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I always start with heaviest weights and work backwards (after warmup). I've always done this, and it's yielded me great results. I also feel it helps boost strength faster than the traditional increase weight per set routine.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 02:18 PM
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OP, It's ok to talk about your emotions. It's ok to show sentimental values. It's ok to be romantic. It's not ok to not follow through on your word. It's not ok to be more of a bitch than she is, emotionally. You're the rock. Thing is OP, is that people confuse these things with being a dick. Let's analyze what it is that made you successful when you were single and on a rampage. "You didn't give a fuck." So how does this translate to a relationship? Well, you can't not give a fuck, but you CAN …
/r/TheRedPill24/02/18 07:01 AM
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Like most others have expressed. I tend to agree it has to do with a collapse of family values. Lack of being present in their lives. Etc etc
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 08:41 PM
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This is the most on point shit I have read about this. It really is, when you break it down, that simple.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 07:35 PM
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You're young and you have low self esteem. You're basically in the same predicament as the men get into when we have ONEitis. The difference here is that if you sleep around, the way we do to empower us, you'll just end up regretting it. You need to empower yourself by doing things to make you more confident and attractive. As time passes you will get a better hold of what is within your SMV range, and you will mature enough to learn to value leadership traits from a man who isn't a 9, but maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 10:17 PM
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This was epic man. Fuck, so epic. One day you'll be in some shit again, and you'll always think back at this story about yourself. This will pull you through. Now go find happiness in whatever the fuck fulfills you.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/18 09:46 PM
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Same here. Literally went to the first few comments just to see if anyone agreed with my thinking.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/18 09:26 PM
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Exactly what you just described here is a lack of OI. Literally. If you didn't care what happened because you were independent of the outcome, you wouldn't be concerned about the fact that she was different, and she might be different than the typical sluts portray. But deep down inside she's still the same, at the core. And there will be others(if this doesn't work out) that you will feel are different as well, and special. The reality behind all of this, and this is what we all fail to realize…
/r/askMRP08/01/18 08:36 PM
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I’m guessing as this sub is about men who struggle getting their shit straight, probably not many. But I could be wrong. Definitely go no contact and get your head clear before figuring out how to proceed.
/r/askMRP07/01/18 06:28 PM
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Just make sure you don’t challenge him, or ever undermine him due to frustrations. Make it a point to be sweet no matter what. We tend to find excuses or reasons to leave when we’re unsure. And a lack of respect is up there on that list.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/18 06:23 PM
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You failed to realize she was monetarily driven. Second failure was assuming she’d stay with you if you didn’t have the means to keep her “happy.”
/r/TheRedPill17/12/17 02:20 PM
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Gosh, I felt like I wrote this myself.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 08:14 PM
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He won because he's getting what HE wants. That's all. Even if he falls due to complacency again, he'll know why. In the end we all fuck up over and over, till we don't. TRP just makes it easier to get up.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 07:47 PM
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I believe they are. For some reason white females only wanted hookups and a fun time, I'm hispanic. Whereas hispanic women, black etc will venture off and commit to men of a different culture.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 07:23 PM
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Spot on. Took a long time to figure that out for me man. When she’s initially interested it’s a breeze. We get so caught up in wanting to “win” them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 06:03 PM
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Attraction is non negotiable, that’s why she doesn’t “love you.” Once you grow strong again, and begin to get attention from other women, it won’t hurt as much when she doesn’t pay attention to you. She’ll begin to notice that and wonder why. She’ll see your physical changes, and she’ll want to test if you are still there. But if this brings you hope, and is what drives you then let it. Just realize you’re not doing it for you. Right now you’re cloudy, and that’s normal. Go through the motions o…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 01:30 PM
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That's a great question.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 06:34 PM
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The manosphere has influenced a generation of men so anxious about "Red Flags" that they obsessively worry about mitigating every available "risk factor" and being so anxious that they attempt to avoid loss, living in fear and scarcity, and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy, instead of worrying about their damned selves. I agree that it might best be called "purple pilled," someone who, instead of increasing their value and attractiveness, and becoming self-actualized and empowered, attempts t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 06:31 PM
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Listen man you will always get more attention from side chicks, friends, co-workers than you will from your wife. She sees you every fucking day. Sees the same dick, gets fucked the same way, etc. So, in order to get a lot of sex, feel like the fucking man, and wanted by your wife you need to be amazing. Aka OYS. A man's man. Obviously that means you will have even more attention from others... But that's not a bad thing unless you get caught up doing stupid shit. I can tell by your post that sh…
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:45 PM
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Spot on
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:37 PM
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The worrier posters that are talking about Chad and losing their wives aren't getting it. Neither are you by contributing to this. It's about you, your well being, and what makes you happy. If you make yourself valuable enough, you will be able to actually enjoy her company and not care if she finds Chad. Because you'll have orbiters as well. Instead of focusing all your efforts on dissecting what is what and how to mitigate shit, just focus on perfecting your frame, and increasing your value an…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 01:25 PM
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"What more do we want?" Simply for you to see it was a self validating post, nothing more. You post here for all of us to critique or comment. Here we are.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/17 12:05 PM
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He's right. You're seeking validation from us, women, who knows what else. Because for whatever reason, it's not happening at home. Had your post read I fucked up this potential plate, without acting like you only fucked it up because of a lack of abundance... then maybe it would've been a good FR. But this was an ego post.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/17 12:10 PM
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I'm not married, but that has nothing to do with being a kid. I also know married men who have been in long term marriages that are fully satisfied sexually, and I know some like you. While I do understand what your saying without the ice cream explanation I disagree. I think in some way, even though your wife is hot, you're just tired of sex with her. But I think this is more of a you problem. Maybe you're just hard to please? Maybe you need to find enjoyment in other ways, or you could just ke…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/17 01:19 AM
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I can see that. But you know when you look good, and when you have attention at the gym, work etc. Theres really no need to cheat if you're confident enough, unless you're horribly dissatisfied sexually.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/17 10:00 PM
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It's not that hard if every time you become single, or put in minimal effort you can have 3 a week with no problem.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/17 09:18 PM
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In the very beginning as you're getting to know her, her expectations are clear as day. -What she likes. -What she buys. -Her car. -Her family's wealth. -The things she says she likes to do/does. -Her effort into making you happy and doing things for you. If she's not a traditional type of woman, she won't really go out of her way much in the very beginning.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/17 12:00 PM
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"Loyal" depends on your value. Even the crappiest woman will stay loyal if she's afraid of losing you. But there are less hypergamous women than others. In my experience: 1) you need to see what their expectations are in life. Then be honest with yourself on whether or not you're the kind of man or want to be the kind of man she looks up to and believes is the greatest she can get. 2) her relationship with her father/parents. If she respects her parents and is extremely loyal to family then it's…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/17 04:48 PM
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Super solid BPP. Your comment took me back to a quote that I lived by. She doesn't love you. She does not love you. She loves the way you make her feeeeeeeel.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 09:33 PM
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She's 100% fucking him. Move on. If she asks you for space, give her so much space it will make her feel like Neil Armstrong. Vomit, cry, lift, sleep. Do whatever it takes but it's over. How do you keep your dignity? The fact that you haven't told her you're stalking, and you're asking here, tells me that you know exactly how to keep your dignity. Go do it. Be better.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 11:15 PM
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Let it be. But pay attention to her actions post trip. Where there's smoke there's fire.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:16 PM
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The correct response is whatever the fuck you want it to be. Whether it's not caring Whether it's pushing for it It really doesn't matter as long as whatever you do, you do it with confidence, OI and a smile on your face.
/r/askMRP15/07/17 10:08 PM
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You're not even worried about you though. Who cares if you fuck her and she's star fishing? As long as you enjoyed it. Who cares if you tell her, her skin is nice, as long as you enjoy touching it. Your problem is you're seeking the validation from her, and concerned about saying the right things. Instead of being so awesome and confident, that you just don't care and she just gives it to you. You can be all that, (loving, sappy, whatever the fuck you want) but still be a bad ass. But it needs t…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 09:52 PM
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Why do you care so much ? . . .
/r/askMRP15/07/17 08:53 PM
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You need to create a mentality of abundance OP, and work on improving your SMV. You should be higher than her in SMV. That doesn't mean she will never deny you, but when she does, you will find it entertaining, more than a denial. You will laugh it off because you know that at any point you can find better. Once that mentality is cemented the denials will become less frequent, and you will simply not care much anymore. Inevitably beginning to do things on your own terms, and she'll begin to foll…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 08:49 PM
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Right on OP. The most important thing, which was super hard to internalize(I can't imagine in a marriage) was to not care about whether "it" worked or not. Just focusing on yourself in the best way you can, will get what you ultimately wanted. I've always found it crazy that we(men) find it so hard to focus on ourselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 08:32 PM
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"In retrospect, pussy is one of the most shallow and unfulfilling resources of confidences. It's purely external & group related." I think this realization that I hit too hit a while back, is probably the end of the RP journey.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/17 06:42 PM
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Do whatever makes you happiest, and brings you the most self-fulfillment.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/17 06:02 PM
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Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 05:05 PM
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We all have what works for us, and more importantly I believe every woman is different. Some more dominant, that like to be put in their place. Some more fun that just like the aloof guy. Every dynamic is different. You need to be true to who you are, and if you chose correctly, your SO follows and respects it. You can't follow a rule book on correct responses. That leads to insecurity and uncertainty in your responses and your frame. If you're dominant, you're dominant. Find one that responds w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 03:21 PM
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Well said sir
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 01:38 AM
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Can confirm. Coming from someone who has multiple times ignored the voice(and might still ignore it). The biggest change has been that I know how to get up. When you know the way, and why it needs to be that way. The bounce back is ten times easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:43 PM
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As time passes, you'll begin to feel it is more about you. That will begin to come from external attention and confidence going up. Just make it a point to talk to women at work or out and about at the super market. That way at least some of it is coming from someone other than your wife. Then little by little you'll start to internalize it. Just don't sit there and in your own head fantasize about her on her knees and worshipping you. Try to avoid those thoughts of self empowerment through her.…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 03:12 PM
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You have a lot of work to do man. But it's fucking awesome that you're taking these steps and recognized a (really obvious) problem. Make a list of things you're worried about/problems to do. Then, make a list of solutions next to them. If you see that a lot of solutions resolve a lot of the problems then start with that solution first. Little by little start tackling everything. The only thing I can tell you however is that it seems like you're doing this for her. To gain her respect back. To g…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 04:20 PM
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I too tend to get stuck on ONEitis. The key so far for me has been to really find what I want, and enjoy doing for me. Then do that very same thing with different women. Even if it's the same hobby as long as you're having fun. You start to see patterns in the way you behave, or things you tend to say. It's also really easy to see them unemotionally that way. Although that might be our comfort zone, small victories are important to get us going again, and building our confidence and OI.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 04:04 PM
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Very true, "whether the guy knows it or not." The curse lies in knowing it. Because on the surface, ignorance used to be bliss. It's a very superficial curse. Just kinda go about your day and not care about owning your shit. It seems like work now. But, as stated in the post, that work is becoming second nature. There is some comfort in knowing, I can own my shit now. It feels good.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 02:50 PM
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Well said, and thank you for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 05:35 PM
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I completely agree. This exact reason is why I won't dive into a LTR until I know the core of who I am, my hobbies, and my routine is cemented into me. Till I'm fully happy. That way my frame won't be movable. It'll be true to me, and what I want out of life and my partner.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 02:30 PM
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I've had people tell me things don't bring you happiness. "It comes from within." But I never really understood it, till now. It's not that the boat brings me happiness, or, spending the day at the beach with a hot chick. It's that you use it as a tool because it's what you want to do. It's for you, and you just use them. Even if cuddling was what I wanted on X day. It's for me, and I should be unapologetic about my wants, my happiness. Etc. I've never really grasped that till now. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 02:26 PM
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I'm getting there. I think the part that's missing for me is fully unplugging. But I'm definitely seeing more and more that I don't need women. And I'm genuinely looking forward to having fun, the way I want to have fun, with whoever wants to have fun with me. I didn't feel like that before. Before it was more about how can I secure a LTR because THAT will bring me happiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 11:53 AM
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Bro, have you stopped to actually read all the crap you just wrote about your wife... that you took back? I suffer from trying to do the "right" thing as well (ego). But fuck, I think it's very clear you're going to live the rest of your life with this woman suffering. I mean your entire existence and everyday mental energy is trying to get her to respect you. Jesus. What do you do for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/17 06:00 PM
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Definitely not nihilism. It feels like the depression is from starting over. Feeling overwhelmed and not adequate due to my failed (LTR) relationships. I've accomplished fitness goals. I feel stronger at the gym, and put on some weight(basic gains). But I haven't been able to really get into the meal prep and hardcore stuff. I end up taking naps and just reading. Let me clarify the oneitis. I had a bad LTR recently. It ended with her getting violent. Her trying to come back after the fact, and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 04:09 PM
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I mean, I'm still in Monk mode, in the sense that I am(trying) to work on myself. I have no inclinations of wanting any kind of relationship. I'm going to write down a set of goals, concerns and solutions and work toward that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 03:58 PM
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That was pretty on point. Thanks for the article.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 03:52 PM
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https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 12:41 AM
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I agree, and I think that's what I'm going to do in a couple months. But I need to learn to be alone, and not validate myself through women. That way when I am actually in a relationship, I've learned to not be so emotionally dependent on them. Which I think will help me with frame and being more stoic. Am I wrong here?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 06:28 PM
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I don't disagree with that. However, why are you against monk mode? Females have a way of derailing me (or anyone) from their mission. I wanted a clear head before I went back into it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 06:09 PM
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Because she wanted sex, comfort, a guide, someone to pass time with while still doing her own shit. A casual girlfriend essentially. I'm not in the mindset to do that. I'm trying to work on myself. I just came out of an LTR and I needed my space to introspect on what adjustments I needed to make in my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 06:02 PM
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I too have been in your situation, minus the kid. And I just like you didn't value myself. I can tell you there's nothing more that hurts you long term, than your own lack of self respect. It eats at you. But that changes today. Don't slip into discussions, or the blame game, don't enter her frame. You'll never win, ever. Be better than that, and grow strong for your daughter. Good luck man
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 06:52 AM
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That's correct. I definitely have been failing because of my BP views. I'm choosing to Monk because my whole life I have based my self worth on female validation. Not money, Instagram, friends, being fit, no. Female validation. Whether it's LTR, random sex, just knowing chicks like me or want me, companionship, giving them advice, white knighting. I'm trying to choose myself, instead of being wrapped up in what is the right girl, what traits should she have, how not to fail a shit test. How this…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 04:26 PM
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This was great. I've been debating on whether or not I want to do plates or full on Monk with no female interaction. I'm sure I'll cave eventually and get back to plates. If i'm being honest, I tend to give in to the BP mentality and illusion of everything we are trying to disconnect from here. I put so much importance in trying to pick the right one, and not making mistakes, and frame, that I believe I let it all consume me. I just need to choose me, somehow I still feel like they are the goal.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 02:44 PM
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I'm single. The reason I came here is due to failed LTRs, and to better myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 12:40 PM
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Cyber security for a government agency. I like to feel, and always have like I'm doing shit that matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 03:16 AM
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That's been my biggest inconsistency. EMT/Fire Ocean lifeguard Police/Corrections Counter Terrorist Now I work in IT making $50k with a decent job opportunity coming up. So I'm not loaded but I'm ok. Those other jobs didn't fulfill me. I didn't enjoy them. Maybe I did them too young, idk. But, I definitely like the flexibility of IT, I'd like to move into cyber security soon. I'm studying for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 03:14 AM
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Read NMMNG, MMSLP. Red pill side bar. Pretty much all of TFAs blog. All of IM and Rollo. Lifting, 175lbs 15%BF 5'11. I used to be at 190 10%. I should get back to that in a few months.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 03:06 AM
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I can understand that, and you're right. It's kinda hard to know when the time is right, though. Every situation is unique. How do you know when you are that man? How do you know when you're ready to lead etc. When is the time to pursue a LTR. I'm sure many people share different opinions on that. Some might feel like building together is great. Some feel you shouldn't do it till you're completely established and ready. Or am I wrong here?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 02:59 AM
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I think the most important thing to learn here isn't to kill yourself being busy. That's not really living ether imo. The take is that it's an illusion. The sooner I can digest that, grow more confident about what I want and who I am, the sooner I can decide what's best for me in a LTR. Or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 02:51 AM
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What are you even talking about?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 01:41 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. I'm not even going to say anything cause you're 100% right.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 09:06 PM
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Thanks, I needed that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 08:17 PM
