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[–]greenteaapplepie6941 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
You haven’t done anything wrong! And you don’t sound clingy at all. He’s the one pulling away and not messaging you for days. For whatever reason- it could be that he’s not that interested or it’s the depression. I have depression and I sometimes go days or weeks without talking to people.
But that being said- don’t beat yourself up! And find some more friends that will treat you respectfully and that you can talk to. Don’t waste all of your time worrying about this one guy. There’s plenty of others like him. Believe me when I say that him being respectful is the bare minimum and that you can do so much better than that!
You don’t want someone who is avoidant and just doesn’t message you for days. You’re always gonna be second guessing why he’s pulling away, but the real reason is that he’s messed up. If I were you I’d move on.
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[–]orangeboobert8 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I vote to block him! Back when I was at my worst in pickme years, early twenties, I wiished blocking was an option. Once my mind got to obsessing over some NVM, I had to ask my friends to take my phone and Hide bc turning it off wasn’t enough! I was tempted to call my phone service to block them but it’s not a switch of the button as it is now. For your own sanity block him bc he’s not reached you for weeks. What can he possibly say that would be excusable at this point? Those romantic songs he sent... imagine that he sends this shit to other women too. That is bare minimum crap. Either way, the silence in his end needs to be silence on yours now. The best way to detach is fresh start. The more we feed that impulse thought of what if potential in some lvm we are keeping ourselves from moving on and getting over it.
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