances were previously separate; we eventually joined our finances for household expenses and than eventually my husband took over all the financial responsibilities. We did not make any major purchases together such as a house or car until we married. I cut out friends from my life that didn’t like him and didn’t treat him respectfully. My allegiance shifted from my family to him. This process started once we were engaged, but once we married it was much less of a struggle…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 06:48 PM
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If you were engaged and had a date set for when you were going to marry, would you still feel bad that you were having sex with him?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 02:48 AM
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That’s a great idea!
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/18 04:48 PM
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I’m a stay-at-home Mom but that doesn’t mean my husband does no housework or child rearing. If that were the case, then that would mean he works an 8 hour day and my day is 24 hours. Now, do I do the bulk of the housekeeping? Yes, but there are a few chores (like cleaning the litter, breaking up the cardboard recycling, and taking out the garbage) that are his responsibility. I also expect a little courtesy on his part, such as not making a huge mess in the kitchen for me to clean up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 10:10 PM
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If you would rather be a woman’s first rather than her last, go ahead, date only virgins.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 03:34 AM
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I remember your posts! Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 03:30 AM
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I like to think of love as a verb and not a noun. It’s something that you must actively do, not something that you have or don’t. Love is earned and maintained, when both partners are committed to each other’s well-being and happiness and demonstrate that consistently through their actions. Love is gone when the actions stop.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 01:07 PM
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I don’t think it’s a coincidence that my embrace of the Red Pill and my re-engagement with my Catholic faith happened at the same time. One of the distinguishing features of Catholicism among Christian sects is the veneration of Mary. Catholics are taught that Mary was integral to preparing Christ for his mission as the redeemer, and as demonstrated by the Wedding at Cana, his first miracle was completed at her prompting. How all this related to RPW, I suppose, is that one of the great powers of…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 01:03 PM
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“I asked about what color curtains I should buy, not how to stop my house from burning down.”
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:37 AM
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/u/girlwithabike was giving you sound advice not just for this situation but to help you in the long term.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 09:22 PM
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I think you’re making up a fantasy about this guy that may or may not actually jive with reality. Try dating people that you meet in real life. Although it’s generally frowned upon, I met my husband because he was friends with one of my exes. But my ex and I had been broken up for years before my husband and I started dating, and their friendship was waning, so it didn’t really make much of a difference to him at that point whether my ex was pissed about it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 07:48 PM
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Butch lesbians, much like hyper flamboyant and effeminite gay men, are simply more visible and hence more “over represented” in the public’s perception.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 03:33 AM
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What about changing your major, getting an associate’s (2-year degree), or vocational training in a trade that interests you? No matter how successful your husband is or happy your marriage is right now, you don’t want to be in a position where you wouldn’t be able to put food in your own mouth.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 03:24 AM
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If all the details have been out for a year, then you’re really only a year out from infidelity, which isn’t that long at all. He might also be worried that another anvil could fall on his head at any time; that’s just a consequence of not only the initial deceit but of holding the truth from him for as long as you did. You’re going to have to accept that the current state of affairs is going to be the status quo for a while. I know that’s not what you want to hear. The only thing that can help …
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 10:17 PM
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The unfortunate reality of infidelity is that you will never get the benefit of the doubt again, even if your husband manages to forgive you and your marriage heals for the most part. People are willing to overlook a lot of our flaws in the course of a marriage, but once you’ve stabbed your spouse in the back in such a profound way, he will always ask himself “Why am I putting up with this from a woman like that?” How long was your affair and when did you actually come completely clean about it?…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 06:41 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 01:40 AM
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You still participated in adultery. If you don’t respect someone else’s marriage how can he expect you to respect your own?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 01:37 AM
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Things like women voting, being able to own property, get an education, and being able to choose their spouse and their profession are all great aspects of feminism (at least first wave feminism). But feminism (as you have learned) is not an ideology that works as a framework for romantic relationships between men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 07:24 PM
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What area of my relationship with my husband should I focus on improving in the next few months?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 07:20 PM
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What journal do you publish in?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 10:38 PM
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You’re not attracting them; those are the type of men to whom you’re attracted.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 07:20 PM
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You’ve been raped and your response to this is to only date men you met online and can’t get to know ahead of a relationship? And that makes sense to you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 03:50 PM
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I considered dating older men when I was in my 20s but never went further than a couple dates because it was apparent they were either just looking for sex or someone they thought was pliable and easy to control. Also, I couldn’t imagine bringing a substantially older guy out to a party with my friends or home to my parents, when he would essentially be their peer!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 03:19 AM
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A woman in her 30s with even an inkling of sense would’ve probably run screaming from him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 03:10 AM
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A man who truly loves you and treasures you is not going to force you to do things that hurt you or make you feel demeaned and uncomfortable. If certain acts are a mandatory part of his sexual repertoire, but you don't want to do them, then you're simply incompatible and should part ways. The way to not see yourself as a victim is to see yourself as a survivor. You don't have to be proud of who you became despite your upbringing... you can see your upbringing as forging you into a stronger perso…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 01:44 PM
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I guess it depends on the circumstances in which the statement "You wouldn't have that if it wasn't for me" was made. If my husband punched me in the face and said he was entitled to do so because he pays the mortgage, I would tell him to go fuck himself and go home to my parents' basement if that's what I had to do. If he made that statement because I was bitching about how he has to work late often, then he would be completely justified.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 01:40 PM
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How about suggesting an activity other than a meal or drinks, such as going to a gallery, for a hike, or a visiting a historical site? Maybe get a Groupon for a cool activity?
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 01:36 PM
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In most cases, being boastful reeks of overcompensation. A secure man doesn't need to talk about what a prize he is because its clearly apparent to everyone who encounters him. Also, if he's not contacting her at all for three weeks at a time, he's not interested in a serious relationship, at least with OP.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 01:26 PM
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I don't like either of these guys. The first guy thinks he's God's gift to women and probably won't commit to you; the second guy seems like the type to put you on a pedestal before tearing you down.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:16 PM
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He doesn't seem like he's into you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:15 PM
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So why not plan a romantic fishing trip for just the two of you another time?
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 07:12 PM
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Even if your husband doesn't mind, you should let him go and enjoy his time alone with his guy friends. You are his wife, not one of the guys.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 02:12 PM
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It doesn’t matter how attractive and fit you are... you’ll be approaching menopause (and all the complications that go with that) when your husband is still in the prime of his life.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/18 09:33 PM
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You’re getting beat up on for the entitlement, so I’m going to offer some constructive perspective, since you seem despondent. Most 22-year-old women are not dating in men in their 30s and 40s; they’re dating guys close to their age or a few years older who are their peers in school or in their social circle. Also, the men in their 30s and 40s who are able to date codes successfully (and not come off as total creeps) are the exception not the rule. If you’re an attractive 29-year-old, there’s no…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/18 09:16 PM
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I totally agree with this but, but unfortunately, in some “Old World” cultures a man’s failure to call his Mama for her birthday or to dress well for an occasion would reflect badly on his wife. My family is Sicilian and this happens all the time. Most recently, my Dad commented that my male cousin was really overweight and criticized his wife for not “making” him eat better and go to the gym.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 09:43 PM
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Amen. If the misbehaving friend in this situation reasonably believed that a beat down would be imminent for putting his hands on the OP, he would think twice about it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 09:32 PM
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A woman who thinks her day should be a 100% over the minute her husband comes home isn't being fair to him. But just the same, a man who thinks his job is 8 hours a day and his wife's job is 24 hours a day isn't being fair to her either; he's also depriving his children of the benefits that his help can add to their lives. The reality is that child rearing requires a great deal of sacrifice from both parents; the trick is to recognize both of your contributions to the household and give each oth…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 07:24 PM
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Your boss is absolutely wrong, and if you're based in the U.S., this male colleague is a lawsuit waiting to happen. There is no way that touching you on the thigh and making sexual comments can be interpreted as benign and platonic.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 07:06 PM
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I would ask your husband this: "How much respect do you think your friend has for you if he feels he can grope and make passes at me without any consequences?"
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 06:59 PM
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I wrote about the Wall extensively in another post if you're interested, but in brief, there are many factors a part from age that influence when a woman hits the Wall and how detrimental it is when she gets there. I'm not denying that the Wall's existance, but based purely on the information that's in this post, we can't safely determine whether age alone affected this particular man's decision to commit to one woman versus another. SMV is only part of the equation; there is RMV to consider as …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 05:40 PM
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You honestly can't win so I try to make sure my man and I are happy and everyone else comes second. :) Seriously. As long as man is happy and my children are healthy, I really don't care what the hens are clucking about.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 05:31 PM
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Women who are housewives criticize women who work. Women who work criticize women who are housewives. Generally speaking, there's nothing that makes women feel better about themselves than looking down their noses at other women. If there's a lesson for RPWs here, it's that if we're ever tempted to judge another woman for her lifestyle and choices, maybe we need to be more circumspect about our own.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 05:01 PM
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There's not an evil curse that comes down upon a woman on her 28th birthday or any other arbitrary age. In the example you provided, it's likely that the 33-year-old who dated the guy you're talking about for years could've seen the writing on the wall much earlier that he wasn't going to commit to her; the fact that that they were dating "on and off" is a clear indication that he didn't see her as wife material, for a myriad of reasons that might not even be related to her age. Also, the 24-yea…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 04:24 PM
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When my husband and I say we are "lucky to have each other", I take it to mean that we are fortunate that the course of our lives brought us together so we could meet and fall in love.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:34 PM
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The fact that feminists are hung up on the single issue of abortion and perpetuate the belief that women would be slaves without it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:19 PM
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This is absolutely revolting. The only thing that will change your husband is reincarnation.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:10 PM
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When I was single, my yellow flags were fucked-up family, friends were assholes or mistreated their own wives or girlfriends, lamenting about his "crazy" exes, and love-bombing. Red flags (or more appropriately, auto-dealbreakers) were history of addiction, cheating, abuse of any kind, and mothers who disliked me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 07:51 PM
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He’s just going to hook up with you when convenient while he searches for a woman he and his family approve of as a prospective wife.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 07:32 PM
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When I was dating and on a diet, I never discussed my dieting strategy and exercise regiment with men I was dating; they just saw the results (a fit woman who takes care with what she eats). It is the same with Red Pill. He doesn’t need to know your strategy or philosophy; let him just enjoy the results.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 12:42 PM
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It all depends on how these friendships are conducted. Does he introduce you to these women or keep these friendships hidden? Is he flirtatious with them or does he have strong boundaries? Does he ever complain about you to them? Do they have respect for your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 09:33 AM
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If you’re not married and you don’t have kids, you’re not “stay-at-home” anything... you’re merely unemployed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 08:26 AM
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Taking this approach with a man that you just started dating is like interviewing for an entry-level job and insisting that you be made CEO within a year. There is an important distinction to be made between communicating your life goals and issuing demands.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 08:21 AM
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Most men are not willing to destroy their families just so they can run around chasing young tail. The men who would be inclined to do this can easily be sorted out through proper vetting, and are less inclined to get married in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 08:15 AM
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I would never want to make a man I really cared about and who I know was really into me feel anxious and unsafe in the relationship. The only men who this type of tactic would work on are guys who like the chase more than the actual relationship (and who will dump you once the conquest is complete) or guys who are desperate.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 08:02 AM
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You started dating a teenager and didn’t discuss dealbreaker issues before you married? That’s nuts.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 10:48 PM
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Why didn’t you and your husband have this conversation before you were married? Also, is it possible that if he wants children he might leave for a woman who shares his goal?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 11:47 AM
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Call your doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 03:33 AM
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A false article from 2 years ago. F for effort.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 03:24 AM
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If winning pointless political arguments on the Internet is more important than staying married to a quality man, you should try asking for advice on TwoX.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 08:22 PM
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If there is one bit of advice to take from all her books, STFU would be it. I can’t count how many needless arguments or hours of stress we have been spared by this simple tactic.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 07:17 PM
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The article you linked to had nothing to do with banning immigration from the Netherlands or the issue at hand. If this is how you will continue to persist in your arguments with your husband, you will soon enjoy Barcelona as a single woman.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 06:49 PM
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Trump didn’t call for banning Muslims... he called for banning immigration from a specific set of war-torn countries with no functioning governments or ability to vet immigration candidates. Last I heard, the Netherlands was not on that list. If your husband— who arguably has more reason to be perturbed by Trump than you do— isn’t concerned about moving to Silicon Valley, then you shouldn’t either. It’s in the best interests of both your marriage and your sanity that you trust in your husband’s …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 06:24 PM
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If you suck in bed and are generally a mean prick to women after you sleep with them, then yeah, you should be worried about fucking women in the same circle because your bad reputation will get around quickly. But if you're a great lover and manage to keep a friendly rapport with your conquests, then your stock will actually go up.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 05:34 PM
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Avoid waistshaperz (the ones you probably see a lot on Facebook). They're cheaply made and overpriced. Corsetdeal.com is a good web site if you want to find a decently-made corset that isn't way over budget.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 03:38 PM
1

