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What did the TRO allege? Is there any defense against them? Do you get to defend yourself at the petition for one? I know the burden of proof is "probable cause" which is lower than it would be for a criminal offense... but she has to have something to show right? Are courts really just handing these things out to any woman who wants one?
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/22 06:50 PM
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Nothing about this post makes sense, and it seems like OP just wants to start a conversation and get some "Amens!" from the choir, so he created this backstory. This is a horrible way to get any kind of objective data. If this is for an actual "college research assignment", OP is gonna fail because they slept through the class where they talked about the scientific method.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/22 04:50 PM
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This post makes no sense to me. You're trying to do a "college research assignment"? What's the assignment? To find out who files for divorce more often? 1.) That question already has answers from a 2017 Stanford study. 2.) If you wanted reliable information, why would you come to a biased anonymous online forum where anyone could say anything? This is literally the worst place you could have come. Reddit is not a good place to conduct polling, since many people have multiple accounts, and Reddi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/22 04:45 PM
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Dude. What the fuck. You make 500k+ as a household and you're living paycheck to paycheck? If she's already bringing up divorce 7 years into the marriage, this isn't going to get better dude. She has been cold and calculating, keeping HER assets separately housed from yours, yet she's demonstrated a lack of fiscal responsibility with your money. You're already fucked, and every day that goes by you get more fucked. This isn't going to magically get better if you stop your complaining about her s…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 02:19 PM
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Congrats on the happiness you've found. How did you two settle finances amicably? It's such a tempting thought to try things without lawyering up, aside from the minimal representation necessary to facilitate paperwork. I'm not too hopefully it'll work out that way for me. Did you need a lawyer or judge to make it official?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 01:45 AM
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The only thing that's going to change here is that you both will get older, and the financial penalties for divorcing her are only going to get worse. You can absolutely get out now and get your life back. If you wait a few years for things to magically get better, you're just going to end up having a more difficult time of it. She was getting flirty with people years ago, and you "addressed" that with her. And now she's sexting someone again. How did that go? Did it work the first time? Did she…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 07:45 PM
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I agree with a lot of this in general, but in Depp’s case he was far from blameless. She was lying about him hitting her, but I don’t think most of us are drinking and drugging like he is. He might be super chill when he’s drunk and high for all I know, but that doesn’t make him a good husband. If I were blasted all day it wouldn’t matter if I wasn’t physically hitting anyone. I would still be emotionally unavailable and borderline abusive. My point I guess is that I wouldn’t want Depp held out …
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 04:49 PM
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How long were you married, out of curiosity?
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 08:06 PM
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How did this all work out for you? Did they end up using your overseas temporary salary? That’s ludicrous. Are these judges not humans that can understand how that wasn’t a typical salary for you? What the fuck. Every day I spend subscribed to this subreddit the more hopeless I feel for my own prospects. The world truly is insane.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 07:34 PM
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you are gambling your future livelihood and half of your assets on someone else who is guaranteed to change overtime Excellently put. Think about who you were 10 or 15 years ago. I don’t know about anyone else, but I’m a drastically different person, with different priorities, goals, and opinions. I’m happy for all the couples who happened to drift closer as they grew older, but it honestly shouldn’t be surprising to anyone that many - even most - don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 10:52 PM
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I looked at your comment history because they way you're talking about women it's pretty obvious you're a virgin looking for reasons to justify hating on women because they don't give you the time of day, and before I just commented on that feeling, I thought maybe I'd give you the benefit of the doubt aaaaaand... I was right. Tell me, how is that I have feminine energy, when you're the one moping around on divorce subs as "a guy that never wants to be married" yet whines constantly about he's f…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/22 08:30 PM
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Do you think they already have this in mind before marriage. Like they think to themselves once I get a guy to marry me I can go back on all that stuff that got her married in the first place ? I'm probably going to get downvoted for saying this, but women are not some species of animal whose behavior can be cataloged. A lot of guys here have had their wives treat them badly. That's not a woman thing - that's a shitty person thing. I happen to have my own complaints about my wife - but that does…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/22 07:35 PM
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Damn, seems like your attorney is fucking you here too. You have a good, time-sensitive offer on the table. He/she needs to get on that now.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 06:44 PM
