| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 21 | Successful custody mediation! | Wise_Serve_3140 | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 12:14 AM | |
| 14 | Vent: leave me alone!! | Wise_Serve_3140 | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 07:54 PM | |
| 5 | Advice: co-parenting when one parent doesn't want to coparent | Wise_Serve_3140 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 03:17 PM | |
| 5 | Trial date finally set | Wise_Serve_3140 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 01:48 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | Old wedding bandChucked mine in the garbage wasn't expensive | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/10/24 01:32 AM |
| 8 | Divorce rates in reality seem off from the commonly cited 50% statisticIn my office everyone has at least a bachelor's degree. 4 are divorced, 2 got remarried. 1 of the remarry will DEF get divorced again he complains DAILY about his wife is crazy but stays for the young son. 5 are married 5 are single never married | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/24 09:29 PM |
| 7 | Exwife's most recent disaster. The fix? Get money out of ex-husband!LOL that's hilarious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Push the Button, $2,500 - Crapping My PantsAin't that the truth, done that 4 times already never gets better | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Dating app for the divorcedThey have single parent dating app called stir, it's like a leper colony | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/24 10:58 AM |
| 2 | I want to walk away from 50/50 that I fought hard to get. Am I crazy?Don't be stupid and choose some new chick over your kids, being stupid with women is why you're in this situation. If you were lucky enough to fight and get 50/50 don't give it away you will severely regret this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/24 10:56 AM |
| 6 | Divorce copingShave that head and lose the weight been shaving my head since I was 28 never looked back | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/24 10:52 AM |
| 5 | How to survive the first days...?Hold on have you talked to a lawyer, why are you leaving? Do not leave worst thing a man can do in this situation is to leave unless you want to be a EOW dad | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/24 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Struggling hard today in the early phasesI wouldn't fixate on this too much, this process moves very very slowly, and can be very expensive, but you gotta power through. I remember in the early days of this being all worked up all the time and now it's like nothing oh she filed something? What craziness today. You get to a point where money loses all meaning and value to you. I kind of like my relationship with money now after this experience. This experience will forever change you, you'll realize In this process you're stronger than … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Struggling hard today in the early phasesYea like 10, luckily here it's all zoom so appearance on zoom only cost few hundred bucks, I spent 5k of that 15 was to mediators and GAL, crazy stbx had us pay 5k to sit with mediator for 8 hours and had full 50/50 agreement written and ready to submit to judge and she backed out and we got GAL. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Struggling hard today in the early phasesExtremely extremely common more uncommon for it not to be accused, hopefully your situation ends up better then mine I have trial date set for early October and I'm 15k into lawyer fees. Just remember this, ignore her shit and keep your mouth shut and don't agree to anything that's less then 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Struggling hard today in the early phasesGotcha ignore her shit, that's not evidence lol mine has tried that with our GAL and he told her to quote "shut up" and stop emailing him lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Struggling hard today in the early phasesEmergency custody order will get you in front of a judge in days, my stbx played this game broke our agreement because we had nothing in court she thought she was smart I filed emergency on a Wednesday I had my daughter back by Friday morning before hearing. And when you do this you'll get a court order custody or parenting time and she can't do this again, and I got 50/50 order from her shenanigans. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 09:56 PM |
| 5 | I‘ve to pay alimony to wife?Short term marriage I wouldn't worry about it too much hurry up and file. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 09:54 PM |
| 4 | I have a court appointment this week. Should I go hard or easy on my ex for withholding timesharing time?Do not let up, she broke a CO she won't be giving you any leeway I can assure you that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 06:57 PM |
| 0 | I have a court appointment this week. Should I go hard or easy on my ex for withholding timesharing time?Nah totally disagree, the first time is going to set the precedence, when you roll over she'll remember that and next time she's gonna force the issue knowing you'll bend over. Fight your heart out the first time for your kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 06:55 PM |
| 13 | What do you think people usually get wrong about you and your divorce?My family finds it disgusting that I've been fighting in court over a year when I have no money no assets only a toddler that I was granted 50/50 temp orders this should have been settled out 10 months ago but the ex and her lawyers REFUSE to compromise on ANYTHING. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Another thing I won’t miss from the ex….My stbx paid for a motion and two hearings over decoratione and as she put it her "memory boxes". Prob spent 3k over dollar tree decoration and garbage she made from Etsy instructions. Dragged me through two hearings when I repeatedly told her and my lawyer told her lawyer "come get your garbage it's in the garage". Then she sent me 3-4 threatening messages about a Halloween wood sign I was throwing out and I took out of the garbage and when she came she didn't even take the damn thing. The shit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 02:55 AM |
