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Ya I will have to go to the courthouse myself but the last one my lawyer sent was the Texas SPO with minor changes regarding her getting some more of my time during the summer and her lawyer took out our agreements in mediation and unfortunately my lawyer signed it without reading it and the judge signed it in my stead since my lawyer didn’t get back with me. As for the rest of the decree it was a pretty simple split as everything was paid for so it’s an easy read.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:31 AM
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I am. I’m just venting a little on here. This post is solely about keeping the kids until the 2nd of August
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 03:26 AM
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I didn’t read much of the comments but it does mean a lot. Even if you are an intruder lol. After divorce a lot of us have felt like the enemy and society looks at it this way too. We are told we are the lesser parent and treated like we don’t matter in the family unit. It sounds like your dad has an awesome daughter and believe me that makes a huge difference. I have a 15 yr old daughter who idolizes me , and two younger ones and even though they love their mom equally and spend the majority of…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 03:32 AM
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Ya that’s what sucks about all this but it really seems to be reality
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 03:39 AM
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I’ve actually been pretty numb to it accept for the kids. I’ve never been a jealous person even though I probably should have been lol. I can imagine the two of them always having to worry 24/7
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 03:38 AM
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We use app close it’s a monthly subscription and cheaper than family wizard. Our free trial went out last month and neither of us have subscribed since she’s dating again and she’s a lot rosier to get along with now. But I would definitely recommend it
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 05:45 PM
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Thanks and I know I do but it really set me back a little on all the progress I’ve made. I replied to the other commenter on how I feel about it. It’s mainly the fact that I don’t think I could ever trust a woman again but this makes it even worse and makes me question everything I ever believed in.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 05:41 PM
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Ya I just made this post because I’ve been absolutely lost the last few days and had to get it out. I’ve actually been doing great the last few months and this feel like it’s set me back to the beginning I’m still struggling financially and miss my kids terribly but I’ve finally been able to see a good future. I really just didn’t know people in my circle could stoop so low. He was going through the same thing and I’ve been there with him the whole time talking him off the ledge and he’s done th…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 05:37 PM
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It took me a year. The day of the mediation in December I left her a letter telling her I enjoyed most of our marriage and I would always love her honesty I feel pretty pathetic about it now. All the sudden a couple of months ago a switch went off in my brain and now I wouldn’t touch her if she begged me to. It took way too long and the only thing I feel for her is disgust on how she’s handling custody. So hang in there it might take longer for you or shorter but it will eventually go away. Don’…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 07:01 PM
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Ya that is stressing me out but I can only pay what I can pay. Jails not going to change that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 07:58 PM
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Ya my 7 year old knows a lot without us saying anything. Sit them down together and tell them so neither one of yall will have the chance to make the other look bad. I waited to tell our 6,9 and 14 at the time because I trusted my wife but while I was gone working on the road she was telling the kids that “ daddy thinks I’m cheating but he’s really just a jealous man and I would never do that because I’m a good Christian and he’s not“ it took a lot to repair the damage she was doing and luckily …
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 07:57 PM
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I’d have to disagree a little bit he most definitely owes her
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:13 PM
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I just posted but I have to say I’m glad I joined this group. It’s refreshing to not just be in an echo chamber I love that we can support each other but also hold each other accountable. To the OP I hope this didn’t scare you off and you let us know what happened later on
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:10 PM
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Yes you are selfish. Love is a commitment and work not some giddy feeling we felt In high school. As someone mentioned before do solo therapy and be completely honest with them and be open to changing your beliefs. Don’t let this marriage go any longer without working on yourself or you’ll get resentful towards her and it doesn’t sound like she deserves that. You made a commitment that you want to leave based on your own feelings and she’s completely innocent in this. Based on what I’ve seen you…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:06 PM
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You’ll get there. It’s still hard for sure I’m not saying that it’s all sunshine and rainbows right now but it’s a lot better than hanging on to someone who doesn’t want you. I haven’t started dating again or recovered financially yet but I’m finally at the point that I know I hit rock bottom and it only gets better from here. You’ve been through the worst part buddy and life still has a lot to offer. Hang around people that are a positive influence on you and for christs sake doesn’t do like I …
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 11:19 PM
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Ya I used to argue my point when she would text. She always wanted to start something when I have the kids. Now I just send her the same two repeated messages. Don’t contact me unless it’s about the kids or I’m not dealing with this today and shut it down she usually gives up soon. And the feeling is definitely something I’ve never felt towards anyone probably because I didn’t have any serious relationships before her but it’s freeing for sure
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 09:09 PM
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Mine too. To the tee. I noticed a lot of this early on in our 15yr marriage but just couldn’t wrap my head around it being a problem later on. It’s exactly what drove it into the ground
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 05:23 AM
