If you read this sub you will find real men…I’m going to say that again, REAL MEN coming together to lift each other up, listen, offer advice and yes even love. Sometimes it’s tough love! There’s advice for self help books, activities, stories from others that covers the whole gamut of situations and, true caring individuals who are in this or have been in this with you! Maybe you’re reading this and thinking no one gets it. They do so! One story that sticks with me is a dad, a real person having a real issue coming to grips with Christmas and living in a cold place because he can’t afford the heat. It’s only on when his kid is there. That’s real! That’s shared and for all of us!

My story is pretty mild compared to some. So I won’t share it all but I was married 20 years. Did 10 years in the Air Force and got into the normal world again. Then things went sideways. Slowly over time things would fester and come up continuously causing issues with intimacy, friendship, common goals etc. same story you’ve heard before. Mine isn’t special. What is special is the support and growth I have realized in my own life. I didn’t know my daughter like I do now. I wasn’t a bad dad, just busy. Working all the time and avoiding being alone in my own home with my own wife in it. Probably sounds familiar to some. We fought and argued like any couple but when we didn’t fight we quit talking. Long story short, we didn’t work on it anymore. When the ugly reality hit me that she’s gone, it was too late.

I’ve read some posts today and had time to really think about it and my heart is broken for all of those hurt by these messes. Many times they’re avoidable and many times they’re for the best. Whatever camp you’re in, my SOCK day is around the corner and I don’t want it. But I’m ready for it and will continue to work on me. It’s all I can do. Please stay strong and read these posts! The comments are gold! Truly gold! Take them and use them! Learn and then help some other dude out! He needs it!

Thanks to the asshole who posted about No More Mr. Nice Guy and working out and all that shit! It worked and I hated reading it because I knew those upvotes were from others who knew. I lost 40lbs and even got a DILF complement from someone!?! Seriously man never thought I’d feel good about that!

I’m always reading and occasionally posting.

Thanks to all of you! Your brother in this with you!