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amhran_oiche/r/askFDS16/06/21 04:21 PM
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PICKME CULTUREamhran_oiche/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:13 PM
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and? OP is specific in her post that she is and the boyfriend claim to be a born-again christian. no premarital sex is nonnegotiable. they agreed on several boundaries which he is crossing. there is nothing about that behavior which would inspire confidence in a spiritual leader, which is what a christian woman would be looking for in a husband. this would be a different issue (or nonissue) for a non-christian in which case I wouldn't not have even commented.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 03:35 PM
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It doesn't sound like he actually agrees with the boundaries you brought up. A man of God wouldn't beg to have sex with you after knowing where your heart is. This does not sound like the spiritual leader us women of God are really looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 03:13 PM
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The owner selling the place is totally inconvenient and worth being bummed out about but it's also rather common and foreseeable. He's not "standing his ground" because he has no ground to stand on and he's acting like a petulant child. Smearing dog poop on the lock boxes? It's a no from me. He sounds like an irresponsible pet owner, troublesome tenant, and exhausting boyfriend. I would agree with you questioning your future plans with him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 09:57 PM
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"what a bizarre question!" and leave or change the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 04:22 PM
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No, not at all. you telling him anything is just going to make him a better liar in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 09:04 PM
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ah, ok. I'm sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 08:50 PM
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I don't know if I'm confused about the times, but can he not come pick you up now? you should go to urgent care sooner rather than later. I understand you don't want to drive, but if he can't take you can someone else? it's a different matter if he can take you now and won't. definitely get this taken care of and resolve the issue of him not picking you up afterward. I think it's bizarre if you're having a medical emergency and don't trust yourself to drive that your SO says to just drive yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 07:07 PM
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I can manage a lot of my own home maintenance myself, it would be irresponsible as a homeowner not to imo. I can also do minor fixes on my vehicles but do rely on a mechanic for most work. I'm happy to take care of my home and vehicles (to the best of my ability) and do little projects around the house because I don't know when it could be that I'll have a husband. there's no sense lying around uselessly waiting for mr. handy to come along. and it IS difficult. it's hard to be the only one shopp…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 04:27 PM
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I think there's a pretty broad line between cattiness and competitiveness. imo competition is natural and normal behavior and it's possible, wise even, to be competitive (without being catty.) I don't resent women who are prettier, younger, more feminine, etc than me, but see that as motivation. obviously I can't make myself younger but it's worth taking into account what you see in another woman that draws a man. We base our self worth off of how men view or value us, or how much attention they…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 06:51 PM
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holding onto both the crush for your friend and the intense longing for a relationship is going to make you feel very sad and hopeless. try to focus on the things you can control--job, house, time with kids, hobbies, etc. it's never too late to find love, but pining at 50 over a man who just broke up with a 22 year old speaks of at least one significant age gap somewhere. for more reasons than one you need to look positively forward rather than sadly backward. you are viewing men and relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 03:27 PM
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yes, I think alternative men doing this is different and a pretty longstanding trend for that kind of culture. alternative women are more used to seeing men with (usually) black nail polish and may not bat an eye. I'm not alternative but I also wouldn't bat an eye at an alt guy with black nail polish.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 07:26 AM
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sure, I'm not saying that if both parties don't say it at the same time the relationship is doomed, but it seems like he is feeling pressured to say it now when he's not quite ready.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/22 03:14 PM
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he's dodging it because he's not going to say it back and he doesn't know how to let you down. this is a tough thing op. just because you feel that way doesn't mean he does. you describe him as "the guy I'm seeing." do you refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/22 05:22 AM
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I agree with this generally, but she says 90% of her time is working and the rest of the time she's probably watching movies. i'm not sure what kind of "concessions" you would suggest she make, but I think if she were actually out more and being social, she would encounter more potential dates.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 09:43 PM
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the purpose of these things is to attract men and appear desirably feminine. your boyfriend already desires you. you described a couple of instances where he seems to enjoy your company! you can work on the cussing in general and your behavior in other social situations, but I think if you tone down your fun and excitability when hanging out with your boyfriend, he (and you) will feel like you lost something, not gained it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 04:21 AM
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Ok, but the rest of my post still stands. If you both apparently want marriage (to each other) what would be the hold up at that point?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 07:51 PM
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I wouldn’t personally feel comfortable with a marriage proposal at this stage, even though I can totally see myself marrying this man, and it’s something we have talked about and both want for our (near) future. I'm so confused by this. if it's too early for a proposal, it's too early for all the things that come with it. he is 100% comfortable with having a wife without having to secure a commitment. "we both want it in the future" isn't security, and if you both want it in the future, it is wo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 07:46 PM
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the first thing you need to do is make a decision about this ex. you have the most context in this situation but if it were me I'd rather start over, and did, when I recently left my cheating ex as well. I'm 30 and would rather be alone with the wrong man. it doesn't sound like he has anything to offer and I would seriously consider the validity of his claims to put your name on the house, move, start a family, etc. seek legal counsel if necessary. if you decide to cut ties, you need to actually…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 08:10 PM
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absolutely not taking any advice from the dude who 1, stumbled upon the sub and posted without reading any of the rules or wiki and 2, who posted his wife's face for everyone to fucking see on the premature fetish sub. fuck off.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 10:34 PM
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I just turned 30 and I get your feelings but I don't share the anxiety anymore. you should have dreams and goals apart from marriage and children. your life should still be fulfilling and fun. take time to really work on becoming someone that you want to marry would want to marry.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 06:37 AM
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the issue of you wanting to take a little trip with your friends is irrelevant to him also wanting to go to Brazil. he was planning that before you brought up your trip. I would be on high alert after what you read but I would have to gauge it with the rest of his character. instead of going on girls and boys trips, can you guys not go on a trip together somewhere? even a little staycation?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:31 AM
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as a woman I don't care for it
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 01:30 AM
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yes and? what's your point? a lot of us are saying, point blank, that we prefer men with lower body counts, regardless of what men want. What women say they prefer and what they actually prefer can and often is different. this is so broad I'm sure you're right some of the time so why bring it up at all? furthermore, why come here to undermine our conversation? op asked for preferences. why can't we just have a conversation ffs
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:05 AM
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On paper, it sounds nice for a man to not have experience. But that’s women seeing male sexuality through a female lens. Women know it’s bad to have a high count FOR THEM, but that doesn’t mean it translate to men. there are women here who are saying they prefer a low body count in a partner. this isn't a discussion about if it is objectively better or not. this isn't "on paper." we are literally saying we prefer this. men can be rough and dominant without having 20 partners.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 09:58 PM
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in a general relationship sub you would quickly get a lot of "just leave him" replies. imo I don't see a reason why you shouldn't do just that, but if this is a relationship you value, I would give it a couple of days of cool-down and revisit it calmly. him feeling bad isn't a negative consequence in and of itself, people who get corrected are usually bitter about it. you should absolutely stand up for yourself. if he won't listen to you when you present you case calmly I would go on to individu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 08:52 PM
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if a like meant nothing he wouldn't keep doing it knowing that it bothers you. it means something and he doesn't care how you feel about it. if you've clearly expressed this to him, like a come-to-jesus talk, allow him to make the choice on how much he values your relationship. I personally would leave. this would be a huge issue if it were my husband doing this so I certainly wouldn't settle for a boyfriend acting this way.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 11:35 PM
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agree. a lot of them are sung to the tune of "I let my boyfriend disrespect me. what can I do?" uh girl, leave?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 11:26 PM
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I'm sure but I didn't mean looks. 100 lbs at her height is considered underweight per the BMI scale.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 08:29 PM
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at 100 lbs she would be underweight
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 06:47 AM
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he's already disrespected you. saying or not saying anything won't change that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 06:50 PM
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yes!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 07:20 PM
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The women I like do not like going out partying. Yes, they exist. They dress classy. They exist. I have dated a few of them. we know hon But who argued preferences? sorry, what I meant was when you put forth an example about the perfect man but with a high body count, you were implying that women would still go for him, and that therefore women do not care as much about high body count as men. I put forth a similar example and you said "well I'd be happy with a 1/3 of these qualities." well yes …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 04:08 PM
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I am 100% confident that you know ZERO professional ballers and crypto dudes on a level. I am confident. I have been in the dating pool long enough to know what the vast majority of serious women want. you are vastly, VASTLY, over-estimating your knowledge. everyone thinks they know everything dude. "Vast majority of dating women" is in itself concerning. if you've dated enough women to feel confident in saying this then I really doubt how successful you've been, which then casts doubts on your …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 03:58 PM
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no, I'm talking about men in general. just like in your example there's a lot of nuance, some women would take the guy in a heartbeat and some wouldn't. arguing about individual preferences is just chasing our tails. It will sound pretentious but I had no hoe phase, no STIs, I stay fit, healthy, bring in 6 figures after tax, donate every month to charity, help my family, no baggage from previous relationships, I will take care of my wife and will never tell her what to wear or do. not pretentiou…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 03:27 PM
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it makes sense, you just don't like it. you literally disparaged men (footballers and crypto dudes) who got rich quick but said they aren't mentally strong and give into temptation. that is an absolutely bizarre correlation to make, and more bizarre still to come in here and tell us "what we probably want." you're welcome to whatever pov you have regarding what you and other men want. what we want is a man who has a good means of living that he has shown discernment in choosing and is excelling …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 03:09 PM
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ah yes, by setting up a situation which has no possibility of existing, you're proving what? what you're trying to set up is the idea that a woman with the perfect body, feminine appearance, submissive attitude, will give you a blowjob every day, wants to quit her job and raise your kids, comes from a great family, and never nags but has slept with 25 men is undesirable. by sleeping with multiple men she loses something. men would be wise to take on the same mindset. it's bizarre (but not really…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 02:26 PM
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not bad advice but this stuck out to me The first thing to outline is that seeing a man with money as a "HVM" (I hate the term, but let's go with it) will lead to loads of pain. which is why this is a women's sub lol. pretty bold to come in here with "being rich is not HVM.....but for men, a low body count is!" income is a strong indicator of a lot of masculine qualities. this isn't just women looking to get a new designer bag every 6 months. furthermore this sub is pretty heavy (but not exclusi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 04:22 AM
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there's no man out here emotionally healthy who has slept with 25 women lmao
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 04:11 AM
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as a woman I definitely care about body count. idk where men get this idea that women can't possibly feel insecure by the number of partners a man has gone through. the more women you've slept with before me, the likelier you are to make comparisons or ask me to do something one of the past women did. we do value men more when other women want them! (trusting other women's opinions) that doesn't directly correlate to sex though, because that's your decision to sleep with x number of women.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 04:09 AM
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same!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 01:32 AM
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you posted in a thread of overwhelmingly positive responses with "I have deep psychological issues." what is it that you're winning exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 06:06 AM
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well no, a lot of things, especially information presented to help people make informed decisions, usually have less bias. it's not invalid, your opinion is your opinion and I get that, but it just seemed unhelpful to open with "I'm not attacking anyone" but then go on to basically demonize childcare. it's an opinion piece, which again, great, but in order to be truly "helpful" I don't think you took more factors into consideration. the downsides of childcare are not that unknown. what people ar…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 06:01 AM
