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Wow, I've never heard it summarized so simply and astutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:07 PM
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That the funny thing about it that folks like you don't seem to understand. We don't care if you play video games. Do whatever you want. We just don't want to date you. We'll date men that fit our standards. You are the ones who are miffed that hot women won't lower their standards so that they can have the pleasure of living in misery with crusty guys like you.
/r/askFDS19/03/20 03:05 PM
10

Perfect, then you can easily find a new addiction that women find more appealing. You've been given completely valid answers. Deal with it.
/r/askFDS19/03/20 01:24 PM
36

It's an addictive stimulant that gets in the way of productive habits and behavior.
/r/askFDS19/03/20 07:35 AM
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http://www.gutenberg.org/browse/scores/top https://www.paulaschoice.com/expert-advice/skincare-advice/body-care/how-to-give-yourself-a-manicure-at-home.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:47 AM
5

Oh my gosh, almost exactly the same experience here! Minus the alcoholism, and minus the still being alive.
/r/askFDS15/03/20 10:04 PM
23

My thought exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:12 PM
7

A blade is a great supplement, but I don't want anyone to get within arms reach to begin with. The unfortunate reality is that even the smallest and most scrawny men are physically stronger than most women--and I'm not exactly an MMA fighter. I feel that the most realistic and safest play in these situations isn't the most badass one. It's just warning, pepper spray, run, call 911.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:17 PM
100

I have one hobby and I haven't done it in five years. This guy is an absolute riot, ladies. Form an orderly line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:20 PM
27

If the woman is sick, 20.8% of men will leave. If the man is sick, 2.9% of women will leave. Doesn't include the rates at which either gender will cheat, though. I'm assuming that percentage would be through the goddamn roof for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:10 PM
23

Five kids. Even better!
/r/askFDS15/03/20 04:54 PM
95

Pepper spray is your best friend. I don't let men get close to me walking at night. I have my thumb on the trigger ready to go if any are in the vicinity. If they try to get close, I tell them to back off. That's the warning. If they don't back off, I'll blast them straight in the face. Luckily, no one hadn't gotten past the warning phase. I truly do not want to harm anyone. But a gal's gotta do what a gal's got to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:13 AM
1

Waste of money to meet several narcissistic LVMs that have a few bucks to spare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:47 AM
74

You're just training him to better fool the next girl. Stop trying to flex on these guys by telling them about all their red flags. You just make them more crafty by teaching them which red flags they need to disguise. If you see red flags, simply block and move on. You're doing a disservice to women by doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:21 PM
9

This is a really great idea! It's great that there is a separate space where men who actually have the desire to improve themselves or their lives can ask specific questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:03 PM
21

Everyone is entitled to their standards. Most men want women with specific body characteristics (breast size, hip-waist ratio, height, weight, skin color, hair color, eye color, nose shape/size, and the list goes on). Some women want men with a 6"+ penis. Some do not care. Some women want 6'+ tall men. Some do not care. This is simply something you must accept. You cannot change your body, and these women cannot change how they feel or what they are attracted to. Just like the sea of garbage men…
/r/askFDS12/03/20 07:51 PM
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Be aware too that women on dating apps are often extremely overwhelmed by the sheer number of men after them and managing their responses. 99% of these men are LVM, but it's her job to sift through the ocean of trash. It's honestly very stressful and exhausting, and more often than not we are so burnt out that we don't really get around to replying to everyone. Personally, I'd give it a week or two, and then message the women who didn't respond again. For me, as a general rule, a guy can try to …
/r/askFDS12/03/20 03:45 PM
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Yikes. He paid nearly $3000 for porn? This guy is a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:27 PM
12

Small sample population, and results only loosely correlated the digit ratio and penis size. Also, poor guys were mostly 4.5-inchers. As yet another healthcare worker, I can tell you that although it's possible there's a marginal correlation, it's definitely not an exact science. I wouldn't rely on this method to determine size.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:33 PM
54

