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My hubby makes 1k a year on his fantasy football bets. Could you IMAGINE the male outrage if I asked him to split that amount with me? People are allowed to have their little pleasures without being shat all over. This poor woman is trying to get autonomy and a hobby and her shitty husband thinks of ripping her off instead of gassing her up. Men like this don't deserve an iota of familial love. Die alone with your pettiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:47 AM
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This. ^ I've had a few experiences with men of my own culture and never again. After that I said basic American with no culture/religion and that's it. Life was quieter once I cut out that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:14 PM
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My best friends life. "You're from Europe?" "The balkans" "Where?" "Serbia" "SIBeEeRia? Thats where the gulag is" Bad listener, no comprehension, no brain. You could write most mens epitaphs that way. And they are ALWAYS gross about snagging an Eastern European housewife. Sorry, but most men can't afford one. So don't cry when 'Natasha' blocks you after you ask her to meet up without having a reservation, flowers, and a ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 01:11 AM
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Good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:01 AM
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Yes! The 'tweet deleted' all down the list. Especially the ones with gaps over 40%. Get the f*ck outta here with your congratulatory bull shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:09 PM
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Love to see it. But she knows. The fact he didn't agree to help her, or even say let's get married or I'll pay all the bills during this huge life change...🤪 She's done the homework. So if SHE isn't prepared to pay for and raise this child alone, she shouldn't go through. Because a man this weak and pathetic who runs to reddit for wha wha validation is not father material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:25 AM
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I do. I have A LOT of contempt for single fathers. And I get joy out of shaming them. Because often times a single mother is the primary parent. Men who call themselves 'single parents' are usually barely paying weekend dads. They don't care enough about their kids wellbeing. That's why there's so many of them on OLD trying to trap childless women into babysitting on their weekends with their kids. Nu-uh. Those sick fucks created life and then abandoned it. How on earth could I expect one of tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:40 PM
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This is important. Tells us he's either freely talking about his ex (NO-NO) or you found out through other means, ie. his phone, friends, family. Which if that's the case, another big yikes. Does he know YOU KNOW he took his ex there? At the end of the day, are you upset its a similar trip to his exs? Or are you upset that its not the trip you'd like? Both are valid, but you need to figure out what you want to do about it. We don't have enough context for nuance. So I'd say drop him. No reason f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:14 AM
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Men could never control themselves enough to sustain such a ridiculous system. 🤣🤣🤣 Sorry, not tonight. I'm ovulating. 😭 Some of those points are fine for people who are married, who are willing to wing it in terms of kids. But not for random gonorrhea dip sticks. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:12 PM
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So he thinks you're as useful as a urinal. Time to serve him your own brand of piss tea and walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:38 PM
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Girl. That last picture had me rolling. No words needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:27 PM
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I got my guy a couple turtlenecks for Christmas and 👌 with a nice pair of slacks or jeans... He's sad its getting warmer. Literally no excuse for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:28 AM
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Pfft. Each girl to their own, but I try to never described myself personally or publicly in relation to a man. We were engaged. I was not just his fiance (and my husband wore a gold band our whole engagement). Just a week ago someone's asked me at a corporate function how I knew my partner. I didn't say I was his wife. I told her "P and I are married". I'm not saying that it should be such a negative to happily describe yourself as someone's girl, wife, daughter, whatever. But it sure feels like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:23 AM
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Yep. Sounds to me like he's porking cousins and keeping them both on the payroll. This is major sad and pathetic. And telling your ghoster what you did? Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:47 PM
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No clue! I think I figured out the one guy, and I def broke up with him after a couple months. He was a friend of a friend. The other two I never saved the texts. But they were so generic "Congrats! - Finally picked a man - Hope he's what you were looking for" kinda BS that I couldn't tell you. They could have been two date ghosters from any point of my 15 year dating period for all I know. I've had the same number since high school. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:04 AM
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Pulled from the 2020 email I sent the gals to ridicule him after. "It was so great to see you the other day. Great to see your doing well and P seems like a great dude. (No joke. So many greats.) When we broke up (note: he dumped me when I told him I didn't think he was serious boyfriend material 🤣) you said that you needed to take time and figure it out. Clearly you did, that's great. I'm disappointed we didn't stay in contact. I figured we might find ourselves spending time again when vovid ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:00 AM
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Sure. My mom and dad gave me SOOOOO much love that I'm eternally grateful for because it taught me the power, value, and sancitiy of love and to not give it willy nilly to lecherous men. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:49 PM
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In the year or so I was engaged I had 3 exes directly reach out (no clue how they found out) to COMPLAIN. How it was unfair for them but they 'hoped I'd be happy'. WTF. I couldn't even figure out contextually who they were - not saved contacts obvs. My then finance and I also ran into one of my more serious exes at a bar too. He was very nice, congratulatory, and then sent me what I can only assume was a drunken soliloquy on LINKEDIN! Got him and his self owned business removed from the platform…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:42 PM
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I mean. A Dyson for your shared house is not a gift. Tools for housework are NOT GIFTS! Now if she doesn't vacuum daily he'll just neg her and ask 'if the vacuum isn't good enough'. Watched it happen to a friend and her ex. Obvs she kept the Dyson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:05 AM
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A man who already owns two homes should not be asking anything of you financially. HOWEVER...girl why? Why are you even stressing your heart about this? If you're on track to buy your own home in 1-2 years than do that. Do not involve him in this plan. IF he proposes, reevaluate what makes most sense for YOU. IF you marry him you can rent your home for income. IF you stay together and there is love, you will come to an agreement that benefits you both. But you're leaping way ahead. This is just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:23 AM
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Thanks for the tldr title. I started yawning at the third paragraph. Do men really think we care what THEY think? They just have to get their verbal diarrhea out, regardless of whether anyone acknowledges it. In my 30s I've learned how to fake interest and close my ears. While men have been doing it to me, I've been taking notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:25 AM
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Ummm...how is sharing porn of your future coworker with your boss not the issue here? You think if she found a video of this disphit being racist or creepy (which doesn't compare with someone trying to feed themselves) that she would do the same? Men hate women. Her OF had little to do with this. If she had born hired, he would have thought of other ways to squeeze her out because there's not many women in STEM and men like it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:43 PM
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He definitely got chewed out at school and by his wife, and I'm sure his daughter still doesn't find it funny. But cute how he tried to downplay it for a funny story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:49 PM
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😶 No words. The last time a man tried to direct my head anywhere I broke his pinky. This is disgusting. She may as well start divorce proceedings now, because she'll never see him as a man, father, and lover again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:21 PM
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A 5k engagement ring means nothing more than a promise ring. It's all the same bs. When I got engaged, our wedding was put over 2x because of Rona. Finally my husband just said "no more" and drove us to the courthouse. He planned a family only ceremony for us in the mountains two weeks later prior to Christmas. We're still planning to have our full wedding in the summer 🤞 This was after we were trying to get some healthcare paperwork done and it was such a pain without a marriage license. We'd h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:14 PM
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This. She's rich. A billionaire (I think). I am related to Rihanna just about as much as I am to a fork. She lives in a world of different standards. If he doesn't provide whatever she expects of him, its no major detriment to her and she moves on and protects her assets. If she wanted to be a mother then I'm happy for her. Just as I would be for any other woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:20 PM
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Loooool. Like for real. If she spent a few months on FDS he would be an EX. This is some awful fan fiction. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:29 AM
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I went through and reported as MANY of the comments as possible. But I know the reddit overlords will ignore them. NOBODY in those comments was talking about how wrong it was for her to hit the kid. They were gleefully tittering about 'equal rights, equal fights' . How women can even be around men without throwing up all over them is a feat of reproductive biology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:08 PM
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My office is painted lilac and gold. His is plain navy. The rest of the house is beige and moss green. We both got 3 vetos when picking common area paints. Lol. I feel like one of the experts could write a great post on design decisions and comprise with your fiance/husband as an fds women on here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:14 PM
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My fiance has his office. He keeps his books, travel souvenirs and some art (that doesn't go anywhere else) in there. I also have an office. I do think its important to have your own space where you can take a break. But my fiancés office is tidy and well styled and he got a recliner for me to sit in when I'm keeping him company in there. Man caves are a bs excuse for men to continue being degenerates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:23 PM
