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| 3 | I found out that my male friend is part of the no-simp group. Am I wrong for not being sure if I want to be friends with him after finding that out?...I would never be friends or even date somebody... I think you got those backwards? You don't need anyone's permission to ditch this guy. Maybe he's an asshole, maybe he's just giggling at some boomer-humor tier memes; it's hard to tell from what you've said. But also, it's ok to have friends with dumb ideas, so long as you have the presence of mind to not just agree with whatever someone tells you. Anyway, unless it seems necessary for social dynamics reasons, I'd skip the break-up text. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/26 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Need advice! My brother is a red pill and it’s exhaustingWhy would you do anything? Do you have any expectation he's capable of change and growth? What makes you think that? Kind of sounds like you're committed to living with this mean and angry guy, and he's just going to be like that until he dies. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/26 02:39 AM |
| 6 | When does red pill become toxic?This comes up a lot, "how can this person be bad when they said that I should work towards my goals? isn't that good advice?" Most of these influencers do offer solid, basic, self-help content. It's good business for them too as lifestyle influencers to give people a path to getting their life on track. Like, by analogy, if I'm a health influencer, I'm gonna tell people to get enough sleep and stay hydrated, and then my followers who take that advice are going to be in awe of my magic teachings.… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/05/26 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Is this guy I’m talking to red pilled?If he isn't matching your energy, on the level of basic friendliness, then just dump him and move on. Whatever redeeming feature you see there, I can't imagine it's worth the emotional effort you're putting in. There's plenty of great ways to feel helpful without letting a toxic personality pollute your personal life. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/26 08:26 PM |
| 4 | 17M about to be 18 soon, struggling with virginityThis is AI right? What is the point of faking a personal confession like this? It's not a big enough sub for karma-farming. Even if it's just AI assisted, no one here is grading your grammar. I see the wall of text interspersed with em-dashes and think, like, if you don't want to write it then I don't want to read it. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/04/26 02:01 AM |
| 8 | Worried I will never get out of thisIt's cool to exercise and take some interest in how you look, but it's even cooler to stop constantly thinking about how hot other guys are... right? Like, you are totally allowed to think all you want about big guys with big dicks. But if all that fantasizing is getting in the way of stuff you actually want... I mean what's the point of all that fantasizing in the first place anyway? For that matter, what's the point of fantasizing about some mean duplicitous woman who is out to abuse you? None… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/26 08:10 AM |
| 3 | I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 octYou absolutely don't need to move out to socialize. Just scroll through meetup.com and see what interest groups are interesting to you. Unless you're living with someone who won't allow you to have friends? In that case, that would be domestic abuse and you should get out of that situation as soon as possible. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/04/26 01:11 AM |
| 2 | I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 octYea, ok then, this is actually very simple. If you don't have friends and can't make friends, then your plan to hook up with lots of hot women is totally completely doomed from the start. Do not break up with the nice lady. Instead, go find your local community college, sign up for an intro to literature course and join one of the clubs on campus. Or whatever, just do something that gets you talking to new and interesting people. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/04/26 01:07 AM |
| 3 | I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 octIt's a tabletop role-playing game. Good fun and a regularly scheduled social commitment. Substitute in any potentially social hobby/interest that you have, or just straight chilling with your buddies. Even signing up for some courses or workshops could be a good way to get the social/intellectual stimulation you're craving. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/04/26 12:58 AM |
| 4 | I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 octWow, what an essay. What you should do really depends on whether or not you actually have any ability to play the field like you're fantasizing about. Because, it kinda sounds like she picked up a rescue, traumatized, headcase who is now trying to escape a loving home. So, on the one hand, maybe you need to count your blessings very carefully and learn to give and accept love. If you're convinced you were moments away from your slut era if only you weren't trapped by this sweet kind woman... are… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/04/26 12:41 AM |
| 9 | Do you believe men have a peak?It's all psychotic. Anyone's main "asset" in relationships is being likable. Physical attractiveness is a close second. Anyway, attraction has to be mutual. When women are attracting men they are not themselves attracted to, that is not an asset that is a liability (as I believe some women have mentioned). Frankly, same for rich guys who have to deal with gold diggers. Your peak is whenever you get your head out of your ass far enough to know what really matters to you and let go of other people… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/26 02:58 AM |
| 3 | What are your objective and logical arguments against this?against 17 minutes of rambling? Sure. Imagine this were a guy talking to you at a bus stop, would that be a pleasant experience for you? | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/26 05:22 AM |
| 6 | I often feel lucky im in the average rangeIt's a prime example of "comparison is the thief of joy." Imagine you're actually mid-coitus but you can't enjoy it because you're stuck thinking about big dicks, what a nightmare. Plus you're for sure not your best if you're distracted like that. Even comparing your performance to a performance you gave some other night is gonna mess up your vibe. It's so important to let go of the need for a hierarchy of everything and let yourself enjoy a good experience that's right in front of you. If she c… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/26 02:47 AM |
| 14 | I’m having a hard time with wanting to be nice to women who I meet who are interested in me and vice versa who I am interested inIf there's a problem with being a simp or a "nice guy," the problem is not in acting with love and kindness in your heart. The problem would be when you're putting your well-being and self-esteem at the mercy of someone who maybe doesn't deserve that trust or isn't interested in accommodating your desperate thirst. But so long as you aren't being needy, there's no reason to not be giving. Like, why not just be nice? What are you afraid of? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/26 06:39 PM |
| 5 | How to desconstruct the toxic idea of "She's settling for you but really wants the "hotter/alpha" guy who didn't commit to her"The unhealthy idea I see here is the conviction that you aren't a hot guy. You can be a hot desirable guy. Also, that doesn't negate other guys being hot, in her past or otherwise. And vice-versa, other guys being hot doesn't make you lesser. The allocation of positive traits is not a zero-sum competition. Maybe replace that jealousy with gratitude for your own good looks and your other attractive qualities. Whether she's actually hung up on some fantasy of a moment long passed, or if it's just … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/26 10:35 PM |
| 12 | Why ”quit” ”redpill”?People will definitely avoid the truth when it's inconvenient, and then sometimes it's the redpill ideas that people will use to shelter themselves from the truth. Redpill is very appealing to people who want concrete answers to messy social problems, but the reality of relationships is too chaotic for any rigid system of rules. The actually good advice is to be honest, vulnerable, and open to the truth you find in other people; but there's still no guarantees of success with that, and it's way … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/26 12:46 AM |
| 25 | Why ”quit” ”redpill”?For various reasons, some people get very invested in this gender ideology, so invested that it negatively impacts how they experience the world. The point of the subreddit, I think, is mostly to help people touch grass and turn off the doomer machismo infomercial feed. Redpill influencers generally include some inoffensive self-help content (like, it's true that you should get some exercise) but it's all mixed in with confused ideas about relationships and your role in society, ideas that seem … | /r/ExRedPill | 15/02/26 11:33 PM |
| 4 | My experience with women being normie at 16 years old.Yea, that's pretty crazy, to be more concerned with some bullshit beauty standards than having good relationships. It makes me think this is the one area of your life where you feel you have some control, and focusing on it lets you ignore the helplessness you feel towards everything else. Maybe that's also coming from a very chaotic home life, abusive parents that instilled an overwhelming fear of rejection/abandonment? lol, sorry, I'm probably reading too much into it. Regardless, you should t… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/01/26 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Black pillthe "less of this" button? I think you've got to click through to the account page, then click the ellipses and "block." Of course that just blocks the one account, related stuff can still pop-up, but it'll probably help disrupt the feedback loop. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/26 09:46 PM |
| 11 | Black pillTo fix your algorithm, block the accounts posting that stuff. Pursue other interests that are totally unrelated to sex and dating. And, to be safe, try to avoid brain-rot content in general. If you're actively seeking out toxic content, you gotta ask what it's doing for you emotionally. You're getting real sad, but what other emotions does it bring up? relief, excitement, rage, connection? To replace what the blackpill stuff is doing for you, you gotta find some other way to meet those emotional… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/26 04:25 PM |
| 5 | I’m on the autism spectrum and never in a relationship at 31, considering genioplastyJust grow a beard (minoxidil if you gotta), and put that money towards cooking classes and fancy dinner dates. idk, everyone saying therapy probably has a point, but also there's lots of ways to be charming (like pasta, and baked goods) | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/26 07:59 PM |
| 2 | How to not become mysonistic during the war?Many men voted for Zelensky, and many women voted against him. Out of everyone, what percentage has done jack shit to oppose the draft? Again, it makes sense to be angry, but targeting that anger at the masses of women is nonsense. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/12/25 06:17 AM |
| 6 | Being vulnerable is badYou're right that is the literal meaning of vulnerability. The better term for what people are talking about is "emotional intimacy." Being totally honest with someone is the only way to be truly seen, known, understood, and it is necessarily a position of vulnerability. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/25 05:20 PM |
| 6 | I think I may be starting to doubt the 80/20 rule and I may be more attractive than I think.Yea, that's how it is for most people? Like, there's a reason most people's lifetime number of sexual partners stays in the single digits, compatibility is tricky and elusive. You don't need complete faith in success, just realize your odds improve dramatically when you believe success is possible. Complete despair is a self-fulfilling prophecy and an irrational belief. You ought to have some modest hope just based on the unpredictability of life. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/12/25 01:54 AM |
| 9 | I think I may be starting to doubt the 80/20 rule and I may be more attractive than I think.People can find some overlap in what they're into, but that doesn't mean their preferences are identical. A decent analogy is how everyone has their own favorite pizza toppings, but it's safe to just get cheese and pepperoni for a crowd. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/12/25 10:46 PM |
