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| 2 | Just landed a 6-figure job with a new company. 💅🏼Congratulations on the job and awesome paycheck!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:29 AM |
| 3 | Every fanboy getting ready to quiz me on the backstory of a random-ass character that was on screen for two seconds to prove I'm a fake fan:One of my Besties is Manga & Anime Fangirl x 10,000 Some of the series she's watched or read so many times she can quote whole episodes or books from memory. I'm not into that stuff but all that knowledge impresses me like crazy.... and because I know she knows what she's talking about it seriously pisses me off when we're at a convention and some idiot scrote tries to mansplain at her or talk down to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:23 AM |
| 19 | What the acronym “BDSM” stands for.I have never seen a relationship that includes BDSM be healthy or happy. I've watched so many people be damaged by kink there's just no way it is a sustainable practice. There's a huge difference between a little wild sex between loving partners and the degradation and abusiveness that comes with BDSM. "Vanilla" is fine.... "vanilla" is awesome if you're doing it right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 06:35 PM |
| 51 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?My husband has two female friends and the rest of his buddies are dudes.... I like the ratio. I was introduced to the female friends early on and I like both of them they're cool people there's no weirdness or inappropriate stuff going on there. I don't think I could deal with my partner having nothing BUT female friends... that would be odd and I'd wonder why no men wanted to hang out with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:20 AM |
| 6 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?My husband asked me what I wanted to do about the name thing and I said I was keeping mine. No big deal. He still has his hyphenated last name from his previous marriage and kept it because he shares that name with his kids. For maybe an hour after he first asked we both toyed with the idea of creating a last name based on a mashup of his original last name and mine ...but there was no combination of my very Scottish name and his very Norwegian one that didn't sound like you're having a stroke w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:30 AM |
| 65 | If he makes fun of you for going to a community college, he ain’t the one.I never went to college. Period. All the fields I was interested in like history and literature do NOT make great money. I went straight from high school into being a truck driver. I made bank and a trucker's lifestyle allows you to have few bills and save most of your income. In my 20s college boys I dated would try to belittle me for my lack of schooling. Fuck 'em!! I'd just laugh at them....through curiosity and self education on my favorite subjects I know a hell of a lot of esoteric shite, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:14 AM |
| 34 | Making more than your SOI make a good bit more than my husband... I have a lot more assets too Me : $350-400,000 a year ... base + commission and I chase those commissions. 😹 My base income is $175,000 Him: $130,000 a year salary, $7000 rental income Me: 2 paid off cars Him : 1 paid off car, 2 paid off motorcycles I own my house free and clear since 2017 He was renting an apartment before marriage. He does own a really nice mountain cabin he planned to retire to though, he rents that out during ski season for extra inc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:47 AM |
| 3 | What's your relationship status?Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:33 PM |
| 13 | What's your relationship status?Happily married since 5/7/21. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 08:34 AM |
| 3 | Tell us about what it's like to be a woman in your countryGreat post! Very informative and interesting to read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 01:08 AM |
| 19 | He said he wanted a relationshipAwesome! I was hoping you blocked him. Good for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.This is probably TMI but.... I shave everything but the pubic hair and I really do prefer the hairless leg and underarm feel. I've grown out both leg and armpit hair a few times and I just do NOT care for it. However ....my muff gets the "salon treatment" 😹 I trim it down a bit and color it all the colors I want on my head but can't have because of work. So right now I've got the mermaid fade from purple to blue on my crotch. I've been doing this for.... decades... used to put Manic Panic down t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 06:31 PM |
| 56 | He said he wanted a relationshipBlock/delete him. And be happy you dodged that bullet. He wasted your time and the bait-and-switch he pulled on you shows his true nature. Your time is valuable, so are you. You deserve better than a game-playing idiot like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:55 PM |
| 49 | Tell us about what it's like to be a woman in your countryI live in the Northwest USA 1 A lot of people have the idea that the USA is good to women.... on the surface and compared to restrictive and overtly religious countries .... sure. Women appear to have all the freedoms here but there's always a subtle male curb on our behavior and actions. For instance most women I know don't want to drive alone at night... there's no law against it and women do it but even myself who's kind of a badass knows that it's not smart to be out by yourself at night bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:41 PM |
| 123 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?I liked to look for what I call "half-ass cleaning" way back when I was dating For instance.... the kitchen is clean but up under the stove hood isn't, or the microwave is dirty inside. Or they have a ceiling fan that isn't wiped down and got dusty. I'm super picky about my house and I could NOT have had a long term relationship with someone who didn't have the same level of cleanliness I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 09:19 PM |
| 8 | Confused pickmeishas on social media😹😹😹 I'm here for this comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:33 PM |
| 13 | Post your block list statistics!Facebook: Holy shit I just counted all that! 528 Phone: 3 ( my ex and 2 OLD guys from years ago ) I keep my phone mostly private it's rare I give my number to anyone... if you're in my phone that means I actually wanna hear from you. Instagram: 416 Insta is pretty much friends-only but because I post hot goth pics I get creepers LOTS of damn creepers in my requests insta-block! 😹 I only follow Pinky on Tiktok and don't post so... nothing there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 6 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Right!! I have some family heirloom jewels that are beyond stunning and that's my standard for myself. I buy myself Victorian garnets, emerald anything that looks good, and Art Nouveau enamel pieces and the occasional modern thing like slooowly collecting some Stephen Webster jewels ( gorgeous but only one a year dammitt because they're a bit high priced ) Fortunately my husband knows what I like and he buys me jewelry of the same class. I wouldn't accept any less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:18 PM |
| 35 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Ooooh! Do you feel comfortable sharing? 🦇🦇🦇 I love spooky theme jewelry but a lot of it is so tacky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:07 PM |
| 12 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…IF that were my style and what I wanted..... sure. It's all about what makes YOU happy. ( One of my Besties would like this she likes minimal small rings and only ever wears rose-gold jewelry ) BUT.... that's not my style. And I wouldn't wear that. My husband knows my taste and what I like best, he's never given me a bad or thoughtless gift. He watches what I buy for myself, he listens to what I say is pretty or things I say I want. He's the only man I ever dated who jumped right into adding to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:04 PM |
| 4 | Childfree women, have you been able to find HVM partners?My husband and I are both on the same page with the childfree. He has two college age daughters already and got a vasectomy after the 2nd child, he and his ex-wife had a firm plan about "only 2 kids" and then he got snipped. I have some weird genes that potentially make any child I would have subject to a short life of suffering so all my life I intended to either never have any or adopt. I'm actually disappointed now that I've found him, if I had met him earlier we definitely would have adopted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 09:19 PM |
| 1 | "Dress to the Nines Everyday Because You Never Know When You Might Meet Your Soulmate" 🤡Tried the CdG Black Pepper .... didn't care for it... a little too much musk and patchouli and not enough pepper. Thistle & Black Pepper by Scottish Fine Soaps Company is a better one in my opinion because the amber & other fragrance notes don't overpower the pepper note. If you want to get samples of niche perfumes try Luckyscent.com or Twistedlily.com, lots of uncommon brands on those two sites. Luckyscent has the CdG Black Pepper sample. https://www.luckyscent.com/product/21646/blackpepper-by… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:35 PM |
| 21 | "Dress to the Nines Everyday Because You Never Know When You Might Meet Your Soulmate" 🤡Damn right. Half my scents are "men's cologne" I got stuck on Creed's "Original Santal" because my dad always wore that... it smells good on anyone and I'm kinda addicted to Spicebomb as a finishing spritz over Demeter Black Pepper body lotion/washing my hair in Black Pepper shower gel. Tom Ford for Men is another good one. If you're into woody scent or peppery scent men's cologne usually has those tones in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:20 AM |
| 1 | The Four Tolkien LVM And What We Can Learn from Them: Part 5Yay! I was waiting for this. Another great bunch of writing OP. You're amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 06:12 AM |
| 154 | I don’t know anything about this family. But this video is absolutely heartwarming.This melted my heart. So beautiful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 01:21 AM |
| 25 | The Red Flag Song!💚💚💚 I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 01:19 AM |
| 3 | The Four Tolkien LVM and What We Can Learn from Them: Part 4If you do that let us know.... I'll be getting several copies for people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 05:41 AM |
| 5 | The Four Tolkien LVM and What We Can Learn from Them: Part 4I am so loving these posts. I think you should get this printed as a book! There are so many Tolkien fans out there who would buy a copy! I've actually been re-reading the original works after a long time because I wanted to compare what you said to the characters as Tolkien wrote them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:51 PM |
| 7 | Wise words from Christine de pizanLove this! Her writings are great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:40 PM |
| 28 | if he wanted to he wouldI'm glad I'm not the only one thinking : He better be cleaning that up later!!! I'd divorce my husband if he ever made a huge mess all over my antique rugs like that. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 05:34 AM |
| 16 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.I want to find that guy and punch him in the face... Making your GF have to work a 2nd job to go on a vacation where she has to suffer, starve herself and miss the events and activities is the absolute rudest, meanest thing I have ever heard of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 04:51 AM |
| 3 | They settle down when they get old. #geriatricI typically don't think about it much. It came up on our first real date kinda as a joke.... we'd had a very casual first meeting at a bar through a relative of his...and he said he thought I was too young for him at first until he realized from things I referenced in conversation that my childhood was in the 80s. Then he told me his birthday and his age and asked if it bothered me. It didn't at the time. It still doesn't really bother me.... unless like today, I read a comment that puts the act… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 03:06 AM |
| 8 | The Four Tolkien LVM and What We Can Learn from Them: Part 3I am loving this series of writings that you're doing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 8 | Why is it that many men are more fun to have around as platonic friends than they would be as husbands or boyfriends?I don't really know.... I've had exactly ONE real male friend in my life. Gaming partner, hobby partner, martial arts partner.... he was my honorary "4th Bestie".... we could hug or even cuddle with no weird shit just like my female Besties and I do if someone needs a hug or some holding. He never viewed doing something for me as a step to dating or sex. He was a real friend always there if I needed him, reached out when he needed me. I've never had any of the male acquaintances in my life be a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:43 PM |
| 19 | Pinky Strikes Again - if women came with instructions...Ok that's it.... I gotta get a Tiktok just to follow her. She's amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 10:41 PM |
| 20 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupMy LVM ex has been cut out of my life, blocked for years now but I still hear through mutuals occasionally that he's STILL bitching about me. 😹😹😹 I'm sure he'd come back in a heartbeat to my nice house and leeching off of me in return for being useless in bed and out of it. His life went stagnant and he's miserable last I heard. Whatevah.... I'm way over it now. Dumping him/kicking him out was a smart move that I should have done way earlier than I did. My only regret is that I didn't get pissed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 10:01 PM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InI've found that LVM always chase after the super-glam, heavy makeup short skirt type of woman, but then insist their own female partner be more conservative or neg her when she's all fancy dressed. It's pure projected insecurity.... they KNOW they don't measure up and don't deserve a hot and stylish woman. They want what they don't deserve to have. HVM on the other hand like ALL versions of the woman they're with. They find their partner appealing dressed down or dressed up. My husband has compl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 09:43 PM |
| 2 | 🚨Vetting Strategy: Watch how a man drivesThe dude who became my husband is more into his motorcycles but he also has a classy looking 90s Mercedes sedan that he babies and looks brand new. I'm an absolute car nut with a kinda new loaded 4runner and a classic car I restored myself that's my BABY. I realized after the first few times riding in his car that his driving skills were good enough and I actually TRUSTED him enough behind the wheel that I was ok with letting him drive my classic. Super rare thing for me....only myself and ONE o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:14 PM |
| 1 | From "The Disenchantments of Love". Written in 1647 by María de Zayas.I've read everything I can get my hands on of hers. Great stuff ... did you read the other City of Ladies one "The Treasure of the City of Ladies"? Also if you haven't yet... check out her clapback to the guy who wrote "The Romance of the Rose" ... that was a great book. It's called "The Tale of the Rose" ....and later the two authors had an exchange of letters that got published as "Letters on the Debate of the Rose" and is pretty much a Medieval Rap Battle ..... this was my favorite of all her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 07:07 PM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InBeen busy as hell making a big push to get the garage apartment and basement apartment built up to the point where the plumbers can come do their thing. I usually come home from work and jump right into building, my husband has been doing the same. Got walls done, floors done, 75% of electrical done. So since plumbers are coming July 5th I'll be busy as hell for the next two weeks still. My HVM little brother is flying in today to spend his vacation doing construction with me so with the extra p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:51 PM |
| 6 | Blocking ex on OLD?I don't even know you but I'm super proud of you! 🤘👑🤘 Stay strong, queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:41 AM |
| 9 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeRock on! Good for you! You DO deserve the absolute best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:20 AM |
| 28 | Blocking ex on OLD?OP, you're a badass and blocking is absolutely the right move!! Keep on hitting the block button ladies. Exes, past dates who didn't act right, new dates that don't act right, worthless dudes, dudes who neg or disrespect. Block and delete them all. Block if they annoy you. Block if they don't treat you right. Block for red flags, block if you just "have a bad feeling about that guy". Trust your instincts. Believe you are worth getting all your needs and wants met because you ARE. And if someone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:04 AM |
| 65 | Hypergamy is not evil, and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.Me and my arsenal of swords are DOWN for that ⚔⚔⚔ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:46 PM |
| 45 | LVM has no emotion or respect.I'm so sorry for your loss of your dad. Good for you blocking that rude crude heartless scrote! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:39 PM |
| 14 | From "The Disenchantments of Love". Written in 1647 by María de Zayas.I am going to have to find this book and read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:19 PM |
| 18 | Queen Spitting Facts Once Again😂🤩I love this lady all her videos are awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:22 PM |
| 12 | Finally met my HVM 🥰Dead of laughing over here 😹💀😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:20 PM |
| 23 | Let’s normalize walking awayNo we met at a weekly hangout I do with my 3 Besties at this awful dive bar we like for the darts and the $5 good IPAs ..... my dude is the nephew of this sweet 10,000 year old man that sometimes us ladies play darts with/hangout with. He and I might have eventually met anyway though one of his daughters is in my Victorian Tea Society group and he goes to teas with her sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:37 AM |
| 50 | Let’s normalize walking awayI like your therapist! Thanks for sharing this because it eases my mind about the one thing that bothers me about my relationship.... I've been wondering for a while if my husband and I moved too fast.... but about 4-5 months into dating was when I stopped guarding my heart and expecting him to fuckup and considered us to be "In A Relationship" ... it was so much a "Hell Yes!" for me but I was ready to bounce if he didn't act right. 😹😹😹 Just asked my dude and he said "I wanted to be in a relatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 03:35 AM |
| 81 | Let’s normalize walking awayHell yes! Years ago I was on a date with a "scene" guy and he told me what to do .... as in "put your coat back on that top is too revealing" I told him to piss off and never spoke to him again after that night.... then watched him date two other goth girls I know and be a controlling abusive shit to them. You get insulted by a dude or "negged" .... walk away A dude acts bad to you, fails you, doesn't live up to your standards.... walk away. A dude doesn't put in 100% effort and attention.... wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:10 AM |
| 40 | Hadn’t been OLD in almost 15 years. I wanted to see what you all were talking about. Now I know I will be single forever. On purpose. 🤣💖Before dinner, she said when he told the waiter separate checks before they even ordered she just grabbed her purse and walked out super fast. She said if he had followed her she was just going to get the staff at our local hangout or the friends there to chase him off. We would have too, but thankfully he didn't follow her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 05:52 AM |