What sad times we live in.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 12:47 PM
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I recommend reading /u/girlwithabike 's Field Report Tragedy - When femininity should take the lead. It has a lot of great advice for how to support your man during a time of grief.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 08:54 PM
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Valeria from the original Conan the Barbarian. She supported Conan on his quest to rescue King Osric's daughter and take revenge on Thulsa Doom (even though she didn't agree with the quest initially). She fought off the spirits of the Underworld when Conan was near death in exchange for her own life. Then her spirit returned from Valhalla (just as she promised she would!) for a brief moment during Conan's last epic battle again Thulsa Doom's men to fend off a blow that would have killed him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 04:33 PM
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Trudy from Mad Men was more quintessentially RPW. Stupid Pete didn't realize what a gem he had until the end.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 04:26 PM
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Has your husband given you any indication that he’s the kind of man who doesn’t respect his marriage vows, is concerned only with looks, or is otherwise not invested in the relationship? Why did he make such a big commitment as marriage in the first place? If he’s given you no reason to be insecure, it’s unfair to judge your husband’s motives and future actions based on the opinions of anonymous strangers on the Internet, especially from a subreddit consisting of much younger men who are mostly …
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 12:38 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 04:23 PM
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I think your idea of running errands and going to the gym after work sounds like a good idea so you're out of his way when he gets home and he gets an hour or two to decompress. If possible, I would try to arrange dinners so that you're eating at the same time, as I personally feel like dinner is valuable quality time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 05:52 PM
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Ok. I will admit, I originally came into this sub to laugh at the posts behind the shadows... But this really speaks to me! I have to admit that this made me happy. I discovered RPW by way of the Blue Pill subreddit, and was very surprised (to say the least) by how much the philosophy and wisdom of some of the ladies here really resonated with me. Please ignore the dude who told you that insecurity is hot and is an indication that you're not a whore, and that the only qualities that matter are l…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 04:37 PM
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I invite you to check out my posts "For Single Ladies Late to the Red Pill" Parts I, II, and II. I think you will find a wealth of advice that's very applicable for a woman of your age and circumstances. I have to ask, since you are devoutly religious, why haven't you yet found a man within your church or religious community? And please, give some more thought to this other than "I just haven't found the right guy yet." Most people who are devout and preserve their virginity for marriage marry q…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 04:23 PM
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Age alone isn't enough to exclude someone from the dating market, and I don't think it's too late to find love. Have you ever been married before? Would you be willing to consider someone older (60s or 70s)?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 04:11 PM
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I just read your other comment, in which you said this guy had 20 partners, 3 of which were affairs in his previous marriage. This is information that should’ve been included in your main post, because it’s pretty obvious that this is a guy who wants sex and has no compunctions about going outside his relationship to get it. The fact that he’s taken no personal responsibility for his infidelity doesn’t indicate that he has done anything to fix his character deficiencies. /u/TheLaughingRhino ‘s a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 06:09 PM
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If you want to debate with TRPs and RPWs go to /r/purplepilldebate. This is a subreddit for like-minded women to discuss our relationships and self-improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 05:23 PM
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I’m very happy that you found this helpful and hope 2018 brings you happiness and success!
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 03:46 PM
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Here’s what I see, based on this post and other advice you’ve asked for previously: You’re attracted to emotionally unavailable men, perhaps because of your unresolved Daddy issues. Some of these men might enjoy the chase more than the actual relationship. You’re not vetting properly, so you’re missing red flags and probably having sex before you’ve established a relationship, hence you’re getting quickly attached. You invest too much in the relationship too quickly. You bend over backwards for …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 03:43 PM
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If you have a low libido or asexual partner, then it’s possible for you to have a perfectly happy, RP-style relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 03:32 PM
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Thank you for the feedback!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 08:08 PM
4

I think “Don’t be an asshole, especially to your coworkers” is just common sense.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 03:12 PM
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I don’t see the hate toward fat people; I see hate toward complacency and entitlement. To use your analogy, if you were a paraplegic, life would still be challenging, but you could manage to have a healthy and happy lifestyle with physical therapy and the use of equipment like wheel chairs or prosthetic limbs. But if you laid around being pissed off that no one wants to carry you around in a palaquin, then you have unrealistic expectations of the world and are dooming yourself to misery.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 03:05 PM
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If you think that all RPW cares about is looks, then you need to spend some time reading the sidebar and the posts here because that’s definitely not the case. I think the language that you consider hateful is, purely and simply, inconvenient truth. Men only approach women they find physically attractive. If you take care of your body and your appearence, the more romantic options you will have. Your personality and intellect come will help you hang on to a man once you capture his interest. Las…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 02:52 PM
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You’re not rejecting him, you’re asking him to wait. If he gets frustrated or doesn’t understand that distinction too bad for him. Once you feel like you know him well and that you have long term prospects, and (most importantly!) you’ve agreed to to be monogamous with each other, then you have sex. If you were over 21, I would say 2-3 months would be reasonable, but as a teenager, it’s worth waiting longer. Trust me, you’re not going to miss out on the great love of your life if you don’t put o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 02:20 PM
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If you’re waiting until you’re in a committed relationship to have sex (meaning you’ve agreed to be exclusive after a few months of dating, just as a baseline) you’re going to naturally vet out guys who are only interested in sex and also guys with whom you have no long-term prospects for other reasons. So even if you’re not holding out until marriage, you’re unlikely to accumulate an n-count that’s problematic by employing this strategy. And just to confirm what you already know, no, you can’t …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 11:44 AM
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It’s a shame that the woman in your case couldn’t handle rejection gracefully and at least maintain a civil rapport with you in the workplace, but I would never advise anyone— man or woman— to try to be friends with someone for whom they have romantic feelings. More often than not, people stuck in the “friend zone” just spend all their time trying to get out of it, and by continuing to remain close to the person they desire, they’re never able to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 11:09 AM
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You can't get the time you already spent back, but you can stop wasting anymore time. Now that you're aware of the red flags, you can avoid them in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 12:28 AM
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It still wouldn’t matter. The women would just claim they were coerced into signing the contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 12:14 AM
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All of your questions essentially amount to "How do I manipulate and control this man into doing what I want?" This is the antithesis of being an RPW, and it's actually a shitty way to approach relationships in general. You've been rejected; you need to accept that and move on with your life. Focus on your own self-improvement and being desirable for the right man instead of focusing all your energy on this man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 07:35 PM
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Not to toot my own horn, but I pretty much wrote these following posts with ladies like you in mind: For Single Ladies Late to the Red Pill Parts I and II. I think they will help you improve your dating and relationship strategy going forward. But in brief, this guy is in no position to be in a committed relationship with you or anyone else, and being his doormat isn't going to change anything. I am willing to wait for him as long as it takes. I love him dearly and it hurts me to see that some m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 07:32 PM
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Now that's thinking outside the box! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 07:23 PM
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I think it’s apparent to your wife that underneath that athletic body of yours is a man who is indecisive and ineffective as leader. I don’t understand why you suddenly are so worried about keeping a wife you clearly despise. You could’ve asked for a divorce. You also could’ve let her find out about the affair and she would’ve either left you or gotten her ass in shape in order to win you back. Either way, you could’ve won, no? Marriage counseling is also a complete waste of time in your case be…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 05:24 PM
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I’m guessing that OP is in the military (not much else lucrative happening in Djibouti) so he sees this woman as a “great romance” when she was nothing more than a convenient port in the storm.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 05:13 PM
2

“This story again?”
/r/askTRP22/12/17 04:59 PM
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Just as high quality men have many options it is reasonable to expect that a high quality woman will have many options as well. But having options and evaluating potential mates is much different than seeing men as contenders for the honor of dating her, and any woman who would actually announce this to a potential partner clearly doesn’t respect the man she’s seeing and is utterly full of herself.
/r/askTRP22/12/17 04:57 PM
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Great post! One of the realizations I had after taking the Red Pill was how much my temper had eroded trust in my marriage. One of the major things I still actively work on is keeping a level head so my husband is assured that I'm not going to fly off the handle over mistakes or setbacks. For those who aren't already in a serious relationship and are seeking a man who will be a strong leader for the family, definitely avoid men who are inherently conflict avoidant. Even the most agreeable woman …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 01:06 PM
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It depends entirely on what the issues are in your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 05:40 PM
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Or, alternately, "We must persist until we've made all men completely undesirable!"
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 01:33 PM
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Having lovers outside of marriage-- with or without the husband's consent-- doesn't fit the RPW ideal, which is what's being discussed here. Discussions about an artist's life, and its potential impact on her ideas and character portrayals, isn't an ad hominem attack; it's a common aspect of literary criticism.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 01:29 PM
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I really respect Ann Coulter, but given that she's had several failed engagements and has remained single well into middle age, it's pretty apparent that her achievements came at a great expense to her personal life.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 07:13 PM
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One of the hardest challenges about fully surrendering is being gracious when your captain inevitably makes a mistake and fails. It's OK to feel angry and disappointed, but afford him the same patience and leeway that you will want for yourself when you screw up at something. This was just an honest oversight on his part... he didn't do anything reckless or severely betray your trust, like making a massive, risky investment without telling you or blowing the money on hookers and blow. It sucks y…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:22 PM
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I’m expecting twins in January, so my only New Years Resolution is really to keep them healthy and happy their first year of life while preserving some shred of sanity.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 12:54 PM
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Ayn Rand's female characters are pretty much the epitome of AWALT... hypergamous to a fault. I think it's worth noting that Ayn Rand cheated on her husband.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 09:55 PM
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Even if he's not as excited about politics as you, do you have compatible values? Do you generally agree on the way the world operates and are essentially sharing the same reality? If yes, then you're compatible and this shouldn't be an issue. If you're looking for your partner to fulfill all of your intellectual and emotional needs, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Friends, hobbies, and discussion groups exist for a reason. Your need to talk about the latest political book you're…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 03:36 PM
1

What about if he scheduled a specific 2-hour time slot each week where he could come over and help her with stuff?
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 03:25 PM
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I’m sorry for your loss! I’ve miscarried before but not so late term. Might I ask how your husband has been reacting to all this and how he has be coping? I think the hardest part about this process is when you’re both grieving it can be hard to be there for each other. I think you should let him know what you need. Do you want him to listen to you? Try to distract you? I think asking for specifics is more helpful than just saying you need emotional support. It’s also worth asking him what he ne…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 08:17 PM
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If you can't reconcile your sexual preferences then you break up, and that's fine. But more often than not, sex is not the primary cause of a relationship ending. If you're deeply attracted to someone, getting to know them well, and already have an emotional connection at the point where you commit and start sleeping together, more often than not, you'll be able to work together to find synergy on your sexual preferences. If sexual compatibility is repeatedly the cause of all or most of your rel…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 06:58 PM
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The rule for RPW is not to have sex unless you're in an exclusive, committed relationship with someone. If you're following that rule, it's unlikely that will you be accumulating such a high number of partners that your n-count will be problematic in your relationships. As I said in my first post, after 25 years old, the less likely men will ask you how many partners you've had. It's your approach to sex and relationships that will be scrutinized.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 06:50 PM
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Are there any cultural issues at play here? Or is your boyfriend essentially his mother's surrogate spouse? If the latter, then I'm sorry to break it to you, but as long as he's attached to his mother's leash, he will never be a leader to your family. Lately there’s been some emergency matters so it’s a bit hard to talk to him about that without sounding harsh or that I don’t care about his family since they’re going through some things. The "emergency matters" are only going to escalate the lon…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 06:17 PM
1

Are you invited to the party? Are the other guests welcome to bring their partners? Would that make a difference in whether you think this is appropriate?
/r/askTRP15/12/17 03:09 PM
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If one of your superiors wants to protect her job, then you need to make it clear to him that she's dragging the rest of the team down and will reflect poorly on the leadership if she doesn't step up to the plate. If he wants to keep her on, then he should be responsible for her failures and for taking the lead on training her to improve. If that doesn't happen, then go to the other superior and let him know what's going on.
/r/askTRP15/12/17 03:08 PM
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You have a seriously low self esteem if you think that the only options available to you are men that nobody else wants or men you couldn’t possibly keep. I recommend at least 6 months in Nun Mode (no dating, no sleeping around) to focus on getting over this guy and also working on self-improvement. You cannot find or keep a man of value if you have no such value yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 11:35 AM
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At this point, his apologies are meaningless if he's going to continue talking to you this way. The next time he starts berating you, you need to not engage him, and completely remove yourself from the situation (go for a drive, stay at a hotel, or go to a friend's house). I know you don't want to tell your friends what's going on, but there needs to be at least one person that you can confide in and at least say "We had a fight that wasn't being resolved so it was just best for both of us if I …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 11:07 PM
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Do "the talk." It's early and it seems appropriate. Nothing ventured or defined is nothing gained. I second this. When my husband and I were dating, he wasn't particularly consistent about calling or texting on regular basis. When I said "I would love to hear you from every day" he was happy with that. As it turned out, he was trying not to smother me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 10:56 PM
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Have you tried talking about this with him when you're not fighting? Have you suggested marriage counseling or tried to find out what he needs to work this out? It might be worth straight up asking if he wants to stay married to you. You might not get the answer you want to hear, but it honestly seems like he's trying to drive you to the point where you leave him. Let him know you're willing to put 100% in to fix the marriage, but you also love him enough to part ways amicably if the marriage is…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 10:40 PM
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Sounds like the old hens are just bored and need something to cluck about.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 02:53 PM
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Instead of waiting for him to go down on you after a blowjob, why not ask him to go down on you first and then reciprocate with a blowjob? As /u/teaandtalk said, after a guy blows his load, it's game over.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 02:19 PM
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I wish you all the best! If you want to learn more about bondage/BDSM in the context of a safe and loving relationship, I recommend The Loving Dominant. It's written by a husband and wife who are a dom and sub. This might be something you and your partner could read together.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 02:12 PM
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You say that you would like to be more of an "active" participant in bed; to do this, you need to be open to expressing your desires. It's not like you're ordering him around or making demands at his expense; if he loves you and prides himself on being a good lover, he wants to know how to please you. I also think you should change your approach to how you talk about sex. The conversation shouldn't be serious, like you're having a talk about how to split the bills. You say that you don't underst…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 09:48 PM
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I run him baths, make him soup, keep meds stocked, and make sure he has enough blankets while he's passed out in bed beneath a pile of cats. The only time I get on his case about seeing a doctor is if there is no improvement after a week, but this has only happened once.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 07:15 PM
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Latest research has shown that "man flu" is actually a thing. Also, in regards to sickness in general, men are less likely to go to a doctor for minor ailments and discomfort until an illness has progressed to the point that serious medical attention is needed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 07:12 PM
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Are you happy with the sex you're having?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 04:59 PM
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His teacher probably also got off on the fact that she somehow "winning" in a competition with the teenage girls she's probably jealous of by sleeping with one of their peers.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 08:09 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:59 PM
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I could probably write a whole other post about how to recognize a good captain versus a bad captain. But if I had to put it in a nutshell, it would be this: Do you follow his lead because he inspires you, has earned your trust, and has the vision, judgment, and skills necessary to steer your ship in the right direction? Or do you follow him because you are easily manipulated or frightened by him?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:59 PM
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It sounds like your husband was probably just overt with his enthusiasm to have finally found you, and wasn't actually engaging in love bombing as a manipulative tactic. :-) I'm glad you liked my quote... when my husband read that part of the post he was like, "WTF? Do women think this way?" Glad it's not just me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:52 PM
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I'm glad you enjoyed this and found it helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:49 PM
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Do you really need a man who is taller than 6' or just taller than you? Do you need a guy making 6 figures or do you want a man with a solid career trajectory? That's what I was trying to get at, but that's a much better explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:49 PM
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While I agree that a woman should accept it if her virginity or low n-count is dealbreaker for a guy, virginity is a liability for a woman over 25 (the age group I had in mind when I wrote this) if she's seeking men who aren't from a religious or ethnic community where virginity is expected. Generally speaking, people from those types of communities either marry young (usually right after college), or they can rely on their parents to arrange a marriage or make introductions to potential mates f…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:46 PM
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You're still young, you're not married, and you don't have children with the guy. I see no reason for you to stay in a relationship with a man who has cheated on you in the past and who can't maintain boundaries with other women. I almost think catching him cheating only 3 months into the relationship is worse than if you caught him at 3 years. At least then, you could say that maybe the relationship got a little stale and you were taking each other for granted. But you were still in the honeymo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:26 PM
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It can't be good for your mother's health issues to have an annoying leech who is soaking up money on groceries and utilities, not helping with chores, and stressing her out with the constant fights and arguments. If kicking your brother out isn't an option, your mother is more than within her rights to demand that things change-- i.e. the girlfriend or your brother pay for her fair share to live there (groceries, utilities, and rent), and she contributes to the household chores-- or the girlfri…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 06:09 PM
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Your brother is a pussy because he's clearly been enabled by your Mom. Why is he still living at home at 30 years old? Why are you and your Mom feeding his girlfriend and picking up after her? Your mother should kick them out of the house. Once your brother is solely responsible for food, shelter, and chores for 2 people, and has less discretionary spending to blow on his lazy girlfriend, their relationship will come to a natural conclusion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 03:54 PM
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Alternately, if you’re going to remain fat and attract the chubby chasers that do exist in the wild, then you better be sweet and happy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 01:07 AM
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Great post! On the way you handled the renter, you didn't just preserve the happy mood with your boyfriend... you demonstrated that you trust in him to manage his renter.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 10:00 PM
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Sounds awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 09:58 PM
3