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I'm not sure that the point of this post is really an "examination" in order to help women here make more informed decisions. it has a clear lean to it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 07:38 PM
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the problem I have with the study is that correlation doesn't mean causation. offering subsidized care means people who couldn't have afforded this kind of child care now can, so the reported declines could be due to any number of other factors, not (just) childcare. the only difference is now they're being studied. the study just means overall the subsidized childcare did not improve their lives, NOT that it made it worse.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 07:36 PM
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I'm just gonna throw it out there that having a home decorated in x fashion is not sexually motivating. that's the point you're missing.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 06:18 AM
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honestly the key isn't "the gym" it's whatever exercise you look forward to doing. I will never step foot in a gym but I love barre3 and biking. if walking on a treadmill doesn't sound fulfilling, consider finding a designated trail or path in your area.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 06:15 AM
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unless you feel like removing your tattoos is a valid option for you, I would stop treating it like a hindrance. HVM are not one-size-fits-all and neither are their partners. being realistic that it limits you dating pool somewhat is all you need.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 06:00 AM
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When I will give up all my control. this is not red pill! it is not about abdicating all control and responsibility. the core is letting the man lead, and users here have varying ideas of what this means in their own relationships. I am a tradcon christian, so my ideas about family/gender roles and a male-led relationship are based on that first. I would advise you to look through the sidebar and the post history get a good feel on the general culture here. don't just suddenly put all the decisi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 07:42 PM
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I agree, but again, the key is in a sub where "no feminism" is a rule.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 07:15 PM
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love this. I'm a christian so we talk about this in my women's group for instance (and our husbands come after God of course) but it's so nice to see this mentality in other spaces as well.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 01:14 AM
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more than a little shocked to see the comments defending feminism in a sub where "no feminism" is one of the rules. are y'all lost?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 07:19 AM
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The first thing I would say is to be easy on yourself. eight pregnancies! anyone would be a total idiot to not know what effect that would have on someone. second, any changes to how you eat will make a difference. you're not going to make 2 or 3 different dinners to make everyone happy. there's just no time. third, find an activity you enjoy and make time for it. you don't say your ages, kids' ages, or what your home/work situations are, but make time any way you can. if you have young kids, go…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 06:42 PM
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You say that moving in with him at his parents' house was supposed to be temporary, I would go back to that. There's no reason why you can't still date if you live apart. Save up money, get your own place, and focus on your own life. If he wants to step up, he will, but I think you need to be in your best place regardless of what he's doing, especially if you are desiring to get married and adopt.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/22 07:16 PM
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how is leaving if your partner doesn't hold up their end of the bargain less coercive than asking someone to do x, y, or z multiple times? if the fear of losing a partner forces a person to choose to do the thing they don't want to do (ie, their chores), couldn't the same be said of nagging? if they don't want the result (to be told to do something again) then it should prompt them to just do the [reasonable request] the first time. ​ And the definition of harassment is: the action of subjecting…
/r/MensRights12/04/22 06:10 PM
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I love this sub but equating asking an able-bodied adult to pick up after themselves to an attack on autonomy is very, very bizarre.
/r/MensRights12/04/22 05:49 PM
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I will keep this in mind for when the time comes. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 02:42 AM
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this is so incredible to hear. I'm single and very much looking forward to being pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 04:41 AM
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in a best case scenario no one gets shot, but say you do, can your female comrade lift, or even drag, you to safety? is that the risk we're willing to take for the sake of ~equality~? modern combat is very much not just two sides hiding behind barriers and shooting at each other. as a woman tbh it sucks just going to work on my period. what are female soldiers going to do? stop mid op to change a tampon? even cups have to be emptied AND CLEANED every 8-12 hours. or just leave a tampon in and ris…
/r/MensRights26/03/22 07:42 PM
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sadly that doesn't surprise me
/r/MensRights26/03/22 03:23 PM
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fixed
/r/MensRights25/03/22 05:45 AM
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I'm sorry that you have been hurt. posing "society" as a whole, separate entity is bizarre. you're not separate from society, you're just talking about not helping other people, which, of course, you're never obligated to do, but keep in mind your society is also full of men in need. blaming random people for the bad actions of other people has literally never helped anybody and won't help you. isolation is a major contributor to depression. hoping your outlook changes soon, we need more mentors…
/r/MensRights24/03/22 09:04 PM
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this is nice to see bc in most women's spaces, any mention of allied men is met with absolute vitriol, like it's so terrible that we advocate for each other.
/r/MensRights24/03/22 08:56 PM
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no denomination
/r/MensRights24/03/22 03:57 PM
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evangelical
/r/MensRights24/03/22 04:55 AM
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this is such a prevalent idea in Christian spaces and tbh it sucks. like please don't get me wrong, I know there are biological differences between men and women but this idea that the epitome of a relationship for men is respect is totally bizarre and really discounts how complex we are as PEOPLE. (this sucks too bc in christian women's groups the flip side of this is that women are ok not being respected as long as they are loved.) LOVE AND RESPECT ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE.
/r/MensRights24/03/22 04:54 AM
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that's a really, really broad generalization that discounts all of our individual interests and personalities. introverted people, in general, are more likely to work with things rather than people.
/r/MensRights24/03/22 02:55 AM
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regarding point one, the child is Affleck's character's. He tells her he thought she had his sperm samples destroyed but she had only made him think that.
/r/MensRights24/03/22 02:33 AM
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I don't have a crush on him, I'm worried about if he develops one on me. Since I'm ALREADY friends with him, I came here looking for advice from women who have had similar experiences. Telling me it's a waste of time was the most constructive part of your reply.
/r/askFDS18/06/21 03:19 AM
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I hear what you're saying. If he were a woman I would DIE to have a friend like that.
/r/askFDS16/06/21 06:08 PM
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I really appreciate your response, thank you. I have yet to share more than just my name and the state I'm in and am NOT looking to share more. I think I got a little caught up in talking to someone who I seem to get along with so well. I may cool it down just to give myself some space.
/r/askFDS16/06/21 06:07 PM
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It has not gotten to a point where I thought he was interested in me, but am dreading the possibility. He doesn't know any of my friends, and he has so far not brought up any issues or asked for advice. I briefly mentioned my breakup from last year, he offered condolences, and changed the subject. :/
/r/askFDS16/06/21 06:04 PM
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Best FDS content I've seen in a while. This is good to hear man, in happy for you.
/r/askFDS12/06/21 04:20 AM
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Heads up this is a new feature that many like myself cannot yet access, so bookmark for when it updates!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:57 PM
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Lmao if course he doesn't have to! How else is he going to convince the 3 other girls he's trying to fuck that he's single?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:53 PM
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This is unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:47 PM
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Agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:38 PM
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Yeah I wonder where the problem is? She sounds like a sole care giver, of course he has time to go to the fucking gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:38 PM
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My ex invited a girl over to MY HOUSE when he was supposed to be house-sitting, and made an OLD profile because he was "lonely." Not lonely enough to break up with me or hell, even talk to me, because he wasn't actually lonely, he had a massive ego and a porn addiction and just wanted attention and to fuck someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:34 PM
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I feel so embarrassed for the woman who wrote this on behalf of her ugly af boyfriend. Women DO desire men but I guarantee you they're not on Reddit reading this shit and are instead out working, doing their hobbies, and generally anything other than commiserating about the unfairness of men not being to wear booty shorts. (And she calls booty shorts and low cut tops socially acceptable, as if you could dress like that for work or that some buttcrumb man isn't going to say you're asking to be rp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:29 PM
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The man on the 3rd slide who wants his partner to talk to him like a porn star lmfao You can immediately tell why she doesn't. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:25 PM
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Lmfao right. If you want to be desirable then idk do something? Take a fucking shower?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:23 PM
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Men are gross, unhygienic, unromantic, coerce women into sex and wonder why they're not simultaneously crying from finding such a dream man, orgasming with pleasure, and begging to get married to them. If part of why men are so drawn to porn is because they never feel desired by their partners then the problem is THEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:22 PM
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No statement which is supposed to be justified by "just look at porn" means a damn thing. Sick ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:19 PM
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Right, so a man with every possible privilege thinks his children are in danger so he kills their mom.... and them. Wow what a stand up guy!!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:17 PM
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What he means is women have been conditioned for decades to 1, overlook when they are abused, 2, forgive shitty men because we're supposedly nothing without relationships, and 3, that men needing sex from any and all women is total "normal" WOMEN DON'T LOVE CHEATERS. WE HAVE BEEN CONDITIONED TO STAY WITH THEM REGARDLESS OF HOW THEY HURT US. IT IS NOT THE SAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:14 PM
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I literally cannot comprehend the selfishness and arrogance it takes to demand it's their "right" to witness a deeply intimate, stressful, traumatic, painful fucking medical procedure. No one in their right mind would demand to be present during, like, a surgery. It's insane. Men really think the 3 seconds it took to ejaculate inside us entitled them to our body. Hot take: you can be a fucking dad without seeing the birth. It's always the men who do not bother to read pregnancy books, take care …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:46 AM
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Like, the financial aspect is a valid point but he buried that so far under the rest of his bullshit it's hard to take him seriously. His wife? CHANGED??? UnBeLiEvAbLe. He needs to grow the fuck up and talk to his wife like he loves and respects her, which he clearly doesn't. In his attempts, she responds that she wants to focus on raising their daughter. And he loses respect for her? Pathetic. I also hate that he brings up being able to save less and having to get rid of a car (which would be h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:38 AM
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Because that is when she is her most vulnerable in every aspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:43 AM
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I think because a bidet is not usually one's first thought when asked about "life-changing!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:30 AM
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Then they for real want you to put your mouth on their dick! Un fucking believable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:29 AM
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This is so sad. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:27 AM
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I'm totally fine if we stopped altogether. It's not really what I come here for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:22 AM
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I love when men say that women's bathrooms are dirtier. They know it's because women have the burden of taking their children to the bathroom but won't say it. No woman is pissing on the floor or leaving unflushed poops. Men will do it because they're lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:31 PM
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I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:39 AM
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I'm dying omfg 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:32 AM
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u/shieldmaidenlagertha babe where you at?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:04 PM
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Only a man would think that showing concern for someone's safety is a "risk." I'm curious to know what he would've done if she was being abused. Let her stay with him, then try to fuck her probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:01 PM
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Right!!! WHAT ELSE WAS SHE SUPPOSED TO WANT?! BRO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:52 PM
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Therapistdiggers, fleshlightdiggers, statusdiggers, wombdiggers, it never ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:51 PM
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Babe this just sounds exhausting. Read your post again as if your friend had come to you with this dilemma. It's not worth the trouble.
/r/askFDS09/06/21 05:52 PM
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Any man who asks this question is intimidated by his date, and is therefore looking to neg her into wanting to please him. He already knows what she had to offer if he's asked her out! At the VERY LEAST he wants to fuck her, and shoot, if he's going to pretend not to see her value, some other man will! I would absolutely laugh and immediately leave, block, and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:21 PM
9

