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Keep at it and you'll be fine, it all boils down to conversation and social skills. Things I had zero of almost all my life! The cool thing is you can learn it
/r/seduction18/02/14 05:53 AM
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Man, you usually give solid advice. Wtf is up your ass today? I can't count the amount of times I've said "HappyJerk nailed it with ___" but today you're straight bitch. Whats up man?
/r/seduction14/02/14 08:37 PM
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I'm gonna disagree. I know what you're saying, I do, and it's weak shit. You're twisting your own vision on everyone else's experience.
/r/seduction14/02/14 07:51 PM
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People put it up now and again. It's like a 50page PDF that has bullet points that get to the point right away. I don't personally like books that emphasize points through story, even though most people like it, I detest it. Bullet points. TL;DR Or fuck off.
/r/seduction14/02/14 06:50 PM
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To most guys here it sounds like it's just prime hunting season.
/r/seduction14/02/14 06:47 PM
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Dude you aren't even trying to make it last more than that. You literally set yourself up for a fuck session. I mean look at this right here 5) I send her home and kiss her goodnight, and everything's done within 3 hours. That's not even trying to be a "Friend" with benefits, that's straight up hump and dump. HappyJerk nailed it. Girls like sex too, sometimes they just wanna fuck, so you could have nailed your target a little too accurately. Good news is you're capable of getting laid. Bad news …
/r/seduction13/02/14 09:59 PM
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Honestly I couldn't stand his writing either. I know Models is regarded as the must read. But fuck me, I couldn't sit through his shit. The TL;DR version of his book was great though >.>
/r/seduction13/02/14 08:58 PM
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Well Charles Darwin didn't know wtf a Dodo was until he watched one for awhile either. Why not go into the wild and strike out for funzies.
/r/seduction12/02/14 03:06 AM
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I like that you're coming into your own. I like that you're more willing to just be you and enjoy it. You obviously haven't learned to handle your shit though. It's cool, HappyJerk nailed it. You came out of your shell, and now you've set yourself to 11.. Eventually you'll tone down. Furthermore, Like happyjerk, I'm concerned you don't know how to act as a proper adult around your friends and their wives. You know, if you went out and fooled around with women alone your friends wives may be more…
/r/seduction12/02/14 03:04 AM
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Whoever downvoted you is a fool. This is great advice. Sorry people, not everyone is ready to walk up, whip out their dick and ask the chick how impressive she thinks it is. Some guys can't bring themselves to ask a pretty girl what time is it?. This is a nice, safe, slow progression. It's great advice, and I'd suggest it for people with massive AA -- Furthermore, my common suggestion is to compliment a lady at the drive through. Just compliment her, and drive away. You can escape as quickly as …
/r/seduction12/02/14 12:03 AM
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Again, I had to reflect on this for awhile. What you're saying makes total sense. Personally I've found that it's good for me to figure out the why behind a situation All that bs aside, I like what you're saying a lot. The party scene was never really me, and when I was much more young and insecure was when I figured out parties weren't my scene. "Coincidentally" -- Decline enough invitations and you find yourself without those invites. I also like this inner family theory. In short, it's like y…
/r/seduction11/02/14 11:36 PM
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I had to chew on this for a minute. I really like it -- So my plan will be to reflect on what made me have such a miserable time associated with bars and clubs. To acknowledge that I'm sabotaging myself, which I agree with. Most importantly -- Try them again and bring a positive attitude instead of a self-fulfilling prophecy like This is gonna suck so hard. I think you're dead on, can't count how many times I said "I've always hated clubs"
/r/seduction10/02/14 05:48 AM
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I agree, and whether you know it or not you've personally given me some of the best advice I've gotten here. I know my mindset on this is weak and juvenile ~ It is, I'm on your side ~ But I've never been with a lady that liked clubbing and was okay with me not going with her. Eventually it becomes a problem. Frankly when I'm somewhere I don't wanna be I really struggle to get into the mood. This is one of my biggest personal hangups. It starts with me being disinterested (bored) and ends with me…
/r/seduction09/02/14 10:22 PM
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A good friend accidentally taught me something I took to heart. We have literally the exact opposite idea of what's attractive. One day we were bs'ing and he said "The libido wants what it wants" and that struck a chord within me. The libido wants what it wants. And my libido wants a girl I could enjoy spending time with. Not all girls wanna see a death metal show with me, and I sure don't wanna hit up dat club.
