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ViolentTakeByForce/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 01:38 PM
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ViolentTakeByForce/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 08:47 PM
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Good on you brother
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 01:26 PM
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There’s alot of great women out there, but your kids should come first. In order for you to be what you should be for your kids, you need to get your life right. Awesome that you are working on your finances, but get your diet and physical fitness good as well. For me, God is important.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 02:57 AM
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Yep this is very accurate
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 12:02 PM
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Dude you reek of desperation. You aren’t over her and that’s fine, but you lose at step 1 if you are the one trying to get her back at all. It would have to come from her and even then, the motives behind that are very important.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 12:36 PM
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Best advice, read through the statutes re: child support, timeshare, alimony for your state. Google and Reddit for examples of questions you may have.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:50 PM
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None. I do think in rare circumstances it can. And I’ve seen plenty of attorneys say they “know the mediator, judge, etc.” and it amounted to nothing lol. What I would say is don’t expect your attorney to do the heavy lifting for you, even the best ones. If you are just accepting motions and hoping to put the situation on auto pilot, prepare for varying amounts of pain depending on the OC.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:37 AM
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Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:10 AM
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You need to look up the alimony laws before you agree to ANYTHING(I don’t know how to bold on Reddit). The laws were updated last July and significantly benefit the payor, not the payee. There is no more lifetime(exception have to do with the payee having a disability, or something extreme) alimony and you are missing a huge amount of info that would help to understand your liability. I am NAL but feel free to chat with me, I don’t mind helping you. I would ignore any comments of buying her out …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:35 AM
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Men really don’t understand how having proof that most likely can’t be used is the worst case scenario. Not many people get punished for recording without consent(not talking about taping sex or other extremes), I believe it’s less than a handful across the country per year. The upside is it can be used to protect you and save you thousands of dollars to protect your innocence.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 01:41 PM
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Listen to yourself and hopefully the advice here. You need real proof of abuse safety concern for your children when with your wife or who she is leaving the kids with. Don’t waste time fighting for more than 50% if you know she won’t give it up. What the commenter above said was true, it’s fair. Hopefully she continues to have little interest in the kids and you can have them more. Why play with fire?
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 04:54 AM
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I think it’s especially important for women to be able to view the “other side”. Keep in mind though there are some extreme men here, but a lot of what you should see is about things being “fair” and really “equal” though it could come in the form of “if this was a man the law would destroy him” for example, but any rational person would likely agree especially when it involves hurting minors and children via SA or worse. All that to say, welcome to the sub.
/r/MensRights12/02/24 12:09 AM
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The best advice I’ve heard is if you aren’t willing to walk away, in most cases you’ve already lost. Women instinctually know when they can take advantage.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 09:03 PM
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Stay calm, wear a body cam
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 12:54 AM
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No, and personally I think the need to do that means that said person needs more work on themselves, especially if kids are involved. It’s a part of your history and being, the good and the bad parts. I still get the memories photos and what not on the iPhone. Sometimes good memories are behind the pics. Sometimes I think about the bs I had to put up with at the time, and use that as a reminder to never let myself allow that shit in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 05:51 PM
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Being real, you are being WAY too emotional about this. I’m not saying I can’t understand the way you feel. But you need to look at it this way: You’ve never played basketball before and I show you where the 3 point line is. You tell me you don’t think it’s fair for a variety of reasons and believe that you should get 3 points for a lay up, again for a variety of reasons. Nothing you feel is going to change how the rules of basketball operate. So you can decide to get upset and argue it’s unfair…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 01:16 AM
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Force you to get 50/50? Brother that is a blessing. I’m not going to tear you down here, the cheating and all that, it is what it is. But before your girlfriend and whatever else you currently feel is more important time wise than your 50% timeshare, you need to put your kids as a priority(read the priority). To be honest, you are the type of guy that fucks good men over because you are pretty much a deadbeat and not supporting your kids, which is why child support laws need to be in place in th…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 01:12 PM
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Wait
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 08:55 PM
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You are doing great brother. Gray rock as best as you can, but make sure with everything you are doing you are putting time into mental and physical health. Everyone here says the gym, and I believe men and women should have a baseline of fitness even if not a gym rat(I am one). But if walks are your thing, do it. Bike rides, basket ball, something to focus on as even if we don’t notice it, this all takes up a lot of mental space. I also agree with recording yourself now that she’s alerted you t…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 11:44 AM
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I would hope that people understand when I speak, I’m making generalizations. Of course there are outliers for both men and women. We are and have been fighting nature, but it has been a slow burn to get us where we are today and at some point in the last 10 years, TPTB decided to make several huge leaps which has backfired in some ways because they hadn’t completely “boiled the frog” so to speak, we were still adjusting to the temp before boiling. When I look at divorce, several states are maki…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 08:54 PM
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It feels like we are at the edge of a major learning lesson for both sexes. It does seem like a lot of women are coming around and the dream women are being sold, isn’t turning out to be what they were promised and more like a nightmare. On the side of men, we have been tremendously feminized and there has been an attack on masculinity that started with removing black men from homes and incentivizing raising children without a father figure. When that was deemed to be effective, it moved on to o…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 08:18 PM
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On point. Reminds of that saying: women love keeping and making other women single.
/r/MensRights20/01/24 07:17 PM
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I’m not a Momoa fan but I always crack up when I see that comparison. It’s not real and he’s not chubby under the beard, actually looks good. That Tyra pic on the other hand is real.
/r/MensRights19/01/24 09:39 PM
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She’s showing you who she is by making the comparisons. Being real, you are asking a question you know the answer to.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 07:00 PM
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Culture wants to say no, but yes. Statistically and anecdotally(although not me, as I’ve always been the breadwinner).
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 06:59 PM
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Ah, got you. Then it sounds like you may be stuck. Maybe have a heart to heart with her on things you would like to improve and tell her that you will follow her if she can agree to do better.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 06:48 PM
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Move on to a new attorney. Doesn’t seem like she did a good job, and her being in the middle of your case, opening a new firm and having such low ratings isn’t good for you. Going independent she should be kicking ass, but likely she’s in over her head. I had to switch mid term, was the best decision I made. If I were you, shop some more highly rated attorneys and have a summary of your info(pertaining to life before divorce, leading up to divorce, and what your expectations are for the settleme…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 06:44 PM
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Just make sure you put something in writing asap. You can show in court later that you clearly were against it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 03:57 PM
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Fight like hell to make sure she doesn’t do this. I’d send an email and certified letter stating you are against this change and will involve legal if necessary. Send her a copy of the email in text. This is a power move, F that.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 03:07 PM
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It can help but there’s no guarantee. Also, don’t get another marriage license.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 04:56 PM
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Can you explain more or share a good link on “direct expenses?” I’m really curious.
/r/MensRights07/12/23 01:14 AM
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I can get behind what you are saying, it actually makes sense.
/r/MensRights06/12/23 11:00 PM
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From my experience, how you are handling it is pretty damn good. The whole “I love you” thing being semi encouraged by the bf is really weird and a red flag. I wouldn’t have an issue with him saying it but trying to get the kids to say it, that’s something that should come naturally if at all. Your approach to it is excellent though. I think when you show you are being the fair and good natured parent, it actually gets your kids to behave closer to how you would like them to in a situation like …
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 07:06 PM
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Not even close dude. That analogy was terrible. I know men nowadays don’t want to take personal responsibility but that’s what makes us men. If you believe you are able to partake in a decision that can lead to a consequence, you need to be ready to be responsible for said consequence. Looking at a house doesn’t automatically lead to your signatures on the paperwork and a mortgage tied to your credit for 30 years. Having sex with a woman can automatically lead to you being responsible for a chil…
/r/MensRights06/12/23 06:43 PM
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Do you have an order? You can’t file contempt if you don’t. What you need to do is set a hearing for timesharing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 12:33 AM
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Same to you. I know it’s tough some times but focus on you and your child(ren). For me personally, God has been there for me big time. Blessings brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 12:28 AM
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Keep doing what you need to. Finding out what was said won’t matter and will just get your focus off of where it should be. What you are saying is par for the course. Very hard to find a woman who hasn’t smeared campaign her ex-husband. What I’ve seen personally is that in the long run, the husband wins out and the ex-wife shows her crazy. That saying of “the best revenge is success” rings true here. Don’t waste your time, let her do the yapping.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 12:18 AM
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This is hilarious. I never realized this but it’s so true. I’ve been a SAHD while providing an income when my oldest 2 were younger. It wasn’t difficult at all, in fact, it was more difficult for me because instead of whipping out a tit to breast feed I would have to heat up frozen breastmilk. We live in a time where technology has made so many things easier, even from a decade ago. SAHM’s used to have to put a ton of effort to wash clothes. Now they brag about doing laundry which is basically l…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 08:40 PM
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Not true. We read the same Bible and I can easily prove to you that what you believe about marriage and divorce is inaccurate. I’m willing to put in the time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 07:51 PM
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Hey brother, I'm sorry to hear about your experience with the church, and in some ways, I had a similar experience. In the long run, everyone saw my ex for who she was, but in my mind, it was and still is God first, my children, and then me, in that order. Over the last several years, my mindset about the church has become more scriptural and less "cultural". The church is very intertwined with culture in the west, including how they view women and the beliefs they teach. I could go on and on, b…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 06:08 PM
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Men are disposable and it’s clear. The thing I don’t get, how does this post help you or other men? I’m seeing so many posts about men feeling sad and down about what they are going through, wanting help in some way from others. My advice: seek God. And I’m not being sarcastic. I’ve been through some incredibly tough times but I never once sat there asking where everyone else was and where my support came from. At times, my family didn’t agree or wasn’t with me because of smear campaigns, but I …
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 12:29 PM
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True on the one night stand part. Moreso how he realizes he messed up, what he did to correct it and how he knows how great of a woman she is.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 01:31 AM
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Def had a unicorn on your hands, especially if you are in the west. The best you can do is shoot your shot. I would actually show her this post. You never know, she may be holding out for something as well but is hurt and guarding herself, rightfully so. Show her you put in the work and tell her you want to win her back. Let us know, I’m curious how this plays out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 09:45 PM
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Even if it bothered me, I can’t imagine going into a police station and saying a “cashier grabbed my private area, while another employee saw and laughed”. I totally agree under the legal definition it’s assault, and outside of any legalities it’s wrong, but as men we are trained not to see these things as a big deal, right or wrong, and again, I personally was shocked(even by her grabbing my bicep, the whole thing was very fast), but no trauma and it really doesn’t bug me. I would not look down…
/r/MensRights27/11/23 12:33 AM
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First off, sorry this happened to you. It’s weird to think that transgender males may actually bring accountability to women being aggressors, raping, etc. in some slight way in the near future. I can tell you as a decent looking guy, I’ve been “sexually assaulted” multiple times by women, but I would never report it and just go on with my day because mentally it doesn’t bug me. I was literally at Costco from the gym the other day and an older woman cashier, grabbed my arms, made some joke, then…
/r/MensRights26/11/23 11:19 PM
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Do not get married. Ceremony, church, all that, cool. Skip the government license.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 02:23 AM
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lol!
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 05:33 PM
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No “maybe”. And don’t think a baby will save your marriage either, kids are awesome, but it’s even better when you have a supportive spouse by your side.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 12:40 AM
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You falling in love with a girl you’ve been with for a week? Previously you’ve been divorced? She catfished you and you are excusing it and now posting about her keeping her profile up on dating sites? Brother, you need personal help. Being a man means making tough decisions. Dumping trash you met a week ago, who is kind enough to show you to stay away through her actions early on, is NOT a tough decision. This should be easy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 10:00 AM
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Believe it or not, there are decent women out there. You can have bad luck every once in awhile, but from experience, you can have a hunch on who is decent or not. Regardless, don’t get married. You can have the best woman in the world, if things go south and you get divorced…. Like the saying goes, you never truly know a woman until you divorce her.
/r/MensRights03/11/23 07:45 PM
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The best thing you can hope is your ex gets with someone who cares about your kid(s). You have no idea how many times the alternative happens.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 11:36 AM
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If you’ve been paying it for awhile, it would be cheaper not to most likely. She will claim “status quo”. There’s too much info missing. Does she work? If not, I would not discontinue paying her phone.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 11:48 PM
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I wish men paid more attention to what most people deal with after putting the ring on a woman’s finger. I’m all for marriage under a church. Don’t involve the government. That safety net the government provides women, and you signing your life away to her, tends to bring out the worst. I’m sure if the roles were reversed and men benefitted more from marriage, most men would be just as bad. Even if you stay together, please legally divorce. Otherwise get ready to post here several years later as…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 09:39 PM
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Ouch
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 04:53 AM
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This is what I was thinking
/r/MensRights05/10/23 01:08 AM
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There is no way women consume as much porn as men do. Period. I am aware that the amount of women who watch porn is rising, but men still have women beat. Normally I’d bother looking for data to back me up, for this, idgaf because it’s too obvious.
/r/MensRights19/09/23 01:13 PM
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Let’s be real. He could do a lot better.
/r/MensRights15/09/23 08:16 PM
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I will be, as far as the government license part. I’m all for commitment, taking care of your wife and kids. The way laws read in the US, if you don’t live your son, tell them to get a marriage license. For my daughters, I’m all for the license if their future husbands are. If that comes across as selfish, they’re my children, of course I want what’s best for them and every legal advantage possible.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 02:43 PM
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After seeing the title of post and length of marriage: Thank God for saving you down the line, give her the damn annulment.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 11:02 AM
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No and like another commenter said, protect yourself by recording yourself. Many women start making false accusations to get the STBX out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 12:51 AM
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Don’t give more than you need to on paper or agreements. Agree to the minimum on paper and then if you want to provide extras, do it without the courts forcing you to make it status quo.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 02:59 PM
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Sucks they behave this way. Hope your dad recovers well.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 07:07 AM
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Women definitely exist that are ok being legally unmarried. RP terms like HVM apply here, if you are HV enough it won’t be much of an issue. Now, you may find a woman who still wants the ceremony, the honeymoon, etc. Cool. Only thing you aren’t doing is getting a marriage license. And women, single or not, are entitled to child support if they are the lower earner and based on custody/timesharing %. That doesn’t change with or without a marriage license.
/r/MensRights24/08/23 11:29 AM
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Honestly man, whether for narc reasons or not, better for the kids for her to be a better mom. Focus on you and doing what you need to. Don’t stress or waste time analyzing a crazy person.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 12:42 AM
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Be silent. Gather proof. Practice self control. When fighting starts and she begins coming after you, stick to this response: “Let’s please be respectful. Any communications should be about the children’s well being or scheduling”. Do not think you have to prove yourself or defend yourself. Women will twist anything you say to fit a narrative.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 03:34 PM
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I heard this somewhere before, and I have nothing to back it up but anecdotally I agree: the dumbest and smartest people are men, while on average women are smarter than men. Now whether that’s true or not, all I can say is based on experience, I agree.
/r/MensRights18/08/23 01:01 AM
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Because the best chess players are men, and they are better at chess than women. Same with basketball. Or nearly any other sport. I’m sure there are certain things women are better at, maybe gymnastics. But it’s few and far in between.
/r/MensRights18/08/23 12:56 AM
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Reality is you need real numbers, not hypotheticals. Your age could come into play regarding alimony depending on what state you live in. Keep in mind IANAL but once you get the pertinent info, you start to understand the thought processes behind laws and how they apply. AI is a future threat. The court cares about what you are dealing with now and the last 2-3 years.l(in most states anyways).
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 02:18 AM
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There’s 2 factors in order of importance: 1) your earning “potential” which can be based on your income history via pay stubs and tax returns 2) what you are making more recently You cannot just drop to 50% of you typical income without good reason and evidence, even then it is up to the judges discretion working within whatever state law you are under. Judges see this crap frequently. Now if over several years your income was decreasing, different story. 20% decrease? Likely reasonable if you c…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 06:52 PM
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Hey brother, Feel free to reach out to me. Get in the gym, listen to motivational vids, seek God. Create a positive environment for yourself. You are not doomed, change your mindset.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 04:01 PM
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Let her fight it. Look at how many people get prosecuted for illegally recording in your state. And you partially own the house or lease you reside in I assume. Make it difficult for her to lie. Just no recording in her place of sleep and/or bathrooms(unless it’s you, then record all the way).
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 11:02 PM
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Bodycam yourself and wear a badge that says she’s being recorded(consent here means making them aware you are recording). Record 24/7 if possible, if not, when you interact with her. Let her fight you recording yourself because you fear a false accusation .
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 01:03 AM
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Unfortunately my best friend and business partner is going through hell. All I have to say is all of us said “she would never do THAT”. Guess what, she did. I’m not a sexist but it seems a common theme for women to claim abuse, narcissism, etc of their husband/ex suddenly and also try and get an RO, or file a false domestic assault claim. The reality is that for their lying of something so serious, they normally get a slap on the wrist at best. So why wouldn’t they? There are no rules women play…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 04:30 PM
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Do NOT leave the house. Bodycam/audio record yourself at all times be ready for a false allegation. Bodycam: create a badge you wear stating she is being recorded providing “consent” to her if you are in a 2 party recording state. Anytime she flips out remind her of the badge and tell her she’s being recorded orally. Voice recorder: just keep it on your person and never stop recording. Silence is power and silence can save your ass, because when she starts making up dates/times of abuse, you hav…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 12:24 PM
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No, and I don’t think any man living in a western country or where laws remove men’s power, should.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 05:55 PM
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Because you need the government to issue a piece of paper to prove you are committed to someone…. It’s not like nearly half of marriages end in divorce or anything like that /s. Until the laws are actually fair, a man has to be an idiot to involve the government in their marriage. Have the wedding, get the ring, create contracts that work for both of you. Men, do not give your power away. Period.
/r/MensRights30/07/23 04:27 AM
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OP, get your head out of your ass. Why are you sharing your woman? Wtf.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 10:09 PM
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Finalize the divorce to remove the marriage license. Obviously we are likely against you going back after what she did, but at least remove her power over you first.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 11:06 PM
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Luckily she wasn’t smart enough to figure that out
/r/MensRights20/07/23 09:01 PM
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I’m not a fan of Jonah Hill, but he handled her in writing nearly as best as any man could. My understanding is that he was looking to marry and/or start a family. All this came out of spite that she missed out with him and he’s having a baby with someone else, she’s a nobody now. I don’t even know her name, her claim to fame is Jonah respectfully dumped her. Would have been better for her to never mention any of this.
/r/MensRights19/07/23 03:53 AM
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I have no sympathy for a man who remarried(with the government being involved) after divorcing previously, especially high net worth. Have the wedding, wear the ring, etc, but don’t get the marriage license with the laws the way they are. And yes I realize this is “child support”.
/r/MensRights17/07/23 12:57 AM
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Terrible move on offering the sex. Wish you wouldn’t have done that
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 12:34 AM
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Stories like this and the football player just reinforcing to men don’t get married, even if you don’t make as much as Costner. It gets the discussion going, I’m seeing this everywhere and I am not seeking it out. I think it’s a good thing though, Laws need to change to make things realistic and fair. No child needs $248,000 a month he’ll 10 children wouldn’t. Alimony and child support should be based on actual need, not lifestyle.
/r/MensRights09/07/23 01:24 PM
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Looking out for you brother. Don’t take me as being harsh, the only one looking out for you, is you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 01:18 AM
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She’s shown her true colors. There may be a higher upfront cost but chances are the lawyer will save you on the backend. Things may not move as fast as you want or feel they should, but speaking for my good friend, several times his wife wanted to drop legal, go through a mediator group, and it failed 3 times. Search the sub this is nothing new. She tried a fourth and my friend said “make me an offer, I’m not going back”. She never did, at the end she got less than what he originally offered her…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 11:34 PM
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Who locked you out of the house? The same person saying to drop lawyers? 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 10:19 PM
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All I have to say is don’t be surprised if you break up with her and she becomes a “victim” of you and all the terrible things you’ve done. She’s a liar and you have solid proof, and the complaints from her so called soul mate mirror your reality as well. Sounds like you were runner up and she’s alpha widowed.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 01:45 PM
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Don’t pay for her attorney. If the court seems it necessary she can have a judge rule that you need to pay for it or it will come from assets sold at the end. Many “mutual divorces” seem to start that way but midway, once friends and family and attorney’s get into your stbx’s ear, it’s normally very short lived. Especially so if you are borrowing from a family member to get this done.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 12:12 AM
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I wear kilts. I’d have no problem with this.
/r/MensRights28/06/23 01:41 AM
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Well she thinks she deserves more, so giving her 1600 hasn’t helped. I really appreciate your answer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 06:41 PM
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Thank you I feel like I’m getting some answers. Her only expenses are gas for her car but she has no income. He’s paying for everything. Can she claim children’s expenses HE is paying for(sorry for caps don’t know how to bold)?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 03:06 PM
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I agree that he’s getting bad advice. He’s been paying the 1600 based on the attorneys advice to avoid his wife going for temporary relief since he didn’t have taxes ready. Not sure I agree that he should say he’s unemployed, they have nice cars which he is downsizing now and he owns businesses with me. But I agree that it seems he’s received bad advice. My question is how can he leave his wife with 0 income? It makes sense to me he would have to give her a little something but not 1600.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 02:48 PM
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Well according to his attorney since she doesn’t work and doesn’t have access to his accounts, him giving her something doesn’t look as controlling or abusive vs giving her nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 09:36 PM
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Not attacking you brother. The time with your kids is worth it and once you give it up, it’s hard to get back. Is there really no other person who can watch them but your mom, and is there nothing you can do to get your mom accommodating? I’ve been there with a half ass wife staying at home. I can relate to you more than not.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 09:19 PM
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Never give up 50/50. You need to man up and figure it out. You said you are 1, ONE, day into it. You can do this, and your kids NEED you to figure it out.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 03:17 AM
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Props to you for being there for your step son. You don’t have to do this but you are greatly impacting the life of this young man. Best advice I can give: do the best you can and make logical decisions, let the rest of the cards fall where they may. May sound selfish but the best decision is probably when given the choice, to focus on yourself and you are the rock your family needs. If he has to repeat a grade? So what? You need to put yourself in the best possible situation so you can have the…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 10:46 PM
2

