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I think you handled it like a boss, but keep in mind, she felt a lack of sexual connection at the end. It could have been just her, or it could be a sign of something bigger you need to work on. Keep vigilant.
/r/askTRP15/04/20 08:55 PM
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There is a lot of advice stating you need to raise your SMV (and you probably should), but you are also going up against her perceived SMV of you. This can be crippling. You can lift, get your style on point, and objectively go from a 4 to a 7, but your wife will still see that 4 every time she looks at you. At this point, it seems only blatant pre-selection can turn the tide, meaning hotter younger woman are throwing themselves at you in front of her or the Hail Mary: she finds you cheating wit…
/r/askMRP08/12/19 07:23 PM
1

Usually when wives disrespect you, stop sleeping with you, etc. it’s either because you are a slob or your perceived SMV is low in her eyes for one reason or another. It often helps to use that as motivation to improve, but not for her.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 09:18 PM
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Have a plan of attack for your share of the custody with the kids. Other than that, it sounds like you are going through positive changes and she is getting very insecure, to the point where she is using active dread. At your age, your looks, body, mind and money, should be on point, or at least well on their way to being on point. You have the advantage. You can get a high value woman., but she can’t do the same if she is overweight. Either she is lying, or these men who give her attention are …
/r/askMRP08/11/19 09:06 PM
2

I highly doubt she is asexual, just with you. Reading your post it does t sound like you have the right mindset to lead the relationship right now. Just the very notion of accepting the “asexual” is putting yourself in her frame. This starts as a you problem. Fix you and you will have options, and if you have options you will give off a better vibe and put up with less, and at that point she will either fuck or walk. Improve you and improve the situation. Read, test, internalize.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 11:27 PM
2

Fair enough - The message sounded like she was trying to get you into bed. And regarding getting her to lift and diet, it will take 4-5 months of you doing it consistently and perhaps getting pre selection from other women in front of her to light a fire under her ass.
/r/askMRP01/08/19 08:50 PM
9

Get your lifts up and diet properly, and lead your wife into being more attractive or lead her out the door to find someone you want to have sex with. Emoji are no cool and rarely work right u less your game is on point. That wasn’t a shit test. Your wife wants to fuck you, and she was calling out for it covertly, and then was passive aggressive after you denied her. You need to be fucking your wife or someone else will no matter how fat she is. If you don’t care then it’s time to leave and stop…
/r/askMRP31/07/19 11:58 PM
1

She lives alone...
/r/askTRP31/07/19 08:55 PM
1

Fuck what she says, watch what she does. The medium is the message. She can call you babe all day but it doesn’t mean shit if she isn’t taking action to see. This is an attention whore/ time waster, at least for you. Next her, and game other girls. This is going nowhere and it’s not worth your time.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 05:01 AM
3

Marriage counseling is a checklist item for her to justify to her family and friends that she has tried everything. It’s like a fat person justifying liposuction. They tried to diet, they tried working out, they tried supplements, surgery is there ONLY option. You can not negotiate desire. If she is pushing you there, I would get a lawyer lined up.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 09:30 PM
22

In my experience the amount of sex and quality of women/sex rose exponentially after 30. You do have some societal pressure to settle down and have kids but not a lot.
/r/askTRP22/04/19 03:13 PM
2

No
/r/askTRP07/01/19 05:47 PM
10

“Don’t have a decent gym body yet” - There is your answer. Up your SMV and take a break from talking to women. During this time, rethink your interactions and what has worked and what didn’t. Also find your purpose. You will know what your purpose is when you are busy doing in instead of complaining about what everyone already knows. Women are not inherently good or bad, they just are. When I am in a position of true abundance (7-9 plates, and heavily involved with something I am passionate abou…
/r/askTRP03/01/19 10:20 PM
2

Always lead, and act like you know what you’re doing, even when you don’t. Also study porn like a coach studies film, but know that porn isn’t real life, but a lot of the fundamentals are in there.
/r/askTRP21/12/18 06:21 PM
3

Learn BDSM. This has been my thing for years. It’s a fantasy for most women and often a selling point if you leak you’re experienced in it.
/r/askTRP21/12/18 01:40 PM
18

No ultimatums dude. Ultimatums are the final resort for some who had no power, and will not work out in your favor. She made the move, good for you. Now you need to act like it was no big deal. Don’t push her or you will push her away. I am sure the guy she is dating pushed her into your arms. All you have to do is go about your business, and act like nothing happened. If the opportunity arises and you are down, take advantage of the moment, but continue to date other girls. You can bet she is n…
/r/askTRP21/12/18 01:36 PM
1

“I am bad at snap, text me instead”.
/r/askTRP19/12/18 01:45 AM
1

That’s a good call. I have screen shots of pretty much everything.
/r/askTRP19/12/18 01:26 AM
4

Never go out looking for a fight but if someone steps to you, it’s time to throw down.
/r/askTRP18/12/18 05:31 PM
11

“Doesn’t want anything right now”, “working on herself”. This is code for riding the cock carrousel. It’s nothing you actually did. She lost attraction. She is young and hitting that party phase and getting more male attention so it was inevitable. Any reason she gives to put blame on you is her back rationalizing her feelings so the narrative fits. Relationships are basically TRP on hard mode, and conventional wisdom would tell you to keep in the gym, build your body, your mind, finances, socia…
/r/askTRP18/12/18 05:29 PM
2

Holy validation Batman. Chill - less is more. A little indifference would do you some good and that comes with abundance.
/r/askTRP18/12/18 04:23 PM
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You need to find that purpose that makes life worth living, something that gets you excited. A lot of people lean on a significant other for that void to fill and it leads to codependency issues making you weak, beta and unattractive.
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:41 PM
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I had about a month long dry spell in the fall. I would go out every weekend, spit game, and would constantly go home empty handed, or if I got a number, there was no response. Eventually the thirst got to be too much and I started trying to hit on girls in our group, who were dating guys in our group, which was uncool. I stopped going out and started making my weekends about improving my skills in my passions, and just left my phone in my room. I got so much done and I was saving money. Eventua…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 04:05 PM
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Stop being a pussy for starters. If you need a little motivation, give your friend 100$. And every time you approach you get 10$ back. Also start with baby steps. Just say high to 10 girls in passing or at the bar in a week. Eventually ramp up to conversations, and then to number closing, and more
/r/askTRP14/12/18 11:57 PM
6

Next dude. Hard next.
/r/askTRP14/12/18 05:50 PM
3

Redpill Rambo here
/r/askTRP14/12/18 05:49 PM
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I hope touchable already slept with her, that wasn’t fully clear. Secondly, you need to start pulling away from this girl and focus on improvement and meeting other women. You do not implement dread game. Dread is a byproduct of being with a high value man. Lastly, being in an exclusive LTR must be her idea if you ever have any real chance of entering it 100% under your frame.
/r/askTRP14/12/18 12:04 AM
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I would break up with her. Who knows what else she could be doing without your knowledge.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 11:56 PM
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You left her alone with not notice. Don’t be Red Pill meat head guy. You can text her to say you told her you were running to the bathroom, but I think this one is gone.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 11:53 PM
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God*
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:34 PM
1

By winning Russian Roulette, you’re already starting alive, you just don’t die, not technically gaining anything, but have everything to lose. A stable relationship with one girl can be very beneficial to you (lower risk of STD’s, less plate management, if you live together split bills, etc.), but it’s also something you have to put more into vetting, training, and maintaining frame.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:33 PM
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Don’t be butthurt in your response. Just say something like “hit me up when your schedule clears up and I’ll see if I can make work with mine”, and then no more texting. Women have dick at the ready and flooding her phone. My guess is a bigger better deal came along. All you can do now is improve grow, lift, and game other girls.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:21 PM
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Dude, they wanted more than you were willing to offer and it affected them negatively. That’s fairly normal after a few months. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers commitment. It was a one way street, and she is mad. I once had a plate end it telling me Jesus told her she should stop talking to me. I agreed. This is just hampsterring, nothing more. With that said, never talk about TRP with friends, girls, family, etc.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:15 PM
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A good exercise is going for a walk in a heavy trafficked area, and look eye contact with every person walking by. You will be that guy for a day but it will help you grow.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:01 PM
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She has cut down on bad habits, improved herself, is loyal to you, and wants to build a future with you. That doesn’t sound like a bad deal. Now it sounds to me like your SMV is higher than hers, and if that’s an issue I understand, and the right thing to do would be break up and find better. Just a note for you, if you’re experiencing career woes, never reveal it to your girlfriend and never lose your frame.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 08:00 PM
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Never a restaurant on a first date. Assume you will pay if you invite her out, so keep it to a drink or too, something that wouldn’t require a lot of money. The goal is to get her one on one so avoid getting the friends out with you, with the exception of having your roommates setup a double date In the meantime, start hitting those weights, up that style and start prospecting other women.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 07:39 PM
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You said it yourself, girls will always flake, especially now. There was some survey taken from OK Cupid that should the majority of women find the majority of men to be average. Couple that with male beta thirst and you have a princess mentality. Replying “k” is butthurt so cut that out. Either don’t respond or a simple: “No worries - hit me up when your schedule frees up”. (Most likely not going to happen but by saying this, you are demonstrating that your not butthurt, and you value your time…
/r/askTRP13/12/18 06:44 PM
1

Eye contact is very important. And it’s something that takes practice, and mental training to remember hold. If a girl looks at you and you meet eyes, hold it slightly until she looks away first, then approach. Also look for other IOI’s like biting lip, or hand in hair, or a smile.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 06:34 PM
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Do you have any other prospects? If you do, I would game them and make sure she knows without telling her directly. If not, you can ask her out, without the verbal foreplay. Just a simple “I am going to X on Friday, you should come with and we can get a drink. If she declines, offers no alternative plans or reschedule, you have your answer. At that point I would just be polite with her to keep the peace.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 06:25 PM
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You could go radio silent, but it could come off as butthurt. I just usually say something like: “ no worries, hit me up if you want to hang out sometime”. After that I would just assume it’s over and unless she hits you up to hang out, there is no conversation.
/r/askTRP12/12/18 07:34 PM
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Fetlife is like a kinky Facebook, not a dating site. I had a lot of experience with this as a Dom and it helped get my N count in the triple digits so I will tell you what I know. Be attractive - maximize your SMV (lift, style, money, sidebar). Know your kink well. Study it and practice like it’s a sport. This is going to separate you from 90% of the guys on there who bought some toys on amazon and think they are Christian Grey. Your profile pic should be blurred but enough to show an idea of wh…
/r/askTRP12/12/18 04:31 PM
2

You aren’t anything yet. The next step is to reach out for a date. Something like a walk, or coffee or something else more secluded (the library obviously isn’t). If she takes it, run standard game. If she doesn’t respond, you put yourself out there and have your answer. If she take the date and rejects your advances, you have your answer. The answer is that is or isn’t interested. Whether you are an orbiter or not is going to depend on your reaction. If she turns you down and you continue to re…
/r/askTRP12/12/18 04:13 PM
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It sounds like this chick is trying to lay the ground work for premeditated bad behavior. My guess is she is already fucking someone else, or is at the very least emotionally cheating.
/r/askTRP12/12/18 03:36 PM
2

First of all, the other lists are right. You need to up your SMV. In order from easiest to hardest: - get a new haircut, revamp, your wardrobe, lift, take classes or join group to improve your conversation and speech skills, find a way to make more money, During your quest to up your SMV: - Conduct yourself like a man (no selfies, limit social media unless you are posting about your passion (uploading art, music, interesting vacation pics). - Text mainly for logistics and adhere to the golden ra…
/r/askTRP12/12/18 02:14 PM
7

Rule 1: Do not talk about fight club. Women talk, men do. Act accordingly.
/r/askTRP12/12/18 01:56 PM
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I understand the frustration but women are never going to stop shit testing, it’s what they are meant to do. I think you used this as the boiling point and snapped, losing control of your emotions. That’s where you fucked up. Better responses: “Cool. Enjoy your hangover.” Or “Don’t do anything I wouldn’t do.” Or simply “Me too.”. If she gets out of line with you, check her up, or drop her. It already sounds like she is developing hottie-wanderlust based on her desire to go abroad (nothing wrong …
/r/askTRP12/12/18 01:52 PM
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I have learned I have less friends now or less friends who relate to me after I followed red pill. Rule 1: do not talk about fight club. Never preach your ideals, and don’t brag or talk about your adventures with the opposite sex.
/r/askTRP12/12/18 03:02 AM
1