❤❤❤ It's liberating, isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:44 AM
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“I’m sorry for those dirty emojis I sent you earlier. I didn’t realize you were such a kind and sweet person until after speaking on the phone with you.” "It appears my first tactic to get you in bed was a flop. Let me try another angle! Maybe compliments will work?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:57 AM
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It's amazing how much information a man will volunteer when you're just quiet and you smile a lot. It makes them think that you're naive and nonjudgmental. Sorry dude, but I'm judging the hell out of every word that comes out of your mouth. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:46 PM
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That's what I came to say. Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:30 PM
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Being a HVW is a choice that you must make every single day. When you've spent 20+ years being a pickme, you're constantly drawn to your bad habits. You have to make a point of checking and rechecking yourself. The newer you are to FDS, the more frequently you have to evaluate and refine your behavior. It's hard, and takes diligence and perseverance, but it is so worth it. Every day is gets clearer and clearer why it's worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:22 PM
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I actually watched the whole thing. Dr. Phil suggests that she stay with him and get marriage counseling after her husband emotionally tortured her for nearly a year. The dude is a total narcissist. He took zero accountability or blame during the entire interview. He blamed it on this mysterious, personified entity of his "MiDliFe cRiSis!", and "the devil!". Despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:09 PM
11

Ewwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:52 AM
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This is fake. The formatting is off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:03 AM
38

. the number of times a man will ask me “where/what is that” drives me crazy. SERIOUSLY! What is up with that! I research (or at a bare minimum quick Google search) things that I want to know or understand. But so many guys cannot be bothered to use the internet for anytyhing other than porn. Don't know what I'm talking about? Fucking Google it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:03 AM
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You're in college. Date around and have fun. Don't waste your time fighting with some guy 3/4 of the year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:45 PM
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I learned to ballroom dance starting at 23. It's super fun, great exercise, and you meet a lot of nice people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:43 PM
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I'm so impress by her and her determination. She did everything herself to escape from this pile of shite. That's one powerful gal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:39 PM
31

Manipulative. Narcissistic - talking zero accountability for anything that happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:29 PM
21

They always DARVO you. So cruel. It's on purpose, he knew what he was doing. He was trying to destroy your self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:44 AM
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I denied them, saying it's been over five years of a strained relationship at no fault of my own Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:42 AM
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😂❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:37 AM
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I've been with that type. And it is so devastating when they make those cold, emotionless statements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:35 AM
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Oh, your number 3 is nearly the same as my number 4. So sorry. Such an annoyance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:31 AM
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❤❤❤ I'm still in the talk therapy stage. Helps remind me of how far I've come and how much better I deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:18 PM
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Yeah, that's the challenge of it! I'm sure most of us could write a thesis on the level of bullshit fuckery that we've dealt with. Condensing it into 10 words is almost harder than writing a novel on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:33 PM
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♡♡ I'm so sorry. You deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:23 PM
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Y’all. I bluescreened. I spedrun the five stages of grief. I looked for the PUNK’D cameras. 😂😂😂😂😂 You're an absolute delight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:51 PM
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Because it's in media more. Anyone else seen the commercial for booking.com that features a woman proposing to a man? They frame it like it's this wonderful romantic thing that he totally appreciates. It's inspiring to the forever girlfriends and the pickmes. What they don't realize is this: even if he says "yes", they're just going to be a forever fiancee--still without a ring. So they'll just be wasting more time, and more money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:32 PM
5

Don't paragraph him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:57 PM
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They always come slithering back. Paaaaaaaaaathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:51 AM
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You're pushing the pause button on your life so that you can accommodate a man who won't commit to you. His "cold feet" = his decision. He doesn't want to marry you. He's keeping his options open & waiting for Mrs. Right and will gladly waste your time and your life in the meantime. Focus on yourself and your own life. He's wasting your time and he knows it, but he gives zero shits. If you stick around, you're going to end up being his bang maid until he finds to woman that he actually wants to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:29 PM
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Of course he's LV, that's a given. But the Pickmes are still waltzing into his life and being his mommies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:48 AM
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Well, Joe is still a man. He wants to be the one with the power and control. He wants to be the superhero that sweeps a woman off her feet. A woman with power, strength, and courage is not his type. Love had to much power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:40 PM
7