| 10 | Need help getting over my inferiority to “Chad”I know you didn't invent the whole social construct of, like, sexual conquest as the currency of masculinity. But, it is an imaginary thing you are torturing yourself with. You could count your daily farts for the sake of feeling bad if the number is "too low" or "too high," and it would make about as much sense. You aren't acting exactly like some other people act, but that doesn't make you "inferior." If you want to be less shy and feel more comfortable socializing, those are fine goals. Just … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/25 04:41 AM |
| 5 | I have a fear of being settled for or being the “safe” choiceIt's not like you have to totally let go of that pain from your past; sit with it and acknowledge how hurt you were at the time. But it'd be too tragic if you spent so much time in that pain that it forever held you back from going after what you want. Like, maybe you are already the "fun hot guy," but you're not going to be able to own that role if you're stuck in this narrative of being a lonely loser kid that doesn't get invited to parties. Maybe, for some women, an unstable fuckboy actually … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/25 08:22 PM |
| 15 | I have a fear of being settled for or being the “safe” choiceHave you ever had a friend who turned out to be a real piece of shit? And then you start to pick up on those shitty personality traits in other people, and it turns you off them? It shouldn't be so hard to relate to someone who has, over time, learned to avoid certain types of people. Also... you gotta grieve your youth and move on. Yeah, it sucked and other kids were having more fun than you. That's true, it happened, and it's never going to change, because it's over and done with. You have to … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/08/25 03:33 AM |
| 46 | Thoughts on the whole “20% of men get 80% of women” line?Can you clarify what you think that phrase means? Are you saying that one in five men ends up with four wives? Seems implausible. If you want to know about how many sexual/romantic partners different gender and age groups have had, researchers do surveys about this stuff, you can look up the numbers. There's some validity to the idea that some people are generally seen as very attractive. Beautiful people exist, and they have an easier time getting a date (unless something about their personalit… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/25 02:13 AM |
| 25 | How to not become mysonistic during the war?Your feelings are not wrong; it's good to be angry about this inequality. But it doesn't make sense to be angry towards these women; they didn't write the laws; they didn't decide the structure of society. Unfair as it is that they can avoid the same oppression you're facing; it doesn't mean they want you to suffer or that they themselves believe you are worth less than them. Go ahead and hate the exclusive privilege someone has, but it's not necessary to hate the person who has been granted tha… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/25 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Robert Sapolsky, a neurobiologist professor, says that humans are half-way in between being pair-bonding/monogamous and competitive/only a minority of men finds mates - what does people here think of this and does it suggest that RP isn't completely incorrect about hypergamy?Hey, I just watched this podcast episode, it was good background noise! I think the whole premise of his response was, like, "this guy wants me to give a cosmic justification for the size of his dick, so, idk, let's do an appeal to nature fallacy." It was fine. But also... We don't need to be examining anatomy to deduce how monogamous/promiscuous the human species is... when we can just look at what they do. People aren't actually super secretive about who they fuck; when they are secretive they… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/25 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Advice how I can help un red pill my boyfriendIt could be that he genuinely wants self-help material, and he unfortunately landed on a guy who isn't qualified to give advice. The solution then might be to broaden his horizons, look into fitness nerds who only focus on fitness, look into self-help materials coming from people who are trained therapists/psychologists. Of course if you can afford it, the ideal would be a personal trainer, and a talk therapist or (qualified) life coach. Even if he were listening to someone who is qualified, it … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/06/25 05:26 PM |
| 16 | I don’t get their outrage on HypergamyIt's probably more comfortable to believe your romantic failures are a kind of persecution instead of a consequence of bad decisions and/or bad personality. Or maybe relationships are scary, and believing relationships are impossible actually means that you're safe from ever having someone intruding on your life. Either way, a fatalistic belief like that can protect you from the challenge of growing and changing. (or, seems that way, idk) | /r/ExRedPill | 08/04/25 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Woman said I’m a loser because of my jobThis opens up so many obvious ways to make fun of you for, like, something close to your heart, and she went with "loser" ...? You dodged a bullet, go find someone who can razz you skillfully. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/11/24 11:40 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about DNA test and prenupsDNA tests make sense to me, because I think cheating is actually fairly common even among otherwise good people. To me, cheating is mean but it isn't a huge deal, but raising someone else's kid is a lifelong endeavor that absolutely requires consent; so, DNA test, sure. But, what I've realized after reading lots of these discussions: some people think cheating is a really big deal. Like, accusing a woman of cheating is basically like accusing her of murder. Even without a direct accusation, just… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/10/24 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Is it Red-Pill to Believe that “Leagues” Exist?The more conventionally attractive women attract more people, that's basically the definition of "conventionally attractive." So, regardless of how hot your friend is, he's got less of a chance with these women just because they've got more people trying to get their attention. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/24 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps?Well it takes something. Most people are driven to seek out sexual/romantic relationships by the basic core of their biology and psychology. There's no law on the books that says anyone has to partner up, everyone is allowed to reject any and all potential partners. But, still, people are compelled to partner up, and having the option to reject all the available people is sort of a "false choice." | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/24 10:44 PM |
| 12 | "The Ick"That sounds like people joking around, and they are exaggerating their feelings for comedic effect. Do you personally know anyone whose relationship ended because the guy did an ick type of thing? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/24 04:15 PM |
| 0 | Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps?I basically agree with you. The difference is that I'm not going to be judgey towards someone just for having low standards. Also, I think it's a little pessimistic to think someone who picked a round number for an app setting is for sure not worth a dinner date. Totally agree though, this is not the start to a great relationship (that's ok though). | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/24 02:24 PM |
| -1 | Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps?Desperate and crazy people, obviously! Have a little empathy. It's cool for you that you have the luxury of rejecting anyone so flawed as to have a height preference or... to trick someone with a height preference. But those are truly minor flaws, and this guy is not working with the same privilege you enjoy. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/24 01:51 PM |
| -1 | Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps?But the man has the numbers to validate his decision. He wanted to get likes, and tweaking his profile in this way got him likes immediately. It's not weird; it's practical. It's not insecure; it's realistic. The weird shallowness is coming from the people he's trying to get with. Not the best people to get with imo, but to each their own. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/24 01:34 PM |
| 0 | Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps?In this thread are people claiming that height doesn't matter and also people claiming it's bad to lie about it, wholesome to a fault these people. Friend, it's kinda gotta be one or the other. You know what really doesn't matter? ice cream preferences, but no one is going to jump down your throat for lying about your love for butter-pecan on your profile, are they? Anyway, I'm also in the height doesn't matter camp, I think that means it's fine to fudge it a little. Claiming to be 6'7" would cr… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Physical effects of the vagina/asshole after a lot of sexidk, not every butt looks the same? A tissue tear would be small and in one little spot. I'm pretty certain she didn't get, like, a ring of scar tissue from anal sex. If you need a deeper explanation maybe a proctologist could help you. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/24 12:01 AM |
| 16 | Physical effects of the vagina/asshole after a lot of sexYes, anal sex done wrong can damage the anus. When the anus isn't relaxed enough, forcing something in (or out?) can tear the tissue there. No, vaginal sex does not cause big lips. Also, it's ok to have period sex. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/24 11:30 PM |
| 1 | A different questionThis is one of the most sane and reasonable posts I've seen crop up. I was sort of in the same boat in that I was a virgin at 21 who finally crossed that threshold with some truly disappointing pity sex. And, yea, no regrets there, it was nice to check it off the to do list, one less thing for the inner shame demons to be chirping about. "Getting it over with" is the right attitude, imo, because then you're free to reset your goals; to let go of "getting laid" and to aim instead for having good … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/24 04:17 PM |
| 5 | Red Pill and Black Pill evo-psych theories about humans being picky doesn't make sense because of how evolution actually worksEvo-psych is an interesting idea, but I count it as one rung down from psychology, and psychology is only barely a step above astrology and balancing humors. If you want to know how people fuck, you can kind of just look around and see. Mostly serial monogamy, with a fair amount of sporadic infidelity as part of that. But also, there's lots of variation. Whenever someone is telling you everyone is like this-or-that because of "evolution," you can remember that people are all kinds of ways becaus… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/24 11:50 AM |
| 5 | Why is it wrong to want to be a chad?To me, you are describing two separate things. There's nothing wrong with being likable, attractive, sociable, etc. I will even say it's good to be like that, it can bring happiness to other people's lives and to your own life. But it's a problem if someone is beating themself up because they aren't charismatic enough to get what they want out of people. Like, the dehumanization of others and the self-loathing shame, it's no good. Self-improvement is great, but you have to approach it with genui… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/24 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Question about an infamous statisticIt's just not a serious statement, like what are you even saying? That the guys who have sex more, they have more sex? Yes, tautologically that is true. By the way, also true of women. The women who have the most sex, those women have the most sex. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/24 05:55 AM |
| 6 | Question about an infamous statisticI don't see anyone denying that promiscuous people exist, or that some people have trouble getting laid. Social networks are not perfectly distributed, some people have lots of friends while others have less. But "80/20" is a "stat" pulled out of someone's asshole. Partly because it'd be a really hard thing to measure, right? Like ideally you'd be looking at a perfectly accurate network graph of every sexual pairing in a large population, no way you're collecting data like that. So what we have … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/24 05:14 AM |