| 88 | Hadn’t been OLD in almost 15 years. I wanted to see what you all were talking about. Now I know I will be single forever. On purpose. 🤣💖I'm watching the OLD debacle secondhand through a bar acquaintance today. She's in her mid-50s and trying to date again after 7 years of being widowed. She met a guy from Bumble at the nice Thai place down the street from our regular hangout. It's an upscale bistro and really good food so a good first date place. BUT.... the guy was missing teeth! He was dressed in a t-shirt and jeans ( dirty jeans too ) while she went ALL OUT in a fancy lacy shirt and pretty skirt. And then he started by tellin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 02:14 AM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on prenups?My married Bestie and her dude worked out a "Mommy Contract" stating that he'd pay her a monthly salary to her own bank, pay for her to get a new car, cover the childcare costs and a whole bunch of other stuff. All stuff he said he'd do because they were trying for a child, but they went to a lawyer and got it all put in a legal document. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:43 AM |
| 11 | What are your thoughts on prenups?A prenup is 100% a great idea. For example my property and assets are worth about five times what the assets my husband brought to the marriage are worth. I had all this before I even met him. It's mine and in the event of a divorce I wanted a legal document detailing that. We did crazy paperwork on both ends before we married, new wills, prenups for both of us. It's just smart if you're going into a legal partnership like marriage to make sure you protect what's yours. My married Bestie went on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 47 | Treat yourself well & Treat Yourself ... you will be less likely to fall for LVMsThis is SO important... Treat yourself, spoil yourself! Get yourself used to the idea that "YES! You deserve the very best" ( because you do ) It makes it so much easier to say "If a man doesn't treat me as good as I treat myself then he's worthless" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:39 AM |
| 17 | “But I want him to know that I’m not a gold digger and easy to be with.” NO! He will take you on a coffee date and spend the money (the $5 😂🤣😂) you saved him on dinner with another woman who has higher standards than you do.Whenever I hear the word "golddigger" all I can think of is that scene from Game of Thrones https://imgur.com/gallery/rspfPVu | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 11:53 PM |
| 9 | I just love everything about this absolute Queen!!I love this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:53 PM |
| 4 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.A pocket size boating air horn is a good thing to have with you. https://falconsafety.com/shop/horns/non-flammable/sonic-blast-1oz-with-clip/ If you set one off right in some scrotes face it will rattle him, and draw the attention of other people. Compact enough to clip on your purse or carry in the purse or a coat pocket. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 06:45 PM |
| 3 | How to view your Reddit follower listThank you! I was wondering how you did that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 06:27 PM |
| 10 | The CheckI nearly exhaled my beer coming back and reading this and all the comments after. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 01:03 AM |
| 1 | LVM with HV qualitiesThe things you listed as "HV" qualities are honestly just the bare minimum for being a decent human. The bar really is in hell when washing yourself and brushing your hair is considered anything but NORMAL....it's definitely not "exceptional" or HV to be clean and smell nice. If I had to tell a guy "You smell, go shower" or remind them to brush their hair I'd start feeling like their mom. I'm not going to mother anyone that's not my own child, and even then by age 8 or so a kid of mine would KNO… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:20 PM |
| 39 | I Always Wanted to Date a Man I Could Look Up To. It Appears There Aren't Any.Men with big degrees, like men with big wallets, are often the biggest assholes. I find it hilarious that the ones who try for big degrees and fail or never finish them still try to act like they're better than everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:25 PM |
| 285 | A personal realization: why losers leave during cancer.OP you are a badass, and I'm laying a stone on my altar for you and praying you win your cancer fight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 03:19 AM |
| 1 | How do you dress at home when living with an SO? Do you feel pressured to dress for his “male gaze.” Does he complain or suggest things? Y’alls experience?Before my dude I'd lived alone so long that NOBODY was going to get me to change or even to rethink my comfort levels when I'm at home. I need to dress super fancy for work and I like to seriously dress up for going out, but the minute I get home it's bra off, heels off and either a comfy dress ( cheap velvet shifts in winter, little sundresses in summer ) or if I've got a project to work on old jeans and a tshirt or sweatshirt. My dude who's now my husband used to think the velvet winter comfy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Those of you in a relationship with a HVM: How did you two meet?My husband is the nephew of this really sweet very old dude my friends and I play darts with at our favorite dive bar. He was at the bar with his uncle one night and we really connected. He asked to take me on a real date before we parted ways that night, and we texted all week and the first real date was awesome... good restaurant, fancy drinks after dinner at a place I had never explored, no pressure for sex just good company... took us two hours to finish our dinner because we were talking so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 06:48 PM |
| 6 | TIL: The Left Hates Women Having Reproductive Choice with Their Whole Being. Their new tactic is to smear Sexual Selection as “TERF and Nazi propaganda” with doctored screenshots. Did You Know Not Having Sex With Men You Don’t Want To is Eugenics?There's some scary shit in the gene pool on my dad's side of the family. If my paternal aunt had access to genetic testing and learned about her recessive bad genes back in the early 80s she would have never even tried to have a child. My cousin on that side was a sweet wonderful boy who only lived 8 pain filled years before dying. Broke my aunt's heart. My dad dodged the bullet and my sis and bro and I are all healthy. Except for I have the same recessive gene so... if I had ever wanted childre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | My personal projectWe've had some good weather, warm days, only a little rain.... so every day after work and on weekends my dude and I are working on the garage apartment project. Kinda been offline a bit because of it. We're a little ahead of schedule to have this safe space finished though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 03:35 AM |
| 28 | Walked out on my Toxic FamilyA million hugz for you! You are a badass and you are gonna be ok! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 03:20 AM |
| 4 | ‘Who are YOU’ - a poem on the therapeutic, necessary nature of anger and it’s ability to spark change.If I get permission from the creator of this work of word-art I absolutely will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 02:31 AM |
| 3 | ‘Who are YOU’ - a poem on the therapeutic, necessary nature of anger and it’s ability to spark change.I'm hoping OP allows me + friends to perform this. I have some killer ideas for costumes and presentation already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 12:34 AM |
| 15 | ‘Who are YOU’ - a poem on the therapeutic, necessary nature of anger and it’s ability to spark change.Hey, OP..... May I please have your permission to perform this with my friends? There's an open mic event I go to that should be re-opening soon and I think the people I know and I could turn this into a seriously kick-ass spoken word performance. We'll perform in costume with full-face masks so I think everyone would 100% feel safe allowing me to send you a recording of the performance to share everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 12:33 AM |
| 9 | ‘Who are YOU’ - a poem on the therapeutic, necessary nature of anger and it’s ability to spark change.This is beyond amazing!! I love this so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 11:55 PM |
| 15 | Why I only accept dinner dates when vetting a man.Good for you! 👑👑👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 08:10 PM |
| 50 | LVM have always and will always diminish powerful women. Continue being powerful, Queens 👑I'll do an official book review post of it as soon as I'm done with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 102 | LVM have always and will always diminish powerful women. Continue being powerful, Queens 👑Just ordered the book.... Cleopatra was always one of my favorite historical women and I know the writers of her era ( mostly Roman ) had skewed her story badly because of the politics of the era. I can't wait to read a book NOT based on the inaccurate bullshit from centuries ago that modern historians keep perpetuating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:53 PM |
| 12 | Why I only accept dinner dates when vetting a man.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:43 PM |
| 72 | Internalized misogyny starts early in a girl's life and trains her to value the opinions of others always over her own. It takes time and unlearning to overcome this - be patient with yourself!I grew up half'n'half.... I'd be a tomboy all week but for church on Sundays I wanted to dress like a princess. I took ballet and loved it, and took karate and loved that too. I have to thank my mom and Nana for always encouraging me to do what I liked best. It really confused me when I wasn't around my family that other people expected me to only have one side to me. If I liked matchbox cars I couldn't like My Little Ponies. If I wanted to be fancy then I couldn't EVER play rough and get dirty.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:43 PM |
| 159 | My self-esteem glow-up since FDS:Because we know our worth and they can’t stand it. It’s pathetic. Absolutely! If we know we look good and act like it we get called conceited. Like women aren't "allowed" to have any pride .... not only about our looks, but they love to belittle our accomplishments and skills... anything to keep us down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 17 | Why I only accept dinner dates when vetting a man.May I start using this quote? It's brilliant! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:10 PM |
| 53 | Why I only accept dinner dates when vetting a man.If I have to pay for my dinner, I might as well take myself out. I’d make better company 90% time anyway. Amen to that!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:09 PM |
| 41 | Yup. Especially how creepy most of the men giving out compliments areNothing puts a bigger smile on my face than some other lady complimenting me. It's never intrusive or creepy and it's always an exchange of compliments because I always give one back. I make a point of telling at least five random women I don't know something nice every day... in line at coffee, out shopping, women walking by when I'm having my after work beers. It's often more than five.... because y'all ladies are all so beautiful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond when men ask questions or make comments about your intelligence?I love this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:33 AM |
| 14 | You aren't "making him wait" to have sexI love this post so much!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:53 PM |
| 6 | Kick him out 2021: What do you refuse to stand for?He lied to me about his new job being remote and then said "You have to sell your house so we can move" after I called him out on it. I was pretty close to dumping him anyway he turned into a total useless slug after he lost his fancy job. Unfortunately my dumb ass had let him move in with me because I felt bad for him... also I thought he'd pick up another job ASAP ( he didn't ) and when I tried my networking skills to get him another job he blew off every opportunity. I just went nuclear with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 03:50 PM |
| 23 | Self Appreciation or Gratitude: what do you love about yourself?I'm also appreciating my hair today. Got the ends trimmed yesterday and it's just perfect today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 03:42 PM |
| 6 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?I love the sword idea!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:15 PM |
| 5 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?You're the one who will be wearing it every day, you want to look at your finger and be pleased with what you see, right? If your dude is HVM he will learn what you like and what your taste is and then always give you things that make you happy. !!!Only accepting things that please you or are your personal style is absolutely a high standard.!!! I only carry black or burgundy purses, it's a quirk I've had for years so I don't care if you're dropping $40G on the Hermes Birkin, if it ain't black o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:12 PM |
| 2 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?I never thought I'd get married... I had put marriage out of my mind so long that I didn't really have a wishlist for a proposal or any ideas about a ring. I knew two big things I DIDN'T want though... No proposal in a restaurant or other venue full of strangers I don't like being put on the spot like that. No yellow gold or diamond rings, I don't wear diamonds except for family heirloom ones. I told my dude those things up front when marriage first got mentioned between us. After that... well t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:04 PM |
| 116 | I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit.Wonderful post! Thank you for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:34 PM |
| 26 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallHave you ladies noticed something.... Whenever someone points out in the comments about a celebrity's looks fading for a reason like cancer or mental health meds... Women feel bad for ripping on someone with cancer damage or other such causes of a decline in looks. Men who rip on women's looks are NEVER that understanding. You're expected to look like a supermodel while you're in chemo treatment or dealing with the side effects of treating your mental health. And yet men say we have no empathy. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:25 PM |
| 4 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallSame.... soooo much the same. He was my ultimate crush in that movie when I was 10 years old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:19 PM |
| 7 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallOh damn I just watched Angel Heart this weekend.... I had forgotten how good looking he used to be.... but he used to be a FINE looking man.... now he looks like an old homeless drunk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallYet another one of my celebrity crushes that went downhill so badly it's sad. Young Brendan in Encino Man was so damn cute. Then in The Mummy.... damn he grew up hot... Now.... he looks like the creepy old uncle everyone thinks might be a pedophile. It's awful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:17 PM |
| 3 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallVal Kilmer 😭😭😭 I got the biggest crush on him as Madmartigan in Willow when I was 10 years old. I credit that character with giving me my lifelong lust for pretty long haired men in armor who are badass swordfighters. ( I also credit Sorsha in that movie for my lifelong goal that I've since achieved of ME being a badass swordfighter ... and yes I have a fully functional set of Sorsha armor and her sword because I'm a dork like that. ) Then Val in Real Genius was so.... droolworthy. And Tombstone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:12 PM |
| 4 | We’re both mid-30s lawyers. This is first date offer lol.All I could think was "Yeah sure, I'd love to go with a man I barely know to a secluded nature spot with no people around where it's likely my phone won't get enough signal to call for help when he starts getting rapey. Throwing myself blindly into an obvious danger situation is totally my style" 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:59 PM |
| 26 | The First Date DebateI was instantly physically and mentally attracted to my dude the first night I met him. He's the relative of a nice old man that's a bar acquaintance of my 3 Besties and I and the minute I got introduced I was all "wow he's good-looking" it took 10 minutes of conversation and I was all "oh wow he's got a brain too". Definitely caught my interest. We ended up having beers and playing darts together all night and because he and I were the only smokers we got some alone time while out smoking. ( We… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:28 PM |
| 2 | My personal projectUpdate for May 19 I've gotten messages from all the ladies I've placed in jobs. Their first few days have gone well, everyone's getting settled into their new routines but everyone is happy with their new bosses and coworkers. Unfortunately the FDS mods declined to allow me to start the new sub under the name I'd chosen. So I've rethought things and decided to start an off-Reddit website for networking, job help and mentoring. I've hired two local women to create my website and after its launch … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:28 PM |
| 13 | Tell me about the HV people in your livesMy 3 Besties.... all smart, tough, wonderful women. We've been close as blood sisters for over a decade now. I know and they know that we'll always be there for each other. My god-daughter is amazingly badass. I love seeing her progress in life. In three years I get to call her Dr. Kiddo and I am so proud of her for chasing the higher education goal. My little bro is definitely HVM, and my little sister and her soon-to-be wife are bright shining lights in the world. The dude I married continues … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 06:05 AM |
| 60 | Buying you things doesn’t make a man an HVMI'm the opposite, I'm a perfume junkie. Guess what my LVM ex never bought me. Despite me telling him I'd like some and it always being on my wishlists for the holidays. I even made my wishlists in "Dumb Guy Format" with the name, designer AND where to buy it at so he didn't even have to google where to find what I wanted. Nope, he couldn't manage even with that. He did dump some ugly Hermes earrings on me... big price tag and I hated them... I dislike yellow gold and wearing designer logos. He g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:16 AM |
| 153 | Buying you things doesn’t make a man an HVMThis post gets a standing ovation from me. You rock, OP for getting away from your shitty ex and sharing your story so other women won't get sucked into the same trap. My job is 99% dealing with rich entitled jerks. The bigger the wallet, the bigger the asshole is the norm, I've seen very few exceptions to that. Be very wary of a rich guy who offers to "take care of you", in fact vet that kind of man harder than you would just your average dude. If you've got a guy who gives you super expensive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 07:04 AM |
| 18 | Tired of being shamed for wanting my own big houseFuck the haters and the shamers. Every woman deserves the kind of home that she likes best. I went for the big Victorian kind of home that was always my dream house, my Nana's cousin had one full of gorgeous antiques and from childhood on I wanted a house just like hers... so I went out and got it for myself. ....for a long time I was single and I always intended to be childfree.... and I didn't NEED all that room I just wanted it and that's what I got. Every time somebody said "you don't need t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 10:24 PM |
| 5 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?Although I blocked and deleted him years ago I occasionally hear through the grapevine that my last ex is still bitching about me. And bitching that he's stagnated at work and can't rise any higher and is still renting and will never be able to buy a home where he lives. 😹😹😹 I don't have a fuck left to give... everything is great in my world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 12:39 AM |
| 16 | Share your standards!You knowing how to do basic maintenance puts you ahead of the game for most people. !!Good for you!! I'm going to give you the same recommendations I've been giving beginner car-fixers for a long time. First get the Chiltons or Haynes manual for your particular car. ( This is good for most US and Euro cars ...Chiltons/Haynes are easy to understand and have less jargon and better diagrams ) If you're in the USA... most tech schools have a cheap "beginner auto maintenance" class... go do that you'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:48 AM |
