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There are casual-encounter type of guys, and then there are the LTR-type guys. You are among the latter, so what you are experiencing is normal. And since you are able to compartmentalize those connections with each respective woman, you are handling it fine.
/r/seduction17/07/17 06:09 PM
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Yes. You need to get yourself to your respective BMI. Only then will you have a proper baseline for everything else. Work on this. Not because I, some random, disembodied voice over the internet, said so, but do this for YOU. Start eating healthy, work out, get enough sleep, etc. Your first and foremost priority in your life, is YOU.
/r/seduction16/07/17 03:07 AM
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If that's your experience? You're doing it wrong. You shouldn't need to feel like walking on eggshells around the woman (or women) you're with. If they're not cool with who you really are? They're not the ones for you. Keep at it. Tons of other women on the planet.
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:37 AM
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Reliant on external validation. Seriously, OP (if this is yours)? Pshh. Peddle elsewhere.
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:34 AM
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That's dumb. Getting a girl's number doesn't mean jack shit if the girls don't text back/show up/ghost you/whatever. Work on "you." Become an attractive person. Not to get girls, but to strive to be the best you.
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:55 AM
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Awful online response rate, never get looks in public, been this way for 20 years my whole life, I don't know how a girl could think of me sexually, I just want some action please help. Dating websites are nonsense. Even considering bots and fake profiles, barely a litmus test for anything. Those are some things you keep in your back pocket. Otherwise... Approach women in-person.
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:53 AM
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Honestly? Physical labor. Mundane, really. Unimpressive. With what I'm currently into? There will be only very few women who match (and surpass) my level of physical activity. And whenever I witness them? Well, wow. Damn. It's THAT spectacular.
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:49 AM
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Working out has a side effect of your body producing Testosterone, yes. Will you notice a libido increase because of it? If your low on it, yes. If your sex drive is naturally high? Not really. Your mileage may vary with this question. Best to (1) know yourself. And (2), schedule a check-up with your doctor.
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:44 AM
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Take the high road. If all this is, is your friends simply relaying what she says to them about you, and there's really no truth to it? None of it should bother you in the least bit. Let this ex continue to paint herself as an insecure, bitter bitch. Why should you care? If your "friends" believe what she says about you? Time to make new friends.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:54 AM
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Don't carry problems which are not yours to bear. Ask her out now. Whether she's ready or not is solely her decision.
/r/seduction13/07/17 04:45 AM
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Don't base your decisions on IOIs. If you want her? Ask her out, escalate, and so on. Your scenario is easy mode.
/r/seduction12/07/17 01:37 PM
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What exactly went wrong? You became very needy. Don't do that. Do not ignore red flags. They are there for a reason. You are not her therapist. You are not there to solve her problems for her. You are no one's emotional doormat. Do not be afraid to turn around and walk away. The drama is not worth it. And most importantly, do not let anyone (let alone someone you just met regardless of how hot she is) have any effect on your emotional frame. You have work to do on yourself, for yourself. I'd sug…
/r/seduction11/07/17 09:14 PM
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First, break all contact with this ex. You don't need to know anything further about her; whether she's happy, sad, having a train ran on her nightly, etcetera. Nothing. Secondly, and most importantly, find yourself. And then get to know yourself. This part is different for everyone, as well as the time this takes. You'll just wake up one day hit by a series of epiphanies. Remember, your confidence is solely based on you, from within. Once you have that solid cornerstone, not anyone else should …
/r/seduction06/07/17 09:50 PM
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You're overthinking this. The most important thing is how you feel about you. From your post, sounds like you have invested a good deal in yourself, and now feel better about you. This is a good thing. Don't bother trying to think about whether some ladies check you out. That in itself means little to nothing (if you put value in that, you would be seeking external validation -- which you should not need). What would actually mean something is if you actually approach the women you are attracted…
/r/seduction06/07/17 06:23 PM
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then she'll whisper something in her friend's ear and now her friend checks me out, this has happened twice. Are you a telepath? Do not assume anything. They could be talking about anything. Please help me here! Simply walk up to her and ask her out.
/r/seduction06/07/17 03:24 PM
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The only issue in the advice you received is the word "should" as it can work in either sequence. Don't box yourself in one school of thought. Also, more importantly, this is a non-issue.
/r/seduction06/07/17 02:17 PM
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Is there a difference between using an opener first vs. introducing yourself first? Depends on the opener whether direct or indirect. As far as direct openers, say if you establish good eye contact with her, you could direct open with, "wow, you're cute! Hi, I'm [insert your name here]. What's your name? [offer handshake]." And is it realistic to ask for a number after having a 30-second conversation? Yes. But what is unrealistic is to expect to get it every time. Also factor in the circumstance…
/r/seduction30/06/17 05:34 PM
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Good on you for approaching, OP. Now you know that it isn't really a big deal to approach, even though it feels like it is. If you guys have anything I could have done or done better please fill me in! Am not a fan on Indirect Openers. Using what you had in that little exchange, just flip it around to have a Direct Opener, something like this: You: [Approach.] "Hi. I am u/BioPneub." [Handshake.] Girl_1: [Says name & handshake.] Girl_2: [Says name & handshake.] You: [Compliment Girl_2 with what y…
/r/seduction30/06/17 02:07 PM
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If you think seddit sucks, it's because you suck. What have YOU done for seddit lately? I mean besides complain about seddit. Curious, are you targeting me specifically with those points, u/ThrowawayPUA ?
/r/seduction28/06/17 04:40 PM
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You are clearly more invested in her and just love everything about her. You would like to go further and see her more often but she is satisfied having a date once a month. She is not dating anyone else, me neither but I don't want to date more than one girl at a time. How do you handle these kind of situations? First and foremost, I'd set in my mind that this thing with her would be nothing more than a "once a month for fun thing" for the forseeable future, essentially reevaluating and limitin…
/r/seduction28/06/17 01:29 PM
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And... you would be wrong. Also, psychosis is not a prerequisite to gaslight. This isn't merely a semantics issue. Your mindset is toxic, and you need to fix that.
/r/seduction27/06/17 04:51 PM
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Folks, You need to look up and understand what "psychosis" really means before you continue throwing it around left and right like it's going out of style. Some folks in here have zero awareness on the amount of ignorance and immaturity they display.
/r/seduction27/06/17 02:02 PM
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Keep in mind, whom you attract is a reflection of you.
/r/seduction27/06/17 01:14 PM
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Why is everyone always trying to hook me up with fat girls? And so? Just politely decline, and approach the type of women you want. You don't have to be ugly about it. It's that simple. [Read the rest of your post....] If you weren't simply ranting, and this is how you really are? You have an attitude problem. And it's quite repulsive. As far as what you think you deserve? The world doesn't owe you jack shit. Fix that.
/r/seduction26/06/17 08:36 PM
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Yeah, bars definitely aren't my kind of place. I got drained, and I was just sitting and listening. Haha. Good FR, man. Good approaches, and maintaining your energy level.
/r/seduction26/06/17 05:28 PM
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I personally have nothing against sexting. Heck, have done it quite a bit. However, you aren't gonna get much advice from Seddit specifically about this because in here, texting is a tool for one purpose only: to schedule dates. Not to converse. That said, when sexting (or attempting to), do not send texts longer than 1 or 2 short, concise sentences describing specific actions (not intentions). If you want to get into details with your guy, roleplay that in person, or in a phone conversation ins…
/r/seduction23/06/17 08:37 PM
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First, look up what a "run-on sentence" is. Second, do not do that. Third, ask her out, and go from there. If she says yes? Good. If she flakes? Next her and move on.
/r/seduction22/06/17 06:29 AM
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Say, "thank you." Clearly the context of those women is that they are from a point of ignorance; believing the stereotype that "fighters" are "mean assholes." You can thank the Boxing/MMA advertisements (and the like) for that. Also, when they told you that you are a "nice guy," the very likely mean that you seem like a nice person, and not the "nice guy" term defined as someone who "is nice to women expecting reciprocation." This is a non-issue. Treat it as such. Maintain your frame.
/r/seduction22/06/17 04:36 AM
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Learning game from guys 'you think' are good at 'the kind of game you want to develop' is fine. The fundamental failing of those sayings; "don't ask a fish," "don't ask a deer," and whatever other variation of it, is the automatic dismissal of potentially good advice simply because the source is a woman. And, that, is abjectly ignorant. It is completely irrelevant whether the source has a penis or vagina. Hell, in Seddit alone -- look at the plethora of really bad advice disseminated in here... …
/r/seduction22/06/17 03:09 AM
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or “asking a girl her advice is like asking a fish how to go fishing.” The one thing I was looking for, and u/Woujo did not disappoint. Haha! The most recent one was something about "asking a deer about hunting." That made me laugh.
/r/seduction21/06/17 09:27 PM
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You can meet women while on your "outside activities and cultural ones." See someone that catches your eye? Approach, say "hi," and go from there. You'll be out doing what you like and instantly have something in common to talk about for starters. Good on you for focusing on your life. Treat this "dating life restart" just like another side/personal project, that doesn't really hold a high priority, and allot time/energy for it just as such. Do not become an approach robot. Goes without saying t…
/r/seduction21/06/17 06:08 PM
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or to start feeling butthurt and go into a negative emotion freakout. Having a solid frame will never have this as an option. So, she "put you on hold," big deal. If she doesn't pick you back up, leave. A non-issue overall regardless. Never let others, specially people you just met irrespective of how hot she is, have any effect on your emotional frame.
/r/seduction16/06/17 08:47 PM
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Gonna quote u/souljabri557 's original post here just in case he deletes it, akin to many others. For posterity. I always thought female police officers were really sexy, so could I go up and open one? I was thinking doing a really polarizing pickup line like "Hands up, I have a bomb, and it will explode! ... if you know what I mean!" Or, I could do something more witty, like "if you let me touch your gun I'll let you touch mine." If she reacts poorly I can be like "oh haha just kidding anyway w…
/r/seduction16/06/17 06:06 AM
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"Girl?" Really? What... how old are you? Your ideas are that of a damn fetus. They aren't cops simply because they wanted to be. They do go through their respective academies, which have a relatively high attrition rate, to a vocation of SERVICE that doesn't particularly have a decent paycheck. You know what? If you are going to continue to be this GD immature? I am done helping you here. Go get yourself tased. Or shot.
/r/seduction16/06/17 05:59 AM
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I was thinking doing a really polarizing pickup line like "Hands up, I have a bomb, and it will explode! ... if you know what I mean!" Or, I could do something more witty, like "if you let me touch your gun I'll let you touch mine." If she reacts poorly I can be like "oh haha just kidding anyway what's your name?" Well, holy fuck. DO NOT do any of those. The most you can do when they are on-duty is, first, approach in an obviously non-threatening manner. And be absolutely mindful of every aspect…
/r/seduction16/06/17 05:46 AM
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Nothing there but drama, dude. Next her.
/r/seduction16/06/17 05:37 AM
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Oh, hey, didn't we just talk about this the other day? At least that one is a variation of "taking advice from a fish on fishing," or whatever silliness. Haha.
/r/seduction14/06/17 09:37 PM
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NO girl, regardless of how cute/pretty/physicallyattractive is worth the time simply because she's cute/pretty/physicallyattractive. Now, you don't know anything about her BUT want to? That's fine. Ask questions, and try for a conversation. However, if she is uninterested, and/or can't display even the most basic of social skills? She isn't worth the time and effort. Next her.
/r/seduction13/06/17 04:25 PM
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Good job on your success. Now, maintain your frame and don't become needy and unconfident, and you'll be able to see where that goes. A couple of things: "It's been a hot second since I've talked to you dude" Boom, she's thinking about me and the last time we talked. That's quite an assumption. Are you a telepath? Lines like that, you take at face value; you two have not spoken to each other in a long time. Period. Do not assume. Be confident, not over-confident. (update, she's REALLY fucking cu…
/r/seduction12/06/17 06:58 PM
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Im always home and rarely go out. You need to fix that. And this, from an introvert (me). Go out to do activities for you. Meeting people while you're doing your thing is a mere consequence, and an active choice (you can opt to just do your thing (run errands, see a movie, clothes shopping, etc.) and not approach-women-to-flirt-with if you don't want to). That said, if you go out expressly to meet women, you WILL give off a creepy vibe, and will have a very low success rate, if at all. Do not do…
/r/seduction12/06/17 06:42 PM
