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Are you still living together? What if she wants to track you because she wants to know when you’ll be home so somebody else can leave?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 03:08 AM
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More likely he will get bored of her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 05:05 PM
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You want to give the benefit of the doubt to someone who had an affair and wrecked their family?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 11:47 PM
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Yeah sorry bro. We’ve all been there. They all have the same shit playbook. Knowing that helps reduce the feelings of it being so personal.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:24 AM
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For other men going through this: I learned from watching the people go before me on courtroom zoom. You only want to submit a very small amount of very damning evidence. Otherwise the judge will just cast it aside and not read it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:21 AM
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Huh…. Did you just say $1M in student loan debt? Typically in divorce each party is responsible for their own student loan debt.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:54 PM
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And then ruled in your favor. I love that part
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 02:11 AM
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Came here to say this. Manipulation, pure and simple. She wants to have her affair, her happiness, her divorce, AND not to have you believe she is a bad person. Fuck all that selfish shit
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 04:36 PM
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If you have 100% custody of your oldest and it’s agreed, then she should 100% be paying you child support. Can you imagine if the roles were reversed? She would definitely put you on child support Congrats on weathering the storm brother!
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 06:30 PM
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That’s how they generate all the fees. The only people who win in divorce are the lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 03:07 AM
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Narcissist is the new code word for “they act selfish sometimes”. It’s almost always a nothing-burger.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 05:20 PM
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I’ve heard that quote “treat it like a business situation” before and I used to agree, but after some thought I think that concept should be amended. Treat her like an employee who is trying their best to sabotage an otherwise successful business. You want to fire her, so document everything she does and says so you’ll be cleared of any lawsuit she presents after the fact. Treat her like the threat to your life and wellbeing that she actually is. Assume everything that you do and say will potent…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 05:19 PM
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Give her what she wants as far as separation goes and don’t look back, then greyrock her. That always gets their attention. And always assume she is seeing someone else. The women who have that parasitic streak like yours will always have another victim lined up before moving on from their current host. Think about that when she inevitably wants something from you. Hard truths. Sorry bro, you’ll get through this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 09:27 PM
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Since she is young, there are no kids, and hopefully has a career/degree, I would expect alimony to be rehabilitative in the range of 24-42 months. As a side note: OP, please tell me she is one of those strong, independent feminist types….
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 10:12 AM
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Exactly this, except my counter would be zero alimony, as a negotiating tactic. You don’t start with a reasonable counter, because then the “compromise” gets back into the unreasonable territory. Understand?
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 10:10 AM
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Has she self reflected about her part in the relationship? Has she admitted her faults? If not she is just trying to rewrite the past to cement her victim mentality. Do yourself favor and take no part in it. If nothing else it will drive her nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 04:48 AM
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I’ve come to realize that when women say that phrase it isn’t a compliment. From my experience most of them don’t want an equal.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:45 PM
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Read No More Mr Nice Guy
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:32 PM
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Please refer this to relationship subreddit or regular (female) divorce subreddit. This is a space for men
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 05:38 PM
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I like that typo. I’m going to start calling it AliMONEY too With a medium term marriage like that it’s most likely going to come down to a judge’s discretion. It’s crazy there are no real hard rules on this when so much money is at stake. In my state (WA) alimoney for medium term marriages (5-20 years) is usually done at 1 year for every 3 years of marriage. So just based on this, I would expect you to pay approximately 40% of your net take home pay in alimony combined with child support for 36…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 04:12 PM
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No offense, you sound like a textbook “Nice Guy”. You should read “No more Mr Nice Guy” by Robert Glover. I think you’ll find it liberating. I certainly did.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 12:33 AM
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100% this. The entitlement with my ex was off the charts
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:22 AM
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Especially now that child support is essentially off the table
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 04:25 PM
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Great answer!
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 04:24 PM
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This kind of mentality is why she cheated on you. You’ve completely lost yourself in her “amazingness”. If you treat a woman like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan…… in other words; disposable. I know that hurts, but it’s the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 03:11 PM
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This is the correct response. Look at it this way. She doesn’t respect you enough as a man to give you the decency to NOT TALK ABOUT THE NEW GUY SHE IS FUCKING. Who she may have been fucking all along. This is going to hurt, but I have to speak the truth. Your ex-wife put you in the friendzone. To her you are no different that her gossip girlfriends. The only correct response is to cut ties and build yourself up as a man. Make her regret the day she ever broke up your family.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 04:24 PM
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Made me queasy just reading this
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 12:27 AM
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Yep. You’re playing chess and I was playing checkers.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 06:19 PM
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Great username too!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:25 PM
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I see you had one that liked to sweep things under the rug too. They’re a special breed aren’t they?
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:24 PM
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Yes absolutely. Call the cops and file charges And for fucks sake, stay away from her and limit all contact.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 11:16 PM
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Men need to be able to discuss things with other men. This place exists for a reason. It’s been vital to the mental health and support system of many men, myself included.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 10:02 PM
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Funny how much they crave an emotional reaction in general that they go on the offensive even during a hypothetical conversation about grey rocking.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 07:38 PM
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This is a space for men to vent to other men without fear of false allegations or repercussions.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:38 PM
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It’s a turn of phrase. This is a place for men. The regular divorce subreddit is where you should be having this conversation.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:37 PM
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User name of OP checks out
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:31 PM
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Man… that last line is gold. Too often the truth. That’s why I’m happy I found a woman who centers her life around gratitude. They are out there, they’re just exceedingly rare.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 09:37 PM
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I laughed out loud at this. It isn’t funny, but it is. Dark humor for the win.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 09:36 PM
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Don’t overanalyze it. You did your part, always remember that. Who knows why they do the things they do? Some people are allergic to happiness. You’ll eventually come to the conclusion that there wasn’t anything you could have done to make her happy. That is her own choice/responsibility. The whole happy wife/happy life nonsense needs to die. Every adult is responsible for their own emotions.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 07:37 PM
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I hope you’re getting a prenup. I’m not anti-marriage even after a rough divorce, but I am very pro-prenup now
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:29 PM
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I’m in the same boat. Happy to take money for birthdays and Christmas, but can’t be bothered to look me in the eye or otherwise acknowledge my presence. I don’t know if it’s feminism, entitlement, general lack of respect for the people who raised you, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:34 PM
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There is a tragedy is this even though you “won”. No man in similar circumstances as your ex would EVER get 50/50 custody. It’s unfortunately the worst case custody scenario for most women in divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 03:25 PM
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Women absolutely do need men, and vice versa. Show me a strong and independent woman and I’ll show you someone who secretly wants a man to make her life easier. Everything is easier when you have two people pulling in the right direction.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 09:21 PM
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Speaking of this…. Every time my ex and I had a big fight she would go out and buy a cat without asking me. Probably because I always complained about having too many cats already. Did anybody else have this experience? It’s so bizarre.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 04:27 PM
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This was also my experience. My parents were dumbstruck at how entitled she could be in regards to absolutely frivolous things. $2000 birthday parties for the kids $tarbucks every damn day Ordering take out pizza at full menu price and using DoorDash/Uber Eats excessively. Never, ever price comparing anything she bought. Don’t even get me started on the Amazon purchases. At least 2-3 boxes EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I think I finally hit my limit when I went to the garage to break down boxes and realiz…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 04:20 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:09 AM
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Jesus. Red flag of the century
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 11:30 PM
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I’ll second this list. Basically how does she treat others who can help her, and those who have nothing to directly offer her (service workers, janitors, etc). Also, I think it’s wise to avoid women who worship celebrities, either male or female. It shows they overvalue status and will likely be more sensitive and toxic with the power dynamic within the relationship. Seeking excessive validation from internet strangers goes along with this too.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 10:49 PM
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Only in the family courts does any of that shit make sense. We need punishment for filing false allegations and reports.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 01:00 AM
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Man I’m so sorry. The light at the end of the tunnel was so close and another woman pulls the rug out because she isn’t haaaapppppyyyyy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 03:11 PM
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If you go to a basketball game that you know she will be at then you could be in violation of the protection order. Look at the distance required in the order. If you violate an order of protection and get charged you’ll be fucked. Long-Term Supervised visitation kind of fucked
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:59 PM
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Can you not just file an annulment?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 11:12 PM
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The sooner you can get the “she is my friend” mentality out of your head the better you’ll be. She isn’t your friend. Your friend wouldn’t file a protection order against you. She is your legal adversary and enemy in one of the biggest moments of your life. Treat her as such. She has already proven that her word means nothing. Time to start trusting her actions instead. Divorcing a narcissist almost always ends badly.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:09 PM
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If the debt was paid off prior to the date of separation then she doesn’t owe you a thing The date of separation is usually the date one party was served, unless one party voluntarily left the marital home prior to this date. All accounts and debts are considered marital funds prior to the date of separation.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:00 PM
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People forget that wedding vows say: To have AND TO HOLD. You have to fuck your husband.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 04:58 AM
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I’m in almost exactly the same boat. We only communicate through snail mail now except for emergencies for the children. It’s comforting to know that she has no power over me now
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 07:33 PM
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If he really wanted her to face consequences for her actions he could have had a forensic accountant dig into her finances, see how much she likely made from these illicit activities and reported her to the IRS. There is a code that requires people to pay taxes on illicit income. She could be saddled with a tax bill of $100K or more.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/24 05:49 PM
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Alimony AND child support! Guess who gets to pay the taxes on their untaxable income? Guess who gets a sled of tax breaks and government assistance, as well as social credit for being the correct gendered single parent?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 11:55 PM
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Gratitude is always good, as long as it’s genuine and not out of expectation of something else following.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 11:42 PM
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Listen to how she talks about others. If she uses excessively derogatory language or often compares herself favorably or poorly to others this is a red flag. If she is obsessed with celebrities or pop culture this is also a red flag. If she has to have the most expensive or “best” item regardless of function that is a red flag. How does she treat people who she has temporary “power” over, such as wait staff, receptionists, call center employees, service workers? Does she ever talk about how grat…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 09:04 PM
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In general this is true. For many women, especially those obsessed with status, their hypergamy makes them want to monkey branch to another man when they start making more than their partner. You don’t want to be with someone showing this level of entitlement. These are the kind of women that make $150K per year, yet find a way to spend $200K per year. No thanks. It’s the same reason why women file for divorce 80% of the time, but with college educated women that figure rises to almost 90%. Thei…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 06:52 PM
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Or even just your kids, to help you de-escalate when you’re forced to interact
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:18 PM
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I strongly recommend not letting her rent space in your head for free. I changed mine to her first name with her maiden name. I put a photo of her with my son as a reminder that even when I hate her (most of the time) that it’s my kids who will be affected if I lose my cool with her. Don’t give a narcissist any ammo.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:52 PM
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I don’t know man. I could never trust her again, or even look at her, after essentially lying to your face about raising another man’s child. I don’t believe that she didn’t know. She did, or at least strongly suspected
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 11:26 PM
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I’m so sorry that happened to you. I can’t imagine having to go through that myself. This is the ultimate level of betrayal that a woman can do to a man. I bet she knew all along. One day at a time my man. You are more than just the sum of your current circumstances
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 04:18 PM
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She is trying to stay in your life to some extent; Reminding you that she is still HERE. You’re doing it right going no contact. Who knows why narcissists do the crazy things they do? It’s likely that you filing for divorce hit her ego extra hard, or maybe she blew through most of the cash at a record pace and now is putting out “feelers”. Regardless, I wouldn’t give it a second thought. Hope you’re doing well my brother.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 06:51 PM
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She is going to be the single mom of an infant at 45? Wow
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 12:14 AM
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Good lord her life went downhill at rocket speed
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 10:44 PM
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The government is already working hard on this for all the single mothers out there. In my state (WA) as long as the child is enrolled in college or an equivalent program and living at home, child support paid to mom can continue for up to four additional years. I’m hoping my kids move out so I don’t have to pay it to her anymore! I’m happy to help my kids directly instead. I expect that this will be the standard in most states within the decade. As long as something only negatively affects men …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 07:37 PM
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Repeat after me…. NOT MY MONKEY. NOT MY CIRCUS. You have NOTHING to gain and potentially EVERYTHING to lose by interacting with her in this way. She is also screwing another guy in your family home and only interacting with you when she is left holding the bag. Excuse my harshness, but reach down between your legs. Those are your balls. Use them and set some healthy boundaries. She doesn’t get to tear the family apart then have you on call for whenever her life sucks. Put in a more simple way…..…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 04:41 PM
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Yes file immediately. This is very important
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 11:18 PM
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She is going to try and come back after Jan 15th when her job ends. Don’t fall for it. How long was the marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:40 PM
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Exactly. I’m sure she would be over to help him with anything the moment he needed it /s. (Not that he would ever stoop to asking her) Stopping this enabling behavior is the first step in unplugging yourself from the simp matrix. So strong, so independent, so brave
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 11:45 PM
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You’re not supposed to change who you are to suit a woman. It actually makes you less attractive in her eyes. You control the frame and narrative of the relationship. You lead and she follows. This is the way that women are most satisfied in a relationship. Hard way to learn this lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 01:07 AM
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Well to be fair, she would have to have a month “on” in order to take a month off.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/12/23 03:49 PM
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That was my initial thought too
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/12/23 12:56 AM
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It’s even worse. She is mid 40s. Nobody except her and maybe one other person has given a shit about her birthday for over 30 years.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/12/23 12:55 AM
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Unbelievable title! Cheers brother 🍻
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/12/23 08:49 PM
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Yes it’s those hidden and indirect costs that really eat you alive. Still worth it though
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 04:18 AM
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Reverse the genders. Would this ever fly? Get a lawyer ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:31 AM
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Yes! This place has served as both a reality check and great advice. Which, shocker, is what a good male role model in your life should do for you. If you’re lacking accountability and no bullshit encouragement in your life, look to see if you lack positive male role models. Our society has had such a long conversation about individual “rights” that to talk about personal responsibility and community sounds anathema now. That’s wrong. You can’t have one without the other.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 10:34 PM
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You can be assertive without swinging to aggression. Be firm yet keep your cool
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 09:58 PM
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This isn’t allowed unfortunately
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 09:51 PM
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This is the way. Women are adults and should be held accountable for their actions
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 09:46 PM
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True, but you can tell he has the mindset of… my perfect wife was stolen by some asshole.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 02:22 AM
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Proper communication isn’t gendered. This is just basic adult behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:34 PM
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You’re vilifying the wrong person. Your ex threw the marriage vows away. She was the one that was supposed to have restraint. Blaming men for women’s shortcomings is part of the problem here. If she was as amazing as you imply then she would have made better decisions. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:23 PM
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This is a men’s divorce subreddit. Your post is not relevant to men’s divorce. Where are the mods on this? Listen guys. Don’t respond to this rage bait. Use this as practice with like how to deal with your ex. Let them scream into the void. Simply report to mods then ignore them.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 11:25 PM
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You’re only 28. Cut bait with this woman. Sounds like you don’t have kids, that’s great, cut your losses and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:28 PM
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Keep all those threats from her! Not a good look in court. She is fucked And yes, she cannot sell without your consent
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 05:45 PM
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Stay the course. Come here to vent whenever you need to. We are listening
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 03:54 AM
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Understand that this woman is no longer your wife. She is a your legal adversary in the most important case of your entire life, who will no doubt be out to screw you over as much as is humanly possible. It’s even worse than that, she knows all your weaknesses and will try and hit you when it especially hurts. Understand it for what it is…. A conniving cunt who is trying to save her own ass and leave you holding the bag. Most women have a Ph.D in emotional manipulation, cut all contact if you va…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:33 PM
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It’s the best investment you’ll ever make. Save all your text messages and communications too. They will be used as evidence that she abandoned the marital home and your child.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:31 PM
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No. You’ll need a lawyer to file the paperwork and fight for your rights. You can bet your ass that she will retain an attorney when you serve her papers and you don’t want to be on the offensive while going pro-se against her attorney in a anti-male family court system. Borrow money, beg on the street, sell your body for legal fees, but RETAIN AN ATTORNEY. Right now you have the upper hand. Consider changing the locks on the doors if you can. It’s technically illegal, but will serve as a cheap …
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:27 PM
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If she is working and you are not then you have the right to spousal support and child support. Document that you are the primary caregiver and that she abandoned the marital home. You’ll have a slam dunk case in court. Don’t take her back when she ultimately tries to come back. This is a tactic to try and take back the upper hand in court. She may try and file a domestic violence order to get you out of the home if you take her back. File for benefits with your state. You’ll need them. Time to …
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 11:22 PM
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I don’t take orders from trolls
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 09:17 PM
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Femcels…. Am I right?
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 07:59 PM
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This is a men’s group. Kindly see yourself out please
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 06:02 PM
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That is some high level simp shit right there. Don’t condone cheating. Women are adults and should be held accountable for their actions too
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 05:55 AM
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This is possibly the worst comment I’ve ever seen on this sub. Congrats!
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 03:42 AM
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The tax break is nice. I like the concept of having a “wife” even if it is stupid. And I’m a traditional misogynist, the thought of her having my last name makes me happy. Maybe it’s my programming, but I think marriage still has some limited societal value, if done with a proper prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 07:44 AM
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When I marry my girlfriend I will only do so because we both insist on an ironclad prenup. Finances are completely separate Any debt will stay separate No spousal support will be given Assets divided down the middle Lawyers will be involved in the prenup so it doesn’t get thrown out. Neither one of us wants to go down that road again, but we both still would like to be husband/wife.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 08:58 PM
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I’ve never heard that last line, but for many of them it’s true. Feminist programming has convinced them that their innate nurturing capacity is to be discarded.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 03:31 AM
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Good luck in WA State buddy, I’m also here and depending on your municipality, you may well be screwed. For instance, my lawyer told me to forget about 50/50 because it just wouldn’t happen
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 08:24 PM
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Exactly what this guy says. If she suddenly wants to meet with you, show up, but don’t play into her hand. Stay for 15 minutes or so then bail. She will be testing you. Stay disinterested. It will drive her nuts
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 01:56 AM
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Ooh this is good. I’m saving it. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 09:13 PM
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It took me almost 18 months to figure out that this is the way I feel too. Kudos
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 09:08 PM
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Six years later and your ex is still renting space in your head? The only thing that matters is the paternity of your child, as others have said.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:22 PM
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It’s not an investment. It’s a liability. The only thing the state is concerned with is keeping people off of the state welfare roster. Guess who gets that responsibility?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 05:23 PM
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Isnt it funny that her “faults” are “virtues”. What an asshole. Sounds like my ex
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 04:19 PM
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The only thing you can do to be able to forgive yourself is to accept full responsibility. That doesn’t simply mean you say, “Yes this is my fault”. You proactively take steps to make yourself get better, stop making excuses, and hold yourself accountable. Childhood trauma isn’t an excuse to shit on yourself or others. Take the first step today and seek out real help.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 04:28 PM
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One of the problems I have noticed, and my girlfriend agrees, is that groups of women often just mindlessly validate other women’s choices and thoughts. If he is struggling, she can do better. If he is too emotional then she needs a real man. If he is angry then she should leave that abuser. Most don’t give a second thought to actually working on the situation, or fighting for their family or relationship. Everyone needs at least one person who can tell them the cold, hard truth. Married women s…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 01:39 AM
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She is only entitled to half the appreciation in asset value since the day they were married. Nothing more.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 11:05 PM
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2 years? Can a judge actually order you to stay on an asset with someone after you’re divorced?
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 11:36 PM
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Listen to this guy above. No more comingling assets/liabilities after divorce!
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 11:35 PM
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This guy again who doesn’t understand what a prenup is.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 06:54 PM
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There is no prenup that protects assets accumulated during the marriage. Prenups exist to protect assets held prior to marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 05:50 PM
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I’m in the exact same boat, although my house is a bit less expensive, I’m “only” about $100-$150K down from when we could have sold. What a waste of
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:17 PM
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Awesome my guy! I now make more money than I ever have, my new relationship is immeasurably better than before, and I have a much improved relationship with my son. My daughter still blames me for the divorce, but I’m working on that. Cheers! It does get better… change your mindset and move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 08:15 PM
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I’ve always thought it was insane that you get zero credit for temporary spousal support. That just incentivizes the other party to drag it out and waste as much of the court’s time as possible. You would think it would be in the court’s best interest to give the paying party credit for that, if for no other reason than to expedite these cases and clear the docket. I like how Arizona does it. When you file you get dates for all your hearings right away.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 06:46 PM
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Wow that’s crazy! How many hearings for $350K? Did she make false allegations or something?
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 06:40 PM
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At 5.5 years alimony probably won’t exceed 18-24 months. Especially in her income bracket Your best bet is to argue in court that your income the last two years was “exceptional” and not the norm due to temporary events like stock vesting
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 06:36 PM
2

