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The point is to take content of the users post for what it's worth. An argument does not have more or less value based on who it comes from. Part of that is ignoring subjective opinions and deciding how you feel for things yourself. It doesn't matter if 90% of people hate the video, that doesn't make someone liking it wrong, since its subjective.
/r/MensRights24/08/19 04:56 AM
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I would similarly invite any contrapoints people over to r/femradebates . Some of the best discussions I've seen were in that subreddit.
/r/MensRights24/08/19 04:28 AM
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Yeah. I can sympathize with op and get that it's hard for some people to make it through, much less enjoy, but it really does the topic justice
/r/MensRights24/08/19 04:24 AM
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I've been part of this sub longer then you've been on reddit. One of my first submitted posts was to here. That does not mean my opinion holds more weight then yours. For what it's worth, I agree with 90% of what contra said, in that addressing systemic issues is far more important then wasting time talking about individual bad apples (false rape accusations, etc). I disagree in that talking about how those individuals abuse systemic systems IS an issue.
/r/MensRights24/08/19 04:22 AM
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Except this is back when tens of millions of people DID give a shit about him.
/r/MensRights27/10/17 01:12 PM
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Is the rest of the world finally deciding to care about men getting assaulted in public? 5 years ago no one gave a shit that Justin Bieber was sexually harassed on stage by Jenny McCarthy. Every news station around was getting her to talk about how it was empowering for her. I remember seeing the look of disbelief on his face as he looks out at the crowd who was cheering her on. Edit: last time this came up I looked up an interview with McCarthy about it and found this “I kind of molested him,” …
/r/MensRights26/10/17 07:29 PM
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If you have hours and nothing better to do, go through my post history. I can link you to specific discussions I've had. On another note, just trying to get back to some of my first posts takes WAY too much time, though it seems reddit only tracks my comments from 2 years back.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 05:03 PM
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Again, this is /r/mensrights not /r/egalitarianism. This all comes back around to this: Oh, is this the part where we alienate the "other"? Are you trying to alienate egalitarians like feminists have? I've been here for six years. I've watched the progress and the backlash. I've watched people come in yelling about "libtards" not realizing that all of us "libtards" have been a part of this movement just as long as our conservative counterparts. Just because I support equality doesn't mean I belo…
/r/MensRights13/08/17 01:07 PM
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Supporting equality isn't. If you only support one side, and fix all the area's where your side is behind the other, eventually you wind up with inequality because, while you may be equal in the area's where you were behind (if you don't wind up ahead) you are still ahead in the areas you started ahead in. You have to support both sides to fix inequality.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 12:51 PM
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Oh, is this the part where we alienate the "other"? Don't sabotage your movement by espousing identity politics and alienating half your base. Edited to better fit my point and be less divisive. /u/Frankly_George has the original below.
/r/MensRights13/08/17 09:19 AM
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And while we will have a significant shortage of nurses, we will also have a significant oversupply of doctors, so while this will cause short term chaos, it isn't a catastrophe, as we can almost immediately restaff (or rework) those positions. There are 3 million nurses and 1 million doctors. You cannot seriously expect that million to suddenly do the work of 3 million other people, even if the workload is halved (which it won't be for a lot of things like workplace injuries and interpersonal v…
/r/MensRights31/07/17 07:58 PM
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Let's be a bit more in depth about it. We'd have to deal with a sudden utter lack of teachers, nurses, social workers and psychiatrists. Let's also be realists here, teachers and nurses cannot just be dismissed out of hand, there would have to be SERIOUS work done to replace those positions. I can see automation and reform helping short staffing for teaching in a couple years with the panic mode we'd be in, but you can't do that with nursing. With men having the dangerous jobs, there would be a …
/r/MensRights31/07/17 04:10 PM
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No child support at all would indeed lead to that sharp uprising in birth control, abortions and adoptions, but in instances where it didn't (e.g. people who feel obligated to see things through and raise their kid due to external pressures), those children would be inherently disadvantaged. The problem is, as things are now, the people most likely to fall into that category are the poor. It would lead to children from poor single parents being even further disadvantaged then they already are..
/r/MensRights23/07/17 01:52 PM
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I only support "No child support at all" if we have a universal basic income (including for children). Otherwise, we are only further entrenching class divides.
/r/MensRights22/07/17 07:37 PM
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I would like to add that just because a grant is the reason a practice started doesn't mean the practice will end after the study period is done.
/r/MensRights18/04/17 11:07 PM
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Its kinda how German handles formal communication. They use a Sie (declined like 3rd person plural) when talking to someone formally.
/r/MensRights14/12/16 12:13 AM
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You mean the one women are also using?
/r/MensRights27/11/16 06:55 AM
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No, its ok if they have women's and men's. Not if they have women's and everyone's. The first leads to only the women's getting disgusting. The second leads to both getting that way.
/r/MensRights27/11/16 06:54 AM
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Seconded. Part of the reason we got to where things are is because people refused to call feminists out on their blatantly biased reading of domestic violence stats. I read a paper by one of the first proponents "patriarchal violence" and in every instance of her data, it shared parity in domestic violence. Yet, somehow, she interpreted it to say the this was proof men are more violent due to a need to maintain their dominance in the family. Finally found it. Check out pages 17-21ish for a lesso…
/r/MensRights23/11/16 02:20 PM
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I think its bias. Most people don't freak out like the woman in your example. From the experiences of me and those around me, most just yell and fight and wind up breaking up. I know there are the edge cases where there is ridiculous overreactions, but that is true on both sides.
/r/MensRights23/11/16 10:33 AM
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I'm from cinci, but not sure of the reference?
/r/MensRights11/11/16 12:04 PM
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It can be both too. I wouldn't be surprised to find out hillary had discouraged them from coming forward until it would be most devastating for trump.
/r/MensRights13/10/16 11:15 AM
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........... Females....men For starters, you dehumanize women. Then you go on to say they should be "afraid"; as if they are a child/animal who can't learn right from wrong and has to be taught through fear. How the fuck did you get any upvotes?
/r/MensRights09/10/16 10:29 PM
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It would be like if I said men aren't capable of coherent thought. Aside from being wrong, it's inflammatory. Generalizations don't lead themselves to good debate.
/r/MensRights04/10/16 12:11 PM
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A lot of feminist subs have a lot of problems with discussions because they take them as attacks. If you really want genuine debate, the best one I've found for it is /r/femradebates
/r/MensRights04/10/16 12:35 AM
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You may not find that question to be a turn off, but anecdotally, from those I've talked to, most women said if a guy asked them straight, it would be a turn off. Most because it made the pursuit feel less personal and more like "can I get an answer, because if its a no, I got like four other girls to try". Take it with a grain of salt though. Might just be my circle of friends.
/r/MensRights06/09/16 09:40 AM
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Yep. Check out this discussion with a compensatory feminist explaining how their ideal version of feminism is how we get burkas and women without rights.
/r/MensRights31/08/16 09:48 AM
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Just be sure to word it like so: then grow up and accept you might have kids or don't have sex Otherwise they will claim that women do accept the consequences. As if having the options to take the morning after pill, get an abortion, or have kids and get child support is somehow the same.
/r/MensRights30/08/16 01:01 PM
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It is exactly how I see it. Maybe its just I've had one too many people being intentionally confrontational and get in my face screaming about how can I stand by and let those women murder babies while holding up banners of the holocaust. Its pretty much made it so that confrontational garb, at this point, to me, is just a sign that you don't care what other people think, and so why should I care what you think.
/r/MensRights28/08/16 06:39 PM
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If someone is outside yelling at people, getting angry with them, and completely alienating people from his point; I wouldn't call it tone policing to point out to him that he's driving away the people he's trying to convince (not that he's doing that, aside from his clothes and blood on the signs, he's got a damn good presentation). I've been here for 8 years. I have seen the MRM develop, and how we've gained ground (at least in my area), and it wasn't through going around, making a spectacle o…
/r/MensRights28/08/16 06:34 PM
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Except fireman represent something good. This represents something painful and bad. Certain people have negative reactions to that (me being one of them). You might not like or respect that. They certainly don't, and by failing to do so, they alienate people like me. Whether its because they lack empathy or, like you, look down on people because you view it as nothing more then wearing yellow, they will lose support.
/r/MensRights28/08/16 02:18 PM
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Not really. I see someone walking over with blood on their crotch, I'm gonna turn around and walk the other way, regardless of their position. At best it's gonna make a portion of the people their trying to reach tune them out, at worst, it will make people say "fuck that guy" in addition.
/r/MensRights28/08/16 12:52 PM
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Agree with their position, hate their presentation. Just gonna make enemies.
/r/MensRights28/08/16 10:25 AM
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You could always get you own printer and print them.
/r/MensRights17/04/16 10:45 AM
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Just fair warning, your title is slightly misleading.
/r/MensRights15/04/16 10:45 AM
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Definitely. I have dreams on occasion where me and random people I know hook up/date and I always have a crush on them for the next day or so; even if I could not have cared less for them before that. My gf gives me shit for it all the time.
/r/MensRights18/02/16 08:26 PM
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Fair enough, but your source is still misleading. For example on page 18 (numbered 16) we see a graph labeling the discrepancy in wages. This is cited to here. The reason I say it is misleading is because the article starts by claiming: Yet not all of the gap can be “explained away.” After accounting for college major, occupation, economic sector, hours worked, months unemployed since graduation, GPA, type of undergraduate institution, institution selectivity, age, geographical region, and marit…
/r/MensRights01/02/16 11:40 PM
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....... Are you serious? 1981? That is what you are gonna give us? A paper from 1981, 35 Years ago, citing studies from the 1970's. I got like 35 pages in trying to figure out why they were citing studies from way back when the gender gap was relevant before I realized that they weren't going to get to modern times because this isn't a modern meta-study. No one is contending that it didn't exist historically. You can do better.
/r/MensRights01/02/16 10:24 PM
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Just because I hold leftist views does not mean I support the people who are doing this.
/r/MensRights19/12/15 09:45 PM
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Name names, don't alienate your support by casting the left as some unanimous man-hating block. That is pretty much playing the "Your either with us, or against us" card.
/r/MensRights19/12/15 08:36 PM
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The problem is you are treating half of us here like we did this. Look at how he is talking. He is casting the what Trump has said as Trumps views and desires, while casting the opposition as a unanimous man-hating block. As if we can't be both against Trump and for treating people equal. As if, by criticizing his views, we support this action. It does nothing to help and only serves to divide and cast out support. It serves no purpose and doesn't belong.
/r/MensRights19/12/15 08:28 PM
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Don't make this left vs right. Don't divide the movement.
/r/MensRights19/12/15 10:26 AM
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No, I've been here long enough to see things more optimistically too. It tends to be the newer people or those who have been deeply hurt that are disheartened. I've met a couple people around campus who tended towards the more vocal less informed end of the spectrum on the MRA side and most of them were fairly new. To address OP: Stick around, you'll learn to pick out what most people really think. Most are reasonable and hate that shit just as much as us.
/r/MensRights13/10/15 01:31 PM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again: the past 5 years have made a TON of difference in the way people look at things. When I subbed, i think this sub had 10k people, maybe 12k. It really wasn't something many people talked about. I mean, people talked about divorces sucking and how women got the kids and that was stupid, but that was really the only thing you heard. It was non-existent when i was in college the first time from 2003-2006. I went back in 2011 and you can see the difference. …
/r/MensRights07/10/15 05:07 PM
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By that point, she is alone with you in your house. She fears for her safety, so anything she signed is under duress.
/r/MensRights18/09/15 09:41 AM
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If you want somewhere to actually discuss the issues, join us over at /r/Femradebates
/r/MensRights11/09/15 01:08 PM
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It's about utilizing a benefit that you're not eligible due to life choices. In that regard you might compare it to smokers and have some ground to stand on.
/r/MensRights11/09/15 05:35 AM
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Expand FMLA and do away with seperate parental leave, and I'll be happy.
/r/MensRights11/09/15 04:54 AM
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Cancer isn't a choice, and while I disagree with -er, I at least understand what he's saying.
/r/MensRights11/09/15 04:50 AM
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Most people still have a lot of growing up to do at 18-19. Not to mention that having a kid at any age makes doing things a lot harder. The number of people I know that have had kids and NOT dropped out of college is 1, and she was only able to do that because her boyfriend did drop out to work his ass off so she could.
/r/MensRights10/09/15 11:19 AM
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Considering most women only rate 20% of guys as higher then a 5/10, it makes more sense why they take things like this poorly.
/r/MensRights20/08/15 09:20 AM
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If you read the archived thread, she did do it eventually, but was still reluctant to get therapy.
/r/MensRights13/08/15 03:10 AM
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God, I hate that look. Its more of an "I'm surrounded by people who are wrong, but they are too stupid to know it, so I'm not going to argue anymore".
/r/MensRights11/07/15 09:41 AM
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I don't think its right that I can go 10 years not having a car accident and still have to pay more then a woman doing the same. I would understand if I had more accidents then her that I should pay more, but I still have to pay more even if I don't. That's not right, even if it is good business practices.
/r/MensRights11/07/15 09:38 AM
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I haven't yet, so I didn't know that. The interview doesn't do a good job of explaining that, but you can't expect as clear a presentation in such a short interview.
/r/MensRights23/06/15 03:03 AM
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I'm lost. Take what date off what?
/r/MensRights13/06/15 05:37 PM
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Him: Women are paid 77c per dollar a man makes. You: Yeah, so? Him: What the hell do you mean "Yeah, so?" You: What do you want to do about it? Him: I don't know....I just think its wrong. That was about the level of thought I got from people (those that acknowledged it was a personal choice, at least).
/r/MensRights11/06/15 04:02 PM
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you plant seeds, oftentimes, that over time can sometimes bear fruit. He may fiercely disagree with you to your face, but after a week, a month or even years, some of what you say may actually click with him. He'd never admit it of course, but it can and does happen. I made a post here talking about the changes I've seen in the eight years I've been a follower of Men's rights and how they have started being addressed, so let me just add that even if the person you are arguing with despises MRAs …
/r/MensRights11/06/15 03:59 PM
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Well, that is exactly why I disagree with her thoughts on sexuality, though I can't speak for taco. She assumes that men in a strip club is how all men are. Its like walking into a women's center and forming judgements about all women's sexuality from what you see there.
/r/MensRights09/06/15 07:54 PM
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That last line: Interviewer: Did you like being a woman before Ned? Nora: I did, but I like it more now, 'cause I think its more of a privilege.
/r/MensRights09/06/15 01:37 PM
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Doing the shit that boss did to any of my female coworkers could easily get me in trouble, and I'm not even in a management position.
/r/MensRights07/06/15 03:35 PM
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I would have loved for him to ask if they felt comfortable putting a 50% parity law in place for teachers, to see how they responded.
/r/MensRights07/06/15 03:27 PM
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Depends on where you are. My brother thankfully never had to deal with that during the fallout with his ex. She had always had a history of psych problems, but she flipped, called him the devil, said he raped her, you name it, she said it. He got an protective order out without any kind of fuss. He even got primary custody of the kids. He has the kids for 2 months, her for 1 (which she only gets as long as she is living with her parents).
/r/MensRights27/05/15 10:50 PM
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Actually I do. I went for three years, took a break for five, and am back finishing my degree. Part of it was I copied and pasted this point from one of my posts earlier, and edited it. The other part is I my degree programming, not English, so those types of mistakes get overlooked a lot of the time.
/r/MensRights23/05/15 08:23 PM
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Sorry that happened to you. From my experience, I've only known one person something like that happened to, but that doesn't say much, since most people probably wouldn't be comfortable enough to speak out about it except with the closest of friends.
/r/MensRights23/05/15 09:15 AM
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Acting like a sexual predator does not mean she was one. She did not molest her sister as far as anyone aside from the two of them know. The kiss were consensual (as much as a young child can consent). She didn't go fingering her sister like Duggar did (5 times). Like Dozensofus said, he committed a crime, she didn't. I'm not saying the reactions are proportional. They're not. People jump in to defend Lena when they would crucify her if she was a man. We are simply saying they are right to cruci…
/r/MensRights23/05/15 03:46 AM
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The reason I'm arguing against it is because if Lena Dunham was a man, I wouldn't want to see that life ruined because of their stupid childhood mistakes. It'd be the type of thing to leave me anxious over in certain situations, but Dunham would still deserve the right not to have their life in tatters.
/r/MensRights23/05/15 03:40 AM
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I think we all know that if Lena Dunham was a man, she'd have been tarred and feathered. But what she did borders a crime. What Duggar did is a crime.
/r/MensRights23/05/15 03:32 AM
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What Lena admitted to sounds like the grooming pedophiles do, and was inappropriate and creepy. As she grew, I took to bribing her for her time and affection: one dollar in quarters if I could do her makeup like a "motorcycle chick." Three pieces of candy if I could kiss her on the lips for five seconds. Whatever she wanted to watch on TV if she would just "relax on me." Basically, anything a sexual predator might do to woo a small suburban girl I was trying. What Duggar did was fucking illegal …
/r/MensRights23/05/15 03:16 AM
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Who you associate with will effect other peoples perceptions of you. If go riding around town with the KKK I can't act surprised when people call me racist. Bad apples will always detract from a movement in a similar way. This article being linked here will probably turn some people off from the movement just by seeing that title. Yes, as someone said already, I need to judge this article based on its content, not who wrote it. To do otherwise would be to engage in ad hominem or Moral High Groun…
/r/MensRights23/05/15 01:02 AM
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Damn, good point. Will reevaluate. Understand though that PR does have a place in any movement.
/r/MensRights22/05/15 06:30 PM
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With a name like "Alpha Male", I can't take this seriously, even if I would normally agree with the sentiment.
/r/MensRights22/05/15 01:27 PM
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The fact that they would change one but not the other just seems wrong. My school did it pretty well. Our large (multi-person) bathrooms are separated, but any single person bathroom is neutral and it works pretty well.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 07:27 PM
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Can you post some information or sources? All I've found are people talking about 'its not that bad' (thus my poorly formed opinion) Nevermind: As she grew, I took to bribing her for her time and affection: one dollar in quarters if I could do her makeup like a "motorcycle chick." Three pieces of candy if I could kiss her on the lips for five seconds. Whatever she wanted to watch on TV if she would just "relax on me." Basically, anything a sexual predator might do to woo a small suburban girl I …
/r/MensRights18/05/15 11:49 AM
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Lena Dunham Are you talking about what happened with her sister or something else? Having read the actual passage, it sounds more in the vein of playing doctor and general anatomical curiosity then abuse. If that's all that happened, focusing on it does more to diminish the MRA movement by making us look like a joke then support the cause. Nevermind: As she grew, I took to bribing her for her time and affection: one dollar in quarters if I could do her makeup like a "motorcycle chick." Three pie…
/r/MensRights18/05/15 11:34 AM
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http://www.vox.com/2014/11/8/7157065/dunham-child-abuse People overreacting and repeating things they haven't actually looked up. Edit: fuck vox
/r/MensRights18/05/15 11:28 AM
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Can we agree that that is a gross misrepresentation though? She was seven, and there was nothing sexual about it. Was it wrong? Yes, but its one of the many normal types of behaviors of children. Let's not be radical feminists and blow shit out of proportion. See lower post. Not confessed child rape, but still downright creepy and wrong. Wouldn't be surprised if she actually did.
/r/MensRights18/05/15 11:26 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. At least you tried. I had two friends raped in college (one guy, one girl). Neither of them even went that far. If it was a he said/she said, you can't expect much. Beyond a reasonable doubt is the threshold they need, and most cases can't meet that bar.
/r/MensRights18/05/15 06:32 AM
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Because being a victim doesn't mean you have to feel bad about it. You don't have to feel bad about that, or feel wronged. The middle school teacher who sleeps with one of his students can make that student feel special, and make it seem like it's not a bad thing. That student might get in fights with their parents defending their "relationship". I promise you, the only people making that student feel like a victim are the people calling her a victim.
/r/MensRights21/04/15 09:51 PM
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It wasn't the same job though. It's similar in nature to saying that a commercial that airs during the super bowl and one that airs at 3 am have the same value. She was paid for a different time slot (one that was non-paying, even)
/r/MensRights16/04/15 04:00 PM
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It really got me watching his reaction. You can see he's upset by it, but with the crowd reacting the way they are, he can't call her out on it.
/r/MensRights13/04/15 04:57 PM
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Thankfully, my gf and I make the same amount, so I don't have to do that, but shit, I make 200 a week. I don't have money to donate period, even if it was something that wasn't a crock of shit.
/r/MensRights13/04/15 12:31 PM
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Where have you been? Did you miss Jenny McCarthy grabbing Justin Bieber by the neck so she could forcibly kiss him and people applauding.
/r/MensRights13/04/15 12:17 PM
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Maybe, but I imagine that if you suck at something, you avoid it. As such, it wouldn't be surprising that people get the impression that men are better at most things.
/r/MensRights09/04/15 02:58 PM
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Men tend to be at the very top and the very bottom of most things. They deviate more then women do from the mean.
/r/MensRights08/04/15 11:57 PM
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Just look at the title "5 reasons no man should marry" I get that marriage is a kinda shitty deal for us, but to try to say that all of those are true for every man (which the author is indeed saying) is just disingenuous. (No man should get married because every man faces these challenges when they do being the implication.) They don't even present them as potentials, but as certainties. Its not "Your sex life can drop off" but "Your sex life will die" or "People may respect you less" but "You’…
/r/MensRights08/04/15 08:55 AM
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I guess "worse" was the wrong word. More reasonable reasons to avoid it would be a better way of wording it. For starters, poor financial situations for most college graduates (and drop-outs) means less marriages. I'm sure watching many bad marriages and the rise of divorce means not many people believe in forever anymore, and leads to a "why bother" attitude. Add in the fear of things like alimony/child support, people being more comfortable delaying marriage until later and later and you get a…
/r/MensRights08/04/15 08:47 AM
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I get the point, but the bias is terrible in this article. Not to skip over the fact that there are worse reasons to avoid marriage.
/r/MensRights07/04/15 06:23 PM
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The video had men in it, even if the article didn't
/r/MensRights07/04/15 05:26 PM
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Which is even stupider because there are better free options.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 11:57 AM
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I mean, I understand your reaction, but there are people that are spitting, cursing, swearing at you, etc. I would assume, in that situation, tits would mean nothing to most guys.
/r/MensRights13/02/15 07:50 PM
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The kicker being that its feminists doing it, and MRAs fighting back.
/r/MensRights02/02/15 06:43 PM
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They would say he raped her because he initiated it. Why that somehow means he could consent and she couldn't I don't know. I've never gotten into that side of the discussion with feminists.
/r/MensRights21/01/15 06:51 PM
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If you want a serious reply about why feminists think that, its because they consider the party at fault to be the one who initiated the sex to be the rapist. Or so they claim. Good luck finding one who will call a drunk woman who initiates sex with a drunk man a rapist.
/r/MensRights21/01/15 05:42 PM
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I'm reminded of the bill burr bit about sleeping on the couch
/r/MensRights29/12/14 03:52 AM
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Can I also recommend combing the articles for common names of one gender and swapping them for names of the other (even if its just a random name). For example, the post above gave an article referencing Amy Winehouse, and it takes away from the goal when you see the women's name more then it would if it was something like Robert Winehouse.
/r/MensRights25/12/14 01:29 PM
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If he had shot her, maybe they might have a point, but its like they expect men to carry mace on them or something without anybody actually saying guys should. FWIW, if certain that if he had slapped her as hard as she slapped him, it would only have kept escalating till it reached the ending it wound up at anyways. The only difference is less violence and less damage then would have been gotten on the way there.
/r/MensRights05/12/14 10:20 PM
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Considering that groups history of spamming on here, yeah, they get censored. Spamming is one of the few things that will get you censored.
/r/MensRights27/11/14 05:53 PM
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Jesus, that SRD thread was....depressing. Its like they have no empathy.
/r/MensRights27/11/14 05:49 PM
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The "...just saying" goes against the premise that they want to know. It a shortened version of "I'm just saying it can't happen" Edit: Josh is probably right, and that it is a colloquialism, but I'm fairly certain that the person in the link intended its meaning as a way of ending discussion.
/r/MensRights26/11/14 01:46 AM
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well yeah. Male safe spaces have been taking flak for years. Fraternities being the biggest.
/r/MensRights23/11/14 01:40 PM
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Rule 2......but that whole sub is pretty damn sexist.
/r/MensRights22/11/14 02:43 PM
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Love the girl pulling him away. Someone is smart enough to know that who is in the right.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/11/14 03:43 PM
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I edited for clarity. Suffrage for men wasn't something that all men always had. It used to be exclusively for landed men. When universal suffrage for men was given, it was seen as conditional on their signing up for selective service. In short potentially being drafted was the responsibility that came with the right to vote. This is part of the reason the draft is such an issue for MRAs. It is seen as a kind of breach of contract by feminists: You get the right to vote, you take away selective …
/r/MensRights09/11/14 07:41 AM
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I'm going to have to disagree with you. Its more about how women see what men do as 'rights' but ignore the responsibilities that come with them
/r/MensRights09/11/14 06:57 AM
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To make money. That was what this was all about, remember.
/r/MensRights08/11/14 12:52 AM
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Its not, but the laws are there for ease of legal proceedings. We have a hard enough time getting these non-arbitrary laws applied equally to women as it is. I would prefer this over arbitrary ones we all know, realistically, would only ever be applied to men.
/r/MensRights07/11/14 12:23 PM
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Classic Motte and Bailey Doctrine. Where the motte is rape, and the bailey is harassment. When they can't defend the bailey (because men experience it to) the retreat to the motte (a more defensible position) and say that that is what they are really talking about. Not always a fallacy, but it can be.
/r/MensRights07/11/14 10:14 AM
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But now I'm thinking its even more prevalent. Is that a myth too? Should I think its even more prevalent then that only to find yet again that it is a myth?
/r/MensRights05/11/14 02:49 PM
13