| 8 | Anyone else think about "switching teams"?Whatever makes you happy give it a try and see, I'm thinking more like once this divorce is finalized I'm gonna try different ethnicities of women only dated Hispanic and white women in my life | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 12:09 AM |
| 5 | Any tips on doing an inventory on marital assets?Lawyer told me unless it's worth over $1000+ bucks it's not worth anything, my ex filed all sorts of motions prob spent $1500 in court paperwork and two hearings over garbage in the crawl space | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 01:14 AM |
| 2 | QDRO questionThey do it purposely so you'll give up | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 01:10 AM |
| 3 | If you could say one last thing to your X/STBX and she couldn't respond... What would it be?Nothing, absolutely nothing. Same thing I say to her now when I'm forced to nothing, she would LOVE a confrontation that's all she has left, she has not been able to rent space in my head in a long ass time and it's gonna stay that way | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 05:47 PM |
| 6 | Guys who initiated the divorce and did NOT get cheated on, what’s your story?I had the papers drafted and ready to file but she beat me to it by a day. We had a lot of fights and she would up the ante every fight the last big fight we had before I told her I want a divorce was I was bed ridden with pneumonia and she still expected me to watch our 1 year old because I was a SAHD, she removed from the house my PS5 TVs fire sticks all the food from the fridge and said since I'm so sick you won't need these things and left with our child and didn't come back for 3 days I end… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 05:30 PM |
| 10 | She is refusing to get out of my Bedroom. What should I do?Listen, my ex tried this shit oh you go sleep on the couch I said no, and continued to sleep in the bed, she tried it again, oh you sleep on the couch I said that's ok, shortly after that I left for a day trip with friends came back and she hijacked out daughters playroom and turned it into a bedroom was the weirdest two months of my life, my poor baby would walk in there and say where the playroom?? Bitch moved out and put a dead bolt on the bedroom with dirty clothes all over the floor and foo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 02:49 AM |
| 17 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.Love someone feels for another person whose a stranger and no relation to you, does not exist it's made up. It's a combination of lust convenience and routine. There is no "in love". The love you feel for your child or a parent is something different. There's absolutely no reason to ever get married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 11:51 PM |
| 6 | Level Headed ExamplesAt least once a week over the last 14 months, I honestly feel like once you train your brain to stop that cause and effect or chain reaction, it slowly diminishes. You have to realize that the response they get is control and they get off on it. My stbx at least once a week tries to get reactions from me to use against me and I laugh it off and walk away and ignore her nonsense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 11:49 PM |
| 8 | “Marriage saves money. You will be on a double income and get tax breaks. So many economic advantages.”HA divorce has cost so far around 45k, 15k for me and 30k for crazy stbx all it takes is one crazy angry person to really drive up costs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 09:59 PM |
| 5 | I'm trying to avoid hiring my own attorneyDUDE DONT BE STUPID GET A LAWYER DO NOT GIVE HER ANYTHING UNTIL YOU TALK TO A LAWYER | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Just got hit with the “i want a divorce” how should i feel rnAny kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 04:07 AM |
| 23 | Nothing is sacred anymoreWomen do this shit constantly, usually ends in shoulder to cry on guy getting a awkward tug in the parking lot after work and it wrecks their family | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Vacation BrawlersHer lawyers have already been yelled at by the judge multiple times now, and they argued with the GAL in front of the judge, and she yelled at her lawyers in court lol but not in front of judge | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Vacation BrawlersWhat do you do when the divorce has been going on for over a year no police no arrest no nothing not a shred filed in the courts about any "abuse" and we get a GAL and no mention of any "abuse" then we get a trial date and everyone is telling her to settle judge has ruled multiple times to maintain the 50/50 we've been doing for over a year and after all this, the GAL won't talk to her anymore, and she sends the GAL an email CCing me, my lawyer and her lawyer and demanding that the GAL talk to h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 12:15 AM |
| 9 | Struggling with STBXW’s glow-upAfter a few dicks and being left she'll be glowing down big time, this is a marathon not a sprint | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 04:25 PM |
| 5 | I was naive, I was stupid.They dont give a flying fuck, and you're sole income producer for 20 years? You're fucked either way, get use to writing checks sadly. I was like you being all paniced and nervous about depositing half the bills blah blah stbx left and didn't pay shit and NOTHING happened | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 02:04 AM |