Thanks. That would be really confusing to the other user. Oops!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 09:32 PM
2

Congratulations! Care to share specifics of what you've learned and implemented?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 08:56 PM
5

<stands and salutes>
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 05:05 PM
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Another thing that people don't consider when choosing to have children outside of marriage is what happens if your partner dies while you're still pregnant and you want to claim social security or other survivor benefits for your child? If you're in the USA and if you're not married, you can't add a deceased person's name to the birth certificate without a court order, which requires a DNA test. You can't get a DNA test conducted without the consent of his next of kin (his parents, siblings, wh…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 04:53 PM
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I don't disagree, I just think that's outside of the scope of this particular post.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 04:35 PM
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The reality is that men do not have biological clocks or as short a period of time of peak SMV. That's why OP's boyfriend can afford to kill time with OP until he meets the woman of his dreams, but she doesn't. Obviously time is an important resource to both sexes (all our lives are brief and finite), but I don't see why pointing that out when giving advice to a woman on a woman's forum was particularly necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 02:50 PM
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There is nothing-- absolutely nothing-- more valuable to a woman than her time. He's content to waste yours. Are you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 10:13 PM
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Don't worry about things that are outside of your control. If a guy considers depression or mental illness of any sort to be an automatic deal breaker, there's nothing you can do, just as you can't control if a guy doesn't want to date you because of your height. Only concern yourself with things that are within your control. In this case, you can control how well you manage your depression, and it seems like you're doing that. What you absolutely don't want to do (especially since you're dating…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 10:07 PM
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I think questions about specific number of partners and the types of sex acts you've done come up a lot more when you're young (teens and early 20s) when sex is still a shiny new toy and people might be more insecure about their experiences (or lack thereof) relative to their peers. I've noticed that, probably due to the fact that a lot of Redditors are in this younger age group, the impact of number of partners and types of sexual acts really dominates the conversation in red pill subredddits. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 09:52 PM
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The key to following your intuition though is making sure that your "people picker" is well-calibrated, and isn't damaged from family baggage or other problems.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 01:33 PM
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Have you actually been diagnosed with chronic depression? If not, that should be your first step. You might have an actual chemical imbalance, or there might be situation stressers or past traumas that you haven't coped with yet. If you have been diagnosed, then you need to approach it the way you would any other chronic illness, which means managing your illness through diet and lifestyle (which you already have a handle on), medication, and therapy. The point is that your illness is something …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 10:21 PM
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I never said that not being willing to put out or do things wouldn't be a dealbreaker; in fact, I explicitly said that women need to get comfortable with the idea of men having dealbreakers. If there's one great lesson that the Red Pill has-- for both men and woman-- is that no one is entitled to anything in this world. If she hated them in the past, she still viewed whoever she was doing them with as worth more than however much she hated the action. I don't think that's a fair assumption to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 09:53 PM
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To clarify: If a woman enjoyed doing things like anal and blowjobs in the past but refuses to now, then yes, it's understandable that a man would see that as an indication that she's not as attracted or invested in him as her previous partners. But if a woman tried something that she didn't like, or engaged in sexual acts she really hated with a previous boyfriend, I see no reason why she should be obligated to do that with future partners. First, people are rarely good at activities that they d…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 09:24 PM
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I think it's also worth noting "red pill" or "traditionalist" relationships-- however you want to call them-- are not the only successful relationships that exist. There are men in this world that are simply unwilling or unfit to lead and there are women who are wholly incapable or resistant to following, and so they find each other and are perfectly happy, even if those of us here wouldn't wish such dynamics for ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 08:07 PM
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Men might have a lower standard for what they might bring home and bang after a few beers, but definitely not in who they will commit themselves to sleeping with every night.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/17 10:40 PM
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Despite the desperate attempts of the media, SJWs, and the "fat acceptance" movement, you rarely come across a guy dating way below his league, especially if the woman is really overweight (unless that's his fetish). The penis wants what it wants, and men (blue pill and red pill alike) don't make any effort to convince themselves otherwise. On the other hand, a lot of women will consider a guy who isn't a perfect match for her physically if he has other qualities, such as he treats her well, he'…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/17 09:59 PM
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Next him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/17 02:07 PM
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Other people have touched on the relationship hazards of threesomes, so I’m just going to touch on the fact that your fantasy may not match reality. Threesomes in real life are not like threesomes in porn, which are carefully choreographed in advance. They can be awkward, people get nervous, you might not know what to put what where, who is getting more attention, who is getting left out, etc. Also, although men will rarely admit this in public, performance anxiety is quite common, especially if…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 03:19 PM
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Excellent points! And one big thought: if you have spent your younger years on the cc, do not blindly bow down to any guy who commits because you feel you have to atone for your past. In my next post, one of things I plan to discuss is common vetting mistakes for women "late to the red pill." Some women settle for bottom of the barrel because they're in panic, while others develop an increasingly long list of arbitrary criteria by which they can exclude men instead of doing any work to improve t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 06:59 PM
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I understand what you mean. I am simply pointing out that this is one of the largest stumbling blocks for women who are "late to the red pill". Women who are late to the Red Pill are fully aware of this already, but they rarely receive any constructive advice about what they can do going forward. To clarify, I'm not advocating that a woman try to portray herself as prude and chaste; as I said, she should be forthcoming when questions about her past arise and be able to address any concerns. She …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 06:37 PM
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A man who would have an issue with a woman's n-count, wants sex right away, and expects certain acts because she's done them before isn't going to commit to her whether she caves in or not. Either he considers her past a deal breaker from a relationship standpoint or he doesn't. She can't dictate his preferences or behavior; she can only control herself. As the saying goes, you can't do the same exact thing over and over again while expecting a different result.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 04:49 PM
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Dating does get harder the older you get, even in New York, where people tend not to marry until their 30s. I'm definitely not trying to sugarcoat that reality at all. My goal here was to provide advice that's actionable for women who are faced with that reality.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 03:50 PM
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I love your user name!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:40 PM
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I'm glad you found it useful!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:31 PM
4

Thank you very much!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:31 PM
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From an RPW, relationship-minded perspective, the shift in power dynamics is going to happen regardless of an individual woman's SMV. When high-quality men become self-actualized-- usually when their career trajectory is on track, they're completely self-sufficient, and their confidence is based on personal achievements rather than approval from others-- it won't matter if a woman is a young, perfect ten... they won't commit simply for the privilege of continuing to sleep with her. There are a l…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:26 PM
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She probably found you physically attractive so she approached you. But based on the fact that your immediate reaction to her not fucking you within an hour of meeting you is to get irrationally pissed and butt hurt, it's safe to assume that at some point in your conversation, you gave her the impression that you're either desperate or unsafe. If all you want is a guaranteed lay, pay for a hooker. If you want to be sexually successful with women out in the wild, learn to enjoy the chase as much-…
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:41 AM
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What was she supposed to do? Immediately ditch her friends and drop to her knees right there in the middle of the art exhibit?
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:20 AM
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If you plan on making a habit of sleeping with other men's wives or girlfriends, you better be very good in a fight and an excellent shot.
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:12 AM
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Unless she's going out of her way to antagonize you or is trying to put an end to your friendship with her boyfriend, then there's no reason why you can't stand beside him as his best man. Ideally, we would all get along swimmingly with all our friends' partners, but sometimes, the best you can hope for is being able to peacefully tolerate one another when in shared social situations.
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:08 AM
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I am wondering about her though because she told me that guys she has dated before don't want to commit/have families. There's two reasons for this: She's only interested in guys who instantly give her the "tingles" rather that men who actually have character, and she's not presenting herself to men in a way that make them consider her to be potential wife and mother material.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 12:52 AM
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It's awesome that you're able to keep your sense of humor in the face of such personal adversity. You deserve a man who appreciates you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 12:45 AM
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Did your vows not include "forsaking all others", or does he have a selective memory? You might also want to ask your clergy person or justice of the peace if he or she defines "for better or for worse" as "husband gets to put his penis in whatever hole is available."
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 12:40 AM
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At least you won't have to pay out of pocket for your penicillin shot if you choose to stay with this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 12:35 AM
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If a man has the same experience with you as he would have with one of his buddies, then what is he actually getting out of being in with you? This is why "being one of the guys" is such a failure as a dating strategy. Also, women who can't get along with other women or, as you say, don't find other women "interesting" are typically insecure with themselves and therefore feel more comfortable with an adoring circle of beta orbiters who are easily impressed by them. Why then should a man think th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 11:39 PM
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That's true. He shouldn't be flipping out at the mere mention of babies or getting engaged.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 11:19 PM
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A pre-owned Ferrari is still worth more than a brand-new Honda Civic.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 10:36 PM
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Of the people I know who waited for marriage, they were religious and they married very young to other young men who they met either through church, school or family connections. Their courtships were also relatively short. At age 28 your virginity is more of a liability than an asset. Men will be concerned that you have hangups about sex or simply have a low sex drive. The fact that you’ve never had an LTR also indicates an adversity to intimacy. I think you should examine whether any of these …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 10:33 PM
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May I ask how old you and your boyfriend are? Also, I think saying "I want to have your babies" and "I want to be your wife" is the best way to get a positive reaction on the subject of marriage and children, because it puts the emphasis on your love for him rather than a desire to achieve a certain milestone.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 03:27 PM
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We don't know how old this couple is (unless I missed it in the post). If they started dating at 17 than it makes sense that they wouldn't yet be married by age 21. They started dating on 25 and they're now 29, that's a completely different story.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 03:24 PM
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The OP isn't trying to date you specifically. The reality is that what she's doing isn't working for her so she needs to change her approach to men. Also, you're currently deployed, so "any port in a storm" probably sounds good to you right right now.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 03:18 PM
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I think you're being silly.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 03:09 PM
2

BUT shotgun weddings seem to produce better results than LTR + kids - so there seems to be something about the way that we behave within marriage that is different from how we behave in LTRs. I think this is because people who feel an obligation to marry as a result of pregnancy generally have strong values regarding the importance of maintaining a family unit.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 03:30 PM
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He's paying for prostitutes, both escorts and at "happy ending" massage parlors. If he's in the USA, those are both illegal.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 07:49 PM
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I will definitely be saving this post for reference in future discussions! If you are planning to be in a lifetime LTR there are certain legal steps that can be taken to mitigate the longer term impacts of not being married. This is what same sex couples did until the States started to put same sex marriage on the books. And yet, it was still necessary for same sex couples to fight for the right to be legally married because all of legal avenues to recognize a partner's legal and financial right…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 07:12 PM
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It might depend on the pension plan. I know for a fact that my father's pension could only be paid out to his spouse, not to me as his child or any other beneficiary. This was something we discussed while he was still single.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 07:05 PM
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If OP is an unattractive unemployed 30yo mother of 3 to 3 different fathers, the advice being provided might be less 'leave him' and more 'accept it'. No way. There is no circumstance in which I would advise a person, in good conscience, to put their physical, emotional, and financial health in the hands of a person who is engaging in high-risk, illegal behavior. A history of mistakes is no excuse to continue making even worse mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 03:36 PM
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If your husband wants to indulge in all manner of sexual activities with whoever he wants and with no consideration for the emotional and physical well-being of anyone but himself, then he has no business being married. What he calls an "adventurist nature" is actually very high-risk sexual behavior. He can catch and transmit STDs to you and he can get other women pregnant. Since he's also paying for hookers, he's putting your family at considerable legal and financial risk. If you can't cope wi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 03:34 PM
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Even if you eventually decide that marriage and children aren't for you, there are benefits to not engaging in casual sex that go beyond whether or not men will respect you afterward. Every time you sleep with someone, you risk getting overly emotionally attached to a guy who might not be right for you (or even a good person!), catching or transmitting an STD, getting pregnant, or perhaps even limiting your dating options within a particular social circle (for example, if the guy happens to be f…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 10:48 PM
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At this stage, your focus shouldn't be on how much you "want to make this work," but on getting to know him well and seeing if you're compatible with each other. You've met him once and all that you know of him is from what he and others have volunteered to share; not through any direct observations you've made yourself. The major challenge that you're going to face with vetting is that you're long distance, so you're both going to have your "best face forward" during your visits, which makes it…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 10:28 PM
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I think a man in his 40s is too old for you. Men that age are usually divorced or have kids, and if they don’t, it’s because they’re either lifelong bachelors that can’t or won’t settle down or compromise with anyone, or they are dregs of the male sex that no one wanted. The men of this age group most likely to date you are those that only want sex (as you already observed) or (perhaps worse) men who see you as inexperienced, naive and pliable and can’t see through their bullshit. If you don’t w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 12:31 PM
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As I told you in your last post, I wouldn't have married him in the first place, but since you did, you need to try to make it work and live with your choice as best as you can. You said sex is major issue in your relationship, and you've tried communicating with him to no avail... maybe now is the time to suggest a sex therapist or a counselor to work on those communication issues. Alternately, you can be honest, give him the option of divorcing you, and be as generous as possible with the sett…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 08:35 PM
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I remember your post and was hoping for an update... I'm sad for you and your husband. You're not the only one who's trapped; unbeknownst to him, he's now married to a woman who isn't in love with him. The only further advice I can offer you (not that I expect you will take it) is to not have children. You made a bad choice for yourself; don't make things worse by making bad choices for others.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 03:25 PM
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Your boyfriend is not meeting your needs for intimacy... both for sex and physical affection. If you only want someone to talk to and hang out with, you have friends and family for that. At 23 years old, you are at or approaching the pinnacle of your SMV, and if you settle for a relationship devoid of warmth and passion, you will come to regret it and be very resentful later in life. If you haven't already, pay a visit to /r/deadbedrooms to see what your future might be years down the line.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 02:21 PM
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As far as in-law problems go, this isn't bad at all! It sounds like his sister really likes you and wants her brother to commit to you. What she does in her own life (like considering children before marriage) is her business and not really your concern. If your boyfriend knows that you're against co-habitation before marriage, that's all the matters. He can deal with the pressure from his own family.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 02:06 PM
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If a woman is good enough to bear a man's children, she's good enough to be his wife.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 02:00 PM
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As I understood it, /u/StepfordInTexas said waiting another 1-2 years for an engagement isn't in OP's best interest, not that they should've been engaged right this moment. If OP and her boyfriend were still quite young (teens or early 20s), then waiting until they've been dating a few more years might be reasonable. But after the age of 25-- at which point most people have matured mentally and emotionally, and at least should have an idea of what they want from the future-- getting engaged afte…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 07:06 PM
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I'm pretty shocked by the advice that you're being given, especially on RPW! To all the people who pooh-poohing OP for wanting to get married, yeah, marriage is "just a piece of paper"... but so is the title to a car, the deed to a home, a green card, a passport, a social security card, etc. Many important rights, privileges, and protections in life are based on legal documents. Rather than putting off marriage indefinitely for some arbitrary time in the future, I would ask him if there are spec…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 04:23 PM
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I don't know why you're getting downvoted into oblivian, unless it's by perpetual plate spinners.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 04:12 PM
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For goodness sake, lady, stop sleeping with him! If he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, he doesn’t get boyfriend privileges! You don’t need to act normally around him because you shouldn’t be around him at all. Cut contact, block him on social media, and don’t pry into his life with any mutual friends or entertain any discussion about him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 12:23 AM
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Congratulations, Counselor!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 12:19 AM
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Ugh "driveby" posts like these are really frustrating. I don't see what the point is of taking up people's time to get advice if you're going to delete your post after an hour. Good luck with working things out in your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 09:04 PM
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Obviously, a man who is only interested getting laid and has shown himself to be incapable of a long-term monogamous relationship is a bad choice for a husband... but such a man is usually uninterested in becoming anyone's husband so it's a moot point anyway. Otherwise, when I was single, I never fretted over a partner's sexual history, unless it contained deal-breakers like an ex-wife, baby mama, incurable STD, or habitual cheating. Those are things that would have a direct impact on me and our…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 08:57 PM
1