And, shockingly, some us are like "Fine, fuck you, we have our own problems to deal with."
/r/MensRights21/10/14 12:02 PM
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I knew a situation in college where some girl said she thought she was 'pregnant' by one of guys in my dorm (an engineering student, btw). A couple weeks later I saw him and asked him if she really had been. His response was that if she hadn't been, she almost certainly had become pregnant since. Most people will know better to wait for verification before doing something stupid like having unprotected sex, but its the people who are young and dumb that I worry for.
/r/MensRights21/10/14 11:01 AM
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Just make sure you know who you are dealing with before crawling into bed with them, and if you college is anything like mine, you will be fine. That being said, as far as I can tell, its not too bad where I am at (Louisville). I mean, there are still radfems on campus, but there are just as many bible thumpers and misogynists.
/r/MensRights05/10/14 08:12 PM
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As much as I hate to say this, he should be thankful she wasn't attractive. No one would take him seriously if that was the case.
/r/MensRights13/09/14 03:37 PM
1

The best thing I can recommend to get into gaming is to start with modding. Its a lot simpler than designing a game from scratch. If you know C/C++ then check out skyrim/oblivion as they have their own dev tools freely available. The next step from there is to reach out to indie developers. We outsource our level design to someone offsite, and there are some awesome tools (github) to keep your source code synced up.
/r/MensRights11/09/14 02:58 AM
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By that logic, and case brought up here should be thrown out because any reasonable judge would come to the conclusion that Evie Ruddy "never really wanted (the haircut) in the first place. (She) wanted to make a point". That being said, I doubt that is what will happen.
/r/MensRights04/09/14 10:24 PM
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Carly Fiorina got it first. I remember hearing about how she had to 'sacrifice' having a family for her ambition, and thinking 'but men manage.'
/r/MensRights09/08/14 05:49 PM
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I've seen feminist articles talking about how today's high powered jobs are impossible for working moms and how its not fair that everything is expected of them (written by a women in that position). What was funny is how she seemed to be completely oblivious about all of this until placed in that position, like she just assumed that men in that position were neglectful of family life because they didn't like it or something. I can't remember the source, maybe someone else can help me out.
/r/MensRights09/08/14 05:39 PM
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Another former employee of the Somaly Mam Foundation in Cambodia recalls conversations with Mam in which she said she was invincible. “She feels unstoppable. She used to talk to me about wanting to put things in people’s food and how easy it would be to poison someone. “It was such a traumatic and hostile environment,” the former employee continues. “We were treated very much in a hostile and aggressive way. You’re either part of the group or you’re not, and if you’re not part of the group, bad …
/r/MensRights29/05/14 06:36 PM
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Well, you can take the argument two ways with this people. You can start from the absurd: "What if someone has a knife and is trying to murder you (or gf if they are a guy)" and work backwards. This will usually have them establish some pretty reasonable terms. Or you could go the other way: "Is violence acceptable if she is yelling" and work towards where it become acceptable if you want them to venture into the absurd and look stupid.
/r/MensRights25/05/14 11:12 PM
2

I'm fairly sure you can find blogs saying exactly that online somewhere.
/r/MensRights19/05/14 11:18 PM
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I would also add that their growing efforts to discredit the MRM are helping to spread it to the non-radical feminists.
/r/MensRights10/05/14 09:48 PM
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Destroying that essay with one sentence using its own logic. You win.
/r/MensRights04/05/14 04:01 AM
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That and they don't want to admit they made a mistake, which is an all too common trait.
/r/MensRights01/05/14 12:05 PM
1

