I (21F) have been having sex with (28M) since June. I’ve been having issues with the comments he makes about my body. Tonight was the worst.
When we first started having Sex, he made a disgusted remark about the scars and bruising on my stomach. I just explained that I’m a diabetic and I bruise easily from my injections. I’ve been a diabetic for 10 years so my stomach looks far from flawless.
He’s also made comments about my pubic hair. I like it short and trimmed, my skin is sensitive so shaving it irritates the skin and makes the area red/itchy. I can’t shave it every shower and I always use a new razor for the best shave. He texts me things like “have you shaved that thing for me yet?” Or “shave and come over to sit on my face” I get people have preferences but I work 60 hours a week and it’s hard to always have the time to do a meticulous shave.
Last week he asked me to come over, I was finishing work late and he lives 5 minutes away. I went over to the gym 2 minutes down the street to shower my body, put some lingerie on under my clothes to surprise him and I touched up my hair/makeup. I always try to be as fresh as possible. He texted me saying he was 30 minutes away at his friends and that he was on his way home. I ran a few errands while I was waiting and I waited around for him to text me. He never texted me that night and I ended up waiting 60 minutes for him before I drove home. The next morning he texted me saying “sorry I passed out”
So as stupid as I am, he invited me over tonight and I went over anyways. We get down to it and he says something “doesn’t look right down there” I ask him what he means and he points to the small scab I got on my thigh from chaffing. Then he points to the spot I nicked myself shaving on the inside of my vagina lip. He tells me it’s “terrible” and I apologize saying I didn’t realize the nick was that bad. He rolls over and shoves his face in the pillow, saying nothing and leaving me there naked and embarrassed. A minute goes by and I start getting dressed, I told him I was embarrassed and he said “when I saw it, I got turned off” and shoved the rest of his face into the pillow. I told him that I “didn’t want to continue having sex” and he muffles to me in the pillow. I ask him to me like an adult and take his face out of the pillow and he responded with “that’s fine”. I leave his apartment and he locks the door behind me.
Am I unreasonable for being upset? I get that it might not have been the prettiest thing to see but I felt like he could have handled it better.
Update: To clear things up, this guy was not my bf but merely a guy I was seeing casually. Also, I really want to thank all of you for your kind comments and support, I had no idea this post would blow up so much! I have cut off all contact with him and have no plans on seeing or talking to him. You guys made me realize he was ridiculous and that I should value myself more with my choice in men. Thank you everyone, I’m going to choose to focus on me for now! To everyone who messaged me privately, I would love to reach out to you in the near future. Especially the diabetics who stepped up! You guys are amazing
[–]velocity2dsFDS Disciple32 points33 points34 points (0 children) | Copy Link
He’s a complete loser and it explains why he at almost 30 is going out with a 21 year old thinking she will be naive enough to go for his trash life
[–]ThinkTofuFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points (1 child) | Copy Link
That's just... wow. That was a painful read.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH13 points14 points15 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I actually became physically disturbed reading this. I need to take a break from this place.
[–]reddituser39682 22 points23 points24 points (0 children) | Copy Link
It truly amazes me what women put up with from subhuman moids. Like imagine how hard they'd riot if women were half as selfish in bed as they are.
[–]khaleesi2018 19 points20 points21 points (0 children) | Copy Link
This is why I always tell 21 year old girls not to date these older men. He's almost 30 and is acting this immature.
I also pray that I never have a daughter that is as weak as this girl. All of this stress for a FWB. I got secondhand embarrassment.
[–]greenteaapplepie69Ruthless Strategist7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
SO many women put up with assholes like this it’s unbelievable! We need FDS now more than ever.