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I bet the other woman dumps him over the Pandora ring. Looool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:08 PM
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My fiance didn't believe me early on when I turned down a date on a Friday night to do laundry. In his mind I was in high demand (true) and was likely going on another date. The reality was life was so hectic I was 3 weeks behind and had no clean laundy. Lol. He thought I was blowing him off, but played it properly and asked me if Saturday was better and upped the offer by suggesting seeing a jazz band after dinner. It rattled him. Now we laugh about it while doing laundry together on Fridays at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:32 PM
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So break up with her. You got your 'delicious' momeht 🙄 now f*ck off and let her live. I bet the two years they dated he was future baiting hard and that's why she brought up a proposal. Hopefully she's realised her mistake, left, and is finding the guy she wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 11:42 PM
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Fair. But I love my husband. He doesn't enjoy working 12hr days to pay for my frequent vacations (I let him tag along lol) but he does it because it makes me happy and seeing me happy makes him happy. A couple blowjobs a month is no skin off my back to make him feel special and loved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:28 PM
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I don't enjoy giving them. But I enjoy making my husband happy. And like...when he goes down on me for a half hour it's polite to reciprocate. But I never gave them when casually dating (like sex in general). They are a serious committed relationship perk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:53 PM
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I mean...what? He TOLD YOU TO DO BETTER. And you're going to virtue signal and be a pedantic pick-me for what? If a man tells you that you can do better and you stay...you've told him you're a fuzzy headed desperate girl. And he will treat you like crap. I feel horrible for the woman in that last post. (Are both posts actually the same person? Because yikes)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:39 PM
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Story time: I recall a first date that started like this, a whole decade ago! Made plans for dinner at a reaaallly nice restaurant. He picked it. I got there on time. He wasn't waiting outside. So I went in (it was cold) and told the hostess the reso name. She said they didn't have a reservation under that name. I thought 'no big, I have no idea what name he put it under. I'll wait for him'. Then the hostess offers me a nice table by the fireplace and says when he arrives we can move to the rese…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:46 PM
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Snow White must be so pleased with all her eraser dick little men surrounding her. Hey if you stack them one on top of each other they might make a real man! Seriously tho. My fiance is 1.5 inches taller than me (I'm 5'8). His height was a non issue because we can look each other in the eyes. I'm not about to be looking down on a man (who will def resent me for it) but I was never looking for a 6'6 giant. Whiny short boys tell on themselves and gross women out. Men of average height with great p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:22 PM
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Que? Read the handbook again. FDS isn't against the natural progression of a loving, nurturing relationship, including the girlfriend/boyfriend phase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:30 PM
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At least twice a month there's a male 'friend' I cut off ages ago trying to reach out to me and catch up. Lol. Once you realise they're just making sure you're still stupid enough to give them the time, you just quit being friendly with men altogether. There's no compassion or care between men and women who are 'friends' I have male colleagues and acquaintances (my fiancés friends). The only guy I'd even consider a friend, since kindergarten, has been out of the closet for two decades and is hap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:35 PM
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Literally, my phone is 7 inches. It's not that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:40 PM
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Thankful for a mother who everytime i have a small complaint (last week was "he won't let me fill the dishwasher cause I do it wrong" 🤣) tells me she'd support me if I dumped his ass. I know in these instances it's said with a bit if humour. But she 100% would, always support me in leaving a man for any reason. It's heinous when women don't have other women's support. Especially their mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:57 PM
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Agreed. Good luck retiring early now you damn fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:53 PM
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It's why we should look for men who have had a few quality partners that have trained the penis sufficiently and not accept high milage spotted dick 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:48 PM
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We all forget at times, because as women we're conditioned to see the best in everyone. It's those stupid high levels of oxytocin in genetically born females. It's not easy being a realist, but we gotta do it to protect ourselves. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:19 PM
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I think most of them have the self awareness, they just will never acknowledge as much to women. But they would to other men. It's too easy to call them delusional and stupid (though that's true as well). The reality is they are narcissistic, pretend-inept, gaslighters. And we shouldn't ever give them the benefit of the doubt that they don't know better, or don't see themselves for what they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:58 PM
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Ummm...yes. If you asked men this question they'd hands down say no. I take care of my health, I buy myself nice things, I save for myself and check in with my mental health. The most HVM in the world will NEVER take better care of you than you would yourself. So even if you have one, you need to keep dating yourself. Just to remind yourself what you're deserving of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:25 PM
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Yikes. I didn't even get this detailed when I sent my 12 year old sister on her first solo shopping expedition. My fiance doesn't have this issue. Although he does have a "woooow new flavour/brand" fault. This means he constantly comes home with limited edition flavours I end up loving and then can no longer repurchase. 😂 Come back passionfruit greek yoghurt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:33 PM
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And like...retirement in and of itself is not a 'dream' or 'goal' in my mind. Finding time for hobbies, travelling, spending time with family are. And he won't be doing that if his wife is working and his young children still need help. Or he'll be doing it alone. What kind of an asshole parent who HAS the means to give their kids a leg up in life doesn't actually provide this? He's not poor, he should be striving to put away enough for his kids education. Its one thing if he said "honey, we hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:09 PM
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Ummm...I'm willing to bet those are real gemstones. Diamond, sapphire, Ruby. Easily a 5k ring. Not that it couldn't be done cheaper with lesser materials, but it looks high quality to me. Especially if he went to a jewelry maker to design it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:55 PM
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My fiance is 5'8-5'9, only a half inch taller than me. When I first locked eyes with him, his height didn't matter because we were both sitting across a table at mutual acquaintances birthday. I didn't know if he was 6'4, or 5'4. And maybe if he was 5'4 I would have attraction diminish. I'm not beyond physical attraction. But his beautiful suit, great haircut, amazing teeth, and lovely green eyes caught my eye. Then he stood up and my eyes locked on his tree trunk legs and I opened the door for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:48 PM
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Same! Even when I know I should stick to healthy foods in our cupboards and I always say no when asked...somehow I ALWAYS seem to randomly come across big turks (the candy bar) in the pantry. My fiance agrees with my line of reasoning when it comes to candy, if I didn't ask for it, or buy it, it was never ingested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:52 AM
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But your body, love, physical affections, and attentiveness DO have value. And they shouldn't be gifted to people indiscriminately. That is the world we live in. And that is precisely why FDS is trying to show women their value stems for qualities they love about themselves, not necessarily the qualities society ascribes to us women. If having sex with a stranger makes you feel like nothing. Your body has no value, your time has no value, what you gave them has no value, you received nothing of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:49 PM
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Mmmm... The Holy grail for me is a nice drugstore soap, decent shampoo and Valentino uomo cologne (or other reasonably priced mens fragrance that isn't cloying. Adult men should have a signature scent). But sometimes my fiance straight out of the shower smelling like Dove extra fresh and clean skin gives my endorphins a kick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:43 AM
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I'm engaged to a shortie. 😊 Well, he's like 5'9-5'10, but the shortest man I've had a long term relationship with. But I saw those rugby thighs and said 'I'll allow you the opportunity to impress me'. And he didn't squander that chance. My bff who is 4'10, who used to be ok with dating guys 5'6 has given up on it. Because even though they have an attractive height difference the guy is a douche. So she was FORCED, for her happiness to change her physical standards for a partner. And she's never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:52 PM
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My fiance just took me to a pop up roller skating event this weekend. There are limitless first date ideas that are fun, safe (in public) and demonstrate HV by understanding and knowing your likes/interests. Its one of those 'you know it when you see it things'. If you're excited by the plans he's made, its HV. If you dread it or are uninterested, it means he didn't take the effort to even minisculely get to know you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:39 PM
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He didn't frigging mention paying for food, or internet, or contributing in any other way. Is she your sugar mamma? You wanted finances separate. So either buck up and pay the measly taxes, or pay for your own place to live. I mean you split rent before, so it shouldn't be an issue. Men are so entitled, thinking just because they have a dick they're deserving of a free home. You wanted to go to school, it's your fault you have no money now. What happened to the good old days when men used to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:34 AM
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I understand going splitting evenly in this situation if its agreed upon before hand with friends. But if 5 people split a $300 fondue and I choose to order a $15 salad I'm not paying their share. You're right that women need to start protecting their interests in these scenarios. And if your friends or acquaintances will mock you for only paying your share. Drop them. Because I've never mocked someone for this and wouldn't accept such treatment from another. It's absurd that anyone should accep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:46 PM