Only issue I can potentially see is that some people who were raped would rather they had custody of that child then leave their child with their rapist (even if they didn't consent to having a child). What protections would you put in for such cases?
/r/MensRights26/04/14 10:53 AM
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There is little reason to devote years to learning a profession when a single accusation can effectively ban you from that profession.
/r/MensRights26/04/14 03:33 AM
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It really is a terrible thing to try and convince people of. I have a friend who has second hand experience (through her male cousin) of the problems men face with custody. Because of that, she is a very vocal supporter of men when it comes to custody. But bring up any other problems, and she goes right back to the feminist default.
/r/MensRights12/04/14 11:54 AM
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a cosmetic procedure no less
/r/MensRights09/04/14 09:57 AM
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Nah, this happened over a year ago. And I don't think she was looking to cause a problem, but I had the feeling that after that she took an opinion of "Ugh, yet another misogynist lab. And they wonder why girls don't come here more." Frustrating because we really don't care too much what anyone says, even if it is tasteless. We don't police speech.
/r/MensRights27/03/14 10:02 PM
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I do too. I don't see it fairly often (being an engineering major) but when I do I try and correct it. It gets frustrating though. I had a woman walk into or lab on movie night (free to the community) and get upset with an off color DV joke made by one member towards his gf. Not with the castration joke made 10 seconds before (that instigated the comment), but m->f DV was too much. I pointed out her selective hearing and she quieted down, but you could tell she'd made up her mind about how we ru…
/r/MensRights27/03/14 04:26 AM
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But, but NAFALT and those are radical feminists! Doesn't count! I swear, its like when a little kid is told to quit touching their brother and they go "I'm not touching you!" while holding their hand an inch from his face.
/r/MensRights09/03/14 06:51 AM
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I understand the marginalization and frustration that made #killmostmen a thing. It shows we must now sit down, shut up and listen. Are you FUCKING KIDDING ME?! No, the moment someone says they want to kill you because of your gender is the moment you stop listening. Its saying: "Hey, I lack the capability for empathy and rational thought."
/r/MensRights09/03/14 06:49 AM
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I've been working with two other people for about 6 months making a small game. I really am not sure what the hell those people were expecting from someone that young.
/r/MensRights07/03/14 01:04 PM
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I would like to point out that this is in the wake of actual harassment case: Hercules High has been dealing with the fallout from an on-campus fight involving another transgender student and three girls that was captured in a cellphone video. Jewlyes Gutierrez, a biological male who identifies as female, was charged with misdemeanor assault and said she had repeatedly complained about being harassed at school before she fought back.
/r/MensRights05/03/14 02:42 PM
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Neither would a lot of girls. The difference is that somehow its viewed as taking advantage of those girls, but not the boys.
/r/MensRights25/02/14 09:23 PM
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The moment he insulted the man by telling him he looked like a child clean shaven that character lost almost all of my sympathy.
/r/MensRights23/02/14 10:03 PM
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I'd be the ass who'd write "Be a woman: Make me a sandwich" under it
/r/MensRights04/02/14 11:10 AM
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I prefer Cave Story
/r/MensRights21/01/14 10:59 PM
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The difference being, at that point, most college men have learned how to get along and how rejection feels. College women, at least ones in sororities....not so much.
/r/MensRights21/01/14 10:53 PM
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What they are and what they can do makes them superior to men So if a men invent a machine to replace a uterus, I wonder if he'd change his mind. Somehow, I doubt it. Besides, women are useless in the ability to carry a child to term with sperm for their eggs.
/r/MensRights21/01/14 10:50 PM
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In my experience, while women will call in and take it easy, men tend to go and work even when they are sick and crash when they get home. Yeah, my dad might have been a big baby about being sick in some people's eyes, but he it was mainly because he was working his ass off when sick.
/r/MensRights21/01/14 11:03 AM
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Because those women are drunk! And if you don't respect a drunk woman, you obviously only want sex from her (because there is no way you DON'T want sex from a woman). And if you sex up a drunk woman, you are raping them. Thus no-respect=rape through feminist logic.
/r/MensRights13/01/14 08:52 AM
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It does if you assume there is more space to give, which is what I think he assumed.
/r/MensRights08/01/14 04:23 PM
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If you can't argue your point with using ad hominim, you need to reevaluate it. Either counter his point, or, if he was using faulty logic or ignoring your points, point that out.
/r/MensRights08/01/14 04:21 PM
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I'd also like to add this: I don't think it was "cruel" to have it done to me. That is, I know it wasn't done in malice or due to some sadistic tendencies. That doesn't make it right. Parents make mistakes. This is just one that my parents made that I hope to not make myself.
/r/MensRights01/01/14 02:55 PM
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What parts of daughters do we cut off? Cutting off the clitoral hood has most of the same medical beneficial effects as male circumcision but no doctor who wants to keep his license will do that. That rules out doing it for medical benefits. The only other reason is aesthetics, which is unconscionable on infants not suffering from some gross deformity.
/r/MensRights01/01/14 12:01 PM
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Yes it is. I've seen abusive relationships from both women and men and in both cases it was always "he/she made me so mad a can't control myself". They'd feel terrible about it, but in their mind, they weren't really at fault. Edit: What is worse was hearing the victim repeat the same thing: that they (the victim) were to blame. Yeah, they might have instigated the fight and given their bf/gf a reason to hit them (read: cheating) but that didn't make it right or acceptable.
/r/MensRights14/12/13 12:55 PM
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I think her perceived "[increased] gender inequality" is not an increase in inequality, but actually one of equality. Women no longer have the protections society offers them and now must face the world of that men are facing. It is not saying that the world is usually that bad for men, just that when disasters tear apart society, the world becomes equally shitty for everyone. Women just have a bigger drop into the shithole.
/r/MensRights09/12/13 02:27 PM
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When its brought up, I like to ask them if they would be willing to make 10% if it made them 9x more likely to die on the job. Most say no.
/r/MensRights14/11/13 11:28 AM
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And be sure to explain when they complain that this is exactly the reason the wage gap is a myth.
/r/MensRights29/10/13 01:18 PM
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just look at r/mensrights membership. when I joined it was ~40k I think. Its double now.
/r/MensRights28/10/13 05:35 AM
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But if he doesn't have a penis then his edit would be right!
/r/MensRights27/10/13 05:23 PM
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It was so infuriating reading her replies repeating the same bullshit he had just refuted in the post immediately before hers. Its like why even fucking bother
/r/MensRights26/10/13 11:22 PM
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That sounds like a welfare problem, not a child support problem. See, she is the one who chose to have another child she could not afford, not him. Expecting him to put out more money for her poor choices is unjust.
/r/MensRights15/10/13 09:01 AM
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It is all about the assumptions surrounding that statement. "When a woman offers you sex, you don't ask questions" The implication being that you don't ask questions because you could jinx it and she might stop offering. "When a man offers you sex, you don't ask questions" The implication being you don't ask questions because you don't want to make him angry. Not saying that one is more likely than the other in reality, but the perceptions surrounding it change when you change the gender.
/r/MensRights01/10/13 03:19 AM
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Or just point out that everyone will know deep down inside you liked it is exactly the type of justification rapists use to convince themselves its what their victims want.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 09:22 AM
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The contracts would be useless, as either party could change their mind after the fact. As the contract was for sex, it would become void the moment that happened.
/r/MensRights25/08/13 11:15 AM
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well, no shit. All the same, its safer not to pass out amongst strangers
/r/MensRights21/08/13 12:06 PM
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I'm not hiring anyone. It was out of curiosity that I asked.
/r/MensRights09/08/13 07:30 PM
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As I said to the other replier. I meant feminism, not the MRM. Sorry I wasn't clear. Also, check my post history, big supporter of the MRM.
/r/MensRights09/08/13 04:08 PM
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I'm sorry I wasn't clear. I was speaking about feminism. If FEMINISM did start addressing men's issues, I'd stop being against them. I wouldn't support them though, as they've shown they can't be trusted.
/r/MensRights09/08/13 04:07 PM
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My mom did the whole bar of soap thing when I was a kid when I would swear, but that and most other forms of punishment stopped when I was in high school. I think she realized that stupid petty punishments would only work superficially.
/r/MensRights09/08/13 04:05 PM
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To be fair, the MRM, on the whole, does hate feminism. That being said, if feminism honestly did start addressing men's issues, I'd stop being against them. I wouldn't support them though, as they've shown they can't be trusted.
/r/MensRights09/08/13 03:13 PM
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Quick question: Could you be sued for not hiring someone because they were a feminist? I know you can't discriminate on the basis of religion, but what about other ideologies?
/r/MensRights09/08/13 02:56 PM
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Someone really should let them know
/r/MensRights09/08/13 02:49 PM
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It was just the once (in my three years on campus). They were very westboro baptist churchy. Someone wound up melting a whole in one of their signs and they, predictably, sued. Preachers were far more common. Typically 2 or 3 a year. More if you just count those that passed out bibles.
/r/MensRights07/08/13 08:00 PM
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I'm not referring to the type of people who preach. I'm referring to the people who would show up on my campus with 6ft wide banners of lynchings, mass graves and dead babies.
/r/MensRights07/08/13 04:57 PM
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Then just nudity? What would be an accurate and equivalent to that level of violence/morbidity portrayed? You yell at the left for their 'criminalizing speech' but are pictures of dead baby's and what not anymore free speech than if I set up a stand on campus full of pictures of nudes/porn fighting for the decriminalization of prostitution? For the record, the women in the video really deserved jail time. Also, I'm not saying to censor them, just want to give another viewpoint that we already do…
/r/MensRights07/08/13 12:12 PM
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My question is would it be legal for me to play a porn back at them? Free speech is free speech, after all. If they want to throw something I find grotesque my way, shouldn't I be allowed to do the same.
/r/MensRights07/08/13 11:53 AM
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Just look at how Jenny McCarthy sexually assaulted him on stage and then joked about it.
/r/MensRights27/07/13 06:19 PM
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As a democrat, I really have no love for Hillary Clinton. She seems like a true politician at heart who will do what it takes to get elected. If that means tearing down men's rights, I have no doubts that she would do it. Whether or not she feels like it will be necessary is another issue.
/r/MensRights15/07/13 06:30 PM
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As I replied to another person, I was trying to avoid qualifying these with constraints. I could argue and place constraints on every single one of them, but that wasn't what AlexReynard asked.
/r/MensRights03/07/13 08:33 PM
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I understand that, but I felt I would try and avoid qualifying it within some constraint. I could argue about the glass cellar or the lack of male paternity rights just as easily.
/r/MensRights03/07/13 01:21 PM
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Since I missed your first post, I'll go ahead and list my concessions: I am a adamant supporter of the right of women to get abortions. I would love to see women break the glass ceiling and take on equal roles and responsibilities in powerful positions, and realize there are still barriers to this. I have a friend whose family got audited every other year because her mom was the primary supporter of the family, filed their taxes as such, and the IRS for whatever reason just could not comprehend …
/r/MensRights03/07/13 12:29 PM
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As theskepticalidealist said, if its such a wonderful way of showing you care, why don't you see more women doing it?
/r/MensRights02/07/13 01:37 PM
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Most of the guys in my immediate area are around 250, so if the box is smaller and well made, I'm not going to rush down to help them with it, even if it is 150 lbs. If it is the one smaller guy, or the girls (who are all smaller), yeah I help them. Sorry if that didn't come across in what I said.
/r/MensRights27/06/13 02:05 PM
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A man would not be doing women a favor by trying to be blind to gender roles by telling her that she can lift that heavy thing by herself because most guys can do it. I wouldn't tell a 110lb man to lift 150 lbs, so why would I tell 110lb woman to do so?
/r/MensRights26/06/13 08:44 PM
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Without doubt, in some Western societies the pendulum has swung too far. Its not really a single pendulum. Think of it more like numerous pendulums representing many differing areas. Ideally, feminism would work to make men and women equal in all areas, even ones where men lag behind (as they profess, sometimes, that they do). A more realistic view would have them work to bring women up to men's levels in areas where they lag behind them. The problem with this is it still leaves men behind in th…
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:27 PM
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If she changes her mind halfway through, it doesn't matter if she agreed to sex, as the only thing that matters is how she feels at that moment.
/r/MensRights22/06/13 11:14 PM
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I'll second these and add that there is greater variation inside each gender then between the genders. Although: Duh. Men's drive is more visual based than women's drive (again, how they are different rather than higher or lower than each other). Of course they oggle more. As for objectification, both genders objectify, just in different ways. Women are more subtle about it. They do it just as often, and to both guys and girls, though it gets veiled as more "an appreciation of their aesthetics" …
/r/MensRights21/06/13 04:48 PM
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Sure, men might have chosen younger mates, but how is that going to cause women evolve towards menopause being preferential? I understand that its preferential in the former case, because pregnancy is a resource sink and it your kids die, its all for nothing, but I can't see that being the case in the later. AND even men were choosing younger women before menopause, it because older women have higher rates of genetic defects, so it still makes no sense to blame men.
/r/MensRights14/06/13 03:46 PM
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Citation? I would love to spread that tidbit around.
/r/MensRights14/06/13 12:09 PM
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Glad to see this. Got a discussion going on facebook with one of my friends, a feminist, and she's agreeing that its not fair. Amazing what happens when people actually listen.
/r/MensRights14/06/13 09:19 AM
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While I conclude that different women want different things.
/r/MensRights13/06/13 02:41 PM
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But.....it must be the sexism that keeps them from hiring all women staff.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 11:23 AM
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You need to add this part to it as well: Gender activists, if rape victims are terrified of you, you’re doing it wrong.
/r/MensRights11/06/13 03:23 PM
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My view is based off of what I've seen in reality though. Sure, people should pay for their kids, but when a woman can claim any man is the father, and it is his burden to disprove, we have to stop assuming that the child support system is going to be reasonable. Same when they make you pay child support for a child that isn't yours simply because your name is on the birth certificate. They go on and on about how its in the best interest of the child. Well, if it really is all about the best int…
/r/MensRights11/06/13 09:11 AM
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I'm in agreement. Especially with child support. My different view though is that child support should be paid by the state, not the father.
/r/MensRights11/06/13 02:37 AM
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White supremacist? But, for real, I want more!
/r/MensRights05/06/13 06:01 PM
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Quite frankly, this really is more something to be annoyed at, but its not like its a big deal. Would result in a minor change in language if even that.
/r/MensRights05/06/13 04:34 PM
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I tend to agree with what this when it comes to discussing labels.
/r/MensRights01/06/13 01:51 PM
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And these are the same women who feel entitled to that friendship despite the heartbreak you're going through. "I wish he'd think about how hard this is on me!"
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:57 PM
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It reads like a list of everything he's learned is wrong with his own profile. I especially love the part about how he talks about learning to be your own person, and then goes on a rant about how you can't build a life with "alone stuff". He seriously spends the entire next point saying you can't expect a relationship, right after saying you need to shape your interests around expecting a hypothetical gf. Also, Godwin's law.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:51 PM
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People like Adria are doing far more to drive people away from feminists than we ever could.
/r/MensRights31/05/13 05:38 PM
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That was my point. The author has made a huge leap from what almost all feminists think and learned to see how stupid it is. Without identifying as an MRA, she is less likely to come up against the wall that most feminists put up when they hear MRA. And her writing is empowering towards women in a way that most feminists would have a hard time shutting down/minimizing. Also, my bad about the gender thing. Saw the blog name and thought it was a guy writing it.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 07:28 PM
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Its still a damn big leap from what most feminists think. I think she would do far more for Men's rights from her side of the MRA/Feminist divide then she could if she said she was/became and MRA. Her article illustrates that truly egalitarian feminists and MRAs will strive for the same goals, even if they come at it from different sides.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 04:46 PM
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I didn't focus on the good or the bad in the article. At least, not that I saw. The auther made a point of saying at least a couple of times that women are capable of just as much violence as men. He also has this: We don’t kill “people.” We kill “targets.” (Or japs or gooks or ragheads). We don’t kill “fifteen year old boys” but “enemy combatants” (yes, every boy 15 and over killed in drone strikes now is automatically listed as an enemy combatant. Not a boy. Not a child.). He still has some is…
/r/MensRights29/05/13 04:36 PM
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they/them is plural. most people think of themselves as single individuals. I guess this is where my argument about he she specifically referring to physical gender falls apart since I was saying to use them/they. So throw that one out. Anyways, where I'm from (louisville, ky) 'they/them' is pretty well understood to also be used when referring to people in a 3rd person gender undefined context. For example: Me: Jamie is pretty cool. Friend: When do I get to meet them? I see this use of 'they/th…
/r/MensRights23/05/13 08:05 PM
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Then I ask why you brought objects into this discussion? My example is only contrived if I've failed to understand your point.
/r/MensRights23/05/13 06:11 PM
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You make assumptions, and you do so in a patronizing manner to boot. This is what everyone expects the moment you start throwing around the words zie/hir. If you want people to take you seriously and not dismiss you the moment you start using words like that, you need to learn to maintain a calm demeanor, and not become condescending. If you need me to point out how you have come across this way, I will point it out. I have no problem with people changing their gender. I've had no problem referr…
/r/MensRights23/05/13 06:01 PM
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Very rarely will people keep a clear head in situations like that, nothing to do with race.
/r/MensRights23/05/13 03:21 PM
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Gender is given to objects because people anthropomorphize them. A car cannot 'act up' but people will still beg it to start when the motor is malfunctioning. A table is no more a man then a girl ('das Mädchen' in German) is neuter.
/r/MensRights23/05/13 03:15 PM
1

As much as I understand, I would rather see the movement stick together rather then splinter. A wide banner is better then no banner.
/r/MensRights23/05/13 03:13 PM
1