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Work with what you have. If you call and she doesn't pick up, and flakes after texting to set up a date? Next her.
/r/seduction12/06/17 06:15 PM
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There's this saying that is repeated every once in a while in the subreddit. Couldn't recall the exact wording, but it's something like not asking fish how to catch fish. I always found that funny and iffy in this context because unlike fish, women aren't simple, one-dimensional, merely reactive creatures. So it cannot apply.
/r/seduction09/06/17 05:13 PM
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Nothing there but drama. Best to stay away and next her.
/r/seduction08/06/17 09:55 PM
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Don't know about you guys but when a women wants me to approach them it feels like they're in control. And have control over me. I really don't want that. That mindset is incorrect. You need to fix that. You are in control of your own actions. And how do you know if a woman wants you to approach her? Unless you're telepathic, you can't know for certain, so do not assume. Besides, it's men who approach women. That's how it works. Only very, very, VERY rarely will a woman approach a man. So, do no…
/r/seduction08/06/17 03:57 PM
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Peacocking is flat-out ridiculous. And its general end result is attracting the wrong kind of attention. Unless that is what you are going for. Here's an idea: dress appropriately for your age; proper-fitting shirt and pants, and good shoes. Go for tailored clothes, if it won't break the bank (in this case, since you can afford costumes, you have no room to complain). As well as dressing apropos for the venue/event/occasion; smart business, casual weekend, party, etc. Use your age to your advant…
/r/seduction08/06/17 02:45 PM
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A "nice guy" is an insecure, needy guy who does nice things for women expecting reciprocation. Essentially, extremely "outcome dependent." It's just too bad that the term "nice guy" became that, since women generally like nice guys, as what the word "nice" really means; a guy who is genuinely kind, courteous, etc. essentially gentlemanly to the core. "So, be nice... until it is time... to not be nice." [ref. Road House (1989 movie)]
/r/seduction07/06/17 01:42 PM
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And they generally do not play games. Win-win all around.
/r/seduction07/06/17 05:51 AM
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Got any hobbies? If not, pick one or two up and try them out. Meeting people as you go about them is a side effect.
/r/seduction05/06/17 10:01 PM
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Stop lying to yourself. If you are truly "not feeling out of place," you wouldn't feel like you're "just intruding." Clubs are high-energy environments. If you want to go there, you need to match it. Plain and simple. You go to clubs to have fun. And meeting girls there is just a possible consequence. If you go there to pick-up, you will give off a creep vibe.
/r/seduction03/06/17 10:12 AM
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So I don't want to be to sexual and mess it up but I want to make a move to show I'm interested. If you don't want to be sexual, what is your interest in her? And you can show sexual interest and not mess it up, you know.
/r/seduction01/06/17 09:57 PM
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For a possible, easy, instant meat dildo, maybe?
/r/seduction01/06/17 03:58 PM
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Only note is next time you may not be so lucky to run into the girl you want to see at Starbucks 5 minutes later. Right? OP won the lottery on that chance situation.
/r/seduction01/06/17 03:18 PM
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A couple of things about "shit tests." Don't focus too much detection. To pass them is simply to maintain your frame, and be genuine and honest. All of which you should be doing anyway. If she brings up something you happen to agree with? Good. If it's something you disagree with? Do not change your perspective "to make her like you." Keep your responses simple and courteous (no need to put her down, ever. That is unattractive and unconfident behavior), and don't allow it to have a negative effe…
/r/seduction01/06/17 02:59 PM
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I disagree, moreso with the "negging," which is bad practice. One can disagree without the neg. (^ And, see, I just disagreed with you without putting you down.) Plus, if added to the conversation's context, he's 29. Him commenting that she's too old for him at 24 can possibly make him look like a creep if that conversation point stuck with her.
/r/seduction31/05/17 06:45 PM
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Good approach and interaction. Helps tremendously when the lady is friendly and has social skills. Good job.
/r/seduction31/05/17 06:38 PM
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looking at it from a male's perspective and believe me, men are dense as shit. This made me chuckle. Years ago, a friend was in town, gave me a call, and asked me out to dinner. I remember I said, "okay, sure," as I had nothing better to do that night. But, mind you; (1) I didn't think anything of it. And, (2) I did not really want to go out, because introvert. So, my "okay, sure" answer had the tone of, "alright, fine, whatever." Anyway, the dinner part was quite pleasant, as well as the walk w…
/r/seduction30/05/17 05:36 PM
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You need to man-up and be honest. You started well with: I started with a simple "Hey there, my name is Kenic." But instead of continuing with this: My mind went into overdrive make shit up mode, and I asked her. I thought I recognized you, didn't I have a class with you? You went to this university right? Do this -- "I often see you during our morning commute. I think you're really cute, and finally gathered the courage to say 'hi' and introduce myself." And work your way from there. But get th…
/r/seduction25/05/17 03:48 PM
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Otherwise, I'm not sure what the point of this post is. Seems to be a venting post, since OP let the situation become awkward when it could have very easily not been. he literally said "my friend wants to get your #" and of course it got real awkward. You could have owned up to that with something like, "yes, I do," or a simple, confident eye contact and a nod. After all, her number is one of the things you want from her, right? My crush just stood there like when you just try smiling it off hop…
/r/seduction25/05/17 03:24 PM
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If you're available, go socialize and have fun with it. You can also use it to learn more about that girl, what she's like, what her friends are like, etc. Also keep in mind that if things go south, you always have the option to bail at any time.
/r/seduction19/05/17 09:46 PM
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I saw this grill at an interview earlier.... Wood, gas, or electric?
/r/seduction19/05/17 09:42 PM
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Oh, really? What makes this quite hilarious is how oblivious you are about lying to yourself, while incredibly obvious to some of us here.
/r/seduction16/05/17 10:01 PM
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You seriously got offended by that? You have other issues you need to address BEFORE you even speak to women.
/r/seduction16/05/17 09:57 PM
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That question reeks of seeking external validation. Stop it.
/r/seduction15/05/17 07:54 PM
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This is a non-issue. And not worth the energy you're putting into it.
/r/seduction15/05/17 02:26 PM
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And there's also this: I'm 17 and I still very much think like a teenager. ... which pretty much covers it.
/r/seduction12/05/17 06:02 PM
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"Social Proof" or "Social Market Value" is merely a tool amongst many, not at all a requirement.
/r/seduction12/05/17 05:55 PM
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Because you are not confident. You need to find, and then get to know who you really are. Know your strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, hopes, dreams and passions, and pursue them. Once you start liking, and eventually caring for yourself, you wouldn't even think to give two shits what others think about you.
/r/seduction12/05/17 04:07 AM
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He wants to unload into a chick to have a kid.
/r/seduction03/05/17 09:50 PM
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"Tell me something exciting you did this week."
/r/seduction01/05/17 08:38 PM
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Good job. Don't 'force' the situation to score a lay via whatever PUA escalation techniques or whatever else have you. That's being outcome dependent. Understand that you are currently at a point of whatever it is you have going with her, where it's up to her to make it happen. So, just keep doing what you've been doing, as clearly you've been doing the right things, and have fun with it.
/r/seduction27/04/17 09:45 PM
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^ This. She is free to play her games. And I am free to not participate. Tons of women out there that don't play games, and are generally of the actually mature and confident variety. Work on your inner game, and you won't need PUA gimmicks.
/r/seduction21/04/17 04:09 PM
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Chat her up in person. It'll be weird/awkward/whichever if you make a deal of it. So, don't do that. If she's with a friend, go say hi to both of them. If you don't know her friend, introduce yourself, and chat them both up a bit. Keep it light-hearted and fun.
/r/seduction20/04/17 06:10 PM
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Don't even bother "trying to fix your first impression." If you want to reattempt with this girl, just go do it. Chat her up as if you already know each other, because if you think of it, it's true anyway; you two have already had an introduction. No need to bring up anything from first time. All of that's irrelevant now. And go from there, incorporating the lessons you have learned since.
/r/seduction20/04/17 04:15 PM
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^ This. And other than keeping your own "home" clean and organized, and not looking like a stereotypical college student pig sty dorm room, I do not see any problem at all with your scenario, OP.
/r/seduction13/04/17 02:19 PM
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Are you actually "friends" with this psychopath friend, as in you are around him willingly? Or are you, in some way, forced to be in his company? Frankly, if you are the former? I do not want to, and will not, help you, simply out of the company you choose to keep.
/r/seduction13/04/17 07:45 AM
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It will only be awkward if you make it awkward. Otherwise, just go about your day as if it was just another [insert day of the week]. I have no problen getting rejected by someone but my fear is if I keep seeing that person that rejected me it will feel like I'm re-living the akward rejecetion all over again. Be truthful to yourself; you do have a problem with being rejected. Once you admit that, you can fix it. And it's not as difficult as you think. So she said she isn't interested, or has a B…
/r/seduction12/04/17 05:20 PM
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Wow, holy hell. And I thought I was dense. BTW, no, she doesn't. Not even one bit. Nope.
/r/seduction12/04/17 03:49 AM
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Can relate, you have no idea. Since you now have had the most important epiphany, here are a few guidelines to build up your self-esteem: When you catch your mind wandering towards "what others might think of you," interrupt your mind's voices with, "STFU. Most people are judgmental anyway, and they can feel free to think whatever they want. And it. does. not. matter." As time goes on, your mind will need to do this less and less. And that is a good thing. Make a list of what you want the best v…
/r/seduction11/04/17 04:49 PM
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You need to stop doing that. You are not out to impress anybody. Get busy working towards a healthy self-esteem.
/r/seduction07/04/17 04:52 PM
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You need to focus on your inner game. Once you have that as a solid cornerstone, you wouldn't be faking anything.
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:51 PM
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You already have a date set up. As far as texting, the general rule of thumb is, if you don't really have anything substantial to say, don't say anything. Did she send a text specifically to cancel the date on Saturday? If not, it's still on. Between now and then, the only text you'll really need to send is maybe an hour or two before the date, is to let her know that you're on your way, as a confirmation.
/r/seduction07/04/17 01:25 PM
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Ah, "social proof." It is bullshit, but, yes, it is. I'll share an experience. A few Sunday afternoons ago, I decided to visit a bar which I used to frequent over a year ago. My intention was to meet 2 people (a married couple, good friends), whom I knew frequented the establishment. Walked to the patio and was lucky that they were there. They were seated at a bench/table with 3 other guys. The couple saw me approach, yelled my name, and I hugged them both and joined them. I didn't bother with t…
/r/seduction07/04/17 05:51 AM
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Well, scratch Bumble then. LOL! I've read quite a bit from www.girlschase.com a while back. Good site, good info. And, likewise, never was a fan of the sleeping-around-high-lay-count lifestyle. Been several years since the divorce, and have had a few relationships since. Finding a woman with whom I can really connect with would be really nice, but not that high a priority. Also, I've noticed becoming exponentially pickier the older I get, which is probably what my problem is. Well, that, plus bo…
/r/seduction05/04/17 04:47 PM
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Oh, absolutely, gotta own up to all of one's own decisions. Am 38, Asian, and in TX. Here, as far as dating, if you're not white, black, or Hispanic? Heh, good luck. It's tough. Been considering moving to either coast, maybe. But I have an established life here (job, hobbies, etc.), and I sure as hell am not relocating just to try for women. Of course, if I get a really appealing job offer in a more culturally-diverse city, relocating will be up for serious consideration. Haven't bothered with a…
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:29 PM
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No kidding. And it's not a "limiting belief" as some here preach either.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:13 PM
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how can I transition out of the boyfriend position into FWB while maintaining my job and benefits that come from being in her good graces. I was going to post something genuine and helpful, but with a gem like this: [-] beerisgood10[S] -1 points an hour ago - Boys while this is all well an good I need an extraction because I met this stripper in my class and I'm trynna bang a stripper without having to worry about this bitch The better part of me just grabbed some popcorn to watch this train wre…
/r/seduction04/04/17 09:05 PM
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First and foremost, RELAX. The hard part is done; she already likes you. When you're on a date with her, simply enjoy the moment, and her company. Use just a few basic questions to start conversations. Don't spam it. And your mind will try to do then, what you are doing now: coming up with conversation scripts. Real situations rarely, if at all, follow it, and if she goes off-script, your composure is likely to derail as well. So stop that. Plus, for all you know, she's got topics she'd like to …
/r/seduction03/04/17 09:03 PM
1

