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Hey man, first off, props for putting yourself out there and actually analyzing what’s going wrong. Most guys just complain and never improve. You’re already ahead. The main issue I’m seeing is hesitation. Girls give you signals cuddling, touching, even wearing sexy underwear but you don’t escalate confidently. Women want a guy who takes the lead, not one who overthinks. If you’re in bed with a girl and she’s not pulling away, she’s open to more. Don’t talk about kissing, just do it. Yeah it can…
/r/seduction21/05/25 05:03 AM
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This is fantastic advice. I think the only thing I would include is the 5 second rule and just go. You’re not going to be able to cultivate this on your first time approaching someone but it’s important to learn along the way. The knowledge (which is spot on by the way) was clearly cultivated from a vast amount of experience. So don’t fear rejection. Welcome it. It’s a friend and teacher. Not an end. A lot of becoming an expert like above will entail that you will fail A LOT. but… if you pay att…
/r/seduction07/04/25 06:05 PM
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I’ve actually got a lot of thoughts on this because I’ve been there, and I think I’ve figured out some stuff that helped a lot. First off, it’s probably not just one thing you’re doing wrong. In my experience, it’s a mix of timing, tone, energy, and how you frame the interaction. The biggest mindset shift for me was realizing that the point of texting isn’t to keep someone engaged forever. It’s to get them off the app or out of your phone and into real life. That sounds obvious, but it affects e…
/r/seduction28/03/25 02:51 AM
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You’re not doing anything wrong by being upfront. Honesty and consent are important. But from what you wrote, it sounds like you might be approaching this whole thing a little too transactionally. Like, we both said we want casual sex, so why isn’t it happening now? Here’s the thing: attraction doesn’t unfold like a contract negotiation. Even when both people are openly down for something casual, there’s still an emotional rhythm and tension that needs to be built and moved through. What you’re …
/r/seduction26/03/25 09:32 AM
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It’s not really my style. The inflections and assumptions in text are wildly misinterpreted and I still think for the most part people text their way right out of sex. I certainly have. It’s easy to. That said. Matching and mirroring isn’t bad. Just a good skill to learn in general. I think emojis are dumb as fuck and not attractive….But, leaving voice memos has worked really well for me. Seems to do the trick. Do you ever notice that there are whole businesses set up to get women off with men w…
/r/seduction21/03/25 10:26 PM
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People really don’t read. It’s alright. I should’ve TL;DR’d. I didn’t say he couldn’t get girls at the gym. In fact I told him exactly what to do next. The thing people miss is women don’t want to be approached by someone they DON’T find attractive or someone who CAN’T read their interest and move on if it’s not there…. They absolutely WANT to be approached by someone who they find attractive or at the very least can READ how they react and respond to it in a strong centered way. Seduction is ab…
/r/seduction18/03/25 09:07 PM
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I could be mistaken but it seems like you’re just misunderstanding the roles and responsibilities of this. I would say women at the gym don’t like to be approached or hit on by someone they don’t find attractive or by someone who can’t take a hint and leave them be or back off so they can work out and not feel unsafe in a place they want to be an escape. Your role should be less trying to get people to like you and more putting your best (most confident self) forward and seeing how people (espec…
/r/seduction18/03/25 07:09 PM
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Also most cheating problems stem from the same problems. If you want to know that problem and how to deal with it, Esther Perel covers It really well in her book “mating in captivity” if you figure that out, don’t be complacent, and they’re a vetted and relationship material person, they won’t cheat.
/r/seduction14/03/25 03:33 PM
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Your role at the beginning of a relationship even flings and affairs is to open up the person emotionally, create and lead fun opportunities for intimacy to happen, and rock their world physically and sexually. Very few people do all three and fewer still do them consistently. Complacency is the biggest pandemic. But… if you’re looking for long term, you should also be vetting people properly. 9 times out of 10 if she’s cheating on him, she’ll cheat on you too. Pay attention to how she deals wit…
/r/seduction14/03/25 03:30 PM
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Yeah you’re right. Definitely could have been kinda a move to define and lead the relationship. It’s hard to say completely without being there. A couple things popped out to me after reading it again. The part where you said you were giving long lingering silences and allowing her to talk and you were talking maybe 5 percent while she effectively was arguing for or against being with you. That still reads to me like she’s reaching out to be opened by you and you’re not getting it. I used to do …
/r/seduction14/03/25 05:26 AM
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This man is correct. Came here to say the same. Your attention to detail and marking where you think things might be in terms of attraction may seem covert to you, but women tend to be very sensitive to any possessive or restrictive energy. It also takes them a lot longer in my experience to decide they want you as an exclusive partner. Like usually around 7 weeks of dating and very tight game. “Friends that fuck” seemed to be a bit of a test. Doesn’t look like you passed. Also her hesitance and…
/r/seduction14/03/25 04:13 AM
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First off. Kudos to you. Regardless of if you’re gay or a woman. Everyone should learn approach and do it often. It’s part of human connections and really important as a skill. And it’s learnable. By anyone. I’m sorry your recent approach was a burn. Take it as a gift that you didn’t get further involved with that and move on if you can. I think approaching gets over complicated. In my experience people are pretty curious and accepting if they are approached respectfully by someone who reads hin…
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:43 AM
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Best advice I can give is: Communicate in such a way that it’s their loss if they don’t respond. It’s a bit like advertising in that you want to make an offer so specific and enticing that the potential customer would feel stupid for not taking the opportunity. If they want to text you haven’t built up enough rapport/interest so they are curious enough yet feel safe to meet you in person. Women are looking for strength and security and status. One way or another. It’s best if you cultivate these…
/r/seduction23/02/25 08:16 PM
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In my experience. The thing I'm looking for is more rare. Also it's tough because I realize that if I want it, it's my responsibility to cultivate it in my life. hard to realize, harder still to commit to and make that happen. Some decent advice for women looking to boost their attractive power is: Focus on being Fit, Fun, and Feminine. But I would add the addendum of "Fitting". to that list. I want a woman who is those things. Fun to be around, confident and secure in her femininity (appreciati…
/r/seduction10/02/25 04:01 PM
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The best thing you can do is start to understand what it’s like for them. If you have a friend whose. A girl ask to look at her tinder. It immediately will change your perspective about online dating. When someone compliments you especially in a way that is generic (and seemingly expectational and insincere) it is kind of like you’re putting pressure on them to respond. The best advice will always be cold approach. It strengthens your nerves. It’s crazy sexy if you’re a woman and it’s a valuable…
/r/seduction12/10/22 06:08 AM
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Hey I agree somewhat with what people have said. Overall, just take responsibility for your outcomes and change your mindset, strategy, and approach. In my own experience, I’ve met a lot of guys looking to amplify their charisma, attractiveness, and lifestyle in order to be better at seduction, but usually I don’t come across women who want to do the same. They leave the ball in the other court, understandably, change takes effort and can be scary. I would just say, always remember if you don’t …
/r/seduction16/07/22 04:48 PM
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I like to think about that scene in 500 days of summer where there's a split screen between the main character's expectation of going to a party where his ex is, vs. the reality of what happens. For the most part, you guys are back to being strangers, so treat it that way. Don't make assumptions. Time changes people and really does tend to heal. Drama is mutually created. Just go and focus on having a good time with your other friends. If you keep a light and social air things will be fine. I ju…
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:18 PM
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One thing to remember is that the root of all fear is that you won’t be able to survive the change. That an irreversible decision will be unbearable. This however is a lie. Fear is false evidence appearing real for this reason. You are likely younger where every decision somehow seems infinitely terrifying and earth shattering. The reality you will come to know is that your life is and will continue to be filled with variables. And for the most part their effects are temporary or tolerable. Work…
/r/seduction11/02/22 07:26 PM
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Good advice. And you’re dead on. I would also suggest being more comfortable with your dark side. Touching. Eye contact. Proud of your desires not ashamed. It’s a practice, a philosophy, not a light switch. You only get better by doing.