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Sorry...I'm Canadian and splitting down the middle is just not a thing I've EVER been offered at a restaurant here. The bill usually comes on one peice of paper here, but split between meal 1, meal 2, etc. That way when the server comes with the machine you can pay all together or separate. Worst case is its not split so you and your girls have to do the math. I think it's abusive and negligent of a server to EVEN SUGGEST down the middle when one person obviously had more. Like, the fuck? Second…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:00 PM
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Right? Like close buddy, but not quite. They aren't 'preemptively avoiding getting hit on, like his delusional brain thinks, they're avoiding potential serial harassment because there is something about you that freaks them out. Have you ever considered the common denominator here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:22 PM
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The male comments on this video are DELUSIONAL. LOOOOOOOL. "She's a gold digger, he bought those shoes and should take them back!" Then why is your righteous brother proposing in what looks like a bowling alley? 😂😂😂 so cheap!!! And thank god she said no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:57 PM
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Solidarity. My body 'style' (lol) went outta fashion with the straight as a board 90s. Being in the new curvy culture always gave me pause when dating men of this generation desperate for a woman with that body type. I know what I look like, and if you're going to tell me you think Kim k is the most beautiful woman I'm out. For multiple reasons, but also because all the fat pockets in my body would fit in her ass alone. I'm too old to be pining after other women's body types to appeal to men. My…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:42 PM
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Guuuurl. I am 100% with you when it comes to pics of their mother, other women, or just any other person in a dating profile. Mom and sisters is def a red flag. So are large group pics because; Did you get everyone's permission to post them on a dating app? I doubt it. Having friends and family is a GIVEN. If you feel you need to plaster them all over the app...what are you trying to prove? Do you not have pictures of yourself alone? Like every trip I take with friends, we all get solo shots. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:47 PM
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He's lying. It's always the same with men, they need to add to the total. Height...salary...blah blah. But this is a lie to impress his bros. Unless this guy is a male model (and where would he find the time then) or he was scouring for bottom of the barrel women who should have been getting therapy and not terrible dick... I call bullshit. Also he probably picked up the clap from a sex worker and gave it to many future partners. Despite his claims of getting treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:17 AM
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Exactly. But these men OP mentions are no different. He'll gladly spot his friend a $50. Help another friend move. Spend weeks and hundreds planning a guys trip. He just won't do it for you if he doesn't like you. This is why we talk about vetting and refusing 50/50. You don't want to date a poor man. Because he's either financially irresponsible or has bad life prospects. But you also don't want to date a faux poor man who has money to spend, just not on you. Don't be some losers fleshlite. Asi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 06:53 PM
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Stingy people come from all backgrounds, rich and poor, and should be avoided. But it is a learned behavior! Even if your partner isn't wealthy, someone who loves you would take the food from THEIR FECKING OWN MOUTH to feed you!!!! They would go without to make sure you didn't. Because you would do the same for someone you love. I think this whole family hates her damn guts and she needs to RUN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:46 AM
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NOT a financial analyst. So my first recommendation is to book a meeting with one. Explain that you are likely coming in to money (you don't have to tell them from where) and get some general advice. But if you want it to grow securely, a good 30% should be invested in a safe slow grow portfolio through a Bank. Something you can put aside and forget for years. But I definitely reccomend professional advice. Good luck girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:31 PM
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He's so close. Yet he'll never get it because every reply he gets will be some colour of... "No king! Don't drop your crown! Its the women who are wrong! Make coffee romantic! Try and force physical connection!" 🙄 The two coffee dates I had in my life ended the same way. I just CANNOT find you a viable sexual romantic partner at a busy starbucks at 3pm. There's no anticipation, I'm not dressing up for coffee, there's no atmosphere. And if you make the woman pay for her own drip coffee... woof. Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:04 PM
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Good lord is this what the average woman's life has come to? Abused and bullied into changing yourself for your no value garbage live in pest? Men like this don't deserve a scornful glance from a woman's eyes. I hope she leaves him expeditiously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:12 PM
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That's really sad! Bonus should not be the bare minimum! My bonus is 'handy'. My partner did a few years of general labourer work during his undergrad. So any minor drywalling, electrical, plumbing, and other reno he is fully capable of doing. Its just a nice cost saving and convenience factor. He'd be paying someone to do it if he couldn't, but it's a huge bonus when I come home with a new light fixture and he installs in a hour. Especially during isolation the last 18 months, and being unable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:10 PM
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My fiance has little social media. He has a Facebook under a pseudonym that he uses for his rugby club scheduling. But for him it's also a career thing. As a crim lawyer he has seen social media be a deterrent to being taken seriously in the profession. And due to the dangerous nature of some of the offenders he works with, he doesn't want them coming across him anywhere. We use my private Instagram with only a 100 of our family and friends as contacts to share news. I agree women should be wary…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:26 PM
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Totally. "When he treats you like his bros" is when you know you're being uplifted, loved, respected and pampered. If he's treating you like a queen he's just impregnating other woman and scheming to behead you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:32 PM
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I love that the Queen Leenajay is getting stiched on tiktok. That she's gaining momentum for her hard acknowledgement of misogyny we all face. I'm seeing more and more people use her sound bites and am hoping it encourages more women to listen to her advice through multiple creators and change their lives. This double standard bit always hits hard. How many times have we heard crap like; "Women are so bitchy" "Women spend too much" "Women are vain" To be shut down, before we can even state a sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:40 PM
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So far so good! He knows I'm very happy to be on my own, so he works for the privilege of inclusion in my life. Engaged or not, there's no slouching. Every day with me is a blessing. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:54 PM
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Yaaaassss! My guy is a rugby player. Those tree trunk legs, bubble butt and wide shoulders were the first things I noticed! And the fact he was dressed in a miami vice beige suit. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:31 PM
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I've never subscribed to 'distance makes the heart grow fonder' Distance makes me forget your ass. If you're going to be unavailable for two weeks and you're just some dude I'm seeing, I'll forget why I liked you in the first place sooooo quick. I'm a goldfish bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:58 PM
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Ridiculous. I'm of the opinion anything below 5' hard isn't worth it. And these women can keep lying to themselves, because it's easier to pretend such things don't matter than leave relationships with unsatisfactory sex. And unless your man is some wild sex god who can do things with his tongue and fingers that'll send you to mars, bare minimum you need a prick you can feel. I think there's a sweet spot for most women between 5.5 - 6.5' (but every woman should decide what's right for her). Real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:41 AM
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I do get lots of derogatory names from lv coworkers (mostly men) but it doesn't bother me. Name calling is all they can do, and their opinions are of no consequence to me. They don't dictate my position or salary. Its funny how the same rumor will cause male coworkers to avoid you and call you names while female coworkers will band together and try to collectively strategise. As women move out of 'admin roles' and into decision making and management, men begin to quake in their boots. The boys c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:23 AM
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Yep. LV Men have no standards and will have sex with anyone/anything. While she pathetically cherishes this memory, he either laughs at her stupidity or regrets it. He has no warm and fuzzies for her. It breaks my heart women hate themselves this much. Its self inflicted torture. And because of this it'll take her a looong time to recover and start viewing herself as valuable. Just because someone finds you attractive doesn't mean they respect you. Its a poor equivalence that women accept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:52 PM
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My mother and I discussed it. And I'll keep my name. My father has no sons and I like my surname. I'm also established in my field and its ridiculous to make a change now. My children will have a hyphenated last name in ALL legal documentation but can use their fathers surname in day to day life. This is fair and simple to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:06 PM
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Guys pay for half the cost of pizza, eat more slices and say they provided for you. The meaning of providing for your family is lost on most men today. They have no pride. They either think it only means financially and consider their part done once the bills are paid, (completely ignoring the unpaid labour the woman provides) or they think their sheer presence and wisdom is providing. My daddy, a respected professor of physics back home moved our family to Canada for a better life. And while he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:59 PM
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Every position description does this. But 'other duties as required' should relate to the written duties before it. If you're an accountant, being asked to write RFP's, do procurement, or create gnatt charts is out of scope for your position. If I don't already know how to do it, or if I need training on how to do it, or if it will take more than a hour or two from my regular work load, it is out of scope. And I've learned assessing this and bringing up concerns with your boss immediately is the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:26 AM
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Haha! Yes! Inside joke at work. We call them the c-class. Short for cretin class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:40 AM
