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https://nextasf.com/forum/nextasf/hall-of-fame/3698-relationship-rules-3-0 Gives a great overview.. one of the best things ever written on the subject.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 12:20 PM
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You must not remember the original TRP subreddit. A good 10% of posters were deep in the anger phase and had some pretty extreme views / advice. It was a big turnoff to any casuals popping in from elsewhere.
/r/askTRP13/04/18 11:37 AM
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Okay, I'm not single. However, I'm 35 and I've been non-monogamous for the last 8 years (married for the last 3.5 years). It's basically the best of both worlds. I have a loving, awesome wife and 1 or 2 girlfriends at any given time.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 12:25 AM
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The Game taught me that there were ways to improve myself that I didnt know existed at the time. It also basically teaches Mystery Method-style pick-up, which has limited practical use but works well for some guys.
/r/askTRP21/12/17 01:37 PM
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The concept of inner game was something that started in the pick-up community long before TRP was a thing. Just say'n.
/r/askTRP21/12/17 12:58 AM
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The Nextasf forums are a solid place to start.
/r/askTRP21/12/17 12:40 AM
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Im 35... Join a social dance scene with weekly dances. I like swing and blues dancing, personally. Salsa can be a good scene too. However, id avoid any kind of ballroom dance, except maybe tango.
/r/askTRP14/12/17 01:25 AM
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Protip, go super slow (micro-thrusts) and come quickly the first time. You need to get them to relax.. ease them into it. Follow up with lots of after-care. If they are anticipating a really painful experience, then her muscles will clench and shes going to have a bad time. She tried it twice with you and wasnt into it.. just let it go. If you want a real education on how slow you should go in the future, then buy a normal sized dildo and stick it in your ass. It'll give you a a whole new perspe…
/r/askTRP02/12/17 05:30 PM
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I just want to take a second and say that RP sucks at everything poly (with the exception of a few quality posters). Furthermore, the advice on this thread isnt helpful. Nobody breaks down how you mishandled the situation, so that you can learn from it. Is she a plate or not? Are you in a poly relationship or not? To me, it sounds like you are sending mixed messages.. that calls into question your communication skills and your ability to be the leader in the relationship. You'll kill a relations…
/r/askTRP26/11/17 02:08 PM
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Probably.. depends on the city and depends on the dance style. However, most decent sized cities have at least one weekly event that draws in younger people. As a general rule, Ballroom dances tend to draw in older crowds while swing (especially lindy-hop) and Blues tend to be mostly younger people.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 02:18 PM
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I'm 35.. I learned to social dance: swing, blues, salsa, etc. It's a great scene full of fit, attractive women. Also, social dancing is kind of like speed dating. You'll typically get at least one dance with every girl in the room on a good night. If you start going regularly to a weekly dance event, then a social group forms pretty naturally. Dancers love other dancers.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 12:21 AM
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Abundance mentality comes with success. Also, truely wide open relationships can be quite fun with the right people involved. Its hard to wrap your mind around it until you're actually in a good one. When i met my wife, we were both dating several people. This was way back around the time I was into the pick-up artist thing. We worked well together and never stopped dating other people even when we got more serious. We both just really liked the dynamic and we ended up trying out swinging and po…
/r/askTRP17/11/17 05:40 AM
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Start with east coast swing.. its like training wheels for all the other dances. Also, to answer the question: Blues dancing is best dancing.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 01:23 PM
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I tell stories of other dates I've been on. Dating tends to be funny and terrible dates make for great stories. My favorites include "worst date #1 - red flags everywhere", "worst date #2 - hysterical crazy girl" and "how I went in for a haircut and ended up at a swingers party".
/r/askTRP01/05/17 09:40 AM
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No, no we are not.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 02:28 AM
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TRP was never been about kink-shaming. People who use the word "cuck" in a derogative fashion are kind of... I don't know.. immature-sounding? It absolutely drives people away from this sub. Just say'n.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 02:27 AM
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Meh, I have always sucked at picking up randoms in clubs. My n-count is in the 60's so I've done pretty well for myself without clubs / bars. There are other ways to meet women. You just have to figure out what works for you.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 11:38 PM
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Look, mate. 90% of everything is crap.. it's true. However, RP has some truth to it buried underneath the crap. Some guys are legitimately attempting to help others and offer constructive advice. Figuring out girls, relationships and social dynamics can be learned. There's a lot more to it than just "be confident". Unfortunately, there arent very many good sources to learn this stuff from. The RP sub is one of those sources, even if there's (very) poor signal-to-noise ratio. At least its putting…
/r/TRPOffTopic16/03/17 11:26 PM
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So you're happily married now and have it all figured out? You're just a natural come here to piss on us guys who have to put in some effort? Well, thanks.. super helpful.
/r/TRPOffTopic16/03/17 11:02 PM
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Yes, we also have threesomes and foursomes together.. even dated girls as a couple. She's pretty much the best wing ever.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 01:08 AM
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Open relationship means I never have to worry about getting caught. =)
/r/askTRP21/02/17 09:49 PM
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Not all of us value monogamy or "innocence" the same way you do. I'm very sexually experienced and I prefer the girls I date to be experienced as well. I want a girl who's got kinks and loves sex. I'm not even remotely interested in monogamy. I want threesomes, swinger parties and BDSM events. I'm aware that I'm not the typical alpha, but I just wanted to share my perspective.
/r/askTRP24/12/16 03:50 PM
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Hitori's playette FAQ: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.reddit.com/r/fPUA/comments/1fq0hj/the_playette_faq_by_hitori_i_found_this_a_really/?client=ms-android-verizon
/r/askTRP15/11/16 01:19 AM
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Social dancing... swing / blues events.
/r/askTRP13/11/16 01:46 PM
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There is nothing you can't learn from Youtube. I say this as somebody who dances Blues, Lindy-Hop, and Argentine Tango. All you need is a follow to practice with. And by "practice with" i mean stand there while you figure out the leads to new moves. That said, almost all dance scenes provide some kind of lesson before each dance. Go to the lessons, meet the other newbies and dance with them after the lessons are over. Being bad at something is the first step to being good. Lastly, if you are a b…
/r/askTRP08/11/16 03:46 PM
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No, not really. I typically have more partners than my wife. Women don't particularly go for quantity, in general. Women are more concerned about quality. My wife is very picky and tends to like having only one other partner at a time. She also tends to keep them around for a year or two at a time.. so her numbers aren't actually that high.
/r/askTRP28/10/16 09:37 PM
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I just wanted to add that im in a similar situation as u/iheartcapitalism and his answers are spot-on. Edit: Only difference is that my marriage / relationships are completely open, not 1-sided.
/r/askTRP28/10/16 07:14 PM
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Social dancing.. swing, blues, salsa, etc. A social dancing event is basically speed dating. You get a 4 minute song with every girl in the room.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 04:37 AM
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Actually, I agree 100%. There's a lot of keyboard jockeying going on in this sub lately. It's guys who are in the "fake it until you make it" process attempting to be helpful based on the limited amount of stuff that they've figured out. However, they aren't quite there yet. As a general rule, 90% of everything is crap. You just have to sift through the crap on this sub in order to find the good stuff.
/r/askTRP07/07/16 03:37 AM
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See if your city has a social dance scene (swing, blues, salsa, etc.). If so, there's no better way to make friends quickly. Just start going to lessons and introduce yourself to the other dance newbies. Dancers love other dancers and social dancing is basically speed-dating. You'll get 4 minutes with every girl in the room if your ballsy enough to ask them to dance.
/r/askTRP06/07/16 10:01 PM
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Actually, that book was my gateway drug about a decade ago. Indirect game taught me that it's okay to be social and to approach new people in a social environment. The book also let me know what was possible if I was willing to put in the effort. Most of the stuff they mention in the book works as training wheels for guys who don't know how to flirt or handle themselves on a date. It's also a decent intro to / history of the pick-up community. If you are looking for the basics and nothing else, …
/r/askTRP29/06/16 07:23 PM
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A lot of the responses in this thread are keyboard-jockey bullshit. Hit up the swingers sub for better responses. That said, I've been in a ton of threesomes (both with my wife and as the "other guy"). Sex is fun. Group sex is even more fun. It's not a big deal. Just be flirty with the girl, friendly to the guy, and follow their lead. These things are usually all about fulfilling the girls' fantasies. I would go and meet them both for drinks and take it from there.
/r/askTRP24/06/16 07:43 PM
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As a guy, I actually disagree. Most guys are bad at dating/relationships: they are clingy, insecure, jealous, etc. They also don't know how to set appropriate boundaries or they lack the confidence to effectively communicate their intentions. They also tend to have unrealistic expectations (too many Disney movies as a kid). This is one of the reason TRP exists.. it's a resource for guy to better themselves and to become more attractive to women (by not making typical "dumb guy" mistakes). We are…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/16 04:20 PM
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I'd probably roll with it unless I already had somebody else in mind. It's just a highschool dance. It's one of those things nobody gives a shit about once you're out of highschool. Besides, it's a dance. It doesn't matter who you show up with. Once you're there, you can dance / flirt with whoever you like. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP12/05/16 02:51 PM
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Multiple long-term relationships (i.e. spinning plates after you've gotten really good at handling women). Being "single" isn't the same thing as being alone. I have plates that have stuck around longer than some of my friends' marriages have lasted.
/r/askTRP11/05/16 02:18 PM
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I'm basically red pill, but I'm staunchly non-monogamous and am in an openly polyamorous marriage. However, I get downvoted more often than not if I mention it. Also, I think the over-emphasis on N-count amounts to poor screening. It's just bad advice. There are much more useful and accurate methods to screen for a good significant other. As a result, I don't really post in TRP's main sub anymore.. I just offer advice in r/askTRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 04:01 PM
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No kids. My wife is 6 years younger than me and not in any rush. Very basic rules about banging: 1) play safe and 2) don't be an asshole. There's a solid foundation of trust and good communication, so more rules aren't really necessary.
/r/askTRP26/04/16 06:15 PM
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Managing multiple relationships (i.e. spinning plates) killed my jealousy long before I ever met my wife. I started learning pickup in 2006. By 2008, I had a rotation of 2-3 girls at any given time. It forced me to get better at the fundamentals of relationship management. I learned how to lead and how to avoid all the common guy screw-ups. After awhile, I realized that this lifestyle made me really happy. I eventually found a girl who had similar views (and life goals).. and that's how I ended …
/r/askTRP26/04/16 05:39 PM
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I'm in a fully open marriage. I like it that way. I feel shitty when I'm out on dates and my wife is at home by herself. She hates being alone. It's much better for everyone when she has somebody else to spend time with while I'm out. There are other benefits. If my wife wants to do something that I don't want to do (i.e. craft fairs, etc), then she takes a boyfriend. Everybody wins. Anyway, I just wanted to add a different perspective.
/r/askTRP26/04/16 02:53 PM
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Just assume it's "plausible denyability". Don't make a big deal about it. Assume it was a one night kinda thing.. until the next time it happens. Don't tell people about it or bring it up again. Be discreet. Enjoy it for what it was.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 09:18 PM
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I don't lend money to friends. I give money to friends. If they give it back later, then that's just a bonus.
/r/askTRP22/04/16 01:46 PM
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Repost: The pick-up community's "Freaks, Hoes, & Good Girls" Theory (i.e. how to screen women). Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because they make it fairly easy for the guy. Freaks - Girls who are happy in relationships when the…
/r/askTRP22/04/16 05:17 AM
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Gamification? Make some goals and come up with a series of rewards. It works for me pretty well.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 06:37 PM
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Tax benefits, shared medical insurance, professional image / networking.. just to name a few benefits. To me, marriage is about teaming up with a person who has similar life goals. Fortunately for me, those goals include life-long non-monogamy. My wife also has a wealthy family and her own career. By marrying her, I took on very little risk and receive quite a lot of benefit. We've been together nearly 6 years now and everything is still awesome. America has women from all over the world. There …
/r/askTRP21/04/16 05:10 PM
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So you have a sample size of 1? That's hardly enough info. Go out on a few more dates with young women and get back to us. Also, explain more about the dates. It's possibly that it's just your dating game that needs to be tweeked. I'm 34 and I don't have any problems dating (much) younger.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 01:12 PM
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Take dance lessons.. usually people start with salsa or east coast swing. There's no easier way to build a social circle than to become a regular in a dance scene.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 08:16 PM
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I'm strictly and openly non-monogamous. Cheating isn't something I ever worry about.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 05:37 PM
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Good game (inner game) trumps everything. I know this because shortly after I met my wife, she started dating a hedge fund manager. The guy was beyond wealthy, good looking, younger than me, and completely in love with her. She still dumped him for me. I felt a little bad for the guy afterwards. He did not take it well. He was very smart, but he just had no practical experience with dating / relatonships. He also had some very unrealistic expectations when it came to women.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 02:55 PM
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My wife knows my reddit name. She also knows that, previously, I was very active on pick-up forums. I just own this aspect of my life and freely talk about it. It's part of who I am. Also, my wife is awesome. Her understanding of RP concepts is better than that of half the guys who post on the RP subreddits. She also appreciates the fact that I'm not "relationship-impaired" like most guys she's dated / most of her friends SO's.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 01:28 PM
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This. It's training wheels for guys who have problems socializing well.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 02:05 PM
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I'm not sure what your situations is, but have you tried avoidance? The dude sounds kind of toxic. I'm not sure why you would continue to associate with him.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 07:59 PM
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I have strictly open relationships, does that count? Granted, my policy landed me in a strictly open marriage.. so maybe not.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 02:49 PM
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The funny guy is a validation junkie.. he just wants to be the focus of everyone's attention. Personaly, I can't stand these types of people.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 02:44 PM
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I bring women shopping with me everything I buy clothes. I try to get form fitting clothes and to dress "above average." Seems to work out for me pretty well.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 01:49 PM
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I love them. Seriously. I'm all about girls who love sexual variety
/r/askTRP28/03/16 12:35 AM
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The only thing I take issue with is the very first item. Nobody should ever be required to respond to texts. That said, it's good advice for dealing with people who have severe anxiety. Don't do anything to attempt to solve her problems. The best thing you can do is to shut up and play with her hair.
/r/askTRP23/03/16 09:21 PM
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Age: 34 N-count: 60 I am married and non-monogamous. I started having sex at the age of 20. I met my wife at the age of 28 and we have always had an open relationship. We've been married now for nearly 2 years. I consider myself to be very fortunate. Edit: Did not count oral sex in my N-count. Add another 15 for oral-only encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/16 05:35 PM
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Read the following: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1ovtc3/trp_and_learning_game/ It was on the TRP sidebar for ages and includes the info on screening.
/r/askTRP16/03/16 05:34 PM
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"Freaks, Hoes, and Good Girls" a general guide to screening from the pick-up community. Actually, one of the most useful ideas to come out of the pick-up scene. How to screen women: Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because they m…
/r/askTRP16/03/16 04:11 PM
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Sexually adventurous and video recording go hand in hand. I do not consider this a red flag. It's just natural kink exploration.
/r/askTRP16/03/16 04:01 PM
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No worries, the humble brag thing applies just as much to me as it does to you. I don't think you can have this discussion without a bit of humble bragging. It's all in good fun.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 03:15 PM
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R/humblebrag Lol, okay.. how many of those say we're already plates? Can you go into your method for lining up all seven? Also, why would you want to have sex with 30 different women in 30 days? Don't you keep the good ones? IMO great sex trumps new sex. The answer to making this easy is to attain some kind of fame. Or, as I call it, "Tucker Max" game. Anyway, my longest streak was 4, but that was years ago when I used to spin 4+ plates at once (exhausting).
/r/askTRP11/03/16 02:52 PM
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Don't be an ass. This theory is one of the most useful ideas to come out of the pick-up community. How to screen women: Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because they make it fairly easy for the guy. Freaks - Girls who are happy i…
/r/askTRP09/03/16 08:36 PM
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I hit my peak around age 28. That's the year I met my wife and my #1 plate/girlfriend (for lack of a better term). My wife and I have always had a completely open relationship. It's not for everyone, but it works for us. The relationship with my wife lead to swinging, threesomes, dating girls as a couple, and all sorts of other fun perks. Age hasn't had much of an effect on my dating life. I still date a fair amount of very young, very attractive women and I'll be 34 next week. What has changed …
/r/askTRP09/03/16 08:09 PM
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Are you screening properly? Are you familiar with "Freaks, Hoes, and Good Girls" theory? I'd you could give us more details about the girl (s), then we could give you better advice. Could be a shit test, could be a fishing for more valiation, could be a ploy to rope you into a more exclusive relationship, or it could be that she just wants reassurance that she isn't just a booty call.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 07:13 PM
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I lost my V-card at the age of 20. I started learning pick-up when i was 24. I'm 33 now, with a partner count of 60ish. A surprisingly few of those were 1-night stands. I was just never a fan of monogamy. I love the poly/open/plate-spinning lifestyle. If you sleep with 5-10 new girls a year, then it starts to add up over time.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 06:08 PM
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Start on easy mode: social circle game. Join things. Go to events. Talk to people. Build your social circle. If all else fails, learn to dance: Swing, Blues, Salsa, etc. There is no easier way to make friends and meet girls. Dancing events are like speed dating: you get a 4 minute dance with every girl in the room. Plus, you already have something in common. Second, go to where the girls are. If you live in a very small town, then consider moving to a bigger city (if possible). Lastly, online da…
/r/askTRP08/03/16 08:38 PM
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Roughly two years to become proficient with pick-up and two more to master plate spinning and relationships. I read pick-up forums everyday. I worked on posture, attitude, and social skills. I learned about flirting, screening, framing, and leading. I talked to a lot of women and went on a lot of dates. I burned away all of my insecurities. I experimented with swinging, BDSM, and all other manner of sexual play. I still occassionally made mistakes for a year or so after that, but they were few a…
/r/askTRP08/03/16 05:04 PM
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Join fantasy sports leagues. You really don't need to know anything going in. There are guides for popular draft picks online. It will give you a reason to care about the sport.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 03:38 PM
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At 18, I was terrified of getting a girl pregnant. I turned down my very hot 17 year old girlfriend's offer to lose our virginity together. I finally lost my virginity at the age of 20 to a different girl. No regrets. My years of abstaining helped me improve my abilities with my mouth / hands and with foreplay in general.
/r/askTRP03/03/16 03:23 PM
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No big deal. You get some antibiotics and it's gone. It's either a week treatment or a one time treatment, depending on what the doc prescribes. The worst part about it is no sex for a week. And for all you saying wrap it up, condoms are only 60% effective against chlamydia, with perfect condom use. Read up about it on the CDC website.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 08:46 PM
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Lifestyle events in big cities are the way to go. There are always several good looking younger couples, especially if you go to a holiday party or hotel takeover weekend. The bigger the party, the better the selection. Most of my swinging experiences have been in Milwaukee, Chicago and, more recently, in Florida. That being said, you won't even get in the door at the best parties without a date.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 02:46 PM
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Learn to social dance: swing, blues, salsa, whatever. Dancers love dancers and there is no quicker way to develop a large social circle and busy social calender. You will also meet a lot of physically fit women along the way.
/r/seduction29/02/16 04:21 PM
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I'm gonna go against the grain and offer an alternative theory. Maybe she's testing the waters of having more "open and honest" communication. It'a a shit test either way, as she will judge you on how you respond. However, it may not have anything to do with jealousy. Consider it an invitation to talk about the other women you are seeing. It's that kind of open communication that leads to threesomes, swinging, etc.
/r/askTRP26/02/16 04:09 PM
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Remember, rewarding good behavior isn't blue pill. It's just good leadership. It also creates a positive feedback loop. Dread is a stupid term. Just never stop displaying value. Continue to be social, make new friends, maintain existing friendships, and keep up with hobbies. Don't allow your SO to bully you into giving up these activities. That's half the battle right there. Most guys compromise away there freedom to placate their SO.. or they get lazy and stop bettering themselves. Avoid that a…
/r/askTRP23/02/16 04:58 PM
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Why stop sleeping with her... why not just see her less? Are you planning on going exclusive with somebody else? The details will help us give you better answers.
/r/askTRP19/02/16 03:35 PM
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Well, you are 20. Your parents probably know or suspect that you are sexually active. Why not just have an honest, adult conversation with them about it. If they are reasonable people, they will respect you for being upfront about it. The worst case scenario is that they refuse to let you have female guests. In which case, you are back to where you started and haven't lost anything. Edit: A word
/r/askTRP17/02/16 08:15 PM
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Go to the girl's place? Just be up front with your parents about privacy and having female guests? Either option works.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 07:48 PM
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I have never found this to be a good idea. I mean, what's the point? If you are good at sex / foreplay (and not a dumbass in other areas), then a girl will fall hard for you. Withholding sex only means less sex for you. In short, there are better ways to get the same results.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 03:43 AM
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Skip the enema. Just have a discreet towel handy. Also, protip: if you want to really understand how slow / careful you need to be, then buy an anal toy and use it on yourself before attempting anal with a girl. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 11:18 PM
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No, my partner count (60ish) has had no effect on my relationships. My girlfriends never ask, and my wife has never cared about that sort of thing.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 03:54 PM
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A repost of mine, explaining a screening method called "Freaks, Hoes, and Good Girls" developed by the pick-up community nearly a decade ago. Field tested, repeatedly. How to screen women: Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because…
/r/askTRP12/02/16 02:58 PM
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You'll find opportunities in any big city with a drinking culture. I had way more fun after college than I ever did in college.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:26 PM
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Betas mate gaurd; Alpha's disregard If you've screened well, then you don't need to police your girlfriend. If you haven't screened well, then she's going to cheat on you either way. Policing won't help.
/r/askTRP08/02/16 10:28 PM
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Accountant here.. if you can be civil with each other and avoid lawyering up, then you should. If you both lawyer up and go to court, then you both lose. It's the prisoners dilemna. It is in your best interest to work with your soon-to-be ex-wife. Even if you split it all and you get 40% while she gets 60%..you'll still come out further ahead than if you lawyer up and go to court. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 08:57 PM
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My wife plays video games with me and loves anime. Keep the geeky hobbies! Just own it and don't apologize for liking what you like.
/r/askTRP05/01/16 08:28 PM
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My choice: Plate --> GF It's a vetting process. It's all casual until you decide you really match well with a person. I upgrade girls for treating me well and being generally awesome. They prove themselves worthy and I reward them with more of my time and attention. It just seems like a more natural process to me. That said, there is no wrong answer. Some bosses pick managers by promoting existing employees, while some hire from outside the company.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 06:23 PM
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Online dating, mostly, with PoF netting me the best results. I've also dated very hot girls I met while swing/blues dancing (a hobby of mine), at bars, and through social circles. I even once dated a cute girl who cut my hair.. just a right place, right time kind of thing.
/r/askTRP31/12/15 03:36 PM
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Just keep in mind that there is no easy path. Shit won't change over night. Change takes work: lift, read the forums, learn some pick-up, update your online profiles, etc. Don't get complacent with the first girl that sleeps with you. Go non-monogamous for awhile and spin plates. It will improve your skills in a lot of different ways.
/r/askTRP31/12/15 03:18 PM
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To each their own. I never volunteer advice, but I give real advice when asked. That said, I don't give dating/relationship advice to women.. I'm just not qualified for that.
/r/askTRP31/12/15 03:09 PM
2

Well, I can't speak for all guys, but I was clueless about meeting girls in college. I was also a bleeding heart romantic who was obsessed with my highschool ex-girlfriend. I wasn't very socially confident and I didn't know how to dress (I was a dirty punk/emo kid). Sure, I was good looking enough to hook up a few times in college, but those instances were few and far between. I was also terrified of getting a girl pregnant, so I didn't lose my V-card until the age of 20 (beginning of Junior yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 02:41 PM
1

I love pickup and women, and this post still irritated me. This is just a bad argument with inaccurate information. Pickup is just a tool set. It's a buffet where guys can try things and figure out what works for them. Individuals can be misogynistic, but pick-up cannot. It is just a collection of knowledge and, for some guys, an activity. Either way, it cannot be innately misogynistic. That is not a thing. People who make arguments like "pick-up is misogynistic" like to ignore female participat…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 03:11 PM
1

I discovered pick-up when I was your age. I'm 33 and the good times are still going. Unfortunately, there's a rather large learning curve. I was 27 or 28 before I really felt like I had mastered inner game, dating and relationships (i.e. what TRP refers to as frame, spinning plates, etc.).
/r/askTRP29/12/15 02:44 PM
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That comic is so lame. Pick-up communities abandoned negging years ago. Too many newbies missed the point completely. Mystery developed it to hit on super high-status women who are surrounded by male attention/orbitors (i.e. models in a club environment). New guys just think that it's a license to be an asshole to every girl they meet or they confuse it with "cocky funny" banter. Nobody talks about negging on the pick-up forums anymore. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 06:31 PM
3

"No, my wife is awesome" or "No, she also thinks you're cute" or "No, she's out on a date right now." Then again, I'm in an open marriage so my answers to stuff like this tend to be fairly truthful.
/r/askTRP24/12/15 03:13 AM
1

I'm 33m.. so not quite 35+, but my current FWB is a petite 22 year old Filipino girl (very cute). I'm also in an open marriage, so dating on hard mode, and my FWB has met my wife. If I can do it, then an older single guy, with equivalent social skills, shouldn't have problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 10:41 PM
1

I think it's more about learning how to always think in the present tense, without dwelling on the past or getting too wrapped up in the future. Stop thinking about your life as a story, where past actions dictate future actions. Everyday you are reborn, a completely new person. I used mental exercises, similar to meditation, to get to that point.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 02:46 PM
1

Ehh.. there's nothing wrong with being a nerd and a PUA. I'm not sure why you'd have to choose between one or the other. Goes back to playing video games with his wife and his girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 12:50 AM
1

Hey man.. kinks are kinks. We aren't here to judge you for legitimate kinks. However, you might want to consider actively attempting to increase your testosterone to see if anything changes.
/r/askTRP16/12/15 06:40 PM
1

Here's the thing.. when you start getting good with women, you'll begin to hate emo music. All they do is whine about girls. Once you are a happy person with an abundance of women in your life, that kind of music just isn't enjoyable anymore.
/r/askTRP15/12/15 07:54 PM
3

Do you want hoes (i.e. women who are only happy in relationships when the guy they are with is famous / wealthy / higher status)? Because that's how you get hoes. As a guy from a wealthier background.. I make a point to NEVER talk about that stuff.. to the point where i typically dodge questions about my work, my car, where i live, etc. High SMV is more about being comfortable in all social situations and being very confident and relaxed when around attractive women. Making shit up to appear to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 03:45 PM
4

No exactly what you are looking for, but I absolutely love American Beauty for it's portrayal of the average guy, dead bedroom. It's also just a damn good movie.
/r/askTRP14/12/15 03:10 PM
1

Her mom got re-married to an American guy and she moved here, after college, to live with her mom. I honestly have no clue what's up with her visa status. Her English isn't great and she is also fairly shy, so it can be kind of hard to have in-depth conversations. Man, I'm sorry your feeling the pressure to settle down, but please try and be rational about all this. Nobody on here has all the answers. Some guys find wives overseas and make it work, but others try it and fail miserably. In genera…
/r/askTRP11/12/15 07:48 PM
2

My current FWB is a 22 year old Filipino girl. She moved to the US a few monthes ago. I did not have to marry her. =/ Also, what is this shit about hitting the wall? I'm 33 and I haven't noticed any walls yet.
/r/askTRP11/12/15 07:07 PM
1