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I was going to answer your question with, "yes I have, and it sucked." But before I wrote the response, it hit me. When has it not sucked? I can't even think of a moment where I can say damn, I was happy then.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 07:06 PM
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Your writing resonates more with me than Rollo and IM. This came in perfect timing for me, after coming-out of a bad LTR. I let go of a plate because I wanted monk mode. I'm going to come back to this post when I'm ready to begin my LTR journey again. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 05:19 PM
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It ain't over until it's over. Good luck on your journey sir, that was a nice read.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 09:39 PM
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OYS - 6/6/17 This is my first OYS post. I'll just write about what I've learned and experienced. Then you guys can bash away. In the last week or so, maybe longer, I've learned I am no good at LTRs. At this point I definitely think it's me and not bad luck, which is what I used to use as an excuse. I definitely however am a victim of the BP mentality. I want and crave a girl to love me unconditionally, and even though I know that shit doesn't exist, it's still there. I've read a lot, fucked a lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 02:42 PM
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Define what you mean by the ego / killing the ego? Specifically in this regard.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 02:09 PM
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I'm definitely going to go lower than my SMV. Just makes everything easier. I have been told that I'm controlling once. But it was one of those very free spirited chicks. Either way it's something I need to work on. Simply not caring and Ois. Easier said than done
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:10 PM
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I've done some serious thinking today. I believe that a huge part of the respect loss is due to me opening up and being too affectionate, too early. I think it sets a tone of weakness, not the confident leader type. Which is hilarious because it's all psychological. A guy that holds back and acts tougher probably hasn't done or seen half the stuff I have. But none of that matters, they just don't see it that way. They see "needy"
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 10:15 PM
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Right, but how? That's the question. I know that. But how do you get to that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 08:10 PM
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Listened to the whole thing and I identify more with a type A. But I'm not sure if it's because I'm acting like it. Kinda confusing
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 07:45 PM
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I tend to make the mistake of correcting the shit test, explaining why it's not ok etc. Or simply getting bothered by them. Not sure what it is that makes me struggle with this so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 07:41 PM
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Well, I mean to not go into massive detail. Let me give examples. Not returning phone calls. Giving snarky remarks or attitude. Not being attentive. Not following my lead, or trying to always micromanage me. Essentially not being a first mate. It feels like a tug of war. I've met one girl that didn't do that. It ended in heartbreak which eventually led me to here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 04:08 PM
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Didn't get the notification on this reply. That's basically me too man. Training and fighting, all kinds of stress at work where for the most part, people look for me to act. Yet, I'm stressed cause my chick isn't texting me back. I want nothing more, nothing more than to get to the same frame on both sides. I know that I may be in the minority in this, but for me it's simply disrespect in actions and in words, not in sex. Sex just gives me a temporary relief. But I eventually, most of the time …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:52 PM
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40 minutes in to the video and I still don't know if I'm an A or B. Which means I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 05:04 AM
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It's empty and shallow. You just hurt people. There's nothing rewarding about seeing women cry over the fact that you don't want to fuck them anymore. Because to them it's more than that, it's never just sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 04:02 AM
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In TRP it's common knowledge that abundance is step #1. It fixes everything, confidence, ONEitis, approach anxiety. Etc etc. it's an achievement to be able to bed women. So that was my approach. It's what I've been doing. Being successful at that has absolutely nothing to do with anything else. Apparently. I say it so you guys don't hit me with a "go try fucking more women." Cause I'm tired of reading and hearing that bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 03:54 AM
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Same her sir. Done law enforcement and counter terrorism. Can't hold frame versus pussy(unless I don't care) at all. Perceive many things to be disrespectful, but that might just be because of my experiences.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:06 AM
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Relationship frame? I'll look into it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 12:48 AM
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Makes sense. I wish there were movies where I can see that in effect. Granted vetting and choosing the right one for you helps in avoiding the problems in the first place. All the shit we watch on tv or movies are love stories that don't involve a man holding frame. At least subtly the way it happens in the real world.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 06:59 PM
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That's some really solid advice man. I tend to be the save-a-ho kind. It never ever works out. I haven't seen the guides for vetting, but I will look into it. There's quite a few books I'm going to read, and hopefully along the way I can better learn to handle shit test and maintain frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 06:57 PM
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Yes and the worst part is I know the difference. And, I can see when the negative, doubtful beta happens. As opposed to the strong comforting beta with alpha traits. I also think my track record doesn't help, it's in the back of my head so I end up not being very OI, eventually. Also in MMSLP, it recommends you game other women. I tend to stop doing that and focus entirely on my LTR. Which I think in turn makes me care too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 01:24 PM
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You're right, and it does it little by little. Till I've lost so much value that I'm simply frustrated and unable to understand how she changed so much. I've had on occasion a girl tell me that I'm "thinner" and not as buff as I used to be. I think I struggle with those shit test, because I take it personal. I know that an easy way to address that is to have amused mastery. It's just never that simple in the moment. By "our program" are you referring to the sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 12:54 PM
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Yeah, also a possibility. I'm currently monking and just doing me + reading. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 07:46 PM
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It depends on the relationship. But, to keep it simple, I noticed that I get complacent and not do as many fun spontaneous things. Not work out as much, because of time and things that are planned which leads to slight insecurity. Sex has never been an issue, in or out of a relationship. Even when there is disrespect, or bickering, I can always have my way. I'm just very bothered by a non - harmonious relationship. One where she's not questioning every decision you make. Naturally I take respons…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 05:11 PM
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I'm finishing MMSLP which was decent. I just read the description on the book you've suggested, and it seems more up my alley. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 04:06 PM
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Thanks. I'll get through all the sidebar content. I struggle with a balance. Too alpha, or too beta. I get caught up in fixing their problems. It just seems no matter how much you read that you shouldn't do those things, in the moment you tend to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 01:46 PM
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I'm 30. There was definitely heartbreaks before finding TRP. After, not so much. I definitely always reflected though on poor leadership, and what I could have done better. Understanding the dynamics and why shit happens helps a lot with coping no matter who walks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 01:41 PM
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I'm ok alone, I have my hobbies. Fishing, gym, my dog, going to games. I have my friends as well. But I would like a healthy fulfilling relationship with a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 01:36 PM
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I'll put whatever work in that is required. I just want to be better. I want to learn how to translate my confidence into my relationship, and keep a balance.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 01:46 AM
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Currently reading MMSLP - Athol Kay. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 10:55 PM
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What would be the best approach to shift the mindset, and learn to deal with the different dynamics in a LTR?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 10:21 PM
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You guys are quite the savages eh. Thanks for the productive feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 10:06 PM
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I do have close friends. They suggest monk mode, but I think it's deeper than that. But yes, essentially I believe I lose my sense of masculinity when I let people in.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 06:06 PM
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Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 06:05 PM
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I've read all of your comments on this post and laughed. Everyone goes through shit, anger etc. It takes a special person like you to actually want to make their situation worse. Lol If you break down what this sub actually represents, it's not even bad. But you get people(just like in every aspect of life) that take shit to the extreme. If you're actually a man, you would realize that women respect men, not love them. The second your value isn't there(in her eyes) then you slowly lose her. That…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/17 03:53 AM
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Leave her. She's going to destroy you, don't try to save her. There's not enough that you can give that will make her be what you want, or even what she wishes she was. She needs to grow out of all of this and mature, and you need to be single, have fun, and experience different things.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/17 04:06 PM
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Wasting your time man. It's very clear this is a nobody chick.
/r/askTRP16/04/17 01:41 PM
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First of all stop feeling like you lost her. You obviously didn't want her as a LTR if you hesitated for so long. Look none of us like to lose the women we are with for a significant amount of time, even if they are plates. That's why guys on here have several chicks at the same time, and they cycle them. What you're feeling is normal. I don't know much about the girl but you need to realize that no chick will ever just stay as a sidekick, because women are emotional and they need security. This…
/r/askTRP16/04/17 01:19 PM
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Don't even know you, but I respect you.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/17 07:19 PM
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Good job sir, keep it up. Pretty soon it will be effortless for you and you won't even think about these steps.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/17 04:20 AM
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I'd like to see the sir. I believe information is information, we can do with it what we please.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/17 04:10 AM
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Pride, at least in my case.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 06:33 PM
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I have one for you, and I'm currently in this situation. I've made the mistake of letting her know how it is already, didn't work. I then tried subtle dread, walking out, warning her etc. She has continued to push, and instead of walking out and doing the same thing, I hit her with reason. A little bit of background, I'm currently making less, and on the brink of getting a very good job due to certifications(and she knows that). So there is a lack of dread because of my value versus her value. I…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 06:24 PM
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I think you're right. It pretty much is a constant "you're not enough" feeling.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 05:24 PM
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A year to get 6 dates from Tinder.......... is that demographic because that wasn't my experience at all man. I had to get off Tinder because pussy became revolting
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 04:17 PM
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Come to Miami, FL if you want the crazies.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 04:11 PM
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You're not alone. NO clue why it's so hard to hold frame, despite everything I know, and I've done. It's so fleeting.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 03:30 PM
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This is a really good question, because I pondered this for a while when I first started my journey in Rp. I don't have the exact answer for you, but what I've realized is that it's a checking account. The more traditional the woman, the higher your account is. The more feminist, entitled, etc, the easier you can overdraft. I've experienced many women, that the second I'm not as "strong" they immediately try to take over. I've met very few however, that try to uplift you and continue to be submi…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/16 03:38 PM
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Neo, I agree but only if it's to the extreme if I would need a hall pass. I think a simple, "Ryan gosling" is hot isn't something to fret over.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/16 09:40 AM
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I agree, but it's not the pussy itself that allows you to do it. It's the abundance and options you have from it. Where you can actually compare and figure out what you want. I would also say that, you can realize you're better than your ex by not swimming in pussy as well. There are in fact other ways to learn to value yourself more. Get your needs here and there, but pussy isn't always the answer to self improvement, and conquering ONEitis.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 03:01 AM
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Because they're angry, and it's just a process. Some people go deep into the rabbit hole, some don't. In the end hopefully we all come out the same way.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 11:27 PM
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Thanks. I can pretty much identify with everything you are saying, and I too, swallowed the pill because of the same situation as you. I can give you some advice. I'm a firm believer in the fact that you need to go through the mistakes, to truly learn. It seems like you're doing everything correctly, but instead of trying to change your mentality, just stop trying to change it regarding your ex. Like you said, accept that she was one of the "good ones" for YOU. There's nothing wrong with that. J…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 11:24 PM
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I'm not surprised, I've experienced the same changes in my life. Good on you man.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 10:32 PM
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I know your intention, that's why i don't get upset. But I disagree, and that's ok.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 10:16 PM
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Fair enough, I want nothing more than that for you.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 10:15 PM
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You're simply defining it differently than me, and that's fine.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 07:59 PM
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Yes, and the sad part is they think they are more Alpha than the guys who carefully choose a woman.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 06:43 PM
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I disagree with you. You missed the whole point of what I was trying to say. Especially your last point. It's not always without effort, RP teaches that you can get any woman to do this. I agree sure, but is she quality? Does she bring value to your life? Is your life better with her in it? etc. It's not habit and routine man. If that was the case then every single woman could be with every single man and vice versa. That's very far from the truth. Listen if you think that banging women left and…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 06:34 PM
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Yeah, pretty much sums it up. RP is about bettering yourself, in order to make the right decision on whether you even want a female or not. If you do decide to get one, you do it correctly. But, many many people, run with the theory and don't fully grasp it.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 06:26 PM
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Because I simply realized that you're just angry. Again, i respect your opinion. Listen I agree with a lot of what you say. But you're wrong about the fact that I have a neediness. If you knew me, and the way I ran my life and my women, you would see that I am nothing but needy. However, I can be picky and choosy about who I want, and that is my own personal decision. The original post was merely my experience in why you need to be choosy, and why it's not just about reproduction, sex, and pussy…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 06:23 PM
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This world isnt made so that you can be happy Yeah, you'll get out of the anger phase.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 11:52 AM
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You're welcome. Once you find someone that you fully click with, that you have chemistry with, you'll naturally have more than enough sex. Everything RP says about the kind of man you need to be is true. Without that, even if you find a woman that you get along with perfectly, she probably won't want to stay with you. Because in the end women need a man. Get your life together, in every way, and be picky and choosy about who you invest your time in. Be selective, because you can be. There should…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 11:35 AM
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It may not be for all men, but the way this sub goes it seems like that desire is cancer and should be killed. This is pretty much what I was trying to say. Look, I realized all of this because of RP. RP gave me the tools and confidence back that I needed during a bad time. All RP did is get me back to being my confident self, with more information. I'm very grateful for that. But I wanted to share my experience and my realizations. It's easy to get caught up in bang and next. It happened to me.…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 11:31 AM
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Same here, I would end up paying my half. It's the fact that she was willing to do so.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 09:02 AM
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I can agree with this, which is why I stated it is my own realization, and my own journey. For anyone who else who might feel the same way as me. Great comment
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 06:33 AM
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The takeaways should be lifting, bettering yourself, and accepting failure as stepping stones to success. Most everything else is subjective (or entirely false). I couldn't agree more. Isn't it crazy how some people just fail to improve themselves, and just blame their failures on others? I'm not perfect, it's been quite a journey. I'm not even there yet, but you need to take accountability.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 05:39 AM
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If no one replied to this post at all, this comment would have sufficed. Not cause I wanted validation for what i was feeling, but because I know that there's dudes on here that have experienced the same thing, and feel the same way as me. Mad respect for the men and women in your family bro, Good luck.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 05:31 AM
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Not sure what your situation was, but you'll get out of it. Or, you'll find one that you genuinely have a connection with again. Just don't make it a priority, and keep bettering yourself.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 03:29 AM
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Swimming in pussy doesn't cure Oneitis, contrary to what RP says, believe me. This guy is on point.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 02:04 AM
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Get the anger out bro. Know the reasons why they cheat. I don't think any man needs a LTR, but if he chooses one, that's completely fine as long as he's armed with knowledge and has an abundance mentality. The fallacy that you're coming from where they will all cheat, is completely ridiculous. You could say many, you could even say most. You could even say the risk is not worth the reward, and that's all your personal opinion. But they don't all cheat, at least not in the context that you're put…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/16 11:39 AM
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So then i guess our head Mod shouldn't be in a relationship then.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/16 11:31 AM
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Yes we agree then. However, we should not love them is subjective. I mean, by nature we can't help it since we essentially are the leaders. Unless of course you live your entire life outside a LTR. Then I suppose you never will.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 05:02 PM
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She doesn't love you. She does not love you. She loves the way you make her feeeeel. Gotta own your shit bro. Sounds like you had a bad one though, she was almost bragging. You're the man for putting that key logger though, that shit helps with the male hamster.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 04:59 PM
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Again. Are you reading? They love DOWN the hierarchy not up. . . What is unclear about that?
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 04:44 PM
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You're completely contradicting yourself. You're saying they're not capable of love yet they love sociopathic men. I have said already in the post, they don't love us, they can only respect us. We are the ones who love them. What don't you understand about what I'm writing?
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 04:43 PM
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Why is the man on the tree laughing? Someone always lurks on the blind.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 07:25 AM
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Basically the light switch effect by RPS
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 07:18 AM
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There is an innate instinct within us to protect our off spring. It doesn't need to be misery with a kid. It doesn't need to be misery with a woman. It doesn't need to be misery with anything in your life as long as you learn to handle your shit. If after you've handled everything you're still not happy(which you should be) it's time for a change.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 06:50 AM
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You've completely missed the point of the post. They love down the hierarchy, not up. They respect up the hierarchy. Don't hamster and be angry at the fact that they don't love you. You were never meant to be loved by anyone other than your parents.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 06:47 AM
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No, they despise your respect, not your love. You can love them, as long as you maintain the hierarchy. You could literally walk around with a shirt that says my girl owns me. As long as she knows you're the man and you're the leader, none of it matters.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 06:45 AM