| 41 | Share your standards!One of the reasons my "dude" became my husband was the way he humbly asked me would I come help him fix a nasty tricky problem on his personal car. That really sticks with me how that went down He's competent as a mechanic for most car stuff but his personal "thing" is bikes and if it were a motorcycle he wouldn't have needed help .... but he got stuck on an issue with his car, asked if I would help because "I know you know your shit and I'm stuck and need your help" When I got there he held the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:02 AM |
| 14 | Share your stories about men wanting to continue their "legacy"My dude's father was FURIOUS with him because he wouldn't pressure his ex-wife into having more children when they didn't end up with a boy. They'd planned for two kids, had two daughters and after the second kid my dude went to get snipped....that's what he and his ex-wife had agreed to, only two kids and then vasectomy for him. My dude's father started in with the pressure and meanness the DAY his second granddaughter was born. How's that for scrotefulness... he was bitching about "no boy" and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:52 AM |
| 63 | Share your standards!I could write a list that goes on for miles here.... But I'll just stick to my top 3 A man needs to have a "my kind of clean" home I'm extra house-proud and any signs of neglect or mess at a guy's house would be a dealbreaker. So would the "typical dude apartment" with cheap IKEA furniture and no personality. The first time I visited my dude's place when we were dating it was clean to my standards and full of cared for houseplants and mid-century decor. It's not my style but he does HAVE style a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:57 PM |
| 3 | My personal projectUpdate for May 12th Ladies 7&8 got interviews and hired. One's working at my favorite local antique auction now, the other is now selling Subarus at a dealership where I know the sales manager. ( If she does well at Subaru for a year I will invite her to come sell luxury autos with me and make megabucks I think she's got great sales skills and this will definitely happen ) Lady 9... was just doing porn to fix her car, she said she'd been quoted $4200.00 and she's been doing 1 & 1/2 hour one way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:36 AM |
| 5 | My personal projectUpdate for May 6th Ladies 4, 5 and 6 have interviews on Monday next week. However the interviews are just a formality.... the business owners will be hiring them at the end of the interview, I was guaranteed by all three owners that would happen...the ladies will be working for a furniture restorer, an art gallery, and a fancy hippie store ( teas, incense, natural fiber clothes and recycled product jewelry...that kinda little upscale shop ) My special case Number 3 is doing well, safe at my dude… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 04:10 AM |
| 3 | My personal projectHey are you Reddit savvy? I've started a new sub... just kept it private and made one post I'm still learning how to use the mod tools.... if you'd like to help me mod the sub I'd be grateful. I'll message you an invite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 11:09 PM |
| 7 | My personal projectYou don't have to be rich/connected to do stuff like this. Everyone is connected ... you have a Facebook or Instagram right? If your job, or families jobs or friends jobs are hiring TELL other women. If another woman is posting about being treated badly comment and tell her she deserves better. Tiny activism does work. If you plant seeds they'll grow. Choose a domestic violence shelter in your area to support, even if you only give them $5 a month every little bit helps. Look up female owned bus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 02:30 PM |
| 6 | My personal projectI was thinking the same thing but I'm not sure I'm Reddit savvy enough to do that. I was looking up how to start and mod a new sub last night. I'll make a post later today on FDS and see if I can get some Reddit ladies to serve as other mods for it and with a little help that might get started this weekend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 8 | My personal projectAlright.... I'll give it a try but I need some more info.....what do you like to do that you're comfortable doing? Can be your hobby, or what job you've liked best in the past. Give me a few more parameters to work with and I can probably pinpoint something and at least point you in the direction of some niche jobs that you might not have thought of. I'm also thinking if you're shy.... the "work from home" thing that Covid caused to become standard, and that might continue to be normal would be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:48 AM |
| 6 | My personal projectWill do! And thank you for offering! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:36 AM |
| 14 | My personal projectYes, let's do it!! I'm going to do some thinking on how best to set this up.... give me a few days and I'll have a plan and some ideas on how to get that going | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:24 AM |
| 28 | My personal projectWell here's an update **EDIT..... formatting.... sorry y'all 3 of 11 today. 3 is full of triggers, so read at your own risk. And my new assistant is 🔥🔥🔥.... I literally have nothing to do at work this afternoon because of her, she blew through my paperwork almost as fast as I do it myself, and with her up front I don't have to lock my office door from my nosy co-workers when I'm out anymore. So here are the successes so far. 1 is going to be a receptionist at a classic car repair shop starting n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:44 PM |
| 15 | Patriarchy as Psychological Warfare Part 2: Demoralization - aka the Patriarchy's #1 Most Effective Tool (and what to do about it)Excellent read! Awesome ideas! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 02:24 AM |
| 6 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?Thank you 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:08 AM |
| 4 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?Thank you 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 5 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?Thank you 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 77 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?I'm working on networking some acquaintances into REAL jobs so they can get off camgirl sites. Decided after reading some stuff here this week that if I could help other women ditch the OnlyFans then I should go ahead and do that. Time to put my "I know everyone in this town" to work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 10:02 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?My dude actually has a hyphenated last name that his daughters share....in his first marriage they decided to go that way with the names.... and after the divorce it was such a pain in the ass to change all the legal stuff he never changed it back. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 13 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?I'm getting married this Friday.... I'm not changing my name. I've had my last name for 43 years, why change now and deal with the bother of getting a new ID, and changing the name on all my accounts and legal stuff? My dude asked me if I wanted to change my name, I said no, that was the end of it.... he doesn't care as long as I'm happy. If we were going to have kids we'd just do it the Spanish way where the kids add their mother AND their father's last name at the end but it's acceptable to us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:30 PM |
| 15 | We need more kink shamingTHIS So much this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:52 PM |
| 3 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I'm hoping that acquaintance comes here, I told her about this Reddit sub. She's needed to boot that dude outta her life for a looooong time for SO many reasons, not just the "forever GF" thing. Maybe a read of the handbook will help her wake up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:00 PM |
| 6 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.Yeah I was going to say.... using your good looks for bartending isn't as bad as OnlyFans but it does have its own dangers. You're still selling flirting for tips so the men think YOU are also for sale. When I was slinging drinks dudes would wait til close and try and catch me alone locking up or walking to my car sooooo many times. The bar owner was cool though, he'd always stay til the end and walk the servers and bar staff out to our rides. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 02:43 PM |
| 18 | We need more kink shamingYes PLEASE Although I wish we could call it ABUSEshaming instead because that's what people who question kink are doing. They aren't shaming others who have been abused, they're pointing out to others that they ARE being abused and mistreated. They are intending to shame the people who ABUSE others and cover it up by calling it "kink", not the victims of the abuse. I'm not "shaming" anybody when I ask them to be honest, do they really LIKE being choked and slapped or do they only do it out of co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 01:50 AM |
| 72 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I really love when other women start waking up and begin expecting better things out of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:18 PM |
| 111 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I really hate hearing this. The Only Fans epidemic is worse than the Covid epidemic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:17 PM |
| 310 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I've discovered that after being part of FDS for a few months that I'm just dishing out the concepts and standards by reflex now. Lady at work was talking about her "great coffee date" today and I was all "Sooooooo he put in the least amount of effort on that huh?" ...and watched the light bulb flash on in her head about it. Chatting online with an acquaintance I was pointing out that "if he hasn't proposed after 4 years he's not going to... it's time to just drop him and move on" The FDS stuff … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 08:50 PM |
| 1 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?My ultimate dealbreakers are: Bad teeth and bad breath Ugly uncared for feet or fingernails Excessive sweating and funky body odor Massive amounts of tattoos and piercings two-three of those is cool whole sleeves and a face full of metal is not. Dresses sloppy all the time .... I walked out on a symphony date that showed up in shorts once... you gotta DRESS to go to nice events with me.... ( doesn't have to be a tux although that's preferred, but damn, wear a fucking suit!! ) Unkempt facial hair… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 06:48 PM |
| 24 | I’ve been seeing an uptick in the posts and comments on here criticizing beauty and performative femininity, here’s some more food for thought :)🖤🦇🖤 You're welcome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:14 AM |
| 115 | I’ve been seeing an uptick in the posts and comments on here criticizing beauty and performative femininity, here’s some more food for thought :)I actually had a LOT to say to the lady who deleted her comment 😿😿😿 I'll just comment with what I wrote anyway Since you brought up the goth example 👋👋👋 Hi 43 year old goth/metalhead who has been gothing since my teens. Goth women are still unfortunately held to quite a high standard of needing to being "hot" by goth men AND their female goth peers. Don't feel like putting on elaborate make up that will just melt during the summer and just wanna go out to dance in your favorite band tshirt and h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 26 | POLL: DOES/HAS HE PRETEND(ED) HE CAN’T FIND YOUR VAGINA DURING SEX?When I was in my 20s a guy I dated tried that bullshit. I shoved him off me and left his house and did not look back. He called and called and whined and acted like I was overreacting... damn idiot filled up my answering machine for days and got nowhere. ( This was back when your "voicemail" was a box with a cassette tape in it and blocking someone wasn't really a thing 😹 I'm kinda ancient 😹 ) It's never really an "oops" ... it's always VERY deliberate and intentional when they try and put it in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys think that sex can be good even if you don’t orgasm?I wouldn't put up with it, personally. Sex is supposed to be fun and GOOD for both people. So if I'm not going to be getting off, then I'm not having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 05:14 PM |
| 16 | Ladies how do you handle bills in marriage/long term relationships?Oh also I didn't expect every date to be paid for, BUT every time a dinner bill came he'd grab it first. I sincerely offered to split several times and he'd just say "Thank you, but no" The other dates like concerts or booking the hot springs trip...by the time we'd finished talking about the plans he'd already be emailing me confirmation numbers for whatever. So far I still have paid for exactly ONE date, some beers for us a little while ago when my Google Pay was screwed up and I wanted to mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:33 PM |
| 23 | Ladies how do you handle bills in marriage/long term relationships?When my dude officially moves into the house I own free and clear, he'll be taking over all the "small bills" water, gas, electric, garbage, internet etc. ( We're just adding his name and his debit card to the bills, not removing my name. ) Then each of us will do half on the house taxes and homeowners insurance. We'll keep our separate phone bills and insure our own vehicles separately. Credit cards will also be separate, so we'll just keep our old ones and not merge the credit. We plan to have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:26 PM |
| 68 | Discussion: why do men think they can bring nothing to the table and still be valued? Why should we value a man who offers NOTHING?We shouldn't value a man that doesn't add to our lives. I was on a break from dating and relationships when I met my dude. I had a life that revolved around my hobbies and my passions, spending time with my 3 Besties, doing things that made me happy when I met him. Dude added to that. Not only did he happily join me in stuff I liked, and TAKE me to things I liked catching the tab for my usual fun I would have been doing on my own....he showed me new things that I hadn't experienced. I'd actually… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:23 AM |
| 16 | Sick and tired of hearing i "look good for my age"Oooh! I like this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:16 AM |
| 35 | Sick and tired of hearing i "look good for my age"That phrase always trips my temper. I hate, hate, hate being told "You look good for your age" It's NOT a compliment. It's actually an insult I usually flip back "Nah... I just look GOOD!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerThank you. It has been awesome. Honestly because Covid screwed up me being able to recover at one of my besties' houses I was going to put the surgery off again but dude stepped up and insisted I go ahead and he'd take care of me. He's really lived up to my needs and expectations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerMy current relationship is the absolute best I've ever had for division of labor. During my recovery from surgery my dude was doing 100% of things at my house. And doing them really well. One of the things that I really liked about him when we were just dating was that his apartment was "my kind of clean" no dirty ceiling fans, under the stove hood was clean, no ring in the bathtub etc. He knows how to make things nice at home. I think now we're about 75/25 in my favor at my house mostly because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 01:05 AM |
| 10 | (Xpost) "Today this gentleman brought me a flower... He wow’s me every day" I just wanna get myself a gentleman like him...Love this kitty! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 12:07 AM |
| 9 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlYou're welcome. It didn't used to be very common, a domme and her sub used to do financial things more in a "sugar daddy" kind of way, he'd buy expensive gifts but they were almost always geared to his pleasure like shoe fetish stuff or kinky outfits. I've been out of the loop about 5 years and only on the fringe of BDSM but it looks like "findom" has gotten a pretty big following now. Although 99.9% of the guys who claim to be into it don't actually have the money to play the game from what I c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:48 PM |
| 11 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlFinancial domination. The men usually are called "pay pigs" and part of the kink is getting the women to talk about them online saying how much they paid. In theory it's about a man giving you all his money to do what you want with. In practice, you'll be buying the lingerie HE wants to see you in and getting your nails done in HIS favorite color and other such things because he really only wants control of you. One of the few times I dommed online I took the guy's money and bought my car new ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:41 PM |
| 10 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlThank you. It took me a long time to realize that no matter how many sane and reasonable discussions I would have with people in the kink community.... at the end it would always devolve into them defending the indefensible.... just like an addict. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Well here's me wishing you a very long long time of having your familiar around. He sounds like a wonderful purrball and companion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:33 PM |
| 9 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlSome of the kinksters I know now have legal age children. Every "kinky parent" I consider to be the better kind of BDSM enthusiasts.... absolutely is horrified at the thought of their now young 20s kids turning up at a fetish night. And not just because it'd be weird to see mommy & daddy wearing kink gear. I've heard things like "they're way too young to be exploring this" "I'm afraid they'll run into someone bad who will hurt them" And yes that applies to both the daughters AND the sons. If tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:26 PM |
| 5 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”😻😻😻 I love listening to Maus talk, my friend has two and they are very chatty and opinionated. And her girl kitty sounds a lot like Eartha Kitt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:08 PM |
| 9 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlI've seen both the worst and the best in the kink community. I was ranting about the worst.... but what about the better people? The ones who practice aftercare, the ones who try and help or shield the more vulnerable ones from getting too deep into it? The better, more decent sort of kinkster is still an unhappy human from what I've observed. Their relationships are like watching a really wild telenovela... it's always a trainwreck of one sort or another. Nobody's happy. The kink just takes ove… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlReally loving reading what you're writing here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 08:48 PM |
| 45 | Femdom/findom/dominatrix is just a porny illusion of power and controlMy two favorite music scenes often overlap the BDSM kink world. So....after attending many fetish events and watching from the sidelines and early on occasionally participating as a domme... here are my observations based on roughly 17 years experience. ( This will be a long one ) BDSM does not ever lead to happy healthy relationships for anyone involved. Introduce heavy kink to a relationship and all you end up with is cycles of drama and stress with occasional breaks for an orgasm. ( usually o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 08:43 PM |
| 10 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Ah, yes... the kitty tit-walk. 😬😬😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:14 PM |
| 60 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”I'd LOVE to be woken up gently by my cats. 😹😹😹 My tuxie stands on my head and howls in the mornings. My grey licks toes to get me out of bed. I love my purrballs so much, but they're both strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:44 AM |
| 10 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”I love that she hasn't called him in a week. Bye, dude, you ARE the asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:39 AM |
| 6 | Anahit - The Queen Who Made the King Get a JobThat whole website is awesome.... I'm hooked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:21 PM |