Or both?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:58 PM
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He won't give you his social media because he has a girlfriend or wife that's he's trying to cheat on while he's out of town. Set your sights higher than this low life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:24 PM
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Don't feed the trolls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:49 AM
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Good on you for seeing the warning signs and holding form on your boundaries! ☆ In my mind, HVM would never ask for or imply they should* be sent nudes from someone they barely know. For me even the implication would be an immediate block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:04 AM
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You care way too much about what this mediocre guy thinks. He's playing the same game that you're playing, but he's winning. He barely had to do anything and he got you to have sex with him, and now he's making you jealous. Your plan kinda backfired. It's really best not to talk about your dating life with men you're trying to date. Best to keep it short, sweet, and ambiguous. Dating should be for you and your enjoyment. Stop making it into a petty game, and start making it about YOU and your ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:58 PM
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I'm not sure that you're looking at the important points here. He's already categorized his relationship with you as no strings, casual sex. He's sending you photos of his dates with other women. He's not trying to impress you. He's intentionally pushing boundaries. He doesn't care about your feelings. And you're pretending it's totally fine and trying to be the "cool girl" instead of just cutting his ass off and blocking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:50 PM
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Should I drop him ? Yes. My instinct is telling me he doesn’t take me seriously Also yes. Carve out some firm boundaries with the next one. "No" is a valid and powerful word. Also, read all the sidebar info. You should find it helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:32 PM
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any woman who lives within a 5 miles radius of him need to know who he is. A screenshot of his profile should be enough to get them all a goddamn restraining order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:37 PM
7

So insightful. You should be in charge of composing the FDS bible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:14 AM
3

You all are aware this is satire written by a troll, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:55 AM
70

I hate playing games with people, but I've found this to be true. It's not fun to be blindsided by a guy's rage. The sooner you find out about this kind of behavior, the happier and safer you'll be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:23 PM
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Without an engagement ring? 2-3 years Without a wedding ring? 4-5 years I'd say a little bit longer if you're younger. I'm in my mid twenties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:18 PM
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My friend is in grad school and is completely broke. He still manages to treat his girlfriend like a queen. He takes her on thoughtful dates and trips, he makes her homemade gifts, he fixes and builds things for her, works hard on side hustles to have some money to take her out. He's been doing this for 2.5 years, no signs of letting up. It's just who he is. Any man who doesn't go above and beyond for you is not worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:23 PM
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I think that there is a key difference between "pot heads" and people who use cannabis. Pot heads are obnoxious and often times low value. People who use cannabis recreationally and/or medicinally can swing either way. The cannabis use doesn't necessarily add or deduct value. Depends on factors such as how responsibly they use it, how obsessive they are about it, and how dependent they are on it. I'm not a regular cannabis user, but it really saved my skin about a year ago. I was so anxious that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:17 PM
5

Block and move on to someone else. He's clearly a selfish pervert. You can do better than that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:07 PM
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Synonymous with "imagine being an average man".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:22 PM
7

You're an absolute hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:17 AM
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IT'S LITERALLY THIS SIMPLE. Take the temp, actually touch the abdomen, and BAM. No need to scar anyone for life. WTF, MALE DOCTORS. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:20 AM
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What in the ever living fuck did I just read As a medical professional, this astounds me. That decision by the doctor was dehumanizing and degenerate. When a young person comes in with strong stomach pain the FIRST GODDAMN THOUGHT is appendicitis. Not "let's do a vaginal exam and scar this child for life!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:06 PM
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Oh my gosh, me too! It really annoyed me because we had already been chatting for a while, he added me on Facebook (which had a 5 year history), and he had my phone number. And he still kept accusing me of being a catfish. I'm not even hot, I'm just an average looking person. Why would I catfish as super average looking girl?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:49 PM
13

Ultimatums don't spawn great marriages. They spawn half-assed proposals and a lifetime of resentment on both sides
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:10 PM
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I completely agree. And telling people the honest truth about their behavior without the sugarcoat is fabulous. I come from a family of extremely blunt personalities. But there is a difference between that, and bashing women into the ground, and calling them names for living a different life. Or even for just being confused and coming here for help. Edit: to add, I agree with you even more in that it's healthy to have a level of shame associated with former or current pickme behavior. Shame is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:56 AM
5

You seem a little bit obsessive about "attractiveness rating". Attraction is subjective. End of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:48 AM
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I think you're absolutely right. FDS seems to have two faces. Face number 1 seems to be about doing right by yourself, and doing right by your fellow woman or by womankind. Uplifting each other, not shaming each other. Showing women the truth, and leading by example. Face number 2 is this attitude of "it's us versus them" with pickmes, and we act like middle school bullies. I've found this very hypocrital considering the reasons that FDS steers away from pickmes--one of which being that they bas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:19 AM
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I think it's feeding the trolls when we get into sad little back-and-forth past wars. It's like when that annoying couple breaks up and they constantly use public Facebook posts as retorts for each other--even though they unfriended each other ages ago. It just shows that they won't stop obsessing over each other and looking at what the other person is posting. There's literally an option for reporting it called "don't feed the trolls" in the "breaks FDS rules" section. I report the posts half o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:24 PM
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Yep. They even included the family dog in the order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:51 PM
19