How do you know that she has unblocked you? You’ve got to stop letting her live rent free in your head.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:09 PM
1

Please don’t make me google “mom buttfucked by parking attendant”
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:24 AM
8

This is a shit situation. Ultimately there really isn’t anything that’s legally actionable here. Sure you could take her to court and get the GAL involved, but ultimately nothing is really going to change unless she willingly backs down. My suggestion would be to let her burn her bridges with your daughter. That will be how she finally stops.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 03:53 PM
1

Why is she all up in your finances? Don’t do a joint bank account.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:39 PM
3

Yep! The right loves to shit on men too. They both have that in common.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 12:13 AM
5

I would tell her simply that you don’t feel comfortable giving her money any longer. No is a complete sentence
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 10:11 PM
18

Dude….just why??? She is using you She doesn’t plan on reciprocating anything. Let her figure out her own problems. Put it this way, if you still love her how would you feel if you found out she was using your money to fund dates with other men. You have no idea what she is ultimately spending that money on
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 10:00 PM
3

Absolutely. I only was able to attract her after my period of reconstruction
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:42 PM
7

You never know. I found one who meets 90% of that criteria. They are out there, you just have to have patience
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 05:27 PM
23

Yes. Trust me, they still think about you. Nobody, and I mean nobody, will ever replace you. Make your time with them memorable for them. Do things that they love so they look forward to time with you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:23 PM
34

Read the stories of others here my brother. This is a defect in women and western society in general. You didn’t do anything wrong. Throw yourself into a fitness goal and read The Rational Male, and No More Mr Nice guy. Learn about the light switch effect. Please stop drinking. I also drank too much when I started. It was a waste of my time and focus and ultimately made me MORE DEPRESSED AND ANXIOUS. Or if it’s too hard to stop right away, cut it back to 2-3 days/week and go from there. You’re b…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:11 PM
9

As long as your don’t live in a common law state
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 02:47 PM
6

Codependency is a hell of a drug
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 05:37 AM
5

I mean, I wouldn’t do this, but I know what some women would do if the roles were reversed… Go back home, call the police for a domestic violence or harassment incident, have her arrested. Problem solved
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 01:27 AM
11

Probably financing an affair or spending money on frivolous purchases
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 11:48 PM
3

Love is more a series of choices and actions than a feeling. What a great statement
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 07:09 PM
5

A million miles of dicks separating us Hahaha I’m using that one
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 01:35 PM
69

You’re missing a person that doesn’t exist anymore. You miss the idealized version of “loving wife” that you have created in your own mind. As hard as it is to digest, the person you married is not the person you see today. She probably hasn’t been that person for some time. If you sit down and meditate on it, you’ll likely come to the conclusion that you miss the family unit and all that comes with that. You don’t actually miss her, per se. In time if you really want that back you could have it…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 08:58 PM
20

How old is your wife? I’m guessing in the 38-45 range. They all do this now. It’s their court sanctioned, extravagantly funded mid life crisis. Don’t worry, the music is about to stop for her. Your job is to be who you are, and the best dad possible. Don’t take her back after she blows all the (guys) money.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 03:03 PM
1

Wow that’s crazy. I can’t imagine that would’ve happened if the genders were reversed. So much for our progressive state
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 11:30 AM
1

You need to give it more time. See my above comment
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 05:17 PM
1

You’re not going to get unbiased advice here. Most people will tell you to bounce. You have a one year old with this woman so I believe you should try everything before calling it quits, if nothing else just so you can sleep at night. Here is what I would do: Right away start reading No More Mr Nice Guy. You’re exhibiting classic nice guy behavior. Sounds like a covert contract situation to me. Start drawing AND ENFORCING boundaries immediately with your wife. She doesn’t respect you and is able…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 05:15 PM
6

In fact it might be a smart play for HIM to get a TPO against her if she has been threatening. Beat them at their own game so to speak. OP, do you have any threatening text messages from her?
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 04:44 PM
2

Is this a serious question?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:25 AM
5

Im sorry you had that happen to you. Respect for your value system
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:24 AM
10

It’s literally all of us man. They all read from the same playbook.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 11:15 PM
1

This isn’t hard to find at all
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:12 PM
8

Yep mine separated on her 40th birthday.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 03:15 PM
4

This….. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 09:53 PM
2

Same man. I don’t know how to process that response from my new lady either. I’m just happy that she cares enough to ask.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 04:13 PM
12

Underrated comment. People in general are just harder to please. I would guess social media use plays a role too. Statistically Democrats tend to be a bit younger, age-wise, so I would be they use social media at higher rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:37 PM
2

Washington State?
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 09:46 PM
1

How did they not give you 50/50 home equity in a community property state? I’m also going through a divorce in WA state and as far as I’ve heard the statue is pretty clear that it’s 50/50 split on assets unless you squandered marital funds somehow. Did you negotiate away the home equity or was this a result of a trial?
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 10:01 PM
40

The fuck is wrong with the western world.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/06/23 04:27 PM
2

My whole point with that was that even if she did come back he wouldn’t want her at that point.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 03:20 PM
21

She is ONE OF A MILLION dude, NOT ONE IN A MILLION. Big difference. Don’t put women on pedestals. They hate that shit and resent you for not leading in the relationship. Everyone wants what they can’t have, and that’s doubly true for women. They are just as fucked up (if not more so) as we are. Work on yourself. Physically, mentally, etc. Use that chip on your shoulder to make yourself better. Eventually she will come crawling back to you, although by that point you won’t want her anymore. Just …
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 12:21 AM
20

Use that chip on your shoulder to be the best you can be. Make her regret leaving you. It’s been three years though, you’ve gotta stop living in the past
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:35 AM
2

All from the same playbook.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 10:36 PM
4

Great response buddy. I agree, when it comes to love men have always been the romantic sex. Women take a much more practical view of relationships, which is why the car analogy is a good one. It boils down to, “what have you done for me lately”. I have a beautifully written letter from my STBXW stating how I was such a wonderful husband, father, lover and provider and how she looked forward to spending the next 40 years with me. Three months after that was written she filed for divorce. It’s a w…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:45 PM
6

That’s not what IQ is. What you speak of is more of a personality component like openness, or extroversion. IQ is more equated to computational speed and pattern recognition.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:11 AM
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Wow! What insight! Let me try. A white, probably college educated woman, who is drowning in debt yet thinks she knows everything about how the world works when in reality she is just insufferable. Aren’t stereotypes fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:28 AM
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I don’t mean to be Debbie Downer, in my experience women have already made up their mind and left long before we ever find out. They’re already over the relationship when we are getting hit with the bombshell. You also don’t want to set up circumstances where you’re always having to prove yourself to your wife. It’s emasculating and a recipe for resentments.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 02:57 AM
5

Children won’t die if they have to move. It’s such dumb logic
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 05:25 PM
1

What do you think you gain from renting to her specifically?
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 02:27 PM
3

You’re looking at this from a logical (male) perspective but with rose colored glasses. She will nickel and dime you to death, refuse to pay rent on time, and alienate the kids from you when you eventually are forced to evict. Could turn into a squatter’s situation real easily too. Think about it. Why would she want to remain entwined after divorce? You know she won’t take care of the property at all.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 02:17 PM
1

You pay taxes on alimony as well
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 11:22 PM
6

Reminds me of the saying, women want to be a bride but not a wife.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 12:16 AM
90

“Worships the ground I walk on” The ground you walk on is under inordinate strain from being compacted heavily by your bulk. As far as the rest of your inquiry is concerned, please refer to the previous sentence.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/04/23 03:32 PM
3

If you don’t have kids together there’s not as much to fight for
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 05:18 PM
18

For second marriages it’s 70%
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 03:29 AM
1

Good. That will help you separate emotions
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 10:53 PM
1

That’s a good call
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 10:52 PM
2

This might be hard to hear, but you’ve got to stop trying to control things that are beyond your control. As the above poster said, it’s unlikely that she is doing anything illegal even if the 15 year old is not mature enough to properly supervise the 9 year old. Your kids will see what is going on in time. You can try and have a neutral conversation with your ex, but it seems like you are still renting headspace to her and are more upset that she is going out with her boyfriend. I’m not trying …
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 05:58 PM
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Setting a boundary is just the first and smallest step. The harder part is actually enforcing the boundary which she WILL try and cross. Good job so far. My suggestion would be to offer to communicate only through a third party app where everything is recorded; such as ourfamilywizard or talking parents. Most narcissists are smart enough not to publicly shoot themselves in the foot.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 05:51 PM
3

That’s not pathetic! Good on you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 03:10 AM
16

We typically had sex twice a week for the longest time, then a couple years before divorce it dwindled to every 2-3 weeks, or less. Any of these conversations sound familiar? Me: We haven’t had sex in 3 weeks. Her: What? I swear we just had sex the other day. Me: I need sex today. Her: (reluctantly) Just hurry up and get it over with. Me: We should be having sex more often Her: I can’t do it while the kids are awake. (Despite that never being a problem in the previous 10 years)
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 03:57 PM
2

I’ve always found it so ironic (and sad) that the evidence needed to get a TRO entered can be incredibly minimal, but the court will need multiple tox screens, police reports, eye witnesses to do anything about substance abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 11:57 PM
2

That would never play out the same way if it was you doing the drinking. Makes me so mad
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 10:46 PM
1

The kid might actually test positive if he has been in a poorly ventilated, enclosed space with her for a significant amount of time. Do both a urine and hair follicle test on him if possible
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 10:45 PM
7

This has been my experience. The power dynamic flips in your mid-late 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 02:14 PM
7

Gynocentrism runs deep in our society. Would she ever even consider saying that about a father?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 11:11 PM
4

Damn, a prostitute would have cost 5% of what you likely had to pay her out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 07:14 PM
15

Hey guys, don’t answer these questions. Women have a million places they can go for support. This place is for us
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 03:48 AM
9

My ex did recently say that she did some things wrong in the relationship and that I am a “special” person who she was lucky to be married to. Turns out she was just manipulating me to buy time in the divorce so she could get more free temporary alimony. So this begs the question… should we even believe them if they apologize?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 01:28 AM
1

I’m sick of your mouth and your 2% milk 😂
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:24 PM
5

Educational attainment and intelligence don’t always correlate, especially in today’s world. I would prioritize someone with less debt, shows gratitude, and is full of both youthful energy and femininity. Looks would matter slightly more than intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:31 AM
17

Wow. “Bailout” flair seems appropriate but this seems like it should have its own special flair. With her repeated use of run on sentences with the word “and” I feel exhausted just reading it. Gross
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/03/23 01:58 PM
2

Man that username slaps
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 05:05 PM
5

Have casual sex with a few different women. Might not be a great option if you’re in an exceptionally rural location.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 05:05 PM
6

I know how badly that hurts brother. You’re questioning your manhood, your past actions , etc. If I were you, just for your ego’s sake if nothing else, I would spin plates for a bit. I know it sounds messed up, but it actually helped me heal and discover what I wanted (if anything) from women.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 04:26 PM
2

Don’t come here with a sense of entitlement. That isn’t going to go well for you
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 04:23 PM
35

Did everyone notice how she framed hitting the wall as something positive? To her, it apparently means she can be MORE choosy as she has the requisite life experience (ahem…notch count) to see through Chad’s pump and dump strategy. What many women fail to understand is that it isn’t just your beauty that fades with time, it’s your optimism, femininity, and relative purity that escape with each thrust of Chad and Tyrone’s cock at 2:30AM. Nobody wants to try and pursue an alpha widow or a jaded wh…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/23 03:22 PM
2

5 years?!?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 02:59 PM
22

Guys stop replying to these, you just encourage more women to come here. There are millions of places for women to get this advice. This subreddit is ours
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 06:53 AM
24

She will regret it once the honeymoon period wears off. They always do. Your job is to not take her back when that happens
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 08:24 PM
1

Said like a woman. Marriage is a liability for men, especially us that earn a lot of money. Marriage exists to protect women and children
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 02:39 PM
10

Here we go again with this lady
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:00 PM
14

This is the conversation nobody wants to have. Two drunk people having sex isn’t rape. If you say you can’t consent to sex if your drunk then neither party is consenting. These are the same people that think DV is a male problem when studies repeatedly show that DV is typically 50/50 male/female instigation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:23 PM
1

This is not a dating sub. Are there mods here to delete this?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 01:51 PM
2

Uh no…. Can’t drag a dead horse very far
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 11:17 PM
23

I always appreciate your responses. You’ve been very helpful to many men on here, myself included. Thanks bro
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 02:35 PM
41

First off, she absolutely was sleeping with that guy. Come on man. Women don’t quit on their marriage and introduce their kids to another guy if they’re not sleeping with him. Look at it from that guy’s perspective. If he is banging 5 other women why would he waste a bunch of time with a woman he isn’t having sex with? Secondly, your ex wife doesn’t respect you. She continued talking to this guy even after you called her out and asked her not to. What kind of person goes through the motions of c…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 02:24 PM
1

When women post things like these to TikThot they are looking for validation from other women or trying to signal that they are “high value” because they allegedly reject decent dudes. Ignore them. This isn’t real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:25 AM
2

That made me laugh out loud. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:41 PM
3

You’re speaking about female preferences in women, the post is about male preferences in women. Men value beauty, which sometimes correlates with promiscuity, but men tend to be repulsed by female promiscuity, not attracted to it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:13 PM
3

I think you’re projecting female values onto men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:56 PM
2

Every gender and ethnicity has been a slave to someone else at one point or another Slavery wasn’t the historical exception, it was the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:44 PM
0

Women have been slaves most of history 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:22 PM
5

Don’t try and rationalize with this one, you’re wasting your breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:21 PM
3

Wrong. It absolutely is biologically inherent because paternity is not inherently evident without a DNA test. With obvious exceptions due to race, etc. This is why men have a revulsion towards promiscuous women, nobody wants to question whether “their baby” is really theirs. Since you raised the specter of biologically inherent revulsion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:12 PM
2

You should re-read my comments. You’re either intentionally misquoting what I said or you have terrible reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 06:40 AM
0

I didn’t say any of that. That’s a projection on your part. I make almost twice as much as my partner and am on my feet for 10 hours per day. She doesn’t share your beliefs and expectations of who should do what. It works well for us. She has a stay at home job with big breaks in her work day. Each couple is different. What is your obsession with education? Why does it matter if one partner went to college or not. I’m talking about income, which isn’t always correlated. Also, women tend not do d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:24 PM
2

It’s only a petty thing to bring up because you benefit from it, much like it’s a petty thing to bring up who does the slight majority of chores at home, especially since women tend to mate up and across the male dominance heirarchy. If I’m making most of the money and my job is more demanding you can bet I’m expecting my partner do the majority of household work. That’s only practical. And you better believe I’m still contributing in a meaningful way. Also, it shouldn’t come to you as a surpris…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:40 PM
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This might be a fair argument if women didn’t expect men to be chivalrous most of the time. Who pays on the first date? Ask 100 women and I’m willing to bet that 80 will say the man. You can’t purport to seek gender equality and then practice it only when it suits your needs. Any man worth his salt can perform all of the tasks mentioned earlier. Most women I know wouldn’t date a man if he wasn’t capable of cooking and cleaning. And rightfully so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:18 PM
1