I want to not just have conversations like, "Hey did you see this new song?" and have her respond, "Yeah it's pretty good." You: "Have you heard the new song, [insert song name], by [insert artist]?" Her: "Yeah, it's pretty good!" You: "When you hear it, what does it make you think about?" Don't fear the basic questions, but understand that they're conversation starters. Use them to find out more about her. Which will then lead to deeper conversations. But first thing's first; you need to ask he…
/r/seduction03/04/17 08:25 PM
3

Good grief, man. The question is: "Did any of those RSD stuff result in a woman allowing you to stick your penis into her vagina? [ONLY available answers are: "Yes" or "No"]."
/r/seduction03/04/17 04:31 PM
1

Was about to post the same. Other than the first line, which is an observation, everything else is an assumption. OP, do not think this way. You have ZERO information, and ZERO confirmation. Not to mention everything else from the second line-onward contains nothing insightful nor useful aside from toxic thoughts.
/r/seduction02/04/17 03:46 AM
7

^ This. Absolutely.
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:18 PM
1

Good deal. And a couple of things: 1. don't forget to get her number. And 2. drink if you want/have to, but always only in moderation. Getting wasted is stupid.
/r/seduction30/03/17 08:49 PM
2

First off, you should never try to impress the girl, nor anyone for that matter. As far as striking up a conversation with a girl that catches your eye, after the greeting and introductions, try to find out more about her while also establishing a rapport. The point is to have more information to decide whether you want to see if it leads somewhere or not.
/r/seduction30/03/17 08:45 PM
2

Just ask her out. You already have an established rapport. Keep it simple. Go.
/r/seduction30/03/17 06:25 PM
3