| 62 | Any tips on how to deal with mensplaining?In work situations I wait until they've run out of steam, not replying or acknowledging them.... then I use polite phrases like "It seems like you're having trouble mastering the finer points of this concept would you like me to summarize the bare basics for you?" ... levels of sarcasm can be varied to suit the situation but I like to put on a "genuinely trying to help the slow person" smile and tone of voice just to drive the point home. In social situations.... I've found just walking away in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:39 PM |
| 84 | Beautiful WomenI grew up with a younger sister who is literally Barbie. Tall, blonde, busty and pretty face. I'm shorter, sharp featured and less curvy. I got compared to my beautiful sister by some men, and told I was the beautiful one by other men. The whole mess of it was TO KEEP BOTH SISTERS INSECURE. ( Thank all the gods my mother would tell off anyone who compared us when we were children and always let us know we were both beautiful... it gave us both the foundation of strength to ignore what is now "ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:35 PM |
| 31 | Question (hopefully discussion) about initiating sexI think it's about building up the passion. My personal examples would be petting my hair and then the sweet loving kind of kisses, then the REAL passionate kisses if we're starting from just doing the typical kind of day together stuff. That will 99.9% of the time get us to the bedroom where it's all down to mood really.... maybe I want a wild ride....maybe I want slow and sensual, I never know til I get there. 😹 It's not the same starter for everyone so basically it's good if the dude is doing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:18 PM |
| 35 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?Reddit and Android phones aren't playing nicely together lately, it's why I've been vanished. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:02 PM |
| 15 | I love being tall. There I said it.I love this!! Rock on!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:40 PM |
| 42 | Getting messaged by scrote lurkers?I just go through the messages and block/delete ... maybe once a week I clean out the bullshit in my inbox and block scrotes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:26 AM |
| 3 | Men who lie about their careerswhen he finally told me his last name That's a red flag right there.... I usually get that from dudes I meet when I'm out dancing ...now they know to introduce themselves by just a first name... because they know they're at least going to get Googled later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 05:18 AM |
| 8 | Men who lie about their careersFrom my last attempt at OLD many years ago: "I import antiques from the Asian market/own an antique store" Nooooo, dude, your cousin owns the antique store and does the importing....YOU are just a furniture mover/retail worker for your relative's business. 😹😹😹 He told me the name of the store he worked at and the lie just blew up in his face... I've SHOPPED there often enough that I know who the owner is. But of course he was sure I quit seeing him "because I'm a snobby bitch who won't give a gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Wow, how can you be this cheap? (From Apple News by the way)That guy is the King of Pathetic, and lacking in good manners. Let's all take a minute to laugh at him and clap for her for ditching him!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:23 AM |
| 24 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"👍👍👍 Yeah he does! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:26 AM |
| 60 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"A real HVM will wait however long it takes until you're comfortable and ready. Pressuring someone to cross a boundary is rude and awful behavior. Every person in this world has the right to set their boundaries at a level where they feel safe and comfortable. Every human gets to say what they will and will not do with their own body. 3 months.... 6 months....a year... not til marriage.... You do you... only YOU get to say when you're ready for sex and anyone who gives you crap for that oughtta b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:25 AM |
| 11 | They want you to prove you’re worthy to them. If you have to prove to be worthy of commitment- he’s not worth yours.😹😹😹 Let's just reverse that and listen to all the scrotes howling. What exactly are YOU bringing to the table my dude? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 09:05 PM |
| 1 | What's the status of your love life as of NOW?Over a year of really GOOD happy loving relationship. Honestly the best one of my entire life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Out of curiosity, what’s the special flavor of scrote from where you’re from?Scary accurate.... I'm so glad to be off the market. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 11:13 AM |
| 2 | What to gift my HVM on valentine’s?I've written my dude a love letter on super-fancy paper. And I have an order of custom chocolates I'm picking up for him tomorrow.... banana creme truffles... they're very 🤢🤢🤢 in my opinion, but he loves them so... he's getting some. My suggestion is definitely GOOD candy. Godiva or something that caliber or better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:23 AM |
| 11 | You are beautiful and should surround yourself with beautiful things. 🥰☀️💕Lovely flowers!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:54 PM |
| 2 | I took myself out all morning and only did what I wanted. Took as long as I wanted and ate what I wanted. Then I treated myself to a fancy new perfume and didn’t fuss over the price. 🤷🏻♀️ Done waiting for some LVM to treat me like I deserveYes!!! Jo Malone perfumes are so awesome! I love reading posts like this of other ladies treating themselves right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Armed and dangerous?I usually have a couple of knives on me when I'm out by myself... honestly it's just habit...these days I'm too injured to properly defend myself with knives unfortunately. And the older I get the more cautious I get about fight vs. flight. I've got my concealed carry and a guns I'm comfortable with and practiced enough to actually carry and use properly but for most of my life I've only had a firearm with me if I'm on a solo trip out of town. I don't feel it's necessary to carry one in my home … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:40 AM |
| 27 | Buying yourself a ring and loving yourself is trending!I really like this idea of self-love gifts. What better way to remind yourself just how valuable you are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:58 PM |
| 5 | How many here ended up with the man they met on tinder, bumble and other dating apps?Met mine at a crappy dive bar through a bar acquaintance. We hung out all night. 😹😹😹 Our first real date 3 days later after a lot of text conversations was fondue at a nice restaurant and drinks after that at a swanky old hotel bar I'd never been to though. So he had the right idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Expecting sex from injured/ill women 🤬Your story breaks my heart. I am so sorry you were abused by your boyfriend and extra sorry that your mom didn't protect you and added to the abuse. It really cuts deep especially because our injury history is so similar ...the original destroying of my leg happened at age 15 ( fuck drunk drivers!! ) and I spent a year bombed on heavy opiods and had to relearn walking. I am so sorry you were treated so badly while you were going through hell. I'm so hoping you're not like me and didn't get the k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:24 AM |
| 20 | Expecting sex from injured/ill women 🤬Yeah he did "Fuckoff, man" and he gave the asshole a look mean enough that the jerk moved off to another table. Kinda all I wanted anyway, of all the people that are bar regulars along with us, I really REALLY can't stand that one rude scrote even though we only see his dumb ass like twice a month. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 08:34 AM |
| 16 | Expecting sex from injured/ill women 🤬Thank you! I've actually had a great recovery so far, mostly thanks to my dude looking after me. I was supposed to be getting the cast off NEXT Saturday but everything looked so good today they went ahead and did it. I've hit every post-surgery milestone early and am going to be back up to peak condition by the end of this year. I chose wisely with this dude. Yeah he wants sex and so do I but not at the expense of my health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:24 AM |
| 50 | Expecting sex from injured/ill women 🤬Damn I am so sorry you were abused like that. It's absolutely fucking cruel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:49 AM |
| 18 | This whole post is a dumpster fire of immeasurable levels but the amount of red flags in the background info alone is mind blowing.I don't even have words. That poor woman I hope she leaves him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 03:27 AM |
| 5 | Celebrate with me!Congratulations!! Good for you that's an awesome level-up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 03:26 AM |
| 11 | So we know what careers are more than likely a red flag. What are careers that you see as a green flag when dating?I've found with my new dude that it's not WHAT they do, it's IF they like their work and have a good balance of work happiness and drive and manage to avoid the trap of work obsession My LVM ex did techie stuff and he was always bitching and griping at home about problems or work-related drama, he was obsessed with his job and the "status" he thought it gave him. It was boring and annoying to deal with. My new dude likes his job and the people he works with but it's not the ONLY thing in his lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:50 AM |
| 177 | Here is what my hijab (headscarf) taught me about male entitlement, the male gaze, and the conditionality of men's treatment of womenI really enjoyed reading this and found myself thinking deeply about the things you've said here. I'm gonna save this to re-read and think more about later. Thanks for putting this out here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 11:53 PM |
| 20 | Professional goldsmith makes a Mother's Ring for his wife and mother of their 3 children. I cried watching this video because the way he talks about his wife is so beautiful! Knowing that there are high value men like this out there, makes me not want to settle for love that is anything less.In the South it is... my mom, both grandmas and sooooo many women in my hometown had a mom's/grandma's ring or a charm bracelet with all the kids' or grandkids' birthstones and names or initials on it. It really is a very sweet tradition because it's usually given on Mother's Day and typically the dads and the kids or the grandpas and the kids pick it out together as soon as the youngest kid is old enough to have an opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 11:47 PM |
| 8 | Scrote threw out her skincare. She works 12 hour shifts, pays the bills, and pays for his "hobbies" . And what does he offer? Nada. He threw out her safe space 😤I would have booted him right out of the house that minute. No wait, I would have given him a boot to the head first. What sort of ungrateful bastard does this to someone who is housing them, feeding them AND giving them access to their own hobbies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 11:41 PM |
| 4 | To celebrate me, and the shiny future ahead of me.Very cool ring! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:19 AM |
| 8 | Love seeing everyone’s ring/car/etc pictures!! Jumping on the bandwagon to show off my special earrings made of opal and petrified wood. Story in comments. Happy New Year Queens! 👑Those are awesome! Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:17 AM |
| 3 | [Rant] Men are far more 'high maintenance' than any 'high maintenance' woman I've ever metThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 01:16 AM |
| 29 | That’s what I thoughtOh that last part had me tearing up, you just don't see that in younger men, the man taking care of a sick wife in her old age thing. It melts my heart and makes me weepy every time I read another story like yours where the man took good care at the end because that was my family story too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 01:15 AM |
| 137 | That’s what I thoughtOf all the people who were my grandparents friends this really was the norm. All the husbands took a tiny fraction of "spending cash" and the rest was for the wife to run the house with. You were actually looked down on if your wife didn't have access to your pay envelope or your checkbook. Yes, adhering to both gender roles so strongly often left the people out who weren't geared for them, and it put heavy burdens on BOTH sexes. ....and this fictional narrative modern dudes cling to of the subm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:51 PM |
| 16 | That’s what I thoughtAw! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:44 PM |
| 297 | That’s what I thoughtThese males hyping "traditional roles" always have no clue. I just keep thinking of the story my maternal Grandpa told me about how after he got married every week he'd take a $5 bill out of his pay envelope for himself and then give ALL the rest of his earnings to my Nana because running the house was her job and paying for her to run the house was his job. He was trying to explain inflation to me.... in 1986 he said he was NOW keeping a whole $20. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:48 PM |
| 48 | [Rant] Men are far more 'high maintenance' than any 'high maintenance' woman I've ever met"My decision to be high maintenance is because I am high maintenance. It takes a lot of time, work, money and energy to maintain me." THIS really speaks to me.... I have put all this time, work, money and energy into myself for the past 17 years.... so if you can't treat me at least AS good as I treat myself then you are not worth my time, work, money and energy. I'm not who I am and where I am for no good reason. I busted my ass, I learned, I grew, I did without things I wanted in the short ter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:21 PM |
| 14 | He sounds like, erm, the last 6,000 years of patriarchy and all of the mainstream, woman hating religions. Sure men have women’s best interests at heart, as evidenced by history!I loved it!! You are an awesome writer!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 5 | He sounds like, erm, the last 6,000 years of patriarchy and all of the mainstream, woman hating religions. Sure men have women’s best interests at heart, as evidenced by history!Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:54 PM |
| 30 | He sounds like, erm, the last 6,000 years of patriarchy and all of the mainstream, woman hating religions. Sure men have women’s best interests at heart, as evidenced by history!YogiOabs I say this with sincerity, you should trust woman help you with your style because you men aren't capable of not fake-scowling in pictures to look "tough" when you're actually making yourself look like constipated dumbasses. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:08 PM |
| 17 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftI'm wondering about the taco thing too.... it's probably code for something awful but all I can think of is it's the bad joke about calling a vagina a fish taco? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:02 AM |
| 39 | Do you mostly date men who you are viscerally and immediately sexually attracted to on a gut level or do you date a wide range of men and “give guys a chance”?There has got to be that spark for me... I feel like there's no point in dating someone or having a relationship with someone if you don't have mutual desire and attraction. Unfortunately the good looking ones are often lacking in so many aspects that make a relationship worthwhile. What I find even funnier in a sick sad way is that every guy I've "given a chance" to even if they weren't that great looking to me.... has been WORSE than the handsome ones at bringing respect, generosity and affect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:26 AM |
| 26 | I ringed up too! Amazonite and rose gold 💙I love how all these ring posts are also "my nails are awesome" posts. Lovely ring, gorgeous nails. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:00 AM |
| 15 | Where can I find quality diamond rings?Here are three of my favorite spots online to find antique real jewels https://www.langantiques.com https://www.1stdibs.com https://www.rubylane.com/ I've also found amazing pieces for cheap here : https://www.skinnerinc.com If you're looking for antique jewels that you can try on in person just Google search your city for shops that sell estate jewelry. You can find really good stuff at the smaller independent stores dedicated to antique & estate items. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:57 AM |
| 13 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?I find this kinda rude of the guy to whine about money spent on dates. If you invite someone on a date you're supposed to do it because you value and enjoy their company... not because you're keeping score financially and expecting a return. I'm in the same boat as that couple. I make about 3 times my dude's salary even though he's at $125K a year. I own a fancy house, two cars and I don't skimp on myself about anything. He's got an apartment, car, two motorcycles but we are not in the same leag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:57 AM |
| 13 | We doing rings now.Beautiful ring! Congratulations!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:41 PM |
| 4 | Yall said we were getting rings...That's cool! I can probably find it now. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:50 PM |
| 3 | Bought me a ring to celebrate 1 year of living guilt-free and man-free.Congratulations on your freedom! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:37 PM |
| 9 | I'm joining too! I celebrete myself.Love the color of the stone. Lovely ring! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:36 PM |
| 25 | He broke my finger a year ago, and I'm celebrating my freedom and healing with this commitment ring to myself. Long live the rose that grew from concrete!That's a gorgeous ring. Good for you, glad you got away from an abusive man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:34 PM |
| 25 | What in the living f*ck is this thread? 17yo gets slapped in the face during sex and "it sounds like he's a good guy"?!Holy fucking shit.... no, just no. 🤬🤬🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:32 PM |
| 20 | Yall said we were getting rings...Cool rings... and very cool nails!! What's the stone in the purple one/where did you get that? Looks like something my sis's GF would love she's way into purple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:24 PM |
| 15 | I got me a divorce kitty 😆 Man better treat me better and love me as much as this little guy does to get me to spend time with him 😁 Burmese/Siamese snuggle monkey 💕Gorgeous kitty! 😻😻😻 I love the extended pinky-claw! So versatile, from high class tea to cut a fool this cat does it all!! 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:25 AM |
| 19 | I like me so I put a ring on it! It's been lovely to see everyone's blingLovely ring. I've always loved alexandrites! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Y'all, they literally don't stop 😂 I've already posted here a couple days ago with a screenshot from their sub about the rings people are posting 🖕Same!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:25 AM |
| 11 | I'm here to join the self-commitment party!Awesome ring! Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:21 AM |
| 6 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.That's AWESOME..... there totally need to be more female run trucking companies. It was an amazing life when I lived it, I'd time my turnarounds to have three days in whatever city, go see historical stuff, go to whatever goth club was there, made spooky friends all over the country. I always took the maximum of road hours allowed... all my life driving made me happy. I didn't need a place to live, usually the company would drop me in a hotel on turnarounds and I had so much money coming in if I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:19 AM |
| 2 | I want it, I get it!That's a lovely watch. Really looks good on your wrist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:44 PM |
| 2 | A gift from myself, to myselfI'm glad to see another woman treating herself to something pretty! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:43 PM |