There are two factors when it comes to pretty all aspects of dating, including the first date: attraction availability Attraction: this is pretty self explanatory. If you are not attractive and intriguing enough you won’t get a choosing signals to start off the introduction. Also attraction is hard to gain but easy to lose. If there are days before your meet up, you could essentially talk a girl out of a sale so to speak but being too needy, too available, etc.. You could also have her lose inte…
/r/askTRP11/12/18 07:17 PM
1

That would be exception rather than the rule
/r/askTRP11/12/18 06:51 PM
5

Ego is fueled by needy behavior to feed it.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 11:16 PM
2

Yes
/r/askTRP22/11/18 10:54 PM
4

Keep her as a plate, but maybe not relationship material. If she ever pushes for a relationship, tell her you don’t think she would actually want that. If she presses further, tell her she would have to quit that job, ditch the guy friends and lose the social media.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 04:41 PM
6

Best answer here
/r/askTRP17/11/18 11:26 PM
3

You’re doing everything right. It takes time. Why did year her. Clearly this wasn’t entirely on your terms if you have oneitis for her.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 05:15 PM
0

One coffee date and texts buddies since, logistical issues aside - you’re orbiter status. Also she didn’t respond to your text. The medium is the message: she interested. She probably sent that text to her entire friend list like most women do, she messed up responding to it further putting yourself in orbit. The response is you gave with the exception of sexting and or having had rough sex with her is cringe-worthy. This one is gone. In fact she never was. Keep lifting, STFU and sidebar.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 05:13 PM
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Don’t tell her you blocked her, just do it. Actions over words. Demonstrate not explicate. Also if you block her she can’t say anything to you.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 11:58 AM
2

However you want to look at it. She is dealing with another man and if she is doing that on your watch, she doesn’t respect you. Telling her that unacceptable is useless. Showing her is not. I would go completely dark on her knowing you are in fact done with her. If she claws her way back and gets renters under your frame, plate her for a few months and watch her behavior. I can already tell you hat you’re fishing in dirt on this one though..
/r/askTRP16/11/18 02:27 AM
2

Women have dick thrown at them at work, at the gym, at the bar, at the store, at social functions. If they are having to resort to an app there usually are red flags to follow.. If you’re looking at this from a red pill prospective, her warning you about her behavior and still doing it is unacceptable. In fact, this whole relationship you are in her frame enabling her to pull this behavior. She lined up a date, obviously she isn’t cock blocking herself. Block her and move on. I met a girl who ha…
/r/askTRP15/11/18 08:44 PM
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Oneitis alright... This chick is bad news. Honestly the initial red flag to me was the religious involvement (churches are a rationalization hamster’s best friend and it’s not set up to help you). He second red flag is you are meeting relationship girls through apps or websites. These places are typically where you find bottom of the barrel women. Even if they look alright, they have heir own issues as you are seeing from his girl going feral ok you. Reassess your avenues for meeting long term p…
/r/askTRP15/11/18 07:15 PM
1

The second option but less meat head tone. “Hey I am going to x event, you should should come with”.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 10:49 PM
3

If there is no sex and you don’t have further intentions I would just cancel on her and ghost.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 03:23 PM
1

I have seen this before and she is her line in the sand. Her dealing with mental issues caused her to be more promiscuous then she would like to be. Women that are like this otter have codependency issues as well. If you want a relationship with her you could probably get it, also coupled with the on and off sex depending on where she is at mentally. If you don’t see her as relationship material, it might be time to walk away.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 02:33 PM
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First of all, unless you fuck her there is no plate, or potential plate. All women are potential plates. Your best bet is to meet other women and reach out to her when the logistics are more in your favor. You can only lose attraction through text, not gain or maintain.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 01:46 PM
3

Active dread I’d beta and feminine. Dread is an byproduct of having high SMV, abundance and pursuing your purpose.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 08:38 PM
1

No response
/r/askTRP13/11/18 08:22 PM
5

If there is no sex there is no relationship. She might be fucking someone else, or can if she wants.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 05:32 PM
1

Lift
/r/askTRP09/11/18 09:29 PM
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You’re not lifting enough, and I’m not being funny. You lift for muscle yes, but you also lift for discipline, and for goal setting and seeing the results of achieving the goal every time you look in the mirror. Undeniable results create confidence and everything flows from there. Also as you lift (especially compound muscle workouts) your body naturally produces for testosterone which should cause you to be a little more bold when it comes to approaches. Also stop masturbating for awhile.
/r/askTRP09/11/18 09:14 PM
1

Depends on the context. The more you do, the more you will learn and the better you will socially calibrate.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 10:42 PM
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As a man you need to be stoic, and that doesn’t mean unemotional. Stoic doesn’t mean you are this cold silent brooding person, but rather poised in situations, and a master of your world when it comes to dating, work, self growth, social, etc.. To understand that sexual strategy is amoral takes a lot of the negative (and also positive) emotion out of it. Women aren’t evil, they just are. Hypergamy is real, so is briffaults law, along with AWALT and many other teachings. The sooner you can grasp …
/r/askTRP07/11/18 10:41 PM
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Focus on giving her an experience, without trying too hard.
/r/askTRP07/11/18 10:25 PM
2

It happens to the best of us. I have had flakes and ghosts on girls with SMV than me. Anything online is going to increase those chances of flakery. Rules to the game: -never be butthurt, just indifferent. If she sends you a last minute cancellation just say OK and nothing else. -next her unless she asks you to reschedule at the same time as she is flaking. - if she does ask ask to reschedule, push to hang out at your place. -it is a numbers game. Always make other plans, because chances are she…
/r/askTRP07/11/18 10:24 PM
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Actions over words. The medium is the message. Throw her words out completely, including her complaining about that one time you were a jerk. Women feel first and then back rationalize reasons to justified the feelings. Flat out, she is young and has probably lost attraction or is getting ready to branch swing. All of her actions (the picture, the distance, etc.) are signaling she is disconnecting. The rest of it is her trying to pick fights to cause a blowup and breakup and you’re not taking th…
/r/askTRP07/11/18 03:35 PM
1

Imagine living in a constant state of rejection....
/r/askTRP25/09/18 07:37 PM
3

To quote one of my idols BlackRam313, “Being a man is lonely business man!”
/r/askTRP25/09/18 03:26 PM
1

Your mileage may vary. Culture, social circle and other external factors can sway more one way or the other. When you hear AWALT - it means all women have the potential to be like that. She could slut around on you after two months or be loyal for years. You can mitigate it by being proactive in your territorial behavior but ultimately you can’t control it. So as Rollo says, make yourself your mental point of origin.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 02:52 PM
4

And avoid the guilt traps. Her: “OMG you’re so possessive!” You:”you’re just figuring that out now?”
/r/askTRP25/09/18 02:27 PM
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Mate guarding is reactive, being territorial is proactive. Ignoring is the best thing to do. Complaining or calling him out in front of your girlfriend isn’t a good look. Discontinuing the text thread is mandatory. Telling him in person that you aren’t cool with that kind of conversation and that it should happen again is proactive to further validation. Going forward always she a way from text threads with your girl and other guys, in fact, just try to keep your girl away from your friends.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 02:17 PM
1

Don’t overthink it. With choosing signal you can pretty much just say hi and you will be in
/r/askTRP05/09/18 10:34 PM
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Yes - think about how nerve racking it can be to approach a women. It’s even more nerve racking for her to approach you. As a man it is your job to approach. When a girl gives you an IOI, it’s a choosing signal and waiting to approach or not approaching all together is a rejection to her, and she will put you in the not fuckable category to ego preserve. Always approach when you get choosing signals.
/r/askTRP05/09/18 09:46 PM
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If you’re not getting female attention or choosing signals (eye contact, smile, playing with hair, etc) then you need to work on yourself.
/r/askTRP05/09/18 09:39 PM
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She is genetically programmed to easily discard you. Really your only play is to be politely disinterested in her and work on yourself, your life and other dating prospects.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 03:00 PM
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She reached out for validation. You didn’t give her any (short of responding at all). Her last remark about “closure” IMO was an attempt to gaslight you into a more comforting response (beta orbiter style). You didn’t fall for it. The response ok, bye does seem a tad butthurt but there really isn’t much to work with there. I would have not responded after the last message she sent.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 02:26 PM
4

No - it’s illegal
/r/askTRP01/08/18 11:43 PM
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Open relationships are a convenient way for females to maximize the duplicitous imperative of alpha fux and beta bux. I would shy away from an open relationship and just plate her instead.
/r/askTRP01/08/18 03:25 PM
2

You need to follow the 12 steps of dread, and you need to give your relationship at least one month per year you have been together, but even then I would focus on one month for every level of dread. I think others summed it up well: she isn’t attracted to you, she is not in your frame and you can’t negotiate that. The easiest thing to do would be to leave and start over with someone else, but there is a reason why you are still with her and I feel like once you find out what that it, you will f…
/r/askMRP30/07/18 06:01 PM
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Lift
/r/askTRP17/07/18 04:34 PM
1

Either they are dating down to begin with or they are just being men.
/r/askTRP05/07/18 05:37 PM
2

This is where perceptual smv plays heavy. Relationships are red pill on hard mode. You have to consistently be improving at a rate your parters attraction level could potentially be dropping. Some women get bored in less than a year and totally check out. Some women can stay with their man for decades, your mileage may vary. Also if your constantly improving so your woman stay in the relationship, you are operating in her frame and you already lost her.
/r/askTRP05/07/18 05:24 PM
2

Do what you fear
/r/askTRP16/06/18 06:41 AM
2

Any parent I have talked to says it’s life changing in a good way.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 07:00 PM
1

No
/r/askTRP14/06/18 06:06 PM
1

She has been dealing with an infection off and on and we have just powered through it. Now the doctor is telling her it needs to fully clear up before sex can happen.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 05:20 PM
1

I think you’re right man.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 03:47 PM
1

Reasons to stay i do care about this person the sex is great we are both well off financially and have similar future goals.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 03:42 PM
1

She was only interested in sex initially Apparently she didn’t break up with me and I am trying to find the line of reality and my emotional insecurity in the relationship, like maybe I spun plates too early. I broke her and her trust and I have an urge to make it right. Infection on and off over the year, it has been a constant stream of really good sex.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 03:32 PM
1

I stopped coming here because I was no longer married. I have given you all the information I thought was necessary. What should I expand upon?
/r/askMRP12/06/18 03:29 PM
1

There’s a lot to reply to here I was exclusive with her, but if she either broke up with me or stopped responding to the point I thought it was over I spun plates. When things worked out I stopped spinning plates and was exclusive with her. I didn’t tell her about plates when we were on the outs and that’s what she found out eventually. She thought I was cheating on her, and I thought I was moving on from her after she broke up or ghosted.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 03:13 PM
2

She will drop plans to meet the alpha while marking the beta wait for her.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 06:36 PM
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Don’t date girls you aren’t interested in, once you get your abundance mentality down.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 06:35 PM
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Pushing for a relationship is the woman’s job. If you’re stuck in the fuck zone, invite her out to do something with your family, your friends, etc. If she eventually asks “where is this going?” You won. Also great dread.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 06:58 PM
1

They will resort to the man needing sex as the fault. “All he cared about was sex”, “sex is a higher priority than starting a family”, “I have a medical issue vaginvitus, and he won’t supprt me” it’s all hamstring justification. “We even tried counseling so we did everything we could” (can’t negotiate desire, and the counseling is a check box in the hamster justification list). The low libido is not ASD, it is a symptom of the women no longer being attracted to you. Yeah, in my situation I can r…
/r/askTRP04/06/18 09:29 PM
1