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As far as everyone saying wait on the refinance . As much as it would be great to have an amicable divorce it most likely won’t happen. My wife left me earlier this year and had come to me with a plan that worked for both of us. Once the divorce proceeding started all of it went through the door and she changed her mind on everything. If your to the point where you want out then you probably don’t trust her or have any faith in her. Once you’ve made that choice it needs to be strictly a business…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 04:31 PM
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I know I need one but I’m out of money and can’t afford another one right now
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 07:48 PM
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I’ve read an overview of it and it doesn’t seem to help me and seems to be more about rights to access records and whatnot
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 11:12 PM
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My lawyer acted like it might help but I know her and kinda expect that we will still have to go to court. And yes I’m aware that people on here have had unreasonable exs lol. I just was in shock about how ridiculous she has gotten
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 10:54 PM
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I should have just went ahead and told my lawyer that I wanted to go ahead with the hearing. I’ve been suspicious that she’s the one dragging this out due to the fact that the temporary order she’s riding on now is the best she will ever get and it’s in her best interest to delay the divorce. She already has double the child support that she’s owed, has the paid for house and we are on the SPO. She’s doing pretty good considering all that and her sugar daddy “ that’s what they call her dad” boug…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 10:50 PM
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I am. I was talked into mediation due to the judge having another hearing an 1hr later and she has a bad reputation of never giving men anything so I folded. I don’t see how she’s able to just blindside me with this stuff. Shouldn’t she be required produce the summery ahead of time
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 08:28 PM
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I miss the first 10 years out of our 15 years of marriage ( 16 years 2 days after the final divorce hearing lol ) it sucks but even though I miss our beginning I have to remind myself who she became which was extremely controlling. As much as I miss her I know it’s for the best and could never work and that brings some finality to it and keeps me from hoping for something better in the future.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 03:11 AM
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My financial split was pretty easy. I got land that’s paid for and she got a house that’s paid for. Our retirement and checking were pretty much gone except for a few thousand in hers. I also agreed to no lawyers and she switched up last minute and it did not work in my favor. I don’t know about Ohio but in my part of Texas 50/50 is not likely for the man and that was changed last minute on me. We still have to finalize the divorce and I can fight better then but it has caused a lot of suffering…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 08:51 PM
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Thanks. I’m calling my lawyer this morning but unfortunately my lawyer doesn’t return calls and I’m having to do the leg work. I’ve already paid him his retainer and can’t afford another one at the moment. I understand not doing tit for tat and I’m not going to lie I’ve slipped up a couple of times ( so has she ). I’ve told her that I would like to have discussed it before hand but she refuses and said sorry I’m taking them no matter what. I would have like to have discussed it with our oldest d…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 12:54 PM
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This is one of the best explanations on how it feels I’ve seen so far. That’s exactly how it feels. I would add too that unlike a death a divorce doesn’t always feel absolute and there will always be the what ifs. At a funeral there are usually other people that share in your grief but in the divorce you are the only one grieving and you are the only one that will grieve it. Your family and friends might think it sucks but in the end you will the only one that will truly miss it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:56 AM
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That sounds a lot like my currant divorce my marriage went downhill fast with the social media it even got so bad that she couldn’t sit and eat with the family without checking it and got mad at me one time because i hadn’t updated my profile picture in 10 years lol. Also I’m being a bit of a hypocrite but don’t get to upset about being called a narcissist. It really seems to be the go to excuse for people ( mostly women ) that are post divorce
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:43 AM
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All I can say is you had real love. “She does what she can for me, and i provide whatever i can for her. We both have a great relationship with each other family, i mean an excellent one.” That giddy feeling isn’t love it’s just a short term feeling. Women that chase that feeling are the majority of ones that tear family’s apart. You have what most of us dream of and I can promise that the grass is not only not greener it will be a lot worse. You’re setting an example for your boys that marriage…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 03:15 AM
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I’m in a small town. The family court is in a basement room that’s about 20x20 and we have one judge who is from Austin ( 4hrs from here)and she has a reputation to always side with the mothers. I did contact some other lawyers that are known to be more aggressive but more expensive. I will have some consults next week hopefully
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:22 PM
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I’m on a small town. The family court is in a basement room that’s about 20x20 and we have one judge who is from Austin ( 4hrs from here)and she has a reputation to always side with the mothers. I did contact some other lawyers that are known to be more aggressive but more expensive. I will have some consults next week hopefully
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:22 PM
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Sorry didn’t clarify. I Don’t know if dragging the kids into is a selfish move also the new family court judge is known to always give full custody to the mother unless drugs are involved.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 05:52 PM
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Thanks for this. Just started going through it and it feels like my whole purpose in life has been taken away. It helps when people say it’s going to be ok. I can’t see it now but seeing stuff like this gives me hope that there’s a light somewhere at the end of this tunnel
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 10:59 PM
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