Wife is passive aggressive, on Adderall for "ADHD" and blows up on a grain of sand. She was married once before and does not have custody of her kids. I have been married twice prior, first we were too young and the second she fell on someone else's dick.

It has been a pretty sexually dry marriage for about a year. We tried counseling and what not, and it never works because she bows out. So now in the present day i was talking to a partner who I was close to in my former job who is female. Talking relationships etc. My wife went on my phone and has accused me of cheating due to be talking to a female about relationship advice.

So I've been on the couch since DEC. I have recently been given and ultimatum of two weeks to "fix myself" and to tell my family I'm a cheater. Tonight she was looking at a menu to a place I planned for us to go. I told her to look at this meal on page 3, but because she was on page 1 and "was trying to keep her phone clean, and eat, and feed our kid" I'm the ass for asking her. Not for nothing, I was doing most of the "kid feeding". Then she couldn't log into her kohls account so that gets taken out on me. Finally, my kid (2) is drawing and I'm drawing with him. He gets excited, jabs me in the eye with a pen. I get pissed as I'm in pain and grab the pen and toss it, no yelling or verbal outbursts. She then coddles the child, chews me out for being "excessive" and never once asks if I'm ok.

Sorry if I'm all over the place, shit like this has been going on for years and I just need sound advice.