/r/seduction09/02/14 04:04 PM
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I like impromptu stuff. I really do, and I DIG what you're saying completely. Here's the rub ~ It's better to compliment her than her looks. It usually goes better in general if you compliment a woman's intelligence over looks, even if she hears it regularly. It's a different kind of compliment than oooh gurl u hawt tnite, you know? One of my favorite interactions was a recent one. I saw this woman walking and just the way she moved got my attention. As we walked closer to each other i was clear…
/r/seduction09/02/14 01:09 PM
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It's good to not rely on bullshit excuses. It's very important to spot that kind of behavior, because you're the last one whose gonna see it -- That makes you ahead of the curve by a lot. That said. Maybe you don't really like clubs? I fucking Hate clubs. I hate bars. I will not enter those establishments, furthermore, any girl who clubs is instantly disqualified by me. That's an instant next. I will not go to the club with your ass, no matter how fine you are. Did I mention I hate clubs? Guess …
/r/seduction09/02/14 10:00 AM
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You need to just go out and do it. If you keep reading shit you're gonna get trapped in your own mind and over analyze everything and paralyze yourself. Compliment women at the drive through, if you can't compliment a woman in real life, compliment the lady giving you food. Go buy something that costs $1. Compliment whichever lady happens to give you your food. Drive the fuck away. The idea with the drive through is you can borderline escape... The moment you said the compliment, you're gone as …
/r/seduction09/02/14 09:51 AM
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Haha, thanks friend. I'm just a long winded mother fucker who knows how to swear with empathy! Rejection is a bitch, nobody here doubts that. The very first girl I ever walked up to and asked out (grade school) laughed in my face and told me I was fat. Aka NO. I'd be a lying mother fucker if I didn't say that carried over into my 20's. Is holding onto a comment from a 9 year old girl weak shit? Fuck yea it is, real weak. But was it there, nagging me, making shit hard to do? Yeah. It was. You sou…
/r/seduction08/02/14 09:52 PM
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This is what I have been repeatedly telling people. Your mom will tell you to be yourself; This is wrong. Why? Because being yourself will only get you what you've already got Your friends will tell you to be someone else; This is wrong. Why? Because pretending to be something you're not is gonna come off inauthentic. People will see right through your shit Fuck that noise. I will tell you to be the best you that you can be Wait... What? Yea, Be the best you that you can be. Don't be yourself, d…
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:47 PM
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This is gold. This is what separates the dude in the corner not having fun and the guy who gets what he wants.
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:34 PM
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Just read a book and build your own style. Fuck routines. Just go for it.
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:27 PM
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What i'm sayin' man. This feels like a hard left turn compared to his first posts. It's like the cover on that book is awesome, and once we get past the prologue it's like the fuck? Something I'll say for sure This shit will work for someone. It's easy to be an armchair critic. real easy. Id like to think nobody here has the genuine intention of being a dick. Apologies if I come off too harsh OP, I'm not the most gentle dude =/
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:19 PM
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It sounds a 'lil lame, I'm first to admit.. The compliment at the drive through is awesome. It's cheap, it's quick, and you can drive the fuck away. I can't stress that enough, you can escape as quick as you can hit the gas pedal. Approach Anxiety is the one reason women say men are 'dumb'. If they only knew we weren't dumb, we were just pussies, heh. You're no fool my friend. You know exactly what to do. Everybody here does. Everybody. That's why it's called instinct. You. Me. Joe Blow. We fuck…
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:07 PM
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Amen. This guy knows what the fuck is up
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:03 PM
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You should be proud of yourself for going out. My first time I tried to approach a girl I didn't even know my knee's could buckle. But they did. So on and so forth. Next time will be easier, and will continue to be so.
/r/seduction08/02/14 07:22 AM
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You had me until this. I'm gonna be honest man, your first 3 posts were good. This one... Not so much. To be fair.. I detest routines. Natural or gtfo imo. This is some canned 90's shit my friend. Re-read your old threads before post 5 -- Get in your proper mindset.
/r/seduction08/02/14 07:06 AM
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The problem is you're looking for answers coming from outside. That's not gonna happen. If all you needed was to hear the magic words every Pauper be a king, know what i'm saying? Nobody is going to say the magic words. Nobody is gonna take you by the hand and tell you how to think, act or react. You just have to shake off the fear. If you really can't even give a girl a damn compliment -- OR -- If when you're in the mindset of "She's cute" then suddenly your brain gets it's 'bitch on, then the …
/r/seduction08/02/14 06:09 AM
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check out /r/bicycling ~ Most of us don't ride in safe places. For me I like to put my bike in the car and drive somewhere and ride off from there. Even if the destination is the same, riding out from my garage just makes the trip seem more flat and dull, it feels like I'm taking my couch with me (if that makes any sense). I was the same, I always felt unwelcome at places and it was because of my preconceived notions on how I was viewed by others, preconceived, a fancy word for made the fuck up.…
/r/seduction07/02/14 07:29 PM
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I really dig this It's simply just the emphasis of being a good person and bringing value to the table. What'd he do? He made people smile and laugh. He was positive, happy, energetic and uninhibited. A few of the actual things he said were corny, but the way he said it was something none of us could truly glean from our seat ~
/r/seduction07/02/14 06:20 AM
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Damn straight, and you should always post. Always. Every thought in this subreddit is valid, it may not pertain to you or how you would approach. But you're not everyone. (You hearing this, seddit?) All that bullshit out of the way ~~ This is a great post. Lots of insight and basic stuff everybody should know (but many overlook). To me the best gem in this is mediation; As a person who can stand up and say i've thought myself into migraines you're right on the money. If you think too much, if yo…
/r/seduction06/02/14 11:39 PM
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The trick for me was finding exercise I enjoy ~ The best exercise is the one you enjoy doing. I LOVE riding my bike. I'm one of those guys on a road bike in full spandex, and I use it as a way to enjoy nature for 2-3 hours at a time and gtfo of my house (and mind). Cycling is intense exercise, but if you're doing it for fun 'exercise' is the last thought on your mind. Not to mention for me it's addicting, I started cycling to lose weight, now I'm losing weight to cycle faster haha. But that's en…
/r/seduction06/02/14 11:24 PM
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it's a lot better, just gotta hit the enter key a few times. Getting more comfortable with formatting will also help you out for future posts. The more cleanly your thought is presented, the more traction you'll gain. It's kinda a bitch, but I know from experience 'cause i've had my share of posts that looks exactly like yours did.