/r/seduction01/01/22 08:53 AM
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A lot of decent advice on here. I’ll tell you the big lessons for me. Direct a Date don’t beg for it. - meaning don’t ask for dates. Get to know someone first a little, until you’ve had an indication they might be Interested (this can happen fairly fast, people just want to ascertain that you’re safe and not a waste of time mostly), it’s likely they are into you if you’re talking and there’s repertoire. So if you notice interest you say something like, “it’s been fun talking but I have an idea f…
/r/seduction13/07/21 03:47 PM
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I'd agree with a few of the other posts here. But also too, check in with yourself regarding your beliefs about women. Being well liked and having women in abundance, is addictive, it's validating, but it's almost like getting energy from a non-renewable source. Over time. You'll just feel off. It happened to me, I was dating every night, having sex with beautiful women, and was like "I don't think this is it." It was fun to be attractive but I just felt off. Like I was giving all my energy away…
/r/seduction10/07/21 05:46 PM
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This is the right frame of advice, it’s just delivered the wrong way. I like to say. Direct your date, don’t beg for it. There is a fine line to walk here but in my own experience, dating is all about making decisions based on how you’re feeling... usually in the moment. So. To propose a date I’ll usually be talking with someone until I’ve determined that they might have interest in a date. Then I’ll say. “Hey I have to go. This has been fun, but talking to you I have an idea for something I kno…
/r/seduction20/06/21 05:06 PM
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Hey there, I'd say yes and no. Yes, in that the core rules of attraction and connection haven't changed, people like the same stuff the same way that they always have. Dating in general is in fact one more thing to busy up a schedule true. Even before apps this was true. When I was dating a lot, the mental and emotional tolls it would take added up. Worth taking breaks every now and again if you're feeling a burn. And No. The virtual landscape and societal changes has put people in a mindset of …
/r/seduction19/05/21 05:23 PM
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A few things to remember. don't beat yourself up over your timeline. Everyone's is different and if you really pull back far enough it's all insignificant or the choice to make it significant is subjective and totally on you. Don't feel obligated to have some grand world changing design in your journey. That's nice and all, and good on you if you've got one philanthropical means in mind, but don't discount your own output or gift if it's not aligned with curing cancer or something. You really ju…
/r/seduction27/03/21 11:01 PM
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I agree with the mission statement. You should be on a mission as a guy, it's not something you see all to often. The women I talk to like to call it "He just KNOWS what he WANTS y'know." and I'm like, "good on that dude. he's figured it out." But if your mission is to get a bomb shell girl, it's probably not a great mission in my experience. The weird thing about seduction and all of that, is I can tell you behaviors and tricks all day, manipulations, actions, strategies, etc. But at the end of…
/r/seduction27/03/21 07:48 PM
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Could be any number of things. Best not to dwell on it too much. Maybe she was just a bit on the fence with you and then got swayed towards the negative by something you did, or maybe she was just caught up and a little drunk and wanted some attention and the next day was just over it. I have a friend whose about 12 years younger than me early 20's attractive, and she's a cool friend, phenomenal wingwoman. But it's really interesting to me to see how she is attracted and unattracted by certain t…
/r/seduction27/03/21 07:38 PM
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Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it “fate”. C.G. Jung Do some digging. Get out of your own way.
/r/seduction21/03/21 07:10 PM
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It's a good one. When I read the title I was skeptical but there were some major insights in it that I needed to see. I feel like seduction teaches us to communicate differently. I personally learned how to see and anticipate things, to understand what someone means, not just what they say, and in turn how to communicate with tone, tension, and subtext. Even with all of that I missed something important, which is that I was just looking for attraction and positive feelings. I didn't have the val…
/r/seduction15/03/21 07:26 AM
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Happy to help. I hope you like it. I think you will.
/r/seduction15/03/21 07:18 AM
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Hey man, Glad you reached out. And indeed, dating is really tough. In my experience it's rare to find someone who values kindness, is self-aware, and isn't so narcissistic to the point of disgust. I think everyone is on their own journey and doing the best they can with what they've learned, how they've been treated, and what they have. That's been a better belief for me to hold onto than "EVERYBODY SUCKS!" because whether you believe in manifestation or not, it seems like our attitudes about pe…
/r/seduction14/03/21 05:59 PM
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They absolutely can be friends but it’s certainly helpful if the guy is dating someone or has an abundance of options. I have many friends who are women who I have no intention of ever sleeping with even though some are very attractive. I know I would have said the same thing as you a while ago but honestly getting better at dating and seduction stuff in general made it easier to be friends with women. I know If I want to I can go out and find someone to sleep with so I don’t ever have that feel…
/r/seduction08/02/21 08:57 AM
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Hey, first off I want to say I’m sorry. No one should ever be made to feel insecure or worthless by anyone. Nobody deserves that. Regardless of how that felt, it’s more of an indication of what type of woman your mother was more than an indication of the the type of person you are. I’m sorry she treated you that way but I also just want to make sure you don’t believe her. It’s not true. I will also echo seeing a therapist for help. As much as I and many others on here want to offer support it’s …
/r/seduction31/01/21 09:30 PM
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No problem. Good luck out there. Remember that the level of your communication determines the level of your life. Be bold, speak boldly, and you'll live a bold life.