Actually, starring in porn is just a red flag. It's an indicator of validation seeking behavior. Validation seekers tend to be more dramatic, they tend to act out for attention, and they tend to cheat (because sex is a form of validation). It could also be an indication of money/status-seeking behavior. Anyway, it's not the porn.. it's about proper screening for LTR. For further reading (and I apologize for the sites bullshit pop-ups): http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/drama-free-relationships…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 09:23 PM
1

I'm in an open marriage.. I didn't really know how to answer the "relationship" question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 09:11 PM
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It works just fine for me. You should check out r/redpillnonmonogamy. It's a small sub, but it's where we discuss this stuff. If I go into details on this sub, then I end up getting troll responses (and that shit is obnoxious).
/r/askTRP09/12/15 08:14 PM
1

Yes, technically I have multiple "failed orgasms" followed by one full orgasm, but it's basically the same thing. I edge so close that I release a lot of precum when I stop myself at the last second. To women, it looks like I'm having multiple full orgasms.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 05:23 PM
1

33m. No, there's no competition like that among my friends. I think that kind of thing stems from insecurity. I'm fairly successful, but it's something I don't generally feel the need to bring up in conversations with friends.
/r/askTRP07/12/15 04:11 PM
2

If you actually read up on the subject, then you'll find that most cases of herpes are asymptomatic, meaning the people who have it never have outbreaks. Furthermore, it's not a very common to be tested for herpes when you are taking a common STD test. Basically, most people who have herpes don't know it. Taking all this into consideration, you have most likely slept with a few women who have herpes already. This one was just unlucky enough to actually have symptoms. As an aside, the chance of t…
/r/askTRP07/12/15 03:28 PM
1

Damn.. no, I had no idea. Thanks!
/r/askTRP05/12/15 01:46 AM
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That's a common misconception. Our relationship is very loving and respectful. My wife is naturally submissive, very affectionate, and treats me very well. To our vanilla friends, we appear to be the perfect red-pill couple. We never fight and we have a lot of the same interests and hobbies. In short, it is nothing like just having a housemate, guy friend, or fuck buddy. We also plan to have children.. eventually. It's just part of building a life together. I think our relationship feels quite s…
/r/askTRP04/12/15 09:38 PM
2

Disclaimer: I understand that TRP generally has a dim view of those of us who are staunchly non-monogamous, but I really wanted to answer OP's question from my perspective. On that note, I don't suggest anybody follow in my footsteps unless they are already very good at pick-up and spinning plates (essential skills). I'm married, but I am not "normal". At a certain point in my life, I stopped desiring a traditional marriage. I got very good at pick-up, started going to swingers clubs, and i want…
/r/askTRP04/12/15 08:44 PM
2

I think it's a bit more then that. It's about not staying with the girl who doesn't fit quite right into your life, because your afraid to be alone or afraid of not finding somebody better. It's easy, for most guys, to drop a heinous bitch, but it's not so easy to drop the girl who's nice to you, but never wants to have kids (as an example).
/r/askTRP03/12/15 07:12 PM
1

Half the shit they that pick-up teaches is just to display value and sub-communicates that you have sexual options (i.e. other women value us). By being honest, you are just being a little more direct. It's an early frame announcement (EFA); you are just letting her know that you intend to keep sleeping with other women. The girl has already indicated she's okay with the open status. There are no downside. You get sex and you are still the gatekeeper to exclusivity. The flaw in your thinking is …
/r/askTRP03/12/15 05:12 PM
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This happened to me! On a third date. We're married now. There's really no reason to lie or be evasive at this point. Just be honest and own it. Edit: This girl was honest with you and honesty should be rewarded (that is, if you want her to continue to be honest with ). Edit 2: I'd just like to point out that my advice is actually field tested and not keyboard-jockey bullshit. Just say'n.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 03:39 PM
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No, that's not quite right. "Abundance mentality" is a concept TRP stole from the world of pick-up. It's the knowledge that you have the ability to find other women if the current one doesn't work out. It's an important concept. It means you have the ability to walk away. There will always be more women. Guys with an abundance mentality won't let a girl break hard boundaries and they wont compromise away their happiness. OP needs to improve on his ability to meet, flirt with and sleep with women…
/r/askTRP03/12/15 03:16 PM
3

This is just a variation of "just be yourself". It's really not that simple. I wish it were. Sure, anybody can have fun sex, but there's still a lot for guys to learn for amazing sex. Guys need to learn a degree of control. Guys should also be able to change speeds and positions without losing that control. Many guys need to learn how to be more verbal. Newer guys need to learn the motions and pacing for good oral sex / foreplay. Some inexperienced guys even need anatomy lessons. Guys should lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 03:03 PM
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Meh. There's nothing wrong with anybody having high standards. As men, it just means we should make a point to learn how to be awesome in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 05:29 AM
1

TRP is weird about the whole "Chad" thing. They've made him into the boogeyman who will come and steal your girlfriend. This is just another example of TRP marketing towards beta males. Chad is just any non-monogamous or single alpha male. He's basically the archetype that most younger TRP guys are aspiring to become, but you wouldn't know that by reading TRP rhetoric.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 02:52 PM
2

I second this. They easily have the most mature forums geared towards pick-up, spinning plate, relationships, etc.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 02:46 PM
2

This has been done many, many times. Just Google "apocalypse opener" for some good examples. The pick-up community loves this kind of thing. On average, it works around 5% of the time, but it helps to have solid logistics. It's an easy way to get rid of approach anxiety and to build an abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 02:30 PM
1

I lost count for a long time... but then I got bored at work and made a list in excel. It's around 60 women and I broke the list down by year, race, how we met, etc. It was kind of a fun list to make. I learned that it's surprisingly easy to forget one night stands when your numbers get as high as mine.
/r/askTRP30/11/15 02:44 PM
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This is TRP.. we aren't going to coddle you. The sooner you get over your ex, the better off you will be. The best thing you can do right now is to let it go and put it out of your mind completely. Focus on being the best version of yourself. On top of that, any action you take will only make your situation worse.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 02:55 AM
4

An ex is an ex.. who cares? Look forward and focus on your goals.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 02:49 AM
2

It depends.. is she providing pizza and beer?
/r/askTRP25/11/15 02:47 PM
1

Actually, I'm married. I have wife and several girlfriends. I've had 60+ lifetime sex partners and I've had so many amazing group sex experiences that I've lost count.. and I'm the Beta here? I think you may need to re-evaluate your definition of Beta. I was under the impression that Beta traits were those considered unattractive to women. My open/poly relationship status does nothing to deter the type of women I want. Furthermore, being open has killed my jealousy, given me an abundance mentali…
/r/askTRP25/11/15 01:11 AM
1

Polyamory or Swinging: All the benefits of a loving relationship and all the sexual variety and excitement of spinning plates. Disclaimer: Most RP guys will be horrified by my response, but it worked for me.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 09:38 PM
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To answer OP'S question: I'm redpill... I don't hate anybody. If anything, I'm usually harder on men than I am on women. Most guys get themselves into trouble with women because they are naive. Guys tend to have very unrealistic expectations of their partners and they are pretty terrible at screening. This is the root cause of the angst of the typical newbie RP guy. So, no.. I don't hate single mothers (or any women). Edit: Even RP gets screening wrong most of the time. Unilaterally ruling out e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 03:14 PM
1

Been there, done that... she was really nice. She liked me because I am charming and openly polyamorous (It's the lifestyle I want, TRP's opinion be damned). She was very opinionated. I just avoided the topic of gender politics while I was around her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 03:20 PM
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Let it slide. Your friend needs to make his own mistakes. Most guys dont take advice about relationships until after it's too late. He'll only resent you for meddling. Furthermore, crazy girl can't hurt you. Any thing she says about you just makes you look more like a player.. which is actually kind of a good thing. It's a type of pre-selection. Be civil to her, but keep your interactions with her to a minimum. This girl thrives on drama.. releasing dirt on her is only going to offer her validat…
/r/askTRP19/11/15 04:20 PM
2

Be the best version of yourself.
/r/askTRP18/11/15 05:56 PM
1

Plenty of alpha guys make open relationships / marriages work just fine. Just spend some time going to couples-only "lifestyle " resorts. All the guys who are regulars are pure alpha (because the betas don't last long in the lifestyle). I'm alpha and I'm a proponent of TRP. I also have an epic open marriage. The two things aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/15 03:27 PM
1

Easy, just work out WITH her. She'll do things for you, that she won't do for herself.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 03:37 PM
1

I ALWAYS pick option A. Sometimes shit comes up. I've been spinning plates for over a decade and that option seems to work the best for me. Just play it off like it's no big deal.. you have a busy social life so you obviously have other options for the evening.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 02:45 PM
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33m here. Bullshit. It's never been easier to connect with new people. Hell, with the internet, you don't even need to leave your house. You can just network through reddit / craigslist / Meetup.com / OkC / Facebook / etc. You also have a whole calender of groups, events, and meet-ups.. all posted online. On top of that, at 30+ most of us have expendable income, which is nice.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 02:24 PM
1

When I learned pick-up, I read the forums for about 30 minutes a day until I could internalize the advice. Then, there was no point to reading any further, because I knew how everyone would respond to the various questions posted. For a newbie, focus on body language and socializing / flirting. Get comfortable playfully flirting with all the women you interact with. Cold approaches and day game are terrifying at first, but they are a right of passage. They are something to be endured so that, de…
/r/askTRP02/11/15 04:20 PM
1

Girls don't typically need to prepare for anal (provided that they've used the toilet in the previous few hours). 9 times out of 10, there is no mess. Even so, I just keep a small towel beside the bed, just in case. Even on the rare occasions that I need a towel to wipe myself off afterwords, it's not that messy.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 04:06 PM
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To be fair, Mystery came up with negs to hit on high status 10's in venues where they already have a lot of male attention (orbiters). He had a thing for dating models, apparently. The pick-up community has mostly abandoned the use of "negs" as they are just not practical in most situations. Plus, "Indirect game" has fallen out of fashion in the last decade. Too many newbies thought negs were just an excuse to be an asshole to every girl they approached.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 03:02 PM
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I did something similar.. it helps if you have something else to default think about (i.e. "what would I do with a billion dollars right now?"). It takes 3 weeks to form a habit. You can train your brain to focus on the present, and stop thinking about the past altogether. Live in the moment.
/r/askTRP30/10/15 08:11 PM
1

Yes, basically. There's a big difference between resistance (not yet) and rejection (not ever). Some girls like to wait few dates. That's okay.. they just want to be sure that they're more than a one night stand. I keep a very sexual vibe/frame, so I don't really get last-minute resistance anymore. In the past I'd do pretty much anything that I could to turn them on: dry-humping, kissing up and down her neck, being very dominant and pulling her hair, and going down on her (which, like you said, …
/r/askTRP30/10/15 07:59 PM
1

Ahhh. Pick-up basics. IOI'S = indicators of interest. Incidentially, what the quote describes is called cave-manning. It's basically paying attention to a girls actions, rather than her words. Unfortunately, many women say stuff like "we aren't having sex" so they can avoid taking responsibility for their actions (i.e. they can blame the guy if they face backlash from their peers, or if the guy is a dick to them afterwards). Just agree with them and continue with the foreplay. If they are turned…
/r/askTRP30/10/15 07:05 PM
2

Seriously, though, the authors of The Ethical Slut wrote a very large chapter on jealousy, and they say it never goes away, and they've been polyamorous for decades. Well, if it's written in a book, then it must be true. And if it's true for the authors, then it must be true for everyone. We shouldn't even attempt to overcome our fears and insecurities.. a book said it was impossible. That's a very solid point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 12:58 AM
1

Actually, I disagree about the last bit. Having a hot wife is a type of pre-selection, even in the poly community. It's a display of value as it shows that attractive women like to be around you. There's an added bonus if your wife is bi-sexual and/or also into the swinging lifestyle. I think the mistake guys make is that they think being poly will magically make dating easier. If you sucked at meeting women before you were poly, then you'll still suck at meeting women as a poly guy. If you are …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:35 PM
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I don't feel jealousy. I'm not insecure and I don't have any fear or anxiety about losing my wife / girlfriends. I did when I was younger, but success breeds confidence. I've maintained several awesome poly/open relationships for many years now. I have over a decade of experience dating and managing multiple relationships. It's pretty much down to a science at this point. If something bad was going to happen, then it would have happened by now. Jealousy, at this point, would be absurd and irrati…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:10 PM
2

Jealousy = thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, concern and anxiety over an anticipated loss Showing insecurity, fear, etc. as a man, is generally considered unattractive by the opposite sex. Therefore, jealousy is an unattractive trait; kill it with fire. It works. I did it. You can do it too. It just takes effort and a great deal of real world experience. Honestly, I don't have much else to add to u/Susandeath's reply. They kind of nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 02:27 PM
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33m checking in.. I'm in an open marriage, so I date a lot. Women in their early 20's are the easiest for me to meet and date. The main reason is because they make up the majority of the female online dating population. They are also the most open-minded about casual dating and my open marriage. My current girlfriend is 23 (PoF), my previous girlfriend was 26 (Tinder), and the one before that was 22 (met her at dancing lessons). Edit: Also, my wife is 27 (6 year age difference). I met her on PoF…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 07:44 PM
1

Flirt with a girl BEFORE you ask her out. Learn how to tell when she is flirting back (body language, eye contact, etc). If she's flirting back, then ask for her number / set up a date, etc. There's really no point where she will outright reject you. The worst thing that can happen is that she won't flirt back or she just wont engage you in conversation at all. Note: if you don't know when a girl is flirting with you, then read up on "IOI's" - Indicators of interest.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 02:58 PM
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Field-tested pro-tip: Whip it out and masturbate. Half the time my wife gets turned on by watching and we end up having sex anyway. It also subconsciously communicates that you are willing to take action to get your sexual needs met.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 02:39 PM
2

OP wrote this post a month ago in a hotwife sub. And copied it here verbatim. His post asks "ladies" for advice. =/ OP, it sounds like you have a kink for group sex. Just embrace a swinging lifestyle and roll with it. It's really not that big of a deal.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 07:43 PM
2

Protip: The easiest way to dress well is to invite cute girls to go shopping with you and help you pick out cloths By "cute girls", I mean the kind you want to attract.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 01:41 PM
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Yes, but probably in a slightly different way than you. I am quite good with women. I am also in a non-monogamous marriage. My wife and I both have a kink for group sex and we swing fairly frequently. As a result, I tend to hang out with a lot of attractive women in sexually charged evironments. My friends have to know how to conduct themselves in this environment. If they do, then they are probably in for a good time. To quote my wife, "Some people like to go bowling with their friends. We dont…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 02:25 PM
1

You are smart. You can learn to socialize, banter and flirt. Read up on this site and pickup forums. Apply yourself and learn how to win friends. It's just another skill, like learning to play the piano. Dating is just a numbers game. You can improve your odds by improving yourself. However, you have to put in the work. There are no shortcuts.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:30 PM
1

"Aww.. you're must get that from your mother"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 03:00 AM
1

My wife and I watch porn together fairly often. Sometimes she will just jack me off while we watch and sometimes it's foreplay for other things. tl;dr: Porn - Not just for beta men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/15 09:34 PM
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I like the list.. and will add "attention / validation"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 01:40 AM
2

Let her bring up the conversation. All of your actions should be congruent with a FWB'S frame (i.e. don't introduce her to friends / family, don't see her more than 1-2 times a week, no sleep overs, don't text to much, etc.). If you follow the rules, she probably won't even bring it up.
/r/askTRP12/10/15 02:28 PM
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I disagree. Girls are very socially aware (much more so than guys) and will typically avoid any situation that might open them up to criticism by their peers. It's perfectly reasonable for a FWB to get upset over something like this. Why not just try for a threesome?
/r/askTRP12/10/15 02:11 PM
1

Close enough, I suppose. The way I've also done a soft next is to freeze them out for 3-4 days, then invite them over as if nothing happened. Then repeat, if necessary. This sub-communicates that, "If you behave badly, then you lose my attention / validation". Girls are shockingly good at picking up on how this works without it being explained. It has always worked really well for me. I rarely have had to do it more than once.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 02:30 PM
1

It IS possible to correct bad behavior using a soft next. It doesn't have to be a slippery slope.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 02:09 PM
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To be perfectly honest, some guys can be a little insecure about their level of education.. and it makes them project their feelings onto others. Furthermore, there are a lot of guys on the main sub who are still in the "bitter phase" (and that doesn't help). The combination of insecurities and bitterness can make guys say some pretty stupid things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 07:15 PM
3

Yes, but it's a very standard test when you ask for an STD test. They also test it routinely when you go in for blood work.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 05:01 PM
3

Herpes is not a default in the US. It's not life-threatening, just annoying, so they don't test for it. You have to ask for it and pay extra for the test.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 04:17 PM
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HSV-1 is oral herpes.. it only rarely does well in the private areas. That's actually lucky for her. If you've never been tested for it (blood test), then there's a good chance you already have it. Most people who get it are asymptomatic (i.e. never have outbreaks). Contracting herpes is always risk you take when you sleep with somebody, or even kiss somebody. Many people get HSV-1 before they are even sexually active.. by kissing parents / relatives, etc. IMO, not that big of a deal. If she tak…
/r/askTRP28/09/15 04:16 PM
2

Argue if you want, but this guy has the right of it. Best response is to ignore and completely disengage from the validation-seeking drama maker. OP let her get under his skin. If you take a shit test seriously, then you've already lost.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 03:56 PM
3

There are a couple "best of" posts that answer this question. Also, you might want to start a post in personal finance. Generally, don't tell anyone yet. People are going to come out of the woodwork asking for money. Tell them it's already tied up in investments. If you want to give away some money, then set up some trusts. Consult a trustworthy accountant and get a decent lawyer. Edit: read top comments on the "You just won 656 million dollar" askreddit post.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 05:54 PM
2

Tucking? I'm not sure what that even means. Lol. I met one of my best FWB'S off CL. A very petite black girl with an amazing ass. Granted, I met her by replying to a "strictly platonic" post. I met her 7-8 years ago and we are still friends (no benefits anymore though.. we live in different states now). I also hooked up with an 18 girl who was engaged and still a senior in highschool. Long story, but they opened up the relationship due to a period of long distance and so that she could get some …
/r/askTRP25/09/15 03:03 PM
2

In order of success (I've had sex with 60ish women): Online (PoF, OkC, CL), social circle, going to parties / events, daygame (beach, hair stylist), and hobbies (mine is swing / blues dancing).
/r/askTRP25/09/15 02:00 PM
2

I'm just going to address the part about women (the other questions are just silly): Yes, love women for who and what they are. Most guys just love the idealized concept of what they think women are supposed to be. You can still love somebody even if you suspect that they won't be in your life forever. Furthermore, love and self-interest aren't mutually exclusive. Self-sacrifice and love aren't the same thing. You can still love somebody without them being a detriment to your own happiness. I ex…
/r/askTRP24/09/15 02:00 PM
1

