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Yup. The key is don't act thirsty. When you really don't give a fuck whether you see them or not (perhaps because you've already got a lot on your plate) you can just outright ignore them when they equivocate. I love giving complete silence because (a) it's far easier than thinking of something strategic and clever and (b) humans find silence irresistible. I'll even go so far as to delete a conversation with a girl from my text messages so I can thoroughly forget about her. That way when she tex…
/r/seduction25/04/18 12:34 PM
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You’re overthinking this. Likeliest explanation is that she was genuinely tired and/or didn’t want to hook up with you with another dude passed out in the same room, or elsewhere in a house full of people. She may have just wanted you to show your cards, see if you liked her enough to kiss her, then continue on later. What’s critical is that you not be weird around her now. Act exactly the same way as you did before you kissed, and don’t jump on the first opportunity to make out with her again. …
/r/seduction24/04/18 02:01 AM
15

Guys who are frequently cheated on will naturally think it’s inevitable.
/r/seduction23/04/18 03:20 AM
2

You are the social chair of your college fraternity. You’re supposed to be having no-strings-attached fun. Do you know how many guys would kill to be in your shoes? Enjoy it. And if you really really still want to have a relationship after drowning in casual sex, don’t worry, a girl will eventually come along to tie you down for a while.
/r/seduction09/04/18 10:44 PM
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Are you giving them anything besides sex? Even if you’re good in the sack, often you’ll need to bring more to the table than just dick if you want them to come back for seconds, thirds, etc. I’ve had the most success with getting and keeping casual relationships by connecting with women on an intellectual/emotional level as well as physical. The potential trouble with this, however, is that it can sometimes be too effective and they end up catching feelings.
/r/seduction29/01/18 07:40 PM
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Hahaha this is true as well. That “adventure” for girls (usually younger ones) can also mean relatively mundane shit that they can show off on social media as proof of “not missing out.” But yeah, it’s the subtext behind “adventure” that interests me most. That women simply want to feel alive, even if that just means being actively pursued by a guy that doesn’t bore them or gross them out.
/r/seduction29/01/18 03:51 AM
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90% of the time, it’s best to be direct. Just ask her out. The only thing that can make directness seem “creepy” is clumsy, overtly sexual, or desperate delivery. Obscuring your intentions can too easily result in her putting you in the friend category (I refuse to say “zone”), and then if you try to go from there to something further, that’s when you can come across as creepy. Plus, by then you’ve already lost. So just embrace your intentions and ask her out the “old fashioned” way.
/r/seduction14/01/18 03:05 PM
2

Cheers. And good luck.
/r/seduction12/01/18 09:54 PM
2

If you’re pretty confident she’s into you when she comes over, you can be confident in simply putting her on the couch, slowing the conversation tempo if she’s got motormouth, and going right for the kiss. See my longer comment.
/r/seduction12/01/18 09:46 PM
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My method is far more straightforward than a lot of these other suggestions, which I think makes it seem less inadvertently “creepy.” Assuming the usual amount of casual touching beforehand, once we’re at my place, regardless of time or circumstance, I put music on, offer her a drink (of anything, maybe even just water), and sit on the couch. In rare instances where she doesn’t sit on the couch too, I nonchalantly say “come here” and pat the spot beside me. If she did sit on the couch when I did…
/r/seduction12/01/18 09:31 PM
1

Yeah I don’t bother with those other apps because they annoy the shit out of me. I just ask for the phone number - haven’t been denied yet.
/r/seduction12/12/17 11:09 PM
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It’s also important to get her actual phone number as soon as possible. Girls are a lot more responsive to texts than app messages.
/r/seduction12/12/17 08:29 PM
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Frequency of getting laid can vary significantly depending on locale, age, and other factors, even for men who are “successful” with women. Personally, I go in bursts. One or two a week for a while, then a dry spell where there’s nothing for a few weeks (other than kissing and occasional making out). I used to do much better when I was a bit younger. I’m late 30s now. Hard to describe what it’s like. I guess one major feature is that women in general are very friendly to you, and even platonic s…
/r/seduction09/12/17 07:54 PM
2

Don't overthink it. Like I said, keep it to logistics and try to set up meeting in person as soon as possible instead.
/r/seduction07/12/17 08:17 PM
2

Don't try being funny over text unless you're really good at it or something good happens to come to you. Not worth it.
/r/seduction07/12/17 07:59 PM
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Rule of thumb with texting is that if you really question how your text will be received, don't send it. Less is definitely more with texting. Nothing wrong with only using it to set up dates and other logistics, but don't fail to respond to her messages within a reasonable amount of time, even if you keep it brief. By no means should you ever send regular "How's it going?" texts. Makes you seem boring and too fixated on her.
/r/seduction07/12/17 07:30 PM
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Who says you're not supposed to filter yourself when you talk? Unless you're naturally reticent, restraint in conversation is an often-overlooked virtue. What I recommend is, any time you sense yourself about to say something awkward or stupid, pause for a minute and make subtly flirtatious eye contact with the girl. She'll most likely either say more herself or, better, return your intentful gaze. Either way, problem solved.
/r/seduction07/12/17 07:07 PM
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This is actually an easier problem to solve than you might think. The simplest solution is just to focus on active listening and asking meaningful questions about what people say. 9 times out of 10 this will make you more likable to them than a self-involved egotist anyway, because people love a good listener. Just get the other person/people to open up, maintain eye contact and actively listen, and ask follow-up questions with genuine interest and enthusiasm. That’s really all it takes to be a …
/r/seduction06/12/17 03:45 AM
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Most women interpret statements that you’re good at eating pussy as meaning the exact opposite. Also, directly sexual messages right out of the gate rarely work, even for the most attractive men. I know this from experience. That being said, if you’re not afraid of blowing your chances with a girl by taking such a low-probability approach, when it works it really fucking works. In my experience, a better approach is to communicate sexuality more subtly, essentially giving the the girl the opport…
/r/seduction04/12/17 03:46 PM
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That’s a lot to ask of a woman who doesn’t have very high levels of confidence. For most, it’s enough to ask if he wants to come to her place, which has the benefit of being subtle enough that rejection won’t be so jarring. Also, some guys might be turned off by a more crass approach.
/r/seduction28/11/17 09:05 PM
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“Want to come back to my place?” will suffice 9 times out of 10.
/r/seduction28/11/17 09:03 PM
4