| 1 | IL, how deep into discovery should we goWhy'd you let her take your child? The financial stuff won't be too bad just push for trial | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 12:57 AM |
| 0 | Update on my exgf kicking me outDo you pay rent or you live there for free? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Guidance on achieving 50-50 child custody3 overnights per week? That's not bad at all | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:40 PM |
| -2 | Update on my exgf kicking me outBad move but whatever works for you I guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Going to TrialWhy would you do it twice lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Going to TrialI think mine thinks I'll pay her back for her lawyer or something, she makes more then me | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Going to TrialI fall into the last scenario stbx has spent 33k all of her savings she accumulated pre marital through her 20s, my lawyer says they think I shit gold I guess, I make 57k and I have few grand in the bank and I own 30k in pre marital investments idk what she's thinking, this divorce has costed so far 50k, me 17k her 33k. She doesn't get CS or alimony or anything from me since this started since we're doing 50/50 and she makes more then me. I don't get it, we had a full agreement of everything cus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Going to TrialMy dad got his ass kicked with a lawyer then he went back over the years representing himself and judge would make my mom's lawyer photo copy everything for him, every year he'd lower his CS and get more time with us over and over again while self representing and my mom always had a lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 11:14 PM |
| 2 | How old were you when you get divorced?It's not final but trial date set months before my bday so I'm gonna said it will be 34 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 10:53 PM |
| 10 | When to go full burn the world down…Never go scorched earth when kids are involved, the ex will but you shouldn't, play nice give her nothing to use against you in trial. AlWAYS assume the judge is going to see every message you send. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Just signed the petitionWell, as far as custody you are in CA so that's really good for you, but bad for financials for you if you are much higher earner | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 11:40 PM |
| 4 | Probable divorceThis isn't about the house leaving the marital home when she is a SAHM, will severely hurt your custody battle. Will almost guarantee a bad temp arrangement and once that temp order is below 50/50, fighting back against it will be very hard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 10:40 PM |
| 1 | What am I entitled to in a cooperative divorce?Once you push back she will not agree to 50/50 custody that's the first thing, custody is always the battle the financials are fairly boiler plate calculators | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 10:33 PM |
| 5 | Probable divorceYou need to get your ass back home before she files against you and you can't get back home, that's number one,.number two get a lawyer asap | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 10:27 PM |
| 6 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?This is my favorite really hits home | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Back from divorce to reconciliation...What why that's never gonna work out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/24 11:19 PM |
| 1 | How do you stay in contact/how often do you communicate with your kids on days they are with your ex?That's really COOL!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Wife won't let me see my daughterYUP emergency custody order do it yesterday | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Update on finalizingI would get a consultation from an outside attorney without her knowing and find out what the laws and rules are in your state, if your state is one of those if one parent has majority IE 1 day then the other pays child support she could be setting you up for 30% of your pay check even tho you're doing 50/50 and after that first year she I'll take you back to court | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 12:56 PM |
| 3 | Breach of contractFamily court doesn't give a flying fuck about those cutesy little clauses in parenting plan, all she has to do is say she's been dating him 6 months Shared expenses are enforceable tho | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | AlimonyThat's a nightmare sorry you gotta deal with that | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 12:46 PM |
| 1 | I am taking a massive pay decrease and I am concerned about alimony and child support payments.That's a lot of CS for that custody she don't work? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Trial date finally setYea after a year my lawyer said that's enough we want trial date | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Trial date finally setIdk my stbx is stubborn as a bull I don't think she'll settle and I'm not backing off of 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 11:30 AM |
| 7 | Instead of “dada” or “daddy” became “saddy” todayI know it's hard but job number one is showing strength and not letting your kids see it. But I get it it's hard | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 03:10 AM |
| 2 | How does 50-50 work?Why are you working three jobs? Only work one | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/24 11:16 AM |
| 3 | TestLove it, my favorite quote through this divorce is no one's coming to save you | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Happy Father’s DayAwesome!! We're going to the zoo with my little girl | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:29 PM |