Maybe it would help you to reframe it as he is actively standing in the way of your recovery. Love is weird and powerful, all of us understand. It's ok to still love him but choose to live without him, for your sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:27 PM
31

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:24 PM
21

Having terrible flashbacks to my LV ex who told me he thought my thinner body was more beautiful than my current one (and that he preferred x hair color and x clothing) but was upset that I was hurt and angry because he "is just honest." 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:04 PM
10

This is a good point. What I am really disturbed by is graphic sex that adds nothing to the plot. I hate being shown body parts just for fanservice/ titillation. I'd rather be shown not much at all, like in Titanic or the Notebook, than Game of Thrones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:00 PM
85

Watching other people have sex is the weirdest thing in the world. I hate seeing it even in movies. It's not natural. Men addicted to it are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:54 AM
30

"I always try to make him happy and I love him so much" "I don't know why our relationship is unhealthy." She then lists all of his negative qualities? AFTER he pressured her into cosmetic surgery? AFTER pressuring her into blowjobs, then intercourse, WHILE SHE'S HEALING?! WHAT. IS. HE. DOING. FOR. YOU. I feel so sad. Lord I pray I'm never this enamored with a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:38 PM
3

Many prayers for you and your child. I'm so glad you will be out of this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:29 PM
36

Oh babe. Please LMK if there's anything I can do, even if just to listen. You need a plan to get away from this disgusting rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:46 PM
32

This is disgusting. Rape? Daily BJ's? I'm so sorry. You're gone now right?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:45 PM
16

It's like the One Ring of scrotes and in the darkness BIND them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:44 PM
10

The only solution is to play only with other women yesssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:02 AM
3

I don't think it's victim blaming. The only thing we can do is look out for ourselves. There's no penalty, no sentence, no guilt strong enough to make men stop hurting women, so the more men we engage with, sleep with, visit, give our addresses to, etc the more we increase our odds of being assaulted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:59 AM
48

This is the truth of it. It's so simple I'm baffled that so many women jump to defend their useless partners over this. Please remember men are not ignorant! They are WILFULLY INCOMPETENT. Like, even the most useless employee can do enough to not get fired. He's not stupid, but he's choosing to do the bare minimum. Stop giving anything to these kinds of men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:28 PM
102

So whose brother and sister are they like? This SENT me. And the fact that your friend, along with every other woman in this situation, can't name a single brother and sister like this is TELLING. Men ALWAYS want something!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:22 PM
29

It's totally legal and your right to cross a street at a crosswalk but that doesn't mean there aren't people driving drunk or high who won't run a light/ stop sign. Just because they legally should stop and you legally have the right of way doesn't mean you cross without triple checking. If you walked out blindly and got hit you would be legally in the clear, and still dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:46 PM
15

Girl I'm dying!! 😂 TRAP HIM HUN!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:06 PM
33

WHEW 🥵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:03 PM
50

I like this. Men need to hear it from other men. If you don't want to do it, someone else will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:02 PM
2

It's so frustrating. He is literally trying to kill her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:47 PM
42

I really want to give her the benefit of the doubt because I know how women are conditioned to be, but what reason can you give yourself for not immediately dumping someone who is trying to force an allergic reaction?! Seriously what the fuck. I hope he chokes on his shitty fucking cooking and rids the world of one more useless sack of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:25 AM
2

Many years ago I stumbled on Dr. Nerdlove and just as quickly noped the fuck out when I read that he suggests that men, at the end of the first date, ask her on a second date with a specific time and place, in order to give her less of an opportunity to say no. He was clear that this tactic is literally banking on women being conditioned to appease and it pressures her to give an answer in person versus from a safe distance (such as over the phone.) Women can't say no in person because we're afr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:13 AM
2

Weird that they don't seem to condemn, idk, any couple who's ever met with a genetic counselor? What baffles me too, is they're acting like "vetting men for genetics" is about passing on hot, able-bodied genes. It's about not reproducing with shitty, mean, abusive, unskilled, unmotivated, unhygienic, etc men. The bar cannot be lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:03 AM
2

The mom really said that his son has a "right" to embarrass his wife and tease her about something incredibly painful because "it was his son's birth too." LIKE THEY'RE RELATED. Seriously how stupid can you be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:50 AM
6

There's something to be said about honor. Like how even criminals are disgusted by child abusers and will jump them in prison. Good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:39 AM
1

I want to cry. Men have no right to tell us not to be disgusted or afraid. Fantasizing about their own children? Incestuous pedophiles? These creatures should be publicly humiliated and punished by other men. A real man would never stand for this. You KNOW this is more common that we know due to how many men will band together to protect and defend predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:35 AM
5

Gotta weed out the shallow bitches somehow! Me? I only eat off one set of dinnerware. One plate, one fork, one spoon. To weed out the shallow men who are only looking for homemakers y'know? That's how I'll know a man really loves me me for me, instead of having perfectly fucking reasonable standards of living for a working adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:31 AM
4

SAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:15 AM
3

She keeps bringing up "well then it's not fair if girls do it too." Like is that the issue? Have you ever done anything like that in a relationship with a lvm? They IMMEDIATELY jump to "you're cheating / you're a whore " etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:14 AM
12

My lv ex made me throw away my vibrator in the beginning of our relationship. I don't think I had a single orgasm the entire time. NEVER AGAIN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:58 PM
1

I love her ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:04 AM
108

He's stupid as fuck. Who does he thinks vacuums, sweeps, mops, cleans appliances, cabinets, the bathrooms, etc. ETC. She works full time but has to do all the housework because she pays off their (now joint, because they're married) loans that he worked 2 jobs in order not to have (he's obviously a saint /s) and he contributes to their joint savings? If I were her I'd take all the money from any joint account and pay for a lawyer with it. Asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:48 PM
17

Whew, a man who could build or fix anything. 😍 That's literal value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:11 PM
14

That's a really good point about SW being "empowering" used as advertisement. They would grab at anything they could to make it seem not degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:09 PM
2

Oh that's weird, I'll try that. It had asked for my library card number when I initially signed up and only shows me books it has circulating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:38 PM
217

You're totally right smh. CONGRATULATIONS ON STARTING YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:19 AM
20

What the FUCK is a praise kink? Bitch EVERYBODY likes being praised, it's not a fucking kink stoooooop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:25 PM
22

The question asked for boundaries and he responded with the boundaries his partner has that he wants her to break. Sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:23 PM
7

My library doesn't have it. Libby availability is dependent on your library's availability. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:39 PM
47

I didn't want to say what I wish on him. It wasn't imprisonment. 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:45 PM
338

Disgusting. I wish her a swift doctor's visit, safe break up, and all the best in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:18 AM
104

Yeah, "we have a child" isn't a reason to stay with a man, let alone a deranged abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:07 PM
20

A man asking for your email is straight mental to me. That's like rolling out the red carpet to be stalked and harassed. There is absolutely NO NEED for men to have your email. NONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:23 AM
29

I'm a virgin too, til a man makes me orgasm. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:18 AM
25

If he peaked at 30 he must be 75 now. The best days are behind that man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:17 AM
31

Lord I bet these are just her every day matches, not even just the worst of them. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:15 AM
44

Why am I laughing so hard omfg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:13 PM
10

Aaah I'm sorry. I was on a continuous birth control and didn't have problems like that. I'm glad I stopped before it could've escalated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:10 PM
50

In her song Daisy, Ashnikko says "being a bitch is my kink" and I just 😘🤌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:08 PM
5

Yeah, child to me is still a child, boy or girl. And eighteen years old is still a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:03 PM
78

They won't say "it's a woman's place" but they might say "she's better at it." WHEEEWWWW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:48 PM
7

agreeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:46 PM
6

That's his wife 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:46 PM
11

Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:47 PM
8

agree agree agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:24 PM
4

Ahh I was gonna say this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:24 PM
11

Lol right? Like, thanks for proving me right, asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:21 PM
14

you don’t see men making those same jokes about their physical appearance WHOMP WHOMP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:20 PM
7

Why the fuck would you agree to a second date after going through that. FOR WHAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:16 PM
3

When she says "he works 10 hours (including driving one hour there and back.)" So he works 8 hours, and commutes for 2. So he gets home at 6 or 7. That's plenty of time to do, idk, anything. This is just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:05 PM
9

Right? What about men who are attracted to younger children, who don't look or dress sexual at all? He wants a pass for viewing the 15-year-old sexually because "biology." Meanwhile, as a fucking Girl Scout counselor, what would've happened if he saw a girl in a bikini who wasn't under his care? He is admitting that he would sexualize her body! If we think his biology argument holds any water, then all men should be kept away from children. After all, we don't know what could trigger men to see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:01 PM
28

Yes! It is about being impressive! Dinner dates give you a pretty good opportunity to see a man's character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:28 PM
3

Men are just dying to get married :) desperate to be a househusband :))))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:01 AM
7