/r/seduction06/02/14 11:06 PM
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I'm just sayin my man ~ You're not gonna get the reception you want with a block of text. My bad if I sounded aggressive ~ I don't always come across correct in text-format.
/r/seduction06/02/14 10:20 PM
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Exactly ~ And fuck that noise. Fuck it hard. Once I got into weightloss and bettering myself (Lifting, running, cycling, dieting) I started to take notice of men's physique's, as I was day-dreaming of what I might look like thin. You know what I saw? A shit ton of guys who honestly weren't fucking good looking. Not like I'm checkin' out dudes, but the face I see in the mirror was easily sexier than their fuckin' franken-face. That's when it dawned on me men and women equate attraction differentl…
/r/seduction06/02/14 10:15 PM
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Do it now ~ Nobodies gonna read this shit. It looks like a giant run-on-sentence.
/r/seduction06/02/14 09:52 PM
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Yes. People get way too into that alpha v beta crap. I wish that shit would go away. I also wish HB ratings would go away. That's some middleschool shit right there, idk any men I'd call 'men' who rate women on a 1-10 scale. THey're either you're type, or they're not.
/r/seduction06/02/14 09:12 PM
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My fuckups stemmed from insecurity and lack of understanding.. It's a sad fucking read, but here's a few. 1; Girl was all over me at a party, leaning in for a kiss ~ I was too stupid here, I just didn't see it, I didn't know what was going on. Later we exchanged numbers and were planning to head out for sushi. I typo'd. One little typo. We were trying to find out the right date night, I suggested this weekend, she suggested next. I meant to say "That weekend actually works better for me, let me …
/r/seduction06/02/14 08:51 PM
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Some people need structure.
/r/seduction06/02/14 02:02 AM
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There's always an exception, and I legitimately had ONE girl who loved hearing about exes. She was super confident, and i'm sure that played a large part
/r/seduction05/02/14 10:35 PM
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So are you my friend. Life is what you make it. It's easy to get swept up by the river of life and just end up wherever it takes you. It's scary to take the reigns for yourself. That bum over there (points) may have tried to take the reigns and got burned. That accountant over there? She might have never tried. What about that successful lawyer? Did he wanna be a lawyer, or did his father want it? How do you know he wouldn't be more happy living in a broken down loft in brooklyn painting all day…
/r/seduction05/02/14 10:22 PM
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You haven't stopped dreaming and you're not stupid. You're depressed. Depression makes you feel that way, it's misleading and keeps you in the same path you've been walking for years. Depression is a coping mechanism for self-inflected-hatred. I swear on the life of everyone I ever loved and lost -- I HATED seeing my face in the mirror. I hated me. And the way you talk about yourself it sounds like you're not too far behind where I was. I would seek help in the form of a therapist. You need some…
/r/seduction05/02/14 09:28 PM
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You can still continue your education ~ Furthermore you probably have a litany of skills that transfer over and you don't even know it. I'm gonna follow this up by again, saying "Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die". I say this, again, because when resentment is self-inflected it looks like remorse And I see a lot of remorse in your writing. I'm uneducated. I used to weigh 450+lbs. The first girl I ever asked out laughed in my face and said "You're fat". My…
/r/seduction05/02/14 07:51 PM
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That's kinda dickish dude ~ Don't hate on the guys height. Not only is it not his fault, but it's not nearly as important as you think. I've seen shorter guys with fucking KNOCKOUT women. Shit, I'm 5'11". I knew a model who was 6'2", once you know a stunner that tall all that height shit goes out the window. Do you think she only dated 6'5" tall guys? Hell no, I've seen the men in her life tilt their heads back as she bent down to kiss 'em.
/r/seduction05/02/14 02:59 AM
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Regret is the weak mans path my friend. You had the balls to step up and share, now you have to get the balls to live with it. As a dude who pinned shit on myself heavily, I feel your thought process, I do. It's also why I'm emphatically telling you to shake it off and smile. Everything you want will come with time, patience and practice.
/r/seduction05/02/14 02:46 AM
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Stop caring. The error occurred when you cared that some chick you were on a date with is doing blow and sleeping with random dudes. Don't be pissed. Don't feel betrayed. Don't hate on yourself. Be glad. Glad that you saw that chick at her worst, and avoided one fucking hell of a crazy woman. Has the landmine you narrowly avoided not sunk in yet?