/r/seduction21/01/21 09:20 PM
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Mostly you talk with them. Ask them if they have any questions or want to say anything or if they want you to leave. Yes, it's awkward, yes it's painful, but It's kind of a common courtesy thing. Out of all the breakups I've been through, the ones that have been more painful are where the person texted or called me to break up and expected me to just be okay with that. Its an action that implies that they have no respect for the person or the relationship whatsoever which is just really offensiv…
/r/seduction21/01/21 09:05 PM
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Good luck man. Your life is on you. A good life is lived certainly, but it's also made. I'm polling for you. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gxziai/the_4_focuses_that_will_change_any_life/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/seduction11/01/21 09:28 PM
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Big list in here https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gxziai/the_4_focuses_that_will_change_any_life/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 Would also recommend 101 essays that will change the way you think. I think Brianna Wiest is sexy as hell. When I meet a woman that understands things like she does I'll marry the hell out of her. Gorgeous mind. And I would say, do yourself a favor and take yourself on a road trip. Just you, Find a destination like 3 and a half hours away. Get t…
/r/seduction11/01/21 09:13 PM
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Sure thing my man. It's sad that nobody really talks about this stuff the way they should, we're all supposed to discover things on our own journey, and I encourage you to do the same, but I've come to realize that part of my purpose is helping people when I can, it's never a waste of time, and whether you believe in karma or whatever, I've found it helps to balance out my life. Before I get into all of this high minded ness I do want to say that I do NOT have everything figured out, there are l…
/r/seduction10/01/21 11:52 PM
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Same situation as you. I would say first off, do breakups in person, even though it sucks and may seem brutal to you it's the right thing to do. Blindside or no, it's just something that takes strength and integrity to do. Don't text breakup or phone break up. It just sucks to be on the other end of that. The way you treat others tends to come around. Second off, and I'm saying this for myself but maybe it will ring true to you. I was definitely dating women to distract myself from my own purpos…
/r/seduction10/01/21 08:08 PM
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Not anymore
/r/seduction10/09/20 07:57 PM
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There is a chance but it's slim. It depends on a few things. Why did she follow you? How good is your social media? Do you have pictures and posts that demonstrate you are: A leader, Altruistic, Fun, Sociable? Does it demonstrate that your life is awesome or interesting in some way? Can you make her FEEL anything? Humor, Amazement, Mystery, Challenged? Has she ever commented or interacted with ANYTHING you posted? Can you make a connection with her (via a story or something) and then move it som…
/r/seduction30/06/20 01:14 AM
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I have and I found it very useful. I did have moments while reading it where I was like “Jesus Karen, what kind of person is deserving of ALL of these traits?” And I was a bit annoyed with her for being immediately down to cheat on that great guy, but whatever. I was just being petty. The book gave me a ton of insights I’m super grateful for, and it made certain aspects of attraction click for me when they didn’t make sense previously. I’d recommend it to anyone looking to understand how seducti…
/r/seduction21/06/20 12:12 AM
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Very well put. Enjoyed the read.
/r/seduction16/06/20 09:20 AM
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It says you want to have sex with them that night unless they are painfully unaware or inexperienced. Do I take it that you texted someone and they went home with you expecting to not have sex? Or did you text them and they turned you down because it's a bit of an awkward proposition?
/r/seduction15/06/20 11:35 PM
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Hmmm I think I can throw some advice. Every action you take should be dictated based off of what you want. So that means if you think it's a bad habit. Why? What do you want to happen instead? Do you want them to be interested in you beyond a one night stand? Do you want them to be more assertive and take you home? I need more information but if you tell me what you want. I think I can come up with some advice. All the best. Cool to see women on here.
/r/seduction15/06/20 11:28 PM
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Sure. So, like most people I agree with the sentiment that you should mostly use the phone to only set up dates. Most guys will talk themselves out of a date, but if they learned to set one up the right way and shut up, they’d actually build attraction. That being said, if you try to set up a date with someone when you haven’t built interest or at least rapport with them, it’s pretty likely they will either politely decline, or flake on you when the date happens. Remember that communication is t…
/r/seduction12/06/20 06:44 AM
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Note these are only indicators for most cases, and will vary based on context. I have had a few (albeit rare) experiences where the person just had really bizarre body language and even admitted later that they are horrible at flirting. -When talking with you she points her feet or her body away from you, this is even worse if her feet are towards an exit. She is subconsciously trying to get a way. -Little to no eye contact. One word responses. Dismissive tone. there is a different subtle look t…
/r/seduction10/06/20 07:55 PM
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I think there are two schools of thought in seduction communities: Manipulation and Mindset. In my own experience. I learned the behaviors and techniques of manipulation first. I understood what to say and not say, what to do and not do, in order to escalate a sense of dominance, mystery, and fun. And sure enough. I had more sex. (Insert Confetti Here) But after I’d been at it for a while I felt like there was a problem. A barrier, like a glass ceiling. I could seduce someone sure, but I didn’t …
/r/seduction10/06/20 09:18 AM
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Here’s a few things I try to remember. Remember that most expectations are resentments waiting to happen. If I’m interacting with someone with an expectation, my interaction with them isn’t natural, it’s transactional. Humor or charm isn’t transactional. You have to let go of that sense of feeling foolish or any expected or hoped-for response. Also, Forgive yourself now for saying dumb things in the past. Everyone does. It’s alright. I’ll say a bunch of dumb shit to women in the future. Guarante…
/r/seduction10/06/20 08:44 AM
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Thanks, glad you liked it.
/r/seduction07/06/20 09:06 PM
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You’re entitled not to like the post certainly. I don’t claim expertise beyond reading books from various doctors and experts in their professions. Stating opinion as fact is also pretty dangerous in any sub so if I’m coming off as the one and only true source of knowledge I apologize. That’s not cool. However, I don’t understand how this is preying on anyone’s vulnerability. I’m not asking people to pay me money or take a paid course. And although some of the books could lead to a more manipula…
/r/seduction07/06/20 09:05 PM
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You’re welcome. You’ll like those books then. Some of the pickup ones mentioned are good too. After 3 percent man and Open Her I could see traits and meaning in my own actions and the actions of others that were confusing before. When I’d grab beers with a friend and they were confused about their own relationships It was easier to see what was wrong where as my previous advice would be “keep your chin up” or something really not helpful before. Good luck on your growth.
/r/seduction07/06/20 08:59 PM
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Interesting theory. I’d have to think more about the nature of intelligence and what is quantified. I’d also want to know how the brain stores different types of information. Hm. Interesting. Sure. I can point you in a direction but you have to find your own way. For me I think there were clear obstructions in Emotional and Spiritual, well “clear” isn’t a great word here. I just realized or felt that I wasn’t feeling or more importantly acting like who I knew I was, and emotionally i had a solit…
/r/seduction07/06/20 05:59 PM
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You. You’re why I wrote it. I went through a similar thing myself and it can be really difficult. I don’t want to put ideas in your head as it’s your own journey to find, learn, and own that, but know that any failed relationship or rejection, if taken as an opportunity to learn, reflect, and grow is not a failure but a step. Even though it sucks you have a rare opportunity and a chance to think, pivot, and act. Don’t let a fixed mindset slow you down. Grow. I actually listen to audiobooks for t…
/r/seduction07/06/20 04:42 PM
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You’re very welcome. Thank you for reading. One of the things I noticed in my own experience was that I would rarely run into women that were on a comprehensive self-improvement search. The ones that did cross my path were all fantastic. Good for you for asking questions and seeking answers. That’s really great. “Attached” is a great book! If you enjoyed “Attached”, look into “The Ten Worlds: A new psychology of happiness” but I’ll warn you now, that book will call into question something you be…
/r/seduction07/06/20 04:19 PM
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You’re welcome. Good luck on your own journey. Hope you find those helpful.