Wow. I wouldn't take much advice from grandma if I were you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 01:50 PM
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I love how he tries to make himself sound better than her by calling her "trashy" and "easy" as though none of this reflects on his character, and even sets a tone of him being a victim for possibly getting an STD. He had unprotected sex with a stranger. A stranger than he considers "trashy". What the hell does that make him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:43 AM
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His entire family got a domestic violence restraining order against him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:37 AM
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Wow. What is this fascination with degrading women? I don't get it. I have no innate desire to treat another person with this level of disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:35 AM
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So sad. Porn addiction can be so crippling in every aspect of live. Relationships, friendships, work ethic, motivation, energy levels are all stunted. I'm so glad that these guys (and gals) are at least trying to recover, and that they have a supportive community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:18 AM
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This reads like a 15 year old boy role playing as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 10:01 PM
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For eliminating the pickmeisha in me: r/codependency. A lot of us don't realize that "pickme" is nearly synonymous with codependent, which is a real issue that needs to be addressed, and requires a lot of support to break out of. For the home: r/konmari for the "how" r/cozyspaces for the "why"/inspiration/decor. For the body: r/fitness. I use a modified version of one of their workout routines at the gym. r/gainit. Because after a physically abusive relationship, I was so anxious I couldn't eat.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:31 PM
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I've never had an orgasm with him Is he aware of this? If he's aware of this and doesn't feel an innate desire to do everything he can to change it, then he is low value. If you fake it to maintain his ego, STOP. It's a huge disservice to yourself. we were on the same page about having kids before marriage (in 5 years) but he revealed to me that he doesn't want them at all now. Valid deal breaker if you do want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:26 AM
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Perfect! Another excuse for LVM to talk their way out of wearing a condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:09 PM
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"Will you be my new bang-mommy? Promise I'll only cheat a little, and only when you're at work! And don't worry about your valuables, I'll keep them safe ♡"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:59 PM
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The thing about this is that these are LOW VALUE MEN, but it's treated like it's completely normal because LVM are pandemic. Like "Haha, silly dad! Guys just don't remember stuff like that!" My dad has SEVEN children. He is and always was the first one to tell us happy birthday in the morning every year. He doesn't give a flying shit about baseball stats or football players or whatever else. It's not a male characteristic, it's a low value characteristic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:50 PM
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Probably a lot better off now that he's not in her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:24 PM
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Here's my favorite comment: My bio-father had to take me to the ER once when I was 16, it was the first time in my life that he took me to a doctor (and I was in treatment for a brain tumor at the time.) He didn’t know my name (I was the third daughter he mentioned), age, birthdate, anything! The nurse filling out the intake form was clearly disgusted and told him to call my mom so she could give them the info, then told him to go sit in the waiting room, he was no longer needed. I was literally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:55 PM
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I hear you, and I'm sorry that your husband did not show you love in the way you wanted ): that is a really crummy feeling. This woman wanted to feel her husband's love via a thoughtful gift, and also did not receive love in the way that she wanted to receive it. Her being upset is just as rightful as you being upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:35 AM
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Salesmen personalities are my kryptonite. Smell them coming from a mile away. 🤢🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:03 PM
8