Happily married, unconventional red pill guy here (i.e. strictly non-monogamous). Dating virgins is fun, but can also be kind of a hassle. I prefer kinky and confident to innocent and inexperienced. Furthermore, I don't think sex is necessary in the first few dates, but some kind of sexual activity is. If it's obvious a girl is really attracted to me, but she is inexperienced and wants to proceed at a slower pace, then that's fine. In fact, it can be really fun to be somebodies series of firsts.…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 08:34 PM
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First step: read (sidebar, book of pook, sedfast forums, etc.) Second step: social circle. Get comfortable meeting and talking to new people. Make new friends, fill up your social calender. Get comfotable flirting with attractive women. Third step: "spin plates". Go on a lot of dates. Stay out of monogamous relationships for awhile. Date several women casually (builds abundance mentality and confidence dealing with women/drama). That should keep you busy for awhile.
/r/askTRP23/09/15 03:30 PM
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React positively when a girl tells you controversial things about herself. Encourage her to share her scandalous thoughts and stories. Praise her for opening up and being honest. Share private details of your own life without making a big deal about it (i.e. Lead by example). Be discreet about the things she tells you. This is the best way to ensure honesty in a relationship. If you act jealous or butt-hurt when a girl talks about her past, then it's like raising a big sign that says, "LIE TO ME…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 03:11 PM
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I don't think anybody's going to argue with you there. His writing is way too extreme to be legitimately helpful. It's pretty clear to me that he's writing to a specific audience (angry young men).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 03:04 PM
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Negging.. no, just no. Negging is something Mystery came up with to hit on models in night clubs. It's generally not applicable in LTR's. Most people who talk about negging are confusing the concept with something else (usually cocky/funny banter).
/r/askTRP22/09/15 01:25 PM
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And my response was meant to point out that the pick up community's discussions are not limited to pick-up. Dread game is not a new concept. It's just an old pick up community idea that's been rebranded. TRP really hasn't added anything or put it in a new context. They just renamed it. As for the rest, I think we are in full agreement. =)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 12:11 AM
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No need to be adversarial. I completely agree with you. However, some guys end up with somebody they love in a relationship they hate. They need to leave, try and fix it, or be miserable and stick with it out of a sense of duty or obligation. "Dread game" is one of things they can do to help fix the relationship (and it's potentially better than the alternatives).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 12:10 AM
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If you think the pick-up community isn't concerned with long-term relationships, then you'd be wrong. All the main pick-up forums have sections for discussions about relationships. That being said, you are generally correct. If you change your frame and actions mid-relationship, then you are asking for drama. Women generally dislike when their predictable, safe beta guy starts to exhibit alpha characteristics. It's scary for them and can provoke extreme responses. Thus, the the pick-up community…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 10:57 PM
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"97 and a half.. one was a midget." "All of them" "I don't keep count" or.. "I thought only frat guys kept count. I never felt the need to brag about my number". Edit: There's a lot of good suggestions in this thread.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 07:39 PM
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Dread is a stupid name for a simple and harmless concept. A bunch of guys in the pick-up community compared notes and realized that guys who have busy social lives tend to do better with women. They hypothesized that this was because it 1) displayed high value, 2) subcommuniated that the guys had a lot of romantic options and 3) made them necessarily less available, more aloof, to any one girl. The pick-up community then took a "fake it until you make it" approach and told guys to mimic the beha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:32 PM
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In the pick up community, people have noted better results with messy/spikey hair. It's a bit anecdotal, but it's probably your best bet if you can pull it off. It seems to work for me pretty well. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 03:09 PM
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You don't HAVE to agree and amplify. It's just one form of playful banter that works for most guys in most situations. You can straight up ignore the comment (not worthy of a response) and continue the conversation without giving the comment any validation. Another thing to try out is just to start talking to them as if the were a 5 year old. Note: It's very hard to be/feel offended when you are insulted by a 5-yr old. I find that playful banter comes more easily when I have this mindset. Edit: …
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:13 PM
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Benevolent alpha: good leader, doesn't feel the need to brag, knows his value and the value of his work (arrogance, i suppose, is over-valuing yourself and your work). His value is displayed subtly. He has a large social circle because people like being around him. He knows how to playfully flirt without being pushy or crude. Does that kind of give you an idea of what you are going for? I agree that it's better to error on the side of arrogance. It's far better than under-valuing yourself.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 01:50 PM
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Flipside: "What happens when men find out that women... wear makeup as part of a sexual strategy to attract higher quality men?" Tl;dr - shit post
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 02:38 PM
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Game, I spent years reading pick-up forums and learning game Then spinning plates: teaches abundance mentalty, how to set boundaries, and how to handle relationship drama. Everything else was small gains in comparison, even lifting.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 05:18 PM
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1) Screening - They get way too hung up on number of previous partners. There are better indicators of relationship success (and bigger red flags). 2) I don't think the founders of TRP had any experience with serious, long-term non-monogamy and, thus, it is all viewed as "bad". Poly / swinging / etc.. all bad. They also ignore the fact that the majority of men in the swinging community are married and "alpha", probably because it doesn't follow their narrative. 3) Oversimplification and ridiculo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 05:05 PM
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TRP'S claim that ALL serious open relationships are bad (same goes for swinging). If you are a guy and you WANT life-long nonmonogamy, then they can work just fine. Screening potential plates / GF's. Partner count isn't the only indicator of relationship success.. it's not even the best indicator.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 03:54 PM
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This is me. I'm been into pick up since 2006-07 (the forums at MASF and Sedfast.. none of the commercial bullshit). For me, pick up was training wheels to becoming self-confident. It made me more socially aware and helped me learn to enjoy meeting new people. Furthermore, it helped me learn to navigate long-term relationships and avoid typical "dumb guy mistakes". Lastly, it made me realize that I'm naturally poly-amorous and discontent in traditional monogamous relationships and gave me the too…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 02:41 PM
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Game (as in "attempt to sleep with"): everyone is fair game except co-workers, relatives and housemates. =)
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:03 PM
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It works if you have sufficient game or a bisexual SO (although it's best if you have both). My wife is the best wing I've ever had. There's a reason TRP teaches guys to spin plates, a concept we took from the pick-up community. It teaches guys the skills they need to navigate an open relationship (i.e. always have multiple partners).
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 11:47 AM
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The only problem is that "monogamous" marriage doesn't ensure sexual fidelity. It just ensures that the married couples will lie to each other about it. In my relationship, we don't have to lie to each other. I would argue that it makes my relationship more stable, not less. Furthermore, my relationship is sexually satisfying even after 5 years together, which also adds to our long-term stability. Second, for me, monogamy is inherently unstable. I don't like it and it eventually makes me feel tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 04:33 PM
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Are you claiming that sexual fidelity is the only benefit to marriage? Because sexual fidelity kind of sucks. Only one sexual partner for the rest of my life? No, thank you. Sexual fidelity isn't even guaranteed by marriage.. a fair amount of married couples cheat on each other. Anyway, there are other benefits to marraige that have nothing to do with a couples sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 12:51 PM
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I never said I went alone, a few times me and an acquaintance would go, split up and meet at the end. Dude. That is NOT cool. In most Florida parties there's a "no unattended males" rule / area specifically to stop people like you from doing shit like this. We go to couples parties specifically to avoid people like you. If you don't have enough game to bring a real date, then you do not belong at a lifestyle event.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 09:09 PM
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Single guys are not allowed at most big lifestyle events. What you are talking about is something different altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 08:22 PM
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..and I suppose this insightful comment is based on your own experiences at "lifestyle" events?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 08:05 PM
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I am a swinger and I live in Florida. My wife and I go to couples-only events semi-frequently. Most of the other guys I meet at these events are married and undeniably alpha. Draw your own conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 03:15 PM
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The best thing you can do at this point is lead by example. Young teens are too driven by hormones to take overt relationship advice.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 04:23 PM
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Don't get upset. Say, "no problem" and reschedule. Then CALL her on the day of the date to confirm (or the day before). If you talk to her on the phone, then it drastically decreases her chances of flaking. Based purely on my own trial and error.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 02:04 PM
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Guys. I've practiced pick up since 2007 (well before TRP was a thing). I'm now married and we swing, so it's a skill set that has paid dividends. It works just fine. However, TRP suffers from over-simplification and over-marketing (the same thing holds true to the commercial side of the pick-up community). There's a lot of bullshit along with the good advice. Furthermore, everyone has their own style. Not everything works for everybody, which is why everyone is told to try stuff out to figure ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 02:40 PM
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My recommendation: Aaron Sleazy's "Minimal Game". It covers all the basics pretty well and avoids the gimmicky stuff. Plus, it's relatively inexpensive and you can buy it on Amazon.
/r/askTRP24/08/15 02:08 PM
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This question bothers me. My perfect girl would be bisexual and non-monogamous, so I'd get flings either way. It also bothers me because if I had met my perfect girl at 21, then I would have screwed it up. I was pretty clueless about relationships at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 06:42 PM
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Ehh.. I don't.. not really. I'm actually pretty nice to women. However, when I first meet girls, I do playfully warn them that I'm a jerk. What I'm actually attempting to communicate is that I have no interest in monogamy. It's not something I'm willing to compromise on. I'm non-monogamous for life. The other thing I'm attempting to communicate is that I'm very sexually experienced/dominant and that I flirt fairly aggressively. Some women think this makes me a jerk. The other reason some women t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 04:45 PM
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I did it. Then again, I spent a good portion of my 20's learning pick-up & "relationship management" skills. There are no shortcuts. It takes work and you have to really want it. You will fuck up a lot while you are learning. Meet and date a lot of women (several at once), screen very selectively for women who are open to non-monogamous arrangements. Don't compromise away the parts of the relationship dynamic that are important to you.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 02:40 PM
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You might consider starting with pick-up before getting into TRP (check out www.sedfast.com) TRP = Crushing guys' unrealistic worldviews, which society has spoon fed us from a young age. Break guys down, then build them back up (ideally). Pick-up = Grow some balls, learn to flirt and meet women. Inevitably fuck up your first few relationships, but hopefully learn from it. Slowly master the finer points of long-term relationships. Both will get you to the same place in the end. With TRP, you get …
/r/askTRP21/08/15 02:22 PM
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Try www.sedfast.com for info on the finer points of pick-up. It's a great forum. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 01:31 PM
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I love this thread. We actually all agree that society kind of sucks at preparing people to be adults (and navigating the realities of adult relationships).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 02:17 PM
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It's not unethical, it's just a potential red flag: proceed with caution. My wife and I swing. We occasionally run into people in this type of relationship: the community calls them "unicorn hunters." There's a thing about them frequently having unrealistic expectations. However, if you and your wife are both happy, then more power to you. Cheers!
/r/askTRP18/08/15 03:59 PM
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As an accountant, I'd say I have that particular issue covered.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 01:45 AM
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<--- open marriage. Tl;dr - it's pretty sweet. Feel free to AMA. My wife and I have always been open (I insisted). We dated for 4 years before getting married. We were also active swingers for quite some time. I met many other married alpha guys while socializing at lifestyle events. TRP likes to crap on open relationships and assume that all guys in them are cucks. In reality, that's usually not the case.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 03:41 PM
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Sure, but they tend to assume every guy in an open relationship is a cuck. And they never talk about the fact that many alphas enjoy living non-monogamous lifestyles and are still able to find high quality LTR's. It goes against there narrative. I'm a bit jaded with it all. If I give relationship advice in a TRP sub, then I get upvotes. If I give the same advice and mention my open relationship status, then I get downvotes. It's extremely frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 07:41 PM
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We aren't disagreeing. The hedge fund manage was obviously rubbish with women. But, let's face it, if my wife were a gold digger or if settling down with a beta appealed to her, then I would have lost her. I mean, she did really like the guy and was fairly broken up about the whole thing. They were dating for nearly a year. As for alphas no longer finding her attractive? That's rubbish. She just turned 27 and is a petite brunette. She's objectively still very hot. You are making bad assumptions.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 06:45 PM
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True, but I was looking for this kind of relationship from the start. I screened for women who wanted the same type of lifestyle. My wife and I have never been monogamous. If she were hypergamous, then she would have left a long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 05:57 PM
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Okay, posting from a phone so bear with me. I'll try to answer all your questions. Let's start with why I married my wife and how this setup benefits me (the two are related). First, my wife gets me laid. She brags to her friends about me and is an amazing wingman. Second, she's bisexual so she's dated women before, which has lead to threesomes, and we've dated girls as a couple (lots of threesomes). Also, swinging/group sex is really fun.. and, again, consistently fills my life with new sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 05:53 PM
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I live in central FL, by some of the best swingers clubs in the US. I also have been to several events in Chicago and Milwaukee. That has not been my experience. All the couples we have befriended (who weren't newbies), have been awesome. Even the newbies were okay, but some guys just can't perform their first time (too much mental stuff to process). We don't go to places/events were there are more than a very small number of single guys allowed in the door. Swinging is a couples activity. I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 02:27 PM
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To each their own. My wife has good taste (i.e. all the guys she dates are very similar to me). When she gets a new boyfriend, then I get a new drinking buddy. I really enjoy the dynamic. Plus, having a wife and a girlfriend is pretty awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 02:19 PM
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Red pill-ish guy here. I was very promiscuous before I met my wife. She was also fairly promiscuous, but honest about it. We are now swingers and both very happy with our relationship. TRP likes to shit on swinging and open relationships, but the reality is that most guys in "the lifestyle" are pretty alpha and happy with their relationships. Just say'n.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 01:51 PM
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I'm in an open marriage (been together and open for 5 years and still going strong). It's actually pretty awesome. However, YMMV. You have to really want it and be willing to put in the work. There's a lot of irksome comments in this thread. This is one of the topics TRP just gets dead wrong. If you check out a swinger/lifestyle event, then you'll find that most of the guys there are married Alphas.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 07:50 PM
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I'm in an epic open marriage. When I give relationship advice in TRP subs I get upvotes. If I give relationship advice and mention my open marriage, then I get downvotes. It's bloody stupid. I'm feeling pretty alienated from red pill at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 03:48 PM
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This happened to me. Stay calm, offer to get her a Plan B, make her laugh (if you can). Everything else is just details. My girlfriend apologized to me, a few days later, for freaking out.
/r/askTRP30/07/15 07:49 PM
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The route I went: I initially focused on learning pickup: body language, posture, learning to banter and flirt, being more active and outgoing, etc. From there, I worked on spinning plates: screening, managing drama, taking the lead, getting better at sexual stuff. This route builds self-confidence.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/15 06:08 PM
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Grand romantic gestures only work if the recipient is already into you. They do not generate attraction. Furthermore, people who innately understand this concept are likely to judge people who don't. Therefore, this action was potentially detrimental to your underlying objective. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/15 04:05 PM
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Interesting post. I agree about the lack of trickle-down effect to betas. I just never really thought about it before. Sex positivity works to the benefit of promiscuous alpha males (like me). I'm a non-monogamous swinger in an open marriage. Sex positivity is awesome as it directly benefits my sex life. From my perspective, slut-shamers are cock-blocks.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/15 05:10 PM
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I typically only text to set up logistics (i.e. where / when will we meet next) or to answer a direct question. Other then that, I tend to ignore texts from girls.
/r/askTRP02/07/15 07:42 PM
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Don't over-text her.. even if she initiates the texting, only make plans with her once or twice a week, at first. Don't get upset with her if she has to reschedule. Be willing to walk away if she is being irrational, disrespectful, etc. Don't stop dating other women or assume monogamy unless she brings it up and you agree to it. All of these things are subtle, but they subcommunicate that you have options and women will pick up on that.
/r/askTRP02/07/15 01:37 PM
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Ehh.. you respect people according to how they act and how they treat. For me, partner count doesn't even enter the equation. I think your advice is counterproductive, under the circumstances. To OP: Frankly, if your her best, then who cares how many guys she's had before you. That gut feeling is just a manifestation of your insecurities. Just focus on being awesome and everything else will fall into place naturally. At least, that's how it worked for me. In the meantime, consider all interactio…
/r/askTRP01/07/15 09:16 PM
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Self-improvment with the intention of making yourself more attractive to the opposite sex is the part of the core of the red pill. Work-out, improve body language, hold eye contact, smile, be passionate about stuff, have hobbies and friends.. this has all been stuff talked about endlessly in pick-up forums since the late 90's and stolen wholesale by TRP since it's beginning. TRP / pick-up isn't all gimmicks and lines. That stuff is mostly bullshit used to sell stuff on the commercial side of pic…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 02:46 PM
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Except many women will stick to a convenient lie, even in the face of overwhelming evidence. I believe that our society has conditioned the response, due to the possibility of extreme social repercussions. I would be curious to see what percentage of women actually confessed to having 20+ partners. It would also be cool to see how the participants rated their level of self-esteem. Disclaimer: I'm not attempting to be judgmental. I'm all for women (and men) having lots of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 02:13 PM
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That was my thought. 10 seems a tad unrealistic. 4 tops for me, but i'm a bit of an introvert and I need a few nights off during the week. Still, it sounds exhausting. You'd need to be constantly finding new girls to keep that up.. as your flake-out rate would be pretty high if your availability was that low. I'm assuming he's seeing these girls once every 2 weeks and keeping texting to a minimum.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 03:43 PM
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Wow. Yes, I am very familiar with that scenario. We were open from the beginning, but several of her more serious secondary partners made attempts to break us up at one point or another. She dated a guy who worked for a hedge fund who straight out attempted to buy her away from me (all expense paid vacation to France.. for a year). She turned him down because of me and dumped him shortly after that. That's when I started thinking, "I should probably marry this girl."
/r/askTRP15/06/15 03:44 PM
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Dancing (swing / blues / salsa), social circle, "lifestyle" events (I.e. swinging), The beach, Online (quality of women depends heavily on where you live) That being said, I'd rather have a cute girl who's kinky/great in bed, than a super hot girl who's just average in bed. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP15/06/15 03:06 PM
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Sweet! Another TRP contributor in an open marriage. Have you been open since the beginning? If not, what caused you to open up the marriage?
/r/askTRP15/06/15 02:44 PM
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Practical female psychology for the practical male (I think its currently free on scribd) - Brilliant stuff Minimal Game by Aaron Sleazy (mostly covers basics, but there's no bullshit and it's well written)
/r/askTRP12/06/15 05:54 PM
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Am in open marriage now.. and my wife is an awesome wing. However, only inexperienced couples make deals like this and expect them to work.
/r/askTRP12/06/15 04:24 PM
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Heh, my wife and I got married (after dating happily for 4 years, living together for 1) for the joint insurance and the substantial tax refund (I'm an accountant). As an added bonus, it made certain parents happy. Incidently, it's an open marriage and we both like it that way. Tl; dr - I get all the benefits and none of the drawbacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/15 02:26 PM
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I swing / blues / salsa dance. There's a lot fit, cute college girls in that crowd. I also meet them via online dating (I'm 33).
/r/askTRP11/06/15 05:00 PM
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Yes. My partner count is close to 60ish. I don't care at all about a girl's partner count. There are more nuanced methods to screen potential relationships. Also, I want girls who 1) don't have issues with me being non-monogamous and 2) love sex / are kinky.
/r/askTRP26/05/15 09:58 PM
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This! This guy gets it. So many single guys don't understand this concept. When my GF and I did the swinging thing, we avoided any events that allowed more than a small handful of single guys.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 04:09 PM
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I couldn't help but notice that the study only targeted monogamous couples. That seems a bit flawed. Also, you can't just tell two people to have more sex and think that's going to work / fix their issues / make them happier.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 01:32 PM
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I actively encourage her to have plates, but she's a bit more monogamously minded than I am. Either that, or she's just gotten exceptionally picky over the years. When we first started dating she had several. Now, she doesn't find them very often and she tends to get bored of them quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/15 04:38 AM
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I'm happily married and I still enjoy spinning plates. My wife is my life partner, but she has always understood that I could never do long-term monogamy. It's just not in my nature. Therefore, I get the best of both worlds: a wife who adores me and several friends with benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/15 07:06 PM
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Beta's mate guard, Alpha's disregard. You don't really gain anything by policing who your GF talks to. Girls like validation.. it's why they keep beta their orbiters around. Don't sweat the small stuff. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP02/03/15 09:07 PM
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It's an appropriate metaphor because successful open relationships require guys to balance our time and attention between multiple people... much like balancing spinning plates. If we let things get unbalanced, then it all comes crashing down around us. To take the metaphor deeper: many guys need to learn to make open relationships work. It does not come intuitively to most us (side note: women tend to be much more intuitive about relationship stuff, in general). For us guys, making multiple rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/15 04:25 PM
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Your friends' story is my story. I was a very frustrated, clueless, unhappy student in new city full of hot young women (I.e. Chicago). I dropped out of law school after the first year, stayed in Chicago, and learned game. It was probably the best decision I ever made. It's been 10 years since then. I'm more socially adept, more confident around attractive women, I've had awesome life experiences and I'm a happy person as a result. Now I'm an accountant, happily married, and living very comforta…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 03:23 PM
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Make an objective decision.. are these people contributing at all to your happiness or security? Are they an overwhelmingly negative influence on your life? Also, you may want to check out the /r/raisedbynarcissists sub. You might get better advice on this particular topic.
/r/askTRP09/02/15 02:47 PM
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Negging? Seriously? Nobody does that anymore. Mystery used megs to hit on super models in environments where they were surrounded by orbiters. It's not practical to neg 99 percent of women. Plus, newbies misuse negs or think it's an excuse to act like an ass. /rant off
/r/askTRP21/01/15 01:06 AM
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IMO, the wingman is there to distract the girl's friend(s). If a girl's female friends aren't having a good time, then they tend to turn into cock-blocks. A wing also there to give you extra social proof. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP14/01/15 08:59 PM
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Sedfast.com (by far the best pick-up resource/forum on the internet)
/r/askTRP13/01/15 07:07 PM
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Rewarding good behavior is part of being an effective leader.. just say'n.
/r/askTRP07/01/15 08:04 PM
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When I first started dating the woman who is now my wife, third date (we met on PoF). Her: Are you seeing other people? Me: Yes.. Are you seeing other people? Her: Yes Me: I think this could work.
/r/askTRP06/01/15 11:48 PM
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I have an open marriage.. so yes, absolutely. I wouldn't even think twice about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/14 04:02 PM
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The easiest way to kill your jealousy is to spin plates for an extended period of time. It builds confidence, gives you experience dealing with women & drama, and builds an abundance mentality. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP17/12/14 03:16 PM
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I think you are handling things pretty well. I don't have any rules I hold myself to. I just trust my instincts as to when to bring up the poly marriage thing. Just don't wait too long (maybe try bringing it up right after sex). That being said, poly dating is all about screening for the right types of girls. Some girls will be very happy with the situation.. and some girls will flake out after a month because they can't handle it. Be patient. Eventually you'll meet a girl who gets along with yo…
/r/askTRP17/12/14 02:36 PM
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I'm married (poly relationship) and I spin plates. It's a case by case basis. I'm usually pretty upfront about it, but I also try not to make a big deal about my poly status. I don't lie, but I don't always feel the need to tell a new girl all the details of my life until I think there's s chance she's going to stick around for awhile. Probably the easiest thing to do is just to wear your wedding ring.. they'll notice. They'll either ask questions about it or they just don't want to know the det…
/r/askTRP17/12/14 01:37 PM
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Yes.. 4.5+ years and going strong. We got married last July. It's been open the entire time. It's not for everyone, but it works for me. It helped that I was very into pick-up before meeting my wife. I do just fine finding my own plates / secondary relationships. In all other respects, it's very red pill. My wife is submissive to me and treats me like a king (or we never would have gotten married).
/r/askTRP13/12/14 01:38 PM
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There's nothing wrong with dating "sluts". Just don't expect them to be something that they are not (I.e. don't expect long-term monogamy). I'm just like you.. I like girls with kinks and experience and an above-average sex drive. I've been dating a girl who's perfect for me, going on 4.5+ years. We've had an open relationship the entire time. Our relationship is Red Pill in every other respect (i.e. she is submissive to me and treats me like a king). I've never been happier.
/r/askTRP11/12/14 02:54 PM
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Find a girl at the mall.. it's really not that hard. If all else fails, go for a younger girl who works at the place you're shopping. Just explain that you need her expertise and a bit of her time.
/r/askTRP30/11/14 06:25 AM
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Not in my experience. I've been shopping this way for years. It has worked really well for me. I'm terrible at shopping on my own, yet I dress better than most of my peers. I tell girls to pick things out for me to try on, then give me a thumbs up or thumbs down after i've tried them on.
/r/askTRP30/11/14 06:23 AM
1

Just bring a girl shopping with you. Most girls enjoy dressing up a guy.
/r/askTRP30/11/14 01:23 AM
4

Red pill guy here. I fucking love women.. i went through a lot of effort to improve myself so I could have more of them in my life. So, yes, in a way.. I glorify all that woman are (the reality of what they are, not the Disney version).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/14 06:23 PM
1

Why.. why would we do that? Is this a thing now?
/r/askTRP21/11/14 04:07 PM
2

Dude, that sucks. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Do you think your friend's wife's conversion had more to do with baby hormones / children or "hitting the wall"? Honestly, I hope to avoid his fate. I've had a strong and consistent non-monogamous frame throughout our 4.5 year relationship. So far, there haven't been ANY small red flags that might imply this future behavior. All signs point to her being onboard with my life plan. That being said, I know that kids are kind of a wild card. Bab…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/14 03:01 PM
2

Cuckolding typically involves a sexually dominant woman and a submissive man. That's clearly not the case. Get your kinks straight. We have a lot of kinks, but that isn't one of them. The crazy endorphin rush of a new relationship stops after the first 1-2 years of a typical relationship. After 4.5+ years, we still get that rush, just from outside sources. Then we bring that energy back to our primary relationship. Monogamous couples don't get that luxury. I could never be happy with that. This …
/r/TheRedPill20/11/14 04:55 PM
5

I am. Although, I have an equal or higher n-count (55ish). She's perfect for the type of relationship I want. I screened for a respectful woman with a high self-esteem and a high sex-drive. She's also pretty kinky / sexually submissive. She started as a plate and the relationship slowly got more and more serious as we spent more time together. After awhile, we went through a swinging phase. It was pretty epic.. threesomes and foursomes and it was really fun. It turns out that "girlfriend-sharing…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/14 04:12 PM
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You guys are already in an exclusive relationship.. you just haven't verbalize it yet. She's monopolizing all of your time (and sleeping in your bed every night), so you can't possible sleep with other women. This girl clearly has no interest in sleeping with other guys. What are you worried about?
/r/askTRP18/11/14 06:01 PM
2

I could write a book on this subject. However, it boils down to having solid game and a partner who's willing to initiate the flirting. It's WAY easier if the girl suggests the threesome. Girls trust other girls, they don't trust guys. Your job is to be charming, create a situation where everybody is having a good time, and handle logistics. Once everything is game on, then you take the lead. Further reading (everything you could ever want to know about having threesomes): Part 1: http://www.pua…
/r/askTRP18/11/14 03:24 PM
5

Yes, really. Hit the gym, keep going on dates with new women, and fill up your social calender with cool things. This all subcommunicates value (I.e. focus on being awesome). The more value you convey, the more women will push for an exclusive relationship. Some better advice, if you are already a high value guy: if you start to treat her like a girlfriend, then she'll want to be your girlfriend. See her often, make future plans together, let her sleep over, introduce her to family, etc.
/r/askTRP18/11/14 03:07 PM
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You don't. . That would be chasing. Let her be the one to bring it up. Just work on being awesome.
/r/askTRP18/11/14 02:21 PM
1

You aren't exclusively dating her, right? Just start sleeping with somebody new... and don't hide the fact that you have dates lined up with other people. The problem will work itself out naturally.
/r/askTRP17/11/14 02:50 PM
1

http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/relationship-rules.html?m=1. (Pretty much the best thing ever)
/r/askTRP13/11/14 05:12 PM
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Yeah, I think I covered that part. "Fake it till you make it" is controversial advice. It's clearly better for guys to just work on their social life (and not compromise their social life away because their SO is insecure or needy). However, the end result is the same whether a guy is faking it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/14 05:06 PM
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Dread game is just a way to teach guys to mimic natural alpha behavior. It's having a healthy social life full of high value people. The end result is that you very obviously have options outside of your SO. "Dread game" is a stupid name for a simple concept. TRP also tells beta guys to "fake it till they make it", which some people perceive as manipulative behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/14 04:09 PM
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That's advice for repairing heavily damaged relationships. Anyway, dread game is no different than having a healthy social life outside of your SO. There's nothing you posted that's inconsistent with being a benevolent alpha / leader. It's like being the boss who really appreciates his employees, because they do good work. Everybody wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/14 03:06 PM
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I've dated several girls who like to be treated like this. It's not that uncommon. However, most women who like this stuff are too insecure to ask to be treated this way. She's being honest with you about how she wants to be treated in the bedroom. Honesty is good and should be rewarded. Pick a decent safe word and have fun. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP11/11/14 06:52 PM
2

Good "game" is whatever works for you. So, no to both questions. You may have to adjust your tactics to fit your situation, but it's all good as long as it's congruent with who you are. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP11/11/14 06:45 PM
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Dread game is just mimicking the healthy social life of a natural alpha male. Do yourself a favor and work on your social circle (befriend high value people) and filling up your calender with fun events. Don't compromise away your social life. The dread will happen naturally.
/r/askTRP11/11/14 03:26 PM
1

I understand. However, kids are smart. Just because you spend less time with your son doesn't necessarily mean you'll have less of an impact on his upbringing. Unfortunately, there's no way you'll change your wife's actions. The best you can do is offer an alternative view point to your son.
/r/askTRP10/11/14 05:55 PM
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You're relationship with your son, is entirely up to you. Don't compromise on this.. a son has a right to know his father. If you give in and let your wife have her way... well, think about the lesson that teaches your son. But I think you already know what we're going to say. Our advice is just going to confirm what you've already figured out for yourself.
/r/askTRP10/11/14 05:38 PM
1

For the record, negging as an extremely misunderstood concept.. ans most people have no idea how to use it properly. Most larger pick-up communities stopped advocating it's use ages ago. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP10/11/14 03:39 PM
2

You work in medicine. You should know WHY doctors don't check for herpes. 1) It's not life threatening (unless you already have HIV). It's annoying and temporarily painful for some people. 2) Outbreaks are easily controlled with medication. You will also have fewer and fewer outbreaks as time passes, if you have a healthy lifestyle. 3) Up to 80% of people who contract herpes are asymptomatic (i.e. will never have an outbreak). 4) Nobody even gives a crap about oral herpes (i.e. HSV-1). Nearly ev…
/r/askTRP07/11/14 02:40 AM
1

Sedfast.com is probably your best bet. Start with their hall of fame forum. Your goals are obtainable, but its going to take some hard work. You're going to need to improve your game and the only way to do that is to immerse yourself in it. Read the forums everyday, build up your social circle and get comfortable talking to women. Try out the stuff you read on the forums to figure out what works for you.
/r/askTRP05/11/14 03:20 PM
1

I try for weekly, and that is independent of the number of plates I am seeing.
/r/askTRP04/11/14 06:29 PM
1

A PUA named Aaron Sleazy used to do crap like this. His old field reports are legendary stuff... really fun to read. Granted, he had rock star game, good looks, and would just escalate ridiculously fast based on solid eye contact. So, yes, this can work if you know what you are doing.
/r/askTRP03/11/14 10:54 PM
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Hehe, I tried that out when I was much younger. I was at a house party. A gay friend told a girl I was gay, so she wouldn't stop telling a scandalous story. After she finished her story, she came up to me and asked me if it was true that I was gay. I said, yes, but I still really enjoyed breasts.. and promptly put my hands on her breasts. A few minutes later, the host of the party had to throw us out of her bedroom. Good times. So, yes, it works. My theory is that girls will sleep with gay guys …
/r/askTRP30/10/14 05:37 PM
1

I just moved to a new city. My first buddy came from a pickup forum. Next i befriended a girl from OkC, and she invited me put to a halloween party last weekend. I met two cool guys at the party and we hit up some bars together afterwards. The alpha guys are not hard to spot.. the guys i met clearly had solid game and we were all hitting on girls at the bars. In short: online and social networking.
/r/askTRP30/10/14 03:16 PM
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The real issue here is that the woman committed welfare fraud... and now the state is attempting to collect it from the guy because his name was on the forms. The guy needs a good lawyer or a good CPA to handle this using the proper channels.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/14 02:55 PM
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I'm 32. The advice on here is generally decent. You might also want to check out sedfast.com (great pickup forum), as many of the posters there are older.
/r/askTRP30/10/14 02:44 PM
1

Together. You pretty much want to avoid any kind of boyfriend/provider behavior. Ideally, you shouldn't hang out with her unless you plan to have sex with her. Further reading (and rules I live by): http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/relationship-rules.html?m=1
/r/askTRP29/10/14 08:49 PM
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It's fine, provided (1) that the night ends with you both having sex and (2) you aren't seeing her more than once or twice a week. Also, how she introduces you doesn't matter. Don't worry about it.
/r/askTRP29/10/14 08:04 PM
2

I think it sounds reasonable. If I ever divorced my wife, we've already agreed that this would be a best-case scenario for a post-divorce arrangement. We are very practical people.
/r/askTRP28/10/14 05:47 PM
2

Actually we are arguing about semantics. Your definition of dread game is completely different than mine. You are attempting to get me to say whether or not i think dread game is morally wrong. I cannot agree or disagree until we can agree on the definition of dread game. Anyway, morals are culturally subjective. Let's talk about ethics. I'm a utilitarian. I believe in the greatest good for the greatest number of people. An action is ethical if it results in the greatest good. Therefore, whether…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/14 03:44 PM
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Is it morally wrong to make somebody anxious? Should we stop striving to be more active, healthier people.. because it might make our SO's anxious? Should we stop attempting to make new friends, developed new hobbies, and improve our social skills? Is that morally wrong? Because that is the root of "dread game". I don't believe in faking a social life.. It's too much like lying (and, therefore, beta). Nor do i think making somebody anxious should be an end goal. Thats just a bizarre way of viewi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/14 03:18 PM
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"Dread game" is a dumb term for emulating the active social life of a natural alpha male. It's being too busy to cater to your SO's every whim. It's being too awesome to make time for an SO that doesn't add value to your life. Your a man and you have things to do and people to see. You have options and it's obvious to everybody who knows you. "Dread game" is just training wheels. It's the "fake it until you make it" path to becoming alpha. In short, I don't have any moral issues with newbies att…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/14 02:40 PM
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That's tough. His work is hard to understand, by design. He figured if you didn't have to work to attain knowledge, then you wouldn't value it. His most accessible work is probably The Anti-Christ. He wrote it late in his life and it's basically his attempt to shock people into action.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 02:28 PM
2

Can you be a little more specific? I'll do my best to answer the question, but I feel like I could turn this into a full college paper.. and I'm typing this on my phone. I don't enjoy hurting people, unless they're into that kind of thing sexually. On the other hand, I do not have any qualms about injecting emotional turbulence into relationships with women who thrive on drama. If I don't provide the drama, then they will.. and it'll be worse when they do it. It's really not a black and white is…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/14 02:12 PM
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I'm a bit of a Nietzschian scholar. He's a great thinker. He adored artists and actors. He thought our greatest aspiration should be to treat our lives like a canvas, and that we should use it to create something unique and wonderful. I think that's awesome. If he expressed negative views about women, it was typically to point out that our attitudes about the opposite sex are thoroughly cultural, and often destructive of our own potential. That's actually pretty RP if you think about it.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 01:51 PM
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My dating ethics: leave them better than you found them. Also, lying to get laid is a beta trait (not so much a result of personal ethics, just something I try to keep in mind).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/14 01:23 PM
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Lol, you are preaching to the choir. I stopped posting on that forum around the time they added the popup. Anyway, we both know what the best pickup forum is. =)
/r/askTRP23/10/14 11:56 PM
2