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I don't know if that's a bad thing or a good thing that she could recognize that. Lol
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 06:43 AM
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Its such a tragedy that boys are not being taught to be men.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 06:42 AM
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It's not justifications. She actually believes it. Which is why we believe it. Because they act like they love us, they make us their world. Then its ripped apart in a moments notice.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 06:42 AM
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Well said, I'm gonna use that as well.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 11:20 PM
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You can also say, "(Right now I feel like) I love you!" Right now I feel like - I do! Right now I feel like - you're the man I want forever. But the point of this post is to realize why they behave this way
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 02:07 PM
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Great post, and a perfect example of the hierarchy.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 01:59 PM
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Of course, your kids need you more than she does.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 12:57 PM
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We've all been there, it's part of our journey as men. Understanding why they "love" is a huge part of understanding what we need to be if we want a LTR. The funny thing is, it becomes easy once you stop caring so much. When you have your own life, and lead your own life, she'll gladly join and then you can lead her too. She can't be your life, she's just an accessory to it.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 04:45 AM
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Definitely. To touch on that even further, a man will walk into a room and instantly know he would fuck 6 out of the 10 chicks. A woman walks into a room, and she sees one man, fixated on him only. When we choose to be with a woman, that we've determined to be LTR worthy. We get this undivided attention. We get her hamster of "I love you so much." Cards, gifts, massages. "You're the only man for me." We tend to feel like she really loves us. She doesn't love us, she loves the way we make her fee…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 04:00 AM
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Of course man, absolutely. What I just described in the post is for someone(man) who already has an emotional investment with a woman. An endorsed member, actually a couple of them recently posted on what to look for in a LTR. Kind of what you're saying, things that set them apart etc. I also believe that the initial thing you're talking about, is chemistry. Sometimes everything just flows. I go through a lot of women, and I can tell you that the way i click with them isn't the same. The hard pa…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 03:38 AM
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That's your view right now, but you won't really know until you have one. Which is fine, it's part of growth.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 03:16 AM
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she'll love you as long as it's convenient. I'm gonna go with value. As long as it's bringing value to her life.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 03:11 AM
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That was my goal, glad to hear it sir.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 02:58 AM
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Yeah. But even in those the novels, the guys make mistakes. It's about not being able to handle your own shit and needing women emotionally that get you in trouble.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 11:13 PM
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Yes that's different. That's like saying, I made a mistake, but now I'm on the right path. Or this decision I made led to this problem, but no worries, it will be corrected. That's not weakness in character, that's admitting to being a human being.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 03:02 PM
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I agree that a woman worth an LTR should come out the other side with you when you go through a downer in life; However, I don't think us as men should be overt about our feelings during that down time. They know that we're going through it, it's written all over us in our body language and lack of energy and confidence. Hamstering and talking about it will only make her doubt you even more, because one thing is being hurt and handling your shit, and another thing is voicing that you cannot hand…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 02:52 PM
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Don't even try to rationalize the fact that they don't love you or can't love you, instead realize why. Surely you can understand that men are at the top of the hierarchy. Children are at the bottom. Do you think it's possible for a child to love a mother the way the mother loves a child? Would the child give their life for that mother? No, but the mother protects and would give her life for her child even though the child would not do the same in return. The mother loves the child unconditional…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 04:57 AM
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Naw definitely not. Don't give a shit about that
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 04:45 AM
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The only way to truly know and put this to rest is to try and be in a relationship with a high n-count woman. See if they are capable of being emotionally available, loving etc. But I think we could agree that the high n-count woman is in fact a red flag, and something that should be avoided because of the likelihood of them being damaged women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 01:07 PM
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But I think you're misunderstanding what I'm saying. I've had girls say ok, "we'll talk later." I've had girls not want to cuddle, just be cool chilling and watching a movie. I've had the ones that are emotional after, I've had the lovey dubbey ones. But the ones I'm talking about look like their soul had been ripped from them. I can't help but think that these girls, that are clearly damaged are like that because of their high n-count. Because they haven't found anything of substance. Etc. it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 05:40 AM
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This is true. But, the key word is driven. I've never cheated in my entire life, and I know SOME men who are in my same position. In that same regard I know much more that cheat, including women btw. I find that it's rare to find a male or female now that has a moral code for not cheating. With all that being said, sometimes a man who's on the fence about it can be held back if he feels the risk is too great. The woman would never know however, this is why it's important for both men and women t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 05:02 AM
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Ah, I see. I understand, best of luck to you. Feel free to message me if you have any questions about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 04:53 AM
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I just figure from a statistical stand point, one of the ones with a high n-count would've been emotional. What would you say then to the fact that when I ask them directly about sex being meaningless to them the more they have sex with different men? Their answers are always yes, "sex has become not a big deal." But when I talk to low n-count girls they're much more "I don't have sex with just anyone, sex is something special." As you can tell, I enjoy more the experimenting and psychology behi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 04:03 AM
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I really appreciate the honest response, I will do the same. This is more of the dialogue I've been looking for on here. Its relieving to know that not everyone in TRP is anger driven and just wants to spin plates. I have plates, and it's easy. But for me, that's not really my thing. To each his own. Keep working out, stay masculine and be the leader. Your LTR should be fine. Good luck
/r/TheRedPill08/05/16 03:59 AM
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I can see that. But why is it when I ask, it's always the high n-count. Are you saying its coincidence that no woman that displays this lack of emotion can be of low n-count? It's always astronomically high.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:08 AM
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I see. I'm curious to know how you feel about all this in more time. I respect your logical outlook on this. I'm no one to judge, every relationship has a different dynamic. But, if you haven't been having much more sex, why not work on that as a woman and mate guard?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 02:41 AM
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Hmm. That's all very possible, but I still stand firm on the idea that the higher the n-count, the more emotionally disconnected they are as a whole. Think about it logically, if women are very emotional beings, and the act of sex is an emotional one, wouldn't it stand to reason that the more they do it without purpose severely changes the dynamic of their ability to connect?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 02:38 AM
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I try to go by the same rule of never date women who go clubbing, and one who doesn't drink(much) at least. There's not many of those here in Miami, I would assume in Vegas it's the same way. So I find myself just enjoying random chicks and the typical shit they do. Do you have a "she's too young" age, or you just base it off maturity? I find the younger, the more they're tempted by stupidities, and the older, the more scarred. There's a very fine line. But I'm told by friends that females are d…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/16 02:36 AM
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Oh it's not cause of anything I do. I know this because the sex is great, and plenty of women tell me(even the ones that look scarred) that it was amazing later on. Those girls however have a 50+ n-count usually. They're broken inside, they're like that because after the sex is over, it's another realization that they're a whore. The other ones, the ones that don't behave that way have a relatively low n-count. They're happier, still happy with themselves, still have hope etc etc. N-count is a h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 01:19 AM
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It definitely is ignorance. Because you're forming emotional conclusions. Nothing about what you're saying is factual. To make it worse, it's negative. You're just spreading your personal opinion about a sub, instead of going and copy/pasting, or telling people, I "feel" I "think" to me it seems like "(blank) but i could be wrong." It's all good, you're not the first person I've seen do it here. Certainly won't be the last.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 09:45 PM
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What makes you want to allow a hall pass? What's your current SMV versus his?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 08:47 PM
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Making claims about a sub that is based off your opinion is ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:45 PM
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Ok. You're entitled to your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:44 PM
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Yeahhh. Read the other comment i posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:35 PM
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I guess he walked like a creep then, and i walked like... not a creep. That must be what it was.That's fine, i can see this is going no where. I appreciate the conversation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:34 PM
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I've read many many posts and comments about holding frame that ISN'T about get out if you don't like it. Posts that very much consist of subtle conversations, implying that you're making changes in your life. No where does it say ignore what she says and kick her out if she doesn't like it. That's ridiculous and it's insane to me that you even think that's the advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:26 PM
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I've just realized the issue between BP and RP is that BP doesn't even really take the time to read thoroughly on what we're about. MRP guys don't assume it's cause you're beta. They have actual discussions, on various reasons, just like TRP does. Your hamster is running.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:23 PM
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That's so far from being true. Jesus. Go read our sub once in a while before making claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:19 PM
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Miami, Fl. There's no debating the hypergamy here bro. Come visit and then be prepared to run away if you're not attractive. If they're annoyed like you claim, fine. Then why turn and dance with me 30 minutes later? They all of a sudden stopped being annoyed, or they realized who was grabbing them? I've been clubbing a lot in my life. I know what i''m talking about. I can literally paint a picture of all this. Mind you, this is all pre-red pill. TRP just answered all the questions I wanted answe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 07:10 PM
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Hmm. I'm from probably the most hypergamous city in the United States. I've never seen a woman drop a drink over a betas head. I've definitely seen them do the circle of death to deny the man from approaching. I've seen them say no to a free drink. I've seen them put their hands up in the guys face, "like don't even try to talk to me." I've seen eye rolls while grabbing their friends hand to get them out of there. All because a beta approached nicely. Then literally in 30 minutes, I'll grab that…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:58 PM
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Leave while you still can, you pure innocent cinnamon bun LMFAO i spit my water.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:50 PM
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That's a very typical answer. What you fail to realize is that there's not one or two... There's many. They all enjoy the sex and are very into it. But not all look empty inside, because they can't connect emotionally. I will say most don't look empty inside, but a fair amount do. I've asked a few after some time, and always the ones that look that way are the ones with a high n-count. I've even asked them if they think that the more they have sex with different guys, the more sex is meaningless…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:47 PM
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Whether you ask or not, he will do what he wants. I'm curious to know, do you have a hall pass as well? If not, do you act as you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:43 PM
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I can tell when a woman has a high n-count. Right after you have sex, just look at her face. It's super obvious. She literally looks emotionally distraught. While you're having sex however, it's amazing, and nostalgic. Moans and groans and shaking and yelling. But right after, dead, blank stare. That's when i know. I don't even have to ask. However I could recognize the issue women might have with their significant others having had sex with prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:33 PM
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I'm in the same boat. But, they're right about it being crazy hypergamous. Resulting in more attractive men being with less attractive women. Not ugly, just less attractive.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 05:27 PM
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I have 23 foot boat, not a yacht. I'm pretty sure i didn't even have that on my profile either. Regardless, the point of what I'm trying to say is, women are not the goal. Not even sex is the goal. It's about your happiness, and your self improvement. Everything else comes secondary. If you focus on you first, and do social things that involve people, you'll find that women come more frequently without Tinder.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 05:06 PM
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Look, while i understand why you do what you do, and i understand women do the same shit on Tinder, why not just focus on becoming that guy? Get a fucking 8 pack yourself. I'd never be ok lying my way to getting laid. I have Tinder, I recently deleted it because i got bored of it. But I'm very successful on it. No lies needed, yes, i have an 8-pack. But i worked for it. Work for your shit. I can walk up to a girl at the beach with my normal body and pull her because of my high SMV. Why would you…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 04:04 PM
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I think you need to go in depth with character, and your actions. You mentioned that your LTR likes for you to read to her or hang out with you instead of going out with friends. That is a certain character trait in a woman. Not every girl will do that, I've vetted girls who fall into the no slut, but still wants me and holds back. Good family, respectful to a good father etc. But, she's still in the party phase(which is big in Miami), or she's very opinionated, not very submissive etc. You shou…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 03:51 PM
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That logic, is perfect man.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 03:03 PM
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This, along with children, is what i truly want to discuss.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 02:55 PM
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I have a lot of respect for both you and RPS. I will say that from a logical perspective, he makes more definitive points on why you shouldn't marry. I don't even think he's saying DO NOT MARRY or you will be banned. I don't even think he's saying guys, "If you want to marry, leave my sub, don't talk about it." What he's simply saying is, don't promote marriage. Don't make other men feel like it's a good idea, risks aside. I think he's made a pretty compelling argument as to why it's a bad idea.…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 02:46 PM
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I do the same, and for this exact same reason. But RP isn't about morality. It's about understanding the nature of women. There is no right or wrong in nature, it just is.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 11:54 AM
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You have no idea how much this resounded in me. Thinking back at my last relationship and the conversations we had after she fucked up, it was literally the same message. Then, after all was said and done and we broke up, she hamstered by saying "she didn't cheat, and it wasn't actually cheating." But that's not what's important here. It's the correlation between her, literally crying and not knowing how this happened, how it got here, how did she become so weak, (which i believe) and then not b…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 11:03 AM
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As I'm sure we all already know, but it just makes me chuckle every time i get reminded of this. The fact that there's a message going around every where in society that MEN are the ones who cannot control their penis, or rather their desire. At the very least say, "we're all human and everyone is different." But no, it's men, not women. Never women who have these uncontrollable urges and irrational thoughts.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 10:54 AM
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You can definitely count on that.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 03:50 AM
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You could change a few words in that comment and make it even worse. "She left you because she is attracted to men." Jeez
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 11:36 AM
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Jesus Chris. I read through several articles they had, awesome statistics. Something I read that was alarming was that 3% of Americans get prenuptial agreements. Also, in Europe, prenuptial agreements don't hold much weight, but they do here in the States. I guess men that marry don't have the balls to tell their significant other, "hey just so you can't fuck me later when I'm very successful, sign this." California is like the worst state to marry in. Just random things going through my brain. …
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 11:28 AM
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I've seen men get alimony, and men making 30-40k more than their spouses not pay anything at all. I'll watch the video, thanks for the info
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 01:45 AM
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I agree with this. Here in FL I'm seeing a lot of 50/50 custody which takes away child support; however, I don't know if that (custody) would apply if you were not married.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 11:56 PM
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I'll write down things I say too
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 09:39 PM
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No way man. I think we're going a bit extreme here. Alimony is designed for the woman that stays home while you work to raise the family. Or for someone you provided a certain lifestyle for and didn't make her work. But if she leaves a job and you say, ok see ya, you're not going to pay anything because she's already shown she's capable of working and making money. It's not just a freebie giveaway. I'm a LEO, it's not as simple as she doesn't wanna work. However if you make a lot more than her, …
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 08:29 PM
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Probably the MOST important thing when it comes to getting laid. I do the same, I can't even think of shit i say right now. It just kinda flows out when she says something. But just like OPs example, usually I'll make a comment about her and I and gauge her reaction.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 05:08 PM
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It's not that simple. You can leave her at that point and you wouldn't need to pay alimony. She can't willingly leave a job and just collect
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 03:33 PM
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This is a topic we'll never come to an understanding on. Because some want to some don't, some think it's worth it some don't. Make a good decision on who you choose. If you can not marry, don't marry. If you need to, try not to again. But if you choose to, get a prenuptial agreement. Choose to with someone that makes equal money as you so you don't get alimony. There are ways around this, but the shitty part and this is what we all have an issue with, is maintaining dread. It's like you're tryi…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 03:05 PM
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How young is she? I too was married with no children, and alimony wasn't needed because we both had equal salary. Divorce was as clean as a breakup. Do you and your LTR want children?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 10:20 AM
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I know a few guys that fought for 50/50 custody to avoid child support. Women hate it, they say it creates an unstable environment for the child. I kind of agree with that, but shit, I'd rather that, than pay a bitch to spend the money on someone else.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 10:19 AM
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I agree, in fact I don't want to get married. My question is, what women are ok with that? I'd love to hear from men that have achieved this. In all reality, if you make equal money, there is no difference between marriage and kids, and no marriage and kids. There's no alimony either way. But there is child support. Once she holds the child support card, it's over.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 03:19 AM
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I pretty much agree with everything here man. I think what you just described is awesome, I'm just confused as to how to go about that lifestyle without marriage. I'm sure I don't stand alone in this confusion either.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 02:22 AM
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Yes, I've hear of the 50/50 custody. It's happening here in Florida more often.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 02:03 AM
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Ok, I'll bite. I can totally see the reasons why NOT to marry. But, I think we can all agree that a lot of men want in some way or another, especially the older they get, want either A) family B) LTR. I understand this is different than marriage, but here is where my gripe comes in. Most women are raised to believe in marriage. For all the retarded reasons that we are too. But they're emotional, and the women you want to get in a LTR with are usually from traditional families in the first place,…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 02:00 AM