Food addiction is so real. I feel for this poor woman. It's the most difficult addiction to fight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:58 PM
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Here you go. It's very long and a bulky paragraph to start with. Sorry if my English isn't perfect, arab girl here So long story long, I never had a birthday I have always wanted one growing up like my half sisters and friends but I never got one, I used to always plan other people's birthdays in high school until I realized nobody ever remembered mine, ever, even my parents, and I know the reasons why but I'm not going to talk about them now. Anyways, I got married more than two years ago, it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:24 AM
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Female Dating Strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:37 AM
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The reading on this subreddit and on r/codependency is all about understanding and improving yourself. In conjunction with therapy, they have helped me so much and have really pulled my self esteem out of the gutter. You can do this. You deserve to choose the life that serves you best. Know that it will be a difficult road, and it will be a constant battle to keep choosing it. But know that you're worthy of it. If you ever need support, FDS has your back and will give you the 100% honest truth w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:33 AM
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You are choosing to throw away your life, your youth, and your happiness in order to be an enabler to this manchild. You see yourself as a caring, empathetic individual who will fight for the best life for him, and his kids. He sees you as free a bangmaid/nanny that probably pays half the rent too. He's delighted that you are filling the wifey role for free. He's getting a sweet deal and will milk it for as long as he possibly can. The amount of effort he puts into his parenting is about the sam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:37 AM
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This should be top of the list of FDS reading material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:14 PM
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This man literally tried to hang himself with a belt from a cupboard for attention when I got mad at him once because he got too drunk on a night out and kept fucking up Are you dating Bojack Horseman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:19 AM
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What I loved most was how he never mentioned her age in his story. My immediate thought was "she's 18 or so and he's a nasty 40-50 year old man" Then, big surprise, he later says: I respected the nanny's wishes and I've backed off when she said no. And upon reflection, you're right, there is a power and age imbalance. Predator. Pig. Pile of shite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:44 AM
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Be careful, ladies. There is a lot of hate for this sub. You never know who is lurking around and responding to these things. You don't want too be doxxed, stalked, harassed, or even attacked. This is a great idea in theory, but maybe not the safest. ❤ BE SAFE ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:09 AM
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And then there's the knockoff bags. They look like the high quality bags to the untrained, inexperienced eye. They have the same look, brand name, the shiny emblems that snag your attention--but keep them on your arm for a few months and they fall apart, tear, crinkle and disappoint just like the cheap bags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 07:54 PM
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My first boyfriend was exactly like this. He wanted blowjobs only. He would eventually have sex with me if I complained a lot, and hated going down on me. He'd tell me that it was "boring" and that my kitty cat was "gross". Dumped him after 1.5 years, he kept trying to get back together by saying he'd actually do that stuff with me. No thanks. 8 years later he has a boyfriend. Surprise? NOPE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:12 PM
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Why am I not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:52 PM
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This is a revenge fantasy written by a redpiller. It's more obvious after you read through his responses to people. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:52 AM
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I had a friend who was literally not allowed to fart or poop while her boyfriend was home. Like, he'd yell and scream and pitch a fit because "it's not something ladies are supposed to do". They're married now. Poor thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:42 AM
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I'll tuck my head in shame and finish a story I started a couple days ago. My town literally burned to the ground while the dude I was seeing was out of town. I called his family to make sure that they were ok. Then I called him crying and left a voicemail telling him my neighborhood was on fire and I was terrified. He completely ignored it, then gaslighted me. The next time I heard from him was nearly a month later at 10pm asking me to come to his house. He'd been home for 2 weeks already. I SL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:58 AM
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I asked him if he truly believed that it was my fault that he kept "accidentally" hurting me. He got a very awkward and desperate expression and said "Well, I mean... uh... yeah." And I grabbed my purse and said "Alrighty. Goodnight." Never spoke to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:02 AM
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Yes. There should be at least some standards for the person you're allowing INSIDE OF YOUR BODY. And I think the standard we're talking about in this thread is not gifts, expensive dates, or vacations. It's bare minimum human decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:23 PM
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❤❤❤You deserve better, and you will find better❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:07 PM
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My town literally burned to the ground while the dude I was seeing was out of town. I called his family to make sure that they were ok. Then I called him crying and left a voicemail telling him my neighborhood was on fire and I was terrified. He completely ignored it, then gaslighted me. The next time I heard from him was nearly a month later at 10pm asking me to come to his house. He'd been home for 2 weeks already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:32 AM
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I hear you, and it was just an exaggeration on my part because I found her anger at his autism a little silly. Why be angry? She can just cut him out of her dating pool if autism is a deal breaker. They dated for 2 months. Are we all supposed to carry spreadsheets of our medical history and family medical history on the third date? Would she have been angry if she found out he had diabetes after 2 months? History of migraines? Allergy to penicillin? Family history of kidney cancer? He let her kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:23 AM
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That's exactly what I stated. You just reiterated my statement. She's under no obligation to date him whatsoever. I don't think you read my post correctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 12:02 AM
-5

I get where you're coming from, but you are being pretty unreasonable. You are under zero obligation to date him, and it's not "ableist" to cut things off. However, being angry about it is just a poor reaction and it sounds like maybe you don't understand what autism is. Are you afraid that you're going to catch his autism or something? It's not like it's an STD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:20 PM
7