/r/seduction05/02/14 12:42 AM
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Bravo man! I liked that story, and the tl;dr "met and disappointed a new girl every minute". Once that DGAF threshold is reached you're free to be yourself! It's truly freeing. I also really liked this; Of course some of them were a little annoyed because I wasn't supposed to be there. Mistakes happen, I'm not gonna apologize all night long. I had a lot of fun! That's it right there. That's the spice of life, that's being free, that's not falling pray to yourself. Everyone has some level of anxi…
/r/seduction04/02/14 10:31 PM
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Sitting around and bitching about it isn't going to help my friend. You sound like me. That's where I was when I mentioned my 'tipping point'. What concerns me is you're walking down the path of self-loathing. In that world only you exist, and you walk about like a fucking husk of a person with no point, purpose, feeling or effort. I know because I've been there. Stand up to yourself. "Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die"
/r/seduction04/02/14 10:07 PM
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Absolutely my friend! As corny as it sounds one of my life motto's was something I saw on the back of a girls shirt. The cap it off, it was a freaking joke! "Do you know who I think I am?" That's what I ask myself everyday in the mirror. Do you know who I think I am? I'm fuckin' smiles. My other life motto is written on my mirror, so I have to read it everytime I brush my teeth, fix my hair or w/e. "If there is no struggle, there is no progress"
/r/seduction04/02/14 09:08 PM
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Fuck no, don't apologize! I AM cocky and I am arrogant. But I kinda deliver it all with a downpour of sarcasm ~ Some people get my humor, some people don't. It's not my job or concern to dictate who does and doesn't like me, it's not about that. It's about being YOU. Coming into your own skin. And recognizing who likes you and who doesn't. I tried to be something I wasn't for years, it was the worst experience of my life; I'm cocky, i'm arrogant, I'm sarcastic. I've also always got your back, am…
/r/seduction04/02/14 09:04 PM
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For me it wasn't about psyching myself up or convincing me that it'll work if I try x, y or z. It came from within. People keep asking this and it feels like I'm giving out a half-assed vague answer. I both am, and am not doing that. If you look through my post, and all my comments to those who inquired within -- You'll see what I'm preaching is inner game. Nothing but inner game. All the lines, routines, plans and ideas in the world couldn't save my stammering ass in any social situation, never…
/r/seduction04/02/14 08:46 PM
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Yes and no. I'd have approached that girl on sunday if I were slumming it anyways, and I sure as shit talked to every girl I could the first 3 days when I was in shorts and a tshirt. Fucks are finite my friend, my fucks are worth their weight in gold, why would I pass them out willingly to anybody but myself?
/r/seduction04/02/14 07:24 PM
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It's where I started. My ass was shaking just thinking about telling that cute 19 year old at the drive through how she looked. But you gotta just go for it. Just don't be inauthentic. Girls pick that shit up quick.
/r/seduction04/02/14 07:16 PM
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Good point ~ I live in an extremely large city, bordering other extremely large cities (Orange County, Los Angeles, etc etc). Honestly if I were in that town I'd probably still approach it the same way, seeing as it's how I broke through my bullshit and it's what I know how to do.
/r/seduction04/02/14 07:14 PM
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NAMM is a four day event. Thursday, Friday and Saturday I was slumming it. Sunday I was dressed. In retrospect I could have dressed Saturday night as well.. But I had people to meet and hands to shake on sunday. The first 3 days were mine to do what I pleased with. I saw nobody dressed down as much as I on the first three days. Probably a bad sign but fuck it. I didn't really expect this much speculation in my thread or I'd have just written out the timeline as an experience. Next year I plan to…
/r/seduction04/02/14 09:47 AM
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This man gets it.
/r/seduction04/02/14 06:08 AM
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Thank you. I'm not super big on material. 90% of what I needed to know came from within, the last 10% came from friends and the sidebar. The more I read, the more lines I tried, the more canned material I learned... The worse it all went. Because that came off as inauthentic, and it was.
/r/seduction04/02/14 06:05 AM
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That's a tough choice my friend, but if it's the path you've laid for yourself it will prove effective for whatever your goal may be. If some asshole told you to do it, well it may not work how you wish it to (not hatin') THere's a bunch of little things I tell people, my comments are littered with them and here's another; Being yourself is only going to get you what you've got. Being somebody else is going to feel inauthentic and cause more problems.. You don't want to be yourself, and you don'…
/r/seduction04/02/14 06:04 AM
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The mirror! It sounds lame but I used to hide from the camera. I put a lot of effort into smiling, and every now and again I just 'smile'. When I'm walking, driving, listening to music.. etc. Just start smiling, even to yourself. Smiling has been proven to uplift your mood whether you want it to or not ~ The best bit of advice I ever got was from a friend who learned this from a salesman. This salesman started his day by smiling. In the shower, while eating, while driving, while at work. 'Coinci…
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:59 AM
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I agree my friend. Failure is the first step of knowledge. You cannot learn until you fail, and unless you fail you have nothing to learn. But, Internalizing failure is NOT walking up to her because "It wouldn't work anyways", or "I'm not her type" or "I couldn't do that, I'm too ___". That's what I mean from internalizing failure. Fuck. That. Noise.
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:56 AM
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For me it was a tipping point. Nothing can make you stop being outcome dependent but you. At one point I said "Fuck it. I'm tired of being me. Being me has only gotten me what I already have -- I've gotta be different". That's when I started PUA stuff. All those canned lines and material that doesn't work (for some). When ALL OF THAT FAILED. That's when I came into my own. That's when I said fuck it. That's when I decided no matter how I'm dressed, how I feel, what color the sky is.. I'm going t…
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:41 AM
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Practice. Everytime I tried a canned line I failed. Everytime I tried 'material' I stammered and fucked it up. Fuck all that noise my friend. Practice. You need practice being YOU. Nobody can tell you how to be, how to act or react. Only you can. Bet on yourself my friend ~ You will win, and you will lose. But most importantly you will live.
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:36 AM
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Nothing special, it wasn't a canned line it was just a conversation. Here's what happened. I spotted a hottie rippin a bass, so I took a pic. The flash went off and she noticed and looked up at me. I walked over to apologize, I told her she just looked like she was having fun. She looked up at me and I stared into her eyes, and right there, boom, eyes averted and she started stammering. What did I do? I felt like a fucking boss, I gave her my attention and firm eye contact WITH A GIANT FUCKING S…
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:33 AM
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Upvoted -- Somebody has to pretend to care about your ass, may as well be me.
