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LIFESTYLETheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 05:24 AM
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DISCUSSIONTheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 06:43 PM
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LIFESTYLETheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 08:32 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTTheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 08:14 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGETheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 09:41 PM
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DISCUSSIONTheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 03:53 PM
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ADVICETheflowerswillbloom/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 06:05 PM
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I'm just using an app (I believe it's called Simply Piano - it was just the top app on the play store, and free). It has really simplified things for me, and is fun too!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 10:33 PM
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We are also out in nature and hiking a lot, and (especially during the winter months) I'm sometimes unsure of what to wear. I like the idea of British country... I mean, I am British and live in the countryside :P
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 01:04 PM
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It may not be super popular on rp, but I do admire unique dressing and hair like this! I have never quite felt bold enough myself, but do like seeing confident people like you rock it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 10:26 AM
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Your style sounds so lovely and feminine. My lifestyle has never really allowed me to dress in such a way (worked with children, now a stay at home mum), but I have always really admired this look. And yes to jewellery from Etsy! They make lovely, unique gifts too. Edit: spelling
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 10:20 AM
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Thank you for your replies :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 11:29 PM
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You sound very stylish! How/where did you learn about dressing for your body type? I think I generally do, but my body has changed since having our youngest (I'm still very slim, but bigger boobs), and I haven't really changed my style to adapt to this. Really interesting about dying your hair with henna!
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 11:04 PM
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My husband bought me a keyboard for Christmas nearly two years ago, and I had only played it a few times. I can deal with a lot of self-doubt, and had told myself that I couldn't do it no matter how hard I tried. Well... I have just started up again, and really enjoying it! It has made my husband really happy, and I have set a goal to practice at least 5 days a week (even if only for a short time). I have always wanted to learn, and determined that I will.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 10:57 PM
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People always seem to buy me nice scarves, but I never wear them as I'm unsure how to style them? They are currently being used by my children to play with (superhero capes, small world landscapes haha). Any tips for how to style/wear them? I am very similar with minimal jewellery and boots/flats for every day. Any outfit also has to pass the "can I easily breastfeed in this?" test. I like the idea of scarves as nursing covers - I use a muslin but my little one keeps pulling them off!
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 10:43 PM
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Thanks for sharing :) I'm curious as to what a "my husband is upper management" look is! Before I found this Reddit, I used to feel almost guilty for caring about getting dressed up, as though it was a silly waste of time and energy (I never really thought that, but know lots of people that do). But when I put the effort in, I think it shows respect to myself and my husband, and feel more confident too. I also don't wear costume jewellery, but prefer to wear simple, real jewelry.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 10:35 PM
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Yay for poetry teatime! We did a few picnics in the summer as well, so lovely. My husband joined us for a bonfire night themed poetry teatime last week, and I was surprised when he said he had a poem to share...before reading out the lyrics to a black eyed peas song as though is was beautiful poetry. He may humour me but I kinda like it :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 06:45 PM
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Poetry teatime with my three year old - we make a pretty centerpiece (flower arranging in the summer, munchkin pumpkins and homemade rolled beeswax candles in the autumn for eg), lay the table nicely with handcrafted crochet coasters and our pretty teacups, and bake something to match our theme. We then read nature or fairy poems together. It's very special to us, and always relaxes me if I'm feeling stressed. I think the preparation helps me to slow down and be really present, taking time to us…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 05:29 PM
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The hobbies I probably do the most often are baking (usually with our three year old), going on family nature walks, and crafts. I have recently made our little girls a few Christmas gifts (flower fairy crowns and wands for both girls, and for the eldest, wooden peg doll fairies and trees). My husband finds it adorable to come home after a night shift while we are sleeping, and see a little craft left out to dry on the counter. I also enjoy scrapbooking, Bible journalling, gardening, and hand le…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 10:22 AM
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Thank you for this reply, I hadn't really thought of approaching things in this way before. We actually spoke about it this afternoon, and it went really well. In the future, I will be sure to politely make sure there is a reasonable time frame in place.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 05:49 PM
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This is really true, thank you. We actually spoke about it a little this afternoon, and the conversation went really well.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 05:47 PM
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Thank you for your reply, I like this idea. The mess is my responsibility, and he isn't too bothered by it like I am (his mum admittedly isn't too house proud, whereas mine is), so we just have different expectations for our home. I think what you've said is a very reasonable expectation, so I think I'll do this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 09:28 AM
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Thank you, I like this idea. Just to clarify in case it wasn't clear - I genuinely wondered if he forgot, because he sometimes does ("what was the thing you asked me to get down from the garage storage?" For eg).
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 07:41 AM
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That is very true, thank you. I think my husband sees it as "wife would like some new storage, I'll sort it out sometime". Whereas it feels like a bigger deal to me, because I deal with the result of lack of storage every day.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 07:37 AM
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I would preferably like them in our daughters bedroom, but it's my husband that likes them all in the living room (he thinks our eldest would just play with toys instead of sleep.)
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 07:34 AM
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Thank you. While I appreciate all replies, my husband would be understandably furious if I hired someone to do the job in this manor. I agree that I find it quite manipulative, and know that my husband would too. My husband really does enjoy fixing things etc for me, and takes great pride once it's done. I do hope he doesn't feel it's unappreciated by me as I always try to show how thankful I am, but maybe that is the case. I don't think he has ADHD, but he was one of the 'difficult kids' at sch…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 11:13 PM
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I was wondering if someone would take issue with how I worded the bath time comment, as I totally understand how it may come across. My husband often feels like I ask permission or make a big deal about silly things, which he doesn't like. In the past, I would have made a simple idea (in this case, bathing our children every single day rather than every other day) into a mountain, when in reality he doesn't really care. I would have made it a big discussion - asking for his opinion on what I sho…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 08:47 AM
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Thank you so much for your encouragement for me to try sewing again. I mentioned to my husband earlier that I'm determined to do it, and he was really pleased :).