As a Christian, I would not get a government marriage license but I would do all necessary actions to have a scripturally sound covenant. Scripture has never stated that we need to jump through these hoops, reduce our ability to protect ourselves as men, and involve the government into our marriage bed. Funny how most women will get upset at men for the idea of adding a third party to their marriage but are fine with the government. I wonder if it’s because they are the sole beneficiaries? And i…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 12:03 AM
1

Good luck bro, what a joke of a system
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:06 PM
1

So what do you do then?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:46 AM
1

Interesting. So let’s say a divorce is initiated and both parties own the home. Would the judge look down on say, the man for inviting his girlfriend over the house? Keeping things PG in front of the kids obviously. Or is this like many situations where only the woman gets away with it but it’s viewed differently when it comes to men?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:44 AM
1

Did she know the go pro was recording or you had it hidden?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:39 AM
1

Anywhere I can read about Florida moving to this formula? Example: 50/50 custody and let’s say one parent was SAH and the other 100% of income prior to divorce. How would CS be calculated outside what state calculators show?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:28 AM
1

I’m interested in Gavron warning especially in FL. Never heard of this, but let’s say you initiate divorce on a SAHM, 10-15 yo marriage, nothing has moved in the courts yet(no hearing) and she has no plans on getting a job. Can you file a Gavron hearing or is it something the court does(from google it looks like the court must order it)?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 06:22 AM
1

Why do you say that re: alimony and Texas? I’ve been seeing that said of Texas and Florida but never expanded upon,especially for longer term marriages of 10-15 years.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 06:07 AM
18

Dude, you need new hobbies. I don’t even know what to say to this.
/r/askMRP28/05/23 06:39 PM
8

Why would you get involved, AT ALL. His wife decided to stay, whether for companionship or not is not your problem. Dude, what are you doing? Enjoy the time with them to the best of your ability. Focus on yourself and your household. You sound like a chick giving us all these details.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 01:06 AM
2

Bro in no way, shape or form based on that first email, would I ever get back with a chick like this. Also, the entitlement of her being left in a “good place financially”. Women are delusional. The only thing I’d say is if you told her you were going to pay for the vacation, you should have. If she did that for you, you should have at least paid your portion. On my end I would have paid for both of us regardless, for my conscience to be clean.
/r/askMRP31/12/22 05:04 PM
-1

Do not let other women tell you that “feeling loved” doesn’t mean you are being “loved” for real by your man. That is some insane emotional nonsense, they are not in your situation. Men and women love differently and if your man is giving you the world considering whatever flaws we may have, it is not worth losing a great man over insecurity and jealousy. Is it for everyone? No. But look at it this way, you are playing a game of chances where you quit the game if a man cheats, that means you onl…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 04:57 PM
1

Message me if anything bro.
/r/askMRP19/12/22 08:50 PM
0

I think you should not mention cancelling the mediation. Unfortunately you put yourself in a spot where if you double back now or put it on her, IMO you lose frame. Go through with it and you should easily be able to stop proceedings after the meeting. Now you can use the mediation consult outline as dread without you having to really bring it up. I would approach it like this: after mediation, you go back over your conversation of the ideal marriage and ask her if this is doable for her, and if…
/r/askMRP19/12/22 08:34 PM
0

What I would do(not in any particular order): talk to her now about the upcoming mediation. Say that both of you need to a hard look at what the future would look like, and the reality of divorce. Note to you: You need to do this because of the threats in the past, doesn’t matter who it came from. Mediation is super close to divorce and should show her you aren’t playing. But go in there with your intentions of not divorcing and killing shit there since it doesn’t seem like you really want divor…
/r/askMRP19/12/22 08:21 PM
2