No problem. Thank you for being receptive. I’ve had many times on here where I needed to be checked a bit too.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 08:23 PM
4

Hey my guy, you’re off base and a bit out of line with your comments here. You don’t know his story. Being in a new relationship one year post divorce is considered normal for the majority of people, depending on the circumstances. You seem to be projecting a bit.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 05:57 PM
4

Wow. That’s sociopath kind of bullshit. You understand this right? Cheats on the father of her child with zero remorse? Run, don’t walk, away. You’ll see things more clearly in time. I’m so sorry you’re going through this brother. We will be here to see you through it
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 07:35 PM
4

The trailer park called her back!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 04:58 PM
41

That would require introspection, a modicum of self discipline and awareness, and most importantly forfeiting future opportunities to bitch and moan. Don’t hold your breath.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/23 03:38 PM
23

Her high quality tattoos just scream, “I make good, well thought out decisions”. If she can’t even put effort into something that’s going on her body permanently, why does she deserve more than a “down to fuck?” from men. Whoever gave her 🖤🖤 matched her effort perfectly.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/23 03:26 PM
69

This is a dead bedroom in the making. A reminder for you fellas, you cannot negotiate desire. Don’t be the one she settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:56 AM
8

Oh she likes to buy things! Keeper!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/03/23 08:06 PM
46

Didn’t smartphones start to become ubiquitous right around 2008? Coincidence? Also correlates to some degree with economic downturns, at least prior to 2010
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:28 PM
3

I agree. Not every damn thing has to be about women. Drives me crazy. Just ignore posts like these guys, just incentivizes more women invading the one space we actually have
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 08:03 PM
1

It’s not negativity we are dealing you, it’s the truth. We could lie to you and tell you that everything will be fine if you just trust in your wife’s care, but you know better and our experience tells us better. I know it hurts but it’s the truth, that’s all I expect from this group of men.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 12:03 AM
3

Here is a life hack, don’t do any of that shit If she is so strong and independent she can buy her own damn flowers. Your frame is still in the woman’s mindset. If you’re doing it right she will drain your balls for a Taco Bell chalupa, sure she will complain to her friends, but she won’t cheat on you. Don’t be that guy Read more rational male, and turn your “don’t give a fuck” meter up a couple notches. It really works I’ve had two attractive women pay for first dates recently, make it clear th…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 10:06 PM
2

Not if you’re doing it right. If he is of any value then women his age will be so happy that they will likely pay for his company
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 07:57 PM
2

Well the good news is that many women have become more masculine over the last 10-20 years. In my dating/sex life I’ve noticed that even those that project masculinity prefer to be led by a man in a relationship. You can find a woman like this if you look for awhile though. I would say be cautious of reading too much into language used in dating profiles. Women like to use the “strong independent woman” and “don’t need a man” tropes in dating profiles, but this is a show me don’t tell me type th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 06:07 PM
1

It was the “but nothing else” comment like there was something else the judge could have ordered him to pay but didn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:19 PM
1

I get that, but what else should he be responsible for? You’re alluding that he owes her something else when she kept a kid from him for all those years.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:14 PM
1

What? Why would he owe her anything, including back support?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:39 PM
1

I have a vasectomy so it’s all fun times for me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 03:44 AM
0

His wife has definitely cheated on him?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 06:08 AM
4

He is allowed to have an opinion on what he finds beautiful, many men share that opinion as well. People are allowed to have preferences sexually as well as physically and should be shamed for not embracing a toxic body-positivity movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 12:03 AM
4

Thanks for the clarification, I guess I’ll just take your word for it /s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:30 PM
5

You’re welcome man. Truth is that she needs you a lot more than you need her. Remember that. When she comes crawling back you need to have a come to Jesus moment with her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:15 AM
37

If she thinks life as a pregnant soon to be single mother will be better then she is delusional. No man wants to raise another man’s kids. It’s all responsibility with no upside. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but if you want her back you need to stop chasing her. YOU CANNOT NEGOTIATE DESIRE. It leads to obligated compliance, which leads to inevitable resentment. Also, for what it’s worth, you should never change who you are for a woman. Stand your ground and bring her into your frame, not…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:11 AM
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You’re probably being too placating to female “needs” if you’re not feeling desired in your dealings with women. It’s relatively easy to turn the tables. Read The Rational Male, by Rollo Tamasi. Also, why are you trying to source validation from women? You can source your own validation internally by obtaining and crushing your own personal goals. Turn your “don’t give a Fuck” meter up a few notches when dealing with women. Instead of trying to become what they want you should view yourself as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:35 PM
1

Right on. Changed my life. I hope you get the same result
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 02:34 AM
5

Women don’t want “the nice guy”. I think you should read “No More Mr Nice Guy” and The Rational Male. It sounds like you have a Frame problem. You need to bring her into your frame instead of living in her frame. You need to lead and put your foot down. It’s probably too late, but read for next time so you don’t repeat history.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 01:33 AM
19

The soulmate myth puts you into a scarcity mindset. She isn’t one in a million, she is ONE OF A MILLION. Abundance mindset is the way forward if you choose to deal with women. They need you a hell of a lot more than you need them
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 01:25 AM
1

The best defense for that is to make sure she has a lawyer when she signed the prenup. That way all the “I was under duress” and “I didn’t understand what I was signing” BS goes away.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 09:44 PM
1

Oh you end up paying the wife, just not right away, and it’s usually much more later on. Your traditional view of marriage and who asks doesn’t seem to align with your personal beliefs in your tagline. Feminism isn’t a buffet where you can choose things when they suit you and go traditional when they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:12 PM
17

If you’re reasonably or even average attractiveness and have your shit together in your mid 30s/40s then the world is your oyster. The challenge I’m having is changing my mentality from the one who must be chosen, to the one who chooses. The game has been flipped and it’s nice to be the one hunted for a change.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 05:06 PM
2

If that’s true, which I doubt, what are you doing hanging out at a divorce sub?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 01:30 AM
1

Real men hahaha. I spin 6-8 plates at any given time. You post screams beta male. Projecting much?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 12:17 AM
4

Dude wrong sub man. Take the red pill or post on another sub. Enough simps in the world already
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 11:27 PM
28

This sub exists for men to help other men through divorce. There are plenty of dating subs for you to ask questions like these. Please use them instead.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 04:59 PM
9

Thank you I’m saving this comment for future reference! Have a great weekend man.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 11:26 PM
4

Damn dude. Men commit suicide over lesser issues. Glad you made it through that shitstorm. Never again
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 11:51 PM
5

Stop renting headspace to her. I know it’s easier said than done. Focus on all the things you disliked about her when you miss her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 06:38 PM
15

This is a great comment! We are headed for societal collapse if something isn’t done soon. Priorities will sort themselves out real fast. You think the Ukrainians are overly concerned with self actualization or finding the hawtest guy
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 11:35 PM
2

That really is the BIG question
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/12/22 03:55 AM
1

Sounds like bipolar disorder man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 05:41 PM
3

Damn that’s some great insight. Resonates with my situation too. She is 41 going on 14 now, partying it up and fucking anyone that moves
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 05:40 PM
4

This. Listen up fellow men.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 05:37 PM
5

Yep. I think men are slowly waking up to this scam though. It’s slowly ruining society
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 05:34 PM
7

Planning ahead to potentially give away half your assets to a woman who hates you, cheated on you is indeed hilarious. Marriage and the inherent divorce is a game of wealth transfer from men to women, at least the majority of the time. Don’t get me started on unfair custody assumptions.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 04:32 AM
20

Based on her age, home “equity”, and salary; it’s highly probable that she spends as much as she makes. No man should even consider this woman. Imagine trying to seriously date a woman like this with her expectations, attitude and spending habits. Hard, hard pass. I think she is still likely looking for a bailout.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/12/22 10:05 PM
5

Somebody has to do something about this shit. Rulings like these are going to lead to the demise of our society.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 02:30 AM
4

The fuck? Good lord is there an appeals process? Did you get slapped with spousal support too
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 02:28 AM
8

Well at least you think highly of yourself
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 02:23 PM
10

Yet you talk only about what he isn’t doing, not about your part in the relationship and what you could be doing to improve
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:33 PM
13

I’m so sorry buddy. Pretty much same exact scenario with me. Divorcing a SAHM is a fucking nightmare. Keep your head up, and obviously never marry again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:29 PM
15

Giant children with tits 😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:25 PM
16

Posts like this prove the above point. Consider: He is apparently “the love of your life” yet still not enough for you? He hasn’t changed in 7 years. Gee, what you initially found attractive isn’t good enough anymore? Sounds like he is consistent at least. Most men here just wish their wives would have stayed the same, that’s not good enough for women apparently. What have you done to improve yourself over the last 7 years? Men (and people in general) don’t want to pay an ever increasing price f…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:16 PM
3

We place value judgements on everyone and everything. That’s what we do as humans. You don’t date every guy who asks you out do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:59 PM
1

How long were you married? Incomes? Assets?
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 12:09 AM
2

It’s called being married long term unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:17 PM
-2

That works both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 12:33 AM
8

That is so over the top ridiculous. Women need to play a role in seduction too, or at least express their reasonable needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:17 PM
1

Everybody does things they don’t want to do every day. It’s called being an adult. It’s the reason that “to have and to hold” is included in marriage vows alongside “forsaking all others”.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 11:12 PM
27

Anybody else more concerned about “very left leaning” than the other two? Not that any of those pertinents are palatable. Either way, three strikes and you’re out. I say this because I could maybe forgive someone for past indiscretions, granted they had taken steps to improve their situation. What I tend to find, especially in women, who are “very left leaning” is that they are waiting for someone (government, men, parents) to come and do the work for them or save them, but will also simultaneou…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/22 07:29 PM
2

Gotta love Washington State. I’m in that boat too
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 04:19 AM
7

I would bet even a legal separation would become invalid at some point if the married couple continued to cohabitate. I can see a sly lawyer getting this thrown out
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 04:16 AM
24

Keep going bro. Her new relationship won’t last. Not built on a foundation like that. By the time she comes crawling back to you, you’ll be way out of her league. Just make sure you say no when she does try to come back
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 09:22 PM
2

That money she is definitively not sharing with Allen
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/12/22 07:53 PM
18

Yeah she will get awarded lots of cash, prizes, 80% custody, and exclusive use of the marital home as her “punishment” in family court. Never get married gents, and if you do…. Make her work.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/12/22 07:26 AM
3

Oh man thank you for this comment. I needed that today
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/12/22 12:04 AM
8

“when” it goes south
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 06:14 PM
7

You’re a bigger man than I am sir
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 06:13 PM
0

If marriage is slavery for women then why do women seek marriage in higher rates then men? I suppose they’ve been brainwashed by men /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:56 PM
1

Yeah I get the sense that this one has an axe to grind. I’m here to listen and share my opinion so that we can find common ground. I don’t think that’s possible with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:55 PM
1

Your argument is a strawman. You’re not engaging in good faith, just trying to score internet points
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:09 PM
2

How is getting free money from a high earner, while being able to pursue other relationships “having your life ruined”? Furthermore, why should someone expect that the marital lifestyle should continue once the marriage is over?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:45 PM
1

Why do you keep using the word brats? Do you have something against humanity?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:44 PM
3

I don’t understand how commitment in marriage is any different than without marriage. No fault divorce is the norm, so it’s not like there is anything at all stopping people from divorcing for any reason at all. You can set up a power of attorney to give your partner access and decision making capabilities if one person falls ill. You don’t need marriage for that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:03 PM
1

Right. Every situation that benefits women is because men did something shitty. Take off your blinders
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:01 PM
1

Where did I say any of that was the case? So you’re answer to the problems with modern day marriage and family court is to go back to India’s caste system? That’s silly. Attraction isn’t that simple, well maybe it is for women. I’m simply saying that one party shouldn’t be monetarily incentivized to divorce with no consequences after a certain amount of time. That’s a bad contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:25 PM
0

Nope. I’ve seen drug addicted loser women get 50% custody when men would have to jump through hoops to get every other weekend in the same scenario. If you think family court isn’t biased towards women then you need to open your eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:12 PM
1

Why do you need a legally enforceable government contract to love your spouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:09 PM
1

You can do all that without marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:06 PM
2

Or until someone wants out. The divorce rate is over 50% now. No fault divorce is the standard now. Imagine having to spend 18 months and $30K to break up with someone. Yet women initiate 80% of divorces. What you meant to say is, legally binding financial contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:06 PM
1

What’s in it for women? Cash, prizes, and guaranteed child custody after divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:56 PM
2

For the woman, yes. I completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:54 PM
1

Marriage is a completely one sided contract when two people have differing incomes. In California, a person, typically a woman, is eligible for LIFETIME alimony after just 10 years of marriage. Can you imagine being a high earning person and paying your ex-wife monthly alimony for 30 years due to the breakdown of a 10-15 year marriage. It’s just insane. The problem is that the current divorce laws monetarily incentivize the lower earning party to leave marriage at a certain point. With no fault …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:53 PM
3

Those benefits don’t negate the huge downside risk for the higher earning party. You essentially become a wage slave for many years to the lower earning party in divorce. You’re essentially betting half (or more) of your net worth that your spouse will stay with you forever. Who would sign up for that? Since 97% of alimony is paid by men to women this is a gendered risk. The juice just isn’t worth the squeeze unless you have kids, and even then you should be very careful. If feminists truly care…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:39 PM
3

Awesome man! Great comment
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 06:27 AM
2

So all women are routinely gaslit and abused? Fun fact, Meriam Webster’s word of the year is gaslighting. Which just goes to show how overused this term is for a situation that is relatively rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:50 PM
2

Is that much different than today
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:56 PM
2

Which is why the self-esteem movement has been and is garbage. You can’t artificially make people feel good about themselves, not long term anyway. People know the truth about who they are and what they are capable of. It’s also a widely accepted fact in psychological literature that women trend more towards neuroticism than men. This makes sense in the evolutionary context of prioritizing safety for themselves and their infant children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:49 PM
2

And how many of those are still on the air? You’ve proved my point for me. I laughed out loud at Gregory House being a role model for young men. Thanks for that!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:44 PM
13

Name one positive male role model in TV or media that isn’t doing something violent. Men and fathers on the screen are all portrayed as fat imbeciles, the butt of every joke, deferential to the dominant woman in their lives. It’s embarrassing. Young boys need someone to look up to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:46 PM
5

Right? The juice isn’t worth the squeeze for most men nowadays. Everybody suffers because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:44 PM
2

This is a men’s divorce subreddit. Please stick to the r/divorce sub. It will be more your speed
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 01:19 AM
28

You’ll feel so much better eventually. Marriage isn’t meant to be endured, and there is no medal for enduring a bad marriage. Your kids will respect you more.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 04:30 PM
14

There is a difference between sex and committed, public relationships though. Many men who are in the upper 10-20% will fuck women who are average, it doesn’t mean that they are in their league for a committed, public relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 05:45 PM
0

Whoever led you to believe these things is nuts. I’m 6’3” and tall attractive women are exactly my type. I’m not an anomaly, there are lots of guys like me. Have more confidence, you’re likely more sought after than you think. How old are you? Maybe that has something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 04:35 AM
1

I wish I lived in Texas. My ex makes almost $100K as a nurse and I pay her over $3K a month “Progressive” WA state resident
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 09:57 PM
1

That doesn’t mean anything. Men generally want to fuck women, that doesn’t mean that liberal ideologies are “attractive” to most men. If anything I imagine it would be more of a kink where the conservative man submits the liberal woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:55 PM
2

Yes I think this is fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:53 PM
2

I disagree. The conservative men I talk to find liberal women cringeworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:53 PM
7

I’m a moderate, the most unattractive thing I can find in a woman’s dating profile, other than a bunch of kids, is a “very liberal” political affiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:37 PM
22

And they actually make real money
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/22 07:47 AM
6

Oh indeed she will have to work, or have her income imputed, but that doesn’t mean you won’t pay spousal support, unfortunately. I don’t enjoy telling you this, I just want you to have reasonable expectations going in.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 06:01 AM
7

Your wife has been a stay at home mom with zero income for a long time. You will most certainly have to pay spousal support. Isn’t it funny how they go straight to false DV charges. Some feminist she is.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 05:48 AM
34

Imagine risking reputation ruin and humiliation over $50 a month
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/22 04:06 AM
38

Most women make jack shit doing onlyfans. It’s like MLM schemes, a few people make a shitload of money and everyone else scrapes by making a couple hundred dollars a month
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/22 03:26 AM
16

Thousand Cock Stare
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/11/22 04:24 PM
25

“Let’s not waste any time” Sold
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/11/22 06:38 AM
2

You didn’t disappoint 😂
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/11/22 02:25 AM
4

Where is my man u/blackbarnabyjones to save this Qween from a life of cock withdrawal?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/11/22 01:25 AM
5

Not one word in that article about feeling shame or how unethical it was that she was scamming men. Typical
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/11/22 05:45 AM
3

So what you’re saying is… great time for her to enter the dating pool?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/11/22 06:37 AM
11

That’s apparently your job, to subsidize that cost.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/11/22 09:14 PM
2

Not my experience. Varies county by county. I live in a “woke” county which unabashedly favors mothers in custody hearings.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 09:02 AM
2

Congratulations man! I’ll have to come up and buy you a beer!
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 08:52 AM
5

Hey I found the one traditional woman on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 04:28 PM
8

What would you say that women’s effort looks like?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 04:24 PM
8

