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Good idea lol they can donate on Twitch 😂
/r/askFDS14/03/21 01:30 AM
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I get you about the accidents and STDs but I don't think having fun is a waste of my time and energy, especially as a childfree person but yeah.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 01:58 PM
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Not during national lockdown I don't think. It's weird here in the UK 😬
/r/askFDS04/03/21 02:32 AM
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He said I've got to court him too.. wut.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 08:17 PM
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I guess we can't do anything else in the UK atm for dates
/r/askFDS03/03/21 06:45 PM
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This post made me chuckle
/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:04 AM
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Well at least he actually swiped me so I know he's interested, he's picking up the conversation if I let it slip a bit, asking me a decent amount of questions etc 😊
/r/askFDS24/02/21 03:15 PM
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I don't really want to block him because as he is my friend and nothing more I guess he's not done anything wrong. I'll leave things open for him to be able to communicate with me if he wants to but I won't give him any more of my energy.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 05:18 PM
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I get you. But this was a week ago and I can't take it back now, I can only learn.+
/r/askFDS11/02/21 04:42 PM
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Ahh I don't know if I can, I'll be self conscious knowing what you know about me if you ever do watch me, it will be awkward with you watching me live xD But maybe after I've gone live I'll give you the link :P I'm just super socially awkward and don't look the best on webcam..
/r/askFDS11/02/21 04:14 PM
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He ignored me for ages after I expressed anxiety about something that had happened with us, yet he was online. I'm allowed to be pissed off and upset.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 04:11 PM
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Thanks for your message. I do enjoy streaming for myself though, but it's pointless if no one is watching lol. I like the interaction with other people and sharing my hobby :)
/r/askFDS11/02/21 03:56 PM
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Thank you so much, what a lovely message.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 03:55 PM
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Streaming IS an accomplishment for someone who has severe social anxiety thank you. I can stream and do those things. I do well at my job and I'm in therapy. That's incredibly rude.
/r/askFDS10/02/21 03:21 PM
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I've got severe social anxiety and streaming sober has been a massive accomplishment for me but I get downvotes for celebrating that.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 11:46 PM
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I left a positive comment and got downvoted, cool.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 11:00 PM
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I don't think I need to take a break from streaming. I've streamed a couple of times now without alcohol and it's been such a confidence boost! I'm really enjoying it and I'm so proud of myself that I'm not having to rely on alcohol to do this! But yeah everything else you said is right. I'm in therapy atm 😊
/r/askFDS09/02/21 06:12 PM
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Yeah I have done. I'm not drinking anymore when streaming or drinking in general, unless I'm with friends irl. Proud of myself tbh.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 05:40 PM
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Bit young for me then lol! But good for him hope he sticks to his morals ❤️
/r/askFDS29/01/21 01:11 PM
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Is your brother single? 🤪
/r/askFDS29/01/21 06:00 AM
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Can you not afford the abortion yourself? Hope you're ok Queen ❤️
/r/askFDS26/01/21 08:18 AM
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I know. I asked him why he didn't plan anything and he just said he thought he couldn't afford it or he "forgot", which he knows are stupid reasons. He says he wishes he knew why he didn't date me and he's been an idiot and ruined the best thing that ever happened to him. I feel silly for worrying about the date thing though, because I don't know any man who plans dates. All the men I know just sit and play video games. At least my boyfriend (ex) knows when to turn the video games off. He is inc…
/r/askFDS26/01/21 08:09 AM
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But he does want what I want, he did want a home with me it just took too long for my liking. Feels like such a waste of a relationship 😭😭
/r/askFDS24/01/21 11:45 PM
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We text eachother. My family are abusive and don't own a car. No I don't have many friends, I have social anxiety and none of the people I know have a car. We are just saying goodbye in person after he helps me move out. Then we're done.
/r/askFDS24/01/21 10:57 AM
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What do you mean he's a LV?
/r/askFDS23/01/21 07:23 PM
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But he's my friend, he's only ever been a friend and I don't expect friends to contact me everyday. He knows I was in a relationship and am now going through a breakup so he's not going to message me all the time.