/r/seduction07/06/20 04:23 AM
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They’re out there if you’re willing to look for them. But I bet your friends have some solid lessons too if you listen for them. Thanks for reading.
/r/seduction07/06/20 04:22 AM
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A couple thousand dollars?! Damn I should start a training course. Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading and good luck.
/r/seduction07/06/20 04:21 AM
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Haha you seem to have a very analytical and precise mind. That’s a good thing. With any book (especially those without documented experiments or factual evidence) It’s important to evaluate what’s accurate and what isn’t but I can attest that at the very least each one will contain a solid lesson that will help you improve or cause you to evaluate your own beliefs. For all of the titles listed I would read them and then instantly see the lessons they impart happen in and around my own life. At t…
/r/seduction07/06/20 04:20 AM
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Haha I feel you. Thanks
/r/seduction07/06/20 02:07 AM
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“If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul” is sometimes put as “If you can betray others to not betray your own soul.” I think about that part pretty often. Thanks for reading.
/r/seduction07/06/20 02:07 AM
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It’s a never ending journey. As James Thom says “Probably the most honest self made person ever, was the one we heard say - “I got to the top the hard way - fighting my own laziness and ignorance every step of the way.” Painfully true. For me it all started on a blind date funny enough. I was horrible at dating and had no idea what I was doing, and the universe (and a good friend) put me on a date with a woman who absolutely blew me away. Of course I totally fucked it up as you do. Haha But on o…
/r/seduction07/06/20 02:02 AM
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Thank you. Hey jealousy is alright. I think It mostly means it’s time to take a good look in the mirror and accept what you see. You’re brewing the poison that you will eventually drink so put it down or salt the rim haha. As far as astonishment. I’m only a combination of my own experiences, failures, and lessons. Just as you are. I’m ridiculously grateful and lucky to have read things that saved me from even harder experiences. A few years from now we’ll look back and chuckle fondly at how naiv…
/r/seduction07/06/20 01:51 AM
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Thanks. Hope you they help you too.
/r/seduction07/06/20 01:46 AM
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Our brains have developed neural pathways when dealing with stress. They call this fight or flight. Adrenaline and cortisol kick in when things get bad and we decide often subconsciously in a split second whether to stay with our fists up or to run and hide. One is not better than the other really but it’s important to try and take that decision back to a conscious one. In my own life I’ve dealt with a lot of my own delusional beliefs. I had an inflated ego and was also deep down a coward. (Dead…
/r/seduction07/06/20 01:45 AM
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No problem friend. Enjoy the reading. They will change your life if you let them.
/r/seduction07/06/20 01:34 AM
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Haha yep. A timer is real smart.
/r/seduction07/06/20 12:17 AM
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Thank you and of course. I struggled in a lot of ways (still do in new ways) and reading these books and asking those questions really helped. If I can help point someone else to them that needs them, it’s always worth my time.
/r/seduction07/06/20 12:07 AM
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Oh yeah no worries. Copy away. As for martial arts and exercise as an outlet for anger, sure. That’s great. Just be careful that you’re not using them as a diversion. I was thinking about it, and Emotional strength is really rooted in your ability to listen, understand, and accept yourself and others. That being said I don’t want to diminish the power of anger. Sometimes being angry is the exact thing you SHOULD do, it’s usually an indication that you need to take action in some way, your body e…
/r/seduction07/06/20 12:04 AM
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Sure. Emotional Strength is difficult to understand because I personally believe it’s directly related to how well you connect to others and why you connect with them. I believe each emotion rises from a previously held belief that through an experience (usually in childhood) turns into an expectation. One of my favorite quotes EVER is “Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” Mark Manson also echoed the belief (on a blog post) that your emotions arise from your expectations not being me…
/r/seduction06/06/20 11:44 PM
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Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it. Hope you find it helpful.
/r/seduction06/06/20 10:39 PM
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Hope you find it helpful.
/r/seduction06/06/20 10:30 PM
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Oh hell yeah. Thanks for the comment and for the recommendation. I’ll put it on my list.
/r/seduction06/06/20 10:30 PM
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If you haven’t made her feel a connection to you and you’re going through the motions being direct can certainly backfire. I approached for such a long time that it became a bit like autopilot, where I would push for a number or date without paying real attention to establishing and looking for a connection. In those cases I might still get a number but they likely wouldn’t answer a call or it would go nowhere. Being direct is great but you also have to learn to slow down and listen. Slowing dow…
/r/seduction27/05/20 10:27 PM
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A lot of people on here will listen to the point of getting their own positive results, but they are less interested in understanding why they got those results. It's all surface level changes, quick fixes, and beliefs based on biases. Everyone's on their own journey, but they're missing out. Along with wishing men were more interested in understanding, I really wish more women were interested in improving themselves in seduction. Guys on here will say, "Well a girl just has to look moderately h…
/r/seduction14/05/20 04:16 AM
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You're onto something. I had an experience where I was dating a few people who I found to be attractive, but there was one whose personality was kind of bothering me. I realized at one point that I could keep stringing her along and having sex while realizing that I didn't want it to go anywhere beyond that. I was tempted to do so, but it just didn't feel right. I knew I had to break it off. I knew she wanted more and it wasn't right for me to string her along. The strange thing was that when I …
/r/seduction14/05/20 04:06 AM
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Hey thanks for sharing. A lot of folks on here have a “my way or the highway” philosophy and haven’t seen that life is not always so black and white. Sorry you’re getting harassed. Seduction isn’t just for guys and it’s cool to see someone share how they are feeling a real connection with someone. Learning how to communicate well whether for the sake of seduction or just life is always valuable. I personally enjoyed seeing that this guy (through text and phone calls alone) is having such an impa…
/r/seduction13/05/20 06:55 PM
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No problem friend. Hope it helps you.
/r/seduction07/05/20 03:41 AM
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Here's a bunch of platitudes from experience. Don't EVER attach yourself to a person, a place, a company, an organization, or a project, Attach yourself only to a mission. That's where true power comes from. Advice on here will get you laid a few times maybe but if you want a fulfilling life and phenomenal relationships or love, I don't believe it's possible without true purpose. If you don't care about your life no one else will. There's NO ONE coming to save you from you. My life, the positive…
/r/seduction06/05/20 11:08 PM
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I get what OP is trying to say and at it's heart I agree but there's a HUGE caveat. If you haven't determined that you can make them feel ANYTHING it's likely they won't agree to or show up on a date. OP is suggesting this to try and make them feel mystery but it's very likely that they'll just feel like you're cold. That being said there comes a clear time where you need to get off the phone and meet in person, and it's much sooner than most people think. These are the guidelines. Not a script.…
/r/seduction06/05/20 10:03 PM
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Exactly. Thank you.