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This is frustratingly still the case for many working women. I'm sorry to hear about your liability coworker. Hopefully his failures are far enough removed from your successes. I've been passed over for many opportunities that I was better equipped for, than the men who got them. And all the c-class has to say is "they were a better fit". I (and one other female coworker) need to provide weekly updates on our projects, which takes 5 hours of my week to prepare, to management, when male coworkers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:31 AM
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It definitely means their work is going to called into question. And Jeff (Manager, project accounting) is going to have to explain to his boss (the Controller) why his staff is not doing their job. But I'm sure they'll weasel out. Its not the first time, and I'm not the first to complain. 🙄 Men live life on easy mode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:48 PM
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He responded 15min ago with; "(Op) and I misunderstood each other, we'll resolve this and forward the month end package tonight." Loooool. I already forwarded the original email thread (where he told me to do it, and when I said it wasn't my job nor was I qualified to, he said I was being purposefully difficult and high maintenance) to everyone tho! Its clear what transpired. My boss already said he had a meeting booked with the controller, sooo Jeff and Trevor doesn't know what's coming to them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:42 PM
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Let's hope so! People at work (mostly men) have gotten really comfortable with slacking during wfh, since they don't have to answer to anyone in person. And other less confrontational people just accept this new disrespect. I don't get paid as much as he does, so I'm not doing both our jobs. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:34 PM
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Just the lv coworker inundated me with texts and calls. My boss only responded to my email cc'ing everyone with... "This is indeed the project accountant's deliverable. Jeff, please confirm that Trevor is still employed in this position" Choke Trevor, choke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:27 PM
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Loooool. I had a coworker just today call me high maintenance because I refused to do his job of completing month end financials. This idiot wrote it in an email. I forwarded it to my boss and his supervisor and said "as seen below, I'd like to confirm this is not a duty of my position. If my job description has changed to include this, can we schedule a meeting to discuss compensation, training, and my job title? Thank you all for taking the time to address this" You can bet my phone blew up im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:38 PM
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I hope he files for divorce. Since she was a sahm for 20 years, she'll clean him out and his 'men friends' will be falling over themselves to impress and woo her. They're just waiting for their chance with this amazing woman. Not that she'd likely have them. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:18 AM
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I reported a similar onlyfans ad as unwanted porn. Gtfo with your teenage miniskirt ads shit. I don't want the feds coming after me reddit. Gross ass CEO and nasty members of the board.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:09 PM
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Sorry to say, but as a woman in a male dominated field... You will ALWAYS be considered problematic. I can't even tell you the heinous things male coworkers have said about me, regardless of whether I was playing nice or being just as vicious as them. All I can tell you is if you're already medicating, this will not get better unless that coworkers leaves or you do. From experience, no title, no amount of money can help the effects of a troubled mind due to harassment. It'll just wear you down. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:57 PM
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I've been here. While I was looking for other work, this is how I handeled it. Everything in writing. You're already doing this. But I started refusing to do the SIMPLEST request if it was not in writing. If they refused to send an email, I sent one and cc'd supervisors. Become a squeaky wheel yourself. Become the bane of your supervisors existence. Cc HR, cc health and safety, cc everyone when you have a serious complaint about your coworker. Print out the HSE manual, or harassment policy. Quot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:34 PM
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Que? What did I just read? You let a grown, loser, alcoholic piss on your (be honest, he didn't pay for it) couch MULTIPLE times. Throwing yourself in the well would be a better alternative to living with this creature. Sounds to me like she also has undiagnosed issues and should seek therapy and distance. This is straight up abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:04 PM
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Terrible. He obviously doesn't love her (open relationship ick), and she needs to ovary up and either decide to raise the child alone, or get an abortion and move on without him. But neither scenario should involve this nasty useless man. I'm not mad at the advice given to him. Him blowing dodge is win for this woman who will have an opportunity to fix her life and get therapy. Better than staying with a nasty, disgraceful, resentful prick. However...dating 10 years? Living together wasn't menti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:35 PM
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I bet all her 'fantasies' involved just the two of them. But of course his big one involves a third party. This woman knows he's a dirtbag. She was fishing for further evidence. But what will she do with her evidence now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:23 PM
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This is disgusting. But if your bf freaks out over this, the fates are giving you an opportunity to run and not look back! Assuming you weren't already dating an abusive shit stain and knew it. A nv-ex did this to me once, came right up to me and my fiance at a bar (fiance and I had only been dating 2 months at this point) and wanted to chat. Kept bringing up our relationship. Just really really sad honestly. I politely tried to end the convo multiple times. He didn't get it. My fiance verbatim …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:58 PM
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The problem really is 'you' (us). Not the way this lady pretends to explain, but if you're dragging your lv partner to the therapist. You have lost a useless battle. The whole point of this sub is giving women choice. You can (and should) choose to walk away from men like this. They cannot be cured of their sickness via your love, trust, and encouragement. You can only cure yourself by excising them from your life and making sure you have education, family and friends to uplift you. All that asi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:09 AM
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His advice should have ended with divorce. You picked her for the wrong reasons, the gap between you has widened. Now divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:06 PM
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I met a new guy at a wedding an ex did this to me at. We'd been dating 5 months, I didn't want to attend the wedding but I'd already met the bride at another event and figured it would be rude to not show up. *big mistake. HUGE. We go, he's a groomsman so I spent the ceremony alone. Then he sat at the main table and I sat at the single friends table. And what do you think happened ladies? This one guy at the table kept me company the WHOLE night. Great conversationalist, excellent dancer, all th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:39 PM
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We are a union! Why should women have less rights than plumbers? Love the analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:49 PM
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Agreed. I ask everyone going home late at night, or driving a far distance to text or call when they get home. My fiancé will still ask me to text or call when I get home, 2 years into our relationship. And if I forget, (it happens, you walk in, get distracted), he will call me 40min from the moment we parted to check. And if it already bugs you...as witchingsauce said, it's a no-go. You won't 'get over' it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:29 AM
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Horrific! Why is birthday sex any different than normal day sex?!?! If you're too scared to ask for it on a Wednesday because you know its disgusting and depraved, then you're disgusting and depraved. I like to give men thoughtful gifts. I paint, I cook, I knit, a cute little plant or book. That is all. Expensive presents just emasculate a man who can buy it himself and tell a leech you're an atm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:54 PM
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Why would we fail our future generations by breeding unhealthy, mentally ill, unintelligent children? I want the best for my future children. And that means only have children with a successful, attractive, stable man, because I don't want my children to judge me later, wondering why I failed them. Especially when I myself am educated, successful, and attractive. Ugly men (inside and out) cannot convince me to lower my standards. Because guess what...I found what I was looking for with those sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:29 PM
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But did he pick her though? Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:23 PM
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I don't solve his problems. I don't keep a calendar for him. His lamp breaks? I reccomend a sale at ikea. He's busy with work? It happens. I have other things to do, I don't mope. We cook together or he cooks for me. I return the frequency exactly, no more. We don't save for anything together yet. We don't buy anything together for the future. I don't attend his work events, because why would I if I'm not his wife? He benefits from my presence there, but there's nothing in it for me. Your relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:30 AM
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You're single until you're married is the big one! I'm engaged, but we don't live together. We don't share expenses. He takes me on trips, dates, and cares for me in a proactive way. It's not stated ever. But the way I carry myself around him implies that I am untied and unbothered until we sign that document and he moves me into that house he's trying to buy right now. I chose to not sleep with or date other people because i respect him and want this to work, and vice-versa. (Also, I am too exh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:30 AM
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We can't all be ahead of the curve and enlightened. I hope to get there one day. But in the meantime, I'll keep painting my nails with pictures of plants because it makes me happy to look at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:14 AM
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I think that's the important process. Achieving awareness. Does wearing yellow and curling your hair have to come from a male performative angle? Who knows? But women should be free to choose their 'look'. The only way to do this is to question why you do what you do. I'm a firm believer in not paying for expensive beauty treatments. No eyelashes, no laser, no dye jobs. But I'm not going to light up the women who do. I can gently ask why they choose to do so. But every woman is on her own journe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:12 AM
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Woof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:00 AM