| 7 | Contradiction I’ve noticedNo need for mental gymnastics if they're just making it up (or lying). They don't have to believe what they're saying, they just need their followers to buy in to the act. To be charitable to them, maybe they think "man of God" means having a thoughtless conservative take on every social issue; maybe they start out having a thoughtless conservative take on every social issue and calling themselves "man of God" is part of that. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/05/24 10:33 PM |
| 9 | I (25M) have a weird voice, sounds like a cartoon character or teenager, and is not that deep, will it hold me back that much in dating?Getting a deep tone is something one can practice, and maybe get good at. Transmen do masculine voice training, anyone can do the same. But, idk, you're probably fine. It definitely matters more what you have to say and that someone can enjoy a conversation with you. If someone is getting hung up on how you might drop an "r" here or there, they're fucking crazy. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 06:21 AM |
| 16 | Is there really a “loneliness epidemic” going on or is it just a online narrativeThe phrase "loneliness epidemic" and whatever you imagine when you hear the phrase is a narrative. Also, it is descriptive of real social trends. On average, it's more lonely out there than it used to be. Researchers do surveys asking people how many friends they have, how close they are with those friends, how they feel. It's real data and then they do real statistical analysis on it. If you want to be serious, go look at the papers and then you can figure out how much you care. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 04:09 AM |
| 7 | I haven't seen any proof that physical attraction is subjective in any meaningful wayYou're doing black-and-white thinking, as if physical characteristics always land at extreme poles of a spectrum. But that's the opposite of what's true; physical characteristics generally fall in a "normal distribution," where most people, including you, are close to the average. Think about your own experience of attraction. You probably have some ideal in your head for what is a good boob size. When a woman has a boob size outside that ideal, is it a turn off? Does it stop you from feeling at… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/04/24 05:11 PM |
| 15 | I think the cure for inceldom for most incels is a purely sexual casual encounter.It's not exactly a bad outcome if someone can realize the thing they've been fetishizing doesn't give them lasting contentment. That sounds like a first step in breaking free of a bad idea. Sucks in the moment though to realize you've been wasting a lot of energy. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/24 12:12 AM |
| 10 | How "good" do I have to be to find a girlfriend?Well, if you never talk to any women, then you definitely won't find a wife. So, given that fact, what are you going to do? And, yes, you are good enough to meet new people. You have friends that like you well enough, so then you're good to go make friends with a girl that wants to kiss you. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/04/24 10:03 PM |
| 0 | Please tell me how I'm wrong...Maybe pity the guys who are getting friend-zoned? Not that you'd want it any other way, but I'd guess a few of those guys are probably none too happy. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/24 09:01 PM |
| 13 | I’ll never be desiredDoes that match up with your own inner experience? Like, have you ever felt hot for someone who doesn't have a porn-star body? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/24 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Why does my brain force me to be miserable?That's a really good insight. I've also found that my mood is not directly tied to what's happening in my life, good or bad; my mood kind of does it's own thing. There are things you can try that might help with that insatiable feeling, but it's got little to do with chasing after stuff. Psych people speak well of gratitude journaling, it's got science evidence and everything. Also a meditation practice is good, I mean, kinda boring, hard to keep it up for long, but it is one of those healthy th… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/24 03:06 PM |
| 12 | Why are men who disapprove of Redpill considered feminists?People use labels relative to their own worldview. Someone who drinks water can be a health-nut, a guy with hair growing down to his ears can be a hippy, and yea someone who isn't actively celebrating misogyny can be a feminist. If you're far enough gone, then the whole world is sheeple enslaved to thing-you-hate. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Somenthing i never understand.The whole point is to cultivate a feeling of insecurity, so they can sell you a fake solution. To do that they need a kind of mythic figure judging you and your masculinity, that's "women." It's not really about real women, it's just creating a narrative to make you feel bad. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | How to des-radicalizeI agree, it's a problem when people sort of turn off their brain so they can recite a slogan. I know it's exhausting to deliver principled arguments all the time over and over, so I understand getting a bit lazy sometimes and giving curt reasons for why a thing is bad. Unfortunately some people never get to the core of the arguments. When you study something seriously, your beliefs are not easily shaken, and actually understanding a theory means you understand the world better. So, basically, I … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/02/24 03:33 PM |
| 3 | How to des-radicalizeSo these are problems you're having, and you're finding that the redpill stuff isn't solving those problems. Yea, you should be looking for solutions in other places. There's no easy answer to, like, an existential crisis. There are a lot of different answers, and you'll have to look all over and do a lot of thinking for yourself. I really like the podcast Philosophize This! for meaning of life type content. If you're having trouble with your social and/or romantic life... the most costly option… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/02/24 05:34 AM |
| 11 | women gushing about their husbands make me feel put offThe thing you decide on tomorrow is probably better than the thing you try out today. Also, having emotional intimacy with your sexual partner is so obviously a good thing, like the best and most important thing. It's great that she figured that out and you should try to get on her level. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/24 03:50 AM |
| 13 | Feeling invisible (need help)Who knows, man. Kinda sounds like you're a mean narcissist who has identified another mean narcissist. So, you have to figure she is just as self-centered as you are, why would she play your games or care about your feelings? Or she's really a very different person from you except for a few superficial quirks, this kinship is a lot of projection on your part and she's actually very spacey in general. Anyway, this belongs in a private diary, where you can process these feelings endlessly. While y… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/24 11:47 PM |
| 12 | I think the solution to TRP and inceldom is for a person to have a consensual purely sexual encounter with a woman.It could depending on their particular mindset. I think it was in this podcast episode with Rachel O'Neill that I heard it explained that sexual conquest serves as a kind of social capital, like masculinity-capital. So, yea, if that's where his head is at and he isn't getting any, it's pretty devastating, devastating enough to sign up with any grifter who promises to fix it. I think you're right that it stems from a need for validation, but I'm not convinced it's exactly a need for validation fr… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/24 03:37 PM |
| 2 | I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustratingYou've got to imagine they are speaking from their own perspective. Like, the people taking the time to consider the issue, these are not the same people who go for the first hot guy to spit in their face. You ask them what's important, and they tell you what's important to them specifically. The whole thing is a sort of just-world fallacy. Bad things happen to bad people, being lonely is bad, therefore if you're lonely then it must be because you're a bad person. Bad people are [fill in the bla… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/24 01:30 AM |
| 46 | Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, have fun, and be adventurous in life whenever I’m feeling lonely, will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous?I can understand sex being fun. I don't understand this as a way to deal with emotional pain. Maybe it relieves a little stress, but I imagine it won't resolve anything, very soon you'll be right back where you were. And I really don't understand "bragging" about it. No one likes a show-off anyway, but also no one is going to be impressed that you paid someone to be nice to you. Like, when people post about their therapy sessions, they aren't bragging, you know? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/24 04:35 AM |
| 42 | Married Woman Obsessively Reading Romance NovelsIt means... she really likes romance novels? It's entertainment, people like to be entertained. Unless it's getting in the way of her having a fulfilling life, consuming media is generally seen as ok. What would you think of a guy in his thirties who spends that much time watching anime or something? cringey sure, but it's not problematic. If she wants to spend less time on that but just can't give it up, a therapist could help figure out what's going on. But there's no need to make a problem ou… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/24 10:51 PM |
| 12 | Passaport bros and sexual tourism.Well, no they aren't, that's what I'm saying. Maybe people do travel to Switzerland for sex (prostitution is legal there apparently), but it's a non-issue because no one thinks Swiss people are targets for exploitation. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/24 06:31 AM |
| 36 | Passaport bros and sexual tourism.The point of sexual tourism (I imagine) is to take advantage of someone's desperate circumstances and then fly back to your comfortable home. What makes it gross is the desperate circumstances and the power imbalance created by capitalism and poverty and the laws about who gets to cross borders. Like, if we were getting stories about passport bros in Switzerland, they would still look ridiculous, but no one would be upset. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/24 05:30 AM |
| 12 | It’s like I’m waking up from lifeless dream…This sounds like depression symptoms. It might be that fixating on redpill content is one more thing being caused by a depression episode. Get off the redpill stuff, for sure, but then you'll need to do more beyond that to recapture your passions. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/12/23 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Age gaps relationshipOne of the big mistakes of all gender-essentialist ideology is they don't recognize diversity, how there's no accounting for taste. It's like you were deeply invested in a cult that endlessly denounced and warned against pineapple on pizza. And then you tried a hawaiian pizza, and turns out you're really into it. So do you then deny yourself this newfound joy? Just because some loud assholes insist that pepperoni is the only acceptable pizza topping? No. You grow up, become your own person, and … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/12/23 07:33 PM |
| 12 | How am I not supposed to be bitter about women having more options?I've got an aphorism you might not have heard yet: when you're dying of thirst, it's easy to envy someone who is drowning. I do get how you can be pissed off with the "casual sex ain't worth much" crowd, but they're expressing themselves honestly and they are revealing something important, people can be unhappy even when they have the object of your desire. You might still be unhappy even after getting lots of casual sex. That's the nature of the hedonic treadmill. There's always going to be som… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/12/23 09:49 PM |
| 5 | How to develop “charm” and sex appeal as an autist?Consider that if you're looking for a deep, long-term relationship, it'd be no good for you to be masking the whole time. It's a cliche, but you really do want someone who likes the real you, not a facade. Fortunately, authenticity and vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with confidence. If you stop feeling afraid of your awkwardness, you will appear more confident; because confidence is the absence of fear, right? Number one thing you can do, if you've got a good dad joke, don't hold it back. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/12/23 10:52 PM |