When in dobut use 'they/them'. I assume that is what you meant, right?
/r/MensRights23/05/13 03:09 PM
1

He and she etc exist because they are a reference to physical characteristics. If you don't want to refer to someone by their physical characteristics, use something like they or them. No need to make up new ones. I don't know where you are from, but around here 'they' is a perfectly acceptable and neutral pronoun.
/r/MensRights23/05/13 03:04 PM
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What I find funny is what would happen if these women got what they envisioned. Suppose she did manage to have this world. All the shit flying around and she would have no clue why. She would theorize that men are still corrupting society, and they would have to cull them again and again, till there are no men left. Then they would turn on themselves, saying certain women had been tainted by 'patriarchy'. Didn't the article mention something about witch hunts?
/r/MensRights20/05/13 03:55 PM
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Many derided the group for elevating traditional masculine traits and thus perpetuating misogyny among gay men, but as a queer woman, I see that this form of masculine privilege doesn't just operate in the gay community. ...I think she means "A lot of people fear that encouraging masculine traits also encourages sexism, but as a queer woman, I don't think this is true for the gay community". 'Gay' in this means homosexual men. So when she is saying the 'elevation of masculine traits' - that is, …
/r/MensRights20/05/13 03:47 PM
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Femme is the opposite of butch. Its someone who is going for an over-the-top female look.
/r/MensRights20/05/13 03:43 PM
0

What pisses people of isn't situations where they couldn't be your friend. Its ones where they didn't want to. Some people get upset about that kinda thing, and call the other person a dick/bitch. That's life.
/r/MensRights16/05/13 08:10 PM
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If a girl is friends with a guy and he doesn't want to be her friend anymore, the guy is a dick? This illustrates a point I've made before. The natural reaction for having unreturned feelings is disappointment and resentment. It doesn't matter if they are romantic or platonic. For some people, that will come out as hostility.
/r/MensRights16/05/13 05:37 PM
9

You see how ridiculous that sounds? Now apply it to sex: Question: do girls not want sex?
/r/MensRights16/05/13 05:14 PM
6

I've had a relevant discussion with people on here before about that Here's the relevent bit though: She thought she was being friendly with someone, and that he was interested in her. He then made it plain that he was not in any way interested in her, he was only interested in sex with her. He didn't see her as a person, he just saw her as a nice warm place to put his cock. As if cock in vagina is all that happens with sex? My friend liked her, but he wasn't looking for a relationship. He didn'…
/r/MensRights16/05/13 03:51 PM
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I've seen it on here before, on an article talking about how for 24 of the 25 worst rated jobs, 80% of the employees were male.
/r/MensRights13/05/13 05:00 PM
8

Remember, even a 'yes' up front doesn't always mean you're safe, she might change her mind, or like she must say yes.
/r/MensRights04/05/13 11:11 AM
0

You are being downvoted because there is a rape culture, it is how society views prison. People walk around talking about how rape is the most terrible thing in the world, but when you mention prison rape, most people go "meh" at best, or claim the deserve it at worst.
/r/MensRights01/05/13 02:12 PM
1

It should have said "You can stop this from happening again", not "You could have stopped your rape". I admit that was worded very poorly. That being said, you made a poor judgement of character of who you dated. You were 17, and it happens. My point was that you learn from it. I can't fathom telling a rape victim that they are powerless to stop it from happening again. It seems far crueler in my mind.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 08:51 PM
8

If went around telling other people to practice caution when approaching stoplights, if wouldn't get an earful of people telling me I'm victim-blaming. That is where my problem on the subject is.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 06:04 PM
6

Are you assuming that I would let the rapist go? Responsibility and blame are not tied together. Responsibility isn't even something indivisible. Lets use another car accident comparison. I'm approaching a stop light that I can tell is about to turn green, so I don't slow down (something my mother hates), when I get distracted for a second. In that second I miss seeing the car who is about to run the red light come flying down the road from the cross street. He hits me. Now, my mother would tell…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 05:33 PM
2

I edited to explain it better. Also, I recall I've debated with you before...
/r/MensRights24/04/13 05:01 PM
10

One is explaining to you how you have to power to not be raped in the future. It is constructive. The other is victim blaming. If you have a car accident because you freaked out and over-corrected and flipped your car, I'd hope you'd learn to not over-correct, or that someone explained to you how it happened. No, you can't prevent all accidents, but that doesn't mean you should take your hands off the wheel and say that your powerless.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 04:57 PM
5

Saying "You can stop this from happening again" is not the same thing as saying "It was your fault"
/r/MensRights24/04/13 04:42 PM
2

And if you point out that that is what they are doing, they say you are 'trivializing rape'!
/r/MensRights24/04/13 02:46 PM
4

Ogling is still tolerable in my mind. I mean, if I go walk around outside in a speedo, I expect it, she should too.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 03:35 AM
9

Understand, there are people with a feminist agenda, even organizations, but nobody has all the power. Be careful not to replace patriarchy with something equal on the feminist side. I understand seeing feminism in everything, but its not. There are people who have been converted to feminism so thoroughly they spew hate misandry but most don't, certainly not intentionally. I've gotten into stupid fights with friends over jumping at shadows before I learned that not everyone is misadristic. Some …
/r/MensRights17/04/13 03:26 PM
8

Civil war between sex-positive and sex-negative feminism but no matter who you talk to, they sit there and claim they are fighting men, because it is always their fault.
/r/MensRights15/04/13 09:15 PM
2

To expand on this: The actual number of people who're sexist enough to really explain differently to women, because they're women, are ridiculously few. Everything else is just feminists playing the victim card. As she has a sociology, she should be intimately familiar with the fallacy of positive instances. She will see things and remember things that correlate with her views, if she isn't actively watching out for it. It one of the biggest problems you face dealing with radical feminists. They…
/r/MensRights14/04/13 09:48 PM
2

That's nice and reasonable and everything a good mra would say. But since when have courts been reasonable? These are the same courts that throw men in jail when they can't pay child support.
/r/MensRights12/04/13 11:48 PM
12

Still not understanding how a wife is getting 3x more then the kids? What happened to "in the best interest of the child?"
/r/MensRights12/04/13 09:59 PM
3

Oh? Guess we better go tell rape victims to learn from their pain.
/r/MensRights11/04/13 08:50 PM
1

It really isn't a stupid comparison. Its apt, you just missed the point. Ideally, if someone said no and obviously didn't mean it would have their partner understand their intent. Sometimes hard to get is just more fun. Just as someone who said yes for reasons other than a desire for sex would be better off if the person they were with knew that having sex with them would hurt them, so they held off. But nobodies fucking psychic, and having sex with a woman that said no can fuck you over, and yo…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 10:18 AM
2

If that's all it is, why is it so hard for them to acknowledge female privilege?
/r/MensRights25/03/13 12:20 AM
12

What bugs me more then how that talk about what happened was how they talked about the "sexually frustrated ladies", including the German woman who held and raped men.
/r/MensRights24/03/13 03:07 AM
16

except in that half in hour, she will have told countless other people, and a good portion of them will still believe he did it, even after told that the willing female friend made it up.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 10:58 AM
1

Nope, current. Part of the reason I started dating her is that she is reasonable, even if she did have a slightly skewed world view when we started going out.
/r/MensRights12/03/13 09:13 AM
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If you have a reasonable ex, you don't need the current child support to come to some kind of deal. If you have an unreasonable ex, they will exploit the system and your kids are unlikely to see any of the money. How does this system help again? If we are petitioning for legal parental surrender, a reasonable women would not demand a man pay for a child he didn't want, after all.
/r/MensRights12/03/13 09:10 AM
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The argument could be made, yes. The reason the prenup was thrown out though was that he had his lawyer type it up and draft it for him, but she was not given enough time to get counsel or, even if she did find counsel, for her counsel to review the prenup. That, and the clause saying he doesn't have to pay child support (already something recognized as invalidating a prenup) are the reason it got thrown out. As someone else stated, he could argue that the only reason he went along with the wedd…
/r/MensRights11/03/13 11:30 PM
2

Her father had already spent $40k on a reception when presented with the prenup (2 days before the wedding), which would give a degree of duress.
/r/MensRights11/03/13 11:10 PM
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It might be a troll posting, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. The amount of brainwashing that goes out... I've had to have this discussion with my gf after she said she felt like I raped her because I was sad we hadn't had sex in over a month and a half, and she had sex with me out of guilt.
/r/MensRights11/03/13 02:12 PM
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If you could state, in two paragraphs, what this argument is about, please do so. You seem to be dancing around a number of points, and every time we think we have it nailed down, it turns out we don't. What are we debating. Did GWW misrepresent your point? If so, what was your point? What were you trying to say? If she didn't, then why did you take objection with her telling I_love_bees what he believes,
/r/MensRights09/03/13 11:34 PM
3

When you remove all other factors, you bring the implication of uniformity. You say that it acknowledges that black men, gay men etc experience oppression, but would that theory acknowledge, on the average, that black men have more privilege then black women in all aspects of their life. Would it say that white men have more privilege, on average, then white women in all aspects of their life. That is what we are getting at. The implication (because it is implied) that men can only experience pr…
/r/MensRights09/03/13 11:14 PM
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Exactly. In this case, we have incontrovertible proof she abused (previous stabbing incidents) and murdered (she admitted it) her husband, but nothing but her word that he hit her. Innocent until proven guilty. Even if he did hit her, and the first stabbing was self defense, she beat down a door to kill him while he was calling for help. That is not self defense. That is murder.
/r/MensRights06/03/13 07:42 PM
6

What gets me is these same people who are telling every man they encounter that they are a (potential) rapist (and trying to get society to do the same) are also blaming society for the lack of women in male dominated roles. They say that because society tells women their place is teaching or something else, they won't go into those fields; then they fail to make the connection to calling all men rapists.
/r/MensRights06/03/13 03:14 PM
9

For those of you who read, it isn't that bad until you get into the factors section. That is where it started getting depressing in its assumptions for me. For example: Sexual violence committed by men is to a large extent rooted in ideologies of male sexual entitlement. Boys are brought up to be sexually aggressive, dominant and conquering, as a way of affirming their masculinity Factors increasing men's risk of committing rape...(no equivalent for women) I'm not sure how much of it is out of r…
/r/MensRights04/03/13 09:13 PM
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[The problem with this argument is that women have differing preferences for what they find desirable. Men, on the other hand, tend to be very similar, with only minor differences in preference.] (citation needed) So, the author might make the claim that "he's a power fantasy because I don't find him attractive" while completely ignoring that many women do find that attractive, and that is part of the reason it is a power fantasy. (common sense)
/r/MensRights28/02/13 10:54 AM
2

Good points. I may disagree with you, but that's a matter of my personal experience: government has been far more concerned with my welfare then the companies that I have worked for or done business with.
/r/MensRights22/02/13 01:40 AM
10

It be like associating the civil rights movement with gangster rap.
/r/MensRights18/02/13 07:07 AM
5

I've seen this before, and it was a little longer. Just want to say that even with the longer version, this is exactly what it looks like. Girls attacking a random guy for kicks, then being outraged at him when he has the gall to fight back.
/r/MensRights16/02/13 04:49 AM
1

I agree in regard to anyone who tries to have total control in a relationship is not worth dating. I just don't think that's what is going on here.
/r/MensRights16/02/13 03:26 AM
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I would first ask more about the relationship. I.e. how long has she been jobless, does she actually put effort into getting jobs etc. If she she keeps getting mad about him expecting her to clean, tell her that if she's unhappy with the situation, then she can just pay her part of the bills and he will clean his part of the house. Equal partners after all. Only if she refuses these things or if they are greatly skewed towards abuse would I say recommend leaving. After all, I know almost nothing…
/r/MensRights16/02/13 02:43 AM
2

That self-deprecation is a cyclical problem, though. It might start because you don't have a girlfriend, but its also one of the things that will keep you from getting one.
/r/MensRights14/02/13 11:07 PM
2

A man has no choice in disclosing his adulteries if a child is born as he is responsible for child support. I see no difference in making a woman do the same.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 09:45 PM
1

I start to wonder what give it ups view on Legal Parental Surrender is.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 06:46 PM
3

I agree that the current situation is bad. A man should not legally be on the hook on the account of a woman's lie. But at the same time, a woman should not be legally forced to say she cheated on a man, while a man does not have to legally say he cheated on a woman. The point of having them fill out the forms voting style prevents the couple knowing exactly what the other put. You get the same result w/o creating tension in their relationship. Quite frankly, the feelings of the other person are…
/r/MensRights13/02/13 06:26 PM
6

Thank you. Since when have laws ever cared about someones secrets? Oh, you saw a robbery while having an affair? Well, your going to have to testify in court, your infidelity being revealed makes no difference. Why should it matter here?
/r/MensRights13/02/13 06:23 PM
2

How does this subject people are aren't in a shitty relationship to felonies? If she doesn't sleep with another guy, she can check option 3, and if she did and it was with consent from her partner, she can check option 2 without worrying what her partner thinks. I don't understand why you feel the need to get so defensive over this.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 06:17 PM
2

Can I ask why you are against mandatory testing?
/r/MensRights13/02/13 06:14 PM
6

Can't forget that some of these 'nice guys' are self-deprecating, not confident, or very overly attached with their friendships. All of which are traits that most women find unattractive, but ones that the person doing them would tend to overlook.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 05:27 PM
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Just be wary, don't say something like that outside of here. You'd get called a misogynist for assuming your better then women.
/r/MensRights09/02/13 02:44 AM
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Of course, they don't dare mention anything about how badly boys are struggling in a feminist system or all the men that die everyday at work that make their comfortable world spin or that die in the service of protecting the women in their lives. Or the millions of men whose blood was spilled creating this civilization. Any man from the past is an oppressor and oppressor only. This misses their favorite explanation for the tragedies of men: "Patriarchy hurts men too!"
/r/MensRights09/02/13 02:08 AM
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Touché. You're right, most people would be able to tell the difference; the ones that can't only would lack the ability to because they already lacked good role models.
/r/MensRights03/02/13 02:33 PM
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If it was an adult game, I can see this being humor, but it plays like a game for kids. That's my problem, that its teaching girls that you should do this to 'train' your bf.
/r/MensRights02/02/13 04:57 PM
0

I understand that. I was never advocating revenge. My point is only that saying the violence is unnecessary is untrue. As long as there are violent people, we will need a way to control them. And until we develop a happy ray or some such, we must rely on violence.
/r/MensRights02/02/13 02:08 AM
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Also, they can't have children involved. If they do, Child protective services needs to be called.
/r/MensRights02/02/13 01:13 AM
4

So if I break into your house and start assaulting you, what do you do? Call the police? What do the police do? Here's a hint, they bring mace, tasers, guns, and possibly dogs. Violence solves violence.
/r/MensRights02/02/13 01:12 AM
2

I talk to a lot of people on my campus and most of the girls will say their feminists. I accept that they view themselves as feminists. That being said, they aren't the ones in the booths promoting feminists. They aren't the ones running the student chapters of feminist organizations. Those are the people I identify as feminists. Its the difference between seeing yourself as a feminist, and seeing a feminist as who you are.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 11:06 PM
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If the majority of a group act in a certain way, its acceptable to criticize to group for acting in that way. The problem many of us at MR have is that we get a lot of people claim NAFALT (Not all feminists are like that) or NARF (Not a real feminists). Well, that might not be all feminists, but more often then not, it is the ones everyone hears. The more moderate feminists, by their nature, don't speak up as often or as loudly. So, understand, when we criticize feminism, it is not directed at a…
/r/MensRights31/01/13 09:39 PM
1

I'd say enabling is more of a problem, because enablers are more numerous than actual perpetrators, but never that the enablers are worse then the perpetrators.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 11:40 AM
2