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Of course it doesn't. The cleanliness/neatness was a separate point. Women should do what they want when it comes to self care, using their own critical eye. There is a scale here, it's not black and white. My original point was and stands: if you think you're doing it because of the patriarchy. Stop. Assess how necessary it is, and if it negatively affects your budget while not positively affecting your happiness. Then proceed as you see fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:54 AM
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Nothing is just visual. And that's my point. Its about how it makes you feel! Sometimes I put on mascara around the house, seeing nobody, because I might be having a bad day and that little thing makes me happy. It's OK to be vain for your own happiness. I know this FDS journey starts to make you second guess everything you do and why you do it, but safety, self-sufficiency, and self worth are the goal. Everything else is worthwhile to be aware of, but should not derail your journey to being the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:01 PM
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But so much of attraction is tied to hygiene. Look good = feel good can equate to - i had a shower, I smell nice and feel clean, and therefore look good. It's human. Not feminine. You're not showering, brushing your hair, and triming your nails to look good for others. There is a line here. And basic care is genderless. All people should be clean, tidy, and smell unoffensive. The issue is the group of men who don't even do these basics and they consider this excessive and feminine. The best way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:30 PM
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If you would do it for them, they should for you. ♥️ It's nice to hear your partner is being supportive during this difficult time for you. I hope you have friends and family nearby while he's at work during your recovery. ♥️ When I broke my leg my fiance went and purchased a bidet attachment for me and installed it, because I also refused his offer to help me wipe. (I couldn't put pressure on my leg to get the right angle for wiping. Tmi) And we had been dating 3-4 months at this point. It's a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:11 PM
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Pursue whatever beauty makes you feel good about yourself. Done. For some women that's beautiful expensive nails, for others a hair cut or nice earrings, a yoga membership, or even just a body scrub and face mask. I love to have soft clean hair, tint my eyebrows and paint my nails. I do. Because I like looking at myself in the mirror when I do and it makes me feel put together. But I don't feel pressured to do more or less. Men's attention can't be swerved by denying yourself what makes you happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:04 PM
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Amazing! Doing the Lords work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:55 PM
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Yes they can. My fiancé and I are both work-a-holics. Him because he's a crim lawyer and loooooves it. Me, less by choice, but because I'm hustling for that promotion this year. We still have 'our' time. He still sends me 3-4 texts during the day. When we meet for dinner, the phones are put away. At least for a 1.5, while we eat and talk about our days. Then we'll both start checking emails (this is bad, we're trying to be better together). He checks in with me all the time, asking if I'm overwo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:29 PM
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Ding ding ding. I bet you not a single "my male partner pays for everything and in return I give him the gift of my presence" is included. Because that's WRONG, by libfem strawman logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:41 AM
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Damn you OP. You have immeasurably ruined my life with this innovative new pickme low. Haha! But seriously, can't wait for her follow up after he leaves her due to the debilitating sinus infections she acquires. Though she should have a long line of degenerates waiting to netipot her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:06 PM
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Looooool @ find her a therapist before I left. The man is so stupid he doesn't realise him leaving was the gift of therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:39 PM
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Men who say this are usually boring and fat. Right along with those looking for an active girl, aka: skinny. But they won't actually do anything active with you. Gym buddy: come watch me at the gym while I make sure you don't gain weight but we'll never do fun things and I'll never take you out because I live for the swoll and boiled chicken breasts. Looking for my Pam: i have no personality. I've never even watched the office but I think wumen are lame and probably fall for this shit. Be intere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:33 PM
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Absolutely! Even HV marriages can end. And HV married DO end if both parties are loving responsible adults who realise their incompatibilities cannot be worked though. The right decision is to end it. I know a few of these divorced couples who are both still happy(even happier) outside their marriage, loving co-parents, friends, and supportive people. And these women and men did not jump into the next partners lap that came around. 4 years on they're still focusing on themselves and their kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:59 PM
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Stay strong girl! It only goes up from here. You only have yourself to worry and think about now, and nobody holding you back from achieving all your goals and aspirations. And you're so young! So much life to enjoy ahead of you. Your 20s and 30s are the ideal learning years to set yourself up for a wonderful future. Best of luck with everything! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:53 PM
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^ this They bitter Betty's who can only get 'love' by putting out and they view you as competition. Trying to drag you into the slums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:39 PM
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Girl. Get him to sleep on the couch. There is no reason for you two to be sharing a bed if you're done. Start the distancing now. You are ROOMATES until May. You do not cuddle, you do not have heartfelt talks, you are nothing but LOGISTICAL. Trust me. You start working on easy barriers now, and by May you will be that much stronger when the cord is officially cut. Don't torture yourself. You are the important party here. You must be number one in your own life. And he should already be in the re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:51 PM
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We laughed about it yesterday actually! But we shan't forget the injustice. 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:04 PM
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I try! What is the point of life without fulfilling female friendships! Edit: hit post too soon. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:06 PM
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It's a. Laziness - because...men... b. Strategy - they're hoping to leave it so last minute that you end up going over to theirs as no other options are available. And lots of pickme's and insecure women still fall for this I refused to go on dates that did not include a reservation. And if I was suspect of it, I'd call the restaurant beforehand and make sure there was a reso. Saved myself a few 'oh no...let's just go to my place' fakeouts by doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:44 PM
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But like...they cool with paying for feet pics and videos on onlyfans of girls that wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole in real life. Stay mad ScroteLords.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:36 PM
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The Ron Swanson one kills me. I'd consider him a HVM. Wealthy, private, excellent at woodworking, kind friend, married a single mother with two kids and worked hard to better their and the communities lives... What men really want to say is I'm portly, with a bad diet and drink cheap booze because I can't afford Lagavulin. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:35 PM
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I can't even imagine. I had a conversation with my fiance about porn months ago, just came up based on a show we were watching. And he told me...(paraphrased) "When I was twelve, the only porn available to me was my friend's dads ratty playboys from the 70s he found in the garage. I viewed them through a lense of curiosity. By the time I was old enough to masterbate, i was old enough to use my imagination. By the time my imagination wasn't enough I was old enough to actually date women. Why on e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:53 AM
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Welcome! We're so glad you're here! FDS is a process, you make gains and losses. But we have to be sympathetic to ourselves and empathetic to our sisters. You made the right choice for you. But don't beat yourself up because of how long it took you to get there. You're on the up now! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:52 PM
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I wouldn't have an issue if he did it away from me. Go out with your friends and drink. But I'd feel the same way about him eating sushi. I'd never deny him the opportunity just because I was pregnant, but don't eat it in front of me. Cause then I'd be sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:40 PM
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My fiance is Jude Lawing a bit at 35. But he's already looking at options to slow it down. Sometimes it can't be helped. But what can be helped is how you address it. Get a better haircut, look into prescription medication, or shave it all off and focus on amplifying other attractive aspects of yourself. I've never been turned off about a guy losing his hair. But I feel revolted when I see a guy clinging to the last couple whisps on his head like Prince William. Either you have other attributes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:38 PM
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As Gaga said, "Your career will never turn around one morning and tell you it no longer loves you". Feelings change ladies, yours, theirs...but a good career, strong female friendship and personal pursuits will always prop you up in a time of hardship. Your lazy, rude, no value man will not. And even if you're lucky enough to have a great partner, he or you could still change your feelings one day, he could die or become injured and unable to work or experience things with you. What will you do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:32 PM
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What a joke. When my fiance accidentally ruined a sweater (he thought he could wash it on delicate alone in the machine, then lay flat, it still fell apart) he was devastated. And took me shopping the next day to try and buy me a replacement. I have never bent to this tactic with NV exs. If you want to be incompetent, I can be even more incompetent. I will break you, force you to do the work while I get my shit together. Then block and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:32 PM
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Empathy is EXPECTED of women. Its the same reason we're expected to give up our careers for the sake if family, take a backseat to men in the corporate world to protect their fragile egos, be free therapists(to men and women) and so much other shit. But we're told to bury any empathy we may feel for ourselves. We're not allowed to put ourselves first and think about our own wellbeing because men see it at the expense of themselves. Women caring about themselves is equivalent to them as women not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:23 PM