Thanks! Much appreciated.
/r/askTRP23/10/14 07:26 PM
4

http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html Sorry, I'm posting from my phone so I'm having issues with cut and paste. Im just going to leave this link here for now and fix it when I get to a computer. The link contains everything you need to know about soft nesting.
/r/askTRP23/10/14 04:12 PM
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I think your best bet would be to wait until you reach an emotional hook point before removing the mask. Once a girl is emotionally invested.. the face thing wont matter as much. Just keep up the mystery until you get that emotional connection. Seriously, OP, best of luck. It's going to take some patience and perseverance to master this type of game. Projecting confidence, learning how to navigate shit tests, and having a rock star frame are going to be essential. However, take solice in the fac…
/r/askTRP22/10/14 02:49 PM
3

Wear a custom mask and just own it like a rock star. Chicks love the phantom of the opera... make that work in your favor. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP22/10/14 01:50 PM
1

Ehh.. the more alpha (socially interesting, financially successful) we become, the less we lie. Also, I think there's a fine line between flirting and lying. If a guy is OBVIOUSLY lying to be amusing, then it doesn't count. Just my two cents.
/r/askTRP21/10/14 02:28 PM
1

Huh, I actually credit my nontraditional relationship (now a nontraditional marriage) with dramatically increasing my notch count. My wife is easily my best wing. Also, we went through a swinging phase at one point and had a lot of fun. It's not an advisable route for the majority of red pillars, but it's what works for me.
/r/askTRP21/10/14 02:24 PM
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No. That might be a small part of it, but most guys don't respond to shit tests by getting pissed off. Guys fail shit tests by taking them seriously, by buying into the girl's reality and showing that it's stronger than their own. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/14 01:20 PM
1

I call it "learning to incorporate new traits into your pre-existing personality until the expression of those traits become natural." In the context of TRP, it's attempting to be your best self until you can do it all the time, flawlessly. Apples and oranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/14 12:54 PM
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I actually consider lying (to get laid) to be a beta-trait. It's just another form of supplication and I don't do it. Guys with a true abundance mentality don't feel the need to lie to get sex. On the other hand, it's not lying if it's flirting. I've told women ridiculous things in bars because it's entertaining and sparks conversation. I don't consider that lying. Also, if you're a sexually active guy who's never been tested specifically for HSV, then there's still a good chance you have it. Up…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/14 01:34 PM
2

Duh. Please provide some details. How many girls with tats and piercings have you dated/slept with? How did the relationships turn out? Give me all the gritty details. Maybe it will help me figure out why your experiences were so vastly different than mine. We're all on the same side here. If you want to switch to PM's, then I'm okay with that.
/r/TRPOffTopic15/10/14 07:32 PM
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Does your real world experience back up this advice? Or are you just keyboard jockeying? I'm 32, my partner count is 50+ (with very few one night stands). I've gone on hundreds of dates. I've met great girls with ink as well as horrible girls who were very conservative. From personal experience, I can tell you that screening isn't as black and white as this article pretends. Furthermore, I don't need to do a piercing/tat check to spot the bad apples. There are more effective and more accurate me…
/r/TRPOffTopic15/10/14 06:12 PM
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There's a link to the original post on the sidebar of r/TRPGame. That's good time enough for me.
/r/TRPOffTopic15/10/14 05:36 PM
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Yes, tattoos and piercings can be considered a red flag. However, they are not the end all, be all of red flags. Anyway, red flags just mean proceed with caution and common sense. Again, it's an article that dances around the idea of screening (which is an incredibly important topic for TRP guys), but ends up missing the forest through the trees. Here's what good screening looks like: Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend t…
/r/TRPOffTopic15/10/14 03:40 PM
2

My mantra: get after that ass (GATA). It's a thought that's motivating, but also one that makes me laugh. It puts me in the perfect headspace to make approaches.
/r/askTRP15/10/14 01:54 PM
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Tattoos are becoming super mainstream with the current crop of 16-21 year olds. Tattoos used to be big indicator of validation seeking behavior. They still are, to a point, but plenty of normal girls get them now as well. Take this article with a grain of salt. It's basically click-bait. Articles like this suck because they dance around the idea of screening women, but never tackle the subject head on. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TRPOffTopic15/10/14 01:29 PM
1

Sedfast.com - start with the Hall of Fame forum I also have a post on the sidebar of r/trpgame with a bunch of good links
/r/askTRP15/10/14 12:30 PM
3

Why would I stop before finding what I want?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/14 10:55 PM
2

Huh. I got married 2.5 months ago. My spouse has a similar partner count (a few less than me, but still fairly high). We also have an open/poly marriage. Our relationship dynamic is still very red pill. Red pillars come in all types.. we are not all part of the angsty, vocal faction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/14 10:53 PM
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Poll taker here. To be fair.. its not so much that I WANT 50 partners.. its that I've already had 50 partners (just to clarify). You're making incorrect assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/14 09:13 PM
2

What do you mean by "old school gentleman"? My thought is that it would probably be counterproductive to dating efficiently / effectively (in regard to how they treated high class women). On the otherhand, if you want to adopt the fashion/clothing of an old school gentlemen, then that could be pretty badass. Also, there's nothing wrong with composing yourself as if you were a member of the elite. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP14/10/14 06:13 PM
1

The demographic with the highest rate of STD transmission is senior citizens living in nursing homes.. just say'n.
/r/askTRP14/10/14 03:35 PM
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"Dread game" is a dumb term for emulating the active social life of a natural alpha male. It's being too busy to cater to your SO's every whim. It's being too awesome to make time for an SO that doesn't add value to your life. Your a man and you have things to do and people to see. You have options and it's obvious to everybody who knows you. "Dread game" is just training wheels. It's the "fake it until you make it" path to becoming alpha. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 08:22 PM
1

Is there that much racism in Europe? I kinda thought you all were more liberal-minded then that. Or is it a country by country thing?
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 05:27 PM
7

You discount the entire swinging community? It's a pretty large community and it's almost all married couples. It also rules out a big chunk of the kink/BDSM community as well as the poly commmunity. A LOT of married people are into some form of consensual non-monogamy. Last I heard, TRP was okay with guys indulging their sexual kinks. Figuring out what you want in your sex life and going for it is part of being a happy Alpha male. 25% of all monogamous marriages suffer from marital infidelity. …
/r/TheRedPill10/10/14 01:14 AM
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All things you listed can be done outside of marriage. By your logic, nobody should ever get married. Is that the point you are trying to make? Incidentally, besides the things in my previous post (good answers, which you basically ignored), we got married for the financial incentives. Joint insurance, FTW.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/14 11:58 PM
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I would think that's obvious. Is it not obvious? We have similar life goals and mutually beneficial/compatible sexual kinks. Plus, our relationship is suprisingly red pill. She treats me like a king.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/14 10:46 PM
2

Meh.. I'm in an open marriage and I absolutely love it. Our relationship has been open since the first date, 4 years ago. Different strokes for different folks, I suppose.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/14 07:18 PM
2

Nobody's hopeless, but you would really have to work with me on my terms. You would have to be willing to go out of your way to make my life awesome. You would have to be very submissive to me and trust my judgement more than your own. Furthermore, I would always have the option to leave your presence, for a pre-defined period of time, anytime I thought your symptoms were out of control.. no questions asked. You would have to understand, with 100 percent certainty, that crossing certain lines wo…
/r/askTRP09/10/14 04:45 PM
1

FWB = plate. And it's fine to buy drinks / dinner for women you're already sleeping with (it's just not that big of a deal, just don't go overboard). If you routinely treat friends to stuff, then don't stop just because one of your friends is a girl. However, be mindful of the last time your (female) friends treated you. Friendship should run both ways. Oh, and its a little different if you make substantially more money than your friends. If that is the case, then feel free to share the wealth. …
/r/askTRP09/10/14 04:02 PM
2

I discovered the pick up community in 2007 at the age of 24.. Prior to that, I had sex sex with 3 women. I'm currently up to around 50, with very few one night stands.
/r/askTRP03/10/14 10:29 PM
2

Figure out what you want (type of woman, lifestyle, etc.). Then, learn how to get it (better yourself, learn how to properly screen for what you want). Don't settle for less. Source: I'm a happily married TRP guy with a great relationship / sex life.
/r/askTRP01/10/14 05:10 PM
1

I'm almost positive I was 28 when this happened. I lost my V-card at the age of 20 and discovered pick-up at the age of 24. Unfortunately, I know of no studies or research on the subject. It's always difficult to get reliable info on stuff like this because many people reflexively lie about their sex lives.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/14 03:41 PM
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I don't practice poly-fidelity (which is what he's talking about). I can't really comment on the value of women in those specific relationships. However, I have met many high value poly women.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/14 02:03 PM
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Welcome to the very small club of RP polyamorists. There's some very cool, open-minded people here.. and some haters. Just ignore the haters.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/14 01:12 PM
2

And quantity doesn't equal quality, but it's probably best not to over analyze the contest. =)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/14 01:46 PM
3

I have a pretty epic open marriage. It can work, but it helps to be knowledgable about game and relationship dynamics. Triads, likewise, are doable, but they are not easy to maintain unless you really know what you're doing.
/r/askTRP19/09/14 08:54 PM
2

I'm 32. The last college girl I dated i met at a dance class (learn to dance). Before that, I dated a college girl who was friends with a new acquaintance, whom I met out at a bar (always be socializing, even with guys). The two girls before that, I met online via PoF (online game is very tedious, but it works if you keep at it long enough). Anyway, I hope somebody can learn something from my experiences.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/14 01:56 PM
1

Flowbots - Handlebars (Any music that encourages you to be awesome)
/r/TheRedPill17/09/14 06:04 PM
1

My pick-up phase was back in 2006-2007. I think the term may have morphed a bit since then. Back in the day it was mainly used to refer to guys you compete with when you are out at bars/clubs (I.e. not necessarily members of a group).
/r/askTRP16/09/14 08:28 PM
1

I'd pretend I couldn't hear him and make him keep repeating himself until he gave up. If my wife had a sense of humor, then I'd agree and amplify. Google AMOG'ing (pick up slang for Alpha Male, Other Guy) for more ideas along those lines.
/r/askTRP16/09/14 08:12 PM
3

Do you want hoes? Because that is how you get hoes.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/14 07:19 PM
3

Focus on just finding plates to spin. Good plates upgrade themselves to LTR status by being consistently awesome. Spin plates until a girl earns the right to be in a LTR with you. There are always more potential LTR's (I.e. plates). Just keep spinning them until the good ones rise to the top. Focus on the journey, not the destination. Enjoy the ride. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP02/09/14 05:48 PM
1

I've always been a fan of "fake it till you make it." However, I can see your logic. Solid point.
/r/askTRP26/08/14 05:07 PM
1

Actually, hanging with other Alpha guys tends to get me laid. It's better social proof and Alpha guys introduce me to more woman (and make better wings). Beta friends, while fun to hang with, don't increase my chances of hooking up. Plus, they are more likely to cock-block, accidentally or intentionally.
/r/askTRP26/08/14 03:14 PM
2

Your frame is just your self-image in relation to others. Holding your frame is just being true to the persona that you show the world. When you break frame, you come off as incongruent; your words and actions don't match.
/r/askTRP25/08/14 02:41 PM
2

Actually, that question implies some faulty logic. Whether or not you get married has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not your relationships are open or closed. Just say'n.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/14 02:41 PM
1

There's no need to be insulting. We disagree and that's okay. Just drop it.
/r/askTRP22/08/14 02:54 AM
1

I humbly disagree on account of my own experiences. I've been spinning plates for the last 7 years. Even the sweetest and most innocent women will have sex with an alpha male before entering an exclusive relationship. I've slept with several. A few have since married and are now very loyal wives. I think we should just agree to disagree.
/r/askTRP21/08/14 07:22 PM
1

Plates are not whores. What's with all this negativity? All girls are plates until you have the monogamy talk. Do you just assume monogamy on a first date? Monogamy should be a reward granted to the best of the best. Dating only one girl at a time is an inefficient way to find a quality longterm partner. It's a poor sexual strategy. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP21/08/14 02:20 PM
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Let me reframe this for you. She has done something that pleases you. Therefore, you are rewarding her good behavior by doing something nice for her. Rewarding good behavior is part of being a good leader. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP21/08/14 01:29 PM
10

I befriend all my ex's. It opens up the doors to future hookups and it helps grow my social circles. Unfortunately, you have oneitus. It's obvious. Therefore, you should cut contact completely until you have your head in a better place. Learn to live in the moment and not dwell on the past. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP21/08/14 01:11 PM
3

plates don't make good wives If you're doing it right, then ALL girls should start as plates.
/r/askTRP19/08/14 06:29 PM
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Most gaming is pretty basic manipulation and tends to work best on idiots, narcissists, and the terribly socially awkward. What is this shit? Gaming is the male equivalent to make-up. It works on everybody when it's done well.
/r/askTRP08/07/14 02:58 PM
2

Flobots - Handlebars That being said, I think redpill music is anything that gets the testosterone flowing.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/14 02:17 PM
2

Negging is misused and misunderstood. Mystery developed negging to hit on extremely high status women in bars and clubs. It's high level game and not something you use with every girl you meet. The pick-up community has largely abandoned negging (and indirect game, in general). Newbies inevitably think it's a license to be an asshole and it tends to fuck-up their game. In short, just avoid negging altogether.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/14 04:48 PM
2

First, I used to watch that movie every weekend with my friends back in high school. I love that movie. That being said, Ben Affleck's character made a whole lot of mistakes. First, poor screening. He didn't even ask about the girl's sexual history.. he just made faulty assumptions because she dates girls. Second, displays of insecurity. Girls are okay, but guys aren't? The guy is just insecure about the IDEA of other guys. Third, poor leading. He brings up the threesome stuff mid-relationship. …
/r/TheRedPill25/06/14 10:24 PM
2

One man's trash is another man's fuck buddy.
/r/askTRP25/06/14 08:43 PM
2

Hakuna! Yes, that's the site. That guy used to post a lot on another forum I used to frequent. He used to write pretty brilliant posts. I had no idea he was doing so well. Good for him.
/r/askTRP25/06/14 02:59 PM
3

Be your BEST self. There, fixed it for you.
/r/askTRP24/06/14 08:37 PM
1

The best thing ever written by a female PUA for female PUA's (Hitori's playette FAQ)
/r/askTRP24/06/14 03:13 PM
4

How the hell does someone in my position get in the position to be meeting younger women? If you want to game younger girls on "easy-mode": Learn to social dance (swing, blues, salsa, tango, etc.). It's a thriving social scene in most bigger cities and a good male lead gets a lot of attention from women of all ages. This is not a substitute for good game/confidence. However, being able to display mastery at something WILL help build social confidence. Online dating works just as well, if you're …
/r/askTRP20/06/14 02:37 PM
3

parading sexist ideals as the required reading in the sidebar tends to make them incredibly public. That actually just reinforces my point. Q:Who reads the sidebar? A:People who are new to the red pill. In other words, the angry beta guys who stand to benefit the most from TRP. These guys just want somebody to tell them that their anger is rational. It's what gets them in the door on their way to bettering themselves. The first role that TRP places is as a support group. These guys need a place …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/14 07:16 PM
11

TRP'er here. My ideals are neither negative or sexist. Most of that drivel is click-bait for angry betas. It's marketing, because the angry beta guys are in the most need of TRP advice. Unfortunately, it's also the side of TRP that's most visible to the public. I've already been through the wringer and had my "angry at the world" phase. Now I'm extraordinarily happy. I've fixed all my unrealistic expectations and I now have a better understanding of real-world relationship dynamics. Judging by y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/14 03:57 PM
10

You were out of line. Your actions just come off as childish and thoughtless. You lashed out with inflammatory remarks, rather than intellectual debate, because you disagreed with somebody. Then doubled-down by questioning the arguers credentials to hold an opinion.. rather than just debating the opinion. You're THAT GUY. Nobody likes that guy. Furthermore, the question was totally inappropriate for a public forum. It's also not a question you should ask just to win a petty argument. Bad form al…
/r/askTRP04/06/14 02:45 PM
1

This time I went to her place for the first time and stayed over. If she's just a plate, then don't do sleep overs. You're just asking for emotions to become involved. Learn from it and move on. Go silent for a few weeks, then randomly invite her to something fun. In the meantime, go out and meet more women.
/r/askTRP04/06/14 02:03 PM
1

This. Although I DO dress conservatively when I go to work. Socially, I usually look like I'm ready to go clubbing.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/14 01:44 PM
17

Here's my take on it: It's not your job to police other people's relationships.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/14 01:30 PM
1

Absolutely! Teasing is all good. =)
/r/askTRP03/06/14 03:30 PM
3

Getting jacked just helps you a) feel good and b) have more confidence. You still need social proof and the balls to approach women. Your best best is working towards developing a more solid social circle. Social circle game is the easiest form of game. Other then that, work on your day game. Don't go out of your way to find girls, but make a point to talk to the cute ones you see when you're out of your house. Just chat/flirt for a few minutes, see if you can get a phone number, then be on your…
/r/askTRP03/06/14 02:45 PM
0

Avoid negging. Seriously. Negging was a tool developed by Mystery to hit on 10's (i.e. models / famous girls) in an environment where they are surrounded by orbiters. They really aren't practical for everyday pick-up. Also, negs are really misunderstood. Newbies always think it's a license to be an asshole to women. The pick-up community, in it's present form, has pretty much abandoned the use of negs.. favoring, instead, direct game material. tl;dr - No, don't neg foreign chicks
/r/askTRP03/06/14 02:37 PM
2

Always be leading. You can tease them for a while, but don't keep them hanging. Women absolutely hate when they give a guy an (implied) opportunity to sleep with them and the guy passes it up. I've lost girls because of this. Tl;dr - be the one to initiate.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 02:16 PM
1

I disagree. It's awkward logic. Before I discovered pick-up I still got laid a few times. I would not consider what I did to be running game. I was just being who I was. When I discovered pick-up, I started learning to game. I ran game and got laid. Now, I'm back to the more natural state of just being who I am. I've just internalized all the alpha characteristics that go into having "good game". Game is no longer something I need to actively think about. There's clearly a difference between run…
/r/AlreadyRed02/06/14 03:39 PM
3

Trolling 10/10. You, Sir, are truly a master of the craft. The red pill is so incredibly covinous that it really ought to change its name to “Covinous McCovinous, the Covinous King of the Covinous”. and I particularly liked.. The red pill's mutinous-to-the-core game of chess—the uncouth chess of triumphalism—has continued for far too long. and I can hope only that those in charge realize that The red pill's bruta fulmina are not so much a nationalist as a neo-imperialist attempt to put blasphemo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/14 03:05 PM
4

Meh. Once you reach a certain level, it stops being game and starts just being who you are. The idea is to internalize game and the concepts of out-come independence, abundance mentality, and good social skills. I haven't had to "run game" in years. I'm just an interesting, flirtatious guy with rock solid confidence. All women appreciate that on some level. That being said, I never would have to got to this point if I hadn't invested time internalizing key concepts. How does focusing on "persona…
/r/AlreadyRed02/06/14 02:46 PM
3

My kinks involve group sex and girlfriend sharing. This means I'm drawn to open relationships and kinky, sexually experienced women. I don't have the typical TRP relationships, but I still manage to have great relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/14 03:45 PM
2

I am 32 and currently dating a 22 year old plate. It's been going on for about 8 months now. I also have other girls who I'm seeing, so I hook up with this particular girl about once a week. a) How did you meet said girls? Day game, bars/clubs, other avenues? I met her at a social dance class. The dance class was mostly college kids and she was one of the instructors. There are weekly dances in my city and I gathered some people from the dance to go out for drinks. She was one of them. We stayed…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/14 03:34 PM
1

I suffered through 2-years of post-break up oneitus. Basically, the first couple years of college sucked for me. The rest of college was me rarely hooking up, because I had no game. After college, I read The Game by Neil Strauss and discovered the world of pick-up. Developing game was a process. It took about 2-3 years of reading the forums and applying what I learned, but I eventually gained the skills and confidence that I so desperately needed. Long story short, I eventually met up with my ve…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 02:42 PM
2

Once a week. Twice a week tops. That being said, it's okay to reward long-term good behavior by hanging out with a girl more often. If a plate sleeps with you for 4-6 months with zero drama, then it's acceptable to upgrade her to 2-3 times a week (although this is moving into open relationship territory).
/r/askTRP27/05/14 08:50 PM
5

Maximize your time. Go out when you have other guys to go out with. You'll have more fun, more social proof, and you'll get more bang for your buck. Oh, and day game is easier than bar/club game. Get in the habit of talking to women when you're out doing other things. Talk to them for a few minutes, get their phone number, and then go about your day. Spend 10 minutes a day doing online game. Just send out a volley of messages just to see what sticks. Push for a meet-up after the 2nd or 3rd messa…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 07:51 PM
4

How can they be in a set with women.. when they don't exist? They are irrelevant. Ignore them. Just be sure to ask the girl how they all know each other (in case one of them is her boyfriend).
/r/askTRP22/05/14 09:54 PM
10

I don't actually acknowledge the existence of other men when I'm out talking to women. Who cares what they think? Let them judge; haters gonna hate.
/r/askTRP22/05/14 09:35 PM
2

Honestly, I think Sleazy's arguments apply more to the commercialization of the pick-up community, rather than the community itself. I used to read Sleazy's field reports when he first joined the community. He's a great writer and he's ridiculously ballsy approach to pick-up made his stuff fun to read. I've also purchased and read his book, Minimal Game. It's great.. it reads like "The idiot's guide to pick-up". It's all the good, common-sense information on pick-up, without the jargon. That bei…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/14 03:20 PM
3

Yeah, it's not in my nature to really be an asshole either. However, I temper that with being staunchly non-monogamous. I also have a very low tolerance for pointless drama. In my mind, it makes me an asshole by default. It seems to work for me. Thanks for taking the time to share your observations. Please just ignore the homophobic troll comments. Your experiences with women are just as valid as any other guys. It's also interesting to hear the bi-guy perspective.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/14 01:35 PM
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Pay it forward. If guys didn't stick around to help out the newbies, then TRP would eventually die out. Also, the process isn't THAT quick. It took me about 2+ years to build lasting, experience-based, self-confidence. I learned pick-up, learned how to date and flirt effective, learned how to manage drama and be more dominant, and I got rid of all of my relationship-related bad habits (neediness, jealousy, etc). It took quite a bit of time and it helped to check back in and read about other peop…
/r/TheRedPill20/05/14 03:42 PM
1

Not ugly because of fat. Ugly like Quasimodo. Does "no arms aor legs" qualify? Because I know a guy who was born like that who has a wife and a girlfriend (they're swingers). He does a lot of public speaking and is very funny / charismatic. He wrote a short book about his life, if you want to read it. There's a pic of him on the cover of the book.
/r/askTRP16/05/14 06:22 PM
6

It's not about finding the "best" girl. It's about finding the girl who compliments your life (i.e. adds happiness). Then again, if it makes you happiest to just have multiple girlfriends, then do that.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/14 04:50 PM
1

Yeah, it's exactly what Op did. And he's no longer getting laid. EDIT: Got confused about who I was responding to. Lol. Yes, you did. I honestly don't know if that had any impact of not. However, I think my advice is good for anybody asking you for money. There's a big difference between "I can't" and "I wont".
/r/askTRP16/05/14 04:37 PM
1

I asked for a way to say "no" with a higher probability of me continuing to fuck her. -Quoth Op And I delivered. Saying "No" clearly didn't work for him.
/r/askTRP16/05/14 04:18 PM
2

Just a heads up.. you will probably find better answers in /r/redpillwomen. Most of the advice around here is tailored for guys. In general, I don't find women intimidating at all, but I'm 32 and I have a wide range of life experiences to draw upon. Different guys will give you different answers.
/r/askTRP16/05/14 04:15 PM
5

Guy here. When I was in college (i.e. young and inexperienced), there was one particular girl that nearly gave me a panic attack every time she was in my general vicinity. My heart rate would rise and I'd start to stutter. Does that count as intimidated? Now I'm older and much more experienced and this kind of stuff doesn't happen anymore. I doubt this is the case for most guys. If anything, it's probably fear of rejection that stops guys from asking girls out, not intimidation.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 04:11 PM
-1

Just explain to her that you need the money that you have. "All my money is tied up in investments. I just have a little bit in the bank and I need that to pay bills." or "I'm saving up for XYZ (something important) and I can't spare the money right now." or "Sorry, I'm broke at the moment" (Be prepared to find out whether she's a ho or not, if you use this one).
/r/askTRP16/05/14 03:04 PM
1

tl;dr - Asshole? Yes. Rape? no. Telling somebody, "have sex with me or leave" is an asshole thing to do, but it doesn't make them a rapist. The girl ultimately gave her consent. Her making a stupid decision, that she later regretted, doesn't make the guy a rapist either. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/14 08:00 PM
6

Facebook shifts most non-friend messages to a separate inbox that most people never check. Why wouldnt this guy just use an actual dating site like normal people?
/r/TheRedPill14/05/14 10:12 PM
1

This will probably sound weird, but I wash with vinegar (hair and body). It's super inexpensive and it works really well. It was originally recommended to me from some guys who experimented with it in the pick-up community. Further reading, for the curious
/r/askTRP14/05/14 02:47 PM
1

Underlying problem: Too much texting! Texting is for handling logistics (where/when) and answering direct questions. If you need to communicate anything else, then just call her or do it in person. Texting is bad at communicating emotional content. Use it sparingly when interacting with women.
/r/askTRP14/05/14 02:39 PM
6

I'm an accountant in the US. You should minimize the amount of taxes you pay, regardless of what the money is being spent on. Unfortunately, you don't have a lot of options unless you're self-employed or incorporated. The best you could do is to defer taxes by contributing to an IRA. Charitable donations wont help unless you itemize your deductions (you probably don't, unless you own property).
/r/TheRedPill14/05/14 02:26 PM
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Another TRP guy here: It's a misunderstood concept that gets boiled down to "treat them like children", because then it's easier to teach. What's really being discussed is how to deal with people who are not being altogether rational. The underlying lesson: Don't take the words of women seriously when they are clearly acting irrational. Diffuse the situation with playful teasing or with emotional comfort, rather than with verbal arguments (because you don't have heated arguments with children, s…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 02:09 PM
3

Yes, that's it exactly. I'm not saying that all their stuff is crap, but the stuff that gets the most attention is typically very extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/14 09:41 PM
2

Yes, and that's pretty typical. Theirs always some kind of description added, so you can tell women apart in field reports. The 1-10 number system is the probably most common, but people use all sorts of things. EX: "I went out yesterday with HBsexypants and HBredhead" or "I went out yesterday with an HB7 and an HB10"
/r/askTRP12/05/14 09:39 PM
1

HB = Hot Babe It's a term stolen from the pick-up community. It's commonly used in field reports instead of real names (e.g. "Me and HB18 went out last night.")
/r/askTRP12/05/14 09:12 PM
18

Return of Kings is click-bait for angry men. They mostly cater to the newer guys who are still going through their "bitter phase" and using TRP as a support group / place to vent. I find a lot of their stuff counter-productive to the underlying goals of TRP. In short, their views tend to be extreme and should mostly be ignored. They are tolerated because they are the reason a lot of guys found their way to TRP (so, they are doing some good, even if it's just advertising).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/14 09:00 PM
1