Wow. Well, good on you that you make money teaching guys to "approach" like that.
/r/seduction29/03/17 06:52 AM
1

Michael... no. Your agenda is with (1) the people who are banking on those who are looking into self-development, and possibly, (2) those who are using self-development as an excuse to not approach women. And not self-development / self-improvement itself, which is always a good thing regardless. The term actually implies it.
/r/seduction28/03/17 06:11 PM
1

Haven't read her book, but am curious on a few examples of how she's translated (to the opposite gender) Mystery's and Strauss' systems. Would you mind sharing a few?
/r/seduction28/03/17 01:38 PM
9

Working on one's "inner game" is really the goal; the continuous drive to be the best you. I'm in my late 30s. And unlike many here on Seddit, I don't "pick-up," but I expend energy and am social with those I attract. The only "outer game" I exercise are the stuff that are pretty much common sense: general hygiene, dress properly, be courteous, etc., and I haven't been happier. Just wishing I learned these things much earlier in my life, when I was, 15, that'd have been great. It took me falling…
/r/seduction27/03/17 05:37 PM
2

Yeah... no. I'm certain that if someone actually tried any of that, no one here will be surprised by its results.
/r/seduction23/03/17 08:41 PM
10

Clean and maintained. Nice cars don't get you girls. They get you dudes. I swear, as soon as I find the sausage magnet in mine, it'll be uninstalled in a heartbeat. Of course, you get points with girls if you cruise around in a Porsche, Ferrari, or Lamborghini.
/r/seduction20/03/17 09:15 PM
1

And telling your friend that you like her is gonna stir shit, how? Only if you are expecting an outcome, or some sort of change in the status quo -- which is unconfident behavior. But if you are simply sharing an insight with this good friend, and continue the friendship as usual, then it will only strengthen it secondary to your honesty.
/r/seduction16/03/17 09:32 PM
3

Neither. Just know yourself, be yourself, and keep striving to be the best version of you. Having to gauge whether you're "enough" or "awesome" relies on a comparison to others, if not outright external validation. It's ridiculous and not to mention, needy behavior.
/r/seduction16/03/17 09:27 PM
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And, that, is an example of unconfident behavior.
/r/seduction15/03/17 09:41 PM
2

Oh, look, someone got the, "grass is greener on the other side," glasses on. You know what? Go ahead; go torpedo this relationship. Tell your girl that it's over. Do it. You'll be able to count the days in ONE hand how much you'll want to have not. The problem you're encountering is simply complacence. Man-up, and re-focus on your interests and dreams. If this jives with your girl, and her current direction, then great. If not? THEN you'll know for certain that this current relationship is needi…
/r/seduction15/03/17 07:15 AM
4

Don't even bother. It's a gimmick. Not genuine.
/r/seduction15/03/17 06:37 AM
1

Actually, I have read a number of Woujo's articles. Good reads as well.
/r/seduction15/03/17 04:03 AM
8

Oh, a maneuver. So he's a tank commander now.
/r/seduction15/03/17 03:58 AM
4

Remember, the term is not simply "abundance" but "abundance mentality."
/r/seduction14/03/17 09:14 PM
2

I'm 38. I do not agree with you assessment of sex becoming dull. Regardless, it is evident that you have fallen into depression. You need to address this correctly and promptly.
/r/seduction14/03/17 09:11 PM
9

Models is a really good read. I have also read, "No More Mr. Nice Guy," but had near zero takeaway from it. I'd recommend "Fundamentals of Female Dynamics" by Michael Knight as your next read. Title is somewhat misleading as its focus is on self-improvement.
/r/seduction13/03/17 06:48 PM
3

Dallas, TX. So, white guys.
/r/seduction13/03/17 06:31 PM
1

That is where inner game (confidence) and outer game (proper posture, dress well, relaxed tone, etc.) come into play. And this is why the cornerstone of Seduction is Self-improvement.
/r/seduction13/03/17 02:26 PM
3

Your take away from this should be that you address your insecurities and fix what you can. You are now more confident because of that correction. External validations do not matter.
/r/seduction13/03/17 03:49 AM
1

"Hi" is simply what you say, but of course that in itself is not enough. It is how you present it, which is where both your inner and outer games come into play.
/r/seduction10/03/17 04:05 PM
1

You shared a conversation with a girl, with whom you weren't really into, and you feel bad about its outcome. You really shouldn't. Furthermore, as time goes on, you will have other conversations with other women. Some of it will be fun, while others, will die-out, similar to this one. You shouldn't feel bad about those either. You need to work on your confidence. Start with a solid cornerstone, and build from there. Once you have that established, instances like this one, will be petty and won'…
/r/seduction17/02/17 09:52 PM
1

"Hi" with a genuine smile is the best pickup line. Ever. Don't even effort trying to be "clever" or "cooler." That'll just come across as gamey. Be honest, just as what you've been doing. In fact, in some of those approaches where applicable, you can even say something like, "Hi. Don't worry, I'm not trying to sell you anything. I just wanted to say 'hi' to you before my courage ran out. My name is Indianmon312. What's yours?" and go from there. True confidence is all you need. No need to be gim…
/r/seduction17/02/17 04:34 PM
1

That's a great pickup line? Who told you this?
/r/seduction10/02/17 07:20 PM
1

Nope. The context of the question was irrelevant. It was the reason for the question itself, which simply was Shit Test 101.
/r/seduction08/02/17 05:19 PM
1

Is this a serious question?
/r/seduction03/02/17 07:57 AM
2

"Yup. As well as silver one, a blue one, and one other that says 'Joker' on it." Source: I'm Asian as well, and last 2 GFs are white. Race is a non-issue. Don't ever let that be any sort of limiting factor for you.
/r/seduction02/02/17 09:24 PM
1

First, you really need to ditch that rating scale. It's stupid. Second, she already knows what you look like, AND already will "make time to see you" while she's in town. Move past this already. Third, simply enjoy the time you will have with her. It's the only way to evolve this situation with her to... whatever it's going to be. Now, if she's really that shallow as to determine a man's value mostly, if not solely, on looks alone? Next her. Simple as that.
/r/seduction02/02/17 09:17 PM
3

I cringed. And laughed. Well... sounds like that now-exGF is the type to cheat anyway. If not that "fantasy prom," it'd be some other scenario down the road. At least some lessons were learned from that 5 grand, as well as a critical truth.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:19 PM
15

^ This. Yeah, don't do that (act like a dick). Keep in mind also that those girls that you attract when you act like that, are very likely low-quality women. And based on your post, those are the kind of women you do not want. True Confidence is upkeep of a healthy self-esteem. You have no need for ANY external validation, nor are you out to impress anyone. And THAT, is very attractive to high-quality women.
/r/seduction27/01/17 05:59 PM
10

Before anything else, if you are "in love" and you are not sure whether said girl is interested in you? You are over-invested, and you need to stop. Right now. As far as getting in a relationship, the way this normally, and ideally, works is; you keep dating someone, and there will come a point where she will act all manners of weird towards you until she actually brings up the question on exclusivity. However, you are nowhere near that point. You have other, more important issues to work on.
/r/seduction23/01/17 03:46 PM
3

Run. Away. Now. There's nothing there but drama enough for at least 5 full seasons of a reality TV show.
/r/seduction20/01/17 10:55 PM
23

^ This. Also, OP possibly has "the grass is always greener on the other side" glasses on.
/r/seduction17/01/17 06:00 PM
25

Some guys are sad, shy, introverted, quiet, and insecure. Girls will not want that.... Girls don't like introverts? Not true. Do not confuse personality types with individual character traits. Introvert does not denote sad, shy, quiet, insecure, uninteresting, and/or unwanted.
/r/seduction12/01/17 05:25 PM
1

The information your friend gathered tells me nothing new (or anything you didn't already know), and does not affect the situation at all. So, letting this effect any change in your perspective/behaviour/tactics/game/etc. does not make sense. You can keep the communication line between the two of you open, but do not become over-invested. So what if you go to different schools? It's not like there'll suddenly be restrictions on talking to each other then, right? And for all you know, you may mee…
/r/seduction04/01/17 10:00 PM
1

Schedule a next date. If she flakes, you'll have your answer, and move on.
/r/seduction03/01/17 05:29 PM
10

Play your game, not hers. You need to exercise Frame Control / Frame Maintenance. As far as your NYE plans, DO NOT become outcome dependent. Just go with the flow, at your rate.
/r/seduction30/12/16 09:08 PM
3

All three know each other. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Be nice yourself to them, but you have to decide and be clear which one of them you want to turn into more than just friends. Be decisive, as what a real man does. Extend your abundance mentality outside of this 3-set.
/r/seduction30/12/16 03:39 PM
2

I wouldn't call that a "blow out." You did alright. She just wasn't interested. If you see her again, just acknowledge her with a wave and/or say "hi." Other than that, move on.
/r/seduction28/12/16 03:37 PM
12