Dude you have to carefully build your woman up a little bit. You sound like you destroyed her which doesn’t benefit you or the kids. The best thing a RP man can do is get a woman to fit in her man’s frame and benefit him. My best advice is handle this very very carefully because you fucked up big time and how you play this can lead to a huge win in the long term or the complete opposite. There’s only so many kicks a person will take while they are down.
/r/askMRP19/12/22 07:33 PM
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The only time you can kinda give a girl a pass with sleeping with another guy is if it’s a fwb/non-exclusive relationship and you guys figure out later she’s an asset not a liability and gets in your frame. And there’s few exceptions there so it’s not a general rule. This relationship should be DEAD to you bro. Married with 4 kids, I’m keeping choice words to myself. Do not wish her a happy birthday. Focus on the kids for Christmas, and fuck your anniversary. You know it already you are coming h…
/r/askMRP19/12/22 07:20 PM
1

You are right on the money with most of what you said, unfortunately people have to learn the hard way and reassure themselves they made the correct decision later.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 07:27 AM
1

It’s not a losing game is you get nearly everything else you want from a man. If cheating is your bill to die on, just get an undesirable man. Still doesn’t guarantee you won’t be cheated on but lowers the chances.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 07:22 AM
2

Dude this sounds absolutely terrible. NGL I’d rather have no sex than what you negotiated for, and what you’ve been left with. You can do better.
/r/askMRP17/12/22 05:07 AM
1

Exactly. This is my opinion but remember, you are the leader of your household and need to use wisdom and experience to help guide you. We can only give you advice based on the amount of info you provided. I wish you the best brother, no matter what keep your head up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 09:10 PM
0

🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 07:07 PM
13

So it seems like for the most part you’ve done everything right. It’s her insecurity - jealousy loop that will be a constant threat and RP techniques unfortunately, if you go exactly by the book, will make things worse. You know the basics but you need to implement some common sense outside of RP advice that fits your specific scenario. Your sex life isn’t terrible and actually decent(I’ll tell you straight up that sometimes I want sex less than 5 times a week and would take 2, but I’ll never ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 07:00 PM
4

I’m going to go against the grain in a sense, you guys weren’t together and I think the hard and fast rule of never getting back together is stupid, especially if you had a good girl(not saying you did or didnt) and you let your beta side ruin it. The biggest problem is you came back, and you weren’t ready. You are way too insecure and beta still, even to an extent you admit it. You are actually making her lose attraction to you by your actions, and you keep failing the tests man. I’m sure it su…
/r/askMRP30/11/22 12:39 AM
1

There are good women around 30 that are outliers, but from my experience most are jaded towards men, have a ton of baggage, and/or at least one child. I think 24-27 is the sweet spot personally. Enough that you can see a track record and they aren’t immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:46 PM
2

I’ve often wondered how I would do it now if I had to start from scratch, at 18 like I did before. I would rent a room. If it’s just me and a girl, and I’m making 40k, in 5 years I can do ALOT of damage and be about where I am now if not better because of life experiences. It’s a narrow path but it’s not that difficult. Keep in mind I came from no money. There were no handouts for me or someone to lean on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:15 PM
3

You are doing it the right way. Women should look at how fiscally responsible someone is when choosing a partner for LTR or Marriage, especially if they want to have kids. I’m not saying everyone needs to make 6 figures and have the nicest cars and newest phones. You can make $50,000 a year but really make use of that $50k. The dudes that make 50k and are buying the newest video games, every phone upgrade, etc. are not good partners. And yes I have friends that do this, I’m not marrying them. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:08 PM
3

What type of loser men are you dating that only have $2,000 in their bank account? If that’s your standard then of course, but the guys that are semi responsible and fiscally intelligent, which is what women should be looking for, have much more to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:32 PM
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It’s more expensive to get married than to hire a prostitute. And some of these dudes at least end up having sex with a prostitute. I highly doubt most men are getting married or into LTR’s for sex alone. Especially since it doesn’t even guarantee sex anyways, how many sexless marriages are there out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:36 PM
0

And that’s where I’m ending it. Nothing you can say will provide value, insults and nonsense comparisons about war and famine to polygamy. Lol what a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:23 AM
0

Life is fine for me. Instead of just one person loving me I have multiple and 4 amazing kids. I’ll take that and my life over yours, any day. I don’t believe that people who need to hurl insults, are intelligent or happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:19 AM
1

I have a Fully Loaded Red C8 corvette(I paid around $110k for it new) and 2 2022 Suburbans. I have 4 kids, one of the suburbans is mine. I can even timestamp it for you, no problem whatsoever. I make north of 300k average a year. So no Bugatti, I prefer properties over cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:17 AM
0

Who hurt you babe?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:14 AM
1

Where in the world did I say that? You are on some nonsense for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:12 AM
1

Lol you are the one using the term trailer trash, who am I looking down on? You came at me with the insults. Your arguments are so weak you had to resort to taking low blows. Making assumptions that I make 90k so think I’m rich enough to have multiple wives. I even said if some dude is making that in the middle of nowhere, more power to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:09 AM
1

I mean we are agreeing but you do understand the reason for my reply, and me saying “if polygyny was legal”, had to do with the marriage licenses? It doesn’t matter anyways we are on the same page. But you know damn well if the government gave the seal of approval it would make more people open to the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:07 AM
1

Hey Kendall ain’t bad, I was just by there this weekend for NightGarden Miami. You should check it out, you may miss some of the scenery however with your nose that high up in the air.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:05 AM
0

Lol I’m happy to have angered you. Trailer trash needs love too 😜. Your insults don’t matter to me I’m pretty happy with myself, always more room to grow of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:03 AM
1

No, multiple marriage licenses aren’t legal. But marriage, didn’t need a license up until about 100 years ago in the US. I can have multiple wives and an agreement with them, outside of the government. I have studied the topic since I am in the lifestyle. I have no interest in involving the government in my bedroom. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brown_v._Buhman To make a long story short it’s a freedom of speech issue, but as long as all are consenting, whatever bigamy laws only apply to marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:59 AM
0

You are comparing war and disease to adult women consenting to a certain lifestyle? And enjoying it? What, are women not independent in thought enough that they can’t choose for themselves a lifestyle that works for them? And for the record I’m not into white chicks, I prefer Hispanic women. But I recognize the need to take jabs when there really isn’t an worthy argument against what I’m saying. And hey, maybe a dude in Oklahoma or some middle of nowhere town could afford multiple wives on 90k. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:55 AM
0

We have had polygyny throughout most of history. It still exists today. It’s not this nightmare you are portraying it to be. It’s also not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:16 AM
0

You know damn well if I threw a number out there, I’m pulling it out of my ass. Not even going to try. But I would say men should be able to afford the lifestyle before considering it. Nothing wrong with your wives working, in fact financially it would be amazing if you have the husband and a wife or 2 working. But the husband should be able to keep things afloat independent of his wives, IMO. At the end of the day though the men who can do this, are already doing this but in a non-committed for…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 12:40 AM
0

Yes, not all of 3/4 of the men having sex are going to take multiple wives. There is not an inherent benefit or loss to the remaining 3/4 of men who don’t take multiple wives. What’s so hard to understand? Now how about you answer my question? I’m really curious to see what you have to say in regards to saving the “incels”(your word not mine). And for the record, when I asked “ideal for the 3/4 of men already having sex?” I was literally asking you, if that was your question to me, I wasn’t maki…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:44 PM
1

Ideal for the 3/4 of men already having sex? There is always going to be a portion of society that doesn’t benefit. The 1/4 you mentioned aren’t benefiting now. How about you explain what you think the solution is since apparently we need to base everything on the 1/4 that are being hurt now. I’ve asked you in a roundabout way, now I’m directly asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:33 PM
0

I’m not threatened, it’s not for me. Maybe for some other men. And the women I am with have clearly told me they don’t have interest in other men. So what’s the problem? There’s also a religious basis for me believing what I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:25 PM
1

I’m not threatened, it’s not for me. Maybe for some other men. And the women I am with have clearly told me they don’t have interest in other men. So what’s the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:21 PM
0

You clearly don’t get it. Do you really think that a small percentage of men, only marrying one women instead of multiple(let’s say 2-3), is going to benefit the 1 out of 4 man that isn’t having sex? The other thing is you are saying there is no hope. You used the “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” phrase against me when I said men need to and would improve(paraphrasing but within 2 of my replies that’s the idea behind what I’m saying). So what is your suggestion? Force women to be with men t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:19 PM
1

I’m speaking about the failure rate(IE Divorce rate)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 09:14 PM
1

What you don’t get is those 1 in 4 not having sex, women would rather choose to be single than be with them, even if I’m out of the picture or other men like me. Yes, even myself I continually step my game up. If you aren’t growing, you are dying. Working a 9-5 at McDonald’s is cool when you are 16-18. Not at 40. If you have money and aren’t getting laid, get in the gym, get a lifestyle coach. Fuck, get on YouTube and google the info is free. Nothing is guaranteed but you will better your odds, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:53 PM
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What you don’t get is those 1 in 4 not having sex, women would rather choose to be single than be with them, even if I’m out of the picture or other men like me. Yes, even myself I continually step my game up. If you aren’t growing, you are dying. Working a 9-5 at McDonald’s is cool when you are 16-18. Not at 40. If you have money and aren’t getting laid, get in the gym, get a lifestyle coach. Fuck, get on YouTube and google the info is free. Perfect example is Elon musk. The dude looked terribl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:49 PM
0

I’ll be straight with you, I only believe in polygyny. As far as polygamy, I would never encourage it but I would not look down on people who practice it. At the end of the day both parties need to just accept the terms of the relationship between each other(s) or not. If you can come to an agreement, great. If not, move on until you find someone compatible with your vision and goals. The whole fairness thing, life isn’t fair. I’m not trying to make things fair in a literal sense, in polygyny or…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:46 PM
1

I am aware of how Islam regulates polygyny and agree with it completely although I am a Christian. In this case the man is raising his children, although I would tell you that not being limited to one wife, I would have no problem if I found a great girl and she had a kid or 2 and raising them, as I believe a father figure being in the picture would create a lasting positive impact. When men are stuck(not me, but society) following western culture and the idea of having one wife, it’s a lot toug…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:38 PM
-5

The incels already aren’t getting laid. The women are sharing men already, whether they are aware of it or not. Women just aren’t as open to it yet because of culture. If it wasn’t for that, and polygyny was legal, it would be more accepted. Let’s be real. It would also make men step their game up, which is a benefit to women and children overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:33 PM
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An average Joe couldn’t handle this because it’s not cheap to have multiple wives and children. Why would you want to? Well statistically speaking monogamy isn’t doing that great. You have a support system at home. Your kids do benefit from the different aspects each wife brings while still benefiting from the father’s involvement. As far as raising someone else’s kids, women become closer to sisters in this situation, and it is one big family. That’s like saying why would a man marry a single m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:30 PM
-1

So in a perfect world, you have one man being a bread winner and you build your own “city” so to speak. Let’s say you have 3 wives, working together, being friends(which for women let’s be real it’s hard to find real, long term friends). Splitting duties, raising kids. It’s like having good friends live with you, care for your husband on a deeper level and you use that common ground of loving the same husband to build on. I also think it would be cool to have a huge family, imagine from 2-3 wive…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:18 PM
1

It seems you are trying to really dissect what I’m saying and put words in my mouth. I didn’t say every single person needs to reproduce. I said sex needs to happen for the continuation of our species showing it is a need on some level. I don’t see how me stating the above goes against biology. That being said, I stand by my comment that sex is a need “in a relationship”, for most relationships to survive, outside of procreation purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:01 PM
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I have no problem with what you are saying, sex can be secondary, but it’s a very close second. It goes without saying that men should like who they are with, but I can like women and not have sex with them. I call that a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 01:58 PM
2

I totally understand what you are saying but then if we are just going on what we need, then there is no point in relationships. That is why I specifically said “relationships” need sex, whether it’s for the man, woman, or both. But we can agree most times it’s the man who needs sex more often than not in a relationship for the relationship to be healthy. In the same way an individual needs water, food and shelter to be healthy. If we look at relationships as a being, men and women have differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 01:55 PM
2

Most romantic men are being romantic to get laid. They would not willingly go into a relationship where they know they aren’t going to have sex, with very few exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 01:41 PM
5

You are comparing wearing designer clothes to something we are biologically designed to do for the future of our species. There is a reason men are hardwired to see sex as important and that women are normally hornier when they have the best chance of getting pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 01:40 PM
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Sex is a need in relationships to keep the relationship healthy. If you are going to diminish the statement by saying the only real needs in life are food, clothing, shelter and air, you have the right to do so but no one wants the bare minimum needed to survive. And here’s the thing, we DO need sex on some level to keep our species going. Biologically it is part of a “need”. If sex isn’t valuable and necessary in a relationship, why would men get married? To be friends? I really don’t see a ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 01:23 PM
3