My snarky comment about being hot aside, listen to this guy. I think many women don’t realize how little of a problem most men have with their being direct. Even when a guy isn’t interested, he will very rarely be offended or disgusted. If anything, being clear in your intentions earns you points, because it’s so rare.
/r/seduction28/11/17 07:07 PM
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Be hot.
/r/seduction28/11/17 04:03 PM
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Nice! Good luck, but always remember it’s just one woman.
/r/seduction27/11/17 12:52 PM
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Just don’t go for it as quickly - hint at physical contact, be playful, etc. Enjoy yourself, crack jokes if you can, be cool. Then at the end of the date, kiss her, maybe make out some more, but try to do it in a more “dominant” way instead of like a little boy seeking affection and comfort.
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:21 AM
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Doesn’t necessarily need to be “having fun” - it can also just be enjoying yourself. That can be in a chill, mellow way, too. Some of my greatest successes with women came about when I was kind of tired but happy. Now that I think of it, the best way to accomplish this vibe – I’ll call it smoldering, for lack of a better word – is to go out right after having sex. I recently went on a brunch date with a girl after having sex with another one that morning and most of the night before. I showed up…
/r/seduction27/11/17 05:02 AM
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Calling all idiots who think a guy only needs to be tall, white, and handsome to get women. Idiots, please come to the reality check phone. Yeah, I mostly agree with the other commenter on how to be more successful with girls. But my advice would be less formulaic – all that eye contact stuff, etc. will only get you so far if you don’t work on your fundamental confidence and self-assurance with women. And the only way to improve that is by getting out there, chatting with women on a regular basi…
/r/seduction26/11/17 05:59 AM
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Hahahaha, go ahead, tell me all about your clinical observations of “human females” and how things supposedly operate in the real world. I’ll be busy thriving in it and having sex with actual women.
/r/seduction26/11/17 05:48 AM
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Is it at all because you have chubby cheeks? Because that can be reduced by overall weight loss, in case you are overweight. A few years ago when I cut and got down to 8-9% body fat, my face changed as drastically as my body. Much more angular, features pop more. Friends who hadn’t seen me in a long time immediately asked if had lost weight, even when I was wearing a jacket. You may also benefit from growing some facial hair. At any rate, your youthful looks will benefit you tremendously when yo…
/r/seduction25/11/17 02:47 PM
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Yes, now that you’ve extracted the “useful” parts of PUA (confidence with women, knowing how to pique their interest), drop the rest of that horseshit before it ruins your sex and love life. The overall priorities in much of the PUA community are completely fucked. It reeks of overcompensation, and I truly think the vast majority of people who pursue it end up desperately unfulfilled. Much of the reason for that is that the people who get most interested in it often have deep-seated, unresolved …
/r/seduction25/11/17 02:25 AM
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So right - nothing hotter than knowing your girl (or guy) wants you in that burning, animalistic way. I’m one of those people who gets turned on by my girl getting turned on, and even more so when she cums.
/r/seduction24/11/17 02:00 PM
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You don’t even need to say it out loud. Just stop at some point while making out or doing other things, pull back, and give them a little affectionate smile. Often they’ll say “what’s wrong” or give you a curious look. Then you just say you don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable. That’s often when they’ll protest, “Uncomfortable? What are you fucking kidding me?” and immediately attack you.
/r/seduction24/11/17 01:49 PM
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Jeez dude, you only make out for as long as it continues to be hot and fun. Then maybe you do something else if it doesn’t lead to sex that particular time? Just a thought.
/r/seduction24/11/17 01:45 PM
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What I really don’t get, from the guy’s perspective, is how it even makes sense to be all about SCORE SCORE SCORE on the first encounter. It’s like, dude, if you can just cool your balls for a short period of time, you can build anticipation with women to the point where the sex, once it does happen, is hot as fuck. And keeps coming back. It’s called delayed gratification, and it’s often a prerequisite for the highest forms of gratification. If one can just stop being such a little leg-humping j…
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:05 AM
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Um, did I misread this or did you say you did sleep with these women after 2-5 visits, but you hate the “boring” process leading to that? Seriously, if you are so fixated on just fucking these girls the first time they come over and can’t enjoy the act of seduction and foreplay with them, you are missing out on some of the best parts. If I had to guess, you are treating this as some kind of empty and simplistic game, in which you only score points if you’re able to fuck a girl the first time you…
/r/seduction24/11/17 03:10 AM
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It matters to some degree in initial attraction, but much more once they start touching you. Even more when you have sex (assuming you know what you’re doing and have a good dick). Women tend to be much more tactile and less visual than men. So oftentimes I’ll hear them say they didn’t realize how nice my body was until they got to feel it. Then comes the waterfall. So, yeah, it matters, but mostly once you’ve actually become intimate. It can help seal the deal and make you highly addictive. But…
/r/seduction23/11/17 05:16 AM
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Well that experience probably explains a lot of it. Remember that that was just one girl, and please don’t let your future outlook be defined by it.
/r/seduction23/11/17 01:48 AM
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So true that, for most people, being more attractive than average often requires a lot of hard work, much of it unseen by the random stranger. For example, so many people talk about how they want to work out and diet just enough to get "toned." To them, this means a low to moderate amount of exercise and diet control. But the body type they think of as "toned" is, 9 times out of 10, actually the product of intense, regular exercise and often fairly stringent dietary restrictions. Low body fat, h…
/r/seduction22/11/17 02:14 PM
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Fact: I'm a 4/10. I've been "weirded" and "grossed" out when girls <8 "liked" me. I made a conscious attempt to avoid those girls henceforth. And the reason you react this way is because you are profoundly insecure about yourself and your appearance. If you weren't, you wouldn't be grossed out when "girls <8" show interest in you. This is abnormal behavior and you should recognize it as such. Your insecurity causes you to need to be liked by women who are out of your league, as overcompensation …
/r/seduction22/11/17 02:01 PM
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Ditto. And the best thing about these late-bloomer types is that they don't usually have the shitty attitude or empty personality that often comes with a woman who has always been hot and fully aware of it.
/r/seduction22/11/17 01:51 PM
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One of the things that scares you about approaching women is that it will hurt their self esteem that you liked them? That's kind of heavy dude.
/r/seduction22/11/17 01:49 PM
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OP, this is one of those insecure assholes I was telling you about in my other comment hahaha.
/r/seduction22/11/17 05:36 AM
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Please, please don't ever think that a guy would be weirded out or grossed out if you expressed interest in him, even if he wasn't interested in you. This is also a common fear among men who don't see themselves as attractive for whatever reason. It's the reason many of them rarely take a chance and ask a girl they like out, flirt openly with them, etc. These guys are terrified that the subject of their admiration will cut them down in a hurtful way. That's almost never the case, for either gend…
/r/seduction22/11/17 01:39 AM
5