| 2 | PartnerRight stay focused move on and end it as quickly as possible and 50/50 is the hill you ALWAYS die on either with kids or finances | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Do I owe SAHM any money during divorce process?Absolutely you don't owe her anything because she is a SAHM doesn't mean you finance her life at most you do for a year or two, the marriage length is really what determines the alimony. Did she ever work? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Do I owe SAHM any money during divorce process?Oh fuck that file and get that over with you wont have to pay any alimony just CS one kid 50/50 state that won't be a hard one | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Do I owe SAHM any money during divorce process?State? Years married? Does she work at all? These things matter | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone achieved greater career/financial success after divorcing?I got a promotion mid divorce in a new career, and made a name for myself already and In the running for next promotion | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Thinking of leavingIf you can absorb the financial blow you're always better leaving if you're unhappy alimony and asset split will be the main hurdle | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Child Support and Alimony Numbers in CACustody will be 50/50, she'll get child support based on large pay gap and alimony based upon the length of marriage, every state has a calculator child support not negotiable generally alimony is | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 06:05 PM |
| 15 | SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of stateSHE can leave the kids stay, shouldn't be a hard battle tbh | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Vent: leave me alone!!At it again leave me alone crazy woman, purposely didn't take home daughters belongings from daycare to be wash for the week and tells.me when I pick up daughter oh yes go get them bitch | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 10:50 PM |
| 5 | Red flagsExactly the same for me, me or my family, and sadly now our daughter will spend $200 on food for a friend's party but signed up for WIC with fake income information to feed our daughter | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Lawyers when the divorce is friendly.Too many women meet with a lawyer who lies to them and sings them an amazing song, mine was convinced she'd get to keep house not pay me equity, get sole custody for daughter, child support and lifetime alimony (we were only married 2 years). When she filed I offered her a steal of a deal I'd walk away from everything 60k in house equity give her 6 months to refi or sell it and keep all money if she decides to sell, not touch her big retirement account, and all I asked was let's get it done quic… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 12:59 AM |
| 23 | Red flagsTroubled relationships in the past Issues at work Constant firings The overall attitude of everyone is out to get her Zero compromise Everything is a win and lose scenario, she's either winning or losing no grey area in life, yourre either with her or against her Zero empathy Takes zero responsibility Zero loyalty will tell anyone and everyone when she's mad g your what an asshole you are Treats strangers better then you | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Vent: leave me alone!!I was hoping if mine finds some.dick she'd leave me alone | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Vent: leave me alone!!We use our family wizard only now thank God it shall in one place and I can see her subject of.message before I open it | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 12:40 AM |
| 5 | Vent: leave me alone!!Ofcourse I ignore her don't even read message just don't wanna be bothered | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 09:42 PM |
| 1 | My First Real WTF Incident with XW. How would you handle?That's breaking and entering, go to police and file report with evidence, then file PO and motion for contempt for breaking parenting plan. Light that firecracker | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 06:00 PM |
| 2 | In-Law IntimidationThank God my FIL is a coward, my brother in law.thonis a loose cannon almost had a PO against him | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:04 PM |
| 8 | 50/50 is changing to 86/14Wow insane good for you keep your kids away from that dumpster fire | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 12:42 PM |
| 2 | I can’t even go fishingI have the app doesn't stop the crazy bitch from talking insane she literally said the other say she feels uncomfortable when I kiss our daughter at the Dr office when she's getting a shot and if I can't be neutral around her I can't go to family activities she called Dr visit lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Choose from rent a room or an apartmentI'd file bankruptcy | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/24 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Choose from rent a room or an apartmentHow in the world did the divorce cost that much holy crap, custody battle? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/24 05:45 PM |
| 2 | My STBX has no jobShort term marriage I wouldn't worry too much about alimony maybe she gets few years if she even gets it, you'll get half of what was accrued blin her savings but most.likely you'll have to force her to disclose it | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/24 05:14 PM |