Women are good at detecting fake confidence over time. Not initially. This is part of why they shit test, and if you fail they lose respect. All this happens on a subconscious level within a woman. I don’t believe most are aware of what they are even doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:37 AM
-1

Don’t listen to what women say, believe what they do. The good ones admit it when you call them out on their hypocrisy. Stay away from the ones trying to explain it away.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:34 AM
-2

Trust me, you are in your prime for what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:57 AM
5

Just wanted to wish you the best. My dad unfortunately was on prednisone for years and it’s side effects are still being felt to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:55 AM
1

I think that if by date 3, you give it up, you do field out a lot of guys who are just looking to fuck AND you should know if you like the guy enough to fuck him. You don’t rack up 20+ dudes on your notch count by 25 yo, by being selective. Sure I’m aware there are some unlucky ladies out there, but generally speaking you either have bad judgement or there is something you need to fix about yourself causing these relationships to end.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:42 AM
1

I know too many women who approaching 30 need to have babies suddenly and talk about the regrets of sleeping around. Women have a monthly reminder their clock is ticking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:47 AM
-1

If you consider the risks and the idea that men don’t want women who have been run through: women. Just on pregnancy risk alone, women should be WAY pickier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:37 AM
3

Yes, first off you have to be reasonable. The first handful of times with a virgin may not the the best. But I will tell you notch count has no bearing on ability in bed either. Some women with a high N count starfish sex. Some don’t. Key is as a man to be a good communicator and tell them what works and what doesn’t. Even better if you tell them while you are fucking because most women love being led in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:44 PM
0

It’s not just about being a loser. If a woman is upset, doesn’t get her way, she won’t be “in the mood”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:37 AM
-2

Right, so if he does what you want and you are happy, he gets sex. If he upsets you, he doesn’t. Imagine if a man didn’t perform one of his husbandly duties because he’s upset. I know women don’t want to hear it, but you all want to be the only one men have sex with then play games with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:36 AM
4

Unfortunately it’s because women use withholding sex as punishment. And let’s not lie to ourselves and say they don’t. So men who aren’t critically thinking, correlate having sex to being “rewarded”. The opposite of a punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:58 PM
-2

Sex by third date. I am what you would consider HVM. I’m not saying 1st date is terrible but it gives the impression that you put out too easily. I would prefer if it waited til the 2nd or 3rd.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 03:24 PM
0

My beliefs of the negatives in both sexes were reinforced: most of these dudes asking women about their beliefs regarding high notch counts and men wanting a virgin, are not high value and simply getting some kind of validation from women being delusional and having high self worth for existing. Most of these guys are barely getting laid if I had to guess. women are delusional, want to live in a fantasy land where their decisions shouldn’t or don’t matter, and there’s nothing you can say until i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:59 AM
5

I do believe N counts matter, 3 is not anything to worry about unless you hopped from one dude to another in 6 months to a year.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 02:37 AM
3

You taking responsibility is a big step and I’m sure will be appreciated by him. It’s also the first step to becoming a good wife(and person in general). I really hope it’s not too late for you and your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 03:04 PM
18

I just want to say this, be smart and drop out of the mom group immediately. I heard this saying once, and it’s something like “most women want to see other women single”. While it may not apply here exactly, it’s very hard to find women nowadays who don’t believe they are owed the world for merely existing. Negativity breeds negativity. I think you should show him this post. Be vulnerable and tell him, this is how you really feel and have a hard time verbalizing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 01:32 AM
0

Not true. Most guys are ok with 2-3 dates. If you make him wait 3 months, yeah it will be a problem. The idea should be that you aren’t casually hooking up, not that you don’t put out with the intention of LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 10:19 PM
6

Be honest with yourself and him. It can be a dealbreaker, tell him you want to represent him well and vice versa. Personally as a man, if a woman had this with no plans to get it fixed, yes it would bother me. If it’s temporary, then no. If you were ugly as sin he wouldn’t be talking to you most likely. You both have a right to what you find attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:24 PM
1

I would say they equal out but aren’t equal. Kind like if you ever played an MMO or JRPG game and they gave you 10 stat points. We both have 10 but it doesn’t mean that how we process info is the same, our emotional reaction, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:36 AM
3

Male. Yes things are more difficult but I believe that mentally, physically, and spiritually we are given better tools to conquer challenges should we put our minds to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:07 AM
3

What I’m trying to say is I don’t do one night stands. That’s my definition of casually sleeping around. So after 2nd or third date, we smash, and I stay with them for at least 3 mos. I have to have some type of connection and actually like them. Otherwise I literally don’t want to fuck them. I could have worded things way better but I’ve been drinking and just got back from a concert in miami(Stevie Nicks in west palm beach) 😜.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:12 AM
3

Over 20, I prefer not to get into specifics. I don’t enjoy casually sleeping around, and have never slept with a woman that I didn’t fuck for at least 3 months. The current 2 women I am with, one makes 12 months end of this upcoming November and the other I’ve been with for longer than 12 mos. I am upfront and they know what’s up(meaning that I’m not exclusive, but they are to me).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:09 AM
4

Women do make the first move, but only to 7-10/10 men. The world is very different for 1-6/10 men. If you don’t have women at least occasionally sliding in your DM’s, this is you. I’ve had women(yes plural) look me up via my credit card and find me on social media when they were waitresses at a restaurant I went to and didn’t show interest. Then bending over in front of me to make it very obvious they are trying to get my attention. When that didn’t work, directly asking if I wanted to hang out.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:55 AM
1

Being my friend does not mean I would necessarily agree with a host of decisions that you make. There are definitely lines that shouldn’t be crossed(murder, r pe, etc) that would cause me to drop a friend but I do not find cheating to be one of them. And if my partner gave an ultimatum(never had this issue)… there’s the fucking door lol. Not even kidding. I would actually take the request slightly seriously if it was also an issue of a person being a deadbeat, so being a man with no job, abandon…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:33 AM
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It’s a long list, but basically real life experiences including the fact what women say they want isn’t really what they want and trying to give your girl the world and be the “nice guy” makes them lose respect for you versus standing your ground and making women conform to your reality(this is super important). It’s almost like if you do the opposite of what women(while staying a gentlemen of course) say they want, you get the best results. To me all these questions though lead to the same end …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:35 PM
5

If women were proud of their N count they wouldn’t have to lie about it. I don’t trust any female except those with very low and obvious dating history to be honest about their N count. They know it makes them less desirable for LTR and marriage. Or they convert to Christianity after being ran through and now their N count is their “past life” lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:45 PM
2

Sometimes, but generally it’s pretty easy to tell who isn’t and who is getting laid. We use external factors to judge how people are or aren’t respected and desired in society. If you see me, a buff dude with a nice car walking with my head up speaking to a woman and her reactions towards me versus a scrawny nerd in baggy unappealing clothes who walks around with his head down, you would make a judgement call and would likely be right. There are some blurry areas but generally speaking, we know.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 09:17 PM
5

😂 I wish I had Tate money, I’m working on it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:37 AM
4

I have a lot of sex. I have a lot of money I can still pay attention to what’s going on in the world and see I’m an outlier. Men nowadays aren’t having regular sex. Just like I can see not everyone can afford the cars I own. At the same token men aren’t doing what they need to in order to improve their chances. Just like most aren’t putting in the work to own the nice cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:16 AM
1

NGL you sound very similar to the girl I’m talking about. Super hot girl but even taking her clothes off she still has bad days because she worries about how she looks(she’s easily an 8 she’s crazy). She hates getting on top some times bc of this until I talk her out of it. One thing I didn’t address is that you said men have left you because you couldn’t climax. The girl I’m with now literally told me she felt broken because of it and I told her straight up, she’s not broken because of it, we j…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:45 PM
1

The best thing you can do is relax, I can’t stress that enough. If you focus on trying to come instead of the physical feelings around the c 🔥(censoring here) you actually make it more difficult on yourself to climax. Another thing is if you have ever come before, do you need light touch/licking around your C, or do you need strong pressure against it? For my girl it was the latter, this is going to sound funny but after going down on her for 20 min, PIV for another 30-45, what finally got her t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:33 PM
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Current girl I’m with never orgasmed at 28 yo and it took a month of me getting her to relax and let me mess around to finally get it. Now it takes 5 min max(8-9 months later) for her to come. Honestly some dudes are terrible at sex and have no idea how the female body works. And this girl is very sex positive, plays with herself. She could never get herself to climax. But she said she didn’t care because sex still “feels good”. I don’t know what that means because as a dude I would get frustrat…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:23 PM
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Not having unprotected sex before marriage is SMART and not weird. What if you catch a real STD that doesn’t go away, you just limited your future options. Same with getting pregnant. Now if something happens and you used protection, don’t beat yourself up over it. Reality is most people don’t use protection from what I’ve seen so you are already ahead of the game and I hope you don’t compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:20 PM
1

I’d love to call him “Daddy” 👅 🍆
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:41 PM
1

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_World%27s_Billionaires Definition of rare: rare adjective US /rer/ UK /reər/ rare adjective (NOT COMMON) B1 not common or frequent; very unusual: a rare disease/species The museum is full of rare and precious treasures. a rare occasion/opportunity/visit/treat, etc. [ + to infinitive ] It's very rare to find these birds in New England in the winter. It's very rare to find someone who combines such qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:32 PM
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Women are trying to create value where there isn’t. Jeff Bezos is a very rare male. I don’t like the dude but he has qualities that make him desirable and hard to replace. Nothing that was said about Ms. Bezos is something that is irreplaceable, difficult to replace or hard to find. Nearly every woman with a uterus can birth children. And with the way it’s going men will eventually be able to birth children as well lol. Then what? This is how low the bar is set for women unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:23 PM
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“What did she get?” I’m pretty sure she automatically became the richest, if not one of the richest women on the planet because she married Bezos. People always try to say how she was an integral part of Amazon….. ok sure. And what’s she doing now besides making headlines for donating to Girl Scouts? How come no one really knows of her outside of “Bezos’ wife”? Bezos would have gotten there without her. Bezos and his personality and drive are why he succeeded, not because of his wife. But let’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:12 PM
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The real answer is most guys are fine with being used for sex, from puberty onwards. Men wish that women lusted after them and wanted to fuck them just for existing. Women can’t understand this, and even the best metaphors will never truly explain what it’s like. I’m sure there are abusive elements in some of these situations, but every guy was wishing they could nail the hot teacher, neighbor, etc and never got the chance. I’ve never heard a dude say “man it would have sucked if the hot neighbo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:22 AM
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Yes for LTR. In the past it didn’t matter to me bc I am not a judgmental person and believed people can make mistakes and change. Unfortunately people have patterns and it’s more comfortable to repeat patterns than break them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:06 AM
2

Hey man, totally agree with you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:21 PM
1

For some background I consider myself a 7-8/10 male, with my body being 8-9(I bodybuild). There have been times when I knew that my attractiveness, presentability, and charisma gave me an absolute edge over my competition in business. And this is dealing with other men. The only time it’s hurt me is with very obese ugly men(I get pretty boy comments from the toads). If women are involved, regardless of age(you’d be surprised with the pervy comments I have heard from grannies behind my back), I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:17 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:12 PM
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Lol maybe it’s because I’m near Miami. Trust me it’s WAYYY higher than that down here. Go into fine dining and the girls are there for the IG posts on their date’s dime.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:59 PM
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Cool so if women are generally going into a date with good intentions, then I’m speaking to the minority of women who do this. My point still stands. It doesn’t even seem we are arguing the same thing. Sounds like you agree that it’s messed up for women to do it, you are just arguing that it’s not happening frequently enough. I don’t think it’s disingenuous to say that in todays world, 20% of women or so go on dates for ulterior motives than actually looking for a casual or LTR relationship. Let…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:50 PM
1

Women go on dates with guys they already know aren’t going to get anywhere. That’s my point. Don’t be an ass and do that, date guys you are interested in and see if the date progresses to something further. It’s not that difficult to understand. I’m not saying women HAVE to fuck the men they are going on dates with. Don’t take advantage of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:41 PM
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Because there are women that are just looking for a free meal and attention. They have no intentions of it being a real date. If they are lukewarm about it and not excited, spare the guy. If you see the date isn’t going anywhere, offer to pay for half. If it were me I’d still pay anyways but I’m in a different financial situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:10 PM
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I think men should pay but women shouldn’t date men they don’t plan on fucking. Doesn’t mean they have to fuck but there are too many women looking for a free meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:03 PM
1