It absolutely helps. I’ve consistently punched above my weight thanks to being a good dancer.
/r/seduction21/11/17 03:33 AM
0

Stand out from the herd more. Make them remember you. Being irresistible requires taking risks.
/r/seduction19/11/17 10:12 PM
2

Also makes you a better lover.
/r/seduction16/11/17 03:06 PM
3

Speaking as a somewhat older guy (late 30s), let me share a truth with you: it is never too late to make a positive change to yourself or your circumstances. While never completely socially inept, I did struggle with social anxiety and self-esteem problems in adolescence and young adulthood. But through diligent, unceasing efforts to improve myself (internally and externally), I eventually became quite socially adept, even though I’ve never completely lost my somewhat introverted nature. The oth…
/r/seduction16/11/17 01:59 PM
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Definitely agree with the suggestion to learn how to dance. As a skill, it’s very useful not only socially, but also intimately. That is, being able to dance one-on-one with a woman in at least a relatively competent manner is guaranteed to earn you significant bonus points as a man, especially considering how many guys can’t dance for shit or refuse to try. Another great aspect about dancing, from my experience, is that like with a lot of other physical activities, it actually enhances your min…
/r/seduction16/11/17 01:44 PM
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I know some people on this sub are strangely hostile to it, but I’d recommend therapy. Find a male psychologist, just so you can feel more comfortable opening up and feeling like you’re being fully understood as a man. Go to as many sessions as you need to in order to get yourself mentally healthy again, and be sure to go at least once a week. It could take at least 8 sessions, probably more. (In fact, some people never stop going, because there’s always something to work on, no matter the perso…
/r/seduction14/11/17 08:50 PM
1

Your ego may be “big,” but it’s brittle as porcelain. People with genuinely huge egos don’t have this overpowering need to avoid rejection that you have. It’s like you think the slightest breeze could knock down the entire house of cards of your self-esteem. You need to work on yourself before any of this will change. What that might entail really depends on you individually. You have already identified the problem, in lurid detail. Now you need to take action on it in a way that’s more substant…
/r/seduction14/11/17 04:02 AM
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Trust me, It’ll get better – assuming you work to improve your confidence and reduce your fear of rejection. I was much like you when I was 21. I did alright with girls, but the hottest ones were always so intimidating. Took time, but eventually I became, well, the opposite.
/r/seduction14/11/17 03:55 AM
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Lmao stop being such a lady about this. Hahaha I had the same thought.
/r/seduction13/11/17 04:15 PM
5

I know what this sub is about, and that's why I read it and comment occasionally. The essence of my point was that one shouldn't miss the forest for the trees when it comes to this stuff. Too much emphasis on specific rules can actually hurt one's attractiveness because it often results in forced, unnatural behavior. And even when it doesn't, why live life according to a strict set of behavioral edicts? To me, the need to do so reflects insecurity, especially when the rules are designed to preve…
/r/seduction08/11/17 08:57 PM
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I couldn’t care less about “prototypes” and “legit theories.” I don’t operate by a rulebook, no matter how naturally it might come with practice. I operate according to very general principles of attraction, fine-tuned by experience. And in my experience, asking a girl a simple question like when they get off work has never once scared her away. Nor is it “begging for a girl’s attention” by any stretch lol.
/r/seduction08/11/17 07:59 PM
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If you’re obsessing over your word choice to the degree that you think a simple, informational question might come off as needy, you’re doing it wrong. Hahaha downvote if you’re desperate not to seem desperate.
/r/seduction08/11/17 07:49 PM
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Women don't seem to like a person who's figured most of life out. My Other Reasons You Aren’t Aware of or Admitting Meter is maxed out right now.
/r/seduction06/11/17 01:09 PM
14

Cut the chit-chat and make a move.
/r/seduction05/11/17 06:32 AM
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It’s because you lack self esteem on a fundamental level. Get right with yourself deep down and you won’t take rejection from girls so hard. Also, even the best looking, most charming guys get rejected by at least some girls. It’s a fact of life so you’d better get used to it.
/r/seduction04/11/17 02:12 AM
1

LOL
/r/seduction04/11/17 02:00 AM
1

Similar, but this particular dynamic has been proven in studies.
/r/seduction04/11/17 01:50 AM
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Plus, studies have shown asking people for a favor can make them like you more. The thinking is that when they agree to do you the favor, they rationalize in their minds that they must be doing it because they like you.
/r/seduction03/11/17 09:35 PM
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Anything from behind - doggy, lying on your sides, etc. But you can also do it while she’s on top, mostly with your thumb. A little trickier but doable. Also, if she’s really feeling it, having an orgasm or close to orgasm, sometimes you can stay deep in her without thrusting and just play with her clit. A lot of women love the feeling of being filled up while being played with that way. Plenty of other variations as well - giving her just the tip while playing with her, rubbing her clit with yo…
/r/seduction02/11/17 03:45 AM
0

As opposed to judging it by the mocking reaction of one’s smart-ass friends?
/r/seduction02/11/17 02:11 AM
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Sigh. Alright. See this comment I wrote: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7a3826/comment/dp7h3mc?st=J9HILL8I&sh=214b1a58
/r/seduction01/11/17 08:49 PM
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Again, not speaking for him, but in my experience every girl is different. It’s more about learning how to recognize what each one likes and adapting your style to it. That said, most women like a significant amount of foreplay. It’s important to take enough time kissing and touching her (everywhere), and equally important that you enjoy this process because it’s useless if they sense you’re not into it. In general, the key to getting a girl into a hyper-orgasmic state is to build anticipation. …
/r/seduction01/11/17 08:48 PM
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Also: anticipation, physical teasing/restraint, abandon, fearlessness, comfort in your own skin, generosity, seamlessly adapting to what works for that particular woman, etc.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:17 PM
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Did you enjoy it? That should be the end of the inquiry.
/r/seduction01/11/17 02:31 PM
2

