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This is literally just him projecting. He's doing something wrong so he thinks everyone else must be as scummy as he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:26 AM
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I was going to! But her very public ig acct made it clear that they are "poly" so I just wrote him off as a scum bag who had to hide that fact just to get laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:32 PM
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🙏 🙏 🙏 Amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:31 PM
77

Honestly I regret not going "psycho" (standing up for myself) with my ex. He got me pregnant, begged me to keep the baby, and left me as soon as it was too far gone to have an abortion. Every day I wish I would have shown up to his church visibly pregnant and told on him to his pastor daddy and the entire congregation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:30 PM
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Preadtory as fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:28 PM
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Preach. It's been a little over a year since the last time I had sex (good sex, the only thing my ex was good for when we were together) and I finally felt like I was ready to find a casual sex partner or two. I made a Tinder account and it was absolutely dreadful. The only man that was attractive enough inside & out turned out to be married (wild what a public records search will turn up). I am ready to go another year or more without sex. No man is worthy of even a crumb of my body. Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:27 PM
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Actually better article than I expected, but I really don't think FDS is treating dating/love "like a game" at all. It's just about taking dating seriously, not settling for poor behavior in your friends & partners, and not wasting your time people & things that are no good for you. I don't think setting healthy boundaries and having certain expectations to be game playing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:32 AM
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For real! My general life goals have zero to do with men and romance. I want another child but I will do that with a sperm donor before I do that with another man. A romantic relationship eventually would be nice, but I'd like to live separately, maybe even with some distance (2-3 hour drive, max). But aside from sex & flirting, I can get my companionship needs fulfilled by platonic female friends: child rearing, travel, a trusted confidante, a roommate, an event partner... All things that a fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:54 AM
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I am SO EMBARRASSED that I let my ex parade me around his friends & family so soon. It still makes me cringe. I don't bring men into my circle like that, so I thought it meant something. Nope, I was just another one of his girls on the list. I hope he's a little embarrassed, too, the way he parades so many women around his own mother but can't make any of them stay. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:42 AM
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I've dated mostly men who cooked maybe more than me, figured out my favorite meals, etc. and they were all NVM. This right here. My LVM ex does "all the right things" like this - making favorite meals (including trial & error to get them just right), noting hobbies & interests and buying relevant gifts relating to those things, planning great dates, unprompted back rubs, showed me off to his friends & family, traveling to come see me. And he now does these things for his new girlfriend, and I'm …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:35 AM
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Yeah I do think learning how to make your partner's favorite meal is the bare minimum. I do this for my friends, my coworkers, my roommate. I am allergic (not deathly, just hives) to avocado and still make perfect guac for my friends that love it when I'm entertaining, taste tests that numb my mouth and all. It's definitely sweet, but this man learned a fried chicken recipe and makes it sometimes. It's just what you should do for someone you love, especially your partner with whom you're raising…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:39 AM
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The bare minimum 😌😻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:12 AM
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Honestly I'm still kind of fucked up over my child's father. Our breakup was extremely rough on me and having to interact with him hurts my soul. But will be ever know that? Hahaha NO. This is a dude who SHOWED ME the begging paragraphs his last ex sent him that he never replied to. He laughed at her to me. It was disgusting. Ladies reading this: even if you DO cry, even if it hurts the worst, don't let him know. It doesn't serve you in any way. All it does is feed his ego & he will probably sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:40 AM
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I know SO MANY men who have never brought up sex/sexual topics ever. We talk about hobbies, passions, goals, we laugh together, we open up to each other. You know, genuine human connection that isn't about how their dick feels. "i'M a GuY" is such a bullshit excuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:29 AM
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The most recent guy that I was talking to was like this. The whole "you're too beautiful/kind/talented etc. for me" spiel. I just agreed. He definitely convinced me! We don't talk anymore, obviously. Men with these confidence issues are generally jealous and controlling and want you to change all the things about you that initially attracted them to you in the first place. No thank you. I want a confident man, a secure relationship where we feed off of each other's excellence. Not some dude who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:24 AM
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Ew. Not only is he MARRIED which make him scum for pursuing you at all, he also kept trying after you declined more than once, AND he's in a position of power over you even if you don't report to him directly. Scumbag trifecta. This dude is absolute trash and should be reported for sexual harassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:20 AM
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I am very excited for this development
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:41 AM
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I mention it whenever it comes up in conversation. I really do not like it when people put all that info out into the world, whether it's "never married" or "divorced". It's really irrelevant information without context. And context is something given to someone you're having a conversation with, not every stranger that happens upon your OLD or social media profile. I'm on really great terms with my ex-husband. I don't tell men the reason I got divorced though. It was an amicable split. I just s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:54 AM
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I was thinking the same thing. I'm both autistic AND an introvert but have no issue having a fine time at dinner with any stranger who has any amount of social grace. It's "Awkward" to them when there isn't chemistry because they see no value in women outside of what we can provide them sexually and as a free therapist. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:44 AM
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OK and the story doesn't even add up. She says he didn't go but that his options were either go or stand outside in the cold (as if he couldn't go somewhere else like, idk their hotel room or literally any other type of bar?). Did he just bail on his whole DC trip? I'm lost here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:41 AM
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I am hard to get 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:59 PM
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"I don't kiss on the first date." I've even told men this before the first date. If they scoff, then they don't even get a first date. Easy peasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:11 PM
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What the fuck so SHE supposed to do about it that HE can't? Fucking clean it up, you worthless slob
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:07 PM
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Box is a disgusting term for a woman's vulva.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:45 AM
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Shit I had some pickme tendencies with my ex and he still gave me $50-100 for gas every time I visited, even though it was like $20 of gas round trip. I didn't even have to ask. If I'm taking the time and you aren't buying my gas at the MINIMUM you aren't seeing me. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:17 PM
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"Block, Delete, Move On"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:53 AM
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Honestly! I believe soul mates DO exist and I found that in an equally HVW. She and I have a bond that transcends any kind of romance. We feed off of each other's energy. It's truly beautiful and something we should all find in another woman or women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:31 AM
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Yes to yourself! No use in telling a man this stuff, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:16 AM
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Acknowledge the mistake and move on from it. Spending any time beating yourself up for it is time wasted. It gets easier with practice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:12 AM
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Only pornsick men equate masturbation with porn 100% this. You mention you don't want a dude who watches porn and then they all chime in with GOOD LUCK FINDING A GUY WHO DOESN'T JERK OFF. Bro, I want a man with a good imagination. Fuck off with the BuT mEn ArE ViSuAL CrEaTuReS shit. Go look at a picture of your beautiful girlfriend's face then. If you are so stunted that you can't get off without watching porn, then we don't want you. Wide access to all kinds of porn is a new thing. Dudes have b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:39 AM
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Honestly it sounds like a threat 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:01 AM
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This dude is losing the mother of his child because of anime girls in suggestive poses THAT HE USES FOR HIS WALLPAPER ON HIS PHONE. But he's made consessions for her. Wow. Grow the fuck up, weirdo. He is so cringe and she is better off. Gross fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:59 AM