| 3 | What are alternatives to redpill/PUA/manosphere stuff that can help men be better with women?I just want to validate what you're saying. If there's reputable resources for this, I don't know where they are, and (not seeing any under this post) it's possible they don't exist. The standard advice, "just be normal," that sucks for people who can't normal their way out of a wet paper bag. Anyway, my two cents for how you might have better conversations: Don't worry about boring people. (This is a typical social anxiety delusion, ask your therapist) If you're interested in what you have to s… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/12/23 07:55 PM |
| 3 | What you have thoughts about modern feminism and modern masculinity on internet?There's a lot of people desperate to know how to be a part of the group, they want to feel belonging and acceptance. And, for different reasons, manosphere and feminist content seem like some way one can learn to be a person that everyone likes (oh, the irony). Maybe in olden times these people would be over-religious (maybe some of them still are), but now no one goes to church and people get other fixations while trying to be a "good person." Being preoccupied with "correct" behavior isn't esp… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/12/23 04:40 AM |
| 9 | How do I let go of hateful thoughts I have towards women that started when I learned about red pill content?they're not interested in talking to most people, that's the whole thing... like, fine, all they have to do is show up (I disagree, but fine) they still have to show up! You're not considering what an easy choice it is between going on a date and farting around in your pajamas bingeing a true-crime documentary. If they wanted to rack up numbers I'm sure they could, but getting a higher body count isn't important to them like it is to you. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/23 12:31 AM |
| 18 | How do I let go of hateful thoughts I have towards women that started when I learned about red pill content?well, yea, you'd probably have a lot in common with them. Though, that sort of person is notoriously not interested in talking to you. So, if you try to "go for" them, that might not work out so well. My point though, is that women (and other people) in general are not like the exceptionally outgoing few. So, you don't have to target the mousy demographic, just know that any random woman in a crowd is probably closer to your idea of normal and acceptable than you've been imagining. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/23 04:08 PM |
| 36 | How do I let go of hateful thoughts I have towards women that started when I learned about red pill content?...they've usually had 20-50 past sexual partners. I've met women in my life that fit this description. Think for a moment about the sort of person who would have so many sexual partners, what's their personality like? Probably very outgoing, personable, they probably meet a lot of people. It's not so surprising you would meet someone who meets so many people. On the other hand, think of someone who is introverted, shy, poor people skills. They have probably had few sexual partners. And, you're … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/23 07:31 AM |
| 6 | Insecure that my partner would leave for a Black GuySo, in this fantasy, the fantasy woman is leaving you for fantasy big black cock? And you think about this and feel insecure, inadequate, fearful. idk, that's all fine, the racial dynamic is weird but also weirdly common. You're allowed to have these fantasies and feel these feelings, do what you want. It might be that it's not the specific fantasy of a Black guy stealing your woman away, but a general sort of humiliation/submission kink. So, if you want to give up this specific fantasy, try exp… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/11/23 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Is this red-pill content?Google the name, in the first few results is a bunch of results from reddit of people saying he's a huckster. https://www.reddit.com/r/agency/comments/y2m414/iman_gadzhi_is_a_scam_please_avoid_this_guy/ So, he's got at least one thing in common with the redpill gurus. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Insecurity that partner might leave for someone "bigger"So, is this a real partner? Or is it a hypothetical future partner? If these are the imagined ideals of an imagined partner... that's just you and your ideals. And, I think it's fine to have an ideal of masculinity that you want to live up to, it's fine to have gender. You could consciously ponder on that a little, consider if "rich with big dick" is really what it means to be a manly man. But to the extent that it's within your power to actualize your ideal self, go for it. Get a penis pump and… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/23 11:32 PM |
| 5 | Olivia Fane: Intimacy is seriously unsexy.really? one could get a dolly for the dolly, problem solved. And if the issue is cleaning up... that's just part of sex regardless of how many people are involved. These are small problems to overcome for something desirable, but most people aren't into it. I think because literally fucking an object is not sexy (for most people). | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/23 07:20 PM |
| 9 | Olivia Fane: Intimacy is seriously unsexy.It's just the opposite for lots of people. Trust and personal connection is a prerequisite for attraction. People who feel this way in the extreme even came up with a term for it, "demisexual." But I suspect most people feel this way to some degree, otherwise the sex doll industry would be much bigger. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/23 05:34 PM |
| 10 | Olivia Fane: Intimacy is seriously unsexy.It's a professional writer turning "hot-takes" into book sales. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/23 05:28 PM |
| 1 | When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better.It definitely doesn't make them better. I do think at a high enough number it counts as an accomplishment. 500 is high but probably manageable for a normal-ish person. But if we're talking like 2,000 and up; that's a friggin project, I'd be a little daunted just shaking that many hands. My hat is off to the crazy overzealous people, whatever it is they get obsessed with. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/23 02:17 PM |
| 6 | Is it really true that women are born high value? And what do you think of guys trying to “escape the matrix”?This is the sort of thing you would think if you absolutely broke your brain obsessing about sex. Like, here's a very obvious thing that sets women up for success, they get socialized to be friendly and cooperative. Off hand, which do you think contributes more to success, someone wants to fuck vs. someone thinks you'd work well on a team? Pretty privilege is real, but then there's everything else that people base decisions on; reducing everything down to looks is insane. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/23 09:03 PM |
| 15 | Was I wrong all alongI feel like I should apologize for being unclear. You've read this as me laughing at someone for being wrong, not the case. I'm laughing at the mental image of hundreds of millions of women each scrambling to fill up a dance card with hundreds of slots. Hundreds is seriously so many; it's silly how many it is. (not to shame those people with hundreds of partners... I am laughing at those people, but in a nice way) | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/23 04:59 AM |
| 21 | Was I wrong all alongThat last one just makes me laugh. I guess a different guy every month for ten years would do it, or every week for two years. I'm sure people like that exist, but I can't think of any I've met. When I look it up, 87% of women have had less than 15 sexual partners, 47% have had less than 5. Go look up facts produced by people who did serious basic research, don't trust people who get paid to talk shit for hours on end. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/09/23 10:58 PM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on the men’s self improvement YouTube channels How to Beast and Fitxfearless?I'm not familiar, but Fitxfearless seems fine? Like, idk if his advice is really the best, but at least he seems focused on self-improvement. Some of it is framed as "trick women into liking you," but then the trick is you become a more likable person? no complaints. This How to Beast guy though. He's weirdly adversarial against women? And also seems really unhappy? With the energy he's giving off, if he were explaining how to brew coffee, I would not trust his coffee recipe. That said, you coul… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/09/23 04:55 AM |
| 8 | PsycHacksHe's definitely targeting that audience. You just have to look at his video titles to see the theme he's going for. It's kind of sad, you can scroll through and see him try out different topics and then those get only a fifth of the views. I'm sure he'd be a crank regardless, but it's too bad he got locked into being a gender essentialism content mill. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/09/23 04:02 AM |
| 15 | guys watching...... hard core..... "stuff".... yet watching videos and preaching "i want a pure virgin wife". What is that called? Derangement ? I'm sorry, I throw my hands up for this one.It's only contradictory if you think they're honestly espousing a moral code. But they don't really care about the morals of any of it, it's about controlling and using women, right? So they can use some women as jerk off material, and also they can fantasize about having full control over the sexuality of a virginal trad wife. It's all a power fantasy for guys who, I'm guessing, feel mostly powerless. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/23 08:35 PM |
| 3 | is a woman allowed to be self sufficient, or search for a way to be self reliant ?You're asking this like there's a definite reality to any of it, but it's all extremely made up. You can follow someone else's rule book if you want to, but ultimately it's up to you and your partner how you spend your time and delegate responsibilities. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/08/23 06:19 PM |
| 1 | could use some encouragement this morningFor sure it sounds like you're in a bad situation. If there's really nothing fun around within walking distance, I consider that a bad scene. I hope you can find something you like to do in your free time, something uplifting. Even if it's something silly like a video game or whatever, it's important to have moments of joy in your day. It's seriously worthwhile to actively support your own emotional and mental health. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/23 02:01 AM |
| 6 | I'm still red pilledimo, it's great that you're getting value out of it and find yourself being a better person. I think a lot of red-pill content is silly, but there's also some solid self-help material scattered in there. A suggestion, you can get even more value by exploring self-help content outside the red-pill echo-chamber. Having multiple perspectives/narratives to analyze yourself and others is objectively better than having just one. And, that's the goal, to be more capable, right? So, read/listen broadly,… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/23 05:15 PM |
| 12 | Would you marry a bisexual girl?lol, what? I thought the stigma was that they can't sit in chairs correctly. If you think the people in your circle are going to be calling your wife a whore, you need to keep better company. I'm sorry but, grow a fucking spine and follow your heart. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/23 05:14 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on OnlyFans?So, the premise is this, some guys will see a total stranger (not their partner) making money by selling nudes and then feel jealous of that stranger. Because to these guys (who don't know much about the business of selling nudes) it seems like easy money, and they would like to make money without working hard themselves; the easy money is what they are jealous of. And I'm saying, there's no need to feel jealous when anyone can try and do what they do. Also I'm not talking about the challenges o… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/07/23 10:57 PM |