I can't speak for him, but as a person who has also learned this art, trust me, it can't be summed up in words.
/r/seduction01/11/17 02:29 PM
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My man. That woman taught you next-level intimacy, and now you will have that gift forever. She basically changed your life.
/r/seduction01/11/17 02:28 PM
1

Cheers.
/r/seduction31/10/17 01:01 PM
1

Of course.
/r/seduction31/10/17 01:01 PM
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Because a surprising amount of them like to be told.
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:18 AM
5

Listen to this guy, he knows what’s up. Because he understands how most girls think, as contrasted with how most guys think, when it comes to attraction. Men are much more reflexive and absolute in their attraction, and more of it is based on looks. Women’s attraction to men, on the other hand, is much more based on context and behavior, and is more fluid. And this is precisely why most will be neutral, or seem neutral, and why your approach is so essential. In other words, you’re thinking about…
/r/seduction31/10/17 02:08 AM
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I don't want to downplay any of these problems – they are significant and accurately described here – but I do want to point out that there are also problems associated with abundance. When a man has many options, it can be much harder for that man to recognize a great woman when he has her. He will often find it much harder to feel strongly about anyone, which, in spite of what much of the PUA community might say, can be a very bad thing indeed because the man is not experiencing the full range…
/r/seduction30/10/17 11:15 PM
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It makes a big difference. I cut body fat down from I would say high teens to around 8-10% and put on muscle, and the effect on women has been noticeable, to put it mildly. It also makes them much more excited in bed.
/r/seduction28/10/17 01:53 AM
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Pretty simple, just ask her about any of the things you already know about her. Ask her to tell you more about them. Then riff on that, perhaps add something related about yourself, then ask her more about her stuff. Not really any different from making conversation with anyone, male or female, except you need to throw flirtatiousness in there.
/r/seduction28/10/17 01:51 AM
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Absolutely true. And I think much of this has to do with women's evolutionary role as bearers of children. Out of self-protection, they have a much higher threshold for attachment than men. But once they get there, it is also much harder to shake than for men.
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:55 PM
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I think it has to do with people needing to feel like they've acquired something valuable, and to human beings, "value" is a purely relative concept. So if the person you value seems to value you more, they are essentially implying that they are less valuable than you. This dynamic has implications for most other facets of dating as well. What's particularly fucked up about it, from my experience, is that one has to master this primitive and backwards thinking in order to get to the truly fulfil…
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:52 PM
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Yup, this is the key point and thing to avoid.
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:48 PM
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Expressing intentions is different from expressing "feelings" (in the sense used here, meaning you are developing feelings for the girl). Making your intentions clear and finding out what hers are is essential for the reasons you said, and doesn't require you to seem needy about it. It can be done matter-of-factly, or it can be done through actions, or by subtle means, or some combination of all of those. Expressing feelings to an excessive degree, on the other hand, isn't necessarily about inte…
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:46 PM
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Speaking for myself, there have been many times I developed feelings for a woman before having sex with her. This requires a feeling of deep connection with her mind and sensuality that, while rare, can be even more powerful than the sex. It's women who tend to develop feelings after having sex. There's even a proven biological basis for it, which I believe is somewhat unique to them.
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:45 PM
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Can't speak for OP, but I think he means expressing them verbally, his feelings for her. Absolutely nothing wrong with acting on your emotions, be they fun, affectionate, or otherwise. Women respond much more positively to non-verbal manifestations of feelings than verbal ones. In fact, it's often the factor that can take things to the next level. Added: On the other hand, if you feel irresistibly compelled to express your feelings, there's also power in doing so with obvious hesitation. It's fu…
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:35 PM
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Sad but true. A good rule of thumb is reciprocate as much or slightly less than the feelings she expresses to you. You don't want to be eternally cold, because that can ruin the relationship as well, but something in most girls' internal wiring simply gets turned off when they suspect a guy may like them more than they like him.
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:33 PM
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Good advice, and well-written. This is all true in every aspect of life – you need to be confident enough to let your true personality and opinions shine. By doing it unapologetically (but without being a dick), you signal to people that, no matter how "weird" you may suspect your thoughts are deep down, they are not only legit but may even be insightful, funny, and magnetic. Be the master of your own destiny. And that includes being the master of your own identity. Follow no one else's lead.
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:30 PM
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Sustained eye contact has been proven to intensify feelings of attraction and emotional connection (assuming some initial level of attraction). And during sex, sustained eye contact can make it downright transcendent. But be careful with this – I’ve had many girls catch serious feelings for me after having sex while looking into each other’s eyes.
/r/seduction24/10/17 04:17 PM
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Solution: be on drugs.
/r/seduction23/10/17 02:01 PM
7

Last response before I need to go. You’re making the mistake of thinking that if you leave a girl at the club, she’ll quickly get intercepted by another dude and you’ll lose your opportunity. Your instinct should be the opposite - don’t be so insecure about her being snatched up, first of all, but also, oftentimes leaving her for a bit can increase your chances. If you made a positive impression on her - but especially if you were connecting on some physical level - she’s not just going to forge…
/r/seduction23/10/17 03:47 AM
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Depends on the girl. A lot of times (not always) they just don’t want to be seen kissing in front of others, so the cure is to be alone with them, and in tune with what pace they find comfortable. You can also try disengaging for a bit when they demur. Not in a rude way, but just sort of giving them space and time to think while you go and do other things, talk to other people, whatever. A change in setting can help too. This creates the illusion that more time has passed than actually has. Comb…
/r/seduction23/10/17 03:37 AM
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If she’s ok with your general physical affection but won’t do certain things (whether kissing on the lips or more) because she insists she’s not “easy,” that is not a rejection. That’s just her telling you she needs you to slow down a bit for her to feel comfortable and not like a slut, even if she’s not actually doing anything slutty. So dial it back a bit, don’t act frustrated or entitled, but maintain affection and fun. Eventually (possibly over days) she’ll get comfortable and let you go fur…
/r/seduction23/10/17 03:27 AM
6