When I was younger and less experienced, I learned a lot of reading lay reports (on the old MASF forum). I was on the forums for two years, and seeing the change over long periods of time that certain posters went through was pretty educational. Now, I almost never read them. There's really not much more for me to gain from them. I don't post them anymore either, as most of the stuff I WOULD write about tends to sound made up (i.e. threesomes and swinger parties and stuff like that). Oh, and I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/14 05:24 PM
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A few, when I was younger, fairly ignorant, and terrified of getting girls pregnant. However, this is the wrong question. What makes dating difficult for women is a quality problem. They want a quality guy with a list of traits (traits are dependent on the girl), even if they are just looking for casual sex. Most guys wont have all the traits that a girl is looking for. Therefore, they will have to go through a lot of frustrating encounters to find a guy that suits them. To add to their unfortun…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/14 02:40 PM
3

Just because women are interested in different things than you, doesn't automatically mean they are stupid.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 10:09 PM
4

Growing pains. It's only been a few months.. don't beat yourself up over a few set backs. It took me 2+ years to really get this stuff down. In the meantime, try for "benevolent alpha". Be engaging with your co-workers and laugh at their stupid jokes, if it puts them at ease. With your friends, well, I ultimately just made new friends. However, try and build other people up and make them feel good about themselves. In their minds, you'll be different from who you were.. but they'll more easily a…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 08:56 PM
1

Would you tell an 8 year old about those kinds of events? Let me put it another way.. figure out the underlying message you want to send. Do you want to convey social proof? If so, then stick to conversation about cool stuff you've done and interesting people you've met. You can talk about political and philosophical events, but talk about the gathering rather than the underlying politics / philosophical arguments.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 08:42 PM
9

Talk about your exciting life. Talk about your friends. Talk about recent events you've been to. Talk about future plans. Talk about shit you have in common. Start the screening process by asking her questions about herself. Tease her about her answers. Just avoid politics, philosophy, religion or any morbid topics. The conversation should be playful and light.. as if you were talking to an 8 year old.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 08:17 PM
2

A popular argument for pushing through LMR is that the woman actually just wants to be dominated. While this can be the case for some women, there are others who don't (or at least not consensually). Actually, I always thought it was either 1) a subconscious test of a man's frame or 2) a way to disclaim responsibility for her actions, so that her action doesn't result in her being shamed socially. That being said, your solution just isn't very practical. It would break the flow of the interactio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/14 03:41 PM
2

I rarely go to bars. Instead of drinking at bars, I learned to dance. All decent sized cities have some kind of dance scene (salsa, blues, swing, etc.). It's a fun hobby and it's actually easier to meet hot women dancing than it is in a bar, because they are more more open to being approached.
/r/askTRP09/05/14 03:22 PM
6

My biggest kinks involve group sex and girlfriend sharing. My ideal woman is very different from the TRP ideal. That being the case, I still have a strong frame and great relationships.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/14 04:12 AM
1

BTW, is there any better method than Mystery? Mystery method = Indirect Game (it's good for parties, and social events) Here's a good post that covers a few other teachers / methods.
/r/askTRP08/05/14 07:50 PM
1

I think it's highly dependent on where you live. In my area (Rockford, IL), the lower SMV women seem to really like OkCupid for some reason.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 07:03 PM
1

Different strokes for different folks. Yes, it's a numbers game and sometimes it's frustrating, but the payoff is good. I met two of the girls I'm currently dating on PoF. One of the girls has been an on again, off again plate for the last three years. The other one I've been dating for just under four years and we are currently engaged.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 06:44 PM
4

I read social cues just fine, actually. It's more that I did not understand certain things when I was younger that women seemed to know intuitively. I didn't understand what the opposite sex found attractive. I was led to have certain expectations regarding relationships, that weren't even remotely realistic. I didn't understand flirting very well. I was very passive about meeting girls.. and I had SOME success at this because I had a large group of friends and I'm reasonably attractive, but it …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/14 06:35 PM
9

Unfortunately, it doesn't.. not for many of us. I didn't really understand it until it was logically broken down for me. It was life altering. It was like i was living in cave for the first half of my life, and then I suddenly realized there was a whole new world outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/14 04:00 PM
2

This kind of shit happens when you text too much. It's a terrible way to communicate for anything besides direct questions/answers and setting up logistics (where/when). You just can't convey emotions very well over text, even with emoticons. Ignore the argument going forward. Cut down on the texting.
/r/askTRP07/05/14 02:14 PM
1

Hey, dating sites have gotten me laid plenty of times. Also, learn an instrument and you can network with other musical people.. maybe even start a jam session group or garage band.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/14 03:46 AM
9

This. This is the reason that my social circle is almost entirely comprised of women (I'm currently dating three). I almost never see my married guy friends. Their wives disapprove of me because I'm "a bad influence". My advice is pick up some new hobbies and make some new friends, if you can manage it. Join a gym, learn to dance, and/or take up an instrument, etc. Other then that, try out online dating using OkCupid or PlentyOfFish (they are free). Do your best. The bigger the city you're in, t…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/14 02:34 PM
2

Develop realistic expectations. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst. Forget all the Disney bullshit about soul mates. You are forming a union with somebody so that you can provide a good environment to raise offspring. Don't necessarily expect long-term fidelity.. it's really not the point of getting married. The endorphins firing when you and your partner get together wont last forever. It's really all about the kids. Make sure you're getting married for the right reasons. Get the prenup …
/r/TheRedPill05/05/14 07:37 PM
1

Thank you for taking the time to write that comment. It's okay to be inexperienced and to question advice. A lot of this stuff didn't make sense to me when I first encountered it. It wasn't until I had my first adult long-term relationship (2+ years) that a lot of this stuff really started to sink in. At this point, you should absolutely question all this until you've had a bit more experience and had a chance to test this stuff out for yourself. It's important to figure out what works for you. …
/r/askTRP04/05/14 06:15 PM
2

it seems like every game/shit test women put out there to make sure their man is interested. Women cut all contact with you... as a shit test / game? See, I've never had a woman do this to me. Can you please give me a real life scenario where a woman did this kind of thing to you? If a woman has ever pulled that on you, it always pisses you off, because why the hell wouldn't they just tell you what they were mad about? If you do this correctly, then it should be pretty obvious why you cut contac…
/r/askTRP03/05/14 07:50 PM
1

I see it like this: my time is too valuable to spend it dealing with stupid drama or people who are seriously disrespectful.
/r/askTRP03/05/14 07:28 PM
2

Yes, I do. List of links (sorry if a few of them are dead links.. lost them when MASF shut down for good)
/r/askTRP03/05/14 07:26 PM
0

I'm going against the grain here. When she starts talking about exe's, it's a great opportunity to create an "us vs. them" dynamic and to show your "not like other dudes". Confident guys don't give a shit about ex's (i.e. lesser men). Use it as an opportunity to point out all the "stupid guy mistakes" the ex made and commiserate with her having to put up with relationship-impaired men (i.e. anybody who lacks the knowledge of game and TRP). EDIT: This is heavily field-tested. It's classic "secret…
/r/askTRP02/05/14 03:29 PM
6

Doesn't matter. I'm too lazy for contacts, so I wear my glasses all the time. It hasn't set me back at all. Just bring a girl with you when you're buying glasses (as a fashion consultant) to get the best looking pair you can find.
/r/askTRP02/05/14 03:23 PM
0

Women can make awesome wings, they just go about it differently than guys. Women trust other women. If a woman talks up a guy (especially sexually, like saying he has good in bed or is well-endowed), then it can drastically increase a guys chances of hooking up. Even just suggesting to a girl (i.e. social approval) that she should sleep with a guy "because he really needs to get laid" can work well. Works best if the wing is an alpha female.
/r/askTRP02/05/14 03:17 PM
3

Actually, the alpha female of the group probably didn't find you acceptable. The result was a group rejection. "unattractice" = "creepy".. if you are at all intimidating looking, then you become "scary", etc. Furthermore, don't tell a girl you think her friends are hot.. it almost never goes over well. You'll want to be bit more indirect.
/r/askTRP02/05/14 03:03 PM
5

Haters are always gonna hate. Create your own social circle and make a few good mates to balance out the negative vibe. Use your awesomeness to build up a few others, so that they have your back. You don't have to be act like an asshole to everyone. Oh, and read this post about highschool pick up (sorry about the e-mail pop-up crap. The site sucks, but the post is great)
/r/askTRP02/05/14 02:52 PM
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I know how to fix blatantly bad behavior, but breaking bad habits is harder. Unfortunately, in my experience, girls don't drop their bad habits until after they've been dumped. Here's a copy-pasta of a post I made ages ago about fixing bad behavior. It's probably your best bet, barring a break-up. DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR! The one thing women want more than anything else in a relationship is your attention. Therefore, the best way to lead a relationship is to give and withhold your attention (…
/r/askTRP02/05/14 02:42 PM
1

Don't text her back. If the sex was good, then she'll be back (after she gets bored of the new guy). If there's one thing I've learned it's that, if you don't freak out when they inevitably flake, then they will almost always come back eventually (it just might take a while).
/r/askTRP02/05/14 02:10 PM
4

First, screening.. is this girl REALLY exclusive relationship material? I'm guessing no.. I'm also guessing that their are more red flags you are not mentioning. Second, the easiest way to get her to drop her BF is to ALSO be dating other people. She'll hate that, but she wont be able to call you out on it without being a hypocrite. Third, in my world, boyfriends don't exist. So I would just treat the dude like an orbiter or a roommate. I'd ignore him completely. BTW, the basics of screening gir…
/r/askTRP02/05/14 01:58 PM
1

I wish! No, that guy has been hanging out and posting quality stuff for ages. I've made a few half way decent contributions to the pick up community, but I can't lay claim to that one.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 05:30 AM
9

This pretty much sums it up
/r/TheRedPill01/05/14 08:44 PM
1

Honestly, it doesn't matter. Let the girls decide if they are into each other, then go for it if they are. Girls can be quite picky.
/r/askTRP01/05/14 08:10 PM
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Yet another newbie who hasn't read the sidebar. Newsflash: it's full of vocabulary! As are all theories. Creating new theoretical frameworks necessitates categorization, so just because you are whining that 'I don't like categories!' as if you're a 3rd grader who can't handle the new thick coloring book doesn't mean you get to change the process of theorization. Fallacy of relevancy - Ad Hominem Circumstantial: arguer attempts to discredit opponents argument by alluding to circumstances of oppon…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/14 05:11 PM
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Heh, but it is kind of a funny answer.
/r/askTRP01/05/14 03:59 PM
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The theory is convoluted and creates unnecessary new vocabulary. When I said it was "heavy-handed", I meant that it read like a soft-marketing pitch for a pick-up "guru". Furthermore, the theory, even if it's all true, adds no value. There are no conclusions to be drawn from these observations. It just provides another series of categories which we can mentally place people into.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/14 03:49 PM
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This comes off a bit heavy-handed. I mean, what is the point of all that? Your ending thesis is that "This theory applies to X,Y,Z. Check out this blog". You don't actually address why this theory is important. I see posts like this as the over-complication of game. It's the product of guru's trying to create a marketable "system". I don't necessarily have a problem with that.. just please explain why this information adds value to the community.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/14 03:08 PM
0

Welcome. I'm glad you've gotten away from PuaHate. I never liked that place. The pick-up community was good to me back in the day and helped me correct a lot of bad behavior. Now, the whole process is going to take some time. You're also going to have to eventually get out of your comfort zone and "fake it until you make it." The areas you're going to work on initially are fitness, social life, and effective flirting. In the meantime, keep reading. This is a good resource, so is sedfast (it's pi…
/r/askTRP01/05/14 02:55 PM
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"so we can continue this conversation at a later date / over the phone" /while giving them "fuck me" eyes Your non-verbal response is way more important than your verbal response. I might even respond with just the look.. that look that says we BOTH know why I want that number.
/r/askTRP01/05/14 02:34 PM
1

It seems like TRP's "sexual strategy" involves a lot of time and effort on the part of a red piller with only the possibility of a reward, not even a guarantee It's a large INITIAL investment that pays dividends over time. I worked very hard for about 2 years and internalized a lot of useful information from the pick-up community (circa 2006-2008). I currently am dating three women, all long-term, and get to have awesome sex regularly. It changed my life and was very much worth it. Hell, discove…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/14 02:13 PM
3

Huh? the rise of feminism didn't happen until the late 60's, early 70's... right around the time of the sexual revolution. Basically, American society as a whole became more liberal during that period. This was partially a result of things that were happening politically during that time (i.e. the draft and the Vietnam War). TL;DR - Because politics
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/14 04:27 AM
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Rise of feminism, the sexual revolution of the 70's, big push for equality of the sexes (especially in the workplace). Women are no longer as dependent on men for their income. Better government support for single mothers. Television and then, later, the internet. I'm not saying these things are good or bad, I'm just saying these things have changed the playing field.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/14 09:54 PM
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Agree. We tend to over-simplify concepts to make them easily digestible to new guys. It causes problems, unfortunately, when those overly-simplified messages hit the mainstream. EX: "Dread Game." Naturals are busy guys with large social circles. They don't have a lot of time to commit to one single person. This makes them MORE desirable to the women in their lives, for whatever reason. TRP teaches guys to mimic this behavior, because it works. Okay, that seems reasonable.. "fake it until you mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/14 05:57 PM
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The world is not fair. Some people are willing to endure that and some people aren't. I have no moral stance on suicide. It's a deeply personal thing. I think the real question you want to ask is what do we think about male depression directly caused by the male condition.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/14 05:47 PM
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Frankly, I would demote her to FB and start looking for more girls to add to your rotation. I wouldn't even make a big thing about it. I'd just start seeing her a little less. In short, it doesn't sound like she is LTR material. The quality of the sex is irrelevant. Learn to screen better for LTR characteristics.
/r/askTRP30/04/14 02:34 PM
1

Agree. The Lindy-Hop/Blues scenes are just as good (and I enjoy those dances more than salsa).
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 03:02 PM
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I disagree.. kind of. Here's what's really going on: societal expectations for what women SHOULD act like are getting further and further away from what women actually do act like. Women are just acting like women. If you give them more freedom from conservative societal expectations, then they'll continue to act even more like what they are. Your unrealistic expectations are what's causing the issue. Learn to be flexible and adapt to the world as it is, rather than how you wish it was.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/14 02:14 PM
1

I am male.. my value will only increase with age and sexual experience.
/r/askTRP29/04/14 12:16 PM
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Why someone who knows about trp would still consider marriage. Because my 3.5+ year girlfriend is awesome and has all of the same sexual kinks I do (group sex, sharing, anal, etc.)? She also has a high sex drive and gets me laid by other women (i.e. I've more than doubled my number of sexual partners since we started dating). Plus, she's intelligent, naturally submissive, and is cool with signing a prenub. Oh, and she knows how to cook. What I'm really saying is that she makes my life better and…
/r/askTRP28/04/14 08:37 PM
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Women like to have plausible deniability. They are more risk averse than guys, especially if there might be social consequences. They will be much more inclined to agree to meeting you if you don't say it's a date (even if it's super obvious that it's a date).
/r/askTRP28/04/14 07:30 PM
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Underlying problem: poor screening. That being said, women who like sex and male validation have a lot of incentive to lie about it. She, rightly, fears the social consequences of her actions. She also fears being honest, because she fears you will react negatively. So yeah, women DO lie about this bullshit all the time. It's annoying, but it's to be expected from certain types of women (i.e. validation seeker, "freak" type girl). That being said, she's not really monogamous relationship materia…
/r/askTRP24/04/14 04:46 PM
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I take it a step further. Cut down on text for anything other than 1) answering direct questions or 2) handling logistics (where / when you are going to see them next).
/r/askTRP24/04/14 04:10 PM
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It's not a shit-test exactly.. It's more of an indicator of interest. That being said, there's no really wrong answer as long as you don't act guilty/weird about the answer.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/14 02:44 PM
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The focus of TRP is basically to help people establish realistic dating/relationship expectations. Unfortunately, the majority of posters in this subreddit are probably not the best people to help you do that. The dynamic in M/M relationships is too foreign for most of us.. and any advice we could give you would just be keyboard jockeying. Having said that, there are probably some things you could take away from the sub, if you just filter out the relevant information: building more dominant cha…
/r/askTRP24/04/14 02:27 PM
1

I have an open live-in relationship and I LOVE IT. I'm also pretty damn Alpha (thanks to discovering the pick-up community in 2006). So, no, the dude is not necessarily a beta, but he might be. It's not something you can really tell with out meeting him / seeing them interact with each other. Everybody has their kinks. Mine happen to be group sex, spinning plates and girlfriend-sharing (among others).
/r/askTRP23/04/14 09:10 PM
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I admit that number of partners is a good screening tool, it will definitely keep guys from dating freaks. However, it's just not a great screening tool. It's too simple. Women who have high sexual standards (i.e. high drive & high self-esteem) are inevitably going to have a larger number of partners. For them, it's a numbers game until they find a guy who's compatible. These girls can be awesome in bed and make great girlfriends if you can perform up to their standards. My gripe is that you sho…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/14 04:33 PM
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Spin multiple plates. That's where you get the experience that's crucial for maintaining a strong frame (i.e. dealing with drama, building abundance mentality, dating skills, etc.) Also, check out your local dance scene (swing, blues, salsa,etc). Learning to lead on the dance floor never hurts. It's a great way to meet cute girls.
/r/askTRP23/04/14 04:22 PM
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I've said it once and I'll say it again. Learn to screen for relationship potential.. number of partners is not always an exceptionally good indicator of long-term relationship happiness. Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because …
/r/TheRedPill23/04/14 04:08 PM
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First, it depends on the size of the school. I went to a smaller school, so social circle game was king. Your first week or two determined a lot. Second, I had way, way more sex in my late 20's, early 30's than I ever did in college. Game only gets easier as you get older. I'm just adding this to give you some perspective. Third, be active. Get involved, meet a lot of people, go to social events. You'll never meet girls if you just hang out in your dorm all the time. Harness your inner-Van Wilde…
/r/askTRP23/04/14 03:54 PM
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No, that is not a neg. That's just being cocky. The "Neg" is very misunderstood, which is why nobody in the pick-up community advocates their use anymore. Mystery developed the Neg to hit on high status women (i.e. models) in a club environment. It's highly advanced game and it's just not that applicable to everyday use. Furthermore, the pick-up community has largely abandoned their use because newbies always screw it up. They either use negs when they are inappropriate or they think it's an exc…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/14 03:36 PM
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FYI, Nietzsche's philosophy was hijacked by the third Reich. The whole Ubermenschen thing is a bit over-blown. In my interpretation, Nietzsche wanted people to reject societal views on how to live and create their own life, as if they were artists. It's all about creating our own worldview rather than accepting somebody elses'. His book, The Antichrist, was about how Christ did exactly this; he rejected societal views and created his own way to live life. Paul later came along and constructed th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/14 02:15 PM
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I'm not shallow, I'm male. Just because I have different preferences and opinions than you, that doesn't give you the right to be nasty about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/14 02:58 PM
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Admirable? Certainly. However, I don't specifically look for those traits in my female SOs. They are secondary traits.. a nice bonus if they are there, but not essential. That's why I consider them Alpha traits for males.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/14 02:41 PM
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This. RoK caters to all the bitter newbies of TRP. He goes too far in his writing and doesn't always actually help guys develop realistic expectations in regards to women/relationships (which, IMO, is the purpose of TRP).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/14 02:34 PM
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Troll account? I just clicked on this guys profile and it's all posts with a single letter of the alphabet (to raise post count?). EDIT: It's posts like this that make me miss the downvote button.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/14 02:22 PM
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Absolutely, and I doubt that very many people are going to argue that point with you. For example, back when we lived in hunter / gatherer societies, alpha traits were physical strength and superior hunting skills. In western society (i.e. my society), it's more about confidence and social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/14 02:18 PM
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"Practical Female Psychology: for the Practical Man" EDIT: I can only assume the person who downvoted me hasn't actually read the book. It's bloody brilliant. Here's a free version on Scribd. The book is a collaboration by a couple oldschool pick-up community guys.
/r/askTRP22/04/14 02:05 PM
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Who said Alpha / Beta was biological? I'm alpha NOW, but I definitely wasn't before I got involved in the pick-up community (circa 2006-2008). Alpha = a collection of traits that women find attractive. Some people are born with attractive traits and some develop them out later in life. Of all the traits, confidence is the best, and you aren't born with confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/14 01:57 PM
1

Fixed it.
/r/askTRP21/04/14 03:10 PM
5

So what? TRP is all about developing realistic expectations regarding hamsters. Ruining your fantasy is exactly what we are here to do. Also, you have to consider the idea that the problem might just be you and the way you interact with your hamsters. EDIT: For hamsters
/r/askTRP21/04/14 02:30 PM
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If what you got isn't working then it's either a problem with you or a problem with your hamster. Have you considered the idea that maybe you need a second hamster as a control group?
/r/askTRP21/04/14 01:55 PM
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Okay, I AM poly. Monogamy just doesn't work very well for some people. I require sexual variety in order to be a happy person, letting my girlfriend(s) get some on the side is a small price to pay. In fact, it doesn't even make me jealous anymore. It did at the beginning, years ago, but nothing bad happened and the jealousy died away shortly after. Since the beginning, we've tried out swinging, dating others separately, and dating girls as a couple. My girlfriend even dated a "lesbian" for awhil…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/14 04:11 PM
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"Kyle, every boy pays for kisses. Do you know what I am saying? If you've got a girl, and she kisses you, sooner or later you're paying for it. You've gotta take her out to lunch, take her to a movie, and then spend time listenin' to all her stupid problems. Look, look at Stan right there. (Kyle turns to see Stan, who's listening to Wendy over at the merry-go-round) Why he's gotta sit there and listen to her stupid motherfuckin' problems 'cause she kisses him. If you ask me, that's a lot more th…
/r/askTRP18/04/14 03:32 PM
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First, I don't do monogamy so I'm always dating 2-3 girls at a time. I'm always open about the fact that I date multiple girls. Second, I have a knack for remaining friends with girls, even after we've stopped sleeping together. So, I have the girls I date, the girls I used to date, and all their female friends, who usually think I'm fascinating.. some kind of weird anomaly. I typically don't meet their male friends, or if I do, they are beta/orbiters. Oh and I'm 32 and typically date girls in t…
/r/askTRP17/04/14 03:54 PM
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If you figure it out, then let me know. I'm alpha and it's still hard making alpha male friends. My social circle is made up almost entirely of women.
/r/askTRP17/04/14 03:22 PM
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The relationship is over and the damage has been done. There's no easy recovery at this point. You'll need to revisit the situation later on down the line.. after you've made yourself into a higher value male. "Go Fuck Ten Other Women" Is an old adage from the pick-up community. I suggest you give it a try.
/r/askTRP17/04/14 03:09 PM
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Nah, that isn't the case. The dude was very conservative and monogamously minded. He was also head over heels in love with her (i.e. heavy oneitus). If she really wanted the serious beta bucks, then it was there for the taking. I'm the die hard non-monogamous one whos looking forward to our open marriage. So yeah, I doubt that's her game. The bottom line is that she's not a ho. I know how to screen women for "good girl" qualities. EDIT: Here's a post I made about the whole thing shortly after it…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 10:21 PM
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Meh, I don't ever feel the need to police other people's relationships. Then again, I'm non-monogamous and don't really have to worry about this kind of thing happening to me.
/r/askTRP16/04/14 09:02 PM
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My personal experiences contradict your theory. I won hands down over beta bucks. A 26 year old hedge fund manger tried to buy one of my plates away from me. He offered her an all expense paid trip to France.. for a year (because he could work from anywhere in the world), among other things. She turned him down flat. That was three years ago; we're engaged now. Chumps with money are still chumps.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 07:19 PM
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He wasn't the one passed out in the closet. It sounded like he was a bit more in control of himself than she was. Just say'n.
/r/askTRP14/04/14 10:19 PM
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Ehh.. I think we say that for both reasons, actually: 1) Because drunk girls can't legally give consent and 2) because they will be believed in court when they say they didn't give consent.
/r/askTRP14/04/14 05:46 PM
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She was so drunk that she passed out in her closet. There was a witness. She could not give consent. No other details matter. He committed rape (according to US law). What part of that am I not communicating properly?
/r/askTRP14/04/14 05:44 PM
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/Shrug The experiences are really too different to compare, IMO. It's entirely dependent upon the person. I'm just trying to add some balance. Women have their own set of dating frustrations.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 04:43 PM
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The thing is.. it doesn't matter how it went down. She was VERY OBVIOUSLY too drunk to consent. Even if he was under the impression that it was consensual, it was still rape. EDIT: Downvote me if you want, but I went to law school in the US and I'm just telling you how it is. A court of law is going to take one look at the details of the case and conclude that it was rape. Op's a witness to the fact that she was too drunk to consent.
/r/askTRP14/04/14 03:59 PM
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Sex with a girl who's so drunk she passes out in her closet.. is rape. I'm sorry, but I don't view this as a grey area. He may not be a rapist, in that he probably thought it was consensual. However, he was still in the wrong, both ethically and legally. She was too drunk to give consent and she has a right to be very, very upset. This is exactly why we tell people in this sub not to have sex with extremely drunk girls. EDIT: Leave for dinner with a bunch of upvotes.. then all posts got downvote…
/r/askTRP14/04/14 03:46 PM
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I'm in several fully "open and honest" relationships. Cheating isn't an issue I ever have to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/14 03:24 PM
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The flip-side of this is that women have a quality problem, rather than a quantity problem. They need to weed through all the potential dates to find the Alpha's. This can be really frustrating for women, since Alpha's are kind of rare and a lot of non-alphas try to fake alpha characteristics. Source: In several open relationships, get to hear the dating horror stories from the female perspective.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 03:20 PM
1

It's never "one size fits all". You're mileage will vary. However, it seems to work well for the majority of people. However, I don't see how you could call it time consuming. It's 45 minutes (to an hour), 3 times a week.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 10:12 PM
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Frankly, I wish it was easier to meet other alpha's (i.e. guys who have their shit together and are good with women). On the other hand, I think all guys who make a beta-alpha transition go through a douche phase. I probably did. I just had all these crazy sexual conquests and I couldn't help but want to tell people about them. Fortunately, I kept it to close friends (and certain online forums).. because discretion is a virtue. Unfortunately, it probably alienated my more beta-minded friends at …
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 06:48 PM
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Let's face it, a lot of people shell out huge sums of money for liberal arts degrees that wont get them employed after they've graduated. I think TRP is a fan of bootstrapping your own business as an alternative. I don't think TRP is outright anti-higher education. We just want guys to weigh the pros and cons first and consider the alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/14 05:02 PM
1

Not cynical, just realists. Part of TRP is developing more realistic expectations when it comes to women and relationships. Managing expectations are important. For example, I'm an accountant. If a tell a client that they owe 1,000, but then instead they get a refund of $500, then they're really happy. However, if I tell a client that they're getting a refund of $7,000, but then they only get back $500...they are pissed off. Society has been telling us that we're getting a HUGE refund, when we'r…
/r/askTRP12/04/14 04:55 PM
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Just went through a bunch of front page posts and upvoted everybody who was obviously downvoted. If 5 other guys did this.. every other day or so, then the downvoting will stop being a problem. EDIT: Actually, the more I do this the more I see WHY people are getting downvoted. Stupid, inane comments, nonsensical arguments, and/or breaking the other forum rules... from both pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/14 04:39 PM
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Bodybuilder.com's most popular beginner workout.. and most popular thread, with thousands and thousands of comments: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=4195843 Also, it worked out pretty well for me. Try to incorporate more protein into your diet and stay hydrated. Also, stretch before and after workouts.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 04:09 PM
2