| 2 | My divorce ring: when I stopped crying over the loss of a nvm and realised I'd gained myself. This ring marked the end of a bad life chapter, and the beginning of a new one, where I write the rest of my story.Beautiful ring! Congratulations to you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 18 | My commitment ring to myself. I promise to give myself everything I need, deserve, desire, and then some ✨ And a reminder that any man who puts a new ring on this finger first has to treat me even better than I treat me. It’s opal (my birthstone) with rose gold and white topaz! I bought it myself.That's lovely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:33 PM |
| 8 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Ways to make decent money without sex work.... Go be a truck driver. Not even kidding. If you can drive a car, you can learn to drive a big truck. That was my first career, I made bank. There are a lot of companies that will train you for free, or classes are very inexpensive if you want to learn on your own. Get your CDL, and definitely add your Hazmat rating to it, because that'll bump up your earning power. It's not all cross-country long haul like I did ( although the money's better there ) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:28 PM |
| 13 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.I have to say that if I felt like it, I could use the make/model of car to track her down very easily, all I'd have to do is check all silver jeeps bought within two weeks and look at only female owners... I'd get it from a database I use for work but anyone who wanted to pay $30 for the same service could get it online no problem. Scary how easily accessible everything is. 😿 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:59 PM |
| 1 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Congratulations!!! I'm loving all the ring pics too, but as a car nut THIS really speaks to me. There is something so epic about getting the dream car you always wanted. I'm so happy for you. Happy roadtripping!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread belowIf beads are your thing try vintage jewelry. The bead sets from the 50s & 60s come in wild colors and look awesome. Also REAL amber beads are considered high quality by many people, however the vintage jewelry version of "Bakelite amber" can also be beautiful. 😹 I was looking for an example of nice amber beads for you and found this.... except now I'm buying one of them so there's only one left. https://www.etsy.com/listing/553435472/elegant-cherry-amber-necklace-amber Simple pretty amber bead n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:02 AM |
| 15 | One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread belowThat's an elegant design, looks good on your finger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:48 PM |
| 2 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?For my LVM ex .... Custom made leather jacket... red leather with black leather collar & cuffs and fully detailed black scorpion on the back. He said he liked the jacket Ryan Gosling wears in "Drive" but not the colors and he had always wanted a red leather jacket. $1,075 ... at the "friend discount" from a custom leatherworker I know. He gave me some expensive but ugly-to-me Hermes earrings ( I don't like diamonds or yellow gold ) All the presents he ever gave me were not my style, pretty sure … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Why do men think photos of them posing beside luxury cars that don’t belong to them is attractive.Thanks. To be honest though I make good money off of dumb men buying fancy cars so I shouldn't complain so much. 😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Why do men think photos of them posing beside luxury cars that don’t belong to them is attractive.Sorry, the "car thing" is a pet peeve of mine.... I'm with you on it being ridiculous to pose with cars you don't own and not wanting to date a dude who drives a falling apart piece of shit too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:11 PM |
| 11 | I just realizedIt is kinda funny to check the "Stevie Nicks gone BAD" flavor of my old pics... cheap top hat, TOO many velvet scarves layered over my skirts, the shirt with 50,000 ruffles and that damn plum lipstick and enough silver rings and bangles to stock an entire district of Claire's stores. 😹 Poster child for "How NOT to goth" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:38 AM |
| 11 | Why do men think photos of them posing beside luxury cars that don’t belong to them is attractive.Yeah, fancy rentals have been around a few decades... what's funny is a lot of these "Exotic Rental" spots are renting out salvaged title Lamborghinis and such they get at auction ( lot of them come from natural disasters like floods or hurricanes ) or it's former drug dealer cars that were seized and bought cheap at auction. You pay excessive amounts of money per day to rent what's usually a ragged out and refurbished fancy car that's a few years old and typically NOT the latest model or the ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:33 AM |
| 34 | Why do men think photos of them posing beside luxury cars that don’t belong to them is attractive.And why do the men who CAN afford it think flashing a half-million dollar Ferrari automatically makes them a better person? 😹 My career is selling expensive cars to rich idiot assholes. 90% of my clients have so many shortcomings personally that I wouldn't date them if they were the last dude on earth... doesn't matter that they're sitting on several million dollars of garage toys, they're crap humans and not worth my time. Big money items are NOT a substitute for brains, kindness and heart. Mat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:16 AM |
| 112 | I just realizedI'm almost 43... still the same dress size I was at 23, everyone says I look young....and honestly I don't care. I'm stylish, and elegant and have settled into aesthetics I'm happy and comfortable with now. My face hasn't changed much, my body hasn't changed much.... but my confidence and style grew exponentially. I look back at pics of young me and I have to cringe at all the things I used to do..... hanging onto that unflattering dark plum lipstick I loved for all of my 20s, my 5 year experime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:01 AM |
| 9 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 17 | Why do men expect conventionally unattractive women to be less confident?It doesn't matter if you're attractive or not men expect you to not know your value. Most men despise confident women. My sister is literally Barbie, 6 foot tall, big boobs, blue eyes, blonde hair, perfect cute face.... and so many men have ripped on her for her confidence and for and turning them down... she's lesbian so.... no dudes have a chance with her ever, but she's pretty much PERFECT looking and men still have tried so hard to get her to drop her pride and have no confidence. She's hot,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:46 AM |
| 2 | WSJ Op-Ed Writer Encourages Dr. Jill Biden to Drop the 'Doctor' HonorificA very unwise man must have made that quote about not calling yourself doctor unless you delivered a baby... Every field has the higher educated group who earned the right to be called doctor.... there are preachers who went to so much school they use Doctor instead of Pastor ... just to name ONE field. If you've done the school and put in the work and your degree says PhD or doctorate you've got the right to be addressed that way. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:46 PM |
| 59 | Hitting the wall is BS"The wall" is bullshit.... It's men looking at confident women who have style, and not being able to measure up and instead of rising to the challenge they just want to tear us down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:20 AM |
| 34 | Hitting the wall is BSIf I’ve hit a wall, no one seems to have informed the men. Same here, I'm still getting flirted at by everyone from cute young bartenders to a pro sports star client of mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Holidays are just better with HVMThank you so much! It was wonderful, and the house looks amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?💚 awww thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?That's just a personal thing. I do like Animal Farm & 1984.... I just have known too many guys who go ON and ON about Orwell and they're usually the broke "eternal grad student" types still in college at 30 working on degrees that never happen, switching their major every other year. Overly educated, yet not smart and they treat women like maids and mommy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 02:00 AM |
| 27 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenI really liked the Gillette Mach 3 & Fusion 5 previously... and they have all those against toxic masculinity and trans friendly ads and the "manosphere" was whining about Gillette. I only started using DSC because my dude does and he just ordered me extras. 😹 Oh this is funny, we're out having a beer and I was reading to him from the original post and not only is dude cancelling our subscription so are three of our bar acquaintances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 6 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenWell that sucks. Back to Gillette for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:37 AM |
| 2 | One of my love languages is receiving gifts..Oh I love this answer!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:00 AM |
| 11 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?Nope, Machiavelli is incredibly boring. Also .....fun fact.... he wrote "The Prince" to kiss ass with the Medici family because he was in disgrace, however there's no historical evidence that the Medici he dedicated it to ever even read the thing. 😹😹😹 In fact this might be the first historical "Incel Manifesto"... a bunch of pedantic posturing written by a loser who had failed too much and was still trying too hard to get noticed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:24 PM |
| 10 | It’s the “active in” communities for me 🤣 (blocked this rumplescroatskin immediately after my response)Who lifted the rock and let the worms out? Is it just me or are we getting more of these? 😹😹😹 Block, delete, repeat as necessary. I'll just be over here enjoying my house, my cool car, my sweet cats and all the luxuries and fun that I've earned working my ass off for MY money... and my happy healthy relationship is just the extra triple slice of cheese on my fat bacon-burger of life.... nice but I'd still be all good without it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:04 PM |
| 17 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?Yeah.... trash guys love watching a movie about a non-productive yet somehow magically still rich and well dressed user and abuser of women float through life eating fancy dinners, getting sex from and beating prostitutes, and obsessively working out, plus getting away with literal murder. I swear it's the ultimate male fantasy these days and they IDENTIFY with Patrick Bateman and strive to be like him. Scary stuff. The Ellis books are drivel and not what they're hyped up to be, however they do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:41 PM |
| 18 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?Oh nothing is wrong with his writings and his strategies are cool, I like him too but I'm not always going around quoting The Art of War for every problem I run into.... guys who read the watered down version out of some cheap book and then continually make reference to it are definitely suspect. Same with Machiavelli, although I personally find his writing pedantic and I like him far less than Sun Tzu he's got some valid points.... and guys who over-quote him are also likely to be idiots in my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:56 PM |
| 35 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?Chuck Palahniuk ( Fight Club ) .... pretty much all of his works are awful and if a guy likes them he's sure to be a misogynistic dumbass. Bret Easton Ellis ( American Psycho ) .... bland violence for shock value, not worth reading but trash pseudo-intellectual guys love that crap. Guys who go on and on about and over-quote George Orwell, Ayn Rand, Sun Tzu or Machiavelli are usually intellectually bankrupt assholes too. Also watch out for guys who don't read, or ONLY read non-fiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:12 PM |
| 2 | Hi Queens👑! This is the 3rd baking I am sharing here! Made a cake for myself to outgrow all the birthdays my absent, narcissist father never celebrated throughout these 21 years, as my therapy of nearly two years is coming to a smooth completion this year.Those decorations are WOW! Lovely cake!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:47 PM |
| 70 | How many years do you count?42 here... will be 43 in two months. It's really nice to see that a lot of younger women are here learning how to not make mistakes with men and increase their happiness. It's also really nice to see women closer to my own age here waking up and treating themselves right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 09:02 PM |
| 4 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....Yes!!! You definitely need to buy a good tire kit with a good jack, the ones included in a lot of cars straight from the dealership are terrible.... or non-existant. And I'm going to keep on mentioning buying a full size spare a lot of car manufacturers only put in the crappy "donut" spare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....Yes!!! I can't believe I forgot to put that in the list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:59 PM |
| 11 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....https://shop.aukey.com/products/10000mah-power-bank-with-18w-power-delivery-and-quick-charge-3 That thing will charge my phone from 5% battery to full three times. Aukey has them for almost any model phone and I recommend keeping one plugged in your car for emergencies they're the best power pack I've ever used. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 28 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....AAA is hands down the best roadside service out there... check your cellphone plan and car insurance plan and see if you can get a deal on it through either I get mine for $5 extra a month on my phone bill. You should definitely learn to change a tire and make sure your car has a tire kit with all parts working and in good order... you need a jack, tire iron, heavy duty work gloves, lug wrench, and roadside flares .... also I recommend getting a full size spare if your car didn't come with one, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 01:29 AM |
| 3 | 🤮💚🔥💚 I also love using the Southernism for "fuckyou" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 26 | A message from our male lurkers...NFSW account, active on incel subreddits, the content of his chat request 🤡Got one of those... block, delete... Fuckin' pest 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 09:36 PM |
| 5 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantYes.... Urban Fondue on NW Glisan is the better one. The Melting Pot downtown is okay-ish but Urban Fondue is far better. I can't wait til Covid is over and we can go back there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:33 AM |
| 89 | How to raise a hvm....I hate how the world STILL perpetuates the idea that men shouldn't cook and clean. My dad didn't learn how to until he married my mom. My grandmother used to go to his bachelor apartment and clean up after dad and his roommate and leave him casseroles even when he was in his last year of college. So until my mom got a hold of him he'd never done a load of laundry, washed a dish, made dinner... not once in his life. My mom used to joke about "I should have gotten a puppy, not gotten married, pupp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 12:22 AM |
| 18 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurant😹😹😹 Yeah those are pretty good. I use this recipe to make them at home. This has the option to make them a little spicy too. https://damndelicious.net/2014/02/03/red-lobster-cheddar-bay-biscuits/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:53 PM |
| 4 | Things My 86 Year Old Mother Says About Men and RelationshipsThat's awesome! I love that!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:18 PM |
| 38 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantMy city has a local "chain" that's in vintage buildings with quirky cool stuff and the larger ones have upscale dining.... and although I like to go there for drinks and bar games... it's really not date material. We've got a Ruth Chris Steakhouse and the Typhoon chain here too and just.... no. I want little bistros or something cool, good ambiance, small dining areas. There are a million nice upscale places in this city, if you can't figure out what ones they are you're too dumb for me to be da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:15 PM |
| 86 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantOh hell.... "The Red Lobster" date. Bad overpriced food by the mall is totally what I want to do tonight. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:05 PM |
| 267 | Things My 86 Year Old Mother Says About Men and Relationships"If a man ever yells at you, leave him. A man who raises his voice to you WILL eventually raise his hand to you and I'm not raising you to be some man's punching bag!" "A man who lives in a dirty house is lazy and worthless and he wants a maid, not a girlfriend" "You're so kind and good-hearted I worry some man is going to use that against you. You keep on being sweet but if they aren't sweet back to you then you just walk away" "It's going to be hard for you, you have a big brain and you speak … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:58 PM |
| 1 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/petMy tuxie is half Maine coon....maybe it's a breed thing... huge floof, loves bacon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 15 | Why does this sub get misinterpreted? The place where I found this comment is dedicated to calling out and bashing misogyny btw. I tried to have genuine discussion with this user but they simply down voted me.🧹🐈🌛🦇🔥 Yes 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:45 AM |
| 6 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/pethttps://imgur.com/gallery/sTDkE2t Tuxie is a jerk and chases his sister. This is from the first day my sweet grey baby went to my dude for help with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:57 AM |
| 17 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/petIt really melts my heart that my grey kitty has another human she trusts now. She wouldn't even let my cat loving Besties pick her up before this, now she goes up to my dude sometimes and does the sweet little mew that's her way of asking to get held and petted. She doesn't often ask for pickups but when she wants it we make sure she gets it. 😻😻😻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:44 AM |
| 30 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/petI'm laughing. 😹😹😹 My tuxie kitty is a whore for bacon. You could be a serial killer but if you have bacon he looooooves you and will do the circle your legs and purr and headbutt your shins thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 54 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/petMy grey kitty was horribly abused before I got her... someone starved her, and they tried to dock her tail by using rubber bands so it had to be removed, she was underweight, the shelter had dealt with a bad flea problem and infected bites... her whole body had sores and was shaved up to her belly. When I first saw her my heart ached and I'm 100% certain a vicious bastard man did that, ever since I got her she hides when she hears a male voice. She jumps at the slightest sound, she won't touch h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:18 PM |
| 9 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Where did I say I’m interested in dating? 😉 You're awesome... I love that statement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:05 PM |
| 11 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.At a crappy dive bar 😹😹😹 His uncle is this really sweet old guy who hangs out at the cheap crappy bar my Besties and I go to for playing darts, we usually invite the old man to play with us he's super-nice and has like one friend who hasn't died so he's always at the bar alone. My dude was there with him one night and we invited them both to play darts with us... turns out he and I really were into each other so we dated a bit and it worked out. I probably would have met him anyway eventually on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:56 PM |