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The article was a YAWN. Hope the author gets picked by the man of her dreams! Because the bs inaccurate drivel she wrote was the equivalent of spreading her legs open wide to every NVM on the planet and inviting their misogynistic micropenises into her gate keeping, woman traitor, lying-ass womb. I wish her an ounce of luck. And to the ladies here, just remember, the more vocally they turn on us, the stronger nerve we've struck. Stay strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:41 AM
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There is in Canada, but it's pennies. Certainly not enough to live on. Maybe...$250 a month if you were a SAHM for 20 years. I wish to be a mother, I want to raise my kids, but I want to give them stability, extra curriculars, and travel opportunities more than I want to see them every waking moment of their lives. My choice to continue working is not just for me. It is for them. So they never associate me as being the washer, feeder, cleaner. But rather as the nurturer, bank, and inspiration fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:35 PM
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A mutual friend's going away party over three years ago. He didn't leave my side the whole night, was an excellent conversationalist. I had just gotten out of a shitty relationship, and against my better judgement gave him my number. He texted me that night to make sure I got home. Pursued me for a whole month, but I was leaving the country for the summer. I told him this, he wished me a wonderful trip. Said he hoped I had fun and got a mental break and hoped I felt better on my return and would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:53 PM
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I know you're half joking. But for others who may actuallu worry about this...so what? If a guy thinks you're spoiled because another man treated you wonderfully, that's all the info you need and good riddance. The normal reaction to that should be nothing. A HVM would never question your ex partner treating you any less than amazingly, because he intends to do the same. So no competition, no problem in his mind. He knows he's a catch and so are you, and your ex is no threat to him. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:02 AM
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I do not think that word means what he thinks it means...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:58 AM
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Dear lord, this shit makes me nauseous. I'm not for pseudo-masculinity bs, but my fiance would jump off that ledge if I had ever pulled such a stunt. He would shrivel and die and likely would have broken up with me. Because he knows the LEAST he can do is buy me a beautiful ring and get down on one knee. The LEAST. And when women do this, the lose the tiny shred of respect that NVM had for them and implode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:05 PM
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I'm sure if you search stella hair I'll come up. She's amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:52 PM
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Just want to let you ladies know some scrote angrily messaged me complaining it's rude and gross to eat off a man's plate on a first date. Looool. But they expect you to put their wrinkled hotdog in your mouth after paying for your own drink. They can stay mad! But we gotta stay on our path!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:47 AM
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Love it! I watch this hair youtuber (Stella something) and her comment section is always filled with men and women saying "You feel yourself too much!" And its asinine! Like, wtf? If I don't feel me, how would anyone else? If I can't look in the mirror (more often than not) and say to myself "Damn girl! Where do you get off looking so gorgeous!" Am I just to die because a maaaan doesn't say it? Unabashed self love and respect is terrifying to men and pick-me's. Because they lose their power over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:46 PM
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I see your point. I hate picking restaurants. So my fiance picks the place/cuisine and I usually pick the meals to try. That way he gets the type of food he wants, but I can cater to my specific desires. I think it's important to remember these videos and tips don't exist in a vacuum. This is what her boyfriend does for HER. We don't know how she reciprocates in other areas. Relationships are give and take, and everyone's follows different rules for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:52 PM
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My fiance hates potatoes (don't @ me ladies, I know it's weird). But if there is a fry option as a side, he always orders them for me! Always. And we generally compromise on the menu since we're both adventurous eaters who love to share. We pick things we both want to try. But there have been times where he buys a third entree because I want to give it a try as well. How can men expect to share their life with someone if they can't share their food? He also gives me the first sip of every cockta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:46 PM
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You're so right. People generally don't want to come home and have INTENSELY STIMULATING CONVERSATIONS with their partner every night. I 100% believe this woman he married is a full human being, with a tiring job, an education, hobbies, friends and family and sadly, a shitty loser spouse who wants to be pedantic all night long when she just wants to watch an hour of reality TV and rest. My fiance is a criminal lawyer, I'm a project manager, and we live for 90DayFiance. It's like xanax for us. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:52 PM
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Precisely. The opposite is 'uniqueness'. Whatever that damn means to you. Doing what you like, when you like, with who you like and having no qualms about this. Weak men also like to call this being a crazy biatch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:37 PM
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I just got a message from someone who frequently lurks here and other questionable subs. I looked at their posts and they easily have dozens of comments on FDS the mods have CANCELLED, and thank goodness. The mods out there making sure we focus on the important things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:37 AM
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We were having lunch downtown on a work day (not super romantic, but it was a nice steak/cocktail place). Good convo, nice atmosphere. Then he leans over the table, puts his hand on mine, and says "my mother will love you" I immediately started looking around like, "is she here or something" Then he asked me how soon I wanted kids. I let him pay for my porterhouse and left in the opposite direction of my office just in case he followed. 🚫 quickly after. It was verrrryyyy much a instant family si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:30 PM
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I don't know the WALL is about just looks. When men talk about the WALL they really mean your 'worth'. (which much of is tied to looks) But worth includes your contributions to society. And when men say you've hit the wall, they are implying you have nothing to give. And though the argument shouldn't be legitimised, women need to tackle the idea head on. That's why it's important to showcase women being successful and beautiful in all stages of life to dismantle this notion in both genders heads…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:21 PM
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That was the me he met, and knew, and was comfortable with. And this is an important point! Bodies change. If you are with someone long enough, you have kids, you gain weight, you break your nose, or end up needing dentures. Your 'person' changes. You develop new principles, different boundaries, hobbies and careers. And it's OK to mourn the you from the past, but you have to accept and appreciate your present you. And so does your damn partner. Life is a JOURNEY. ...As corny as that sounds. And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:42 AM
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This this this. You need to invest as much in your friends as you do in your frigging houseplants! Tend to relationships that give you confidence, support, and growth. And cut the rot of flakiness, jealousy, and apathy. You should be able to think of your circle and feel nothing but love, kindness, and self-improvement (theirs and yours). If anyone doesn't do this for you...snip...snip...snip... You cannot save a plant that looks good on top, but has root rot. You can only take the best leaf, cu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:56 PM
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Girl. This 💯 There's a flavour for everyone. Do your best to be healthy for you! But don't sweat extra pounds. Men certainly don't. My fiance was sooooo sad (but crazy supportive) when I reached my get fit goal. And he said "I love you in every size that makes you happy. And I'll love in every size that makes you sad. But I'll always support your happiness. And I'll support you to get there" though he still reaches for that phantom belly roll sometimes. It'll be back eventually. But as long as y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:47 PM
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Ummm... can I be the man in this scenario? Only way this would work. Oh, and if he was scrubbed, waxed, and powdered before they pour the gravy on. I like my plates clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:41 PM
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This movie was a huge influence on me growing up. Especially coming from an Eastern European background where so many cultural nuances are the SAME. Like, at 29 my grandmothers/aunts/cousins were planning an intervention for me because they were worried I would end up alone (the horror) and was running out of time to find someone. And they would constantly try and set me up with losers from back home, that I would have to sponsor (with my own money) so that they could come here and deliver pizza…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:23 AM
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Don't care. Doesn't matter. 🤷‍♀️ I lost mine at 23 to the first boyfriend I thought was worth it. Still look back on him and our time fondly (we had to break up because he left the country for grad school). Maybe it was to do with my friend group, but most of us didn't start having sex until mid-uni. And I think it saved us. Gave us time to learn ourselves, and learn from the mistakes of others. While 'virginity' as a constructs makes to market women as heifers, actually losing your virginity SH…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:49 PM
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The last time a man told me I should lose weight, it really motivated me to lose 200lbs of him. Good lord this guy is sad as shit. And you can tell the way he talks about this EVEN he isn't 100% on his advice. Sad sad sad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:37 PM
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👌 got me loads of chocolate. And my favourite cheddar cheese (long story) and a cute owl figurine. Took me to a beautiful Moroccan restaurant, curtains, lanterns, pillows, great vibe. If I could add a photo I would. I painted him a picture as a gift, which he hung up immediately in his office. It was nice, no stress, no pretense. Just a nice day where we had an excuse to be obnoxiously lovey-dovey. And I would wish the same for all women who chose to participate in valentines festivities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:04 PM
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What ✍ do ✍ I ✍ need ✍ you ✍ for? ✍ Noted girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:59 PM
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This is the craziest thing to me! Not every woman wants/needs a diamond ring or designer bag for valentines (but if you do, then you do). Like, know your partner! Most women are happy to be respectfully acknowledged on this day. Flowers, chocolates, maybe dinner, a book, other gift. My dudes, that will run you $100 if you hit up a nice small intimate place. Men have spent more on worse shit. And that's why their argument fails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:50 PM