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:22 AM
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like 5 or 6 months. Like i've hinted, it's not about number of approaches or this or that. It's not about clothing, look, fitness level, cock size, how awesome your teeth are, how many figures you make. At this rock star convention I was slummin' around in basketball shorts, a tshirt and sandals. Everyone else was dressed to the 9's. Didn't stop me from making a cute girls giggle, or guys invite me to after parties. It's about letting go of all of that when you talk to a person. When I talk with…
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:19 AM
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Great post yourself, I have nothing to add to this -- This is simple and to the point. And yes, I didn't come here just to get better with women. I came here to get better with people. Of course, guys who suck at people typically suck at women too, so one leads to the other. Come on, who here wants to be celibate? haha
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:14 AM
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I didn't care. If you search my post history I'm not just here for pussy. I just sucked socially in general, and could hardly talk with anybody. Was she astoundingly pretty? Yeah. Was there about 15,000 other girls there just as pretty? Yep. The NAMM show is a music industry convention ~~ Closed to the public. You guys don't know what a party is until you're staying at the hilton with about 1/4 of the most prominent rock stars in the world. The lobby of the hilton was retrofitted as a stage and …
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:11 AM
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So am I. It was a process of forcing myself over and over again, and I'm still not perfect. I didn't say I bang an 11 on the daily, or that I'm the life of the party. Don't get me wrong ~ Much to learn, I still have (yes I just said that). But fundamentally at my core, as a person, I'm a different animal than I was months ago -- A better animal. Not a perfect animal. I can't tell you how to talk to people, because you're your own individual, and canned lines and openers are bullshit (though a gr…
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:01 AM
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Stop being outcome dependant and let go of you fear. Nobody wants to admit it, but the core behind the majority of the posts here is fear. Fear of rejection, inadequacy, self-loathing, etc etc. If you backtrack from the surface situation, you will find fear at the center.
/r/seduction04/02/14 04:53 AM
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I just worked on it, and I let go of the fear of failure. How did I get over it? I stopped giving a fuck if the person I was gonna talk to was going to like me or not. I've come to find in our minds we see ourselves in a light others don't often see. We know our insecurities and failures, sometimes we project them without knowing it, other times we think we see it in the faces of those we speak with but in reality it's just internal. You've gotta let go of the fear of rejection and failure. It t…
/r/seduction04/02/14 04:51 AM
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Because you've convinced yourself of failure. Internalizing failure is a self-fulfilling-prophecy. What you're experiencing is all you're ever going to experience until you stand up for (to) yourself. Don't let you boss you around, that guys a bitch xD (sarcasmmm)
/r/seduction03/02/14 10:55 PM
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And you never will, until you just start doing it ~ odds are you'll never see that person again. Who cares how bad it goes? Everyone has to start somewhere. My thing wasn't all about women either, my post history reveals I just needed help talking with people, in general.
/r/seduction03/02/14 10:27 PM
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The average girl is a thousand times better at spotting body language and subtleties within the tone of voice than men are. It's an evolutionary thing ~ Women typically aren't as large or fiece as men. It's how prehistory women gauged a situation and came out on top. Women's intuition is real. Don't fuck with it. My point is this; If you walk up half cocked doubting yourself it's ALL she's gonna see. And I mean it, it's gonna stick out like a sore thumb to a woman. You've gotta believe in yourse…
/r/seduction03/02/14 10:18 PM
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I just did it. I realized it's not the end of the world, and that I'm not always going to be shaking and sweaty when I approach a girl. Furthermore i've taken to heart this little saying here (from TofuTofuTofu iirc) "I wonder what she's like" I live in a world of excess, it's no longer about me being lucky and finding a girl. It's about a girl being lucky enough to have me Respect yourself, and others will follow suit.
/r/seduction03/02/14 10:08 PM
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Maybe clubs and online just work better for good looking people and there should be an alternate... <snip> No. This is fail talk buddy. A good fem friend of mine once said she's attracted to men that are attracted to themselves. Yes, narcissistic, but effective. Women dig men who are comfy in their skin. You think you're a loser? You think you're fat? You think you're ugly? Well that's all anybody who see's you is gonna see. Why? Because you're broadcasting it through body language Hygiene, groo…
/r/seduction20/12/13 10:34 AM
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Hate clubs, refuse to step one foot inside. You know where I've spotted attraction? Concerts Grocery Store Parking Lot House Party Bag girl / Checkout Girl Bro it could be subtle at first, from a glance out of the corner of her eye to noticing her body is pointing toward you while she's talking to others (Chest or Toes). An important thing to remember is women are significantly better suited to decrypting body language than men are, that means if you have 1/100th of a hesitation in your voice it…
/r/seduction20/12/13 10:15 AM
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I'm not generally considered a good looking guy (Fat, skin condition, balding, no job) but I get attraction due to my demeanor That said, OKC and POF rely on snap judgements based off physical appearance. Online dating can totoally work for some guys, but i'm telling you... If you have problems connecting with women, taking out the human equation certainly wont help
/r/seduction20/12/13 10:03 AM
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I like and approve of this. Now, I could see removing a chick on FB making you look needy but if there's no conversation between the two of you fuck it. Who cares? You live in a world of excess
/r/seduction20/12/13 09:43 AM
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One of the biggest obstacles guys face in approaching is the fear of “creep shaming” – the fear that not only will they be rejected, but the girl will do it in a bitchy, demeaning way that makes them feel like a creep or a loser. Boom. That's my elementary, middle and early high school until I gave up on women (High School).