/r/seduction28/04/20 04:32 PM
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Out of every comment here, this. You nailed it. I probably should have expanded it to 4 things and put an entire section in on the importance of listening, understanding, and analyzing communication but the rule of 3’s was too enticing. Most people are horrible listeners. They just go about their business waiting to speak without realizing the effect their words or actions do or don’t have. That’s not communication or connection, that’s talking. You absolutely will come across people who are not…
/r/seduction28/04/20 04:23 PM
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I think the biggest rule in dating is to not take it too personally, but always be looking for opportunities to learn and grow. I’m glad I’m not alone in my disdain for emojis. It’s not necessarily that they’re useless, but people use them as a replacement for emotional connection which is so damn lazy. It would be like if you were at a comedy show and the comedian didn’t tell jokes but said bland statements and would hold up a sign at the end of his sentences that said “laugh,clap, or gasp”. Pe…
/r/seduction28/04/20 04:12 PM
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Haha Yeah that’s a fair judgement. They worked in the conversations they were created for. If I came across as employing you say those lines exactly that’s on me. It’s more about using your own language style and creativity to build a message that might connect with someone. People (especially women) on dating sites are inundated with messages, almost anything that breaks up the monotony can be really good. I’ve noticed a lot of people on here say online dating is downright hopeless, and in my e…
/r/seduction28/04/20 03:28 PM
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You’re right. You should never make a change because someone else wants you to. It’s not a good foundation for change. Verbatim that’s why my golden rule in #1 was exactly what you said. You’re also right to a degree about honest indifference. One of the emotional responses I didn’t talk about and probably should have was making someone feel challenged. Indifference can do that. If it’s done as a try hard game it’s not worth it as the truth will out though. True. However, EVERYONE has room for i…
/r/seduction28/04/20 03:20 PM
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Do looks help? Absolutely. So does money. But it's far from the whole picture. Unless you believe it is the whole picture, because then for you, it will be. Communication isn't just about what you say with your mouth, it's the actions and thoughts that are dictated by your beliefs, and often times your experiences. You communicate based on the way you see the world. You probably communicate a lot of things without even knowing you're saying them. The tricky thing is, for the most part you won't …
/r/seduction27/04/20 08:42 PM
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You sound like a good partner and quite a catch. Good for you, and lucky him. Really Nice that you care enough to ask around. More rare than it should be. I think I would agree with reading Art of Seduction, it’s a great book but you might look into other things too. I think a lot of seduction comes from anticipation, uncertainty, context, imagination. It might be a good take some time to analyze where your sex life is now and maybe think of some ways to spice it up. Although it gets a bad rap, …
/r/seduction27/04/20 01:51 AM
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Yeah, one of the best pieces of advice I got about approach anxiety was. You’re letting your ego get in the way of your success. Your ego wants and desires to be #1 in everything forever. It’s alright, it’s how we evolved and survived, it’s just not really realistic or tenable. I love my ego, but he’s kind of a lovable idiot. You have to kind of redefine what you are. Meaning.... What are you? Are you the way you look? The way you act? Are you the way others think of you? Are you the things you’…
/r/seduction16/04/20 05:04 PM
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Thanks for reading and the positivity. All the best.
/r/seduction16/04/20 04:53 PM
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Whoah. Very cool. I’ll definitely check that book out. I love understanding that process. Some people call it manifestation but really I just think it’s the output and power of focus.
/r/seduction16/04/20 04:52 PM
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Thank you. I hope you find it helpful on your own journey. People probably don’t read it because it’s long as fuck. That’s alright. Brevity is a powerful thing.
/r/seduction16/04/20 04:51 PM
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Thanks for the positivity. I think probably everyone is on their own journey on here. I used to have a lot of misconceptions. Still have a few I’m certainly unaware of. So it goes. People really want to believe in shortcuts and quick tips and things, they’re just not relatable for all subjects because real people are very unique. I went on a date with a woman one time who completely threw me, everything I knew or thought I knew about dating was thrown out with her. She threw strange indicators, …
/r/seduction16/04/20 04:50 PM
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Yeah it’s kinda hilarious. I guess you can’t type the s-word without a bot popping up and checking in. I respect that.
/r/seduction16/04/20 04:42 PM
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I understand the frustration of perceiving someone as having something (a relationship, or success) out of circumstance. It can be annoying, but as a caveat it's important to remember one of my other favorite quotes. "Comparison is the thief of joy." Our tendency is to make decisions based off of emotional and logical comparisons so its difficult to bypass that part of our minds. I think it's important to know that sometimes that comparison can be a trap and the only comparison you should be mak…
/r/seduction09/04/20 10:34 PM
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Thanks, haha Yeah I talk too much. I’m working on being the example rather than listing it. Day by day. As for your question. In my own experience, it’s not a big problem. If you’re on your mission and pushing hard, you don’t have to find the right person, they will likely find you. You will put out an energy in your interactions and presence that’s intoxicating. Something about you will seem different not just because you’re faking it but because you’re (finally) the real deal. One of the thing…
/r/seduction09/04/20 04:29 PM
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This is tough, a lot of things changed in dating in 10 years, but a lot of things remain the same. I would say the most difficult thing to tackle, and the thing you need to understand is your belief system. I think everyone grows up with a messed up belief system, and the only way to change it is to challenge it with actions and experience. Here’s a few beliefs that can, in my opinion, do more damage than good if left unchecked. Bullshit self-limiting Beliefs #1 Rejection is the worst feeling in…
/r/seduction09/04/20 03:43 PM
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Read “Open Her” by Karen Brody. I’ve read all the other books mentioned as well and they are good but Karen breaks down how and why each aspect of masculinity made her feel a certain way. It made a lot of unclear things about attraction make sense to me. Best of luck.
/r/seduction08/04/20 03:18 PM
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This is pretty uncharted territory as it’s generally accepted that you’re only supposed to use the phone to set up dates. But in these really weird times you’ve got to adapt. So, here’s what I think you should do. Take it or leave it. The anatomy of a good date is about having fun, hanging out, and hooking up, but I guess you can really only do two out of three which isn’t too bad. (Unless you can do a one-call stand and have some steamy phone sex) The tricky thing about a phone-only date is tha…
/r/seduction04/04/20 04:24 AM
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What do you mean? Like you want to stay extremely present?
/r/seduction03/04/20 11:09 PM
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Well put, especially the “she joins him on his ride” phrasing. I like that. I see where you’re coming from with the recent semi-demonization of masculine traits in society. I also see what you mean by overly emotional men still being seen as undesirable in our culture. To a certain point I agree, but I would say overly emotional or emotionally volatile women are somewhat undesirable in society as well. Maybe not commercialized as much though. I believe there’s a way to be an emotional man and st…
/r/seduction03/04/20 05:29 PM
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No problem. Happy to help. One other thing. There’s a phrase that pops up in stoicism that I’ve found to be deadly true. “The impediment to action advances action” which you can translate to “the obstacle is the way” In every good well-written story a hero has to face themselves and grow in order to transcend the ordinary world and win the prize (which is ultimately growth and change). Often they have to face lies that they have chosen to believe their entire lives. I can tell without even analy…
/r/seduction03/04/20 03:24 PM
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Aww I’m just a guy like many others but thank you. Good luck on your own growth. Some day a future version of you will need the information you’ve read, the endurance you’ve trained, and the wisdom you’re pushing for, and he’ll be thankful you kept growing and challenging where others gave up. Keep going. For you and him.