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Secrets that turned men on in the 1950's...hahaha! Men are so pornsick these days you'll be hard pressed to find one that appreciates a red nail, elegant neckline, or hair flip. In fact, you are usually a faceless entity until they get you naked. And then they're like "who are you? Get out" So... just sit how it pleases you ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:01 PM
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It's all about the value. 1. Ring value - what's the insured price of this baby? 2. The VALUE you have to the man If his nana's ring is a precious heirloom and he knows you like the style, or he takes it to get it modified into a style and SIZE you like, then great! I'm a fan of vintage rings in general. And have no issue wearing anothers ring. But preferably still estate sale purchase, not family loaner. If it's third aunt removed, Petunia's, .25 carat, rinky dink 2nd marriage ring, his momma g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:25 PM
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My fiance has a tissue box, small wastebasket, water, and argan oil. Seems sketch. Lol. But he has sinus issues and is constantly blowing and moisturising his nose. He empties the basket every morning and makes our bed. I usually won't make the bed until dinner time if its left to me. What's in that picture is nasty. And this comparison is not cute. It's depressing and tells me the girl sleeping next to him is unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:29 PM
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I just saw a video here on reddit of a man walking with his baby, discussing the meaning of family. And he said "If you don't deal with your issues/trauma, if you are not a team with your child's mother (love her or not) you can have it all. But you will not be happy. It will mean nothing. You are not ready to be a father and husband." (paraphrased a little) And he was directing this to men who think they want a family. And I feel this is the 🔑 to a HVM. You HAVE to want it. You HAVE to be willi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:24 PM
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Don't slander Soft Cell, the og synth gay kings like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:02 AM
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My fiancé takes 10 min every night on the patio (even in -20 Celsius) to fart in peace. But...I...as an anally retentive woman, who still struggles to fart in the day, fall asleep next to him swiftly and proceed to fart the night through. Thankfully, mine are not smelly, but they sure are loud. And I've woken us both up before. I think the issue here is he isn't even TRYING. Like, he knows it bothers her, and clearly he has a farting schedule. So can't he open a window, or take 10min in another …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:51 AM
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Hope he's still asleep. The audacity of men to think we do anything to attract them. Lol. That's a secondary effect of trying to make ourselves the best we can be. You getting the runoff of our leveling up. Be thankful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:26 AM
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My bf wears my purse for me if my hands are busy. Like full cross body, one hand protectively over the flap. It looks hilarious honestly. But it shows me how much he respects my things, and in turn me, by keeping it safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:47 PM
5

I retched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:34 PM
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Beards have no in-between for me. Either it is a gross, lazy, food catching, monstrosity. Or it is a soft, shampooed, oiled, brushed, pet project. Good facial hair is a sign of a hygienic man who cares about his image. Doesn't immediately mean a HV quality, but is a good indicator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:58 PM
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Once you realise nobody is 'obligated' to your time, notice and effort, you open your world to other options/experiences. You got this girl. Best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:34 AM
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And don't be afraid to cut these people out. If they are hindering you from being the best self you can be, drop them and don't look back. It gets easier along the way. And eventually you cultivate a select group of high value friends/family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:30 PM
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You can never be sure 100%. People can change on you decades later at the drop of a hat. But every person has to set their own acceptable milestones. Mine is about a year to feel more secure in a partners empathy and kindness. Some people might never feel sure, but it's impossible to progress in a relationship if you don't. This is why you need the full arsenal of fds tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:31 AM
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I feel this way too seeing so little empathy and thought from most men. But that's why you vet vet vet. And NEVER tell them what it is your vetting specifically. When I heard my now partner two weeks into our relationship end a call with his mom and brother by saying 'I love you', I took it as a good sign. But didn't ever mention it. I'd always politely thank him when he did something I needed, or picked me up food, or cooked dinner without asking. But I'd never say 'I like when you anticipate m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:52 AM
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My boyfriend isn't a workaholic but the very nature of his job (lawyer) means it ebbs and flows. He always makes time for at least a 30min phonecall every night. And leaves his Saturdays and Sundays for us. This is during the worst time. Lower volume on his end can even be meeting every day and long weekends away, etc. The main thing for me is he is always honest about what's on his plate and gives me a week look in advance. That way I can plan to do other activities when he's busy. He's also wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:46 PM
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I 100% agree anyone pursuing a new relationship while in the midst of a divorce is LV and likely has psychological issues to work out with their therapist. Male or female. But honestly, half of my friends got married straight out of uni (23-26) because it seemed like the logical next step. And are now getting divorced at 31 because they've realised there's growing to do and they can't do it together (ie. Job opportunities, kids, location) I wouldn't consider any of these people LV, since their v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:58 AM
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...in what world? Men really love to rewrite the narrative to suit themselves. Tall women are DESIRABLE. In every way. It's why you see every beautiful, leggy, woman with a man on her arm. Short, mean, gremlins who have nothing to offer women (regardless of height) are not desirable. Many tall women end up with shorter men, that's just due to what's available. But clearly those fellas have a lot to offer aside from a couple extra inches, otherwise they'd be single. And if a 5'11 lady wants a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:22 PM
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100% This is why I've NEVER even sent a suggestive picture to a man. You want to see the goods? You make an effort to see me, put me in the mood, and maybe I'll be up for it. And that should always be the case. If our bodies are a 'product' and the most valuable one we have, why should women allow men produce to free copies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:21 PM
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Ayayay. And women are emotional and stuck in the past? Men who cannot and do not comprehend your autonomy as a human with life experiences ain't shit. It's fine if it made him feel sad, I get that. But it's unacceptable he treat her this way. At least she won't waste years with him. The grossness exposed itself expediently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:13 PM
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It just kept getting worse and worse. And who's paying for all this damn food? Because at no point is his job mentioned. So he just sits at home and eats the food she buys. Honestly this girl is just willfully ignorant. You don't actually post things like this hoping to have interesting discourse. She knows this is disgusting and is looking for enough encouragement to gtfo. And hopefully she gets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:21 PM
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My mom forced both my sister and me into higher education, and demanded my dad pay it in full, and that we not leave the house until we had been working a full time job for at least a year (25 yrs old for both of us). She told my dad he owed us both 30k to help us with down-payments on homes. And to this day my mom is the leader in continuing to support us. She considers the financial support we received as her back-wages from those years of being an unpaid sahm. And she always says she's thankf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:12 PM
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Just do the wine. As a general rule of thumb... Sentimental gifts year 1 ONLY. It'll show his character based on the reaction. A nice card, a picture of you two in a frame, knit him a scarf, a book you think he'd like. Under $25. If he wears that scarf every day, uses that mug at work for his 5x day coffee, reads the book and wants to discuss it...you know he cares about your efforts. Men who seek expensive gifts are looking for the validation they got you hooked. They don't care about how much …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:52 PM
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Good thing he lit that candle to hide the smell of his bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:22 PM
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I want my partner to add MORE flavour to my life. My life is wonderful enough, so they have to bring things I otherwise don't have the time or energy to bring forth myself. As an example, my current partner is always noting things I passingly express interest in. I don't have the energy or money to add another extra curricular to my life, so he takes the effort to book time with me and take us to a pottery lesson. If I tell him I've had a long day at work and don't feel like a super socialiser. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:38 PM
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I hope you get a tidy salary for all your listening. Hopefully enough to pay for the 'not free' therapy you'll require after that man drivel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:29 PM
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Yesssss...let's let karma handle the rest. Hopefully your friends dump you, you lose your job and end up destitute, your ex-wife takes what money you have left in alimony for the abuse you inflicted and she and her new partner reconcile with her family and live happily with you out of mind. Doesn't he realise karma is a b*tch? Therefore she subscribes to FDS principles? Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:22 PM
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My mother says the same. Your partner should love you faaaaaar more than you love him. Because women will stay out of respect but the love of men is fickle and fleeting. Worked out for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:02 PM
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This IS the appropriate reaction. There is no need to 'take a moment' or 'consider the other side'. You touch me unwantedly and inappropriately, I will throw hands. If more low value boys between the ages of 6-18 got beat up by the women they assulted immediately following their transgressions, the world would be a marginally better place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:45 PM