How often do you visit him and vice versa?
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 08:13 PM
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He's already been gone for a year and now he's going to be gone for at least another year and half. Is it possible for you to join him? Has he made that offer? Otherwise, it doesn't sound like there is any opportunity here for an actual relationship, submissive or otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 08:11 PM
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I think women sometimes leave out pertinent facts because they’re afraid of getting advice that they don’t want to hear. you’ll have a fairly innocuous post like “What do I do with my husband who works all the time” with a bomb in the comments section like “Oh and he hasn’t had sex with me in 3 years.” Alternatively, you’ll get a perfectly detailed and honest post describing a dumpster fire of a relationship that ends with “Don’t tell me to break up!” Among the many things I’ve learned about hum…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 11:11 AM
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Personally, I never understood why retaining the name of the man I didn't choose was supposed to be more "liberating" or "empowering" than taking the name of the man I did choose.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 12:41 AM
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I don’t think this guy was friend zone material at all. He was attractive enough for you to flirt with him when you first met him and I’m sure the fact that he ignored you (which you didn’t know at the time was due to nervousness) was intriguing. He didn’t act desperate, he took the time to court you, and he obviously has enough experience with women to take the time to learn how to pleasure you. This is not a beta male by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, I would say that if there is a l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 12:46 PM
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I agree that education and profession has little impact on SMV, but it can contribute positively to RMV. An RPW would be best served, in the context of dating and relationships, to think of her career and education in terms of how they benefit her captain, not as qualities by which she defines herself. If she’s successful and continues working, she can contribute to a higher standard of living for him. Even if she takes time out of the work force to raise children, she can at least provide him w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 03:40 AM
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Good for you. What does that have to do with why you're a good partner? Why would the alpha of your dreams choose to devote himself to you as opposed to the many other attractive and accomplished women he has to choose from?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/17 05:05 PM
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Glad I could help!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/17 01:39 PM
3