| 5 | RP dudes going to the gym for all the wrong reasonsI think I get what you mean. External validation is an unreliable source of motivation. They'd be better off if exercise were something they did for themself, for fun or like self-care. Because no amount of rejection can spoil internal motivation. Still it can be a healthy habit, maybe they get started for the wrong reason and keep at it for good reasons. Maybe one of those moments where you yes and them and list off those better reasons to go to the gym, plant a little seed in their head. (also… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/07/23 10:49 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on OnlyFans?I wasn't trying to comment on rules within a relationship (and honestly I'm not sure how you got that from what I wrote). I meant if you are jealous of someone selling their nudes, then go sell your own nudes live that dream. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/07/23 01:59 AM |
| 8 | How do I talk to women in workplace?It's not gender specific, you shouldn't talk to women or men in a way that might make them uncomfortable. So, asking them about their bowel movements or the size of their genitals or other creepy shit... don't do it, regardless of gender. Not all guys are going to be comfortable with whatever transgressive "guy talk" you have in mind. As you get to know people you might become more casual, but you should start from the assumption that everyone is very sensitive and uptight. Like you're talking t… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/07/23 11:26 PM |
| 15 | What are your thoughts on OnlyFans?For anyone feeling jealous, I'd encourage them to try it out for themself. Anyone of age is allowed to make porn of themself. If that's seems too distasteful for you... well then, there you go, you're like someone jealous of the kid who makes five dollars for eating a worm. If it all seems fine to you, and you make it as far as actually engaging with an audience, then I think that'll temper your jealously just as quickly. Or anyway you'll be jealous for different reasons, with a newfound respect… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/23 10:45 PM |
| 3 | *sigh* let me try this again... "women are attracted to men with muscles"ummm, pretty sure that video features a guy? | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 04:12 AM |
| 6 | *sigh* let me try this again... "women are attracted to men with muscles"I think it's guys who really like muscles. They mostly do it for other guys, kind of like how women mostly do fashion for other women. Like, point me at the post from a woman who is demanding guys go to the gym and get swole. It doesn't happen, because only a dude would be so weird about this. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/23 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Young man here, is still a chance to return to "normal"?It sounds like part of the appeal is just having a feed of content that feels engaging and fun, maybe self-help stuff in particular. To give up an addiction, it's helpful to replace the harmful behavior with something less harmful that fills that same need. I think just about every comedian has a podcast these days, so if there's any you like then look them up and let that fill your earholes. Theo Von has maybe a thousand hours of content, try that out https://www.youtube.com/c/theovon/videos Fo… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/23 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Can incels be helped?I'm not sure I really follow the question... If the unlikable hermits become lovable socialites, I believe they'll begin fucking, yes. But it seems to me the issue is whether everyone can change, and I'm not sure everyone can. I think some people are wholly the embodiment of a bad vibe and come hell or high-water they'll stay that way. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/23 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Can incels be helped?Incels exist, yes; some people want a fuck partner but they can't manage to find a partner. To make a bad analogy, we don't say there's no such thing as "unemployed" people because we assume they might get a job with some more effort. Everyone could be helped somehow... do you mean could they ever be in a healthy relationship? Maybe, depends on how attached they are to their insecurity and bad ideas. People with all sorts of looks and situations manage to get into relationships. The only real re… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/23 10:48 PM |
| 9 | What do you think of this guy?I think he's super off-putting, and I'm a little confused why he has so many subscribers. The writing feels rambling and the way he reads it is awkward. Like he's trying to turn his baseless opinions into a content mill. I guess that's pretty par for the course with youtubers, but the false authority this guy is trying to project makes me cringe. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/06/23 02:14 AM |
| 2 | How do I stop feeling insecure for not looking dominant or masculine enough?People definitely aren't thinking all that when they see you. You've obviously got some strong feelings about gender, but I think most people don't really care. Like, maybe they'd think you're a bit goofy for having long hair, but if you asked them "are you imagining that I'm a sissy submissive looking for a top?" they would say "wtf" Presumably, if some person is going to disregard you because of how you look, this is not a person you want to make friends with anyway; no problem there. Maybe yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/06/23 01:46 AM |
| 3 | "Women dont like guys who are below 6 foot"The part where you didn't even know what six foot means is very funny to me. Imagine someone were to pitch the idea to you in centimeters, they say to you, "women only like guys over 182.9 cm." lol, what is it not 180 cm? or 183? no, no, the dividing line is specifically just below 183 same statement, but it hits a little different with the conversion, looks a lot more silly and arbitrary and imaginary | /r/ExRedPill | 03/06/23 05:14 AM |
| 7 | Does gynocentrism even exist?People are blind to their own privilege, the grass is always greener etc. Maybe, it is men struggling to describe the gendered discrimination they experience while also trying very hard not to make common cause with feminists. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/23 04:56 AM |
| 4 | Don't feel masculine because of my average penis sizeI think a psychologist might call that "delusional body dysmorphia." The common example I'd think of is a skin-and-bones anorexic who thinks they're super fat. It's kind of wild to experience it from the inside, and to know it's happening; it's like an optical illusion or a Shepard tone or something. If it bothers you enough you could see a psych therapist, but I think sometimes it's easier to just cope with a delusion by accepting that you don't see reality clearly and using the rational part o… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/23 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Don't feel masculine because of my average penis sizeSo, I've been going down the rabbit hole a little on "penis enhancement." Don't do that, there's no way it's good for mental health. But since I went there and broke my brain, I've brought back a couple tidbits for you. First: https://calcsd.info you're above average, this will tell you exactly how far above average you are. Second, you're focused on size, lots of people focus on size, but instead consider "erection quality." Can you get an erection easily, how hard do you get, how long does it … | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | If redpill is what women want, then why do RP men hide that they are RP?Sure. I think their ideology is garbage, but then there are plenty of people with a similar patriarchal mindset who aren't "redpill" and those people do just fine socially. So, it's not 100% the bad theory that turns away friends. You ought to give up the anti-feminism evo-psych nonsense, but I do agree that nobody likes a complainer. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 09:47 PM |
| 4 | Exredpill = antiredpill?As I was writing it I was thinking "Joe Rogan is one rant away from making this exact scenario happen, and he'd do it too" | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/23 06:02 AM |
| 3 | Exredpill = antiredpill?It's kind of a nonsense question. There's no canonical bible of redpill, so its tenets are just whatever people are saying. If redpill gets really into pistachio ice-cream for whatever reason, no one is going to be against pistachio ice-cream for the sake of being "anti." Scroll through the sub and you'll see people being against specific things for reasonable reasons. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/23 04:49 AM |
| 19 | If redpill is what women want, then why do RP men hide that they are RP?Ironically, because being a redpill ideologue means you're probably a low status loser (or at least see yourself that way), and everyone knows it. Like, if everything is going well for you then you're not going to fall into a "self-help" cult. Even if you're talking to one of the few people who might be into that shit, telling them you're part of the redpill community is basically saying you do not embody any redpill ideals. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/04/23 03:43 AM |
| 1 | I still support the Red Pill, but I think I've had enough....Seek at once, therefore, to be able to say to every unpleasing semblance, “You are but a semblance and by no means the real thing.” And then examine it by those rules which you have; and first and chiefly by this: whether it concerns the things which are within our own power or those which are not; and if it concerns anything beyond our power, be prepared to say that it is nothing to you. - Epictetus | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Is my friend a pedophile?Maybe if she were some preternaturally mature 18 year old, living independently, in control of herself and her life, then you could get some wiggle room on the age gap. But, that's not what this is right? Like, if she were a 28 year old woman living with her parents and lying that she's dating him and busting through his door... that'd be throwing off a whole lot of red flags too, right? What are this guys standards for women? I think take age out of it and it still feel sketchy, the age gap jus… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/23 03:21 PM |
| 2 | What to do when I’m put on the spot about my sex life?It's definitely not fun to talk about the things going wrong in your life, but lying about it probably doesn't feel great either. Maybe this is would only work for me because I love to complain, but I would be honest about it, "no I'm not fucking, yes it's miserable, haha, thanks for asking." Same way you would talk about having a headache or a broken car, it sucks, but sometimes life is sucky and there's not much reason to be secretive about it. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/04/23 06:50 PM |
| 2 | How real is the risk of cancellation really?I feel like what you're talking about is mostly a thing within a workplace. And, check whatever internal policy your company has, but generally the safe bet is to not try to date people from work. Making friends is fine, but maybe think of coworkers as off limits like you would for a sister-in-law or something. There's a pretty good reason for this too, the object of your affection is stuck there without the option to avoid you. You can extend that reasoning to other situations, like, it's impol… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/23 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Should men control their emotions?What everyone else said about feeling deeply and still behaving well regardless of your feelings. ALSO... yea there are some techniques for manipulating your emotions and they're worthwhile to learn. This is essentially the idea of cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness practices, controlling the focus of your thoughts to reduce stress and suffering. There is a paradox here in that you don't want to suppress your feelings, but if you let them run free they may suppress you. Like, if you pu… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 02:54 PM |
| 1 | someone change my mind?Why would you want to change your mind, to believe "redpill / andrew tate" is wrong? If you're sure that a belief is true and guides you to be a good person, then you should believe it. What do you think there is about redpill that is not so good? | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 01:22 AM |
| 1 | What are everyone on here's thoughts on paternity testing?Seems fine and good to me. It shouldn't be some intolerable insult to your character for someone to suggest you've been cheating. People cheat, it's not uncommon, it's hurtful and mean and unacceptable, but it's also a relatively normal human thing to get emotional and fuck the wrong person. Usually it doesn't lead to pregnancy, but shit happens. So, to me cheating doesn't seem like such a big deal, whereas paternity actually does seem like a big deal. Paternity is such a consequential thing to … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/23 04:37 AM |