/r/askFDS23/01/21 07:07 PM
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Yeah I don't want another guy to fill the void. At first I liked the fantasy of him but I don't really know him. I want to spend a good few months or a year or so working on myself. I'm no longer messaging "video game guy" first, and it feels really empowering. If he wants to get to know me he can come to me. Hopefully there's no harm in getting to know this guy, he's been a good and supportive friend so far. It's a shame he's gone quiet on me but also a good thing because I wouldn't want a man …
/r/askFDS23/01/21 04:26 PM
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Yeah, you're right. But then should I really be getting mad at him? He knows when we met I had a boyfriend and he knows I'm ending things now. He's just a friend. I don't expect friends to contact me all the time. I might be attracted to him but at the end of the day he has just been a supportive friend, it's not like we're dating.
/r/askFDS20/01/21 09:52 PM
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Thank you. I have been quite clingy and acted in Pickmeisha ways and I'm so embarrassed. Like he said we'd game one day at a certain time and he didn't reply for ages when I said I was ready. Then he said "Sorry be with you shortly" and didn't reply for 45 minutes. So I got a bit off with him but then looking back it's silly because he's just a friend who I game with, and even though I'm attracted to him I shouldn't have got in a mood about it. I sent him a few messages days apart during the per…
/r/askFDS20/01/21 11:44 AM
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I'm leaving my boyfriend who didn't date me or propose for 5 years. He saw my Reddit posts about having a crush on someone else and is hurt how I've moved on so quickly :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:39 AM
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Yes Queen! You did the right thing. Don't look back ❤️
/r/askFDS17/01/21 08:38 AM
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I see comments here saying we don't talk to exes on FDS. Why?
/r/askFDS16/01/21 12:30 PM
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How do you know he doesn't watch porn?
/r/askFDS16/01/21 10:27 AM
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What is the real thing though?
/r/askFDS16/01/21 04:39 AM
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He's a creep. Stay away from him. Be civil when you have to but when he makes comments like that and touches you, if you're brave enough then nip it in the bud. I know it's hard, sometimes we end up just freezing or laughing at men's offensively jokes but it's important to try and put those boundaries up and put a scrote in his place.
/r/askFDS16/01/21 12:28 AM
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Of course it's not a you problem! He has no right to touch you. Your gut is telling you this isn't ok but societal condition is making you question yourself! Next time tell him you're uncomfortable with him touching you. Does he not realise there's a pandemic going on as well?
/r/askFDS15/01/21 10:14 PM
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Thank you. I've gone through childhood trauma and am left feeling like an unlovable person. Despite years of therapy it doesn't seem to get any better. At first I felt securely attached to this guy as he was texting me regularly, not a creepy amount but enough to make me feel liked. We spoke on mic while gaming and he was so sweet, never inappropriate. I'm sorry if I'm repeating what I've already said but he's just gone quiet for a few days now. I said if he's going through depression then I'm h…
/r/askFDS13/01/21 02:58 PM
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Thank you. I know I shouldn't be getting attached to this guy but he's just been so lovely and caring. It hurts that he's gone from messaging me every other day or so to this but I know he's got his depression and rl crap to deal with. And he's only my friend so I won't pressure him. I'll give him space. I want to support him through this bad time he's having but it's so hard to not take it personal. He seemed sort of interested in me before all this, so I can't help but think I've ruined things…
/r/askFDS12/01/21 10:46 PM
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Can't help but think I should give him another chance and let him date me and make things up to me. He did genuinely think the business would help our future. Maybe I've just been impatient.
/r/askFDS08/01/21 07:34 AM
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Yeah I've been really toxic. I hate myself for cheating. How do I forgive myself?
/r/askFDS06/01/21 09:46 PM
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But he's a wonderful and stable man. I've got through childhood trauma and have CPTSD which means I don't feel good enough. Even when I was generally happy with him I would push him away. Maybe that's what I'm doing now. Destroying a happy and stable relationship because all I know is chaos.
/r/askFDS06/01/21 07:24 PM
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What if I'm self-sabotaging?