“[A threesome] was definitely going to happen if I went for it.” LOL
/r/seduction23/10/17 03:03 AM
3

Same. Except for age (I’m older). Meeting people is thrilling, not a drag. Being stuck with one person for years is the drag.
/r/seduction19/10/17 08:05 PM
8

This is absolutely true. There have been a couple girls I’ve seen in recent weeks that, had I not been dating or chatting with multiple others, could easily have gotten me too invested in them. And the problem for me isn’t being drawn in too much, it’s being drawn in too much to girls that I’m not sure will ever view things as more than casual with me.
/r/seduction18/10/17 11:23 AM
6

Um, she is leaning on you in bed and putting her arms around you? Kiss her, you fool.
/r/seduction16/10/17 12:54 PM
1

Trust me, I’ll be fine. This isn’t about me, it’s about her.
/r/seduction16/10/17 04:18 AM
1

My problem is that I did, but I'm afraid she doesn't actually believe she can do it.
/r/seduction16/10/17 03:31 AM
1

And that's really awesome. I am and will always be open to that, I'm just not looking for it. I have many friends, but only a small circle of close ones, and those I nurture like endangered species of plants. One day perhaps I'll find a woman who gets me the way yours gets you. One who understands my wildness and fierce independence, but who also realizes just how much joy I can bring if we both have the same expectations of each other.
/r/seduction16/10/17 03:29 AM
1

Thank you, this is great insight. We've only just crossed the first part, but eventually, yeah, I'll need to talk to her about the way forward. I have a profoundly strong independence streak in me that basically allows me to live without fear of being alone, without fear of not having someone to grow old with. It's extremely liberating, but at the same time it gives me strikingly different priorities than 90% of people out there. I still love people and can't stand to hurt them, and I'm a highly…
/r/seduction16/10/17 03:14 AM
1

I'm not sure I understand the distinction between non-exclusivity and an open relationship. This is all brand-new to me.
/r/seduction16/10/17 02:18 AM
1

I can absolutely handle this. I genuinely don't understand what it means to be committed to her while having relations with other women. All I can say is that when I'm with her, she has my complete attention and affection. As I said above, I can totally accept an open relationship on my end. And yes, that means I'm perfectly ok with her fucking other dudes, as long as we're careful not to bring critters to each other (although I will continue to use a condom with everyone regardless).
/r/seduction16/10/17 02:18 AM
1

I do hope she takes advantage of the freedom to see other men.
/r/seduction16/10/17 02:15 AM
1

Thank you. Totally prepared to end it if need be, and I also vowed to be 100% transparent with her going forward. I will also keep track of her emotional well-being throughout this and let her go completely if I think it's torturing her too much.
/r/seduction16/10/17 02:15 AM
1

That all makes sense. Thing is, I wasn’t always this way. I spent all of my teens and my early 20s utterly oblivious to when girls liked me, and terrified of making a move in any situation other than when it was unmistakably obvious they wanted me. But I’m significantly older and much more experienced now. And even though I’m technically past my “prime,” because I finally figured out how to take chances and move through life utterly unafraid of anyone or anything (and because I take care of myse…
/r/seduction14/10/17 02:04 AM
3

Ok ok. The memory I’m most fond of was several years ago at an outdoor summer music festival – the kind that lasts three days and where you camp out on the grounds. On day 2 I took molly and mushrooms (as well as smoking weed throughout). I was rolling hard, just completely blissed out and dancing in the crowd to the music with my eyes closed, feeling every note and texture of the music throughout every cell of my body. The only way I can describe the feeling was that it was like my entire body …
/r/seduction14/10/17 01:55 AM
2

I figured, but nothing I do is uber-macho in a classic sense. I’m not dark and brooding and aggressive. More playful and lighthearted. But I also know how to go for what I want.
/r/seduction14/10/17 12:01 AM
2

It does, plus it’s really fucking fun. But don’t let me talk you into the dark side.
/r/seduction13/10/17 11:59 PM
2

Missing out.
/r/seduction13/10/17 05:55 PM
2

Genuine question - is a gregarious, fun, devil-may-care attitude part of any of the masculine archetypes Brody describes?
/r/seduction13/10/17 05:55 PM
9

I don't know what the statistics are, but my guess is that the frequency of women cheating on their men when the woman is in the more dominant role is probably higher than in more traditional arrangements. As for the sex, what's interesting to me is that more often than you'd think, a person (male or female) who is very dominant in most aspects of his or her life actually prefers a more submissive role in the bedroom. For example, the high-powered male executive who needs a dominatrix to get off…
/r/seduction13/10/17 04:05 PM
16

I'll never forget the first time a girl purred, "Am I your little slut?" during sex. It took me aback at the time, but I played along. "Yes. You're my little slut. And you like my dick in you don't you?" Then she fucking exploded.
/r/seduction13/10/17 03:58 PM
1

Stealing this.
/r/seduction13/10/17 01:45 AM
3

This comment shows you need it even more than I thought.
/r/seduction12/10/17 04:31 PM
1

Therapy. Not kidding.
/r/seduction12/10/17 03:55 PM
6

Do drugs and share them.
/r/seduction12/10/17 02:58 PM
1

Exactly. And don’t forget to keep your voice from rising. Maintaining a nice, deep tone does wonders for a man’s sex appeal.
/r/seduction12/10/17 01:07 PM
21

You answered your own question, at least partially. As others have said, don't just tell a hot girl she's hot – that won't go anywhere. But don't ignore her either. Yeah, making it clear that you've got other options and she's not the queen of your attention can pique her interest, but that'll only get you so far. Look, she already knows you're interested – even before you said anything about her looks, she could either tell from your behavior or (accurately) assumed as much based on her experie…
/r/seduction11/10/17 08:58 PM
5

Don’t worry about mirror neurons or any of that other shit. You’ll get much better results if you just focus on good posture, eye contact, deep voice, unhurried speech, and don’t talk about yourself too much. Throw in some causal touching on her arms, shoulders, or hands, and assuming you have decent enough emotional intelligence to hold an interesting conversation, you should be good.
/r/seduction11/10/17 05:01 PM
17