I was given a condescending flair when I first starting posting here too. In reality it means nothing, but it made me feel very unwelcome as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:32 AM
19

I’ve always wondered if nursing attracted codependent types The answer to that one is a big fat YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:55 AM
29

I looked him up. He's been posting this same thing repeatedly FOR 6 MONTHS, and the only response he's gotten is "this is creepy" 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:17 PM
9

The guy from your group of friends who’d send you pics from your own social media, decorated with hearts. OH GOOD LORD. THIS GUY. I had one of those that I was nice and cringed through the awkwardness for too long. Ended up finding him staring in my car windows at 2am. Big yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:38 PM
11

I've had to teach 2/4 men that I've dated to brush their teeth and floss regularly. Those were back in my regretful Pickme days. It's very, very common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 02:12 AM
43

This is the reason that I don't understand redpillwomen. Why do they want these guys? They're trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 06:33 PM
29

That's sad, and she's putting herself in a vulnerable position. 6 months of her working and him sitting on his ass, then he can divorce and get alimony--he sounds plenty entitled enough to pull that crap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 12:53 PM
1

The Fuckboy Bible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 04:16 PM
20

What a prize to be won! Hold on, let me clear my schedule and check my bank account to make sure I can take him out for a nice dinner. I hope he picks me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 03:24 AM
46

I've never understood why women do this. Why give a man so much power? I never even take nude photos. I want 0 risk of this happening to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:07 PM
37

He's using you as a crutch instead of actually dealing with his issues. Everything is always going to be about him. If you became terminally ill he'd make it all about him, and you'd have to baby him. He's not a strong man, and you will never be able to lean on him for support. This is only going to get worse and worse, and you will grow resentful. He's so absorbed in himself and his own mind that he will never actually be able to/choose to comfort you. He needs meds--by why bother when he's got…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:40 PM
59

"Men age like fine wine, and women..." you know...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 04:32 AM
20

FINALLY A COMMUNITY WHO GETS IT! I'm so used to the libfem community that has all the sympathy in the world for the gay man in this situation, and will jump up and down like cheerleaders for him. Then they'll turn around and tell the woman who has had her 20s and 30s wasted being married to a selfish liar that she should be happy for him and proud of his bravery! So cruel and despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 04:38 PM
26

Yes, actually. I found FDS just days ago and it really resonated with me. It made me realize even more how wonderful my family is. My father and brother both fit it pretty darn well with it. My father does not let any of the girls pay for anything (he has 5 daughters including me, and then there's my mom) and is a huge support to us in our education. My brother treats his girlfriend like a queen and always keeps her as priority #1. I was the biggest pick me on the planet until about a year ago. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 10:59 PM
8

Lead and Motrin, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 01:03 AM
9

He has zero respect for your boundaries. Expect things to get worse from here, not better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 04:27 PM
26

That's just... wow. That was a painful read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 04:45 AM
8

Seriously. Same boat. I was lucky too that I found it after I'd been single for about a year. I was severely codependent and dated a narcissistic, physically abusive guy after a traumatic incident in my life left me a shell of my former self. I'm honestly lucky that I got out, but if I'd read that RPW stuff at that time, I'd probably still be in that mess. I was more interested before I knew what they were referring to when they said they wanted 'alpha' men. Thought they ment guys who are decisi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 08:25 PM
23

I actually joined RPW not really knowing what the redpill was haha. I only went to TRP to read about it maybe a month ago and was disgusted. RPW had some things I appreciated. Mostly about self improvement and such, and about having high standards and rejecting men who did not meet your standards (was a problem in my past tbh). But they really bash women who want a career, and preached that careers are valueless to women. And I found that the men and treatment that meet their standards were pret…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 02:54 PM
15

Hahaha! Yeah, I'd rather keep my involvement in the two communities pretty separate. There are things to learn from each of them, and I'm not quite ready to get banned from there for for floating around this sub. And they're soooo defensive of TRP that I don't think their little hearts could take my opinion on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:32 AM
140

THANK YOU AND CONGRATS! I have a very similar backstory to you all around. Just found this sub last night and I feel like I finally found my place. I found RPW about 4 months ago and at first I thought it was really great. However, as of late I've slowly realized that they were kind of close, but they don't exactly hit the mark for me. They totally idealize TRP and the worthless, garbage men who buy into it. So many gals taking about how they're "so lucky that they find an 'alpha', 'redpill-awar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 08:42 AM
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