To help others. I became my ideal self years ago thanks to the pick-up community. I'd like to pay that forward.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/14 10:47 PM
1

Everything I know, I learned from the pick-up community (circa. 2006-2009). I didn't learn until after college. /sigh
/r/TheRedPill11/04/14 10:42 PM
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This is a question of ethics / morals / culture. Does the state have a responsibility to take care of people who can't or wont take care of themselves? If so, whats the best way to do that? tl;dr - It's not really an appropriate question for this subreddit, IMO.
/r/askTRP11/04/14 08:40 PM
1

Polygamy (i.e. multiple marriages) or Polyamory (multiple loves)? I'm all about the polyamory.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/14 02:17 PM
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What do women want out of relationships? "Good girls" want somebody "worthy" to take care of. "Freaks" want external validation and strong emotional states. "Hoes" want material possessions and/or status. If you can figure out what type of girl you're dealing with and give her what she wants, then you'll do just fine. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP10/04/14 10:29 PM
2

Frankly, no. Pursuing a girl shortly after she's broken up with you is almost always a bad move. It really only works when the new guy (or the new potential guy) doesn't work out as expected. Moreover, it usually makes the situation worse. Much worse. It comes off as needy/desperate and shows the girl that she has ALL the power. The Alpha thing to do is to project an abundance mentality. Say, "no big deal", then friend-zone the girl (or cut contact) and do everything you can to increase your per…
/r/askTRP10/04/14 10:17 PM
0

Sometimes while sucking my cock. We're swingers. EDIT: What? I play video games with my serious girlfriend's other boyfriends. We go out for beers together. It's actually a pretty cool dynamic. What do I care if she's getting some action on the side? I get to have an awesome sex life, plus all the benefits of a serious relationship.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/14 10:05 PM
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tl;dr: If you are a man who isn't declining multiple female advances per month, you are a fool to try polyamory. All you will be doing is sharing your wife, and you will get the smallest share. You don't have to be declining offers. You just have to have some game and a solid frame. It's no different than spinning plates. Polyamory, done well, is actually pretty awesome. I'm "polyamorous" and I have been for years. I have three girlfriends at the moment (one serious relationship who I live with,…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/14 08:07 PM
1

so why would you share the red pill knowledge with lesser men! Because it's lonely at the top.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 07:57 PM
1

Troll Account.. almost zero posting history (only posted here and "white rights" subreddit). EDIT: But fuck me for pointing it out, right?
/r/TheRedPill07/04/14 04:22 PM
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Dancing (swing, blues, tango, salsa, etc.) It has a learning curve and, as a guy, the only way to get better is to go out and ask women to dance with you. It takes a lot of guts when you're first starting out, because you KNOW you're not as good as all the other guys in the room. After all, it's up to you to LEAD the dance. Fortunately, the more you do it, the better you get. And that's how you build confidence / mastery.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/14 09:16 PM
3

Technically, the only rule I have with my primary LTR is "be honest." Fortunately, rules haven't really been necessary. All my relationships start as casual "fuck buddy" type relationships, with no rules. Then the relationships progressively get more serious as time goes on. Girls upgrade themselves in my life by being awesome (no drama, great sex, lots of fun). It all happens very organically. The relationships are open from the start and never close. Girls who are unfit for open relationships …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/14 07:34 PM
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RP guy here: I've been in open relationships for the last 4 years. My longest relationship is 3.5+ years and we've been living together for the last year. My relationships are 100% open and honest. My relationships are pretty excellent. I would never have been able to manage open relationships so well without the skills I learned from the pick-up community.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/14 07:00 PM
1

/r/bigdickproblems Unfortunately, you're just going to have to find women who can handle it. They are out there.
/r/askTRP03/04/14 02:22 PM
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TRP guy here: TRP guys tend to over-simplify lessons in order to instruct other guys. The underlying message we are trying to send is that a relationship should fulfill a guy's sexual NEEDS. If a guy's needs aren't getting met, then no other factors matter because the relationship isn't sustainable. Unfortunately, a lot of guys have a problem voicing their needs and following through when their needs aren't being met. Therefore, TRP spends a lot of time focusing on this point. Unfortunately, the…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/14 02:00 PM
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Hell, PUA doesn't even have anything against relationships. Every PUA forum I know of has a separate discussion area for guys in relationships.
/r/askTRP02/04/14 03:30 PM
1

The article lacks "actionable advice". It gives a lot of "feel good" advice, but it doesn't go in depth enough to be really helpful. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 04:40 PM
2

This is me. I'm an introvert. I've also learned to enjoy socializing more as I've gotten older. Learning pick-up helped tremendously. Also, having open relationships helps. The potential for sex is a huge motivator to get me out into social situations, so I tend to get very anti-social when I'm in monogamous relationships. That being said, I'm very Alpha and I'm very good with women (post-pick-up / TRP). Introverts can be great "benevolent leaders".
/r/askTRP31/03/14 04:18 PM
1

Why yes it is! ..and that's awesome. http://wifflegif.com/gifs/333317-nicholas-d-wolfwood-wolfwood-gif
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 04:01 PM
5

I've had sex with just over 50 women and my experiences echo Peonpete's. Some girls are ridiculously fun in bed and sessions can last for hours with multiple, mind-blowing orgasms. Meanwhile, other girls get sore rather quickly, are done after one orgasm or they get too sensitive to go for long periods of time. That's not nearly as fun.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 02:26 PM
1

Here's the thing about that chart. It does not take into account people who stay together, but are miserable and/or have dead bedrooms. Marriage is hard no matter who your partner is. Conservative are just less likely to initiate divorces, because they don't believe in divorce. It doesn't mean that they are any better off than less conservative girls. A similar chart plots female IQ's and divorce rates. The higher the IQ, the greater the chance for divorce. Does that mean we should marry less in…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/14 05:23 PM
1

Yeah, back when I used to post there, it didn't have the huge pop-up. I don't post there anymore. The pop-up is the reason i re-posted here, rather than just submitting a link. There's also a link to my original post on the TRP sidebar. I would not be surprised if the post found it's way to other parts of the internet. If you can dig up a link, then I'd love to see it.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 05:06 PM
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I have not done much traveling in Asia. I've been to Taipei, but I didn't have that experience there. I also didn't get that vibe from the Vietnamese girl I dated. However, I've been made to understand that there are a large number of golddiggers in/from mainland China and that it's somewhat a cultural thing (much like it is in Ukraine). However, I have VERY limited first-hand experience, so take that with a grain of salt.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:37 PM
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Sorry, I guess I missed the joke. I'll chalk it up to not enough coffee this morning.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:25 PM
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As somebody who lives in middle-America, I don't meet very many of these. When I lived in Chicago for a few years, I met two or three. I also lived with a very attractive Ukrainian girl for awhile who had ridiculous monetary expectations of every guy she was remotely interested in dating. From talking to my female roommate, my understanding is that for Ukrainian girls it is very much a cultural thing. In a sense, they were raised to be golddiggers. They also assume that all Americans are rich an…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:21 PM
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This just tells me that you didn't actually read the content of the post. It's meant to cover (mostly) all types of women. If you figure out what type of girl you are dealing with, then you know what to expect from them (i.e. you shouldn't expect a freak to act like a good girl). Even the red flags are just supposed to be cautionary. They are typical traits of freaks and hoes. That's why I said "proceed with caution", and not "do not date".
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:02 PM
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I am the author. This is an abbreviated version of my original post. It's my summary of "Freaks, Hoes & Good Girl" theory. To the best of my knowledge, this is a theory originally coined by "Dogsolder" on the old MASF forum. His post was about spotting these types in a club environment. Several other posters have added to the theory since then. Unfortunately, MASF has been down for ages, so I can't link any original sources. The stuff about red flags is mostly all me (the last four were contribu…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 03:17 PM
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How to screen women: Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because they make it fairly easy for the guy. Freaks - Girls who are happy in relationships when they receive attention and strong emotional states. This is the type guys fall…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 02:55 PM
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Oh, sure, they lack(ed) fertile soil, livestock and other advantages that allowed advanced civilizations to evolve from hunter / gatherer societies. However, talking about their disadvantages, in relation to more advanced societies, is getting a bit off topic. Their problems aren't/weren't internal and have little to do with their societal structure. Further reading: Guns, Germs and Steel (great book, it won a Pulitzer)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/14 02:41 PM
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That's arguable. Many tribal societies do very well without the institution of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/14 10:02 PM
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Sometimes they DO leave. Sometimes people are two co-dependent to end the relationship. Sometimes there are kids involved, and people feel obligated to stay together for their sake. Societal pressures combined with the "sunk costs" fallacy make people shy away from divorcing / breaking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/14 08:54 PM
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Easy, the women lose attraction for their men. After several years with the same person, the endorphins just don't fire like they used to. At that point, maintaining a healthy sex life takes effort.. from both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/14 08:20 PM
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I've had life experiences that directly contradict what you are saying. I posted an account of it here, shortly after the event happened. TL;DR - Open relationship, my girlfriend's exceptionally wealthy hedge fund manager ("secondary") boyfriend tried to bribe her away from me. Offered her an all expenses paid, year long vacation to France. She declined, despite the fact that we are equally attractive, because I have more "game".
/r/TheRedPill25/03/14 08:01 PM
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Facebook: Easy way to establish social proof. I never really post anything on there myself, but I have a ton of pictures of myself doing fun activities with friends / cute girls.
/r/askTRP25/03/14 04:23 PM
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And the answer to that can be found on TRP sidebar, but the relevant link is this one.
/r/askTRP25/03/14 03:19 PM
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Try this.. give her a clitoral orgasm, then switch to PIV sex for awhile. After a fair amount of time, switch back to oral sex (no fingers, she'll probably be too sensitive for fingers). Do you two ever use toys? The hitachi magic wand + the Tri-gasm attachment is one of my favorite things ever. I have had 100% success rate with it giving girls orgasms. It's pretty much the perfect thing to use for the second orgasm.. especially for the guys who are squeamish about giving oral after PIV.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/14 06:17 PM
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There's a big difference between "can't come from PIV" and "they only come once". Many girls can come multiple times from clitorial stimulation in a single session. There will always be girls who can only come once, and their will be girls who can't come at all. Do your best, be enthusiastic about their bodies.. make them feel like they are hot and that you had a great orgasm. Make sex interesting by using toys, indulging in kinks, incorporating light BDSM, etc. As long as the sex is entertainin…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/14 03:04 PM
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Well, I now live with the girl I've been dating the longest. It's a very serious relationship. I don't really like using the "primary / secondary" terminology, but she'd probably be considered my primary. She has earned the lion's share of my free time by being consistently awesome to me for the last 3.5+ years. I have a purely sexual relationship with the 2nd girl. we've been sleeping together off and on for years. It's not a very serious relationship at all, but we get along well and the sex i…
/r/TheRedPill22/03/14 07:07 PM
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This. And if you are REALLY good in bed (be confident, give her lots of orgasms), then she'll tell her friends. I mean, sure. Fake it until you make it. However, there's really no substitute for actually being good at sex. Practice makes perfect.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/14 06:40 PM
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100% open and honest. Some of the girls I date choose to see other guys as well, some don't. It's not a big deal to me either way. The best advice I received from the pick-up community was about managing long term relationships. Finding women to date is the easy part. Anybody can fake alpha characteristics long enough to hook up with a girl. Maintaining a solid relationship afterwards is the hard part. It requires guys to put in effort and make lasting changes to their life.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/14 06:11 PM
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Well, I was in the pick-up community way before RP was a thing. I became a fan of RP because it's another community helping guys learn the realities of women and dating. Pick-up changed my life dramatically. It helped me level up (or, alpha up, I suppose). I'm living the dream right now. I have rock solid relationship skills, 3 girlfriends, and no drama. I'm a Red piller because I feel the need to pay it forward and help other guys figure this stuff out.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/14 03:59 PM
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This. This is seriously the best advice when dealing with somebody going through depression. Make them see a doctor who has experience dealing with depressed patients. Make the appointment for them, and make sure they go.
/r/askTRP21/03/14 01:47 PM
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Oookay
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 11:11 PM
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Here's the best thing I've read on the subject: http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?4964-Tubarao-on-Building-friendships I hope that gives you a good start.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 09:07 PM
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As in all things, it depends. Certain types of women really love it. I have one girl I'm dating who I order for every single time we go out. However, I wouldn't say that it's typical. As a general rule: Be the benevolent leader. If a woman is having trouble making a decision, then step in and help her (even if that means making the decision for her).
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 02:16 PM
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Asian women have their own sets of issues. Just because you found a good one, doesn't mean that they're all good. That being said, I'm glad you found a good one.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 01:42 PM
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Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do. You just got to let them make his own mistakes. The best thing you can do, as a friend, is help them pick up the pieces when it's all over. It sucks, but guys just don't take relationship advice unless they seek it out.. and they don't seek it out until after their relationship implodes.
/r/askTRP19/03/14 08:56 PM
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Age is just a number. Don't get to hung up on it. If a girl is legal and attractive (and not too terribly immature), then she's fair game. On the other hand, don't disqualify a girl just because she's your age or older. At 32, I've dated a decade+ in both directions. Both types of relationships are fun in their own way. Age must play a big role in how a girl perceives you at my age 24 most girls are only interested in older men so would some one in his 30s find it easier? Yes, in my experience i…
/r/askTRP19/03/14 08:51 PM
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We get both sets of parents off our back. I told her long ago that I'd only get married under certain conditions: 1) Open marriage. 2) Pre-nup - because I'm going to be a business owner (hope for the best, plan for the worst). This also includes putting a non-legal plan in place for if/when we separate. 3) Awesome dating for at least 4 years (long enough for the strong, judgement-altering endorphins to wear off). She thought those were reasonable and I'm comfortable getting married under those c…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 05:01 PM
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Thanks! If you read both articles, they have entirely different narratives. The NY Daily refers to her as a "predatory pedophile," while the Herefored Times make a note to say she was 16 at the time it happened (i.e. a minor) and didn't realize the full implications of her actions. Also, she stopped the relationship on her own, after realizing it was wrong, and not because she was caught. Odd. EDIT: Oh, I think it's because the New York Daily News is tabloid. Somebody correct me if I'm wrong.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 04:26 PM
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I couldn't find any non-tabloid sources for this on Google. Anybody got one? Daily mail = daily fail.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 03:00 PM
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I have several fuck buddies. My frame is that I'm open and honest about the fact that I like sexual variety. It's not a big deal. I have no doubt that the girls I'm seeing tell other potential men about me. It's screening. They aren't willing to give up seeing me and they don't want to lie about it (because they're "good girls"). Therefore, they weed out the guys who have a problem with it early on.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 02:49 PM
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I'm 32 and I've used TRP / pick-up to level up (or alpha up, I suppose). My life is awesome. I'm about to become engaged, after 4 years of dating (open relationship, with pre-nup), to somebody awesome. I have two other FB/girlfriends, one of whom is a solid 10 years younger than myself. They all know about each other. I couldn't be happier. That being said, learn to think/live in the moment. The unhappiest people are those who dwell on the past or worry too much on the future. Use meditation or …
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 02:41 PM
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Unicorns aren't real.
/r/askTRP14/03/14 04:17 PM
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Something you have to understand about Taiwan.. the ideal of beauty is stick thin, bordering on anorexic. Girls with any kind of curves are considered fat. That's why western men are so popular there, because we are attracted to their "unattractive" women. Furthermore, Taipei (where I assume they are) has a fairly large red light district. It's just not socially acceptable for women to be that forward. These guys probably assume this girl is a prostitute.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/14 02:20 PM
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Just "be busy". You are a busy guy with people to see and things to do. You just don't have the time to text all day. Be prepared for a bit of drama / shit tests. Girls HATE when you dial back any kind of relationship. Most importantly, go on more dates. If she's really just a FWB, then you should be out meeting / dating other girls when you're not seeing her.
/r/askTRP12/03/14 05:01 PM
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Call her on the phone, earlier in the day, to confirm. If she doesn't pick up or call you back, assume it's off.
/r/askTRP12/03/14 03:15 PM
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It's all about your frame. The right frame is: "I'm doing this for me. However, I am also the one who's allowing you to have these experiences." Really, everybody wins if you're both into it. It's a kink and TRP is pretty okay with people exploring kinky sexual relationships. I'm in an open relationship and it has not affected our power dynamic. My girlfriend is still very submissive to me, even though she has "secondary" relationships.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/14 03:07 PM
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As a general rule, I don't text girls back unless it's to respond to a question or to plan a logistics (i.e. where / when I will see them next). It's a good rule and it's served me well. Unfortunately, you're making mistakes. You can make as many labels as you want, but if you are acting like a boyfriend then she will think of you as her boyfriend (and will eventually start causing drama due to this). Futher reading: FWB rules
/r/askTRP12/03/14 03:01 PM
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However a quick search on polyamory in trp will show a pretty negative look on polyamory. Most of which said it was great for the hypergamous female but horrible for the male. It's still pretty great if you are a man who has good game. I'm in an open/poly relationship. My girlfriend started as a "plate". Although I was into pick-up long before TRP was a thing, so I'd refer to her as a fuck buddy. My girlfriend was an awesome fuck buddy and I really enjoyed her company. So I started seeing her a …
/r/askTRP12/03/14 02:46 PM
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The thing that worked best for me was learning how to effectively date multiple women (i.e. building an abundance mentality and breaking down self-limiting beliefs). It did wonders for my confidence and helped me really internalize alpha characteristics.
/r/askTRP12/03/14 02:37 PM
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It's fine. Dressing well can only help you in the long run, in your professional life and with women. I don't have any fashion sense of my own, but I do dress well. My secret is that I always take a cute girl shopping with me when I buy clothes. I usually have a very basic idea of what I'm going for, but I let the girls handle picking out stuff for me to try on. Then I buy the outfits that they like the best. As a note, a feminine vibe can even still get you laid. Straight women like to sleep wi…
/r/askTRP12/03/14 02:10 PM
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In pick up, the term used is "MLTR": Multiple Long-term relationships
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 04:06 PM
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I don't really see how the article relates to your caption. The article has nothing to do with being friends with women. The article is about being "friend-zoned" by women. It's apples and oranges. Moreover, I agree with author. Dudes need to man up stop trying to date their "friends". Social circle game is a nice tool in the arsenal, but it shouldn't be a guys only tool. If a girl isn't into it, then go find another girl who is. Don't be a needy, passive aggressive asshole about it. On the othe…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 11:44 PM
1

East Coast Swing - It's like training wheels for all the other dances.
/r/askTRP10/03/14 03:04 PM
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Read this: Tubarao's relationship rules. This is how I maintain my plates (with very little variation).
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 08:14 PM
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What did you say to make her respond like that? My response: "I'd like to get to know you over drinks. It's more fun that way."
/r/askTRP08/03/14 10:46 PM
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I highly recommend learning some kind of social dance (tango, salsa, swing, etc.). Social dancing is like speed dating. There's a bunch of fit, attractive women and you get to spend 3-4 minutes with every girl in the room. I dance blues and swing (East Coast & Lindy) and can attest to the benefits.
/r/askTRP07/03/14 03:06 PM
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Unfortunately, there's absolutely nothing you can do. Guys just don't take advice on relationships, unless they seek it for themselves. As the friend, the best thing you can do is 1) teach by example and 2) help him pick up the pieces once his relationship is over. As a last ditch effort, you could buy him a copy of The Game. It's a bit outdated, but it's eye opening if somebody doesn't know anything about pick-up.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 05:25 PM
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This is just a reminder to all you guys: don't get too wrapped up in your reading list. After a certain point, it's just mental masturbation and it's not doing you any good. Read a little bit and then start applying this stuff in your everyday life. Go to the gym, start involving yourself in more social activities, and start flirting with more women. Less thinking, more acting.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 11:33 PM
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Sex survey statistics are almost universally considered to be unreliable, because people often feel compelled to lie when asked about their sexual history. Anyway, it's not an accurate statistic. It's just a catchy statistic which we used to make a point. Before learning pick-up, I had 3 sexual partners. Post pick-up, 48 partners. Based on my own experiences, I've hypothesized that naturals and people who learned to act like naturals (e.g. me), tend to have considerably more sex than other men. …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/14 11:22 PM
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Ha! Unfortunately, that is not my area of expertise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/14 02:54 PM
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Women aren't children, but they generally like it when I banter with them as if they were children. Flirting, for me, is just teasing.. and teasing is something that kids do. Also, women like that I don't take them too seriously when they are very obviously being overly-emotional. I don't argue with them and I don't let them sway me just because they are upset. It's the same way I would treat a child throwing a fit. Moreover, "treat women like children" is good advice for guys who have approach …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/14 03:04 PM
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Here's the thing: guys really SHOULD go out and have well-rounded social lives. Girls do generally like guys who have options (it's the whole female competition thing). It's not terrible advice. However, calling it "dread game" over-simplifies the concept and makes it sound much worse than it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/14 03:05 AM
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Seriously.. nobody "negs" anymore. That is antiquated pick-up community terminology.. it was developed by Mystery to pick up super models in clubs (and popularized by the book, "The Game"). It's not practical for 99.9% of the male population. Moreover, negging was never about making a woman feel bad. Mystery used it to set himself apart from a woman's orbiters by being different - it's not an insult and it's not a compliment. Unfortunately, guys who are new to the pick-up community think it's a …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/14 04:12 PM
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Well, that's just it. I feel bad for them, so I try to help. I feel like TRP is, perhaps, a necessary evil. Guys who find their way there have been badly burnt due to their unrealistic expectations in previous relationships. It might be that it's good for guys like that to have a place to vent and let the poison out. Then guys like me can help them turn that anger into motivation to better themselves, while also giving them more realistic expectations in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/14 05:57 PM
3

There's a big difference between r/seduction and r/TRP. TRP is a support group for guys who have been badly burned in past relationships / dating experiences. Most new guys here are not in the right head-space to really take advantage of female friendships. Moreover, they can be detrimental due to the time wasting factor. TRP generally advocates a more extreme approach in order to incite behavioral changes more quickly.
/r/TheRedPill28/02/14 04:02 PM
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I'm a very happy person. I learned a lot about women and relationships in my early 20's from hanging out on the, now obsolete, MASF forums (the first online pick-up community). I owe a lot to those guys. I'm poly, and I have a serious girlfriend who I live with, a wonderful "secondary" girlfriend, and a FB who I see about once a week. I'm completely honest about my lifestyle to everybody and there's surprisingly little drama in my love life. I'm living the dream. My participation in TRP is mostl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/14 03:23 PM
3

Sure, having orbiters (i.e. minions) has benefits. Why get rid of them if you don't have to?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/14 10:44 PM
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Obvious, but... Californication (first 2 seasons).
/r/TheRedPill23/02/14 07:56 PM
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Adding in the exclusive part is what will cause you problems in the long run. If you want somebody who's essentially monogamous, then she'll either be into you or be into your girlfriend (because that's how monogamous people operate). This will lead to resentment between you and your wife in the long run.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 09:04 PM
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Tubarao's relationship rules. Follow the rules and you can keep girls from getting so emotionally attached. Field tested.
/r/askTRP18/02/14 10:23 PM
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Slowly introduce more and more kink into your sex life. Buy her toys. Start with basic toys (i.e. vibrator), bed restraints, then anal vibrator. It's a process. After awhile start indulging her submissive tendencies. Give her commands. Reward / punish her based on her behavior. During sex, tell her what you fantasize doing to her. You need to show her that these things are sexy, that they turn you on, and that they can give her great orgasms. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP18/02/14 05:04 PM
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I love House of Cards. I also recommend the first season of Californication
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 03:41 PM
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"Have a stress free relaxing day with a awesome guy all expenses paid" Did you post as a male escort? Or in a different section? Did you post a picture of yourself? X-rated or normal? Did you show your face?
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 03:28 PM
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All I can tell you is how I did it. I spun plates for a 1-2 years. I didn't promise monogamy to any one girl, I saw each girl once a week (twice at the most), and I always made a point to have at least two in the rotation. During that period, I did a lot of internet dating and I learned a lot about women and drama. In short, don't push for relationships like you did with this last girl. Keep spinning plates.
/r/askTRP17/02/14 03:31 PM
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Context of quotes, FTW! Again I didn't kick a lot of (any) game at these girls or get aggressive and start touch[ing] them. I ran "average guy" game. 90% of the approaches went exactly like this: Then it's mostly introducing himself, giving a compliment, and small talk. Then he excuses himself and asks for their number.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/14 02:40 PM
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Screening: Freaks, Hoes and Good Girls The theory has been around the pick-up community for a long time. I personally have found it to be very helpful when dealing with women. The main idea is that different types of girls want different things from their relationships. Most girls fall easily into one of these three categories. Guys should be able to figure out what type they are dealing with and act accordingly. Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is h…
/r/askTRP11/02/14 04:33 PM
2

Relevant reading: Goodlookinglosers 100 approaches GLL is a gym guy, so he's muscular, but he didn't use any routines or anything like that during his approaches. It's just "nice guy" day-game. He's also been in the pick-up community for awhile and has a reputation for being a decent guy on the forums. I'd consider him to be a trustworthy source. He did this experiment in 2009 and wrote this very detailed blog post about the results. His account of the experiment is very motivating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/14 11:40 PM
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The pick-up community never intended to imply that humans were pack animals and governed by the same hierarchical model as other pack animals. They coined the term to describe an obvious phenomenon: Certain men have more social status than others, and women respond to that and want to sleep with those men. The term was convenient because there is a parallel to the animal kingdom: alpha's of the pack had better access to the females of the pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/14 03:16 AM
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Unfortunately, TRP stole a lot of their terminology wholesale from the pick-up communities, which pre-date TRP by at least a decade. In pack animals, alphas are the animal with highest rank among the pack. I believe the pick up community picked it up the term as an ideal to strive for. Alpha men, guys with the highest social rank, became people to be examined and dissected. People tried to copy their attitudes and looks (example: Mystery got his whole "peacocking" thing by emulating rock stars).…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/14 04:53 PM
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TRP guy here. Just a something to consider.. I'm of the mindset that the TRP subreddit functions as a support group for recovering beta males. A lot of the guys who find the subreddit are hurt and venting. There's a lot of extreme ideas thrown around, because many of the guys were burnt in previous relationships and still going through their bitter phase. Also, some of the big-wig TRP gurus cater to these bitter guys, by advocating even more extreme views. Unfortunately, it's always the loudest …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 04:29 PM
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Guys, this is just an argument of semantics. Alpha traits are just traits that the majority of women find attractive. Alpha and Beta are a spectrum. You can be mostly beta, but still have alpha traits. Therefore, Op is a beta with a few alpha traits, such as being tall and dominant in bed. This is not exactly complex. Monogamous relationships are fairly easy to maintain for the first 2 years, if you pick the right girl. I'm not surprised at all that Op is a happy beta. For his sake, I hope it la…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/14 03:56 PM
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I'm more than willing to trade "exclusive access" to my females to obtain low-drama sexual variety. Good sex is no longer a scarce commodity for me, which makes me happy. I've done long-term monogamy and I am not suited for it. I'm much happier in an open relationship. I'm not trying to say one relationship style is better than another.. I just know what works for me.
/r/askTRP07/02/14 04:44 PM
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"Spinning plates" is basically the TRP template for open relationships. There are several of us TRP'ers who are all about the non-monogamy. Personally, I'm poly for life. Monogamy is just not for me. I need sexual variety to be a happy person. To quote another TRP redditor: "I remember alpha as fuck Ron Jeremy saying 'what do I care, throw the little thing in there' when asked about how he feels about swinging with his wife." I feel much the same way. I've put many years into improving myself. I…
/r/askTRP07/02/14 03:13 PM
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Good book and widely available, which is nice. Here's another recommendation that's good, but a bit harder to get your hands (although it's free on Scribd): "Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man"
/r/TheRedPill07/02/14 02:46 PM
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If the question is okay, then Op should repost the question without all the insulting undertones. As it is, I'm pretty sure it's against the forum rules. Furthermore, two wrongs don't make a right.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/14 11:20 PM
0