“Hunting in these female-barren lands is pretty sub-optimal.” Tip 1: Don’t talk like a fucking robot.
/r/seduction11/10/17 04:40 AM
7

Notwithstanding what the PUA / seduction community will often say, “cold approaching” random girls is a terrible way to meet them. The best way always has been and always will be through mutual associations, be they friendships, acquaintances, or group activities. Join clubs that have women in them, take up coed sports, do other things (that you actually enjoy or think you might enjoy) that will bring you into organic contact with women you might like. Cultivate friendships with men and women al…
/r/seduction10/10/17 07:20 PM
1

Screw the social media. Get her number and text her.
/r/seduction10/10/17 07:03 PM
4

The answer is actually relatively simple. First, ask yourself if you like them enough to want to pursue them sexually/romantically. If you’re not sure, move on. This is important, because if you are ambivalent about her it will translate through your words and actions and you will just waste each other’s time. Second, if you do like her, only text a little bit (maybe 3-4 exchanges max) before asking her out. These initial texts should first and foremost be playful and bold. Do not be boring and …
/r/seduction10/10/17 06:57 PM
2

I have definitely had my prospects with women hindered due to the perception that I can get nearly any woman. It’s a funny paradox. But on balance, I have greater-than-average success, so I’m not complaining (nor am I humblebragging lol). It’s better and more exciting to have more initial attraction and chances with women, then have to make them comfortable that I won’t hurt them emotionally, than to have fewer but more reliable initial chances because I’m seen as safely average.
/r/seduction10/10/17 06:38 PM
1

This is a bit of a chicken-and-egg situation, because most commonly a guy is only unsure about a girl – and thus seems hard to get – when he is “above” her in terms of dating value (sorry for the cold terms). That being said, I recently sent a lightheartedly sarcastic message to a girl that suggested I wasn’t super impressed with her, even though she’s cute af, and yes, she has been gunning hard for me ever since.
/r/seduction09/10/17 08:00 PM
10

No need to get defensive, I was just asking you to back up your claim, without even necessarily doubting it. Thanks for the links.
/r/seduction07/10/17 01:49 AM
2

Honest question – what is the evidence for this?
/r/seduction07/10/17 01:30 AM
5

I certainly don’t think attraction is limited to the physical, but there’s a difference between even non-physical elements of attraction and simple information. In other words, that woman was already attracted to you – the only thing that changed was her discovering that you were up for the same type of arrangement she was up for but not telling you. She didn’t suddenly become more attracted to you because your frankness impressed her, it was the actual information you conveyed that made her rea…
/r/seduction07/10/17 12:23 AM
6

I don’t think that proves that women find honesty attractive, per se (although in general it is a likable trait – even when faked!). More accurately it demonstrates the importance of understanding each other’s willingness and intent. By saying what you said in your example, that woman realized you were open to the same arrangement she was open to, and she may have been too modest to mention it herself. That’s not her finding your honesty attractive as a trait, that’s her learning that you may be…
/r/seduction06/10/17 08:36 PM
11

I find this entire study questionable from a methodological standpoint. It’s hard to tell from the article itself, but if the researchers just described the traits of the people in the photos, that isn’t very revealing at all, because of course the test subjects will say they find helpfulness and honesty attractive in the abstract. But do they actually find those traits attractive in real life? That’s the real question, and if the researchers merely told the test subjects Person A is like this a…
/r/seduction06/10/17 08:32 PM
6

You’re seemingly in too low a place to attack the problem via your mind. You’ll need to prime the pump of confidence and a kinetic personality through your body. Work out, both weights and cardio. If you haven’t done so much in your life, work your way up from light to moderate exercise for 4-8 weeks, then once you feel comfortable with pushing your body, switch it all to high intensity interval training (HIIT). I’ve worked out all my life, played a variety of sports, and done all kinds of exerc…
/r/seduction06/10/17 02:47 AM
2

You and I think very similarly. And not just on the seduction stuff.
/r/seduction05/10/17 04:46 PM
2

Really what it all comes down to is having general emotional intelligence, people skills, and comfort in your own skin. These traits lend themselves to positive experiences with others regardless of gender or context, but when specifically applied to men meeting women, they tend to result in greater sexual/romantic success. The focus always needs to be on the broader improvements to self. And I don’t mean just the typical “LIFT AND GET GOOD-LOOKING BRAH” mantra, but more broadly being a grounded…
/r/seduction05/10/17 03:15 PM
2

New girl was understandably awkward for a while, and mostly into my girl, although I wasn’t shut out or anything. It was fun. Both left my place at the end, which is preferable. Added: the girl I was seeing at the time was a true libertine, comfortable with everything. But this also meant that she moved on from me after a few weeks. I was cool with it, happy to have experienced her for however short a time.
/r/seduction05/10/17 02:09 PM
12

She was just like “it’ll be easier this way, trust me.”
/r/seduction05/10/17 04:04 AM
18

Careful with that.
/r/seduction05/10/17 03:06 AM
31

Does your girlfriend typically attract other girls? One thing that worked once with a woman I was seeing was when she went out onto the dance floor and to the nearby bar openly hitting on girls there. She was hot enough that she got a bite, then after working on the new girl for a bit, my woman pointed me out and asked if she wanted to join. Lucky for me, she did.
/r/seduction05/10/17 03:05 AM
1

How old are each of you?
/r/seduction30/09/17 10:11 AM
7

This has been my biggest complaint about all the dating apps - the girls rarely ever looking as good in real life as in their profiles. To your main point, I have had the opposite experience - I do much better in real life than online. The problem is I don’t have a lot of time to meet women in real life, in the context that usually works. Bars, clubs, etc. are usually uphill battles because it’s expected that a dude will hit on a hot girl. But in more natural contexts, I kill, and I get loads of…
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:04 AM
4

I would say it’s tragic, but I’ve fittingly become detached enough not to put a value judgment on the evolution haha
/r/seduction27/09/17 02:45 AM
10

Trust me, casual dating will get easier once you’ve been through the love wringer a few more times.
/r/seduction27/09/17 01:19 AM
3

Exactly. I’m pretty picky so I turn away a lot of prospects. I’ve always preferred quality over quantity.
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:35 PM
17