Please, I am DYING 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:51 AM
2

You ladies might enjoy this this article that aims to explain Demon Slayer's popularity boom in Japan. It's pretty wholesale. I love it too. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:36 AM
14

YESSSS, it's usually always followed by "a bigger stone would look too awkward." Is your boyfriend a celebrity? Then you don't have to worry about a too-big ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:30 AM
12

I am appalled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:19 AM
10

The title alone whooped my ass. Such good advice, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:13 AM
70

See also: "dark sense of humor" Oh ok so you're an asshole, just say it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:04 PM
44

If a man proposed to me while I was doing dishes I would be mortified... and single. 3-month's salary was a ploy created by the engagement ring industry and does nothing to reflect genuine thought or effort. My ring should be solid gold or rose gold, diamond. I don't care if it's lab-created. I like oval or radiant-cut rectangle with melee diamonds. I would break up with a man who asked my father for permission but I am close to my mom and a man who involves my mom in the proposal would mean as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:08 PM
124

Libfem was co-signed by men. Of course they want us to sleep with more, lower-value men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:17 PM
21

AAHH this is good to know, I was looking forward to trying to find some friends that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:14 PM
70

I'm just curious why you're still with him? It seems like you're giving him a huge benefit of the doubt, for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:12 AM
25

I know a couple men who fought for custody and got 50/50. Their motivation (A sudden post-divorce urge to be a more involved parent??) seemed more focused on punishing their Ex's and getting out of paying a lot of child support . Bitter, under-achievers. This is it. Men don't suddenly dream of being better fathers following a divorce. It's a power thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:26 PM
44

This is a good jumping point fit something huge the article also touched on: "adolescents raised by single (never married) mothers in multi-generational households do even better than the children of married parents —they are less likely to drink or smoke and more likely to finish high school and enroll in college." That's a big middle finger to all the whiny scrotes who try to guilt women into demeaning, draining relationships "for the sake" of their future kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:24 PM
28

I was disappointed the article didn't point this out even as a possibility, though we know it's actually a probability. If you're with a useless man that means you do his laundry (or whatever chore) in addition to your own and your child's. Married women don't have random chores that pop up, it is literally just doing everything you've done for yourself and your child(ren) as well as for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:19 PM
220

Omfg right? You'd think if some unknown really wanted a chance, he'd open with "you are STUNNING" who the fuck is taking a chance on some rando who just thinks you're "kinda cute" what a complete joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:34 AM
81

"eat my hat" I'ma just tuck that away to use later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:32 AM
105

This is so grosssss he just had a baby, one is pregnant, and one is pregnant with twins. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:31 AM
3

I'm so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:21 AM
86

fellas is it gay to prevent skin cancer??? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:58 PM
12

The bachelor and bachelorette are fuckboi and pickme Olympics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:01 PM
15

Oddly enough bumble bff is a thing! I've never used it, but I do believe it's all on one app, so you choose to look for friends rather than romantic interests. If someone else knows more please jump in lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:59 PM
172

Taller than me Fit. I'm not into ripped bodies but I like a man who enjoys various physical activities (I love hiking) Full hair, not graying, no receding hairline. I prefer it dark. Good skin (no sunspots/premature ageing. The least men can do is wear sunscreen.) Nice teeth Good hygeine goes without saying I like body hair! Obviously I don't want to get tangled in it lol but it is very masculine to me. facial hair if any must be well maintained and clean!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:52 PM
35

I'm glad you found us! I too found the sub bc a redditor in another sub insulted it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:44 PM
10

I LOOOOOVE him in the Kiss Me More video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:10 AM
29

🥵🥵🥵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:09 AM
63

I am a Christian and this is one of those things that just speaks so beautifully to me of God's creation. There is consistency. We want men who want to be seekers, who are competitive, and who are eager to be the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:09 AM
65

I'm 28 and same. The best thing you can do OP isn't to find a man who will spoil you, it's to spoil yourself. I know it sounds lonely and it doesn't sound romantic, but I guarantee you will be happier for it. One, because you don't let yourself down. You're not going to cheat on yourself, manipulate yourself, or half-ass yourself. Two, looking to a man to validate anything for you will only lead to heartache. Humans in general are fallible, fickle creatures, but men even moreso. When you spoil y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:53 AM
14

It's a yes for me 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:31 PM
39

He is acting single Whomp whomp, this is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:25 PM
70

I'm totally baffled by men who ask out women and expect them to pay anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:24 PM
11

I think that would be wonderful!
/r/askFDS20/05/21 06:28 PM
6

Idk if you ladies have also watched Start Up, but Adam Brody is 41 and fr looks 25. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:17 PM
8

You didn't ask me but I'm jumping aboard to say it's worth looking up because some say it matters what kind of dairy you consume. I thought cutting out dairy would help me.... It did not.... But now I only drink whole grass-fed milk (and products made from such) and my skin is on the up-and-up. I do other things too, but cutting out dairy was unfeasible for me and consuming better-quality milk helped more than not consuming milk altogether. Plant-based milks often have additives and can be hard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:11 PM
7

Pro-life men would never because the Venn diagram of men who are pro-life and the men obsessed with their "legacy" and spreading their seed is a circle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:58 PM
61

This was the most depressing thing I've ever encountered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:30 AM
7

We use this for work often, it's soooo easy to find out too much about someone. My suggestion is everyone here looks themselves up and asks go be removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:07 AM
20

I wanted equality, and they wanted a woman they could get as much from as possible for as little effort as possible, of course they didn't respect me. Mm mm mm if that ain't the nail right on the head. 50/50 to men isn't equality. They are looking to see how much we buy into libfem "equality" and are therefore that much easier to take advantage of. If we do 50/50 on the first date, he knows for sure you're game for 50/50 on chores! Finances! When you start at 50 it's easier to convince your girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:46 AM
14

DID YOU MOVE???! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:34 PM
29

This is deadass traumatizing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:39 PM
7

AGREE!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:39 PM
43

AAHHH the line about men being masculine gives us room to be feminine That is totally it. Men really want you to act like men then wonder why we're not attracted to them. Because wearing two hats is exhausting? Because you want feminine girlfriends without having to be a masculine boyfriend? Men insisting on anything less is just blatantly asking for a bangmommy. I already pay for my food, get the door for myself, pull out my own chair. If you don't do that for me on a date what is even the poin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:06 PM
52

Lmao I saw this earlier. He finally steps in to help his own children and had the gall to tell her go start acting like an adult. Okeeee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:59 PM
17

I too am wondering how he has two non-guardians picking up his children. It's either a lie or a shit daycare, either of which is indicative of his low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:33 AM
51

THERE IS NO RUSHING INTO MARRIAGE AFTER 11 YEARS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:39 PM
617

"I thought that the worst that would happen is she would be hospitalized." He was an active participant in her self-harm. He fucked and enjoyed fucking someone physically and mentally sick. He is a predator. This is disgusting and horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:15 PM
28

I'm really considering smbc. I'm in my late 20s, and having the option open took off a ton of pressure to settle just to have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:33 PM
19

These are the kinds of things that are fun with an established partner. Low effort men really think that ANY decently fun thing also makes a date. It does not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:21 AM
31

Shirtless men are strong men 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:05 AM
5

LMAAAOOOO HE'S SO INSECURE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:57 PM
5

What do I bring to the table? Idk fool you want to fuck me. I was doing just fine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:54 PM
156

He's a grade A piece of shit. Seriously he doesn't even help with the baby, so she should just leave. I would've punched him after the first comment. What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:34 PM
119

Disgusting but not surprising. They want to sexualize everything. God forbid there is something just for the baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:07 PM
25

WE STAN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:02 PM
13

Aaah thank you do much for this! Everything in this video is great. Interesting that she talks about so many FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:57 AM
39

She gave a GREAT response. I particularly loved This man would like to be a statue who stands in the exact same place doing the exact same things for the rest of his life. That’s not an exotic trait — lots of men are like that, actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:21 AM
55

There are no shortage of men who are quick to let you know they don't like masculine women. That's fine, I don't like feminine men. If you want to split dinner I hope afterwards you were going to be face down ass up for me to fuck you like the boyfriend you want. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:48 PM
9

"There's no jealousy involved... but I still feel hurt." Girl that's jealousy. That's why you made the post. It doesn't feel right because it isn't. He's a major asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:42 PM
4

OOH THAT VIDEO IS SO GOOD!!!! THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:48 PM
3

This is disgusting. There was no lack of resources that caused this. He is a selfish, stupid asshole. That's it. He doesn't give a fuck about her and she may die. I can't wait for her to recover and leave him like she threatened to the first dozen times. This is why vetting is important. I guarantee you that she overlooked a lot of red flags, for what? Two kids, a shit dad, and a shit "partner."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:11 PM
7

I feel the same way. Watching other people have sex is BEYOND WEIRD. Watching sex scenes in movies makes me feel uncomfortable too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:07 PM
2

I used to love Ben Affleck 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:03 PM
10

I am DEAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:52 PM
5

Let the coroner know this was my cause of death
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:18 AM
19

Imo the sub has largely swung to the complete opposite and those who are not as into super-fit bodies are sadly shamed. If I wasn't already a part of FDS, seeing the amount of body talk and body shaming would've set me in the other direction tbh. For as much "whatever body type you're attracted to is fine" there's a lot of shaming around fat men, many of the complaints of which aren't exclusive to fat men, and the talk is very fat = lazy, not bettering yourself, etc., which is so hurtful and fal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:07 PM
15

This is a good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:51 PM
12

Happy birthday!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:50 PM
72

This is so gross to read. "He prefers sex with it over me" and "I know not to interrupt." WHY IS HE FUCKING A SEX DOLL WHY IS HE FUCKING A SEX DOLL WHEN YOU'RE THERE HOW DID THEY EVEN START DATING!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:24 AM
8

You had me at tortoise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:15 AM
33

This is exactly what it is. A HVM will celebrate you if only to set a good example, but will be doing it honestly to celebrate you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:14 AM
46

You're so sweet 😭 I gotchu sis! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:14 AM
246

I'm a big fan of hers and she did an interview for Vogue in conjunction with the printed interview where celebrity fans asked her questions and one was "when was the last time you did some for the first time" and she basically alluded to something inappropriate-to-talk-about and mentioned instead she had gone on a date for the first time, the prior day. She is very smart and very well-spoken but I wish that talking about sex lives wasn't so common or expected. She is an adult teen. Alluding to l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:09 AM
164