Instead of obsessing over trying to identify warning signs that a guy is bad, focus on looking for the qualities that you actually want. If you’re using your Dad as the measure by which you judge men, then you’re actually setting the bar really low.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/17 12:27 AM
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Now if we could only clear out the feminists... :-P
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 08:37 PM
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The cock carousel and waiting until marriage are not the only options. You’re only thinking in extremes. OP should wait until she knows someone well and they’ve established a committed and exclusive relationship. That’s not fear-based advice; that’s practical and realistic advice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 05:19 PM
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Unless both partners are from very religious backgrounds where virginity is expected, OP will be hard pressed to find a man nowadays who is willing to wait until marriage. Most men nowadays expect to have sex before marriage and will be unwilling to roll the dice with their sexual futures by waiting.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 03:39 PM
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He wouldn’t be honest about other partners if he wants to continue sleeping with others while ditching condoms with OP. Also, he can be one of those people who likes to hang on technicalities; I.e. he might not be sleeping with anyone else at the moment but that doesn’t mean he isn’t keeping his options open.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 08:50 PM
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If she takes that approach, then he will either lie about not having any other sexual partners, or he will truthfully say "I'm not sleeping with other people" (meaning I'm not sleeping with anyone right now), which still doesn't resolve the issue of commitment or exclusivity. He's 38 years old and if he has half a brain, he'll know exactly how to sidestep that landmine. The time for OP to be tactful and coy has unfortunately passed. If he bounces because she brings up commitment, so what? I don'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 01:41 AM
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Your post is really vague, so I don't think it's possible to give you any useful advice without more specific information. I recommend revising your post to adhere to the RPW guidelines, and be as specific as possible. What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem? What are your ages, relationship status, time together?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 12:29 PM
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If you're just unsure about whether you would work in a relationship, you can always try it out and break up if it doesn't work. If you're not sure if you even like him as a person, then you shouldn't be dating or sleeping with him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 12:25 PM
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It’s not your job to make a grown-ass man in his 30s feel secure or better about himself. If he can’t do this on his own, then he’s not a good choice as a mate, now or 5 years from now. There are exceptions, of course, but generally speaking, a guy his age who is interested in a woman your age is either looking for a woman who will have few if any expectations of him (so he can put off marriage, kids, or getting his act together for as long as possible) or someone inexperienced and pliable that …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 11:29 AM
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Thank you for your well wishes! I actually have two loaves baking at the moment. :-) My paycheck is deposited to the shared account but he transfers a fixed amount of money to my personal debit account each pay period for me to use as discretionary spending. When I’m no longer working, or move to part-time or freelancing, we’ll revisit what that amount should be. Doyle’s advice to “ask for cash” is quite outdated for the digital age. Most importantly, I gave up my personal credit cards, except f…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 10:11 AM
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I made the decision to relinquish control of the finances in preparation for being a SAHM (I’m currently pregnant). Also, I feel like my husband is more relaxed now that he is in charge of all the bills and keeping track of what comes in and out. In your case, not only is your arrangement working for both of you, you actually seem to enjoy it. So it would probably cause you more stress to change things than to retain the status quo.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 10:55 PM
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Since he's been unavailable for about 30% of your relationship thus far, I don't think it's fair or feasible to keep yourself in limbo for much longer. I think you should tell him that you miss him and would like to spend time with him more, and if he has an idea of when that might be possible. If he can't give you even a ballpark answer or doesn't seem as interested or invested, then let him know that you understand that he has a lot going on right now and for the time being, it's best you part…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 07:45 PM
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As I've always said, one person winning the lotto is not an argument for why everyone should quit their day jobs. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 01:22 PM
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Exactly. What else is there to "make him want" when he already has her heart and her body? At this point, he either wants to keep her (in which case he will commit) or he doesn't value what he has enough to do so, in which case she should move on.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 01:20 PM
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Friend with benefits arrangements are not RPW. There are several reasons for this but to summarize: (1) A guy has no incentive to make a commitment to you when he’s already getting the physical and emotional benefits of a relationship without the commitment. Once you’ve been plated it’s very hard to get promoted to girlfriend. (2) You can’t properly vet a guy once your judgement is clouded by the fact that you’ve bonded yourself to him through sex. Unfortunately what’s done is done, so your only…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 01:01 AM
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It really depends on what sort of job you prefer to pursue. Being a dentist, for example, is different than trying to become a cardiac surgeon. I recommend doing some research, both online and with the help of an adviser, to figure out what your options are. It's also worth connecting with women (either through your university or through career web sites like LinkedIn) who are established in the fields/positions you're interested in, and asking them about their work-life balance. Pursuing and ca…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 04:29 PM
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This is the sort of shit that scares me about having a son. The fact that I will have to have a conversation with him and say, "Just because a woman goes back to your place alone for cocktails in the evening and joins you in bed afterwards doesn't mean she's interested in you sexually, and you will be called a rapist if you dare to initiate any sexual activity under those circumstances." It's just so absurd.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 05:08 PM
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By taking on all the responsibility for the house and doing his work assignments for him, you're not treating him like a king, because kings do things like lead their armies in war, defend their territories and their vassals, and all the other responsibilities that come with ruling. What you're doing is treating your husband like an overindulged, spoiled child. Such children aren't loving, grateful, and responsible... no, they lash out because they have absolutely no confidence in their own abil…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 03:02 PM
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I don't think it's the Red Pill reading that's hurting, it's that she's completely misapplying it. Unless I missed the chapter, I don't recall Laura Doyle ever once saying that it's a wife responsibility to do her husband's work for him. In fact, she encourages trusting husbands to take on more responsibility, not less.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 02:52 PM
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The decision to get your tubes tied, for example, would be a medical decision that concerns him and would be a deal-breaker if you went ahead and did it against his wishes. Similarly, a decision to take an anti-depressant that would severely inhibit your sex drive would also be a medical decision that would need his approval. Beyond that, you get the final say in medical decisions that solely effect your ability to function and have no other ramifications for him and the relationship. In fact, t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 02:42 PM
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The Facebook relationship status is not really an issue (my husband doesn't even have Facebook at the moment) but I think you're right to feel troubled that he doesn't introduce you as his girlfriend. When you broach the subject with him-- and I think you should-- ask questions, don't make demands. Such as: "I notice that when you introduce me to people, it's always as 'Una', and not my girlfriend Una. Why is that? Do you feel comfortable telling people that I'm your girlfriend? How do you feel …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 03:59 PM
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Thanks to you, I just fell into that Get Your Pretty On web site. Uh-oh...
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 03:22 PM
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Maternity options have definitely gotten better over the years, as my Mom always points out. But if I have to choose between cute and comfy, I have been opting for comfy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 02:52 PM
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Pre-pregnancy, I wore jeans and t-shirts and minimal makeup (powder, mascara and lip gloss) when it's just us hanging out at home. My husband is happy with this since I have to dress up for work and always dress to 9s when we go out, so the super casual, fresh-faced look is just for him. We both wear comfy flannel pajamas to bed. Lingerie is kind of waste of money for him; a tight t-shirt with no bra is actually more effective. Now that I'm pregnant, I wear maternity leggings and cotton maternit…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 04:20 PM
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Very few men would allow their partners to stay at home right away, especially without children, and only the most foolish of men would choose a woman completely incapable of supporting herself without him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 10:01 AM
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Totally agree with you on this. Everyone I know who was preserving their virginity for marriage (either for religious reasons or otherwise) married young (before 25). Passed a certain point, it’s safe to assume that you’re not having sex because it’s not important to you or you have serious hang ups you haven’t overcome.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:27 AM
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It’s debatable how much your mother’s virginity contributes to your parents’ marriage’s success, but great that it worked for them.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 12:21 AM
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Being a good father is more than bringing home a paycheck. If he’s partying every weekend and regularly boozing up or taking drugs with his buddies while he’s home, than he is not emotionally or mentally present as a father to his child or setting a good example for how a responsible, well-adjusted adult should behave.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 09:53 AM
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Your reaction to a DUI is not “hysterical.” Hysterical is a reaction that is out of proportion to the event that transpired, like screaming at him for coming home 5 minutes late. It’s reasonable to be upset when your husband makes life threatening bad choices with legal ramifications while impaired, and won’t take responsibility for his bad behavior. My cousin was put in a coma for 3 months after being mowed down by a drunk driver. His injuries transformed him from a healthy and vivacious straig…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 09:36 AM
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Correct, I misread. Edited my post accordingly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 09:27 AM
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This isn't a case of a guy getting too carried away at parties but otherwise meeting his responsibilities and not causing anyone harm.. OP's husband's habit is at a point where he's gotten a DUI. This makes him a danger to her, himself and other people.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 09:42 PM
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Yes, you need to discuss this with him. You cannot submit to a man who is in the active throes of an addiction, which your husband is. This is explicitly stated in "The Surrendered Wife" as well. The reason for this is that you cannot trust in the leadership of a man whose judgement is routinely impaired and whose actions are threatening to himself into others. You cannot be vulnerable to him because he is not a safe partner. Case in point: The DUI. He could've hurt or killed someone or himself.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 09:38 PM
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There's no such thing as a wrong gift. A gift is a gesture that's not expected. It isn't about the specific, it's about the gesture. I think there are wrong gifts. I've seen people buy things for themselves or for the house and pass them off as gifts. Examples: Buying tickets to the WWE when only he likes wrestling, or buying an air conditioner or a snow blower (things they would both use and need anyway, regardless of the occasion).
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 04:15 PM
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If you're going to live together and raise your child, than you need to be in an actual relationship and both be willing to put 150% into salvaging it. If not, then you need to separate... otherwise, you're setting your kids up to be raised in a tense and possibly toxic situation, and have the same hangups as your BD and his brother. Your boyfriend is not a monk, so be prepared to turn into a stereotypical "crazy baby mama" once he starts dating or sleeping around (either behind your back or in …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 03:14 PM
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Thanks for the reading and the advice! <3
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 02:42 PM
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Thank you so much, /u/TheStepfordGal! I'm currently grappling with whether to return to my job in the city or stay home after the birth of my twins. I prefer staying home and pursuing local/freelance work, and my husband's job is steady, but I keep worrying about some unforeseen catastrophe that would ruin us. What do the cards say?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 08:17 PM
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Quiet Man should be mandatory viewing for men.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 06:24 PM
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I think Joan from Mad Men is a beautiful and interesting character, but I fail to see why she is frequently mentioned as an RPW ideal. She was sleeping with her married boss among others while single. Fearing the impending Wall, she married a shitty beta male who she cucked, and then tried to pass off her boss's child as his. She obtained a partnership share in her company by sleeping with a client. She's pretty much every MRP's worst nightmare.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 06:20 PM
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Not true. When prenuptial agreements are tossed out, it's usually because the terms were extremely unfair and the person in less favorable position did not have his or her own legal representation at the time the agreement was signed.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 06:15 PM
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Do you really want to be lead by your husband or do you simply want to be relinquished of all responsibility and, consequently, all blame in your relationship? Are you willing to make yourself vulnerable and support him even if he makes a decision you don’t like or that ultimately results in failure?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 05:51 PM
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I reminded him I'm on a timeline before the wall and I need a change in commitment. I can't think of anything more enticing to a man than behaving like an angry carton of milk about to expire. /s Basically, I presented him with my hard deadline, reminded him I'm a woman worth keeping and laid out my problem. "I want you to get a car or move in or I will be done in a matter of two months." He decided on the solution. No you gave him 2 choices to make under duress... that's not the same as present…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:32 PM
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Entitlement is the defining trait of the current generation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 02:14 PM
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I think the most important lesson I got from your post was how you handled this situation not through words but through deeds. I think I (and probably most women) would've tried to get my husband to talk about his feelings and vent (which is how women tend to deal with grief) and got frustrated when he inevitably shut down on me or got even more upset by talking about it. Instead, you performed quiet acts of service and simply made yourself physically and emotionally available, regardless of whe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 09:42 PM
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We're both speculating. I brought up the book because I think it touches on something interesting about human nature... having something fake is almost a reminder of the real thing we're missing. Sort of like how knock-off purses don't decrease demand for Gucci or Prada.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 09:21 PM
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Have you every read "Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep" (the book that the film Blade Runner was based on)? In that dystopia, the abundance of androids-- both as animal pets and also prostitutes-- didn't diminish the demand for real animals and sex with women; in fact, it elevated both to a highly desirable symbols of wealth and status, as both became increasingly rare.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 03:49 PM
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I wish you the best of luck. You will need it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 09:16 PM
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If this is the man you want to stay with at all costs, you accept who he is and turn a blind eye to anything he does you don’t like. If you want honesty and trustworthiness in your relationship, find a different man. Sorry you’re not getting the answers you want to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 09:04 PM
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You asked for advice for how to stay with an inherently untrustworthy person without feeling upset and paranoid all the time. The best way to do this is to limit your knowledge of his actions and the other women with whom he interacts, which means you need to ask him to keep these things secret. If you happen to find out something upsetting—like the fact that he has kid he didn’t tell you about— keep your mouth shut and don’t question him. If this isn’t how you want your relationship to work the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:44 PM
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If you want to stay in the relationship, then learn to be comfortable with secrecy, don’t pry into his past, and don’t question his relationships with other women. Tell him you’re fine with him having female friends, you just don’t want to hear or know anything about them. Hopefully, he will be so reluctant to disrupt such a perfectly convenient arrangement that he will be such a model of discretion that you will be blissfully happy and free from suspicion and anxiety ... unless another one of h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 03:44 PM
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Actually, I imagine that a woman who has nothing to offer a man except sex would have a hard time holding out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 11:35 PM
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Saying “I’m not looking for an abuser” is like spilling blood in the water when you’re trying to avoid getting eaten by sharks... it has the opposite effect of what she’s trying to achieve. She’s advertising her poor judgement and past penchant for scumbags. Well-adjusted men will be scared away by her baggage and abusers will see her as easy pickings.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 11:31 PM
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Get outta here with those facts! You might get in the way of someone's opinion! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 12:46 PM
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I think you've missed the point of the post.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 03:57 PM
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I have one simple goal at the moment... not to let myself go now that I'm working from home. So, for the next month, I want to do my makeup every day, even if it's just lipstick and mascara. I'm pregnant and I was so sick every morning for my first trimester that I basically stopped doing my makeup every morning because I would spend those 30 min puking (lovely, I know). But I don't want to descend into frumpiness just because I'm not working in an office.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 09:06 PM
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I think you're projecting your own childhood experiences on to the people with whom you disagree.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 03:30 PM
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There's a difference between valuing yourself and having an over-inflated ego and unrealistic expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 01:59 PM
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I think it's normal and even preferable to want a guy who shares your values and your approach to sex. There are plenty of men out there that aren't fans of casual sex and prefer intimacy in the context of a relationship. The trick, however, is to be able to distinguish between those men and the men whose n-count is impeded only by their lack of opportunity.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 01:56 PM
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If the idea of making more money than your husband bothers you, then get in line behind the many other women who are shooting for high-powered, career-oriented men making 6 figures+. And I bet if you managed to land that kind of guy, you would then complain that all he cares about his job and he doesn't spend time with you or appreciate you enough. Perhaps the question you should ask yourself is not what you should reasonably expect from a man but what do you have to offer him that's so remarkab…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 01:36 PM
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Toddlers have a tendency to break things in a fit of rage and to lash out violently against others who anger them. And yet decent parents teach them this is no way to treat people and that they need to control their emotions if they are to function in polite society. So why would I excuse behavior from a man that I would find abhorrent in a child? As far as yelling goes, well, I’m the yeller in my house because that’s how I was raised. But it’s a tendency I’m actively trying to break myself out …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 08:09 PM
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Before you broach the prenup with your boyfriend, I would recommend speaking to a lawyer to even see if one would be necessary, preferable or even feasible in your situation. For example, do you know for sure that you would be on the hook for debt he accrued before your marriage? Would he be entitled to a share of your 401K if you've been married for a certain number of years, regardless of what you try to put into a prenup? Think of prenups this way: Prenups are drafted by people when they deep…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 07:17 PM
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That's what I got out of the article, too. This is also a classic case of going to your captain with the solution and not the problem. If she said, "I'm tired and I can't keep up with the housework, what can we do about it?" he probably would've gone into problem-solving mode on his own and maybe given the possibility of a housekeeper more thought, since he came up with the idea on his own.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:54 PM
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Weekly makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 12:24 PM
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I think it would be worthwhile if more of the ladies posted thought pieces and discussions on theory. SadieDunham had some great ones before she deleted her account (sniffle).
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 11:57 AM
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That’s too bad because I really miss your posts.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 11:51 AM
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Thank you for clarifying.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 10:09 AM
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To use your example of Christianity, Christians are united in their belief of Christ as the Messiah, but frequently disagree with one another on specific points of doctrine. To use a TRP example, I can agree with the idea that men should lead in a relationship while at the same time disagreeing with the oft-repeated mantra “men love women, women love children, children love dogs.” And just to add, I’m not saying we should turn this sub into PurplePill debate or not call out/ban people who are co…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 03:22 AM
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Is it possible to agree with a philosophy generally but disagree with (or at least question) certain points or aspects of that philosophy? Or are we now following the lead of modern feminists and demanding ideological purity?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:41 AM
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We shouldn’t be forbidden from disagreeing with ideas either, not just how they’re presented.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:24 AM
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We’re expected to stay out of the men’s treehouse, but we’re supposed to be deferential when they post here? It was my understanding that this was a space for women to discuss and debate red pill theory and its application in our lives; it’s not a TRP fangirl page. Edit; add: If women are now considered guests our own subreddit, and if we’re now being discouraged from disagreeing with the ideas of the men who post here, then the subreddit is essentially worthless, as it’s only purpose will be fo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:38 AM
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I'm pregnant with twins and my husband and I both have long commutes, so needless to say, I just couldn't stay on top of the housework and my husband was already maxed out. We hired cleaning ladies to come in once every other week and it's been a huge help. Instead of being overwhelmed by a huge mess and having to spend a day out of my weekend putting the house back in order, all I have to do is maintain the work the cleaners have already done.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:58 PM
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The outcome is just harmful, regardless of the intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:07 PM
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There's a difference between activist movement of feminism and the philosophy. Philosophically, feminism was originally about providing women with equal rights, protections, and access to power and opportunity in society. As an activist movement, feminism already achieved its philosophical goals, but now, in order to stay relevant, it is inventing new perceived injustices more extreme aims.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:01 PM
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I'm not being hysterical and there's no need for patronizing tone. You weren't just saying that this is why cheating happens; you were stating your opinion that men cheating is somehow less detrimental to a relationship's health and survival than a woman's cheating and therefore implied that men cheating is somehow more excusable than if women cheat. I'm respectfully disagreeing with you on that point.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:42 PM
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My point was that the idea of a First Lady as an agent of policy on par with cabinet members is a modern invention.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:37 PM
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Sorry, but I'm not buying that this is somehow a reality check and not an apologia for men who cheat on their wives. You wrote another post on this subject, so at this point, it really does feel like you're trying to force the view down our throats that we should look the other way if our husbands cheat or maintain an impossible standards of perfection in order to keep their interest. There's a lot to unpack in this post, but I'll just address this: A man can cheat for years without compromising…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:49 PM
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His opponents are trying to push the view that if you're against illegal immigration then you must hate all immigrants. This certainly pisses off my parents, who, like yours, jumped through the hoops come here legally.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:37 PM
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Trump isn't anti-immigration, he's against illegal immigration. Melania arrived and remained in the country legally; what was brought into question was whether she was working before her official work visa was approved. And considering how nasty pundits and the public have been about Barron, I don't blame her for keeping her son out of the Swamp as long as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:35 PM
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The idea of a "two-for-one" presidency was first promoted by the Clintons and then later perpetuated by the Obamas. Thus, people who aren't old enough to remember otherwise think that First Ladies have always been their husbands' second in command. The fact of the matter is that Melania's approach to being First Lady--like Michelle Obama's predecessor Laura Bush-- is much more in line with the traditional functions of the role. Melania does have input in Trump's presidency, but it's in private. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:25 PM
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I’m sorry you have to go through this and I will pray for you and your baby.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 12:55 PM
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As I've said before, my problem with modern feminism is that it's no longer about equality of opportunity but equality of outcome, and no longer about women's freedom to choose but women's freedom from facing the consequences of those choices if they happen to be bad.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 06:40 PM
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What if this isn't his first rodeo?
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:30 PM
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First of all, Marilyn Monroe never said that. Second, it's safe to assume that any woman who uses that quote as a a life motto has no "best"... just varying degrees of how fucked up she is on any given day.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:27 PM
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Being an annoying and demanding wife would be not letting him go for a beer with his friends. It is not annoying and demanding to be outraged and pained by infidelity, and seek out answers to questions that have a direct impact on the health of yourself and your baby, and the future of your family. Also, as a bare minimum requirement for reconciliation, he needs to get tested for STDs and cut out these friends who are obviously a toxic influence on his life. Remember, too, that though he might h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:22 PM
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Here's a post from the blog Chump Lady on how to differentiate regret ("I'm sorry I got caught") from remorse ("I'm sorry I've caused you pain because of my actions and I want to redeem myself"). Her blog as whole is very much against reconciliation, but if you choose to stay, this particular post is a helpful guide for assessing whether your relationship can be salvaged.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:16 PM
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Prioritize sex. Leave the dishes in the sink for a day. Wait on the laundry. Don’t binge on Netflix, binge on each other instead. Once you start putting off sex because of all the other stuff, the marriage, and consequently, the sex gets stale. I’ve also noticed that with age and the length of my relationship, horniness manifests differently. Whereas I used to feel an “itch” after going without it, I now feel crankier or more emotionally needy. Once we do the need, I’m back to normal! This has m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 03:58 PM
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Stop trying to meet people on the dating apps like Tindr or Bumble. It’s clearly not working for you and only making miserable. People use those apps with just as much seriousness as they approach a takeout menu. As far as online dating goes, try eHarmony, Match, or one of the paid sites that requires people to put time and energy into a profile and where people tend to be more serious about finding relationships. Also, look for local activities in your area (like meet ups) where you can meet ac…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 01:00 PM
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You're way too much of a class act for them. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 11:42 AM
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As a gun owner, I love that gem! It never gets old.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 07:33 PM
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...which is funny because 90% of the comments in TwoX are from dudes. I remember when they moved TwoX to the frontpage to make it more inclusive and discoverable. Predictably, the sub went to shit after that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 07:28 PM
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I'm actually surprised that I haven't taken any shit from other subs. Then again, I don't post in TwoX or the other women-related subs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 07:24 PM
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If she's wearing a wedding ring and has hyphenated her name, it's clear to everyone that she is married, and married to you specifically. If you don't wear your wedding ring, then you're removing the only indication that you are married. This is something to keep in mind going into further discussions with your wife, because it might be a point that she brings up. For the record, I changed my name to my husband's after we got married, but I would be lying if I didn't say the decision was bitters…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 02:40 PM
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Men don't respect you because you've offered submission and adoration when they've done little or nothing to earn it, and can get away with doing the bare minimum or nothing to keep it. I did think hard and I noticed that they do lose respect after a while especially when I start giving gifts/ doing favors and saying sweet things to them. It seems to me that you're always the one in your relationships who is bending over backward trying to please the men you're dating. From their perspective, wh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 05:43 PM
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If guests want to come over the house to visit, it will be to help out, not to have me wait on them, that's for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:14 PM
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Keep in mind that you literally have nothing to lose here. The absolute worst case scenario is that you meet a guy and either he doesn't like you, you don't like him, or you don't like each other. Don't view your dates as auditions; see them as interesting excursions where you're getting to meet new people. At the end of the day, men are human beings... Not ciphers you need to crack or aliens to be afraid of. If there's chemistry and attraction, the flirting will come naturally. If you have comm…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 01:31 PM
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I was friends with my husband for 6 years before we started dating, but as a general rule, I wouldn't advise presenting yourself as a friend to a guy in whom you're romantically interested. Take it slow? Yes! See what common values and interests you have outside the bedroom before inviting him into yours? Absolutely. But if you want to date him, you should treat him as if he's a potential boyfriend, not a friend... because an attractive, high-quality guy is not going to be content chilling in fr…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:47 PM
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A woman can demonstrate her wifely abilities without playing wife to a man she's not married to. She does this by keeping her home clean and well-decorated, preparing meals and treats for him, pampering him when he visits her house, and picking up after herself when she visits him. But /u/vanBeethovenLudwig is absolutely on point when it comes to advising women against rushing into a wifely role. I saw this mistake in action all the time when my Dad was bachelor. The women he dated were all over…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:39 PM
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it just shocks me how vile you women are, you bite the hand that feeds you then you come crawling back with puppy dog eyes with your tail between your legs. I don't know you, but I can say with absolute confidence that there are no women out there who are crawling back to you. And you should take that as a compliment of sorts, because it assumes that you even had a woman in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:36 PM
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Thank you! The post-baby plan at the moment is to make sure we plan dates for ourselves (fortunately the grandparents live in the area!) and move the babies from our bedroom into the nursery at 6 months (once the SIDS risk has passed). Although co-sleeping and attachment parenting are super trendy moment, it kills sex lives. I want to make sure that our intimacy and private time together are still prioritized whenever possible.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:28 PM
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Hello fellow pregnant lady! I can certainly relate to pregnancy throwing your sex life out of wack. For almost my entire first trimester I was on pelvic rest (due to constant spotting) so sex and even non-penetrative sexual activity were totally off the table. Since I got the all clear to have sex again, hubby is still really worried about hurting me and the babies (yup there's 2 in there), I've had to take the lead in initiating, and the sex itself is a lot more restrained. If safety is really …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 08:53 AM
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To most of the posters in this thread, kindly fuck off. I think this is out of line, as most people here have expressed their opinions respectfully. I also say that encouraging her to discuss this issue with a professional and not relying solely on the opinions of strangers on the Internet is very responsible advice.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 05:01 PM
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If there is a purely RPW perspective on this, I would say that it's a decision to be discussed with your husband and perhaps ultimately left up to him to decide, ideally with input from your psychiatrist and a family therapist. Your husband would be the most familiar with living with you on a day-to-day to basis, and is the best judge for how you handle extreme stress and how well you manage your illness. Most importantly, like any person with a disabled partner, he would need to be willing and …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:53 PM
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If you didn't want to put your relationship at risk by bringing other people into your bed while you were dating, then I don't know why you want to marriage at risk. Yes, it seems like you're in a stronger place, but you also have a helluva lot more to lose. Also, you should be aware that swingers circles have a tendency to be very cultish. The people who are actively engaged in the scene very much consider it a lifestyle, and they are constantly recruiting people in order to keep things fresh.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 06:16 PM
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Well, between that and his pining for his ex, he was certainly keeping his options open.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 06:07 PM
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If he's broken up with you, then take him at his word, which means that you find own place, extricate your life from his, and in the mean time, stop sharing his bed. It's apparent that this is always going to be a high conflict relationship, and that you're very incompatible on several levels. You recognize you vetted badly and cohabited hastily so there's no point in compounding the mistake by wasting anymore time, yours or his.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 05:33 PM
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She doesn't specify what "stupid things" he was doing on social media, but if he was chatting inappropriately with other women (as opposed to taking a lot of Buzzfeed quizzes) then that is something to be concerned about.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 05:26 PM
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No. I don't even eat at restaurants with few reviews. But in all seriousness, the only thing that matters (at least in my opinion) is that a guy is capable of being monogamous within his committed relationships, isn't receiving or spreading STDs, and doesn't have any children from his exploits. Anything else is none of my business.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:02 PM
1