This is extra ironic with your tagline.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 04:22 PM
9

What a relief to be done.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 12:31 PM
8

This is the only counterpoint I can think of to OP’s stance. I would be very, very selective in looking for this person though. You have to value things in a partner that we likely didn’t before. For those of us who already have kids; finding your partner sexy shouldn’t be as important as it was before, since we have already reproduced. Try to value things like loyalty, character, similar interests, communication style, and approach to conflict above all else. This is what I’ve learned in my dea…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 08:18 PM
0

If you think you’re a RP’s nightmare the you don’t understand red pill. Red Pill is not about women being submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:48 PM
2

Easily bad for society. The drive that pushes men forward to build, compete, produce and establish a family come to some degree from Testosterone. Women are attracted to these characteristics in men. The overall testosterone levels in men have been falling for quite some time now and so have birth rates. I don’t think this is coincidence. The conversation as to why T levels are falling is fascinating. Environmental pollution in the form of Xenoestrogens is probably a big factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:27 PM
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Practically every place in our gynocentric society is pro-woman. This sub should be men only. Nobody else gets the unique challenges and frustrations that men go through in divorce. Can you imagine posting about false domestic violence allegations in the other sub and the blowback that you’d get. We here know that these things are far too common.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 03:23 PM
10

That would be fine if women were also held accountable too. Use men for foodie dates, bye bye account. Use your account to pump your Instagram, Snapchat, OnlyFans, etc. bye bye account.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:16 PM
1

For the vast majority of situations there is equal pay for the same job, unless of course there is a massive experience difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:52 PM
1

Men don’t loathe it, we just don’t want a double standard where women pretend to be victims of the patriarchy when in reality the disparity between men and women is minimal across many important social and social measures
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:51 PM
2

Yes I believe that overall feminism brainwashes women to believe that men always have preordained and systemically produced power and authority over all women. I’ll also add that women are only interested in equal rights when there is a perceived deficit of these “rights” that favor men over women. See the ever quoted pay gap for one example. Then they conveniently ignore data that shows that single childless women earn more than single childless men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:21 PM
2

I don’t agree with that assessment, if so feminists would be taking up causes that disproportionately affect men negatively, you’ll never see that. Just another attempt to undermine any mens rights movement by saying that “we already have you covered”. You also didn’t address my point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:49 PM
2

By this same token you could say that feminism diverts women away from commitment and family
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:01 PM
1

Sorry to break it to you, but you don’t understand the light switch effect
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 12:40 AM
20

Absolutely this. It is dehumanizing. When I look at it as a honed survival technique honed over millions of years it makes it more tolerable. Look up the war bride effect if you need context.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:53 PM
2

Wow. Yeah. Creating her own hell on earth
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 03:54 PM
9

Isn’t a line drawn on marital assets on the date of separation? Anything after that shouldn’t have any bearing on the split
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 06:12 AM
4

I laughed out loud at “automation and technology will take away most of the physical ultility of a man” Tell that to the fireMAN who is putting out a fire at your house, the tradesMAN who is fixing your shit, the construction worker building your home, the linesMAN restoring your power, the policeMAN called to your house to investigate your false domestic violence claim, etc, etc, etc,
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:31 PM
2

How old are your kids brother? Welcome to (family court) hell.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 04:19 AM
1

I’m glad you got 50/50 custody, but man that just shows how biased the courts still are in favor of mothers. Your ex has a fucking DUI on her record indicating substance abuse issues and she still ended up with 50/50. A man in that situation would have got every other weekend at best.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/22 03:00 PM
7

You shouldn’t be negotiating with her at all
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 08:02 PM
14

That tells you everything you need to know and probably already suspected. I’m so sorry man
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:56 PM
13

Good first step! There is no advantage or disadvantage to filing first in no fault states. I would suggest you file first before she can conjure up some false DV charges to gain the court’s sympathy. Don’t waive your right to alimony. This is how we fight back against this fucked up family court system.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:26 PM
2

It’s important to become competent yourself and manage your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:25 PM
16

See. She is already thinking of going down this path, and no, domestic violence orders of protection are not standard in divorces. Be very careful here, good job getting the cameras set up. You need to dip into that $38K and get a ball busting attorney. In my experience the best family law attorneys tend to be female.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:22 PM
8

Terrible advice. We are not substitutes for professional legal advice.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:15 PM
43

Listen carefully. Absolutely do not leave the house. It sets the stage for you to be viewed as abandoning your kids. She is trying to position herself to not have to pay you alimony, which she absolutely should have to pay you. Don’t sign anything of hers, talk to a lawyer ASAP. What she is offering you is an absolute shit deal for you, which shouldn’t surprise you. House should be sold and the proceeds split, or one party can buy the other out. That’s how it works in 50/50 states typically. I h…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 04:58 PM
6

Hahaha nice!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/10/22 02:59 AM
3

Ah gotcha! Good job, way to level up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:46 PM
1

She is right. Be more concerned about whether you like the other person that if they like you. Most guys just try too hard
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:13 PM
3

Work on being assertive brother. You can learn to be more extroverted with time and practice. Put yourself in a group of more extroverted friends. It will rub off on you and pay dividends in the long run, both in your career and with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:12 PM
9

I’m laughing with you, not at you, I swear 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:43 AM
13

You should look at the obesity breakdown between the sexes and re-evaluate that statement
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:04 PM
1

The obsession with virginity and n-count on here is strange. This coming from a red pill man. For reference, almost all the red pill content I consume is about bettering yourself. We don’t talk about women much at all, other than how to avoid the worst of the lot, and understanding their motives if you choose to become involved with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 03:51 PM
2

Amen brother
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 10:51 PM
1

Pregnant women on dating sites……. Just….. why???
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:19 AM
7

Great comment. Just because weak men do something awful doesn’t mean that it’s toxic “masculinity”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 05:03 PM
10

That first comment is ridiculous. Natural selection is still alive and well, just the context of it has changed since humans become civilized; to some extent at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:36 PM
7

Ironically, the more that positive masculinity is eliminated or discouraged in our society, the more women become attracted to toxic masculinity. Sexual attraction exists at the poles of femininity and masculinity. Do you think it’s coincidence that people are having less sex as the sexes become more androgynous in behaviors? What I mean by that is that women have become more masculine and men more feminine. Think about what is happening with facial hair. More and more women are finding facial h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:34 PM
1

This middle ground you speak of is in line with assertive behaviors, as opposed to traditionally more passive (feminine) and aggressive (masculine) behaviors. Being assertive is not an easy thing to do for people, but I agree, learning this behavior is important to functioning ideally in s society.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:27 PM
9

Upholding the patriarchy is not something women do consciously. This is millions of years of natural selection at work. We have been civilized for what, 500 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:23 PM
7

Absolutely. There is no punishment for lying in family court. No lawyer will pursue this avenue either. My ex stated that she had over $10K in monthly expenses. Shocked pikachu face when I submitted a hard written budget of hers for $4,800 that she came up with a month before we separated. Said I was abusive and suicidal. She tried to get a restraining order, thank god the judge was actually reasonable and threw it out.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 09:04 PM
1

Congrats! You’ve earned it
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 12:48 AM
-1

Huh? I don’t think you know me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:19 PM
8

What women say and what women want are two different things most of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 09:46 PM
4

Men don’t tell other men to “man up”. It’s primarily women who tell men to do that. It’s women that primarily perpetuate this form of toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:30 PM
1

You lost me at “The world does not need good men to father children”. So the alternative is even more single motherhood? Because single moms are just so happy? You must be really young and naive. Im sorry you seem to lack healthy men in your life. And no, population overgrowth is a boogeyman that doesn’t statistically hold up. Birth rates are below replacement level in almost every developed nation. The population of Japan is projected to be HALF of what it currently is in 2100. The population i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:30 PM
1

When most women become delusional about their “worth” and “value” it doesn’t leave much margin of error for good, but maybe average, men to become the husbands and fathers that they strive to be. The world needs good men to reproduce and raise properly adjusted children. Women currently don’t reward men who try to do the right thing by them. We are back to the law of the jungle for all the “progress” that we have made. You can see this run amok in our society. Single mothers raising men that don…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:24 PM
1

Because society comes along and gives these women the soft letdown. You’ve heard all the tropes. He didn’t deserve you! He couldn’t handle you! All men are pigs! Why can’t we just be honest and say that he wasn’t that into you and only wanted sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:37 PM
1

Nobody has any problem with that, as long as they can accept the results. It seems that most women can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:25 PM
1

True. What are the new rules then sensei
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:20 PM
1

There are no “rules” anymore. That’s the whole point. And I do just fine thank you 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:18 PM
0

I don’t complain about women, but there are a few common themes I see: Women are entitled and overly masculine Traditional feminine values have been eroded by women, yet they all seem to want a “traditional man”. The family court system is inherently biased towards mothers, and there is no reason for high earning men to get married anymore. Marriage mainly exists to transfer wealth and resources for one party to another.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:15 PM
0

That doesn’t explain all the hate and shaming lumped onto men from all these women. The excessive hatred for men in our society is unrelenting and unjustified. Most men would just rather go their own way at this point instead of fighting over some entitled, ungrateful single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:06 PM
1

It’s this whole “I know my worth”, “I deserve”, etc talking that’s going on. If you really knew your worth in the relationship market and it was widely accepted by men, then you wouldn’t need to make declarations like this. It has become contagious to the point that most women now believe some form of this statement, while doing nothing to actually make themselves more desirable to the high value men they seek. They conflate a man’s SEXUAL interest in them with his desire for a long term commitm…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:48 PM
0

Red Pill isn’t about women at all, although some red pill men do enjoy pointing out the hypocrisy in women when they see it. Women tend to conflate SMV and RMV together when they are not the same. A single mom with three young kids can get on tinder and have a line of guys out the door waiting to have sex with her, although her serious options for marriage tend to be much more limited. This inherently makes sense, men with options (the men they want) generally aren’t lining up to raise another m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:36 PM
3

Yep another high earner whose “forever person” left and took everything
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 03:01 AM
55

This guy gets it. Don’t whine, don’t complain. Acknowledge reality for what it is. Work on yourself and forget about all this egalitarian nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:50 PM
131

Tyrone do get locked up tho.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/09/22 04:13 PM
1

Good luck with this dude. Women most definitely do these things, but it’s not very common and the ones that do just redefine their reality to be incompatible with the things you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:04 AM
2

I assume you don’t have kids of your own if you need to ask that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:50 PM
3

You’re a real asshole for saying/assuming these things
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:58 PM
22

If the dream you seek isn’t matching up to your reality and you continue to put yourself if the same position is it really the other party’s fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:47 PM
–

Countries like ours crumble from the inside, not from some outside threat. It’s already happening
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:50 PM
50

Good take! Have an award sir
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/09/22 01:26 PM
13

Wait until a lawyer or her girlfriends get in her ear. Try and get it done ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 04:45 AM
9

She sucks man. Threaten to leave her. Then you’ll see her true colors. That should tell you all you need to know. These women nowadays looks at divorce as a potential financial windfall, that would definitely be the case for her too. I’m sorry you’re in this position
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 04:25 AM
28

Two kids full time and 1 part time likely means two baby daddies already too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/22 02:00 PM
1

Good luck man. Let’s hang out sometime
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 01:40 AM
2

Maybe for state taxes but check the federal IRS regulations
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/22 04:27 AM
10

Yep and don’t forget that it’s all tax free to the recipient (woman) too. Government funded incentives to break up families and marriages. The greatest scam on earth and direct evidence of how decayed our society has become.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 09:55 PM
17

Jesus what a fucking scam. Unbelievable
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 05:00 PM
10

I got into a relationship 2 months after separation with my AP. Big mistake. She kept pressuring me for more commitment that I wasn’t ready to give her. They’re all the same.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 12:10 AM
2

Do you live in Olympia by chance?
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 03:12 PM
2

Women spend a lot of time posturing. Ignore it and do what feels right to you. If she likes you it doesn’t matter, she will follow you around like a dog even if you treat her like trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 12:01 AM
120

If there is anyone left on earth who hasn’t seen this video of people misspelling “pregnant” it is definitely worth two minutes of your life: Pregnant misspelled Also if she knew how to make a man happy they wouldn’t nut in her and bail.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/08/22 04:37 PM
1

Well you’d probably need a lawyer to do that so……
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 08:30 PM
12

Welcome to the legal system for men. I feel ya brother
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 12:49 AM
6

$3213.80 13 year marriage, I make $160K and she makes $70K. I’ll be paying spousal for about 6 years. In WA state I will be paying post secondary (college) support for an additional 4 years as well Not that I’m counting or bitter 😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 04:50 PM
3

Can verify that this has generally been the case for me as well
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:04 AM
7

It’s all the responsibility of having kids with none of the corresponding authority. Being a stepdad is a thankless shitty job. Single mothers are very upfront often about you being the last priority in their life. Many use men as primarily monetary help. They have very little free time and many are jaded from previous baby daddy drama. No guy really wants to raise another man’s kid. Many single mothers also don’t want to have any more kids having experienced a broken home before. Basically it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:34 PM
6

Exactly. I added my comment before I saw yours. Good to see someone else who understands.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:57 AM
14

High earning men tend not to care too much about a woman’s career. We make enough of our own money. We tend to prioritize women who are fit, feminine and friendly; women who would make good mothers and who are nurturing. Women confuse their own preferences in a man with what men want. They aren’t the same thing. It’s women who are obsessed with this power couple dynamic. Women tend not to care or have no idea what men want. We don’t want competition, we want someone to complement our own masculi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:52 AM
1

Women get half of a higher earning man’s retirement fund in divorce. Marriage makes zero sense for a high earning man. There is just nothing to gain from it, and it can all be taken away, including child custody, at the drop of a hat. Alimony laws made sense back in the traditional nuclear family structure when the wife stayed home, but now with modern women making good money in the workforce they exist only to punish a higher earning spouse, almost always a man. Men pay 97% of all alimony that …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:00 AM
4

Casual sex is fun for awhile, but it gets old. It’s a lot of work and kind of socially exhausting. Relationshits kind of have their issues too, but can be ok if you have the right person with you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:34 AM
39

Women are inherently more selective because they pay a higher price in terms of vulnerability if they become pregnant. They want the best possible (fittest) mate, where some men want quantity over quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:20 PM
8

Why would any man ever get married to a woman that makes substantially less than him? Especially if they don’t have kids together
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 07:12 PM
4

So after the final decree is issued your ex can petition to have alimony amount increased?
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 06:19 PM
59

The people here would actually have to be having sex to do that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:02 AM
7

I still approach and sometimes get rejected. It’s fine, that’s how it goes. Good on you to initiate. Keep it up man, sounds like you dodged a bullet there
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/07/22 09:25 PM
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Who is the “we” you’re talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:35 AM
26

Good point. The image looks grainy on a close up inspection. I’m 40 and didn’t grow up with this technology so I’m still getting used to how women use them to fatfish you. Are there apps to reshape and contour photos of your body too?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/22 02:29 PM
74

You’d be surprised. Many a man will swipe thinking how good those lips would look wrapped around their member. Although if you think you’re getting head from her you’re probably delusional. Even her profile is one big shit test.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/22 01:56 PM
3

Thank you for this
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/22 08:56 PM
8

It’s the second option. She is not only NOT repulsed by it, it’s what actually turns her on and gives her the all important “tingles”. Your stability is what actually repulses her ladybits. There is only one thing we need to remember, don’t listen to women’s words, watch their actions and who they fuck. Tells you who they really are. Spoiler alert: It’s exactly what you think it is. Bring this up and watch how upset they get. Accountability is kryptonite to the fairer sex.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/22 08:23 PM
17

You’re just adding fuel to her fire. This is a passive-aggressive move, you filed a TRO then intentionally send her something inflammatory like this. While you might want her to suffer, this will not serve you in the long haul. Get a lawyer and look into the Grayrock method.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 08:03 PM
2

Listen to this guy. This is exactly the situation you’re going to be in.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 08:17 PM
5

You’ve gotta pull the trigger man. The longer this goes the closer you get to lifetime alimony. I’m so sorry dude, you’re in a terrible position. Let this be a lesson to any lurkers here. Don’t ever let her stay at home, always make them work a bit. Never get married again! I won’t even date down in income anymore after I got completely taken to the cleaners financially. Women in your wife’s position become extremely financially incentivized with cash and prizes to break a contract (marriage). N…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 08:14 PM
8

This is a great take. Thank you for sharing your experiences and how it benefitted your children. Many of the younger generation can’t help but think about anything outside of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:40 PM
9

That’s hilarious that you think red pill women would be broke after a divorce. Those men will be paying them big time alimony and child support for a long, long time. Every high value man’s worst nightmare should be getting divorce papers from a stay at home mom. It’s financial devastation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:28 PM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:06 PM
4

Divorce rape generally only works in one direction. Women are the breadwinners in 40% of households but only pay 3% of the total alimony paid out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:19 PM
25

Very well said, most women here don’t seem to realize that there is a state of being between “girl boss” and “doormat”. We want cooperation, work with me not against me. It’s in women’s nature to shit test men though, it’s really not worth the hassle unless she is the mother of your children or willing to be the mother of your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:14 PM
13

It’s the nagging that drives us nuts. We want peace and simplicity, it’s not complicated. This is especially true when we get home from work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:01 PM
5

That’s an interesting perspective. I would like to hear more as I’m removed from the industry. What is dating like for you? Feel free to DM me if you don’t want to talk publicly
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/06/22 03:03 AM
17

Thank you for this. Made my morning
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/22 02:12 PM
10

Because that is a ridiculous and self aggrandizing thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:15 PM
2

You can’t take things you don’t know (and can’t practically know) into account. I have no idea what you are actually trying to say. The best I can guess is that you’re an extreme empath who hasn’t had luck romantically and are lashing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:14 PM
19