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Be single. Honestly. It has helped me so much just not dating for a year+. And be truly single, no dating apps, no flirting with men, just enjoy yourself. When you do finally date again, don't invest in him right away. Walk away at the first red flag. Take special note of yellow flags. Stand up for yourself when you don't feel good about something. Don't be afraid to walk away, because men are in abundance. If you were in line at the grocery and saw one of your items was moldy or out of date, yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:56 AM
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Wtf. $150 is bottom-tier "nice" chair. A $40 office chair may seem comfortable at first but will absolutely end up killing your back/hips. I spent $350 on a chair and still feel like I could have spent more for a nicer upgrade but couldn't justify spending $600 on the one I really wanted right now. What a psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:18 PM
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The other commenters are right. Let him find out on his own. If he's disappointed that's not your fault nor is it your problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:17 AM
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Mediocre men/boys are looking for places to fit in, because they can't comprehend that they actually "fit in" most places by default and need to feel like they have a cool "them only" club. This is the psychology behind teens and young men becoming radicalized into white/male supremacy. It's not just white men, but a large majority of them make up these "manosphere" groups. Even things like the no fap/porn-free movements are rooted in male supremacy, not healthy sexuality & respect for their fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:09 AM
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So smart! I used to be so extra when it came to crushes and that isn't cute or worth the time. Now I have little crushes on guys who are part of the online community of my hobby & they're all either across the country or even International. So it makes it easy to just have a little crush moment and continue on with my life. I keep their messages muted so I only talk to them when I want to instead of getting all googly eyed over an inbox notification. Unless they are coming to my town, I'll never…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:01 AM
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I've said it here before but I will say it again: a grown man using Snapchat is a red flag for me. Yes I know people LiKe tHe FiLtErS or whatever but ig has filters too. And no, I don't believe you want to send me pics of you with a dog face. It's for nudes and knowing if your depraved text messages get screenshot or so your gf/wife doesn't find out about your sides. I admit I use ig DMs wayy more often than texting, but that's just because it's easier to block or mute someone. I don't use datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:27 AM
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I vibe just fine with my Hitachi, no man needed 🙄😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:15 AM
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Yes, she posts these because they are shit, and tears them apart via her captions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:09 AM
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http://instagram.com/lalalaletmeexplain - her captions are killer, her stories are amazing, and her lives are the only ones i regularly tune in to _ plus even with 72k followers, she takes the time to acknowledge her DMs http://instagram.com/draghisass is another one I like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 03:31 AM
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Prettiest girl "so far". So saying "you're attractive" while letting you know you're not the most attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:10 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/eik9ti/z/fcslcmx 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:08 AM
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I just looked at their menu and it's pretty comparably priced to any of those types of places you named. $15 entrees, $8-10 apps. Totally fine for a first date. Again it's not the MONEY, it's the lack of any sort of creativity or critical thinking, and a difference in taste. We aren't going to work out if Applebees is your restaurant of choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:52 AM
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I do not like high-sodium, pre-packaged food, so I wouldn't want to go to an Applebees or similar national chain with ANYONE, including a rich man. It's not even about the money, it's about taste. If you live in a city, there are better choices than Applebees. I had a male colleague who always wanted to have business dinners at Chili's FFS. He wouldn't even TRY anything that wasn't a chain like that. I'd go, but I'd eat before hand and just have a soda, and he'd be upset that I wouldn't eat. Can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:38 AM
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how can this be fixed? BY LEAVING HIM. Holy hell, lady, I've ignored my fair share of red flags.. but this is a STINKY, DISGUSTING, BROKE, LEECH OF A HUMAN. This is not a partner. This is NOT a relationship to be salvaged. Holy fuck just LEAVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:01 AM
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If I don’t get laid soon I’m gonna flip out Holy shit dude, you're an adult saying this... He straight up sounds dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:13 PM
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Yea this guy is off his rocker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:57 PM
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In casual conversation I refer to HVM as "men" and LVM as "boys". When needed to be more specific, I refer to HVM as "men worthy of my companionship" and LVM again as "boys" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:14 AM
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You stop this from ever happening again by LEAVING. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:15 PM
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There are SO MANY subs dedicated to porn and objectifying women, but these gross fucks are doing everything possible to spread their porn sick ways into every place possible. Good for the mods of wholesomegifs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:04 AM
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As if any of these pedos can last 10 mins 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:01 AM
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Why are these types of dudes so afraid of and grossed out by vulvas/vaginas but have no problem diving tongue & dick first into an asshole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:00 AM
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100%. I grew up in Chicago where you have to look uninviting all the time, and even then people will try it anyway. I now live in the South and it's a delicate balance of being polite and also shutting down any unwelcome interactions. Luckily at this point I can tell who can handle not reading into polite eye contact and a "howdy", and who doesn't deserve to have their existence acknowledged. It's gross to even have to do this, but obviously we need to in order to survive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:39 AM
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I am completely deaf to "excuse me, miss?" or any variant of such. This is an extra popular move for disgusting men when a woman is inbetween a shop (usually a gas station or laundromat), and nothing good comes of it. Ever. The extra bonus to not opening yourself up to harassment like that is seeing the complete disappointment on their face when they get zero acknowledgement from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:33 AM
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Knowing a married grad school professor who fucks his students and does shit like this, I fully believe this story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:16 PM
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Weather is getting nicer. We are past Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day so no obligatory gift giving. It's scouting season for summer flings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:42 AM
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I wish I had half as much self awareness at 15 as you do! You are going to go far :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:00 AM
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Yes to writing yourself a text and reflecting on it! It is a very cringe feeling sometimes but was less cringe than sending it. I have never once regretted NOT sending a text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:55 PM
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As someone who dated as a young teenager and hadn't had a break in dating until I was 30, I do not like the idea. I see from your post history that you are 14. While I'm not against teen dating, I am against teenage monogamy resulting in something like promise rings. This is the time to focus on friendships, education, family, and hobbies. Soon you may start thinking about a career and college/university. Boys are a distraction from leveling up at ANY age, but especially around this time. No one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:52 PM
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Why are they SO EMOTIONAL?? How can they RUN BUSINESSES and RUN COUNTRIES being SO. EMOTIONAL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:07 PM
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Yep. I am not interested in men who are interested in the attention of any woman who crosses their path. It's an addiction. They won't stop. Maybe I am spoiled because the dude I am into took like 6 months to even get flirty with me, & I had to tease it out of him after I formed a crush. And that's after knowing he does not pursue women that way, nor entertain women who go after him like that. Imagine a man following 1000 people on instagram and not a single one of them, besides me, is an ex/an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:53 PM
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Here it is: http://archive.is/MDQOK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:45 PM
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When I was dating my ex (who disguised himself as HVM for a long time before reality hit), his last ex-GF would send paragraphs and he would not respond. Like, every day or two, it would be some bleeding heart confessional of her feelings. He showed them to me toward the end of our relationship and it made my skin crawl... both because she did this AND he showed them to me. He would talk shit saying she was "the type to NEED to be friends with every ex so they could serve her in some way." SHOCK…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:37 PM
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"Male friends do not exist" ain't that the fucking truth. I know a lot of men (work/hobbies male centric, can't avoid it). I have a lot of male acquaintances. The only ones I consider friends are very gay, and even then I've had to drop some because they think "I'm gay so I can grab your tits, it's cool!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:32 PM
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Yeah i scrolled down and saw it's just a pickmeisha "life coach" with 800 followers on Instagram. So disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:41 PM