This is all great advice. Another thing I would add is that a lawyer will only be as serious about your divorce as you are. If you're waffling about following through with the process, if you're spinelessly willing to cave into demands in the hopes of winning back your spouse, your lawyer will pick up on that, and won't fight hard for a client who isn't willing to fight for himself or herself. I've seen several people close to me (men and women) fall into this trap. By the time they realized the…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 10:31 PM
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Women working outside the home is not modern... With the exception of the Eisenhower years, most American women worked outside the home in some capacity or another. The only difference between the past and now is that women have a wider variety of career opportunities, and for many women, careers consume their identity. Men have always tended to define themselves by their careers, too, only they're not writing depressing thought pieces about it because they've never had any other option except t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 09:20 AM
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I totally agree with you about the anecdote about the panel. When the other men disagreed with her, she could've offered her own counterpoint... Essentially demonstrating to the audience what a "strong, thick-skinned" and competent woman should do when challenged by peers in a business environment. Instead, she shut down, let her male coworkers hijack the conversation (therefore validating her preconceived sense of victimhood) and instead of coping with her feelings, got obliterated at the bar.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 09:01 AM
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Here are some questions to consider: What is he going to do to rebuild your trust? Why should you submit yourself to and follow the lead of a man who betrayed you? How did he allow himself to cheat instead of break up with you, or at least give you the option of whether to be non-monogamous? How are you going to cope with him having a job that requires regular travel? What's he going to do the next time he's unhappy with something... keep it to himself and get something on the side? As others ha…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 09:30 PM
5

18-23 year old virgins who have a clear moral compass and are carefully choosing their one-and-only lifetime partner are not going to choose a 33-year-old man who already had kids and never married their mother. These women are going to hold out for a nice young man who doesn't have any baggage and who shares their values. But even if you do manage to land a date with one of these women, her parents and peers will see right through and set her head straight. If you do happen to find an 18 to 23-…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 07:41 PM
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You actually need to lose 245 pounds... the excess weight on your body, plus 200 lbs of cheating boyfriend. If you were such a shitty, unattractive girlfriend, he should've broken up with you, not fucked around behind your back and put you at risk for heartbreak and STDs. Also, for all you know, this isn't the first time he's cheated... just the first time that you found out. I think you've sunk enough of your best years into this relationship. Get slim, get hot, and apply everything that you've…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 07:07 PM
4

I don't like playing armchair psychologist, but it might have to do with having a low self-esteem. If you don't feel good about yourself, you might perceive men who genuinely care for you as weak or low quality, while men who treat you like garbage are behaving in a way that you think you deserve. I'm not saying I'm right, but it might be something to consider.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 12:54 AM
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I'm not going to argue definitions of alpha and beta, because I feel like that gets nowhere and isn't helpful. Your definition of a leader is screwed up. You see no other way that someone could be strong without being cruel and domineering. A truly good leader doesn't rule by fear... he inspires people to follow him through the competence of his decision making, his ability to make their lives better, and by inspiring others to be the best version of themselves. You need to find out the root cau…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 03:11 PM
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How old is he? Most men around your age are still working hard to get established. If you're financially settled and comfortable at 23 years old, that makes you the exception, and not the rule.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 07:11 PM
7

You're ascribing to the old school definition of feminism. Unfortunately, the current wave of feminism (3rd or 4th wave, can't keep track of which one we're on now) demands equality of outcome rather than equality of opportunity, and freedom of choice... but only if you're making the choices that the majority of self-identified feminists agree with! You're right that women don't disintegrate into miserable hags at the age of 30 and most people don't have any business getting married before the a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 06:44 PM
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I think people don't know the difference between SMV (sexual market value) for RMV (relationship market value). Being intelligent and interesting will have little bearing over whether a guy will approach you at the bar, but those qualities will help ensure he wants to keep seeing you afterward.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:13 PM
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My friend and I were discussing that exact paper! She pointed out that if the oxytocin theory was true in humans (and it isn't) than that would mean that women would be less and less capable of bonding with each subsequent child after their first born.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:08 PM
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The importance of N-count, or, rather, the meaning behind it. RP posits that women who have engaged in great deal of casual sex have "ruined" their ability to pair bond; I think that misidentifies a cause for an effect. In reality, people who accumulate a great deal of partners (however subjectively we define that to be) most likely didn't form bonds easily or ascribe much emotional meaning to sex long before they took their first ride on the cock carousel. And of course, there are great number …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:18 PM
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You can still work on being stable and independent while searching for and finding a long-term partner with whom you can be intimate. I don't think it's fair or realistic to think that you have to be the perfect "finished product" before you can be in a relationship. As long as you're continually working on growing into being the best version of yourself and are carefully vetting your romantic prospect and long-term potential of mates before taking it to the next level, you will be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 10:28 PM
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So much for being an advocate of polite discourse!
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 09:42 PM
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I didn't say she couldn't speak her mind nor do I consider this space a hive mind either, though we do believe in roughly the same relationship philosophy. I'm sure if the mods found my question to be rude, abusive or against the rules, they will not hesitate to delete my comment or tell me I'm out of line. No need to waste your time tone policing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 09:34 PM
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It was a legitimate question, especially for a sub like ours that sees more than our fair share of Redditors who are more interested in pontificating and telling us how wrong we are about everything than seeking our advice or honest perspectives. Since I'm not sure which category OP fits into, I would like to know before I take the time to craft an appropriate response.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 09:19 PM
7

Are you talking at us, or are you actually interested in having your beliefs challenged?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:13 PM
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You cannot submit or surrender to a man who is actively cheating on you. If he likes the other woman better than you, he should stay with her. If he won't pull the plug, then find a lawyer or a mediator and file yourself. Get yourself into therapy, work on your issues, and be a good partner to someone with integrity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 03:19 PM
2

It's foolish to fall in love with what you think of as a man's "potential" while ignoring his current reality. There's also a major difference between being understanding and supportive of your man when he's going through a hard time, and substantially lowering your standards for the amount of attention and commitment you expect from a relationship because you know he can't meet them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 07:22 PM
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You've already received a ton of thoughtful, considerate, and helpful advice. If you're going to do nothing except spam Reddit with the same old copypasta over and over and over again, then the only deserving response is mockery.
/r/askTRP24/08/17 05:29 PM
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LOL! I don't even know you, and I feel like cheating on you!
/r/askTRP24/08/17 04:53 PM
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The mods can correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think this subreddit is for men to ask for general relationship advice, especially if the woman in question doesn't even claim to subscribe to our philosophy. I recommend /r/askTRP (if you want the red pill perspective) or /r/relationships if you want a more broad range of opinions. EDIT: Nevermind. I just saw that you've posted this same question to pretty much every relationship-oriented subreddit, and now you're posting here, probably because …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 03:30 PM
1

What exactly is the problem that his sleep habits are causing? Is it that he disrupts you when he comes to bed after 3 AM? Is it that you don't get to plan anything with him during the day because he's asleep? You need to be more specific if you want advice, and further, if you want to present him with a problem that he can actually solve.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 02:55 PM
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Him insisting on moving in before marriage is not anymore of a threat than if you refused to move in before marriage. You're each entitled to your own requisites for marriage as well as your deal breakers.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 02:45 PM
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I'm not going to pray for you because this is a situation that is completely within your control. If you're religious and if you feel like living him is an intolerable compromise of your values, then you shouldn't do it! Maybe he will change his mind; if not, then maybe you're fundamentally incompatible and shouldn't be together anyway. But if you're going to move in with him, cut out the cranky, mopey, passive-aggressive nonsense and fully embrace it. Pick out the furniture you want, and make i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 12:25 PM
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Your wife is having emotional affairs, so you throw a tantrum, have sex with her after she puts on the water works, take her out to lunch, and assume she notices that you're not wearing a certain small piece of jewelry. I'm sure she's learned her lesson now!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 11:14 PM
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You don't even need to attack her... just make it clear that your husband and marriage are off limits for discussion. "I'm not interested in your opinions about my husband or the way my marriage works, so keep your comments to yourself. No, I don't care if you think your joking... I don't want to hear it. Is that clear?" If she wants to make an argument out of it, you cut her off completely. Remember, she's getting a lot more out of your friendship than you're getting from hers; if she wants to …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 07:45 PM
2

The title of your post should be "Tips for how to get divorce raped."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 03:56 PM
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Not the person you're responding to, but no, women don't usually go out to a strip club unless it's for a bachelorette party or maybe a birthday. As OP said, male strip clubs are extremely, ahem, "interactive." It's not like going to a gentleman's club, where you can just grab a drink, kick back with your buddies, and look at boobs in peace.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 04:16 PM
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Here's how I compare male strip clubs to female strip clubs. Men watching female strippers are like lions on the Serengeti... the first time I went to a gentleman's club I was actually surprised by how quiet the dudes are, just staring at the strippers, and then "pouncing" to either shove money into a G-string or go off to get a lap dance (once it was offered). And the strippers just walk around the room, talking and flirting with men, and giving them back rubs... basically what any woman might …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 03:40 PM
2

Thank you! I expect to be tired for the next 30 years, so hopefully I can be mindful. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:27 PM
3

Tracking cycles is not as effective as the pill, and most women's cycles aren't perfectly efficient and predictable machines. Women's cycles can change over the course of their lifetime as well with no warning. As /u/Salohcin22 said, the people who rely on tracking cycles for birth control are comfortable with the idea of unplanned pregnancy, especially for religious reasons. I would never recommend this method to a couple that wasn't married and for whom pregnancy was an absolute no-no. The mos…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 11:59 AM
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Thanks for your well wishes and taking the time to respond. I hope that this works out for you and your boyfriend, one way or the other.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 11:48 AM
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First of all, your idea about having an abortion and then not telling him is abhorrent. This isn't a one-night stand; this is a serious relationship where marriage has been discussed. If you do this and hide it from him, you will be committing a serious betrayal... especially if you stay together and end up having fertility issues later in life. You need to tell him you're pregnant, and then have a frank and honest discussion about the baby and what it would mean for future and your relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 08:19 PM
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Ooh, I hope we're still playing! I'm currently pregnant with fraternal twins (boy and girl). What will be my best virtues as a mother? What vices or flaws do I need to keep in check? Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 03:57 PM
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If you know that the people who love and care for you would demand you leave and go so far as to report him to the police, and you're afraid that those nearest and dearest to him would find his actions abhorrent, then you know what the right thing to do is. You need to leave him. I'm sorry that I don't have the magic advice for how to fix your husband. Rule #1 of RPW (which is simple common sense really), is that you cannot stay with, let alone submit to, a man who is violent.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 09:48 PM
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If your husband is becoming violent and coercive, then waiting to see how this will play out and trying to work on things rationally is not an option. You need to separate immediately. I'm sorry if this is the advice you didn't want to hear, but your safety comes first. I don't normally advocate inviting other people into your business, but is there someone you both know and respect that you can confide in about your husband's sudden shift? Like your father-in-law, a good friend, or a brother? I…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 09:10 PM
1

That's an excellent point.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 01:26 PM
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Someone doesn't need to conduct a counter study in order to critique the methodology or results of another study. It's what peer reviewers do with scientific manuscripts ahead of publication. It's what smart critical thinkers do when assessing the quality of information. Also, how is it reasonable to attack a user based on their name when you know nothing about them? That's the "ad hominum" logical fallacy. For all you know, /u/Cock_Klepto could have a PhD. You also succumbed to the logical fall…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 01:55 AM
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I would love to see how that study was conducted because I don't buy it at all. I would wager that cheating is just as prevalent in open relationships as it is in monogamous relationships, it's just the standard of what's considered cheating is different. No matter where the line is drawn ("you have to tell me when you sleep with someone new," "always wear condoms," "never spend the night") some people will trample right over it. I've seen it time and time again. Sometimes it's not even about th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/17 08:44 PM
2