The best chance is for her to see women cover or overtly trying to fuck you, and even then the dread could push her into further non-action. This is why the twelve stages of dread are the essentially build you up to branch swing, with a slight chance your girl will get back in pocket.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 09:18 PM
1

This part comes with experience. The first thing you need is outcome independence. If you’re outcome dependent you will look thirsty and be used for validation or not at all. Make going out about other things than women and if someone if giving you buying signals (smiles, eye contact, etc.) go see what’s up with no expectations. The amount can vary. Some nights are better than others. If you are having luck and fun with 2, stop there. If you want to talk to more, do that. If you get blown out to…
/r/askTRP04/06/18 08:31 PM
1

We at TRP are religiously into extreme ownership. Often times applying the Brad Pitt Rule(tm) will put things into prospective, that you still have work to do maximizing your SMV and you should be happy with any progress and success you have made. You should also understand it is a numbers game. This girl might be dating someone, and only looking for validation, maybe she doesn’t want to look like a slut in front of her friends, maybe she is super religious when she wants to be. There are a vari…
/r/askTRP04/06/18 05:33 PM
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Labido is irrelevant, it’s attraction, and you can’t negotiate it. To make it even tougher it’s perceived attraction. My previous LTR/marriage. She lost attraction for me, and I was constantly rejected. I went through the process of upping my SMV: lifted, upped style, pushed forward with my career and passions, etc. At the end of the day she still wasn’t attracted, but I started gathering attention of higher SMV women who did want me so it made leaving the relationship a no-brainer.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 05:23 PM
1

Are you lifting ?
/r/askTRP04/06/18 05:19 PM
3

Top kek
/r/askTRP29/05/18 11:17 PM
2

If there is, I have never seen it
/r/askTRP29/05/18 04:23 PM
2

Side bar, lift and ask questions to clarify, if brief field reports to get others synopsis.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:28 PM
5

This is a decent community of smart alpha makes, or men heading in the right direction.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:21 PM
1

Of course there is something missing, you are young and haven’t experienced a ton yet. Start approaching girls you like, focus on school, at least enough so you can get into a decent college, and find work to be able to pay for things you want to do.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:14 PM
6

Well good news is you have plenty of one to figure things out. Also you are approaching your play years, socially speaking. After high school, there is a very small chance you will keep in touch with anyone short of a small group of close friends. Be bold, especially when it comes to girls. Keep lifting, and keep improving.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 03:05 PM
4

The difference between beyond creepy and being sexy while escalating is their attraction level to you. If they are attracted enough to go on a date you should always take a shot. If you don’t you will get friend zoned.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 02:46 PM
2

No selfies, no fishing : hunting photos, and lift
/r/askTRP27/05/18 04:17 AM
1

Are you lifting?
/r/askTRP27/05/18 04:16 AM
2

I would take a break, focus on Yourself and take your knowledge and apply it. You know what women value, leverage it
/r/askTRP26/05/18 10:19 PM
2

Get over the anger or use it to lift and improve. Now you know this exists, take that knowledge and use it for good rather than wasting energy raging about it.
/r/askTRP26/05/18 09:41 PM
1

Lifting is the foundation. It is the most active way you can simultaneously create passive dread and increase your SMV. Your perceived SMV dropped, and she has lost attraction. All you can really do is lift, build yourself back up and move on. If you wants to come back she will, but you can’t make her, but you can make your SMV raise.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 05:16 PM
1

Yeah - ignore that question. Lift and talk to other women. If she reached out again, reply cordially but don’t ask her anything about herself. Keep the 2:3 text ratio. If you want to bait her send something like: I forgot to tell you something! Then don’t ever answer what that is. Then reach out sayin you’re going to be at x place, and she should come. If she is there, then you got a second chance to close.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 02:36 PM
1

Set a good example l. If he is a male who is constantly striking out he will eventually google tips on improving his luck and eventually things will click. It’s not your job to show him.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 02:27 PM
2

What about lifting though?
/r/askTRP25/05/18 02:03 PM
3

Why are you (presumably) straight? It’s a combination of nature (traits handed down, new ones born with), and their environment (how it intersects with them and how they interact with it. I think SMV and TRP play a role in the environment side most, but it still varies person to person.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 01:56 PM
1

It’s either you or someone else. Why not you? If it’s you she deserves then approach. If not, then lift.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 01:49 PM
10

It’s your job to fuck - be a man.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 11:44 PM
5

The first step is lifting. Diet is equally important. To “spin plates” or maximize your swing potential, you have to maximize your sexual market value. This is done from a combination of physical attraction, mental stability and social/financial influence. One feeds the other. You lift to harden your body and your mind. You workout on a schedule so you have set places to be and activities to do which will help you be less needy. You will increase strength and look better which will increase your…
/r/askTRP23/05/18 10:00 PM
2

Venting to dude or lesbians is the only place to vent. Maybe your family too.
/r/askTRP23/05/18 09:48 PM
3

Trolling?
/r/askTRP23/05/18 09:41 PM
1

Get ready for some tough love if you’re coming in here like that. Sidebar, lift, internalize, improve.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 01:32 PM
1

I don’t but it totally but I would reach out in a week or so. If you are setting up for Saturday, hit her up on Wednesday / Thursday. If you declines without a reschedule or flake, then Black list.
/r/askTRP22/05/18 06:52 PM
2

I have and it if it’s the right time or circumstance you will have luck but it’s not worth it
/r/askTRP22/05/18 04:15 PM
1

She initially said she didn’t want anything serious, but she wanted to be exclusive. Eventually she opened up more but something would happen and she would stop talking to me. She would eventually come back and we would build it back. It was always one step forward two steps behind
/r/askTRP21/05/18 08:07 PM
1

I think the way this things works is I would ultimately renter her frame at the best case scenario if this thing would work, and this would probably be used to justify future cheating or breaking up from her.
/r/askTRP21/05/18 05:49 PM
1

I really liked things when it was on and I feel this urge to make it right since I fucked this up.
/r/askTRP21/05/18 03:49 PM
1

I think that’s pretty clear man
/r/TheRedPill20/05/18 01:57 AM
1

That’s exactly it but there’s nothing I can do now. Thus radio silence and abundance mentality.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/18 08:15 PM
1

It was an usual circumstance. Slut tells galore but that comes with my territory. She made six figures so there was never a need for beta bux until she found out I was spinning other plates when I didn’t think I would ever see her again (she would pull vanishing acts and I wouldn’t hear from her for days). Once she found out, she really laid on the “I need to trust you” comfort tests. I complied, and I think she lost attraction. I am sure she had a steady roster of scrubs and maybe when she runs…
/r/TheRedPill19/05/18 12:28 PM
1

Update - She canceled plans and then wrote “I want to be your friend”. I declined, deleted and moved on. This was a an interesting example of briffaults law, post selection (constant sex for a month after she found out about the others), and then lightswitch, going from getting her brains fucked out and I love yous to “I can’t talk to you anymore” in a matter of hours.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/18 12:35 AM
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Trying to re-isolate has helped. I have doubled it up as a compliance test as well and for her to follow me somewhere else. If they are jumping in and being super energetic and putting on a show, go along and give them their spotlight, but so it from the position of a king to the court jester, or a dancing monkey.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 08:53 PM
1

I think it’s going to happen today. This girl thought I was steady for he last year when to me it was very on and off so it basically looks like I cheated in her mind
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 01:15 PM
1

Wear clothes that fit, and bring out your v-taper. If you don’t have one, lift. Also wear a nice pair of shoes and one nice watch.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 03:31 AM
1

I took the break up as shit tests since they didn’t last more gab a couple days
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 02:17 AM
1

As a rule I would follow the iron rule, but technically the split hasn’t happened and is probably going down tomorrow. I have heard that multiple times about my name though
/r/TheRedPill17/05/18 07:39 PM
1

33 and had an ltr for about a year. In my eyes it was off and on (left in a bad note and no contact for week or more at a time). During this time I spun plates and a lot of them, and when she came back to the fold I stopped spinning. She found out about everything after some snooping around on my device and ended it, got back together, was madly in love and then ended it again with blocking me. She reached out and I set up a time to meet this Friday to see what the deal is before resuming plate …
/r/TheRedPill17/05/18 05:38 PM
1

Best response
/r/askTRP16/05/18 10:14 PM
5

Passes the eye test: looks good to me to be point I will never tire of looking at her and she won’t detract from my SMV by bringing her out. Connection & chemistry: we have to get along, have a similar sex drive and are into the same things sexually. Future potential: someone I can build a future with, or that will support my long term mission. This rules out single moms, retail employees, smokers, drug abusers, and people with toxic friends and family.
/r/askTRP16/05/18 12:57 PM
1

Those are the best kind to run into. You will be forever remembered as a beast.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 04:05 PM
8

6-7s are easier to approach hold less conversation but have a higher chance of fucking you early. 8-9s are harder to approach, easier to hold conversation with but harder to lay quickly. Read or watch Donovan Sharpe, he lays it out pretty well.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 08:18 PM
1

“And...?”
/r/askTRP11/05/18 06:18 PM
1

Unless you owe her money you don’t intend on paying or she is crazy enough to harm you or people you love, never block. It’s petty and shows you still care. Indifference is key here. Be cool if you see her. Never initiate contact and never respond. You should be a busy man with life and options.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 06:16 PM
1

The blocking was petty and should not be repeated. The opposite of love is indifference, remember that. I would say ignore, since now so much time has passed, you should have other dating prospects. If you have to respond, it should be along the lines of “new phone, who is this?”. Followed by leaving whatever she writes on read. If she doesn’t write anything else, you know it was a waste of time. But think about this logically. She had enough interest to fuck your friend, but strung you along. D…
/r/askTRP11/05/18 06:06 PM
1

You lost this battle before it started. I would say next but there isn’t anything to next here, she already hard nested you. You can go back to the Brad Pitt rule on this and it will bring you to the same conclusion everyone else is drawing: She is not attracted to you. Good news is; you can work on yourself and get in great shape and find someone else
/r/askTRP11/05/18 05:40 PM
1

Female orgasms are important, especially if you want to second date, relationship, etc. Even the most sexually stubborn woman should be able to orgasm 4-5 times and squirt once within an hour of sex. Research, get toys, engage in kink. It all helps and more importantly it helps your confidence.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 05:33 PM
2

Next
/r/askTRP11/05/18 05:26 PM
1

As much as awalt, people are all different, have different natured and nurtured courses that shape who they are. For example, a women who is an empath may be more embracing to you showing your vulnerabilities, others won’t, but may have there own strengths in other areas beneficial to you in other ways.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 06:09 PM
1

Your mileage may vary...
/r/askTRP07/05/18 04:56 PM
8

I have been thinking about this for awhile. There are numerous pieces of advice about tracking periods (applying more game during ovulation and doling our more comfort during the bleeding period). Most women are on birth control so they either don’t have a period or it varies to the point of being untraceable.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 01:18 PM
1

It was also a different time period which better enabled men to do what Don Draper does. Marriage and relationships now versus back then are like apples and oranges.
/r/askMRP07/05/18 12:41 PM
2

Curious - Why are you on dread level 11 if you are not getting turned down for sex?
/r/askMRP27/04/18 09:22 PM
3

If you aren’t fucking the talk is meaningless
/r/askTRP27/04/18 01:02 PM
1

Next
/r/askTRP26/04/18 11:30 PM
2

You have to have more inner game to pull off the complimenting open. Don’t call her out. Just let it go. The medium is the message here - not interested. If she adds you back then maybe that’s not the case, or she wants you as a friend/orbiter. Congratulations on a cold approach. Most men are paralyzed tondo that. Keep reading, lifting and internalizing.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 11:29 PM
3

Those are the type of messages that convey neediness. Unless you are dating or fucking, I would keep it to logistics. Side note: I have an HB 8 who was about 23 who had a boyfriend try to put me in orbit. I barely responded to messages, didn’t answer her calls and if you asked me what I was doing, I ignored and responded I was on a date, and that response came the next morning. She pursued me even harder.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 11:15 PM
1

We all have those girls that have flaked or who we view as quality. If you had more abundance, she wouldn’t be getting under your skin. Your situation sounds a bit complicated logistically, but the fittest survive in revolution, so you will have to figure that out.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 03:56 PM
2