Someone here once said why pay for the pig when you just want a little sausage whew I DIED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:48 AM
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Seriously! How long have women been trying to act like men and wondered why they're still hurt, being used, not fulfilled, etc. Being promiscuous, sleeping around, trying not to get attached or engage emotionally like men only benefits men. Of course they want us to have more frequent, "adventurous" sex with less-than-ideal partners! 🙃 Have you ever met a man who slept around in his youth? Who can't get or keep a girlfriend? They age out of any semblance of attractiveness and die alone. Is that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:35 PM
161

Lmao yesss only pure men for me. A man who asks for anal sex or any other sexually deviant act is obviously a used-up slut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:03 PM
13

This is so disgusting. All of it. There's not a single anecdote I read on those forums that I believed--all the things the author claims women said to him or that he did to women. It's such bullshit. They are completely delusional psychopaths. Only someone truly unfuckable is going to write how a woman begged him to hurt her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:39 PM
6

In my early 20s I was quite fit and other than that and makeup, was pretty average. I still lived with my mom, I worked a low wage food service job, and I tell ya, the men were just hanging around like flies. I entered a relationship with a man 20 years older than myself and it wrecked me. Years of put-downs, sabotage, and abuse led me to depression and anxiety and I stopped running, which I had loved. I never wanted to look sexually attractive again. I was so angry at my partner I couldn't stan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:23 PM
17

I think it's important to share our standards with our friends, like you said, stating it like it's normal. I will never outline my dos and don'ts to a man, but when the society we're in is so heavy handed about forming girls into subservient bang-and mommy-maids, I really think there's value in voicing the shit you wouldn't put up with, and acting like it's totally normal, because it should be. We need to see other women standing up for themselves and being loud about it. Why shouldn't creepy, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:59 PM
14

This was my ex. He always talked about how nice it was for us to be in the same room but doing something separate. Weird to think he hardly ever took me on a date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:49 PM
5

I found that my love languages changed when I took the quiz at different points in my last relationship. I think that I was drawn to what I felt I needed at that time. At one point it was touch, another point it was gifts, and when I took the quiz I knew that I was missing whatever it was. I don't know if anyone here can speak on the results they got when they took it at a point where they were perfectly happy with their relationship, but my experience made me think that there wasn't really a be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:48 PM
13

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:33 PM
15

MEN KNOW SEX WORK ISN'T EMPOWERING BECAUSE THEY DO NOT DO SEX WORK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:22 PM
7

This is hilarious because how dumb do you have to be to take a normal feature and just add "bitch" to it. You freak with elbows!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:13 PM
42

I'm fr laughing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:21 PM
11

I used to be so in love with the idea of "Mr. and Mrs. X" partially because I don't really like my ladyy name (it's quite common) but I too no longer feel good about the reasoning behind changing names. The most I would do now is hyphenate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:20 PM
100

I honestly wish part of everyone's flair was their age and gender identity but men would circumnavigate that in a heartbeat. I just hate reading some stupid reply and knowing it came from a 35 year old man who's never dated a girl longer than 2 weeks, or some teen. Edit: typo, thank you for the award ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:08 PM
61

Do you hear that ladies? He thinks we can't stand reason WHEW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:06 PM
228

Literally. He literally said that. This is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:35 AM
6

This is so interesting, thank you! im so glad someone who knows more said something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:29 AM
28

Agreed. If it means you think I'm weird and you aren't going to talk to me, good. Do it bae!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:59 PM
31

True, hair cutting and styling often has cultural significance as well. Not a great example on my part. I wear a bra. I am uncomfortable without one. But to say bras only exist for the support of some, I think, is irresponsible. Yes, they help a lot of people, but focusing back on OPs original post, undergarments have been heavily sexualized for a long time now, the lingerie industry is incredible, not because they do anything for women, and in fact a lot of lingerie (and quite boring, normal br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:58 PM
107

To the ladies who have responded that you still do x, y, or z for yourselves, I am in the same boat--I still shave and tweeze some areas, put on makeup, and dress nice despite hardly leaving the house or being single, and I like doing it, but the underlying issue for me is that a lot of those things, like makeup, bras, waist clinchers, shaving, etc all exist because of the patriarchy, so it still seems hard to try to reclaim those actions. I shave because I like it, but if shaving was never inve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:48 PM
89

I feel the same about hair dyed fantasy colors. Unless you're seeking alternative men, other men make it abundantly clear that they don't like it. Well my hair is pink now and I love it. O WELL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:33 PM
21

Oh my gosh can we just a little louder for those in the back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:29 PM
19

I think this is really helpful. Having crushes really aids my self-reflection. I can identify what I'm attracted to and why. I think if you're self aware, it teaches you how to vet before being presented with the actual possibility of dating, but you're also vetting yourself in a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:26 PM
10

I agree. The ability to laugh at yourself is a by-product of confidence. Self-deprecating humor is totally different, and a symptom of insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:15 AM
68

This is exactly what it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:55 AM
25

They literally just do not think of women as people. That's it. That is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 08:41 PM
1

I wish I were lying. It was literally like the first thing he did when he woke up (I had woken up first.) His son came to visit us with his fiancee!! Looking back on this shit really hurts me lol, I feel so dumb. 😮‍💨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:13 AM
6

I am ugly laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:05 AM
14

No first date. 😮‍💨 He was overly sexual with me from the get-go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:37 AM
12

He's definitely fucking cheating ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:25 PM
234

People were infinitely nicer to me when I was thinner too 😮‍💨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:27 PM
28

Man boobs, aged skin, balding, graying hair, greasy hair, body odor. Make a post asking about our ideal looks 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:16 PM
55

if we're both wearing bras it's a no from me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:12 PM
139

"tiny feet and hands, rough scaly skin" Ma'am that's a lizard 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:00 PM
33

I finally left an abusive relationship after waking up to how my ex was treating me in front of his daughters. I stayed years too long because I put up with it and rationalized it, but it took him shamelessly doing it in front of them that made me realize that I didn't want them to grow up thinking this was normal. He wasn't talking to them that way, just me. Leaving abusive relationships is hard. I hope this mom leaves soon because this is disgusting and her daughter deserves to be somewhere sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:21 PM
228

Please take away from this that men will fuck even women they hate. There's really no lower existence than to metaphorically shit on the still-hot excellent mother of his children and only fuck her when he "overcomes his resentment." He literally sees no value in her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:54 AM
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the part where he says he doesn't remember telling her he was ok with her never working again, and then goes on to say he's communicated this over and over again? Not buying it. He took a smokin hot woman out of the workforce who still has sex with him (when he's horny enough to overcome his resentment? Lucky her!) is admittedly a great mother, and what is he complaining for? Because men think women live to self-sacrifice and he's upset that she's not miserable. He literally thinks he's the only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:49 AM
35

But I thought men were providers :( why are they complaining about providing :(((((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:45 AM
68

The terrible statistics about single parent households THAT MEN CREATE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:31 PM
27

This is really what I needed today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:14 PM
34

I had sex for the first time at 23. Regret! "This isn't the best choice for me." Refuse to engage. When someone inevitably brings it up, say "I'm really bored of talking about this" and change the subject. Refuse to engage! It isn't a debate or a discussion!
/r/askFDS30/04/21 07:39 PM
30

This is it. Bring mean and crass is the majority of men's "humor."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:17 PM
45

IM SCREAMING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:09 PM
36

This would also require that he be in a place to help. He can't, since he's relying on his girlfriend to, idk, raise him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:32 PM
12

Thank you for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:18 PM
506

If he says he'll never speak again, say "good" and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:05 PM
15

High value men... or Good Boys....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:27 AM
58

I love how men love to put down cat ladies. You can't even compete with an animal and you think I'm pathetic? Lmao I'm going to go kiss all my kitties now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:24 AM
2

I will defend Korrasami to my grave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:21 AM
1

I instantly thought of Twilight too, and how for years teens were idolizing either Jacob or Edward. They're both pieces of shit and the whole series is a stain on pop culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:19 AM
5

I CAME HERE TO TALK ABOUT THEIR AGE DIFFERENCES TOO!!!! I love Ben Barnes but he is 39!!! What the FUCK. I'm so tired of seeing this in Hollywood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:16 AM
31

I really didn't understand his point. He thought because he insisted on changing my oil that I should be the one to vacuum and shampoo the carpets, I guess, every single time? I was genuinely baffled. Moving the furniture isn't even hard, the sofas and coffee table slide on the carpet. If someone wants to help, they should help. He really expected me to do the most time-consuming part myself, again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:42 PM
44

I really regret not breaking up the next day. He woke up and accused me of fucking his son. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:13 PM
111

I'm honestly full of them. Number 3: My ex had an incredibly annoying habit of making a suggestion as something "we" do. He literally did it a few weeks ago (he still lives here unfortunately) saying that "we" should clean the carpets the upcoming weekend. When I agreed, he said "we" can move all the furniture around and shampoo the carpets. Knowing what this was, I said I would be happy to move the furniture around while he vacuums and then shampoos, because a few weeks ago when we cleaned the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:59 PM
216

See also: fit women who want a fit partner! I see this all the time that men call these women shallow. Men who can't take an extended power walk without breathing problems want women without an ounce of fat on them and get hurt that women have the same standards. Fuck off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:39 PM
82

I am foaming at the mouth laughing at this. Too spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:36 PM
77

"Well my ex used to [do the thing he wants you to do]" This happened and it wasn't even sexual. He was mad I wasn't fussing over his cough in the middle of the night. Told me his kids' mom was shitty but at least she took care of him. I literally kicked him off the bed and he slept on the floor and I really think he didn't hit me because his adult son was staying with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:35 PM
116

"why didn't you answer my call/text. I was worried about you." I dated men who threw tantrums that I didn't text back while I was a work...where my phone was locked in the back room. Never again! You're not worried you're insecure and controlling :)))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:33 PM
77

The "helpmate" part of Genesis has been used by men to fuck over women for centuries. Men with no biblical learning whatsoever take passages that suit their worldly-reinforced ideas and use them to make bangmaids, not wives. I am so sad to see that some of the lowest men I encounter are in the church, because they are leaning on misinterpreted scripture to vilify, demonize, and subjugate women to their idea of a "godly woman." It's sickening. Christian men far and wide are convinced that the "he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:29 PM
78

This is weird bc he presumably asked her out on that 3rd date? Then asked her to buy her food? Yeah what a catch 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:01 PM
65