I stopped reading at “gender is such an unimportant concept to me that I will say this as a third party”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:12 PM
10

You really need to read No More Mr. Nice Guy
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 01:32 PM
6

I think it’s the age demographic he is targeting. I’m older and basically a clone of him by statistics and I get much better results in the 30-40 age demographic, which shouldn’t really be all that surprising. Women become more realistic in regards to their SMV/RMV once they get past their epiphany stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:31 PM
8

You’re listening to their words, which are indeed fickle. Watch their body language. It will foreshadow actions. Also don’t fail their shit tests. Most of women’s negative behavior towards men is due to men failing shit tests. Keep the odds in your favor, don’t be weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:59 AM
94

It’s pretty simple man. If a woman is into you there is hardly anything you can do wrong, if she isn’t then you can’t do anything right. Learn to read body language, it will generally tell you the truth when you’re getting mixed messages from her words.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:45 PM
2

The part where the woman asks the man to marry her. Why can’t you fathom that the men propose, meaning they make the offer of marriage. It’s the woman’s job to convince him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:33 PM
2

Yes that’s correct. Increasingly college is nothing more than a high cost scam, and a way to begin your adult life with a heavy debt burden. This is coming from a guy with a Ph.D who has done very well. You have to have a plan when entering college now, it’s too expensive otherwise. Many men would be better suited to go into trade school.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:19 PM
2

Because it’s the man who asks. He is the one to propose, ninety five times out of a hundred he is the one with more to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:16 PM
1

Men hold the keys to relationships. He committed to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:37 PM
20

How anybody finds Pete Davidson funny or attractive is beyond me. Dude looks like he will steal my bike and sell the wheels for crank.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:34 AM
3

Try and be more demure/feminine. Sexual attraction is strongest at the poles (masculine/feminine). Why is he not being masculine? Could he have low testosterone? It’s kind of early for that but it’s not unheard of. Does he have a pornography addiction? I would want to know more before making a judgement. You’re obviously thinking of leaving, I would have a REAL talk with him.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 12:15 AM
2

That’s great. At least you don’t have a big head about it all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 10:10 PM
2

Good for you. Enjoy the McDonalds value menu with those royalty checks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 10:07 PM
2

Sure you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 10:05 PM
1

Yeah that’s my area too. I’d love to read
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:45 PM
11

“All women want is someone attractive, financially stable, and good personality.” If only that was all women want. Notice that all three of these things are entirely subjective too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:44 PM
0

These are just women in their epiphany phase. Just ignore. It’s a part of the process all single women go through in their mid to late twenties/early thirties. They can’t fully compete sexually with younger, childless, more attractive women, and many of the marriage quality men in their age demographic were already scooped up while they were in their “party years” or completely dedicated to some other pursuit. Feminism tells women that they have plenty of time to find a high quality husband and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:34 PM
1

Except that the question asked was “what INITIALLY attracted you to your significant other”. The things you speak of are attributes that you learn over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:21 AM
1

She qualified something that he always believed to be true. People on the thread are misinterpreting her use of the word “safe”. Safe in this sense meant, “I’m clearly dating below my level and you would be nuts to ever cheat or leave on me because I’m clearly the best you’ll ever do.” It’s absolutely the asshole thing to say and I don’t get the people who call him the asshole here. You could debate the way he handled it, but I don’t think there’s much debate to be had about what she meant by us…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:01 AM
2

That’s great man! Did you have a substance abuse issue or domestic violence in your past?
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 01:14 AM
99

Hypergamy is not going to end because us men find it unfair. It is the way it is. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can make an informed choice regarding mate selection. The truth of the matter is that women are born with inherent value in our society and men are largely disposable. Work on yourself and build yourself up, forget about women. When you achieve a certain level of success they will come find you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:39 PM
14

“First off, I’m a big girl” Yes unfortunately I saw your accompanying photo. “I want a serious relationship some day” So you’re saying no other man has taken you up on all the wonderful things you offer? What was that again? All I can see is another man’s kid, morbid obesity, no discernible personality, a terrible sense of “style” and a victimization narrative about all men being out only for sex? Woman you would be fortunate to be some sad, desperate man’s pump and dump. “Take me on adventures”…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/06/22 06:24 PM
80

Rarely do we get such a clear glimpse of women’s solipsistic nature. What this term means is essentially: Each woman is the center of her own universe and unable or unwilling to see things from another’s perspective or properly empathize with them. Women tend to be this way because over the course of human history they have not had to bear out the full consequences of their actions. Men have been around to keep them safe and provided for and have built the world we live in, exclusion from this s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/06/22 05:48 PM
2

Be there for your kids man. Don’t walk away
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 08:36 AM
11

That’s the difference between men and women on dating apps. She will still get a legion of swipes because she isn’t super fat (yet). Women who are moderately attractive can afford to leave disclaimers on their profile because it saves them the work of fishing through hundreds of likes/matches. I was dating a women who showed me her dating profile after we became exclusive. The sheer volume of dudes in her messages blew me away. You’re not competing with a few guys, you’re competing with a lot of…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/22 04:15 PM
7

She might not be fat, but she definitely isn’t fit either. She is 15lbs away from being chunky
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/22 04:10 PM
59

Is she picking a wedgie out of her ass or is that kid number six that she is attacking with an invisible coat hanger? Very banging indeed. All the intellectuals that I know list Wet Ass Pussy as their anthem and have 5 bastard children (from 3,4,5?? baby daddies) along for the ride. RETURN THYSELF TO THE STREETS!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/05/22 09:31 PM
12

Even worse
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 02:16 AM
4

Is that what you came away with from reading that? Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:19 PM
2

It’s not incel logic, it’s a generalization of the dating market. I’m one of those men that has lots of options so I have no incentive to complain about the way it is. It’s just what I’ve noticed from comparing notes with others. Your SIGN language also doesn’t get to me. Form a proper argument instead of resorting to insults.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:18 PM
6

This guy gets it. As a man your goal is to get into the top 20% of men in both SMV and RMV. Often genetics can be stacked against you, so you have to maximize your potential in the other dimensions that women value. You also need to learn game to make women more attracted to you. Don’t be the safe option, it will ultimately end badly for you. Women’s sexual liberation has, as expected, resulted in a dating landscape where the top 10-20% of men get almost all the action and have all the options. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:56 PM
5

Exactly this. Women routinely ignore all the things on her list to chase after broke assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:46 PM
63

Want to bet her father is in jail or skipped town years ago?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/05/22 02:14 PM
6

The exact same thought I had. Double speak is the language of the feminists
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/05/22 06:27 AM
1

I wish. I’ve heard 1 year for every 3-4 years. Olympia resident here
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 06:17 AM
2

That’s great man! Glad to hear it. My current girlfriend is also first generation American. Born in Oklahoma to Muslim immigrants from Pakistan. She denounced Islam, but is still very feminine, demure and friendly. She is a pediatrician, so she is good with kids and can turn off the assertive doctor behavior when she gets home. Also couldn’t agree more. Most of my male friends in relationships with western women are miserable. I definitely was in my first marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 09:38 PM
1

You’ve got this right brother. I’m doing the same thing myself. Most foreign women (non-westernized) are much more feminine and much, much more pleasant to be around. They actually seem to enjoy men and masculinity instead of viewing it as “the enemy”. All the feminism would be great if it made women more happy and fulfilled, but instead we see record levels of depression and anxiety in modern women. Any ideology that tells you that you can have it all, like the current version of feminism does …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:11 PM
2

No you have that backwards my man
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:05 PM
2

Thank you for saving me the time of writing this exact comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:04 PM
9

What stats does she want to see? I’m too old for this shit
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/22 08:08 PM
1

Good take on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 07:57 PM
2

Nobody gets everything they need from their extensive checklist of requirements. They are more wants than non-negotiable requirements. Compromise is the norm in relationships, as it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:42 PM
7

To each their own, although every long term relationship I’ve had involved having sex very early. I assume you are female
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:39 PM
1

It’s none of my business. In general I don’t care about a relationship that I’m not involved in. “Red pill is very monogamous, so I’m guessing is scathing toward polyamory” Why would you think that? Most red pill men I interact with would agree people are free to do as they wish as long as both parties freely consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:38 PM
8

If a woman isn’t having sex with you, or coming very, very close by date 3 then it is time to move on. Physical attraction cannot be negotiated. Don’t be the man that she settled for, especially when there is evidence that many others had instant access.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:34 PM
3

Most underrated comment here
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/05/22 09:35 PM
47

That’s a lot of words to say that you find yourself tall, dark, and handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:54 PM
1

I’m 40 these women are 35, 38, and 40
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:49 AM
1

It’s been easy for me, which was a surprise after being married for 13.5 years and never using online before. I’ve had 4 dates in the past 3 weeks, had sex with the 3 that I wanted to and am thinking about becoming exclusive with the best one. I think I hit the jackpot with this woman. She is all three of the F’s that us men tend to seek out (Fit, Feminine, Friendly) and so much more. I had heard so much on here about men struggling to find dates that I was nervous at first, but then matching an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:41 PM
9

Good point here. No skin in the game for this one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/05/22 08:59 PM
39

Unaware of how ridiculous she is 🚩🚩🚩
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/05/22 08:58 PM
1

Great username by the way
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 07:28 PM
1

Not ask for child support from a man who clearly did not have the necessary sex required to impregnate her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:23 PM
18

This is a good analogy. If women wanted true equality then they would accept responsibility for their actions like men are forced to do by the legal system. Women often times want the authority of a man, the privledge of a woman, and the accountability of a child. There is no authority without accountability. Power without responsibility is tyranny, responsibility without power is slavery.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:39 PM
4

Just……gross. This is human self awareness at its absolute low point.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/22 11:50 PM
3

If this comment doesn’t encapsulate the current dating market I don’t know what does. You can go out of your way to be as physically unappealing as reasonably possible and it’s still assumed that multiple men will approach you. Im not whining, I do well with women myself, but can you imagine men trying this same strategy?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:01 PM
3

My divorce is in Washington too. I’m paying alimony for 5 years on a 13 year marriage. Look at my income spread with my ex versus your and tell me again that your situation is a fair outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 12:16 PM
2

Happy Cake Day!
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 05:20 AM
11

She ONLY pays you $2K a month???!
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 01:06 AM
3

Yep. Who set up a system where one party gets rewarded financially for breaking a contract? And they are shocked that men don’t want to commit/marry them And it’s all tax free to her too. I pay the taxes on that money. It’s all so fucked up
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 11:16 PM
1

Don’t move out unless you want an uphill battle to see your kids I make $160K, ex makes $60K. I pay her $2K a month In spousal support and $1,213 a month in child support
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 11:07 PM
12

Great to see a woman is actually paying a man spousal support. This is the equality that they have fought for. I pay my ex exactly that same amount before child support She should be held in contempt of court. How much does she owe you in back support now.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 11:06 PM
1

Oh yeah I got lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 12:09 PM
4

It’s so fucked up that women do this. BelieveAllWomen…..right??
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 10:21 PM
1

Couldn’t agree more
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:39 PM
17

The phrase cum dumpster immediately comes to mind. Be careful with your loads gentlemen.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/05/22 04:01 PM
8

Good post. This is very relevant. A lot of younger guys on here that have had little success sexually seem to want a manual on what is and isn’t best to do with women, or what women want. Reality just isn’t that simple. Furthermore, trying to please women is a silly game. Take some time and work on yourself bros. You’re expected to lead in any relationship, you can’t do that if you don’t know who you really are and what you value. I hate this stupid analogy but I think it’s apt when referring to…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:28 PM
-1

Agreed. Women gauge this dedication to a pursuit and it turns them on because it shows you’re dedicated, more likely to be able to provide because you can stick to something, and it sets you apart from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:03 PM
1

You hit it right on the head. If she isn’t dying to have sex with you almost all the time during the first 6 months or so, then she isn’t marriage material. Sexual desire cannot be negotiated. She either wants you or she doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:59 PM
15

It seems like most men who post on this sub should be spending more time working on themselves instead of whining about women’s preferences and lack of opportunities. If you’re maximizing your physical potential, and you’re interesting due to hobbies and being cultured, you will have several women interested in you. I would also add that men seem to be more visually stimulated, where attraction is an instant yes or no, where as it may be more of a slow burn in women that intensifies with convers…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:43 PM
27

Pharmacist Heavily female dominated field. Probably 75/25 women now, maybe more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:38 PM
45

Just watch all the single mom’s who come out to celebrate Father’s Day as well because they think they’re the dad too. That shit always makes me furious. For just one second could you not make something about you? Apparently they cannot
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 02:56 PM
6

This isn’t correct. It’s not the age that people cheat, they’re just asking people in the age brackets whether or not they have ever cheated on a spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:44 PM
3

No. This is about past behavior, not behavior in the most current decade. Read the excerpt from the study you reference that u/EulenWatcher posted below. This is a study about how different people from different generations viewed and acted upon their own marital fidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:41 PM
1

This is a study of married or formerly married people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:34 PM
13

I think you may be interpreting this data incorrectly. I think this graph doesn’t imply the age at which somebody cheated. I think it simply means that they asked a bunch of married people of varying ages whether they had EVER cheated on their spouses before and these are the percentages of each age demographic that answered “yes”. Otherwise we would likely see a much bigger spike in the 18-29 and 30-39 year old demographics. I don’t think there are a large swath of 50+ year old men out cheating…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:27 PM
8

He literally feel on top of his partner as he died of a heart attack. How is that dying alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 03:27 AM
48

All men should read this post before thinking about getting married. We get punished for being successful and doing the right thing. Never again! I’m sorry brother. It will get better. Find someone to fuck if you haven’t already
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 02:37 AM
1

It depends on the woman and her priorities. Feminism has sold women a lie that they are just as valuable in SMV/RMV at 35 as they were at 20-25. See that stupid quote by Cheryl Sandberg of Facebook for an example. Women instinctively know this, despite what they say on social media, hence the epiphany phase. Honesty, I feel somewhat bad for women, they have biology working against them in regards to the best time to have children. Instead of looking for a great man to settle down with by 25, man…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:43 PM
6

They will impute her income at the level of her last position. She can’t just decide to not work and honor her commitments to your child. You should have gotten alimony too if the pay disparity is that much
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 04:28 AM
6

Unfortunately this is only a civil trial where money is involved. The bar to get a conviction in criminal court is much, much higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:40 AM
4

Women have definitely become more masculine in the last 50 years as men have become more feminine, speaking in generalizations. But, yes I think you hit the nail on the head with the first statement. Bad behavior is bad behavior and doesn’t have anything to do with the patriarchy. If someone is asking to speak to the manager it’s a 40-60 year old white woman with a bad, short haircut 6 times out of 10
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:32 PM
1

In what context is there a higher crime rate now? As opposed to the past or compared to some future date. Violent crime has been falling for a long time now
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:19 PM
42

Damn. To think that you have ruined your life and your marital value at the tender age of 22. Twice!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/22 02:33 PM
3

That’s a pretty good take actually
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 09:10 PM
30

Being part of the food chain is inhumane. This troglodyte could stand to go vegan for awhile if she was that concerned about animal cruelty.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/04/22 02:49 PM
34

This sounds like a projection. Women cheat because of men’s relationship deficits and men cheat because we can? Hate to break it to you, but some women cheat because they think they can do better, not because their own men are awful. Hypergamy is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:40 PM
132

Why do most women hate fishing photos so much? Is it because they are threatened when men have a hobby outside of the home?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/04/22 02:36 PM
3

I’m in WA too. I make about $160K and my ex makes about $60K. She asked for legal fees and the judge almost laughed. Not happening unless she is stay at home and has no income. Even then you can use the “wasted funds” as proof that she doesn’t need additional monies for a lawyer. My ex also cleaned out our joint savings account immediately after separation. It was only $14K but still a pain in my ass. Also you need to get your name off the credit cards. She is going to fuck up your credit.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 05:58 AM
26

Ask yourself, if the roles were reversed would she cut it back and play nice? I went on a date last night. The woman makes a substantial amount of money, approximately three times what she states her ex husband makes. She smiles and tells me in their divorce papers (that she wrote up and this dumbass signed) he gets 1/3 of the house and she gets 2/3rds. She also gets 1/3 of his retirement while he gets none of her pension. Also she will not pay a penny of alimony for their 18 year marriage. Whil…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 04:42 PM
4

I think they are jalapeños or some kind of pepper. Which I think is code for I’m hard to handle (spicy).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/22 04:00 PM
6

Damn that’s impressive self control sir! Any tips you can share with me? Were you visualizing her overdraft fees piling up while her tits were in your face? I had a different type of situation recently. I had a date with a woman my age (41), I typically date younger. She was cute and had a great career as a principal at a high school. She told me that she makes $160K which is also about what I make too. Then I ask her about what her investment portfolio looks like…. Crickets. “I don’t know anyth…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/22 03:23 PM
6

I’m ready to settle down too. With a beer. In my chair. Without you. Shaking my head at your poor decisions from a safe distance. “Need to know my kids are protected” is a scary line in there. Her ex will likely be beating your door down before you even get the tip in. Or it could be a call to beta bux and white knights. More red flags than Chairman Mao’s dinner parties.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/22 02:53 PM
7

At least she got some big tiddies after her pregnancy. (checks again) Well that’s unfortunate. I guess she can still go mudding to keep a man, as you say!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/22 02:49 PM
2

Exactly!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 12:58 AM
7

I think that the most important thing a man can do to maintain a relationship of respect and desire is to be very masculine with a complementary very feminine woman. The sex should be somewhat domineering by the man, as long as the submissive wife consents. The problem currently is that feminists have proclaimed that situations like these are “abusive” because of an imbalanced “power dynamic”. This is a ridiculous stance. Women like masculine men. We have all heard them talk about all the sweet …
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 03:31 PM
3