That's called maintaining frame. As in, not letting her emotional state affect yours. Very good job, dude.
/r/seduction15/12/16 08:21 PM
2

Simply smile and say, "thank you."
/r/seduction08/12/16 08:49 PM
1

To be each other's arm candy. Also, while I can, and have been, standing up on my own from occasionally tripping in the mud, it would be welcome to be helped up once in a while by someone you know has your back all the way. On the flip side, I unintentionally got a little too busy pursuing my dreams and self-improvement in the last couple of years that my schedule has become not so flexible to facilitate proper dating. Should change as soon as achievements are unlocked. Then again, the next skil…
/r/seduction06/12/16 09:09 PM
2

^ This. Doesn't matter who's driving whom. The only thing that matters is that you two are on a date. And your sole task is to have fun with it.
/r/seduction17/11/16 11:05 PM
93

Good going, dude. Now, get up, pick it up, and run with it. See how far it goes. And just as you did in that encounter, don't "think," let alone "over-think" it. Just go with the flow.
/r/seduction17/11/16 09:31 PM
1

Introvert here. Let's look at it from a simple math perspective. Here are your current givens: A. You want to meet women, to eventually date. B. You don't want to go out. Understand that these are contradictory. Your first date won't just come to you. And, from a bigger perspective, this will also be true for many other life opportunities. You need to sit down and really think about this: Either be content with your status quo, which is to stay in your comfort zone, accept that nothing will chan…
/r/seduction16/11/16 04:42 PM
1

Weight lifting, while it does help (specially with strength training and muscle mass building), is not a necessity of achieving muscle tone. Tone can be achieved through cardio and other exercises that do not involve weights, such as push-ups, pull-ups, sit-ups, squats, planking, and so on, in conjunction with a healthy diet. From a purely physical assessment, muscular women are not sexy to many, if not most. While toned women? To many, if not most, generally, a resounding hell yes. The same way…
/r/seduction16/11/16 08:03 AM
5

First off, don't worry about getting men to notice you. Do not even make that an objective. Your priority should be being a confident person. And there's nothing more attractive than a confident woman. That said, most of the lessons of this sub are applicable to womenfolk as well. Although you may need to tweak some of it to suit you (ex. Working out; your call if you want to lift, but definitely cardio and such for a toned physique as well as overall good health, etc.). Work on your goals, eat …
/r/seduction15/11/16 06:10 PM
2

The term "potential love interest" implies non-exclusivity. Understand that this applies to BOTH you and her. Meaning, you are equally as free to see other women, as she is free to see other guys. And the only time this will change is if/when you both elect to date each other exclusively. That feeling of jealousy you're describing is indicative of over-investment and neediness. Quite simply; STOP that.
/r/seduction27/10/16 05:55 PM
3

The only real goal is to be healthy for yourself. That said, as far as the attractiveness factor, at least be toned, and aim for cut. The competition weightlifter bulky muscle mass type is generally unappealing (and scary) to many, if not most, women.
/r/seduction27/10/16 04:43 PM
2

^ This. Contact female friends and confer. Or if you frequent bars anyway, approach any woman with no other intentions than to introduce yourself (and to make a new friend, which goes without saying), and to pick her brain on the matter.
/r/seduction17/10/16 03:53 PM
6

Nothing there but drama, dude. Your call.
/r/seduction13/10/16 05:43 PM
2

Same thing I have learned to observe when in a relationship: I will help her fight her battles with her if she asks, but I will NOT fight to keep her. Staying together is a conscious decision. The day any one decides otherwise? There's the door. It's always been there, and it's always been unlocked.
/r/seduction07/10/16 08:06 PM
1

Thank you, sir! We'll see. Night 2. Other than this public posting here on Seddit, only 2 people who know me in real life know about this: my best bud, and my doctor (of whom I'm waiting on a consult). The problem I found with medically-related web searches is that there seems to be more noise than signal. Which is not really news. Regardless, this is something I will not declare nor openly discuss with anyone else, as I'm curious of any effects with my current associations. We'll see if this wi…
/r/seduction05/10/16 02:28 AM
1

I understand that it can't be Christmas every day. Besides, the notion of actually being "happy" every day strikes me as a strange situation. Being "I'm okay / I'm good / I'm alright" as the average, general disposition sounds about what it should be. And then the occasional "happy!!!" when there are events that actually merit them. Problem is, my wave fluctuations are significantly more condensed than what I perceive you other seemingly-normal folks have it. I could be okay/good for a week, the…
/r/seduction03/10/16 09:45 PM
5

If she's attractive and you like her? Go for it. See where it goes. Possibly you drew that, "Advance to GO. Collect $200" Chance card. Good luck and have fun!
/r/seduction03/10/16 05:28 PM
2

The "right moment" only happens in the movies. In the real world, you have to make it happen right there regardless of situation. It will never match the perfect scenario you have in your mind, but you have to make the most with what you have. Just go!
/r/seduction02/10/16 08:09 PM
1

"Not taking yourself too seriously" is among the effects of true confidence.
/r/seduction02/10/16 08:02 PM
6

When you get back to the girl after taking a piss, greet her with something like, "hey, I'm back," and then introduce yourself to the new guy. And then chat him up and build a rapport with him. (For all you know, he could be a solid contact working at some company you could benefit from in some other aspect.) If you are able to do this, you will have presented your social skills, and upped your social value to the girl. And, possibly, the dude will back off the girl, since you've presented yours…
/r/seduction01/10/16 11:56 PM
1

Likewise. Was expecting a turnaround, but then saddened by the conclusion. Actually, what struck me as odd was the girl. Little red flags came up at the club when she wouldn't show affection when her friends are around. And then again during their date, when her behavior was inconsistent, heck, it wasn't even within the same zip code, as when they were "alone" at the club. It's not like this was a pick up, or initial contact. No. This was an actual "date." Regardless, don't worry too much about …
/r/seduction30/09/16 09:26 PM
4

Man-up and ask. Be direct.
/r/seduction30/09/16 09:14 PM
1

What's your plan? If you have a couple hundred bucks you can burn, I'd say go for it, and see what that really is. It'd be worth the peace of mind.
/r/seduction25/09/16 03:46 AM
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Well, good on him. But I ain't itching to get laid with this particular lady. Dammit, oneitis. Get out of my head! Haha.
/r/seduction24/09/16 02:06 AM
1

I see where you're coming from, and I agree with most of it; which is exactly why I elected the course of action I did. The one minor part I don't agree with is the, "You should feel free to act the way you like." That is an exercise in pure impulsiveness. Situationaly, sure, it happens, rarely, and there's leeway for it. But generally, I prefer my actions to be conscious decisions of my best judgement. Of course, that's just me. Not telling you, nor anyone within ear (or read) shot of this thre…
/r/seduction24/09/16 02:02 AM
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I was sharing advice, not asking for some. Any constructive criticism is always welcome, of course. The scenario was not a "pick up" or an initial contact. I have #closed with her already, and do run into her a couple of times a week. My internal conflict here is against oneitis, and sharing that the better option is almost always the one that doesn't feed it.
/r/seduction23/09/16 03:10 PM
1

Not a club setting. Hate those. Have a rapport with her, and will see her again. Datetime undetermined.
/r/seduction23/09/16 07:23 AM
1

Current self-evaluation. Pros: Confidence: Posture, body language, smile, kino, etc. (with some cons, listed below) Eye contact. (with some cons, listed below) Can approach almost anyone (with some cons, listed below) Cons: Re: Confidence. -- I have off-days, and sometimes, in a row. Days where I feel like utter crap and think that maybe I've just been bullshitting myself with this self-improvement nonsense, and my "confidence" is nothing but a damn series of lies. I do bounce back from it when …
/r/seduction20/09/16 09:17 PM
1

I think you should work on yourself. Period. No substitute for true confidence. Some AA will still be there, but you'll find yourself approaching... ANYONE regardless. Your call, of course.
/r/seduction16/09/16 11:05 PM
2

Only because the title is prefixed with "Captain America." If it was titled, "Civil War," or "Avengers: Civil War", let alone, "Iron Man: Civil War," Cap and Bucky would both simply be ash piles sitting at the bottom of that Russian base.
/r/seduction16/09/16 03:22 PM
1

Girl: "Jade." Guy: "I like your name. My name is [insert Guy's name]. Very nice to meet you." [Hand shake] Guy: "Jade is a precious gem in China. In fact, the 2012 Olympic medals had jade mounted at their center. Oh, hey, let's get coffee at Starbucks around the corner so you could continue shopping but this time, with coffee." Etcetera. Just relax and be casual.
/r/seduction14/09/16 09:34 PM
3

Sounds like she's got a bad case of insecurity of being without a guy. You don't want to have to deal with that level of crazy. Ignore her. Maintain your frame. Abundance mentality. Tons of other women out there to approach.
/r/seduction14/09/16 03:53 PM
9