Exactly!! And they put them in their mouths and vaginas whhyyyyyy I'm so sick thinking about this holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:50 PM
141

THIS IS SO GROSS! WHY! WHYYY! ALL THE WOMEN WHO SAY THEY STILL BLEW HIM AFTER HIS DICK SMELLED LIKE DEATH?! WHY??! I went to IG and read them. REGRET.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:45 PM
40

I really hesitated before I clicked this, but I'm glad I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:20 PM
72

morph together like the power rangers and create one decent man lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:54 PM
37

She should've left after he refused to get help the first time. Also why does it seem like she doesn't really care about not buying alcohol? Why pick up vodka for a family gathering if, uh, your husband is an alcoholic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:44 PM
6

The whole thing can be simplified with which person asked out the other. If a man asks you out in any way, there's absolutely no reason to think you should pay for your own food/drink/whatever. That's INSANE. We don't ask men out, and therefore avoid the "conundrum" altogether.
/r/askFDS28/04/21 07:36 PM
41

Lol this is it. Men do like being asked out... for the ego-boost. Not as a means to actually start dating. What they want is the hottest woman to ask them out, make them food, and insist on blowing them the first date. This isn't dating. :) Men's fantasies of being asked out are to have a bangmaid sweep them off their feet, which they are never going to admit to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:37 PM
11

I think you identified what PinkBlair was getting at--most men who others and themselves describe as gamers are men who don't have other hobbies and neglect their job, hygeine, etc. like you said. Even though, yes, grammatically someone who "games" is a "gamer" I think what PinkBlair is referring to is Gamer™ which is the kind of guy you described, and is a whole space which men dominate. That's why "gamer girl" is a thing. I don't think they hate video games (I mean, they might, and that's fair…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:31 PM
10

This. Tinder isn't for finding any other friend than a friend with benefits. If it was my husband I would hope someone would tell me.
/r/askFDS28/04/21 02:10 AM
137

I'm so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:52 AM
11

Thank you!! Hopefully soon. 😮‍💨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:06 PM
7

You talking about jimmies rustling not once but twice really is the height of my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:01 PM
31

I've been using one for years and they can stay in for 12 hours. If you're not out literally all day, it's easy to plan ahead for. That being said, they sometimes move and start leaking, and I too would have loved a sink in a stall so that I didn't have to use nearly half a roll of toilet paper wiping it and my hands down before exiting and bolting for the sink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:59 PM
55

He fr was looking for AT MOST a fwb. Of course he likes them submissive. 🙄 What a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:54 PM
44

I want to laugh at this, and in truth it's hilarious, but I'm currently living with an ex who can't stand not to be paid attention to. Last week while I was taking a test (online school) he kept peeking out of my front door and pacing around. I finally asked him what was wrong and he said there was someone outside the door! I got up and he laughed and said he was kidding. I was taking a test! They record me! He always seems to want to do dishes when I'm taking my tests too. He can't stand for me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:49 PM
8

I love reminding men that making fun of people isn't new or hard to do. It's literally the lowest, least thought-intensive way to "joke." It requires literally no intelligence or finesse whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:44 AM
38

too fucking true about the dead bedroom-type posts you mentioned. I hate when men complain about the "excuses" their wives give them for not wanting sex. Those are not excuses. THOSE ARE REASONS. Reasons she doesn't have to give in the first place because "no" is a complete sentence! "Excuses" implies she's dipping out of something she's obliged to do. Women are not obliged to have sex with anyone, not even their husbands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:12 AM
35

In general, when in public, loudly and very, very indignantly saying EXCUSE ME? has worked for me (and others.) Again, this works when you are around people because these guys are counting on you being meek and polite as to not make a scene. Make a scene. They are likely to be embarrassed (not for their behavior, but for being visible doing it) and are not likely to repeat themselves, and will scurry away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:06 AM
12

Same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:53 PM
34

The depression I had weirdly disappeared after breaking up. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:52 PM
36

You know the internalized misogyny is real bc you hear from men and women that "boys are easier."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:41 PM
8

Exactly. Like, women in relationships with men are far more likely to be doing the majority of the housework anyway so her portraying the cleaning as being for a tinder match, whether true or not, just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:31 PM
89

And we lose.... actual..... nutrients
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:11 PM
7

I am gonna DIE laughing about this HOW ARE THEY ALL THE SAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:53 AM
16

HE TOLD ME HE HIT HIS CHILDREN'S MOTHER "ONCE" BUT "SHE HAD A MOUTH ON HER" AND I STAYED. HE HIT ME TOO. 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:52 AM
26

Exactly. It's the pretense that this was a romantic match. Just ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:50 AM
9

This whole thing has me cracking up. 😂 They are literally all the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:46 AM
11

LET THEM GET SICK THEN 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:42 AM
89

Without explicitly stating it, article says their relationship "turned romantic" when she turned 18. Sounds fake but ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:39 AM
16

Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:21 PM
24

I totally believe that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:28 PM
116

Left my ex after 5 years, no ring, even after he told me early on (red flag) that he wanted to marry me. After I broke up with him he said "I guess I'm just afraid of commitment. I don't know why." YEAH THAT WOULD'VE BEEN SOMETHING TO BRING UP YEARS AGO AND NOT AFTER TELLING ME YOU WANTED TO MARRY ME. ugh I still feel like a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:59 PM
69

I haaate that in these types of posts there's always a line like this. "I don't want to seem toxic/ jealous/ insecure." Why not? Like, what would it cost you? A relationship you don't feel secure about with a person that blatantly disrespects you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:21 PM
66

What the actual FUCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:08 PM
6

Oh I have a cup I like, but thank you! I had ventured out to the discs but I guess they're just not for me. I hope some others see this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:39 AM
4

Tbh I don't remember the first brand I bought, but I use the Flex brand (despite not liking their discs, lol) now and love it. I love that the tail has a loop to grab, and by doing so releases the suction for removal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:31 AM
5

Ahh ok, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:09 PM
211

I can smell the pickme from here. Girl it's fine. Just have him. Ain't nobody worried about where he's at now. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:56 PM
6

Leave in whatever way you feel safest. DO NOT feel bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:55 PM
19

I don't like this either :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:54 PM
194

This was a wild ride from start to finish but now I can't unsee "his hotdog coated in my ketchup"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:53 PM
32

THIS I won't stand for. Ugh!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:51 PM
105

This is how I feel about my period too tbh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:50 PM
9

Very good points!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:50 PM
12

Just curious if you've tried menstrual discs? I tried the Flex ones and found they don't stay put as well as a cup and that having a disc in made it harder to use the restroom. 😮‍💨 Wondering what other women's experiences are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:48 PM
45

"final boss" lmao He sounds incredibly immature and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:46 PM
12

You didn't ask me specifically but I agree with the sentiments you did respond to. I'm 28. I can't stand looking at blood tbh and am totally cool if he can't either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:45 PM
172

This is a good article, but the line at the top listing reasons we shave includes "desire to return to childhood." Girl just say pedophilia. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:54 PM
81

This is my jam. Sperm loses genetic quality, volume, mobility, and motility as men age. I was just reading a study about effects of fathers' ages on Down Syndrome likelihood. Maternal age is always mentioned but we know now that both parents' aged play a part, but you still never hear about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:01 PM
8

Tbh I've never known a man like this. Men who have time to shop, cook, work out, and work full time don't have a ton of time be be gaming endlessly. It might be a hobby, but that's entirely different from a man who doesn't cook, clean, shop, work out, etc. I think you just described a happy woman?
/r/askFDS21/04/21 04:52 PM
17

I lover her 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:11 PM
24

"more multifaceted than any Tolstoy book" Oh the arrogance Also why are men so keen to reference Tolstoy so often? Do they not know of any other authors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:12 PM
36

"he said that even though she's really attractive he doesn't think of her in that way." He's lying He does think of her in that way He's lying He's fucking lying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:09 PM
4

Smh this is such a good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:02 PM
67

This drives me CRAAAAAZY My ex always always always said, "you're making me feel bad." GOOD??? THAT'S THE POINT?? Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:58 PM
14

I still remember reading this. These memories did not need to be resurfaced!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:10 AM
207

If you're so visual bro how come your clothes don't match yeah??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:08 AM
34

I'm sorry, but I'm actually floored that Bumble BFF is a thing. These are all such good suggestions. I too am looking for like-minded friends!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:50 PM
120

This is a GREAT success story. Tbh on my best days I still struggle with the idea of "finding a man" as it relates to self-worth. This is so encouraging, thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:20 PM
68

The best part of this is Why? Who fucking cares. I snorted to myself
/r/askFDS19/04/21 02:19 PM
10

I do not like, at all.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 05:50 AM
1

Again, the brushing itself isn't the issue. It's waiting adequate time after eating to do so. You shouldn't brush right after eating because you literally grind the sugars and acids into your teeth with your toothbrush. I drink water after eating and after drinking my coffee. I hyper-brushed for years and I literally scratched the enamel off my teeth. I literally can't drink orange juice because of it, so yeah, I've got different kind of dental issues. I know some people brush before they eat, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:19 PM
183

W 👏 A 👏 P 👏 ONLY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:41 PM
23

Oh so there GOT fans here? 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:36 PM
1

To be honest, when is there time? You're not supposed to brush right after eating, and I didn't have time to wait 30 min after eating breakfast just to brush my teeth then go to work. Idk, I've never had someone "reveal" they don't brush twice a day and felt like they were a lesser person. Not even a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:34 PM
-2

Idk, if a man talked to me like that I would think he's a jerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:20 PM
0

No?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:17 PM
-24

I don't brush twice a day 😰 Edit: alright ladies calm down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:08 AM
154

The projection is out of control. Men do it, whether they realize it or not, to normalize their behavior. The desire for endless casual partners is just so animalistic to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:03 AM
3

Lol agreed. My cat is a certified himbo, I take it seriously. Himbos are outliers to male society and must not be confused for scrotes!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:59 AM
54

Thank you for your perspective. I hope it will help others to heal as well. We deserve to be treated with the same dignity and respect men expect from each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:43 PM
26

LORDT THAT WAS HILARIOUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:40 PM
65

Also like, how do you raise your girls "like boys." How did the parents help her to be viewed the same as a male candidate for a job? How did they raise her not to be sexualized by men at every corner? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:40 PM
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"I was raised like a boy because my parents understood systematic differences in the society we live in, but I have no desire to pass that along in my company, where, if I believe what my parents did was real and impactful, I know women candidates will have faced significant difficulty in achieving what their male peers have." Make it make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:38 PM
351