Well……at least that was honest. Please take some of your own advice brother. I would never downvote you either. Try making small incremental improvements that you can sustain.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 01:20 PM
9

Teach him about values. Honesty, integrity, respect. These will win out over time compared to the toxic ideology of 4th wave feminism. Make sure you’re leading with those values too. Also, keep in mind that your ex-wife’s perspective on what a man is, is likely to be skewed. If you get angry with her in this conversation you’re likely playing right into her hand of “toxic masculinity”. Instead focus on the potentially negative effects this conversation may have on your son. He is probably too yo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 04:30 PM
3

She also claims cooking as a hobby, but further down lists cooking and cleaning “rarely”. Fat lazy sloth like wahmyns.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/04/22 03:17 PM
11

Thank you for bringing this up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:23 PM
16

Talking about how abusive your ex is, is a giant red flag…..for you! Edit: In the context of a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:14 PM
0

It is difficultfor the bottom 80% of men. It’s much easier for the top 20-ish percent, they have as many options, or more (for relationships) than similar women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:22 PM
1

And when they eventually divorce it will be the woman who initiates it 90% of the time. Cash and prizes from family court
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 05:01 AM
4

I don’t think you understand the metaphor. It’s not to be taken literally. I don’t know, top 10-20% of men. Women rate 80-90% of men as “unattractive” in studies that have been done.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:52 PM
1

It’s a metaphor, Jesus. Also WINNERS is pluralized.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:48 PM
8

Her mom always told her to do better than she did (housewife) but unfortunately my ex is also lazy. So she decided that she preferred to be a housewife to have no “boss” but didn’t actually want to do the job because of feminism. So glad I’m not dealing with that entitled attitude anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:29 PM
39

Number two is important. One of my favorite quotes is “Women don’t care about your personal struggle, they stand at the finish line and fuck the winners.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:23 PM
15

Wow this describes my ex-wife to a T. It was a truly miserable place to be. I would work a stressful 12 hour shift and would be so pissed when I would come home and could tell that she literally didn’t lift a finger all day long. So I would start cleaning, then she would pick a fight with me for “doing her job”. You can’t have it both ways crazy person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:20 PM
17

Men have always been disposable, just in different ways. Before the current phenomenon we were sent to die in wars, die in unsafe occupations, and left to rot on the street so that women and children could get preferential treatment by the government. It has always been this way and it will always be this way. We can look at it with disgust or we can build the best version of ourselves. No man I know have ever declared himself strong and independent, it’s just a baseline definition of what a man…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/22 06:44 PM
12

That’s a great point. You are absolutely right about big girls having more personality, in the past. Cheers sir! The ones I’ve had sex with have definitely tried harder and given better BJs too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/22 04:57 PM
10

And one of them is King (Qween) sized.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/22 04:47 PM
22

I didn’t get the memo that I’m supposed to be attracted to a massively inflated cottage cheese filled ass. 🤮 This trend needs to die. Where are the men who find this attractive?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/22 03:49 PM
29

It’s breathtaking to think about how far societal norms have decayed in the last 20-30 years. When I was in high school and college, being a pregnant, single mom was the equivalent of having a scarlet letter on your chest. This is for good reason, having a single parent household clearly is damaging to children’s well being. Look up the statistics if you haven’t already. A woman can claim how “strong and independent” she is but this is only true to the extent that big daddy government/baby daddy…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/22 03:25 PM
1

That last part is absolute truth. This can’t last
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/04/22 03:25 PM
94

I for one remember that attractive felon who a couple of years ago had all the hood rats dripping in their shorts. I think he got a modeling contract. I’ve been arrested yet fail to have the same effect on women.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/04/22 01:07 AM
4

Rarely is it so obvious that her own father was absent from her life.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/04/22 02:02 PM
6

You’re definitely not wrong.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/04/22 02:02 PM
3

A lot of those accounts are likely inactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:13 PM
25

Right. They tend not to be so smothered by Dad. Kids need space to play and develop. When mom makes them a part of her personality she doesn’t understand the disservice she does to them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 03:50 PM
45

Nobody who is well balanced. It shows that she has severe boundary issues too, hence the repeated pump and dump. You don’t want your kid to be your best friend. Hell I love my kids, but sometimes I barely like them if you know what I mean. Making your kid your “best friend” turns them into little monsters. Most single moms suck at raising kids. It takes two parents.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 03:46 PM
22

Good analysis. And guess who get to pay for that? Lol just kidding it’s Brad from accounting, Chad gets the get out of jail free card every time.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 03:43 PM
66

Absolutely. Women are masters of projection. You can’t listen to their words, only watch their actions, or words alluding to their true actions as in this case.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 03:40 PM
4

And I know her future girth
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 04:19 AM
19

Oh shit you’re right. You win the internet today! Reminds me of an old Greg Giraldo joke. “Sure women only make 70% of what a man does, but they keep that 70%, Then they divorce you and take 50% of your 100%. That’s like 120% how can they get more than everything?” I’m paraphrasing, here is his bit: https://youtu.be/HYoBmAMHIG8
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 04:02 AM
32

I’ve had quite a few conversations with women regarding vibrators, dildos, and the idea that they could replace a man. Most women, especially ones that haven’t been ridden like the town bike, think it’s a silly concept. My current FWB said she was grossed out by dildos, she said they’re fake feeling and cold. Vibrators weren’t much better in her opinion. You apparently don’t get much intimacy from one. Men want sex, but women NEED sex.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 03:44 AM
4

I knew she looked familiar
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/04/22 01:42 PM
16

A guy with all that definitely isn’t going for her. For those who don’t know, 1.8 meters in approximately 5’11” so this guy is at least 6’3”, so that eliminates 90% of men right there. Women have the audacity to think that men are the ones who chase after unicorns. Edit: Actually, looking at her crudely drawn scale, this guy is 2 meters tall, or just a shade under 6’7”.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/04/22 01:33 PM
1

This only “proves” that people have preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 01:43 AM
22

No doubt. From her tone you can tell that she reserves these rights for herself. What kind of traditional Mormon marriage does she think she is going to get? The delusion is strong in this one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/22 05:17 PM
148

But seriously guys, think of how good the sex that you won’t have will be!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/22 03:57 PM
13

Fuck man, I wish you the best. This is what female empowerment has gotten our society. Every relationship is disposable. For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, should be replaced by “until I run out of social media content”. Never again will I get married, it’s just not worth it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 05:46 PM
7

I’m not prepared to date a woman a couple years older than my daughter, but I like your thought process.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 05:28 PM
3

On another note, I love your username
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 05:22 PM
3

You can bet your last dollar that she is already out looking for her next replacement revenue stream (man). In this fucked up dating market she has a good chance of getting it too if she is remotely attractive. There is an endless supply of simps ready to be beta bux for a poor victim single mother.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 04:35 PM
4

She is not going to have much luck with that unless she gets disability (fat chance). They’ve seen this kind of dog and pony show before. Most states have statutes that income is imputed at 40hrs/wk at the current earning rate because so many women try and pull this shit. It’s crazy how lazy they are. My ex is always complaining about money but refuses to work 40hrs/wk. It’s unreal, they all want to be on the Real Housewives shows
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 04:31 PM
7

You’d be surprised. If she can get a couple air mattresses, or even set up a tent for the kids in the living room, that might be enough for CPS or a GAL to sign off on it. Remember, these people are used to seeing poverty regularly
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 02:29 PM
37

This is one of the reasons there are so many kids with messed up priorities and beliefs out there. They’ve been catered to and made to feel the most important their whole life. Ask any of the gen-z young adults if they want to have kids some day, that’s a no for the vast majority, and who can blame them? These kids were often raised to be little narcissists and view parenting as more of a butler type role, with the corresponding authority. Who wants to sign up for that shit? My ex was like this.…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 01:55 PM
18

The level of entitlement remains strong here. I don’t understand why someone would make a dating profile that reads like a disclaimer. “I’m natural like disasters”… Yeah, I’m like a tree, I’m gonna leave.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 01:42 PM
6

Marriage vows aren’t worth a damn thing anymore. Somebody should come up with a post entitled: Marriage Vows For The Modern Woman. I would love to see those submissions.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 01:36 PM
18

That’s what they want, the financial security
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/22 01:14 PM
1

It’s actually 80%, but you’re getting there with your statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 12:24 AM
1

Why would you assume she initiated the divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:51 PM
1

Right. You can tell all you need to know about my life based on my marital status. All that tells you is a woman wanted to marry me. Would you say the same thing to a divorced woman? No, because in your mind the bad and good people are already determined based on their genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 09:53 PM
1

You’re taking this oddly personal. I’ve said nothing about my personal values, and I think I will stay. Thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:49 PM
2

Is there a part of the word “consensual” that is difficult to understand? Nobody should be forced to do anything they don’t want to do sexually. Stop projecting your own values onto others
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:30 PM
2

So are you claiming that it’s more common for men to be dominant in bed? What are you trying to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:28 PM
2

Better for who? The reason you might see more subs there is because it’s less socially acceptable. Once again this doesn’t represent society as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:10 PM
1

Strange. You find submissive men at a BDSM site. How does that nullify my previous claims about people on average
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 06:38 PM
3

Who said anything about abuse? We are talking about consensual sex. Why would you go straight to victimization?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 06:13 PM
2

What? How does that even make sense? Men tend to be more physically and sexually dominant due to Testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:52 PM
3

You’re projecting the experience of a few, or your own personal preference(?) to the majority. There was a survey done recently on this particular subreddit which showed men preferred to be dominant in bed by a ratio of 5:1 if I remember correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:37 PM
60

Imagine coming straight out with a list of demands at age 55. She will have less applicants than Blockbuster Video.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/22 04:57 PM
78

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, marriage is for the kids. If you don’t have children with the potential wife, or don’t intend on having children with her right away, then there is no reason to get married. Even then you would be wise to tread carefully. In today’s world women treat marriage like a 401k they can tap whenever they need to. We aren’t given the age of the people involved, but if the women is over 30 then maybe this response is even more justified. Women want the wedding b…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/22 04:44 PM
6

I agree completely. I wasn’t trying to suggest that gender roles contribute to the way men and women interact. I may have miscommunicated that. This is biology and adaptation to environment over thousands of generations. I also edited my previous comment to reflect this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:24 PM
36

Well, it’s not true anymore until it is. The thin veneer of civilized society seems to be wearing thin sometimes. When personal safety is the most widespread concern in society we step right back into these traditional gender roles. You could probably study this in Ukraine right now, if that was possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:05 PM
10

Generally, women like to feel sexually submissive and men like to feel sexually dominant. It echos back to basic biology and temperament which we have widely acknowledged for millennia until just recently. As far as society as a whole goes, women have become much more masculine and men more feminine, so there is also a taboo in play too with these roles, to some extent. Edited: changed to reflect biological basis of dominance and temperament.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:01 PM
3

Good. You will have the family that you want someday. Take time and heal. Don’t jump into another serious relationship right away.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 02:53 PM
40

Men are the true romantics. Women love opportunistically. Try not to take it personal. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It will get better, I promise you that
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 02:44 PM
60

I’m more impressed that she knows her count is exactly 36. She must be keeping notes. My count is 40 something but I don’t know it exactly. Consequences are a tool of the patriarchy
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/22 04:04 AM
2

Good conversation. Thanks man
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/22 12:00 AM
2

I make quite a bit more, about $160-165K but I have a management position.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 11:30 PM
2

https://www.bls.gov/ooh/healthcare/mobile/pharmacists.htm Edit: It looks like you’re quoting this exactly
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 10:11 PM
1

Correct
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 03:32 PM
1

As I pharmacist, I approve this message.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 02:30 PM
1

I’m a pharmacist. The Pharm.D program is all that exists now. The BS programs were eliminated. Not because you need a doctorate to be a retail pharmacist either…..
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 02:18 PM
3

Coming from a fellow Pharm.D, let me tell you that degree is becoming almost worthless. When I was accepted into pharmacy school in 2004 there were 350 applicants for the 62 spots. It was pretty much the smartest people I knew in undergrad who got in. Since then the number of pharmacy schools has doubled, while demand has stagnated or even declined. The average acceptance rate of these schools has risen from about 20% to just shy of 80% now! This is a doctorate program I’m speaking of! Greed has…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 01:48 PM
2

I can tell you’re a fellow Kevin Samuels follower. His conversations with women are gold.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 01:38 PM
30

Women really do wear their poor decisions like badges of honor nowadays. Was it Descartes or Satre who said “I am a victim, therefore I am”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 01:22 PM
15

Fantastic title by the way. Bonus points for verisimilitude.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 05:02 AM
3

How many times can you bring up the same subject?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:11 AM
4

Because you’re obsessed with this and you haven’t even had sex yet
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:09 AM
4

Dude you and your “cuck culture” need to take a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:54 AM
10

Just……. Thank you for this. The best laugh I’ve had all day
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:24 AM
11

Absolutely. This is honest hypergamy in action. It’s refreshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:23 AM
13

You know what you need to do, it’s been obvious for 7+ years man. I hate to be rude, but reach between your legs, find your nuts, and do it. She will never change, you’re hurting your kids being with her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 04:20 AM
1

No. You have this backwards. It’s the woman that looks for the investment opportunity due to the high cost of carrying a child, both financially and on future prospects. This is where most of the pay gap happens. How can people get something so fundamentally simple so wrong? Online dating is not representative of mate selection in real life because: The male to female ratio is skewed. Women are inherently more choosy, again because of the high cost of potentially carrying a man’s child. The dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:15 PM
6

You’re mainly speaking about boys and girls not men and women. Is it really a surprise that priorities and sexual interests change once there are bills to pay and the dating pool opens up? Girls don’t need “the protector” type when dad is at home to protect them. I would argue that girls are more likely to be attracted to manly men when they do not have a father/man figure at home and desire that protector. I do not have any data to back this claim up, but my personal observations lead me to bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 12:10 AM
43

MLM=Mostly Lost Mothers It’s a trip trying to talk to some of these people about their “business”. Of course they want to tell you about all the super successful people in their up-line; but when you want to get to nuts and bolts of how much do they actually net the conversation dries up. Conversely they will tell you that you just don’t get it. They’re right, I don’t get it. You can either be first, best, or cheat. You’re definitely not first, and good luck trying to cheat the system. No other …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/03/22 10:26 PM
5

Sangria doesn’t really pair with steak and potatoes. And what cut of steak? Do you like it rare/medium rare, god forbid well done? Do you like to cook it low and slow on the pellet grill then finish it with a nice sear? What is your best marinade recipe? As a self described “foodie” (fuck I hate that word) she should be more specific and descriptive of her culinary endeavors. What she means is that you provide the food, I eat it, watch you pay/do the dishes, then pretend to be too full for sex; …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/03/22 08:01 PM
7

I had a talk with my current FWB last night that ran along these lines. When men speak of truth it is typically the literal, factual, objective truth that can be verified by others. Where as women view “truth” through the lens of how they are feeling right now. Which is why their truth, and thus their words, should be mostly ignored by us. It’s true to her, but not true by any objective definition. I think this is also why often women tend to lack empathy for anyone other than themselves and the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/03/22 06:56 PM
2

Did you repost this? Come on
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 03:05 PM
3

The first part of this comment is great
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 08:16 AM
1

Thanks. I didn’t consider that and assumed it was a fake name.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/03/22 04:26 PM
3

Eminem’s line comes to mind, “What, you tripped, fell, landed on his dick?”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/03/22 04:15 PM
2

Wow. Taking advantage of people who are at a low point. MLM single moms are such boss babes! So strong and amazing. I’m thinking she may have been the abuser.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/03/22 04:14 PM
94

Who lists Black Lives Matter as a hobby? Is this supposed to be an advertisement for a certain type of man?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/22 04:51 PM
2

Thank you for the clarification. This is how I intended it when I used that phrase.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/22 05:02 PM
0

Some single moms are chill. Not all obviously. They just aren’t overbearing because they know you’ll leave if it’s too much. It’s nice to have all the leverage
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:40 PM
2

How long have you been dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:14 PM
1

Yeah you definitely need to be careful with single moms. You just need to understand that you will be way down on her priority list, regardless of what she tells you. Also be careful if you’re a high earner. Being a single mom is hard, many of them are looking for a financial bailout. Also remember, if she isn’t going to give you kids of your own then you have zero incentive to marry her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:11 PM
5

Equating what Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby did to the bad date that Aziz Ansari had is disingenuous at best. She wanted a celebrity boyfriend and was upset when it didn’t work out. He stopped as soon as she said no. There is nuance here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 11:52 PM
14

Explain to me how what happened with Aziz Anzari was “up there with the worst of them”. They talked about consent multiple times before their sex act.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:13 PM
8

Wow. Do women really think men find this attractive, or is she pre-rejecting all but the most desperate beta-butlers?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/22 02:36 PM
27

Absolutely. The lack of sex in any relationship, or substantially reduced frequency should be code red for the relationship. You cannot negotiate desire, and once it’s gone, it almost never comes back. If you do not intend to have children with a woman, there is zero reason that you should ever marry her. Marriage is more for future children than for the woman. Don’t submit yourself to that. This is the ultimate shit test for men. Do not fail this one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/22 02:33 PM
9

I don’t know about you, but the more cats I see in a woman’s dating profile, the harder my dick gets. Jesus, do any of them even try anymore. This one is even somewhat attractive too, minus the smoking and cats. Nobody who smokes has teeth like that. Dentures at 43 possibly? What was the old saying? Women with tattoos who smoke are the easiest of them all. Also her profile says “perro” but where is this dog? Im confused. I’m sure there is boxed wine just out of one of these frames. You know what…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/22 02:01 PM
3

It will hurt for awhile, but it does get better. In the mean time read: Rebuilding when your relationship ends. It’s helped me a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 02:33 AM
5