/r/seduction20/12/13 09:29 AM
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Yep, that's exactly how I was, fat, isolated and down. Thankfully cutting toxic people from your life helps, getting a healthy routine helps and "just doing it" whatever it is, helps. For me I'm at my best when I'm dieting, exercising, laying off the 'partying' and being positive. Smiling helps you feel positive. Smile moar! I was never an exerciser and I've gotta say if you wanna get into it I encourage you try everything. It's important to find ones you like, or it becomes a chore you don't wa…
/r/seduction27/11/13 09:13 PM
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Also realize that while being aloof might increase a girls interest a bit in some situations, eventually she'll give up if that's all you're doing. This is awesome, and you nailed it here, that's pretty much me. Dig your story, and agree I'm aware and working on it. I believe everyone has gotten this kind of attraction, we've just been missing it. Again these are memorable fuck ups, if they were everyday I'd have hopefully figured it out.
/r/seduction27/11/13 01:51 AM
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meh, it sounds how it sounds. I firmly believe everyone gets this attraction they just fail to see it. Besides this shit wasn't daily, they were memorable fuck ups that I learned a lesson from (:
/r/seduction27/11/13 01:21 AM
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Thanks! Though I'm in a good place, didn't really explain but this stuff was over the last two years and I'm aware of it and changing it. I just had to see it first. Seeing this post may have helped me, so maybe it'll help someone else. But you're advice is great and appreciated!
/r/seduction27/11/13 01:15 AM
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Upvoted for truths
/r/seduction26/11/13 05:18 PM
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Yeah that sounds like something I'd have done -_- Though I'm better now, less oblivious.
/r/seduction26/11/13 05:16 PM
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Thanks much! Also thanks for the top posts, I've lurked around awhile but never checked that tab, loads of great info hidden in every nook and cranny on this reddit.
/r/seduction13/11/13 04:47 PM
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The first sentence made me realize it's a joy.. And I like that mindset, she's wondering why you haven't.
/r/seduction09/11/13 05:57 AM
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That's actually a great breakdown. Thanks a lot! My problem is all before kissing, even when girls get touchy with me I have a hard time touching back. But I actually took the edge off by initiating first my last date, it's still a 'lil odd but that honestly helped. maybe it was 'cause I wasn't too interested in that girl
/r/seduction09/11/13 05:38 AM
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More looking for how to stop from psyching myself out and making me freeze. Or is it just like Approach -- The next one will be easier?
/r/seduction08/11/13 04:26 PM
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Actually today she tried to put me in a situation where it was just the two of us but her partner wanted to go with her on the shopping excursion lol. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. I'll give it a try and hopefully it ends without career altering consequences. Or maybe I fuck my way up the ladder. Here's hoping
/r/seduction19/10/13 01:18 AM
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Agreed, but you gotta start somewhere (:
/r/seduction11/10/13 05:38 AM
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Getting used to touching people you talk with. Somewhere balls deep in the endless FAQ's on the sidebar to your right is some brilliant insight into basic touch. A guy put forth that simple touch is very easy to get into and figure out as you go along. Just simple touch everyone you talk with in a neutral and friendly zone! Ask that hot sales girl where the bathroom is, smile like a pro, she tells you, extend your arm to her shoulder, brighten the smile just a little and thank her. (The part of …
/r/seduction09/10/13 12:52 AM
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Fake it till you become it.
/r/seduction04/10/13 02:45 PM
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I constantly have a slightly stuffy nose, nothing has ever fixed this, I constantly sound a tiny bit congested and nasally. But through following the advice here I've come to realize while that may turn of a few women here and there. Confidence is King. Confidence goes farther than any six pack ever could, and you've gotta understand girls pick up on things better than men do. It may BE that lack of confidence she hears in your voice, not necessarily your voice itself.
/r/seduction04/10/13 08:50 AM
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Some people are just socially retarded... Like me. A few of these weren't obvious to me. For what it's worth, it helped -me- learn a few new things.
/r/seduction04/10/13 08:36 AM
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Thanks! I'm on a good diet, exercise regularly, have no Thyroid issue (been tested) and no medication. I hate to say it seems I'm just weird. I have the interest i'm just too stubborn to act or I notice it in hindsight This thread has helped me accept that my mindset was improper and that I've gotta change the way I think. harsh but seems apparent now
/r/seduction23/08/13 07:55 AM
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Yeah that sounds like me too, honestly I've gotten so bad at this the only attention I get is when women come onto me which is few and far between.. Over time I've gotten less willing to take any risk
/r/seduction21/08/13 07:51 PM
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thanks, i'll add it to the book list. Problem with that is I've got -so- many books on this subject, PUA, body language, etc etc etc. Practical application is where it falls apart. I also probably should have noted that the things I mentioned in this thread were like a year ago now. Didn't really expect to get so much response or I'd have had a more thorough post. I've gotten better, the problem is I fake it.. Fake interest, fake attraction, etc etc etc.. it gets me further in conversation and d…
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:59 PM
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Actually I've read into that as well, and long story short I'm much hornier. Just have a lot of work to do on my personality still.
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:16 PM
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Honesty I've still got poor self image and that stops me from doing a lot of things, I'm getting better but it's still an insecurity that follows me. I've also laid off the porn recently which has helped before. After losing a ton of weight my sex drive went through the roof! That's why I joined and started lurking here instead of just not caring (like I used to do).