/r/askFDS06/01/21 06:51 PM
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Do I leave, then? I just feel so guilty. He has been depressed and lacking in ambition. My heart isn't in this anymore but I feel so bad because he has done so much for me in other ways despite his complacency. Even despite my ill treatment of him and my cheating, he wants to work this out and he still wants to help me move out etc. I think he had good intentions with his Dad's business, things have just taken so long. Maybe I should have been more patient.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 05:01 PM
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My boyfriend regrets everything, do I give him another chance? He's woken up now, finally.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:58 PM
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Thank you for your encouragement. I just feel so sick with guilt.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:50 PM
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Yeah, he has been lazy. But now I'm feeling like I want to leave he has had this epiphany about how complacent he is and he really wants to change.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:50 PM
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Just want you to know I really relate to your post. I sexted someone else while in a relationship with my current boyfriend and I have acted in toxic ways in my relationships because of my insecurities. I am starting therapy myself soon. The first step is self-awareness. I'm really struggling to forgive myself and not hate myself. I'm still with my boyfriend because breaking up would hurt him more but I'm so eaten up by the guilt of how I've treated him and broken his trust. You are not alone ❤️
/r/askFDS03/01/21 02:49 PM
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I made a post like this the other day about how I've been toxic in my relationship and got downvotes. Glad you're growing.
/r/askFDS03/01/21 02:37 PM
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Wow this couldn't have come at a better time. Your reply speaks volumes to the situation I'm experiencing myself. I'm scared to leave my boyfriend because I'm terrified of being alone and I don't want him to be alone either. I'm bored. But like OP, I'm staying because he's sweet, kind and doesn't watch porn. We have a lot in common and can have deep intellectual conversations but I want someone I can have fun with. Sorry to hijack your post we are just going through something so similar OP!
/r/askFDS30/12/20 10:52 PM
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Hey I can really relate to this. I haven't left my boyfriend but I'm in a similar situation. We've been together almost 5 years and we still aren't engaged or living together because of financial issues. He has many HV traits so I'm really struggling to work out whether to stay or go. Following for what people say for advice. Best of luck with your situation, it is really difficult I know.
/r/askFDS30/12/20 10:48 PM
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I do think I want to leave but it's so hard when I keep doubting myself and when he doesn't have a support network. Thank you for all your time ❤️
/r/askFDS30/12/20 02:49 AM
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It's so hard to get my head round this because he said he was prioritising me. He is convinced he was working for our future. I feel so awful for my heart not being in this anymore. He doesn't have any friends and he's so depressed and alone, and so am I really. He says he can't imagine life without me. I don't know how I can ever leave and have that awful conversation with him when he has shown me love in so many other ways. He always does the cooking and drives to see me every weekend. Sometim…
/r/askFDS29/12/20 11:26 PM
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Thank you 😭😭
/r/askFDS29/12/20 10:47 PM
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You're right. But does it make a difference that while he didn't want to live in my city before, he now does? And now I don't really want him to ☹️
/r/askFDS29/12/20 09:43 PM
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He's not ok with those things anymore. He's really unhappy and has been looking for work but it's really hard cos of the pandemic. I'd feel bad leaving when he is trying and he had good intentions when it came to working for the business as he thought it would allow him more flexibility to see me rather than working a 9-5 and he believed it would make good money. He says he's made all these decisions for us so I'd feel bad for leaving just because it didn't go the way he hoped. He really thought…
/r/askFDS29/12/20 05:51 PM
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What do you mean I'm clouded by my brain chemistry?
/r/askFDS29/12/20 03:43 PM
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But he hasn't meant to string me along he's just been depressed and bad with money ☹️
/r/askFDS26/12/20 11:09 PM
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Yeah I have friends but they mainly live in other cities so I barely see them, especially during the pandemic. I have depression and trauma, I always feel lonely I guess but at least sometimes it's less so when I can see my boyfriend and he can cuddle me and give me company and intimacy in a way that a friend can't. He's always there for me. So really I should be happy but I think there's something wrong with me. Plus I don't want to hurt him, he went into a depression when his last relationship…
/r/askFDS25/12/20 06:19 PM
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How do I change it? Just by leaving? But it's hard to leave someone who is perfect for me in every other way. I'm scared to be alone and scared I'm just repeating some sort of pattern if I leave. I don't know if not being dated is a good reason to leave, maybe I'm just not meant to be happy Idk.