| 56 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.I'm 42.... all through my 30s I was called undateable, stuck up, crazy cat lady, mean, frigid.... was told I "wasted my life" and "you won't get anyone to marry you now" ... by men AND women. So? I don't need or want any person in my life unless they add value to it. Nobody does!!! I own a beautiful Victorian house that I restored myself, I'm #1 in sales at my work for the past 6 years, I have gorgeous antiques, a fat retirement fund, so many cool memories of foreign travel and fun times. I have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:56 PM |
| 4 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Your mom sounds so cool!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 6 | Your daily reminder to block him!I'll give that a try!!! I love good reds! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 12:01 AM |
| 16 | Your daily reminder to block him!This almost makes me want to have Instagram just so I can follow her and see if she posts what nail color she uses. This is like the 3rd thing of hers someone's posted here and I like her message and I really like those crimson nails. 💅🔥💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 3 | The "phone thing"This was a really great answer thank you so much!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:39 PM |
| 16 | The "phone thing"You do have to trust, in some level, your relationship to be respectful, but people are allowed their secret gardens. I love how you phrased that!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:46 PM |
| 2 | The "phone thing"Thank you for this input and sharing your reasoning behind your decisions. And you helped me a little. After reading all the pornsick stuff on here a few times lately I've dipped a toe in the water of snooping his history on my laptop he uses a lot. Now I feel like a suspicious jerk and I'm just going to cut that out... your words about not wanting to unleash the beast of jealousy and snooping really hit home. I like that you have all these reasons WHY you don't snoop... I've got about the same … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 1 | The "phone thing"The guy may or may not cheat, but if you never have to confront it, it will never be a problem. True... thank you for this input | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:01 PM |
| 52 | The "phone thing"Thanks... that's all stuff I honestly didn't take into consideration. It would never occur to ME to go on someone else's banking app or mess with their stuff or change passwords... or even to see more than the first few lines of a text that the notification shows without asking first "hey can I read this?" I'm glad to hear a professional IT person's input on this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:59 PM |
| 24 | The "phone thing"Y'know I was absolutely expecting some fuckery at first... it's fucked up that's how it is these days. 11 months of not snooping but only ever seeing work texts, 10 billion IG notifications from his daughters and the never-ending recipe website notifications when I'm using his phone has me very chill. We use his for ALL the map and lookups and music grabbing when we're out and I probably spend more time on his phone than on mine. To me it's a relief... one less thing to worry about. I feel awful… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:31 PM |
| 2 | 👑I love this so much!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:11 PM |
| 9 | Of course an LVM couldn’t help but sexualize an innocent post about a woman’s puppy growing up. That comment in response was me btw, I couldn’t control myself.When your first instinct is drool over the boobies, NOT "awww cute puppy".... you might be a sick sad scrote. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:08 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, this is why we stay away from older men.I don't think it matters AS much when you're older to have an age gap...but it does present its own set of problems and it still does matter. You might be strong and solid in your 30s, much more so than your college years but the compatibility with someone older will be hard to match up. I think a lot of guys past retirement age only chase 30&40 year old women to get themselves a free home nurse when they end up decrepit. I've seen that "second wife" thing end up with a still lively 60 year old … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:38 PM |
| 37 | Ladies, this is why we stay away from older men.I second this!!! Knowing ALL the tricks they use to seem harmless is knowledge worth having! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 09:31 PM |
| 32 | Ladies, this is why we stay away from older men.Damn. I hope your friends shut him down, kick him out of their circle of people and tell the whole world. I hate that no matter how intelligently you put it and how RIGHT you are.... well you know if you say something he'll just use the "crazy ex" defense. Hey had a thought, when those presents get there your friends should snap pix of his return address on the boxes.... did you screenshot or save any of the stuff you saw that would prove he ordered it? Put that on blast to the world and just SH… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:29 PM |
| 63 | Ladies, this is why we stay away from older men.The scrotes are so damn predatory it makes me ill. The sheer amount of the acquaintances of my god-daughter's mom and I who made inappropriate comments about waiting for her to turn 18 was staggering. So many men we had thought "weren't so bad" started showing their true colors the minute my god-daughter grew boobs and it sickened us. Scrotes in our age bracket of mid-thirties and up were hitting on a teenager, and while her mom and I scared MOST of them off there was this one who pretended to o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:23 PM |
| 11 | I just got diagnosed with Crohn's Disease. How do you continue to level up and find a HVM when you have a chronic illness?I would suggest finding a support group for Crohn's, either online or when things get back to normal an in-person one. You can always level up no matter your personal situation, illness or disability. Practice being kind to yourself, do things just for you, treat yourself. Remember YOU are important and you're a valid worth-it person. I'm so sorry you're feeling lost and scared right now. Sending you all my good wishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 02:12 AM |
| 24 | What are some characters in films you think are HVMs or women who follow the ‘strategy’ (FDS)?I am having such a hard time with pulling up anything really great for the male part of the question. I like the strength and resilience of Cate Blanchett's characters in both the movies "The Gift" (2000 film) and "The Missing" And I'm a huge fan of the Ripley character in the Alien series. Love Tank Girl and Lori Petty's film interpretation of her. Big fan of Maggie Smith as McGonagall in the Harry Potter films. These pop up first and I have a whole head full of other women in film I think are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:42 AM |
| 20 | I love her Instagram and messageLove the message AND her nails.... that's like the perfect shade of crimson and I need that polish NOW!!! 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 08:12 PM |
| 2 | When women travelThanks for the advice. Once Covid is gone I'm going to research safe tour groups.... the Besties and I like it to be just the 4 of us but maybe I can convince them we can join up with a bigger group. Maybe we will get to Egypt in the next few years after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:50 PM |
| 5 | No words.Can he not even think what it would be like to go visit your family member's or friend's grave and see that shit? Lack of empathy to the point I'm sure he's a sociopath. Fucking hell, I think I've found the pinnacle of disrespect AND cruelty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:27 PM |
| 12 | A Taste of his Own Medicine!I loved reading this! You have great style in writing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:51 PM |
| 14 | They really just tell on themselves (translation in comments)Oh HELL yes... my client base is the top 10% for wealth in my city and it's almost a rule... The bigger the wallet, the bigger the douchenozzle. It's compounded when they're in major league sports... young + fit + fame + million dollar salary = absolute asshole that treats women badly. I do have some lovely decent HVM clients with piles of money but they are rare, and tbh... since they're all married or engaged I have to give some credit to their wives and fiancees who probably had to train them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:16 PM |
| 14 | How to say Fuck Off nicely?Yes!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:08 PM |
| 6 | How to say Fuck Off nicely?Skip the "nicely"... just say FUCK OFF! You are NOT obligated to be nice.... especially if someone is ignoring the accepted social cues that lead up to a parting of ways. There are so many ways to gently shut down an interaction without embarrassing yourself or the other person, yet still keep your boundaries firm. "It was nice meeting you" "I have to go now" "No thanks" "I'm not available/I'm not interested" If you say any ONE of the phrases like that and they ignore the polite social cues that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:07 PM |
| 4 | When women travelThose guys are so sick. Every bar and nightclub I went to in Romania had several old and sloppy or young and arrogant American assholes bothering the local women. It sickened me to see these old dads and nasty young scrotes grabbing butts and being pushy. Just because a woman isn't from your country doesn't mean she's automatically fair game and "easy"... damn. I loved this lady I overheard at the bar once telling off some dumb college scrote "I have two degrees and I have no time for you little… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:39 PM |
| 5 | When women travelMy "New Dude" and I only got one trip together before Covid made travel impossible but I was so damn relieved... after 15 hours in the car together I can say that he travels well. No whining, no angry, no arguing about when or where we take a pit stop. He's even down with the "Supernatural Rule" : Driver picks the music, shotgun shuts his cakehole. I can't wait til Covid is over and we can go places again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | When women travel😹😹😹 They are definitely eye candy and well dressed and they are gentlemen... they don't just ACT like they are, no they really are. It's tempting, for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:19 PM |
| 7 | When women travelYeah Italy is ALL about the "hooking up with hot men" for us females... It can't possibly be about all the Roman historical stuff, or the tons of beautiful old churches, or having two of the greatest art museums in the world, or the old castles, or the great food. 😹😹😹 I'm sorry you had to deal with such a crappy man, glad he's your ex now!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:04 PM |
| 6 | When women travelExactly! I went on ONE 4 hour drive and weekend away with my LVM ex and was so frustrated and annoyed at the end that we never went anywhere together again. Why is it men are usually the worst travel companions?? I absolutely cannot take a road trip with most men. My 3 Besties and I go away for two weeks nearly every year... we skipped 2009 for a pregnancy and of course we're skipping this year for Covid but our trips are fun, and there's no whining or arguing, even when shit goes terribly wrong… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 03:57 PM |
| 2 | When women travelYou're welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 03:40 PM |
| 9 | When women travelI'm so sad Egypt became so unsafe.... I've been when I was a kid with my family and done the "mummies" tour where you spend 2 days at Giza then 2 days at Valley of the Kings...it was with a tour group like 30 people mostly families with children but it was so fun.. I wanted to go back and do more in-depth stuff, see Tanis & Pi-Ramesses and travel the desert to some of the out of the way sites....but there's been a travel caution about Egypt for a long time and I can't convince my Besties to risk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 03:40 PM |
| 6 | When women travelYeah sometimes hookup happens but I swear it has GOT to be an absolutely exceptional dude and it's rare. It's happened ONCE in all our travels. 😹😹😹 Bestie #1 once had a five-day mini fling with literally The Hottest Irishman on Earth.... gods he was gorgeous.... and that accent was swoon-worthy. And they were both on the same page about it being just a fling nothing serious. We WERE going to try and talk her out of hooking up with him when he started flirting at the pub, but he didn't do creepy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 03:27 PM |
| 9 | When women travelSeriously hit Mexico City first.... they have the largest concentration of goth stuff.... we only went to the one club but we made some friends down there and the Facebook invites show that there's several spooky dance nights during the week and awesome big events. Before the band She Past Away would do US tours they almost ALWAYS had a Mexican stop on their tour... a lot of the "foreign" goth & industrial bands have had trouble getting visas to play in the US the last few years .... which sucks… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 02:49 PM |
| 1 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youWell it's too late for me.... I'm already two notebook pages of scribbling into the idea. You're awesome.... I hope you can keep your work focus but if you can't.... I wanna read what comes out of your distraction for sure!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:36 AM |
| 3 | He bought her a $4k Louis Vuitton purse after their fourth dateDamn I'm sorry this post got deleted because I am LOVING how many other ladies stepped up and said "Waitaminit, this ain't right" and gave warning advice and urged caution. 💚💚💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 02:04 AM |
| 1 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youI'm sending you all the good thoughts and hopes. May your books be published, let all the big networks bid massive dollar amounts for the rights to them, and may your fanbase always be loyal and not write the absolute TOTAL cringe type of fanfics with your characters. So mote it be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | He bought her a $4k Louis Vuitton purse after their fourth dateThat's a nice gift. And I hate to be a downer but here I go..... It's so hard for me to see expensive gifts especially ones given way early into dating a guy....and NOT wonder about the motivation.... is he trying to buy her trust with big money items? Is that something she really WANTED? What's he trying to hide behind his credit card's buying power? What's he really saying.... is it: I love you? Or is it: I can buy you? I have a couple of reasons behind this. Number one : I sell 100K to millio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:59 AM |
| 1 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youHoly crap your prompt about Catherine of Aragon having an heir set my mind rolling. No Queen Elizabeth I and her Golden Age.... but also no "Bloody Mary" and her religious persecutions either. I'm already down a rabbit hole of research on the internet trying to decide if the Protestant religion would have even survived.... it wasn't NEW and had some steam but I've always thought that Henry's break with the Catholic church was what cemented other religions being able to flourish. I think without … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:28 PM |
| 31 | How has she stayed for 4 years of this... NVM. I have no words.That's shit behavior from a son too. If my little brother had ever "looked at mom in disgust" when she didn't feel like cleaning or there was a mess at home mom would have thrown his Playstation in the TRASH and made him do allllll the housework for... probably FOREVER!!! I'm not sure I have a leg to stand on since I don't have and won't ever have children but... damn please don't raise your sons to be assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:35 PM |
| 1 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youI would really love to read your writing!!! You sound like an author I'd totally enjoy!!! Or maybe I already have? 😹😹😹 I get a lot of internet-friend recommendations in the historical genre so I've been buying a ton of ebooks and real books lately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 297 | Happy Holidays! 😜On one hand I like this.... but on the other hand I'm like "Nah, sis don't waste your time sitting by a printer waiting for pictures.... just give YOURSELF a nice Christmas gift with your money and give him the boot out of your life" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 09:13 PM |
| 30 | INCELephant Destroys 15 Cars in Rampage After Being Rejected By Female Elephant😹😹😹 This is the perfect name for fat slob "niceguys" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 09:04 PM |
| 27 | Sometimes I don't know if men can have empathyThis is goddamn heartbreaking. I hope she flat out leaves him and gets out of that house she's being tortured by two mean assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Ah, haven't we all been the crazy ex at some point?Thank you. I really appreciate that. It wasn't easy... I was so hurt and frustrated by just how MANY people I knew blamed me, fell in with his bullshit narrative, actually HELPED him bother me. That was the most painful part... "losing him" was nothing to me....getting disrespected and treated like crap is nothing to regret "losing". But just how easy it was for people who'd known me for years to completely dismiss my side of things and back up a worthless man really shook my confidence in peopl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 2 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youI really wish I had read LOTR more carefully.... It didn't catch my deep interest, and it was a bit of a chore to read ... not because of all the minutiae... the in depth descriptions of Middle Earth history and relationships was my favorite part... I just could never really get INTO the characters themselves... except for Eowyn, her I liked but damn... the having her fall for Aragorn kinda pissed me off. Hey lady, you killed a BIG freakin' baddie... You're too cool to have wanted to chase after… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:13 PM |
| 2 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youIf you're interested there's a series of French Historical fiction books by Maurice Druon called the "Accursed Kings" series. George RR Martin said he was inspired by these and honestly the GoT novels don't even come close to being this great. It's SO good... even in translation ( I read French so I've read both versions ) The books are all full of well researched documented historical facts only slightly embellished by the author. Yes back in the Middle Ages there was a TON of rape and murder a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Ah, haven't we all been the crazy ex at some point?He did a seriously awful thing right before I dumped him. I was already tired of his shit and he had pretty much killed my affection for him, I was a week away from a date I'd set for myself to give him the ultimatum of "get therapy, start acting right, or get out" and this was the last straw. One of his college friends handed him a job interview with the company he worked for, fancy job title big money like he used to have, no legwork no effort just a gift from a friend on a silver platter so..… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:37 PM |
| 2 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youI'll give those a try then, there's probably car chases and I love that kind of action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:19 PM |
| 2 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youIf you ever do translate it I would really love to read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:54 AM |
| 14 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youBatman = rich brat with fancy toys and mental health issues James Bond = misogynistic irresponsible jackass I never watched the Bourne films so I don't know but there's probably something wrong with him too. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 03:24 AM |
| 16 | The way he talks about fictional women will be the way he talks about youI would LOVE to read the whole thesis!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 12:05 AM |
| 8 | If you could go back to your early 30s self, what dating advice would you give to yourself?Ryan.... every Ryan I've ever met is an asshole. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 07:54 PM |