| 2 | What are everyone on here's thoughts on paternity testing?taking a median seems like a weird way to get to a useful measurement, I'd think some kind of weighted average would be better... but, and I know statistics has weird notions of what's "rare," even if we take 3.7% as the right number, one out of twenty-seven sounds pretty common to me. Like, if there were a lottery you could play, for a quarter million dollars prize, with a 1/27 chance of winning, everyone would play that lottery, even if it cost $700 for a ticket. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/23 04:03 AM |
| 9 | Is the "80/20 rule" true, in which only the top 20% of men are desirable to 80% of women? I feel as though I have missed the boat in terms of "making it" as a 25-year-old.I mean this in the nicest way possible. If you've never had the energy and drive and psychopathic focus to be the dominating muscle-bound high income blah blah blah... then how are you expecting to be keeping up with gangs of women rushing at you like an Axe body spray ad? Be a little more serious about what you want, and it should appear much more achievable. The reality is probably more like 100% of men are attractive to 5% of women, but it's going to be a different 5% depending on the guy (th… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/02/23 08:58 PM |
| 6 | What hobby to choose in order to meet women organically?I think you should join a book club. I don't expect you'll pick up a girlfriend directly from that club, but your hobbies are lacking in the humanities and exploring different perspectives on the human condition is going to make you a more likable person in general (though, of course, I'm sure you're already delightful). | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/23 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Did being red pilled change your physical preferences in the women you wanted to date/marry/sleep with?Wild guess. He doesn't actually want a skinny 20 year old, but he does enjoy calling a woman fat and being insulting. So now he's roped in someone else to bully, which is what he really wants. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/02/23 11:09 PM |
| 3 | just had a thought while on "that" one websiteYou shouldn't lie or hurt people, obviously, this is basic ethics. The better question is this: why do you want to? What are you getting out of this experience you recognize as harmful to yourself and others? Besides this shame, how are you feeling using this site? Understand your motivations and you can devise different ways to meet your needs. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/02/23 03:51 AM |
| 6 | I'm not sure how to move past this whole partner count stat. Even if it is real or not.There's got to be some correlation between having a high body count and certain character traits. And then maybe those character traits are things you want to avoid in a partner. Ok, nothing wrong with that. Though, it's worth remembering that when you discriminate based on a proxy, you aren't looking at the thing you really care about, it's just a proxy. So, a body count might imply some other facts about a person, but not definitively. Take it as one piece of information that helps you build a… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/23 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Is evolutionary psychology even a thing?I think of it as a theoretical framework for psychology. Are there any psychological phenomena where an evolutionary framework has explanatory power? Sure, given the behavioral similarities between humans and other primates compared to the behavioral dissimilarity between humans and reptiles, I'd be willing to argue evolution has shaped our psychology to some degree. Does that mean we should try explain all of psychology primarily through an evolutionary lens? No! Like,you can explain a lot of g… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/23 08:52 PM |
| 4 | I'm worried about my boyfriendWhat seems most weird in all that is not talking about your goals. I've heard this before from non-redpill places (first google result) but it sounds like he's taking it to an unhealthy extreme. If you can't talk about your hopes and dreams with your partner, idk it's just sad. And it plays into the fact that you're not even sure what he's insecure about. Like, if you knew what he's striving after then you could reassure him somehow, so he wouldn't feel reliant on motivational speakers to get th… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/23 09:53 PM |
| 1 | I hate men dating cultureHere's a better idea, go up to 50 people a day and ask each of them if they think it's important and good to "get bitches." Nothing against the deranged people who are just trying to rack up a body count. But, I think most would say what's important is you form deep intimate connections with other people. That's not about having "game," it's being an authentic, open, and loving person; cultivating the qualities that enable emotional intimacy. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/02/23 03:47 PM |
| 6 | Am I red pilled if I watch Hamza and Andrew TateI don't want to attack you for taking care of yourself and striving for excellence, those are good impulses and really admirable. I think the problems come in when you decide what an "improved" you would be like. How did you decide what are the better qualities you want to cultivate and the worse qualities you want to diminish? If you're taking your goals from fools and hucksters, there's no guarantee you have a guide to real improvements that will serve you well. Which isn't to say everything t… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/02/23 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Size insecurityIt would be really silly if having a big dick actually solved insecurity. Like, he's balding, bad skin, missing a nose, can exclusively grow a beard on the neck, weird nipples. But all he ever thinks about is his flawless ten inch penis. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/02/23 05:50 AM |
| 2 | I just want to be happy. Why does everyone have it so easy? Why is life so painful? Why does everyone have it so easy?This is mental illness, you're not going to fix it by chatting on reddit. Get yourself to a professional therapist. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists | /r/ExRedPill | 02/02/23 06:21 PM |
| 4 | So, how does a guy supposed to get confidence and be interesting to women?Confidence is being comfortable with who you are and with what you do. If you feel like there's something wrong with you, that's a lack of confidence. I see myself as boring and normal, but to other people I seem confident in my eccentricity. Whatever you're into, enjoy it unapologetically (assuming it's not somehow harming people). You become interesting when you embrace your inner passion for stuff and let yourself get exceedingly into it. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/23 04:39 AM |
| 3 | I’m afraid I’m too short to dateFirst, I'd encourage you to do some cold emotionless math. You're not so short; you're taller than the average woman in even the tallest countries and very close to the average man most places. But, if that knowledge doesn't help, maybe your insecurity isn't really about your height, and you've got some introspection to do. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/23 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: men who fail at relationships with women must learn to think like womenYes, when you are trying to build any kind of relationship, you should try to imagine the thoughts and feelings of the other person. Empathy is fundamental for treating people with respect and kindness. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/23 09:44 PM |
| 19 | I am not sure if I want a relationship .People who want avoid sex are called "asexual," and people who want to avoid romance are called "aromantic." If that's you, might find some camaraderie in those communities. Or maybe, you think you should want to avoid sex and romance, but as it is you do desire all that stuff. That would be a good reason to seek therapy, to help resolve those conflicted feelings. In any case, it's fine to be single, it's fine to be dating, it's fine to feel attraction, it's fine to not feel attraction. I do thi… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/23 04:42 AM |
| 3 | A balanced view?I think I do follow you, and it's a relatable story. Still I'd want to differentiate between thoughtless people and a batshit ideology. To me what you're describing sounds like an abuser. I agree there's a strong bias in general against seeing women as abusers and men as abuse victims, but I don't think that's a product of feminism; try imagining some guy in the 40's getting sympathy because his wife beats him. An abuser will use anything and everything to manipulate the people around them, the … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 07:41 PM |
| 9 | A balanced view?So, what is the other extreme? What is this "being delusional"? Because I think everyone agrees dating can be hard, the points of disagreement are where the redpill ideology gets unhinged from reality. Am I missing some obvious thing? | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/23 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Help, I feel like I'm not allowed to be productive.It's ok and normal for you two to have different interests. Bert and Ernie still manage to be friends, you know? | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 06:40 AM |
| 10 | "You have a lot of nervous energy, are you a shy person?"What if, instead of trying to control your body, you made a conscious effort to feel safe and open and loving? This is the difference between classical acting (controlling every aspect of your mannerism) and method acting (where you try to embody the character you want to portray by adopting their mindset). I'm always very impressed by classical actors, but I think it'd be too much as a lifestyle. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/01/23 07:51 PM |
| 3 | I honestly don't understand the people here anymore and it's making me depressedIf they actually believed they were 10x better than any therapist, then they would go make bank as the world's best therapists. What they're saying is a lie and they know it. And, if you want to get out from under them, sorting out psychological issues is a good place to start. Look up what your insurance co-pay is for mental health treatment, it might be much less than you think. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 09:08 PM |
| 8 | How do you stop associating value and self-worth to romantic validation from women?Most people couldn't be happy alone, but you could probably be happy without romance. Value and invest in those non-sexual non-romantic relationships you have, and build more where you can. Close friendships are great and they can be way more stable than romances. Sex is fun and all, but the thing you hear most people go on about is the emotional intimacy they have with their partner. You don't actually need sex to feel close to someone. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 04:20 AM |
| 2 | One thing I can’t let go about red pill (making me feel very insecure about my sex life)learning the ropes ba-dum-tss "vast majority" is an empirical claim with survey data. Obviously it depends on specifically what is being asked, but it is apparently, actually, a slight majority who are interested in the very broad category of "rough" sex. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 07:13 PM |
| 2 | One thing I can’t let go about red pill (making me feel very insecure about my sex life)Sex is all kinds of things to all kinds of people. Seriously, if you think you've heard it all, you haven't, and you probably don't want to. Ultimately you've got to figure out what you want out of a sexual experience, and if that involves a partner (or partners) then you are looking for a partner with compatible desires. There are some people who love a mean girlfriend who insults them. But, for you, that was a bad experience, good riddance to that bad scene, you live and learn. Now you can fin… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 02:51 AM |
| 1 | True thoughts about nofap?I guess it depends on your mindset, it matters how you practice. If you're just cranking one out, no. If you're paying attention to your experience, aiming for transcendent self-love, yea I think that's worthwhile practice. Everyone's sexual response is kind of different so knowing your own doesn't totally prepare you for someone else, but you can understand your own experience the most deeply. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/23 03:20 PM |