Frame integrity: Intact. What ever happens, happens, as long as it is by your rules and best judgement, as much as possible. Good job, dude! \m/
/r/seduction16/11/15 07:17 PM
2

Exactly what both have said. You never ever spam texts. Remember, "less is more." And you'll only come across as needy, and you never want to get into that frame. Ever. Your next text should be what you said above; only to pitch when you have a specific datetime and location, and to see if she's available to join you.
/r/seduction13/11/15 03:39 PM
18

Whoa. You very, VERY nicely maintained your frame in spite of your physical and mental handicap (being drunk). Excellent job, dude! You know, for your sake, I'm hoping the number she gave you isn't bogus, and that she does respond. Fiery vixen FTW! If she doesn't, no big deal. You already got a fantastic experience out of it, as well as a field-proven self-realization.
/r/seduction12/11/15 07:17 AM
1

True. However, he, nor anyone else, can define those parameters for you, except you. You need to get to know yourself first. This, above anything else, is what you need to do. Effective immediately. If you don't know where to begin, you can start here: How old are you now? Do you work out? If not, start working out, eat healthy, and get enough rest. What have you accomplished? What are your successes so far? What are your failures? What things do you like? What things do you not like (this will …
/r/seduction10/11/15 10:18 PM
1

So I should be completely content with who I am? Yes. You should be happy with who you are. Clearly, you are not at this point in time, but that is your objective now: to be truly happy about who you are. Always strive to be the best version of yourself. I'm gonna kill the suspense by telling you that this is a never-ending battle. Always try to improve on your current skillset. And always try learning new things. How does this confer any advantage to me? Remember what it's like the first moment…
/r/seduction10/11/15 04:55 PM
4

No. You do not tailor yourself to be "likable" by women. You need to take a good look in the mirror and get to know yourself very well. This is not a quick process by any means. Once you find out who you really are, effort all you can to be the best version of yourself. Because once you're that person, not only will you realize that you are in almost full control of your happiness, but everything else (including being attractive to women) will follow as a mere byproduct of this "better you."
/r/seduction10/11/15 02:38 PM
59

Pickup and seduction won't save you. Correct. It won't. It's not intended to. Look at the first qualifier of the description of this subreddit: "self-improvement." That's it. Not that that's merely it, but that it is the cornerstone of everything. Invest heavily in yourself and build a solid you at your core, and continue striving to be the best version of yourself. Everything else, like being successful in pick-up, whatever else, are mere byproducts. Seduction is simply an additional skillset w…
/r/seduction04/11/15 04:59 PM
3

Clarification; "assume attraction" is not a "misread." It is simply a mindset to help combat approach anxiety. A very helpful one too. That said, in your situation, your intention was to plan a date. Her having her "crush" tag along, is a monkey wrench to that plan. You can cancel the plan, saying (with your flavor of), "no, as he'd be a third wheel, and make for a really strange date. Regardless, I (you) am just texting to cancel the plan. Be safe."
/r/seduction04/11/15 04:25 PM
2

Would you just add her and see what happens, Nope. or should I write to her that I want to meet her ( and start again)? Why? Don't contract oneitis. Forget her. Remember "abundance mentality." Move on.
/r/seduction04/11/15 02:22 PM
2

I'm wondering what this is about. Were they just taking about me? Do they think I was hitting in the receptionist? Am I over thinking this. I especially don't want to get caught up on any work craziness with women while in a relationship. Let's play the other side of the fence for a moment: So what if they were talking about you? So what if they think you were hitting on the receptionist? How does any of that amount to anything substantial? And then let's weigh that against how you value your ex…
/r/seduction03/11/15 09:59 PM
2

Why not ask for his number? You could do that, and it wouldn't be awkward, specially if you already have a decent rapport established.
/r/seduction03/11/15 05:19 PM
1

That's simply signal-to-noise ratio. If you're attractive, that's good. Keep investing and improving yourself, and socialize and be friendly as normal. It's the ones you are attracted to, are the ones who get more of your time and efforts. Keep at it.
/r/seduction03/11/15 03:43 AM
1

The "like" function on Facebook means next to nothing. Regardless, the more important question you should be asking yourself is, "are you the fish, or the fisherman?"
/r/seduction02/11/15 10:41 PM
5

Plan A: Just more radio silence. Hopefully this week she'll text me saying sorry again or asking if I'm mad. I don't play games, but I really don't even know what to say when someone stands me up like that. It was really rude. Don't play games. Period. If you care about this person, you can send a short, simple reply conveying sympathy for her possible situation, and if there's anything you can do to help? (Second part is optional.) And then go from there. Do not send multiple texts. Plan B: I s…
/r/seduction02/11/15 02:52 PM
1

Open to both of them.
/r/seduction30/10/15 08:27 PM
1

If you approach a woman, make decent progress with her (get her invested, sleep with her, etc.), and find out after that she is actually in a relationship, that's on her. If you approach a woman, know immediately that she's in a relationship, yet persist on pursuing her, regardless if you get her invested and make progress with her or not, now that's on you. From lessons we learn and share here in Seddit, being selfish innately isn't wrong. In fact, it is required, for confidence-building. But o…
/r/seduction30/10/15 03:27 PM
3

I do not agree with that twisted perspective of, "saving them from themselves because they are a mismatched couple anyway." If they are mismatched, let their own friction between each other cause the stresses that break under their own weight. And while I'm sure that it does happen (successfully effecting breakups and getting the girl, and so on), as we come across those stories often, that, above, is nothing more than a selfish intrusion of privacy.
/r/seduction30/10/15 01:56 PM
1

For your sake, I hope you won't treat this as a "pick up where you two left off" situation. If she wants you two to see each other again, fine. Just see each other and see where it leads to. Always maintain your frame and be sure to never be more invested than she is.
/r/seduction29/10/15 10:55 PM
3

You have a confidence problem, and everything stems from that. Start with getting to know yourself well; things you like, you don't like, what you're good at, what you suck at, and so on. Start working out, eating right, get enough rest, and dressing properly. Work on improving your weak points, and further hone your strengths. Never alter your behavior to mimic someone else. Always be true to yourself, and everything else will follow. Be positive and social. Never effort trying to get people to…
/r/seduction29/10/15 04:50 PM
3

Will it be a date (just you and her), or with other friends? Don't forget what "F" is "FWB" stands for. But all this really boils down to how you feel about it. Do you want to go? Do you think it'll be a fun experience? And so on. Just maintain your frame.
/r/seduction29/10/15 04:24 PM
3

People change due to whatever stimuli (maturity, experiences, events, etc.). You are who you are. Is who you are at this moment better or worse than the person you want to change/revert to? The person who you think this woman will like? If so, make that change. If not, why even bother? Always try to be the best version of yourself. And if this "ex" doesn't like that? Well, then, that's just too bad for her.
/r/seduction28/10/15 03:22 PM
32

I was surprised the link was to an actual study. My first thought was something light-hearted, similar to the cat vs. dog pet zones. LOL! Cat: http://i.imgur.com/AtoZUZF.jpg Dog: http://i.imgur.com/wTtsLrm.jpg
/r/seduction27/10/15 11:31 PM
2

Good to hear about your improvements. Keep at them! I know sometimes it's like watching paint dry, right? But as long as we realize that our own selves are the best investments we each can make, it is absolutely worth it. Since OP asked for an outcome, I'll copy-paste something I posted in a different thread just yesterday. Now, this is something I realized no more than just a month or so ago, and only very recently am able to articulate. I hope it helps. Confidence is more than just being comfo…
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:44 PM
2

Oh, there's actually a term for that? LOL! I just called it a 6-month "grace period" after a relationship end. Currently on month 5. Working on confidence levels and killing-off the importance of external validations.
/r/seduction27/10/15 04:28 PM
1

Not "sometimes." ALWAYS be honest with yourself. You are the one person you can, and have to, be truly honest with.
/r/seduction26/10/15 03:12 PM
1

Very concise write-up, /u/JefemanG ! I would like to further expound on item #1, as that is the cornerstone of self-improvement: "Confidence." Confidence is more than just being comfortable making eye-contact and saying "hi" to strangers. Confidence is knowing your true self, being comfortable with it, and then living congruently with it. lolwtf? How? Take a good look at yourself. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Itemize what you're good at, what you suck at, and would like to improve upon. T…
/r/seduction26/10/15 02:05 PM
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That's a bit of an odd emotional conflict to have. I enjoy it cause of the flirting and having fun and having cool stories to tell. Flirting with random pretty women is "easy mode" and cheap thrills compared to what you currently already have. Why not restart flirting with, and getting your current beautiful gf all giddy and excited as it was in the beginning? As I'm sure, at your 4-year relationship's mileage, there's a good deal of complacency that has set in between you two. Plus, it'll be mo…
/r/seduction23/10/15 09:16 PM
2