/r/seduction03/04/20 03:17 PM
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Very true. Something a cook told me onetime; If you want to boil one lobster in a short pot you’ll need a lid because the lobster is smart enough to crawl out of the water as it gets hotter, but if you want to boil two lobsters you won’t need a lid. I think you already know why. Good to remember that.
/r/seduction03/04/20 03:14 PM
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No problem. Glad you liked it. Good luck out there.
/r/seduction03/04/20 03:11 PM
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Good for you. I think out of everything I’ve learned, living a life based on compassion, courage, and connection is the way to go. And No I haven’t considered public speaking. I have a different mission. I enjoy reading and trying to challenge myself and grow. Most of what I said is an amalgam of what others have said. Some Mark Manson, Brené Brown, Charles Bukowski, and Karen Brody to be specific. Good luck on your journey.
/r/seduction03/04/20 03:10 PM
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Ha you don’t need to pay me anything man. Glad you liked it. Hope it brings you encouragement when you want to quit. Don’t quit.
/r/seduction03/04/20 03:06 PM
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I'll take a stab at this one although it would be good to have more info about you to pin-point it. I was and I believe I frankly am in a similar situation. Success in the short term. Lots of relationships sexual and emotional, but still something is missing. There's a gap somewhere. I know it's there. I felt it. Still do, but I'm learning to close it. Here's what I've seen from my own experience. A lot of the techniques and skills you find on this site and in the seduction community are behavio…
/r/seduction02/04/20 09:29 PM
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I tried online dating for a while. Signed up for match, okcupid, bumble, tinder, and eharmony at the same time. Tried different things on different sites. From my experience, as you said, most people are not actually looking for anything too serious and sometimes if they are looking they aren’t ready to be in any type of relationship. The phrase online dating is for broken people comes up here every now and again and I don’t agree with that but I understand where it’s coming from. That being sai…
/r/seduction05/02/20 09:24 PM
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Had experiences from one night stands to finding people I really liked and wanted around. Online Dating is tricky because of the large attention disparity between men and women however you’ll notice that most guys are pretty horrible at communicating well so there’s a couple things you can do put things in your favor. Although a guy on here earlier said BIG INTEREST = BIG INTEREST (referring to show excitement get excitement) id be careful with that. It seems great if you seem safe and positive …
/r/seduction17/01/20 09:19 PM
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You have a point and I see where you're coming from. The only thing is beyond coaching others, how does mass seduction align with your future goals. I can sort of answer that question myself, through this process I've learned how to see IOI's, how to communicate better, how to flirt, and escalate physical interaction, it's made me more confident, and helped with creating an abundance mindset in other areas of my life. I've personally always attributed it to being ready for when someone I really …
/r/seduction15/01/20 06:03 PM
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Wow. You’re right on the money. Thank you.
/r/seduction14/01/20 11:08 PM
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I like this advice. You seem to have a similar perspective to me. What about if honestly you’re trying to connect with people and you’re not infringing on their freedom or being needy in the least? You’re just trying to have fun and memorable experiences with them (when it works out) and they still walk away? Maybe I’m thinking how if I was in their shoes I’d be grateful if someone treated me that way, (in fact I am with one person who does and it’s been great. She fucking rocks.) however maybe …
/r/seduction14/01/20 11:01 PM
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I like your gym analogy. It makes sense.
/r/seduction14/01/20 09:25 PM
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You’re probably right on both counts. Definitely on your first paragraph. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction14/01/20 04:18 PM
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Yeah I imagine though you’re just in a mode though. Like you go about your day but you’re not actively going out for just pickup. It’s tertiary at this point. Auto-pilot. Are you spending a lot of time managing the leads you have or are they way more secondary to another goal?
/r/seduction14/01/20 04:15 PM
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Cool. Thanks for sharing. I feel similarly and entered a couple of competitions this year that I think need to be higher priority. Having higher level workouts and a thick wallet sounds great too. Think I’m going to pull back.
/r/seduction14/01/20 04:12 PM
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Alright cool. Did you notice anything interesting change when you initiated that break mindset?
/r/seduction14/01/20 03:59 PM
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We’ll do this with mnemonic devices so it’s easier to remember. Make her FEEL, be Flirty, Funny, and Frustrating or you’re FUCKED. - Everyone communicates emotionally but women excel in emotional communication. So... “If what you’re sending/saying doesn’t make her feel something, don’t say it or send it.” Feelings can range from amused, intrigued, shocked, to aroused. Usually what you send should have a certain amount of risk associated with it. However don’t overdo this in the texting phase. As…
/r/seduction12/01/20 07:25 PM
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Orchestrating and planning a get together of multiple individuals to build a social circle. I personally struggle with this. I know individual people, but don’t bring them together like I should. What are the best ways to do so? Making a list of traits for the types of people you’d like to have in your circle and then based off of that list looking for events and things that might correspond with that type. Being a good host/hostess while in public situations. This is one where I’ve noticed I co…
/r/seduction10/01/20 08:54 PM
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Hey, based off of watching this. I think you need to read a book to go a little deeper. I can't tell you why exactly why you need to but I believe it will help you immensely. The book is called "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. Good luck in your Journey.