I think the way you are asking the core of your question is kind of off. Almost makes it seem like you are frustrated with women because you aren’t getting laid lol, and I’m an RP man. What you seem and RP in general seems to miss is that the 40 yo women still have as much option as HVM is many cases. Even if it’s for getting laid only, if something is in abundance, you value it less. It’s like if you have unlimited access to water, you care about water when you are thirsty outside of that you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:20 PM
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The title vs what is actually said in the body or your post is very important. The title isn’t how it works out in real life. Women especially should know this because of the RL meme: it’s not what you said it’s how you said it. A guy in this situation would have one or 2 main chicks while explaining he may or may not sleep around. If a woman is really interested in you, it won’t matter. If she isn’t, she will move on. The whole point is that there has to be desirability on your part. So asking …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:16 PM
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As a man: the emotional strength women have, women are some of the toughest people I know emotionally. pain endurance, including child birth feminine energy including feminine touch. There’s something healing about a feminine woman taking care of you when you are sick and the feeling behind that a wise woman and their approach to getting you to see both sides of a situation. Especially important in child raising. a feminine woman filling in the gaps you have as a man, serving each other(in a cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:48 AM
1

Here’s what I believe based reading different studies(yes including OkCupid and I think it was Tinder), and real life experience. About 40% of men are having sex or have access to sex. The dating apps likely follow the 80/20 rule but not every single woman is on dating apps. If you are on dating apps; there is suck a glut of men compared to the amount of women on there, that women would naturally choose to swipe right on the ones they find most attractive. Men are less picky, but if you are aver…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 07:18 PM
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Currently(Male, late 20’s to early 30’s). Never had issues attracting women but I have weeks where nearly every day I get attention from women, and I’m not including social media as I really don’t waste time on IG and still get hit up). I prefer not to give my exact age on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 02:19 AM
1

Being 30 doesn’t mean you overcame your daddy issues or parental trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:26 PM
2

There was a Reddit thread, no I can’t find it, but it asked women if they preferred older men. The general consensus was yes and it ranged from 30 to 35 yo(give or take).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:54 AM
2

Something that is hard to acquire, creates desire. For women that means nailing a man down in marriage. For men, it’s knowing that it’s incredibly difficult, or in the case of a virgin, impossible that someone else slept with her. It also provides a certain desirable quality and character as far as the woman is concerned. I love my C8 vette, but I don’t enjoy seeing everyone have one. If everyone had one, I probably wouldn’t want mine because, everyone has it. May as well be a $20,000 car. In a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:42 PM
2

It’s mostly a flex but you will bring out the insecurities from your married colleagues’ old women. And a bit of jealousy if the male colleagues aren’t with younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:39 PM
2

It depends on the accomplishments tbh. I think that if you are generally successful and on your game, you naturally “peacock” and it makes women interested in you. Tate said it best, women love mystery. So if you pull up in a decent car, dress well, in shape(notice I didn’t mention height), that alone will make women interested in you in some level. The rest is game, and how you respond and the energy you give off. You verbally bragging about your accomplishments, it depends on the level of acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:36 PM
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You wrote this comment and showed your lack of intelligence for all to see. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:34 AM
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College is a scam. At least if you spend a year paying for Andrew’s courses you aren’t left with crazy debt and no job. For the record, I haven’t given RP/Tate one single penny, nor wasted money on college.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:32 AM
2

Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:29 AM
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Women in general are much easier to scam. That’s why you all believe you are 10’s, big is beautiful and healthy, you’re all special. If everyone is special and 10’s, no one is. Being obese is not healthy, nor is being a whale beautiful to 90% of men or more. Red Pill is a very small percentage of men. Men and women generally are still eating up what social and mainstream media are selling them: blue pill ideology sprinkled with a little Disney bullshit on the side. Don’t let your Andrew Tate hat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:25 AM
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Women with higher sex drives do exist and from my experience, they are sometimes insatiable because there no real refractory period outside of a 5 minute period where their clits are a little too sensitive. I think it’s more realistic to find a relationship where you both have an understanding that you aren’t both always going to be horny all the time but won’t be discouraged from doing the deed outside of rare exceptions. There are plenty of women with decent sex drives that understand their ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:16 PM
0

Perfect example
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:12 PM
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I appreciate the explanation, but the comment I was replying to, it seemed they were implying something about attractiveness. Bottomline is the saying “even the dude with the 10 is tired of fucking her” has some basis in truth. And she could have been a 10 to him years ago but now his tastes have changed. That’s all I was saying by my comment. If I misread the implication, fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:02 PM
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She can be the #1 model but according to who? Granted I can look at her and say she’s attractive, but I would not rate her a 10 for my personal tastes. And tastes change. What I was attracted to 5 years ago, 10 years ago, it’s changed. What’s stayed the same generally is brunettes with long hair. Gisele’s Face is very masculine IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:10 PM
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This is funny, but a good observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:08 PM
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Being real with you, I think you are right but part of the problem is people don’t understand the gravity of what they are -really- committing to. It’s easy to say “til death do us part” after dating a few years. 10-20 years in, you have drastically changed as a person and may not feel the same although you care about this other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:07 PM
1

Easy, get a religious marriage and leave out the government. There is NO benefit to a HVM to get married officially via the government. You should be making enough where even the tax benefits aren’t worth losing 50% of your shit. On the woman’s end, she is still entitled to child support via the government regardless of him involving the government(marriage). You have to be a MORON to get married and involve the government into your life as a male these days. That or ignorant of what it really m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:04 PM
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Ok I think you know the answer but just in case. Move on. Do NOT contact her, for the love of God.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/22 05:08 PM
1

5’8 is not a terrible height at all. I’m only 2 inches taller than you, in general a woman wants a man taller than them, and that they can wear heels and not tower over them(yes the heels thing is important to them). But if they had a choice between the same you but one is 6ft and one is 5’8, they would pick the 6ft one. Now some women make it a must. And we can’t shame them for that. Especially when dating apps make them believe that sleeping with 8/10+ correlates to them being able to marry th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 05:03 PM
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You’re being a little too emotional about this buddy. I’m just giving you non emotional responses that are fair to both men and women. At least women are in control of their N count. I can’t make myself shorter or taller, or choose between a micro dick or a 10 incher. Women make decisions based on uncontrollable factors all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 03:15 PM
4

… men and women are allowed to have preferences and not be shamed for them. This is regardless of whether or not the person is in control of the other parties’ preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 03:09 PM
4

Now you’re just projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 03:03 PM
3

Wanting a girl with a low N count has nothing to do with being insecure or inadequate in the sack. That’s like men telling women they don’t want short guys because the women rejecting short men are ugly or suck in bed. It has nothing to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 03:01 PM
2

This is mind blowing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 01:56 PM
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This is the point women just can never understand. Even an average “mess” of a woman has some value to men because “vagina”. Average and below men have no value, and their dick doesn’t add any.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 07:18 PM
2

After 5 days in a row, I enjoy a day or 2 break. Tbh I usually lose interest anyways at that point. But I’ll do my duty anyways if there’s desire from my girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 01:37 PM
1

In a way I’d agree but I think this is an equal and opposite reaction to a vocal minority of women trying to impress upon men that “number count doesn’t matter”. Regardless of where the terms “body count” or “n count” originated from, for a very long time men have viewed women who have been ran through in a negative connotation for the purposes of a relationship. Hell I’d argue in the past, a large segment of women as well although it’s gotten smaller over time. It doesn’t mean men won’t open th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:34 AM
1

The thing is you can still have sex and have a low body count relative to your age. For example, even if you find a causal relationship, with a guy you like but for one reason or another, you know long term it won’t work out. You both can be upfront, and let’s say from 18 to 30 your body count with this mindset is 3-7. Yes I know 7 isn’t exactly low BUT in comparison to what’s going on nowadays, it’s at least half or what most have done by 30 years old and it’s less than 1 new dude a year. The p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:27 AM
1

I would argue yes as well
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:20 AM
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Would love to see that study
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 06:27 AM
3

I enjoy trolling people and getting under their skin as well, so it’s easier for me to recognize what’s going on here. Either you are trolling or just don’t have real world understanding of why things are the way they are and certain things have existed forever. That’s why even in present day, you piss off a girl and the other chick will call her a hoe,slut, whore. They aren’t saying it to be complimentary, even though some women are trying to empower themselves by claiming the title for themsel…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 09:59 PM
4

Not true but the argument is so piss poor it’s not even worth addressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 09:53 PM
2

Terrible comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:55 PM
1

Both are experts of what they do and how they do it. Patrice O’Neal sadly died too young. Andrew has revealed the game several times, he says truths in a way that’s meant to bring out emotions, whether good or bad. He’s so good at it he became one of the most googled people on the planet for a time and breathed life into rumble, literally bringing their stock price up. So if you view people as their intentions and if they are successful, Tate literally had everything against him as far as algori…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:47 PM
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I believe that men cheat for physical intimacy, respect and ego while women cheat with emotions and deeper meaning attached to it, and when they cheat the marriage is pretty much over for them as they have lost respect for their husband. There are exceptions but generally it’s what happens. And women are initiating the divorces at near 80% while only cheating slightly less than men. So men actually are statistically willing to be miserable in a marriage and/or accept cheating more than a woman w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:52 AM
0

Pretty sure no man would want to get married knowing there’s a huge chance they are signing up for that. Especially if you are expected to be loyal while living in a dead bedroom situation. At the same time men need to be on their game as well, and provide for their family. The problem is, it’s a slow death. As they say, if you want to boil a frog, slowly raise the temperature. By the time the water is boiling, it’s too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:51 AM
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1) people change, normally there is one who is more driven than the other. 2) complacency, especially from women from what I’ve seen, after having children. 3) killing individual independence. Lives revolving around each other and no individual identity. Doesn’t mean you need to party or do stupid shit, but you need hobbies and a circle of same sex, like minded individuals that make you feel like you aren’t melding into nothingness and losing yourself. 4) loss of shape, fitness, and caring about…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:17 AM
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Here’s what I would say but I am a male: If you are 25 or older as a male, the time to say you were “saving money” is long past due. It -should- be a turnoff to women. Closer to 30 or older, this should be a huge red flag. Living with your parents as a male, should be a last resort decision and for a very temporary time after you hit 25. I would go as far as say you shouldn’t be dating seriously and your main focus should be gaining money and leaving your parents before chasing 🐱. The exception …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:05 AM
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So the alternative of being beta boy not getting any scrap of puss vs being beta boy and at least getting that little bit of puss sounds better to women? Color me surprised women have no idea how desperate men are 🤣. This thread and the example uses perfectly sums up how women have no idea the brain of a dude. That meme of “don’t care, I fucked her” or something along those lines is real for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 11:01 PM
1

You said it better than I did, I couldn’t remember the term.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:13 PM
3

I’m running to a meeting so I don’t have time to really delve into it, I felt it was mostly self explanatory. But for example, lions and lionesses. The lion protects, the lioness hunts and gathers. Here’s an excerpt from National Geographic: “The social structure of the pride is based on specific roles. Lionesses are the primary hunters, while dominant males are responsible for protecting the pride's territory.” Animals understand their roles. Mens roles in the human species, is to protect, prov…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:12 PM
2

There are power differences in nature, and animals fit their role for their respective power, generally speaking. Yes I know women love using outliers to say it’s not true, but the exception doesn’t make the rule. We humans think we are smarter than nature and can use technology to force our way out of our roles. If I were a betting man, as a species it will hurt us more than help us. And regardless their will be a percentage of the population that adheres to the roles we’ve had since the beginn…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:51 PM
2

I have gay friends and people I work with. They do complain but the complaints are different than what women have towards men and they don’t blame it on gender. Also never heard a gay guy say “where have all the good guys gone” lol. You have to understand that gay couples have an advantage that both(usually) want sex frequently and usually don’t suffer from dead bead rooms. The main problem from what I hear, is cheating being prevalent, but again, being born a man you understand what drives men …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:14 PM
1

Getting a date isn’t hard. Getting laid, here’s how I see it: For the majority of men, 7/10 difficulty. Handsome and successful about 4/10. Ultra rich good looking dude, 2/10 Women looking due sex: 0/10
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:56 AM
3

You need both as a man. Personally I think it’s a huge discredit to yourself as a man too look fat or like a gust of wind can blow you over because you are too skinny. You should want to have some physical strength behind you and not let your body go one way or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:30 PM
0

It’s hilarious how badly you all try to make things equal. It isn’t. Period, no matter how much you try. There is no risk of death for child delivery to a man, even if with modern science and technology advances the risks are lower for women. Stretch marks, saggy skin and boobs, 0 risk to a man. The risk is higher. Women need to accept that the risk is higher and choose better men and/or quit the casual 304’ing around and make decisions based on the -fact- things are not equal once you get pregn…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:40 AM
1

My comment of “very rare fucked up situations” was addressing that. Rape accounts for less than 1% of abortion cases, although I don’t have the % of women who go through with a pregnancy due to rape. I can provide links no problem for the state of FL, which is one of the only states that actually provides information on why a woman chose to have an abortion. Two consenting adults choose to have sex but like many women admit(unless now you are going to say differently to benefit yourself as a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 01:23 AM
1

I put more responsibility on the woman because outside of very rare fucked up situations, and I hate this phrase, they are the gatekeepers of sex. And they bear more of the real impacts of pregnancy. It’s kind of like the CEO of a company’s saying yes to a decision by one of their employees, then when it goes to shit, the CEO comes back and says either it’s the employee’s fault or they share the “weight of the responsibility equally”. The reality is, if the CEO said no and analyzed the situation…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:36 PM
1