/r/seduction21/08/13 02:18 PM
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Yeah I'm starting to agree, next opportunity I spose I'll just take the shot
/r/seduction21/08/13 04:39 AM
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the best I can say is some people get along with my awkward well, very few people learn to love it.. Most people don't get me. Changing myself is proving challenging but im chiseling something out of my former shape.. just takes awhile.
/r/seduction21/08/13 03:38 AM
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They're definitely not sluts, but after convo they realize I'm not what they thought I was so I have some work to do.
/r/seduction21/08/13 03:03 AM
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Oh. I don't share that mindset. I love talking to women, I just suck at it apparently.
/r/seduction21/08/13 02:19 AM
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idk, to me thats a problem, that's why I'm here. I don't think thats a proper mindset.
/r/seduction21/08/13 01:51 AM
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I didn't say this happened every day.. This is two ladies I was -blessed- to be noticed by. I've had other women interested and I've dated but I'm only talking 2 really attractive women. A lot of reading through the resources here have shown me what I missed, and a lot of comments in here are showing me how to better proceed. All I can tell you is what others have said about me, that I have a very strong presence, and a very confident aura.
/r/seduction21/08/13 01:45 AM
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Yeah pretty much. Its sounding like I'm my problem, and I need to chill out with the expectations and continue trying to better my personality (which I've been doing for about a year now)
/r/seduction20/08/13 10:39 PM
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Not trying to insta-GF her, but I know what you mean and it makes perfect sense. I'll be focusing on having fun and just seeing what happens.
/r/seduction20/08/13 10:28 PM
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Actually just checked again, I remembered it right. Right or wrong is a different argument, but I think what he was getting at is some guys work too hard to be 11/10 funny, or witty, or blah blah.. His point was approach (:
/r/seduction20/08/13 10:22 PM
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Very good point, I could at least get touchy and go for a kiss or something. idk why I have this aversion to hooking up but that needs to be changed I'm thinking.
/r/seduction20/08/13 10:04 PM
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Yeah I've noticed that, it's a part of my personality that's not changing quickly. Thanks much, I'll be making my personality less stiff and stubborn
/r/seduction20/08/13 09:59 PM
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Really? The only one I heard referenced was Fight Club
/r/seduction20/08/13 09:15 PM
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Yea someone suggested I throw in over there so I did, but I've actually been out working on it.. More work to do clearly I think the demo is exactly what I want, my approach to said demo is fucked
/r/seduction20/08/13 09:13 PM
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Really good advice. I feel it's kinda funny I've gotten women approaching me like this 'cause I'm not super attractive.. I've been told I have a very strong and extremely confident presence. some social awkwardness hides under that too. I'm very logical, that's true. I've tried cutting that logical mindset out when talking with people in general but it keeps slipping back in. Guess that'll be chalked up to 'moar practice'.
/r/seduction20/08/13 09:04 PM
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yea.. through writing this stuff out and reading comments i'm thinking it's a big combination of social awkwardness and being really stubborn with a stiff personality. Which sounds very unfortunate.
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:52 PM
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yea.. through writing this stuff out and reading comments i'm thinking it's a big combination of social awkwardness and being really stubborn with a stiff personality. Which sounds very unfortunate.
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:52 PM
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I like that. also read a quote on seduction; 'it's better to be interested than interesting', which I've taken to heart.
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:39 PM
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Nah, I lost a lot of weight and lift my T levels should be higher than ever. Still could be low, but I don't think that's the issue. I'm very socially awkward so shit just doesn't come natural to me, besides that it seems like it's another thing I'm doing wrong every 4 seconds... Probably points towards that socially awkward thang. maybe I need to learn to act.
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:34 PM
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that makes a lot of sense.. just saying my thoughts out loud actually showed me they're a little off. Also it's reminding me I'm still socially awkward. Guess I've got a lot to work on
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:28 PM
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lol, well frankly I think no woman looks as nice as asian girls. Ever since grade school I always dug asian girls. Just my thing.
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:03 PM
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Well they're still college girls. But they're the Deans list 4.0 university type of college girls. lol. I'd still consider that accomplished.
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:01 PM
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True. I put too much value in money and status. I think i'm ugly as sin, obviously some girls disagree, I also have ZERO social skills OR status. I'm as socially inept as they come. That's a major part of my problem I'm working on.. But it isn't easy for me, does NOT come natural
/r/seduction20/08/13 08:01 PM
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Yes -- It doesn't matter. All these girls happened to be Asian (if they aren't Asian, I'm not interested). But that's beside the points raised in this post. And no, these are high class ladies. Most of them from families with money, and most of them date outside their race but not specifically white men.
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:49 PM
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Well, they were new friends at the time, but yeah I'm sure i'm in some type of unsavory category now.
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:48 PM
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Also a good point, I actually have a joke I like to tell.. "In this world there's still a time and place for emotional connection... After sex".
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:47 PM
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yea.. very simple and good advice. in the end the only person who ends up fucking me is myself. I need to stop being me.
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:46 PM
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Agreed on both points, thanks! (:
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:44 PM
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I'm not a PUA, I don't claim to be, I don't pretend to be, I don't want to be. I want to get better socially. I can play the game if I know the rules.. Alas no book, no helper, no pointers or tips have helped me in any ways. I just don't 'get it'.