| 2 | It's week 3 and I'm already being accused of violating the standing order for moving money.I wouldn't put a dime in there | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Did anyone feel different after you reached the finish line?Idk I got a psych out and I felt really good that night after we settled in mediation then week later she says she doesn't agree anymore back on the crazy train she doesn't want to let go | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Why bother with mediation / settlement if a judge will just assign 50/50?Stay STRONG everything that leads up to the trial is just a game of chicken show them and your ex that you are not afraid and will take it to trial | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Trying to ventStop smoking weed would be my first advice, regardless if you're by the kids or not, and die on that 50/50 or close to it hill do not accept anything less until a judge finishes it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/24 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Going Through the RollercoasterWow I'm glad it's moving along quickly for you been in the trenches for over a year now, mine still acts and says she's getting sole custody wanted to give me 2 overnights a month despite the fact that I was sahd and we've been doing 50/50 since she filed a year ago, she cried about how much she's paid for divorce and I laugh at her because she's a fool who calls her lawyer everytime I fart | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/24 01:11 AM |
| 3 | poison pillHow long married? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 11:22 PM |
| 1 | overcoming depression without medicationI've found a good balance with jumped straight into a new career essentially and stay busy with 50% of my daughter and lifting | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Child Support CaliforniaWow awesome 👍 take every penny you can | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 10:50 AM |
| 6 | I can’t take this shit anymore… I feel like giving up almost every single day.If you don't have a lawyer this is why you're suffering get a lawyer yesterday | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 10:57 PM |
| 2 | 2 years in litigationJust about a year for me lol we've been in divorce process for more than half the time we were "married" | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 10:28 PM |
| 1 | FEAR...You're gonna end up doing this twice lol don't do it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 10:26 PM |
| 6 | FEAR...What helps me is, ask yourself what is the absolute worst thing that can happen in the divorce and assume that's going to happen and prepare and fight for more. This helps soldiers in war, assume you're already dead and be surprised when you get home alive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Weight loss while divorcingMy stbx has the opposite problem I lost 40 pounds through this thing she has gained 40 lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | DISAPPOINTEDBeen there man feel the same so much embarrassment and drama and craziness over nothing | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 11:22 AM |
| 3 | How did you guys grieve your marriage and the future you planned?What future plans, my dog died and I said I wanna get a new dog she said no and you're never getting one again. Told me my mom needs to tell her 24 house in advance when she is coming over lol crazy person | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 05:40 PM |
| 2 | What to have ready pre-mediation?Yup, mine has 50k in savings stashed away in savings account and refuses to disclose to court, idk how she thinks she's gonna get away with it | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 12:56 PM |
| 4 | logic versus emotionSounds like every woman, my stbx literally can rationalize an excuse to shift blame for anything got fired from.multiplw jobs there's always an excuse, they just didn't like me blah blah | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 11:04 AM |
| 1 | She filed for divorce, but now wants to call it offI'm curious what happens if she were to withdraw her divorce petition you gotta pay and file serve her to move forward? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Seriously. Twilight zone people.Man that's rough I feel for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 06:43 PM |
| 3 | What to have ready pre-mediation?Amicable LOL thats code for she gets what she wants | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 06:41 PM |
| 3 | What do the serve papers say ?A sheriff is going to walk up to you ask your name and hand you papers, most are nice guys, mine said sorry I said that's ok she's crazy, thank you for serving me at home and not at my work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/24 12:40 AM |
| 2 | It’s All DoneSeparation agreement? Why not divorce decree | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 08:25 PM |
| 2 | No hidden assetsI'm wondering this because, I know my wife has 40k stashed away in multiple savings accounts and she claimed on her financials she has two accounts totalling 1500 and refused to show statements from two years, now lawyer filed formal discovery on her, wondering if she can just say fuck off and I gotta hire accountant to go after her. I have her savings account number and checks from non disclosed checking accounts, and mortgage app from year earlier where she disclosed all these accounts. Wonder… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/24 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Unsure…If it bad and you're 30 time to pull the plug it's only going to get worse | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/24 03:34 AM |
| 7 | It’s our fault guys that we are here.I didn't cave and I was called controlling and abusive then divorced anyways | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/24 03:12 AM |
| 3 | What's craziest thing your stbx didShe did this already back in the fall we were going back and forth about house price realtor said it's worth x and she didn't like that because I think she wanted to buy it or have her parents buy it for her or something, so then she made this fake email and emailed realtor and told them to lower house price by 50k | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Co-parenting issuesShe can't do that, and it's bad for your child, file contempt motion for stopping parenting time | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 01:37 PM |