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 01:38 AM
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Thank you for the encouragement :) When my husband bought a sewing machine for me a few years ago I was so excited, as I'd wanted one for such a long time. I tried to make several things, but the stitching on the wrong side of the fabric never looked right (I'm not sure what I was doing wrong?) It was always kinda bunched, and just looked really messy. I now have two little girls, and would just love to make them dresses though! My husband also sometimes teases me about my sad looking sewing mac…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 09:56 PM
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My birthday is coming up, and my husband has been asking what I would like. For my main gift I love surprises, but I'm hoping to ask for something to begin a new home-based hobby. I love anything creative, but I'm not sure what I would like to try. I am thinking perhaps embroidery, needle felting, or crochet? I am also drawn to something using dried flowers perhaps (although I'm unsure exactly what!) I would appreciate if anyone has any suggestions :). (I already do some scrapbooking, hand lette…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 05:15 PM
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I totally understand that. With my first pregnancy, I actually used to keep a pregnancy diary (I didn't have time with the second, ha!) In it I would write things such as my symptoms, size of baby etc, but also how I was feeling. It really helped me to reflect and be self-aware, so that way I was able to keep on top of my 'triggers'. To be honest after my first baby I totally lost myself in the beginning. My entire self was focused on her, not on myself or my husband for several months. I though…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 08:22 PM
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I used to have an eating disorder throughout my teens (anorexia), and still definitely had my issues around food for several years after. I have also dealt with anxiety and depression in the past. I was quite worried about getting pregnant, and the change it would have on my body. However (for the most part), I actually loved being pregnant, and watching how my body changed. If I ever said anything negative about my body, my husband was always quick to lovingly call me out on it. I think what he…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 07:56 PM
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When my husband and I spoke about this earlier, it's pretty much exactly what he said!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 08:54 PM
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I'm pleased you found it helpful :) You are totally right - "it's his decision and he's his own person". I think it's okay to mention your opinion once, but then leave it with him. Everyone deals with things in their own way, and it's his issue to deal with (if he chooses to).
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 08:23 PM
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Absolutely! This has taken me time to learn, but is so true.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 07:45 PM
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Thank you. I love your second paragraph there, that is totally the revelation I had. Our communication is so much simpler, and I can tell how much my husband appreciates it. Growing up with a nagging mum I picked up some bad habits without really stopping to reflect on what I was doing, so I'm pleased to have identified it and made changes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 07:44 PM
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Thank you - yeah you're right, homeschooling does allow lots of flexibility which is one of the reasons we have been really drawn to it. So far I have been making sure to include him and ask his advice, rather than doing everything myself, which he seems to have really liked (such as buying some learning activities/resources). At the same time, I'm aware that this is more my passion than his, so am being mindful that home educating isn't the only thing I talk about (I naturally get a little obse…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 12:37 AM
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I had replied, but I don't think it worked so I'll try again. Thank you for your reply, it's been really helpful. I believe there is a home-ed group locally (we live in the UK), so I'll be sure to contact them to find out more. I hadn't really considered that my husband helping will help him to understand any struggles I may have, but of course that makes sense!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 06:34 PM
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I'm a 26 year old mum and still wear very girly hair accessories like this. For bows I wear small velvet ones (I have them in wine red, black, and navy blue), and I also have a small pink flower hair accessory too. I'm aware that this isn't to everyone's taste, but it feels 'me', and my husband likes them. It probably helps that I'm generally considered to be quite cute by others (which I like). For more mature hair accessories; I like wearing simple headbands and delicate hair slides (I have so…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 07:46 PM
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Thank you. I do a ton of walking with my baby and toddler, but would like to start doing some workouts at home, too.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 05:14 PM
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I'm just using a multivitamin right now, are there any particular vitamins I should look for?
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:56 PM
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That's really interesting, I've never thought of that thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:55 PM
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Very true! I think he uses one of my sister's for reference haha.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:53 PM
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Thank you :). I don't actually use an eye cream at the moment, but I'll have a look at getting one. I'm also quite interested in collagen.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:43 PM
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Does dermarolling hurt? I've always been interested to try it out.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:42 PM
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Thank you, some good advice here. I just cleanse and moisturise in the morning, then in the evening I double cleanse, tone, and moisturise. Should I be doing more in the morning? I've also just bought a vitamin c hot cloth cleanser which I like so far.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:41 PM
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Thank you for your great tips :) My husband hates Botox so none of that for me lol!
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:40 PM
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I tried satin pillowcases for my hair in the past, but could never get comfy with them! I may give them another try.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:38 PM
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Thank you - I'm breastfeeding atm, but will look into that for the future.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:38 PM
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I've heard about hyaluronic acid, but never tried it before. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 04:37 PM
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I love this, thank you that's very true. And yes motherhood definitely ages you. I have an aunt who looks amazing for her age; she never had children and I have always thought that was her secret.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 08:48 AM
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How lovely you get lunch together each day :) On my husband's days off, I like to make things including: •homemade quiche (usually with bacon, cheese and some thyme from our garden) and salad •homemade soup (such as leek and potato with some bacon on top/chicken and vegetable/Thai inspired coconut, prawn (shrimp) and kale/or smoked sausage with potatoes and vegetables) •egg fried rice or a stir fry (using leftover chicken and lots of vegetables) •or occasionally multiseeded wraps with hummus, sa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 07:31 PM
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Haha I like that it's funny! I must admit I have no idea about macros, I barely know what they are. I wish my husband wanted me to make breakfast for him - me and our toddler have porridge (or oatmeal, I'm English) with fruit, pancakes/crêpes, scrambled eggs etc, but my husband just likes cereal lol. He will occasionally have something else, but he always has to have his cereal first - one of his little quirks I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 03:53 PM
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What a lovely story. I think there is something so special about food, homemade with love. I know that for me a big way that I show love to my husband is by cooking his favourite meals from scratch each night.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 02:29 PM
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Oh that is kinda adorable!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 02:26 PM
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What a beautiful, sweet story. Thank you for sharing. Shortly after I had my second baby, my sister visited, bringing a massive lasagne, chicken noodle soup, and Victoria sandwich cake. It was so thoughtful of her during a time that I needed to rest, and meant more than any lovely baby clothes or flowers we received (and I love flowers!)
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 02:25 PM
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That is lovely, my husband likes this too.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 11:11 AM
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That is an adorable idea, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 11:10 AM
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It really is often the smallest things that mean the most I find :).
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 11:06 AM
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What a great idea! I often leave notes when he comes home after a night shift, but never in his lunch before.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 11:05 AM
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I have long, naturally curly hair. I wash my hair twice a week, and once a week do a rice water hair rinse. I tried it for fun as I saw videos on YouTube of other women trying it, but didn't really think that it would do anything. However much to my surprise (and my husband's), it has really helped my hair. My hair is softer, and is growing in thicker along my hair line where it was a little thinner (I had some hair loss after baby no.2).