I've never been one to "make an example of people" but I think we could stand a few high profile cases.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 01:02 AM
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They are not the same thing in my book. Not even comparable. We will get our sons circumcized. DH feels very strongly about this, however medically irrelevant, we're having it done. His winky will look as good as a winky can get. As far as earrings, I have absolutely zero opinion on them. Excuse me while I vomit. I can't even imagine the outrage I'd get if i wanted to have cosmetic surgery done one my (hypothetical) daughter's genitals.
/r/MensRights28/01/13 09:57 PM
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Oh, no, I accept it. My point was simply that I don't have to feel that way. You can lose an arm and no one will argue that you're mutilated, but you don't have to feel like you are.
/r/MensRights28/01/13 11:07 AM
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I don't have to feel like I was mutilated to accept that what was done to me wasn't right.
/r/MensRights27/01/13 06:41 PM
3

glad to see that all the comments are gutting her for her obvious sexism
/r/MensRights26/01/13 02:48 PM
3

remind me again who teaches these children about the objectification of women? I've only heard one movement that espouses that.
/r/MensRights25/01/13 01:22 AM
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whether or not they have a bruise is not indicative of rape. I agree that she is scum, though
/r/MensRights19/01/13 11:48 PM
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Even though I regretted sleeping with him, IT WASN'T RAPE
/r/MensRights19/01/13 11:46 PM
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because, in the end, society will always demand that someone be held responsible. If the drunk person is the only one to blame, then it falls to them, regardless of whether or not they are capable of making rational decisions.
/r/MensRights19/01/13 09:01 AM
1

I missed that, I think.
/r/MensRights17/01/13 11:20 PM
0

saying its "less of an option" is like saying and ant is "smaller than an elephant". While true, it likes a very important sense of proportion.
/r/MensRights17/01/13 11:06 PM
1

I can see that, honor is part of chivalry after all.
/r/MensRights16/01/13 08:27 PM
2

Its interesting to go and look through her replies (everything was deleted so this is the only way you can see them). Especially when you compare the older ones with the younger ones. http://www.reddit.com/user/throwaway4587212
/r/MensRights16/01/13 07:50 PM
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God I wish my brother would have fucking listened. Now he's stuck dealing with his gf because they had a kid back in June.
/r/MensRights16/01/13 07:35 PM
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Honor is the bullshit fed to men to make them do what women want. Of course, I'd rather have a world with honor than without, but I'm not surprised that women never jumped in that boat themselves.
/r/MensRights16/01/13 07:33 PM
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While it might seem to be victim blaming, its only because life is far from black in white. You are saying a victim has no power. Under that pretense telling them that they have to power to change their situation might appear to be blaming them. To me, who believes that victims do have to power to change their situation, telling them they can is trying to empower them to protect themselves. I'm not sure who is right, but understand, we don't say shit like that to blame them. We want them to be a…
/r/MensRights16/01/13 07:27 PM
3

One of the primary things I've been seeing recently is women complaining that people think they only get into STEM fields because they're women. All I can think of is "and who put the policies in place that lead people to believe that?"
/r/MensRights15/01/13 08:35 PM
19

an erection is a non-voluntary reaction, as any high school male could tell you. Men get erections all the time. The no-reason-boner, morning wood, you don't have to be turned on to get one. Even someone who is passed out will have the penis become erect if stimulated, because it is a reaction of the autonomic nervous system. It is the same for women. Many female rape victims will find themselves getting wet against their will.
/r/MensRights11/01/13 10:13 AM
2

If their not married, child support is one sure way to tell if the father was involved, so even if their not married, I can see reasons why it should never be allowed.
/r/MensRights09/01/13 05:41 AM
3

Looking back, I can safely say it wasn't my weight that was the issue, it was more so that I had terrible acne if it was anything to do with how unattractive I might have been. In reality though, you never know. I just meant to put out there that guys can take things that way.
/r/MensRights08/01/13 03:47 AM
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One of the speculated reasons for the 3:1 attempt ratio are that women will attempt it in a less aesthetically traumatic way then men, such as pills or slitting their wrists. The other is that suicide is a semi-acceptable form of a cry for help for women.
/r/MensRights08/01/13 03:44 AM
2

The pressure is their all the time. Anytime i got rejected when asking out a girl, I always assumed it was because of being unattractive. I can't imagine a guy would assume its his personality unless it is specifically mentioned. Then again, I'm bulimic so take what I say as having an inherent bias.
/r/MensRights08/01/13 02:53 AM
1

just because something is a law doesn't mean people won't break it. I would have thought other people in men's rights would have understood that.
/r/MensRights18/12/12 10:00 PM
1

there are tough females out there and weak males. I have a female cousin who plays rugby professionally. Making generalizations and rules based on gender is insulting, and ignores that we should be judging people based on the individual. If a girl is too weak to play, she's to week; but let her find that out in tryouts. Don't cast her out without even letting her try.
/r/MensRights18/12/12 11:28 AM
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as in wasn't even allowed to tryout. They told her she could be the waterboy if she wanted, but would not be allowed on the team.
/r/MensRights18/12/12 11:24 AM
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to be fair, I know a girl that wasn't allowed to play football in her high school. I'm from the south, but that it still happens to both genders here surprises me.
/r/MensRights18/12/12 02:16 AM
0

please just compare mother's day and father's day. Mother's day involves things like making mom breakfast in bed, flowers, possibly jewelry, a day at the spa. Pick one or more. Father's day is......a tie at worst, a big screen tv (that the family is going to use, not just him) at best. I can honestly say I haven't seen half the appreciation for dads on father's day as I see for mother's on mother's day.
/r/MensRights17/12/12 11:15 AM
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because dad's don't get half the appreciation that society shows mother's, so sometimes its nice to show them some.
/r/MensRights16/12/12 09:46 PM
1

tell me about it. Being poor and pressed for time tops the charts in terms of what has made me as big as I am. I've started at 240, dropped to 195 (where I actually want to be) but when I reenrolled in college, the stress, combined with a lack of time and money, contributed a great deal to putting the weight back on worse than before (I've topped off at 270 now).
/r/MensRights16/12/12 11:34 AM
1

nope, sorry. I'm from kentucky. Its really weird. You'd expect my mom, who was raised rurally on a farm, and is very southern in her thinking (and a bit racist) to have the 'man up' attitude but she's the opposite. My dad was raised by a college professor and comes from an educated family, though he works manual labor jobs and is an all around handyman.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 06:58 PM
1

I'd say the same. My dad was very much a white knight in his behavior though, so that shaped a lot of how I acted towards that of traditional feminism (never hit a girl etc), where as my mom always taught me that if a girl hits me I have a right to defend myself, even if I'm much bigger than her. She also told me that I'd probably be arrested for it, but that she'd stand by me if that happened.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 09:52 AM
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Your mom is awesome. I'd have to go with my mom as well. She is the reason I am an MRA, because she fought to make sure we got treated fair in school and made sure my brother's and I knew that domestic violence can go both ways. She taught me about the problems guys can face in this world long before I discovered anyone else who shared those insights.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 02:56 AM
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just remember, that doesn't mean we hate you or you deserve what you get. Just pointing out some warning signs so you can avoid it in the future. At least, I hope that's why he said that.
/r/MensRights08/12/12 05:05 PM
3

that doesn't make what's being done to him right. Its still these same laws that are fucking over normal people. Attitudes like this about people worse then him are how we started screwing up the system
/r/MensRights08/12/12 05:02 PM
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around here, we call that a warning sign.
/r/MensRights08/12/12 04:56 PM
24

him having money doesn't mean she should be entitled to it. The government doesn't tell married people how much money they have to spend on their kids, why should it feel a need to tell divorced people that?
/r/MensRights08/12/12 04:52 PM
2

I think his not putting up much a fight was more to do with not wanting to hurt Libby, physically or emotionally, than anything else. As you said, he is more concerned with other people than with himself.
/r/MensRights26/11/12 03:28 PM
3

I think it is also more representative of how many male victims look at their rape. They pretend it didn't happen, and move on. He made a VERY reckless decision immediately afterwards that I think stems from him trying to do anything but think about what happened. I think him getting upset at her death is reasonable. You can hate and care for someone at the same time. She was his only real friend, IIRC.
/r/MensRights26/11/12 03:24 PM
3

thus the 'Amen' reply
/r/MensRights26/11/12 03:03 PM
1

From what little information about your point of view that you were able to clearly convey, I am, at this point, unable to determine whether you are being sarcastic or intentionally trolling.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 02:17 PM
6

I have discussed this with one of my former classmates recently (he's a feminist). They go with the claim that its because the patriarchy undervalues work done by women.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 02:14 PM
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“I kind of molested him,” Jenny continued. “Then I decided to turn his neck around and bite his neck a little bit.” And Jenny’s accosting didn’t stop with the singer’s neck. “And then as he turned around I grabbed his butt a little bit,” Jenny continued. “A cougar fantasy maybe,” she admitted. On Monday, Pitbull, who appeared on Access Hollywood Live, told Billy Bush and Kit Hoover that he’d welcome some similar attention from the blonde bombshell. “I wish Jenny McCarthy would have touched me li…
/r/MensRights19/11/12 07:29 PM
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I'm sure all the fans cheering her on didn't help his sense of violation. I mean, after hearing that, how could he call her out on it? The fact that he says he felt violated at all was fairly big.
/r/MensRights19/11/12 07:19 PM
5

certainly a more reliable source
/r/MensRights31/10/12 03:52 PM
6

Its funny that people in the comments are mistaking how fathers acted during the 50's through the 70's for what the article was discussing: how father's were at the turn of the century.
/r/MensRights29/10/12 03:02 PM
7

I do mind, but I don't exactly have a choice in the matter. Its I initiate or I get nothing.
/r/MensRights29/10/12 02:33 PM
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no, you were downvoted for literally adding nothing to the conversation. If you have a problem with the logic being used, and feel you have something to contribute, then do so. Otherwise, get used to the downvotes.
/r/MensRights26/10/12 06:16 PM
7

we are. She was in a position of authority over him. This is one of those situations where sleeping with someone who is underage is wrong.
/r/MensRights26/10/12 06:14 PM
2

I'll tell you the same thing I tell everyone else that says this: ask them why they hate women. You'll get some insightful answers.
/r/MensRights25/10/12 03:09 PM
1

to back you up, there are a wide range of people and a wide range of views. Sure, some guys don't care about jokes, just like many self-identified feminists don't care about some jokes. On the other side, some guys will care about the jokes because it can skew societies opinions and demean men. They have a right to their sensitivities, and if op doesn't agree with them, op has a right to ignore them if he so chooses. But we don't have to agree with it.
/r/MensRights25/10/12 03:07 PM
5

theft is a pretty common one. Breaking and entry is another. Neither necessarily deserve jail time, but the people that commit them still may need rehabilitation depending on the motives for committing those acts.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 07:17 PM
8

You don't know your non-violent crimes if you believe that.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 06:15 PM
4

I agree that the prison system is fucked up, but saying we should release them is a little to far. Non-violent offenders need actual rehabilitation, otherwise there is a good chance they will wind up right back in the situations they started in.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 03:50 PM
8

that doesn't mean that that profit doesn't come from sexism.
/r/MensRights16/10/12 05:33 PM
7

I would love to be able to sit back and be a teacher, but as a guy, its just not worth it. Not when I have to support a family, not when one false accusation from a problem youth could ruin years and years of work and blacklist me. And they call me privileged because I go with my less desired option, engineering.
/r/MensRights12/10/12 10:25 AM
6

I thoroughly enjoyed it. Comes off as non-confrontational, something feminists won't offhandedly reject. I could go for more MRM stuff with this tone
/r/MensRights05/10/12 02:00 PM
2

First off, manning up means different things to different people, but it almost always means this: "do what is in the best interest of others." Rarely will it be in your best interest. You have to decide if it is worth it to man up. It can range from sucking it up when you smash your thumb because complaining about it annoys others, to forgoing a doctor visit because you have to buy food for you kid. If you have medical bills that are too much, and you can't work out a payment plan, and can take…
/r/MensRights05/10/12 01:41 PM
1

You'd do well to remind him that the most foolish person is the one who thinks they have nothing to learn from the people around him; that the student is incapable of teaching the teacher.
/r/MensRights03/10/12 02:43 PM
1

my favorite was floor hockey. Me and one of the girls dominated for our team. Probably why I got such a crush on her. Cute and capable are a wonderful combo.
/r/MensRights02/10/12 07:29 PM
2

I agree with him. I thoroughly enjoyed my non-segregated PE class, though that might be because we had just as many competitive girls as competitive guys. There was more variation between the girls than there was between girls and boys.
/r/MensRights02/10/12 05:18 PM
1

You are not playing the devil's advocate right if you are saying that having a father is just as important as having a mother.
/r/MensRights01/10/12 09:15 PM
1

I particularly like the last one, the second and third ones need work, but the texts make good points.
/r/MensRights01/10/12 02:24 PM
0

of course not. Nothing is black and white. Its about risk management. Even I agree that wearing revealing clothes isn't likely to get you raped. I won't go and claim the result is negligible though.
/r/MensRights28/09/12 05:58 PM
4

very well put. I was thinking the same thing about how some people really don't care about much of anything other then the baser feelings.
/r/MensRights28/09/12 01:58 PM
13

its not said because those types of clothes make a man unable to control themselves. It is said because those types of clothes attract attention.
/r/MensRights28/09/12 01:56 PM
6

That is what I got. She wants to go and do what she enjoys, so she is going to make his life hell and stress him out until he goes out and becomes the breadwinner so she can sit back at home and throw parties. Fuck him if he enjoys doing housework. His wants and desires mean shit.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 07:18 PM
9

you should have seen the shit my ex posted on a message board after I broke up with her. She had been cheating on me, but still found a way to warp reality in order to gain sympathy.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 07:15 PM
0

I live of $720 a month, so yeah, its possible. I could take public transit to drop gas and car insurance and be fine.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 07:04 PM
9

we would, but only because of the need to challenge traditionally held societal views. That is part of the reason r/mr exists.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 07:02 PM
1

You are talking to someone who would support a 'two parents two children' policy.
/r/MensRights21/09/12 02:44 PM
1

I think it would be better for society to give parents the opportunity to have those first months off to look after their children when they are most helpless. I ended up back in the hospital a month after I was born with a dangerously high fever, so maybe I'm biased.
/r/MensRights21/09/12 02:30 PM
1

I agree, but some choices are necessary for the continued existence of our species. Maternity/paternity fall under that.
/r/MensRights21/09/12 02:25 PM
2

I didn't mean the system was perfect. I only meant to explain why it is the way it is.
/r/MensRights20/09/12 07:22 PM
2

Its a matter of what society expects of people. It is expected that everyone will have children at some point. But that opens into a discussion about adoption and other expected factors. The best I can come up with for explaining it is that the first years are the hardest for the majority of people, as is the pregnancy, so that is why they get off.
/r/MensRights20/09/12 06:22 PM
56

I'd rather see paternity leave than removal of maternity leave.
/r/MensRights20/09/12 03:16 PM
2

tell that to your constituents. I've defended the point from two people saying it means two totally different things. The same goes for what feminists claim feminism stands for. The problem isn't my understanding of it. Its the people who have no clue what it means going out and claiming that their misunderstanding of rape culture is what rape culture is. Its how we get such twisted ideas like patriarchy and this ridiculous idea that sexism=prejudice+power means only males can be sexist.
/r/MensRights17/09/12 02:39 PM
3

off topic, but rape culture's definition changes every time you talk to someone new. Just like who feminists represent. Its like HIV. Every time you think you have a defense, the next time you come up against someone arguing the point, they have taken a stance entirely different from your defense. Actually, its more like the flu, far more widespread and common than HIV.
/r/MensRights17/09/12 02:04 PM
10

sounds like someone longs for a world with polygamy, or demands that heterosexual women be unhappy in homosexual relationships.
/r/MensRights17/09/12 12:51 PM
1