Anything that follows my "hi," is absolutely at the mercy of the circumstance. Anything from commenting about a quality she's got that caught my attention, or teasing her about her choice of drink, to simple curiosity about what she's specifically doing at that moment, and so on. I don't use a script as it significantly reduces the chances of tripping over myself, specially if she goes off-script.
/r/seduction21/10/15 12:54 AM
1

"Hi." Accompanied by eye contact and a smile.
/r/seduction20/10/15 07:37 PM
1

It was really funny way I said it. As much as you insist on this point, the end result says otherwise. Accept it: it did not go the way you intended, and was not received as funny. Only then can you move on. As far as slapping her back, on one hand, there's "self-defense." However, in your scenario, this was not applicable. You unwittingly insulted her. The "first strike" was yours. Her slapping you was simply reactionary. Slapping her back is not "self-respect." It was retaliatory. You fucked u…
/r/seduction20/10/15 04:36 PM
2

If you have... always been super cocky, and she responds positively every time. ... why shift gears into this roundabout circus indirect approach? Why not maintain the "cocky" frame and simply ask her out directly? It's always best to be congruent to who you are.
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:40 PM
3

So, you were knocked down into the mud. And you spent this past year flailing around in it. Time to stand back up. GET. UP. 1) 26 years old. You're very young. Lots of time and lots of energy. You need to put that into good use. 2) living with parents, so i can save a money for relocation. Good. Nothing wrong with that. And do your part by keeping your living areas (bedroom, bathroom, and other applicable zones of your responsibility in that house) clean and orderly, and not like the stereotypic…
/r/seduction19/10/15 03:05 PM
1

MANY, if not most, of the "self-improvement" lessons are applicable to both genders. OP, in your short post, sans giving up, you already know your strong points, and issues you need to address. Shift your focus to working on those instead of the myopic perspective of "getting a guy to stick around," and before you know it, you may end up with more guys wanting to stick around than what you know to do with. Good luck.
/r/seduction09/10/15 07:22 AM
2

Well, then don't even think about "approaching women" at this point. You have a lot of homework to do on yourself. Fix your thinking and work on your true confidence and self-esteem. This will take time. And when you have a solid cornerstone within yourself, everything else is a mere by-product, including socializing with women.
/r/seduction09/10/15 07:16 AM
1

If how you feel about her, nor your intentions towards her, have not changed, why should you change how you go about your days? If you want to pursue her, then do it. Otherwise, go on with your life. For all you know, this new show she's putting on, is not for your benefit.
/r/seduction09/10/15 07:12 AM
2

We are talking about classes and such but she's not smiling or giving me any signs that's she interested. Because that's just small talk. Initiate conversation topics that affect how she feels.
/r/seduction08/10/15 10:03 PM
2

Wait. You only recently met, and in that short time, you "fell in love with her?" Do yourself a favor and take those plastic, rose-tinted glasses off so you can realize how over-invested you currently are. Secondly, going for a girl who is currently in a relationship, regardless of its condition (great/lame/rocky/etc. is none of your business and is irrelevant), is a road that leads to nothing but drama. But I digress, if that's your cup of tea, more power to you.
/r/seduction08/10/15 09:57 PM
1

You have committed a number of mistakes in that experience. Now, you need to learn from them. In that first hour, why text your friend what you thought about that girl? What was the point of that? What purpose would that serve? Instead of texting him what you thought about her, walk up to the girl and tell her what you thought about her. Kick being shy to the curb. All that does is get in the way of doing what you want. You are you. Own up to everything you are; the good, the bad, all of it. Abo…
/r/seduction08/10/15 03:51 PM
1

Edit: She texted back telling "yeah, got home good but wet. thanks, sleep tight! :)" "Well, now. I'll make sure it'll be raining on our next date." Sorry, couldn't resist.
/r/seduction05/10/15 08:38 PM
1

Stop with your "grass is greener on the other side" thinking. You already have what you are looking for, and right in front of you. Work on that. Let it run its course. If you end up happily together for a really, really long time, then great. If this goes teats-up on its own after a couple of (or a few) years (and under its own stress, not because you sabotaged it, like what you're doing right now), then that's what it will be. Cherish what you have.
/r/seduction05/10/15 02:41 PM
1

Yo.
/r/seduction01/10/15 02:30 PM
2

Technically, the possibility to get back together with her is there. However, this is a critical time for you to NOT be needy. The break-up is her decision. It is what she has deemed necessary for her at this point. You don't need to like it. But it is what it is. First and foremost, you need to take care of you. You need to get out of your funk as soon as you can. Work out, do and learn more on what interests you, go out, say hi to folks, make new friends, etcetera. Invest in yourself. Everythi…
/r/seduction29/09/15 03:05 PM
1

I don't agree with that blanket statement that women's lives are easier in general, but perhaps you are simply referring to the one aspect of being approached. And in that specific aspect, I agree; it is generally easier for women. They can just sit there and be hot, whilst we have to deal with pressure and fear and whatever else, that culminates into what we refer to as Approach Anxiety. Although, you may need to adjust your perceptions a bit there about us being "in court and women are the jud…
/r/seduction04/09/15 06:21 PM
4

If you do it right, it's not even about "getting girls" at all. It's about enriching one's self. And "getting girls" is merely one of its byproducts.
/r/seduction04/09/15 05:37 AM
2

Damn, nebulous. I'll be in my bunk.
/r/seduction03/09/15 05:30 PM
1

My apologies, as I did not want to copy-paste a few paragraphs off the book here. And thank you for explaining that. However, still missing a few dots there. The author's recommended course of action there was to "be selfish." Which he even reinforces with, "what's wrong with that?" I don't mean to swing from one extreme to the other here, but I sure hope he doesn't mean to "neglect" the wife/S.O. while pursuing his own interests? The person (in the example was Lars or Shane, I forget) still has…
/r/seduction01/09/15 05:22 PM
1

Yo. Same here. Didn't realize that I embarked on a journey of self-discovery, as to mere lessons on how to talk to and pick up pretty women, which I recently posted about. Overall, the best thing I have taken on to-date.
/r/seduction28/08/15 02:18 PM
2

Oh, that's from the book, "Models," by Mark Manson. Essentially, when you approach, you should be coming from a position of being truly confident in yourself. You do not invest more of your time and energy than the girl. If she rejects you, it won't affect you at all. By asking more than once, and letting it affect you, it comes across as being desperate, which is indicative of low self-confidence behavior, and is unattractive.
/r/seduction28/08/15 01:25 PM
1

When she said that she doesn't date guys at the bar, my response would have been, "what if I moved to a table?" Kidding aside, on your approaches, only ask once. Any more than that is being more invested than you should. And that is bad. There are many, many other pretty women out there.
/r/seduction27/08/15 09:44 PM
6

Did you sign up to be that girl's rescuer? The "love" between you may very well be real. However, it does skew your perspective greatly, without you ever realizing it. You will feel compelled to be there for her every time she fucks up. This is not your job. Your first priority is you, and your well-being. If you respect yourself, you will realize that you will not settle for a girl that does not respect herself. You may love that girl, but she will be relatively "okay" without you. She will ver…
/r/seduction27/08/15 02:05 PM
1

Good on you, dude! It just irks me a bit thinking why couldn't I have come to this realization when I was much younger. Maybe at least 10 years or so ago? That would have been fantastic. But, no worries. Just a mere "whatever" thought, and not dwelling on it. Am very pleased with my new discoveries and realizations.
/r/seduction25/08/15 09:27 PM
1

On a very recent cold approach to a pretty redhead at a grocery, I told myself, "alright, chicken shit, you mean to tell me that you walked all this way to simply stand near her and do... nothing?" Instant pressure release which made me physically chuckle, and opened to her.
/r/seduction25/08/15 06:49 AM
2

Well, at least you were successful in polarizing her. Granted, from Unreceptive to rejection, but still. In all seriousness, you need to reread the book.
/r/seduction21/08/15 08:54 PM
1

With women who say that they don't want a relationship, take that at face value. That said, first and foremost, do not change yourself. Next, ask yourself how much you like this girl. If you enjoy the time you spend with her, do not "try harder." Her statement instantly negates any further reason to put in any more investment into her. You can continue to spend time with her as you normally have, if you prefer. And then gradually dial it down from there. And remember, you are free to pursue othe…
/r/seduction21/08/15 02:21 PM
1

Oh. No worries. Essentially, that last statement is, let's say I went out, and socialized successfully. When I get home, I am very mentally and physically tired and drained even though I had a great and happy time. And, thanks, BTW. Cheers!
/r/seduction20/08/15 11:16 PM
1

An incredibly sarcastic, "REALLY?!" Followed by, "You're dense."
/r/seduction19/08/15 09:57 PM
5