I am pro RP and against abortion. That said, I think that the idea men should be able to opt out of child support if they don’t want the woman to go through with having a child makes sense. Especially because females get the ultimate decision as to whether the child gets to be born or murdered(abortion). I also think child support should be closely monitored and not just a blank check, as well as make sense financially as to what the child needs, with caps. If a man makes 200k, that does not mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 10:58 PM
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So here’s why I have a problem with your argument: When men say they can sleep around and not have feelings for women, it’s purely sexual, women say that they can do the same, even after men say that for women it’s more than skin deep. Women say no they can do it too. I’ve always said the women that can do that have something off and aren’t LTR material, and don’t represent most women. On my main Reddit account can’t tell you how many women will tell me I’m wrong. So like most arguments discussi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 04:31 PM
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Men need to grow up understanding that threat because it later teaches them how to treat each other. Whereas you may see women go nuts and not really consider consequences because the threat of violence is there, men need to get bullied, bully, get their ass kicked, kick ass. It wouldn’t make sense to you but that threat of violence is an important learning lesson. The old days of telling your son to stand up to their bully, now it’s mom storming into the principals office and posting stuff on s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 12:23 PM
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Your analogy is perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 12:20 PM
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This thread and made me realize 2 things: 1) it is really important to protect male only spaces and that the idea that men and boys shouldn’t have anything to themselves is out there enough that so many comments here argue against male only spaces. 2) men are just better at building, creating, teaching, and having fun than women to the point that instead of making something just as good as the men/boy only alternative, they just give up and try to force society to allow women into men’s only gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 12:18 PM
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Generally speaking men do though. So we can’t be shaming women and wanting them to fuck on the first date. I mean we -can-, but you get what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 03:27 AM
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I’m a RP dude. I have more respect for a chick that wants to hold out til the second and/or third date. A chick who puts out the first night, let’s be real, most dudes including me believe she’s doing that with everyone else. And you’d be surprised how waiting until the second or third date fields out a lot of the dudes just trying to fuck, God bless them. But we can’t have it both ways, wanting women with lower body counts and having sex the first date. The math doesn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 03:23 AM
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I tried bumble out once, I had a lot of hotties match with me and was pretty happy with the results but it’s hilarious to see them try to initiate contact. Either a wave emoji or “heyyy”, never anything clever which shows me how little women really need to work on their personality. One of the girls I matched with who was a 9, gorgeous, nice boobs, hair, everything, had a “The Cure” band shirt on her profile pic, which I am a fan of also. So I replied by saying I’m a fan as well, what was her fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 03:16 AM
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So the 80/20 rule DOES apply here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 03:06 AM
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Patrice O’Neal said it best: The best relationships are where the woman loves the man just a “little bit more” than he loves her. When it works the opposite, women end up losing respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 02:33 AM
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I disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 03:13 PM
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Women are compensated for their disadvantages. Easy examples are war and situations like the titanic. In addition to it being more acceptable to not have a high paying job or that really being a consideration to finding a good mate, maternity leave, government programs. I mean it’s a long list. Most women aren’t even aware that at 18 men have to enlist with the government in case there is a war, called selective service. Link: https://www.usa.gov/selective-service Notice how it doesn’t mention w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 03:05 PM
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I find this super interesting. Makes wonder if the same dynamics come into play Lesbian relationships. Like in your example, and forgive me I don’t know the terminology, but using your word if the butch normally cares if the more feminine has a higher body count and if the feminine one also subconsciously finds the butch they are dating more desirable because other women want them?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:22 AM
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It doesn’t go both ways because men and women are not equal and have many differences. Never had a girl worry about body count anecdotally, whether for me or my friends. On the other hand I know that it matters to nearly every guy I know if they are considering a LTR/marriage. In fact, I could argue that being more desirable by women makes you more attractive and desired by whoever you are with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:00 PM
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I’d say you can absolutely judge a person who’s had 20+ body count at 30, worse if you are younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:52 PM
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The problem is that people get into relationships without setting standards they do and don’t accept for themselves. Then the tough part is sticking with it and letting healthy relationship traits become natural so that you don’t accept anything less. Like anything, the more you do it the more natural it becomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:39 PM
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If things get heated in the moment, I need to be able to tell someone to calm down and there’s no need for yelling, and it be received well. Otherwise, I’m out. Generally speaking though I will get out of a relationship that has too much arguing(more than once a month or 2). I don’t have time for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:22 PM
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Literal months? 😂 Seriously though good luck to her, you never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:56 PM
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What you are saying goes against factual data, unless you are stating that because more young women(under 30) have multiple more babies than older women, that more Down syndrome children are born to younger women. If that’s what you are saying that’s a piss poor argument to make. That doesn’t negate the fact that having a geriatric pregnancy is riskier than with a young woman. Exactly wtf are you arguing here? From the cdc: “Older mothers are more likely to have a baby affected by Down syndrome …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:22 PM
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You can easily google the answer you are looking for, but as an easy example from Cleveland clinic(I literally am copying and pasting: “Risk for chromosome problems The risk for chromosome problems increases with the mother's age. The chance of having a child with Down syndrome increases over time. The risk is about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25. It increases to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. The risks may be higher. This is because many statistics only repo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:40 PM
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Conflating someone wanting to fuck you = LTR and marriage lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:30 AM
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^ talk about denial of actual fact. I’m assuming you are a woman bc I have no idea how a woman is denying medical fact that geriatric pregnancy complication risk is much higher than a woman who is 20-25. Just because thousands are doing it, doesn’t make that fact invalid. But keep lying to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:26 AM
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If men are rewarded in the dating/sexual market place for being mysterious, less communicative, less caring(bc women conflate caring with controlling), and not being always available whether emotionally or physically, women shouldn’t be upset when men do exactly what they were trained by women to do in order to have the most success. You don’t want your woman going out at night without you = controlling, manipulative If you don’t say anything = how come you aren’t jealous like my other bfs? By t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:12 AM
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I’ll preface this by saying I had no idea of red pill back when I was with her but had many of the RP ideas within me. So a lot of the ideas of how women work, wasn’t a thing I was told but had to experience. The idea of what I wanted and my core beliefs were, and standing on them, were definitely there and pronounced but not as they are now, with life basically cementing it into who I am today. Sex wise she was intense. What I mean by that is the connection we had. Only word I can use is shit w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 11:12 PM
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Lol I feel you brother
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:34 PM
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The fact any loser would pay when porn is widely accessible for free, I don’t blame the women who do it but they would be nothing more than a fuck for me. I say this as a dude who fucked one of the mains from “Hot girls Wanted” so I got to know several girls on OF irl. The mindset most these chicks have on sex sucks for anything serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:34 PM
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In general Tate is right about this. What I will say is that if I did need something from 90% of my exes, even $1,000, they’d give it to me. I just think generally speaking they take more than they give if you aren’t in a relationship/getting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:24 PM
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Dude the height thing isn’t as big of a deal outside the 304’s on dating apps. I’m 5’10 and if that has ever stopped me from having women talk to me or closing, it wouldn’t be significant enough to notice. Looks maxing is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:18 PM
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Disney chicks are the worst but what I described isn’t exclusive to them. Those are the chicks you run from, I don’t have time for their bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:04 PM
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You think exes don’t pop up? Slide into dms? How about she fucks 10-15 guys, mostly local, and everyone knows she’s been around and you find out through your gym(true story happened to my friend lol) or places you frequent? Having a high N count doesn’t always mean it’s this invisible number with no real world consequences. And this is assuming there’s no trauma and side effects from the men she’s slept with. AKA -all guys are trash- mentality, always talking about exes, eating at restaurants sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:07 PM
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You know many ugly short guys with good personalities that would make great husbands and bfs are out there? Women don’t even know they exist. And they likely won’t cheat because no one wants them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:55 PM
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I would always choose for the purposes of LTR or Marriage, the girl with the 4 number count over 100. I can’t believe you are even making this comparison. Who in their right mind picks the one with 100? You are also making the argument that a girl who gets with losers or men with undesirable qualities is better. Why would I choose a woman who picks losers? Now I get lumped in with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:46 PM
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The key here isn’t just money, you have to be in good shape and be charming. At least a 7 in looks. Speaking from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:50 PM
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Like I said, reality is coming for you all. You can deny it for only so long. I don’t want to waste any more time with replies, wish you all the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:13 AM
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Tell him the truth. Long term dodging this question is going to create problems.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 12:00 AM
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Well then, ignore that must have been from someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:39 PM
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Also, outside of the “dum-dum” comment, I actually appreciate the discourse from you. I try not to, even slightly, make personal attacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:35 PM
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You walk away if they are a headache. I literally believe shit testing is a part of women’s programming. I’ve yet to come across one that doesn’t. The problem is when you fail those tests, and I can freely admit that early on when I started dating, there were some tests I failed and I see the issues that arose from failing them. Once men understand and have enough experience dealing with women’s shit tests it’s pretty simple: show them they are being irrational, emotional, and how it doesn’t mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:30 PM
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Men and women aren’t equal. So no matter where you go with this, it will go back to what we’ve known since the beginning of time. Men overall make better leaders. Men overall have, even with the neutering society is trying to do, literal biological reasons to be competitive and want to conquer(a little thing called testosterone for an easy example). It’s cool though, the writing is on the wall that all the lies you women bought into are going to give you a reality check. Life has a funny way of …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:14 PM
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No, it’s not a terrible argument. Let’s break it down to the simplest way you can possibly understand it: Don’t say you hate the idea of submissiveness and compliance but do it for money. Because it just means you are willing to do it for the right price. And I’m not against women submitting for money. Just don’t be a hypocrite when it comes to relationships. I would never be in a relationship with a woman who makes more than me. So I won’t have to worry about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:06 PM
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Compromising does not automatically increase the standard of a relationship. You can be compromising with a person who has no idea of what they are speaking about and/or making an emotional decision. Your assumption of some type of added value just because there is compromise and no leader, is without merit. And again, I can acknowledge many men make terrible leaders. But that’s where women should be getting with better men for LTRs and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:04 PM
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Where are all the men saying it’s weird for women to submit to them and compliance and disgust towards those words in this thread? For you to reverse my logic on me, you have to put men in the same situation which isn’t happening. Now men aren’t going around saying they will submit or comply to women, but it’s kind of an understood thing, literally since the beginning of time. You all want equality in relationships, hate to tell you but that fairy tale doesn’t exist. And again, my point was wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:58 PM
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So I find women who believe that I generally make good or great decisions, have seen that I’m on my game, see I get respected, and I am somehow lowering -my- standard because they decide to let me guide us? I have to disagree with you there. There is nothing beautiful about wasting time debating bullshit for the sake of debating. I’m not saying there aren’t ever disagreements, but if I have to figure out a compromise for decisions, who has to live with the consequences of me listening to advice …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:54 PM
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It’s not a cop out. I agreed that you used the word compromise correctly and I didn’t. See I can admit fault or failings. And where am I saying I’m finding incompatible women? Why is that the assumption? You think I would find it fun to find women who are basically in complete disagreement with one of the most important aspects for me in a relationship and try to sell them on what I believe? No thanks. There’s plenty of amazing women who want to be an amazing support, lover, etc and allow me to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:47 PM
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Where did I say that any man who doesn’t own a business should submit to women. I am speaking of me, on a personal level, trying my best to really be as free and independent as possible, and not having someone tell me what to do, again as best as possible. And my efforts in life have shown that. Nowhere did I say that if a man is an employee, that means he should submit to his wife. Now if his SO is making all the money, or at least theres a large discrepancy in income where the woman is the bre…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:42 PM
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Actually you are correct, it’s not a compromise. It’s submission to the chain of command. Which falls back to what I believe in, for me personally in my relationships. Again, you are free to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:34 PM
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How is someone a dum dum for dealing with a woman’s inherent need to check your ability to react correctly and prove your integrity, backbone, etc? Perfect example, kids push the envelope to see what they can get away with. Because you engage in responding to them, does that make you dumb, or is it just part of life to reign them in? Now before you all get your panties in a bunch, I’m not calling women children, simply giving an easy to understand example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:33 PM
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I’m noticing a trend with all these arguments and how you all are coming at me from my original comment. So I’m going to breakdown exactly what I said instead of letting you all continue to expand what I actually said and the meanings behind what I said. I pointed out the hypocrisy of all the women showing offense and disgust at the words compliance and submission, when most women have no issues doing so for money. I already said in another comment that men understand the order of things and to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:27 PM
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The compromise is her giving into what the man decides. I couldn’t be clearer about what I’m saying. You are free to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:58 PM
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I don’t expect anything from women in general. I don’t think that forced submission or “compliance” is realistic long term nor would I want that. I believe a man who is on his game, a woman will submit by default to him without having to ask it. It’s kinda quietly understood. But the world is competitive, why would a man who is getting shit done and in demand, want a disagreeable woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:54 PM
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I said I am against submitting, not that I never submit. I explained that I made personal choices so that I didn’t have to compromise my beliefs. I did not say I never submit. Reread my original message you are trying to use against me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:27 PM
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Not every disagreement can be worked through, and at the end of the day for important issues, a decision needs to be made. Again, I’m not saying that there isn’t conversation and no input. Many conversations you CAN work through, I can agree there. But the man gets the say at the end of the day if an agreement can’t be made, generally speaking. If you can’t trust your man to be the decision maker, you picked a poor choice of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:21 PM
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So because I pay taxes I’m submissive and compliant? Cool. So I know you think you are offending me, but let’s follow your logic: I comply and submit the least amount possible, and likely more than you. Again I don’t have a problem with the words submissive and compliant, but I’m not a hypocrite like a lot of women posting here. I can’t live in the US and not pay taxes. You all love bringing up exceptions to defend yourself, so can’t I get an exception for taxes? And I have every right to brag a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:17 PM
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I don’t like the word compliance personally, but at the end of the day the actual meaning of it, yes men do desire that. Submissiveness I don’t personally have a problem with that word. Men need to have respect in order to thrive. I don’t think it should just be given freely, and you shouldn’t submit and allow a deadbeat to lead you. But a good man who wants to take care of his gf/wife and family and 7-8/10 shows good judgement and makes good decisions, a good woman will not be difficult with hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:12 PM
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I believe in equal rights but not that men and women are equal or should be treated equal. There were no feminists on the titanic when the men stayed behind and the women and children were saved. And I believe to this day, that was the correct order of things. So do I believe that there are different pros and cons that should benefit a particular gender, of course I do. And I also believe in gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:01 PM
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Men aren’t saying they look down or find it disgusting for women to be compliant or submissive. Women are. Men understand the order of things and that if they are working for someone, the order is Employer makes the important decisions and the employee follows. It’s women who are finding those words offensive. Do I think men should be leaders in most relationships? Absolutely, but I also think women should choose men who make great leaders. That also doesn’t mean that the woman is some kind of r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:53 PM
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Lol you all are hilarious. Either you are a non-compliant and non-submissive person, or you are. You all just do it for money. Doesn’t make you better or worse than a woman who is submissive and compliant to their husband. Actually I take that back, I have less respect for people who change their standards based on money. Doesn’t matter how you all try to sugar coat it. You comply and submit for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:45 PM
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Completely bypassed my point. Let’s stay on topic. Factual statement: if you comply and/submit to an employer, you are choosing when and who to be complaint and submissive to. You just would prefer to do it for money instead of love and potentially a great partner. It’s that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:21 PM
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It’s so weird to me that women are ok to be submissive and compliant to an employer who doesn’t give af about them but aren’t ok with it when it comes to a man who they want to spend their life with potentially, and who in a good relationship, does care and want better for you. Part of the reason I decided to open my own business because I AM against submitting. I’ve walked away from $10,000+ commissions because I did not want to compromise and submit myself to an employer, and now, potential cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:10 PM