/r/seduction10/01/20 04:06 PM
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You have some good points and you’re in the right headspace if you come from marketing. I think an addition I might add is what kind of woman or man do you want to attract? Write out 30 different qualities or traits you want and the same amount of those traits/qualities you don’t want and simplify them down to 10 traits. 10 wants 10 dislikes. This list becomes your creative brief for your dating profile because people with those behaviors will be attracted to people with those same traits behavi…
/r/seduction09/01/20 04:12 PM
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90% of comments on this sub are like back-door-bragging. Like everyone is a hardened vagina-veteran or something. It’s hilarious and also kinda sad. Anyway... You’re doing things right and you have her attention so kudos. If you want to get into a relationship with her though this is a hard transition and a hard sell. Doesn’t mean it can’t happen, it’s just risky for her. She’s getting a lot of what she wants out of your relationship and won’t want to jeopardize it. So, before you get into this,…
/r/seduction09/01/20 04:05 AM
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It’s better than not approaching but your success will vary. The thing you need to understand is that these tips for what is called “game” are all actually tied to demonstrating social and survival traits. They are important to the survival of our species. So for instance, that direct game although simple is demonstrating a limited understanding of social interactions. You’re saying one thing, but what it’s meaning is “Hey, I don’t really know how to talk to people. Will you take a chance on me?…
/r/seduction07/01/20 04:55 PM
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I had a similar problem. I would recommend reading the book “Open Her” by Karen Brody. I personally was lacking substance. You can be fun, and confident, and sexy but if it isn’t built on anything women will lose interest if it’s beyond. A month or two
/r/seduction30/12/19 05:34 PM
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This is a hard one, and change doesn’t come over night. But like with most things, if you want to change how affected you are by other people’s opinions of you, then the first step is analyzing those feelings by stepping into them. Keep a journal and when someone makes you feel belittled, or like a creep, or wounded. Write about it. Articulate what made you feel that way. Not just the actions but other times you felt that way in the past, did you ever make yourself feel that way? Analyze that fe…
/r/seduction29/12/19 04:20 PM
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Thanks, happy to help. This isn’t easy. I’m still learning things. Okay golden rule is this. If what your sending doesn’t generate an emotional response, (mystery, humor, flirty, tease-y) don’t send it. Remember that women communicate emotionally much easier than men, they are looking on dating apps to feel something and then they are following that feeling. If you don’t make them feel they won’t want to feel you in person. This is why women love people who make them laugh, the humor is secondar…
/r/seduction28/12/19 06:13 PM
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In my experience, a lot of women are indeed bad at communicating in a meaningful, engaging, or fun way over text. That being said, who cares? I’d much rather communicate with them face to face. Generally that’s where they can shine anyway. You seem to have an expectation of a verbal back and forth in text. I ask you a question, you answer it, and ask me one back. Like a tennis match. Here’s the thing, as clear and elegant of a communication style as that is, I haven’t met ANYONE who does that. L…
/r/seduction28/12/19 04:50 PM
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I would add, and this doesn’t just go for women but everyone: Develop this skill: People communicate in 3 ways at once. Learn to spot this and act accordingly. Understand what someone is saying, what they mean by what they are saying and why they are saying it, and analyze their actions to see if they align with what they say and mean. Most people communicate three separate things at once in thought, words, and actions, but if you can learn to say what you mean and act accordingly you will build…
/r/seduction27/12/19 09:50 PM
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This is my two cents and I don’t mean this in a mean way. Truly. You might consider therapy. There are a few things you’ve said that point to some emotional blockage. It would be worth talking to someone about that. Alternatively, although humans need connection to survive, you may not need or desire the type of connection that most people do. Honestly there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s your life and the beauty of it is that you can choose to live it any way you wish. I have a similar problem…
/r/seduction24/12/19 08:03 PM
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Interesting that you came here for the answer. He seems to exhibit a level of indifference that’s somewhat preached here. Might need a bit more info to see the whole picture. When you initiate dates are you assertively asking him out? Like giving him a time, idea, and a place? When you are together what’s he like? Is he emotionally unavailable? Does he ask you questions? Show interest in you? Seems like you’re casually dating but you want something more from him. Is that true or are you just cur…
/r/seduction24/12/19 01:35 AM
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Not my words. From a book by Dr. John Gottman called the Man’s Guide to Women....based on a study they did of 1000 couples. You might be misinterpreting what trustworthiness means but whatever, we’re both of the opinions that we’re both irrefutably correct because it’s the internet. Worth a read or if you have better data feel free to share it.
/r/seduction21/12/19 05:58 PM
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Read “Open Her” by Karen Brody. Entire book is about this exact topic from a woman’s perspective and she is deadly right. You won’t regret it. I feel like it’s a piece that a lot of guys will miss their whole lives.
/r/seduction21/12/19 03:42 PM
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If isn’t. You’re talking about a societal ideal of gender “requirements” in order to be relationship material. You’re right in a way. If a woman is cute on a dating site she will be inundated with messages, and yeah it takes a man quite a bit more than being attractive, although it certainly helps. Attractiveness is assessed differently between the genders. However, just because a woman is cute/beautiful doesn’t mean she’s relationship material at all. I think this is where a lot of us guys fuck…
/r/seduction21/12/19 03:36 PM
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Think about it in their perspective. It takes all of the mystery and wonder out of it. Imagine a scenario where I take you on a surprise trip. It turns out to be an amusement park. We ride all of the rides, take pictures, and have a ton of fun. You actually get sick on one of the rides and one has a long wait but at the end of the amusement park day you’re like wow. Cool surprise. Now imagine instead I pick you up and give you a booklet. It has the itinerary of what we’re doing ride by ride. Eve…
/r/seduction12/11/19 11:00 PM
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The short answer to her. “Thanks for your viewpoint. I’m looking for more than a friendship. If you ever change your mind about me reach out. Take care.” walk away and fucking mean it If she reaches out. Call her. Set up a date that rocks and take her out. But most likely She won’t and if she does it will be as a test to see if you’re different. Bigger answer. Most likely she didn’t get to the point of thinking of you as a brother/friend type on her own. You more than likely had a large role in …
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:21 PM
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Thanks man. Good luck out there!
/r/seduction07/11/19 07:22 PM
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This comes with date planning which takes skill and a little research and effort but goes a long way. I could take a girl to go eat soup and make it seem like she’s the queen of England. It’s not about the date, it’s about the context. It’s how you set it up and how creative you can be. Think backwards from the experience you want her to have and build accordingly. A few rules: never tell someone fully what you’re doing. Just what to wear. If they don’t know what to expect they’ll be pleasantly …
/r/seduction07/11/19 07:04 PM
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Text isn’t for communication beyond setting up a date but you may use it if she reaches out. Or you may send one thing to generate an emotional response if the date is farther than a week out. You have to kind of judge where you’re at with her and act accordingly. When you do text you always want to generate an emotional response of some kind. I.e. she says “How’s your day going?” You say “It would be better if you were sitting on my lap.” You see what’s happening. It’s opening her up. Getting h…
/r/seduction07/11/19 04:10 PM
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You got a great perspective on things. Keep questioning, learning, and growing from all your interactions and soon you’ll be the one who might flake on them. (Just don’t be a jackass about it though haha) Best of luck.
/r/seduction30/10/19 02:10 PM
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You’re right on the money. Good for you for knowing that you fall into your own monogamous expectations right away too. Most people aren’t as self aware. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. But a good phrase to think about is: “Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” I think guys (myself included) naturally project a possible future right away and it can surreptitiously taint our interactions towards neediness even if we don’t intend that. That phrase has helped me stay centered …
/r/seduction17/10/19 12:18 AM
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You sound (from my perspective) to be a little bit too wrapped up in women and their opinion of you. For instance. If she was texting you and keeping you up and it annoyed you. You should have said. I’m going to sleep. Goodnight. You probably wouldn’t let a guy friend keep you up texting is my guess unless it was some sort of emergency. Even then I think you would just call. I think in the greater discussion I would absolutely still be around women without sex on the table. They communicate in s…
/r/seduction16/10/19 06:01 PM
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A hand on the shoulder or the arm during a laugh you have together. It doesn’t have to be much. If you’re really confident she’s into you brush her hair out of her eyes. It’s drives a lot of women crazy. The touch thing is mostly just indicating you’re not afraid to break a touch barrier with her. It doesn’t have to be much.