/r/askFDS25/12/20 05:31 PM
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Yes I have friends and hobbies but friends and hobbies aren't the ones who have disappointed me by not dating me after I asked them multiple times. Not had sex with my boyfriend since February either.
/r/askFDS25/12/20 05:24 PM
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Because he is a wonderful man and we share all the same morals. If I can't be happy with him then it must be a problem with me self-sabotaging for some reason. He's everything I want and yet I am not happy. My therapist said I probably cheated because of unmet needs. But one person can't be expected to meet all my needs.
/r/askFDS25/12/20 05:15 PM
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I spoke to a therapist but I don't feel any better really. I don't even know if I want marriage tbh. I was happy for at least 3 years of our relationship but got fed up of him not making a plan for our future or him not dating me when I asked. It must be a problem with me. I just want to be happy with him.
/r/askFDS25/12/20 04:59 PM
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I know. But how can I leave him knowing he's got no one else?
/r/askFDS22/12/20 07:14 AM
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Thank you.
/r/askFDS21/12/20 06:08 PM
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Yeah I saw one for a few months but things didn't really become any clearer ☹️ Any other advice you might have would be appreciated but I know it's beyond your paygrade lol.
/r/askFDS21/12/20 03:24 PM
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No ☹️ I don't really want to carry on this way. Sometimes I am irritated by his kisses but other times we can have a kiss and it feels good but I stop it before it gets further cos I just hold so much resentment for us not living together and him not dating me. Every day I'm asking him why he didn't date me and he just says he's been an idiot. I look at him and sometimes find him appealing visually but other times something just seems off. Part of me wants to meet new people but I know the chanc…
/r/askFDS21/12/20 02:39 PM
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So sorry I've replied to the wrong comment 😂
/r/askFDS21/12/20 11:21 AM
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Well I guess I used to feel more horny before and would try and keep our sex life alive by sending NSFW pics. Since FDS I don't do that anymore. It was always me initiating sex and talking about that sort of thing. I have always had a low sex drive I guess because of my mental health. But I do get really attracted to people I first meet. I think I like feeling desired. I guess after 5 years together that initial attraction is going to wear away?
/r/askFDS21/12/20 07:05 AM
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It's pretty low anyway cos of depression but sometimes it spikes lol if that makes sense 😂 Maybe the problem is me then 😬
/r/askFDS21/12/20 06:50 AM
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What if it's just my low libido/depression causing me to stop wanting sex?
/r/askFDS20/12/20 03:40 PM
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Thank you. I'm just so worried about breaking his heart. He doesn't have any friends or much of a support network. And Covid is destroying everyone's mental health. Plus I don't have many friends or a support network myself. It feels like it's never going to be the right time to leave. And I'm so worried I'll never find anyone like him. All men are pornsick now it's a real shame ☹️
/r/askFDS19/12/20 10:52 PM
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Thank you for this thoughtful reply! I just keep doubting myself, wondering if I'm pushing away because of my childhood trauma/possible BPD. I've read that article before and it really resonates with me but I keep questioning if I'm the problem.
/r/askFDS19/12/20 05:55 PM
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I've not left yet. I can't before Christmas 😭😭 And I don't want to break his heart.
/r/askFDS19/12/20 05:48 PM
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Isn't that the bare minimum?
/r/askFDS16/12/20 05:07 PM
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Well for most of our relationship he has struggled because he had some debt to pay off, which he has now finally done. He is looking for another job. Thankfully we are both childfree. Do you think if he starts making the effort, I can feel as happy as I used to be? I enjoy his company but there's just some nagging doubt in the back of my mind, a yearning to meet new people, but maybe that's my low self-esteem/Pickmeisha side that is looking for male validation? I know the reality wouldn't be lik…
/r/askFDS14/12/20 09:36 PM
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But I just wonder if my unhappiness is because I'm just never happy in general because I have depression and anxiety, and a tendency to self-sabotage. I could just be missing the excitement of meeting someonew new, Idk. I wasn't sure about marriage before, but a few years ago with him, I really started to like the idea of getting eloped. He said he was going to propose when we lived together and had our lives sorted out. He wasn't sure about marriage either at the start, but now he says he wants…
/r/askFDS14/12/20 07:42 PM
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