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If you’re a hot guy, being mean or nice doesn’t matter, at least for fucking the first time. Long term you likely get cheated on, or in a miserable LTR once your girl becomes the alpha in the relationship being the nice guy. If you are hot and somewhat dickish to women, you basically get to stay in relationships as long as you want because the more you make yourself seem harder to keep, the more women want you. The real guys who are harder to keep, really have their piece of the pie because the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:00 PM
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Net positive but I don’t think the world is ready for RP ideas to be mainstream yet, and Tate forced that rather quickly and helped to elevate other’s in the RP sphere. One thing that I do believe is that Tate is a bit detached from reality because he gives advice on what has worked for him, and speaking as a lucky/blessed guy myself, there’s a way to give advice while still acknowledging the “luck” factor was extremely on his side and making certain things he says a little more realistic, but o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 08:56 AM
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I grew up in the same environment so I feel you 💯 on the idea that a traditional family was foreign to me because outside a handful of friends I had growing up, everyone else either grew up with a single parent raising them or their parents had remarried. I myself was the product of a single mother until 12 when she remarried. My stepdad is awesome and I consider him my “dad”, but I was able to witness first hand how limited being a step parent is in comparison to being a biological parent. My d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 08:26 PM
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This is a great comment. First paragraph explains clearly what everyone is dealing with atm.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 08:14 PM
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I’m sorry but a lot of dudes aren’t better than skinny fit. So a 2-3 inch taller lean to thicc girl, depending on proportions, will make the the dude look small. I’m not saying they can kick a man’s ass, but it makes them look small. Same idea but not as drastic, I’ve seen pics with bodybuilders next to tall basketball players. When you look at the bodybuilders alone or with someone their height, they look big. Put them next to the basketball players and they look small. Not sure if it’s a meme …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 08:38 PM
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No. But a 5’11 to 6’0 thicc(not overweight) may make him look small. Or a 5’9 woman with a 5’5-5’6 man. I don’t think being an inch off is anything terrible, but I could see same height being a reasonable preference. Why do you all have to be salty here?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 04:02 AM
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As a man, I can say I see why a woman would want a man “at least” her height. A relationship where it looks like you can kick your man’s ass, it looks off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 12:25 AM
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I’ve seen it both ways, virgins who are very committed and a few that end up getting FOMO years later. Most women that are virgins or low body count normally have reasons, mostly religious for doing so. I would put better odds on a marriage with a person who holds a certain set of morals not cheating vs someone who comes up with their own set of rules for right and wrong. The former has a clearer foundation of why they believe something than the latter. Logically though I would say a woman who h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:37 PM
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This^
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:58 AM
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You know what they say when you assume. All good though. Obviously you’ve got some personal demons to deal with. Me? I’m pretty happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:50 PM
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I didn’t leave the mother of my children for sexual deviancy. I stayed too long and tried to make it work with in the confines of that relationship, because of my kids. Again I don’t want to go into specifics. But that relationship has a lot to do with why I don’t want any serious relationships. And because I respect her privacy the failings of that relationship don’t need to be made public on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:28 PM
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I can totally understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:23 PM
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I already said my kids are all from one woman. You are making a lot of assumptions. As I said my main priorities are my family(when I say that I mean my kids) and my businesses. Wish you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:20 PM
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One woman, all my kids. But you are salty af. My answer about IF a woman were to get pregnant, has nothing to do with what I have already done. You are hilarious though, glad I could aggravate by having a simple conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:11 PM
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I don’t see anything I’ve said that paints me as a bad person. Your line of questioning is what is trying to make it seem that way. Very obvious you don’t approve of my lifestyle lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:05 PM
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I have multiple kids. Again I don’t want to go into exact specifics. They are the best thing to happen in my life. I see them everyday, regardless of work or any other situation, unless it’s just not possible. My kids are amazing, I love them with all my heart, which is why I am against abortion. They are the greatest gift I’ve been given. Tonight I am making them a splatoon 3 cake since they all love that game, tomorrow I’m spending my whole day with them and making it a special occasion becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:01 PM
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It’s not that I don’t treat them seriously. I am not looking for a serious relationship with everything I have going on. You can try and conflate the 2, it’s 2 separate things. The reality is no matter what I say or how many questions you ask, or how brutally honest I am, you are trying to make me out to be a bad guy. I’m not. I’m also flawed and constantly improving. But I know who the bad guys are and where I compare to them. They don’t take women seriously in any sense of the word.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:58 PM
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I don’t believe in abortion, and I am open about. I would man up and take care of my child. I believe real men should assume responsibility for anything they are willing to take risks on. And not to get in to detail, but I have already more than put my money where my mouth is when it comes to this. Literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:55 PM
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I’ll answer your question with a question(they have used this argument towards me), if there are so many single great men out there, why don’t they just leave me and find one who wants something serious? The answer is the majority of men, aren’t much more masculine than women are. In fact if are more women nowadays are more masculine than the majority of men. So when you find a guy who does care about you, is no bullshit, is on his game nearly as much as possible(fitness, money, game), it’s pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:51 PM
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I mean I am upfront about where I am. My main focus is work and family. I will take care of who I’m with, treat them better than any other relationship they’ve been in, but I’m not looking for something serious. That’s pretty close to my opener, no tricks, no keeping my intentions to myself. These are adult women, I’m an adult. They can leave at any time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:46 PM
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I can agree that it seems selfish on the outside, but I can legitimately say, and everyone I have been with would agree, they were better having me in their life. I’m not just using people for sex like some RPers try to sell. I do care about them, help them achieve things and push them to do better. But you are kind of moving goalposts here. You asked if there are women that exist that fill my criteria, and the answer is yes. Whether or not you agree with what I do, there are great women out the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:37 PM
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I haven’t, but definitely will now
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:31 PM
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You are asking as if I haven’t. Bottomline is I have, several times, and currently. My biggest problem (if you can call it that) is that I cannot see 1 woman satisfying me long term, and I am pretty open about that. But I have no problems keeping women in my life happy, to the point it’s hard to get rid of them if I want out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:28 PM
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Sure do. Just like they would expect things from me that I do not expect from them. And it hasn’t been a deal breaker to this day, the fact that we are both expecting differently of each other on several key issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:24 PM
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Obviously not a virgin from my comment you are replying to. And yes it’s a double standard, but I don’t live in a bubble where I can’t recognize that life is full of double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:50 PM
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This is perfect lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:01 PM
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Speaking for myself, I prefer virgin or low body count for long term commitment/marriage. Has nothing to do with insecurity, short term relationships I’ve had comment they get upset I’m not “jealous” or “don’t care” about things that would show insecurity or jealousy. My real life response to that has generally been that I can’t waste my time with thoughts of what hoe shit they can be up to, if it’s anything semi serious and I find out they are doing shit I don’t like, I bounce. That simple. Wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:57 PM
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High body count or low has no correlation to having a dead bedroom. I’d like to see something backing that up. I can’t tell you how many in my circle got with a high body count chick and are having sex once a week to once every couple of months. Just like I would say the beginning of a relationship has no bearing on whether or not you have more sex after putting a ring on it. And I def don’t agree that low body count means less kinks and exploration. That’s more of a personality on a per woman b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:31 AM
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I mean it’s simple. I’m a sinner and don’t follow the Bible to a T. I can sit here and say I believe the best results in life come from following Christ and the Bible. I am not perfect and have my own struggles, but outside of a handful of issues I can sit here and say even from a worldly perspective and my own experiences that if we followed the Bible we would be better off as people. No reason for you to get upset or annoyed when you are giving the impression that you still follow your religio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:19 AM
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I’m not actually attacking you or your religion. And regardless of whether you want to list all the reasons why it’s better to save yourself as a woman, there are benefits and both your religion and mine(I still believe Jesus died on the cross for my sins) give us the guidance to value virginity. Doesn’t matter if you agree that the trauma OP brought up is/isn’t an issue, our religions believe it’s better. Notice how I haven’t asked you your religion. So again, not attacking your religion or you…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:09 AM
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That’s not really answering the question. When you say your religion partially influences your decision, that means that your religion believes their are benefits to not giving your virginity and/or sex away freely because there are possibly downsides to it. I can say as a Christian that having sex outside of marriage doesn’t stop you from entering heaven, but there’s reasons that the Bible says you should or shouldn’t do things, for reasons that have been understood since the beginning of time.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:58 PM
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Ok so you believe that your religion tells you to save yourself but that the “world” wouldn’t benefit from doing the same? So you believe your religion is true for you and isn’t good to follow for others? I’m trying to understand the logic of believing it’s ok for women to not save themselves or try for low as possible body count. Speaking as a person who grew up Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:51 PM
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Ok that’s interesting, so what age are you if you don’t mind me asking and what are your reasons for keeping your virginity and/or low body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:47 PM
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Yeah it sucks for the women that save themselves to sometimes carry a stigma that their inexperience leads to them sucking in bed. To me number count has nothing to do with that whatsoever, but that’s anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:43 PM
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The only people who are really going to disagree with you are women who have been run through for the most part, or women who know they are going to hoe around and don’t want to have the repercussions of that. I don’t see any reason a man would say he prefers a high body count woman. At best they may be neutral. And just having a low body count doesn’t make you worse off in bed. I banged a pornstar for 2 months. She was fun because she could legit come multiple times if you knew what you were do…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:13 PM
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Leo forces women to recognize that beauty and youth is important for men, is one of their biggest assets that most just throw away and don’t value, and that love is conditional. Leo isn’t doing anything illegal, hasn’t ever lost half his shit in divorce, and never has to deal with women in his life getting complacent. He probably looks at his women similar to a car. Enjoy it while it’s fresh, swap for the newer model before you start encountering issues. Is it shallow? Somewhat. But women want 6…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:38 AM
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This right here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:48 PM
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Ok but a 30 yo woman would probably consider it more than men if you reverse sexes. So punching 20 Years below your age isn’t bad at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:47 PM
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The men that take care of themselves, yes. And I go as far and say that they beat out women that take care of themselves. There was a non RP subreddit that asked younger women(18-30) if they prefer older men, most there said yes and many of them said 35-45 is the prime. I never looked at women and thought to myself 35-45 is prime lol. Not even close. I think 25 and rarely up to 30. After 30 it’s not a steep downfall except for the party girls, it’s just a slow decline year by year. This does not…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:43 PM
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When I was a teenager(M here) pretty much a breeze could get you going. As I got older and sex or the availability became/becomes more abundant(this is key), I have less interest. Doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy it. But outside of mentally feeling I “need to” or pressure to satisfy women, I could get by with 3x a week. Now I may be reaching here, but to me it’s kind of like water. I love water. I need water. But because it’s so abundant in availability, literally no scarcity outside of a couple momen…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 08:16 PM
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Women pretend to be more open minded. Perfect example I watched a video the other day of a very leftist woman, the type to say body count doesn’t matter, guys should ignore a woman’s past. She was on a dating show and identifies herself as a “bi woman”… an attractive female potential who had the best personality by far was chatting it up with her. As soon as the attractive girl mentioned she’s a sex worker she got booted lol. So what I mostly see from women anecdotally and via social media, is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:51 PM
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Great reply
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:12 AM
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There is not one person on earth that I agree with everything they say. I’m not dick riding him by any means, I just don’t think that some of the things he says that makes sense get invalidated by opinions he has that I disagree with. It’s really simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:15 AM
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Tate and his ideas are more sane than what has been pushed on the masses in the last 20 years. It hasn’t worked, people are shamed for questioning and for believing what we’ve known as fact for a long time now. I’m a live and let live type of person. Society is trying to make it seem like certain things and ideas that have existed for a long time, doesn’t exist because it works and there’s a “better way”. It doesn’t mean that everything that has existed for centuries is “good”, but it doesn’t me…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:03 PM
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It’s not an even playing field. Women want men for more than just looks, men want women mostly for looks. Men are more visual. Like many people say myself included, IDGAF if a woman is working McDonalds or if she is making 100k a year. What matters is, is she attractive and does she have a good personality? That’s much easier to find than a man who makes a certain amount, takes care of himself, and personality. And contrary to what many women coping here will say, most men will tell you it’s eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:01 AM
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I think one of the worst things men or women can do on either side of the “pill” is see studies, polls, etc and use that to dictate their life. It’s good information to understand and digest and helps us with knowing how each gender moves in the world and the “why”. But average men still have sex and get married, and women especially if they are attractive, and support their man, can survive long term marriages and relationships. Life is a game of chances and nothing is guaranteed. Once you get …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:15 PM
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I did read the whole post, the reason I responded the way I did is because even the closing statement of your post ends with you saying why cuddle with someone who doesn’t love you. I think part of the issue lies why how different dating is for most men and most women. A lot of men settle for the best they can get, which sometimes means whoever is giving them attention because they are striking out compared to men who are more attractive, successful, etc. A dude that’s a 5 has a low chance of la…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:54 PM
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“Men don’t really care about their partners” You are equating sexual attraction with care and love.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:28 PM
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I wouldn’t say they always brag about it. It’s more like it makes them feel “like the man”. I think a lot of men in serious relationships including marriage keep it to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:49 PM
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Most guys that cheat don’t do it to hurt their partner or loved one. There’s no revenge or malicious intent involved. On the other hand I’ve had female friends in the past that cheated and basically made it about their men deserving it after the fact or revenge in some form. Most men won’t admit it but basically sexual variety and having different women as arm candy is the top way to show off you’ve made it and the ultimate ego stroke. A lot of people think just having money does it and to a cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:20 PM
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It’s not even just that. Let’s use the “men can run shirtless argument”. If a man or woman touches a man’s breast, said man would be laughed at for claiming -sexual assault-. Meanwhile, if a man touches a woman’s breast, it’s considered sexual assault. So generally speaking it’s acknowledged that there is something sexual about a woman’s breasts. We all know this, duh. So if you want it to be equal, then just as I have had women rest their hands on my pectorals, even those I don’t know with no p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:11 PM
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I’m a living example it’s possible. The toughest part is balancing time but generally my mindset is that if I focus on what I’m supposed to be doing in nearly every other area in life, then the rest will work out the way it needs to. One thing I learned and it’s more to save myself a headache, talk of the other(s) is off limits. Once that’s understood and you don’t give in, everything for the most part is smooth. And nearly all said they wouldn’t share. But here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:23 PM
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I don’t find one night stands or one and dones attractive personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:46 AM
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I highly doubt this to be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:32 AM
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Exactly
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 09:30 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 11:42 PM
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Only way to know for sure… Anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 11:22 PM
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In a perfect world scenario, both men and women would keep up the things they did to become attractive to the other sex. Easy examples are fitness, types of clothing you wear, little things that showed you were thinking of the other person. From my real world experience and because my circle has a certain mindset, more women than men in LTR’s get comfortable and off their game. Baggy clothes, not really caring, little to no fitness. Keep in mind I would consider the men in my circle and accordin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:26 PM
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For me personally, casual sex without some kind of relationship, even basic, it’s not as fun. Not saying I need a full on relationship but at least enjoying the company of the person. Male speaking here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:50 PM
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0 risk and all reward for most women might also have something to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:17 PM
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It’s pretty clear that you aren’t looking for an answer but instead an echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:29 PM
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One of the biggest reasons men are like this, hate to say it, is because single moms are growing the “perfect little gentlemen”, IE, the guy she wouldn’t have fucked and has more feminine than masculine attributes. I don’t put all the blame on women, there are a lot of men who allow their wife to do this and prefer peace over fighting with their wives or baby mama’s to make an impact on their sons. Lastly as you say, society is also trying to dumb down men and their roles and neuter us as best a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:44 PM
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It’s heading that way. Just a matter of time unless certain things change.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:02 PM
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Want me to DM you text messages between them? Ex porn star was 4-5 years back the first girl, I’m still with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 11:10 PM
2