/r/seduction14/10/19 02:00 PM
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I’m going to proceed by saying. I’m still getting the hang of it. But I’ve noticed a few things on dating sites that have worked for me. You should keep them in mind maybe. Have fun. Be congruent with who you are. The goal of texting is to make the person you’re texting feel safe enough and interested enough to agree to a date you set up. Make no mistake. That’s it. Don’t use it for anything beyond that, it’s the crappiest cheapest form of communication and it devalues you over time the more you…
/r/seduction10/10/19 06:03 AM
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I think you’re good keeping it light on messages. It’s hard but smart. I just wouldn’t ask. I would tell. I think you’ll have better results. So instead of “what are you doing Sunday?” It’s “I’m doing (this cool fucking thing) Sunday at (time) here (some address). Meet me there.” If she doesn’t respond with a yes or no and an alternate date she’s probably not that into you. Good luck.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:08 AM
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In my opinion this is a tough one. You probably don’t want to come off as needy by meeting her outside and going in together. Seems weird, probably better to just meet her inside at some point. Although damn it seems hard to meet in a rave. I think if I were you I would get some EL wire and incorporate it into my outfit make a shirt pattern or bandana pattern or something kinda badass. Then Text her the color. Say I’ll be in green/blue light wire. Come find me. Leave it at that and let her come …
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:45 AM
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I agree with the other two comments: walk away, but I’d also make it known that you’re walking away and why with an invitation for her to reach out if things change. Sometimes they might reach out, and if they do you know something could happen. I’d write: “Your parents are right to be worried. I am dangerously fun in person. Too bad we can’t meet up. I don’t like to use text to get to know people so I suppose this is goodbye. Reach out to me if your situation ever changes. Take care.” Then walk…
/r/seduction04/10/19 09:35 PM
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Hey Peter, First off it’s mindset: You could have a the most clever smooth lines memorized and still they all mean nothing without a change of mindset. Remember that you communicate three things when you walk up to a woman. You communicate how you feel about yourself, how you feel about her, and how you feel about the world all within a few moments. It’s your body language that will say more than you ever could. “So how the hell do I change that?” - You. Fake it until you make it is what you hea…
/r/seduction04/10/19 08:46 PM
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I wrote a whole post about this. It might help. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dbdwzf/my_golden_rules_of_dateplanning/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction30/09/19 08:40 PM
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Sorry man. Take it as a lesson and move on. The lesson is to communicate your intentions through actions early and don’t become a back-up. Use the phone (calls and texts) to set up cool dates and go on them. Build emotional connection. Don’t use it beyond that. Next to incongruity, I would put poor communication skills as the number 1 reason women lose interest in someone. Don’t become a text bitch. It’s so lame and it’s a huge waste of time. Can you imagine James Bond or Han Solo texting someon…
/r/seduction30/09/19 02:05 AM
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Hey man. 32 year old here (lol old guy). It’s tough when you have expectations of yourself like that. Try to let those go. Sure other guys are married younger but who knows. Many of them are probably unhappy and maybe envy you. Remember that comparison is the thief of joy. Let that shit go. As far as dating. The kissing is on you. When I’m on dates I look for indicators of attraction sure but even if I don’t see them, I go for the kiss unless I see indicators of un-attraction. I’ve never had a s…
/r/seduction30/09/19 01:37 AM
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Ha could be. Hard to know. Clubbing can be a tricky place to start something with someone. It’s loud. The dancing is good sure but you’re surrounded by other people on the prowl. It’s hard to make a connection and it’s strange in my opinion to go from zero touching co-worker to dancing. If you want to ask her out. Ask her out. But just look for some serious indicators of interest beyond mild curiosity. Good luck.
/r/seduction30/09/19 01:19 AM
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Yes. Unless she’s expressed interest in this or interest in just hanging out with you. Be careful with coworkers man. Sometimes their flirty-ness is actually just workplace politeness. Also if things go bad it can lead to a rough situation. If she’s giving you a ton of signs ask her out. But be a man about it. In person Say “hey I’m going ( here at this time and day) for this (fun thing) this week. You should come with me.” If she comes along. It’s cool. If not and she rejects it without a next …
/r/seduction29/09/19 11:17 PM
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If you’re hanging out a lot and she’s not giving you indicators of interest then you’re likely in a friend zone. You need to pay attention to how she acts around you. Does she laugh at things you say that aren’t funny? Does she nervously touch her hair or have a hard time maintaining eye contact with you? Have you ever been close to her and seen her look at your lips? Does she ever touch you on the arm or initiate contact with you? Does she comment about or ask what you think about other women? …
/r/seduction29/09/19 11:05 PM
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Sure. Scientifically speaking, men and women primarily value different things in relationships. In a study put forth by John Gotman’s book “The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want” they asked the question to many couples. “What do you value the most from your relationship with your partner?” When men were asked, for the most part the answer was approval. They want to feel validated and approved for the way they live their life. It …
/r/seduction28/09/19 04:31 PM
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Stop trying to bond with people over text. It’s bullshit. You can’t make a true emotional connection with someone over text. I don’t even try to have text conversations anymore. They do more harm than good. For example: Think of the ideal masculine man that most women pine for, is he sending texts with emojis and dumb memes? I don’t think so. It’s hard for me to imagine some roguish badass hunched over his cell phone all day. Seems to go against everything a man should stand for. Start to unders…
/r/seduction27/09/19 09:41 PM
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A few things. Not saying I’m the world expert and I don’t know the whole story but these popped out to me from your text. -Don’t plan for the next date or even mention the next date on a date. She can if she wants and then you can acknowledge it but you don’t bring it up. Ever. -Usually you don’t text her after. She will text you first if it was a good date. This has been my experience 100 percent of the time. Give her the opportunity to process the date and how she feels about you. I know it’s …
/r/seduction23/09/19 06:58 AM
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Okay. A few things. You're definitely excited. You've had some success (over text) and that's cool. Good for you. A couple things to know. Your frame of mind and what you think of yourself is very important. Don't go in there with the "she's way out of my league mindset" because if you believe that, she will too, if you don't she won't. Women and people in general will test how congruent you are with the vibe or image that you put out. If the real you doesn't line up with the "seduction" you, bo…
/r/seduction15/08/19 03:08 AM
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No worries man. I’ve been where you’re at. It’s tough because you think you’re doing everything right and society even tells you that what you’re doing is right and then for some reason the attraction between that person and you dies down and you’re logically like, what the fuck? But you liked me before. What’s happening. Nothing makes sense. You have to understand there’s a lot more to learn. Women are emotionally lead. Men are logically lead. I don’t mean that to be demeaning towards women. Be…
/r/seduction13/07/19 03:58 AM
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One of the lessons you’ll learn over time is that women (like everyone) may say something but they actually mean something else. If she had strong feelings towards you she would want to be with you. From what I’ve read it sounds like you spent a LOT of time together at first (and when you weren’t together you talked on the phone or texted all the time) and you didn’t spend too much time alone working on yourself. It may seem counterintuitive but women need space too. You think that they want con…
/r/seduction12/07/19 08:04 PM
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