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 05:01 AM
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Thank you :) I will look into buying some more hair accessories I think, I've had a look at some silk scarf videos too.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 01:21 PM
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I usually dress pretty conservatively and very feminine (lots of dresses and pretty blouses), and have for many years after growing out of my teenage emo phase. One day last year I was walking through my old hometown with my younger sister, and couldn't quite believe how differently people treated me compared to her. I got lots of smiles, people letting me past, opening doors, conversation in shops etc. By contrast, people weren't as warm (and even quite rude) to my tomboy sister. She noticed it…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 06:54 PM
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Can anyone please recommend elegant hair ideas for naturally curly hair? My hair is 3a/3b and very long, and I'd love to have some more feminine hairstyles to try that don't take too long (I have a baby and toddler). I often wear smallish bows that I've had for years, but wonder if I look a little silly in them at 26 haha.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 05:17 PM
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It really is a silly issue, I don't think you can belittle it haha! It's just been grating on me every morning, and I wasn't sure whether or not to mention it, but I think I will and just leave it with him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 03:20 PM
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That's good advice on my silly problem, thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 02:03 PM
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Yeah I think I will do that. I don't think he means to do it or anything (he's a zombie when he wakes up), but if I explain it I'm sure he'll be more thoughtful.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 02:02 PM
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Thanks - yeah I know I should, I just don't want to embarrass him I think!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 09:38 AM
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Great idea, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 09:35 AM
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We often eat chicken thighs at home, and really enjoy this recipe: https://cafedelites.com/roasted-asian-glazed-chicken-thighs/ I also like to fry the chicken thighs skin side down until crispy, before baking them in the oven with honey (I like wildflower honey, but you can use whichever you like) and thyme.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 04:05 PM
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I have a lot less time on my hands now as a SAHM than I did as a student. My husband also likes to take care of things like that. Saying that, I do agree that it's important to be a lifelong learner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 10:45 PM
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Ah I've never heard of those, but just had a look on Amazon they're nice. I also have narrow feet, and can find certain shoes just slip off.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 07:02 PM
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I do have some quite nice sandals that have lasted years, but I could do with replacing them soon. I have never looked at the crocs brand to be honest - my memories of them are my dad wearing them with socks haha. But it sounds as though they have nice ones too!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 07:00 PM
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Thank you :) I spoke to my husband and he's happy to treat me to some when I choose a pair.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 06:55 PM
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Thank you! How do you keep them white? I like this idea as they would match any outfit, but not sure how to keep them looking nice.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:10 PM
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Perfect! Thank you so much. We have loads of it, and only just discovered what it actually was. I'm looking forward to using it more in my cooking.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:08 PM
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We recently discovered that we have lemon balm growing in our garden. Yesterday, I infused some olive oil with it, then drizzled it over a chicken (as well as rubbed the skin with it) and added thyme and seasonings. It was really nice, and now I'm wondering - what else can I use the lemon balm for in cooking? I also made some banana and oat breakfast muffins this morning, which went down well :).
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:01 PM
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I'm a SAHM, and my husband is in charge of our finances. He pays bills and makes investments etc. I am pretty free to spend money, as I've generally shown that I am responsible (if he has an issue, we always discuss it). Basically if I question buying something, then I will ask my husband first. I have a rough grocery budget that I keep to, but before buying our children clothes online for e.g, I'll show him the total price to make sure it's okay. It really varies how often he treats me. Things …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 10:27 AM
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Ah okay, thanks that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 09:22 AM
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The spring - nature walks, planting seeds, new life :) Also that my husband found out there is a local craft fair, and said he'd like to take us along. It's not exactly his cup of tea, but knows that I love things like that and that it will make me happy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 09:11 AM
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Can people please elaborate on their dislikes on this one? These women aren't my personal choices or anything, but I think it would be more helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 08:28 AM
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Mary Poppins - she's one of my biggest inspirations as a mother Marzia (PewDiePies fiancée) - I wouldn't go as far as calling her a 'heroine' of mine or anything, but I adore her femininity, child-like qualities, and think they seem to have a fairly traditional relationship dynamic Also Esther (from the Bible), Duchess of Cambridge, Audrey Hepburn, and Cinderella (I totally should have grown out of this one, but sorry - I can't!). I also love many of the women in Call the Midwife books and TV sh…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 08:25 AM
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What the heck? I love it! Why wouldn't you need a goat there while doing yoga?
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 08:09 PM
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Goat yoga?! Does that actually exist? Mine and my husband's first date was at an amusement arcade actually, it was really fun and light-hearted.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 08:01 PM
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Although I have definitely grown and matured over the years, I've always tried to keep my childlike qualities that my husband has always loved. A few things that help me: Being around children. I used to work with children, and now have a toddler and baby. We are silly, affectionate, and have lots of fun. If our toddler wants us to have a dance party, swing on the swings at the park together, or for me to sing songs from Frozen in my awful singing voice - I'm up for it! Children have a beautiful…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 11:19 AM
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When I met my husband, he wore football (soccer) shirts, and ill fitting jeans. Over time, I just began buying him clothes that I liked. He had told me that he wanted to mature his style but wasn't sure how, so was happy for me to help. I would tell him how handsome/sexy he looked, and he started getting more complements from others, too. So those were the clothes that he ended up wearing all the time. While he still doesn't care about style, he knows he looks good and loves that I find him sexy…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:25 PM
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Ah thank you, I didn't know that! I will definitely look into the history a little more.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 08:06 PM
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I have experienced feminists looking down on me for my choices. I remember as a teen telling my sister that my dream was to be a SAHM, and her reply was "it's like feminism never quite reached you". My friends have made degrading comments to me over the years, but as far as I'm concerned it's none of their business and between my husband and I. I've always felt my parents are a little disappointed that I'm so content taking care of my children, husband and home. I've also noticed it in social se…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 11:21 AM
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1) organise things where I really need them to be, not where I 'think' they belong, for e.g. - I think that our toddlers craft supplies should go upstairs, when in reality I put them in the kitchen walk-in cleaning cupboard. A random place for them, but it makes sense right now so I will move things around 2) carve out a little more time for myself - I seem to think it will just 'happen', when in reality I need to put the effort in before I feel burnt out
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 09:32 PM
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Thank you for replying, I understand you now. Yeah for me it would be a red flag, but that is my own moral compass.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:51 PM
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But if the man was that great, surely he could have sex with an attractive woman without paying for it? Or am I missing something here? (Not asked in a snarky way at all by the way, but a genuine question).