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:44 PM
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Thank you, that's exactly what I was thinking (:
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:42 PM
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No, that's creepy. Take my word or don't, they were great looking girls. Thin, young, asian, accomplished, and usually in cocktail dresses (They do fancy parties, suit and tie style).
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:42 PM
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Well, i'll give you a super TLDR of the last girl who did this to me. I was at a party, sat down on a couch next to a looker and got on my phone. Within like 10 seconds she grabbed my arm with both hands and pulled me toward her, literally. At one point she had her face about 6" from mine and I just didn't want to go for a kiss. She then mentioned how all the other girls were making her feel underdressed (When she said she was underdressed the best I could manage was "you look fine"..) She was s…
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:40 PM
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Maybe a different way of going at it would be best for me. These girls are all the long term relationship type, I know them.. I'm just not attracted to ONS or pointless sex. But I'm not getting younger, and sitting on the shelf isn't gonna help shit.. I think you guys are all right, I just gotta stop being so serious
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:30 PM
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Feel like there's no connection and it just doesn't get me interested. Yeah, maybe I do show my cards too early. I'm still responding to the other messages too but it's looking like I need to ask myself "why so serious?" =/
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:27 PM
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That's what I was starting to think.. I've always had women come to me and my mindset was if they want me they can put in the effort. Yes, really. I've had that mindset my entire life and it's always worked and when it didn't I frankly dgaf. But now I'm getting over the waiting game.. I will for sure try and show more interest, I'm not very sexual anymore.. I think you hit the nail on the head.
/r/seduction20/08/13 07:23 PM
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Memoirs didn't even come to mind, good catch! I know I was really into Richard Branson's Autobiography so I'll keep an eye out for successful people.
/r/seduction31/05/13 11:38 PM
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I appreciate any bit of help I can get! Hitting a library sounds like a great idea. I suppose if I wanna push it a little I'd venture to a bookstore and do about the same and maybe ask for opinions on what I should look into reading. It's been awhile since I've read things because I tend to like dialog / experience driven books, over narrative driven inner-monologue style reads. I tend to enjoy scripts and plays over novels. Otherwise autobiographies sound like the winning ticket. Getting out of…
/r/seduction31/05/13 10:49 PM
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Yeah I'm a little familiar with RSD stuff, not a lot of it, but a little of it. I seem to get less active in loud places, too much stimulation deteriorates my attention span.
/r/seduction30/05/13 11:00 PM
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To TofuTofu; Your posts are fucking gold and give me hope. If I had a few bucks you'd have it, but it looks like it's already past the goal (:
/r/seduction30/05/13 05:19 AM
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Thank you much! Yoga seems like a good way to work on social skills and meet women. Not that women are the big issue right now but shit, why not kill more than one bird with a stone?
/r/seduction30/05/13 02:07 AM
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I know that feels... I know it well. My anxiety has ramped up as I've aged, and frankly if you just keep at it you'll get better. As plain jane as that sounds, it's the answer.
/r/seduction30/05/13 01:59 AM
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Thank you! I've really been wanting to do yoga, I live in a big city and I'm sure there's events all the time but for some reason I never seem to find any that interest me. I'll be a little more diligent.
/r/seduction30/05/13 01:53 AM
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Thanks much! It's up and I'll be watching it when I've got a few minutes to sit and digest it.
/r/seduction30/05/13 01:51 AM
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Just too loud and noisy for me, I can't hear shit over the sound of everything going on and as I've gotten more reclusive and introverted I'm battling my introverted inner-monologue, plus bar noise, plus TV/music, plus w/e the fuck someone's trying to say too me. TL;DR -- Too much going on for me to concentrate on shit. Also being so poor you can't pay for drinks sucks dick.
/r/seduction29/05/13 11:20 PM
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I don't know how to format partial quotes like you did! But i'll respond to every sticking point, as I'm here for help and a thorough explanation will assist in that. About telling that girl I do "nothing"; Yeah, I know that was weird. That's partially the problem though.. That's my gut reaction type response, otherwise I really felt I'd have just looked away and didn't say a word. Not that I don't want to or anything, i've just gotten... Weird and indifferent. Plenty of people, men and women ha…
/r/seduction29/05/13 11:17 PM
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I agree. Hated what I saw in the mirror everyday. And while I'm better physically if you read this response to puaSenator then you'd see I had more confidence back then. idk why, I hated myself then. I've never cared about myself more than I do now which makes this all the more strange. Any particular video from Tyler you'd suggest?
/r/seduction29/05/13 10:31 PM
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I don't disagree.. I think poor self image and where my life is at has kinda put me in a very deep rut.
/r/seduction29/05/13 09:47 PM
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True. One little sad thing is I can't really show I did it, because at that time I weighed close to 450lbs (i'm 285 and lost 145lbs). People don't seem to like people who used to be fat.
/r/seduction29/05/13 09:47 PM
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Umm, I've done some reading here and there at other PUA forums, and I've read the FAQ's here. I'm not aspiring PUA or anything, nor is this just about women.. But I've learned the PUA community is amazing for getting over your shit, be it anxiety or being unhappy with w/e facet of your life. So I'm here for general people skills. I was much better in my early 20's but I've just gotten progressively quiet, reclusive and uninterested. It takes a real 11 to even register, but I think that's in part…
/r/seduction29/05/13 09:45 PM
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Kinda like just hitting up malls or something and starting random conversation? I'm not much of a bar/club guy, in fact, I fucking hate bars and clubs.
/r/seduction29/05/13 06:59 PM
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