She wasn’t fully attracted (see height shit test), and nothing else you did compensated (you didn’t lead on picking someplace, boring dinner plans, etc.). The text afterward is irrelevant, and it sounds like to me you didn’t pass the eye test. The kiss on the cheek was her being nice (since you probably paid for dinner). I would keep working on your SMV, and learn game (not lines, or pickup crap, but more social calibration and sub-communication).
/r/askTRP27/03/18 02:58 PM
1

“Logistic concerns” has been my response in person if asked.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 09:55 PM
2

Emotional cheating (assumed physical cheating), dead bedroom, constant disrespect, general indifference toward me (opposite of love).
/r/askTRP26/03/18 09:37 PM
1

*Perceived SMV Rolla Tomassi highlights this in The Rational Male. This is how an ugly fat professor can land a hot student or a retail store manager can get with the hot sales assistant. A lot of it is contextual. That man with higher SMV could be married to her and inevitably failed too many shit tests and doesn’t look attractive in her eyes.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 09:15 PM
1

Could mean a lot of things and women differ. You could be giving them attention / validation, and they see you as a friend. They could be bored, or unfulfilled physically, mentally, emotionally or sexually. It could be a shit test You have probably had a combo all of three.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 08:59 PM
2

What’s up with this guy not defending his position as a bf? If you saw a guy flirt and work on your girlfriend multiple times, would you speak up? I would. Something is fishy with that... Either it was a shit test and that’s not really her boyfriend or she thinks it’s ok to flirt with other guys in front of her bf, and if that’s the case, you don’t want to be messing with that anyway, since there are better plates out there that don’t bring a third wheel. Either way this sounds like #wastehistim…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 08:51 PM
2

I don’t think being open about your emotions is the problem but more what the emotion are that you’re projecting. Yes - You are really happy about winning a big sale, Yes - You are really sad your dog got hit by a car No - She really hurt your feelings when you were talking to Kevin from sales (thanks Donovan Sharpe) No - She didn’t like my picture on Facebook. If you have frame, self actualization, etc, you wouldn’t be bothered by that, or so swayed emotionally by her actions. There is a differ…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 08:42 PM
2

I kinda did this - minus the dating app, for awhile. There was a time threw down 20+ 5-6’s in a month, threesomes multiple times a week, etc.. at the end of the day, they it became the equivalent of porn for guys who can’t get laid. It’s a form of instant gratification that doesn’t build you up as a desirable man, and because your brain still knows the difference, you will not have the frame control and real abundance mentality needed for the 7-10s. In fact it almost can make them seem more scar…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 08:23 PM
3

Something definitely happened. If not physically then emotionally, and that is worse because a) it leads to physical, and b) it begins the emotional detachment from you and if not to him then it will probably be someone else. Something sparked the the need to interact to hang out with him. It could be your fault and it could not be. Who knows.
/r/askTRP22/03/18 06:46 PM
4

Look up Donovan Sharpe and subscribe to his Patreon. His show is called the sharpe reality.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 01:33 PM
2

Thanks for the replies and to all the replies to this. I have some serious ADD tendencies and it’s takes a lot of to meditate. I start setting aside 10 minutes of silence and any emotion I felt good for bad I would acknowledge and let pass. Some I would dwell on longer than others. A recent one was feeling co-dependent, like I had to fuck someone every night or it was a wasted night (which is irrational), so I dug and asked why, kinda following the rabbit hole. That rabbit hole also brought me b…
/r/askTRP22/02/18 09:48 PM
1

Yeah - I guess I didn’t realize was there until it crept out, and didn’t realize how it shaped me for better or for worse.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 07:56 PM
1

In my mind the relationship aspect is merely background for the situation dealing with these dudes, what they did and I was treated during this. Someone said stop being a pussy which is probably the best advice but I never realized this had such an impression on me until this morning.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 07:17 PM
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At first I use to really enjoy smashing someone’s girlfriend or fiancé or wife. After a while I have started to get a conscious about wife, and then fiancés, although girlfriends I seem to still be ok with. Sex is definitely amoral, but it seemed like once my plates were established or re established, I started phasing married and engaged out.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 04:49 PM
2

You are right. This is the first it’s left my subconscious and I have become aware of this. Letting go is a good next step from here.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 04:29 PM
2

I can’t count how many times shoe has been on the other foot since then. I think this is what I needed to hear. Processing the past by analyzing progression.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 04:27 PM
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Thanks for the response.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 04:26 PM
1

I think it goes beyond porn. I have fallen into the trap where I have abstained from porn and masturbating but not orgasming, meaning I am sleeping with girls 3-4 nights per week. Either way it’s instant gratification. I am not crazy about most of these girls but it gets the job done like porn, and provides a shallow instant gratification. I think delayed gratification and the progress of pursuing delayed gratification will harden a man in general but more biologically when you dealing with dela…
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:10 PM
1

It sounds like, even if you are a 6, your mentality (scarcity, and coming off needy) is probably knocking you down a peg. For all of your issues with fickle behavior on these sites, it might be a good idea to focus on them less and more out in real life. Yes it’s common knowledge that women date up on those sites and female 5s will scoff at make 5-6s but that’s how it is. Focus on what you can control, which is your self and your attitude, and your body.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 01:21 AM
1

I would next. When you get lines like this, apply the Brad Pitt rule and it will be very clear what the situation exactly is. If girls wants to fuck or is interested in you, they will never give you a line like this. This one seems to be “not looking for anything right now (with you)”. Gaming her actively at this point is a waste of time. You would have more affect nexting, working on yourself and trying to meet other girls. I am seeing text suggestions like “no worries”, and “k”, and “lemme kno…
/r/askTRP16/02/18 10:51 PM
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I have changed my views over the past year and am of the belief that you should not block exes unless you’re tagged in wedding pictures of your marriage and you do not want it to hurt your future endeavors. I have learned the opposite of love is indifference, and the best revenge is living a great life, none of those are demonstrated by blocking. No contact is a different story, as long as you don’t make it weird in social groups should you ever find yourself in that spot. Lastly, as a man you s…
/r/askTRP15/02/18 09:32 PM
1

IMO you lost frame when admitting to cheating and explaining how you’re not wild anymore. Blocking seems like too much effort if you have ten others. Emoticons are usually always a bad idea, although it was funny.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 08:30 PM
1

I am reading this as she was never interested. When she was texting you it was probably more of a desire to get messages from someone and enjoyed the dopamine of the text notification. If she was interested at all either the attraction was lost or she didn’t like you better than someone else. Either way way white that last little text exchange about leading you on, I would just respond with a, “no worries” or “no problem”, and then stop initiating anything. If she text you, wait a day or to befo…
/r/askTRP14/02/18 08:25 PM
2

I would t work on openers too much. If a girl is attracted to you, it really doesn’t matter what you say. Pick up lines are ultimately another buffer against rejection (if I can just find the right thing to say, I will eventually be able to approach). If anything just getting used to being thrown into opening up women (people in general) will help you more than anything will. How you speak, your look, your body language and you personal aura will be what you’re being gauged on during an open. I …
/r/askTRP14/02/18 03:42 PM
2

Yes next ( read rational make while you’re at it). I would focus on lifting, style and pursue you passions (along with other women). Also when you ghost, you don’t have to be a dick about it. Just stop contacting, and don’t hang out with this girl. If she reaches out, you are polite but busy. Example: Her - Hey how are you (orbiter bait) You - Hey not bad! Just living life! This response is sent after your school, lifting, dates, chats with other other girls, to the point of waiting at least 6 h…
/r/askTRP14/02/18 03:34 PM
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It seems like it is written for a man to maximize chances and limit chances to flake on everything from open to close. I don’t things will work super well in the book of youre unattractive. I also don’t think you need to be as rigid if you are more attractive. I read this book and over all the concepts are pretty basic, but worth a read if you really don’t have experience with dates.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 03:10 PM
3

The no fap community hasn’t been super receptive to me. Here is what I have learned from it (current no-fap streak since New Years). I was previously doing it 1-2 times a day. I didn’t gain “super powers”. I did gain back some necessary time to do other things or focus on being more constructive. With that said I still had my urges and i typically have to have them fulfilled 3-4 times weekly. This means I would be seeing plates more for sex. 3-4 times a week I have been spending 2-3 waking hours…
/r/askTRP12/02/18 05:47 PM
2

That’s the theme of the app so i hear. Be a seven and maybe you can score an easy five. Be a seven and you will struggle to land a six. Be a seven and have sevens waste your time. Be a seven and get ignored or rejected by 8-10.
/r/askTRP07/02/18 02:36 PM
2

I think your mindset was on ooh t with this fold. If I have any suggestion it would be with revealing your hand and exerting more energy. This would be like in Texas Hold’em, you see a bad flop on the table and it gets raised to you and fold. You hand your cards to the dealer and that’s that. This sounds like you saw the flop, and completely telegraphed, I had 9/ 7 off-suit and then folded your hand. You gained nothing telling them your hand but now the mystery is gone and it could be used again…
/r/askTRP06/02/18 03:00 PM
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A lot of times (especially at bars) if a man with higher SMV is trying to game them, they are only looking for sex, or at least that’s how it’s perceived. They get approached way more that girls with a high SMV because as men we can find them more attainable. Donovan Sharpe did a podcast that discussed this a bit and I agreed with it.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 10:43 PM
1

I don’t see this question but based on the fact you are at this subreddit suggests the answer: Are you having a reasonable amount of sex? If not, plus you’re the sole breadwinner and getting the disrespectful attitude, start implementing the 12 stages of dread which it sounds like you are doing. Also I agree that you’re not ready for he skittles or ring pop scenario. If you go MRP Rambo mode, it would be foolish and useless. Btw, if you follow the 12 stages, there is a very good chance your marr…
/r/askMRP31/01/18 08:54 PM
1

In this case I would have responded with “let’s do x instead”. If she flakes then, you soft next. I have had girls think I because they were on their period, etc, that I wouldn’t hang out (implying I wouldn’t because sex wasn’t involved), and a little push from my end another that out. I think your response to her was butthurt and her response was shitty. At this point? I wouldn’t try hard with a girl who is going to be sending pics cuddling with a friend zone, gay or straight.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 08:02 PM
2

Visual attraction is the highest on the list, and there are plenty of things within our control to improve this (style, lift/run, diet, talker shoes if you’re 5’4). With that said you can be a good looking dude and have no confidence or frame and although you will get the girls temporarily you probably won’t keep them.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 06:22 PM
1

IOI’s are not super relevant, with the raise of social media, and women glued to their phones (people in general). Anywhere you go, this is the main competition you will face: insta-dopamine hits from their hand. Stop seeking IOI’s and start going for broke. Some of the coolest women I have met are girls who gave no IOI’s and I went up and talked to. Assume attraction in every case, until rejected, and if so, know she isn’t rejecting you, she is rejecting the 30-second-out-and-about-distracted-b…
/r/askTRP22/01/18 09:43 PM
1