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Agreed. It’s also pretty common in here for guys to throw around comments like “all women are…” solipsistic/narcissistic/conniving/gaslighters/etc. Fuck that red pill shit. I don’t hate women. I don’t even hate my wife, even though I hate how she behaves. I’ll be the first to say the family court system is stacked unfairly against men, but I don’t buy into these broad generalizations about the female mind. I have enough experience with women to know they are not all, well, anything. I’m also con…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/21 08:16 PM
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Confronting her will only lead to her being more careful about how she deceives you in the future. You don't even have definitive proof of anything yet, just the suggestion of it. If you want to make sure that she's better at hiding these things from you in the future, by all means, tell her. But if you want to be smart and potentially get out of paying her alimony for the rest of your life, continue to gather proof of her infidelity and hope you live in an at-fault state. Start confiding in som…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/21 06:26 PM
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We have kids (11, 15, 17), a sizable house, and about 1M in retirement/savings. She spent most of our 20 years together as a stay-at-home mom to take care of the kids Dude, there are men who can maybe swing things with no lawyer because they don’t have tons of assets and minor kids, and then there’s you. You are the poster child for “get a fucking lawyer.” If you look up the Wikipedia entry for People who should get a lawyer there’s a picture of you. See what I’m saying? If ever there was ever a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 09:00 PM
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Keep in mind that lots of divorces are from repeat offenders. The lesson being: don’t make the same mistake twice.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/21 02:00 PM
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Lol my guy is already browsing r/divorce
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/21 04:53 PM
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I got a boner reading this
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 02:10 AM
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I went back to school and started at new career at your age. You’re young dude. Go to the gym and work on yourself. I know this is going to sound really weird, but a lot of guys in here including myself wish we were in your shoes. Seriously. Not saying that you don’t have a right to be hurting right now but you will eventually see that this is a gift.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/21 06:42 PM
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I agree with every single thing you’ve posted, especially about the fact that when you hear her spouting this shit you can be sure that she’s talking to other women and possibly to a lawyer. Mine mentions every now and then that I make twice as much as she does. That’s how I know she’s talked to a lawyer. I’m also a “narcissist” and “emotionally abusive” because I ignore her bullshit and refuse to acknowledge her for weeks, but I’m also abusive when I talk to her too, so there’s no way around it…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 02:26 AM
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After a long history of getting sucked into nonsensical text arguments with my stbx, I have finally discovered that blocking her often alleviates the compulsion to get another salvo in. Seriously OP, say what needs to be said, and then block her. Don’t tell her you’re blocking her to piss her off, because then she’ll just create some fake-ass drama and say you missed it because you had her blocked. If you both have iMessage, it will be enough that she won’t get that “delivered” status on her mes…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 03:06 AM
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This is the dream. She could honestly begin banging her way through a list of everyone I’ve ever known, followed by the starting lineup of the 2010 Saints and finish with a public orgy in Times Square and I wouldn’t give a single fuck. I just want to go my own way and have my own life and be there for my kid.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 05:56 PM
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This is all projection. I am not a social media person. I don't have a FB or Snapchat or Instagram, but that didn't stop her from constantly bringing up "the people I talk to on Reddit" or my "friends on Reddit." It doesn't help that she's not very technically savvy. Of course I tried explaining years ago that everyone is mostly anonymous and my username isn't some alter ego or assumed persona where I cosplay as a single dude looking for hookups. But eventually it dawned on me that she didn't re…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/21 08:19 PM
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There will never, ever be a better time to divorce her. Every day that goes by your lives will become more and more entrenched and you may even convince yourselves that a kid will fix your issues. You're looking at a short period of spousal support and then you can move on with your life and never make this mistake again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 03:59 AM
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I know this isn’t going to be very helpful but there’s a lot of guys in here who would kill to be in your shoes. A lot of us just want to take our kids and our jobs and go make another life without these selfish asshole psychos being a weight around our necks. It seems you might just have a shot at keeping your kids, your home, and your money. Let her go, you’ve been given a tremendous gift. I know it doesn’t feel that way but it’s true.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 12:24 PM
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The children are under my custody, they are fed, breathing, not bleeding, safe. No emergency here. You still have insurance, if children need to come see you at hospital I can facilitate. Take care of yourself. Legend. The mascot of this sub should be Dr. Spock. Calm, cool, devoid of all emotion. Never taking anything personally. I strive to be this way with my confrontational stbx, and sometimes I pull it off and other times she knows which buttons to press. Congrats on finding your Spock.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 07:06 PM