| 6 | Now she's getting a women's advocacy group involvedThank God you had a judge who saw her for what she is, for every one of you there's prob 10 guys who the judge never lifted his head up from paperwork and signed off on sole custody for the woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/24 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Setback?Sounds good sell that shit and buy something fun or strip club make it rain | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/24 02:01 PM |
| 2 | 50/50 custodyI'm doing 223 so this week monday morning-wed morning and Friday morning-monday morning then next week the opposite, fighting with stbx in court currently hoping I can keep this without burying myself in debt for a decade | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 02:22 AM |
| 3 | HANDLE HARD BETTER IN YOUR DIVORCE RECOVERY?Love this | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone represented themselves in a custody/divorce case?I would find the best possible lawyer you can afford | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 06:07 PM |
| 5 | Always wanted a family…Only married a year id cut and run file and get it over with | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 12:08 AM |
| 3 | For those who divorced an NPD/BPD woman with children-were you made to feel as though greyrocking was a form of abuse and bad for the kids?No better than regular texting but at least it's only in one place, and she won't call anymore but same old shit, sending me crazy threatening messages blackmail attempts extortion attempts, harassing me about nonsense like a wood 5 dollar sign I threw in garbage saying the judge is going to come after me because I'm disposing of marital property lol 😂. Stole my daughter new backpack I got her and replaced with some old dirty backpack she found and said I'd get her new packacck back when I gave … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 02:00 PM |
| 4 | Seriously, WTF is going on with my case?You should have immediately filed for divorce in 21 silly move but it is what it is | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 01:48 PM |
| 5 | For those who divorced an NPD/BPD woman with children-were you made to feel as though greyrocking was a form of abuse and bad for the kids?Grey rocking is fine strategy, in my case I just ignore the nonsense and say no if I absolutely have to respond to her the rest of her nonsense comments threats or insults on OFW go unanswered drives her nuts, she responds to herself on there constantly like a mental case | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Going through Divorce... Co-own vs sellingYou are in a very very good position put your feet up and let the lawyers handle it. Once they leave the marital.house and you lock in a 50/50 or better temp schedule it's done when it comes to custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 01:44 PM |
| 5 | Favorite Rumor-Mill?45 years holy shit | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/24 02:43 AM |
| 2 | False documents filed in OklahomaYou didn't have a lawyer? Good Lord | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/24 09:58 PM |
| 27 | Why 50/50I think you're confused, it isn't what's best for YOU it's what's best for your kids, step it up | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/24 09:04 PM |
| 1 | HomeIt's a double edged sword honestly, if she had stayed in family home maybe she Could have forced a more favorably outcome for herself, she didn't she left and I used the house as leverage dragging my feet milking our temp schedule of 50/50 for the last 9 months, now she had uphill battle to change parenting time to what she wanted 80-20, so she settled and we agreed upon 50/50 but the house is like 5 mins away from all of our family and the condo I own and gonna live in, and now she's saying she… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/24 04:04 PM |
| 6 | Seriously, what goes on in their minds?Unfortunately, your dog is gone, I love.my.dog and she is like my second daughter but in the end it's a dog idk if you can fight over a dog in court, and it's prob not worth it sadly. There's prob nothing you can do especially if you got favorable outcome in court I wouldn't give her a reason to take you back to court, she's being petty and vindictive it sucks but it is what it is | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | I don't have the money for this!!!Damn, I'm $3000 in the hole to my attorney since July, and $1200 to mediator, but we have parenting plan agreed upon just needs to be written up by lawyers and financial stuff shouldnt be too bad only married two years and no money except profit from house around $20k, im hoping should be a easy split. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/24 02:12 AM |
| 11 | He’s at my goddamn house right nowWhy not bring your own girl over | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/24 10:57 PM |
| 1 | UpdateI remember your story awful shit my sympathies but there nothing that would stop me from being near my kids, my thoughts would be either move to Thailand and start over or move down the Street from the stbx and force them to give you 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Losing it.Geez you guys like paying for Lexus fees and xerexs | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Was this a mistake ?Just be glad you guys are civil, my parents weren't and spent 25 years unable to even be in the same room, now their friends when grandchild came tho which is good | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 06:46 PM |