I have heard and experienced this type of thing before. If the 180 was over break, my guess is she probably cheated on you emotionally or physically, or both. The behavior patterns would lean emotional cheat, and her brain have has branch swung onto someone else, or the idea of someone else, which is all too common for college age, hell any age really. You are officially being viewed through shit tinted glasses. The harder you try, the worse it will get. You may have lost frame or displayed weak…
/r/askTRP22/01/18 08:21 PM
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I think there are a few things at play here. Key points I took away: You mention “acting alpha”. If it is not internalized (which it definitely is not if you’re questioning yourself so hard) it’s not being properly projected. You have to truly not care and that doesn’t come out of thin air and it might not come right away. Fake it til you make it helps but in the end you’re still faking. Keep doing your thing but open up yourself to hb6’s, 5, and hell 4’s. You need to experience real abundance a…
/r/askTRP22/01/18 06:24 PM
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The thing that stick out to me was you mentioned “before” you get “face-to-face” dates. You’re not actually quality women if this is the case, just words on a screen to a picture. If this is online dating or apps, drop that until you can use it as more of a supplement than your main source of dating, or just don’t use them at all. Those things are generators of scarcity. Women generally use them for validation or maybe to hookup with the top 10 percent of dudes on there flaunting six-packs and s…
/r/askTRP22/01/18 05:21 PM
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Nice - Is that place still a place I can be social and go out without marijuana?
/r/askTRP18/01/18 06:49 PM
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I am ok with this.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 05:41 PM
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Well once again your mileage will vary. Make no mistake, your wife will love, for a period, maybe a couple years, maybe forever, there are a lot of factors in and out of your control in that realm. Your wife or gf will never you like your mother will (unconditionally), and your mother does not love her father unconditionally. That's a part of social evolution, and this type of thing dates back to cave man days. I have met a guy who was in shape, has a good job and got in a bad accident and now i…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 08:53 PM
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I and many others probably could have finished reading part way through and knew the ending. The more commitment you gave, the less you truly got, until you completely lost frame and it was over long before she announced she was leaving over some porn. Now while deciding to get busy and get active to make a stand for yourself is good in theory, it was essentially the equivalent of throwing a frog in boiling water, rather than slowly increasing the heat on it. You basically went into Rambo mode, …
/r/askTRP05/01/18 05:29 PM
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Remember that AWALT Means they have the potential to be like that, just like all men have the potential to be focused together or lane pushovers. Everyone's mileage can vary depending on the context of the situation, but conventional wisdom say if you have a higher (perceived) SMV, you're less likely to experience branch swinging. In most cases this means constantly bettering yourself, and taking leadership, to maintain the same level of attraction, but you should be doing that anyway, for you.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:57 PM
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I haven't used tinder but a girl I was serious with tried downloading it after we were getting more exclusive. He excuse was she was using it to meet girl friends. I told that her that for every male match she got, I would fuck one girl in person. I had all the power in the situation, didn't care if I lost her and wasn't afraid to go nuclear. She decided to delete the app. If I was to meet a girl on tinder and go exclusive like you I would recommend taking a leading and fun approach. Tell her to…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:49 PM
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Well add a bad speller and proofreader to the list... yikes... You have flaws, we all have flaws, fixable and unfixable. What you cannot fix: age, your past, your hairline, your height. What you can fix: your attitude, your style (clothes, hair, footwear, accessories), your body, your conversational skills (with men and women), how you spend your time (lifting, reading (sidebar), and self improvement), your financial situation, your self-respect and the list goes on... You have fucked escorts, s…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:22 PM
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In my experience, 99% of the time a FWB will block your efforts to pursue a friend if they are legit interested enough to fuck. Even if they tease about their sexy friends, they are typically off limits. The 1% time I landed a threesome with a FWB and a friend, there was a nasty attitude from the FWB midway through, it was awkward, I didn't finish and her friend was guilted out of seeing me on a one on one basis.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 02:03 AM
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This is probably the best answer here. Text game is essentially trying to manufacture the vibe you should be instinctually giving off by having value, abundance and being on your path.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 05:50 PM
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Relationship management is all about being the captain of the ship. If you are ready to lead, then lead. Otherwise find someone else that makes you happy.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 03:04 PM
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Radio silence - you are no longer in orbit. Read rational male
/r/askTRP20/11/17 11:44 PM
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Lead. If you want her to drop weight, take ownership of your own health and include her. Plan healthy activities with her, stop eating out as frequent and do more meal prep stuff in the home together. When she makes progress, compliment her.
/r/askTRP20/11/17 11:24 PM
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You are burning yourself out too hard on your self improvement paths. You need to listen to your body and mind and find a middle ground between cold shower and masturbation binge, and weigh in a bit heavier on the self improvement side. Replace snacks with healthy snacks, replace masturbating with videos on improving yourself. Same habits, different content... sort of
/r/askTRP18/11/17 01:13 AM
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If she offers a reschedule, yes. "Another time" -rejection "I can't on Friday but next Friday?" - not a rejection
/r/askTRP16/11/17 11:11 PM
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Ask out to where? "Hey, lets go to X on Saturday". Or "I am going to X on Saturday, you in?" Either way, she might still say no if you're not attractive, or have social stigma, or because she is 15. Take care of yourself, and keep improving.
/r/askTRP16/11/17 11:01 PM
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You might need to hit some threes like Steph Curry for awhile to build up your abundance. Or focus on improving yourself in other ways for the time being Also, have a friend in an interaction and see if you are making mistakes.
/r/askTRP15/11/17 02:00 AM
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Agreed and amplify - it's harmless and a lot of male banter is just that: banter. There is a how men communicate and it's usually not personal. Agree and amplify and wait for your turn to playfully throw it back. If it is a situation where a guy is going head to head with you in a club over a girl and he is trying to knock you down a peg that's a different story. Keeping it friendly, out loud tell him to be cool, or he doesn't having to impress anyone or "be yourself".
/r/askTRP14/11/17 07:55 PM
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A couple things: your experiment saved you a couple bucks, but you basically went red-pill Rambo, which is not effective for anything but ending the relationship. Follow the 12stages of dread, and give each step time (look in askmrp for this). Right now you are still in her frame and anything contrary to that is funny or aggravating to her. The first steps you need to take: 1) Stfu - learn to be non reactive and do t respond to her shit tests, and don't be butt hurt, and lost all covert contract…
/r/askTRP08/11/17 03:38 PM
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I have a rebuttal to this one being more on the kinky side. There is such thing as being a switch, and I have personally switched roles and let the girl hit me, tie me, whatever. The biggest thing to maintain frame is to never ask for it, come at t from a position of sexual empowerment and fantasy and when she is done, ripping control right back into your hands but fucking her hard or being physically dominant. Basically fun is fun but at the end of the day you have to be the leader. Now if you …
/r/askTRP08/11/17 02:55 PM
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Haha already have done that. Just ghosting for now. Maybe some time down the road I'll reach but with the way things have been going, I am already past it, but like everything, there is always something to be learned or reminded of.
/r/askTRP07/11/17 09:31 PM
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I basically went through the motions with her, and gave her the best sex she has ever experienced. Gave her space (mirror text response time), focused on other women and just responded when she reached out to hook up, blew it out, and waited for next time. I even threw her a bone on trying to have a traditional date and she bailed. It's just funny how hamsters work. It seemed like a story worth sharing. I still haven't responded and probably won't. I am not winning but I am not losing.
/r/askTRP07/11/17 02:51 PM
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I think people either are or are not hard wired for kink. If she is demanding this am she is either hard wired or curious. I would either get on board or leave. Women who become overt about this will find it elsewhere if you don't meet the need, this goes for married, engaged, attached, whatever. D/s is almost an orientation in itself. I know that's how I personally identify and do not date non-kinky women. For kinky women (and men) it is a must Think of it as being right up there with being fit…
/r/askTRP06/11/17 01:50 PM
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Social evolution have programmed our mind to operate differently to survive since cave man days. Fear, group think, fight or flight, Stockholm syndrome, and in this case rewriting history to better align it with how you currently feel. I was told the same exact thing at one point, and it wasn't true. It's how she felt now, and it's easy to look at the past with shit tinted glasses when you feel a certain way. No joke I had a girlfriend tell me how much she hated rough sex the whole time we were …
/r/askTRP31/10/17 04:44 PM
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I understand. I would say ignore unless you're trying to late night hot her up, which would only be for sex, and at this point with her I would not recommend it. I don't see anything positive coming from responding. If she persists I would stick to radio silence, especially if she has such an effect on you. Meet other girls before considering hitting her up.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 04:37 PM
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If you were to put a graph together you would notice the more you have given the less you will get from her. To that point you will look at the best times of the relationship (attraction at an all time high, sex is frequent), and it is the time you treated her the worst. Am I saying treat her like shit? No. But reflect on that time, and I guarantee you were ok your path and she was along for the ride. It's the whole captain, first mate dynamic which is an important aspect of maintaining a relati…
/r/askTRP31/10/17 01:27 PM
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Deleting / blocking the number might be the best thing in this scenario. You can't be trusted to do what's best for you. Oneitis issues. Understandable, any of us have been there with ex girlfriends, wives, etc. If you can't cut her off, cut yourself off from her. You can also just purposely blow it up. She is out for validation so if you do text her back, it should be about sex and having with her when she gets back. Either she will fuck you, or you are going to confirm what you already know - …
/r/askTRP31/10/17 01:10 PM
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I think I really need to find that out. Since the first day of the separation I was making up for lost time with sex and women, in fact, it got to a point where I would either close or sleep in my car. Once the divorce was final and I got my place it got really out of control and I couldn't look at my phone without messages and it was turning into a 5-6 day a week thing, and sometimes two different in one night. I got burned out so bad from it I started eliminating people I wouldn't ever conside…
/r/askMRP16/09/17 04:20 AM
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I think I went too heavy and burnt out. Since the divorce was official there were over 29 women, threesomes, and I think I got a bit of onitis from finally meeting a Bit closer to my age than in college with no career. I had abundance and I quit it because it didn't excite me anymore. So I'm a bit stuck. I think I need to plate this person and focus on my mission and better define it
/r/askMRP15/09/17 01:57 AM
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Haha thank Brother. I think everyone here is pretty much on the same page.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 04:52 PM
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I think this is a good point. I am not. In my experience women naturally lean toward monogamy so I thought this would be one of those situations. Either way, I think I spent too much time thinking about it. She is just the first person I have come across since the divorce I would consider having an ltr with.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 01:00 PM
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My question was primarily around the fact I have someone who is basically playing themselves but with some relationship flags. Am I wrong for considering other girls still was the main thing I was wondering in this. Also to get sone guidance on moving forward whether it's a plate or turns into a relationship. I am not oppose to an LTR with the right person, but it's not a major priority.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 12:52 PM
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My issue initially was she doesn't want me to fuck other people and doesn't want a relationship. I was confused on where things were going and if I should waste my time. I think the majority of the posters are right and I should focus on my mission.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 01:38 AM
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She is just confused the shit out of me, especially with the family intros, and how she gave me the whole "I am done, if you're trying to fuck other girls, that's your prerogative" speech. I let her go and she came back a couple weeks later. I think my ego got invested because she was better looking, smarter, better job and more independent than my ex, and I wrongfully used her for validation. Even plates, although fun, are also temporary validation highs that are externally based, at least that…
/r/askMRP14/09/17 01:11 AM
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When people say AWALT, it means all women have the potential to be like that. The degree can vary based off of the person, the situation and the person they are with: Your mileage may vary (YMMV). You may run into a girl who will drop you for the next shiny thing or you will find a women who could be with you for life. AWALT is more of the fact that the opposite sex will tend to lean toward the way they socially evolved, and with that said you can say AMALT - we are either alphas or struggling b…
/r/askTRP05/09/17 12:32 PM
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You're out - No kiss close? No sex? Proper escalation should at least lead to a kiss if you're on the right track. Past experiences from her end won't matter if she is really into you. The situation I read was you acted as a flirty friend who used too many words and not enough action. I don't think she got a sexual vibe from you and that started before the date. I don't think you need to be Don Jaun, but there are there might be some pedestaling going on. Being bold can go a long way. At the ver…
/r/askTRP15/08/17 03:17 PM
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I stopped counting after 40 and I still don't know
/r/askTRP11/07/17 11:36 PM
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Reading your story and question leads me to Believe you have not read any of the sidebar or any of its material. Get to reading, get to lifting, and the rest will figure itself out naturally.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 10:42 PM
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I would check your diet. Your body need the proper amount of calories for energy, and to gain mass (look of your TDEE and make an educated target guess, and adjust accordingly). Also protein is important for recovery, and building back stronger. I think the rule is 1.3 grams of protein per pound you weigh. I guess another one is getting proper rest every night.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 12:52 AM
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First off - Theres no dread game, but rather a bi-product of living an awesome life with plenty of options. If a girl likes you or has liked you, and you aren't as responsive or available because you are busy lifting, improving, being social, dating and experience the world, she can feel a sense of dread you may go away and lose connection. When you get a girls number and doesn't respond but later you see her update her snap story, you may feel dread, but trust me, she is not implementing dread …