Lol you are so fucking wrong it’s terrible. See the thing about being a woman, there’s no refractory period. There’s no downtime although some women’s clits get sensitive after coming. I’ve been with women who say they weren’t interested in sex until me and in no way shape or form is this bragging, quite the opposite, I can’t keep up. I’m lucky that I don’t come quick but the days of coming 5-6 times during a sex session are normally long gone for me. I’m good after 2-3 tops. I’ve been with girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 09:35 PM
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The way a woman helps me grow is not by actually providing money for me. It’s by not being a headache and giving me support by taking care of chores essentially(cooking and cleaning) while having a basic understanding of what I need to save time on a daily basis. In no way shape or form at my level of success, would I care about whether a girl made minimum wage. I only care that she can take care of her bills and isn’t an overspender. That’s it. What matters more is, is she attractive and fun, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 02:21 AM
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First off, we should look at the definition of Misogny: : feeling, showing, or characterized by hatred of or prejudice against women Now funny enough, the definition up until 2002 was the “hatred of women”. Why that changed afterwards, I have no idea. I know of absolutely zero people in my circle that have hatred towards women. Zero. Now if the idea is that people are using misogyny as a word primarily with the idea of having prejudice against women, well damn we should start calling women out a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 09:43 PM
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The reason so many women suck is because most men are desperate and simping. Most women don’t have the drive to accomplish much themselves and men value sex and beauty above all, to the point they are paying streamers for a chance to get acknowledged with no real chance of getting laid by the streamers, IGers and OFers. So men are rewarding women for really doing nothing except existing. Doesn’t matter if they are fat, average, etc. Why would women change bad behavior and learn skills useful to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:43 PM
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Because to me the worst thing that can be done is giving the government more power and control over our choices. The less involved the government is the better. My view is that the government should only exist to protect us against other countries and provide economic stability so that we can thrive. Do I believe there should be some laws in place and consequences for the worst of the worst actions/crimes? Absolutely. I would love to respond more but reality is I’ve been wasting a lot of time on…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:25 PM
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It’s not just her body. There are 3 people involved and are impacted in different ways and I’m not here to argue which is better or worse: 1) the father being on the hook and having no choice for at least 18 years of the child’s life by providing child support, ruining many men’s lives financially 2) the mother who may or may not be impacted financially, possible cosmetic affects(stretched skin, stretch marks, etc) and very very rarely in the 1st world, physical harm to the mother although this …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 12:53 PM
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Take my advice, like most things there are more risks for men. There are plenty of single women out there if you have the options you say you do, avoid it as best as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:10 AM
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Well it’s the closest comparison we can give considering the scenarios for men and women are different. It’s pretty easy to get what I was trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:07 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:51 AM
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The second she decided to risk getting pregnant by having sex, both parties should have some type of voice or say in the matter. She didn’t get pregnant by herself. And women love to speak about the lowest % of reasons why women get abortions(rape,incest). So I can bring up that condoms are not 100% effective. So there will always be a percentage of women getting pregnant even if their man wraps it up. No matter how responsible you are pregnancy is still a risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:47 AM
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The problem is that moms are allowed to be dead beat moms if they do chose to without consent of the father. By deadbeat mom I mean if the father wants the child but the mother doesn’t and gets an abortion, she is relieved of all consequences for her actions and generally society doesn’t look down on her. Meanwhile if the father wants no part of the child’s life and would prefer an abortion, the mother can again go against the wishes of the father and the father is responsible for the child(read…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:45 AM
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Good sex and a fun time outside of that as well, while being fit, somewhat good looking and somewhat successful. Have that and women will try to lock you down but accept that you won’t, at least until baby rabies kicks in.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 01:18 PM
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From real life experience, I completely disagree. The less fucks you give the better. Even better if you occasionally fuck a chick like she’s worthless trash. Sucks but it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:22 PM
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The reality is, and I’m saying this as a man, if the laws said that 14 year olds were able to consent, a large portion of men with a greater than 3 year age gap would be fucking the 14 yo girls. Reality is for a time not that long ago, it was accepted so I know I’m not far off. It is fucked up though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:03 AM
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I really appreciate you posting this. Been arguing with a fool and I took an educated guess on the Demo who would be interested in the “16 yo streamer”. While what you posted may not be an apples To apples comparison this is pretty much what I expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:00 AM
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See if I could I would. But what you are saying isn’t a realistic solution. How would you implement rules in place that don’t infringe on the good men and protect the innocent child in this case? I want real solutions not fantasy bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 01:14 AM
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It’s not about putting them in a cave. You are exaggerating big time. I’m not saying to lock them up until 18. But I get it you don’t agree so you are turning this into me hurting my child’s future success(lol). This isn’t about them starting a business selling something they created and you can ship it off and remain relatively anonymous. They aren’t selling cookies. They are selling themselves and putting themselves out there. People have been doxxed for ridiculous reasons and I can tell you, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 01:02 AM
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No I’m prioritizing their safety. Don’t have to do much more or say much more to be clearer than I have been. Nowhere have i said that I don’t want my future children to be successful. My response was literally about a person under legal age of what is considered an adult and has a disability/condition. So please spare me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:47 AM
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Wanting the best for my kids and not having grown men jerking off or stalking my daughter before she’s an adult? If that’s selfish, absolutely. When she’s an adult that’s on her. My kids won’t worry about money anyway because I work my ass off so it’s not worth compromising yourself for grown men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:39 AM
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Money is replaceable. You get one chance with your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:36 AM
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Yes, because just because people should behave a certain way, doesn’t mean they do. I wouldn’t park my 6 figure car in a ghetto parking lot with no lights because people shouldn’t break in. Maybe no one breaks in but I guarantee most would agree it’s a bad idea. I wish the world was different and there aren’t some evil people out there. But wishing and reality are very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 11:16 PM
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I agree, I was mostly replying to you saying “it’s not the parents who are wrong”. The girl isn’t a hooker it’s fucked up to say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:35 AM
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Happened to me a bit back. Real answer for my situation is that I gave off LTR vibes and they(this happened twice) wanted to appear as a “good girl”. I wasn’t even looking for LTR but I treat anyone I’m with good, and both girls in every way basically made it appear like I was the man of their dreams early on. NGL it was frustrating af. At any point after breaking up, if I want I can hit it, but I just lost interest at some point and moved on. An annoying thing too is that women get intimidated …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:48 AM
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Are you implying that being in a relationship means better sex? And by being single do you mean “not in a committed relationship”? Because preference for me would be being single but exercising my options in a casual/semi casual relationship. If laws were different and didn’t screw men over, I would have no problem getting married to a woman who allows me to exercise my options but understands I’m building a life and family with her. It wouldn’t be something I do every week but I just don’t want…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:24 PM
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Going to be honest, most women suck at sex. Out of over 25 women, I’ve been with 1 who was good at sex itself and 2 that gave good head(one was previously in porn, but she sucked in the sack too lol). So as much as women complain about men not knowing what to do, which on my end I like to please before I get off, a lot of attractive women think it’s ok to just star fish sex. If they get on top(in my experience some won’t and expect you to do all the work) they don’t know wtf they are doing and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:22 AM
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