| 3 | If you could go back to your early 30s self, what dating advice would you give to yourself?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 07:50 PM |
| 4 | Please, share your HVM stories/ relationshipsThank you!! I'm really sorry you had to deal with an asshole man who ignored your health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:23 AM |
| 91 | If you could go back to your early 30s self, what dating advice would you give to yourself?I'd just cut straight to the spoiler Don't agonize one little bit over the relationships you're going to drop out of in the next 10 years, you get your "right one" in your early 40s. I wasted time second-guessing whether I should have dropped some of the dudes I did... I absolutely should have and not questioned my instincts.... The guy I was so into at 31... now a deadbeat dad and useless human who lives with his parents since his child's mother isn't supporting him anymore. The three-dates guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:16 AM |
| 44 | Please, share your HVM stories/ relationshipsI'm dating one for the first time in my life and it's.... an eye opener. I was burnt out and determined to not ever date again when I met him... and despite the physical and mental attraction I had for him the first 10 minutes of knowing him... I went into dating him just waiting for him to screw up and annoy me. For the first four months, I held back from getting too invested in case he turned out bad...but he didn't. He just kept on being awesome and not pushing too much. Plus all the things h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:51 AM |
| 17 | Ah, haven't we all been the crazy ex at some point?Thank you. I honestly didn't realize how much anger I still had for that asshole until I started what was going to be a quick response that turned into a novel. Thanks for listening. Guess I'm still letting him live rent-free in my head, and it's time to boot him out of there too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:42 PM |
| 13 | Woman's self defenseI'm really liking this set of responses. On another thread about self defense another user put succinctly what the real goal is. The goal of self defense is disengaging safely and escaping. I'm going to keep using that perfect phrase when I get back to teaching self defense. I've been injured and out of the loop for a few years and until I read the other thread I had no IDEA about the state of "Women's Self Defense" classes these days. I used to teach one, and the object was to get my students t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 40 | Ah, haven't we all been the crazy ex at some point?My LVM ex told everyone who would listen that I was sexually frigid, neurotic, cold and heartless and I had cruelly abandoned him because he lost his job....He went on a HUGE smear campaign all over Facebook, was constantly talking bad about me to mutual acquaintances, he even whined to my three Besties but they just told him to shut up and go away....I ended up blocking him from everything a couple weeks after the split because I was so tired of seeing his whining. The real truth behind the whi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:25 PM |
| 6 | 😭😭😭😭💚💚💚 I wish I'd used this line more when people pestered me about being unmarried for so long. I'll be using this in my wedding toast now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Probably one of the most thoughtless gifts to be given, and absolutely rampant around the holiday season. No thank you! ✋I just ordered this book. Thanks for the recommendation!! I went the other direction with nuances of Victorian life and was all about "The Language of Fans" and learned that instead of floral stuff...and I'll admit I'm a little lost when some of my tea society ladies make puns on flower meanings. So.... I've got time to catchup since all the teas are canceled for probably forever. 😿😿😿 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Probably one of the most thoughtless gifts to be given, and absolutely rampant around the holiday season. No thank you! ✋I second the Kiehls, it's awesome for chapped hands. Several nurses I know are using it for the damage caused by over-washing and the very skin drying hand sanitizers they practically have to swim in all day at work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:57 PM |
| 69 | 😭😭😭😭😹😹😹 I've been to several evening weddings and they were lovely... nothing to fear there. Ohhhh except most of them went from the beautiful ceremonies to years of stress, drudgery and disappointment. Hmmm.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:53 PM |
| 7 | 😭😭😭😭I have brushed that off as a myth for forever.... mayyyybe I should re-evaluate? 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:50 PM |
| 29 | 😭😭😭😭My biggest fear is honestly something bad happening to either my family, friends, cats or my dude & his daughters. I worry like hell all the time these days for my sister who is in the medical field. Marriage wasn't even in my plans until this year ( at age 42 ).... never bothered me that I hit my 40s unmarried.... a little loneliness is far better than being legally stuck to a worthless dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:49 PM |
| 5 | Treating MYSELF the way I want to be treated. I closed my first major deal today in my new career and took my beautiful self to the jewelry store to pick out exactly what I wanted 👏🏼Congratulations on closing a big deal!! Love that you treated yourself to something awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 06:06 AM |
| 2 | How many men are on your blocked list?I checked my bookface block list for this... I knew I blocked lots but.... wow... It's over 165 ( quit counting and there was still a long list left uncounted ) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 06:01 AM |
| 2 | I leveled up big time!I love reading posts like this. I'm always so glad to see another woman being treated well, being valued and cared for. We ALL deserve the best!!! Congratulations to you, OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:18 AM |
| 5 | Happy mens day😭I just found out today about the "Toilet Day" sharing the same date as "Men's Day" .... I cannot stop laughing about it 😹😹😹 Did none of these brilliant males think to check? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:13 AM |
| 3 | It’s the little things...I love this!! It's so nice when you get a handwritten note to wake up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Probably one of the most thoughtless gifts to be given, and absolutely rampant around the holiday season. No thank you! ✋😹😹😹 Oh gods that's hilarious!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:22 AM |
| 9 | Probably one of the most thoughtless gifts to be given, and absolutely rampant around the holiday season. No thank you! ✋I'm stuck on Lush products too... I'd find one of their giftsets acceptable but not that cheap "smells like grandma perfume" horrible crap. Thank all the gods my dude knows I like GOOD perfume and has figured out how to buy scent for me the right way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:59 PM |
| 2 | It was my birthday yesterday. Treated myself by making a romantic red velvet cake from scratch😊 it was a quarantine birthday but being self-partnered was the best thing that could have happened.Oooh that looks even better from the inside!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 02:27 PM |
| 21 | Compliments but not compliments"You look really good for your age." They think it's a compliment.... it's really a fucking insult. Nah, asshole... I just look good, PERIOD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:04 AM |
| 13 | Types of shitty sae that need to die with the patriarchyThat's a good rule to have. Sorry I think I'm just speaking from "Happy Good Sex Land".... my dude has figured out all of my "spots" and the things that will get me very fired up very quickly and get me off just as fast. And there have been times when for whatever reason things weren't really working with the quickie so we just give up and save it for slow and sweet later when we have more time. Nobody should be having bad non-fulfilling sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 10:08 PM |
| 24 | How a HVM handles your illnessI just had the major leg surgery I've needed for a few years BECAUSE I trusted my dude to treat me right and look after me. I would have put it off again this year if not for him. He stays at my house does all the cooking, cleaning, cat caring. He skips lunch so he can pop in a few times during the workday to check on me and bring me stuff. He's doing all my errands, and pretty much everything for me as well as keeping up with his own stuff. He even built some stuff to make it easier for me to g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:40 PM |
| 2 | It was my birthday yesterday. Treated myself by making a romantic red velvet cake from scratch😊 it was a quarantine birthday but being self-partnered was the best thing that could have happened.Red velvet is my favorite kind of cake!!! Nice!!! And I like the flowers with pearls decoration on yours! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 2 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:03 PM |
| 2 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.I hate the smug condescending nonsense I get from most men about car stuff. If you can't change your own flat tire, please don't try to give me advice on replacing a fuel pump. 😹😹😹 I got so lucky with "New Dude".... he's a little behind me in car fixie experience but he knows enough to know I have mad skill at it and immediately listens to what I say about whatever is wrong and how to fix it. Then again I wouldn't try to tell him how to work on his motorcycle.... I'm not clueless about them but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:00 PM |
| 2 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.Well I looked and looked and couldn't find the one I'm thinking of.... might be out of print.... however I actually have this one myself and I think it's a good substitute. https://www.opticsplanet.com/pocket-guides-publishing-pocket-guide-to-auto-maintenance-emergency-repair.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 04:51 PM |
| 2 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.I'm so sorry you were treated so badly. And 💚 Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:36 AM |
| 5 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.It's taking me longer to find it than I thought but I'll keep digging..... there was a GREAT book of emergency roadside fixes that was put out in the middle 90s and it's priceless for tips and tricks on how to deal with common issues while you're alone/have no proper tools etc. I'll post you the link when I finally find it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 13 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.I'm glad you're single now!!! Even if your car doesn't have issues.... do as many of the "small basics" as you can learn and you're comfortable with. Fluid refills, filter changes, replacing headlamp bulbs.... things like that. It'll get you used to messing about with your car. Also get or download the Chilton / Haynes manual for your particular car. Most beginner car fixers I know say those are the easiest to understand at their level. If you don't learn best with printed material... YouTube vi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 11:07 PM |
| 25 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.And I hope you kept up with learning car fixies!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 08:50 PM |
| 40 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.I didn't realize for a long time that typically when a man says "You're so much better at X than me" .... that it isn't a real compliment to your skills, it's a ploy to get you to take on stuff they don't feel like doing. I heard "You're the better cook. Everything turns out better when you do laundry. You're better on the phone than I am so you call about our insurance, warranty, changes of services" I'm usually pretty sharp on catching bullshit, so I'm kinda ashamed it took me so long to catch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 31 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.Good for you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone told a real life friend/family/acquaintance about FDS?I thought my god-daughter ( early 20s ) absolutely NEEDED to see this so I sent her the links to the handbook last week. Her direct quote : Ok but this sounds just like stuff you've told me already. With maybe less f-word in it though? 😹😹😹 I pointed out to her some things I'd missed along the way when I was learning the hard way....and how FDS supports the things I hadn't realized I'd been doing all along that made me "weird" and "undateable" ...but only to LVMs!!!!! She's been sharing with her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:44 PM |
| 7 | These are the signs of a high value, healthy relationshipThis is awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:27 AM |
| 3 | You ladies have literary/cinematic women who are prime examples of this sub?I love this movie!!! One of my favorites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 11:43 PM |
| 17 | Stay away from Portland. There's nothing for you there.Everyone knows the state of Maine is a myth Stephen King made up to sell books!! 😉😹😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:47 AM |
| 16 | Stay away from Portland. There's nothing for you there."Polyamory" is Portland Code for : I'll stick my dick in anything that holds still long enough.... without trading clean STD tests, or consulting you... BUT if you find a polyamour male I'm jealous of I will make your life hell and cryyyyyyy on Facebook how you broke "the rules" and cheated on me. 😹😹😹 Did that dance when I was a bit younger... Fuck that noise!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:46 AM |
| 15 | Stay away from Portland. There's nothing for you there.Agreed!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:47 PM |
| 20 | Stay away from Portland. There's nothing for you there.Oh they won't let you forget it for long. I'm so glad I'm not in the dating market anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.I was trying to think of a succint way to say what I was thinking... your : The goal of self defense is disengaging safely and escaping. Is pretty much the perfect way to put that. Thanks, I'm going to keep using that phrase! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.I like the baton idea... Especially when combined with the vintage martial art of "singlestick" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singlestick You can't just go grab a baton and flail about with it and expect results... you gotta know WHERE to hit and HOW to hit for maximum effect .... BUT... you take your baton, look up or get taught singlestick moves ( including parries ) and you go whack a board in your yard for a few months until you have three parries and three attacks down to "muscle memory" yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:06 AM |
| 3 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.Believe me I know and that little trend is absolute bullshit. I advocate for women learning self defense, hell I advocate for women learning how to be badasses but with the caveat that you have to work with your body and your strengths for the maximum effect. Generally men are stronger and faster, but women are more flexible and have a higher pain tolerance. That's science and over many years of doing martial arts I can confidently say the science proves true. There ARE definitely tried and prov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:50 AM |
| 2 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.A lot of what you say I agree with. I really wish people would stop saying just go get a knife or a gun. It's not that simple and a knife or gun could potentially harm an untrained person worse. Getting a knife or a gun doesn't automatically make you Wonder Woman grade badass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 01:32 AM |
| 4 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.Oh you're not wrong. Pepper spray can be taken from you and used against you, but there's less of a chance with it and if it does happen the effects are less bad than being shot with your own gun. I really do NOT think anyone who isn't well trained should carry a gun for self defense. A gun is a great equalizer to someone being bigger than you, IF you know what you're doing. I advocate like hell for women to learn how to use and maintain guns properly though. Take some training, and go get your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.Yes!! Learn self defense!!! Just the "Basic Self Defense for Women" classes are going to give you confidence and get you used to being physically aggressive. It really does make a difference if you're ever in a situation where you need to protect yourself. And I advocate big time for women to carry pepper spray and those mini air horns. Especially if they aren't practiced at self defense. Look for the "marine air horn" or one made for boating, I personally think those are loudest. You put that i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 3 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beHugs!!! It's so sad to hear of asshole men being crappy with gifts. Gift yourself, lady, you're so worth it!! I got in a habit of giving myself one "Unbirthday Present" a month on the same day as my actual birthday... sometimes it's perfume, sometimes it's a massage, just always on my Unbirthday I treat myself to something just for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 12:15 AM |
| 10 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beOh damn that's a brilliant statement.... you should make a post about how ALL the love languages are necessary in a partner. Because it's just so TRUE!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:38 PM |
| 11 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beOh no worries. Go ahead, go off. And thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:36 PM |
| 9 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beI'm still not quite used to it... none of my exes would buy me perfume or candles even though it's a big part of who I am to walk around smelling awesome and have my house smell awesome too. I hope you find a guy that gives you gifts you really love some day!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:22 PM |
| 4 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beOh that's a good one! I wish real stores were safe to go to.... the fancy department store here has a Jo Malone counter and they'll give you samples if you're not sure of a scent. Oh hey if you order your usual Mimosa & Cardamom scent online you can also get free samples.... maybe the Orange Bitters is a sample choice now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:13 PM |
| 4 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beOh awesome... I hope you'll enjoy it as much as I do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 6 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beBath and Bodyworks is trouble 😹😹😹 I can't go in there without walking out with a bagful. Wish they'd bring back the "Amber Blush" scent though!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 04:15 PM |
| 8 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beOrange Bitters is basically orange & amber heavy on the amber, very citrussy at first then gets deeper and richer when it dries down. Orange Blossom is a very rich sweet floral... almost like "grandma perfume" 😹 I only ever wear the body cream of Orange Blossom but if you like heavy floral scents you'll love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 04:05 PM |
| 13 | This melts my heartYou are very right.... Just critters liking a man is no serious guarantee that he's a good human and also good DUDE that you should be with. Although any man who mistreats animals should be an automatic HELL NO! The other side of the coin is: "Just because animals like a man doesn't mean an automatic HELL YES!" Here's my personal situation criteria though... if it were just my tuxie who liked my new dude I could dismiss that as "Tuxie would like a serial killer if they had treats to give him" so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:28 AM |
| 11 | What are some good FDS-positive female singers and songs?I'm already pulling up songs I don't know about that were posted here.... I really love these "Share Your Favorite" type threads. Anyway here's my go-to FDS artists.... I'm a little new to this but these ladies have songs and lyrics that embody to me what the FDS principles are all about... plus it's just damn good music. Joan Jett whether with Runaways or with Blackhearts J.J. jumped into a male dominated industry rocked the hell out and took no shit... even listening to her lyrics through the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:11 AM |