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I think about this a lot. On the one hand I feel like women already have to conform to more difficult standards of beauty than men do, and on top of that they bear the burden of child birth. On the other hand, I feel like both parties are entitled to be in a relationship that they find sexually fulfilling. Sex is a big part of being a functional, normal human being. Affection and attraction are necessary. If one member of the marriage has become physically unattractive, it shouldn't be the other…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/21 08:26 PM
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I am afraid she is only delaying for reasons I am not aware of She's delaying because you've given her every incentive to. Why would she rock the comfy boat she's in? I think you're being way too chivalrous dude. No one is going to give you "points" for being a swell guy here. A lot of people in this sub say that at-fault divorce is a bad idea, but if you 1.) live in an at-fault state and 2.) her infidelity led to the demise of your marriage, and 3.) you have the money to pursue it in court, I w…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/21 06:01 PM
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What’s even more amazing is she compartmentalizes every social sphere in her life like this and pits each against the other. So while her siblings all think I’m this terrible person, they also get tired of her inconsistency and unreliability and confront her. This leads to her coming to me and bitching about how mean and unfair they all are.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 01:32 PM
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I’ve also wondered this and it seems (as others have said) that legally speaking, the answer is no. In my case, my stbx has been poisoning my reputation with her family and friends for years, telling them how abusive and controlling I am and making herself out to be the victim of some horrific monster. The truth is that she is abusing her prescription meds and is a shit mother and wife who can’t hold onto a job and needs someone else to blame for her failures. So, for me at least, filing first w…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 04:19 PM
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Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/21 06:18 PM
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How much did the custody/psych eval cost you?
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/21 06:04 PM
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Thanks for your perspective, and I'm sorry that things were so rough for you as a kid. Please don't interpret this as me arguing with you, but rather trying to understand - but you don't really say why a more transparent relationship with your dad wouldn't have been beneficial. You mention not knowing it was your mother who filed, for instance. What if your father had been upfront with you about that? What if he had told you he was being forced out of your life? Maybe you wouldn't have believed …
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/21 02:03 PM
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My stbx has made threats and taken my keys and cellphone hostage, and I’ve called my family over to the house to support me. You just acknowledged that it’s a tactic that’s working for her, because having her mother there makes it 2 vs 1. A lot of guys are too embarrassed to allow people in to their messy divorces, and that’s how women get us. They have no problem airing out all the dirty laundry and making a big stink because they know it makes us fear the social repercussions. I think your law…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/21 09:30 PM
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I’m not missing the point, I see the utility of the recording, but it has its drawbacks as well. Just as cameras can’t be everywhere, recorders can’t capture everything. I can’t really see a sound recording of me farting and rummaging around and doing random shit as exonerating me from an abuse claim. Maybe there’s no fight at all. Maybe she just goes and puts bruises on her arm and scratches her face and says “he just came out of nowhere.” How does a sound recording alone disprove that? Also a …
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/21 03:19 PM
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I live in a 2-party state, but I am still heavily considering getting a recorder that only I know about. Yes there are risks, but if you're dealing with a fucking psycho than I'd rather be found guilty of a wiretapping offense than domestic assault.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/21 12:58 AM
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Hey man, you already got some good advice about getting a lawyer and I second that. I also wanted to say thanks for typing out your story, I related to it a lot. For once thing, my wife also left for about 6 months and then came back. This was in 2017, and since that time, we've slept in separate rooms, I ceased to wear my wedding ring, and we stopped sleeping together. I laid out some conditions for us to resume normal marital affairs which she never honored (she abuses her prescription drugs a…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/21 12:33 AM
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Damn man, that must be really hard. I have a 13 year old that prefers his friend (mom) over the guy who does all the real parenting (me). His mom never does discipline, never models consistency, never pushes him to do anything. So of course he prefers her “parenting” style to my own. I haven’t filed yet but I expect that will be a big hurdle. I think your big challenge is that your little guy is only 4. At that age you don’t yet have a ton of things that you and he can share. I remember feeling …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/21 12:20 PM
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Yeah I was told I had a 60-70% shot at getting primary custody in a consultation yesterday. My wife doesn’t have a felony conviction, so I’m thinking that was pretty optimistic. This lawyer had worked for the state child agency though so they had some credibility but I’m not holding my breath .