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:17 PM
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Having lots of money and driving a Porsche doesn't make someone an alpha. A high value man would never pay for sex. You think you sound impressive but you don't.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 02:26 PM
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My husband and I met in our late teens (18 and 19), so neither of us had it 'figured out'. At the time I worked more hours than he did, but I saw so much potential in him. He was ambitious, very intelligent, and a hard worker. Fast forward and he works in his dream job, and I get to be a SAHM. The thing I remember him telling me, is that he loved my femininity. When we met he had decided he was staying single while he pursued his dreams, and only ever had flings that never met his parents. But w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 07:59 PM
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Thank you for such a detailed recipe :) I have actually never cooked lentils before, but mentioned to my husband recently that I'd like to. I sometimes worry about him missing meat in a meal, but I don't think he would in something hearty like this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 01:22 PM
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Ooh that sounds yummy, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 07:25 AM
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This thread is making me hungry haha :) Tonight I think I'll make Thai burgers with sweet potato wedges, sweet gem lettuce, and a pineapple salsa. I found the recipe on BBC good food and we all enjoyed it last time. Tomorrow I'm hoping to make roast pork with roast potatoes, curly kale, carrots, apple sauce and gravy. I'll make Yorkshire puddings if I have time as my husband in particular loves them, but I often find they're a bit hit or miss haha. I used to have a detailed meal plan, but realis…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 03:29 AM
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Thank you for your reply - after we have spoken about things, I do think that work has been getting to him recently. I find that he tells himself that everything is okay and he's fine, but really it isn't, then he cracks and feels very stressed. It's happened a few times in our relationship, so it's wise for me to be aware of this and how I can best help him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 03:01 PM
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Thank you so much for this reply, it's lovely hearing your wisdom.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 08:02 AM
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Thank you, I am so pleased that I have learnt how to best help my husband. I still mess up sometimes, but he knows that I truly try my best and really appreciates that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:23 AM
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Thank you very much. I am so pleased to have found this sub, as I agree that it is really hard to find others to relate to on issues like this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:21 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:19 AM
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I'm sure that I don't deserve such kind words, thank you so much. Earlier in our marriage, I know that I wouldn't have responded in this way. But acting on my insecurities would have just made it all about me, when what my husband needed was the opposite. He does so much for us, and I'm thankful that I have learnt over time how best to support him. I still have much to learn and develop, but so pleased that I have the knowledge I do.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 06:18 AM
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I am mixed race myself (although white passing with curly hair to most people) and married to a white man. My birth mum was given up for adoption to due to having a black dad/white mum, and while my dad was married to her, they experienced some racism "the bloods don't mix". My highschool boyfriends family were racist, and I wasn't allowed inside their home in case I was in a gang (which is hilarious in a way, as teenage me was like a Disney Princess haha). It obviously really hurt at the time. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 04:18 PM
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I agree with this! I used to sometimes cry when my husband just went upstairs, because I wanted him with me. Thankfully he always found it quite adorable, and says I'm like a puppy while pregnant. Hopefully you should start feeling a little better in yourself soon. I always found the first few months I was at my most vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 10:09 AM
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Really? That would concern me too. I haven't (knowingly) met any anti vaxxers here in the UK.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 09:51 AM
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Thank you for sharing :) I was a little surprised to read your last paragraph, but this is exactly the kind of thing I was thinking of.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 06:00 AM
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Thanks for your reply - for a little kid, I totally agree those places would be very fun! My husband's nana used to put her small babies who were crying in the garage however, which I don't agree with (although I do adore his nana). I do think that children had a lovely freedom back then. In the 60s my grandma would pack my dad and his siblings a picnic and just send them out for the day, telling them not to come home before dinner. My dad speaks fondly of eating the picnic within the first 10 m…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 05:54 AM
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The freakin attic?! I have no words. And yes, we really do have it set. My grandma used to wash her five children's and husband's clothes in the bath tub. I don't think she got a washing machine until the 90s my dad said.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 09:49 PM
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You sound fun! I do love 70s housewife style, it's one of my faves. I'm not cool enough for 70s groupie though.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 08:43 PM
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I do love your unusual sense of humour! What's the fun in being normal? My husband often smiles at me, and says "I love your quirkiness". I didn't realise I was until I met him. Edit: I am a little obsessed with the idea of getting pygmy goats. My husband loves them to, and he wouldn't have to mow the grass!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 08:38 PM
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I've had Simplicity Parenting on my bookshelf for months now, I should really get around to reading it! I have enjoyed both of Janet Landsbury's books, too. We had home births (much to my mum's dismay), but we loved our midwife and everything went well :). And yes to Reggio Emilia! Your dream sounds lovely - and yes a good idea to have a practice before going 'all in'. I would love chickens, but my husband said no (he actually said "if we kill and eat them", but I would want them as pets haha). …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 12:57 PM
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I had no idea she was 46, wow!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 12:43 PM
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I love this! I feel exactly the same way - we really are so privileged to be able to pick and choose what works for us actually. I also don't think I'd actually like the 50s, I just like the idea of it. My husband's nana told me that she used to put her babies in the garage when they cried, so that she could get the house work done (although this is likely an extreme example haha)! I totally understand what you mean about home being a life-sized dollhouse. I found it so freeing when I realised t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 10:25 AM
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Thank you for this post, I've quietly thought it before myself as well - but as I'm not a particularly experienced poster here, I've never wanted to be the first person to say it. I did used to look younger than my age, as in, people thought my sister 4 years younger was my older sister. Then I had children, and the tiredness has aged me a little, so now I look about the age I actually am haha. It's okay.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 02:41 AM
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Thank you, it's actually something that I believe I read here once. My husband's answers were very different than I had imagined!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:06 PM
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I am definitely working on this as well, it's hard with little ones (baby and two year old here)! But here are some things that help me :) While I like being flexible, it's also important to have routine. I like to pick one outing (for e.g. storytime at the library or a nature walk), an activity with my toddler (for e.g. watercolour painting, baking, or flower arranging), and one chore (for e.g. mop the hard floors, or dust and hoover downstairs). I'm not always able to stick to this, but at lea…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 10:56 PM
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Thank you. I have showed him some Jordan Peterson in the past and I know that his dad likes him too, but I'm unsure how much he's watched him actually. That's a good idea. The more I reflect, the more I realise that this is his to work on. All I can do is be a soft place for him, listen to him, and do my best to be accomodating. I think it's more his issue than anything I have done, and he has told me this too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 07:42 PM
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Thank you for your reply, I agree. I haven't been doing too much in terms of hobbies recently, but now we are out of the newborn days I would love to start doing my hobbies more, as well as try a few new things I've wanted to do. We have spoken a bit about things today, and I think identifying that something is wrong has felt like a weight has been lifted for him. He's now able to work through things, and I will always be here for him and help as best I can.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 07:38 PM
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I do agree with you there, as life is what you make of it for the most part. I'm just leaving things with him for a few days, then I think it would be good to discuss again, so we can see how to change things to help. He did mention earlier that his friend is thinking of starting a sports team, and he'd be interested in joining, which I think is a good idea. Once our baby is feeling a bit better, I really want to have a special date night together at home, and hopefully keep it up regularly. As …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 01:58 PM
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Thank you. He has always been red-pilled I think, although I don't know if he actually knows that terminology. I did wonder depression, though. I like your last line, there. I think that's really true.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 09:13 AM