Are there any little projects that he can do that aren't strenuous? Things that require just the use of his two hands? Also, can you ask him for his help on things that don't require manual labor? As for the repairs on the house, even if you have to hire a contractor, he can still be in charge of working with the contractor and delegating tasks to ensure that the work gets done to his satisfaction. He'll just be in a manager role, rather than in the laborer role.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 02:59 PM
2

"go with the flow" "just see what happens" "I just want to meet cool people" I think TRP's sidebar has similar suggested phrases that men can use when they're trying to dodge the commitment or exclusivity question!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 12:49 PM
3

The statistic that half of marriages end in divorce is grossly inflated. One of the reasons is that people who marry and divorce multiple times inflate the numbers. There's an interesting article on the subject here.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 03:02 PM
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No, I'm not going to give you advice on how to manipulate your husband into taking orders from you. If the only thing that's wrong with your partner is that he showers once a day then count yourself lucky and don't be a neurotic pain in the ass.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 02:36 PM
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I don't think you suddenly had an epiphany that you were in love with him after 15 years. It sounds like you expected him to always be available and waiting in the wings, but now that he's engaged, his value in your eyes skyrocketed.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 08:12 PM
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MTHR is pretty common and won't really effect your future fertility. I'm a carrier for MTHR, and now that I'm pregnant, I just need to take extra folate. I think you're wise to not wait. You're in a strong marriage and you've been together a while. The doubts that you're having just indicate to me that you are a thoughtful and concerned wife and future mother. The best parents acknowledge that it isn't going to be a cake walk and that their are struggles and sacrifices.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 08:09 PM
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Before you make any decisions, you should get your hormone levels and ovarian reserve checked by your OBGYN or a reproductive endocrinologist. This way you will be able to make an informed decision about whether or not to wait.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 07:05 PM
3

This comment is 100% on point. Brava!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 06:24 PM
3

As a 36yo woman, you are at a difficult age to be dating. You are at the point where men your age have the ability to date a decade younger, with no social repercussions. It's not just that men who are in her age group are into younger women... it's also that the best men and the ones that are most interested in marriage and family are already married by 35. That leaves OP either chasing after men that really aren't into settling down, men that no other women wanted, and men that are divorced an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 06:19 PM
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Based on the information you've provided, I see two possibilities for what's going on your relationships, and maybe a combination of both: You actually don't want to be in a committed relationship, even though you say you do, so you date people that aren't really candidates. You're not a good partner. Most people don't tell the people they're breaking up that they "make their skin crawl" or accuse them of "ruining their lives." Either way, the common denominator in your relationship failures is …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 06:15 PM
1

I totally sympathize. I think there's a lot of pressure on young people to know exactly what they want to do and to "chase your dreams." You still have time to figure it out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 11:23 PM
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It sounds like you tried to play your comment off as a joke after the fact. Acquiring knowledge and gaining skills (whether it's through college, job experience, trade school or an apprenticeship) is not a waste of time. Even if everything works out with your boyfriend and he's perfectly happy to support you, he might die, become ill or incapacitated, and you will be in the position where you will need to step up and support your family. Also, unless you come from a deeply religious or conservat…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 04:12 PM
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How he interacts with his family really isn't your business, unless it involves how they treat you or if they somehow interfere with your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 02:27 PM
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I'm RPW, and to be honest, if I were in their position, I would be aghast by that comment as well. Knowing what you do about his family, it seems like you were trying to get a reaction out of them. Being "traditional" does not mean following your partner around doing whatever he says. It means that you two have different roles and responsibilities within the relationship. While you may ultimately defer to his judgement, you still voice your opinions and feelings, and if he's a good captain, he t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 02:22 PM
4

I think it might be worth taking a look at The 5 Love Languages and seeing if perhaps he is affectionate, just not in a different way then you. For example, your primary love language might be verbal affirmation ("I love you, I miss you"), while his might be acts of service (like fixing your computer or helping you around the house).
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 03:09 PM
2

I think she absolutely slept around. Nobody spontaneously proposes an option relationship unless they have a specific person or a specific scenario (such as this trip) already on his or her mind. She's not responding to his texts (especially the ones first thing in the morning) because she's with someone else. She might also say she changed her mind about opening up the relationship not because she got her fill of other men but because she doesn't want to give OP the same freedom that she desire…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 02:56 PM
1

The only way to win a shit test is to not play.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 12:04 PM
2

Definitely embarrassed, but fortunately, we can laugh about it now. I haven't pulled a stunt like that since taking the red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 07:40 PM
3

I regret to say I once gave my husband a literal shit test. I was angry that he never changed the roll of toilet paper after it ran out, so I deliberately left it empty one time just to spite him... and then yell at him later. Not my finest moment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 07:26 PM
4

Honestly, I don't think these women like you or really consider you a friend. Maybe you need to start vetting your friends, the same way as you would a potential romantic partner.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 02:18 PM
1

I don't think she came here looking for people to tell her to dump him. She probably came here because she thinks we hold some secret to singlehandedly transforming a man's character.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 03:36 PM
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Intelligence is not contrary to RPW; it's part of your RMV (relationship market value). When your SMV (sexual market value) traits begin to decline, it will be your RMV traits (like your intelligence) that will help sustain your relationship in the long term. There's nothing wrong with disagreeing with him on a point of fact, as long as you're doing it politely, and not making a huge issue out of something that's ultimately not relevant.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 03:34 PM
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Additionally, I'm not really sure I understand how this is a 'RPW' problem? I think she's looking for an RPW-style response, which is for the best. If she posted to /r/relationships, they would probably immediately put the MIL on blast and direct her to /r/justnomil. Instead, she got your very sound advice. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:43 PM
3

If your husband isn't pulling his weight around the house or not fully adhering to the agreement that you signed, then she's relying on you to pick up the slack. If that's unacceptable to you, then the person you need to have a conversation with is your husband, not your mother-in-law. If you're unhappy and can't fix the current the situation, then for the sake of your marriage and your relationship with your MIL, you should move out after the 6 months is over and rent. Yes, it will take longer …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:39 PM
2

I think the modern style of dating has made people extremely lazy and self-absorbed. You can just browse Tindr as if ordering takeout online.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 01:55 AM
3

Agreed. The few ideas I could parse out of it aren't particularly original or insightful.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 01:48 AM
1

Glad you found my comment helpful. If you don't know what you're actually looking for, that's a problem. You'll end up drifting from relationship to relationship, hoping others will have the answers for you. This is probably a good time for you to assess yourself, your core values and your goals for the future. You need to have a tight grasp on your own identity and a clear vision of what you want in a person and what you can offer others before you can find the right relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 01:42 AM
3

First and foremost, what Southern is addressing in that video is the pervasiveness of hookup culture (particularly on college campuses) and the extremely short-term view and focus on instant gratification that is foisted on youths today. You're really mistaken in your belief that most young women relationship-minded and aren't sleeping around, because I can assure you that many are. It's hard to give advice when I don't know anything about your history or past relationships, but I will say that …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 08:24 PM
1

I agree with you on that point. I can just see the other side of it as well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 06:49 PM
1

/u/HappyWifeLifeX and /u/MetalDevils: You're both making good points. The problem in this situation is that they're both stringing each other long, hoping that the other will change their minds (in the guy's case that she'll cave to sex, in her case, that he'll cave to abstaining before marriage). This guy is not "orbiting" in the sense that he's hanging out with a woman who's not interested in the hopes that she's see him romantically, because she does! I don't think it can be argued that they …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 05:28 PM
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He wants to date and sleep with you, and you obviously want to date him as well... you just don't want to sleep with him before marriage. I think you're both stringing each other along by continuing to act like a couple, even though you're not. Be honest with yourself. How will you feel when he eventually meets someone else who is willing to be intimate with him and stops calling you every day? How do you think he will treat you when you eventually find someone who might be willing to wait for m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 05:15 PM
1

Focus on your studies and seek out opportunities to socialize with like-minded people. Also, your college might still have a small libertarian or conservative group that you might be able to meet people through (if you lean that way). If not, then perhaps try seek people outside of campus that you can be friends with. Overall, just pretend that you're a tourist in North Korea... a fascinating experience, even if it's hostile.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 09:51 PM
2

It sounds like you're on the right track then!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 02:09 PM
2

I wasn't really asking for your affiliation. I was asking you to examine your beliefs, your values and your paradigm. Because based on your post and your comments, you are excessively preoccupied with what other people think. But I do recognize that the social-political climate in Europe is very hostile to dissent, and you're trying to navigate that. Since you've decided to be with someone who has a public political career, you need to decide if your views and values align enough with his that y…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 12:43 PM
6

What do you actually believe in? Because judging by your post, you passionately agree with whoever you happen to be in the same room with at any given moment.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 05:05 PM
2

Considering your ages, you've only been together a month, and you haven't said I love you yet, then you need to hold off on oral and sex. Also, intimacy is not something you give away like a trinket for his birthday. You're much more precious than that! Think of a thoughtful material gift or a non-sexual activity that you can do together as a gift for his birthday rather than a sexual act. The more you know, love and appreciate each other for what you have to offer beyond sex, the more meaningfu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 11:14 AM
1

My husband adores my sense of humor, so no need to be concerned for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 01:35 AM
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It's impossible to know someone fully and vet someone in such a short period of time. If anything the fact that they're in their 30s makes this situation even more ridiculous. 22-year-olds being naive and impulsive is understandable; if 30-year-olds are acting this way, it's because they're idiots or have suspicious motives.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/17 03:24 PM
2

So you've been taken advantage of your entire life and you've re-created that dynamic in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/17 03:16 PM
2

Since this is your first time posting, why did you come to this subreddit as opposed to others for advice?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:14 PM
25

No. If you can't trust him then you shouldn't be with him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:12 PM
9

It sounds like your "king" got fired from his job and is now content to mooch off your family. He didn't jump ship; he sailed you off a cliff. And why are you cooking and cleaning for 7 people?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:10 PM
8

OK, OP's boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 05:26 PM
3

You might never have measured, but I'm sure you know your penis very well and have seen others in pornos or locker rooms. Taking pictures on a phone isn't an accurate way of measuring anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 09:32 PM
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I would think he was sending dick pics to someone who wasn't me. If he's over the age of 16, I can assure you that he's well-acquainted enough with his dick that he doesn't need photographic evidence for comparison.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 08:40 PM
3

I don't get why you're being so hostile. I was trying to have a discussion, understand your point of view, and bring up different angles for thought.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 08:36 PM
5

I just wanted to make sure I understood what you meant. In any case, like I said, it depends on the illness and how its managed. There are a myriad of mental disorders. Certain conditions are easier to treat and manage than others. One thing that I would advise people to run screaming from are personality disorders. There's no long-lasting, effective treatment for them, a part from talk therapy, which is of dubious efficacy, especially considering the fact that most people with personality disor…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 08:24 PM
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While I think it's important for people who have a mental illness to take responsibility for managing their illness and compensate for their bad days as best as they can, they need to also be wary of people who will try to take advantage of their perceived weakness. There are plenty of people out there who deliberately seek out people who are mentally ill in order to play the "white knight" and because they love the attention and feeling of being needed. These types of people are attractive at f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 08:16 PM
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I don't think that entirely depends on the illness and how it's managed. Should wives divorce their husbands if they come back from war with PTSD? Should men divorce their wives if they're suffering from postpartum depression?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 08:09 PM
6

Why would you send nudes to a guy you're just getting to know?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 03:15 PM
3

Not necessarily. In a good relationship, partners find ways to keep the fires stoked in a relationship. It just takes more effort than it did in the beginning.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 01:10 PM
2

Regardless, if monogamy is what you want, you shouldn't be with him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 01:08 PM
4

Are you really here to listen to our ideas or to practice arguing with your SO?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:31 PM
9

OK, so what are the other RMV qualities that your guy has? My list was just relevant examples, not exhaustive. You're the one asking the question, and I'm just trying to provide the feedback you asked for.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:25 PM
1

Congratulations on your recent nuptials, by the way!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:20 PM
7

Since your question is about RMV, and what constitutes an high RMV man, then those qualities are very relevant to your post.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:16 PM
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Except your entire post is about SMV and not RMV, whether you recognize that or not. Since your question was explicitly about RMV, I thought it was relevant to point that out. Regardless, to say that SMV is irrelevant is either naive or disingenuous. Without sexual attraction, it's impossible to capture or maintain interest and passion.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:15 PM
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Where are the RMV traits? Everything you listed is based on sexual attraction. RMV traits are things like: Generous with his time and affection Honesty and integrity Compatible values/moral outlook Compatible interests Intelligent and hard worker Reliable... he follows through on what he says he will do, his behavior is consistent with his words Stable, not reckless. When he needs to take a risk, the cost/benefit is carefully calculated. As for when to accept him as Captain... at the bare minimu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 07:02 PM
1

My personal big ones: Abuse (emotional and physical) Addiction Deception Infidelity Perhaps most importantly, a relationship is unfixable when one person doesn't want it anymore. There's no way for a person to singlehandedly revive a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 04:49 PM
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A lot of cheaters retroactively come up with a billion reasons that they're unhappy in order to justify their actions. Personally, I don't like a lot of the excuses that are made for men cheating in this subreddit from time to time. There's no way to stay in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you and maintain your dignity, whether you're a man or a woman. It doesn't matter how skinny, well put together you are, and how great of a wife you are. If a man lacks character, nothing you do…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 04:46 PM
2

In my opinion... if you believe in monogamy and he wants polyamory then you are fundamentally incompatible and shouldn't be together. That's right up there with one person wanting kids and the other person wants to be childless.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 04:41 PM
2

I think it depends entirely on the couple... how strong the relationship was before the significant life event and how well they managed the life change. With one couple I know, her husband got a disabling injury in Afghanistan. It was very rough for a few years, but she stayed by his side. He also had a positive attitude and was committed to his physical therapy and at least getting to the point where he could be somewhat independent. They're still together and they're happy. Contrast that with…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 03:37 PM
1

Did he come on really strong in the beginning? Did it seem like you absolutely agreed on everything... that he was essentially mirroring you? If so, he was probably lovebombing, which is a common manipulation tactic among abusers. A high quality guy who is stable-- even if he's really infatuated you-- is not going to try to "sell" you very hard on the relationship early on or rush things along, because just as you should be vetting him, he's going to be vetting you. They're not going to voluntee…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 01:29 PM
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I recommend an oldie but goody: "Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong" by Barbara de Angelis. It's basically an excellent guide for vetting and for learning how to break out of bad habits when it comes to choosing partners.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 08:32 PM
2

I don't think it's dating or marrying "down" to be attracted to men who come from poor or working class backgrounds. Though my husband and I are both white collar professionals, we both came from working class families and often have an easier time relating to our local teachers and firefighters than we do to the "posh" people with whom we attended school and now work alongside. The most important trait you should look for in a man (financially speaking) is a strong work ethic, responsible with …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 08:16 PM
2