"Rule 3: Don't ask leading questions designed to put people on the defensive."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/14 11:06 PM
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Open relationships, FTW.
/r/askTRP05/02/14 01:15 AM
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American Beauty & Fight Club, both are stories about guys making transitions from beta to alpha.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/14 10:54 PM
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"Alpha," in the context of TRP, means "attractive to women." Alpha traits are traits that are attractive to women. Therefore, you question doesn't make much sense. Now to your underlying question. Subconsciously, women are attracted to men that can attain resources (providers). They also want men with good genetics (lovers). These types of men will be the best at helping to protect and raise healthy, happy children. Sometimes, if women can't find both traits in a man, they will conceive with a "…
/r/askTRP03/02/14 06:15 PM
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I believe the PUA term for this is "Testing for compliance". In other words, you ask a girl to do things for you. If they do them, then they pass the compliance test. It's a way to screen out time wasters. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/14 06:05 PM
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Game is the equivalent of make-up for guys. As guys, we KNOW women wear make-up, but we don't find them any less attractive because we know about it. It's the same thing for Game. Women can know all about it, but they wont find us any less attractive. I also second what Blggerfish mentioned... no canned material.
/r/askTRP03/02/14 05:42 PM
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Socializing is a like working out.. the more you do it, the easier it gets. It doesn't sound like your problem is negative influences. So take step one with a grain of salt. Start small with your goals. Read everything you can find about pick-up (good game trumps all). Hit the gym. Get some profiles up on the free dating sites (OkCupid & PoF). Send a few messages out a day until you get the whole socializing thing down. It's a long process, but it works. If you want it bad enough, then you can g…
/r/askTRP31/01/14 03:50 PM
1

What's with this sensationalized tabloid crap? The sources (i.e. The Mirror / The Daily Fail) are dubious at best.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/14 10:09 PM
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Resources? 1) This TRP post 2) Sedfast.com 3) Blackdragon's blog Probably, the most important thing you can read is Tubarao's relationship rules (under the first link). It spells out all the basics of maintaining FB relationships. The second link is the best "pick-up" forum I know of. The third is just because BD writes the best stuff about that style of relationship. It's how he does all of his relationships so he's got a lot of material that you'd probably find helpful.
/r/askTRP30/01/14 09:32 PM
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Actual bi-sexual women are just fine to date. Women who just tell everyone they're bi-sexual, because they enjoy the attention, are not so fine. Source: I've dated some bi-sexual women (and some attention seeking fake-bi women).
/r/TheRedPill30/01/14 09:09 PM
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Don't be too hard on yourself. Yes, you verbalized a bit too much. However, it wasn't altogether that bad. You did a decent job of keeping your emotions in check and your head was in the right place. Not too shabby for somebody who's new to all this stuff.
/r/askTRP30/01/14 03:12 PM
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Heh, I always have to tell myself that TRP mainly functions as support-group for recovering betas. Many of the newer members are bitter, due to failed relationships, and not ready for some of the greater truths of the dating/relationship world. Women, unfortunately, make for an easy target for misdirected anger. However, it's probably good that these guys have a place to vent and let out the poison.. so I just let them vent. I have a theory about the whole slut shaming thing. I think factions of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 10:13 PM
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Thank you for helping to illustrate my point. Having a high partner count is not always a good indicator of how good a partner somebody can be. My girlfriend is a high drive, high self-esteem, good girl.. probably much like yourself. She treats me like a king and the last 3.5+ years of my life have been filled with a lot of great, kinky sex. I think it's absurd that TRP would tell guys not to date somebody like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 09:59 PM
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Apparently I was wrong about the pop-up being an advertisement. See my edit on the original post.. it covers the main idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 05:46 PM
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Huh, I had no idea. Well, I amended my original post to include a summary. Thanks for letting me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 05:46 PM
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Hmm... rhere SHOULD be an X you can click in the upper right of the pop-up. But, I've never accessed the site on my phone before. Sorry, I'm not more help. >.<
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 05:11 PM
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You don't need an account.. the pop-up is just an advertisement. Disclaimer: The link is to a summary I wrote on another forum. It's not my idea, originally.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 04:51 PM
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What TRP gets wrong: Screening women for dating / LTR's. They focus on things that don't really matter and ignore things that do. 90% of their process is figuring out how much sex a girl has had prior to dating. That's dumb. You are going to screen out girls with high sexual standards (i.e. the ones with the high self-esteems, that are also good in bed). These women have quality problems.. they tend to have to sleep with many men until they find the one with the required bedroom skills. Furtherm…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 04:02 PM
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The pick-up community has always been invested in maintaining healthy relationships. It's the obvious next step and the reason why every PUA forum has a relationship section. There's a big difference between getting a girl and maintaining a relationship with a girl. Getting a girl is easy.. anybody can learn to fake being an alpha male / social robot for a date or two or three. Becoming the guy who can rock a sustainable drama-free relationship, on the other hand, requires most guys to overcome …
/r/TheRedPill29/01/14 03:25 PM
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Unfortunately, it's hard to help somebody who doesn't want to be helped.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/14 03:11 PM
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I disagree.. spinning plates properly takes advanced relationship game. Managing a serious OLTR takes even better game. I know women. My one trp post contribution was so good, that they added it to the sidebar. Just say'n.
/r/askTRP29/01/14 01:25 AM
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As another man in a serious open relationship, I second this.
/r/askTRP28/01/14 08:16 PM
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A few thoughts in no particular order: You are allowed to show your emotions to women who have earned the right to your emotions. If you're girlfriend is doing everything right and making you a happy man, then you should be rewarding that good behavior by giving her praise and attention. That's part of being a leader, acknowledging good work. Being controlling is bad. Insecure guys end up being controlling / spying on their girlfriends because they are afraid that another man will steal their gi…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/14 10:05 PM
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Practice makes perfect.. keep at it. It took me 2 years to really start getting the results I wanted. Plus, once you find that one hot girl who's a keeper.. it makes all the effort 100% worth it. /Oh and then you'll have to spend awhile figuring out relationships.. that's a whole other thing.
/r/askTRP24/01/14 03:02 PM
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No, the pick-up community is pretty much all about "direct game" these days. Plus, negs are probably the most MIS-USED pick-up concept. Mystery used negs to pick-up SUPER MODELS and other extremely high status women. They are over-kill when used with most other girls. Plus, newbies who use negs are typically uncalibrated (or don't understand the core concept) and just come off acting like a dick. Note to Specter: No, negs are not "the same as shit talking with your friends". /sigh
/r/TheRedPill22/01/14 03:21 PM
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Ideally, it's an instructional college course. Much like, "How to build and maintain a personal computer". Instead, it's "How to participate in and maintain a healthy sex life / romantic relationship / etc." Except the classes are crowd sourced, and some of the educational material is hotly debated. You wouldn't say that the computer course is an ideology. TRP isn't either. That's how I think of it, at least.
/r/askTRP21/01/14 06:30 PM
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It's not as black and white as all that. Finding a good partner is more complicated than, "just don't marry a slut". You're way too focused on one potential red flag, when that's all it is.. a red flag. One possible warning to be evaluated along with many potential others.
/r/askTRP17/01/14 06:43 PM
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This answer only slightly annoys me. What the statistic really means is that women with "traditional values" don't get divorces. Unfortunately, many of these women still have bad marriages. The studies do not take that factor into consideration. On that note: female intelligence, geography and age at time of marriage also are big indicators of marriage dissolution. The big takeaway from all this is that monogamous marriage is hard.
/r/askTRP17/01/14 04:02 PM
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Please frame your response in the form of an answer, not more questions. It's still your turn to give an answer to the questions I asked. This is getting ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/14 02:58 PM
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It's part of my thing that conflicts with other parts of my thing. I like that. Sums up the issue nicely! However, I am concerned. Why do you think that pursuing sex will make you a "bad" person?
/r/TheRedPill17/01/14 02:52 PM
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See, you didn't actually answer the question I asked. I asked you if it's wrong to be self interested, not selfish. If you switch the words, your answer doesn't make any sense. If it does no harm to anyone, it's not self interest. See? Then you go on to define selfishness... which, again, has nothing to do with the question I asked. You're just playing games with words. I am disappoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 11:10 PM
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No, that's absurd. First, alpha, in TRP rhetoric, mostly means "attractive to women". One of the goals of TRP is to get men to develop more attractive traits. Second, I'm all for maximizing personal happiness, but not at the expense of others. That would be contradictory.. hurting the people around me would make me unhappy. My turn: Do you believe it is wrong to put self interest above the interests of others, if it does no harm? Furthermore, in what ways do you believe TRP harms people?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 08:06 PM
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So your trolling a debate forum? This is a place for debate. How can I debate somebody who's basically called me a self-serving liar (i.e. a narcissist) and admitted that his post is really just to warn off TRP potentials? I think we're done here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 06:44 PM
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From the comments, it sounds like you've already made up your mind. That's fine. Don't do things that wont make you happy. Instead, figure out what WILL make you happy and do that. Personally, affection and sex make me happy. Therefore, I pursue women and develop long-term relationships with them.. so that I can have a lot of the things that make me happy. Again, that's my thing. It doesn't have to be your thing.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/14 06:04 PM
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Not being forthcoming about personal information on the internet is different from not being honest. Furthermore, if you've already concluded I'm a narcissist, then you'll just as easily assume any answer I give is a lie. Therefore, asking for my personal information is inappropriate. Now, to counter your claim. TRP functions first and foremost as a support group for beta males. Many people post their stories and ask for help (just spend some time reading r/askTRP for examples). Furthermore, oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 05:25 PM
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I find your questions to be off topic and entirely inappropriate. This is not an AMA. Note: You are making assumptions about my red/blue pill alignment because I showed up in this thread to question a dubious argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 05:08 PM
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Your comment is both confusing AND off-topic. First, we aren't talking about the pick-up community. We are talking about TRP. TRP has roots in the pick-up community, but it is an entirely different animal. Also, what does volunteering at a homeless shelter have to do with bettering yourself? Wouldn't that be bettering your society? tl;dr - your comment was bad and you should feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 05:05 PM
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TRP knowledge has helped me bring MORE women into my life, which has made me a happier person. I've read the same things you have, but reached an entirely different conclusion. Women can be awesome if you are a man that they can respect. If you fuck things up and lose that respect, women can be absolutely evil towards you. Ultimately, we are all here to learn how to not fuck things up. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/14 04:46 PM
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Okay.. so.. you're just wrong then? TRP came out of the marriage between Mens' Rights groups and the pick-up community. However, it functions as more of a support group. Narcissists don't gather together in forums to better themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/14 04:20 PM
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I think you handled it just fine. She cancalled, but she communicated with you, rescheduled for a specific time, and she had a plausible excuse. That's good and it's not how flaky girls typically flake on guys. I probably would have responded with, "Sure, no problem.. see you on Friday" and left it at that. It sub-communicates that I have other options and that her cancelling didn't ruin my night. You basically did the same thing. The real mistake you could have made was to get upset that she ca…
/r/askTRP16/01/14 03:21 PM
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First, I have a desire to pay it forward. Many people helped me get to the point I'm at today. If it wasn't for MASF and Sedfast (two pick-up communities I found long before TRP was a thing), I'd still be a dork who was mostly clueless about women. The people in those communities changed my life in the best way possible. Now, I'm not lacking for women, and it makes me happy to share my knowledge. Second, It's lonely at the top. Since I've gotten really good with women, my life has become awesome…
/r/TheRedPill16/01/14 03:13 PM
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That's honestly not typical of BD's writing. Most of his stuff is pretty legit. I'm not sure what's up with this article. Maybe he's writing for a particular audience?
/r/TheRedPill16/01/14 02:52 PM
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It's not cheating if you're honest with the women involved.
/r/askTRP16/01/14 02:48 PM
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Fun fact: there are women who REALLY go for guys with deformities like his (i.e. borderline stalking, as if he was famous). He actively avoids those types of women. Link for the unbelievers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjkB-YFb80I
/r/askTRP14/01/14 05:51 PM
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I have an acquaintance who literally has no arms and legs (i.e. quadruple amputee) who has a bi-sexual wife and a girlfriend. If that guy can pull it off, then I have faith that you can. Good game is greater than any perceived physical defect.
/r/askTRP14/01/14 03:20 PM
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WTF? Most of Taiwan still uses squat toilets (i.e. basically a hole in the ground). You see flush toilets around Taipei, but not really anywhere else. It makes me a tad distrustful of the seriousness and accuracy of this article. Just say'n.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 08:22 PM
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My SO knows of my TRP postings.. and about my history in the pick-up community. However, she's awesome and intuitively comprehends pick-up, TRP philosophies. However, I've ingrained many alpha traits over several years and we are in a serious, long-term open relationship. She very much appreciates my alpha qualities and does not care how I developed them. That being said, I don't generally discuss it with other men.. unless they ask.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/14 05:50 PM
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You're making the assumption that women will see this information and react with rational manipulation. For the majority of women, female manipulation is something ingrained in their biological coding.. it's not something that's rational. Your are making a classic male mistake: assuming that women think and react like men. Further reading (because other people always say it better): http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?3223-Good-Relationship-in-deep-shit&p=28100#post28100 Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP13/01/14 05:43 PM
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Best thing I've ever read on making friends: http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?4964-Tubarao-on-Building-friendships Hope it helps!
/r/askTRP13/01/14 05:15 PM
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Ha, I live in Chicago.. I know MANY polish women. I believe it is the city with the most polish people outside of Poland. To add to that, Chicago has women from all over the world. Some women are great and some are not, regardless of nationality. It's stupid to think that traveling will solve all your problems when it comes to women. Improve yourself, get out of the house, meet women and you'll find what you're looking for. Just put in the effort and don't settle for a crazy girl just because sh…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/14 11:10 PM
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One man's perspective: I think it's bullshit. A woman is a woman is a woman. You can find good women in the US, you just have to be able to spot them in the wild (a skill many men lack). You can also find bad women abroad (and if you can't spot bad women in the US, then you definitely wont be able to spot them in a foreign culture). Foreign women have their own sets of issues. Yes, they have DIFFERENT issues than women in the west, but they can be just as bad. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/14 08:01 PM
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Don't be too hard on yourself. It takes some practice to really internalize this stuff properly. It's good that you are seeking feedback from the community.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/14 03:18 PM
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No offense, but it's silly crap like this that makes it so I can't take Heartiste seriously.
/r/askTRP09/01/14 03:05 PM
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Guys might also want to check out /r/puapolyamory. It's a pretty new sub with a lot of "advanced red pill" (i.e. discussion of alpha male long-term relationships) links.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 06:37 PM
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Daily mail = Daily fail. I don't trust that news source.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 04:50 PM
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Cheating? Yeah, I did that once. It sucked. The relationship ended. It made me realize that I'm really not cut out for monogamy. After that, I made the decision to have strictly "open and honest" relationships. Best decision I ever made.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/14 09:43 PM
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Just call her an hour before the date (don't text). If she doesn't pick up or call you back, then it's a pretty good indicator that the dates off. If she picks up, then you're golden. Say hi and ask if noon still works for her. It's not even an awkward question. Nobody wants to waist their time waiting for somebody who's not going to show up. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP30/12/13 07:48 PM
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This is the wrong subreddit for this post. All TRP is trying to do is instruct guys into having relationships they can be happy with. The focus is on self-improvement and the reality of social/relationship dynamics. You sound like you are just attempting to pick a fight. tl;dr - You should repost this to r/purplepilldebate.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/13 03:59 PM
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First, I started learning game back in 2007. I was not very good with women before then. I'm 31 years old and I'll be 32 in March. I live with girlfriend #1 in a medium sized city (150,000). #1 and I have been in an open relationship for the last 3.5 years. On weekdays I'll either stay in with #1 or go out with Girlfriend #2 or #3 (once a week for each, typically). Going out usually means dinner, then sex at one of our places. The girls know about each other. I probably have sex 4 times a week (…
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 08:47 PM
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Frankly, I believe that most people are either naturals or they have to learn this stuff on their own. Teenagers don't typically listen to dating advice given by their parents. Just consider yourself lucky that you DO have this knowledge now. Some people never figure out this stuff. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP11/12/13 09:08 PM
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Stick with the dance classes.. learn blues dancing (it's like sex on the dance floor and great for pick-up). The dancing community is a great way to meet attractive, younger women.
/r/askTRP10/12/13 05:51 PM
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Ha! This reminds me of a russian guy I know who CONSTANTLY talks shit about what girls are wearing. The girls get huffy about it and complain to their friends (i.e. me).. but they secretly love the fact that he pays attention to that stuff and holds them to a high standard. I think you're actions were just fine. It's not really my thing, but it can definitely work well for guys who do this kind of stuff.
/r/askTRP10/12/13 05:48 PM
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I'd like to add to these comments that I think you're just wrong. Op is thinking like a benevolent Alpha. "I feel sorry that you had to put up with a beta loser" (even if he's talking about his old self) is totally secret society.
/r/askTRP10/12/13 05:22 PM
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Yes! I understand exactly how you feel. I even made a point to get back in touch with one of my ex's from years ago, when I was beta (and relationship-impaired). I was a needy asshole when we broke up and I felt really bad about that after I made the transition to Alpha. Now we're good friends (who occasionally have sex).
/r/askTRP10/12/13 03:12 PM
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Fictional TV: Malcolm Reynolds in the show Firefly, Most of the men in Game of Thrones Movies: American Beauty & Fight Club (both stories of beta-->alpha transitions) Note: In TV, you only see alpha males portrayed in Sci-Fi and Fantasy shows, for the most part. Real Life: Hugh Hefner
/r/TheRedPill04/12/13 02:36 PM
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Unfortunately, it's absurdly hard to get somebody to learn game (or, in this case, TRP knowledge) if they don't search it out on their own. You can try, but younger guys just don't take advice when it comes to women. Their brains are being pumped with so many endorphins, that rational thought goes right out the window. The best things you can do is lead by example, be their if they have questions, and point them towards some reading material like The Game or 16 Commandments of Poon. Just my 2 ce…
/r/TheRedPill04/12/13 02:30 PM
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If you want to pull off this lifestyle with as little drama as possible, then you can learn a lot from TRP (at least the stuff they pirated from the pick-up community). Source: I'm a red pill swinger in an open LTR. I wrote a post with a lot of good links on this stuff and they put it on their reddit sidebar: http://redditlog.com/snapshot/23924/29981
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/13 01:58 PM
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Clothes that fit. I also dress nice enough that I wouldn't look out of place if I were to go clubbing (a habit I picked up when I lived in a big city). Most of my outfits are fitted, button down shirts with rolled up sleeves and nice jeans/ dress shoes. Furthermore, I always bring women shopping with me when I go out to buy clothes (or I find a girl who works at the store, flirt with her a bit, and then enlist her help).
/r/askTRP02/12/13 04:05 PM
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Red pill is what you make of it. I'm wired for non-monogamy / polyamory, but many people are not (and that's okay). From a TRP standpoint, I think it's just important that guys understand the pros and cons of both. Unfortunately, many guys don't understand the pitfalls of monogamy. Furthermore, I will never be monogamous, but fully intend to get married and start a family. My primary partner (who's also very red pill) is all good with the situation.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/13 06:00 PM
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Love it! It's a huge turn-on for me. Plus, I'm damn good at it.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/13 04:22 PM
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So you're going to be the one to ask her for monogamy? Is that how you want this to play out? And to do this, you want to hit her with some kind of ultimatum? I have reservations about this game plan. Personally, I'd skip the confrontation, write her off as a good FWB (I.e. I mean, she WAS honest with you), and keep meeting/dating other girls while keeping her in the rotation. After all, you want the girls to be the ones begging you not to sleep with other people, not the other way around. Just …
/r/TheRedPill21/11/13 03:13 PM
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I'm confused. My girlfriend is submissive to me, but very dominant around other women (she's bi-sexual). She's an alpha female; other women defer to her. Even women who enjoy sexually dominating guys, still like Alpha guys. I can also say that I'd allow a girl to sexually dominate me, and that doesn't make me any less of an Alpha male. It's really not so much deference we are going for, as it is respect. Our women need to respect us. Just some misc. thoughts on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/13 08:03 PM
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I'm not saying I'm the reddist of the redpill, but PoF has gotten me laid plenty of times. Here's my profile as an example: http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=19300854 Tips: be funny. don't use "selfies". Use pics that imply some social status (i.e. out with friends, dressed up for an event, etc.)
/r/TheRedPill20/11/13 06:17 PM
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Your version of TRP: "All Women think and act like XYZ" You: "All TRP men think and act like XYZ" What you fail to understand about TRP: When men first find TRP.. they are typically hurt and angry (i.e. recovering beta males). New TRP'ers often misdirect their anger and make very extreme claims about relationships and women. We at TRP try and channel this anger into self-improvement. Then, we also teach these guys to have realistic expectations for future relationships. At the end of the process…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/13 03:24 PM
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No arguments there (about TRP). I agree that they DO get things wrong sometimes. Everybody has their own opinions, and some people like to express those opinions.. as loudly and often as possible. It's true that TRP has a lot of emotional, recovering beta males with odd ideas about relationships. Fortunately, the best, and most often repeated, relationship advice given in /askTRP is stuff that the pick-up community has been mulling over, testing and tinkering with for years. It's usually very go…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/13 03:11 PM
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I'm promoting ACTUAL science. That's the whole point of linking the pop-science summary, it has sources. Those who are interested can follow the sources and go read the research papers. Those who aren't interested, or are lazy, will just have to be content with the pop-science summary. Perhaps you could point to some scientific studies that contradict or refute the claims of this research? That would be more helpful, then dismissing the claim as "pseudoscience".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/13 02:58 PM
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Your questions make no sense to me. Lots of people have positive experiences in all sorts of relationships. I freely admit that certain types of couples can make any type of relationship work.. it depends on the people involved. I'm just interested in what works for MOST couples.. so that we can teach guys skills that will increase their odds of having awesome relationships. From what I've observed, most women ENJOY being in a relationship where strong male leadership is present. I never said Op…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/13 10:24 PM
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You should make a point to browse /askTRP (where people actually respond to guys asking for relationship advice). It's very moderate, mostly sound relationship advice. I think you'd be surprised. Unfortunately, it's the extreme views that get the most attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/13 10:14 PM
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Ummm.. not my argument. The language was taken from the article I posted. Take it up with the PhD (or possibly the author of the article, who was paraphrasing the PhD).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/13 10:09 PM
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Disclaimer: no context, so I'm taking my best guess as to what's going on here. "If you want" typically means "I don't want to be the one making the decisions." It's not really a shit test, but it is communicating something important: be more dominant/decisive.
/r/askTRP19/11/13 02:46 PM
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I never said it was impossible. My relationship will be 4 years next August (non-monogamous though, and soon to be engaged). Also, it wouldn't be much of a relationship without mutual respect and attraction. What else makes your relationship work? If you've got it figured out, then you are exactly the type of person who should be responding to posts in /askTRP (i.e. helping out the guys who DON'T have it figured out yet).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/13 01:34 PM
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No. I think you read me wrong. My point is that it's natural for fhqwhgads to be enjoying a happy and healthy relationship, because at this point her relationship is easier to maintain (due to all happy brain chemicals: endophins, oxytocin, etc.). Her self-reported relationship quality isn't non-data, it's just obvious data. Monogamy becomes difficult once the endorphins stop pumping. Also, managed to find a science summary article, which sites some of the applicable sources you asked for- http:…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 09:06 PM
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Ha, yes! Here's a very simple explanation: http://www.silviamar.com/Documents/love.htm Is that the kind of thing you are looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 08:51 PM
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Well, the oxytocin/endorphins = strong pair bonding behavior has been documented in several studies at this point. It's going to take me a day or so to find a source for the average timeline of the endorphin release time span in human monogamous relationships. It's obviously not exact as there will be degrees of variance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 08:41 PM
2

"Science cannot prove anything because it must begin with unproven assumptions." Science can merely disprove a fact or propose a theory to explain observable data. At best, I'm proposing a theory based on data that I have observed. At worst, it's my opinion, albeit an educated opinion. I agree that not all TRP advice is necessarily great advice. Unfortunately, It's always the most extreme views that get the most attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 07:33 PM
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This just comes down to observation on my part. Again, from having spent several years on pick-up related relationship forums and from personal experience. I'm not even 100% promoting everything that is entailed in traditional gender roles. However, there are lessons to be distilled from the thousands of guys who have come to the forums for help. One of those lessons are that there are over-laps between traditional gender roles and long-term healthy relationships (strong male leadership skills b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 07:05 PM
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Awhile? That actually sounds like you A) either don't know or B) don't want to admit that it's actually less than two years. The fact that you think you are out of the infatuation stage isn't relevant. The endorphins last for 2-2.5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 06:46 PM
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I've been reading and writing about relationships as hobby on the pick-up/relationship forums for years.. since 2007. New guys come in every day with their relationship issues. You know what 90% of them have in common? They all found "that one special girl", the relationship is awesome for a year or two, and then everything went to shit (or they get married, which just pushed out the timeline one more year, kids = 3-4 more years). Furthermore, the girl betaizes them over a long-period of time, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 06:33 PM
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It should say, "A real man knows how to make you happy".. because he knows how to interact with women, is good in bed, and knows how not be a F*#K up, in general. I.E. A real man has good game.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/13 05:13 PM
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How long have you been dating? Are you monogamous? This is relevant information. Monogamous relationships tend to be pretty easy for the first 2 years, thanks to all the endorphins. They are also pretty easy when couples have small children, for the same reason. Nobody is opposed to "good relationships". In fact, that's the whole point of TRP.. teaching guys how to get and keep good relationships. If your boyfriend is having success in this area, then maybe he could help out the guys who don't, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 05:02 PM
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This argument is overkill. Good game still trumps status/power/money. I know this for a fact, because somebody attempted to throw a substantial amount of money at my girlfriend (i.e. girl I was dating, but not monogamously) in order for her to stop seeing me (we're talking "hedge fund manager" type money). The guy offered to take her on an all-expense paid vacation to France.. for a year. She declined, despite the fact that he was a bit younger than me and probably equally as good looking as I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/13 04:50 PM
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Ehhh.. I still always make sure a girl gets hers. When you are really good in bed, then she tells her girlfriends. Just say'n.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/13 06:20 PM
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First, obviously, don't sleep with crazy women. Second, if you do, then pay very close attention to their emotional state. Emotional women do not differentiate between emotional harm and physical harm. In their minds, post-sex emotional harm = non-consensual sex (i.e. rape). On the morning after, pump them with positive emotions, vibes and you can avoid ending up in this guys situation. Just my cents (and based on personal experience).
/r/TheRedPill15/11/13 06:15 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to write this up. I think you have a very accurate, healthy perspective on the situation.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/13 04:41 PM
1