I have the exact opposite problem - we’ll, not really a problem as much as a tendency. I have to really like a girl to create sufficient “chemistry” between us. Otherwise, she detects my apathy and is less attracted to me as a result. But when I’m on a date with a girl I really like, I actively escalate as a natural consequence of my attraction, which then begets her attraction to me. It’s a problem, I guess, insofar as I don’t meet a lot of girls I’m strongly attracted to.
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:40 PM
2

That’d be news to my 6’ friend who does far worse with women than me (at 5’8”).
/r/seduction21/09/17 05:25 PM
1

Undercut still seems to be the current hot look.
/r/seduction21/09/17 05:23 PM
1

I’m conflicted on the contacts vs. glasses thing. It’s been hard to evaluate whether girls like me better in either, but contacts are so annoying to deal with.
/r/seduction21/09/17 05:22 PM
1

I really think it’s a masculinity thing, but also that stubble communicates a certain roguishness that a full beard does not. And stubble doesn’t conceal your facial features either.
/r/seduction21/09/17 05:21 PM
1

This is all true for conversations in general, not just in the dating context. As the saying goes, people may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. Human beings – male and female alike – are much more beholden to emotion than information. Just look at any successful political campaign.
/r/seduction21/09/17 05:18 PM
2

Beards are currently fashionable/trendy, so many women will respond positively to them due to that alone. But on an instinctual level, I think women still find stubble most sexually appealing, and always will. I used to think I looked terrible with a five o’ clock shadow (as opposed to clean-shaven), but fairly recently a girl I’m seeing made it unmistakably clear she thinks the stubble is sexier. And now when I go out in public after 2-3 days’ growth, holy shit do I get significantly more IOIs …
/r/seduction21/09/17 02:57 PM
2

Bingo.
/r/seduction21/09/17 02:59 AM
7

I do the opposite. Keep the most attractive ones waiting.
/r/seduction14/09/17 05:17 PM
1

Better get it out of your system now.
/r/seduction12/09/17 08:32 PM
1

It helps to know that the odds of ever meeting someone you can tolerate for very long are exceedingly low. Yes, I said helps.
/r/seduction12/09/17 03:06 AM
3

Get older. Kidding / not kidding. I’ve always looked very young for my age, and much like you it was a problem in my teens and 20s. But now that I’m in my late 30s, it’s awesome to look 10 years younger. I have the wisdom and financial stability of my age, but the appearance of a young guy.
/r/seduction07/09/17 09:21 PM
1

Cheers. I am definitely a character haha. I live in a major US city on the east coast. You?
/r/seduction07/09/17 06:19 PM
5

First, casual touch on the arm or shoulder during conversation, best when you’ve made her laugh or connected in some other way. Then gauge her reaction. If she responds positively (it could be subtle), or at least does not withdraw physically or verbally, move to the next step at another conversation high point: another touch on the arm or shoulder, for longer this time, or a touch on the lower back or leg if sitting. By this point, if she likes you, she should at least be getting more enthusias…
/r/seduction07/09/17 06:08 PM
1

This is pretty close to perfect, although I’d say the two most important bullets are self-improvement and cutting losses. Knowing how to let go of (even better, completely forget about) women who aren’t interested or lose interest is absolutely essential.
/r/seduction07/09/17 05:58 PM
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It’s good to finally get a universal representative of all women, who can conclusively tell us certain actions never work when we’ve actually experienced them working.
/r/seduction07/09/17 05:53 PM
41

Good advice. I’m a big fan of the stop talking/dancing/walking/whatever, go silent, look her straight in the eyes, and do the face touch you described. I draw this part out a bit, like I’m just appreciating her beauty (usually I am). This projects massive amounts of confidence. Then, instead of putting both hands on either side of her face right away, I just cradle the tip of her chin with one hand, get closer, give a soft smile, and ever-so-slowly pull her face to mine. But I do not kiss right …
/r/seduction07/09/17 03:41 AM
2

I don’t waste my time with 9s and 10s anymore. Not worth the bullshit that generally comes with them. I’d much, much rather have a solid 8 who’s really into me and has more going on than just physical hotness. Anyway, if you have good enough looks, style, and personality, you don’t need a big social circle to meet quality girls from online/apps. I have plenty of friends, but they’re irrelevant to my online dating because I never introduce my women to my friends unless and until they’ve been with…
/r/seduction06/09/17 11:16 PM
2

Let me think - I think I’ve had roughly 5-7 dates over the last 3 weeks. All first dates except one girl, whom I’ve seen three times. How did I manage? Calendar skillz. At least half of the dates were mediocre or terrible, so I’m learning to be more picky, and to choose less expensive first date options (no more dinners!). Added: forgot to address your asking how to “make this your truth.” I guess all I can say is work out, eat clean, drop fat and build muscle, have good grooming and clothes app…
/r/seduction06/09/17 07:27 PM
2

As a guy who has been described by women as “pretty,” “beautiful,” etc., a lot of this rings true. I only started online dating a few weeks ago (got out of a very LTR), and what I’m discovering is that a lot of my dates at some point make a comment to the effect that they think I sleep around a lot. This is almost invariably said in a negative way. And no, I don’t behave in a manner that would give them reason to think that, pretty sure it’s just my combination of looks and carefree personality.…
/r/seduction05/09/17 05:49 PM
4

Nice work, I can see why this profile had appeal. Mine is a similar mix of humor and sincerity - it’s a delicate balance because you don’t want to come off as a smug asshole, but you also don’t want to seem joyless or too try-hard.
/r/seduction05/09/17 05:34 PM
3

Because her attraction for you was based at least somewhat on your lack of availability. So of course she thinks she wants more from you. But once she gets it, that basis for her attraction fades. Always keep them a bit hungry.
/r/seduction05/09/17 02:05 PM
2

This is all you need to know right here. Having fun and enjoying yourself regardless of circumstances must be your first priority.
/r/seduction05/09/17 02:03 PM
1

Nice.
/r/seduction05/09/17 02:02 PM
1

I’ve been experiencing this lately - that somehow coming off as a player is hurting my chances with girls. As OP said, not trying to humblebrag here, but it does seem that my abundance of looks and confidence is reaching a point where it backfires. I’m going to try dialing things down a notch. Lower sex appeal, increase comfort, etc.
/r/seduction05/09/17 02:01 PM
1