OP, I want to thank you for being clear about your intention when you asked that guy. The last time I was "asked out" by a girl, I did not perceive it at all that I was being asked out as her text simply read, "Hey, I will be in town this weekend." To which I simply replied, "Nice. Be safe and enjoy your weekend." A few months later when she was in town for the weekend, we had dinner (last-minute plan, she texted me that she was bored, and I had nothing better to do that night so I invited her t…
/r/seduction19/08/15 05:22 PM
5

I'll start by sharing a link: Chart: How to understand an introvert I am an introvert. Socializing is DRAINING. However, I do exert the conscious effort to socialize to achieve my objectives. My perspective is: nothing will happen to me if I do not do anything. If I do not go out and make new friends, my current (small) social circles will not change. If I do not go out and approach pretty women, I will not have any chance of finding and filtering women to have a good woman to share a good, happ…
/r/seduction19/08/15 04:56 PM
1

Do not worry about what other people may think. Be concerned mainly about what you think about you. Besides, that "who the fuck is this guy?" may only happen if one is being obnoxious. Won't happen at all if you are being friendly.
/r/seduction18/08/15 04:46 PM
3

First thing, go in front of a mirror and tell yourself, "Calm. Down." and breathe. Second, call or text your lawyer friend, and ask her out again. You do not "create" attraction. So, don't even expend energy on that. However, you can increase your attractiveness by simply (do not confuse "simple" with "easy") working on combating your anxiety, pushing it aside, to allow her to see your real character, as that is what is more important. And the mere fact that you two already had a date tells me t…
/r/seduction18/08/15 03:56 PM
1

After introductions, the one guy and one bartender were both looking at me oddly because of the drinks I ordered off the bat. Turns out that it was because they considered that it was quite strong to start off. We joked about that, and then talked about other things. The energy we had at the bar just took off and propagated.
/r/seduction18/08/15 12:30 AM
1

I only finished reading it a couple of days ago, and am currently on my second read through. Too soon for any relationships, but it made me take a really good look at myself, the kind of relationships I have had, the kind of ex-girlfriends I have had, and so on. It made me see that I actually have good things in me, that I should reinforce so it shines through. As well as brought to light insecurities that I have been unwittingly radiating, which resulted in the kind of relationships and women I…
/r/seduction17/08/15 09:26 PM
1

I believe I have, but this was back in high school (maybe), in the context of a friend having a crush on an upperclassman, and having Approach Anxiety. But that was over half a lifetime ago, and have not heard that since.
/r/seduction17/08/15 05:34 PM
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That's not a shit test. Tell her, "shut up," and make out with her with more intensity.
/r/seduction17/08/15 04:34 AM
3

Philisophy and Science are great. Hold back on touching politics though. After you open, talk mostly about the girl while also sharing relatable things about yourself.
/r/seduction15/08/15 03:09 PM
1

Texas
/r/seduction15/08/15 03:14 AM
2

I have yet to read anything that you should even be remotely ashamed of. You are 24. Only 24. Sure, there are guys who are gifted with innate social skills. You aren't one of them. I am not one of them. Here's the question: "So what?" The good news is that social skills are not exclusive to just a few. It can be learned and honed. The only thing in your post that actually matters is your epiphany, which triggered your drive for improvement. Keep moving forward. And good luck!
/r/seduction13/08/15 02:49 PM
5

Not only "hope." It teaches how to actually stand back up when you are knocked down in the mud.
/r/seduction13/08/15 04:54 AM
1

Likewise.
/r/seduction13/08/15 02:53 AM
1

Why do you think the situation is now awkward? Essentially, nothing happened. So, nothing has changed. Just go on with your own business. In the class(es) that you two share, if you two happen to look at each other, simply be a big person and say and/or wave "hi!" If you want to, maybe also ask, "how are you?" "Oh, cool, see you in class." And go on with your day as normal. Simple as that.
/r/seduction13/08/15 02:42 AM
1

"Excuse me. I've been standing here thinking of what to say to you because I find you incredibly attractive, and want to meet you, but all I can come up with is, 'hi!' So, hi, I am Gabbo_is_comming [offer your hand for handshake] and I find you INCREDIBLY attractive. What is your name?" Regardless, don't sweat it. Just chalk that up as a lesson. There are many more HBs out there.
/r/seduction13/08/15 02:34 AM
1

If you can get a car, on the weekends you are free, look into signing up with Uber or Lyft for some extra income.
/r/seduction12/08/15 06:25 PM
2

That page is rife with trojans. Be advised.
/r/seduction12/08/15 05:58 PM
1

"Hello. I'm Asok33. What's your name? How was your day?" Also, what ThrowawayPUA said. Don't follow her like that.
/r/seduction12/08/15 02:09 PM
4

Tea / iced tea. Smoothies. A walk around the park.
/r/seduction12/08/15 02:02 PM
1

I have questions, if you don't mind. How old are you? What is your target age range? And where do you daygame? On another note, I envy you about almost eliminating AA. Mine still creeps up, and overwhelms me, when I go a day or two without going out and practicing. It is frustrating.
/r/seduction12/08/15 02:25 AM
1

It's only creepy if you mess it up and come across as creepy, regardless of where you try to daygame. I believe that if you're truly sincere and genuine with the compliment, the women are flattered and appreciative. If you are right, and that they do laugh at me after, that's solely on them. That does not matter to me at all. When I approach a girl and tell her that I find her cute/pretty/attractive/whatever, I really do mean it.
/r/seduction11/08/15 06:53 AM
6

First question that popped into mind was, "which lips?"
/r/seduction10/08/15 08:58 PM
2

Try to have fun with it. For each question that she answers, see if you can build on it by making a joke, or sharing something about it you can relate to, and so on. Say, the "how old are you?" question. Let's pretend she answers that she's 25. You can comment with, "OMG you are so young. I envy you. Now that I can stare at you little more, I think you can pass as 21. I bet you get carded everywhere you go?" Etcetera. You have to do your best to keep it light-hearted and happy, so she feels safe…
/r/seduction10/08/15 04:44 PM
2

Since this is daygame, first thing is to protect yourself by asking how old she is. If she passes that (i.e. you aren't going to jail if ever you get lucky), pretend like she's just one of your friends, except you don't know anything about her. Ask questions to get to know basics, like how's her day, does she work/study, where, is she a local or visiting, etc.. Just remember to speak slowly, not only to help calm yourself and not seem jumpy, but it also helps assure her that she can feel safe an…
/r/seduction10/08/15 01:11 AM
1

Approach Anxiety
/r/seduction10/08/15 01:06 AM
2

It really isn't anything... ultra-special. Just stay consistent with the mood, and your initial intent; which is to convey something happy to the girl. If they are married or are in a relationship, be happy for them. So what if you did not number-close with that girl? It's no big deal, heck, it's really not even a deal at all, right? It's not a curve ball or anything like that. I expect pretty girls to be in some sort of relationship. I'd be surprised if I come across ones who are single and ava…
/r/seduction09/08/15 08:18 PM
1

That's a kindness. Thank you, sir. And, I hope so.
/r/seduction09/08/15 08:09 PM
1

I read it in one of the sidebar links, I think. Edit: Found it: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/157l54/billys_guide_to_approaches/ That link does say that approaches from the back are creepy, but I personally don't think so. And if you watch different PUA infield vids (Jan, Sasha, RSDMax, etc.), it seems to be the most common approach angle. People are busy, minding their own business, etc., making for the 2-4 o'clock (or 8-10 o'clock) angle approach low-possibility options. Maybe if …
/r/seduction09/08/15 02:32 PM
1

31? Cool beans. Your approaches go quite well, I am guessing.
/r/seduction09/08/15 05:03 AM
4

I understand you. But, you need to adjust your perspective a tad. We simply do not have any other options on how to go about it. Tapping her on the shoulder or approaching from the side in a cold approach, that's it. (Front approach, something about too direct, putting her on the defensive, something etc., I don't have that kind of advanced game.) The act of tapping her on the shoulder, in itself, is NOT creepy. It is what you do the immediate instant after that, which could be. Which is why it …
/r/seduction09/08/15 04:52 AM
1

Thank you, kind sir.
/r/seduction09/08/15 03:41 AM
2

Yo! Sure thing if we become local to each other even for a weekend. But other than not cockblocking you, I have no clue how to be a proper wingman. LOL! This is all new to me. From what I have heard, Austin is where the game is.
/r/seduction09/08/15 03:41 AM
10

First off, slut shaming is not cool. That said, as far as your question goes, it really depends on what your objective is. This PUA/seduction subreddit is primarily about self-improvement. If a person uses the knowledge from here to sleep with as many HBs as he could to run up his score, that's his prerogative. If a person uses knowledge from here to get in the game to "get out," meaning, to find his one, special HB to invest into an LTR with, that's his prerogative as well. It all boils down to…
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:23 PM
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