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The author is actually a woman, which is somehow worse. That's a lot of words for a pickme to say #notallmen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:35 PM
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I just accepted that I would probably lose my social circle and I pretty much did. I slow faded her, stopped making plans, got "too busy" and eventually just stopped talking to her all together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:16 PM
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It's wild how "kinky" I was until I got therapy and learned how to value myself. I thought partners that didn't want to degrade me somehow weren't into me. Then I worked on myself and it turns out I now attract men who don't want to beat me during sex, and I would not tolerate that behavior for a second anymore. I was watching BDSM porn at 18 years old thinking "Yes, this looks fun." Now at almost 31, it just makes me sad knowing that it has become "norm". So many people say they are just into B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:36 AM
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I had to do this with a long time friend and it was so liberating. We would hang out 6 days a week even if just for lunch, and I didn't realize how much she dragged me down. Everytime we'd hang out she'd either be crying about her POS ex or bailing in the middle of hanging out to go fuck him. On top of that, she hated to see me succeed in ANYTHING. She was absolutely shook every time I'd date an attractive dude with the bare minimum: a decent job, would be enthusiastic about seeing me, attractiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:24 AM
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https://i.imgur.com/FgZeQ1o.png
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:17 PM
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An entrepreneur business duh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:36 AM
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This is so true. I have found that I have to straight up ask.. Do you have a girlfriend, a fiancée, a wife, or anyone who may belive they are your girlfriend, fiancée, or wife? Last year I flirted with a guy, friend of a friend, on Instagram for weeks. He invited me to an event in his town. This was some event I would have paid big money to attend but it wasn't open to the public so I was so stoked to be invited, AND to meet this guy. It was 2.5 hours away, which isn't a big deal I just had to l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:43 PM
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Had that mentality is so off the mark. Do you really want a man with wandering eyes who will abandon his family for you? That's horrifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:28 PM
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The only man I ever met that shocked me with his knowledge of female anatomy only knew because he worked in the dairy industry, and some animal husbandry information apparently aligns with human things. I was still kind of impressed he knew some basics about fertility & breast milk, but damn that made me realize the bar is on the ground. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:13 PM
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And always with the "Well I never learned that in sex ed..." excuses! Yeah that sucks but you have a wealth of information at your fingertips and you can't even bother to educate yourself at all. You'd think for a group that is obsessed with sex and terrified of getting a woman pregnant, they'd be a bit more brushed up on how things work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:41 PM
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I had a very similar experience on a thread where a man wondered if a person could orgasm without ejaculating. No not "can a man orgasm without ejaculating", but "can a person..." When I chimed in that yes, not only can I orgasm without ejaculating, it's literally the only way I do it. Cue bewildered men wondering "WAIT WHAT?? HOW?? WHAT IS THIS SORCERY??" When I pointed out that I am a woman so many responded with "oh I didn't even consider that."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:24 PM
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Literally saw a meme/info graphic that said "If you haven't had STIs you're probably a virgin". Excuse me?? I don't think it's great to stigmatize STDs/STIs because then people get tested less, but I also don't think we should be saying "EVERYONE HAS HERPES IT'S NBD". I had my comments saying that I have never had an STI removed by the admin after being told that yeah I probably have herpes and HPV but it's just dormant. What the fuck? I'm very choosy with my partners and yeah maybe I'm lucky th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:39 AM
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And they always blame it on you. "but babe your pussy is just SO GOOD" eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:15 PM
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Me whenever a dude tries to get me to be competitive against other women, especially women who are unattainable to him. Boy, sit down!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:40 AM
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Just so you know, that isn't okay nor is it standard. I know plenty of dudes who don't follow ig models at all. It isn't something you have to put up with. Especially doing it in front of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:39 AM
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Honestly, that sub is a big reason I don't even mess with Tinder anymore. The last thing I want is to end up on front page Reddit, first name and face, being dragged because I won't let some manchild harass me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:17 PM
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Honestly, cases like this are sad but also kind of fun. When someone is such a blatant idiot, but not smart enough to flee the country... Oof. He's going to be fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:15 PM
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Yeah, my mom had 4, but she had us kind of far apart. The oldest two were 17 & 18 by the time I entered Kindergarten and that was still a struggle obviously. I couldn't imagine having 5 kids close together in age, and still so young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:14 PM
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I worked closely with family law in Texas (same state as OP) and oh God, yes the judge will fucking ruin him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:12 PM
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"Sure, Venmo me $20 for the privilege." Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:14 PM
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When I see guys under 25 use this line I think "Yeah, no shit, you're a kid." When I see guys 25+ use this line I think "Oh, you'll never grow up." They all think they're clever for using this line, too. It would help them tremendously to create a Woman looking for Man account and swipe guys around their age to see just how un-creative they all are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:07 PM
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Yep this is 100% it. If we are vibing, I will offer my contact info. Do not hit me with "Snap?" 5 messages in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:05 PM
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"I don't play games / I don't like drama" "As soon as you have an opinion or needs I am not meeting, I am going to gaslight you until you're apologizing to me for my shortcomings"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:04 PM
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Idk what's worse. When you refuse to believe it or the weeks and months and years after when you think back and shudder at your dumb choices 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:43 AM
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Yeah this is exactly why I wouldn't ever declare a man to be high value until marriage. And even then, he can be hiding his true colors. You just never know what will trigger their inner monster to come out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:22 PM
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If you catch him cheating don't tell him how you caught him. I found out a guy I was briefly talking to was married. He asked me how I knew. I just ignored the question and called him gross & blocked. Contacted his wife with screenshots too. Definitely not telling him how easy it was to find out everything about him. Silly boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:28 PM
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There are so many of these in my city. I appreciate them being upfront because it makes it easy to pass them up. A friend of a friend lamented to the group chat the other day about "failing" at an open relationship. Apparently he doesn't even tell women until the first date. I told him he needs to tell them BEFORE the first date, duh. His comeback? Called me Billie Eilish. For saying "Duh". OK, loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:10 PM
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IDK, reddit loves patting men on the back for the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:06 PM
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I will post what I said in a different sub about this: Everyone congratulating him for finding his wife attractive... 🤮 Also "I can't say this to any of my guy friends"... Yes you can. You're just a coward who cannot stand up for himself. It's like saying "I can't tell my drug addict friends my life is better without heroin!" Sounds like it's time for new friends, buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:07 PM
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Yep. I have ADHD & Tourette Syndrome. It would take a man being VERY high functioning and in therapy for me to want to date him with either of these issues. It's not ableist, it's holding men to the same standard I hold myself. I see no issue with excluding anyone for any reason from your life, especially romantically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:58 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f4zmx8/someone_we_can_help_over_at_relationships/fhw47yb/ You can also change "reddit" in the URL to "removeddit" and it will bring up deleted & removed posts/comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:20 AM
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It was deleted, but here is the body of the post: So it happened one hour ago and I don’t know how to react. I would really appreciate an advice from you guys. I apologize in advance for my English, i am not a native speaker. Me (29F) and my boyfriend (32) have been together for 6 months now. We didn’t have any major issues and even started talking about moving in together this April. We bought furniture for the future house, even spoke about having kids and getting married in a year or so. He i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:19 AM