| 2 | True thoughts about nofap?Sure, I feel confident that won't break anything. On the other hand it also is not going to imbue you with magic powers; except of course the inner spiritual power that comes from any good magickal ritual. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/23 05:59 AM |
| 1 | True thoughts about nofap?It's probably harmless except that you'll be bad at sex if you never practice. (And maybe a slightly higher rate of prostate cancer?) And you'll have way less orgasms, but maybe that's not important to you. If you're just obsessed with semen retention (still a little silly, but whatever), that doesn't necessarily preclude masturbating. When I was about your age I came across "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" which is full of it's own unbelievable bullshit... anyway, as I remember it's like a pseudo-spiri… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/23 05:45 AM |
| 37 | Why is it that some guys get made fun of for not getting laid? (Brutal honesty is appreciated)Because it's hurtful, right? They know it's something most guys feel defines their self-worth, so it's pretty much guaranteed to be upsetting. btw, since this is at work it's some pretty textbook sexual-harassment hostile work environment shit. Those laws aren't written just to protect women. How long do you think you'd get away with it if you were always commenting on how much dick she's getting? I say you go over her head to the appropriate authority and force her to knock it off. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | "Status" is not what most people thinkWhen I say status is a fundamental drive, I mean it's present all the time in our mind, like a drive for pleasure or satisfaction or curiosity. When you say the urge to kill is pretty much the same, I can only imagine you mean you are nearly constantly experiencing an urge to kill the people around you. Maybe I misunderstood you? I won't deny people are capable of murder, that's very different from it being a central part of everyone's psychology. And, like OP is saying, status seeking doesn't n… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | "Status" is not what most people thinkOur ancestors spent much more time living in small closeknit groups that rarely ran into other groups of people. Survival day to day was about cooperation and socializing. Being murderous in that context is not a good evolutionary strategy, it's likely to get you shunned or killed yourself. What is a good strategy is to be well liked by the people around you. I don't know where you got these ideas about early humans, but it sounds off to me. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 05:12 PM |
| 1 | "Status" is not what most people thinkuhhhmmm... do we? I don't notice that very much. Like, in myself or in others. But I often notice a desire to be liked and respected. I guess everyone is unique, but to me being murderous and vengeful sounds like a scary and unusual headspace. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 04:51 PM |
| 0 | "Status" is not what most people thinkI definitely ignored how important status is to each and every person. This episode from You Are Not So Smart podcast really shifted my perspective. Even if you're seemingly content as a lonely outsider, status is a fundamental drive for our social primate psychology/biology and it is always affecting us. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/12/22 05:59 PM |
| 10 | Becoming a better manLow self-esteem for sure, but I think it also appeals to people who struggle with empathy. What people like about the "warm, funny, caring" guy is that he pays attention to their mood and uplifts them. I'm not sure you have to be any of those things per se in order to address someone's emotional needs, but what's necessary is awareness of their emotional needs and enough knowledge to act appropriately. Like, you can be stone faced and silent and still give someone a needed hug. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/22 05:13 PM |
| 2 | So I feel myself getting red-pilled.first off, I think you're good, it's healthy to be critical. You should probably remember to actively let go of an idea you've taken on "for the sake of argument," but whatever. Anyway, I love recommending youtube channels, heck yea: https://www.youtube.com/@Sisyphus55 https://www.youtube.com/@roramdin https://www.youtube.com/@NoahSamsen https://www.youtube.com/@ThoughtSlime https://www.youtube.com/@KidologyCO https://www.youtube.com/@TaraMooknee https://www.youtube.com/@BigJoel But those are al… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/12/22 04:55 PM |
| 7 | Height preferencesA therapist could help you challenge those ideas. But you might start working through it on your own and see if that's enough. Like I said, try to look at both sides of the idea. Argue for it, argue against it, try to find the mistakes in the arguments you're making, try to spot the unfounded assumptions and emotional exaggerations in your thinking. Write things down, read them back to yourself, try swapping out "height" for some other physical quality and see how that sounds to you. It's work, … | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/22 09:21 PM |
| 4 | Height preferencesand you are taller than them, and thus they might like you, that's all fine them's the breaks but you don't have to You need to break free of this idea in your own mind. Making your insecurity about what women think moves it safely out of your control, but you're not even trying to date the women who wouldn't date someone shorter than them (EDIT: or, maybe you are for the ones shorter than you, but not the ones taller than you where it would actually be an issue, you get what I mean)... so, it's… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/22 09:08 PM |
| 11 | Height preferenceswait... so what is even the issue? if there's a woman taller than you, and she's not interested in you and you're not interested in her... then you two agree. I wonder if this has less to do with women's preferences and more to do with your own self image and measuring up (literally) to your own ideas about being a masculine man. Fortunately, compared to your height or the societal construct of gender, it's relatively easy to change your mind. Take some time to think critically about equating ma… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/22 08:44 PM |
| 3 | How can a 30 year old incel guy meet college aged girls?Yes, totally understandable question, it's very different from meeting women in other age brackets. You're going to need a unicycle, an espresso machine, and a very large pet snake. Also, of course, you should familiarize yourself with semaphore and HVAC repair. Once that's squared away you can begin practicing The Ritual, and after a few weeks everything should fall into place very naturally. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/22 01:07 AM |
| 3 | My Best Guy Friend is Sucked In.This all sounds really awful. But to my mind the most unhealthy thing has to be *every* conversation revolving around girls, especially when it's a subject that only makes him angry. I would want to try engaging him on literally any other possible subject, if only because I would get very bored of having the same tired discussion over and over. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/12/22 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Is not having an ambition caused by depression or am I just making excuses for myself?It's something to sort out with a therapist or other mental health professional. Could be depression could be something else (low motivation, mental exhaustion, rejection sensitivity, sounds like ADHD to me but idk) Like, one possibility is you have a clearly diagnosable mental illness and you get appropriate treatment, nice. The other possibility is you don't have an easy diagnosis, but you still have a lot of nebulous shit going wrong and stress to go along with it, and therapy would still be … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/12/22 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Do I need a six pack to be attractive?If your goal is getting six pack, then you'd be better off asking body-building nerds. A six-pack in particular is a pretty challenging goal and likely unhealthy for most people, you definitely don't need a six pack unless you're applying to be a bathing suit model, but it's maybe technically doable. idk, it's healthy to lift weights a few times a week. Make sure you're eating enough and resting enough (that stuff is just as important as the lifting). It shouldn't be a totally miserable experien… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/22 08:28 PM |
| 8 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!Break-ups suck, it's too bad that it didn't work out. You should follow her lead and block her social media and stop crawling through her tiktok. Maybe the cosmos will bring you two back together, but nothing good will come from chasing after her. Be grateful for having had a great relationship, and, when you're ready, go have another one (with a different person). | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/22 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Whats wrong with Jordan Peterson (sorry, had to ask)I haven't spent a lot of time going through his stuff, seems empty and dull to me. But here's a round up of (mostly lefty) youtubers going off on him: THE LOBSTER KING: A GUIDE TO JORDAN PETERSON A Brief Look at Jordan Peterson - SOME MORE NEWS Jordan Peterson | ContraPoints Jordan Peterson's Ideology | Philosophy Tube The Wasteland of Jordan Peterson | Big Joel | /r/ExRedPill | 19/11/22 02:29 AM |
| 9 | Is it ridiculous that I'm jealous Women can use Onlyfans as extra income?It's not ridiculous, but firstly "not all women," and secondly "the grass is always greener on the other side." You might give Chaturbate a try as a streamer. I bet you would make at least some money, and I'm certain you would gain some perspective on what goes into putting on a sexy show for gross, desperate men. But who knows? Maybe you'll make it big! I'm rooting for you and your pervert dreams! | /r/ExRedPill | 18/11/22 11:18 PM |
| 9 | The Dumbest Red Pill TakeI think the narrative ignores a very basic fact. Sometimes you are extremely horny, and sometimes you aren't. And whether you're extremely horny or not does not totally depend on the person who is sitting across from you. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/11/22 09:43 PM |
| 8 | Men have real world problems!!!Depression is rough because, like, I could say follow your interests and build skills there, but I'm guessing nothing is interesting and everything feels hollow and pointless. The main thing is to get in to do therapy; cognitive behavioral therapy has good results, there's lots of drug options, you probably want a mix of drugs and talking. You might be living an objectively great life, but if you're looking at it through the depression fog you're just going to see hopeless loser-dom. Anyway, med… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/11/22 11:16 PM |
| 5 | If Redpill is about right wing, Republican political views, then BlackPill is tecnically NeoNazism.It's all part of a hierarchical mindset. If you imagine everyone has a ranking along some single important scale, it logically follows that you have a ranking on that scale and you're somewhere in the middle. If you're inclined to an inferiority complex you focus on all the people with a higher rank, if you're inclined to a superiority complex you focus on all the people with a lower rank. But, you're always a little mindful of the other side (and I think that is the appeal of seeing yourself as… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/11/22 04:51 PM |
| 5 | Hey r/exredpill, how do you feel about a woman/girl who BRINGS redpill ideology to a relationship where the guy doesn't know about it.haha, omg. I mean, I would never tell someone they should try to make less money. Don't you also think it would be better if you were making 100k or more? Seriously, 60k is definitely above the median and enough for a perfectly comfortable life, but even if you were making much less than that, it's such a shitty complaint. Like, if it's really all about the money, I would just say "good luck with that" and show them the door. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/11/22 12:40 AM |
| 5 | Hey r/exredpill, how do you feel about a woman/girl who BRINGS redpill ideology to a relationship where the guy doesn't know about it.again, "power" is super vague. She wants you to be mayor? or the manager at an Applebee's? or a dark and terrible wizard? or a strongman finalist? At least requesting more money is specific. And it's not bad advice. Did you know that having more money is better than having less money? It's true! lol. idk, if there's no specific action she's requesting then it seems like whining about literally nothing. How much energy do you want to spend placating someone who can't clearly articulate what they … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/22 11:35 PM |