That’s a tough one. If you can’t be funny, you can at least try to be fun/jocular. Or simply confident. Short messages with a question that isn’t too generic (e.g., how was your day? What do you do for fun? Etc. zzzzzz). Don’t be afraid to ask something a bit edgy. You want to stand out and you definitely want to project confidence.
/r/seduction01/09/17 03:26 PM
6

“Women are human beings, not prizes!!” When I see this in response to statements that don’t actually depict women as prizes/objects, I know something’s off about them.
/r/seduction01/09/17 01:19 PM
1

Propose another or ask when they will be free. If you still get nothing in response, move on.
/r/seduction01/09/17 01:17 PM
3

:)
/r/seduction31/08/17 10:19 PM
7

Seems that way! Every time I post anything remotely positive about my online dating experience, I get automatic downvotes. Lesson learned.
/r/seduction31/08/17 08:38 PM
15

Haha so I cross-posted this to r/okcupid for the hell of it, and boy is that salty bunch throwing a fit! It’s kind of hilarious.
/r/seduction31/08/17 06:11 PM
26

There’s actually lots of material to use even in those few words. Make a joke about your dog only liking boys. Or even say “why do you love laughing at my dog??” Doesn’t matter, doesn’t have to be award-winning humor. Just enough to convey levity and confidence.
/r/seduction31/08/17 05:37 PM
9

Cheers, glad I could help. You should definitely not overthink the messaging. Try, if you can, to apply the same carefree vibe you have in real life to the messaging.
/r/seduction31/08/17 05:33 PM
1

Dating apps. I’ve met about 7 women in the last two weeks, most of whom I’ve seen again or will be seeing again.
/r/seduction31/08/17 02:25 PM
2

This is very good advice.
/r/seduction23/08/17 06:59 PM
1

I’ll provide my answer by way of a brief story of my experience. I’ve never been bad looking or overweight, but I used to have significantly more body fat than I do now. I’d say my success with women was slightly above average back then. Now, thanks to dropping enough fat to get to about 8-9% (based on comparison pictures, mostly), with added muscle through intense weight training, my success rate is markedly better. Like night-and-day difference. Admittedly, some of this is due to the increased…
/r/seduction22/08/17 02:33 AM
5

If what you said in another comment about being "swarmed by girls" is true, there will inevitably be another girl as hot as this one and you will quickly forget the first one ever existed. So live your best life, and at most toss her another casual invitation in a few days to do something with you – something you genuinely enjoy and intend to do anyway, and will have fun doing without her if she says no or doesn't respond. The basic mistake you're making is focusing too much on one girl. Take it…
/r/seduction21/08/17 12:23 AM
1

Most humans just say thank you.
/r/seduction19/08/17 07:34 PM
1

Sounds like you have not been in love, but could possibly fall in love with this one. Yeah, she wants to fuck you dude. For sure. Take it from an old veteran haha.
/r/seduction19/08/17 02:59 AM
1

Dude you need to let the fact that people might be around you disappear from your mind. Don’t worry about what they might think - in all likelihood it will be jealousy. You need to do this with as little self-consciousness or hesitation as possible. That will also make it hotter, because she’ll know others are watching you ravish her and it will make her feel sexy and alive. Don’t worry at all about her saying no. In the off chance she does, just say ok, stop, and offer to take her home. At some…
/r/seduction19/08/17 02:40 AM
1

First of all let me ask: how old are you both? Just so I can have some context. Have you ever been in love? How experienced are you with sex? I’m in my late 30s, just for reference. In other words, I’ve been around the block and lived through a variety of romantic and sexual situations. Every situation is going to be a little bit different, especially depending on what you are looking to get out of it. It sounds like you’re really into each other. This is unequivocally good, but if you want it t…
/r/seduction19/08/17 02:11 AM
11

It really is amazing how much a girl can transform when they do their hair, makeup, and clothes to impress. I had a girlfriend in college who was cute – nothing more, nothing less – in day to day life. But when she got dolled up, holy shit was she smokin. Too bad she didn't do that more often. A little bit of makeup even works for dudes, but unfortunately this is still frowned upon by society. Put eyeliner on a guy (see: Dave Navarro in the late 90s) and boy does he become suddenly prettier.
/r/seduction18/08/17 09:51 PM
2

For the second date I just met up with her for a drink like I did with the first. Granted, we had trouble tearing ourselves away from each other at the end of the first, so we both already knew the chemistry was ridiculous. But for the second date I just gave her a little hug and kiss on the cheek when I saw her, and we just sat down with drinks and talked. After about an hour or two of conversation - which was really easy with her because we were so compatible - I asked if she wanted to check o…
/r/seduction18/08/17 05:16 PM
3

Yup. Nice work. It’s really all about setting up that touch a bit in the middle or towards the end of the date, then pulling back. Anticipation is a powerful, powerful aphrodisiac. A few weeks ago I had this first date with this absolutely gorgeous woman - professional, poised, as smart as she was beautiful - and I could feel the chemistry almost immediately. So about 20 minutes into drinks I stopped talking, looked into her eyes, and took her hands in mine from across the table. We both awkward…
/r/seduction17/08/17 04:09 AM
2

Wait, you’ve only been on two dates with her and you want to tell her you’re going on other dates? Don’t. It’s pretty much assumed that early in the process that each of you might be seeing other people. She’s not your girlfriend yet. Also too soon to be telling her how much you like her. At this stage, just show that in your actions. Too much too soon can give women cold feet.
/r/seduction17/08/17 03:59 AM
1

Do you swipe right on everyone? I actually decide for each one - maybe I’m doing it wrong.
/r/seduction16/08/17 05:16 AM
1

This has absolutely been true for me when going out dancing. But online, I rarely ever send two messages in a row except to complete a thought in progress. If she doesn’t respond to my last message (which is written in a way to prompt a response), I ghost the thread because who has time for that shit. Only if she’s truly above average will I occasionally send a “last chance” message. Funny how often that gets their attention. But if it doesn’t I have no trouble leaving her behind. So many women …
/r/seduction16/08/17 03:37 AM
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