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Preach. It usually takes me 6+ months of being friends with a man to find him attractive. I really need to know a man, especially without being a potential partner to him. When you are just friends, they are a lot more transparent about who they are, their politics, their feelings about women, their relationships with their family & friends, what they want out of life, and their romantic history. Only then can I really decide if I am into a dude, regardless of looks. This is why OLD or any kind …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:17 AM
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Sorry, creep, I refuse to limit my mobility anyway because I don't fucking trust you. Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:13 AM
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Honestly. My ex-husband, who is an amazing human all around and wildly attractive, is 5'8". The best sex I ever had with with a dude who was 5'3". The worst piece of shit ex who crumbled my entire life in less than a year is 6'4". Sorry, offer something besides your bitterness about height...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:07 AM
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Every. Single. Dude. With "{insert height} since apparently that matters" in their OLD profile. Literally ALL they have to offer. FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:00 AM
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It's the same psychology behind street harassment. None of those dudes think you're gonna throw yourself at them, they just live to upset women and girls. And then spout off "not all men" and "why are wahmen scared when I walk behind them at night???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:50 AM
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I love trash TV and I wish so badly I could get into it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:19 AM
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I couldn't even get past the first 20 minutes. It made my skin crawl. Low value idiots at every turn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:15 AM
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They don't think women like seeing their dicks. They get off on harassing women. They don't give a shit if you are pissed at them about it. I am convinced they WANT you to be pissed about it. THAT is what gets them off. Not turning a woman on, but by having ANY kind of effect on a woman's psyche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:10 AM
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He also posted earlier "Stop judging people for their preferences" in reference to not liking fat women. But God forbid women have preferences... edit: I was going to drag him further but saw he has a history of self harm and seems like he's in a shitty place in his life and don't find being an asshole to him any further is productive. Not an excuse for his shitty comments, but something to keep in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:25 AM
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Pretty sure this is a red-pill or PUA tactic where they point out they are attracted to other women to make you competitive. Bonus points if the other woman is physically different from you at all. It's gross but absolutely works on Pickmeishas. These dudes complain about "shit-tests" all day but do a much worse version of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:44 PM
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This is almost verbatim something a man sent me while begging for nudes... 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:07 PM
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Yes especially about big stuff like kids and marriage. Sooo many horror stories in r/childfree and the relationship subs about "Well I just hoped they'd change their mind..." oof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:04 PM
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Girl, I don't even know. He just works a lot and doesn't date and has been just... sending me money. My ex fucked me over financially and this guy was a witness to all that so he feels good about throwing me some money without any expectation attached to it. I don't question it nor count on it, I just sit back and enjoy it while it lasts haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:23 AM
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Sounds like a good friend that you happened to have sex with. That's it. I don't think I could declare a man a HVM until (and I may be called crazy for this, but whatever) after you're married. And if you don't want to be married, then after you have experienced many of the ups & downs of life together, co-habitating, and if you want them, having kids. You really have to experience each other through all kinds of high and low points to REALLY know someone. A man can appear high value as long as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:30 PM
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Yea I like that too. And she's been through it all. She didn't grow up wealthy and she lived during a time where things were extra hard for women when it came to working, especially in a "man's job".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:18 PM
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Nope, it's a special little island of hipster man-children who either work in tech or in bars/restaurants. It sucks. Edit: and many of the poly/non-mono men are here too. No, I don't want to meet YOUR WIFE, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:17 PM
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A bit late on this but I would ask them very soon if they want children eventually or not. I wouldn't state I was childfree before they give their answer. It's very easy for men to parrot whatever you want and hope you change your mind or even try some reproductive coercion (sabotaging condoms, saying he's fixed or infertile, etc). But I think first or second date. Hell, even if you're in the "just talking" stage before a date, it's worth it to bring up. If a man is spooked by you asking somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:15 PM
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Sounds very similar to Austin. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:06 PM
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IDK if she is still in fashion but I know Suze Orman used to be hot shit re: financial advice targeted toward women. Her back story is wild. Merrill-Lynch swindled her as a naive young woman, she ended up working for them, and sued them WHILE she was working for them. Very bold and amazing, especially for that era.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:03 PM
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"office job"... aka fucking a co-worker on his desk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:57 PM
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Same here. Maybe $12-14 for a fancy roll, but he'd be spending maybe $50 for two meals. But he also doesn't have a car in a place that I am assuming doesn't have good transportation (otherwise he'd easily come meet her closer)... so maybe it's expensive for him. If so, he should probably focus on building a savings account and not focus on getting his dick wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:53 PM
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Exactly the tactic men use when they say shit like "No one has ever made me cum from a blowjob" or "I'm never impressed by nudes". They know what they're doing because so many pickmes will fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:45 PM
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My narc ex had this with his fiance who actually died... No one could possibly compare to this idyllic young adult romance that ended in death. Now 10 years later he makes excuses like "I had to end it because I would cry myself to sleep worried you might die..." New girlfriend right after the next, marriage that lasted under a year ("because she was crazy"), targets desperate women & single moms, but denies his own biological child. All the while reminiscing fondly over he 18 month relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:07 PM
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Truth. Also: Keep your phone bill in your name. Do not have him on your plan or vice versa. Keep your car in your name. If he wants to "gift" you a car, insist your name is the only one on the title. Better to drive your own beater than anything that belongs to him. If you buy a house with the husband, make sure your name is ON THE DEED, whether or not it is on the mortgage. Same goes for renting an apartment. Name on lease, no matter what BS he tries to feed you. Have enough income and separate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:01 PM
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I cannot stand people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:52 PM
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"Stupid nag, giving me a list of repairs to do around the house. What happened to Equal rights, huh???"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:51 PM
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From a fuckboy acquaintance of mine: "Valentine's day on Tinder is great because the women are desperate and all the restaurants are booked so I just convince them to get drinks and come 'chill'."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:35 PM
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Somehow not as awful as the dude I caught trying to cut "wildflowers" out of MY GARDEN last year on V-Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:10 PM
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I used to work in an office next to a floral wholesaler that would also do walk-in bouquets. Those poor folks would be worked to the bone today, dealing with idiots like WHAT DO YOU MEAN I CAN'T GET PEONIES IN FEBRUARY AHAHHASHFHP)DHFJODHFG FUCK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:08 PM
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YES. It is always WORTH IT to speak up, kindly of course, when a friend is on their bullshit. If it works, YAY. If it doesn't, at least you tried!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:04 PM
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My LD crush boy has worked every single day since Jan 1. His weekend seasonal job is done after this weekend. He doesn't get time off of his M-F 9 to 5. He is flying to see me next Friday after work and is flying back Monday before work because he misses me. Unprovoked. Despite me going to be in his town for my bday to visit a girlfriend of mine. We don't even have sex, because we aren't together because of the distance. He just likes me as a person that much. Moral of the story: IF HE WANTED TO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:02 PM
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Men: PORN ISN'T ADDICTIVE Also Men: UGH MY WIFI IS OUT AND I AM HORNY HOW AM I GONNA COOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:59 PM
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He is showing you his true self. It sucks but be grateful you see it now. An old friend's ex would pull this for YEARS on every major day: anniversaries, her birthday, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's day... He's always pick a fight or just straight up ghost for the week prior. Of course she'd still get HIM gifts but he would never return the favor. Their shitty relationship actually caused me to walk away from the friendship because EVERY TIME we'd hang out she'd either end up crying about him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:57 PM