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/21 06:00 PM
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Mind sharing some details? Was it prior issues with the law? I look better on paper too but my wife doesn’t have priors unless you count the DUI she had expunged and the DV charge that I dropped 10 years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/21 03:11 AM
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Jesus talk about enraging. I’m about to file and I can 100% imagine my psycho wife doing this shit. When I talked to police they advised me not to go home to avoid jail. What. the. fuck. Dude you must be fucking livid right now. I am so sorry. Did you tell your lawyer that the cops are threatening you with jail for entering a domicle that you legally reside in? Do you have anyone that can accompany you when you go there to act as a buffer? I know that would be super uncomfortable for them but I’…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 07:16 PM
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Agree. Honestly it sounds to me like she was just unhappy, and the dude is probably better off without her. I read the article thinking she took their kids away from him or something. Your spouse never being home is a legitimate reason to want to end your marriage honestly.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 02:53 PM
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What was your income situation? That’s a lot of cash but if it saved you alimony than maybe it was worth it?
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/21 03:16 AM
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I just watched the first episode, realized that it was entirely an introduction to the material, and then found that this is the only episode released so far. I think maybe posting this when there was at least one substantive episode would have been better.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/21 10:29 PM
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that’s how long she was able to drag it out Why is this so common? I get that occasionally they’re petty or reluctant but why delay the inevitable? Why keep both your lives in limbo? Do their lawyers advise this?
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 03:45 AM
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Can you elaborate? Do you regret getting a divorce or do you think you would have achieved the same outcome without a lawyer? Not arguing just asking.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 03:19 PM
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Jesus - were you paying alimony on top of that? How many kids?
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/21 09:57 PM
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What happens when they accuse you of assault or molestation or anything else? I can’t believe how frequently I see this in here. With absolutely nothing but her word against yours, do you just have to hope you don’t go to jail? What stops them from self-inflicting bruises and stuff to convince the authorities? Does nothing happen to them when they can’t substantiate their claims? Jesus this shit is scary.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/21 04:45 AM
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I got a mail-order DNA test.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 02:33 AM
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This is fucking crazy man. I hope reason prevails for you. I also have a black hole who has bounced from one job to the next for the last ten years despite her having more educational attainment than me for most of that time. She doesn’t cook, she doesn’t clean, she doesn’t grocery shop. I do all that, and I went back to school while waiting tables and got myself a new career while she abused prescription medications, and now I will have to pay her to exist for the next five years probably.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 01:02 AM
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Ok I see what you’re saying. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 11:57 PM
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Ok. I have been documenting/journaling her erratic behavior but I always assumed that it would carry little weight. A significant source of friction between us is the lack of participation on her part to do anything related to the household. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry... all me. And I pay the fucking bills. So actually documenting this could help me? I assumed that a judge would just be like “Pffft, not my business, I’m just here to run the calculations and tell you how bad you’re abou…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 11:34 PM
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You’re probably right about that. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 10:29 PM
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Have you talked to a lawyer? Yes, a while ago. At the time, I was working evenings and didn’t look like the most ideal parent. Now, that has changed. I am the one with the 9-5 stable job and she works nights and evenings. I guess I’m just hoping that she can be convinced the odds are stacked somewhat in my favor as far as custody goes. I know I need to have another sit-down with a lawyer. Just wondering if it’s worth even trying to do things nicely.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 10:23 PM
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Jesus I’ve been hanging around this sub for a while and it’s really disheartening to see how little anything matters. It seems like if I go through with this I need to accept that I’m on a one-way ticket to financial pound town.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 01:57 AM
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My soon-to-be has a degree from a great school and does jack shit with it, all while deferring her loan payments for the last 10 years. I meanwhile, busted my ass waiting tables to pay my own way through state college to get a BS in computer science, all while paying rent and utilities. Not looking forward to hearing how I somehow owe her half of my future income because she simply didn’t care enough to make anything out of herself despite having all the opportunities in the world to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 05:06 PM
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