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She's right. Divorce him and get more than your 7k. Provided she didn't sign some iron clad prenup. Can't believe she's carrying his kid. Clearly she's just a glorified baby oven to this loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:59 AM
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My BF doesn't really buy this concept as he thinks all of these languages are important to everyone but they shift up and down the leaderboard through life. Which I tend to agree with. He personally constantly compliments my work ethics, my outfits, any meals I may cook. Thanks me relentlessly. And loves to spend all day together doing fun activities, and planning and paying for them, and then going straight to snoozetown. Like any human being he enjoys physical touch (mostly hair stroking 🤣) bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:22 PM
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He stated it three months in after we'd had a wild night of 'wine tasting'. But he was blotto so I ignored it completely. He officially told me about six weeks later when out for a nice romantic dinner. I thanked him and continued treating him exactly the same. I told him I loved him when I felt it, around month seven. And nothing changed outwardly. The major difference is internally. I love this man now, so I worry. When he tells me about a bad day at work (rarely admits this) or I can see his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:07 PM
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Yuck. My current partner told me on our first date he only pursues one person at a time. Two weeks later he took me on a weekend away and asked me to be 'official', I traveled across country with him in month five to meet his parents (he met mine month three). We discussed a timeline for moving in together and how we would expect our finances to mesh and responsibilities to evolve in month six. Setting our one year anniversary as an action date for this. I also at this point told him I would und…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:51 AM
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We're in Canada, so pretty surface-progressive. My boyfriend handles most of the cooking and cleaning tasks when entertaining because he wants me to enjoy myself with guests. And he's not embarrassed to snuggle up or hold my hand in front of his buddies. Seeing the look on their girlfriends faces tells me that they don't get the same care. As I mentioned prior, a lot of these 'friends' are dropping off the face of the earth. Likely bitter about what they're seeing, and fielding pointed questions…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:00 PM
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Excuse me what? Lol. "When the boys aren't around"? But when they are he'd prefer to order you around like a slave and laugh about it with the 'boys'. This is so sad. There should NO difference in the level of respect and care between equal partners whether in public or private. If your man only wants to love or be loved in private, then he doesn't want the world to know he's with you. The 'babying' of grown men is especially sickly. My current partner routinely embarrasses his 'friends' (who ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:02 PM
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'Betcha Tom footed the bill. Because he's likely into her and probably already knows her useless boyfriend never would. Tom could be a serial killer, but he already knows how to get ahead with this girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:00 PM
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No offence to this lady. But the name tattoo doesn't seem like the first terrible decision she's made. Kinda hard to cover that up when things go south. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:36 AM
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Ditto. As an Eastern European it is 100% expected for male friends to pick up the tab, or at least a few rounds of drinks. Even if you're both married to other people with 10+ kids. At this point it's engrained, and I'm sure none of the men even wonder why they do it. It's just how they were raised/taught. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:12 PM
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This is not cute. I can't stand the profiles that say things like "you'll be the attractive one in this relationship" either. Like, why would I want to be seen with you if I don't find you attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:55 PM
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I told her to move on. And some dude with 'cooter' in his name took time to respond and called me deplorable. Hahaha! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 09:58 PM
13

And most of the responses to her very VALID concerns are 'BE UNDERSTANDING' This guy is literally ignoring her, cancelling plans, bringing no value and she's not sure. If he isn't capable of giving her what he knows she needs due to his personal life issues, then he needs to back out and stop dating. He is a absolutely using her as a support crutch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 09:30 PM
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Why? Cause muh penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:37 PM
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Better yet, COMMUNICATE to him how he can step into the trash can itself on garbage day. Help the fellow out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:02 PM
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I've said this line to sooo many friends. And it's true. You are the top billed actor in your own life. Never let someone push you to the sideline in your own story. That's when you wake up one morning, 65, and realise you've only ever lived for other people, and there's nothing to write in your obit but "loving wife of so and so"...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:02 PM
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Sad and pathetic. The next generation of nasty neckbeard spawn will be worse than the last. Ladies, gird your loins, and teach your children their value is explicitly tied to their empathy, confidence, and self worth. Not their success in love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 03:34 PM
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I'm in Information Governance and you won't believe the amount of times I get asked to cover reception, or empty dishwashers. Like no. There's nothing wrong with those tasks for the appropriate position, but not for me. So I've started giving the male excuse. Male coworker: nobody has emptied the dishwasher yet. Me: the admin assistant is busy, she'll do it later MC: well someone should do it now Me: ignores MC: can you? Me: Me?!?! A dishwasher? Why, i wouldn't know where to start. In fact, I'd …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:30 PM
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Agreed. "All of the sudden" seems unlikely. He's always been a controlling twat. It just so happens to be a scenario she can't reverse now. God forbid she got sick and lost her hair. And if he loves long hair "more than anything", clearly including his Wife, he should grow his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:00 PM
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Men cause their own complexes because they realise they have NOTHING else to offer besides some 'perceived' physical preferences. I'm dating a guy who's my height these days, and he has never brought it up. Not his own height, not mine, if I wear heels he has nothing but compliments. A HVM knows why a HVW chooses to give him her time, and his height is but a small part of that equation. So it is a nonisssue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:39 PM
94

Yep. You've dated one dollar tree lumberjack, you've dated them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:29 PM
145

Facts. The moment you challenge men's masculinity they go nuclear. How do you challenge their masculinity? Why by doing the exact things they expect of us in 2020, making money, being self sufficient and leaving them alone for 90% of the time. They want to eat their cakes and have them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:14 PM
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Omg. I'm so sorry you had to live through that. I hope you and your children are doing better these days!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:40 PM
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I'm a badass in progress! But I'll tell you ladies, once you truly subscribe to fds principles and start treating the first 6 months of any relationship as a conservative/logical/aware interview process, then it's super easy to bounce when your standards are not met. Men still don't understand that female kindness, affection, and care are not synonymous with devotion. I'll scratch your head babe and make you an omelette for breakfast, but if you even LOOK at me funny by lunchtime...out the windo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:00 PM
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When I was younger I also struggled with accepting put down jokes, and often rationalised them too. So I know it can feel like an 'overreaction' to dump him. But if it hurts your feelings, it's never an overreaction. I had only been seeing this guy 4 months, so after he cracked the joke I clarified with a 'really?" Giving him the opportunity to say "Of course not! Obviously I'm the one who's lucky to have you!" He didn't, but instead said something along the lines of 'Well aren't you?" So I said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:36 PM
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Ditto. I'm seeing someone a half inch shorter than me right now. But he knows my love of heels and loves to hit the town with me in them. However, I met him in person, wearing 6' platforms, so I knew off the bat he was INTO it. NOT OK with it. If he's just 'ok' with you being taller you're in for it girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:28 PM
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I think this is probably a case of men downplaying the fact their wife is far out of their league. 'Negging-lite' if you will. Because they're eager to keep her by putting her down. I broke up with a guy who made a joke about how lucky I was to have him in front of his lv friends. I'm not here for that. UPDATE: Ladies, thank you for the rewards! Seriously you gals are wonderful! But I am just doing the good lord's (ladies) work and sharing Erica Spera's clever words. Save your rewards for true l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:13 PM
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What in the actual fuck? Women, can we start showing up to dates at fancy restaurants early, ordering the surf and turf and a bottle of champagne, and leaving him with the bill once he opens his mouth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:23 PM
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Thank god she still has her parents. What if he was her only 'support' or emergency contact? That should always be part of the vetting process. "Can this person come through in a pinch?" Anyone know how long they were dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:43 PM
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Congrats!!! FDS taught me that having high standards for how I expect to be treated is neither needy nor high maintenence, but what a self-assured woman requires to live the best life she can. No more settling out of fear that I might be labeled 'difficult'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:55 PM
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My mom has always been a believer of 'State it once, then walk. Don't wait for him to follow'. Her own prime example was when pregnant with me. My dad was doing grad school in a different city so my mom moved to be with him, and lived at his parents place. My paternal grandparents were huge pieces of shit (god rest their souls) and kicked my 8 month pregnant mom out when my dad had left for the weekend for field work. This was the 80s in Eastern Europe so she had no way of contacting him. She we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:52 PM
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