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despite us having two toddlers at home, I’ve slept so much and my stress levels are zero. YES QUEEN. I get SO disheartened reading parenting subs about how useless father's can be, to the point where things are much easier when he isn't around. So glad to hear that you are married to an actual PARTNER and not a grown child!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:52 PM
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I forgot it was Valentine's day until my ex (long story, he's an amazing human though) reminded me we have plans to go see the shitty Taylor Swift rom-com tonight. And then a few hours later I got a Venmo deposit from my long-distance crush telling me to treat myself, along with him paying my phone bill. Then I checked my mail just now and he perfectly timed an awesome thoughtful gift to come today. Feeling pretty alright :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:51 PM
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Dudes who call women "trouble" as a nickname are garbage. It preemptively places the blame on the woman for his shitty actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:37 AM
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I often hear it echoed in other subs (especially r/Tinder) that Tinder is specifically a hookup app. Despite the fact that this was never wholly true, they just repeat it like it's fact. And even if it was, initially, if the user base is using it for something else (dating, friends, LTRs) then it becomes something else. But these dudes defend their harassment with "BuT iT's a HoOkUp ApP wHaT DiD sHe ExPeCt" and it's gross. Even if you're on a site or app looking for casual sex, that doesn't mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 06:20 PM
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No, I mean I looked him up and found out where he lives and went to school and just from my prior knowledge it sounds Caribbean mixed with NE US
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:48 AM
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Google tells me he is in Brooklyn, but went to school in Philly. It sounds like he was either raised by Caribbean parents, or fakes the accent poorly as is the trend at the moment. He doesn't sounds like he was raised outside the US though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:08 AM
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The would probably stick their dick in a literal pikachu. It is wild...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:59 AM
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"I have 2 kids that I moved 1,500 miles from, but THEY ARE MY WHOLE WORLD. I see them once a year for 5 days!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:53 AM
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This is why I have zero full body pics. I DO have a nice body, and if you are worthy you may be able to kind of see it with my clothes on when you take me on a date. Enough of my body shows that you can tell I'm not overweight, but having an hourglass figure (and honestly any figure at all) to these dudes means "object for dick".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:42 AM
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"eventually wants kids but not ready to settle down quite yet!" at 30, 40+ years old 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:35 AM
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I prefer this. The next major city is about 90mins away from me. I'm even open to dating in the large cities that are 3 hrs away from me. I don't mind switching weekends for travel, and it does weed out the men who are just looking for something convenient. Plus if it doesn't work out, you aren't running into them in public in your own town. And it gives some built in distance. No accidentally spending too much time together - you keep your social life and your alone time as needed and you use w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:33 AM
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He literally uses the word "victim" when talking about the women to be targeted... Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:26 AM
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It's wild to me that they put these pics next to their current ones! Dude, we know you're never gonna look like that again and you're 50 "never married, no kids" probably because you stuck your dick in everything that moves and now you're looking desperately for someone to wipe your geriatric ass...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:03 AM
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Yep exactly this. Grey rock the hell out of them. If you're in a shitty employment situation, look into ways to level up your career. Don't reenter a lease with a LVM roommate. Keep LVM friends of friends out of your life, including off of social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:38 PM
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Omg the top comment is telling her to go to BDSM sites because she has the audacity to want a partner that is attentive to her needs. WHAT. THE. FUCK. I guess if a guy wants to learn how to please his woman I various ways, he must be a submissive sex slave... Yea THAT makes more sense than just being a giving, equal lover...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:50 AM
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Yea that's the big shitty part in working in a trade. It's male dominated, and their spouses look at you like a threat no matter how disgusting their man is. I would NEVER in a million years even think about flirting/dating/fucking anyone I work with or around. That is how you get an even bigger target on your back. There's just so much shit that dudes would NOT get away with working in a more equal environment. This is why they fear women coming to work for/with them. The company I work for doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:32 AM
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I feel like without proof, it could totally blow up in my face. Like I am somehow trying to fuck her trash husband. Some people just do not want to believe the truth and from what I know about her, she seems like that kind of person. And if she does believe it, it's too easy for him to deny it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:44 PM
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He's not dirty by all means Excuse me, what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:37 PM
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A colleague I've known for a few years propositioned me last night. His wife is an absolute doll. She is so blindingly in love with him. Her world revolves around their marriage. He is the love of her life. She is beautiful, kind, so fucking smart, successful. But she's blinded by love. To the point I don't even know how to tell her about this. So not only did he proposition me, but he wanted me to come over AFTER SHE WENT TO SLEEP. He wanted to cheat on his amazing wife while she was sleeping p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:21 PM
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Yes like many women who come here to stay, I was told that this was a "female incel" sub and is "super fucked up". So I sorted by Top/All Time and expected to be entertained by a shit show. Instead I found a group of women focused on leveling up, not letting men use them as Fleshlights, and nurturing friendships with other high value women. I couldn't find a single "fucked up" thing. Because I have the reading comprehension skills of an adult and do not let others' opinions form my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:13 PM
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She passed away over a decade ago but I think she used a site just like this, if not this one. At least she used a PO Box but still
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:40 AM
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I had a aunt into this kind of shit. Writing prisoners and playing like she was in love and shit. Especially the life sentence dudes. It always disgusted me and made me nervous. Like, what if they do win their appeals? Or they get out on parole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:28 AM
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It's always the "drunkenly" excuse. Never have I ever, not even once, considered cheating on anyone while drunk. My drunk self isn't violent, nor racist either. Because I am not any of those things. The dude is a cheater, he's fucking gross, and there is no good that ever comes out of having a sexual relationship with "a third".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:07 AM
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They want a powerful woman with advanced degrees that will change her last name to his and abandon her career to mommy him and the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:02 AM
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no mention as to what the other half of the part is bringing to the table. MEN WILL FUCK A HOLE IN THE GROUND FILLED WITH PEANUT BUTTER. All women are above that. So I can guarantee that whatever she is, she is more than enough for this scrub who doesn't even have a full time job. And no, working as a part time caregiver (avg at $14/hr) and being a student doesn't qualify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:46 AM
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Right?? ESPECIALLY because she was being pretty sensitive to him. It's a sign of abuse to not be "allowed" to vent your problems outside of the marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:22 PM
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Done :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:14 PM
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Yep. No one would even know about this if he just paid up after taking the paternity test
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:16 AM
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It is true. He had a kid in August 2018 that he knew about and will only begin to pay support starting Feb 1. At least it's retroactive, but he was facing contempt charges for not submitting financial information to being paying support. Meanwhile he's got a pregnant wife and is obviously not broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:59 AM
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Gross. He has no business dating, even if he wasn't still living with her. He's legally married and honestly even right after the legal divorce he shouldn't be dating. "Companionship" yuck. Grow up dude, learn how to be single and self soothe. And no. In reality, as he states, he IS MARRIED. No matter how "done" they are, he's married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:34 AM
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It broke my heart reading that she is "learning how to be a better wife and mother" through this. Excuse me, she was already Going above and beyond! He's a whole ass trash man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:31 AM