/r/askTRP28/06/17 06:54 PM
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Lifting isn't just about getting "swole". Benefits of lifting: - it gives you someplace to be minimum 3 times a week. - it helps you set goals and trains your mind to research and understand health. - you get to see the progress every time you look in the mirror, which increases confidence - it takes time, so you become more patient and ground which creates stoicism - you can meet like minded goal oriented people on your level Go look at porn stars like James dean. He is not a body builder but h…
/r/askTRP26/06/17 10:07 PM
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Thanks man - no assets, no liabilities, everything mutual, it took 3-4 weeks and got it in the mail and it cost a few hundred and then hit the block button. But I guess if things turn pear shaped, I could easily walk away, sometimes in certain situations, you forget about that. Preparing myself mentally..
/r/askMRP20/06/17 10:43 PM
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Hypergamy - Thats how. One of the main fundamentals of RP theory is hypergamy. People in general tend to lean toward branch swinging in some form, and younger women (and men) discovering themselves are very susceptible to it. Work on you, lift, read the sidebar, practice being more social, and spend time going out and having a fun and interesting life. Hypergamy will land in your favor eventually.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 01:13 AM
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First off, good job on your approaching. This is a very hard thing to do and you seems to have that part down. I think you need to gather the right lessons through your references. no IOIs From your post, I think you are way too invested. You are there for you, not the other person. If you are getting one word answers, I would stop after a minute or less and cut your losses, but dont do it butthurt. A simple "(smile) - well enjoy your night" would suffice. One word responses are a way of conveyi…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 03:10 AM
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If you escalated when you were there with her (physical flirtation, kiss, or more) then I would invite her. If not but you got the number close, set up drinks (not dinner), and try your hand at it again. The festival invite isnt terrible, but it is all base don the context of your initial interaction.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 02:00 AM
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"Been awhile, lets catch up" "Ill be at X bar, come up say hi" Save your game for in person, and if you dont have it there, the texting will more than likely be worse. Most importantly, premeditated targeting is a recipe for outcome independence and over investment, unless you have a lot of options. Now with all this said, I think if she texts you content beyond logistic you should respond in the 2:3 ratio, as long as it is not pages about something that isnt helping your cause (Like about X, an…
/r/askTRP11/06/17 04:43 PM
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Make a plan with measurable goals. Instead of pounding away, you want to drop x% bf, or you want to gain x amount in lean muscle, I will read x books by Z month, or everyday I will approach x amount of people. Its the only way to hold your self to it.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 10:05 PM
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Comfort is anti-seductive. Dates are usually very anti seductive as well. Rebounding men and women both want to make to some bad decisions. Dont give people a chance or room to second guess their wondering minds. Text for logistics only, escalate while meeting, fuck with reckless abandon, and dont be afraid to walk away.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 09:38 PM
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Got in shape This doesnt equate with: don't get laid at least once "In shape doesnt tell you height, weight, bf% or how far you have come. I guarantee the proper time has not been put in worshipping in the iron temple, or your change in body and hitting goals would change alot of your inner game and anxiety. Lift, Sidebar, Repeat. To answer your question, I am 32 and getting laid average between 4-5 a week depending on my schedule between 3-4 partners. usually the age is between 22-26, but some …
/r/askTRP10/06/17 09:33 PM
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Society is set up to make you think you need someone. You will have strides, but eventually the social media, engagement photos, weddings, a bad night out, a bad date, getting rejected can spark memories of other rejections, failed relationships, etc. Set long term goals you are truly passionate about. Whether its lifting, career, artistic, travel plans, etc.focusing on this and your gains in your path toward goals will help drown out the noise. If you are passionate about something its also a s…
/r/askTRP10/06/17 09:21 PM
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Also know this is a very sub conscious thing for the most part. There usually is not any kind of pre-meditated scheme to leave and not have feelings. People respond naturally to Hypergamy. The shut down stage is also pretty quick.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 09:13 PM
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Money typically doesnt help, unless it severely raise your confidence and excitement in your life. Your living situaiton is killing you IMO. Also: I'm not lifting This is a big part of the problem too. You are lacking the core to spawn your inner confidence and inner game. Lifting accomplishes so much more than a better physique. Go read Married Man Sex Life Primer and 12 Stages Of Dread By The Blue Pill Professor. I think you are way to young to be doing what you are doing right now, those book…
/r/askTRP10/06/17 12:36 AM
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I agree but Idk man? I see socially inept , out of shape, loser guys get dates with decent girls in my city all the time. And here i am - making decent money, above average physique, great dressing sense and great social skills - and i can barely get a girl to respond after a number As much as AWALT is a real thing, all women are people and people vary. There could be a multitude of reasons socially inept, out of shape loser guys have decent women. I sleep with women who have allowances from old…
/r/askTRP10/06/17 12:30 AM
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This sounds eerily similar to my situation. I had a quick marriage and a quick divorce. Here is the pattern: you both are sexually charged (same kinks, frequency), then the sex will die off within 6-9 months usually. She will explain it away with medical issues, which maybe have been present for a few weeks but ultimately are psychosomatic. She will do you still, for a little bit and then that will fall off, and resent, and indifference will take its place. I doubt she is cheating, and I doubt s…
/r/askTRP09/06/17 03:43 AM
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Red pill is a sexual strategy which essentially is just understanding human social evolution, the difference between men and women and we operate. It is also about self growth, and essentially answering to yourself, and living in your own frame. This should help you in the gym, in your career, in the bedroom, and eventually managing a relationship. And to answer your other questions everything kind of feed into each other . If you are self fulfilled, you will have a lot more confidence, and work…
/r/askTRP09/06/17 03:10 AM
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You are completely missing the boat on the entire concept. There is always going to be someone bigger, better, smarter, stronger, etc. There are always going to be women (or men) for one reason or another blow you off, and for many different reasons. You owe it to yourself as man and person to be the absolute best you can. If you are seeking self improvement to get more sex, a relationship, or anyone outside of what you have direct control, you are in the wrong place. The only thing you can trul…
/r/askTRP09/06/17 02:40 AM
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I know with all the stages of dread and the fact that we are here discussing dread, it can feel like a focus point, which can unfortunately turn into a giant covert contract - IE: I am at dread level X so she should be doing Y. Dread is a byproduct of a man with value and options. in general I think the focus of the stages should be on your self and your life versus the interactions with the person being dreaded. Stage 4 should be at the the very minimum 4 months in. If you have devalued the eff…
/r/askMRP08/05/17 01:57 PM
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If you are asking for this kind of advice, you are not in your own frame. There is no perfect lines, or words to help sell it. If you have an awesome life, look good, have plenty of options and truly DGAF, you can say whatever you want and it will work it came from you. If you are still reading and working on lifting in the early stages, I would just STFU. Anything else will come across worse than a PUA fucking up a magic trick at a bar.
/r/askMRP19/04/17 02:46 PM
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There is not a ton to say about her really that hasnt already been said through conventional wisdom - YMMV (your mileage will vary) respectively since AWALT doesnt mean the same. She was just a cute chick in high school that grew into her body and started getting a lot of attention and she ate it up. She told me she didnt know what was wrong and she needed to "find herself" (thats code for: i want to experience other men or women depending on the girl), "just need to be on her own", and "needed …
/r/askMRP06/04/17 08:07 PM
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I am in my early 30s now, but that was my high school relationship that lasted longer than it should. It didnt work because: Hypergamy I was in my early 20's, and not hitting potential (didnt lift, diet, actively game, little no no abundance mentality, mate guarding tenancies, etc.) She was coming into her sexual peak age and had a higher SMV, and life outside of me seemed more interesting and exciting I went about the break up all the wrong ways (hot and cold reception to her, trying to get her…
/r/askMRP06/04/17 07:37 PM
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I think the consensus of enlightened men say to move on, fix yourself and never look back. I was also young and in a relationship (non LDR) for over half a decade. She was my first, I was hers. She cheated on me twice, and we fucked like jackrabbits until the day she broke up, and even then nothing was going to change her mind. There is nothing in this case going back to you would be a good idea, aside from family or friend pressure. To add to this like manly others already had, go radio silent …
/r/askMRP06/04/17 07:01 PM
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If sex is still good, and you OYS, maintain frame then I dont see the harm. There are a lot more submissive forms of kink that could really build resentment and a lack of respect you if you pushed it and she didnt want to.
/r/askMRP04/04/17 01:38 PM
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I think the process being being higher value and attractive can kill the emotion and check you out. There was a point I looked at my phone and had 5 new messages, 4 of them were flirtatious texts from women that wanted to fuck, 1 was from my wife who didnt. It was a pretty easy decision on who i responded to and who i didnt.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 01:27 PM
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For me it was when I had women making advances on me, giving numbers. Telling me the polar opposite of what my wife did (love your touch, you smell great, you're sexy, fuck me, etc.), especially woman who were either better looking or more established than my wife. All the lifting, reading and pursuing my passions turned me into a man with value, and self value, and plenty of options. Soon the little value my wife was giving me presented her as a much lower priority in my life. Eventually she wa…
/r/askMRP30/03/17 06:44 PM
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Get a tailor. Shirts off the rack are meant to be your size, but not to fit you. I picked this up last spring and it change the game for me. There are some decent presized shirts at H&M (14.99 rack), but these are disposable and wont last, and by wearing disposable clothes, you are telling the world that you are disposable. Your seem should be right on the corner or your should or slightly below for tailoring purposes.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 05:55 PM
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Dread in the situation is irrelevant because I didnt consciously try to dread. I simply built my own life and enjoyed doing what I wanted to to do. past step2-3 dread was not even in my vocabulary of thought. She wont find out, and is oblivious. There is no reason she would dig either, and if she did, I covered my tracks pretty well. There was also a point in our relationship where she told me she didnt care what i did, as long as I left her alone, and i could always fall back on that.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:52 PM
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What you want is unrealistic, and I think you need to break down that want a little more. You want her.... her.... do you want her or something in her position to appreciate you. If you start dating and meeting other women, you will take a lot less stock in what your wife thinks. so much to the point where you will evaluate your position and possible decide its not working for you.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 02:46 PM
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In my experience, being flirty, 10 second kisses, initiating contact are all things you need to work up to. You can just read some sidebar, hit the gym for a couple weeks and mandate a 10 second kiss every day (in that way the kiss can turn into a scenario very close to scheduled sex, which also doesnt work). I am all for taking what you want when you want it, but objectively speaking, you have put in a lot of bad time, and any attempt to escalte with her is going to increase negative pressure a…
/r/askMRP15/03/17 01:06 PM
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Iwth the combination of receive little no positive emotion form my wife in this process and the gorgious early twentys girls I have effortlessly hook up withm the feelz left a long time ago.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 12:32 PM
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Its kinda hot and cold. i will see her change her name on her facebook and get support from friends and it hurts a little, but then I ask myself what value was she bringing to the table. I also look at my phone with now active plates and kinda get lost in that too. The hardest thing for me is whats going to happen financially, and will I need to get a roommate. I have an interview for a job making almost double I make now and onto the second interview, so that could be life changing as well.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 12:30 PM
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The Ration Male is a good starting point buy Rollo "My Guy" Tomassi
/r/askMRP15/03/17 12:27 PM
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plate townis the easiest way to take your wife off a pedestal so you can view her for what she is - good or bad
/r/askMRP14/03/17 07:53 PM
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This also rings a bell I havent heard rung in awhile. She told me at one point she never had a positive sexual experience. My rebuttal: the video we made early in our relationship where i made her cum 6 times on camera, and her smiling and enjoying it the whole time. Revisionists history man.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 07:02 PM
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I find the social evolution differences in men and women super fascinating and I wish marriage counselors were more aware of this.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:59 PM
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Well as much as I love the dogs, if she takes them i will get another one. Right now she wants each of us to have one. If that happens I am still getting a same breed as the dog I lost and might even name it the same haha by the way thanks for your help in particular. You knocked some sense into me early on in my journey.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:56 PM
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I will note I started the stages back in jan 2015, fucked up, wen redpill rambo, cracked and had to reset a couple times. got it right starting in june of 2016
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:36 PM
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On second though I might stay here... All I could find were young kids posting on there.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:25 PM
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If people get past the stigma and focus on the message its hard to disagree with the premise no matter who you are. You cant control your wife, only yourself, to make your self as valuable as you can and someone will appreciate, but maybe not your wife.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:23 PM
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Well she had a medical issue and then I think I made that worse early on by piling negative pressure. I fixed me and she really wasnt willing to meet me half way (non-penetration sexual encounter). When the thought of me flirting with her made her uncomfortable after all I did and the results I was getting, I became numb and stopped caring all together.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:19 PM
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Its kinda funny how you can convey the same message without the MRP phrasing and women over there whole heartedly agree with you haha
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:15 PM