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Then that's on the man, as they stated above, it's just to inform us that the risks are there. If you choose to do it, that's on you, but MRP has a lot of information on how to properly maintain a healthy relationship without cheating etc.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 01:35 AM
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As I'm sure you know, the MRP sub has a lot of good stuff on how to keep proper boundaries in relationships. I'm confused on what the goal is here, is it to get the MRP guys to come over here and write more?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 01:33 AM
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I think it's something that you can use as a way of avoiding the crazy drama girl. I find that it works best with the chicks that have high highs, and low lows. The reason i say this is because, the chicks that are unstable like that ride the emotional high or low. So if you're pushing them away, but you already fucked them, or worse, if you've been casual with them, i.e.. watching movies, sleeping over etc.. it's likely they might get crazy on you, as you have seen in some of the comments on he…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 01:21 AM
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Me right now. Kinda why I decided to go monk mode and focus on me for a bit
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 10:45 PM
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I've had a 50+ n-count. Pretty sure she was a psychopath. I nexted her so fast, and her boyfriend, the most beta of them all. It always fits the script man, always.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 10:44 PM
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I've met one of these. I had a post on it
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 10:41 PM
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Sometimes they like that though... meh Lol
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 09:08 PM
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That's how i thought about doing it in the first place.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 09:05 PM
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Yup, exactly. Most of my plates I recycle throughout the week. Some more consistently than others. So when i want new ones, or if I feel they might be getting a little crazy, dropping them isn't that easy. You get a lot of grief. I feel this is better for both parties. I feel a little prideful about my reputation, but meh, gotta take the good with the bad. Regardless, it's not like you need to do this with all of them.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 09:02 PM
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I didn't know it was discussed, I honestly just thought about it logically. Thanks for the comment
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 08:57 PM
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But "don't you like me" is a devastating one, I love it and thank you, going to add that to the toolset. It's usually followed by a very subtle "sigh."
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 08:55 PM
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Oh wow, I've never had one that bad. Jesus
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 07:34 PM
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I find myself in and out of the anger phase sometimes. But the more that I'm not in it, the more that I just see women as children and friends, and the more I'm unaffected by them. I've also noticed it makes it easier to pay attention to things that are more important(than keeping her) like is she crazy? Is she LTR material? Will she bring value to my life, etc. Once i determine she's very emotional, clingy, traumatized, scarred and can't do casual, I'm going full beta.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 07:13 PM
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You're not alone. Same thing happened to me about 2 years ago. To the point that I literally had to call the chicks parents, because i didn't want to put her in jail.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 07:08 PM
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Glad to hear I'm not the only one
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 06:58 PM
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I once told a girl, "sometimes men need support from women" when I blew the radiator on my Jeep and i needed her to give me rides and shit. As soon as my Jeep was fixed, she went ghost. Hey, at least she waited till I was back on my feet. Lol
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 05:34 PM
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Happy sexually released women have hamster wheels that stop spinning. (for a short time) This right here explains why my best relationships have always been the most sexual. I always thought it was that we had great sex because we got along, when in fact we got along beter because we had great sex.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 05:11 PM
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Remember, change her mood, not her mind Love that man, so simple yet so true.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 05:06 PM
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That actually made me laugh a little. What's so sad is when you do it unknowingly you feel destroyed inside. To touch on that, I had a girl that was obsessed with me a few years back, I could do no wrong. I left my high paying job to go back to school and got a decent but lower paying job. But now she had to pull her own weight and i needed help with buying food etc. She left me, and I couldn't understand what i did wrong. I had an inclination, that maybe she was just a gold digger. But now I kn…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 04:52 PM
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You just put fear into my soul
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 04:26 PM
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Read. For the sake of the argument, stay in your relationship, and test this out. I'll give you a starting point. Begin working out hard, eat healthier. Get your own hobbies(not video games) things that are outdoor are better. Hang out with friends more, make some if you have none. Put a genuine effort and not making your life around hers. It's not about being an asshole. It's about being masculine, thing is, assholes are naturally masculine. Find enjoyment in your life outside of her. It's neve…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 04:24 PM
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What do you mean by just wondering?
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 04:14 PM
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I guess i could make it a more elaborate post. But, basically just do the opposite of what it says here should suffice. I just do it now when i get the hint that she's a clinger, and extremely emotional. What's funny is they feel super entitled when they decide you're unworthy. You can hear it in their voice, all the sass. It's never very nice.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 04:13 PM
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Even if being over bearing doesn't work, because for some reason she's super needy. Just make yourself unattractive in other ways. Be boring, bad in bed, etc. There's tons of ways. I mean, again this is only necessary if you think it'll be drama and you don't want it.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 02:25 PM
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Basically what it comes down to, yes. If you have the inclination that she might be crazy, it's a safe bet. At least for me.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 01:36 PM
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Yes, didn't look at it that way.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 01:35 PM
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Yup pretty much spot on article.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 01:31 PM
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Emoji's are great. Lol especially the kissy ones coupled with an "I'm home bored and I miss you."
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 01:27 PM
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No, you're misunderstanding. They're not throwing themselves at you initially. They just don't know how to handle the fact that you don't want them anymore. NOT ALL, but a lot of them go nuts. So, what i do now is just act beta instead of pushing them away by cutting them off. It's much more effective than dealing with the girls showing up at your house, refusing to take no for an answer, parked outside etc.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 01:26 PM
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I've tried the asshole approach and the chicks show up at my house crying, it's super messy. But I'll take that into consideration, thanks.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 01:24 PM
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It's not meant to be enlightening. I'm sure that I'm not the only man that has dealt with female drama when trying to get rid of them. Just because you might be aware of this doesn't mean every one else is.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 11:41 AM
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Glad to hear that. Enjoy my friend
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 11:38 AM
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Of course, you have to have something established before you play aloof. That goes without being said.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 11:31 AM
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This is great. I just posted something completely opposite of this, which is kind of funny.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 11:30 AM
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That's where Tinder comes in
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 11:26 AM
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Yup, unreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 11:54 PM
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It's unfair that men have to deal with the handicap of women in those fields. It's the same entitlement as when an attacker attacks, the man has to defend his woman. Well, the same thing happens here except she's getting paid to be helped
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 11:54 PM
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That was the idea, no? Except that's not what's been happening. They let them pass, or lower the standards, then the men have to deal with the repercussions. I just don't get why no one fights for those injustices.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 11:52 PM
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I think there's jobs women just shouldn't do. Those are the physical ones. Because you could argue that women can do the non physical aspects of military jobs. But then, if only the men go to war and the women reap the same benefits but safely doing something else while in the military, how is that fair? That's exactly what happens right now. They just send a man to do it. The women work less and risk less, and to make up the slack, the men work more and risk more. I don't blame them. If I was i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 09:30 PM
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I've only met 1 woman in my LEO career that can pull her own weight. You know what? Everyone respected the shit out of her. All the other ones would literally fuck their way into promotions and good schedules. 80% of the times we were responding to a distress call it was a woman being out powered by a man. We're literally raising women to think they can do this job. We're raising them for failure
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 08:43 PM
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There is equal opportunity... Why would you reiterate what I just said? You don't agree with lowering standards, but they do. Sooo? I guess we'd rather have equal employment than employ the most qualified
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 08:37 PM
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Exactly. I was actually having this conversation yesterday. They've lowered standards in military, fire, and police, hell even corrections. All to be politically correct and give women equal opportunity. Why? If 20 people applied for a position, and 3 of the 20 were women, but all the men out performed them, the women get the job. Because "equality." The real victims of inequality are now men. Why sell this lie that we are equal when we're not? I myself have been in serious danger at work becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 03:36 PM
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You mean, 3 and 4 at the same time? I've done 3 but never 4. 4 would be too much.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 02:20 PM
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I don't agree with the fact that high SMV guys won't be on here, I'm one of them. I live in Miami, Fl. Get pussy on call, and I'm on here. Why? Because I want to better myself, and be better able to sustain a LTR and family one day. Pussy is pussy, it's like eating a fucking sandwich to me. I could careless
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 12:47 AM
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That's where i disagree, there most definitely are not 1,000 better places to do it than a public restroom. It's very easy to follow someone into an empty bathroom with a closed door behind you. No one would know anything, no one would see anything. Could it happen somewhere else, sure. But, why would I would i want to give someone another opportunity to do so. And to be honest, I don't feel any sympathy for someone born of a certain sex being forced to use a bathroom they're not comfortable usi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/16 01:26 AM
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Then the law needs to reflect transman to use the men's bathroom. I'm sure there are people that I could never tell at a glance they were born men. My issue is the fact that it opens a huge door.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/16 12:58 PM
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Great Post OP Keep doing what you're doing it'll all pay off later. I have some things i can contribute to your issues. Don't do food dates, it requires a lot of talking. Unless you have a whole lot of stories to tell of exciting things you've done, avoid this. Instead, do exciting things: kayak, fish, go to the park, have a dog? Dog park, roller blade, cycling, swimming, beach, hiking, mountain climbing. Action dates are always better, because it's much easier to lead her, and for her to feel t…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/16 08:34 PM
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I was, and recently (last 4 months) realized it's a really bad idea here. It is most definitely hypergamy haven. Now that I have a boat, vagina juices flow like you wouldn't imagine. It's bad here
/r/TheRedPill30/04/16 05:12 PM
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That's really the issue. You're absolutely right, at the core of it all, that makes them uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 04:52 PM
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I'll take this a step further with a conversation i had with my mom last night. A little background of myself. I'm 29 years old, I've done in my life: EMT/Fire, Law Enforcement, Counter terrorism. Seen so much shit i could write a book probably, but nothing that other men in my same field haven't seen. Divorced from a short marriage, and some LTRs, and recently, a whole lot of fucking plates. When i was in counter terrorism traveling the US, there was a moment when after about a year of not seei…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/16 12:39 PM
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Wait, are you saying.... Hypergamy was around back then as well? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:42 AM
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It doesn't baffle me, it used to, but not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:39 AM
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I can agree with this, but most women i plate, eventually just settle with a beta. They'll text me too every now and again to see if my status with them has changed. I think the point of this, is that women can very easily use their vagina with a low value man(that values vagina) to get him to commit. I'm very picky with who i commit to, as should every man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:37 AM
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Not necessarily. I do that often, now and before RP. But post RP, I'm in a much better position to handle women and my own hamster.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:32 AM
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You're wrong. Go to a big city, like where i live, and go to a club. Then observe the men. Completely clueless, only a handful of guys have their pick of the litter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:29 AM
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Lol this is comical. Why does everyone seem to think TRP is about getting women? By becoming a RP man and living a masculine life, you will have plenty of women. If you choose to go into a LTR you will be a man better suited to maintain a relationship. The ignorance is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:28 AM
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We have threads for all kinds of different mentalities. TRP doesn't care about that, what we care about is men embracing their masculinity, and bettering their life for themselves. Whatever their position is on women, is their own choice. Women are not the priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:23 AM
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I can't even read the comments, because apparently they were deleted, but i can read yours, and they were perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:22 AM
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So because some police abuse their power, all police are accountable? I'm sorry I don't understand the logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:19 AM
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I just clarified my position in my other comment to /u/abacuz4
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:15 AM
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I would prefer one bathroom over transwomen using women's bathrooms. My only issue is born men, using women's bathroom. anyone man can self identify as a woman, on any given day, and no one would find it suspicious or say anything because it'd be ok. Therefore making the bathroom a perfect opportunity to inflict harm on a female. In fact, i would literally just go into the women's bathroom then with my loved ones to make sure nothing happens, and if anyone asks, I'd say i feel feminine right now…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 10:14 AM
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Well, that's a very easy answer. Transmen can use men's bathrooms, not women's. I have no issue with that at all. But that was a good question. The point of it all is that it creates opportunity, a very good opportunity actually. I'm not ok with that, why is that so hard to understand? I care more about the safety of women in general, than the feelings of a few. If that makes me terrible, oh well. I've been called worse and dealt with worse before
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 11:06 PM
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That's kind of my point. It should be illegal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 10:38 PM
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Typical
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 10:37 PM
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Probably the dumbest comment I've read ever. I'll let you think about that comment again
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 08:32 PM
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Well then I don't understand what you meant. My claim is that women are powerless against men. Putting that aside, as i'm sure you understand this, let me paint the picture since you don't seem to get it. Scenario 1. Guy wakes up and decides today is the day he's going to kidnap a young girl, or rape a woman. Dresses like a trans, and as he's walking into a restroom, someone sees him because a man isn't allowed into a female bathroom. Police or security are called, and the man is stopped. Scenar…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 05:41 PM
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They're not, but there are red flags, "like a man going into a womans restroom." Without that, it's open season for the sickos. NOT the transgenders.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 05:35 PM
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No, because the bathroom itself, and them being allowed to go into it without being questioned provides the perfect opportunistic opportunity. That's what you're not getting. The same guy could totally pin a woman against the wall, but not in that bathroom, because there is a much greater chance that someone would notice a man going into the female bathroom... Hopefully. But when you make it legal and ok for that to happen you open a door, literally. My scenario doesn't happen, because, i forgot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 05:10 PM
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I don't care what she would rather do. I care about the safety of my loved ones. "She" is not a woman. No. I thought you were a woman. I'm saying that I'm 5'10 and if you were a woman, or any woman, i could physically over power you in a second. The playing fields are no where near even. "They're not going to go through the trouble of putting on a dress." Says who? are you some kind of fucking wizard? This completely opens the door for these types of things to happen more frequently. What i'm no…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 05:05 PM
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Nature definitely gave us sexual organs. We didn't choose them. If you can't understand the differences and dangers involved with this, then I have nothing more to say to you. "bigot" huh? This convo is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 04:52 PM
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Yes, there is a choice when you go into a male or female bathroom. Go find a family bathroom then if you don't feel comfortable using the bathroom nature intended on you using. This isn't a phobia of me peeing next to a woman, or even peeing next to a man that is pretending to be a woman. This is simply a safety concern for females.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 04:44 PM
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Yes, but they are on a more even playing field. It's not even close to being the same thing. I used to work in DOC with female inmates for a short period of time. I never realized until i had to use force on women, how much stronger we really are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 04:41 PM
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Am i reaching? How do you determine who can and can not? How feminine, what body frame? They are without me and not at my side sometimes, but out in public. A bathroom that's closed that's meant for just women, and now isn't my idea of safe. Again, they'd be helpless against a man trying to inflict harm, and I nor anyone around would know if they were alone in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 04:22 PM
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Who cares if she's/he being asked to announce herself to everyone? That's her choice. 6'4 linebacker huh? I'm 5'10 and i promise you unless you're a crazy ridiculous strong female, i can slam you against the wall and knock you out in a matter of 2 seconds. So can A LOT of men, I'm not special. They are in danger everywhere, but I'm not comfortable with letting them go behind a closed door that's supposed to be for women where no one else can see what's going on. It's not a paranoia, it's reality…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 04:19 PM
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yeah, except that your argument makes zero sense. Everyone is in danger everywhere, which is why i carry my weapon to protect my loved ones. But in a bathroom, late at night, behind a closed door where no one else can see whats going on? No thanks. Bathrooms are supposed to be a safe haven for people to use at their own leisure. I'd rather have bathrooms that aren't gender specific, than a bathroom that a man can walk in that day because he feels like a woman when he woke up. Hell, I'll start go…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 04:10 PM
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No i sound like someone who understands the difference in strength that a man has versus a woman. You are helpless against us. It's not ok to put my loved ones in danger because some people are uncomfortable peeing in the bathroom they were born to pee in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 03:58 PM
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You seem to forget the fact that a man can have you pinned against the wall in a second, and there's nothing you can do about it. Why do women seem to forget how much stronger we are than them? It's mind boggling, how society and its laws has made you guys completely forget how powerless you really are against men. I have a huge issue with putting my loved ones in bathrooms with "men" and being powerless in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 03:44 PM
1