Do you understand the correlation between endorphin-output and relationship-happiness? I'm guessing you're married with small children? We are built for short term monogamy. Our bodies give us incentive to meet somebody and stay with them long enough to see children through infancy. To do this the body releases endorphins when we meet somebody knew. Endorphins are awesome.. they make us feel amazing. However, they stop going full-force after awhile. For most couples it's about 2-3 years, but stu…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 08:55 PM
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Being alpha in this situation is about being an effective leader and about rising above any drama. To a lesser extent, it's about managing your ex's emotions in a positive way (because, when a kid is involved, a women's responses are going to be overwhelmingly emotional). Rise above the drama, but document everything in case you ever have to go to court. If an ex is openly hostile towards you, then always make sure you aren't ever completely alone with her (i.e. bring a witness). If an ex is wil…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 06:34 PM
2

It's misleading to think that if you just find a girl with X, Y, Z qualities, then you'll have a happy, drama-free relationship. It's just not true. Long-term monogamy is hard. Furthermore, it's up to men to be leaders in their relationships and relationships thrive or fail mostly based on the quality of that leadership. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 05:50 PM
1

I'm very red pill, but that argument only holds true in small, conservative communities where everybody knows everybody's business. For the most part, the theory does not hold up to my real world dating experiences. I always felt that newer, still-beta TRP guys used it as an excuse to avoid dealing with their sexual insecurities (i.e. they just avoid dating anyone with more sexual experience than themselves). Despite my extensive dating / relationship history I have not seen any direct correlati…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/13 05:06 PM
2

I agree, to a point. Generalizations and stereotypes are the easiest way to describe a group of people. Where they go wrong is when they are applied to an individual. Furthermore, as globalization becomes more prevalent, the races will intermingle to a point where it wont even matter. Anyway, the point I'm attempting to make is that espousing racial thinking in a social environment isn't going to improve your odds of getting laid. Therefore, racism and TRP don't actually mix very well. EDIT: Als…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/13 04:17 PM
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I don't really see how the element of race plays a role in sexual strategy. If anything, being raciest just limits the number of girls you can have sex with. For that alone, racism should be discouraged. I don't see how somebody Red Pill could make a rational argument that being racist is a good thing. On the flip side, guys who are new to TRP tend to be bitter individuals, who have been badly burned by past relationships. Guys who are bitter and angry tend to lash out at easy targets: women, mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/13 03:16 PM
2

All this tells me is that she wanted attention. Probably, she wanted you to have sex with her. It's typical female behavior.. not even really bad behavior, just annoying. I wouldn't necessarily say you did anything wrong, but it's possible you could have handled it more effectively. If you really thought the behavior was outrageous, then kicking her out of wherever you were was the right thing to do (i.e. depriving her of attention). More likely than not, the best solution was to change her emot…
/r/askTRP07/11/13 04:10 PM
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TRP is actually comprised of a lot of different views (on ALL of these questions). TRP is essentially a collection of observations about guys in healthy, successful relationships. The end goal is to educate guys on what to realistically expect from their interactions with the opposite sex. Society, as a whole, does a very poor job of preparing men for the realities of the dating world (thanks to early indoctrination via religion, Disney, etc.). The political side of TRP is a little bit different…
/r/askTRP03/11/13 04:29 AM
1

Self-examination and change are hard and some people would rather criticize than put in the effort. Unfortunately, the loudest and most extreme voices are the ones that get heard by the masses and make red pill an easy target for criticism. On that note, even most red pill guys don't agree with 100% of the ideas that get tossed around on this subreddit (for example: I have no problem with women who have had a lot of partners).
/r/askTRP01/11/13 09:34 PM
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Polyamorous: I live with one girlfriend and date another. My live-in girlfriend also has a girlfriend. I love being non-monogamous and will never go back to a monogamous relationship. I have zero jealousy issues in my relationships. Also, my live-in girlfriend would be considered "slutty" by red pill standards. However, we've been seriously dating for 3.5 years now and they've easily been the best years of my life. She's a great girlfriend.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/13 09:20 PM
9

Posted this once in a similar thread, but: "I don't keep count. I thought only frat guys / bros did that so they could brag to their friends."
/r/askTRP01/11/13 03:07 PM
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When TRP discussion starts to get political, then you see the "adversary" stuff being bandied about. In discussions about actual relationships, I think the leader/follower dynamic is what you see talked about the most. Yes, part of that is dealing with conflict and bad behavior coming from your SO. However, on the whole, the discussion is mostly about effective conflict resolution and the SO is not labelled an enemy. I think the guy you quoted above has a more unique viewpoint.. either that or h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/13 02:10 PM
1

Trololololol
/r/TheRedPill31/10/13 02:18 PM
1

Hey, I can dance, but I don't dance at clubs if I can avoid it. I never get anywhere with girls on the dance floor. Oh, and dancing WITH GIRLS in a club usually just means standing there so she has somebody to grind against. It's not actual dancing (unless you're at a salsa club). Just say'n. If you want to learn how to really dance, start with East Coast Swing lessons. It's like training wheels for real dancing.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/13 02:47 AM
2

It's lonely at the top.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/13 02:39 PM
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Ehhh.. some guys DO actually find submission to be super kinky and fun. I don't think it's quite the same as being a clueless beta. Beta guys tend to want to be Alphas. Sexually submissive guys tend to be happy being sexually submissive guys. Whether or not this is a red pill territory hinges on a "nature vs. nurture" argument. EDIT: Sexual submission is a kink. I don't really think it's TRP's place to tell people which kinks are "okay" and which aren't. Sure, it limits guys to a certain type of…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/13 02:12 PM
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Oh, ha! Sorry, here's the link: http://redditlog.com/snapshot/23924/29981
/r/TheRedPill29/10/13 08:10 PM
1

I'm glad I could be of assistance. They actually added a lot of my pick-up related links to the side-bar. Scroll down to "READ UP ON GAME". Then click on "More Resources".
/r/TheRedPill29/10/13 07:19 PM
2

Does she treat you well? Is she fun to be around? Posted previously, but here's a link to my thoughts on screening women.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/13 06:55 PM
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Realistically, both feminism and TRP have the same problem: the loudest and most extreme viewpoints tend to get the most attention. It is great that you have naturally been able to figure out healthy male/female interactions. Unfortunately, not every guy is so lucky. On the bright side, men tend to process social dynamics in a very logical manner. If it can be explained, then men can learn it. Therefore, we get together here, share stories and compare notes in order to foster a better understand…
/r/askTRP29/10/13 06:35 PM
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I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you aren't just trolling. "The Blue Pill" subreddit is mainly satire, by their own admission. The red pill (TRP) is not. The reason for TRP: Our society sucks at educating men about the realities of male / female interaction. The reality of the situation is so counter to what we are spoon fed at an early age (disney movies, religion) that it's almost taboo for men to give other men advice in a real life setting. The end result is a l…
/r/askTRP29/10/13 04:32 PM
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Not me, but here's an interesting perspective from somebody else who's very red pill. He advocates finding/going to a therapist when the relationship is doing really well. Not my cup of tea, but it's a really well written post about relationship management.
/r/TheRedPill28/10/13 07:46 PM
1

Women thrive on attention. The best way to correct bad behavior is to withhold your attention for a period of time. In pick-up, it's commonly referred to as a "soft next". You just cut all contact for a couple days. Further reading: http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html
/r/TheRedPill28/10/13 03:23 PM
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"TRP Theory" is just a collection of observations about how to interact with women in a healthy manner. It's basically us guys coming together to share experiences and learn from each other. Unfortunately, most guys grow up with a lot of unrealistic expectations regarding women, due to Disney, religion, etc. As to your second question: respect the people who earn your respect. Women shouldn't get your respect just for having a vagina, that just leads to women developing an entitlement complex. Y…
/r/TheRedPill26/10/13 02:56 PM
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Here's a link to a funny post about translating the crap girl's write in their online profiles. Reposted for laughs and great justice.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/13 03:38 PM
3

I dance East Coast Swing and Blues. I also dance Lindy-Hop, although poorly. It's a great scene to get into. I could also see it helping with insecurities, once you get over the initial learning phase. You get to meet a ton of people, dance with a lot of cute girls, and your dancing skills (and confidence) will definitely improve with practice. Just be sure to start with a style of dance that has a dance scene in your area. Salsa is a pretty safe bet.
/r/TheRedPill24/10/13 07:37 PM
1

They seem to be working for me as of right now. Granted there's always a chance that the fastseduction archive will be out at any given time. That website goes up and down like a yo-yo.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/13 12:58 PM
2

Hey, I actually really like that suggestion. Taking a girl shooting would probably be a really excellent date. Along those lines, I have a friend who makes his own hard alcohol as a hobby (mostly mixing and infusing). Apparently, it's fairly easy to do and you can make some dangerously tasty spirits. Many of his dates end with the girl coming back to his place to try his "honey and maple-infused bourbon", etc.
/r/askTRP21/10/13 06:47 PM
2

Thanks! The majority of the post is a summary of other people's writing, but most of the red flags I listed are straight from my own personal experience. Furthermore, it's one of the few posts I've written that I'm really proud of. I'm glad you liked it.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 05:01 PM
8

Googled it: A free e-book I haven't read before. Well, there goes the rest of my morning. Link for the lazy.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 02:54 PM
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I agree about /r/seduction. If you search for all-time top posts, then there's some good stuff. However, on the whole, I'm not a fan. Unfortunately, navigating the old fastseduction archive can be cumbersome and good posts are hard to find if you don't know what you're looking for. On that note, here's a "best of fastseduction" list that somebody else made, for those people who read this thread and want more. Sedfast.com isn't too bad either, IMO. A lot of the old MASF posters went there after f…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 02:29 PM
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Social dancing: Swing, Blues, Salsa, etc. Pros: Meet a ton of attractive women, allows you to demonstrate mastery (i.e. good dancers get laid), and it's good exercise. EDIT: Also, social dancing reinforces traditional gender roles. The male leads, and the female follows.
/r/askTRP20/10/13 09:50 PM
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I plan to have enough children to populate a small town.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/13 08:57 PM
1

Engaged. Open relationship.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/13 03:42 PM
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http://xkcd.com/386/ Because, and maybe I am reading into this in the wrong way, you are telling me that having multiple sex partners is psychologically damaging. First, it's insulting, as I have had many sex partners. Second, I have seen no evidence of that in my relationships with sexually adventurous women. Third, your statement, if true, would give women an incentive NOT TO HAVE SEX WITH ME. Therefore, my default is to be very, very skeptical of your claim. Now, if you can show me evidence t…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/13 10:28 PM
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Bullshit. Lets see some sources. EDIT: Guys, this isn't a damn cult. SCIENCE, or GTFO. I can't believe I'm getting downvotes for this. EDIT2: Doesn't matter, had sex. Keep the downvotes coming.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/13 10:15 PM
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I don't know about you guys, but I could use more "shameless sluts" in my life. I don't really see the problem here. /spinning plates FTW
/r/TheRedPill17/10/13 08:36 PM
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I'll be going back to where I came from: Sedfast.com (IMO, the best of the pick-up community forums).
/r/TheRedPill17/10/13 07:18 PM
1

Okay, maybe you guys can help me. When I downloaded this app a couple days ago, I got matches that ended up being hundreds of miles away from me (despite my distance limit). Is this just me? Are these bots? To test it, I set my distance thing to 1 mile. I don't live in a huge city, so I probably should have had 0 options. However, it just just kept listing people. Before I rated them, the app said they were within a mile. When I got a match, the distance changed. I deleted the app. I just don't …
/r/TheRedPill16/10/13 08:17 PM
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This sub is a good area for Red Pillers to critically discuss red pill ideology. Not all red pillers agree with all the ideas brandied about in the red pill forum. I think Red Pill, on the whole, is a force for good, but there are certain ideas espoused that I vehemently disagree with (i.e. slut shaming). In short, I enjoy the purple pill sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/13 01:56 PM
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Negs were developed by Mystery to hit on high status women like models and celebrities (i.e. 10s with lots of orbiters). I don't use them and I think most guys learning pick-up should avoid them. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP11/10/13 02:01 PM
1

This book (free on Scribd): http://www.scribd.com/doc/37606434/Franco-Joseph-W-South-David-Clare-Practical-Female-Psychology-for-the-Practical-Man
/r/TheRedPill10/10/13 11:15 PM
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I 100% agree with you. Unfortunately, TRP is a beta male support group. I am coming to terms with the fact that our viewpoint will always be unpopular here. I'm as red pill as they come, but I still believe slut-shaming is just an excuse guys use to avoid confronting their sexual insecurities.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/13 02:56 PM
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Reminds me of one time I had opened up two girls at a house part. The first girl was chatting with me cheerfully, while the second girl only spoke to insert a few questions in the conversation. Her questions were: What car do you drive? Where do you work? Where do you live? The second girl was a ho.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/13 02:11 PM
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Ewww.. stopped reading at the beginning of the second paragraph. Pick-up artists believe that all women are the same: The author is clueless. Articles like this make me rage.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/13 07:57 PM
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tl;dr (or close enough) - some people don't want to change their beliefs to conform with new facts because it's mentally exhausting and might alienate them from their current peer group. You know what? That's fine. Self improvement takes effort. TRP isn't for everybody, just the people who want to put in the effort to change for the better.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/13 05:17 PM
2

I think you are confusing "alpha" with "dominant".
/r/TheRedPill03/10/13 04:55 PM
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"Alpha" and "Beta" are just convenient terms we use to define sets of behavior. We are just attempting to distill the qualities that the majority of women find attractive / unattractive. tl;dr Op is missing the forest because he's too busy staring at trees.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/13 04:48 PM
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But men do and should view sluts as low quality. See, that's shitty advice to give to guys who are trying to better their interactions with the opposite sex. Slut shaming is just an easy way for guys to avoid dealing with feelings of sexual inadequacy. Instead of helping guys build sexual confidence and work through their feelings of inadequacy, guys like you avoid the issue altogether by counseling men to avoid dating girls who are more sexually experienced (i.e. "sluts"). Plus, did I mention t…
/r/TheRedPill03/10/13 02:43 PM
2

Slut shaming is for pussies. It's a tactic women use against other women to keep them from giving away sex (thus helping to increase their value in the sexual marketplace, by creating scarcity). It's bad for men. Per wikipedia, "Slut shaming is a concept in feminist philosophy. It is a neologism used to describe the act of making a woman feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviors or desires that deviate from traditional or orthodox gender expectations, or that which may be considered t…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 10:50 PM
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As I said, I like "freaks, ho's and good girls" theory. The main idea is that different types of girls want different things from their relationships. Most girls fall easily into one of these three categories. For our purposes in this thread, Op should be trying to figure out if this girl is a "good girl". Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them g…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 07:07 PM
2

Ummm.. no shit. At no point did you disagree with anything I said. I maintain that there are better indicators of long-term marital satisfaction than number of partners. We should examine those. I generally ascribe to "Freaks, Ho's and Good girls" theory. It has served me well.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 04:49 PM
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"Alpha" and "Beta" are just convenient terms we use to define sets of behavior. We are just attempting to distill the qualities that the majority of women find attractive / unattractive. EDIT: Why do I get downvotes for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/13 04:33 PM
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Slut-shaming in society CONDITIONS women to lie to men about their sexual history. It's why I dislike TRP's focus on numbers, rather than all "red-flag" behavior. Real question: How does she treat you? Does she exhibit attention seeking behavior? Does she go out of her way to do nice things for you? Also, I'm sending you something to read. EDIT: Downvote all you want. I give no fucks.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 03:13 PM
2

This is one of those areas where you are going to get a lot of contradictory advice. My personal feelings are that if you are VERY witty, then you can have some fun conversations with girls. However, I'm skeptical about whether or not this actually leads to more dates. I like to keep my online conversations fairly short. By the second message, I'm usually inviting girls to meet me somewhere. I'd rather flirt, get to know girls face to face.
/r/askTRP02/10/13 02:54 PM
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"I don't keep count. I thought only frat guys / bros did that so they could brag to their friends."
/r/TheRedPill02/10/13 05:17 AM
1

EEP, many apologies. Editorial laziness on my part. Should have used s/he (as I was not aware of your gender one way or the other).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 07:16 PM
1

Perhaps you can help me amend my claim to be more technically accurate? We are getting bogged down in semantics and its possible I'm not using the correct terminology. My claim is that there exists scientific evidence that implies that female competitiveness is different than male competitiveness, and that the difference has roots in how we evolved as a race. Perhaps this is the study of evolutionary psychology and not biology? I think the studies I linked support my claim (especially that last …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 07:12 PM
1

The focus of the study was evolutionary biology, not evolutionary psychology. Wikipedia: "Evolutionary biology is a sub-field of biology concerned with the study of the evolutionary processes that produced the diversity of life on Earth." evolutionary biology = biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 04:24 PM
1

You are correct. Back to the googles... Here's another one: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20636474 Female competition and its evolutionary consequences in mammals. "We report that female competition is associated with many diverse adaptations, from overtly aggressive behaviour, weaponry, and conspicuous sexual signals to subtle and often complex social behaviour involving olfactory signalling, alliance formation, altruism and spite, and even cases where individuals appear to inhibit their o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 03:30 PM
1

It doesn't, it relates to a comment that Morph made about how he hadn't seen any scientific evidence that suggested female competitiveness had biological roots.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 03:11 PM
1

Again, for like the third time in this thread, I'm not making any claims about movies. I've made a hypothesis that explains the data. I'm not attempting to prove the hypothesis. That would be a bit outside of my scope. I linked the articles to show that scientific evidence existed (the only claim I've made) that female competition has biological roots. Sure, the scientific evidence might be weak, but it exists. That's all I was going for. I'm sure I could find more studies, but, frankly, I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 02:43 PM
1

I just stated a hypothesis that explains the data. I don't need, nor want, to prove the hypothesis. That's beyond my means. Again, the articles were just to show Morph that scientific evidence existed (the only claim I've made).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 02:26 PM
5

The older you get (and more women you sleep with), the less you care about a girls "number". The real issue here is the STD. Everybody has a risk tolerance. If her STD (probably HSV-II or HPV?) is a deal breaker for you, then you have every right to not want to get involved with this girl. Having said that, you do not owe this girl an answer. In fact, it's probably kinder to just stop talking to her. Or be honest and just tell her your insecure about the number of guys she's been with. Don't bri…
/r/askTRP01/10/13 01:52 AM
1

Hrmm.. It's true that Alpha's naturally tend to instill some dread in their SO's, because their SO's understand that their guy has options. However, I'd be very careful about faking behavior in a relationship (unlike in pick-up, where we tend to have a "fake it till you make it" attitude). It'd be very hard to pull off while remaining congruent with who you are. Guys trying this have a very good chance of just coming off as weird. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/13 12:01 AM
1

This whole conversation thread is fairly off-topic. It's not so much that I'm not good at research, it's just that finding the source documents was overkill. The articles show that scientific evidence exists, which is the only point I was attempting to make. Anyway, it took me a further 60 seconds to use the articles to find the source documents, which I link further down in the thread (because people are lazy and can't work the google for themselves).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/13 11:43 PM
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Fine, I will work the google for you: One: https://app.box.com/s/rdthllpbpfuk0g2lqtdt Two: http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138%2813%2900073-1/abstract
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/13 07:53 PM
1

Okay, did you read the articles? Well enough to summarize the main point of the articles? Did you look up the studies they mentioned? If you did, then please explain how they do not support my claim that their exists scientific evidence that female competitiveness is biological (i.e. the only claim I've made in this discussion). EDIT: Here are the full studies: One: https://app.box.com/s/rdthllpbpfuk0g2lqtdt Two: http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138%2813%2900073-1/abstract
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/13 07:50 PM
1

I spent about 30 seconds finding the articles. They both discuss scientific papers. Go and read the source materials if you are interested. Both articles (and their source material) support the hypothesis that female competitiveness is biological (and different than male competitiveness).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/13 07:34 PM
1

I'm sure there are many ways you could test this. If you wanted to get elaborate you could take a movie with no gender elements and then create two versions of it: One with a male lead and one with a female lead. Then show both movies to groups of women and have them rate the movies in several different ways. According to my theory, the women would enjoy the movie more with a male lead, despite the fact that it adds nothing to the story. So yeah, that's one idea off the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/13 07:22 PM
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Hypothesis: Women are too competitive with each other to really enjoy seeing movies about other women, unless it's a movie with an attractive male lead. Therefore, movies about women do not do well in theaters (and producers are less likely to agree to fund their production).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/13 06:15 PM
5

On the whole, TRP doesn't typically advocate getting married. However, I realize that most people just aren't going to take that advice due to societal pressures. Here's how I did it. During the first year of my relationship, I actually told my girlfriend that I wouldn't even consider getting married until we had been dating at least 4 years. I had some other expectations as well, which I disclosed very early on (prenup., etc). By the time the year 3 rolled around (last August), marriage was ass…
/r/askTRP30/09/13 02:38 PM
2

Aaron Sleazy's Minimal Game covers the basics extremely well. It's only $12 on Amazon. If you don't want to pay money, then here's a decent place to start: http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/ (It's classic material, but some of this stuff is a bit dated. I'd recommend ignoring the sections on "patterns" and "negs"). EDIT: THIS POST ALSO LINKS TO GREAT READING (AND DOUBLES AS A NEWBIE GUIDE): http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?874-Best-seduction-posts-from-the-old-forum-Doubles-as-a-seduction…
/r/askTRP30/09/13 02:26 PM
2

I think it's important to note that "negging" was a tactic developed to get very high value women (models, celebrities etc) to let their guard down. In my opinion, it is an advanced level tactic, as it is often misused by newer guys.
/r/askTRP27/09/13 04:21 PM
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Well as a (mostly) red-piller, I have no idea. I'm guessing that the real answer is some combination of biological and societal. I'm not sure how this distinction is relevant to the mission of TRP. As men, would we change our actions in any way if we discovered that attraction is entirely societal, rather than biological? I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/13 03:29 PM
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I don't see how this is in any way relevant to the purple pill subreddit. I think this is probably a better question for the ELI5 reddit. Just say'n.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/13 02:50 PM
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Yes, but she is more often disappointed by the sex she finds. Conclusion: both sexes have issues finding suitable partners. Men have a quantity issue while women have a quality issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/13 08:31 PM
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Poly-guy perspective: my girlfriend has done a lot of casual dating in our 3+ year relationship. It's easier for her to find sex, but much harder for her to find good sex. For women like her (i.e. more submissive), men control how good the sex is and the majority of guys aren't that good at it. For me, on the other hand, it is harder for me to find sex partners, but the sex is nearly always good when I find them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/13 03:14 PM
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Thank you for your response. I understand that TRP is amoral. I'm an atheist, so morals play no part in my assessment. There are better screening methods than number of partners. However, that's the only one I see TRP mentioning. The reason I dislike this method is because it gives women 1) a strong incentive to lie to men and 2) an incentive to pass over honest "good guys" in favor of discreet "bad boys". The net effect is less sex (for nice guys) and less honest communication. Also, (see link …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/13 07:17 PM
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The reason for TRP: Our society sucks at educating men about the realities of male / female interaction. The reality of the situation is so counter to what we are spoon fed at an early age (disney movies, religion) that it's almost taboo for men to give other men advice in a real life setting. The end result is a lot of disillusioned and unhappy guys. TRP is a support group for guys who have been burned by their unrealistic expectations. The end goal of TRP is to reeducate guys and teach them ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/13 03:13 PM
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Female attraction changes depending on where they are on their cycle (which makes this assessment difficult). Also, guy A needs a tan for this to be a fair. Also, you should pick two participants who are the same age. Guy A looks younger (to me, at least). Older guys and tan guys are generally more attractive to women so I'm going to go 65 / 35 in favor of the muscular guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/13 02:28 PM
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Google James Deen (male porn star). Girls freak'n love that guy and he is fairly skinny. So yeah, I agree that muscles just aren't necessary. I'm Red(ish) Pill and I've always been fairly lean. It has not hindered my pursuit of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/13 01:56 PM
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"Sluts are not attractive to us" WTF, man? How is this healthy? Espousing this viewpoint isn't going to help men get better with women. It just gives men a justification to hold on to their petty insecurities and jealousy. Instead of addressing their feelings of inadequacy and overcoming them, guys just avoid the situation by not dating any girl who's more sexually experienced than them (i.e. a slut). Are you arguing that slut-shaming isn't misogynistic? It's a blatant double standard directed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/13 04:15 PM
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This touches on the point I was originally intending to make. The pick-up community generally has a better, more comprehensive analysis of women's behavior than TRP. TRP holds women accountable for bad behavior in relationships, but also punishes women for being sexually adventurous when they are single. Slut shaming is just an expression of male insecurity and misdirected anger. I also find the TRP talking points about SMV (sexual market value) to be utterly absurd (i.e. the result of bad analy…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/13 03:44 PM
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The pick-community online forums (sedfast, pick-up-artist-forum, simplepickup, etc.) will give you the same SOLID advice on lifestyle and relationship dynamics, without the misdirection of anger towards women. TRP is a beta-male support group. Alpha guy (women-friendly, sex positive) attitudes are often down-voted on their forums. That's a problem because the alpha lifestyle/attitude is the eventual goal. The bottom line is that it's easy to blame other people (i.e. women) for our problems. Howe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/13 03:04 PM
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I'm mostly a red-piller (I'm very involved in the pick-up online community). However, I don't devalue women based on how many people they've slept with. This view just reeks of insecurities to me. Also, I also don't think game should be amoral. "Leave them better than you found them" is one of the main tenants of the pick-up community. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/13 04:34 PM
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I'm 31, I'm non-monogamous and I've had 50+ partners. This has not effected my sexual market value in the least. If a women asks how many partners I've had, then I honestly tell her that I don't keep count. That's the end of the discussion. If anything, the fact that I'm sexually experienced has dramatically increased my SMV. I also think women who have had a lot of partners are great! I like my women to be sexually adventurous. Slut-shaming is bad for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/13 04:20 PM
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Not the point. IMO, slut shaming is an unhealthy attitude that derives from insecurities of other men. It creates a double standard, provides an incentive for women to lie to men, and leads to less decent guys getting laid. Unfortunately, if I were to espouse my views on slut-shaming on the TRP forums, then I would be downvoted out of the thread. It makes me view r/trp as just a beta male support group.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/13 02:29 PM
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Guy here. Honestly, I don't post in either of those places anymore either. /trp because of all the slut-shaming and /seduction because of all the "nice guy" white knights. Those reddits are like beta-male support groups. Opinions of alpha's are not particularly welcome. I'd suggest sticking to pick-up community forums if you really want to help guys get better with women. Just my 2 cents.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/13 02:12 PM
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I wouldn't actually consider myself to be "blue pill". I'm a fairly avid contributor to the pick-community, so I think that puts more more in the red camp. However, i find the whole red pill slut-shaming thing to be incredibly immature. IMO, slut shaming derives from a hatred of other men. It got to the point where I had to unsubscribe myself from the reddit and disassociate myself with the movement. tl;dr - I'm a red pill guy who disagrees with some of the core themes of the movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/13 08:54 PM
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Edited original post. I'm not a huge fan of marriage either. However, I still stand by the fact that they are good candidates for long-term relationships.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/13 09:12 PM
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Lying and cheating are more headache then they are worth. Eventually, everybody gets caught. Also, I think it's way more Alpha to just own it and be the "honest asshole". Personally, I went non-monogamous / poly and never looked back. I'm WAY happier now in my "open and honest" poly relationships, than I ever was in a monogamous relationship. Just my 2 cents.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 10:48 PM
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Repost: How to screen women & red flags to look out for: Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because they make it fairly easy for the guy. Freaks - Girls who are happy in relationships when they receive attention and strong emotiona…
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