| 8 | Hey r/exredpill, how do you feel about a woman/girl who BRINGS redpill ideology to a relationship where the guy doesn't know about it.That's so fucking vague and unactionable. Like, if she is asking for something specific, then you can judge whether or not you're going to fulfill the request. If she's just calling you a pussy in general, then what are you gonna do? because no matter what you do she can still call you a pussy ("not-alpha," whatever), because it's an empty insult. My most optimistic take is that she wants to explore a dom/sub dynamic but doesn't have the language to express that. In any case, if you want to take… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/11/22 08:18 PM |
| 3 | I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself?A good therapist would be interested in why that is a problem for you, why it causes you distress (they really like the term "distress" in psychology). Or, if it's actually a comforting thought, then why is it comforting to you. Do you think about this a lot? are these thoughts somehow forming an obstacle to meeting your goals or responsibilities? are these thoughts an unwanted nuisance you can't get rid of? Saying "I can't quit" makes it sound like there's some kind of compulsive behavior, that… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/22 11:18 PM |
| 6 | I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself?Also it's going to release some of your muscle tension, get the lymph flowing, build strength. Yoga class is an excellent idea. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/22 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Stop being delusional and stop lying to men (how to really get women to fall in love)Oh no, no, social life isn't a ladder. That's really sad. Anyway, it's nice that you have friends. I am left wondering how many date nights you spending discussing Marcus Aurelius, but you make a good point that boring nerds love to go on about their boring nerdy shit (I certainly do). | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/22 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Stop being delusional and stop lying to men (how to really get women to fall in love)I certainly can't speak for any women. But I would rather hangout with "Mr. gas station slushy COD gamer" than I would "Mr. respectable discipline." You know, at least Mr. beer gut has interests, he likes games, he likes frozen treats. I like the Enchiridion as much as the next guy, but stoicism is not something you can bond over. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/11/22 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Are men wishing to avoid relationships in droves?For myself, I feel that a romantic relationship would be more trouble than it's worth, for me, right now. The more that you see women adversarially, the more that cost benefit calculation pushes you to avoid dating. You might tie it back to how men, as a rule, undervalue all kinds of relationships and see self-reliance as a moral and spiritual virtue. And then maybe most relationships really burdensome for them, because they don't know how to ask for what they need and set boundaries and do all … | /r/ExRedPill | 07/11/22 03:20 PM |
| 7 | Help my bf has become redpilledwhat gets me is, he already has a loving partner in his life, so it's not a fear of being alone and unloved. So it's totally a self-image thing? Like literally being afraid of your own shadow? Maybe it's needing approval from friends and being afraid of losing that? I have no idea, it's all at once very typical and very weird.z Or, entirely extraneous option, maybe he's just bored. I can fall in to the weirdest youtube rabbit holes just out of mild curiosity. Watching hours of computer hardware … | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/22 01:30 AM |
| 15 | Help my bf has become redpilledI feel like this kind of disdain comes from a place of wrestling internally with these aspects of one's own gender/sexuality/etc. Either it's disconcerting that someone might be happy living their life, even though they're doing it the "wrong" way (rule breakers don't deserve to be happy, especially when I follow the rules and feel so upset all the time); or, it's an important ritual within your chosen gender-religion to demean some class of people. The point is self-soothing, and pushing away t… | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/22 01:00 AM |
| 4 | Are there non-gendered social movement alternatives to TRP, MGTOW or incels?The question doesn't make sense to me. These are gender based identity politics movements, without the identity based grievances there is no identity politics. What are the aspects of these movements that you think might exist without the context of gendered identity politics? Like, what would this alternative look like? Knowing that would make it easier to say whether it already exists. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/22 09:51 PM |
| 11 | How do I stop seeing my gf as a slut and resenting her because of it?You're a bisexual man who is jealous of your girlfriend's latent ability to fuck guys... but couldn't you also fuck guys? Correct me if I'm wrong, but homosexual men aren't known for being prudes. So, I mean, first of all, consider that you all might have a good time finding a bisexual guy for a hook-up, sometimes things are less scary (or even fun?) when you're facing them head on rather than ruminating about them endlessly. Also, I wonder if there's a bit of confusion about what makes a fun fa… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/10/22 04:26 PM |
| 6 | The red pill has many truths but it will not improve societyI suppose I worded that badly. What I was referring to is the domination of one sex over the other, men over women, not chads over incels. I'm sure you don't want to argue one sex is in anyway superior to the other on an evolutionary basis, since their evolutionary success is interdependent. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/10/22 01:19 AM |
| 13 | The red pill has many truths but it will not improve societyI think these "truths" you find in the red pill are only meant as rationalizations for a sexual hierarchy. Like, the whole thing is meant to be about asserting a sexual hierarchy because these men feel like they are low status losers and they need to push that feeling away. So, they spin a narrative, but they're just pulling from whatever is at hand to serve their pre-determined conclusion, which is that they should have lots of women sucking their dick. If you happened to find an idea you liked… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/10/22 01:12 AM |
| 12 | What we men have lost.This is nonsense. If men lost their masculinity, they'd be indistinguishable from women. But you're saying that women are obviously feminine and that sets them apart from men. So which is it? It seems like you're falling into the trap of "man as default." Like, women are noticeably feminine while men are just normal. But you can invert that by changing your perspective, women are what's normal and men go outside that norm with their masculine disposition. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/10/22 06:02 PM |
| 6 | ISO the terminology for the pathology of someone (Red Pillers) who can't comprehend that humans have a full spectrum of emotions.You might be talking about "black and white thinking" which tends to show up in a few different disorders. There's also an inability to describe emotions called "alexithymia," which might mean they flatten complex emotions into something basic like "they hate me." | /r/ExRedPill | 20/10/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | 29 years old. Very Successful Academically yet Unable to Garner the Interest of FemalesIf someone has some psychological capacity that enables them to succeed, the term for that is "intelligence." There is some evidence for the existence of "general intelligence," but there is much more evidence (the kind you can see all around you every day) for a multiplicity of diverse kinds of intelligence; and each individual can have a different mix of these different intelligences. What's more, intelligence is not a fixed quantity, a person can develop and grow their various intellectual ca… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/22 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Why would women nowadays want to be monogamous?However, I don't really get why women even want to be monogamous. ... However, it kinda crushes my soul, since it would be really hard for me to be non-monogamous So, which is it? | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/22 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Feel bad saying this, but wouldn't want to date a woman with autismA person might be extroverted and autistic at the same time, what would you do then?!? First of all, you are guaranteed to be uncomfortable sometimes no matter who you're dating, so no worries there. But also, why should your personal growth be your romantic partner's responsibility? It's your responsibility of course, but what about other friends and acquaintances? They could push you to be more sociable just as well. The way you write this, I wonder if the issue is you dislike yourself for act… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/09/22 01:47 AM |
| 7 | RP messed me up...Job hunting is for sure the worst straight out of high school. It's also the worst one of my suggestions there, because 1.) it is a dick move to hit on someone when they're just trying to pay rent and 2.) the only "shared interest" you definitely have with your co-workers is the paycheck you're getting. Better to find hobby groups or something like that, because then you can at least talk about that thing you all like. And you definitely don't need a license to play kickball (or whatever you do … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/09/22 01:47 AM |
| 15 | RP messed me up...Just to temper your despair, you're probably not much worse off than most teenagers now or in the past (where our equivalent to RP was... trashy sitcoms? the ambient culture?). That you're consciously rejecting this bullshit at 18 puts you above average, not that it's a competition or anything, but it is and you're winning. Anyway, the normal people game is to do normal things that have some social aspect. Follow your interests, join a club or find an event or volunteer somewhere or get a job or… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/09/22 12:51 AM |
| 8 | Should men wait until their 30's ?Ironically, what helps with "accrue more resources, develop maturity, more social connections, more social experience etc." is being in a relationship. Maybe your 20s aren't the best years of your life, but hopefully you figure some stuff out... and the only way that happens is by making an attempt at what you want. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/09/22 10:23 PM |
| 1 | How can I learn to accept myself as a beta male?First of all, very few people will hate you for being a quiet geeky guy. The people who would actively dislike your reserved personality aren't worth considering. I think the worst reasonable fear you should have is that when you're quiet it's harder for other people to meet you, get to know you, and discover that they like you. But still, being loud isn't always the answer. Do you always want to be friends with the most boisterous and basic people? Or do you prefer hanging with quiet weirdos? A… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/09/22 01:11 AM |
| 1 | How can I learn to accept myself as a beta male?You're inventing a game for yourself to lose. These standards you're setting, being extroverted, being allistic, being the life of the party, being... not geeky? You can just let go of those standards, and adopt different standards that align with who you feel you are and who you will be as you actualize yourself. Worshiping this ideal of the "alpha male" is a kind of mental and spiritual submission. And it's not necessary or even helpful for leading a good life. Try to cultivate an unfiltered c… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/22 04:11 AM |
| 11 | Is the alpha beta dichotomy true? Help me understandAt this point it's probably for the best you ghosted her if spending time with her and getting to know her just felt like "all this effort." Sounds like she wanted to have a deep intimate relationship while you just wanted some casual sex. Nothing wrong with either of those goals, but for sure those are mismatched goals. And, it's not that weird for someone's goals to be different at different times. People grow and change and learn about what it is they want out of life and out of relationships… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/09/22 08:47 PM |
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