I said I value hard work and drive... Not the wallet. And where did I say that's the only thing value? Why are you deliberately twisting my words? My husband came from nothing, worked hard for everything he has (as have I), and I am proud of him for it. If you think that's gold digging, then you have a really dysfunctional view of the world.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 10:46 PM
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His concerns are completely valid. Quite honestly, very few relationships survive a partner going to medical school (or residency for that matter) because it completely devours all of students' time and emotional energy. I think your approach of taking it day by day for the time being wise. If you're both going to be extremely busy for this next year, you will just need to be sure to carve out time for each other in advance, but at the same time, have flexibility if plans need to change.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 07:35 PM
2

I think you're choosing to interpret my comments in a deliberately negative way, and frankly, I'm insulted that you think that because I admire hard work and ambition in a man that I am gold digger and wholly lacking in kindness and integrity. Again, if you read my comment and didn't try to immediately put a nasty spin on it, you will know that I met and started dating my husband when he was just on the road to establishing himself. When I advised him to ask for more money than what he was being…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 05:01 PM
1

Do you actually like barista #2? I feel bad for the person who might've wanted their gorgeous pink umbrella back.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 02:49 PM
1

I'm not a gold digger in any stretch of the word. I have my own degrees and my own successful career. My parents (who came to the USA as poor immigrants) raised me to be able to support myself without need of a man. If you actually read my post, my husband's intelligence and drive to succeed is one of the many things I appreciate about him. And he loved that I motivated him to obtain the very best for himself, hence why he asked me out. But I will say that if you think that money doesn't (or sho…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 09:57 AM
1

Maybe you're a gross fat ass who could stand to lose a few pounds.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 03:38 PM
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If fixing your problem features would make you happier and more confident, then I say it's worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 03:36 PM
3

This is why I worry for Europe. So many (like OP) are more concerned about derogatory language toward migrants than the actual violence and rape culture imported by those migrants.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 02:12 PM
2

I didn't know I wanted children until I fell in love with my husband and then all I could think about was wanting to make our love bigger and bigger by having a family. Unfortunately, at our age, it's a lot harder than if we got started younger. In my opinion, the people who have the concerns that you do make the best parents because it shows that you take the decision seriously and don't see having children as a means of ego validation or just something to do because you're supposed to at a cer…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 01:38 PM
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I will never be able to physically overpower an attacker on my own. As the saying goes, "God created man and woman... Smith & Wesson made them equal."
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 02:37 PM
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No, because my husband isn't going to be with 100% of the time. If anyone comes at me on the street, they'll get a face full of mace. If they invade my home and my husband is not there, I will shoot them myself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 01:11 PM
8

Again, anything that is grounds for cheating is grounds for divorce. Simple as that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 01:03 PM
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People should own the mistakes they make in a relationship, but I wholly believe that the cheater owns the decision to cheat 100%. In my opinion, cheating is abuse, and if we wouldn't blame a victim for other types of abuse, nor should we blame them for their partner's decision to cheat. Cheaters have tons of options for dealing with relationship problems other than cheating. In fact, cheaters often decide to cheat, then make up or create problems in their relationship after the fact in order to…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 09:52 AM
1

Without knowing you and without any mention of specific things you might be doing wrong, I can't really give you constructive criticism.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 09:44 AM
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For most of human history, women have had to work, it's just that we have more opportunities for what profession we can have than our grandmother's did. What I take issue with the concept of "having it all" as it's toted by the media and society is the notion that there shouldn't be any sacrifice involved. Fact of the matter is that men who have very lucrative and successful careers don't get to see their kids as much as they like, as do men who work two jobs to feed their families. Yet this is …
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 09:45 AM
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Why should women expect to have it all? Men have never had that option.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 07:35 PM
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Unless you're from a culture where you have no choice in who you marry, remember that the person you married is the person you selected for yourself.
/r/RedPillWives07/06/17 04:28 PM
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Depends on the circumstances. If the guy is poor because he's young and just starting out, but has a fantastic work ethic and goals for himself, that's fine. But many women fall into the trap of investing in a guy who is poor because he's lazy and aimless, because they think he has "potential" (even though he's all talk and no action) or because they think that with enough love and encouragement he will change.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 02:39 PM
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My husband and I were friends for a few years before we started dating. At the time we first met, he was couch surfing and working an entry-level job that he hated. He decided to quit, bury himself in learning the skills for the field he wanted to break into-- which was completely unrelated to his degree or his current job-- and then got a mid-level job in that field. I was really impressed by his drive and ambition. A few years later, he received an offer on the job that would eventually become…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 02:32 PM
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Some guys are simply not going to be interested in you, for whatever reason. What I can say is that if you're second guessing your every word and gesture, you're probably overthinking things and maybe giving off a whiff of loneliness and insecurity. One thing you can try if a guy, for example, says "We're totally checking out that restaurant!" is say something like, "Great idea! How about next Thursday?" One the one hand, it's not overeager, because you're following up on his suggestion, and on …
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 12:45 PM
8

Just as its important to not write off all hot guys as players, its just as important to to not assume that all quiet, average-looking men are virtuous. Some of the biggest creeps I ever met in my life were shy, "nice guys", who compensated for their crippling insecurities by cheating on their girlfriends or tearing down women in order to feel better about themselves. OP, if guys are rejecting you before you get a chance to reject them, then consider it a favor. Stop chasing after wallflowers an…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 02:01 PM
2

It's one thing to give him the benefit of the doubt, but don't fall into the trap of making excuses for him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 01:39 PM
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/u/mwait pretty much covered everything that I wanted to say and her advice is spot on. The only thing I can add is that if, after your sit-down, if he tells you he's done with the marriage and wants a divorce, still move forward with the drastic changes you need to make for yourself and for your marriage. Best case scenario, your husband changes his mind. Worst case scenario, you can be a good ex-wife with whom he can have an amicable co-parenting relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 04:09 PM
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Instead of asking yourself why they won't choose you, you should ask yourself why you continually choose men who aren't available to you. Maybe you pick them because you're not ready for a commitment or you want to blame rejection on something other than yourself? You're also making the same mistake that a lot beta orbiter men make, which is stick around and try to be friends with someone you want to date in the hopes of getting upgraded to girlfriend status. It's a complete waste of time.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:00 AM
5

Does he want to stay in the marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 10:56 AM
3

It doesn't matter what's normal or not, just what works in the relationship. If he was just bad over the phone, I don't think it would be a big deal, but if you're the type that needs warmth and affection than you might not be compatible. Also the playing rough thing sounds disturbing. Did he apologize? Why doesn't your mother like him? It just seems like this post is just the tip of the iceberg.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 02:59 AM
1

What's he like when you're together?
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 04:12 PM
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You already diminished your value by proposing an open relationship with a depressed drunk. He basically gave you the "It's not you it's me line" in order to break up with you, but since you offered him the sex and emotional comfort of a relationship without the commitment, of course he's going to stick around for the free cake. The RPW experience of surrendering to and nurturing your captain is for men who are stable, reliable and wholly committed to the relationship. It's not for winning back …
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 11:54 AM
2

That's perfectly normal and natural. If you're going to get over it, it's going to take a great deal of time and effort on his part. If he continues to lie (either by omission or otherwise) and just expects you to get over it, then he's given you nothing with which to rebuild your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 10:27 AM
2

If you felt no sparks when you kissed then you shouldn't have progressed to sex. I know you can't go back in time, but in the future, you're not obligated to have sex with someone just because you planned to. You're allowed to change your mind.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 11:32 PM
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If they are a married couple, her credit and her financial stability is legally tied to his. Lying to her about the extent of his losses was inexcusable and a total betrayal of trust. Just because the stock market is more socially respectable than a casino doesn't mean she should rugsweep his lies and reckless risk taking. They had big plans that they made together and he single-handed pissed them away, at least for the foreseeable future. Now I'm not saying they can't survive this. But doing so…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 10:47 PM
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This is a major betrayal so you two definitely need to see a marriage counselor. The initial bad investment can be chocked up to poor decision making, but he lied about the extent of it and just the size of the debt is just as bad as if he lost it all in a casino. The only way that you're going to move on and trust him again is through consistent action and transparency on his part. He should be open about running credit reports on both of you to see if there is any other debt you're unaware of.…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 10:42 PM
3

No babies without marriage. Simple as that. Your reasons for not getting married don't make sense. You don't need your family to be interested in order to get married. You don't even need much money; last I checked, a license and ceremony at the courthouse was $50. So what's the real reason? Also, he shouldn't be on your case to bring children into the world which, at the moment, he is in no position to support. He can't pick up the slack if you need to take time off work to recover and care for…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 11:09 AM
2

Why did you sleep with him if you felt nothing? Did you just feel obligated?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 06:02 PM
2

I've been following your story, and I think it's really inspiring how much you've achieved in the wake of such tragedy and how driven you are toward happiness and improvement. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 03:29 PM
1

To be clear, I don't believe in waiting a particular, arbitrarily-set amount of time before sex... I believe on waiting until you've established that you're going to monogamous. Realistically, if you've been seeing each other fairly frequently and really like each other, people usually know if they want to be exclusive within 1 to 3 months.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 03:21 PM
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I think it's OK to compromise on moving in after you've gotten engaged and set a date for the wedding that's within 1 year. That's what my husband and I did and it worked fine. If he balks at the idea, don't try to convince him, just stick to original position of staying in your own place until your married.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 03:00 PM
2

I'm glad that you found my advice helpful. You're going to be just fine! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 02:59 PM
4

In healthy relationships, people don't automatically assume the worst of their partners and keep them in a state of constantly walking on eggshells. Based on your above examples, your boyfriend is either a complete moron who can't comprehend the very basics of social interaction or he's actively seeking excuses to get pissed off at you. Either way, he's awful.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:55 PM
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The only circumstances in which its acceptable to hit your partner is if they're attacking you and you're defending yourself. Hitting a spouse under any circumstances is cruel, immoral and illegal. The article is correct in saying that there is a double standard in society in that women get away with abusing men, but beyond that, saying that smacking around your partner is an acceptable response to her pissing you off is utter bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:45 PM
2

I am blessed with very fine, barely visible leg hairs so I don't have to shave too often. I shave my underarms regularly and have a short buzzcut in my lady parts. I don't like waxing and shaving it bald gives me in-grown hairs. My husband has never stated his preferences, I just notice that he's much more <ahem> attentive down there when I'm groomed versus not. As an aside, I've yet to meet a guy who wasn't a closeted homosexual who genuinely liked or didn't mind hairy armpits and legs on women…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 06:38 PM
1

You can only get away with refraining completely from all manner of sexual activity if you're having an arranged marriage or a very short courtship (6 months or less) with another very religious person. Men who are secular or who want to date for a while before getting married will want to have sex or at least engage in other sexual activities. If you want to marry one of these guys, then sexual activity needs to be on the table. I also think its necessary if you're going to have a happy marriag…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:41 PM
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I read your post and your follow-up comments and it seems like both these guys-- though very different people-- were "Knights in Shining Armor" who loved coming to the rescue of poor little you and got an ego boost out of being needed. Men who need to feel like they're better people than the women they're in relationships with are not "high caliber" guys. That even goes for Guy #2, who you think of as a Prince. If he keeps ending up in relationships with women he considers "damaged" (like you an…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:30 PM
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The wide availability of sex is actually a boon to an RPW. She instantly stands out because she's not desperate. If he's not commitment-minded then he won't wait around and he's less likely lie about being monogamous to get in your pants (like they did in the old days). It's like if there's a very long wait at a 5-star restaurant or a months-long delay in getting a reservation. Sure, some will say "fuck it" and go buy a slice of pizza instead, but people who are truly interested in the quality o…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 03:30 PM
3

My understanding of that book was that you can't expect a spouse to be exclusively responsible for your happiness. It's important to find someone with whom you are fundamentally compatible, rather than someone who ticks off every box on a long list of arbitrary qualities that may or may not lead to long, happy marriage. Nowhere does the author advocate marrying someone with whom you are not in love and share few interests, and who you don't desire.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 03:19 PM
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All those people who like him aren't the ones getting married to him. Your feelings and opinions are the only ones that matter. And I get being attracted to the wrong men in the past... I was too. My husband was a very slow burn compared the instant fireworks I had with others... But eventually, the dynamite did go off. I'm sorry if you were looking for reassurance. I just think that just because someone isn't the wrong guy doesn't mean he's the right one.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 07:46 AM
1

Ah, it sounded like you were going to settle for living like room mates forever. I'm glad to hear that's not the case. I don't know if you live in Utah (or in any other state where adultery is grounds for divorce and can determine the outcome custody or assets) then I strongly advise you against plate-spinning until you've filed for legal separation. You should also document any instances of cheating or sexting that you discover on her side going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 08:12 PM
1

What are you going to do if she decides to divorce you once she finds a better branch to swing? Would you rather leave on your own initiative and potentially get the best possible custody and asset distribution that you can for yourself, or would you rather hand her the grounds to divorce you on a silver platter by cheating and get blindsided?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 07:42 PM
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I think the place you're looking for is over here ---> /r/TheRedPill
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 06:13 PM
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Don't respond to him. After everything he has done, why are you even still in contact with him? Take that last message as a life lesson that you desperately needed to learn. If you act like a doormat, people will wipe their feet on you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 06:11 PM
4

A marriage counselor is useless if she doesn't trust him and if he's still actively lying to her.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 05:23 PM
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It's normal for those types of questions to enter your mind when you're making a decision as huge as marriage, but I think it's a bad sign that something is terribly wrong if she's feeling sick with dread instead of excited while planning her wedding. It seems to me that she's making a huge effort because the guy is perfect "on paper" and is now entrenched in her family and social circle; not because she's genuinely in love with him. Personally, I don't think its fair to him or herself to get ma…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 05:19 PM
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It's normal to feel a bit jittery before tying the knot, but feeling persistent dread and not excitement most certainly isn't. It's one thing for a relationship to simmer down you've been together for a long time, if you've never felt burning desire for him and if you're still having unsatisfying sex after communicating this to him, then personally, I think you're setting yourself for a lifetime of unhappiness. Eventually, you'll meet a man who gives you the tingles, and what once seemed like a …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 05:17 PM
2

There's nothing that you can do to change how you got started, but the most important thing is whether or not you're on the same page now. If you're both monogamous, seriously discussing the future, and you're happy with how he treats you, then you need to get off your hamster wheel and not look for problems that don't exist.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 12:04 AM
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Glad you found this helpful. Also, avoid viewing his behavior as a statement about your value as a woman, or lack thereof. If he wants to feed the egos of other girls online, that's his problem, not yours.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 03:51 PM
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