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There was a post kind of like this on a mom subreddit where she agreed to do ALL the Christmas labor while her man-child husband sits on his ass, in exchange for taking a week or so away from the house while he does ALL parenting. She updated the sub a few times and in the end the husband went behind her back to find the posts and got into a fight about it. He was upset because she anonymously vented about how he straight up has no idea how to solo parent his OWN CHILDREN. And honestly she was v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:24 AM
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You're right. Or it's the girlfriend writing from his perspective. I wiped around stuff on the counter and just "pushed the dirt behind the coffee maker" which yeah so what? and I'm 32 and I can't just put my clothes in a pile on the dresser because my girlfriend will get mad at me. Wtf. Give it away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:55 AM
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"The bar is on the ground and I still can't rise above it" is what that means. No response needed. Just unmatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:19 AM
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100% A man I have known for years that I have been flirting with lately started doing this bullshit "pull away" and being "so busy" stuff with me once I told him I'd be in his city. To be fair, he is busy with work because winter is always crazy for him, but he's posting on social media and watching movies at home alone. But he will go hours without opening my messages at the same time. He went from flirty all day to pretty fucking cold for two weeks. So I went on my trip. I didn't remind him I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:16 AM
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he’s not asking for me back.. He's doing you a HUGE service. Trust me. only person I want to talk to and the only person I want to comfort me You cannot heal in the environment that hurt you. Remind yourself of this as often as possible. I feel you. I really do. I had a very difficult breakup this summer with a LVM that disguised himself as high value for a long time. I wanted him back so bad. So badly that I crawled back to him a few weeks later, only to have my heart shattered again. I wallowe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:58 PM
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Haha sounds like someone is sad he isn't being picked and is listing what he thinks women want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:48 PM
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It shocked me that he was so upfront!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:06 PM
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Even worse... HE dumped HER! Oof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:50 PM
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That was my first thought too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:47 PM
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Yep. I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:46 PM
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Seriously!! And every response has some of sorry ass far reaching excuse for these idiot fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:16 PM
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This kind of shit is SO violating. It's one thing to be gross right off the bat, which is annoying and disgusting but less violating. When a dude seems like he's genuinely trying to engage you in conversation and then spews this kind of garbage, it makes me want to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:41 PM
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Agreed. I gave attention to a dude who wasn't very attractive physically because we had so much in common and really clicked. Sure enough a month into it he started acting like he was some hot shit. Obviously THAT didn't work out. Conversely, the most HVM I have been with was a stunner. And he knew he was attractive but was still humble. His attractiveness wasn't his whole personality. He'd never post shirtless selfies or treat women like disposable objects. We only split up because he had to re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:33 PM
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The fact that he sleeps fine and early with you means he's choosing to stay up because of shitty habits. I have a legitimate sleep disorder that disrupts my life and of course I've had friends who are skeptical about it until we spend a week or two together on vacation, or become roommates. Because it's the same whether of not I'm having screen time or are otherwise distracted. I've had friends and partners claim "insomnia" but it's really just social media, video game, or porn addiction. Someti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:28 PM
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I have not killed anyone, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:15 PM
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He's too young to have age related ED. Does he watch porn? Does he masturbate? How often? If he's not watching porn or excessively jerking off, he may want to get a blood test to see if there is a hormonal reason. It's probably good for him to get this anyway if he hasn't, as he is approaching 30. The part about only missionary but not looking at you concerns me a lot. Is he engaged at all during sex? Does he get you off? Do you feel connected at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:55 PM
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A dude who I've known for a couple years said he was going to block me because he didn't like me "joking" with him the way he "joked" with me (pretty much just straight up negging). I said "OK, sucks to lose a friend like that but if you feel so strongly about it, I respect your boundaries." Subject was changed since I didn't throw the fit he expected/wanted. He didn't block me but I went to go look at his page the next day and realized he "soft" blocked me. Where you block and then unblock so y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:32 PM
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The fact that people there are saying it's "preposterous" for him to be 36 dating a 17 year old is hilarious, as they see nothing wrong with a 37+ year old dating an 18 year old. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:31 PM
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But not TOO hot! Because then I'll just accuse her of doing these things to get the attention of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:42 PM
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I just like to see how conversation goes. I generally HATE talking on the phone, but if I click with someone a 5-10 minute conversation feels like nothing. There are conversations I've had where I knew it would be a waste of my time to meet in person, and was glad I did the phone call prior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:52 PM
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Yes! Fuck yes! In your most vulnerable moments you are strong. This is what it's all about. Proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:28 PM
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Small talk is good. Oh how was work? What did you get up to today? That kind of thing. Let the conversation flow naturally. If you want to have an easy out, start off with "Hey I'm about to [turn in for the night/meet up with a friend/go into a meeting], just wanted to say hello!" That way if there is a lull in conversation you can always say "Well time to [excuse]! Looking forward to dinner!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:20 PM
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Dudes who list their hobbies and want a woman who is into those things really rub me wrong. "Lookin for a woman who loves football, muddin, fishing, MMA, and workin on cars!" Idk dude, sounds like you just wanna date your male friends? Even though I DO like some of those things it's really off-putting to me when they want you to be super into their interests but are unlikely to be willing to get into more feminine hobbies. MUST LOVE ACTION MOVIES! But will roll their eyes at any "chick flick" et…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:15 PM
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These dudes put "traveling" in their profile and act like they're gonna show you the world, when in fact they surely aren't going to pay for you to travel with them or they will say "well I don't want to go there again, I've already been there with [buddies/ex/mission trip/etc]". Or my favorite: they wouldn't travel anywhere if it wasn't for forced trips. A friend of mine is NOT a big traveler and has straight up said he would do NOTHING if it weren't for his ex-wife planning everything from sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:52 PM
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Don't do it. All it will do is feed his ego, make yourself look available, and potentially open up a whole new can of worms. I know it's hard. I broke up with my ex 2 weeks before his birthday and I was a fucking mess. I regret ever contacting him after the break up. Just pretend like it's just another day, because that's what it is now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:32 PM
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Someone also mentioned this sub in an AITA post about a dude lying to his gf about porn use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:25 AM
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I worked a unicorn retail job where they paid our insurance in full, we got profit sharing, and they had other sales opportunities that really helped beef up my paycheck. I left shortly before they changed all that. Plus living in Chicago with no car and a roommate my expenses were like $800/mo including housing, food, and transport. I highly suggest shopping around for admin or legal assistant jobs. Depending on your area those really should start at $15/hr at least!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:06 AM
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Similar thing happened to me when I was 19. I was working a great job, had disposable income, already loved to solo travel. I had a friend I met online and we weren't looking to date ou anything but there was a mutual attraction for sure We had talked online for 2 years (same age, not weird lol) and we agreed to finally meet. He lived 2 hours away from a big city I always wanted to go to anyway, so the plan was for him to meet me there on a Saturday/Sunday and I'd be there Thurs-Mon. A few days …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:03 PM
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For a first date? Drive yourself. Honestly, get yourself there for the first few dates at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:52 PM
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Rampant in the LDS community as well. Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:47 PM
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I think it depends. Is he a busy person with a job and hobbies and friends? Then of course he won't be able to text back right away and for extended periods all the time. If he's inconsistent with his tone in texts then this likely applies. Or if he leaves you hanging for multiple hours (or worse, a day or more) for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:37 PM
10