Wonderful thoughts and eloquently put. I have had this argument many times though not always so verbosely.
/r/MensRights14/09/12 10:45 PM
4

I think this generally is the best option. One of my friends was getting chewed out by his gf (also my friend) for losing their phone the other day. For a while, I was stuck in awkward mode and didn't know what to do while he just kept apologizing to her and she kept on. Nonetheless, I stayed there the whole time, a started trying to be supportive. I told him we've all been there and slowly defused the situation and moved the conversation on towards more productive solutions. He may still have g…
/r/MensRights14/09/12 10:35 PM
7

If I could get a transcription, it would help. I can't hear anything anyone but him is saying ><
/r/MensRights14/09/12 10:24 PM
5

IIRC even that didn't work. Wasn't there a big todo with one of the canadian provinces declaring couples defacto married.
/r/MensRights14/09/12 10:20 PM
1

with a title far more misleading than ours.
/r/MensRights14/09/12 10:16 PM
4

That's nice and all, but then the danger becomes that she's relying on the parents to discipline their children. These are the parents who raised them to think this type of thing is ok. There is a reason we have courts. Anyone who does this to another person is beyond the point where parental discipline is an option. Going that route is just going to leave her son open to continued abuse.
/r/MensRights14/09/12 09:55 PM
15

The fuck is wrong with her? Does she seriously not even understand how a mother is supposed to act? My mom would have beaten the shit out of any girls who did that to me or my brothers herself, or at least made sure the law was brought down in full force on them. Edit: I'm not sure how my dad would react though. I think it would probably make his head explode. Any unfair treatment of us makes him blow up, but he also maintains the whole "men should never hit women" stance.
/r/MensRights14/09/12 09:51 PM
6

It's like saying you aren't are real mra until you've been put on a list. I know I beamed when I saw my name on the second list.
/r/MensRights13/09/12 01:21 PM
2

as someone who confessed to sexually harassing women when I was younger (read "a minor"), I'm surprised they've missed me on the list.
/r/MensRights13/09/12 01:16 PM
6

this is the type of behavior she will use to control your kids. Something needs to be done to protect them from that.
/r/MensRights12/09/12 04:01 PM
3

combined with him smashing the bathroom door open, and he becomes the abuser!
/r/MensRights12/09/12 03:21 PM
3

Seconded. Depending on where you live, it might not be enough. That being said, spouses and children shouldn't be living the high life in a million dollar neighborhoods just because that was what they had while the parents were married.
/r/MensRights11/09/12 03:34 PM
5

File this under "Shit I've been saying for years" There was an article posted on here a while back by a female author talking about how the hookup culture is something that exists because it is good for and perpetuated by women. It went on to mention the "double standard" for sexual partners, even though, earlier it had gone so far as to call men who participated in that culture "Financial douche bags (FDB)"
/r/MensRights10/09/12 02:42 PM
0

I know. I knew that the first time I replied to him.
/r/MensRights07/09/12 08:54 PM
1

Telling women that they have no control over their lives is surely the way to empower them! /s For almost every possible occurrence in your life there is something that could have been done to prevent it. This is not victim blaming. It is a fact. In many cases you have no way of knowing how to avoid the bad, but the doesn't mean you close your eyes to the possibility that maybe some of the choices you have made were bad ones. You look at them and you learn to do better. That is life. That is how…
/r/MensRights07/09/12 04:16 PM
1

No one should look at everyone else as a potential rapist. That doesn't mean you should ignore the possibility of rape completely. You're unlikely to get hit by a car, but you still look both ways before crossing the street. So, for a woman to take daily precautions to avoid being raped, those precautions are going to involve being wary of men (and lesbians?) altogether. Again, you look at it as if its black and white. Very few people would ever face situations where they must be wary daily. In …
/r/MensRights06/09/12 06:08 PM
2

The ones explicitly speaking about it were. Mainly because it is against the rules to do advocate violence, so the mods stepped in I assume.
/r/MensRights06/09/12 05:43 PM
2

Nothing is black and white. You don't tell someone jumping of a one foot ledge "you could break your leg" but you most certainly would tell that to someone attempted to jump down two stories. Its all based on the risk involved. You also seem to be assuming that telling someone "You could get hurt" means that, should they get hurt, you intend to say "I told you so." It isn't. Its about risk aversion. Its about telling someone that doing _____ will increase your risk of ______. I'd warn any child …
/r/MensRights06/09/12 04:32 PM
3

consider the big topic in r/MR about the wife fucking over her husband and making him homeless. On any topic like this, where only one side is presented, there will be posts like this encouraging violence.
/r/MensRights06/09/12 02:54 PM
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there would be no mention of rape. It would be "man beheads pregnant gf" or "murderer kills mother of his child"
/r/MensRights06/09/12 02:53 PM
3

and leave your children with no parents
/r/MensRights06/09/12 01:06 PM
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I said what I thought would make them reconsider. For them, it was a desire of revenge, and revenge is not based on morality. It is based on what they perceive as fair. She destroyed that man's life, and people empathized how they would react in that situation. Morality would not make one reevaluate their position, so I thought I'd go with another strategy. Personally, I am against any revenge. It tends to preoccupy ones mind and take away from the enjoyment of ones life. Thus my consoling to fo…
/r/MensRights06/09/12 01:05 PM
0

Not that I know of. They just had a kid back in June.
/r/MensRights06/09/12 12:58 PM
-4

It would just make another martyr for the feminist cause. Better to be a good father and do what you have to for your kids. And if you must go that route, ruin her life in any and every way possible, but don't kill her. Make her live through the ruin she inflicted on you.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 07:02 PM
2

It is better to assume it is and offer sympathy when it is not needed than to offer scorn to those in need.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 06:57 PM
-9

No. Don't martyr the bitch. Besides, he has kids who I'm sure would be terribly sad to see their dad in prison/executed.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 06:55 PM
14

That is far to sad for even words. I'm crying right now. My brother got his electrical engineering degree a couple years back and is engaged to someone who is literally crazy (bipolar/paranoid). What you said scares me terribly.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 06:52 PM
7

I understand the desire. That being said, it is not a desire one should ever act on.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 06:48 PM
22

How else would you describe leaving the man with all the debt of the marriage except for sexism? You say corruption but offer no explanation as to why.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 06:46 PM
3

Obviously this is part of gender roles, however you want to explain them, but may be getting in our way. The majority of users over there are male. I'd go so far as to say most are looking for any excuse to avoid the self hate they were raised into.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 04:31 PM
3

Surely a mentally well woman doesn't kill a baby, she had plenty of opportunities to terminate the baby before hand, why go full term an then some before doing it? Because some people idealize what having a baby is like, and it's only after having to take care of one that the reality sinks in.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 04:02 PM
1

There is a good deal to be said about the value that places like r/MR add to the movement. Showing that the movement isn't really about misogyny and racism is a big step for a lot of people who otherwise wouldn't bother reading AVfM articles because they are TL;DR.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 03:49 PM
3

As much as I'd like to go with that definition, I only accept victory when I've made them question their inherently held biases.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 03:23 PM
5

I've heard that point of view before, so it would not surprise me.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 03:07 PM
1

And the "tell rapists not to rape" argument is much more valid than "tell murderers not to kill" while nobody justifies murders, many rapes ARE justified by the perpetrator and others as "she wanted it, she had it coming, I didn't really rape her." FTFY. You make the most disgusting mistakes I have seen. Murder is justified every day. "It was self-defense," "He wanted to play with the guns," "It was temporary insanity." Justification does not warrant vilification of an entire gender, especially …
/r/MensRights04/09/12 11:04 PM
3

There's no method to 'make sure you're not raped. No, you're right. Women are helpless objects to be acted upon by the horrible and violent men. Tell me again who are objectifying women? I have no idea, possibly. I know it wouldn't have been her fault which you are implying. I said it would go over your head, and it did. My point was he didn't have the opportunity to rape her BECAUSE IT WAS BROAD DAYLIGHT so he didn't. Let me repeat that: he did not have the opportunity, so he did not act to rap…
/r/MensRights04/09/12 10:49 PM
2

You should not put yourself in a situation where you are vulnerable and can be taken advantage of with a complete stranger. I would have much less of a problem if both men and women were treated with suspicion around children. The problem is when we assume one gender of stranger is dangerous, but the other isn't. How do you miss that? You have shown me you are capable of intelligent reasoned thought.
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:40 PM
3

No it's about power Its about a perceived need to feel powerful. Will it happen? Yes. Does that mean you should totally ignore that it could happen to you? No. Risk aversion isn't about stopping rape. Its about making sure you are not the one raped. Direct evidence like this still probably wont be good enough for you. Or maybe she deserved it for the way she was dressed? You'll find some way of blaming her I'm sure. Do you think he would have raped her if he had the opportunity? I assure you tha…
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:37 PM
2

As much as I disagree with your posts, you do have them well thought out. Im also pointing out that if clothes was a predictor, the rate of rape would go up in summer, closer the beach and as you approach the equator. The problem with this assumption has been expressed elsewhere: That type of clothing attracts the attention of rapists. If everyone wears it, then the effect is that the rapist is paying attention to everyone, not that they rape everyone. (assuming violent stranger rapists) That be…
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:31 PM
1

I only brought it to light because, while his comparisons were off base in your mind, he had invited you ignore them and fill in the situations where you do think most rapes occur, so I made assumption the campuses and parties were where you thought they occurred.
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:23 PM
3

Try and follow along, this might go over your head. People who get raped are placed in situations where they have no power. They can be beaten violently to force submission, and they know their life is in the hands of their rapists. People who are mugged are placed in situations where they have no power. They can be beaten violently to force submission, and they know their life is in the hands of their mugger. That is the comparison. When somebody is raped they have their vagina forcefully penet…
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:18 PM
1

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/zbkrl/men_should_be_offended_xpost_from_rfeminisms_i/c639aft
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:07 PM
1

What you said doesn't change what is being said about dressing in a revealing manner or putting oneself in a compromising situation. You have shifted the focus of the discussion to stranger rape, but revealing clothing can still have an effect on other forms of rape. It can still inspire boldness in a rapist that they otherwise might not have had, to try and get their friend that much more drunk in the hope that maybe then they will finally say yes once the friend is too drunk to have any inhibi…
/r/MensRights04/09/12 09:06 PM
2

Of-course they wouldn't just be assaulted right then and there, in public view. That is idiotic. It doesn't take that much foresight to devise a scenario where a rapist, after noticing his or her victim(because of the fact that he/she is especially desirable; something which is only extenuated by the fact that others are attracted to him/her too, since that's pretty much basic human nature), might simply wait for an opportune moment to attack Tori Amos had that happen to her. The rapist didn't a…
/r/MensRights04/09/12 08:50 PM
1

Do you believe that being out and about in normal society is for women, is akin to walking through a ghetto full of crime culture criminals and junkies? If that's the case, the extreme feminist are right. and Because being around campus and in bars and at parties where there are men for women is akin to being in the ghetto. These are contradictory view points. You cannot hold them both unless you are actively engaging in doublethink.
/r/MensRights04/09/12 08:40 PM
5

the comparison was not woman to object. It was woman to the person wearing them. The objects that were being compared are slutty clothes to expensive accessories. In all seriousness, how did you miss that?
/r/MensRights04/09/12 08:33 PM
4

You can't argue that someone with psychological issues will perfectly follow maslow's hierarchy. After all, where would suicidal people fall? Those people who have a safe place to sleep, food, etc but lack only love? Certainly rapists would fall under a similar category, the only difference being that the person involved needs to feel some form of power over their life.
/r/MensRights04/09/12 01:13 PM
14

we never go around claiming men don't rape. Some feminist do make the claim that women don't lie about rape.
/r/MensRights03/09/12 06:47 PM
3

not always true. My first gf asked me out, so there is hope. It becomes more likely the older you get.
/r/MensRights02/09/12 04:56 PM
13

Watching porn is one thing. Trying to force a significant other into the role of a porn star is something mostly unrelated. That is a personal issue, not an issue with porn. Anyone who believes that is under a false impression.
/r/MensRights01/09/12 11:39 PM
15

If anyone tells me that, I will have to tell them the only reason a women has an abortion is because Patriarchy, and that it should be illegal too.
/r/MensRights01/09/12 11:35 PM
11

Stick with your parents. Family you can trust is always a good bet. Talk to a lawyer to review you best options. Work out a plan for what is in your daughters best interests. Divorce her but don't worry about hurting her. What is right isn't always worth it. You can't punish her and still do what's best for your daughter. Good luck, and let us know how things turn out. We need success stories.
/r/MensRights01/09/12 10:17 PM
1

On topic: Yes, it is exactly how it goes Slightly off topic: did anyone else see the most likely fake thread about the dad who put a camera in his daughters room? Every immediately jumped to "he's a pedophile getting off on his daughter masturbating and changing!!!!" And not just that. Many went so far as to say: For all you know, he could've been sending the recorded footage to others. This puts you in danger not only at home, but outside of your home. Seriously people? Because a dad would have…
/r/MensRights01/09/12 08:34 PM
1

All good points. I'll leave off the debate here because you are right that she is writing primarily about women. I will say that, for the most part, the only men who view hook-up sex as good are those engaged in the culture. How people say society views something vs how society actually views it are two different things.
/r/MensRights31/08/12 03:51 PM
1

Then why add eternal? Or why paint it as if only women suffer from slut shaming?
/r/MensRights30/08/12 08:31 PM
3

I actually read it all through until that point. When you pair up the words "eternal" and "vulnerability" you can't ignore that it paints women as victims. The men who fill the same role as these women are classified as Finance Douche Bags, which she goes to abbreviate as FDB. I know you are probably going to counter with something saying that she was only referring to married men or those who can't keep the personal life private from their work life. I'll give you that it is certainly a possibi…
/r/MensRights30/08/12 06:02 PM
17

I just sit back and call the white knights out, throw around the word infantilizing (I love that word), and call them a disgrace to the founders of the feminist movement. The trick is to make them think you are one of them, and that all feminists stand for equality, but that idiots like them don't understand the true meaning of it.
/r/MensRights30/08/12 05:52 PM
7

We’ve landed in an era that has produced a new breed of female sexual creature, one who acknowledges the eternal vulnerability of women but, rather than cave in or trap herself in the bell jar, instead looks that vulnerability square in the face and then manipulates it in unexpected, and sometimes hilarious, ways. And there it is. The women=victim line, followed closely by the hypocrisy. Its like saying "You are weak and helpless, but if you play the victim well enough, you can get whatever you …
/r/MensRights30/08/12 05:10 PM
1

can he really do that?
/r/MensRights29/08/12 10:32 AM
19

he consented to vaginal sex, not to oral sex
/r/MensRights27/08/12 08:23 PM
4

only with the right people. Otherwise that shit would get downright creepy
/r/MensRights27/08/12 08:21 PM
6

compare it to female circumcision then. After all, the benefits to male circumcision are similar enough to female circumcision, but no one in their right mind would agree to it, considering how its viewed by society.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 06:25 PM
15

its sounds no worse than cannibalism
/r/MensRights27/08/12 06:23 PM
6

I have seen many new stories recently covering men's issues. Don't get discouraged. Sometimes it just doesn't work, sometimes it does. If you think its worthy, post it and fuck what anyone else thinks. The important thing is some people are reading it. Its why I will sit and defend my views on here long after a downvote brigade has come in.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 06:07 PM
0

that's because cops =! bureaucrat
/r/MensRights25/08/12 11:55 AM
7

As long as you are equal opportunity assholes, fire away.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:40 PM
5

did you miss the part where its a child paying the child support?
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:15 PM
0

but i did wink
/r/MensRights23/08/12 05:50 PM
-1

what if srs is really a pro-mra organization?
/r/MensRights23/08/12 03:23 PM
22

Thank you for thinking critically. Yes there are people who hate women that frequent here, but one of the most powerful questions you can ask is why. People like that exist here because they add to us, even while they may frighten away some people. I just wish some people would look harder.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 05:30 PM
5