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It doesn't seem to be about me from what I can tell. I have asked what I can do better/how can I help, but he can't really think of anything (yet - he may do as he reflects). If anything he really misses me, as we don't really get much time together just us. Unfortunately at this time there isn't much that we can do about this, but in time as the baby grows older it will get easier. When he is home; I have tried looking up fun things for us to do that are a bit different from our every day, but …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 07:48 AM
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I've not, but will now :) thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:51 AM
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I'm still not quite back into much of my pre-pregnancy clothes/much isn't suitable for breastfeeding, so I've found my options of what to wear a little more limiting than before. I have bought some new clothes, but unsure how much I want to buy right now (my husband likes me at this size, and it's a healthier BMI). I should probably just find a few more pieces, as that way I'll be able to ditch the jeans for good!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:49 AM
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Thank you. I am really trying to work on self-care, but just finding it tricky balancing it with trying to focus on him so much. Finding balance can be hard, but I know it's really important.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:17 AM
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I had written a reply, then felt I'd misunderstood what you had written. I'm really sorry could you please elaborate? My goal everyday is to try and create a sanctuary as best I can.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:15 AM
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I don't actually think he is wanting to stay with his brother, it was just an idea. He has male friends, although had never really made a great deal of effort (we are both very introverted). He also works in a traditionally very masculine job. His hobbies include some home-based ones, as well as exercise, and he also does a sport once a week. I really try to make sure that he gets as much time as possible to have his own 'things' away from the family, as I know he really needs that. I don't real…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:09 AM
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Thank you :) To be honest, I do feel like I get less time to myself, as I try to really prioritise him having a break when he's home. I'm finding it tiring, but find that he needs it more than I do. He's also been quite negative about parenting recently - often in the form of jokes - but he never really used to do that like he is at the moment. He is feeling thoughtful and will probably take a few days to collect his thoughts a little, so I know that I just need to be open and listen.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 10:43 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I'm not completely sure, but as we have now spoken about it, he is going to take some time to reflect. I knew that he wasn't quite himself, but had no idea that his feelings were as strong as this. He always wanted to get married and have children, and is a great husband and dad. He does have an older brother who lives a much more carefree life - has a girlfriend, but isn't remotely close to marriage or children. He also does lots of travel, and obviously has lots more fre…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 09:58 PM
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In the story you've just shared, you sound like his mum. Of course it's important to help one another, but it doesn't seem as though he's grown-up. I would re-evaluate if you want to stay with him, as he doesn't sound like a very good Captain. Do you think his life will still look the same in a few years time? It doesn't seem as though he wants to move forward. Edit: I wrote the word 'sound' four times, so wanted to re-write a little!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 07:34 PM
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Baby sits in a bouncy chair while I shower, but our toddler keeps jumping in the shower with me which is cute but inconvenient! I may get some bath crayons to keep her amused, as I used to do water play at the sink but she just kept spilling water on the baby (our bathroom is quite small). I'm trying to teach her to play in her bedroom next door to the bathroom, but she's a bit mummy obsessed at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 06:38 PM
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The toddler isn't napping in the day much now, but goes down nicely at nighttime. The baby...not so much! On the evenings my husband is home, once we've spent some time together I think I always prioritise him having time to do something fun, so stay with the baby. Maybe on his days off we could figure out how I can get a little more time for a bubble bath or something (as when I have time for myself I usually clean). I am sure we can make it work if we put in a little effort.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 05:38 PM
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We have 'couple' friends, but I would never hang out with the man alone. I have no male friends really, but then I never have. My personality and interests are extremely feminine, and to be honest I've never really found much to talk about with men. My husband's sister used to (I don't know if she still does) have close male friends and sit on their laps, and I know my husband expressed how inappropriate he thought it was as she was engaged at the time, and that he was glad I didn't have male fr…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 05:12 PM
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I think that's why I abandoned it actually, as I found it too time consuming when my toddler was a newborn. But if I'm flexible in where/when I do my routine, it's definitely feasible. I look at photos of my hair from when I followed the curly girl method, and it did look lovely.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 10:49 AM
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I keep saying to my husband that I would love a relaxing bubble bath one evening a week, where I can have a little pampering. Unfortunately (because he works shifts) it often doesn't end up happening, but I would like to make sure that it does more. As you said, it's a lovely and often well needed mental break, and I do miss it. I think I do need to be more flexible in when/where I do things actually. I also love the idea of making peace with shabby chic, haha!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 10:45 AM
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I looked at top vintage after you posted it on another thread, the clothes are adorable! Definitely my style. Thank you for the makeup tips :) my husband really doesn't care about makeup actually (doesn't mind if I wear it or not, and prefers a more natural look when I do), but I've realised that I miss wearing it recently. My moisturiser may have SPF, I'll take a look aha. The baby is constantly pulling my hair at the moment, so I find that I'm wanting my hair out of the way. Time to try some n…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 10:04 AM
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Thank you :) I've actually been wearing a scarf in my hair recently (which my toddler says is "so pretty mummy"), but I only have the one which I got years ago. Perhaps I should try to find some more? I'm not really sure where sells them to be honest! Edit: I've just ordered a pretty headband from Amazon, and will keep on the lookout for some nice scarves too :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:19 PM
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That would be fun to try, but my husband really wouldn't like it (although I'm sure would be fine if I actually had no hair). I used to sometimes wear hair extensions when we met and he hated them.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:13 PM
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Ah what a good idea! I will definitely try that. I used to braid and do all sorts of lovely hairstyles, but I haven't since having children really, and forgotten how to do them actually! I think I'll start a Pinterest board for hair and stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:11 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I am actually awful and only wear sunscreen in the summer. I justify it because I live in the UK, and I'm a little mixed so my skin doesn't tend to burn - but really I know that I should wear it more. I have never tried using a colour corrector, but I naturally have darkness in my under eye area so perhaps I should. I used to follow the curly girl method but haven't in a few years. My hair used to have a lovely shape and body, but I feel it's a bit boring now it's so long …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 08:41 PM
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Thank you for your ideas :) Ah I hadn't considered embroidery but that sounds fun - I'll have a think if I should start that, knitting or crochet. I've actually been wanting to learn about foraging and flower identification, as we like going on nature and woodland walks together. I have tried drawing but am rubbish, my husband is amaaazing though! Puppets sound cute and simple. I would love to read more, but just have loads of parenting books aha I need some more fictional ones I think. I also b…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 02:12 PM
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What home-based hobby should I take up? I have a toddler and little baby, and just starting to (sometimes) get a little free time in the evenings. I enjoy baking, but there's only so often I can do that. I started learning to play the keyboard, but it's kept in our bedroom where the baby is sleeping. I enjoy scrapbooking, but I would prefer to do something that I can quickly put away in case the baby wakes up and needs me. I'm considering knitting or crochet? What would you recommend I do?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 10:23 PM
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Thank you for your reply. My husband and I have spoken about things - I've explained how I'm feeling, and just leaving it with him for now. If he believes that some (gentle) sleep training is best, then as hard as it is for me, I will trust his judgement. We also took a peaceful walk in a local nature reserve earlier today, and I'm already feeling a little brighter in myself. I'm also having a blood test tomorrow to see if I'm anemic (as I have been a few times before). You are completely right …
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 08:36 PM
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29 years and 67 days. Edit: I'm sorry, I couldn't help myself. Whenever you are physically, emotionally, and financially able to, and married.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 10:30 PM
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Awwh that's lovely :) there really is something so special about baking together, and she gets so excited for her daddy to taste what we've made. I was never taught to cook/bake, so it's really important to me to teach her (and our baby girl when she's older).