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Pretty much. I am kinda frustrated that someone could flip and just be emotionless about it, but then I remember AWALT, and think of the numbers I have gotten, crushes i have flirted with off and on and whoever I happen to meet at the bar this weekend.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:14 PM
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First the vast difference in her behavior. the first year we were together we fucked hard, she wrote me love notes and told me she loved a lot. Within the last year, sex stopped completely, and she never told me she loved me. She also put activities and friends above me in priority. She would only call me to complain about stuff, never asked how I was, and going back to the counseling days, she had my "love languages" spelled out and she could never bring her self to use them. There was also the…
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:08 PM
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I have made pilgrimages to deadbedrooms and no one is willing to take responsibility for themselves there. In fact, calling them out is against the rules...
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:04 PM
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I basically took to lift, STFU initially, and a lot of reading. Slowly updated my wardrobe and start becoming less available but with plausable deniability ( I am lifting, at band practice, with my friends, all planned before her random idea for me to spend my time and affection on her). I was out of the house 3-4 nights a week. Eventually I went back into talking to women, and they really responded well. I got numbers and I hooked up a few times (probably not the best idea). I became very socia…
/r/askMRP14/03/17 06:03 PM
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Thanks for that fix - this rings so true, and she showed me and is showing me through her action that she feels nothing for me, and I dont care because of my potential and what I have lined up for the future.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 05:49 PM
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I am trying to use as little legal aid as possible as we have a house and 2 dogs, nothing more after that really i care about. I will take the dogs or the house and I am happy either way, just as long as it is done.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 05:47 PM
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d she have to have waited before you would be the one initiate the divorce? I was giving it til january
/r/askMRP14/03/17 05:45 PM
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You don't. Work on you and change your mentality and life. If you become a man of great value, people will follow you and try to be more like you. If someone directly asks you for advice, you can give it to them point blank but never reference RP or try to explain it too hard.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 02:43 PM
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I think even leaving when you are denied sex can take some time to be effective. If she is no attracted to you or you have a history of dead bedroom style "talks" she could just take you leaving as more butt hurt behavior - even when you are going to the gym or whatever. You were comfortable with her in you bed, and she gave a hard no and now you are reacting. Mix that will a whiny non-attractive history and it does not help. Even this part takes working up to. Honestly, even saying nothing take…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 01:25 PM
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This is what I call looking at the past through shit-tinted glasses. Its like a self sabotage mechanism caused by depression, or the overall opinion of you now.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 01:09 PM
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I wouldn't mention MRP, but perhaps throw him in the direction for him to find it himself if he wants it bad enough. Recommend No More Mr. Nice Guy, And Mayyyyybe MMSLP. Otherwise lead him to lift, and talk about setting a male action plan.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 03:07 PM
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There have been posts on here and advice saying that you should try to initiate before you have some place to be (work, scheduled class, etc.) That way if you get the hard no you can go back to your regularly scheduled program previously setup and she cant cry butthurt. Stone pimp is right though, it doesnt matter what she thinks as this is for you. With that said, be attractive, dont be unattractive, and seeming butthurt is unattractive
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:07 PM
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Most I have dated are validation whore with questionable self esteem. At least she is late 29s vs. early 20s. I was dating this 21 yr old model for a few months, and every night out I felt like I was going into the trenches. I kinda let it end because I had to be a borderline socialpath to keep her interest.
/r/askMRP13/01/17 05:20 PM
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Oh god this one hits me in the feels... My recommendation would be to reboot, fix you and maybe go monk mode for a awhile. Attractive Man: - Flirty - Teasing - Playful Unattractive man: - Creepy - Mean - Annoying. Both men did the same exact actions, but were perceived very differently. If she is balking at your advances and flirtations, she isn't attracted to you and its having a negative effect. This is why I recommend a reboot while you lift, and grow and side bar. She may come to you for att…
/r/askMRP09/01/17 05:02 PM
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I agree with the other posters saying what you want to do in that time period is impossible. First off, whatever you do, you better do for you, not to mate guard. If you want to be the life of the party, do it because you want to, not as a mate guarding tactic. This guy is your best friend. Your wife may or may not want him, or may or may not cheat. Thats up to her, not you, and you trying to fight it, or find it out is a waste of time. Sigh... if you really want a quick tip, and I believe this …
/r/askMRP09/01/17 04:36 PM
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This is a tough scenario because the go to advice is to OI and go to sleep, but even doing that you can still come off butt hurt in her mind. Spend your life improving your physique, style, social circle, passions, and leadership during the day so your rolling over to sleep after a rejection is accepted as OI, and not hurt feelings.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 04:08 PM
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I finally snapped a couple months back and went 8 lays in 8 days with 8 different women. That really changed outcome independence and abundance mentality in the relationship.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 07:07 PM
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Literal quote form an ex: He is not better, he's different. I lost my job and confidence in that relationship and got sex denied and shit on until the breakup. That was the last thing I heard her say in person (in reference to her new boyfriend).
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 09:19 PM
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talking now. I am looking into an annulment. She still hasnt changed her name yet
/r/askMRP25/10/16 05:33 PM
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you want to continue being a cuck? damn - thats sobering
/r/askMRP25/10/16 05:32 PM
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That is what I want to do. I do value my life, house, dogs, etc. and I want all of that. Its a different kind of one-itis. If she left me and I could keep the rest of my life as is I would be fine. I have long since taken her off the pedestal. I just want to keep my life.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 05:29 PM
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I understand I am the prize, I dont thnk she does, or at least or heart. I really just want to go cheat, but I dont know what that will do short of more AM and OI. I am just a rage of confusion right now. The good news is MRP principles hold true which helped my sniff this thing out long ago before I ever had confirmation something was up.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 04:02 PM
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touche
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:59 PM
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So divorce?
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:49 PM
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So winning is divorce then?
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:49 PM
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Tried it. She resent calling my daddy or anything like that. Even when things were really good that was always a limit.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:47 PM
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Talk about what? I basically found it and snapped on her. I vented my frustrations about all these months I felt she was keeping something from me, withholding emotion and sex. She constantly said that she has never lost feelings of love for me, although she could text it to fatty ginger. She knows I dont trust her, and she knows she is going to have to put in work to get on the same page. Time will tell if she does.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:47 PM
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I could just pull the trigger and end it. That would probably do it. I just think thats the easy way out versus train and push myself to rise above.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:43 PM
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The biggest thing holding me back is me on this. I have had 3 long term relationships in my life and they all end the same way. I am afraid that if I dont fight this and win, the problem will carry to the woman and the next. In my mind right now the wife is a sparring partner that shares half the bills. If it come down to divorce, thats fine, but am I crazy for trying to use this opportunity to fix me, the one thing I can control?
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:40 PM
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Well how about this... I want to shoot baskets but right now the basketball hoop is tipped over and the net is full of holes. The damage on the net reflects the damage I did having no frame (false ultimatums, talking about my feelings, failing shit tests, etc.). I feel like I need to repair the hoop before I start shooting baskets, and I want to do it right. as far as the medical progress since my initial post, nothing has changed except for she has a yeast infection now too. She paid 500$ for t…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 02:05 PM
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She was PMSing, while freaking about about how we have to have sex for me to be happy (past puke statement I now regret), and then went on about how she has a yeast infection. I dont think she wanted anything to do with sex.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 03:31 PM
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I am happy being as busy as I am but I dont want to further leave the house in response to her shitty behavior. The common advice here is lift and get busy, but those two elements were already very prevelant in my life its hard to do more of that with muscle injury or becoming overly estranged to my wife and pets.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 02:57 PM
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Thank you. Right now, I am lifting 4-5 times a week, and Have commitments at least 4 nights a week although I could have more but I choose to skip things and be at home. I feel like I already spend an unhealthy amount of time out of the house. should I crank it up even more?
/r/askMRP20/10/16 12:26 PM
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Youre right, its not a lube. We have tried water based as well. This girl went from pornstar sex (and just really being into porn / sex even when I wasnt around) to wreching at the word "fucking". Its been quite the unfortunate transformation, and it is ultimately my fault.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 12:23 PM
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I do model professionally. I dont usually tan unnaturally so I have a lack of color right now with the season, and thats probably the main physical side lacking right now. She hasnt masturbated in a very long time, unless it is a quick 5-10 session, every couple of weeks and this is done in a prone position, and she has to have pressure on her bladder for it to work. She doesnt like to make out, grind, or naked cuddling, or at least nor right now (not with me). The only thing she is interested i…
/r/askMRP20/10/16 12:21 PM
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damn - i have been married for a year haha
/r/askMRP19/10/16 06:57 PM
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nice
/r/askMRP19/10/16 06:56 PM
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I dont think its medical, as she has been to the gyno and came up short. I ask myself sometimes if she would have the same problem with chad, but there really isnt a chad anywhere close to the picture, no alpha ex to pine after, or anything. All I can conclude is my relationship was the best before we were married, and even before we were official. I made bad decisions in committing with someone as I slowly got less and less out of it thinking it was the right thing to do and all that. Her being…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:44 PM
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Being happy, fun, confident, busy, and scarce make up 25-50% of your attractiveness. Lift. This is probably the hardest part for me. I am a model and have to be in good shape, and well styled most of the time. This among other things already causes me to be scarce to the point we have max 2-3 meals together a week. Still my only direction should be up. and I feel like most of my issues are mental / frame related.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:07 PM
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Wow - we are going through some similar items. Not sure on how long you have been married, but I think that plays a huge role in everything. "In her eyes" you SMV is lower, and I think our wives subconsciously want to believe this. To believe that means you are the problem, and she is still the prize and she doesnt have to put really effort into changing. its the path of least resistance. Eventually if you follow the stages of dread properly, what she wants to believe isnt going to matter becaus…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 03:06 PM
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For me, mutual desire is a key connection. Its hasnt been very prevalent so I havent felt very connection, therefore she is not on a pedestal, and has taken a lower priority in my life. Also she can only go 30 seconds or so with having the stop, and then it hurts afterward. I contribute this to her just not wanting it at all (and she seems to react badly to almost every kind of lube we have tried). I think she is at the point where this bothers her but not enough to change behavior yet. At this …
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:35 PM
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I have been gaming on a lower level (kino, innuendos, etc). Her friends were a different story. I was able to game them like any other girl and it worked pretty well. That shit wouldnt work on my wife because of the previous groundwork or lack thereof.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:59 PM
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There are a few issues: - Previous butt hurt reactions and negotiations are still in her mind so If she says no, I am automatically butt hurt in her mind. - I havent been attracted to her lately, especially when I sit back and here the negativity and all that. - I am really trying to take this reset seriously and dont want to ruin my progress by getting into a shit test or a no that I am not ready for.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:57 PM
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I dont think I ever got the consensus on dealing with the guy I work with speech. I havent received it too much but at this point my MO would be to ignore it and change the subject.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 06:09 PM
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Haha I opened up my Ipad to messages of private info and my wife bitching about me to her friend, so it is a very tough thing. I keep telling myself if it isn't bettering me, than its a waste of time to think about. also remind yourself she is the biggest child in the house (or in my case the only one). Don't stoop to her level. FR-ish: I was not in my own frame after the Ipad incident and that night she smelled blood in the water and berrated my about putting a dog bed in the wash with scrubbin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 05:53 PM
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You still keep the positive happy frame, until you are truly in demand by other women and you have demonstrated with action (striking up conversions with other women in line places, her friends, waitresses, etc). Of course this demo stage is done after study, practice, and repeated success on #closing. If you get denied, stay positive and unaffected, like stage 4 says condition your amount of time and attention to her amount of sex. 2/3 texting ratio, ghost out on texting, maybe you left your ph…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 03:45 PM
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I posted on here yesterday after I stumbled upon some wife shit talking me to her friends. General consensus is you DGAF. This is petty distraction shit that isnt worth investing time and thought into when you could be lifting, reading sidebar, and pursuing your real passions. Its probably nothing. Even if it is something, you reacting to it in any way other than ignoring it and bettering yourself is not going to make your wife more attracted to you. Worst case: if she is going to do some stupid…
/r/askMRP13/10/16 01:35 PM