I think this whole thing just gets me depressed and shows how far we have to go. You think you are making a difference then you wander into on of the discussions on the other subreddits and are overwhelmed with people who can't even hold a logical discussion on the matter.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 05:13 PM
2

don't know how much interest there will be, but I would love to see it for those that want to know about it. Just be sure to frame it as non-confrontationally as possible. Make sure it is about education on the issues men face, and not about who is responsible.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 04:01 PM
15

I would hardly call it dead. If anything, looking at tumblr it is stronger then ever. Unorganized and lacking goals, maybe, but not dead.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 03:38 PM
1

not to mention it would be dismissed. "sure, you egalitarian. And pigs fly"
/r/MensRights21/08/12 03:34 PM
8

experience is one thing, pain is another. There are other ways to teach someone to do something.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 11:29 AM
16

this type of thing promotes the idea that it is acceptable. That men should be trained and it doesn't matter if they get hurt in the process.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 10:12 AM
6

less often then getting struck by lightning
/r/MensRights20/08/12 07:13 PM
6

I was with him on the not complaining about overhearing sex discussions not being worth a complaint (i assumed for both guys and girls), but then he fucked it up entirely at the end by saying women have a legitimate concern, but men don't
/r/MensRights20/08/12 07:05 PM
3

yes, i meant passed out. And I agree on everything you've said here. I just meant that sometimes it is hard to tell. None of us (her friends) knew what happened at the time, just that she was falling down drunk and he took her back to his room instead of hers. I didn't find out until a couple days later. Something had happened that night, and he wasn't shy about saying so, and she never contradicted him and stayed with him. A couple weeks after they broke up (about a month later) I asked, and sh…
/r/MensRights20/08/12 05:15 PM
2

to be fair, i've known two people who were raped who did none of those things. One because she was passed out and and the guy she was with took advantage of her (she was a virgin at the time). She didn't want to believe that he was like that, or that it happened to her so she stayed with him. Also know a guy who was in a similar situation. Both of their lives took dramatic turns for the worse after.
/r/MensRights20/08/12 04:45 PM
8

also, am I the only one why thinks its ridiculous to restrict one gender in certain classes? Promoting and encouraging is fine, but restricting? Really?
/r/MensRights20/08/12 03:05 PM
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It depends a good deal on the people involved. The moment you try and make blanket statements, you will fail in any assumption. Yes, the default view should be no, but if you know your partner well enough to know what they like or are at least okay with, then this type of thing could easily be okay. I know I am okay with it if my gf wants to start something while I am asleep.
/r/MensRights20/08/12 02:47 PM
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Thank you. There has been a point in every one of my relationships where it consent stopped being given and was assumed, and if sex wasn't wanted, that was voiced. It stopped being about yes, and started being about no.
/r/MensRights20/08/12 02:41 PM
9

willfully obtuse and easily offended still applies I see.
/r/MensRights20/08/12 02:40 PM
1

Those damn variables. Never trust a variable! but seriously, engineering isn't always safe, depending on what you get into. my brother's electrical engineering degree got him a job working on as a lighting engineer. It required him to get in a harness and hang from a ceiling every other day to do while installing or evaluating the lights. Not always safe.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 06:29 PM
3

exactly. I for one could do with more female engineers, and would love to see more male elementary school teachers. I would be glad for some of my tax dollars to go to encouraging both, but never just one.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 01:18 PM
1

If women do, I expect to see a large number of stay-at-home dads.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 12:57 PM
1

it also requires learning calculus, the fundamentals of electricity, magnetism and light (phys 299), along with a large number of other non-cushy courses.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 12:55 PM
1

just look at lawyers
/r/MensRights19/08/12 12:52 PM
0

I was just thinking that. If someone is raped and then murdered, which is then worse? You would no longer have the longstanding suffering that rape encourages and that people use to say rape is worse. Sad thing is, the majority of people will still probably say rape is still worse, even in that case.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 11:40 AM
3

I still think one of my favorite posts was one by a teacher calling them out on it, telling them that the way to open religious peoples eyes was not through screaming matches, but by establishing that learning about evolution did not preclude a belief in god, since evolution is a natural process, and divinity is inherently supernatural.
/r/MensRights19/08/12 03:12 AM
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friendzoning to me is more of abusing your friends feelings towards for your own benefit. Whether it be financial like you said, or abusing it for emotional support, simply saying that you want to be friends with someone who has feelings for you isn't "friendzoning". There has to be someone who is getting taken advantage of. The person with the feelings needs to tell their friend that they feel taken advantage of and walk away if it doesn't change, and the person doing the friendzoning needs to …
/r/MensRights19/08/12 03:05 AM
5

but that's misogynist!
/r/MensRights16/08/12 11:27 PM
1

At least we have a bright future!
/r/MensRights14/08/12 02:47 PM
1

some of them are the mothers of psychologically ill friends and are the only way of keeping tabs on them.
/r/MensRights14/08/12 12:48 PM
1

I may disagree with many men here, but I'll be damned before I'd have them banned for voicing their opinion. Factory2 comes to mind of someone who I disagree with, but who's opinion I value all the same.
/r/MensRights14/08/12 12:40 PM
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personality matters a lot. Men won't go out of their way to interact with unattractive women, but if we(I?) get to know them and they have a good personality, I find I overlook the physical aesthetics very easily. My current girlfriend is currently 200 lbs, and I love her to death. Most of the overweight women who are single that I've encountered either don't put forth the effort to start interactions, or are genuinely unpleasant and combative. Or option three: their physical size is a reflectio…
/r/MensRights14/08/12 12:30 PM
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I think there is room for both types in here. I wont ask you to play nice if you don't ask me to be inconsiderate. I prefer to make the feminists look like the assholes they are over appearing like one myself.
/r/MensRights14/08/12 11:59 AM
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the harm is the entire point of making a false accusation though.
/r/MensRights11/08/12 02:59 AM
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It sat in the back of my head for the longest time. My mom was always trying to look out for me and my two brothers, making sure we got treated right, and teaching us to look out for ourselves. She made sure we knew domestic violence could happen to guys too. My mom would always tell me that if was dating a girl and she hit me, that I was to do everything in my power to defend myself and then leave her. My dad was one of those "never hit a girl" types, though, and his view lined up better with t…
/r/MensRights10/08/12 12:06 PM
2

until she grabs a knife or a gun. Or a frying pan. Or she drugs him. Or (fill in the blank).
/r/MensRights10/08/12 11:49 AM
2

not true. A lot of guys already pander to women so they will still listen to it.
/r/MensRights07/08/12 12:33 AM
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i think he was trying to say 'despite them being catholic' not 'because they were catholic'
/r/MensRights07/08/12 12:31 AM
2

so educate her. let us help enlighten her, we just need to be subtle about it
/r/MensRights05/08/12 09:53 PM
1

anything that helps support men's rights
/r/MensRights05/08/12 07:22 AM
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Victim blamers!
/r/MensRights05/08/12 12:04 AM
0

the only time i have ever heard of the birth control pill failing is when the person taking it didn't do so regularly as instructed
/r/MensRights02/08/12 01:23 AM
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It's a self-hating feminized white knight haven FTFY Yes, there are more males there then in most other female oriented subreddits. I think its somewhere over 60% male, from a self poll they did
/r/MensRights01/08/12 10:50 PM
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This isn't illegal, and shouldn't be since the nuances are impossible to decide. This isn't black and white but the law has to be to prevent abuse. That doesn't mean that he isn't a rapist in my eyes. That is all I was saying. Even if you disagree, I'm sure everyone agrees that what he did was wrong, and that he knew it.
/r/MensRights30/07/12 01:48 AM
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any person that would knowingly traumatize another in order to get sex, that would manipulate a situation to place them in a situation where they have no good choice. That person is a rapist. Begging for sex isn't. Saying "i did this for you, can't you do this for me" isn't. Neither of those forces your partner into a situation where they have no good choice.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 05:56 PM
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Hahaha when I first started reading this, I thought "what the fuck, I don't remember writing this." I'm a guy and I had the exact same situation happen, and when I told her the next morning she laughed a bunch and then made me breakfast and continued to teas me about it. We basically lived the same situation but gender flipped and it was fine. It doesn't have to always be this horrible thing, sometimes people make mistakes. I am grateful she is the same sort as me and understands that exactly, h…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 09:49 AM
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he wanted to know how not to be scared. This may protect him, but it won't help him not be scared.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 09:46 AM
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You seem to think I'm arguing for a change in laws. I'm not. I'm trying to state my understanding of why she felt she was raped, even if legally it wasn't. Its the same reason judges would apologize to the prosecution when ruling for the defendant. Some things can't be improved. It is very different - making a false accusation of a crime IS a crime. Exposing shameful secrets is not. lets instead say that should your kinky sex secrets get out, then you would lose your job. Then yes, again, I can …
/r/MensRights29/07/12 09:22 AM
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Yes, if laws were governed by the intent (something that can't be done). Its no different that forcing him to stay by the threat of her claiming that he raped her. It is in the spirit of kidnapping/holding him hostage. Why do laws exist if not to protect the citizenry, and, if prisons were idealic, correct that behavior to prevent it in the future.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 08:34 AM
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men have been in power, but to deny women's roles in society is negligent. Gender roles aren't decided and dictated (for the most part) by votes, or monarchic edicts. They have outlasted monarchies, countries and empires. Men have been going to war from before Rome and Greece, leaving women at home to raise the children. These are things that have been passed down through families for generations, and the modern gender roles are evolutions of ancient ones. Its is a societal evolution that takes …
/r/MensRights29/07/12 08:26 AM
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telling someone they have no right to feel a certain way is not constructive, especially when you haven't even asked why they feel that way.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 08:18 AM
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if you haven't been accused of being a pedophile, then you have never gotten on the bad side of SRS. Welcome to men's rights. You've officially been vetted, though I'm sorry it came from us. We get it all the time, so we learn not to let it effect us too much. also, they get mad at your reaction because part of what we try to do as MRAs is be better then those we discuss/debate with. That mean's maintaining a calm reasonable demeanor even when we're called the most vile and lowest things. Otherw…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 08:09 AM
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Damaged people do bad things. They need psychological help imo. Prison isn't going to turn a rapist into a normal person. It will just make it worse, more than likely.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 08:07 AM
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this is the reason 14 year olds SHOULDN'T have sex. That being said, viewing things in black and white causes numerous problems. We all agree that what happened is wrong, and laws exist to protect people from those wrongs. that being said, society is not idealic, and as such has to view things in black and white to prevent abuse. I can certainly see what happened as rape, in spirit if not by the legal definition.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 07:59 AM
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you don't have to justify yourself to him. Some people just tend to view things in black in white. Its no different then a feminist saying that a guy wasn't raped because he got hard and thus he had to enjoy it. He knew you didn't want it, and that it would be traumatizing to you, and used your feelings for him against you. That is most certainly the thing rape laws are meant to prevent.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 07:52 AM
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consent is still consent. Non-consent or lack there of is still non-consent. If she's passed out drunk, then she is obviously unable to consent. However, if she drags him to the bedroom and has her way with him, and then cries rape, then its obviously not.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 07:15 AM
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I think that would fall under forced sex. But I get the need to clarify the ambiguity to deluks post
/r/MensRights28/07/12 07:12 AM
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I like how she makes the jump of "risk factors for getting into fights" to "risk factors for bullying". My little brother got into a number of fights. Doesn't make him a bully. Just meant when someone started making fun of him, he wouldn't take it.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 07:09 AM
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A Black man who claims to want a relationship is inherently a more sympathetic character than a Black woman who claims to want sex, even among feminists who claim to be pro-sex. Its like looking in the mirror but not seeing the reflection. Are you blind, woman?
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:41 AM
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Black female desire is not (inherently) predatory. But casting our desire as predatory and threatening allows others to police us into silence. Then it becomes easy to blame Black women not only for having needs in the first place but also for the failure to have them met. Please, tell me again about how YOUR needs are viewed as predatory.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:41 AM
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Consent was never an issue in this interaction. It became a straw man in this blog conversation, used in a reactionary way by men who didn’t want to acknowledge another manifestation of male privilege, namely the fact that men do play power games with sex. Yes it is an issue, because it is what you are upset about. And bullfuckingshit to that being a power game or that it is wrong for him to use his body the way he chooses, especially if you are going to claim that women don't do it or that its …
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:39 AM
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But the flip side can be equally exploitative –dudes (and that is intentionally plural) who want to use me for intellectual masturbation and who benefit from my capacity to offer deep and consistent emotional support, which they happily and thoughtlessly exploit on their way to sexual and/or full romantic connections with other partners. And mind fucks are not what I’m interested in. Please, tell me again how the feminists are against friendzoning and its exploitative nature
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:35 AM
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I recognize that women who struggle to find partners often have competing challenges – some women meet men who objectify them and want to jump into bed with them without regard to knowing them as people. And as someone who is demanding sex and objectifying men, please, tell me how you are not doing that. After all: What I wanted to know is what our “relationship” had to do with the sex that I needed to have right then and there.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:33 AM
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Particularly since as I’ve written elsewhere, many of these “friendships” turn into intellectual and emotional affairs, that are predicated on me doing girlfriend duties without getting girlfriend benefits. Hmm, sounds familiar. Where have I heard that? OH RIGHT! Its that thing feminists hate when men complain about. Friendzoning So when he came calling last month, after a year and a half, my interests were peaked. When I saw him several weeks later, I asked why he had called. His reply: “I miss…
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:30 AM
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The trouble with the SlutWalk argument – that women should be able to dress as provocatively as they wish without being ogled or desired by men – is that these women want to have it both ways. They want to display themselves as sex objects without being regarded as sex objects. This isn’t going to happen. Women have a right not to be pestered, no matter how they dress. But if they really want to shut down the male gaze, they’d be better off to don the burka. Wow, it took her 50 years and she's o…
/r/MensRights28/07/12 06:25 AM
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still gets to me every now and again, but I'm happier now than when I was 195. At that (my worst) point, i'd lost 50 lbs and was throwing up after every meal. Funny thing is my teeth have never had any sign of it. I guess that's the difference of being able to throw up on command vs having to stick your finger down your throat.
/r/MensRights25/07/12 06:12 PM
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not when it was posted. It was only half then :p
/r/MensRights25/07/12 06:08 PM
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my problem is when people start acting like/portraying all women are that way, as i've seen done on here numerous times.
/r/MensRights25/07/12 06:06 PM
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if you leave and simply let it continue, you do reddit a disservice. Stay and downvote, like the rest of us reasonable people here.
/r/MensRights25/07/12 02:37 PM
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as someone who has dealt with bulemia since I was 11-12 (though currently 260 lbs) I've only ever told two people because of that same vanity about what would they think of me. I was always afraid they'd look at me the way they do you, with this idea that men don't have those problems. Especially since I usually can handle it well, and as such am not starving. Doesn't mean I don't go through bad weeks.
/r/MensRights25/07/12 02:30 PM
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no, proof that there are crazy women, nothing more
/r/MensRights25/07/12 12:08 PM
0

welcome to the club
/r/MensRights24/07/12 07:07 PM
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no, it doesn't surprise me to be fair (and provide context), it was an srs linked thread.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 07:03 PM
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how have you not been banned yet. Obvious bot is obvious
/r/MensRights24/07/12 06:31 PM
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different cultures make different bedfellows.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 07:02 AM
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she will still be the first person who you choose to have sex with. In that regard the act is every bit as meaningful. I would hate to see you let what has happened rob you of the ability to enjoy that.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 06:43 AM
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its ambiguous
/r/MensRights24/07/12 04:01 AM
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very common to do it to someone who is walking away, not someone who is trying to get away. A misunderstanding of this difference i think is the problem.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 03:57 AM
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that was my understanding of it.
/r/MensRights23/07/12 07:24 AM
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what's wrong is that those that don't do it are called craven and a coward.
/r/MensRights22/07/12 08:48 PM
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and people wonder how women became treated the way they were. Its as much women's fault as it is men's, yet feminists still insist on blaming "patriarchy"
/r/MensRights22/07/12 06:49 AM
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I hate when people even compare the two. You can't man the fuck up with cancer. I can and did with bulemia.
/r/MensRights13/07/12 02:58 PM
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As someone who was bulimic, and while I may not like jokes in that regard, I agree with you. Your own personal offense is no reason to dictate the actions of others.
/r/MensRights13/07/12 02:57 PM
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My ds had his done while we were still in the hospital, he was two days old. My advice though, DO NOT be in there when they do it! We werent able to see anything, but they had us about 15 feet away filling out paperwork. I am soo not doing that again!! Broke my heart! Oh, so its unpleasant for you to see your son suffer? Better just walk away and pretend its peaches and cream.
/r/MensRights10/07/12 03:14 PM
5