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 05:21 PM
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Thank you, this is so true. I think we need a good discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 04:37 PM
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Thanks for your reply :). My husband is wanting to do some gentle sleep training with the baby (just a few mins at a time), but I really struggle with this as her crying breaks my heart. At the same time, I know that I need to respect him and we can't continue like this. The baby also comfort nurses throughout the night, so I find that my quality of sleep often isn't great. I do think that we need a bit more of a routine as well. I forgot how hard the first year is actually! Amazing...but so ver…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 04:33 PM
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Thank you for your reply. I am aware that I don't notice I'm running on empty until it's too late, so it's a good idea to talk to my husband about carving out a little time for myself. I think I feel guilty for asking, when really I know he doesn't mind at all. We practice a lot of Montessori at home, which has meant that our toddler is pretty good at independent play. But I'm finding that now the baby is a little older and wanting to play, she is getting a bit jealous and very clingy towards me…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 04:26 PM
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I love my aprons! My Cath Kidston ones are my favourite - so feminine and vintagey. I recently bought a new one with some Christmas money I was given from my husband's nana, and he thought it was the cutest thing. My toddler now goes into the cupboard to grab her little Peter Rabbit apron to be like me, which is the sweetest thing in the world :). Don't you dare try to help her tie it up though, she must do it herself!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 01:10 PM
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Haha. Thank you, I'll be sure to take a look :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 01:01 PM
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Thank you so much for your reply. You know it's funny, I often read your posts and think, "wow Zegiknie has it all together!" Haha. Every tip you have shared actually makes perfect sense. I think my mind has felt so clouded, I have been struggling to think of how to improve things. I also haven't been prioritising my health enough, and definitely need to start taking supplements which I'm rubbish at. I do love baby wearing, but haven't been doing it as much as I used to because I've been feeling…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 09:43 AM
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Looks: • Find feminine clothing pieces/styles that flatter your figure and suit your lifestyle. Look for dresses or skirts with lots of movement as you walk • Find some simple jewellery pieces that you can wear day to day - I love small pearls and diamonds, and natural stones • Find some nice beauty products you like - moisturise after you shower, paint your nails (I find this makes my hand movements more graceful) and practice a simple, natural, makeup routine that can be quickly done Personali…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 06:57 AM
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Me just before I turned 21, and he was 22.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 10:32 AM
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Honestly - growing up, I looked at my family and wanted something different. Nearly all of my family have been divorced, the women seemed miserable in charge, and the men seemed miserable being bossed around. I had never heard of the 'red pill', but knew that I wanted a traditional marriage lead by my husband. My husband I met in our late teens, and have the relationship that I'd dreamed of.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 09:35 PM
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Ah that's really interesting...you've really made me think there haha. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 07:45 PM
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That is such a special thing to find. I had never had that before, so when I found it I knew that I could never let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 07:41 PM
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Oh that is so lovely :) I have also always been very attracted to my husband's intelligence, there is something very sexy about it! I think it's also so important to be silly - I have actually found that my husband and I's sense of humour has become exactly the same over the years.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 07:37 PM
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I love your last paragraph, that sums up what I would have said completely.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 12:00 AM
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It did just 'happen' in a way - but it was also a result of everything that I have learnt. I don't believe that it would have happened without all of my knowledge that I have learnt here. I think that I was always overcomplicating everything, whereas it's really so simple. Also just allowing myself to believe that things could be different than what those around me had lead me to believe. Sorry, I'm not the best at explaining things!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 07:01 PM
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My husband always said that he fell in love with my sunnny outlook, and believing the best in people (he's more cynical). He also loves my excitability and ditzyness, and that I think "in a unique way" haha! I'd always had others think these were bad traits, but my husband loves and embraces them :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 09:11 PM
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1) I'm a SAHM (with a toddler and small baby), and my husband works long shifts. 2) No we don't. 3) I generally do most things as I'm at home, although my husband is always happy to help when needed (for example if I'm busy nursing when the groceries need putting away) 4) My jobs include - cleaning the house (bathroom, kitchen, bedrooms, dusting and hoovering, moping hard floors etc), cooking, laundry, ironing, groceries, dishes, remembering family birthdays etc, appointments for our children, a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 07:10 AM
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Thank you :) that would be nice, as then there is a good variety. Ooh banana muffins sound good, I'll have a look at some recipes on Pinterest.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 04:49 PM
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We have some friends coming over for lunch (so about midday/early afternoon) on Sunday with their four year old son. What should I make? We have a baby and toddler, so time will be limited in the morning to prepare food, but I'd still like to serve something nice. I would make some homemade soup and bread, but not sure if their little boy eats soup so I'd rather not risk it. I'd also like to bake something, as my toddler wants to bake a cake (or similar) for her friend. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 10:32 PM
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1) declutter and organise the house - I'm partly done, but would love to finish while my husband has a few weeks off work 2) start a {flexible} routine for our baby - my husband and I are both really yearning for some more quality time together away from the children. We've started to have a little more and it's been so lovely :) 3) finish the book I'm reading - I start books but don't finish them, which is a very bad habit 4) zip it! During the night with the baby, sleep deprived me is sometime…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 06:23 PM
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That is such a good idea about the date nights at home, I will definitely make an effort to do this once our littlest has a proper bedtime :) I also totally agree about having that separation from the baby when wanting to be fully in 'wife mode' - as when I have a baby right next to me I find I'm half focused on them, rather than truly being in the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 06:06 PM
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1) My husband and I don't live near family and have always been very protective of who we leave our toddler with, so I'll be honest - we've had one date night in the past 2 1/2 + years (we have had a few lunches together while our toddler is with grandparents). It isn't ideal, but we accept that's just our reality right now. If you are able to have date nights though, do it! Still, we definitely do make time for each other. We have a new baby now, and for us the first six months we are pretty re…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/19 06:44 AM