Honestly, i don't give a shit what anyone says to me. I get all your points, and it all sounds very rational, nice and understanding. But i don't care. Making it legal for a man to go into a public bathroom with little girls inside isn't ok. Sorry. Fucking cry me a river, you're different, you feel like a woman? DEAL with it. You're not a woman, you still have the strength of a man. As a former LEO, I've seen transgenders that are strong as fuck. Don't make the little kids deal with it. Don't pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 03:39 PM
2

the amused mastery, the carefree frame. You're obviously not that same guy with her. You need to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 03:18 PM
2

I hear you. I am ( was ) one of those as well. It's gotten better, but I'd say that's my biggest issue along with frame, it goes hand in hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 01:47 PM
2

It's that simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 12:24 PM
2

Believe it or not, this is a really hard thing to do with some people, especially if you're trying to unplug.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 12:22 PM
1

What /u/jigglydee said, use that on your girlfriend, not here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 12:21 PM
1

No, that's only if you act cocky and arrogant. There's a fine line. There's not many with a higher SMV than me at a bar or club, but when there is, if a girl makes a comment to shit test me, I literally ask if she wants me to go introduce her. Even if I had a SMV that was low, you need to have that irrational confidence. That confidence that cannot be broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 12:24 AM
1

SMV is definitely subjective. I'm from Miami, Fl... the women here literally shit on those women. There's men here that look like those guys dating women from here. There was a girl that i was messing around with that came from NJ. She was super conceited when she got to Miami, FL. One year later she moved back. She literally could not compete, find a decent guy or anything of substance. It's bad here, real bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 05:52 PM
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LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 05:50 PM
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The only decent looking women there were the last ones that got laid by the fat dude. Those other couples, I didn't see a significant difference in SMV at all. I didn't even think those women were cute, and the man too wasn't very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 05:42 PM
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What's really cute about this statement, is that women want a man that's attractive, and CONFIDENT. At the very least, he needs to be confident. But then we get people say men think they're more attractive than they really are. Lol . . maybe cause we have to be that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 05:34 PM
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Yes, which is why a huge part of being in a LTR is picking the correct partner while maintaining all that at the same time. I know men that have everything, and yet their LTR cheated. Because it's just shitty women sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 05:31 PM
2

I've seen one woman like this my entire life, and my best friend married her after i introduced them. She was a family friend
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 04:16 PM
1

Listen to Neo, either break up and tell her why and walk away, let her chase you, basically by using dread. OR you can just tell her what you want or you're done. You need to stop giving a shit though. Honestly I'd probably just tell her we can just be friends, and fuck her on the side if she's worth it. She disrespects the shit out of you, and so do her friends. Imagine the effort and work you're going to need to put into a female that not only lost attraction for you, but a female with shitty …
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 03:19 PM
2

I definitely went into the anger phase immediately after my breakup and digesting TRP. The saddest part is, I actually believed the bullshit people would tell me like, "just be yourself", "be happy you got to love", "the right one will come in time, be patient." I almost believed it and felt this depression looming over me, like, "what the hell can you do, it is what it is." It was a rough road to acceptance.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 02:39 PM
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If a man didn't know he had alpha and red pill traits because of upbringing, or just natural, he wouldn't be as you described. No valuable alpha male would sit around and not better himself and expect sex. In fact, sex isn't even our priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 01:04 PM
1

They'll never understand sir, I too was that man at one point. Life changed real quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 11:34 AM
1

BIG no. Definitely not big to me, but i guess i use the word big in a different context. It all comes down to what big means to you, me, and everyone else.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 11:09 AM
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I agree with this opinion. I won't ever go for a super super hot model chick, even though I've had like 1 or 2 in my life. Simply because of the work it requires, the effort behind it, the mindset they usually have, its unappealing to me. Because of that wiring in my brain, I'll see these girls and not even turn around to look, and i won't even think twice, completely unaffected by them. But when i see a girl that is within my range, that has features that attract me and she appears to just be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 11:04 AM
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I can attest to this. It might have to do with location as well, but in Miami, FL it's definitely about being more muscular than not. NOT huge, but definitely muscular alpha looking. 90% of the women here eat that up. If you don't look that way, you might as well not go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 10:54 AM
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I'll do it when i get a chance just to compare, I can't imagine my BF is any higher than 12-13%, but what do I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 10:46 AM
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I don't know that all the reading in the world will give some men the emotional intelligence to recognize when to not be alpha. Perhaps this is why some people naturally tend to stay as PUA, or spin long term plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 10:31 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 10:25 AM
1

I just read up on it, very cool! I honestly had never heard of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/16 10:24 AM
1

Calipers is what my friend the coach used on me. The gym has the machine that you hold. That's all I've done, whatever you were referring to before, bodpod? That I've never heard of
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 10:36 PM
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Yeah that's exactly what I've used. Never done the other tbh, never even heard of it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 10:05 PM
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Yeah, i can see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:56 PM
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Test it at the gym, plus one of my good friends is a trainer. he also tested it. Remember that pics are deceiving, if i turn side ways and flex hard it'll look more on the low end. Just depends on shadows and lighting. That's a pretty relaxed pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:55 PM
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https://imgur.com/a/98sli
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:45 PM
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https://imgur.com/a/98sli
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:43 PM
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How do i link it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:33 PM
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ROFL
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:31 PM
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I believe from a RP perspective, it's does that man retain the same value they had with the person prior to them being married? I agree and will say that the man doesn't lose value from a societal perspective, and to other women. But I think you can see that on some level, emotionally, and financially, that men lose power when they decide to marry. As opposed to keeping a woman on her toes forever, knowing she's not entitled to anything if she chooses to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 09:16 PM
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Once you develop the fear of "don't be beta" you try to never show weak traits, or show that you care. There's a whole lot of contradicting things on TRP in general with showing you care, when to do it, how often etc. But I feel MRP is the best balance for this. Especially Thefamilyalpha blog
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 09:08 PM
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Not sure i'm understanding the sarcasm here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 07:39 PM
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Looked through it all, couldn't find it.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 07:38 PM
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Sure will, thank you.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 05:16 PM
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I agree that it's too late for the relationship most likely, but he can learn and rebuild, isn't that the idea of swallowing the pill?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:22 PM
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I'm not sure what's so amusing? It's not a scapegoat, and i'm pretty sure i didn't just mention feminism. The reason i mention feminism is because of the change in women mentality and, as a result, the change in the way men are being raised. Feminism contributes a lot of good to society as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 03:19 PM
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You don't even need to use dread. If you're high enough SMV, she naturally feels dread. She knows your value and your worth. Sure, TRP talks about using dread if she is giving you negative behavior. But the idea behind TRP isn't to get by on tricks and dread, it's to increase your SMV and be confident, plain and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 02:41 PM
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I wouldn't consider marrying a woman that didn't pursue any kind of ambition. That's not what i'm talking about here. I'm talking about the ones that think that somehow they'll find a valuable man by being very successful. I've literally had women tell me that make 100k they can't find a good man to save their life. Because the men that are making upwards of 100k are shit, and they don't wanna be with a man making 50k. Now obviously this is an example, but it's all relevant. As a woman, if what …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 02:33 PM
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Who said anything about being roided up? I'm 5'10 190lbs 10% BF and i can attest to women being obsessed with this. But i look nothing like the skinny guy in that pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 02:24 PM
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Gay bars, lmao. Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 02:14 PM
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Miami, FL. Partying and vagina is so much, you get tired.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 01:56 PM
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They're not the majority any longer because women are being taught now from a young age to be independent, go to school and pursue your "dreams." Never is it taught anymore that it's ok to have children and be in a traditional family, when in reality, majority of women want that naturally, not all, majority. That's why so many women wait till a later age now to begin to try to settle, only to find the market saturated with beta men. Then complain that all the guys they like, don't want to commit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:52 PM
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I'd say you're in the minority. Could be the area you live in too, big cities tend to be more shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:35 PM
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That's basically the idea of the submissiveness we look for in a woman, yes. Just simply put, a captain first mate household. Visit Red Pill Women, they have a lot of information on this as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:34 PM
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of course not, which is why i said it's not too late for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 01:30 PM
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You could also argue that the current men are descendants of alphas, and, are only beta right now because society, feminism, and being raised by women due to high divorce rates has caused an increase in beta men. These men might just be uncovering their alpha nature, not faking alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:29 PM
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I don't see the negative anywhere in there. TRP tells men how to be men and be successful without women. Then if you choose to have women, whether serious or not, we discuss strategies on how to better connect with them. Where's the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:23 PM
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I agree, but i didn't know how this community worked either. I was just told go post your problem on TRP. Might be too late for his relationship, but not too late for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 01:19 PM
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Hit the nail on the head here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:17 PM
2

have you been to RPW sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:15 PM
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I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 01:07 PM
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Idk i was pretty bad after my LTR, and I've done a 180 in like 3-4 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 12:50 PM
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Because, you could argue that a lot of individuals would have deep emotional issues after this. You can't possibly have amazing relationships with your parents if you were getting beat a lot.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 12:40 PM
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I've heard good things about Heat. I'll watch it. Basically demand your respect or you walk. I played the dread game a lot with my ex. But it was verbal, overt. Now I realize it needed to be subtle and covert, by using negative reinforcement or flirting with chicks when we were out etc. I've always been the overt demand my respect kinda guy. It usually works tbh, but to a certain point, and now I know why. They gotta actually see and feel it, rather than the garbage you spit out.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 03:59 AM
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Not really actually. Miami, Fl. There's a lot of competition here.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 03:52 AM
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Could you get it naturally? Never taken any supplements, not even creatine. I feel 200 might be too big? I'm really not sure. I'm not really the type to want to stand out too much, and i already do.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 11:43 PM
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100% right here OP. You're lacking frame, she's shit testing you because she feels she can. Focus on yourself and becoming more masculine, and doing things that make you happy. At that point, she'll either come around, or she won't, and you'll be in a better place to move on without this doubt you have going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 11:26 PM
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yes definitely, i mean, there is some slight facial or rolling of the eyes. But that's the little kid / hamster. I just never realized that once she was there i had her in my frame. I just needed to basically play it cool at that point and change topics, or do something light. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 11:03 PM
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Wow, Lol. I just realized that i usually end up with the you're such an asshole, with them being quiet and kind of distant. Which means i won and they conceded. But i did get confused by that and actually pursue and try to fix the issue. Then she'll get happy, but distance herself even more, or need to go home etc. Luckily for me, my SMV is high, so i've fucked shit up so bad and somehow corrected it on looks alone. Jesus
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 09:56 PM
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From a woman perspective though it's very attractive. I'm 5'10 190 10% body fat. No issues here getting women.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 08:56 PM
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I can't imagine, I'm already at a point where i have all those options, I'm sure at that point I'd really just not give a fuck and be over it.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 08:54 PM
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How would you suggest to handle a "we need to talk conversation?" I mean, you obviously cannot just say no all together, you could postpone it till its on your terms. But eventually the hamster wants to run. So, just be stoic, don't explain yourself, and hold frame on whatever topic you feel is important to you? There comes a point where some explanations need to happen, or am i wrong about this? I'm aware that covert communication is more important, but if it's gotten to a point where she wants…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 08:49 PM
1