| 1 | What are some good FDS-positive female singers and songs?I'm such a huge Lesley Gore fan but even I gotta admit that 90% of her songs are so "Pickme" .... listening to "Maybe I Know" again through the filter of FDS is a bit cringey. But "You Don't Own Me" still totally holds up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 7 | How to vet without moving in together before being engaged/marriedThis was awesome writing! And you nailed it... everything on your list of items are great criteria and standards a man needs to meet BEFORE you entangle your living situation with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 11:02 PM |
| 23 | This melts my heartI actually never intended to have another pet... too much heartbreak after losing my 18 year old dog I'd had since she was a baby pupper. The cats were honestly just a last-straw solution to my house's mouse problem after traps and absolutely everything else I tried failed. Then I went to the shelter, saw poor abused grey baby and fell in love and just HAD to take her home to a safe place, the shelter people said she'd been doing better since they'd put the little tuxie abandoned kitten in with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:47 PM |
| 21 | This melts my heartJust FYI, my tuxie kitty is a total jerk in the mornings... chases his sister around, stands on my head and howls for wet food even though there's always a full bowl of cat crunchies. Does the zoomies right by the coffeemaker to trip the sleepy humans. I think floof knows I'm not a morning person and in true asshole cat fashion he likes to make morning FUN. 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 91 | This melts my heartMy little grey baby was abused before I got her and she's always been a scaredy cat. She usually hides when she hears a male voice. "The New Dude" has spent the past 10 months trying to win her trust, being so gentle and dealing with her reaction to being startled which is usually to claw the shit out of someone. Today she came running into the kitchen being chased by her brother and went right to my dude for help even though I was standing there. Also she let him pick her up today for the first… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 06:37 PM |
| 32 | Every man I’ve asked to get tested, whined about it.Some STDs go dormant, some are hard to pinpoint. Some don't give you symptoms until it's too late. There's so many STDs out there and too many people don't take enough care. So many reasons why it's important to take care of your sexual health. My lady parts doc suggested to me in my late 20s that even if I wasn't active that I should still think about doing a yearly STD test with my basic first of the year checkup. I've been doing the same thing as you, still having the test done yearly even if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 109 | Every man I’ve asked to get tested, whined about it.I found ONE guy who agreed easily AND actually did all the appointment setting himself to fit my "No sex without STD tests" rule. It took me 20 years of looking though! 😹😹😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:15 PM |
| 87 | Every man I’ve asked to get tested, whined about it.I have had a firm rule about trading freshly done STD results with a man before sleeping with him for many years now. Only one guy has ever taken that rule in stride, and not whined, or attempted to argue me out of it, or dragged his feet until I made the appointments for us both. Just ONE out of the dudes I've ever dated. Reason #529 that the "New Dude" is working out so well. He heard my rule and said "ok that's smart" and he'd set something up, he texted me the very next day saying that it wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:11 PM |
| 2 | The Wall is So Threatening Because it Suggests a Sudden Shift from Beautiful to UglyFloor length black dress... check, many of them. Surrounded by cats.... check, although it's one tuxie and one grey&white Never to cater to men again.... oh HELL yes, check. I'm really not seeing a downside here. 🤘😹🤘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 10:36 PM |
| 59 | LolI'm dying laughing reading that one but then I'm all.... wait she's not wrong. 😹😹😹 Maybe I'm NOT the only person who insists on trading freshly done STD tests with a man before we have sex???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 10:17 PM |
| 11 | i started my own business, and men are revealing their true selves!I'd love a link to your clothes too, please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 09:03 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend seems like he's into bdsm, would this be a redflag?Seriously!!! I like to think I'm open-minded but after years of watching the BDSM "scene" from the sidelines... No one is happy and healthy. There's so much drama, trouble and pain. And I have never, not ONCE, seen a "BDSM couple" have a healthy and happy relationship. This applies to the ones where the woman is the dominant too. It's just endless cycles of misery and kinky sex. The men who are "dominant" are 99.9% just abusive controlling assholes who use BDSM as a way to excuse their actions. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend seems like he's into bdsm, would this be a redflag?Be very careful with this guy. Honestly my advice is to just drop him and move on. Especially since he hid this side of himself by being sweet and gentle until you two got intimate. I've been around the BDSM scene for years ( it overlaps with the goth stuff pretty much in every city ) You DON'T want to be involved with someone who is into BDSM!!!!! That whole crowd is sick and sad. I have never seen a Master/sub relationship that was healthy and good for the people involved. Even the ones where … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:37 PM |
| 3 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?Alright here's the scoop about the old-fashioned kind of Pond's cleansing cream. ( Via my mother about 34 years ago, so this is how I do it ) Wash and DRY your hands first.... then... Put your finger in the Pond's and put a big fingerfull of it on each cheek, your chin, your forehead and a smaller bit of goop on your nose. Take those splotches of cream and spread them out and rub them in as best you can. You want a layer of the cream all over your face. Leave that for 5 minutes, then use a warm … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:18 AM |
| 3 | Mama said.....💚 Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:51 AM |
| 4 | Mama said.....If you ever want a sounding board for outfit choices please always feel free to message me. Just bear in mind my personal style leans toward "goth" and "Uber-glam" so my advice will reflect that and my usual fashion advice is "More velvet!!" 🤘😹🤘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:16 AM |
| 4 | Mama said.....Aw hugs your mama sounds amazing. 💚💚💚 May you have many MANY more years of mom/kiddo shopping trips. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Mama said.....💚 Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Mama said.....I'm addicted to good cashmere and I can totally confirm .... cashmere sweater, pencil skirt and heels gets noticed by everyone, female AND male. That's my "winter work uniform" ....one of my piles of cashmere sweaters a pencil skirt plus heeled boots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:56 AM |
| 2 | Mama said.....💚 Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:45 AM |
| 8 | Mama said.....This wasn't a "mom advice" thing it's just something I do for aesthetics... If I'm showing my legs, I cover the tits.... if I'm showing off the cleavage I'm covering the legs. Always leave them guessing WAS a "mama said"... I have interpreted it from life experiences as "dudes always want the thing they can't see" and most dudes are leg lovers or tit lovers. Hide one!!! If you're absolutely not comfortable showing your body DON'T. If you want to try to GET comfortable showing your body...you can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:04 AM |
| 10 | Mama said.....Thank you 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:28 AM |
| 17 | Mama said.....Oh hugs for your sad anniversary coming up. Condolences, lady. And yeah the "Mama said" isn't all light and sweetness and good advice.... sometimes it's a harsh effin' mirror to look into... but when that harsh comes from someone who loves you more than her own life and only wants the best for you.... it's goddamn priceless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:22 AM |
| 8 | Mama said.....Hey lady, condolences on your losses and big hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:43 AM |
| 26 | Mama said.....Oh WOW...... Just gotta say you adding that tag feels just like my mom's "I am sooooooo proud of you sweetie" and you absolutely made my day doing this. Thank you & the other mods so very much!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:42 AM |
| 10 | Mama said.....Those are awesome "mama saids" Thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 13 | Mama said.....Thank you so much 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?Aw thanks I'm sure I will!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 36 | Tale as old as time...Oooohhhh yes please let's have a history flair!!! I love whipping out "Historical Female Badassery" facts and tales. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 3 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?I'm loving these long replies and keep coming back and checking out what other people like. I think I found your lip tint... the Shionle brand right? I'm about to get some of that in Rosso it looks totally like a "me" thing. Thanks for sharing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:02 PM |
| 6 | Everyone’s on their phones everyone can shoot you a five second textI had this "shower thought" after watching The Social Dilemma on Netflix that the modern "plugged in" culture is killing real friendships and people's ability to even form real friendships. My three besties and I all met in the early 2000s back when you had to put in way more effort to connect and be a friend. I haven't raised anyone from "Acquaintance" status since 2003. I wish it were more common for people to know how to be a real friend too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 10:49 PM |
| 10 | ladies, what do you think about giving an ex another shot?I'm kinda torn here. On one hand I just wanna say "He's an ex for a REASON, remember that reason and get rid of him" But since your reason was "I needed to work on myself and get help for my issues" .... well I'm kinda liking that he waited until you were in a better place and still wants to date you NOW. Definitely get your therapist's advice on this, and if you decide to go ahead be on the watch for signs that he can't respect the "new you" or isn't willing to help you keep getting better. Slo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:51 PM |
| 11 | Everyone’s on their phones everyone can shoot you a five second textI divide people into categories of Acquaintance or Friend depending on how much effort they reciprocate. I don't get close to people who don't put my same effort in. As a result I have a ton of "Acquaintances" but only 3 serious Friends. I'm happier this way. I'm of the opinion that your good friends are always top priority. My 3 besties and I have varying levels of job busy and life busy, but we're all super consistent about keeping up text conversations and everything else. That's why we're al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:40 PM |
| 13 | Is it me?I love this reply. I second the "don't even care about what men think of you attitude." Also I absolutely encourage "Surround yourself with like-minded people"/ Enjoy your hobbies and your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:17 PM |
| 1 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Oh WOW! Thank you for posting this link!! I'm more a coffee person but I do love having flavored GOOD tea around the house for an occasional cup and to have on hand when my tea junkie bestie comes over. And for me.... I'm grabbing fancy vinegar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:14 PM |
| 31 | Everyone’s on their phones everyone can shoot you a five second textI'll accept work as reason why I don't get a LOT of daytime texts, sometimes I just cannot get a free moment when I'm working and a lot of the time I'm driving a work vehicle ( car sales ) and I don't have the damn patience to pair my Bluetooth voice text thingie with every car on the lot. BUT, we all get a lunchtime and a breaktime so I better at least get SOMETHING daily or it tells me you just don't give a shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:07 PM |
| 14 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?I'm a makeup junkie, I've got "normal lady" looks for work, crazy outrageous goth looks for going out dancing, "red carpet glam" for other events. I don't even wanna try and calculate the value of the hundreds of makeup products filling up my vanity table. The dollar amount might shock even ME. Here are my absolute "must do" routines though. No matter WHAT time I drag my ass home at night I always take off my makeup with Pond's cold cream cleanser.... I tried some of their new ones but went righ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:58 PM |
| 5 | “Men meeting women in fields and taking them to alleys, prepare to be brutally murdered TONIGHT ON SICK SAD SCROTE!”I love this!!! It's my new favorite meme format | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:46 PM |
| 1 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??My latest summer sun hat came from Target. https://www.target.com/p/women-s-floppy-hat-a-new-day-153/-/A-53614183 I love these. I've got a solid black one from Target too. Cheap and easy to augment with ribbons etc. Plus they're pretty durable for just a basic summer hat. Huge coverage, keeps the sun off your face AND your shoulders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:05 PM |
| 1 | How I teach men not to talk over me: from one queen to another, when basic respect is lagging and conversations are impossibleI love this so much!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 11:03 PM |
| 24 | How to date men less smart than youI wouldn't say you're "doomed" to a small dating pool of supersmart dudes because I think dating to match your intelligence is a good way to weed out lesser guys who won't make you happy. It's more of a blessing. I DON'T date men who aren't on my same level of intelligence, knowledge and conversational skills. I don't want to spend a relationship being bored or annoyed. Yes I've discarded dudes that look good, dress well, are kind .... because being with them was going to be me dumbing myself do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:55 PM |
| 14 | I am in big shock. Apparently there was a harvey weinstein in the metal industry...In EVERY alternative music scene there's a pile of underage fan molesting, woman bashing, just generally trash dudes. I'm glad it's getting called out more! I'm a big fan of gothic, industrial, electronic and metal music and the surrounding scenes and the crap treatment of women by male "stars" is rampant and pervasive. Whether you're a fan OR a female artist you're going to get sexualized and abused. Previously that was "just how it is", for most of the 25+ years that I've gone to shows and clu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:03 PM |
| 6 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Oh definitely, I don't know why I didn't replace the robes with the towels. Last year after I finally got my master bath finished like I wanted it I went nuts on linens.... the big fluffy bath sheets, the hand embroidered display hand towels, custom made bath mats.... and yet I kept the same old bathrobes. Gotta fix that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:28 PM |
| 11 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??I'm over here doing my part to bring back hats! There's just something about hatting up that gives you an instant ego-boost and extra spark. And I'm right there with you about GOOOOOD coffee... I have a certain kind I like, it's $$$$$$ and no, I won't drink anything else at home. Starbucks is ok for a quickie-coffee-pick-me-up while I'm out, but that's only if I've run out of my giant travel mug of The Good Stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:08 PM |
| 13 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Ooooh! Thanks. It occurred to me my bathrobes are all kinda old and frumpy. I need a thick plushy fancy one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:02 PM |
| 16 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Kate Spade is the only designer I'll ever buy a purse from again.... my "big black" and my "little black" are both over 8 years old and been put through hard use and they still look good, no broken straps, no torn linings. I also like that the logo is inside with the lining, I'm not a fan of flashing designer labels everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:00 PM |
| 13 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Now that it's getting to be fall... I'm spending money on my personal "fall necessities" so..... Cashmere sweaters!! I buy one whenever I see a new pretty design or really great color. Found this gorgeous greyed lavender twinset at a vintage store, can't wait to wear it. Fancy gloves, for when it gets colder... really loving the printed velvet ones a friend sent me so I ordered more colors of them. ( Check out the Polonova website, they have gorgeous socks too, I might have gone overboard and bo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Beyond the peen: what are your physical preferences when it comes to men's appearances?Green or hazel eyes is a BIG thing for me. Instantly +10 attraction. Elegant hands.... this probably sounds like I'm a serial killer but I loooooove big hands with proportionately long slim fingers. Bonus if they like to wear rings for accent factor. A guy who can sport 2-3 rings at a time and make it look good is hot. Nice legs, with definition but NOT that gym-bro bulky calves weird shit. If your calves are as big as your thighs maybe it's TIME to skip leg day, dude. A little bit of soft chest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:14 PM |
| 3 | 40yo women seem to be giving up on dating, 40yo men are getting extra desperate to convince them to change their minds. Can any 40+ FDSers confirm this observation?I'm 42. Spent age 39-40 intentionally staying single and was pretty happy with myself and my life. That should have told me something..... but... I spent my 40th year trying to date again and... holy hell... dudes still "dating" in my age range are 99.9% batshit, balls to the wall absolute CRAZY. Plus lazy, rude, crude, entitled, boring and just generally useless. I did every version of dating, blind dates with acquaintances of people I know, joined a "busy singles meet-up group", tried OLD ....… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Why are men so obsessed with women’s age?"You look good for your age" is one of the shittiest things you can say to someone, but damn if men don't think that's the ultimate compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:34 AM |
| 125 | Gomez Addams knows how to be HV..Absolutely not alone. I loved this movie and it hit when I turned 13. I watched it and said "I want to BE her" ( Morticia ) Later rewatchings and the Addams Family Values movie gave me more of the idea that a Gomez was what I wanted to be with. It's not too much to ask for to want a well dressed man who loves to dance, loves weird stuff and loves ME. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 3 | yOu wiLL DiE alOne witH cATs anD BoX wiNEGood for her!!! My mom and I both loved Enya. Her music gave me some of the sweetest memories I have of my mom from my high school days.... it was our little "thing" ....driving around together with the Shepherd Moons CD turned all the way up and both of us singing along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Mature/Older FDS Sister'sAmen to 40s not being old, and still being badass when you're 80!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:45 AM |
| 6 | Mature/Older FDS Sister'sWas just introduced to this sub by my best friend tonight. Fell down the rabbit hole reading the handbook all night and I'm loving it. I'm 42, and I've always been a called a "bitch" or "undateable" or "stuck up" and been threatened with "You'll be one of those crazy cat ladies when you're old" ... simply for the fact that I'm choosy, I know what I want AND I know what I won't put up with. That seems to be just too hard for most men to handle. It's awesome to get the feedback that being picky an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:35 AM |
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