I really feel this way about white men especially. You had literally no systematic hurdles to jump and you work at a deadend 9-5? No schooling, no goals, no investments, just barely getting by day to day? And you think you bring what to the table?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:34 PM
39

an insult to himbos!!!! Himbos are Kind Beefy Stupid Entrepreneur dudebro fuckbois lack #1!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:39 PM
19

I would try contacting Spotify directly and telling them you need that person blocked. You might consider changing your email and username anyway, I'm not sure how spotify let's you find people?
/r/askFDS17/04/21 04:41 PM
3

I get checked yearly, so far so good, thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:25 PM
37

Oh to have the confidence of a mediocre man!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:13 PM
15

"I could tell your boobs apart from anyone else's.... Because of the scars." He was referring to the surgery I had to remove precancerous cells from my breast tissue, to which he did not accompany me. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:09 PM
5

[eagerly taking notes]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:07 PM
83

Plot twist: I'm both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:03 PM
65

My ex had the gall to say that he thinks there is an elite, underground committee of men who "run the world" and he would love to be a part of something like that. You vacuum the house once a month so good luck with that but dream big, king. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:01 PM
24

Low on the LVM scale is still on the LVM scale sis. Praying you can leave and be at peace. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:52 PM
37

I'm so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:40 PM
94

Lol exactly. Didn't he just out himself? What HV woman is going to read that and think "oh so that's the ticket!" He just told us what he liked and that it didn't matter and went nowhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:28 PM
17

This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:24 PM
88

catch me at church, trying to convince my pastor what "equally yoked" REALLY means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:16 PM
160

It's totally performative. These women feel the need to give more of themselves to men in order to prove they're Cool and therefore keep their men from leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:57 PM
50

NO MAN WOULD EVER THINK TO EXIST ON THIS LEVEL OF SERVITUDE LET ALONE SAY IT OUT LOUD AND RECORD IT!!! Despite mentioning what bimbos "do" for other women the entire idea SERVES MEN. THIS IS PERFORMANCE FOR THE MALE GAZE. STOP IT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:54 PM
85

Their lives are controlled by imaginary men looking at them. WHEW I'ma need a minute to process the reality of this statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:51 PM
24

What boggles me FURTHER is she lists "sexually compulsive behavior" separate from masturbating. So we're talking cheating, use of prostitutes, assaulting people? Voyeurism? And his partner isn't a victim? What the everliving fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:06 PM
30

I WANT TO RIP MY HAIR OUT! This is somewhat related, but in Why Does He Do That the author talks about how abused women often do not receive the help they need from therapists, and it can in fact HURT THEM MORE, because too many therapists try to approach the situation as both partners having a hand in it. This is the SAME BULLSHIT as that other tiktok (and thousands of years of patriarchal bullshit) that said women who have infrequent sex (according to their partners) is the reason why they che…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:04 PM
45

She literally mentions compulsive sexual behavior then goes on to say the non-addicted party isn't a victim. Okay WHAT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:56 PM
13

I saw this earlier and the whole thing just... What a trainwreck. Worst is she's pregnant with that POS husband's baby. How much more useless can you be though. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:54 PM
61

This, a thousand times a day until I die. We don't need more male perspective. I already know what it is. I don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:53 PM
415

Cue all the men who act disgusted during a scene of 2 adult men kissing consensually but not batting an eye at women being raped or assaulted on screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:16 PM
9

I'm gonna throw up dude fr why are men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:44 PM
21

I want kids, but I remember in my early 20s realizing I didn't have to. It was so freeing, and I feel stronger in my choice knowing it's my choice. What scares me now is having kids with a man. :))) My second big revelation came about a year ago, now in my late 20s, realizing I can become a single parent by choice. I am actively working towards having kids (health-wise and financially) and if it happens with a man, fine, but I'm fully prepared to go another route when I feel I'm ready. I know th…
/r/askFDS16/04/21 04:06 PM
14

I am 🪦🪦🪦 Literally every point was more insane than the prior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:50 PM
6

I've only ever had sex where I was talked to like this. I want to know what it's like to not be in a porn special. 😮‍💨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:43 PM
27

ICONIC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:14 PM
101

This is why men sleep with women they don't find attractive. You always see it in men to men conversations or posts: "she wasn't a 10 but she was soft, warm, and willing." Feminine energy is too hard to resist. They compartmentalize " fuckable" and " wedable".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:11 PM
6

What country are you in? 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:49 PM
16

ahh my ex waited until we were inside and he hit me the second the door closed. He was deeply concerned about his image but I guess yelling at me outside was fine, but when I yelled back he was "embarrassed."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:45 PM
4

This is so trur
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:42 PM
7

I'm DEAD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:40 PM
20

smh as a Christian this whole video blows and I feel so ashamed that this is not even like a new mindset amongst "Christian" women. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:44 AM
23

WHO OUT HERE IS DATING A MAN WITHOUT HIS OWN DAMN BANK ACCOUNT??! HOW? WHY??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:38 AM
634

SAME SOUP JUST REHEATED!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:39 PM
120

This is so important!! Men are the FIRST to be talking about "my money / your money." Why are some women so desperate to be taken advantage of??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:38 PM
23

I love heart jewelry but I buy it for myself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:50 PM
3

Same situation with my ex. House is in my name. ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:45 PM
7

They really grasping at straws smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:37 PM
5

Every time I've looked through a phone I've never been wrong. I don't feel bad about it. My ex had the password to my phone and he still looked through it when I was asleep. I only know because he woke me up to "confront" me on my (public) instagram posts and my period tracker app. :)))) When I had the phone pass for an ex I trusted, I never looked even though I couldve. I have nothing to hide. I will give my password to my SO if he'll give me his. If not that's a red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:37 PM
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I found this sub because a member posted elsewhere and another commenter tried to use the fact that she subs here as some proof that her argument is invalid? Lol. Thanks buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:31 PM
7

That is good to hear, thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:29 PM
8

Smh I'm sorry bae
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:29 PM
17

That's the only reason I've leaned toward it but all the horror stories about insertion and cramps afterward have me spooked. I don't want to endure more pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:06 PM
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It's funny bc it's true and men can't stand to have that flipped on them. We're not attacking all men, statistically. But if your fee fees are hurt and you're up in arms about it, what does that say about you? If not all men, why do you personally feel attacked? Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:47 PM
34

I have this dilemma too. I stopped taking HBC due to side effects and that I am no longer happy suppressing my natural cycle. I've been considering the copper IUD but tbh it sounds like the same soup just reheated. I don't want to endure pain and side effects. But I don't trust just a condom. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:46 PM
13

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:43 PM
42

THIS IS GOLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:41 PM
39

This is a beautiful post. As someone who started dyeing my hair during covid against the wishes of my ex, I appreciate this. I feel like a lot of us have just opened up to the idea that we can be who we want and it should serve ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:19 PM
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When a man says I'm pretty: 🙄 When a woman says I'm pretty: oh shit really? Do you like my eyeliner babe? I'll give it to you. Are you doing anything right now? Do you want to have a picnic? Let's be best friends. You're beautiful. I love you. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:17 PM
145

Bro they cheat on the women they're "compatible" with too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:13 PM
16

I am CHOKING right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:13 PM
7

"women it's your job to have sex a magic number of times to keep him from straying, but it's not men's jobs to respect your libido differences and have any self control." Lol fuck that. Men are so desperate to be seen as animals so they can get away with this shit. They won't die from not orgasming 2x a day. I'm tired of hearing "but men need it." No they don't and it's disturbing anyone would push that idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:04 PM
216

I am so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:09 AM
11

This. I've never looked through a man's phone and been wrong. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:09 PM
2

WHEW this post is really sending me. >"I have to be the one who asks her out, who decides where we're going, I have to pay." In general, this attitude bothers me because statistically men in relationships just do less in their relationships. There are no shortage of women complaining that their partners do not plan dates and put in little to no effort for other things of importance. A man setting this precedence on the first date is all I need to know about how the rest of our relationship would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:48 PM
5

THIS IS EXACTLY IT. What other experience does a 19 year old have to judge against?! At 19 I thought having a car, house, and career were impressive. THAT'S THE BARE MINIMUM!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:51 PM
5

This KILLED me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:50 PM
1

I was hoping to see this brought up. Like he literally just explained the trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:49 PM
3

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:34 PM
23

I feel the same way, and this is vehemently looked down upon in other subs. They treat it like it goes against unreasonable search and seizure. I'm not the damn police!! I didn't need a warrant in order to verify your honesty. If I go through your phone and find something damning I'm not going to feel bad about invading your privacy. Every time I've done I've been justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:25 PM
18

I spent 5 years in a dead end relationship that started because I pursued a man. That theme carried on into the rest of our relationship. Never again. If a man is so interested in being a part of my life and the peace I've established, he had better be ready to show it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:16 PM
133

This is so accurate. For all the "women are so emotional / oh are you on your period?" bullshit, men experience the same emotions we do and have absolutely no capacity to express them in a healthy way. They think that talking about it, crying, or seeing a therapist is weak so they turn to drinking, rage, silence, and sex to ignore and push out the pain, because that's manly. :)))))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:07 AM
49

Prudie's response was spot on. Everything the writer mentioned was a red flag--the negging, moving after 6 months, her son calling him daddy(!!!!). If he's telling her she's an 8.5, you know she's a 10 and he's balls deep in insecurity. It sounds like she didn't immediately dump him bc she's young. Edit: negging not begging
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:00 PM
9

I'm so sorry 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:46 AM
11

Can you tell me? Or message me? I've been going through the resources 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:39 AM
64

Child me knew a bad bitch when I saw one 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:30 AM
22

You ladies should look yourselves up on truepeoplesearch.com and request that your info be removed. We used that site at an old job and it could be dangerous in the wrong hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:26 AM
22

Why is it that pathetic men follow such a pattern? This is NOT to dismiss your fear. What he said was scary. But like, dude, you almost had me til you came in with the "you're not even hot." Bro I could see your desperation from space. The rejection makes men so emotional lol. Literally no one believes he didn't think you were hot. In fact, his response reaffirms how hot you are, because if you weren't he would not have replied. You walked out on him! He doesn't have game. His last play is to tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:22 AM
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Refusing to date so young is just so unheard of, I love it. Men continually dating women who are not just younger than themselves, but young in general, is how they saddle them with marriages and babies, then pat themselves on the back for "providing"--if they even do that! A woman established in her career who has enjoyed living alone in peace is hard to manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:15 AM
21