Surely this doesn't apply to having conversations of substance, right? Beliefs, life questions, etc.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/16 08:45 PM
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I felt the exact same way as you. "Why didn't she tell me what her parents were saying, why didn't she talk to me about what she was feeling." etc etc. The answer is because they themselves don't know and they just expect you to somehow just know. If their life is going bad, and you're in their life, guess what? It must be because of you. Not because of them. They're just emotional and lack logic, as soon as you digest the fact that they can't really control that side of them, it makes you reali…
/r/askTRP25/04/16 09:34 PM
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With 15 and 16 alone you could sustain anything.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/16 06:02 AM
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Some, but that's not very smart. Men age better than women, it's natural for a man to date a younger woman because she's more appealing. She obviously needs to have evergrtbing else in order for her to become a LTR / Wife. But to settle means, just that, you're settling. I think if you put a mature woman young and beautiful with a good frame next to an older woman not as beautiful or youthful with the same frame the man will always choose the younger woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 05:24 AM
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That was quite possibly the least factual article I've ever read. It was literally a bunch of hamster talk. Women lose in divorce in the end. Because men can recover. But initially the man takes a huge hit. Personally, I would fight for equal custody so that I don't need to pay for any child support. If I know she can't support herself, I'm assuming the judge would give some kind of alimony. But to give me a forever payment and not see my kids often or get to raise them? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 04:35 AM
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Of course, most valuable good men do. But with enough patience and effort, you can find a young beautiful woman with those values to have beautiful children with. Why would a valuable man even do otherwise ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 04:29 AM
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Read the article, it's about childless marriages. So of course he's going to thrive, while she's back to trying to find a man that can give her children (or child support). I said they can't find Chads because they're post wall. She can re-marry sure, but not a strapping younger man. She'll find someone who's divorced with kids or just divorced. If a man settles for a post wall woman that is divorced, I have no words. With all the young women a man can get even into his forties why in the world …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 03:27 AM
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From a monetary stand point, emotions aside, men suffer more. Emotions are another thing. If a guy gets back on his feet monetarily, gets in shape, we can just hit reset. Women after a divorce usually end up single forever because they're post wall. They can never marry a young Chad no matter how in shape they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 02:48 AM
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Women are emotional, men are more logical. Because of that they chase the emotional "high." A man will sit down and he might cheat for new vagina but won't leave because he values a good woman for his family. A woman doesn't see things that way. She'll cheat for a variety of reasons including mostly emotional support, then when she realizes how much she can get from the divorce plus the new comfort on the side, its an easy decision. Its MUCH more devastating to the man when he loses his assets, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 02:20 AM
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No, I disagree. Why is the scale tipped then? 33% of men only leave ??? Marriage is a joke now because women leave and don't work on relationships how they used to because NOW they have incentives. Somehow someway they will correct this when they see that society is like at a 70% divorce rate. They'll realize you can't give people a reason to leave
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 12:34 AM
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Nothing to do with children other than women have an incentive to leave once they have a child. Because now they truly have financial freedom and don't need you in the least bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 12:29 AM
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http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/female-infidelity I figure it's even or more tipped toward women cheating now a days. But consider ribs, if the scales are even, why are women leaving marriages 66% of the time to 33% of men? Could it be, dun dun dun. Marriage laws and incentives for women to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 12:28 AM
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I have literally had older women tell me that they need to have a baby with a successful man do they can be set. Now go ahead and apply that same logic to when a relationship isn't doing so well, what the hell is stopping the woman from leaving when she has: A) no fault divorce B) child support C) custody D) alimony (possibly) E) half his assets
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 12:22 AM
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This meant that while less than 20% of couples who married in 1950 ended up divorced, about 50% of couples who married in 1970 did. And approximately half of the children born to married parents in the 1970s saw their parents part, compared to only about 11% of those born in the 1950s. http://nationalaffairs.com/publications/detail/the-evolution-of-divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:56 PM
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And somehow the divorce rate stayed there? I believe it has more to do with the fact that women now have an incentive to leave. Which in my opinion is ridiculous. There is literally absolutely no benefit for a man to marry a woman unless it's for military benefits. It's completely useless, all to follow tradition, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 09:35 PM
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So true man. So so true. You fucking know it, deep in your gut. One day after such a great loving day and cute talk in bed. She leaves to go home, and you're like.... SHIT Lol
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 08:21 PM
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I had the same issue. The way i countered it was to literally make a list of everything i wanted in a chick. It was my list, i came up with based on my needs and after reading here on TRP. Then i just apply it to chicks i meet. Does she fit my checklist? nope. Plate
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 08:20 PM
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Exactly as u/uBrunoOh just said. It doesn't have to be plates, but with enough time of abundance, you will develop that mentality without even having a single chick.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 08:18 PM
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OP your situation is worse than mine was recently, I just had a LTR that i too thought was who i was going to settle down with. I already had intentions of doing so. Like you, my world revolved around her, and hers mine. It was mutual, we were like best friends. Long story short, she didn't call anything off, instead i caught her texting someone else. Then all the lies started rolling in, similar to yours. "I want to feel like a woman, i need space, I need to find myself. You weren't there for m…
/r/askTRP23/04/16 04:01 PM
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That went over your head. She's claiming men cheat more, as a blanketed statement. I disagree with that totally.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 03:28 PM
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I agree that the magazines aren't of ugly women, the plus size women are usually attractive. Sure, some men like women with more curves than other men. But the point of what I'm trying to say, is that men don't seem to complain about this so much. Also, society doesn't seem to think its an important issue for men. It all revolves around women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 03:26 PM
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I died laughing. Everyone at work just stared at me.
/r/askTRP23/04/16 02:26 PM
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It depends on what you want man. I find that it if you're looking for a LTR / family it'll hurt you with the type of women you would want in an LTR. Seems like you're a man whore if you do it often. I was doing that for a bit, and it looks try hard in my opinion. If i'm taking pics with girls, it's group pics and activities. Other than that it's literally my boys, boat pics, kayak pics, dog pics at the park / beach. Mostly active stuff. Zero selfies.
/r/askTRP23/04/16 01:57 PM
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How do they not represent the movement, when they are literally thinking it's ok to be fat and you should be loved for it? That mentality spreads like wildfire, and is exactly why we have all these plus size women magazines, but no plus size men, and short men magazines.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 01:54 PM
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That's actually possible, the hard part is getting one that stays "not curious"
/r/askTRP23/04/16 01:50 PM
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I start having open conversations about Tinder, random chicks I meet and how I'm tired of it etc. Usually the initial comments to this in of itself is a sign. If she's super adamant and disagrees entirely, and almost turned off by my honesty and stories, i know shes not a ho; however, when i see her entertained, I'll play along and get her to be open by telling her to tell me stories as if it's comical. Immediate plate status. This is one of the first things i do, aside from trying to sleep with…
/r/askTRP23/04/16 01:49 PM
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I'm definitely going to get into the blacklist again. I miss that show and the stories he would tell. They were always insightful in some way
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 12:16 PM
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Women mean well when they tell white lies such as these. They tell these lies while the love is still there. very true.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 12:16 PM
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apparently you're psychotic
/r/askTRP23/04/16 12:12 PM
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yeah
/r/askTRP23/04/16 12:11 PM
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68/88/26
/r/askTRP23/04/16 11:08 AM
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getting casual sex is very hard if not impossible. are you joking me? It's not hard at all to have sex with a different girl everyday of the week. It's exhausting, but hard? No way. Not sure where the hell you're making this assumption from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:52 AM
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I see it the same way as taking a girl out to dinner and impressing her to get laid. Which is why I don't even do that. My dates consist of out door things that are cheap, that I fully enjoy doing. If she enjoys it, and we have chemistry, we fuck. It's that simple. I could careless about sex, and most women that i date want to have sex within the first two dates. Sex isn't difficult, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:50 AM
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and there aren't male prostitutes? strippers? escorts? why don't we complain about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:46 AM
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It's very much about accepting fat as being ok. I've come across women who tell me I'm shallow because I wouldn't date a fat girl.SMH Fat is not ok. Do something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:36 AM
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Men cheat more, so it's one reason women divorce more. The hamster is real. Surely it's not because women have incentives to divorce, right? Child support was established in 1975, ironically(and of course coincidential) divorce rate went from 30% to 50% immediately. I'm sure of none of this is relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:28 AM
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Then go out often, talk to people, be social and see for yourself what the dynamic is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:07 AM
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You're insecure bro. I get why you care, I've been there. But realize women are emotional, and if she's mate guarding and displaying all these interest in you its for a reason. -n 3 is a joke. That's like heaven for me. I meet girls in the 30-50 range everywhere. So relax and realize you have it good right now. Focus on displaying masculinity and holding that shit down. Read!
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 11:57 PM
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Great tip on the app. I already had set questions I memorized that I simply like to ask, but it's good to mix it up and have an activity
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 11:22 PM
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You're not a man, dating many women. The women I meet, and I meet many, are in the 30-50 n count. Completely broken by age 23-24
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 11:19 PM
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Give me an example of punishing behaviors aside from the obvious? I feel that I might come off too strong when they do something I do not approve of.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 11:02 PM
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Go to a big city and it's all you see. Hypergamy till post wall then settling for betas. It's rampant in Miami Florida
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 10:23 PM
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You can talk to her like your male friends. In fact you should, Be cocky, tell her about exciting stories. Ask questions of substance, not what's your favorite color. Find what she's passionate about and let her talk etc
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 07:36 PM
1

Hmm. Ok... It's never been so much an issue of not getting massages or sex. My SMV is high, it's more of a respect thing, they shit test or deny request. Maybe it's me that's trying to come off too dominant, so they retaliate
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 07:02 PM
1

I completely agree. That's why we try to help them. By posting logical things and commenting on angry threads and stopping that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 06:20 PM
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What if on the flip side you ask for her for a cup of water, and she giggles, or something of similar sorts. That's happened to me, and I take it personal. How would you handle that kind of shit test?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 06:19 PM
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I wouldn't wish pepper spray on my worst enemy. I'll gladly fist fight, rather than pepper spray and get that shit on me. I'm going to really work on being amused at all her shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 05:39 PM
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Yup. Especially coming from a position of power.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 05:16 PM
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yeah i can see that. I need to work on this. Definitely my weakness
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 05:10 PM
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and with divorce rate at 50%, and women have ONS children, and all the homosexuals... How many are left?
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 05:04 PM
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completely. You know what's funny is that I hold frame EXTREMELY well at work, with co-workers and everthing. Law enforcement background. But i guess in my LTR's and ex wife, I'm a fixer. I try to fix the problem, but i never looked at it from that angle. That's literally what i do at work, play the I'm just too smart for your bullshit card. Thanks a lot man i appreciate the thorough explanation. I think i just realized, the main reason for my failed relationships in the past have been a lack of…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 05:04 PM
1

I take this approach often. But sometimes women don't allow themselves to fall beneath. Is it something I'm lacking, or is it that some woman are too far gone in feminism?
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 02:59 PM
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It is the job of the man who commits to such a woman romantically to then maintain the legacy that her father left, good girls will turn bad in the absence of a strong male figure, for it is woman’s emotional transient nature which causes them to stray from the path of romantic success. Good women are not only made by men, but must also be maintained by men. In the absence of such leadership, women take on detrimental qualities in the name of “freedom” https://illimitablemen.com/2014/03/21/women…
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 02:44 PM
1

Could you elaborate on the laughing to her shit test? Seems to be one of my weak points, holding frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 02:27 PM
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Bread winner, head of household, traditional, leader, strong hand. Most importantly, is she attentive to him, and does she respect him?
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 01:43 PM
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I guess woman don't grieve. Don't even get me started with women grieving and their emotional outlets they take on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 01:41 PM
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They're decreasing. It's terrible.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 01:40 PM
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This has literally been the single most important thing that I look for in a woman. From day #1 I'm trying to fuck her. On my A game. Literally trying every angle possible. 99% of the time they all fall within 2 dates at the most. But every now and then, you get one that can actually hold out, even though i can tell she wants to. That to me is the most attractive thing she can have. Second to that, is the relationship with dad. It's very hard to find BOTH of these things going for a woman. It's …
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 01:40 PM
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AWALT doesn't say that all women will do it no matter what. AWALT says, all women will do it in the absence of a strong valuable man. People misconstrue that. AWALT is there to tell you, "hey this is what will happen if you're not on your shit."
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 01:31 PM
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There's very few left of those women. But they're out there. They all feel these same temptations, as we do. But, some are more grounded on what is valuable. But if you're not a valuable man, none of it will matter anyway, because you'll lose even the best of them.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 01:27 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4fvzfi/liking_sex_doesnt_make_a_woman_a_slut_no_self/ Look at this recent thread by a MOD. There's no anger, read it thoroughly with an open mind. It's not about anger and fucking and i hate women. What you perceive RP in the big picture is incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 01:25 PM
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Because it's normal. Anger is part of the grieving process.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 01:17 PM
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I've yet to come across one. It's not a sell, that's not what we're about or try to be about. Actually, we're very against that. We focus on being a successful, healthy, independent, non-needy man that owns his shit and protects or speaks up for the weak. There is nothing fake or unattractive about that. It's not for women that we do it. The goal is not sex, sex is easy to achieve. We do it for us and to live a healthy fulfilling life. There is no straight woman on this planet that does not want…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 12:20 PM
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People, more specifically women, hate the idea that men actually get together to be better men and discuss the faults in women. They want it to be "natural." But then they can't resist the kind of guys that we are, because we focus on being the kind of men women want, not need.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 10:57 AM
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You just proved my point, instead of arguing that you won't leave and try to rough it out. Men do, but if sexual needs aren't being met. We're fixers. We don't necessarily try to do better, we try to better the person we're with. Because we value different things. Women by nature want the best they can possibly achieve, especially if what they're with isn't performing up to par. The whole purpose of what we discuss and try to take in, is how to live your life for you, and make yourself happy bey…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 05:56 PM
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No, we say that she will leave or branch swing if her needs aren't met. It's all to counter the notion of "true love" and forever. If the attractive male at work comes by and games her every day, she'll probably not leave or do anything if shes happy at home. But you bet your ass the second something is wrong, she's thinking about comfort in that guy at work. Men don't work this way, because we're not so emotionally dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 03:49 PM
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All relative to the person. Whatever you decide to do, own it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 03:26 PM
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It doesn't matter how hard it is to do better. Everyone has a one up. We don't say, women will only leave for the top 20% of men. We simply say they will always try to do better. The logic is that the attempt at better is made. What we focus on in RP is simply that the fantasy of true love and the "one" that will never leave you is all false. It's all so that we can better understand how to better ourselves, instead of being complacent in life. That's the true message, angry RP men though, misco…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 03:25 PM
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Yea, it's an issue with definition of the word then. It's definitely a manipulation rather than intelligence. I see your point.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 03:20 PM
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Women have died in combat, so apparently so. Even though I'm sure their superiors try to avoid putting them there. Which brings the next point, isn't that unfair?
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 03:15 PM
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Tons of those. I mean tons
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 03:07 PM
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But women don't sleep around with muscular aloof assholes until 30, at which point they find an unwitting beta to marry when they realize they can't do better. I'm not sure where you live or where you don't see this occurring, but you might want to re-evaluate that statement. We don't say all women do this, we say the non-valuable, non relationship ones do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 03:01 PM
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Red Pill doesn't say that all women do things in the same way or are attracted to the exact same things. It's about being a complete man, so that you can be the best version of yourself, for yourself. As a result, women will be plentiful and an accessory to your life. The behavior of women that we speak of is a bit of generalization but as a whole what we believe in holds true. -Women want physical security -Women want emotional security -Women want financial security It's a tripod, and they wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 02:55 PM
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It's all relative. The guy can hold his own as long as he's confident and the woman he's with doesn't make it a big deal either. But give the choice to a woman of two equal men, one taller one shorter, the taller one wins always. In fact, just in the way they perceive you initially you already have a one up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 02:32 PM
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I've had women shit test me, where it has no effect and i can shut it down or be unaffected by it. I think it has to do with timing on when they deliver the comment / question. That's kind of why i believe it's a form of intelligence. There are different forms of intelligence, all kinds actually. I mean the wittier more informed women, usually have a way of delivering shit tests in a situation where its harder to counter; however, i can see that in the end its all a big garbage lie anyway.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 02:24 PM
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If we're talking about a LTR then sleeping with another woman is literally just for a plate. If she's just a plate, i welcome that behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 02:07 PM
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That makes sense, the more intelligent ones usually are the ones that are harder to keep a good frame with. They're the ones that shit test more.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 02:01 PM
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I think it does. Think about combat situations. Getting over walls, picking up hurt fellow marines, etc. It applies a lot.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 01:20 PM
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There's plenty in Miami, Fl
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 12:44 PM
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I had the same exact scenario. Guys like us prey on those simple looking girls because they consider them good LTR material. Traditional, simple, cute chick. No hashtags, pics of us, her fam, no bathing suits or selfies. Long story short, she ended up talking to some guy for a while behind my back while we were going through a rough time. Careful with social media. It's just an easy outlet
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 11:56 AM
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You know, I have a really strong frame at work and with family. But with women, even though it's gotten better, I just have more of a cocky attitude. But eventually that breaks down because - reasons. Watching movies in bed, dinners, late night talks etc. eventually the cockiness fades and I lose frame, not always of course. Never with the strictly plates. But I find the more that you have real talks, the quicker it does fade.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 11:39 AM
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Hmm. I mean to keep it simple, I think we can all agree that no matter what if there's a lack of dread, they won't be so eager to please. I mean I get that you're just giving a brief story, but I've never experienced something bad happenin after one act of kindness. I've actually done nice things and been heavily rewarded. I just have to remind myself to not revert back to fantasy blue pill land, which I don't know why is so hard for me to do. But I find that as long as I balance it, and keep a …
/r/TheRedPill21/04/16 10:31 AM
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You explained that much better than me I feel. But to re-iterate, yes, I agree 100%. Do you have a link to that thread?
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 12:43 PM
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It's true, and i agree that this holds true to many. But I will say that, one of my current plates is super, super mentally strong on her views. Typical feminist. I can't imagine even trying to be with that woman. What's funny is that she wants to have a traditional marriage, yet she has no clue what that actually entails.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 03:45 AM
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I don't think it's fair to say that this one post about women nature and the fact that many people haven't understood that this is human nature, is indicative of the entire Red Pill community and what it's about. If anything, what i've gotten from this community is more along the lines of being masculine, becoming a powerful man, finding happiness within yourself, instead of trying to find happiness in a relationship. Also, I think one of the biggest things I've taken from RP is that women are e…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 03:36 AM
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If you look at her and see anything besides emptiness, fear and emotional hunger, you are looking at the parts of yourself which have been consumed to that point I'm trying to wrap my head around that quote. Is this the same as the "she's your mirror?"
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 03:21 AM
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You sir, have it pretty much figured out. I would say though that if you do want a relationship, the only way to do it is to get a woman significantly lower than your SMV, make sure she's from a traditional home, and be masculine as fuck.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 03:15 AM
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I'm going to go ahead and disagree with an endorsed here. Christian women do know how to conceal it better because they logically and rationally know it's wrong and its frowned upon amongst their family and religious friends. They do still fight their temptations just like everyone else does, and just like their non christian female counter parts do. But, there's christian women that literally have the fear of god in them, and would fight their hypergamy till the end. Then there's Christian wome…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 03:07 AM
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That's not necessarily true. They don't thank god for helping them get through it. They thank god for giving them a "loving husband."
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 03:00 AM
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This is big. I'm 29 now, I never drank in my early twenties. I can't tell you how many people i know that need to drink half a bottle of hard liquor to even get tipsy and they're still miserable.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 04:41 PM
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I think SMV and taking care of yourself should cover teeth. But, feel free to write up a post about proper dental care then, i'm sure someone might find it useful.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 04:37 PM
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I agree with all this. I spent a good 3 months reading and lurking before really taking it all in. But not everyone learns that way, sometimes people need to have discussions and give their point of view. Everyone is different.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 04:35 PM
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I wonder if maybe you do it too soon? I've noticed when a woman is really really into you and you've established that value in her eyes, you can get away with murder pretty much. The hard part for me is not reverting back and maintaining frame once you feel that way. But i guess a good way to do it is to always just be aloof. It just feels so fake that way, it's terrible.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 02:06 PM
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Lol. I need to move to wherever you are. I've always said, half the guys in Miami clubs could go anywhere else and tear it up. There's a lot of competition here.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 10:55 AM
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You know what's funny about all that? Once you get into an LTR and stop banging different chicks for long enough, if you don't do the "other" stuff, you will lose that irrational confidence. So i suggest you focus on the total package.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 10:50 AM
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I'm a trained assassin, so there's that.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 10:37 AM
2