| 7 | It’s the silence that is killing me.You're better off, counseling doesn't do anything, I went for years to counseling and my stbx played the victim like the counselor was picking on her, then would give me the silent treatment for days afterwards because how dare I lie and make up stories during our sessions because she didn't agree with reality. Then eventually the counselor was against her and she refused to go back | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Ex keeping last nameLOL she sounds like a real treat | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Ex keeping last nameNow that's pathetic lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Need advice FLHow long is the marriage? Any kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/24 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Parenting Time for Temporary CustodyYou wife can't give you anything nor can she take anything away | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Stuck in same houseBeen there done this, don't give them ANYTHING, if they have nothing they can't do anything, no one's ever gotten in trouble for keeping their mouth shut | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 11:38 PM |
| 3 | Successful custody mediation!It was actually second session so was 8 hours first session neither of us conceded an inch and I told her at the end of it I'll see her in the court room, and that just for custody, financials are next but there's not much there split up some profits for house and retirement accounts. What's funny is she put her financial demands in with the parenting plan papers that I got to read but wasn't too crazy just basic 50/50 split on costs and I pay for our child's insurance but Ill gladly pay for tha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 01:26 PM |
| 5 | Income tax joint or separateIt doesn't matter really you'll save money doing it jointly but the money you might lose or she gains by doing it separately you'll be get credit for at final settlement, that's what I'm attorney has said how it works | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 10:11 AM |
| 4 | Successful custody mediation!Idk I've heard horror stories, I didn't wanna risk it. Could easily end up with EOW. Nothing is signed tho lawyer will look over it. Well see what he says | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Successful custody mediation!Just one kid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Did your Wife start seeing a Therapist before she filed for Divorce?YUP for her own many many mental illnesses, found papers after she moved out that she left the therapist was telling her the sickest shit ive ever seen, how only cares about her and our daughter because I'm pretending and if she pretended like she doesn't love me or our daughter that I'll stop caring crazy shit that therapist is a sick bitch | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 06:29 PM |
| 13 | My Ex is having another baby (not mine thank god)That's crazy lol 15 bucks a hour that's what kids make at McDonald's now | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/24 02:53 AM |
| 13 | My Ex is having another baby (not mine thank god)Who marries someone unemployed | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/24 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Pre-trial conference. What happens after?This is what my attorney said about our hearing in March, going back to mediation get agreements on as much as you can and judge will tell us what he would do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Pre-trial conference. What happens after?Im wondering this too, my attorney has told me this many times don't try to agree on everything, just get agreements on some stuff and he's gonna get a conference with judge and stbx lawyer and ask the judge what he would do. And force a settlement that way, well see my stbx thinks she's gonna get EVERYTHING majority of money from house sale which there isn't much, wants everything in house sold and split, and wants basically sole custody. It's insanity what these women cook up in their heads an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 04:56 PM |
| 10 | EX is trying to force 50/50 CustodyThere's men in this group myself included who are in a war and have went to war to get 50/50, and have spent 10s of thousands to get the chance to get 50/50, I would take the 50/50 sign papers immediately before she changes her mind, and can always hire out help to watch your children | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 12:17 PM |
| 6 | A winNo offense but, wake up man, you left your home and haven't seen your kids for two months? Because she is stopping you? And you haven't called a lawyer yet?!? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 11:55 AM |
| 2 | A winWhy can't you see your kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 04:24 AM |
| 2 | NarcissismIf you're embarrassed by praise prob not a narcissist, a narcissist craves that attention like a crackhead | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 03:31 AM |
| 2 | NarcissismDo you constantly try and impress strangers? My stbx and I went to swim lessons for my daughter my stbx wouldn't hold her daughter would just stand there but volunteered to carry someone else's kids into the pool | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 03:22 AM |
| 4 | Is this normal? Counter offer for division of assets from STBXW deducts 25% taxes from retirement savings accounts70/30 parenting time? And all that lol yeaaaa she ain't ready to actually settle things | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Advice: co-parenting when one parent doesn't want to coparentThat's my issue, luckily she's in daycare 8 hours a day so I'm going to mirror what they're doing and avoid the conflict sadly my stbx wants to create unnecessary problems and has zero regard for our child | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 05:52 PM |
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