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Back at stage 1. This makes sense. I have always looked at frame as being my frame or hers and what ever one takes over becomes the relationship frame. In reality, there is no relationship frame, Just my frame.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:51 PM
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True, I didnt realize I wasnt playing any card. I will use the nice, and try to make it more present
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:49 PM
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Thank You
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:44 PM
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Reading
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:44 PM
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Right now, her being attractive in behavior is a rarity. I get messed up what is her and what is a reflection of me.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:36 PM
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WISNIFG - What a long boring read but it was necessary and I should probably read it again. I lift regularly and with my job, playing shows, my social organizations i belong to, and friends I literally have something I could be doing every night of the week, and this pisses her off because she doesnt have that. I like your answers to her confrontation.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 04:34 PM
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suggestions?
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:46 PM
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She has never said ILYBINILWY yet, but actions speak louder than words sometimes. I think we were both very sexually charged people together. Now she does crave sex, is never horny, doesnt masturbate, and stopped watching porn all together. She cant go more than 30 seconds with discomfort so she is afraid to try.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:45 PM
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True - Tho lacking the juicy details, I am still doing it so I guess i cant say shit. I know this entire thing was a distraction anyway and I should be focused on me and improving. Also thinking back to when we first dated and sex was great, all of her friends distrusted me and were against me because i was a player. Why do I can now? Lack of sex fucked up my brain? Who knows... but it has too change.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:41 PM
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Taking this all in. There are alot of things I have missed in reading or misinterpreted.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:38 PM
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Holy shit. there is some good stuff here. A couple points on kino and escalation. My kino game seems to work well (IoI's, #closes, kiss closes before I reset my dread level back to 1). She has also verbally addressed this saying she purposely ignores any flirtation or escalaiton because she isnt into sex right now and doesnt want to lead me on. This leaves most of our conversations boring to me, to the point where i have lost a lot of attraction, and have considered downgrading her to sparring p…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:27 PM
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Ok, maybe I am making too big of a deal about it then.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:15 PM
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Damn - good answer.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:15 PM
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I have learned this valuable lesson to not put things in writing like this. The reason i was concerned about her friends is because I feel the collective can act as an echo chamber and limit my wives attraction. If none of her friends think she has the prize, why would she?
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:58 PM
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I dont think I do. I have thought about what I can do to get frame in this relationship. The whole not having sex thing is killing me. I have thought about cheating, but i am trying to give this an honest 12 stage shot.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:56 PM
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Go with Fogging next time? My biggest concern is if I dont answer honestly, she will think her behavior in the relationship is ok.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:54 PM
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I have read about this in the BPP book and on here. It is a play off the prisoners dilemma where you play your nice card every day until she plays her mean card, then you play yours, but reset back to nice the next day. I think the part is faking it when we both know due to old arguments how I really feel. In this case, I was asked a direct quest and I answered. I am not sure if that was her mean card or not, or if this scenario works with that.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:53 PM
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I got confronted directly and I answered honestly. Otherwise I havent brought anything up in months. The thing that set her off was me joking about how she finally gets some time away from me, which i was going to be gone for a 4th night in a row so I meant it sarcastically.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:47 PM
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I have done this, And it comes off as whining and leaves the underlining tone in the relationship that I am not happy. How do i do this and calm her fears of me being unhappy at the same time?
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:42 PM
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I have tried to limit bitching to her. I havent in a very long time, despite going a month without sex. I was called out point blank, and I dont know how to tell her everything is all good, without validating the shitty situation as okay.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:40 PM
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This is something I am really struggling at. I dont know how to comfort her fear without validating her shitty behavior. I have honestly went in the opposite direction, and limit my time responding to bullshit text (which are usually about something I need to do or something that is about her).
/r/askMRP12/10/16 01:34 PM
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My answer is: Maybe - But who cares? If she is cheating, she is going to find a way to do it. She would be running a google voice number connected to a throw away email account for all you know. You can spend you time trying to bust her or get her to admit it, but what would that change? If she wasn't cheating, you would have wasted your time. If she was, busting her isn't going to solve your problem. All that time and effort could be used reading side bar books and lifting to become a man she w…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 03:48 PM
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AM also can mean Abundance Mentality. Look for context. AM in response to shit test is almost always amused mastery, which by the way only works if you are attractive enough (your SMV is higher than hers).
/r/askMRP16/09/16 03:41 PM
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I love watching your harsh truths on my screen in the sub - This time it is to me. I fully understand the the stages of dread are essentially a branch swing with an olive branch giving her a chance to straighten up and fly right. I dont necessarily stop being a better man when she cries, but I am still struggling on how to properly respond (in this case, I should lead her to the gym). My game is decent but it could be better. Of course the only person not very receptive to flirtation in her. Apa…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 03:11 PM
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Truth - My MAP is set for a 3k diet, but its pretty clean daily.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:54 PM
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I get you arent into my background but I cannot tell you how many times someone comes here and pukes and dont disclose where they are at. The most common questions are: Do you lift? Have you read the sidebar? What is your MAP and where are you at? Thus I put a bit of a background.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:51 PM
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I read this regularly. I went too fast last time I tried to implement this. I would say I am on dread level one as I am still identifying new types of shit test, but at the same time i am lifting and reading and upped my wardrobe and flirt with girls when i am be myself. I am not trying to skip steps, but i like to lift, and I had a full social calendar before MRP and I get IOIs from strangers because of my profession.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:48 PM
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One of the biggest mistakes I made with dread the first go at it was I moved way too fast and it just stressed her out and made things worse. I am really focusing on the slow boil process. It will help me internalize more and be better. I think another reason it didnt work was there was a lack a constant preselection. She hangs out with 5-6 core chicks who are in much worse shape and are also all super feminist (female supremacists). The never have too much good stuff to say about me ever, and i…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:37 PM
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I think I get lost in the be attractive, dont be unattractive part. I eliminate unattractive behavior and it cause be to be conscious of what she thinks, when in reality I am doing it to better myself rather than appease one person. I am going to take the approach to lead her to the gym with me. I dont know whats up with the sex. We still have it, it just hurts her a lot and its very boring to me so I am losing interest.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:28 PM
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I swear I am not angry and I remember when i was, but like dieting and excercise there is so much material out there its easy to get your head stuck up your own ass. I like your outlook on this and I have not thought of it like this before. Thank you
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:23 PM
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Ok - I just didnt want her to get the impression my world revolves around her.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:21 PM
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Focus on what they do. So - Agree with her and perhaps tell her I am not attracted to her anymore?
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:42 PM
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n't acting like a leader and taking her to the gym assist in her weight loss? Show her how to properly exercise. Make it a routine. Get her into healthy habits. What you are proposing is my gut reaction. Then the back of my head asks why would I put in the work for someone who lashes at me with weak sex bi-monthly? Helping her feels like I am moving toward her frame.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:40 PM
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I am not worried about the weight. i am looking at how to respond? Do I coddle and validate reinforcing bad behavior and life choices? Is this a shit test or comfort test? I am really not sure. Yes there is more going on and I have a side bar and books to figure that out.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:34 PM
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Thats funny, i read MRP and AskMRP all the time and never saw him before. I used to read some TRP and AskTRP awhile ago, but it just seemed to flooded with anger phase content and found MRP more my speed. The sidebar is truth though
/r/askMRP22/07/16 12:14 PM
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Here are a few pieces of info that have really muddied the waters... I dont see her attracted to any other guys, no signs of emotional cheating, and she wants to be around me all the time, and have kids and all that with me. She tries to show me off to her friends. I have actually been called into the room so she could show her friends my abs, for example. Every move in her life is pushing herself closer to me (every profile picture has me, she pushes my band and almost any link share, and is al…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 08:30 PM
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I remember buys clothes in April, but holding off on wearing them until I felt I was at that stage of dread, and then I would randomly snap and fail shit test, so I would go back to square one. maybe I havent mastered step one and I should stay there longer before trying to move up, although I will be at a much better dress man now haha
/r/askMRP21/07/16 07:56 PM
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Your post and your conclusion is often what my guy tells me, and the rest of my tells me the opposite and I am crazy, or its not me, its a legit medical thing. Could that be true? Possibly, but I dont want to hedge my bets on it. I would rather frame it in a way it is on me and a reflection of me engaging in unnitentional faggotry, and not internalizing the side bar correctly. I have downed the 12 stages of dread, MMSLP, NMMNC, WISNIFG, and a couple audio book: The way of the superior man, and P…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 07:53 PM
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Reflecting on this..
/r/askMRP21/07/16 07:42 PM
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She has and she didnt have any STD's. ultra sound would be the next step. And no Tv set in the room, but there are phones and Ipads, and maybe we need to chill out on that.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 07:40 PM
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Done and done - I will keep on with the lifting, reading and leading. Her hypergamous nature will come back someday, and I want to remain the highest branch she can swing to.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 05:57 PM
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Thank you - I take the theory that she is this way because of my and my actions very seriously, maybe a little too seriously. I think I will address this head on, and change my MAP to be something I can fully control.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 05:55 PM
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g her is to be The Daddy. Be responsible for managing everything in your life together. Anything scary or serious is your job to deal with. Find problems before they get serious and solve them proactively. Never tell her about any of this. She should just notice that problems disappear. Never share any of your weakness or pain with Thank you - reading it now.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 05:53 PM
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OK, so like other people think she admires you? Yes - I hear about it often and its kinda frustrating because I am not seeing it right now
/r/askMRP21/07/16 04:00 PM
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i messaged one of you, ill try again.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 03:45 PM
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Thanks for the response. I agree that I am the goal and I am the main focus here. Dread works, but not in a good way. She is paranoid I am going to leave her because of the bedroom situation she claims she cant control. A quick FR from last weekend: I set up the room with candles and dim lighting without her seeing it and went out to see friends for dinner. We left after dinner because she had to work early. When she came home I surprised with with the setup and initiated, and she sat there look…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 03:44 PM
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I dont get that feeling, but apparently other people do. I guess as long as I am happy and focused on goals it shouldnt matter, but part of my goals involve a great home life, which includes that so its tough.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 03:29 PM
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nice name haha.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 02:49 PM
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if you're attractive enough, she should still want to have sex with you And this is the dilemma I face. Just like iron doesn't lie, if you are strong you can lift it. If I was attractive enough, I would be achieving my third goal. Perhaps there are medical pieces at play beyond my control, but I want to ace what I can control. It is so tough to stay on the straight and narrow with a feeling of constant rejection. I try my best to use it as fuel in other aspect of my life and improve but it still…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 02:38 PM
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ryone is different, obviously, but after we got that taken care of by switching to a different BC method for her, her sex drive straightened itself out within six months. Holy shit! she is on the same thing. She was on it when we met and I would knock it out of her during sex and because she seemed to enjoy sex alot i didnt think it was a problem, but she was clearly trying to win me over at that stage as we were not attached. Perhaps i should change my goal. i based it off of things I wanted ou…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 02:33 PM
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d start but are you leading in life? At work? How's your frame? How often do you feel like you've "lost" and argument with your wife or anyone else? Leading at life in general is good. I am on the board of a few external organizations, and also a frontman for a band that is slightly beyond a local level. I never feel like I lose arguments but rather no won wins, especially when dealing with my partner.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 02:30 PM
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This name isnt blocked, my other name I normally use is. I dont know how i got blocked. Not a troll and I follow guidlines to my posts.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 12:29 PM
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