twins is definitely on the bucket list.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 10:35 AM
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Funny i came back to read this first original post of mine after being on TRP for a solid 3 months. Read your comment and for the last two months, nothing has bothered me more than how I handled that break up. If i could go back, i would've handled it exactly as you described, and i knew that, before even coming back here to read your comment. Thought i should drop in and shed some light on that.
/r/askTRP19/04/16 03:01 AM
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Start working out little by little, habits are hard thing to break. Think about something you really want in your life, whatever it is, and then focus on getting that one thing. You'll see that once you get in the habit of trying to achieve that one thing, everything else will start flowing. Start with a short term goal first, then something better etc.
/r/askTRP19/04/16 02:51 AM
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I'll give you my play by play and i'm pretty successful. First things first, make sure your breath is good, and you smell good. Make sure before you even get to your place, your acting cocky and playful and you're teasing her. -after getting her topless work on the nipples, then back up to making out with your hands still on her breasts. -make sure you're passionate, if you overtly show you're horny and enjoying it, she'll usually reciprocate. Don't be silent. -man handle her, flip her, sit her …
/r/askTRP19/04/16 02:42 AM
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Great comment man. So true
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 09:23 PM
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I agree, I'm getting there myself. I think I've already made it through the 5 stages of grieving and everything I've learned here is priceless. There are certain individuals on RP that know their shit. I try to lurk on their posts and comments as much as I can.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:14 PM
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Is your SMV high enough? Are you undoubtedly the leader? If not, work on it, and if she's still pushy then drop her. It's ok to make demands and be selfish with what you want in your life.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 05:10 PM
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It's ok to crave it, but keep it in check. Counter that feeling by having many women around. I find that if what you're craving is LTR, you tend to try to compromise more and deal with things you truly don't want. Create a checklist of well thought out traits, and use that as a guide to counter your emotional feelings.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 05:06 PM
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It's not as simple as it's going to rot and it's a matter of time. I view it like a bank account, you're good until you go negative. You can always turn things around so don't fret on the stupid little things. What I recommend you do is the obvious stuff we talk about here. Lift, diet, find hobbies that you truly enjoy. Go out often to social things with people. Use tinder, and date a lot, but don't spend money just meet and do fun outdoorsy things. The more you talk with women the more comforta…
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:28 PM
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It was very sad reading all that bullshit. I figured I would get banned, which is in part why I didn't comment. And their main page is literally 85% stuff about TRP. They don't even have their own shit to talk about. Lol PPD?
/r/askTRP17/04/16 10:36 PM
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Yeah, what's sad is that at some point, most of us thought that way. Jesus.
/r/askTRP17/04/16 08:35 PM
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I feel like I'm on the same boat.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 08:34 PM
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There really is no real answer to this except to not CARE so much. You might mess these first ones up, because you're coming out of a LTR, and that's all ok. Because as soon as you start dating them in abundance you will begin to be more confident and just be yourself. Don't agree to dates where you won't thoroughly enjoy it. I will only go on dates where the date is something that i enjoy, because if the woman doesn't like what i like, then i don't want her in my life. I won't compromise. The i…
/r/askTRP17/04/16 08:28 PM
1

I didn't know about that sub, i will use it as well. Thanks.
/r/askTRP17/04/16 08:20 PM
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You have a lot of reading to still do my friend. Go to marriage red pill sub reddit, and read the required reading material. All of it. Nothing of what you just said is correct. You're stuck in the anger/bargaining phase. If you're a valuable enough man, and assuming that you chose a fairly traditional woman to marry you should be ok as long as you own your shit and be a man. But this little male hamster that you got going on right now is a one way street for her to cheat. Because if you're aski…
/r/askTRP17/04/16 08:17 PM
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I'm currently reading the book, so far so good. Nothing i didn't already know from RP though.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 07:38 PM
1

I can get others easy enough as well. To the point that I literally need breaks from them. My issue and I've realized not many men feel this way, is that you just don't have the same connection with all of them. Which makes it hard sometimes to stay in that frame when you do click with one really well. That's the hardest obstacle I'm still trying to conquer.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 07:25 PM
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I had a similar thing happen to me where she denied ever doing anything. Of course, i looked into it, and i uncovered the truth. The weirdest most satisfying look you will ever see from a female is when you both know she just got caught 150% in her lie, and you see her for who she really is. Of course that also means its the end of you guys in every way possible. Because you now remind her of the her she doesn't "want to be."
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 11:59 AM
1

Women will definitely fuck beta's I've seen it all too often, and usually as an emotional fling. Beta's aren't necessarily unattractive either, some look great.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/16 11:09 AM
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I agree completely. My point comes from a place where we are intelligent enough already to understand WHY to get married. It's ok if your whole life you've been brought up to crave this tradition, as long as before you do that, you know what to look for in a woman, and as long as she is beneficial to your life.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 11:00 AM
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There's a very deep meaning behind that tradition, one that you might not understand. But society and marriage 2.0 has completely ruined that tradition, leaving us where we are now.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 05:25 AM
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You have to pick your poison. There's always going to be flaws in one way or another. But what DJ is saying is true, a lot of times, the flaws that are being presented aren't the flaws that come out later on. I find that a lot of times women especially, are aware of their flaws. They purposely try to hide them, and usually what they're hiding is what made their last relationship fail.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 05:21 AM
1

So, I've tired this on maybe 3 girls, and failed at all. To be clear, I have no issues with making girls climax both orally or through penetration. Sex for me is always great, and I'm very dominant. But the elusive squirting I can't get down. I'm not sure if I'm simply not finding the spot with the "come hither" motion? Not even going to attempt the Jack Hammer even though i could totally grip hard enough to do it.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 05:16 AM
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The hardest truth I've had to swallow, is not only that this is the reality of it all. But, if you stop being this man, you WILL lose her, in whatever form she finds an outlet with. Then, more importantly than all that, I realized, who cares? There's always another one if she does. We can just hit reset. That's when everything clicked for me. Now, the funny thing is, none want to leave. Oh Red Pill. Lol
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 05:02 AM
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Agreed. I do this often as well. To make it even better, when they get upset, I call them out on it, making myself the more mature one.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 04:58 AM
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I understand the meaning behind that quote. I've read it a lot here on TRP. But i have to say i disagree with what its saying. It's implying that you can not keep anyone. That is not true. I will say that no one belongs to anyone, male or female. If you're a masculine enough male, and choose wisely on who you want to LTR, you will hold on to them.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 04:54 AM
1

This right here is the truth
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 04:51 AM
1

I can't give you a cycle per say. But i can tell you that I'm 5'10 185 10% body fat and ripped as fuck. I eat about 3500 calories per day, and about 170-180 grams of protein. I meal prep, it's the only way to do it. I work out a lot. 5 days a week, and every morning when i wake up I knock out about 150 pushups and 150 squats just to get the day started before I even eat. My workout sessions are about 1 hour and 30 minutes broken up like this: Day 1) Arms - Biceps and Triceps / Abs. Day 2) Legs Q…
/r/askMRP16/04/16 04:44 PM
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but the issue is that taking her back after certainty of infidelity (like her confessing) is such a strong display of low value, on your part, that she may not be able to ever be attracted to you again. While i think this is true, I believe it has to do more however, with YOU thinking that she won't see you the same. We know that women are emotional and work off their emotional highs and lows with little rational thought. If you're alpha enough and truly don't give a shit, she'll feed off that a…
/r/askMRP16/04/16 04:18 PM
1

Yes, I definitely understand that from a evolutionary standpoint, the best man in that moment wins, till the next one comes along. I suppose everyone is different, I could give a shit if I hurt another guys feelings by fucking his chick, he'll learn from it and become a better man like most of us do here on RP. What I do care about is empowering women as a whole and being the outlet of their hypergamy. Simply because I have options, there's so many, I don't need the one in a relationshp. But you…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 05:36 PM
1

I don't see why refusing to fuck chicks that are in a relationship married or not is a bad thing. Isn't TRP all about masculinity and not putting women on a pedestal? The worst thing you can technically do is give women an outlet, and empower them. It's not even about morality for me, more than it is about teaching a lesson. BTW the Rules don't say you cannot discuss values and ethics.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 05:10 PM
1

I've done some research on MRP for getting your wife into shape and there is nothing really concrete about a woman who just doesn't like to work out even though her man is higher in SMV and works out Maybe you know of a good post?
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 04:34 PM
2

I would love to know WHERE that statistic is being taken. Every chick i meet that is under 9 i feel is already starting on the right foot. Lol
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 11:23 AM
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That was put into context pretty well I must say.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 11:08 AM
0

No it doesn't if your value remains high as a man, and as long as she is beneath you in status. Being in a LTR is hard work, you cannot slack off, and the higher you go in SMV as a partner, the harder is is to maintain.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 08:12 PM
1

I've considered before that it's possible they could have been seduced by my charm. There would have to be other huge signs showing me otherwise if she gave it up too soon.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 01:35 PM
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I agree, best thing I've ever read. Success isn't in getting women. Because that would mean failure is not having a woman. -Book of Pook
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 12:08 PM
2

Once you have enough vagina available, these things seem to just not bother anymore. It's all about YOU and what you want in the moment. Always go by what you want.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 11:11 AM
1

If you do it, at the very least get a prenuptial agreement.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 11:08 AM
1

I personally like girls who make me wait a bit. By bit, i mean, a month max. If a chick is so loose that she has sex with me on day 1, 2, or 3, I'd never consider her for a LTR. The way i see it is, I'm a high value male, if she can with stand my advances then that means she has some form of self control. I'd rather have that, than the girl that can't "help herself."
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 10:53 AM
1

I recommend you read Meditations and The Enchiridion then The Obstacle is the Way I am a practicing stoic and I feel that this 'philosophy of life' has done more for my mental health and Masculine growth than any other aspect of my life. If you say these books helped out your masculine growth and mental health, I'm definitely going to get them. I'm finishing up married man sex life primer. Thanks for the recommendation
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 04:07 AM
1