As someone who shoots frequently as a hobby and also competitively, if it makes you uncomfortable, then don't pursue it any further. Especially if it triggers you so much. Obviously I don't think gun ownership is a red flag in and of itself, but it's definitely a yellow flag, even for me. Most men in the gun community tend to be trash. Gun culture can be extremely toxic, to the point that I rarely date men who shoot. There have been three or four exceptions out of the hundreds of men I've met. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:08 AM
10

No idea. It was cropped like this on Instagram which is a shame. I saw a post a while ago that said "Ladies, would you forgive your man if he caught you cheating??" and the comments were just as you would expect. Sluts, whites, "this is why you keep bitches at home", "if I get married she'd be too scared to cheat". You know, the usual abusive shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:53 PM
6

I couldn't stay at my plate's place long term because a man needs his own castle I'm sure it's not because she told you to get he fuck out when she had to go to work or anything 😂 ask for favors that NO ONE was willing to help me with. Yes. No one. Besides the woman who let you stay over. Alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:12 PM
77

Exactly what I was thinking 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:07 PM
11

Congrats OP! I am shocked and disgusted at both his behavior, and that there is no waiver on the waiting period in cases of DV! Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:59 PM
39

I literally left my husband because of this. There were other things but this clinched it. I knew if I got sick, I would be the one comforting him. I couldn't even have a cold without the house going to absolute shit. I couldn't imagine cancer. I'd rather just be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:44 AM
42

I can't handle seeing her so sick and I know it's only going to get worse. I can't handle knowing that she might die. Why get married. Why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:59 AM
3

Right? When they say "what's your snap?" I just say "I'm 30". Even better if they're my age or older and they don't understand what I'm implying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:02 PM
8

Yep. I've said this here and got a little bit of pushback but there is no reason for a grown ass man to have a snap. "BuT tHe FiLtErS", omg please. No, you don't need anything that you can use to hide your communication with anyone. I used to have snapchat and it was the #1 platform for married/partnered men to try and hit on me. And then they'd get mad AT ME for taking a screenshot of their attempted infidelity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:25 PM
18

I feel like women use BDSM as an exercise in trust, while men use it to abuse & exploit (even from a bottom/sub position). Of course there are exceptions, but this has also been my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:49 AM
33

Oh definitely. I'd guess MOST men are, no matter their political stance. I just know that these type of men I described make up a huge portion of my circle (friends of friends, and people who share my hobby generally) will whine about women charging for porn/nudes completely unprovoked. They're also the same idiots who say a bakery should not get backlash for not making a gay wedding cake, but will throw hissy fits over stores that decide to stop selling guns/ammo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:12 AM
1

They're usually expensive. Like $300-1000+ for a seat depending on the event. Plus black tie attire/hair/makeup, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:09 AM
10

I said "NOT IN THE NEXT FIVE YEARS??" out loud when I read that. Dude. You're 32. She is 29. Set her free and enjoy your lame ass Peter Pan life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:59 AM
13

This. There is no fucking way. I have been long distance FRIENDS with people and did NOT vibe the same in real life. There's a ton of this dilusional shit in the long distance dating subreddit and I just cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:06 AM
100

"PoRn iS FrEe" idiots also hate e-girls/sex workers of any kind, but "love" capitalism and the idea of a free market, but want very specific content catered perfectly to their depraved kinks, from specific women. But don't want to pay for it AND use ad blockers on porn sites. Idk, Dylan, sounds like communism to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:23 AM
40

Omg the pushing the head thing is so fucking gross. It instantly takes me out of the moment and turns me off. I like going down on a dude that deserves it. A dude that gets me off, treats me like a sentient human being, and gives a fuck about me. As soon as someone pushes my head I'm immediately aware that they don't think of me as human, but merely a set of warm holes to facilitate their orgasm. I have straight up walked out of dude's homes for this even at the height of my Pickmeisha days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:18 AM
26

It's ingrained into us to not want to be trouble or perceived as "gold diggers" when men are taught to take take take without regard. I had a man tell me he would pay my phone bill every month and it's about to come due and i almost talked myself out of asking him for it! I hemmed and hawed until I realized there is literally nothing to lose. I just said "oh by the way my phone bill is coming due tomorrow, it's $50" and sure enough he sent me the $50 immediately. The next time he, or any other m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:12 AM
41

Honestly it sounds like she should just throw the whole man away. What trash he is. Having an affair, not stepping up as a father at all, and not dealing with the consequences of that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 09:38 AM
9

I would drive 3 hours every Friday after work to my last BFs place just so he could still easily make to to church on Sunday. Then I'd leave at 5:30 am to make it to work on time on Monday. This was in Texas in the summer and I had no AC in my car. It would be traffic most of the way there, then I'd stop at a gas station before I got to his place to dry shampoo my hair, redo my entire face of makeup, baby wipe and lotion my body, just to hop on the shower shortly after I arrived. What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:13 AM
8

Did he mix your number up with a sex worker's number??? The AUDACITY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:07 AM
11

Hard to tell. Maybe he's been used before? Maybe he doesn't have as much money as he lets on? Doesn't matter, ultimately. If that's enough for him to want to call the whole thing off, then bullet dodged IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:51 AM
6

"easier" It's literally the same as using the app, idiot boy. They just want to collect numbers so they can be gross and not get reported, or so you have a harder time blocking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:46 AM
47

At his attempt? Nah, but let it slide. It's a numbers game with men. They will keep their same low value antics forever until some Pickmeisha jumps at it. It's never personal. They would try this same shit with Beyoncé if they could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:36 AM
14

Idk. My brother is EXTREMELY low value, always has been always will be. To the point where I've become friends with his girlfriends and took their side all the time. And that same brother has me, our older sister, and 4 nieces he absolutely adores and is extremely protective over. However, he doesn't see the girls & women he's related to as their own autonomous people. He's weirdly obsessed with our adult niece (who is super level headed and emotionally intelligent) being a "good girl" (ew) and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:34 AM
80

"it doesn't seem like we are a good match. Good luck!" Maybe I'm harsh but this is just a sign that he is either cheap or broke and shouldn't be dating. A walk in the park is what I would do with boys in middle school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:29 AM
9

You should be thankful you didn't sink even more time into him! And don't beat yourself up for it, it isn't your fault that he is garbage. Just learn from it, pay attention to red flags, and don't feel shame if you do have to cut your losses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:30 AM
33

They always wanna give an unsolicited opinion but when you actually ask them for their opinion or to make a damn decision it's like you asked them for a kidney...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:24 AM
93