I saved this, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:11 AM
27

Both of my parents had children in their 40s, all are totally normal! I was actually talking to some colleagues today (I guess this post was lingering in the back of my head) about the studies that show that male age corresponds to Down syndrome rate as well, not just female age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:46 AM
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I didn't know that was a thing. I will post it now. Just to be clear, what kind of posts would get the "discussion" flair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:10 AM
106

This. Instead of men trying to achieve better jobs to increase their wealth they are increasingly pressuring women to just be happy with less. Like if you're broke, fine, but all this energy into persuading women that a quality ring isn't that important? Nahh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:36 PM
22

Cringing bc I had wanted to do the same thing in a past relationship!! CRINGING!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:27 PM
165

I'm in the birth and fertility field and this is a hugely understudied subject. Declination of sperm quality is a huge factor!! Men can orgasm into old age but that speaks on nothing about procreation. Sperm becomes more damaged, less mobile, and in fewer concentration as men age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:55 PM
6

I agree with all of this. I just didn't see that in this picture. Idk, I guess the way they're dressed or posed on the car decal doesn't bother me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:28 PM
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To me it's important. My ex was someone who drove away before I even got inside the door. There's no saying how much of an indicator that was for future crappy behavior but, like, nothing went uphill from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:11 AM
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All the people in the comments saying that a lot of "non-vanilla" people are into "sleep sex" like those are your only 2 sides of a coin?? People get off on limp partners (and if course it's always going to be a woman, how can you fuck a limp man?) and not enough people think that's a little too fucking close to rape and necrophilia? I seriously feel so ill. Just because someone has a desire does not mean it is natural, normal, or should be indulged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:57 AM
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This makes me sick. I literally can't believe that regardless of what the defenders think this "kink" is they're just totally okay that he is asking her not to enjoy it? She is not a participant any further than she is a masturbator sleeve for him? I'm going to throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:49 AM
38

This is so true! Even women not looking for a husband... Still want a compatible.... Partner...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:47 AM
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I'm 28. I just got out of a 5-year relationship and did zero dating prior to that. I am not looking for carefree dating . This guy is really on something. Like, tbh, I'm sure there might be women out there looking for the same as he is, buuuuuut I feel like now he's just going to go for younger women. 🙄 It's strange that he thinks it's weird that so many women around his age are marriage-minded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:45 AM
8

Wow, this is incredible! I'm so happy for you! I feel so much more hopeful knowing this is possible, thank you. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:08 PM
51

As someone who has recently left a 5 year relationship with someone 20 years older, I agree. I'm 28 now and I feel like I wasted some of the best, free-est years trying to see the good in someone who was overly sexual right from the start, did not pursue me, regularly put me down, was addicted to porn, hit me, did not do anything for my birthdays and called me materialistic when I was upset, lied to me about wanting to get married and have kids, mocked me for my depression (that he caused), made…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:06 PM
59

This is so gross, I had no idea. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:00 PM
21

This makes me sad bc I would really like to have sex with a man that includes a vibrator. I get off so quick that way, and enjoy it, but men shrivel and die thinking their penis wasn't some magic key to our orgasms. A man who truly cared for your pleasure would want you to achieve it even if it wasn't directly through their touch. My last ex coerced me into throwing away the vibrator I had. I never brought up using it during sex, he just didn't want me to masturbate. He also didn't want me to ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:37 PM
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Lmfao I could just imagine hearing that in the divorce. 🙄 Also, like, as much as men think we idealize those men/situations, I've never, ever heard a woman say, "can we just try doing x, like they do in that movie?" whilst men are foaming at the mouth trying to convince their partners to do anal, be tied up, let them cum on their faces, etc. Which is weird because I don't think romantic movies are really present far-fetched ideas. I mean, men think so because that would involve them doing someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:46 AM
48

Men totally hate romantic movies and erotic fiction because in those forms of media women are not forced to exist for their pleasure. Women might actually be reading about having an orgasm first 🥺 or having a man that doesn't try to force her into doing anal 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:37 AM
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Also like... Even the utmost magical, romantic movie does not "satisfy" women like men claim porn does them. It totally negates women's sexuality and feeds into the "men needs sex, women need to feel loved" dichotomy. Blech! I'll take romance AND orgasms please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:35 AM
92

This is such a good point. If they're so addicting how come women aren't hiding out in their rooms all night to watch them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:32 AM
42

If I have to read the term "puffy nipples" one more gd time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:31 AM
66

ON MY LIFE SIS! Why are they so mad? This is just how women talk when they're together. It's just powder room talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:45 PM
10

Yeah this whole thread really underlines just how dubious OLD is. If you met someone/was asked out in person I would go for a dinner date or nothing. "I'm flattered, but I only meet my girlfriends for coffee." If he doesn't ask for dinner, boy BYE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:29 PM
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I think what a lot of women use coffee dates for is what the post about calling/video chatting potentials beforehand to vet first is for. Honestly, it seems logical and I was of that option before joining FDS but if you're going on a coffee date to get a feel for someone, why even waste your time with that? Call first and trust your instincts. The point is to weed out dates you are less likely to have to leave part way through. It's never 100% of course. I don't think coffee is a date. There's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:16 PM
22

I don't understand the libfem argument, because you should also be able to leave your home without it being broken into, but you still lock your door? You should be able to cross the street and know the cars will all stop, but will they? If a car hits you, you'll be technically correct but still dead. It's just not worth the risk imo. When I used to send pics to my then-boyfriend my face was never in the photo, but I still regret it because even if he never shared it online I'm mad that he has p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:07 PM
62

I'm dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:35 PM
40

Had a similar issue before going on depo in which I told my provider I wanted to have kids in the near future, just not right now. I came off depo and didn't get the return of my cycle for over a year. It was truly awful. I looked it up and depo is the only HBC in which your cycle does not quickly resume normal function. I was so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:47 PM
27

That's so telling, because only someone very much not getting laid would have that kind of time and emotional response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:38 PM
15

I still remember my ex unloading thoughts of suicide and worthlessness on me and I felt touched and honored that he trusted me so much to "let me in" and he there for him. Until it was my turn of course, and in my own struggles with depression was told I was "probably depressed because I was far from God" and that "the devil was in me." There are no words to describe being told that by someone who was supposed to care for me. Then he was mad I never wanted to confide in him after that! I knew it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:50 PM
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This needs to be the UTMOST looked at retort. There is nothing backing up what he's saying. I hope someone from his job sees this and fires him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:34 PM
21

Also, this is obviously why so many men leave their wives after a cancer diagnosis, because God forbid she's too tired and sick from radiation in her body and mentally stressed from dying to get his dick wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:31 PM
6

Good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:29 PM
81

I HATE the rhetoric about BDSM and kinks being sex positive, because those are always things men do to women to get themselves off. It is NOT about mutual enjoyment. It's so weird (read: not weird) that kinks are designed to give men the variation they "need." It's never about our pleasure, let alone mutual pleasure. There are NO MEN that confess to their wives and girlfriends that they want to be choked, slapped, degraded, etc. So gross. So so so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:11 PM
53

Imagine asexual people too. You are never, ever obliged to have sex with anyone. Not your husband, not even if you've had sex with him before, not even if you had sex with him everyday for the past 15 years. This is so gross. "Withholding sex" is abuse, but forcing/guilting/blackmailing your partner who doesn't want to isn't? Fuck this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:26 PM
83

"That's not a compliment, it's a competition I didn't sign up for."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:44 PM
291

The next time a man insists men are not intimidated by more competent women, just remember, scientifically they are and it's not logical to argue they're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:41 PM
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A man who loses respect for you for a legitimate reason, like consistently be late, would not try to contact you. Point blank. He would let you know and break it off. Everything OP listed and everything that gross guy said in the other post is 100% about guilting woman into maintaining weird, sexist standards. This is a form of negging, so that you'll feel bad and put your guard down for another 3 minutes of bad sex. He wants you to jump through hoops to sleep with him, but he is the one contact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:11 PM
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What I don't get is that there's obviously women out there like he described, but why does he think any of them should want him? Totally no shade, what does he really have to offer? He thinks he's nice? That's the fucking bar, dude. Not a "plus."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:55 PM
11

True like you're gonna come that quick what's the hurry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:13 PM
58

Yeah this would be totally different if 1, it was an occasional thing, and 2, if you knew he was going to manually or orally bring you to orgasm afterward, but is he really? Nah. I too found this hot long ago but it quickly stopped when I realized I was literally just a living masturbator for him. It wasn't flattering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:12 PM
23

My ex's (he was a lot older than myself) son opens the car and front doors for his wife every. Single. Time. Even when they were dating. It has stuck with me ever since then. It is considerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:55 PM
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I really think this is it. These types of men want you to walk into a date they asked you out on and feel sooo grateful. Never in my life have I heard of someone being asked on a date and there being any pretense whatsoever of them paying. That's absolutely absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:36 AM
59

This is hard for me but I totally get it. A person of that caliber literally should not take another second of your time. I find that clapping back is often about our own preservation, like proving we know he's LV. This ain't it queens. He's not going to "get it." It just teaches them how to alter their tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:18 AM
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This is laughable because the bar for being passable is just so low. If you're being continually beaten out by men with basic dental hygiene and sunscreen, are women really THAT picky?! Come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:13 AM
6

Two whole men apologized 🥺 wow 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:32 AM
19

I literally don't understand the movement to be equally accepting of fetishes. It's your fetish, not mine. Just because you bring it up it a "nice" way, are "honest with me", doesn't mean I have to accept it! There are some things you should keep to yourself! I don't understand why men think their gross turn ons should be treated as valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:27 PM
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Had a similar struggle with an ex who, after a while, couldn't obtain, or maintain if he did get hard, an erection. Told me me over and over it wasn't me and I knew that was the case after he admitted to watching porn when he was supposedly using the bathroom. He admitted it after I caught him, I mean. 🙄 I'm so tired of the "men are visual creatures" rhetoric. It's not a biological feature AT ALL. It is a social one. It's a deeply ingrained excuse for men to "need" a sexy woman but to be totally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:21 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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