Yes, i fully understand why it occurs. I've read enough to get it. But in this case, this woman simply doesn't enjoy working out at all. She's not fat, but could tone up like anyone else could. I'm just trying to get ideas on how to approach it, that's all. I'll try searching
/r/TheRedPill04/04/16 05:08 PM
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In this post you mention that there are several posts on MRP about a wife getting in shape, or better said, a man leading his wife to getting in shape. Do you know of any that I could read?
/r/TheRedPill04/04/16 05:00 PM
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No lie man, all of this is literally my checklist on what I'm looking for. What i struggle with the most is paying attention to their actions versus what they say. So difficult to disconnect your brain from the sweet things shes says sometimes its nuts.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 10:51 AM
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oh, that was good. Totally using that
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 10:36 AM
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It's not gonna work as a LTR bro. So either take it for what it is, and have fun with it, which it seems you can't, or move on. Which you won't. Since you're gonna do neither, hit the gym hard, work some dread game and be irrationally confident so you feel like the prize.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 10:23 AM
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I have social anxiety that I have lived with for the better part of 12 years or so. It has become more manageable. But since my recent breakup I decided to tackle it head on. One thing I've found that works well for me, anything that I feel anxious about or fear, I do. If I go out to a bar or club, and I get the slight feeling that I don't want to go to the bar area, I simply go. Anything negative that I don't want to do, I just do it. Also, if I get any kind of invite somewhere that I feel unco…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/16 03:37 AM
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Miami, Fl here. Always down for that
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 11:18 PM
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This is soooo difficult to do my friend.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/16 02:01 AM
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That makes perfect sense, and I agree with all that. I have friends that are single and very alpha, at least on the outside. They have sex with tons of married women that are married to beta guys. Outside the sex, those women are perfectly happy and will continue to stay in that relationship. Something tells me that a lot of these beta men might have a hint of what's going on, but refuse to even look into it. There's no way your woman cheats on you that often and you haven't the slightest clue, …
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 09:37 PM
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Remember you do this all for you. Bring women into your life to be an accessory to your life, don't make your life about getting women. Otherwise not getting women, means failure.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 09:21 PM
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If you're out there to plate women and learn to be successful, don't get drunk. Just have a beer or a whiskey and nurse it. Watch other guys fail, I don't know how observant you are but i like to comment on things that they're doing as line openers, I wait for moments where they're trying to take pictures. I'll grab their phone and offer to take a picture, then take like 35 pictures while they're getting ready for the "pic." Then laugh about it after, you gotta have fun with it. It's not as simp…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 09:10 PM
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I'm an 8 maybe even closer to 9, and I'll tell you that it's hard to hold them down anyway. You can get away with a lot more slacking, but by no means is it easy. If you don't have your RP fundamentals in line, you'll fail all the same. Something crossed my mind the other day. We talk a lot about BP men, and how they are not real men, how they're secretly unhappy, and how usually the women run the relationship. I've met quite a bit of different women, all kinds of women. Some more alpha female t…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 09:02 PM
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I get Incentives, Peer Pressure, and Shaming the most out of this list. FYI
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 08:57 PM
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Funny enough, i did the opposite. I immediately jumped on the bandwagon, dated a ton. Now, 2 1/2 months later I'm pulling back to go into a bit of a monk mode. It's overwhelming to say the least
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 08:56 PM
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Pay more attention when talking to them. Get your SMV up, read a lot more, and just do it. You'll begin to notice that the more you do it, the more you can anticipate, and lead them into answering what you want. It's kind of mind blowing how much you can actually control a conversation when you know what you're doing. It almost puts a sour taste in your mouth, because you realize just how similar they all are at the core.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 08:53 PM
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Before this recent LTR that ended, i used to go out alone all the time. Probably the best carefree time I've ever had.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 08:49 PM
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Absolutely man, great comment
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 12:33 PM
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I would see this as a good thing as well. You can definitely have a man cave and still the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 12:24 PM
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How are you gonna say that story and not tell us what the doctor said? Lol BTW totally agree with your post. Good stuff as always
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 12:19 PM
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I just saw the chart he spoke of, my god.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/16 05:54 PM
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I was actually talking about this with my friend the other day. Forget about women and feminism, how about just teaching us how to be men while in school? It's why when we get older we're hit with such harsh realities.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/16 05:43 PM
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This is amazing. Where was this comment when I posted my issue 3 months ago.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 06:10 AM
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I shit you not bro. This is exactly my rules with them when they come over. Don't disrespect me. -Don't talk about other men -Don't text or speak to other men when we're together. Works amazing
/r/TheRedPill15/03/16 04:31 AM
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If someone had said this to me when i was 18, man oh man. You couldn't be more right sir, coming from a 29 year old man currently in college.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/16 04:44 PM
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In attractiveness, I'm in the top 10%. Overall, i would say no, because I'm still working on my career. I'm not sure what your SMV is, but i live in a City where the competition is very real and hypergamy is very real. Miami, FL. However, I won't fall victim to the mindset of checking out completely. I'm more on the Marriage Pill side where i want a family. I understand that there is a very good chance finding a valuable female in Miami is not going to happen. But it doesn't mean there aren't op…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/16 04:21 PM
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Lol at your Edit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/16 12:57 PM
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Definitely pre selection. Especially when they start commenting on a pic, any chick you're talking to gets massive dread.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 11:10 AM
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Awesome man, let me know when you finish the video.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 11:09 AM
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True, not having it is probably better than having a shitty one.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 01:41 AM
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Yeah, you're right, it's just more attractive. When you say you find it helpful, what do you do? Just typical group pics? body shots? We should have a guide on TRP for this.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 01:41 AM
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Thanks. i think I agree that women succumb to it more than we do. Just purely off a hypergamous mentality.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 01:39 AM
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I've definitely had my streak of not reaching orgasm lately. It's weird, more of an emotional thing i guess.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/16 12:56 PM
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WHAT is the only way to have a successful lifelong LTR? Are you referring to what MentORPHEUS says, or what OP says?
/r/TheRedPill04/03/16 03:42 PM
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Actually that's not necessarily true either. If she lives with you, and it's assumed she will if you have a family. There's laws tying into that as well. Especially if there's proof of her contributions to your home. I'm not saying marry, I'm not saying it's not that bad. The idea of it isn't bad, but the laws mess it up. All I'm saying is, if you want a family and a traditional family, no matter what it's more of a battle than most people think. It's not as simple as most people think.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 12:55 PM
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They are definitely all replaceable. I'm speaking in terms of a family. What's the difference of a breakup with a child outside marriage vs a divorce ?
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 12:00 AM
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No but a woman brought up in a traditional family will not be ok with no marriage. Not because she doesn't get a ring and alimony, but because she's been brought up, the same way we've been brought up in BP society. All I'm saying is what's the alternative if you have children? Have a chick donate an egg? I mean that's kind of ridiculous.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 11:59 PM
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When I say valuable woman, I mean a traditional woman brought up with a strong father that's taught her morals. I agree with everything you're saying, but the alternative is don't marry and have children outside marriage? In the end you still pay child support anyway.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 11:57 PM
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Hmm. So you're saying on the chance that they might still get around it, or the courts could pull the rug out, just don't do it because of risk. My question is, what valuable woman would be willing to not get married? Because let's be real, prior to the divorce happening and the hamster spinning, they're genuinely happy. They don't think ahead and logically say, "yes. I'm gonna fuck this guy."
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 05:21 PM
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Why not just get A prenuptial agreement Matty?
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 03:41 AM
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OM. This is exactly my game, how crazy cause i felt like what i was reading was me writing it. I'm very good at reading people, and analyzing them. So i stick to what I'm good at. Some differences in the favors, i ask for them to do dishes and laundry as opposed to bringing you food. Anyhow the only mistake I make is that i tend to give advice. Because I'm ALWAYS asked with the question, "what do i do about it?" or "how do you recommend i go about changing this, i don't want to end up alone." et…
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 07:49 PM
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So she only returns because she couldn't attain higher? Am i correct on that? Or because through the grapevine she hears and sees your transformation?
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 04:32 PM
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So true man, i realized this recently. Great comment
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 03:45 PM
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I ask usually very soon in the convo, "Why Tinder?" Then based on the answer, which i always get one, i begin to ask questions about her life. I never ever ask the "what do you do for work/fun" because everyone does just that. I wish i knew the number, but in my experience with over 30+ on Tinder, they're mostly rebounding. So they're seeking some kind of emotional comfort. I just play the simple questions game and get her to open up. I never ask for her number, the second i see that she's reply…
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 02:44 PM
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I'm with you on helping. But they're right. Maybe an anonymous tip after the fact would suffice.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/16 05:34 PM
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Do you think it's possible their internal hamster literally makes them think they're obligated? Since he's such a higher status and all? Do you think on some level they actually believe that crap?
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 02:12 AM
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I literally laughed out loud at this cause I told my PLATE the same thing about dead pool and my place. Lmfao
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 02:09 AM
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I'll attest to that. I've mastered text game and it's all because of Tinder. However I will say there is a timeline, and I think that's what he's trying to say.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 01:43 AM
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Yeah for sure, same happens with me. Although the more time that passes, the more I can be myself again. Swallowing the red pill was quite challenging, especially after a breakup.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 01:25 AM
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Yep i agree. That's kind of how i feel exactly.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 10:30 PM
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I agree totally. I didn't know that's what you meant. But my question is how young is too young? I also feel like maybe < 22 ish is bad. There's a huge lack of maturity in most women at that age. I mean it's beyond even teaching them.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 10:29 PM
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So then why, does everyone look for pre-wall? Surely there are reasons? I've considered looking for a LTR from a Post wall, but i simply feel like they're post wall and single for a reason.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 12:51 PM
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Hmm. That's an interesting theory, I've never analyzed it in depth that way; however, i think i subconsciously knew some of this. Such as time on this earth, drug, bitchy, high-N, daddy issues is huge. My last LTR had all these qualities, except her dad, was on the controlling side versus the strong male figure that's ready to pass her on to the new man. So it caused conflict. I'm not sure if I can attest that to her dad, her, or her age(she was 20). What age would you say is an ideal age, is th…
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 11:52 AM
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That makes a lot of sense, thanks.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 11:49 AM
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I would like to know what you think would be an appropriate answer if that question was asked to a potential LTR? I know what I'd want to hear, but we both know women don't know that, we need to create that in them.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 06:05 AM
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Post wall bitches=Very Good. Pre wall bitches=Horrible. What do you mean ?
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 05:56 AM
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If i can give you any advice, not that you need it, you seem to know what you're talking about already. If she comes from a good upbringing and is seeking that father figure, with her being younger than you and all. Make sure you maintain and address emotional issues or complaints. I find that with women like this, they're loyal and happy to be with a man, but they're quick to stray emotionally. So don't try to be too alpha.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 02:35 PM
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Truth right here. Me in a nutshell in my last LTR. Sweetest girl, i became beta lost frame from her overwhelmingly sweet nature. Shit test from her father and she strayed emotionally with another man.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 01:47 PM
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Link on the crazy scale you speak of? Lol
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 06:12 AM
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"Subjectively think you're beta." Perfectly said, because there is no clear cut definition. To every woman, the priorities are different and the thresholds are different, not only that, but their situations change and outside influences. So yes I agree
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 02:05 AM
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Honestly I've really contemplated this as of late. Im beginning to just come to grips with the fact that, you need to take all steps to mitigate women straying for x,y,z which we know that already. But I feel like especially me, that I live in a big city Miami, FL. It's almost impossible to expect it not to happen at some point. I've met so many, and heard so many stories, even outside RP that it just seems totally unreasonable to expect it not to happen.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 10:27 PM
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I could not agree more. Gym, my dog, the park and a movie or read > so many Tinder chicks. Crazy
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 10:24 PM
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I know, I'm sure the vagina doesn't hurt either.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 10:23 PM
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I can relate man. I went through something very similar recently. Although mine didn't use the word "bored" that's exactly what it was in a nutshell; however, in my scenario the strong father figure and religious upbringing was a hindrance on our relationship. Simply because he wasn't ready to let go and became that controlling father. Caused us to fight, not take trips or go out etc. Once that hampster starts spinning, it's all downhill. They just look for an outlet, especially submissive women…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 04:49 PM
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Probably. She said it with so much pride, that I would think there's no way she thinks it's a negative thing.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 04:45 PM
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Absolutely. She started going on at the very end about how she thinks her salary hinders her on finding a good "man." She said, "all these pushover guys are either broke or insecure at what I make." She actually even said she was dating a Doctor that make 30k a month but he was ugly as hell. It's amazing the shit you can get out of a woman just by nodding and making little comments to keep the hamster going.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 04:42 PM
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My apologies. Thank you sir
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 09:56 AM
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Well due to her explanation, she did it with all of her like 6 LTRS of a year? Simply as a tell to how she felt. She even said that she stayed with them and stayed in love with them when she realizes she actually cares about them. The sex was meaningless. Mind blown
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 07:29 AM
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Are you referring to an alpha as the total package? Financial, emotional and masculinity ? If so then I would agree. If not then I disagree.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 06:02 AM
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She's a CPA for a huge company.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 06:01 AM
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I've changed a lot since that post. But very observant on your end.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 06:01 AM
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Lol. Abundance is a funny thing huh?
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 07:29 PM
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A little hard for me to fully grasp this. Maybe I'm not at that level yet. But I get the gist of it, thanks.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 07:28 PM
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Probably the biggest turn off for me, is entitled women. I'd rather have sex with a lower SMV that isn't entitled, than feed that little hamster.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 04:42 PM
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Exactly. I agree whole heartedly. I didn't even tell her that I disagree and she showed me the messages as further evidence. Lol
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 04:41 PM
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Did you straight up forgive her the first time? Or you two took time apart?
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 04:39 PM
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While I agree that this is the case most of the time, you wouldn't say women could cheat on her alpha boyfriend because he's too alpha? Meaning, neglectful asshole etc. I'm pretty sure I've read a lot on here about women cheating for emotional reasons.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 02:44 PM
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I couldn't really wrap my head around that one. Everything else we kind of cover here at RP. But that one left me a bit puzzled.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 01:39 PM
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It took everything for me not to break out in laughter
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 01:39 PM
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She was actually very attractive. I guess everything she told me was such a turn off. I have plenty, so I honestly didn't care.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 01:36 PM
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Explain your logic on the younger the better. I've read different things on it, but never so extreme as to say the younger the better. Usually, there's a range.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 03:33 AM
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This is amazing. Thanks for that
/r/TheRedPill05/02/16 04:16 AM
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My sister has gone through a divorce twice with the same man. She left him both times because he was too beta. He did what you did, and she did what your ex is doing. She controlled him, was always happy, she never suffered. All the while he would text me at night and ask me if I could talk to him. I understand how you feel, and I understood how he felt. But think about it hard. She's at home loving the new dick, excited at when he's going to come over. What new date they're going on when he wou…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 12:52 AM
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Former LEO here. Be there for her, but make sure you take of you first. You can't take care of her and be an emotional wreck. You're priority number 1 here. As others have mentioned, stay objective and be open to new information. Try to realize she didn't enjoy this, she didn't give herself to someone else, so drop every insecurity you might be feeling right now and realize this is a tragedy, and I think you will regret it whole heartedly if you handled yourself poorly in this trying time.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 12:41 AM
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Can anyone direct me with a good link to a post about how to apply game? I tend to be a leader, but I find the balance to be difficult on when to lead, give, concede. I feel, especially with women because of their emotional needs, I tend to be too alpha. Thanks
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 04:41 PM
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Makes sense. I sent you the link of my post in a seperate message
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 05:56 PM
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I've had sex with 40+ man. I'm 29. She's 21. I saw a lot of values in her that I didn't see I. The hundred I've dated. We've been broken up for 3 weeks and I already have girls wanting me. I got really unlucky with the dude that wanted her tbh. He's just an image but we both know that's everything (at first). My question is what's my play? Can it be reconciled and how?
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 05:35 PM
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There's so much mixed information here. It's hard to gauge, so whenever I see a very logical comment I try to get feedback. You get me?
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 05:30 PM
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Thanks Bud. I tried posting to ask and I got a bunch of simple answers like AWALT fuck that etc. it's the only post I've ever done. But what I really want to know is just simply based on the fact that she was the type of one woman man, she left her ex for me, now me for this guy (even tho they're not together) she's very committed. So I do feel it's strictly hypergamy. Like I said it hurts, but I know I'm time I am the better man. Assuming I still want her and I've dated and I feel she's who I w…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 05:27 PM
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So true man. I sent you a private message on this topic. Good stuff here
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 04:56 PM
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I agree, no i wouldn't, that wasn't the point i was trying to make.
/r/askTRP16/01/16 11:05 AM
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Agreed
/r/askTRP16/01/16 12:37 AM
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Doesn't it stand to reason then, that you should just pick your poison? If this is inevitable, shouldn't you just decide what traits you prefer for now? And prolong the inevitable by maintaining until it either happens or it doesn't? Why even blame women so much and kick them to the curb if we all think they all act the same given the right scenario? Obviously things aren't reparable sometimes. Is it just a reset thing?
/r/askTRP16/01/16 12:08 AM
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I've come to terms with it. I've decided I'm cutting contact. I will start reading more. I've always been lifting, but i am lifting more. In the process with 3 other women already. Problem doesn't seem solved yet, maybe in time. I definitely need to work on myself. I guess my remaining questions are, was this me, is this the way she is, is this her age more than her character? Just thoughts I'm left with for closure and future references. I'm inclined to think, after reading, that most women wil…
/r/askTRP15/01/16 10:44 PM
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I can see your points, and i can see how getting emotional about it was a bad decision.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 10:22 PM
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That was a great read, apparently you're pretty popular on TRP. Any advice on the topic at hand and how to deal with it from this point on?
/r/askTRP15/01/16 10:06 PM
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Doing it.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 09:50 PM
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Ok
/r/askTRP15/01/16 09:50 PM
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Thanks for the link.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 09:50 PM
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I've see many post on TRP on relationships, was i misled in thinking this was the correct place to post? A moderator told me to post here.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 09:32 PM
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i was told to direct my question here, where should i post this? Thanks.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 09:29 PM
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