Monk Mode Struggles

freshona · 2017-06-10T20:14:41+00:00

I crave the comfort of my LTR or Plate.

What comfort? You want your mommy?

stonepimpletilists · 2017-06-10T18:48:59+00:00

You think too much.

Ever been working so hard or been so busy that you only stop moving to sleep?

jcrpta · 2017-06-10T20:55:54+00:00

Welcome to reality.

Your BP ideas are the product of spending your whole life being brainwashed into a fantasy that does not exist.

You cannot shake off that fantasy in a few months of going to the gym. It takes years of hard work. There is no shortcut. We say "the red pill", but the truth isn't quite as close to The Matrix as you'd like to believe. Yes it does open your eyes to a reality you didn't know existed, yes you can't un-take it. But to fully appreciate, understand and take full advantage of this cannot be done with ten minutes plugged into a computer while some big bloke called Morphius presses a few buttons.

Tebulus · 2017-06-10T20:35:02+00:00

Agree with stone, you are internalizing your thoughts too much and living in your head. Most likely nothing is wrong with you and you are psyching yourself out. Either way, those are just bullshit feelings that you are in control of anyway. Dont tell your friends and others about Monk Mode, thats just more stuff to complicate your interaction. What do you want? A long term relationship? Why? What about having a long term relationship makes you decide you want it? Do you want phsyical comfort only? Why? See the pattern here? Figure out what you really want and drill down to the actual reason you are craving it and then decide if its a healthy thought process you want to encourage or some ego shit show you need to excise. This is the issue I have with your post. The overall goal should be to make you happy by doing things you want to do because you actually want to do them specifically in spite of any goals or cultural/social pressure. The point of monk mode is introspection, and for some like myself who used to be a pretty needy person, to prove to your inner self that you dont need anyone but yourself and working your way there takes a strong will and time. You claiming to want a LTR as your goal is just you not having internalized that you dont need anyone or any thing to allow you to be happy. Also dont make the mistake of making yourself a victim in this big bad world and you just happen to be the only one who doesnt want to just fuck around. Usually the real reason is just insecurity and to hide that you havent actually put the work in to fix all this crap. Also clearly you need to read more, specifically WISNIFG and NMMNG

Also, its a tool man, not the "right" or "wrong" thing.

Life_advice_me · 2017-06-10T20:27:53+00:00

"I just want something real". Women are incapable of loving you the way you love them. If you think otherwise, you are living a fantasy. Real is what your friends are doing. Real does not mean a happy relationship. Reality is brutal. But the good news is that you can live a fulfilling life that includes a wife and children by making the right choices and with a bit of luck. Stop looking for your oneitis and work on yourself first and foremost. Find what makes your life fulfilling. Then date and dump until you find a women that meets your standards. A woman will not make happiness but they can destroy it. Good luck.

DeplorableRay · 2017-06-10T18:52:12+00:00

Whose frame are you in exactly? "Spoiler Alert" It's not yours.

TaistoKarhu · 2017-06-10T23:16:56+00:00

I just want to say that in my experience, the red pill dissolves in layers. You think you are far along, banging your head against a wall. At some point you will probably fuck up, fall to a new level 0. Now you're equipped with all the new information, but the steps are steeper. You may feel like giving up now or something like that, but you can't undo what you did so far and 6 months from now you look back and be very fucking glad you didn't. Keep on struggling.

Legends tell it gets better, but after reading your posts I can tell you are probably still more or less hung up on your previous LTR, confused and emotional about all the new information. The stress of the work is perhaps making you wonder if this all is even worth it. Maybe you wish secretly your LTR hadn't been such a fuck up so you never came to be here.

Maybe I'm just projecting. But overall when I look back, I keep on reaching higher levels time after time right before I fall to mediocrisy, doubt and dissatisfaction. Someday, my low point will be better than my high point right now. Just gotta keep at it.