Don’t leave the home unless you want to see your kids very little. They sometime consider it parental abandonment. If you live in a one party consent state then video record everything after you file. Otherwise be prepared to defend against a false DV report. It sucks but multiple people here have had it happen. DV/restraining orders are an automatic “win” button for women in contentious divorce cases. You’re going to be paying a significant amount in both child and spousal support. It might be …
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 11:31 PM
2

Fair enough
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/03/22 02:40 AM
13

Thanks for the laugh. #BelieveAllWomen “I might not have like evidence”. Haha
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/22 02:05 PM
-6

I don’t think that’s an unpopular opinion.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/22 02:04 PM
11

Started more drama than the launch of Lifetime Network. Thanks for the morning chuckle.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/22 02:03 PM
15

Wow. 🤡
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/22 11:29 AM
38

It’s true. The sad fact is that most women want to be modern women within a traditional marriage. All the benefits but none of the duties of traditional wives. They waste their 20s being 304s then expect someone to come save them in their 30s. It would be funny if it wasn’t so sad. Work on yourselves gentlemen, don’t support these “empowered kweenz”.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/22 10:41 AM
1

Wow… this from the gender that is “all about mental health”. Would you say the same about women’s struggles, or is that all men’s fault as well? Typical from a woman, “just suck it up”. This is why men don’t seek help. You are part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:06 AM
1

I love your username and agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 05:36 PM
2

Good points. I think you’re right about a lot of that. The hoe phase part is always funny to me. If a woman is telling you that she wants you to wait, when you know for a fact that most others didn’t have to wait, she is saying that either: she isn’t that attracted to you, or you have to pay the price for her past indiscretions. Either one is bullshit. Always remember this, women makes rules for Brad and break rules for Chad. Not only are men expected to pursue, even on dating platforms where wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:59 PM
9

From the prospective of a woman, men have it easier. This is because women are typically trying to catch the same smaller group of men, who have lots and lots of options. This is not reflective of the average man’s struggles in dating though. Women also make this argument in regards to “The Patriarchy”. They take the experiences of the few hyper-successful men in society and paper that experience over all men. It’s disingenuous to say the least. If I had to choose whether to be a low income man …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:54 PM
2

Exactly. This is not what women typically want, and even those casual encounters are fewer and farther between, on average, as you would expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:45 PM
3

Typically in a conversation if you want to try and disprove my claim you have to offer some sort of reasoning behind it. Simply saying “false” then asking me for additional information when you have provided none of your own is childish and rude. There aren’t slews of men begging women to marry them. It’s women who are the ones begging for marriage. Look at the polls that show that more women than ever are interested in marriage and fewer men than ever are. As they should be, marriage and the fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:30 PM
1

Fixed
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:05 PM
1

It’s fruitless for MOST for exactly the reasons I stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:50 PM
3

If you think the wall is a myth, make an online dating profile as a 40 year old woman, or average looking man, and see who you match with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:09 PM
14

These things all exist. Women tend towards hypergamy, successful men tend towards polygamy. Women only have the advantage in casual dating (sex), men have the advantage when it comes to accessing marriage/LTRs. The top 20% of men have all the options. The bottom 80% of men have to take what they can get, if anything. What online dating has essentially accomplished is taking us back 10,000 years to our most basic animalistic instincts regarding mate choice (see hypergamy vs polygamy statement abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:50 PM
165

This is how unbalanced the dating scene has become. Wahmyns don’t need to offer ANYTHING anymore. Most profiles read as disclaimers. No thanks, I’d rather be single
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/03/22 01:04 PM
3

This 100%. We go get our own. We don’t need yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:23 AM
3

I don’t necessarily disagree with what you’re saying. I think both sexes have specific things they tend to want from partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:37 AM
8

I don’t think you understand what hypergamy is. You are right, men generally don’t care how much women make. You’re projecting your preferences and experiences onto men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:19 AM
4

That’s ridiculous, hypergamy is women’s nature (no judgement), it wasn’t created by men Women are the ones concerned about “dating and marrying up” which is what hypergamy is. Men are more concerned with polygamy; spreading their seed far and wide. Online dating is exactly those two things combined. Which is why 10-20% of men get all the action and won’t settle down. Nobody should be surprised by this
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:10 AM
0

Women tend to be, on average, more prone to negative emotions such as neuroticism. Most men want the 3 F’s when it comes to women: Fit, Feminine and Friendly. It is much easier to get along with somebody who is more agreeable, and agreeableness has traditionally been associated with femininity. Only in the last 20 years or so has 4th wave feminism taught women to behave more like men. Men find that to generally be unattractive. Sexual attraction tends to be strongest between masculine men and fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 12:33 AM
8

This also doesn’t account for a change in behavior if that law were passed
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:22 AM
1

Looks are overrated. The older you get the more you just want somebody with common values. For me and most men that is traditional women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:16 AM
4

Women are much more masculine than they traditionally have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 04:29 PM
7

Yes I will second this. Could be 100 times worse. She showed you who she was. Thank her and try to rebuild.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/22 11:12 PM
81

Welcome to the jungle. We’ve got fun and games
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/03/22 04:09 PM
5

But he has to be edgy too!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/03/22 04:05 PM
1

I’m guessing…. 6 feet, because she weighs as much as 3 men 7 figures, like the word “obesity” has 7 letters? 8 inches, as close as you can possibly get to her face because her FUPA obstructs the way. Those fucking hands…… ew
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/03/22 08:01 PM
5

Define our relationship, don’t mention your ex-wife, validate me when I’m insecure, etc.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/03/22 12:53 PM
8

This one right now would demand to come with me. Not because she doesn’t trust me, but if I get to see titties then she does too. I know this isn’t normal. I lead in my relationship. I get privileges that she doesn’t. If she doesn’t like it then she can walk. She knows this. This doesn’t mean I’m a dick to her. She just needs me much, much more than I need her. That’s all I still get shit tests, etc. I just don’t give in to them. It makes her nuts but that’s not my problem.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/22 04:51 PM
20

Good point. If she is keeping it from her husband that is the main problem. Her husband would need to at least hint at the nuclear option to reassert himself in the relationship. My poorly elucidated point was that I don’t want to become the thought police for women. Thoughts are one thing, acting or considering acting on them is another. You could make a very valid point that she is considering acting on them or possibly even already has acted on them. When women do these kinds of postings they…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/22 03:02 PM
7

Honestly… and I may get flamed here. I don’t see what the major problem with this is. She fucked her husband when she got home She was sexually attracted to a sexually attractive man. I point out attractive women to my partner and she enjoys looking at them too. I also agree with her when I see an attractive man. The one issue I would have is that she intentionally talked to him when she was wet. If you are in control and leading in your relationship then this should be no major stumbling block …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/22 02:06 PM
18

Yeah I’m a red pill male, but you’re the one with the wrong attitude OP. If what you’re saying is true (it isn’t) then why would you even want to fuck somebody who is that delusional about their SMV. If you need to vent do it somewhere else. This reeks of desperation and isn’t helping red pill at all. Do some self reflection and recalibrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:00 PM
23

I’m really going to need to see this “science” that shows that women in their 40s are in their sexual prime. I’m a compounding pharmacist who makes hormone replacement products for this age demographic and I’ll call bullshit on this. What a load of rubbish. If they were in their prime they wouldn’t need hormones to maintain.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/22 02:15 PM
3

Maybe we can start a business selling special “emotional support cats”. Each $1,500 specially trained cat comes with its own box of wine and a Star Magazine!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/22 02:07 PM
10

I just saw that recently. The women, especially that first woman, are idiots. Is the Disney fairy tale romance really that compelling that they’ll reject reality when it shows up?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/22 02:02 PM
8

I saw her Instagram and every single photo is of herself. Not only that, no other people are in any of the photos. It’s just bizarre and speaks volumes about who she really is and what she values.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/22 01:54 PM
10

That made me laugh. Thank you
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/22 02:09 AM
15

Sure thing boss. You know what they say about men who are cunning linguists…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 10:28 PM
16

I completely agree. I’m sure the title was generated by editors to get the most possible clicks, but she did a decent job coming off unbiased. I love the Goya bit too. Thanks for the education. I checked out April’s Instagram. She is 33 going on 22 based on most of the photos. What is the equivalent of a Peter Pan lifestyle for women?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 10:21 PM
24

I’m stealing your thunder. I’ll pay you royalties though
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 09:05 PM
87

Alternate title: Pretentious pageantry princess peaks prematurely. Portrays powerful post-peak performance. Partners plunder private parts. Pseudo-purity pushes penises past present promotions. Poor pretty patsy pretends patriarchy primarily problematic.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 08:35 PM
70

This one has all the goodies. Empowered woman with such a long, long list of accomplishments. Why can’t she find love? Maybe it’s because she has recently “dated” 100(!) men? Maybe she is an alpha widow chasing Chad’s tingles? Maybe it’s because she wants a nice sensitive guy but isn’t attracted to them? Victim this, victim that… No thank you. I’d rather stick both hands in my toaster on the high setting.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 08:20 PM
1

This one has all the goodies. Empowered woman with such a long, long list of accomplishments. Why can’t she find love? Maybe it’s because she has recently “dated” 100(!) men? Maybe she is an alpha widow chasing Chad’s tingles? Maybe it’s because she wants a nice sensitive guy but isn’t attracted to them? Victim this, victim that… No thank you. I’d rather stick both hands in my toaster on the high setting.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/22 01:24 PM
6

Congratulations! I hope to get where you’re at soon. I’m still thinking about my ex every day.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 04:31 AM
1

Give me everything and fuck off isn’t a starting point in negotiations. Get out of here with that. Otherwise I agree with the rest.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 07:53 PM
3

“Only with women do you fail the test by passing it with flying colors” I laughed way too hard at this. Thank you sir!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/22 04:26 PM
4

Simple answer, she didn’t respect the previous ex-boyfriend. Monkey branched to the new boyfriend. Cheated on old guy with new guy. This is her taking “accountability” citing “external” reasons, what an idiot. Never put the pussy on a pedestal gentleman. When she does this she isn’t actually thinking of the ex fondly. She is simply THINKING OF HERSELF fondly. Women are inherently selfish and neurotic creatures. Watch their actions, do not listen to their words, then you will know all you need to…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/22 04:20 PM
5

No she doesn’t get any credit with that list of “demands”. Full physical custody isn’t good for children. I’ll respect her when she can put her children’s best interests first
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 02:12 AM
3

That just made my day. Have another award sir
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/22 02:07 AM
8

Absolute horseshit. Get a lawyer ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 01:56 AM
11

Women are ruthless. I got a letter in with my stuff from happier times just 6 months before separation.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 12:48 AM
3

She has more testosterone in her blood than I do.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/02/22 12:48 PM
146

Two kids at 19 and she is a religious scholar… Where do I sign up?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/22 11:04 PM
15

If you know that it’s right then you and only you will know what to do. Most people on here, myself included, are so jaded on marriage that we have lost the ability to be unbiased. Not all women are awful monsters, and the truth is that some of us did more than just a little to seal our fates in these cases. If you are going to get married try your best to protect yourself in a few practical ways. Be assertive in your relationship, fight for what you know is right and fair. But above all, I trul…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 02:50 PM
10

That’s what you fail to realize. Most of these guys are sexless. A man who has access to sex usually won’t pay, unless he is an addict who wants these “personalized experiences”.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/22 10:39 PM
2

Not a bad idea. Thanks!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/22 01:31 AM
1

Thanks man. Luckily I did get the snip, so baby trapping won’t be a thing. I’m trying to find myself again after having my identity being tied to being a husband for so long. It’s hard, that’s for sure. I don’t want to be lonely, but thinking about relationships again is overwhelming.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/22 01:12 AM
4

I’m in the same boat as you. 40 years old, 6’3”, 215lbs, athletic build, $160K income. I’m maybe slightly above average in looks, definitely not the type that women drop trow for on first sight. I’m just getting out of a 16 year marriage and terrified of doing the online dating thing. Any advice you can give would be appreciated. I haven’t tried at all and have had a few women fighting for me. Mostly single moms, and yeah….. I’ve heard plenty about those types here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/01/22 10:45 PM
16

Usually I have something witty to say, but I’m literally speechless here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/01/22 02:49 AM
3

I’m there with you brother. We are together in this. Time to do things a different way and build from the ground up. Don’t give up. You can do this
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 04:15 AM
3

Ah shit! The letter V strikes again. This might be more valuable to our discussion: Voluptuous, virtuous virgins volunteer vast valleys. Vapid, venomous vultures value very vital vibrators.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/01/22 02:32 AM
13

Sounds like her “friend” saw some value where she didn’t and wasn’t shy about going to get it. These women are viscous when they see one they want.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/01/22 08:44 PM
10

Very inspiring brother! I’m still in the thick of it, but much like you No More Mr Nice Guy hit me like a gut punch… must be the truth. I’ve also lost 50lbs and put on muscle! Virtual high five man! So my wife left me and I’ve added $15K/yr to my already substantial income, lost weight, gained muscle, gained self confidence, and gained a few admirers too…. Life isn’t quite good yet, but it’s getting there! Good on you too sir!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 02:48 AM
4

She seems fun
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/01/22 10:28 PM
3

Hahaha. Indeed. Probably still sitting on first base due to “her new found religion”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/22 06:08 PM
12

Also, notice how her “friends” seemed all to eager to spill the beans on her. They must have been very jealous indeed of the thousand pound trophy marlin beta-bux that she had snagged. And I’m guessing they were all of similar dual mating strategy compared to this female. Which shows another great aspect of female nature: When it comes time for her and her friends to start asking The Big Question all gloves are off. The competition for men like him must be fierce and at least one of them must ha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/22 04:11 PM
1

Where in WA state?
/r/MensRights17/01/22 08:24 AM
31

No silly. You are the source of the full time job. But good news! She will still be too tired for drama sex. She will still be “full of experiences” from trips to Chad/Tyrone’s place while your working fulfilling her needs.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/01/22 07:40 AM
70

Wow the priorities on this one are pretty out in the open. Didn’t it use to be, out of shame at least, that wyhymns would hide or at least cloak their intentions of looking for a cash cow to milk. I guess that is just “empowerment” nowadays. “Yes I have baby lol”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/01/22 07:36 AM
7

Zoom in on her right hand that is on her abdomen. Looks like there is some kind of lesion or boil below her index finger. Herpes???
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/22 02:50 PM
2

Damn! That was savage. I tip my hat to you kind sir
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/22 01:52 AM
14

Just remember, she once found these things attractive in “Jim”. Once again failing to realize that Jim was her choice.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/22 01:25 AM
70

Wow… such a buffet of fine options… Too bad I just missed the cutoff at 6’8” I’ll see myself out I’m really bummed there is no picture here. I would really like to view this one
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/22 01:17 AM
9

Nurses are just the worst, IMHO.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 06:56 AM
5

Shouldn’t be too bad I wouldn’t think. As another man divorcing a nurse; my condolences.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 06:04 AM
35

Top 10%, ha more like top 0.05%. I don’t think she cares about anything but status in males. I mean have you seen the way her former husband Ric Ocasek (from The Cars) looks? Jesus he makes Keith Richards look handsome
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/22 11:35 PM
108

I would guess that it’s not so much the empty egg carton, but the baggage and the entitlement of being “former supermodel” and all the crap that comes with that, that makes men run away. A 56 year old woman who is holding on tightly to physical beauty is kind of sad in a way as well.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/22 09:01 PM
3

Spam
/r/MensRights09/01/22 07:46 PM
2

Which site is this that you’re referring to? Feel free to DM me if you’d like
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/22 06:11 AM
6

Damn. I like where that story went. Tell me where it ends kind sir! Let me guess…. Alimony payments and “child support” for kids that aren’t yours???
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/01/22 04:47 PM
3

Whoa! Did you kill someone or are you a legitimate sex offender? If not then you’re not who you think you are.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/01/22 04:42 PM
2

Thank you buddy! I appreciate that. I do lift pretty regularly (2x/wk) but have upped it to 3-4x/wk now. I got covid 3 weeks ago and it’s still sapling my endurance, but I’m gonna lift tomorrow and see how it goes
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 06:40 AM
2

Thanks man! I’ve gotten lucky since the separation. I have a FWB situation with a much more traditional woman. She is a rare breed in that she also likes women too. It makes me hard when she says, “sit down and watch the game while I cook for you”, then proceeds to blow me after doing my dishes. My “modern feminist” ex would be repulsed by such behavior. Don’t get me wrong, I’m fully aware that this is just a show and most, if not all, of it is a lure for a LTR. I’ve been very upfront with her a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 06:31 AM
2

Shit. I need to up my game to get that top notch flair
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 06:22 AM
65

Since she likes to speak in emoji, how about… 👩‍👧🤷‍♀️🤦‍♂️ 🍆👉🙋‍♀️👍 💍🤰👎👎👎👎
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/22 03:20 PM
29

This made me laugh much harder than it should have.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/22 03:14 PM
19

It’s in her list of demands…. Lack of short term memory
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/22 03:13 PM
54

Talking about having a baby like you just got an Apple Watch. It’s your child, not an accessory sweaty. I love how she says she “forgot to change her profile” much like she forgot to make sure Tyrone pulls out. Line up to fill in for daddy gentlemen! Wahmyns like these somehow always find time for dating, I mean pump and dump. Just be careful, she will be more fertile while breastfeeding.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/22 03:08 PM
3

That hashtag poundtown has me rolling. Have an award brother! Thanks for the advice
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/22 10:59 PM
47

Thanks brother I’m already on it. Until I can source my own healthy motivation, I’m just doing my best to make her jealous when she sees me. The chip on the shoulder trick can work wonders. I’m happy some of the time, very much so, but they there are days or weeks where it’s really dark and I miss her stupid ass. I just wanted to keep my family whole, I don’t get why she would just give up on our family without a huge fight? I guess $3,200 in monthly support is a nice cushion to land on. Fucking…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/22 07:10 AM
41

