Need help building a personality (have read FAQ's)

puaSenator · 2013-05-29T18:22:45+00:00

Your personality is still there, you just forgot how to express it. Keep putting yourself out there, and it'll reemerge.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-05-29T19:32:35+00:00

Chasing your dream is what gives you a personality. It doesn't matter that you think that your chase was a failure. Most people never even try.

Smiles_27 · 2013-05-29T20:11:36+00:00

Dude, it sounds to me like you could benefit from a therapist. This sounds more like depression than anything else.

bk-loso · 2013-05-30T01:42:41+00:00

Go to events around the city that interest You, your likely to meet people with common interests and it helps mind the gap and you will be able to connect much easier. You don't need to read FAQ's for a personality, just do you. Getting a new job will stink, but having money will help with the feelin of security. Try your best to get out in your free time to do things that interest you, you never know who you might meet.

FredFredson · 2013-05-31T11:47:34+00:00

This might sound a little vague and might be unhelpful to you, but if you don't already I would suggest just going to the library in your spare time instead of moping around at home. Pick up a few books and have a bit of a read. This was helpful for me mainly because it really helps to get your thoughts out of your own head and into someone else's. At the same time, unlike other hobbies, it stimulates your imagination and mind, and helps you learn things about life and people's experiences when you're not actually doing anything. That was a big problem for me - dwelling on my own thoughts. Read some autobiographies, any non-fiction topics and tickle your fancy or whatever you prefer to read. Secondly, you obviously become more literate, learn interesting things, and become more open-minded and have more things to talk about. It also helps to remind you that you are not the centre of the universe and as such you really need to stop worrying so much about your life. This is mainly to help you with your depression obviously, not your technique.

Reading is probably one of the best time sinks ever if you have nothing else to do. I wish I had started reading avidly a lot sooner.

In terms of your technique, it really sounds like you already instinctively understand how to be an attractive person and how to attract others. What I would suggest, is you read a book on body language and maybe learn to utilize some more friendly, non-threatening body language so as to not appear so intimidating. Concerning eye contact: always break eye contact with someone unless you want to fuck that person or you are on good, friendly terms with them (or both). You have to maintain that perfect mix between dominant, strong body language and friendly, non-threatening body language so as to avoid being too intimidating. It might sound paradoxical, but it really isn't. Your dominant behaviour shows to a woman you are assertive and self-assured, while friendly, non-threatening body language shows that you are indifferent, not too serious, not too concerned with other people's opinions of you and that you are just out to have a good time.

At the end of the day I think you obviously really understand how to attract women, but you probably need to develop a bit more sensitivity towards women, get better at reading and utilizing body language to appear less intimidating to women and to avoid confrontations with men, and spend some time in the library to get your brooding thoughts out of your head, and to stimulate your imagination and get some inspiration.

Just my 2c

Title	Need help building a personality (have read FAQ's)
Author	Smiles_27
Upvotes	6
Comments	27
Date	May 29, 2013 5:52 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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