They also all seem to think they have a "dad bod". But then complain about the "misuse" of the words curvy & thick. No, sweetie. A "dad bod" is one that was fit from going to the gym and/or being active but is no longer as defined as he no longer has the time to do those things. It doesn't mean 200+ lbs on a 5'7" frame that was never fit. Yet they want a woman with a flat stomach, small arms, a thigh gap, but with thick thighs somehow... And perky tits of varying sizes. But she also needs to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:22 AM
10

If you're on Android, use the "reddit is fun" app. If you're on iOS use "bacon reader". The official reddit app is trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:54 AM
94

Tinder is rife with this. Overweight, balding guys, 35-45+ "not looking for anything serious". It cracks me tf up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:53 AM
1

I did ;) I never tell people that I am carrying exactly, but they put two and two together (from meeting at the range or training usually) and bring it up the same way every time "YoU aReNt GoiNg To UsE iT oN mE aRe YoU?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:21 AM
14

Funny you say that... Dudes think it's real cool that I like to shoot. Until they realize I carry all the time. Including on dates. Then they get scared. Idk why... I wouldn't shoot someone who didn't make me fear for my life. I always ask "why are you scared? Would you do something to me that would make me need to use it?" and they quickly back track while I cancel the date. When men act like I'm a threat to their life for protecting myself from harm, red flag, bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:03 AM
3

Y'all. The account that posted that tweet to reddit is literally the same dude in the tweet. This guy posts low effort tweets that aren't profound at all. Gets maybe 6 retweets. Then posts the screenshots of them to reddit (with the retweet/like count conveniently cropped out), with third person titles. I. Am. Dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:21 AM
10

I am currently 30 and if I could tell my younger self anything (that hasn't been said already in this thread) it would be Say Less. Don't engage with shitty people (friends or partners). Just block and move on. Don't send that paragraph. Don't send that snarky text. Let it all out in your notes app and move on. Don't show it all on social media. Instagram/Twitter/etc doesn't need to know your failures or even all of your successes. People don't need to see every outfit, every night out, every dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:32 AM
56

If he's bold enough to rub on your leg and kiss you, he can text first. He was fine doing all that but needs reassurance to send a "had a great night, hope you got home safe!" message? Nah, you made the right choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:21 AM
40

Yep. Selfish in bed for sure. Selfish everywhere. Probably the kind of man who will marry you and begrudgingly "loan" you money to fix your car or something. I really can't even imagine doing that to someone I barely tolerate, let alone want to impress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:00 AM
78

I don't think so. The first guy didn't message you, so it's not like it is you being picky. You just won't chase a man who won't at least send a polite follow up text. The second guy is exactly why I don't like counter service type dates. You order separately. Guys love this because they can get free attention and don't even have to spend $5 on a coffee or pastry. If he wanted to see you again he should have, at the very least, insisted he order you something. It's common courtesy to ask "can I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:52 AM
22

I literally found this sub because people on DOT were saying how fucked up it was here. Morbidly curious, I came here, sorted by top/all time, and found myself agreeing with everything. I posted on there once with a kind of "isn't it crazy how low the bar is set that common human decency and communication is A TREAT?" and got responses that were insane projecting (seriously filled with false details that were never in the OP...) and wildly bitter "no you're reading it wrong you're actually proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:33 AM
17

I did #4. Finally. I blocked all the idiots that I never entertained but would pop up every 3-6 months to drunkenly beg me for a crumb of pussy. There is literally zero benefit to not blocking them and it's a liability IMO. The last thing I need is some idiot texting me some suspect garbage while I'm with someone of high value. Plus, it's annoying at not cute even when I'm not seeing anyone. I'd never respond but it feels SO GOOD to cut off people's access to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:17 AM
8

This is so amazing omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:11 PM
1

He loves single moms and loves being an uncle! I think this is because he gets the perks of parenting (he really is great with kids) without any of the actual responsibilities. It really bugged him when I pointed out that he loves to "play daddy" but can't step up and be a father. Go figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:46 PM
12

You are right on all counts. I'm crossing my fingers that he finds some Pickmeisha that fits in better with his BS fake Christian lifestyle to marry and breed with and otherwise stays the hell out of our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:05 PM
22

Yes, there were. The biggest ones that should have sent me running in the opposite direction were that he had many short lived relationships with little time in between, and that they had all met his close friends and family. I later found out he broke up with his previous girlfriend the morning before he asked me out, specifically so he could ask me out. That was actually a big reason why I ended it: I felt disgusted by his branch swinging. He even said he stayed with her, leading her on (a sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:44 AM
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He's total garbage but real good at pretending to be otherwise. This is why we don't determine a man to be HV after a few dates or even a few weeks. Waiting 90 days to sleep with him would have saved me the whole relationship!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:24 AM
71

My dumb ass was convinced to keep my pregnancy by my manipulative, emotionally abusive ex. We broke up and i found out shortly after that I'm pregnant. Begged me to keep it, said we can co-parent without having to be together (though he did try and get me to "make it work for the kid" at first), he won't abandon me blah blah. As soon as it became too late for me to have an abortion he did a 180. Talking about "I don't want to be a dad" (uhh too bad?), absolutely abandoning me, keeping it a secre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:16 AM
23

I personally didn't (and still don't) have big jealousy issues. My attitude is, if someone can take you from me, I don't want you anyway. Good riddance. I can't speak so much on the insecurity issue, but know that a stripper is not interested in anyone's man (especially one who is taking up space and not spending any money). I was OK with it back then because I never saw the harm in porn/strip clubs/etc. I still have zero issue with the women involved, I am just disgusted by men who support it, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:56 AM
58

I worked in the office of a strip club and I briefly worked as a waitress - none of the men that go there or work there are HV, period. Even the buddy who is extremely uncomfortable and gets dragged along wouldn't be HV to me - you are a grown man, aren't you? Then leave. Stand up to your friends. If they are shitty to you, dump them. This is actually inspiring me to make a post about the company a man keeps and their loyalty to their shitty "bros". This is a relationship of a few weeks. It's cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:23 AM
8

They do this so they can fuck around and have plausible deniability. "It wasn't cheating! We never said we were exclusive!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:05 AM
20

I have found that any man who uses "bwhahaha" instead of haha or LOL or similar is garbage. Purely anecdotal but I've only seen it used by manchildren who are shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:10 AM
70

I've also been guilty of this and caught myself searching for reasons to text someone. Now I ask myself "do I have anything important to say? Do I have a purpose for initiating contact?" The answer was usually no. Unless I'm making plans, sharing information I know a man will find important, or starting a conversation with a specific purpose, I just don't. I'll even bookmark IG posts for later if I want to share something, but save it for when we are actively conversing. It makes contact with yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:47 AM
5

I think it partially has to do with women having less payoff in casual sex already. As someone who is open to a casual relationship, I have ZERO interest in men who have girlfriends or wives. This tells me straight away that I'll be used as a warm body and nothing more. There will be no dates, we likely can't even be friends because chances are the female partner won't allow such things, there's no chance of progress. And even if there was a chance of progress I have no interest in a dude who wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:04 PM
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