Not at all. She has made her bed….
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/22 07:08 AM
89

I’m not some kind of gigaChad by any means but I make over $150K/yr, am 6’3” and decently enough attractive, and generally have my life together. My STBXW also left me (we are both 40) and took the kids pending the parenting plan. I just don’t get why she thinks she can do better… I don’t know, maybe she can, but she doesn’t bring a lot to the table. She is mildly overweight, makes about $60K/yr and has 4 cats. She is cute, has big tits, but not to the point of being jaw dropping. I think the da…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/22 06:34 AM
8

Do you have legal representation? This is the first and most important question. Think of it this way. This woman did you a favor. You’re going to get out of this marriage easy. No kids, no alimony, minimal asset split. Read some other stories on here from guys like me, some of us are about to get totally divorce raped and would kill to be in your position. You’re only 28! You have so much time to find a woman who respects you and loves you for who you are, not the size of your paycheck. Maybe y…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/21 06:31 PM
17

Yes. I will allow it. See what I did there
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/21 05:28 PM
19

That last line got me 🤣
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/21 05:25 PM
34

That’s cute that he thinks only one loser was responsible for her 3 kids. Otherwise, well done! I can feel the rage from the wahmyns reading his bio.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/21 04:17 PM
5

I know that feeling too man. It just sucks. We will be here for you
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 01:49 AM
22

You will suffer, you will have to feel this pain for awhile. I wish I could tell you there was an easier, softer way brother; but you must grieve. It’s is a process with no set end date. All I have to give you are the words that it will indeed someday get better. You will be whole again someday. For now, don’t run from your emotions. Those that you resist will persist, those that you find the courage to face openly, will eventually disappear.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 01:23 AM
8

It absolutely is true and good luck trying to get anybody to believe you. I haven’t had this happen thank God, but I know of somebody who has. This is why “Believe all women” is a bad idea, and goes against the core principles of American jurisprudence. A better line might be, “Don’t dismiss women’s accusations without first looking at the evidence” But that isn’t very catchy
/r/MensRights29/12/21 12:52 AM
14

Kindness is probably the last trait that women objectively use to evaluate men. I’m curious to know how old you are OP?
/r/MensRights17/12/21 08:54 PM
3

This comment gave me a chuckle. Nicely done
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/21 07:20 AM
29

Leave now before you hit the ten year mark and get really screwed by spousal support. She isn’t going to change.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 06:24 PM
6

I’m sorry you’re struggling. Is there anyway they could help you get into an apartment or do you have a room somewhere that you could rent to get away from the dysfunction? Please go find an AA meeting if you’re worried about your acute physical/mental health
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 06:26 AM
2

That’s good. It’s a horrible thought to have to entertain, but in a long-term affair anything is possible
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 05:10 PM
7

I know it really sucks to have to say this, but make sure your kids are yours too.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 04:29 PM
1

That is true. We don’t know the whole story though. These things are rarely one sided. Life is complicated
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 09:07 PM
45

She is avoiding any accountability like most other women alive. I’m sorry man, like you’ve already said, it’s over.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 07:08 PM
12

How dare you cap her at only 3! It’s a sliding scale proposition. Glenn from accounting is on #10 and hasn’t seen a titty, but Chad is all up in them guts after “his” car broke down next door.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/21 04:11 PM
112

Do all these harlots look exactly the same? Like a mashup of some aged out pin up girl who quit exercising and now eats at 7-11 for every meal. Bet her farts smell worse than mine
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/21 06:55 AM
5

That won’t work man, it’s like telling yourself not to think about pink elephants. Learn to redirect when you do think about her. Not avoidance, redirection.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 05:01 AM
15

Leading off with I DONT HAVE SNAPCHAT. Ah the question that we were all asking… but I have so many more. I’ll save them for the social worker though.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/21 05:21 AM
3

I’m with the cause 100% but just because two data points exist doesn’t mean that discrimination is at play. I would like to see a breakdown of these advanced degrees earned by men vs women.
/r/MensRights06/12/21 07:41 PM
3

Damn. Are we married to the same woman? Nah. They’re all like this
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 05:54 PM
4

The irony is that he is the undisputed world heavyweight champ of paying alimony
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 04:33 AM
13

I’m right there with you brother. It doesn’t make any sense anymore. Better just to stay single and play the field. I can buy sex if I needed it that bad, much cheaper that way. If it wasn’t for being able to help my kids financially I would be going nuts. I’m also the non-custodial parent. Oh don’t forget that we likely won’t qualify foe the stimulus anymore, but guess who will??? Government is playing the role of daddy for all these women who throw away their men at their whims.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 03:24 AM
8

Ah! I get it, the government collects more money if they tax me on that $24K/yr that I pay the ex because I pay a higher marginal tax rate. What a scam, it’s like they don’t want people to get married. It’s not worth the risk boys
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 03:17 AM
12

Good job buddy. Still sounds like you got hit pretty hard in the settlement, although I don’t know all your finances obviously. It just sucks being a married, high earning man. Your wife literally has an axe she can use on you at any time, at her discretion. I’ll never get married again, and have come to realize when a woman refers to you as “marriage material” is a veiled insult. Fuck all that
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 09:40 PM
60

Frosting company CEO = Force my shit onto friends/relatives on the weekends while I’m not running my pro-obesity onlyfans page.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/11/21 03:54 PM
5

Awesome comment. Your replies have been very valuable to me through this process. Thanks for giving back to this community and not sugar coating difficult truths.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 01:23 AM
5

You should document her addiction to marijuana in some way. It’s your ticket to 50/50 parenting time. Otherwise you know what will happen if the court has their say. It’s easy to think, oh it’s just weed, but ask yourself; does her being high all day every day interfere with her ability to parent. If the answer is yes, then you need to document her adddiction (that’s what it is) so you can get 50/50 custody at minimum. Fight for your kids
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/21 04:12 PM
4

Wow. That’s some crazy shit right there. You need to practice some assertiveness while simultaneously leaving the relationship. If you don’t fix this behavior it will continue to follow you throughout your life. I used to let people walk all over me too, it’s so empowering to grow a spine and state your boundaries. Ironically, women are much more attracted to you when you are assertive. Read the book No More Mr Nice Guy
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/21 03:38 PM
26

Jesus. Fake your own death and get the fuck out of there. She is severely mentally ill and things will only get worse.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/21 02:28 PM
102

If you think she has anything to offer besides her glorious presence and her not so gently used p-sleeve, then you sir are mistaken.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/11/21 04:12 PM
79

Asks for beta bux, but will still likely fuck Chad/Tyrone who check zero boxes
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/11/21 03:52 PM
3

I prefer my women be able to count. Look at her list again. What an idiot. I guess math is a tool of the patriarchy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/11/21 03:08 PM
27

All caps just to drive the point home. Should have capitalized HERPES too. It was the only thing I took from her profile
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/11/21 10:42 PM
21

Dude…. Do they all play off the same playbook? My ex pulled the abusive for years horseshit on me too. It’s the light switch effect. Pure delusion. My salary allowed her to be a SAHM for the first 8 years of our kids lives and she has the audacity to say shit like that. Lazy, spoiled, entitled, washed up, slob.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/21 04:01 AM
0

No More Mr Nice Guy changed my life
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/21 07:20 PM
8

I think many men will find “the hand that feeds” a relevant NIN track as well.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/21 09:19 PM
18

Don’t dwell on it. Spend your time making yourself into the best version possible. She is probably just terrified to be alone and has no identity outside of whatever relationship she is in. That is her personal fault and not yours. Don’t internalize her bullshit
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/21 03:32 PM
2

Great job buddy! Keep fighting the good fight
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/21 12:09 AM
1

So many good comments here. The guy that said that this is somewhat narcissistic behavior is most likely correct too. I have found myself doing this too. Being away from her and the kids hurts. I keep telling myself that I will get more visitation soon anyhow. I’ve lost weight, gained muscle, advanced at my job, been approached by other women, I just can’t seem to let go of her. Or maybe it’s just the idea of her. She is so angry now. She blames me for everything. Any other advice on how to cut …
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/21 11:22 PM
2

Sounds exactly like my ex
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 06:22 AM
17

My experience is that when women are done they are done.. you’re wasting your breath and driving yourself mentally nuts. I’m sorry to say it, but She is doing the hypergamy thing. Don’t talk to her, talk to a therapist. I should add that once she experiences some likely rejection she will come running back to you the “safe” guy. Your job is to tell her to fuck off when she does. She will be using you for an ego massage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 06:11 AM
2

You might be able to get away with paying her a lump sum alimony if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 10:37 PM
7

You’re about to get fucked if it’s anything less than 100% amicable. Don’t think her friends aren’t telling her to take you for everything you’re worth. Read through the posts here. You’re looking at lifetime alimony potentially, depending on which state you live in. Plan on giving her 60% of your net income for the foreseeable future. Would you be ok with that?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 07:26 PM
2

She doesn’t respect you at all. You need to leave, but for some reason if you can’t leave then you need to enforce some heavy boundaries. You need to get really pissed at her and “take back the power” in your relationship. She obviously doesn’t respect you. She wants to leave but is trying to make you pull the trigger because she is a coward.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 02:04 AM
4

Holy shit that lady in the video is nuts
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 01:25 AM
3

I’ll bite. In what way did you pick/choose the wrong person? Did you try everything to make it work?
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 08:21 PM
10

Unlikely. What a scam it all is
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 03:31 PM
26

“A woman that won’t take your name in marriage will gladly take your house in divorce.” Jesus Christ, that just about sums it up
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 03:24 PM
3

I feel you brother. Hang in there. Focus only on your daughter
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 03:55 AM
17

She is going to Mexico with another guy on her birthday…. Yeah dude, I hate to break it to you, but you’re the fallback guy at this point. She is using you for money and to have sex guilt free with another man. You need to divorce her
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 04:36 AM
8

Your wife is being “the bad guy” and you should use that in your ultimatum. How did you find out about the affair?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 04:33 AM
11

Dude. Step back from the ledge. Give her an ultimatum. How she reacts to that will tell you everything you need to know. If she balks at all you need to contact an attorney. I suggest you read the e-book “How to win back your ex”. At some point you became unattractive to her and you need to stop making her your emotional center, as hard as that may be. Take a step back and breathe. Reach out to somebody supportive, or if you don’t have that a crisis helpline. Get it off your chest and develop an…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 04:14 AM
1

My ex lied like crazy on hers. There is no accountability whatsoever in regards to these statements. I point blank asked my lawyer “what’s the punishment for getting caught in a lie on this” and she said “nothing”. We pointed out her lies and it hurt her credibility, but nothing else happened. We could have fought back but my lawyer told me it’s a waste of time going for perjury.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/21 06:26 PM
18

Don’t commingle finances. Have your own separate bank accounts with clear boundaries on who is to pay for what. Helps with financial accountability
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/21 03:20 AM
4

Right on brother. If you can try to give back to this group that helped you out as well. We are only as strong as our support for each other.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 07:12 PM
8

Why won’t any lawyer take your case?
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 01:47 AM
1

What? You’re still holding this in 8 years later? This doesn’t have anything to do with you man. It’s not your kid. I don’t understand what you’re so excited about. Move on
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/21 05:19 AM
5

Exactly this!
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/21 02:34 PM
2

Wow. Take her to court
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/21 03:20 AM
7

I’m paying my wife $2K a month in spousal support in the reverse of your situation if that means anything to you
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 10:40 PM
2

She is abusive and most likely a narcissist. Get out as quickly as you can. Come up with a plan tonight. She is siphoning your money into her account it seems. She might also be planning an exit strategy. And brother I know it hurts to even think about, but these other guys are right you should ask for a paternity test for your daughter just to make sure. I wish you peace and sanity moving forward. You can love and will love again. This will feel like a bad dream someday.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 02:27 PM
1

Your income numbers vs hers were very similar to mine and my ex’s. I ended up paying $2K/month in spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/21 11:27 PM
6

Do it brother! The parallels between your ex and my soon to be ex are astonishing. It’s like they all act the same way when responsibility is thrown at their feet. That’s modern day “feminism” for you. Get your financial security at a Man’s expense and then talk about how independent you are…. My wife has also been on 7 vacations since the start of 2021(!), including 3 trips to Vegas in the last 90 days, all of course with funds she siphoned from our joint account (never again fellas) right befo…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/21 11:58 PM
3

Good on you buddy! Keep your head up and know that your emotions will rise and fall throughout this process.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/21 07:22 PM
3

Yep. Every woman is appreciative in the honeymoon phase. Give it a year or two then re-evaluate.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/21 09:40 PM
13

Hang in there buddy. I’m there with you. Stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 03:46 AM
6

GET A LAWYER Don’t engage. It’s a trap
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/21 08:10 PM
4

Wow that’s ballsy. Not even trying to hide her intentions. I like that four seasons rule. She wouldn’t have passed that test
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/21 11:58 PM
5

All it takes is once, then you’re on the hook for a long, long time
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/21 11:41 PM
6

You’ve got this brother. Don’t think about everything standing in your way, just focus on the one thing you can do right now. Make sure you’re current on your meds too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/21 02:35 PM
2

Good luck man. I hope you do well. I had no history of violence or implicit/explicit threats made. That helped a lot. She lied on her financial disclosures too which ruined her credibility. Attack her credibility with undeniable evidence (texts, emails, parenting apps, etc.) Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/21 04:24 AM
3

There should be, or should have been, carve outs in the order that allow you to coparent though some kind of third party app like OurFamilyWizard or TalkingParents. Fortunately my crazy ex’s restraining order was denied when she was caught in multiple lies at the temporary orders hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 02:03 PM
2

That’s funny, I thought it meant “another penis”. I guess I’m not wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 08:00 PM
2

What does AP stand for?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 02:28 PM
5

This. Always judge women by their actions. Their words are meaningless.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 12:00 AM
3

She is female. And she is a bulldog. Very competitive, wants to crush the opposition.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 06:33 PM
3

My ex went full nuclear option. In her divorce statement she listed practically every transgression I’ve ever made, with zero evidence to back it up. I think it just made her look unreasonable and vindictive. My advice would be try to keep it amicable if she will. I wish I had that option
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 03:42 PM
5

Good luck man! Fight for your kids
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 03:40 PM
1

Which men’s group do you belong to?
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 01:00 AM
1

Guess who’s back? Back again………
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/21 04:19 PM
1

Of all the bad decisions one can make, marrying the absolute wrong person has to be near the top. This is coming from somebody who did just that. Two months in and it’s going to be a battle. Amazing how much venom one person “who used to love you”can spit at you. Sometimes I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I might if it wasn’t for my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 08:43 PM
6

Thank you! I needed to hear this today. My wife is panicking because my hefty paycheck is no longer hers to do with what she wishes.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 12:01 AM
1

When the ex gets remarried my ridiculously large spousal maintenance obligation ends.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/21 03:07 PM
3

Rebuilding after your relationship ends by Bruce Fisher. It’s been around for 30 years and has helped me immensely.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 05:05 AM
2

I figured that much. I wonder if they specify a time they want the papers served at, or if it’s just up to the server themselves?
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 09:19 PM
13

I’m coming off an almost 14 year marriage too brother so I get where you’re coming from. This is very important: You have to create an identity of your own outside of the marriage. Do not contact her. Take the pain now instead of kicking the can down the road. The grief will come in waves, at first it seems like it will never end, but I promise you it does get better. What is something you have always wanted to do but sacrificed because of your marriage? Do that now! Build the life that YOU want…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/21 03:03 PM
9

I agree brother! I’m suffering immensely as well, but strangely women seem to be drawn to me like never before. I’ve lost weight, gained muscle and confidence, and generally feel like a weight has been lifted. I do miss being a family man, but I feel that in time I can get that back too. Life it to short to wonder “what if”.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/21 10:44 PM
3

Was my wife married to you as well? I kid, but seriously, sounds like the exact same person. Maybe this is just the way a lot of women are now. Soulless machines obsessed with hypergamy and financial security. I’m in for a rough ride with my NPD wife
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/21 10:12 PM
3

That’s exactly where I’m at too. The women we divorce are not the women we marry.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 02:52 AM
3

Great advice! Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/21 03:26 AM
1

I don’t have a problem saying “no” at all. I just don’t know if the court will see it that way
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/21 07:12 PM
3

I’m in the same boat. We had about $20K in a joint account. After I was told to leave the house she started siphoning the money into her personal account. Fortunately, I have her on record stating this and acknowledging that half of that money is mine. I think that will help me get it back from her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/21 01:19 PM
8

Hold your head up buddy. You’re not alone. Plenty young to still reinvent yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/21 04:15 AM
2

As was said above, effective communication is the key. You have to learn to argue constructively. To quote a very smart man, “If you’ve won a thousand fights with your wife then your still married to someone who has lost a thousand fights with their husband”. It’s a zero sum game, you should try to understand and respect the other person, if reasonably possible. If you think you might need marriage counseling then you probably needed it two years ago. If your wife balks at marriage counseling; r…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 05:03 AM
6

I hear you there. My wife always got the worst version of me. I’m just now coming to terms with the fact that I got the worst version of her as well. Some people just shouldn’t be together. If you want to let her know she made a mistake, then continue working hard and do your best to accomplish all your goals. Then and only then will you truly be free.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 03:25 PM
2

Thank you! I’ve got the therapist and the attorney is Tuesday.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 05:10 AM
1

Can you explain what a claim of CIR is?
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 03:46 AM
1

Thank you that’s great advice. Are you a family law attorney?
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/21 03:16 AM
1

There is a defined formula for spousal support?
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 11:14 PM
1

Play devil’s advocate and ask him if he thinks it’s reasonable to have another tolerate that life if he was in her shoes.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/21 10:15 PM
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