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Cooking didn't come naturally to me (I'm talking blowing up a microwave and creating fires!) But I was always really eager to learn, which was the most important thing to my husband. I'm now a pretty confident cook, it's something I enjoy, and I'm able to create nutritious, enjoyable meals for my family. As a SAHM I view it as my job to cook and take care of the home. Sure, there are times my husband gives me a hand, but generally that's my role which I always try my best in. I have family and f…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 04:31 AM
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I also agree with the pp who said getting your nails done (although I admittedly haven't had mine done in aaages). I always find that I am more delicate and graceful in my hand movements, as I want the manicure to last as long as possible. I also like wearing a pretty apron when cooking - maybe random, I know, but it makes me feel nostalgic and put lots of effort into my cooking. Practice feminine hobbies - I like baking, crafting, hand lettering, and would love to improve with my sewing machine…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 07:49 PM
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I also didn't live with my husband before we got married due to our faith. I agree on cooking! I'm not sure on your skill level, but make sure you know how to perfect the basics, and then you can make pretty much anything :). My husband still reminisces of shortly after we got married, I didn't make the same meal twice for two months apparently (I don't remember haha, but take his word for this!) Also I would recommend coming up with a realistic cleaning schedule. Before we got married, we also …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 06:28 AM
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I'm a SAHM with a little baby and a toddler, and I like to look very feminine while being comfortable and practical. I often find pieces on ASOS and Laredoute. I don't tend to wear makeup day-to-day at the moment, but make sure to wear stud earrings (my husband has been buying me some beautiful stones recently) as they always make me feel more put together. I also think a bit part of looking feminine is being polished - ironing your clothes, polishing your boots etc. My daily uniform is either w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 06:09 AM
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My husband really appreciates when I surprise him with something thoughtful, like homemade chocolates or a sweet note to read when he gets home after a night shift. What he loves the most though - is when I see exactly what he needs in that moment and make it happen. When he walks through the door after a long day at work, I make him a coffee and just listen about his day (as much as I feel like unloading everything that has happened in my day as a SAHM). When I can tell he needs some time away …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 05:30 AM
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Thank you for your reply - I find the same that pre-dinner time is the hardest part of the day, and yet that's when I'm trying to get the dinner made! I will definitely give preparing food earlier in the day a try, and thanks for the meal suggestion :). Off topic but I love hearing that you homeschool - we are really debating it, but feel doubtful sometimes (as here in the UK not many people do it). Edit - spelling
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 09:37 PM
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My husband and I had only been together for about three weeks when we said it, but we just knew. I was 18 at the time and had never been in love before, and 8 years later we are more in love than ever. He bought me a dozen roses and took me out for a lovely meal; he said it first and I replied right away, it was truly the most amazing feeling. I would love to go back to that restaurant one day :).
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 09:24 PM
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Yesterday I made Chinese sticky lemon chicken which we all enjoyed, and today we had a Moroccan lamb and apricot stew, with couscous and broccoli. Tomorrow we are having a roast pork dinner with some pork directly from a local farm, and then I'll make sweet and sour pork on Sunday with the leftovers. So far this week I've baked a lemon drizzle cake, some bread with my toddler, and some fruit and seed flapjacks. I love cooking but struggle to keep things simple! I'm busy with a toddler and little…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 09:08 PM
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Thank you, that's very true. I have come a long way, but I think I often just try to keep the peace, when that's not always going to be the best course of action. It also occured to me earlier that whatever I do, it will never be enough. I could spend all but one morning with them, but my mum would be upset and dwell on that one morning that we didn't see her, for example. I do miss my parents and love spending time with them, but I don't want to ever feel under their control.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 11:14 PM
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Without going into too much detail - my husband and I were teenagers when we got together, and my parents (particularly my mum) never really gave him a chance. My husband used to try with them but it was always 'wrong', so he just gave up. There has been hurt on both sides over the years, and I doubt that their relationship will ever be great. They are just very different people. My parents have also struggled to let go of me, and still view me as a little girl (although less so since I became a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 02:43 AM
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Thank you. I don't think I have ever mentioned this sub, but generally I am more of a lurker than poster. You are right that the discussion doesn't have to come to a close, and it will probably be something that may change over time anyway. I did used to try and meddle because I wanted everyone to get along, but learnt a few years ago that would never work and isn't my issue to solve.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 02:36 AM
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Thank you so much, I really like the idea of bringing him my problem and not a solution (I may write that one down!) It wasn't actually until writing it down that I realised I am being a bit unreasonable here. You are also right that part of feeling emotional over this is my mum. I love her very much, but feel she does this on purpose to make me feel guilty. I am a natural people pleaser and don't like upsetting anyone - but my husband comes first, and I need to always remember that. Thanks for …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 08:48 PM
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Thank you for your reply. I'm a fairly new driver, and right now the long drive with a baby and toddler by myself feels a bit overwhelming. I am going to do the drive with my husband in the car, and then I will hopefully be able to visit by myself in the future. I'm sure my husband would quite enjoy a few days to himself actually! I'm aware that the visits are mainly to see my family and his nana, so going by myself in time would be better.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 08:40 PM
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My husband actually delivered our child (not planned!) at home. He was gentle, kind, in control and gave me so much peace. Without him supporting me in that moment, I truly don't know what I would have done. While we would never wish for the same to happen again; it was honestly the most beautiful moment of our lives, where we felt truly connected and in the moment with each other and daughter before the ambulance arrived. I'm sure our love grew so much in that moment, and I was unbelievably pro…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 09:05 PM
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My husband and I were both virgins when we got married (age 20 and 22), due to our faith. I would have still chosen my husband even if he wasn't a virgin, but he said it probably would have put him off me if I wasn't, as it was something he really valued in his future wife. I think that you can absolutely find a man who doesn't mind that you are a virgin, but it has to be important to him too (even if he isn't one). Before we got married, we looked into our love languages to help us discover how…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:15 AM
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The traits I've noticed in the (few) happy couples I know: •they don't complain about the other behind their back, or air their dirty laundry in public. •when they got married, the woman 'left' her family to join her husband; deferring to him rather than say, her parents. • they are content in their own roles, and put the other first. They don't compete over who has had the harder day, and regularly do nice things to make the other feel special. That isn't to say that these relationships are per…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 02:15 PM