On that note, can we hurry up with that? As with the male 99.9% effective birth control
/r/MensRights07/07/12 10:14 PM
2

I misread your post. i agree with what you said. Edited to better express what I was trying to say, since my last post made no sense in retrospect.
/r/MensRights07/07/12 09:59 PM
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Only the initial post. Everything else suffers.
/r/MensRights07/07/12 09:56 PM
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Edit: It's done to men too. Men just tend to fall in line behind what is expected of them sexually.
/r/MensRights07/07/12 10:05 AM
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thank you.
/r/MensRights06/07/12 03:22 PM
1

we're better than that. At least read it, even if you don't reply.
/r/MensRights06/07/12 03:20 PM
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I think both you need to look at each other like MEN united in a cause, not political talking points. Few people ever match up to those political views the way people like to think they do.
/r/MensRights06/07/12 03:18 PM
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don't forget the downvote brigade they bring on anyone who has any sort of differing opinion to theirs.
/r/MensRights06/07/12 09:01 AM
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as much as I dislike catholic school, the fact that over half of our teachers were male was a HUGE boon for me, i think.
/r/MensRights30/06/12 10:33 AM
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a) citation needed b) that wasn't even what I was saying. I was saying the modern portrayal and the idea that you need to fear going outside in a gated community exists because of statements like the one you just made. I could just as easily say almost all men are subject to violence during their lifetime. And yet men don't posses the cultural fear that women do. By crying victim and presenting the facts in a distorted light, you are only ensuring the females in your life live in a constant stat…
/r/MensRights28/06/12 03:32 PM
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Passivity is a choice. If someone walks up to your car and tells you they are going to shoot you if you don't get out and then you sit there, you have made a choice. I didn't say it wasn't a fight to change the paradigm. Only that once they realized it wasn't working for them, they were suddenly willing to reevaluate it.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:51 PM
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you tell someone they should be afraid enough times, they will be. So when a culture tells women they will be raped (1 in 4, as they like to say), they treat catcalls as an assault. They fear flirting from strange men, as a potential lead up to rape. Women aren't afraid logically. They are afraid because they are told they should be.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:48 PM
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how many men didn't do it? You don't notice the good ones, but the bad ones will FLOCK to places where they know they can get away with it. That is why it is so bad. They found a place that was lax in the first place with this behavior, and now if the police tried to solve it, it would probably overwhelm them. Is it a problem? Yes, but it is the outlier on the bell curve.. You can't just look at the problem like this without evaluating the cause.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:44 PM
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lets be fair: a big part of it is a cultural fear that is promoted by feminism. If you can't walk around in the suburbs after 6 pm without worrying about rape, its a personal problem. If you can't walk around the ghetto without that fear, its common sense.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:37 PM
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this is the kind of movement and concern that is heartwarming. I just wish it existed for all the men, not just the married ones...
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:30 PM
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as soon as the costs outweighed the benefits for most women: suddenly feminism! It was a choice they passively made. Just as men were fine with taking care of them because we got our ego stroked and were told they couldn't take care of themselves. The problem is when you have this mentality that they are still delicate, and thus deserving of special treatment and care, while demanding that they get the same privileges men used to get for taking care of them.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:21 PM
3

a wonderful view. Every minute of that was worth it
/r/MensRights28/06/12 02:16 PM
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and this lesser makes it so the only coverage we have to pay congress is the coverage the are willing to provide for us.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 01:14 PM
2

the have clauses in there that make it affordable, and provide it free of charge if you can't afford it.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 01:12 PM
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and the modern education system is based of off the idea that all kids learn the same. That doesn't mean you tear it down and hope someone starts over. I would rather have a safety net with holes over no net at all.
/r/MensRights28/06/12 01:11 PM
1

as a leftist, i've never seen men's rights as partisan. it effects all men, regardless of party.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 12:26 PM
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Its enough to make one sick, this idea that since its women who are being hurt, we must do something about it. Rape is one of many tragedies on the battlefield, where is your anger, your shock, your cries for change for the others?
/r/MensRights20/06/12 05:43 PM
2

Its nice to see. Thanks for posting
/r/MensRights19/06/12 03:18 PM
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115 days, it said, plus 18 months probation and $600, though I'm not sure if thats for the false accusation, or not showing up to court.
/r/MensRights19/06/12 03:12 PM
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and to be fair, I desire towards a good half of the women I see every day, and am faced with the fear that one might actively pursue me, for fear of straying from my gf.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 05:59 PM
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I try and discuss the issue with people, not groups. When dealing with a group, it becomes easy to deny and attack rather than debate. People are less likely to do so. Especially when they feel they are being heard in return. If I feel I'm making any headway with someone, it helps. As does having a wonderful gf who feels the same on this, and a mother who educated me on the many areas men face discrimination in when I was growing up.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 05:44 PM
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You have to choose your outreach. This was not a time for it.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 04:28 PM
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what is understood: adults = men
/r/MensRights13/06/12 04:25 PM
2

but when a dish soap commercial advertised as "sensitive enough for mom" feminists were up in arms.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 04:20 PM
2

he has 2 kids and is married. Its sad.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 12:05 AM
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my favorite providing safe spaces for men that may encourage them to deconstruct masculinity and gender roles in the exact way we want them to is one of them. Heaven forbid we do it in a way that they would disagree with.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 01:49 PM
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joint custody would mean moving them between australia and italy on a regular basis. Not exactly a tenable situation.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 01:55 AM
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I know. Its something many level-headed guys face. I had a guy I work with ask how I would react if a girl walked up, grabbed my dick and tell me to fuck her. When I told him that I would assume she was mentally unstable and tell her no, he said "are you gay?" and imply that my gf had me whipped.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 01:14 AM
3

I think every judge should have to write one of these letters.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 03:52 PM
5

I took a speech class last semester, and my final speech I did on men's rights. It was difficult because one of my friends in the class had an abusive father and self-identified as a feminist, but it turned out pretty well I think. IIRC I did lose some points because I went over on time, but still got an A
/r/MensRights11/06/12 03:26 PM
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unless we have figures claiming otherwise, to assume this is majorly biased on our part. We have plenty of evidence supporting our claims, and don't need to make up more based on speculation.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 02:57 PM
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If he married a decent woman, then have his wife do it.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 02:48 PM
14

Never honestly thought of something like this before. Thank you.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 01:30 PM
8

that is the point you leave, because nothing more you could do there would be worth your time
/r/MensRights10/06/12 04:07 AM
1

I think I will have to use this if it ever comes up
/r/MensRights09/06/12 10:08 AM
3

as long as you realize all men should not be treated as such
/r/MensRights09/06/12 10:07 AM
0

ad hominum. Just because you disagree with a person is no reason to belittle them. Take the chance to try and understand why they say what they say. Now that that is out of the way, No, I am not stupid. The way you framed his argument made it sound like you were saying that women have been doing this for years without, and so of course when a man is caught doing it, he is prosecuted. I simply sought to point out men have been getting away with it too.
/r/MensRights09/06/12 09:37 AM
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Assault by Immpregnation class 1 (attempted) - Misleading your partner in an attempt to conceive class 2 - Becoming pregnant through misleading your partner I was thinking of a class 3 involving bearing a child to term, but i realized the backlash that would cause could be severe.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 04:52 PM
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Please try and keep the comments courteous and in proper debate form. Shaming this women won't make her tell her boyfriend. While you may feel outrage, understand she had good intentions, and that counts for something. That being said, I sincerely disagree with what she did, and he NEEDS to be told, whatever his choice on what he wants to be in his daughters life is.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 12:22 PM
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I thought someone was saying before that the default option should be financial abortion, since that was the easiest way to ensure fair application of the law and minimizing deceit. Though I think that assumed the father was informed.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 12:09 PM
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I thought the burden of proof was on the prosecution? Don't they have to prove he did it? If so, how THE FUCK can they even bring this case up knowing they those pictures exist and contradict her statement of 6 minutes? I just love how they have shifted the burden onto the accused without batting an eye and act like its still fair to expect them to account for every second of their life.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 12:01 PM
1

to be fair, I'm sure some men have done it too.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 11:52 AM
2

and applied equally. But somehow, i don't think that will happen
/r/MensRights08/06/12 11:51 AM
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Its infuriating. If they actually THOUGHT about what they'd type and accept that they could be wrong...
/r/MensRights07/06/12 03:26 PM
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I think the problem here is that zimbardo is generalizing the problems of a select few individuals (such as those at /r/nofap) and broadcasting them to all of men. I personally love porn, and am in a healthy relationship.
/r/MensRights06/06/12 07:32 PM
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fewer men getting degrees? Its certainly not because society has been telling men they are stupid for years now. /s
/r/MensRights06/06/12 10:37 AM
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Exactly. You have to have some amount if inherent skepticism anytime you see titles like this.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 09:11 PM
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She killed her two kids and tried to kill herself. He killed his two kids and tried to kill her. Big difference.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 09:09 PM
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its an actual sentence of 6 years, if you count the time served. That being said, this is still wrong no matter what you go through in a divorce. She ended two innocent lives.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 04:26 PM
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Exactly. Forgive me for wanting the people handling my personal information to be trustworthy. I just got finished dealing with someone stealing my debit card information and going on a shopping spree because some place I went shopping hired untrustworthy tellers.
/r/MensRights31/05/12 04:38 PM
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Not just a divorced father of five. A divorced father with custody of his five daughters, and his wife, a skilled professional, paid no child support.
/r/MensRights31/05/12 04:27 PM
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nothing is perfect, and some things need improvement. You need to learn to filter and understand criticism of your world view. You can expect everyone to agree with your posts (which you believe are balanced) but it will only end in disappointment. Especially if it isn't truly balanced. Also, this is MRA. What did you expect? A good number of people here have been pushed through the grinder by women. Feminists are the scapegoats, though I can't really blame them.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 06:24 AM
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I would say harass one women over another based on if I thought she would be receptive to it. My self esteem being abysmal, that meant the less attractive and older women. I tended to fantasize about housewives in loveless marriages who would want a younger man around that time. It absolutely mattered if they were with other people. It would make it an immediate no go area, because it meant all the greater chance of embarrassment and shame if they reacted negatively. I was not just a teenager in…
/r/MensRights26/05/12 09:38 AM
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second the restraining order. It would certainly help your friends believe you over her if you could whip out the restraining order to prove she's been harassing you.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 03:49 PM
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I understand where you are coming from, but I disagree. Especially since her prospects look to make more than he does.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 01:05 PM
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my aunt had two kids and ran a gp. given she has been married 3 times now, but in terms of having a practice and having kids, its not like the two are mutually exclusive.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 11:44 AM
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my parents have been married 27 years, my grandparents twice that. I am fairly certain that they have been extremely happy with how their lives turned out so far.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 11:22 AM
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I had my convinced myself that if they didn't say no or tell me off, that, through some twisted logic, that meant they were okay with it. And if they were okay with it, I must not be entirely as hideous and unattractive as I thought I was. That and it gave me the same adrenaline rush that one gets from doing anything scary.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 09:58 AM
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a very good read
/r/MensRights24/05/12 12:29 PM
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It isn't that the laws seem to: They do. It is a simple fact. Men are seen as expendable, or problematic to society at worst. At best, they are seen to be able to take care of themselves, and thus not in need of societies protections, unlike women who are viewed as vulnerable. As far as gender bias goes: Custody battles, domestic violence enforcement, rape allegations, male rape victims not being taken seriously, sentencing for prison terms, ladies nights (to show how petty it can be). I can go …
/r/MensRights24/05/12 11:59 AM
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When I was young and an idiot (read 14-18) I did it. I feel horrible about it now, but at the time I didn't even try and empathize; mostly due to problems at home.
/r/MensRights24/05/12 11:48 AM
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i think women would call that kind of media attention a problem, and presenting an unrealistic standard to hold women to.
/r/MensRights24/05/12 11:41 AM
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but what if they didn't search it?
/r/MensRights23/05/12 04:40 PM
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That is the question. In principle every person gets at least two. People can be awarded more for other things like good health, extraordinary intelligence, or through a lottery.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 09:09 AM
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my views are not about everyone being equal. They are about having a floor that no one falls under. A bottom line that ensures a decent quality of life. Part of that to me is ensuring that people who are incapable of providing for themselves don't bring children they are incapable of supporting into the world.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 09:06 AM
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i am a socialist mra, for the record. I just think men should have the right to decline parental rights. Should the woman then keep the child (and not be able to afford it) she becomes all of societies burden (men and women), not just the man's. Though I'm also in favor of limiting how many children people can have based on their worth to society.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 01:56 AM
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Its only when they do that, and realize that no one is listening to them that they realize: Yes, things like this do represent the majority of feminists.
/r/MensRights21/05/12 03:04 PM
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because they can't give that as their reason for being against it without throwing away even the pretense of egalitarianism.
/r/MensRights16/05/12 02:18 PM
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I was about to warn him of bringing it up, but your solution is better. Just be careful, because if it does come up, saying anything along the lines of you not understanding why they're there, are fine with the kids by yourself etc can make them think you are a pedo; or at least wonder WHY you want time with them by yourself (as they might see it). To them, there is no reason to want time with the kids by yourself. Also, i could be wrong
/r/MensRights19/04/12 05:44 PM
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If this is actually affordable, I can see it having a huge effect on poor communities.
/r/MensRights28/03/12 02:15 PM
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he didn't make any more assumptions than you did. Again, think of it not as reimbursement, but payment for future support of the child. Assume this check came before she spent any money on the child, and you see the problem people have with it, and why they say it should go into a special account for the child.
/r/MensRights28/03/12 02:08 PM
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that assumes the paycheck comes at the end of the month (after she has spent the money). If you base the assumption that it comes at the start of the month (before it is spent), then declaring that all of it go to the child makes perfect sense.
/r/MensRights28/03/12 02:05 PM
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As someone who had no idea he was circumcised until he was 18....what? Honestly, i could not care less about it. As such, I am having a hard time understanding how you are linking it with not respecting land boundaries.
/r/MensRights28/03/12 01:51 PM
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias you think it, therefore you notice it, and fail to notice (as often) that which contradicts your hypothesis I have had my gf cheat on me with a good friend. I have seen my best friend raped by her bf. I have seen guys rip into and trash other guys behind their backs. And I've seen girls do the same. And I've seen both guys and girls be the most shining example of humanity I can think of. People are capable of both. Judge others the same way you judg…
/r/MensRights28/03/12 01:39 PM
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