RP_SuitScholar · 2017-06-11T02:48:26+00:00

If you build a life where you are busy following a regimented fitness and nutrition plan, reading systematically through the sidebar, pushing yourself as hard as possible in your business/career, and giving yourself over to one hobby you love in your freetime, how the fuck do you have time to be sad over the missing comfort you still believe a woman can provide? Forget the fact that it's an illusion, how do you even have time?

screechhater · 2017-06-11T20:29:19+00:00

Learn to be alone. You're a man. Get married and have a baby you will be alone as the provider. Get used to it.

Learn to be alone. No one can give you the validation you are looking for. Learning to satisfy your needs (mentally) to be your own man will allow to actually enjoy a much more stable relationship

JDRoedell · 2017-06-13T03:04:15+00:00

First, what you are looking for just doesn't exist. Not the way you "just want..."

Got that? It will take a while to fully internalize so don't dwell on it too much.

Second, don't go Monk Mode hoping that you'll come out the other side as a man that good women want to finally put effort into and submit to. Rather you should press on with your goals, hobbies and improvements whilst also interacting with and enjoying women. Your ever improving masculine frame, if it's solid and true, will act as an automatic vetting system for shitty female partners.

Aechzen · 2017-06-11T11:18:18+00:00

and see where it goes

You can read that as she is a healthy woman who wants sex. You can turn her down if you want, but if the sex is good and she's not bad company, I'd keep seeing her.

Just add more plates so you don't think she's special.

I know I can't be in it right now.

In what? Her? Sure you can. It's fun.

I just want something real

Nope, it don't work that way: Iron Rule of Tomassi #6

Just measure the things you know how to measure. How she takes care of you. How she cooks and cleans and owns the shit in her life. Count the red flags and decide whether there are too many.

Your friends don't know what you're doing in monk mode, and neither do I. Make some goals, write them the hell down, pursue them, and have fun with the women along the way. If one of your goals is "get married", put that on the bottom of the list, and pursue your other goals.

If you haven't already, sidebar, bro. You should read Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man. Lots of gems in there about how to vet women. And good old fashioned Athol Kay for MAP.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-06-11T16:15:22+00:00

I just want something real.

Let me get this straight. You want a "real" relationship with a girl and you think Monk Mode is the path to that goal?

You want a relationship and sex and you have access to pussy but you are denying yourself like a monk? Do you beat yourself bloody every day also?

The truth is you are not looking for "real." You are looking for a Blue Pill love-me-forever relationship where your mommy wraps you up tight every night and where you are not forced to be the leader who takes the initiative and makes it happen.

Except you can never have a successful Blue Pill relationship once you have Red Pill knowledge. Never, unless you are a Cypher and that's a fate even worse than death because usually the fake reality explodes around you at some point. Cypher's almost never get to enjoy their steak.

Read Men in Love and Women in Love from the Rational Male forum and on the Red Pill sidebar: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/

ReddJive · 2017-06-11T12:39:01+00:00

I'm a bit confused if you're In an LTR or plating .

Monk mode is not recommended for men in LTRs or married. If you do only for short times. It's comes off as butt hurt or petulant. It also avoids the biggest hurdle for unplugging men

Initiate. Initiate. initiate.

Monk mode is specifically designed for a single man to spend 100% of his time on his mission. Until he wants a woman in his life. Plate. LTR. Or otherwise.

Clearly you have no mission. If this is a plate then they are for smashing. Plates smash. It's what happens. Move on.

TheAnswer305 · 2017-06-11T16:56:26+00:00

In this thread, everything I ever told you bitch. Get it done.

Scurvemuch · 2017-06-12T17:55:22+00:00

This is married red pill.

why do you deny yourself a girl who wants to be with you sexually?

Monk mode is bullshit

TheRealYekke · 2017-06-17T14:09:23+00:00

How old are you? Below 45? Going against your biology is like swimming against the outgoing tide: fucking stupid. Go out and find a whore and find relief. Over 45, any time you can turn it all off. And turn it back on with a few shots of testosterone

Title	Monk Mode Struggles
Author	Wel108
Upvotes	10
Comments	44
Date	June 10, 2017 6:29 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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