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Deep clean each room in our home before the new baby comes - I have already completed the bathroom upstairs and kitchen, so off to a good start as I need to complete this very soon :). Read at least one book - I will read a little while my daughter plays independently and before I go to bed. Keep up with my new bullet journal to stay organised - I am always buying journals but never really stick to them. I know I do like the bullet journal system as I've used it before, so I need to prioritise a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 06:36 PM
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I agree with a previous reply about embracing a childlike joy, as this was what first drew my husband to me. This comes naturally to me, but everyone is different and I think it's important to stay true to who you are. That doesn't mean you can't be learn to be less serious as part of your journey, but at the same time there is always room for seriousness as well. These are some of the things I do: •be open in expressing positive emotions - for example, my husband once bought me tickets to a the…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 02:41 PM
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My husband and I didn't have sex or live together before marriage, so a lot changed for us! Before marriage our finances were separate, however we were both respectful in how we spent our money, as knew that once we were married it would be joint. I would go over to his home to cook for him and little things like that, but never really played a wife role until we were married. We actually saw the vicar who would be marrying us for pre-marriage counselling leading up to the wedding, which we foun…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 12:16 PM
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My hobbies are naturally very feminine; I sometimes wish I was into 'cooler' things like some of you have shared, but it's just not me. I love arts and crafts, blogging, cooking, baking (although could work on my presentation), and finding beautiful places in nature to explore with my family. A big interest of mine that I put a lot of time into is learning about child development - and we incorporate much of rie, Montessori, and reggio with our toddler who I'm hoping to homeschool. I want to pra…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 05:09 AM
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Your food sounds lovely! Where did you find the recipes for the jelly and cordial, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/18 04:01 PM
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I have no advice here, but can definitely relate! The only RP people I know are my husband and his parents. I am a SAHM and it can definitely feel quite isolating at times, so I'm interested to hear what advice others give.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 09:53 PM
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Before I became a SAHM, I was a housewife for a while. Honestly - I found it very easy and was grateful to my husband for suggesting it for us for a time. I did a few household chores each day, spent some time on my hobbies, and baked/cooked him nice things from scratch. I knew that I had things very easy, so it would have felt wrong to expect dh to do things when he got home. My mil was a little appalled that I didn't ask him to clean up from dinner because that's how he was rasied, but it work…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:15 PM
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My husband and I have been together since we were teenagers (now in our mid-twenties) and I'm a mum - so my style has changed since I met my dh, but then I imagine it would have anyway. When I met my husband, he loved my very girly style which I still have. However I look back to just how short some of the skirts I used to wear were, and would never personally wear them now! We are also Christians, and over time I've definitely felt led to dress a little more modestly (I also stopped wearing bik…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 05:53 AM
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With baby number two due very soon, I know that I won't have much time for self care for a while. So I think this next few weeks it's something I need to really focus on more! Give myself a manicure and face mask Play the piano Do some arts and crafts Read something non baby/child development related with a cup of tea Find somewhere new to take a walk, appreciating the nature and focusing on God
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 06:40 PM
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I am still in my twenties with a young family, but can very much relate is this. My family is very feminist, and many seem to believe I have shackles on me and am oppressed. But in reality, I have such a wonderful and fulfilling life. My husband works extremely hard in a job helping others, while I get to stay at home taking care of our toddler, our home, and pursuing my hobbies. In the future I'm sure that I will work part time, but there is really no pressure from him. I have recently been unw…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 04:06 AM
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I very rarely drink (maybe one or two every few years), as I don't really like the taste. Also as drinking never became a normal every day thing for me, I never really miss it or 'feel' like a drink. My husband however likes a beer or glass of wine with dinner sometimes, and drinking isn't something I judge anyone for. Although that being said - I really don't like being around drunk people, and as much as possible will avoid situations where people are likely to be drunk. I've actually often fe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 01:33 PM
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Thank you for your reply. I do sometimes write my husband little notes to read when he comes home from a night shift which I know he really appreciates, but I really want to do this more. I also love the journal idea - I kept one with my first but have been really lapsed this time. I think I will make dh a card with our toddler today, to let him know how much he means to us. Our toddler looks up to him so much and they have a beautiful relationship. I just want him to always know how thankful I …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 09:49 AM
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I'm sorry, I'm a little confused? I didn't suggest this, I just responded to the person who commented.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 07:52 PM
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To clarify - I never make vague promises to my dh, my word to him will always be true. I just like the part of remembering his commitment to me and that we are a team.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 07:27 PM
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Thank you, this post has really made me smile. I think that because my role at home has changed a lot, I have been feeling less like a team as things are more one sided. But really, we are a team as much as ever; it just looks different right now. I really am feeling better about things after talking about it, as I know that people here give honest responses which I like.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 06:57 PM
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Thank you so much for your reply, and congratulations on your pregnancy! My husband has very much said the same as yours - that taking care of myself and baby is to be my number one priority, and that if I'm not doing that it makes his life harder too. I remember those early days of pregnancy all too well - with both pregnancies I had bad sickness and was so, so tired. But throughout everything; I look at my beautiful, cheeky toddler and remind myself how worth it it is. I love my little family …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 05:49 PM
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Thank you for your reply, I do appreciate it. I think that's exactly it actually - I very much define myself by my role at home (which I love and find truly fulfilling), so not being able to do everything I used to has left me just not feeling like myself. My husband has honestly been amazing and so understanding, and although this time has been difficult, I love him even more to see how selfless and patient he has been. I sometimes worry that my dh will think I'm being lazy and taking advantage…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 05:42 PM
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I apologise, I am struggling with how the site works!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 09:02 AM
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